He Said, She Said

Louise took Ryan to his first sound bath this week and let’s just say it was…interesting.

In this episode, Louise and Ryan talk about toxic masculinity, how Ryan wants to be a role model for his son and a recent disagreement sparks a conversation about how damaging arguing in front of your children really is.

Plus, the pair share how they came close to finally finding a country home and a listener shares their dilemma: He Said “I don’t know if I’ll ever want to live with you - not now, not in twenty years”.

Thank you to Studio Yamine for the lovely mugs! 

The chant Louise and Ryan mention is Guru Guru Varda Guru.

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Louise and Ryan ask each other questions to connect on a deeper level this week.

In this episode, Louise shares some of her fondest childhood memories, the pair discuss the ways they’ve given and received love recently and Louise outlines how she wants to experience affection moving forward (hint: it may involve adopting more dogs…). 

Plus, Ryan and Louise describe their safe spaces and a listener asks for advice on navigating social situations with a long-term partner.

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Louise and Ryan have an important conversation about mental health in this week’s episode. 

Ryan opens up about how his recent illness has impacted his mental health, why he’s considering going back to therapy and shares why he’s recently been questioning his career path…

Plus, Ryan reveals his thoughts around becoming a stay-at-home dad and the pair discuss why it’s so important to open up about how you are feeling, despite how daunting it may initially feel.

Louise and Ryan also give some advice about maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship after having children with this week’s listener submission: She Said: “our relationship has struggled since becoming parents”.

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Louise discusses her recent bicycle crash and Ryan has been struck down with a bad case of the flu.

In this episode, Louise shares how valuable journaling is to her daily routine, Ryan unpacks the theory of having a ‘red or blue’ mindset and Louise reveals how she overcame a BIG fear…

Plus, a listener is worried a comment from a family member has ruined her niece’s body-confidence, so the pair offer some much needed advice.

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CREDITS:

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It’s Louise’s 35th Birthday! Ryan and Louise discuss their plans for the big day, the best birthday presents they’ve ever received and reveal the shocking truth that…Louise has never had a meal deal?!

In this episode, Louise opens up about how she considered drinking for the first time in years whilst attending The Brit Awards and the pair share their thoughts on what men and women actually find attractive…

Plus, a listener asks for advice on reconnecting with old friends and how to make the first move when you struggle with maintaining friendships.

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Louise and Ryan discuss what they wished they learnt in school and why they believe school doesn’t always teach children the important life skills.

In this episode, the pair give another update on their search for a second home, share their experiences of failure (and why it’s not necessarily a bad thing) and Ryan reveals the time he was arrested in Australia…

Plus, a listener submission prompts an honest conversation about whether Louise and Ryan want more children…

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Louise and Ryan have another honest conversation in this week’s episode.

The pair discuss how Louise can get carried away with the pace of life, the difficulty of maintaining a work-life balance and why it’s so important to accept help from others and offload some responsibilities.

Plus, Louise and Ryan reveal the truth about being influencers and reflect on their relationships with their parents as a listener asks for advice on how to have difficult conversations with the older generation.

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Louise and Ryan discuss their plans for more tattoos, and their contingency plans to alter their current ones should they ever break up…

In this episode, Louise reveals her suspicion that the ENTIRE family has worms (much to Ryan’s disgust), Ryan shares what men actually look for in women and the pair talk about the pressures on young girls to have the ‘perfect’ body.

Plus, a listener asks for advice on hobbies you can do with your partner and Louise shares the time her trousers ripped at a children’s birthday party…

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Louise and Ryan give an update on their search for a second home and discuss their bucket-list travel destinations.

In this episode, they discuss their differing school experiences, times they’ve been bullied in their lives and debate whether their star signs explain all of their problems…

Plus, Ryan reveals the time he ran away from school and a listener asks for advice on trusting your instincts when you’ve been burned in the past…

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Ryan’s back from his incredible challenge running 120km across the Sahara Desert! He updates Louise on how he found the experience and the pair discuss whether they’d ever take on a fitness challenge together…

In this episode, Louise and Ryan share the moment they found out their baby’s gender, debate whether it’s easier to raise a boy or a girl and discuss the reality of needing a number two in the desert…

Plus, Louise reveals she wants to go to Burning Man festival and a listener asks for advice on how to maintain good communication and intimacy with your partner whilst pregnant.

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Louise and Ryan discuss the various ways they could spend the big day, the best Valentine’s present Louise has ever received and unveil their new role-play identities (say goodbye to Ryan and hello to Spectre James!). 

In this episode, the pair play a savage game of Mr & Mrs, revealing who’s the better dancer, who’s the most attractive and who wears the trousers in the relationship…

Plus, Louise reveals why her dad takes a printer on holiday and a listener asks for advice on how to manage a relationship between an extrovert and an introvert.

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Louise and Ryan continue their search for a country home, as Ryan gives us some updates on his recent house viewings and reveals that catfishing is rife on RightMove…

In this episode, Louise divulges what she tells her life coach about her relationship, the pair discuss being sensitive to the moon and Louise teaches Ryan all about the menstrual cycle.

Plus, Louise and Ryan discuss their son’s new pink ballet shoes and a listener shares their dilemma: He Said “I’m struggling to bond with my child”.

The poem Louise mentions is ‘All I See Is You’ by Jessica Urlichs:

Mama,

I can’t see past you right now, I’m so small and everything’s a little blurry.

All I see is you.

When you feel alone, like the walls are closing in, remember I’m here too. I know your world has changed and the days feel a little lonely. But they aren’t lonely for me.

You are my everything.

When you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re making it look easy to me. Even though we’re still getting to know each other, you know me better than

anyone.

I trust you.

When you think some nights you’ll never sleep again, you will. We both will. But I’m scared right now. I promise I’m not manipulating you. I just need your smell and comfort. Do you feel that tug in your heart when we’re apart? I do too.

I miss you.

When you feel as if you’ve achieved nothing, please know, my cup has never been so full. 

The days that get away on you will be some of my best memories of us playing together on the ground.

I love you.

When you feel like you don’t know who you are anymore, when you turn away from the mirror. That face will be the one I look to when I achieve something, the one I search for in a crowd. The reason for my first smile.

You’re perfect to me.

When you feel like the weight of it all is heavy in your heart, please know I’ve never felt lighter. Can I lay here with you a little longer? 

I won’t always need you like this.

But I need you right now.

When you feel as if you have nothing left to give, when I see your hands outstretched at me, pleading. When we’re both crying. I wish I could talk, but I can’t.

If I could I would tell you,

There’s a reason I chose you.

I can’t see past you right now mama, because you are my world.

It will get bigger, soon enough.

But for now,

All I see is you.

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Louise and Ryan discuss future plans to visit Japan and why having a good umbrella is a sign of self-respect…

In this episode, Ryan shares his fascination with the Japanese concept of ikigai, the pair consider what we can learn from people living in Blue Zones and Louise reveals her bucket-list goal of appearing on the Real Housewives.

Plus, the pair discuss who would prefer to die first and a listener asks for advice about rebuilding self-confidence after being called crazy by an ex-boyfriend.

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Louise and Ryan discuss possible new income streams through Louise’s feet and the pair discuss the spectrum of masculinity and femininity… 

In this episode, Ryan shares his hilarious impressions of the Thompson family’s twitches, Louise reveals what her relationship resolutions are for 2025 and why cleaning the house is like therapy for Ryan. 

Plus, Ryan tells the story of meeting the future 007 without realising who he was, and a listener shares their dilemma: “He Said: I’m not ready to move in just yet”. 

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Louise is talking about future medical plans and her possible ‘barbie butt’ surgery and Ryan reveals the childhood TV character that his fiancé reminds him of first thing in the morning…

In this episode, Louise and Ryan discuss why you don’t need to prove yourself with an anecdote from Chanel, why Louise sees her vulnerability as a defence mechanism and the different routines men and women have to go from a 2/10 to presentable!

Plus, a listener is worried her health anxiety has ruined her boyfriend’s holiday, so the pair offer some much needed advice. 

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2025 is picking up the pace, as Ryan reveals the insane challenge he’s embarking on in January…

They discuss Ryan’s upcoming ultra marathon in the desert (and all the different ways you need to protect your bits), Louise’s incredible turnout at a school sports day only a few months after surgery and how she’s slowly repairing her relationship with exercise. 

Plus, a listener writes in with a dilemma about weaponised incompetence – so how do you deal with a partner who has to be told what to do? 

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Happy New Year! Louise and Ryan are back with a debate which may shape what 2025 looks like for them…

Ryan shares his dreams of getting a home outside of London and why a slower life is on the cards for his future, whilst Louise argues for the bustling adventures city life can bring and all the things she’d miss about living in the capital. 

Plus, the pair dive into a listener submission from a 25 year old who feels like she’s behind compared to all of her peers. 

LINKS:

• The Coffee Shop mentioned in our Listener Submission: @no41coffeeco

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Happy Christmas all! Ryan and Louise are getting festive in this week’s episode. 

Louise and Ryan compare their Christmas traditions, revealing which of them is obsessed with sparkles and tinsel and who prefers a simpler setup. 

They discuss the pros and cons of wish lists vs gifting surprises, Ryan shares the tragic story of finding out the truth about Father Christmas and Louise explains why she hates opening presents in front of other people.

Finally, we hear your Christmas dilemmas, which highlights the struggles of Christmas with the inlaws…

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We’re heading to the altar this week as Louise and Ryan plan their dream wedding!

The pair recap their chaotic proposal story, they discuss what marriage ultimately means to them and answer the big question… why aren’t they married yet?

Wedding planning then begins as Ryan reveals his aspirations of a wedding in the Swiss Alps, Louise ponders what a UK wedding might look like and the pair nail down outfits, food and of course – the stag and hen dos. 

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Louise is back on the podcast, and in this raw conversation with Ryan, she opens up about what the last 3 weeks have actually been like.

Louise bravely reveals the series of events which led her back to emergency surgery, she shares the details of her recovery and the routine she managed to create in order to get through it, as well as why she was left feeling guilty about the whole ordeal. 

Plus, Louise and Ryan discuss the lighter moments during this time, including why it’s so important to focus on what really matters and do the things that make you happy. 

Finally, they share a listener submission who is stuck in a friendship slump, and Ryan offers an insightful ‘rocket ship’ analogy which may help you reassess your adult friendships. 

LINKS:

• Marissa Peer Guided Meditation for Physical Healing
• Paul McKenna Sleep Meditation
• Stillness Is The Key – Ryan Holiday

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