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The Science of Success

The #1 Evidence Based Growth Podcast on the Internet. The Science of Success is about the search for evidence based personal growth. It's about exploring ways to improve your decision-making, understand your mind and how psychology rules the world around you, and learn from experts and thought leaders about ways we can become better versions of ourselves.

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How To Unlock the Hidden Potential in Any Conversation with Julian Treasure

In this episode we show you the power of listening, teach you to transform how you listen, and unlock an incredible set of communication skills that almost no one uses or understands with our guest Julian Treasure. 

2020-01-23
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How To Build a Remarkable Company Culture with Dee Ann Turner

In this business focused episode of the Science of Success we share how to recruit extraordinary talent and build a remarkable culture for your business with our guest Dee Ann Turner.

2020-01-21
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Google Knows Your Darkest Secrets - The Truth in Your Searches with Seth Stephens-Davidowitz

What happens when you peer into the dark underbelly of the human psyche? How should we react when we uncover the raw truth of human nature and emotion, sexuality, and racism? We explore all of this and much more in this fascinating interview with our guest Dr. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz. 

2020-01-16
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The Science of Sleep Revealed: How To Hack Your Sleep with Dr. Daniel Gartenberg

In this episode we discuss all things sleep. Sleep has been under attack for the last 10+ years and yet it is one of the most powerful things you can do for your performance, your health, your mental wellbeing, and your body. We explore how to improve your sleep, how sleep works, and what you can be doing to sleep better with our guest Dr. Dan Gartenberg. 

2020-01-09
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The Big Lie About Happiness with Neil Pasricha

In this episode we expose the lie that success makes you happy and discover the truth about engineering happiness into your life. Can you choose to be happy? If so, what should you do and how should you change your behavior? We also confront the reality that in today?s world we no longer have the tools to handle real or even perceived failures. We discuss how to build mental toughness and what you can do to build your mental strength and resilience. All of this and much more with our guest Neil Pasricha. 

2020-01-02
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Brené Brown, Dan Siegel and Friends - 2019 Holiday Special

Happy Holidays from The Science of Success! Consider this mashup to be your personal little Christmas present from Me, Austin, and our team over here at The Science of Success. For this Holiday Special we brought you some of the best moments on giving, connectedness, compassion, kindness, Courage, and much much more. You?ll certainly recognize some of these guests such as Brene Brown, Oscar Timboli, as well as some potentially new faces like John Wang, Dacher Keltner, and more.

2019-12-26
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Dan Carlin: Fake News, Misinformation, and Being an Informed Citizen

In this episode we ask: how do you become an active and informed citizen? What are the challenges of forming a coherent view of history and politics? What do you do if your foundational beliefs are coming into question? In a world full of noise, confusion, and fake news - we sit down with our guest the legendary podcaster Dan Carlin to uncover how we can make sense of today?s confusing world. 

2019-12-19
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Achieving What You Think Is Impossible - Walking The Walk with Alex Banayan

Do you want to figure out why you?re not walking the talk? In this episode we uncover the truth about what really holds people back - and share the the secret strategy that all successful people use to achieve incredible things. We examine the world?s most successful people and figure out exactly what commonalities they share, and how you can use them in your own life. All of this and much more in our interview with returning guest Alex Banayan. 

2019-12-12
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From Waiting Tables to Owning a Major League Team - The Epic Journey of Marcus Whitney

In this episode, we share how a college dropout went from waiting tables to becoming the owner of a Major League Soccer Team and the most powerful VC in the healthcare industry. We uncover the incredible strategy that can be used to break into ANY industry and become a dominant player sharing the stage with top CEOs, even without any connections or relationships. We share why you don?t have to be an expert to leverage the credibility of others, the power of public speaking, what it means to orchestrate a deal and much more with our guest Marcus Whitney. 

2019-12-10
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Life?s Great Question - How To Find Meaning In Your Work & Life with Tom Rath

In this episode, we ask the big question - how do you find meaning in your life and work? When you?re starting death in the face, life?s purpose becomes clear. We learn how to harness those lessons to find meaning in your own life and discover a few simple things you can do every day - starting right now - to increase your odds of living a longer, healthier, happier life with our guest Tom Rath. 

2019-12-05
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Thanksgiving Special 2019

In this episode, we take a look back at some of our past guest's most valuable insights on gratitude! Enjoy the mashup!

2019-11-28
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Grant Cardone: Why Most People Aren?t Willing To Succeed

Grant Cardone is the CEO of Cardone Capital, an international speaker, entrepreneur and author of The 10X Rule as well as two dozen best-selling business programs. Named the #1 marketer to watch by Forbes Magazine, Cardone founded The 10X Movement & The 10X Growth Conference, which has grown into the world?s largest business & entrepreneur conference. He has been featured on countless media outlets across the globe.

2019-11-26
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Would You Bet Your House On The Turn of A Card? High Stakes Lessons with Alec Torelli

Alec Torelli is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and professional poker player. As a poker player, Alec has won millions playing live cash games and some of the biggest tournaments live and online. As a coach and digital entrepreneur, he shares his knowledge and insight to help others achieve their life goals. Alec has been featured on ESPN, CBS Sports, Travel Channel, Fox Sports, Poker News and many more.

2019-11-21
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Why Aren?t You Asking? How To Get What You Want with Dr. Wayne Baker

In this episode we unlock the POWER of ASKING. When you ask for what you need, miracles can happen, but so many of us are too afraid to really ask, or we feel like we don?t know how or what we should be asking for. How do you get better at ask? How can you tap the tremendous power and potential of the social capital within your network by using the power of asking? We answer these questions and much more with our guest Dr. Wayne Baker. How to unlock the incredible power and potential of your network and the social capital Dr. Wayne Baker is an American author and sociologist on the senior faculty of the University of Michigan Ross School of Business. He is best known for his research in economic sociology, and his survey research on values, where he documented Americans? core values. He writes in both academic and popular media on this theme and is often invited to present his findings across the U.S. 

What?s the difference between ?paying it back? versus ?paying it forward? - what?s the difference?

What is a kidney chain? And what can it teach us about the importance of ?paying it forward?"

What is a reciprocity ring and how can it change the way you interact with your social network?

What is social capital?

The network that we are involved in and all of the resources that the network contains. 

When you ask for what you need - miracles can happen

There is a wealth of opportunity at your fingertips - but you have to ASK for it!

What are the biggest reasons that people don?t ask for what they need? What stops you from asking for help on the most important things in your life?

Why is it so hard to ask for what we need?

How do we get better at asking?

What should you do if you aren?t clear about what you need? What should you do if you don?t know what to ask for?

Start with figuring out your goal. What?s your goal? What are you trying to achieve?

What resources do you need to achieve that goal? Money? Advice? Resources? 

Then you have to figure out WHO to ask

Then you have to MAKE the ask

The ?two step? method for asking for anything you want. You may not directly know someone, but you probably know someone who knows someone.

The ?quick start method? for figuring out WHAT YOU NEED and ASKING FOR IT

Visioning - developing a detailed, vivid, description of a positive future. Then you start to identify the goals that are in that vision, that back that into request. 

What is a SMART request?

People don?t know WHY you?re asking for something unless you EXPLAIN. 

Research is very clear - the more specific your request, the more likely people are to help. 

If you make a smart, well formulated request people are more likely to think you?re smart and competent. 

People are more willing to help than you think they are. 

Action item: Make a small request in a safe place. 

Action item: Use the reciprocity ring or other tools to create structured ways to interact and ask. H

ow to integrate the ?Stand Up? into your routines and meetings to structure asking into the natural rhythms of your work and life. 

People are willing to help, they are willing to give, but you have to ASK - because people can?t read your mind

Life is about connection and asking is what jump starts the power of your connections. 

Be a giver-request - be very generous and freely help other people even if they?ve never helped you, or can never help you in the future. 

Freely give help and freely ask for what you need - this the most powerful mode of being.

Don?t be a lone wolf. Doing it all by yourself is a recipe for failure. 

Overly generous giving, without ever ASKING for what you need - leads to burnout. 

Homework: Apply the elements from the quick start method questions above to figure out what you need help with. 

Homework: Assess where you are on the spectrum of giving and asking.

2019-11-14
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Jay Abraham: Growing A Business With No Money Or Customers

In this interview we show you how to grow a business with no capital, no product and no service. You will discover how to train yourself to spot outrageous business opportunities surrounding you in everyday life and we give you the strategies for building trust with your ideal clients and business partners. We ask what does it take to become GREAT? In your career, job, business, partnering, relationships we look at exactly how you can achieve greatness in the key areas of your life. All of this and much more with our guest the legendary Jay Abraham. Jay Abraham is founder and CEO of The Abraham Group, Inc., and is recognized as one of the world?s most successful marketing strategists, business innovators, entrepreneurial advisors, and masters of revenue acceleration. He has spent the last 30+ years solving problems and significantly increasing the bottom lines of over 10,000 clients in more than 400 industries worldwide.

How do you grow a company with no capital, product, or service?

What does it mean to mine, monetize and maximize relational capital?

Whatever your resource impediment or impairment is, someone else has that and you just have to figure out how to ethically leverage it

How Jay created 1.5mm in less than 6 months by finding arbitrage between products, services, and audiences 

Find ?strategic investors? - who else benefits from your growth? Complementary or related products, companies that benefit and naturally grow when you grow - and demonstrate to them that your growth is beneficial for them too - and then get them to help you. 

How do you build trust in a business relationship? How do you get someone to introduce you to all of their clients?

Before you expend a ton of capital and time on a project - try to get some validation. The only validation that counts is dollars spent, not what a focus group thinks.

How to easily validate your business ideas without taking risk on the front end. 

There?s a huge amount of IP that?s available to license from places like the Navy, the government, etc Find ?parallel universes? that aren?t competitive and plug those opportunities in. 

Never put anything at risk until you?ve de-risked and validated your product, service, or business model 

What happens when a typical business is STUCK? Figure out what you?re stuck with. 

How can you unlock an ?unlimited business checkbook? to fund ANY problem within your business?

How someone got paid $1mm and a free Porsche to buy a Porsche dealership with creative deal making Spend time traveling outside whatever you do and whatever you?re interested in.

Study other businesses, study how other products and services market, how they sell, study topics that are outside your domain of knowledge. 

How to train yourself to spot outrageous business opportunities lying around you in everyday life.

How you can make the ?money connection? - you don?t need to be brilliant, but you have to have the right ?sensors? turned on - and they only turn on when you broaden your understanding of what?s possible

What is Greatness? And why do so many people fall short of it?

Everyone has the ability to be great - and everyone wants to be great.

98% of people are mediocre - yet they want to be great - WHY?

What does it take to become GREAT? In your career, job, business, partnering, relationships - how you can achieve greatness in the key areas of your life. 

There are 4 keys to achieving greatness With every improvement in greatness there is an exponential increase in quality and outcome - not a linear increase. 

Most breakthroughs don?t come from WITHIN an industry - they come from OUTSIDE it. 

Homework: Be curious, ask people questions, dig into how other businesses and industries do business.

2019-11-12
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Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi - The Greatest Unanswered Question in Psychology Today

In this episode we have one of the absolute living legends of psychology on the show - we discuss the GREATEST unanswered question in psychology, the biggest thing people mis-understand about flow, what advice young people can take away from our guest's incredible career, and what he thinks the absolute biggest takeaways from his own research are - and much more with Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Your fate, your destiny, your future is not set out for you - you can shape it to be what you want it to be. You have the freedom to make life better for yourself and more worthwhile and meaningful for yourselves. Even the greatest traumas and struggles can be overcome. You don?t have to achieve fame and fortune to live a meaningful and wonderful life and to be truly alive.  Mihaly is Claremont Graduate University?s Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Management. He is a bestselling author and founder and co-director of the Quality of Life Research Center. He is a member of the American Academy of Education, the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, and the National Academy of Leisure Studies and his work has been featured on NPR,TED, WIRED, and more!!

The key ideas supported by the data around how people respond to Trauma.

People who are focused beyond themselves and their own wellbeing are more resilient to the things that happen to them. 

When you focus on the wellbeing of others, society, your family, etc - you?re much more resilient to Trauma

How do you think of yourself? Do you think of yourself as the body in which you live? Do you see yourself as being part of a family, group, religion etc? This will shape your response to trauma. 

The self is a very poor site for meaning - don?t put all your eggs in the fragile basket of the self 

We are all connected - recognizing that helps contextualize our existence

Flow and happiness are not the same thing - but they are very related

Flow is a momentary state of experience and happiness is a general perspective towards life 

If your life is full of flow - it will be a happy life! 

How do we consistently create flow states in our lives?

If you have those 2 traits you are more likely to be in flow more often 

Pay attention to the world around you and connect with it one way or another 

Life is quite malleable - we often feel like we?ve been dealt a tough hand, but its often how we react to it that is the most important 

How does Mihaly think about creating flow states in his own life?

What is the greatest unanswered question in psychology today?

What is the biggest mistake or pitfall that younger people (in their mid 20s) can make?

You have to keep an open mind, be open to learning

Don?t be too instinctive, don?t become an ideologue too soon

What?s the biggest thing that people misunderstand about Flow and Mihay?s research? 

We have the opportunity to shape ourselves into whoever we want to be- but we have to take into account where we came from and what our experiences have been. 

What?s the biggest takeaway from all the research on Flow?

Your fate, your destiny, your future is not set out for you - you can shape it to be what you want it to be.

You have the freedom to make life better for yourself and more worthwhile and meaningful for yourselves. Even the greatest traumas and struggles can be overcome.

You don?t have to achieve fame and fortune to live a meaningful and wonderful life and to be truly alive. 

It may not be an easy road to get there, but it?s possible for anyone to get there. This is open to everyone, but it?s hard to do the work and get there.

Life can be much more fun than you think! We have to look past the limited perspective of our own egos and experiences to understand the beauty of life.

2019-11-07
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The Truth About Fear & Why You?ve Got It All Wrong with Akshay Nanavati

In this episode, we show you how to turn your fear into health, wealth, and happiness. If you want something you?ve never had before, you have to do something you?ve never done before. That means suffering and taking risks. Building a positive relationship with suffering is one of the most important life skills you can master. Suffering is the true training ground of self-transcendence. With our guest Akshay Nanavati we show you how to choose your struggle and build meaningful suffering into your life. Akshay Nanavati is a Marine Corps Veteran, speaker, adventurer, entrepreneur and author of "Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness." He is also the founder of the nonprofit, the Fearvana Foundation. His work has been featured in Forbes, Psychology Today, entrepreneur.com, CNN, Huffington Post, Military Times, FOX 5 NY, ABC, NBC and other media outlets around the globe. 

From drug addiction to marine corps Bootcamp - to hunting for bombs in Iraq - how Akshay learned to deal with fear 

The toughest battle Akshay had to fight was coming home - dealing with PTSD and suicidal thoughts 

We live in a world that demonizes stress, anxiety, fear, pain and suffering - and yet in the psychology and neuroscience research shows us that our emotions are normal and inevitable

We don?t live in a world of life-threatening risks anymore, and so our brain creates these risks

No emotions are good or bad - we assign and create the meaning via our beliefs Humans are meaning-making machines - we naturally create meaning out of everything

What you are labeling yourself can powerfully shape your experiences.

Typical behaviors like ?depression? ?PTSD? etc are just brain patterns, and they can be re-written using ?Top-Down Neuroplasticity?

Don?t wait for the fear to go away, act despite the fear.. or once you learn to train yourself.. BECAUSE of the fear 

Building a positive relationship to suffering is the single most important skill to master.

 ?Hebbs Law? - neurons that fire together, wire together

There is a war in your brain for neuronal real estate - use it or lose it. 

Should you try to SEEK Suffering instead of AVOID suffering?

"There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.? - Dr. Carl Jung

?Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.? - Dr. Carl Jung V

isualize yourself in the process of going through the struggle, the suffering, the tough part of your goals - not the easy parts at the end. 

There is tremendous beauty in pushing through and into your fears.

 Everything worthwhile is hard, and you have to train yourself to fall in love with suffering. Fall in love with the process. Y

ou cannot get better at something without doing it. 

Exercise is a ?miracle grow for your brain.?

If you could put all the benefits of exercise into a pill, it would be the best selling pill of all time. 

If you want something you?ve never had before, you have to do something you?ve never done before. That means suffering and taking a risk. If you don?t proactively search out a proactive worthy challenge - something to struggle and suffer for in your life - then suffering will find you anyway. 

Don?t follow your passion, find your "worthy struggle." 

You don?t discover a passion you develop a passion. You have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations to develop your passion. You only evolve when you suffer.

That?s why lottery winners typically lose their winnings. When you struggle for it, you become a different person.

Homework: Find one little thing to test yourself. Do a little thing to push yourself outside your comfort zone. Don?t just do it, come back and reflect on it. Journal about it.

2019-10-31
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How You Can Build Your Audience From Nothing with Joe Fier

In this episode, we discuss how to get started building your network and traffic online. We learn exactly how to build an audience from scratch, insider lessons about the best content marketing approach, how to get your content to go viral, a mind-blowing facebook advertising strategy and why email is still one of the most important marketing channels with our guest Joe Fier. Joe Fier advises businesses on marketing strategy and sales conversion to increase revenues. He consults and creates long-term selling assets for clients, which has generated over $50 million in revenue online. He runs a marketing and tech consulting company and full-scale content marketing agency. He and his Co-Founder at Evergreen Profits, Matt Wolfe are also the hosts of the Hustle and Flowchart Podcast and authors of The Evergreen Traffic Playbook, hosts of the Hustle and Flowchart Podcast and Evergreen Wisdom: Daily Habits & Thoughts To Optimize Your Business & Life.

Producing the best possible content was one of the inflection points for Evergreen Profits

Content Creation & Development is the cornerstone of their growth strategy 

?It starts with content - that?s the inflection point"

Attracting the right people to your content hasn?t changed a lot in the last 10 years in the online world. 

When Joe kickstarted his podcast, he went to his network and got it front of them

How do you build up a network or seed your initial traffic?

Places like Reddit, Facebook groups, Quora - get involved in a community, get involved in a bucket of an audience, interject or inject value with the content that you produce - and be consistent. You have to be consistently involved in the community. 

You have to build your own ?credibility? in the community before you post your own content 

Go into the community and spend a few weeks JUST answering questions

Just keep adding a ton of value and get the other people to start self-promoting for you 

Get to know the OWNER of the subreddit or the MODERATOR of the subreddit (same strategy Sol used) that?s the KEY

Spend a minimal budget to kickstart a piece of content Reddit Ads Quora Ads Facebook Ads Google Ads

The target goal of the ads = join our email list Email Opt-Ins for a new audience

Run these $1/day ads targeting Brene Brown on FB and point them straight to the show notes page

There?s no commitment on their part, and you?re selling them on the podcast Retargeting Warm approach ?Exclusive notes on this Brene Brown interview - click here to get them absolutely free"

Driven by FB retargeting after they?ve already visited your page Start low and work your way up as you see it working / frequency getting higher 

They will have a pool of 10 potential ads and they will assign a budget to the pool, and FB will pull the various ads - let FB?s algorithm do the work for you 

Repurpose episodes into something more visual for FB / Instagram / Ads

They try to do the opposite of the ?Launch? model 

Have a longer-term mindset and know that the content you?re putting out in the world will live there for a long long time

Create amazing valuable content that will pass the test of time

Always try to follow up, the money is made on the follow-up

Don?t try to rush the sale, don?t be too pushy, lead with value 

Homework: Start an email list and create a good opt-in freebie + pair it up with a checklist or short opt-in guide Then set up retargeting + simple FB ad strategy to bring people back to what you?re doing.

2019-10-29
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Where Science & Spirituality Meet: Does The Law of Attraction Work? with Dr. Tara Swart

Have you always wondered if the ?Law of Attraction? is real? In this episode we dig into the science behind visualization, manifesting and much more to find out what really works and what doesn?t. We share strategies for access your intuition and aligning your emotions, your intuition and your rational thought process to supercharge your brain, show you how to beat imposter syndrome, and much more with our guest Dr. Tara Swart. Dr. Tara Swart is a neuroscientist and former psychiatric doctor. She is a senior lecturer at MIT Sloan and visiting senior lecturer at Kings College London, and an executive advisor to some of the world's most respected leaders in media and business. In 2016 she was named the world's first Neuroscientist-in-Residence at Corinthia Hotel, London. She is the author of the award-winning Neuroscience for Leadership, co-author of An Attitude for Acting, and lead author of her soon to be released third book, The Source.

Can we merge science and spirituality?

Is there science that actually explains the ?law of attraction?"

Because of the way that you think you attract certain things into your life. 

The concept of abundant thinking 

The mental model ?loss aversion? and why losses are more painful than gains 

Mastering your emotions, cultivating intuition, they are all very similar to learning a new language 

Replace any negative thought with a positive thought immediately - an ancient Buddhist lesson that is supported by the neuroscience of neuroplasticity

What should you do if you can?t dislodge a negative thought from your brain?

If you have a repetitive negative thought or a theme to a negative narrative in your brain - distill it down to the basic underlying belief that drives that negative thought - create an opposite state and use that as your positive affirmation or mantra (check out limiting belief episodes for more)

Use laughter and oxytocin to powerfully encode or recode beliefs 

How do you deal with imposter syndrome? Strategies for overcoming imposter syndrome Does visualization work?

Visualization makes things more certain for the brain. 

How creating a vision board can powerfully improve your brain?s focus on your goals

Value tagging and selective attention - by visualizing your future you start to prime the brain to focus on the things that you want to be important. 

?The Tetris Effect? - Do your visualization board as the last thing you do before you go to bed to prime and feed information into your subconscious. 

The period of time that you?re about to fall asleep is the period where your subconscious can be the MOST influenced. Visualization is an umbrella that three big things fall under

Neuroplasticity is the ability to change your brain. What you think and how you live can actually change physical things in your body.

Journaling is the ?single best way? to access your intuition and align your emotions, your intuition and your rational thought process.

You can avoid repeating the same mistakes if you start to tap into and access your intuition

There?s a large neuronal connection between the gut neurons and the limbic system If you take a high-quality probiotic it can reduce negative thinking in your life

There?s a deep connection between your gut and your brain 

Probiotics, prebiotics, and fermented foods can improve your brain, your happiness, and your performance 

Meta-cognition - thinking about your thinking. Stepping back and asking yourself if your thought processes are healthy and helpful.

An awesome exercise you can use to improve your meta-cognition and reframe your thinking

Homework: Create an action board. The structure of the board is important. Don?t use words - that go down the logical/rational pathway.

2019-10-24
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Robert Greene: Do You Think You?re In Control? Think Again.

How did one of the greatest geniuses of all time lose his life savings overnight? Despite our illusions of rationality, even the most brilliant humans are not rational at all. We tell ourselves that it?s always the other person who is irrational, envious, and aggressive, and that it?s never us. But science shows that all of our brains are remarkably similar, sculpted by evolution to have baked in biases and bad habits. No one is exempted from the laws of human nature. In this episode we explore the path that all the world?s greatest strategists have used to master their own irrationality and achieve mastery with our legendary guest Robert Greene. Robert Greene is an author known for his books on strategy, power, and seduction. He has written six international bestsellers: The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature. In addition to having a strong following within the business world and a deep following in Washington, DC, Greene?s books are hailed by everyone from war historians to the biggest musicians in the industry (including Jay-Z, Drake, and 50 Cent).

How one of the greatest geniuses of all time lost his life savings overnight. Could it happen to you?

Despite our illusions of rationality, humans are not rational at all - we are governed by our emotions.

To be rational requires deep work and training. 

Many forces from evolution that are wired into our brains used to be adaptive, now they can be dangerous and even counter productive 

These primitive elemental forces form the cornerstones of human nature

Are the emotions that you?re feeling actually from your life? Did they come from you or did they come from other people?

We need to be independent, we need to think for ourselves, we need to gain control of our emotional responses. 

You can?t begin to be a rational strategist in life until you are aware of your own emotions It begins with humility. Turn your internal self absorption around. 

Rationality is being aware of your irrationality. Being aware of the emotions that govern your decisions. Step back.

Cultivating the ability to step away, to pull out of tunnel vision, to see a bigger picture, is a cornerstone of rational thinking and strategic thinking. 

The brain operates by simplifying information - we often don?t have access to the SOURCE of our feelings and emotions.

You need other people to do anything in life. Investing in the skill of influencing them is one of the most powerful things you can invest in. 

How LBJ was a master influencer and could melt away anyone?s defensiveness

Respond to people as they ARE not as you want them to be

Your natural tendency as you get older is for your mind to close up. 

Open, curious, having a mindset of discovery and openness is much more powerful than a deeply convicted rigid mindset. Having a rigid perspective is destroying your mind. 

A creative mind is incredibly flexible. That?s the quality of any truly great artist, entrepreneur, or political figure. It?s the path that ALL of the great strategists in life have followed.

Do you want power, creativity, success, and influence? OPEN UP YOUR MIND. 

Homework: Use a journal or simply do a thought experiment in your own head - in the course of a day you will feel many different emotions - dig into those emotions and understand what is going on with yourself and your own emotions. Try to find one moment, one emotion, and think about the root cause, think about where that emotion comes from. Where does it REALLY come from? Question. Dig. Think before your act. Try to come up with one little nugget about yourself and why you feel that way and analyze it instead of giving into it.

2019-10-17
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Roland Frasier: How To Build Lasting Wealth, Influence, and Happiness

In this episode we discuss how to make the most important decisions in your life. Where should you spend your time? How do you evaluate different opportunities? Are you focused on creating wealth or income, and which is more important for you? Should you make a big change in your career or industry? We dig into all of these important questions and give you the tools to answer them with our guest the legendary Roland Frasier. Roland Frasier is a serial entrepreneur who has founded, scaled or sold dozens of different businesses.  He is currently CEO of the War Room Mastermind, where he advises over 150 major companies and principal in DigitalMarketer.com, among several other successful online companies. Roland has experienced business success in several industries including real estate, law, publishing, consulting, and many others. He has worked with major companies such as Microsoft, Infusionsoft, Etihad Airlines, Harper-Collins Publishing and Uber.The biggest business breakthroughs often come from applying unexpected places and cross applications The importance of creating models and frameworks for solving business problemsTake what you read and break it down into something that?s simple and useable How do you take what you?re reading and learning and turn it into something that is actually usable and applicable?The Long and The ShortThe dangers of being ?cash poor? and ?asset rich?Are you over-focused on income or wealth? Are you a dancing bear? Its so easy to get trapped into reinvesting 100% of your profits into growing your company How do you balance our time between short term income creation and long term wealth creation? Formula: Income Needs = Long Term Growth Desires + Lifestyle Costs + Cushion If you want yourself too far on one side or the other, it?s time to rebalance your focus a bitLife is so fragile - you have to balance living for today and living for tomorrowClassify your opportunities as either ?wealth? opportunities or ?income opportunities?You should be hustling, but you shouldn?t be hustling all the time.You have to stop and think.You have to stop and recover too.If you study some seriously successful and ultra driven people - they often achieve that success at the cost of their own personal and family lives If you want to really innovate, you have to take time to think.The world will demand 400% of your time. You have to limit the number of opportunities you take on. It?s easy to drown in opportunity. Once in a lifetime opportunities come around 3 or 4 times per year. PFM + Will it move the needle in terms of what you want to accomplish personally and financially? PeopleFunMoneySaying ?not now? is not the same thing as saying no - it?s a great way to defer opportunitiesThe power and importance of asking for things Be inquisitive and child like in asking the things you are curious aboutThe ?No harm in asking? RuleIn a business deal, if you don?t ask for what you want, it sure as well won?t be handed to you. The power of ?inception? via the principle of Socratic Influencing - how you can get people to think that your ideas are theirs Lead people logically to the conclusion that you want them to arrive atThe absolutely magical power Should you ?grow where you are planted?"The power and importance of developing your personal brand to help your business Homework: Determine what are you going to spend your time on? IDEA: Create a ?Life Priority Matrix?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-10-15
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The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships with Michael S. Sorenson

In this episode we discuss crazy research that can predict 94% of the time whether or not your relationship will be successful. We reveal why you should NEVER give someone unsolicited advice. We share the communication ?Swiss army knife? that you can use to build rapport, influence anyone, and deepen the most important relationships in your life and much more with our guest Michael S. Sorenson. Michael S. Sorensen is an award-winning author, marketing executive, relationship coach, researcher, and personal development junkie. He is the author of the best-selling I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships and the 3-Minute Morning Journal.Listen, seek to understand, and then validatePeople question if we understand how they are feelingReflective listening vs validationCrazy research that can predict 94% of the time whether or not your relationship will be successful.The 3 primary ways of respondingHappily married couples validate each other more than 87% of the time. Divorced couples validated each other only 33% of the time.The biggest takeaway from this interview - don?t give unsolicited advice! When you give people advice they get defensive, and then both parties get frustrated pretty quickly. In today?s societies we have serious difficultly processing and understanding our emotions. Most of the time what people want is NOT advice, they want help processing the difficult emotions that they are experiencing. Reframe: Ask yourself ?So, what are you gonna do about it?"When you jump in and give advice, you miss out on an opportunity to show them respect and an opportunity for them to grow. Validation can help when someone is experiencing both negative and positive emotions. Validation is a tremendously powerful negotiation tool. When people feel heard and understood they are more likely to listen to you and understand you. Validation helps you break down defensiveness.What is validation?Invalidating responsesTo be an effective communicator you have to communicate to people the way they ARE, not the way you want them to be. We often invalidate OURSELVES too - saying ?it?s fine? or ?I shouldn?t feel this way?You can?t repress an emotion and get away with it - they come back stronger and stronger. Repressed emotions are the root of many negative behaviors. We repress ourselves both ways - positively and negatively. When we experience positive things we should validate ourselves.Why you should accept compliments instead of deflecting them. How do you validate and justify an emotion that you don?t agree with? Lessons from dealing with someone who has schizophrenia - and how you can validate emotions that you ?disagree with? Justifying emotions - ?it makes sense, given what you think, that you feel that way? 4 Steps of ValidationDo you ever feel like someone isn?t listening to you? Maybe you need to flip the script and ask if you?ve really been listening to THEM.?Given what you?ve said, I completely understand why you would feel that way."A lot of emotional problems are a result of parents or people close in our lives who invalidated our negative experiences. Dealing with your emotions is HARD. Your emotions are unruly. Imagine how scary your emotions are as an adult, children don?t have the tools to deal with their emotions.Homework: the next tough conversation you have, don?t give them your advice.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-10-10
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How To Listen: The Most Underrated Leadership Hack In the 21st Century with Oscar Trimboli

Are you feeling too distracted to pay attention? Does listening make your brain hurt? In a world full of noise and distraction - listening is the biggest leadership hack in today?s world. In this episode we crack the code on how to deeply listen, how to listen to what is unsaid, and the tons of specific hacks and tactics you can use to take your listening to the next level with our guest Oscar Trimboli.Oscar Trimboli is on a quest to create 100 million Deep Listeners in the world. He is an author, Host of the Apple Award winning podcast--Deep Listening and a sought-after keynote speaker. He consults for organizations including Cisco, Google, HSBC, and many others. He is the author of the best selling works Breakthroughs: How to confront assumptions and Deep Listening: Impact Beyond Words.If you can listen, you can change the worldThe mission of creating 100 million listeners If you can achieve your goal in your lifetime it?s not ambitious enoughWe are struggling as individuals and the world is struggling - we are distracted, we can?t focus, we are overwhelmed86% of people struggle with distraction todayWe spent the 20th-century learning how to speak, the leadership hack for the 21st century is learning how to listenThe more senior you are, the more you lead, the more time you spend listeningLess than 2% of people have been trained how to listenHow do you teach your kids how to listen? How do you teach your employees how to listen?We listen in 2 dimensions - we listen in black and white right now - but we can listen in more colors, and we can listen more deeply.Listen to someone on TV who you fiercely disagree with. What?s the difference between hearing vs listening? What assumptions and prejudices do you hold?How do you become aware of your listening blind spots?Spend 30 minutes listening to someone who you fiercely disagree with, and you will start to really understand your listening blind spots.We spend a huge chunk of our lives screaming to be noticed. Hearing = here sounds. Listening = make sense of what you hear. The difference between hearing and listening is the action you take. Deep listening is helping the person who is speaking make sense of what they?re saying Three key lessons from neuroscience about listeningWe can listen so much faster than we can speak, it creates a massive opportunity for us to get distractedYou must be an ?empty vessel? to focus on someone else and actually listen to them 3 Quick tips to center yourself in a conversationBefore you even think about listening to the speaker, you have to be ready to listen. When somebody says something, treat silence at the end of what they say like it?s another word. 3 Phrases to continue any conversationIn our rush to fill the silence, we miss out on quite a lot. When you use phrases like ?tell me more? you give someone the opportunity to align their thoughts more clearly, think through the idea, and figure out the most important themes and ideas to shine through in the conversation. How many breakthroughs are you missing in your organization just because you?re not listening? 5 Levels of Listening?You?ve heard something in 25 minutes that we couldn?t hear in 3 months"A powerful question that can solve insurmountable business problems: Who are you not listening to right now?Sometimes the people you really need to listen to aren?t in the room. The only way to get someone to see the gap between where they are today and where they want to be tomorrow is by ASKING THEM A QUESTION, not by telling them. The magic happens when you put your attention on other people instead of just putting it on yourself.If the question if about YOU and YOUR understanding, it?s not as powerful as a question helping THEM improve THEIR understanding. Homework: Listen to something you deeply disagree with for 30 minutes.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-10-03
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Neuroscience Hacks You Can Use To Change Behavior, Take Action & Finally Break Through What?s Holding You Back with Dr. David Rock

In this interview we discuss how to finally break through what?s holding you back, take action, and create lasting habit and behavior change. Less than 30% of people succeed in changing their behavior without using the tools and strategies we share in this interview.  Uncover the neuroscience of how your brain gets stuck and finally start using strategies that really work to create more breakthroughs and results in your life with Dr. David Rock. Dr. David Rock coined the term 'NeuroLeadership' and is the director of the NeuroLeadership Institute. He co-edits the NeuroLeadership Journal and heads up an annual global summit. He is the author of the best-selling 'Your Brain at Work',  'Quiet Leadership',  and the textbook 'Coaching with the Brain in Mind'. He has been featured in the Harvard Business Review, Fortune Magazine, PsychologyToday and many more publications.The brain gets stuck very easily. What happens when we get stuck?Its really hard for our brains to break out of their preexisting molds and patterns of thinking Even breaking out of the smallest mental ?schemas? can be very difficult The mechanics of how we get trapped in mental schemas - your subconscious does most of the processing and heavy liftingChanging your thinking patterns is as hard as changing traffic flow on the freeway The unconscious brain is trillions of times more powerful than the conscious brain?Language gives you the ability to alter your experience."The more language you have for your own brain the more you can notice what is going on. Language connects the prefrontal cortex to the rest of the brain. How do you generate more creative insights?If you can even get one day a week of spending your mornings doing contemplative routine, your creative output will explode. After exercise or a nap, or after something fun and restful - when you have energy, when you have the urge to write or create - pay attention to those phenomena and try to tap into them when you get a chance. How do you do a better job paying attention to your mental state and your thoughts?There is ENORMOUS value in learning socially and learning with other people. ?Hundreds of percentage? bump in the likelihood of real change.The number one reason that people change is because other people change. This comes from hard scientific data, it?s not theoretical.The default mode network is pretty much always on - and it focuses socially and thinks about how you fit in socially. Social factors are a huge motivation driver - social rewards and social threats are huge drivers of human behavior. The strongest carrots and sticks are SOCIAL. The ?SCARF? Model for understanding human behavior, threat response, and how people behave.The brain classifies everything into either danger or opportunity, but it?s a continuum not binary.Managing your ?threat state? is one of the most important things you can do. ?Help people think better, don?t tell them what to do"Coaching is helping people have their own insights. Conversations, where you help anyone have an insight, is far more likely to create change. Advice is almost always MUCH more about the giver than about what you actually need. How do you actually turn your insights into action?Harness the positive social pressures of learning with other people. The social pressure of learning something together, in little bites, at a time. It helps constantly remind you of the importance of those learning and insights. How do we create organizational change at any scale?Most organizations are pretty good at making priorities, OK on systems, and terrible at the habits. 30% of change initiatives succeed because they ignore habits and human psychology HOMEWORK: Start building language, one habit at a time, find something you?re curious about or want to work on around improving your brain, and learn socially with others.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-09-26
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School Kills Creativity. Here?s How To Revive It with Chase Jarvis

In this interview, we discuss why ?creativity is the new literacy? and how you can unlock your own creative genius to create the life you want to live. Most people are completely wrong about what they think creativity is and how to be more creative. We dispel the myths about creative work and show you how to build your creative muscle so that you can create breakthroughs, find your calling, and live your dream life with our guest Chase Jarvis.Chase Jarvis is a photographer, director, and social artist. He is the CEO of CreativeLive and works with major brands like Nike, Pepsi, and more. His personal and fine artwork has caught the attention of everyone from mainstream audiences to art critics across the globe. He is the author of the popular books Seattle 100, The Best Camera Is The One That's With You, and the soon to be released Creative Calling.Why ?Creativity is the new literacy? and what that means for your career and life The transition between the Renaissance and the Dark Ages Creativity is everything. Creativity is not just art. It?s not just painting. Creativity is the driving factor behind being successful today. What is creativity? Putting two things together to form something new and useful. Fundamental lessons of creativityYou have agency over creating your own life. Humans are naturally creative machines.Creativity is the #1 most sought after characteristic of world-class CEOsCreativity is a superpower and it?s something that we all possess. Creativity is such an important skill set - in today?s world there?s so much noise, so much new information - stepping back and applying creativity is more important than ever The more that you study people who have become successful, the more you realize that you can?t follow the traditional narrative of business schoolThe school system has failed us - it?s a modern-day factory that hurts creativity. 4 Step Process To Live Your Dream LifeFind your calling, find your path, and make your life effortless Once you become creative, you start seeing creative opportunities everywhere - you can?t unsee them. Never tell yourself ?I?m not creative? - everyone has the ability to be creative?Creativity is an infinite resource, the more you use the more you get? - Maya Angelou "Shitty first drafts? are the path towards creativityThere?s so much untapped reactivity in the world, so much untapped potential - you have to realize your own untapped potential and unleash it. To uncover your calling, start pulling threads - it?s not a direct journey, it?s an indirect adventureBecome creative is about a mindset shift - and it?s a shift you?re capable of making right now Don?t be the next "so and so? be the first YOU!Entrepreneurship is alchemy, part science part art Science, productivity, achievement etc - they all boil down to developing the skillset of creativityYour brain evolved to keep you alive, NOT to keep you happy! Your mind short circuits into fear in situations where it shouldn?t Homework: Find something that you can make a habit for 10 days that would meet your own definition of creativity, and do it! Homework: Think of more things in your life as CREATIVE ACTS"Make art, and while everyone else is judging your art, make more." -Andy WarholSuccess is not a map. It?s a compass. You have to walk that direction, navigate the obstacles, and figure it out along the way. Just start.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-09-19
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Are You Learning The Wrong Way? Why 99% of People Are with Scott Young

In this episode, we discuss how our traditional education system has given us the wrong perspectives on how learning actually works. It?s so easy to fall into the trap of looking for and waiting for the perfect step by step formula, but it?s actually the ability to flexibly experiment that empowers you to be successful in learning, and really anything. We share exactly how you can apply these lessons and much more with our guest Scott Young. Scott Young is a writer and programmer who has undertaken many incredibly challenging self-education projects in his career. These challenges include feats such as attempting to learn MIT's four-year computer science curriculum in twelve months as well as learning four languages in one year. He is the author of the best-selling book Ultralearning: Master Hard Skills, Outsmart the Competition and Accelerate Your Career and his work has been featured in The New York Times, Business Insider, TEDx, and more!Attempting to learn MIT's four-year computer science curriculum in twelve monthsOur expectations around learning are often wrong - and we frequently go about learning the wrong wayHow you can learn any language in less than 3 months How you can harness the power of immersive practice to rapidly accelerate your learningOur traditional education system has given us the wrong perspectives on how learning actually works Practice directly, get feedback, get your hands dirty Self-directed learning is super important - what you want to learn, how you want to learn, and what resources you want to use. It needs to be self-directed.Ultralearning also needs to be focused around efficiency - collecting and learning information as quickly as possible. The powerful concept of ?meta-learning? - learning about learning. Before you start ANY learning activity, you want to do some research on what the BEST way to learn is Ultra learning is not a short cut to find a way so you don?t have to do the work but rather prevents you from going down dead ends. If you want to get good at something, you need to do the thing you want to get good at. If you want to know something, ask yourself WHERE and HOW will I use this knowledge?Human beings are really bad at ?transfer? - transferring knowledge to new and different contextsThe important difference between ?free recall? and ?repeated review? when studying information Desirable difficulty in learning. Often the more difficult it is to learn, retrieve or remember somethingThe importance of experimentation. You often want a step by step formula, but those often do not exist. As soon as the formula becomes popular it gets copied to death. The ability to flexibly experiment is a huge skillset towards being successful in learning, and really anything.Start building a toolkit of software tools and mental models to improve your learning and thinking Cultivate a lifelong philosophy of learning new things and adding new thinking tools The greatest moments in your life aren?t because you get a reward, they?re because you experience something that expands your sense of what?s possible How you can use the Feynman Technique to improve your ability to think better and understand complex or confusing topics.How you can debug your own understanding and solve any problem using this powerful technique from a legendary scientist Homework: Think about something you?re learning right now (or trying to learn) think very clearly about the situations where you would use that knowledge or apply that skill. Ask, what kind of situations would this knowledge come up and be relevant? If you read a book, you have to actually IMPLEMENT the IDEAS that you learn from it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-09-12
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Use These Powerful Thinking Tools To Solve Your Hardest Problems with David Epstein

In this episode we discuss powerful thinking tools and strategies you can use to break through tough problems and give yourself confidence and clarity when you?re dealing with uncertain situations. We share the breakthrough strategy that was used to invent astrophysics, explore how you can make tough life and career choices, and show you how you can use quick experiments to test, learn, and get results quickly. We share all of this and much more in with our guest David Epstein. David Epstein is the author of Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, and of the New York Times bestseller The Sports Gene. He has master's degrees in environmental science and journalism and has worked as an investigative reporter for ProPublica  and as a senior writer for Sports Illustrated, writing some of their most high-profile investigative stories.We don?t teach the skill of actually THINKING in today?s world. There?s a HUGE advantage in connecting ideas and learning how to think broadly, especially as people specialize more. The more and more people specialize the more powerful range and broad thinking becomes. For much of the 20th century most of progress was driven by specialization, but beginning in the 1980s, most breakthroughs started coming from multidisciplinary combinations and breadth, not depth. The ?cult of the head start? - the drive to specialize as narrowly and as early as possible. What can we learn from the story of Tiger Woods? Traditional chess is an activity where early specialization is really important. Moraveck?s paradox - humans and machines have opposite strengths and weaknesses.In freestyle chess, you outsource the pattern study to the computer, and you focus on the higher level strategy - it becomes a completely different game. That?s what has happened to success in today?s world.?A broader set of integrative skills? is where humans can add the most value. How ?wicked learning environments? like business, investing, medicine, and human interaction are much trickier to navigate, and what that means for how you learn and improve Learning and improvement in ?kind domains? vs ?wicked domains? Using ?Fermi Problems? to navigate tough situations and learning environmentsThe Importance of ?broadly applicable reasoning tools? over highly specific knowledge Analogies are one of the most important tools for creative problem solvingSuccessful problem solvers are more able to determine the deep structure of a problem before they proceed to match a strategy to it.?Switchers are winners? - why changing your job or changing what you study can end up being a huge win for you. The economics concept of ?match quality? and how it can impact the direction of your lifeWho wins the tradeoff between early and late specializers? Grit is great, but strategic quitting can be a great thing. Even the researcher of Grit, Angela Duckworth, supports changing directions. Which among my various possible selves should I start to explore now? How can I do that?Taking a beginning fiction writing class helped David become a better nonfiction writer. How you can use the Japanese concept of ?Bansho? to improve your thinking and become a more effective learner ?Making connections? knowledge  vs ?Using procedures? knowledge. Drawing broad and deep connections instead of learning routines. The power of using ?Interleaving? as a learning method. Forcing learners into "conceptual thinking" improves deep and longer lasting learning. Homework: Create a ?book of small experiments? and start testing the things you might want to do or learn. Do something new once a quarter. Create a hypothesis of why you want to explore that interest and test the hypothesis. Homework: Whenever you?re thinking about a project you?re going to take on, you will make predictions about how that project will go, use the ?outside view? instead of the ?inside view.? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-09-05
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You?ve Been Sold a Lie About Hard Work. Here?s the Reality with Dr. Morten Hansen

In this episode we discuss what creates great performance at work. Uncover how you can do better work in fewer hours. Get rid of wasted meetings with hacks you can use to make your meetings radically more productive, finally remove the things that are distracting you, learn the recipe you need to say no to your boss the right way, and focus on the biggest things that will create the most value in your work. We share all of these lessons and much more with our guest Dr. Morten Hansen. Dr. Morten Hansen is a management professor at the UC, Berkeley and a faculty member at Apple University. His academic research has won several prestigious awards and he is ranked as one of the world?s most influential management thinkers by Thinkers50. He was also a manager at the Boston Consulting Group, where he advised corporate clients worldwide. He is the author of the best sellingGreat at Work, Great by Choice, and Collaboration.Study of 5000 people, how they work, and their performance. The biggest conclusion? most people work the WRONG way. Most people think working MORE is better. The VERY TOP PERFORMERS across PROFESSIONS and INDUSTRIES and AGE GROUPS tend to be those who are really really good at picking the most important priorities, engaging extreme focus, and going all-in on the few things that matter the most. Productivity is going down in today?s world, it?s not going up. You have to work hard, but after about 50 hours of work, there are massively diminished returns, and a sharp spike in marginal productivity, beyond 65 hrs per week you start performing less well than someone working 40 hours per week. It?s not about cramming more hours into your week, it?s about focusing those hours on the RIGHT THINGS and prioritizing appropriately. Evidence-based insights into what it means to be a top performer at work. ?What creates great performance at work?"Focus is often misunderstood. ?Do less, then obsess."Focus in the workplace means FEWER TASKS and FEWER PRIORITIES. Many people are not good at saying no?One of the greatest professional skills required to be successful today is the ability to say no."If you don?t say no, then you start doing mediocre work. What do you do when your boss fires back ?all your projects are important?"How do you think about focus in the context of ?portfolio? opportunities? (Investors, real estate agents, and so forth). If the execution of each one of those things depends on YOUR effort, then you should be FOCUSING on that. Whether or not it hinges on your specific effort, that is the key question. Whenever the execution is reliant on you, you have to FOCUS DEEPLY and execute. What?s the difference between passion and purpose?People who have more passion and purpose don?t work more hours, but they get more out of EACH hour they work. How do you find passion and purpose in your work every day?KEY TACTIC: What are the 3 most valuable things I can do at my job?Most people spend less than 40% of their time on their top 3 priorities. How do you change and remove things from your calendar that are distracting you?Routine busywork prevents you from taking the time to actually implement these kinds of contemplative routines.Are you tired of wasting your time daily in ineffective meetings?Hacks for radically improving the productivity of your meetings:Homework: Do Less, then Obsess. Review your calendar for the next 2 weeks and cut out one or two things. Say no to something or don?t accept the invitation. Free up your time and then dedicate it on the most important thing you need to get done.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-08-29
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The Science of Immortality: How Genetic Engineering Is Going to Change Everything with Jamie Metzl

In this episode, we explore the mind-bending science of genetic engineering and why it?s going to change everything in our lives, whether we want it to or not. We share crazy stories and examples from the cutting edge of science, look at shocking examples around the world of what is going on with human genetic science and explore the science of immortality with a few simple life hacks can you implement right now to extend your life and help you live past 100, with our guest Jamie Metzl.   Jamie Metzl is a Senior Fellow of the Atlantic Council. In February 2019, he was appointed to the World Health Organization expert advisory committee on developing global standards for the governance and oversight of human genome editing. He is the author of five books, including the non-fiction work, Hacking Darwin: Genetic Engineering and the Future of Humanity. Jamie previously served in the U.S. National Security Council, State Department, Senate Foreign Relations Committee and as a Human Rights Officer for the United Nations in Cambodia. The future is already here, it?s just not evenly distributed yetOpen your eyes a little bit wider and see the radical technological developments that will fundamentally transform your life are on the short term horizonGenetic technologies are, in very short order, going to fundamentally transform our societiesThe genetics revolution is inevitable and it?s already here. Countries like China are already massively pushing the limits on genetic science, well beyond what we may even feel comfortable with in the US todayChina is extremely wealthy, extremely powerful, and has a ?Wild West? culture around genetic engineering, designer babies, and human genome editing?The Arms Race of the Human Race? - what happens in a world where the US restricts or prevents genetic engineering but another country, for example, China, substantially embraces them?Slippery slope and how this radically starts to change our world pretty incredibly - most people would probably want to know if their child had a higher risk of a certain disease, so they could prevent it? what happens when we make that shift from a child to a human embryo??The End of Sex? - ?Old Fashioned Sex? will soon be viewed as reckless and dangerous.?Would you play Russian roulette with your child?s future health by NOT affirmatively selecting health?"Would you wish polio on a child because it?s natural? What about a genetic disease that could be prevented?It?s not a question of wonderful nature vs scary science. Nature is pretty scary. People die of horrible genetic disorders today.Why Jamie considers anti-vaccine ?monstrous""In vitro gametogenesis? - what happens if you could make 100,000 potential embryos and pick the healthiest ones?What is a synthetic womb and why is it something that is so crazy it might make total sense in 30-50 years?Why Jamie?s goal is to live to 150, and what he?s doing to get there. Simple life hacks can you implement to extend your life as much as possible?Do everything that people who live in the blue zones are doing.Homework: Get yourself educated on genetic science. Homework: If you?re planning on having children, freeze your eggs and freeze your sperm today. Freeze them when you?re twenty. It gives you the option of using healthy and vibrant genetic material in the future. Homework: For longevity: Exercise 45 minutes a day. Eat healthy food. Homework: Do your own homework and empower yourself about precision medicine. Medical knowledge is decentralizing. You are the primary agent of change in your life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-08-22
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How You Can Stop Distraction Right Now with Nir Eyal

In this episode we talk about one of the MOST important skills in the modern world - the ability to be inDISTRACTable. Are you sick and tired of distraction? Do you feel constantly overwhelmed in a world of notifications, demands, messages, and more and more information flying at you? In this episode we discuss exactly how you can battle back from distraction, control your attention and choose the life you want using the power of being ?indistractable? with our guest Nir Eyal.Nir Eyal is an expert in ?behavioral design? having worked in both advertising and video gaming helping companies build and create more engaging products. Nir is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of the book Hooked: How To Build Habit Forming Products and has been featured in Forbes, Psychology Today, and more. Nir is an active angel investor and currently writes to help companies create good habit and behaviors in their users on his blog NirandFar.com.How do we deal with distraction in today?s world?Why don?t we do what we say we?re going to do? Why do we do the things we know we shouldn?t do?What is ?akrasia? and how did the greek philosophers deal with the challenge of distraction?Many of the ?folk psychology? remedies to distraction don?t actually workMost likely you know what you want to do. It?s also equally important to avoid the things you don?t want to do. How do you become ?indistractable"? It?s about CONSISTENCY over INTENSITY to achieve anything. What gets in the way of consistency moves you away from your goals. If you don?t focus on the CORE reason you?re getting distracted you won?t solve the issue. What is the job of a knowledge worker?What is the output of knowledge work? Problem solving. Coming up with novel solutions to hard problems. "The psychology of distraction?The opposite of distraction is NOT focus, the opposite of distraction is TRACTION. And both words end in ACTION. EXTERNAL TRIGGERS are NOT the DISTRACTIONEverything we do is about the avoidance of discomfort. In psychology, this is called the ?homeostatic response."To begin, we have to master our internal triggers. One of the most common distractions in the workplace are OTHER WORKERSDistraction is the third leading cause of death in the United States! How nurses at UCSF made a simple yet earth-shattering change that saved thousands of lives by removing external distractions, reducing prescription mistakes by 88%!!What can you as a knowledge worker do to prevent being distracted during deep work?Mindfulness and meditation is fantastic when you can?t get rid of the internal triggers. The first question you should ask yourself before you meditate is can you change the SOURCE, can you FIX the problem? Self-compassion is a cornerstone of achievement and an essential component "You can?t call something a distraction unless you know what it distracted you from."The myth of the todo list. The magic to do list fairy doesn?t exist. Your to dos are your OUTPUTS not your inputs. They have nothing to do with your inputs. You can only control and schedule the INPUTS. That?s what you need to focus on. Schedule everything you want to spend time on, good, bad, fun etc - and when you?re NOT doing that, you?re being distracted. Homework: Know what you WANT TO DO with your TIME. Homework: Realize you have power, control, and agency to put distraction in its place in your life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-08-15
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Mental Fitness and Creating the Life You Want with Dr. Sasha Heinz

Do you know what you should do but you don?t do it? In this episode, we dig into the science behind WHY this happens and HOW exactly you can overcome this massive obstacle. No one?s ever actually stuck, but the reason you FEEL stuck is that what you want, your goals, desires, change you want in your life, etc, are bumping up against an emotional roadblock or subconscious belief. It?s like having one foot on the gas while the other slams down the breaks. In this interview with Dr. Sasha Heinz, we share what you can do to finally overcome that fear and anxiety and transform your life.  Dr. Sasha Heinz is a developmental psychologist and life coach, is an expert in positive psychology, lasting behavioral change, and the science of getting unstuck. She received her BA from Harvard, her Ph.D. in developmental psychology from Columbia, and her master?s in applied positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she also served as a faculty member.Education is good. Application is better. Transformation is best.Focus on mitigating mental disorders vs focusing on happiness and mental health?The neurotic paradox"Focusing your life around ?optimal human functioning?If you aren?t doing something, you aren?t going to see different results. Do you ever know what you SHOULD do, and yet you don?t do it? ?The biography of your beliefs? shapes how you think, perceive, and ultimately act in the world. Your emotional brain is much more powerful than your logical brainNo one?s ever actually stuck, but the reason you FEEL stuck is that what you want (your desire, change, etc) is bumping up against an emotional roadblock or subconscious belief (often from your childhood). Are you actively directing and engaging the direction and amplitude of change in your life?If you want to know WHY you?re not moving forward, pay attention to what you?re feelingYour thoughts are totally optional. You have the autonomy to decide what you want to believe about yourself.You have to work at both ends of the psychological spectrum simultaneously - healing wounds and trauma, and focusing on optimal human functioningDo a deep inventory of your current belief systems. What were you taught about yourself? What were you taught about your potential? What did you believe about your health, competence, intelligence, lovability, etc as a child? Conduct a ?belief blueprint? of yourself. You have one foot on the gas, that?s your neocortex, and you have one foot on the brake, that?s your emotional cortex saying ?that?s way too scary."Often a coach or a psychologist can help you uncover those beliefs and figure out what is making your emotional brain freak out?When you?re doing something you don?t want to do? pause and reflect.. and ask yourself ?WHY AM I DOING THIS BEHAVIOR?"The action that comes out of negative emotion is very narrow.Sometimes personal development work is hysterical because the human brain is so irrational You can rationalize anything.. Rational Lies.Managing your mind is the currency of the next generation because our world today requires it to be successful. Become more fluent in your own emotions and experience them. Don?t resist your emotions, just allow them to happen, feel them, and observe them. They last about 90 seconds. Growth and development require uncomfortable emotions. Homework: Make a list of all the things you do to avoid feeling your feelings. Homework: Make a list of the things you do that seem completely bonkers and seem completely contradictory to your goals and desires. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-08-08
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The 2 Most Important Things You Need To Do To Be Successful with Sebastian Marshall

Do you feel like you don?t have enough time and you?re constantly in a state of reacting to external stimulus? How do you conduct a powerful monthly review that will unlock opportunities for growth, focus, and improvement? In this episode, we go deep into stacking powerful mental models, harnessing best practices, and optimizing your life with our guest Sebastian Marshall. Sebastian Marshall is an author, entrepreneur, and founder of Ultraworking.com. His blog SebastianMarshall.com has been read by over half a million people from a wide range of industries and walks of life. At Ultraworking, Sebastian helps those who are already tremendously productive take even greater leaps and get more done in record timeHow do you take things apart and learn what makes them tick?What stops people from applying ideas and techniques that they know, understand, and would help them?How do you learn about any topic that is interesting to you?How do you follow the ancient wisdom of ?know thyself"The problem of losing weight is not a problem of lack of information - it?s a problem of something else stopping you - this can be applied to anythingThis idea of how to think, how to make decisions - if you want to lose weight - people spend 99% of their time trying to get the perfect bit of information and the perfect strategy, if you just took something that was ?Good enough? - you could get 90% of the way there with extremely simple tactics - but I the big barrier to that is that people often don?t know how to THINKWhen you?re trying to create ANY result - you have to begin with studying some of the best practicesWhen you?re trying to learn, beginners want basic rules to follow Very advanced people tend to operate on heuristics instead of rigid rules What are mental models and why are they important? The 3 question weekly review that will revolutionize your time and priorities.Starting with big, aspirational goals can actually be dangerous or problematic If you want to take on any big goal and succeed, you have to start with an analysis of where you are and what?s working. How do you conduct a powerful monthly review that will unlock opportunities for growth, focus, and improvement?Do you feel like you don?t have enough time and you?re constantly in a state of reacting to external stimulus? How do you apply the idea of compounding your own personal development? If there?s a lot of junk in your life, you don?t have space for the good and important things in your life Cut the junk, set a baseline of contemplative routines, and start stacking them up If you stack enough best practices and mental models together, suddenly you start to build rockets. It?s not about being a super disciplined person - it's about creating the conditions that enable you to be successful. A lot of people break down the first time they have a failure, design your protocols and habits to have failure baked into it. Sebastian targets a 70% success rate for his daily habits. The ideal Olympic athlete doesn?t give 110%. Most people only give 40-60% of what they?re capable of, even when they think they are trying hard. Athletes should train at 80% of maximum ability.Why you should establish a ?fire break? to clean your mental slate periodically. Homework: If you don?t have a structured introspection time or contemplative routine. Pick a time and do one. Create a calendar appointment to do this.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-08-01
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Selling Treason: How To Influence Anyone When Your Life Is On The Line with Jason Hanson

In this episode we discuss how to train yourself to think and act like a spy, with lessons from a real world expert. In the game of spycraft, the stakes couldn?t be higher and one mistake may land you dead or in a foreign prison. In that deadly crucible, only the best ideas survive. We crack open the secrets you can use to influence, develop relationships, and create a bridge with anyone you meet with the die hard rules from the world?s top secret agents with our guest Jason R. Hanson. Jason R. Hanson is a former CIA Officer, New York Times bestselling author and serial entrepreneur. He is the founder and CEO of the survival company, Spy Escape & Evasion which was featured in the 5th season of Shark Tank landing a deal with Daymond John. He is the author of Spy Secrets That Can Save Your Life, Survive Like a Spy, and coming soon Agent of Influence: How to Use Spy Skills to Persuade Anyone, Sell Anything, and Build a Successful Business.If you?re a spy, the stakes are high - if you screw up you may end up dead or in a foreign prisonWhen you?re a spy you?re often alone and you have to figure things out for yourself. Resourcefulness is an essential skill for survival as a spy. How spies ?throw people to the wolves? to see how resourceful they truly areHow spies use resourcefulness, creativity and problem solving to always find a way to win?Never give up, never take no for an answer, there?s always a way to figure it out."Empathy and emotional intelligence are two cornerstones of the spies toolkit - you can?t be fake. In the CIA - you HAD TO PUT IN THE WORK because if you made a mistake, you might end up dead. Spies have really truly battle-tested their concepts in a brutally unforgiving proving ground ?Treason is not an easy product to sell? - how do you sell someone on betraying their country?If you want to influence an ?asset? - you have to research the ?hot button? that is important to them - figure out what matters and frame everything in terms of their top prioritiesThe ?SADR? Cycle Spies use to Recruit and develop assetsHow do you quickly identify people who can help you succeed?How to generate a warm introduction or referral from anyoneThe ?Art of Elicitation? - how to question and read people like a spy The ?hourglass conversation technique? Flattery works. Period. But you have to be GENUINE about it. And do it in a sincere way.?Die hard rules? for creating a bridge with someone The Law of Reciprocity is HUGE in the spy game. In today?s world its a huge strategic advantage to spend your time LISTENING instead of TALKING. Recruiting - if you?re not 100% sure the deal is gonna close, don?t go for the sale - do more work on developing the relationship first How do you transfer or terminate a previously important relationship?Spy skills are just ?Enhanced Common Sense? - how do you leverage the basic common sense to improve your effectiveness in communication?Extreme preparation? is the difference between players and people who won?t be that successful. To be a successful spy you must always be VERY teachable  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-07-25
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Bonus Episode: Dr. Aziz Gazipura on Confidence, Social Anxiety and Being ?Not Nice?

Sign Up For Unlimited Confidence Secrets for FREE here - https://aziz34e14e.clickfunnels.com/webinar-registration-2 Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a clinical psychologist and founder of The Center for Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping others break through their shyness and social anxiety. He is the author of the #1 Amazon best-seller Not Nice: Stop People-Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself. Aziz?s work has helped thousands of people through workshops, coaching, media appearances, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-07-23
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Big Tech is Flooding Your Senses & Stealing Your Attention - Fight Back! with Dr. Thomas Hills

In this episode we discuss information overload. How do you deal with a world where there is a constant and overwhelming stream of noise. How do you filter and decide what to pay attention to? How can you determine what?s worth your precious time and attention? What should you do with information that you disagree with? In a world full of more and more information, this interview with Dr. Thomas Hills explores the solution that will help you finally deal with information overload.  Dr. Thomas Hills is a professor of Psychology at the University of Warwick. His research involves using algorithmic approaches to understanding the human condition through language, wellbeing, memory, and decision making. He is a current fellow of the Alan Turing Institute and the Director of the Bridges-Leverhulme Doctoral Training Centre. He also, co-directs Warwick's Global Research Priority in Behavioural Science and his works have been published in numerous academic journals.What is Information Overload?This is a phenomenon that has crept into our lives and yet it?s gone largely unnoticed - we?ve had to outsource the information filtering in some way There?s so much information that we have to outsource the filtering process in some way - either to other people, experts, thought leaders, or algorithms Dr. Hill?s research began from studying how we make tough choices across hugely complex fields, beginning with things like how children learn language The question we have to ask ourselves - what?s the best way to go about dealing with something like information overload? Whether we are looking at religion or even something as simple as the food you eat - you have the same problemPeople only look for information that supports their existing beliefs and that is ?incredibly dangerous.? We only know the language/vocabulary of our past experiences - and that?s what we begin with to filter out our understanding of the world People tend to have very similar reactions to similar situations - learn from the experiences of similar people You must look for people who have done or experienced what you want to understand and learn from them - case studies and base ratesIt?s essential to seek out the beliefs and ideas from those you disagree with There is an infinite amount of information around you - your brain can?t process all of it and is forced to filter out certain experiences and events What is an attentional bottleneck? How does it shape our understanding of reality?What is negativity bias? How does the innate, evolutionary bias baked into our brain cause us to focus on things that are negative It?s really important to ask yourself - WHAT AM I BIASED ABOUT?If you?re not getting outside of your box, your safety zone, you?re getting dumber. By exposing yourself to other people?s criticism you get smarter You have to be willing to be wrong about something to get more right about itAsk yourself - how might I be wrong? Why might I be wrong? Try to harness the wisdom of the crowd in your own head Homework: If you know ahead of time what it is you want out of your relationship with reality and what it takes to get there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-07-18
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How To Overcome FOMO: The Fear of Missing Out with Carl Honore

In this episode we discuss how to beat FOMO - the Fear of Missing Out. How do you overcome the emotional barriers and fears of missing out and saying no to things? How do you get over the awful feeling of turning down opportunities? We share simple actionable strategies for you to say yes to yourself and for you to say yes to what?s really important and actually matters in your life. We share a great strategy you can use to make a huge difference in your life in two minutes or less and we dig into the important concept that in a world drunk on speed, slowness is a superpower - all that much more with our guest Carl Honore. Carl Honore is a bestselling author, broadcaster and the creator of the Slow Movement. His TED talk on the benefits of slowing down has been viewed 2.6 million times. Carl has spoken all over the world to audiences ranging from business leaders and entrepreneurs to teachers, academics and medical practitioners. He is the author of In Praise of Slow, Under Pressure, The Slow Fix, and most recently Bolder. His books have been translated into 35 languages and been on the bestseller?s list of as many countries.The world is speeding up and speeding up - how do we deal with the constantly accelerating pace of change and the rush for speed??Forget frantic acceleration, mastering the clock of business means choosing when to be fast, and when to be slow."Do you suffer from FOMO? Are you like a hamster on a wheel trying to do, learn, experience and achieve as much as possible as quickly as possible? By becoming a hamster on a wheel you end up missing EVERYTHING and getting NOTHING and skimming the surface of life. ?The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.? - Warren Buffet "You can have anything you want but you can?t have everything? - Ray Dalio How do you get over the emotional barriers and fears of missing out and saying no to things?Take one thing off your to-do list each day and put that item on your ?not to do? listBy saying NO, you say YES to something much more important - your really important priorities and goals The most creative minds, the people who?ve gotten the most done throughout history are the people who understand the power of MOMENTS OF QUIET. You will be more engaged, more switched on, more effective when you are in fast mode when you take the time to have moments of quiet. Sometimes you can get things done more quickly when you slow down.Multi-tasking is nonsense, the human mind cannot multitask. A ?fast? multi-tasker will take twice as long and make twice as many mistakes as a slow ?mono tasker"When you move too fast everything becomes a blur and nothing remains with you. It harms your memory. There?s an intimate bond between memory and slowness. There is no such thing as a quick fix. Slow fixes actually work. When a quick fix blows up later on, sometimes we're forced to spend the time and money to get it right the second time. Invest that time and money now on a real solution.What does it mean to be aging in a world that is obsessed with youth?We are in the ?golden age of aging? - there?s never been a better time in human history to be agingHomework: Do less. Look at your todo list and start cutting things out of it. Drop one thing a day and let more oxygen into your schedule. Homework: Create time where you aren?t reachable and can unplug from gadgets. Turn your smartphone into a tool instead of a weapon of mass distraction. Homework: Integrate some kind of slow practice into your day. Meditate, cook, go for a walk. Anything that can inoculate you against the virus of hurry.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-07-11
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Using The Bleeding Edge of Neuroscience to Optimize Your Brain with Dr. Daniel Chao

In this episode we discuss cutting edge brain hacks that sound like they are straight out of science fiction. Is it possible to use technology to rapidly change the structure of your brain? How does your brain actually learn? What is neuroplasticity and why is it so important? What are the key things you can do in your life to improve your brain health, memory and performance? We discuss all of this, along with a truly innovative technology that may be the key to unlocking super performance and massively accelerating your learning with our guest Dr. Daniel Chao. Dr. Daniel Chao is a neurotech entrepreneur, specializing in devices that improve brain performance. He is the co-founder and CEO of Halo Neuroscience. The company?s first product, Halo Sport, is the first neurostimulation system built specifically for athletes. Before Halo, Dr. Chao was the head of business development at NeuroPace, and a consultant at McKinsey & Company.Your brain is a living computer chip that can create new circuits on demandYour brain is ?plastic? The Nobel prize in the year 2000 went to the scientists who discovered neuroplasticity and the mechanisms behind itNeuroplasticity is the process by which the brain learnsWhat actually happens in the brain when you are learning a new skill?What happens to the brain and your neural connections when you learn a new skill?Focused, repetitive, deliberate practice starts to build thicker and thicker and faster and faster neural connections Repetition is the foundation of practice - you?re literally building physical connections in your brain that get stronger and stronger, the more you repeat that practice The first time you learn something it?s like hacking a path through the jungle with a machete, then it?s like hiking through tough brush, then it?s a dirt road, then it becomes a paved road, then ultimately a highway and a superhighway ?Myleanation?- the cabling inside the brain The brain is a plastic organ and it adapts to your needs Repeated practice, learning, and thoughts literally change the physical structure of your brain The brain is literally built on the principle of ?use it or lose it? - if you aren?t using your brain, those parts atrophy and shrink What are some strategies we can implement to optimize our brain and improve our brain health?Sleep is one of the most important and obvious strategies for optimizing and improving brain health. Your day is ?unequal?- you have better executive function in the first part of the day. Prioritize the most difficult and most important work in the early part of the day because you will be at a cognitive peak. How can we take advantage of emerging brain science to ?hack? the brain or ?hack? learning? What if you put electrodes into your brain to stimulate learning and memory?Starting in our late teens, our ability to learn stats to decline - can we use cutting edge science to reverse that?If you use electrical stimulation on your brain - it opens up about an hour of ?hyper plasticity?- a super learning window Slapping a ?motor cortex neurostimulator? onto your brain - can be for any physical activity, playing violin, shooting a gun, playing video games, performing surgery etc What happens to the additional ?lift? in learning you get from neurostimulation? How ?durable? is that learning?The safety data for neurostimulation is incredibly robust- over 250,000 neurostimulation sessions its incredibly safe, there are over 4000 scientific articles about the safety of neurostimulation Homework: Sleep, exercise is GREAT for brain health. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-07-04
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Dr. Brené Brown: The Can?t Miss Interview On Shame, Self Worth Empathy & Living a Courageous Life

In this episode we welcome legendary researcher Dr Brené Brown to the Science of Success. We discuss vulnerability and learn that vulnerability is not weakness, it?s not oversharing, it?s not soft. We learn that even brave and courageous people are scared all the time. We discuss the incredible power of learning to get back up when you?re down, how you can stop caring about what other people think about you, and much more in this in depth interview. Dr Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation ? Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and her latest book, Dare to Lead, which is the culmination of a seven-year study on courage and leadership. Brené?s TED talk ? The Power of Vulnerability ? is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 35 million views. She is also the first researcher to have a filmed talk on Netflix, ?The Call to Courage? which debuted in April 2019.Life is about the willingness to show up, to put yourself out there, to be all in, when you can?t control the outcome It?s not the critic who counts - it?s easy to spend your life in the cheap seats and hurl judgement at people who are trying and failing Our society doesn?t teach people how to get back up when the fall. Everyone spends their whole life tiptoeing around to ensure they never fall, but the more important skill is to build the skill of GETTING BACK UP. The importance of experiencing adversity. There?s a line between adversity and trauma, we need to experience. It?s not about being perfect at walking, it?s about LEARNING THE SKILL SET OF GETTING BACK UP AGAIN AND AGAINCourage is learnable, teachable, and measurable Courage is essentially the same thing as vulnerability. The Willingness to show up, put yourself out there, and be seen when you can?t control the outcome. Vulnerability, at its core, is about Uncertainty, Risk, and Emotional Exposure?There is no courage without vulnerability? Vulnerability is not as hard, scary, or dangerous as getting to the end of your life and asking ?what if I would have shown up?"One of the most defining lessons of Brene?s seven-year study on leadership is the importance of courageous leadership. Even brave and courageous people are scared all the time. It?s not fear that gets in the way of us being brave or vulnerable, it?s armor. What is your go-to armor? How do you self protect when you feel emotionally at risk or exposed?How do you start to take off the armor? Loving kindness and self-compassion. When you work so hard to keep the peace on the outside, you wage a war internally. It?s not your job to make sure you don?t disappoint anyone.You can replace the armor with something that helps you - CURIOSITYGet curious about how you?re showing up, is it serving you? Are you self protecting in a way that?s keeping you small? Your brain thinks in stories - it builds and creates stories to explain the world around you - even if those stories are wrong.A lot of the time we create stories that don?t reflect reality in any way. Why you should start using ?The story I'm telling myself?? or ?The story I?m making up right now is?"Homework: Take the daring leader survey. Homework: Educate yourself. Watch her TED talk, her Netflix special, read her books. Creating a shared vocabulary is the root of change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-06-27
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The Shocking Secret You Must Know to Create Lasting Behavior Change with John Assaraf

In this episode, we discuss how to hack your brain to finally create the results you want in life. We take a hard look at what really drivers results and the reality that knowledge and skill aren?t what make you successful - the subconscious drives your behavior, that?s it. You don?t need any more tools to achieve your goals, you just need to change your beliefs and your subconscious set points for success, happiness, and achievement. Action is the ultimate arbiter of your success, are you taking enough of it, and how can you take more? We discuss all of this and much more with our guest John Assaraf. John Assaraf is an entrepreneur, brain researcher and the CEO of NeuroGym. He is the author of two New York Times best-selling books and his latest work is titled ?Innercise: The New Science to Unlock Your Brain?s Hidden Power?. Throughout his career, he has worked some of the world's top minds and has shared his expertise with millions of viewers on Larry King Live, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, and dozens of other media venues worldwide.Emotions are triggered in your subconscious, that then trigger neurochemicals, which cause feelings, which you either like the experience of or don?t like How do you deal with the subconscious fear of failure or disappointment? Emotions are just signals for what?s going on in your brain and in your body Instead of focusing on just on the emotion - focus on what?s CAUSING the emotion - use the emotion as a signal When you don?t understand what?s causing you to be afraid and stopping you from taking action - you will be a VICTIM of your emotions Our behaviors are an EFFECT - if you take action, that?s an effect, if you don?t take action, that?s an effect. Ask yourself - why am I taking (or not taking) the action I want to take?What does real science say that can help you really understand what?s going on?Results are nothing more than effects? but the effects of WHAT?What causes RESULTS in your life?Whenever we have an implicit subconscious belief that differs from a conscious explicit belief we have ?neural chaos? and you will ?rationalize why you can?t or shouldn?t do it? Not taking action is a behavior. So is taking action. What?s going on in my subconscious mind that is preventing me from taking action?If your values are in conflict with your beliefs - you won?t get the results you want.Knowledge doesn?t drive behavior. Skill doesn?t drive behavior. The subconscious drives behavior. That?s it. How do you embark on the deliberate conscious evolution of yourself?People often confuse GATHERING information with what it takes to impregnate that information into the subconscious You have to practice and exercise and build ?neuro muscles? over and over again It takes hours and hours of practice, hundreds and hundreds of hours in many cases - to learn behavior or habit into the brain. The new era of personal development and the new science of success is about understanding brain circuitry and reprogramming it People often don?t need more TOOLS - the problem is that your beliefs and financial set points get stuck How John?s mindset principles created $100mm in 6 months at his real estate company Are you interested in achieving your goals or are you COMMITTED to them?Homework: Cognitive priming. Ask yourself - what do you want from every area of your life?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-06-20
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Your Modern Lifestyle Is Nice, But It Might Be Killing You with Mark Manson

In this episode we discuss improving your ?mental nutrition.? Decades ago we realized that our society had started eroding our physical health, with desk jobs and fast food, and we became conscious of the need for fitness and nutrition. Now, we stand at the precipice of an even bigger struggle - we are healthier and happier than ever before and yet anxiety, suicide, and depression are on the rise. How do we improve our mental fitness and take action to challenge our irrationality, our impulsiveness, and our bad habits? Do you want to finally move past inaction, procrastination, and laziness? Do you want to feel happier about the world? Listen to this interview with our returning guest Mark Manson. Mark Manson is the New York Times and international bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and his new already bestselling book Everything Is Fucked. His blog, markmanson.net, attracts more than two million readers per month. He is also the CEO and founder of Infinity Squared Media LLCThe world today is so polarized, mental health issues are on the rise, and yet we are physically safer and healthier than ever before. The better things get, the more anxious humans become about losing them Our world is filled with ?hope narratives? that help us hide from the reality that on a cosmic scale we are truly insignificant How do you deal with life if you achieve all your goals early on?What happens when your hope narrative dies? The only defense against our own cosmic insignificance is creating meaning for ourselves Our values and emotions aren?t tethered to our rational thoughts. The thinking brain vs the feeling brain. All the issues around purpose, discipline, control and importance are EMOTIONAL issues, not intellectual issues. The first step to create value and meaning in your life is to develop an action oriented bias. Humans are largely irrational creatures. Most of our actions are impulsive, selfish, and not well thought through, and our conscious mind spends a huge chunk of it?s time and energy coming up with reasons - rationalizations - to explain and justify what the unconscious mind wants to do. You probably think that all your actions are rational and justified - but have you ever really thought about and looked into the narratives and stories you use to explain away bad habits and behaviors in your life?Emotional intelligence is the core of understanding the dialogue between your conscious thoughts and your emotional reactions to your thoughts You must learn to barter with your feeling brain, keep lowering the stakes until your feeling brain is willing to get on board with what your thinking brain wants to do Why is our society, and why are people, so fragile today, and how can we toughen up?Technology today is designed and geared to take advantage and exploit our psychological flaws -what if we had technology that did the opposite, that corrected our cognitive biases? Information diet & mental nutrition - you must take responsibility for your own mental consumption habits, your own mental habits, you must read things that challenge you, consider that your ideas may be wrongHomework: Unfollow or unfriend at least half of the people you follow or friend, including news and media sources Homework: In terms of personal habits think about your goals in terms of thinking brain vs feeling brain - you must find a way to work with your emotions instead of against them. Strike a bargain with your feeling brain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-06-13
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How High Performance is Created At The Most Successful Sports Franchise In The World with Dana Cavalea

In this episode, we discuss the truth about championship performance. Nobody becomes a champion by accident. We uncover the counter-intuitive reality that being a champion isn?t about doing more, it?s about doing less. We expose the reality that most people spend too much time planning and not enough time acting and share the specific habits and routines that you can use to model your behavior after champions with our guest Dana Cavalea. Dana Cavalea is a high-level performance coach, speaker, and author. He coaches Pro Athletes, Entrepreneurs, and Business Executives on lifestyle strategies to improve daily performance and outcomes. He is the former Director of Performance for the New York Yankees, whom he led to a World Series Championship in 2009. In his first book, Habits of a Champion, he shares his own secrets to becoming a champion.Nobody becomes a champion by accident.When you study high-level performers and world champions - what habits and abilities make them different from everybody else?Champions are extremely consistent and extremely persistent It takes a lot of work to become a champion - but there are commonalities What makes people champions - a deep focus on the simple fundamentals and the basics. It?s not about quick fixes, it?s not about ?hacks? and short cuts - it's about really executing the basics and the fundamentals. Step one for champions - MASTERY OF MINDSETSelf-awareness is another cornerstone of championship performanceWhat is the mindset of a champion? What are the common mindsets of champions?How do we learn from and emulate and ultimately create a championship mindset for ourselves?What can Derek Jeter teach us about the psychology and mindset of champions?Baseball is a sport that is ?built around failure? and what that can teach us about the psychology of performance?Reframe negative moments into positive momentsIt?s about training your mind to see things in a certain way Focusing on externals - focusing on others and what they are doing won?t get you to where you want to go Championship performance is not about doing more, it?s about doing LESSNo two people should have the same daily routine - we are all at different places in our journey, we have different strengths, different needs, etc How do you go about crafting your own daily routine?Dana recommends starting with your health as the basis of your daily routine The best place to begin changing your mindset is to start with the physical body - activating the body, hydrating the body, taking care of your body What is your vision for yourself? What are you trying to build? What are you trying to create?How important is consistency to world-class performance?You can?t be consistent at everything. You have to keep it simple. Keep it small. Keep it very focused. If you have too many things, you won?t be consistent. Identify what is interrupting your ability to be consistent. Identify things that are draining your energy away. Environments can impact your feeling - it?s important to create environments that enable you to focus on rest and recovery. Create a transition between work and home Homework: Ask yourself if you?re ready to take action and commit to what it is you say you want. Ask yourself - are you willing to do the work?Homework: Start with the basics - hydration and mindset. Built consistency slowly with small habits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-06-06
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You?re Wrong About What Makes You Happy. Here?s The Truth with Dr. Alex Lickerman & Dr. Ash ElDifrawi

In this episode we discuss how you?re wrong about what you think will make you happy. Research shows that the vast majority of people are terrible at predicting what will actually make them happy and even when you think you know what makes you happy, you?re often wrong. We break apart the core delusions that stop you from being happy, and we dig into a scientific analysis of the state of ?enlightenment? to uncover that it?s not just something for Buddhist monks, but a measurable brain state that can achieved by anyone, anywhere with our guests Dr. Ash ElDifrawi and Dr. Alex Lickerman. Dr. Ash ElDifrawi is a thought leader in clinical, social, and consumer psychology. He's been featured in The Economist, Forbes, Bloomberg, the WSJ and much more. Dr. Alex Lickerman is the author of The Undefeated Mind and physician. He is the former assistant professor of medicine, director of primary care, and assistant vice president for Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago. His work has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, USA Today and much more!What you think you need to be happy is wrong Your current beliefs about how to achieve happiness are ?delusions? Most of the things you think will make you happy are ?delusional beliefs"Does happiness come from getting the things you want?What happens when you lose the things that you?ve anchored your happiness to?It?s like a stick of gum - you get a hit, but then the taste and flavor fade over timeThe science shows that this is a neurological phenomenon - we habituate to any attachment we have. We start to take things for granted. It?s delusional to think that getting something you want is going to make you a happier person. Because of our psychology and our neurology - you can get stuck on a hedonic treadmill and you always come back to your baseline level of happiness. The question for happiness began with empirical study of science, psychology and researchBuddhist philosophers have been observing the mind for 2500 years, in many ways they were some of the earliest psychologists There has been an explosion of research on happiness and yet unhappiness is increasing, too much of the current research is too superficial How can the belief that happiness is about the avoidance of pain lead to more pain, suffering and unhappiness?The Nine ?Core Delusions? that prevent you from being happy Any attachment, by definition it?s ability to provide you joy is temporary. All external attachments are eventually lost. All attachments are temporary. Every attachment contains the seed of future suffering. How do you get ENDURING INDESTRUCTIBLE HAPPINESS? Instead of temporary happiness?Could enlightenment be a reproducible life experience? ?The default mode network? - the self referential part of the brain How do you ?pierce the veil of illusion of the self?"Enlightenment, the scientific brain state of transdencent joy, is something that can be achieved by anyone, anywhere. It?s not just for buddhist monks. How can we reach for the state of awe in our every day lives? How can we move towards enlightenment in our everyday lives? Homework: Become mindful to the degree to which these core delusions determine how happy you are. When something makes you unhappy, ask yourself what has happened that has made you unhappy, what core belief has this event stirred up in you that has made you unhappy?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-05-30
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Are You Worried About Your Kids Failing? You Need To Listen To This Talk with Jessica Lahey

In this episode we discuss the important difference between competence and confidence and look at the dangers of focusing too much on building up your self esteem. We explore the ?gift of failure? and why, sometimes, it?s better to let children fail than to try and make them feel better. We learn why frustration is a vital and important piece of the learning process, why we must consider the inevitability of failure, and we uncover ?one of the most powerful teaching tools? you can use to learn, grow, and improve with our guest Jessica Lahey. Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and author. She is an expert contributor for The Atlantic and the New York Times, and is the author of the New York Times bestseller, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is also a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board.The trajectory of parenting today into ?overparenting? is dangerous and worrisome Propping up kids self confidence and telling them how wonderful they are has done children a serious disservice Kids today are more anxious, less interested in taking risks, less interested in learning, and less interested in being brave. They don?t have any experience trying and screwing things up and learning how to do things better. There has been a big drop-off in interest in learning, motivation for learning, and self awareness - all because of the self esteem movementWhen the vision of them being super talented doesn?t match up with their reality - having struggles and problems, which are inevitable - the disconnect creates serious problems for kids and erodes their trust in their parents. Kids become confused. At an early age - turn it around and ask your kids ?What do YOU think?? Instead of just telling them they are brilliant. Help them build an internal compass for quality. To succeed - kids must be able to take feedback.It never gets easy to withhold praise from your kids and give them real feedback - but it?s vitally important. Emphasize the PROCESS over the END PRODUCT in what you praise 90% of kids feel like we love them more when they bring home high grades. The dangers of ?outcome love? or ?performance love? and why its highly destructive to kids on an emotional levelWhen your kids fail - that?s not the end point, that's the starting point for learning. Are you a parent listening to this who says ?but I really do care about results, I care about grades? not this other BS - what should you do?How can we redesign our schools and learning system to focus on mastery instead of cramming and playing games?Kids feel like they can?t take to their parents when their parents become super fixated on grades. Focus on the long term - how do you want to shape your kids in the future? Not just this one particular grade or issue. Be an ?autonomy supportive parent? and focus on preparing your kids to handle this particular challenge or problem NEXT TIME not just this immediate moment or problemWhy frustration is a vital and important piece of the learning process. Support your kids frustration and let them learn to direct themselves. What is ?desirable difficulty?? And why is it ?one of the most powerful teaching tools? we have?Kids who can?t be frustrated fall apart whenever they face difficulty. The way to overcome learned helplessness is to give your children autonomy and control. The reality is that failure is inevitable - and it's very dangerous to make our kids brittle in the face of a difficult and challenging world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-05-23
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Cracking Complexity: This is how you solve your toughest problems with David Komlos & David Benjamin

In this episode we discuss how you can get smarter in a complex and complicated world. How do you deal with confusing and difficult situations? How do you work through some of your life?s most complex problems? In a world of accelerating change, how do you accelerate the quest for wisdom and creativity? We share simple, powerful, solutions you can use to handle complexity in this interview with our guests David Komlos and David Benjamin.David Komlos and David Benjamin - they are the CEO and CTO respectively of the company Syntegrity. Mr. Komlos is an expert coach for leaders on solving their issues. He advises top leaders and enterprises on how to dramatically accelerate solutions and execution on their defining challenges. Mr. Benjamin leads Syntegrity?s lab and client delivery organization. He has been recognized internationally for his work on global strategic planning with top executives in Fortune 500 companies.What is complexity? Why is it so important to be able to handle complexity in today?s world?How is complex different than complicated? Experts can help solve complicated challenges, but not necessarily complex challenges Complex challenges are multi-dimensional and human.What are some basic mental models for sorting complex challenges vs complicated challenges?Ask yourself:Has this been solved before? And how was it solved? Would this problem have been the same 5 years ago or 5 years from now?Complex challenges don?t have a recipe or a discreet playbook to be solvedPlanning a wedding is complicated, having a happy marriage is complex Building a fence is complicated, being a good neighbor is complex The Law of Requisite Variety / Ashby?s Law "Only variety can destroy variety"You can only solve complex challenges by bringing an equal amount of variety to a challenge When we are facing tough complex challenges - we need a variety of experience and expertise ?A Lion In Your Office"Often a BIG chunk of the challenge is just SEEING the problem in its entirety An ounce of information is worth a pound of data. An ounce of knowledge is worth a pound of information. An ounce of understanding is worth a pound of knowledge. An ounce of wisdom is worth a pound of understanding. Shared understanding is essential - but we often rush to action before we get there We need FAST Wisdom and CREATIVE Judgement to solve our biggest challenges in today?s world - but wisdom takes a lifetime How do you accelerate the quest for wisdom and solve the world?s toughest and most complex challenges?Complexity is the defining challenge we face in todays? worldHow do you engineer Fast Wisdom?The framework you can use to engineer ?fast wisdom? and solve tough, complex challenges N*N-1 Mental Model and how to create ?collaborative collisions? The ideal number of a group of people to work in a group is 5-8 people - you can have very creative and effective collisions How you can create groups to crunch through tough, complex challenges - by using this specific formulaObserversCriticsMembersHow do you ask good questions when looking to solve tough challenges?Homework: Think about a dinner party. What question will guide the conversation in the right way? Who would you invite to create variety?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-05-16
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Here?s Why You?re Stuck? This is How You Fix It with Gary John Bishop

In this episode we discuss how you create your own reality. We explore the idea that your life experiences are not random or arbitrary, but rather a direct result of your subconscious beliefs. When the conscious and the subconscious conflict, the sub-conscious wins and you?ll never get over your past until you realize how you use it to justify yourself. We dig into the powerful revelation that life only ever changes in the paradigm of action. You must do something differently than what you?ve done before in order to change. All of this and much more with our guest Gary John Bishop. Gary John Bishop is a personal development expert and is the author of the bestselling book Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life and the soon to be released Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back. His approach blends a unique in-your-face approach with high-level training and development practices. Hailing from Glasgow, Scotland Gary?s work has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, Vice, Business Insider, and much more!You?re responsible for the creation of your life. You have to accept it, embrace it, be aware of it, and know it. In the living of your life - you will have to live the decisions and conclusions that you?ve made, whether you?re conscious of it or not As a human being, its incumbent upon you to go beyond yourself, expand your awareness, and live life being fully Just because you?re aware of a problematic belief or behavior -doesn?t mean you will stop doing it Why do people attend tons of personal development seminars, read books etc but then never actually change?Your life experiences are not random or arbitrary, they are defined by an invisible set of rules that you believe to be true - but the reality you experience may not be the same reality that other people experience - the same rules that others experience. You currently existing in a ?Default? way of living your life - but there are infinite alternatives to being alive and living your life Freedom for a human being is defined as the actions you take, in relation to your default mode of being You have to actually take action, you have to actually DO something with it. Reading a book is nice, but if you don?t do anything with it, what?s the difference in having read it or not?Life ONLY EVER CHANGES in the PARADIGM OF ACTION. You must DO SOMETHING DIFFERENTLY than what YOU?VE DONE BEFORE. You don?t have to feel differently to do differently, you just have to DO differently.Some of the greatest breakthroughs of science and engineering where discovered by accident.You have to go into the unknown and work your way through it to achieve anythingIf you?ve had success, you try to preserve and maintain certainty, you lose the very strategy that made you successful (plunging into uncertainty) If you?re not as hardcore as Gary John Bishop - how do you start taking action? Start with small actions - and small steps to build momentum and credibility with yourselfIs your life about revealing the future you want or perpetuating the past? Whatever you don?t forgive lives on with you. That includes forgiving yourself and forgiving others. Withholding forgiveness perpetuates what happens, and you end up being left with the resentment. You?ll never get over your past until you realize how you use it to justify yourself.Homework: Look around in your life, look at something you?ve been tolerating, putting off, ignoring or pretending about - pick one item you?ve been tolerating and go handle it TODAY. Take that item, step into action, and go handle it TODAY, regardless of how you feel about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-05-09
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The Scientific Difference Between Female & Male Brains with Dr. LouAnn Brizendine

In this episode we discuss the the male and female brains. Are they different? If so, what are the differences and do they matter? We look at the science behind all of this and unlock key insights into how you can improve your health, happiness, and relationships with by using a few simple strategies with our guest Dr. Louann Brizendine.Dr. Louann Brizendine is the Founder of The Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic and a neuropsychiatrist at UCSF. She is the author of the New York Times best-selling books, "The Female Brain" and "The Male Brain"  and executive producer of the 2017 movie, The Female Brain. She has served as faculty at both Harvard and UCSF and her work has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, The Guardian, and much more!How do we use science of a decision-making framework?Should we stop using science to shape our decisions because it gets things wrong?Why do scientists and experts often hedge their bets when citing evidence and research?Can we believe Science? Is science useful or not?Don?t throw the baby out with the bathwater - science and give us really actionable and useful information starting today The process and the progress of science is constantly questioning and constantly testing your assumptions - this is how you move towards the best answers and objective truthThe male and female brain are more alike than they are different, but they do have differences Starting as early as eight weeks of fetal life, the male?s tiny testicles start to pump out testosterone that shape substantial changes in the male?s brain vs the female?s brainThe biology is straightforward - males and females have different brainsThe major differences in the male and female brain have to do with reproduction Puberty impacts males and females differently, and shapes their brains and behaviors in a number of ways From age 11 to age 15 - a man's testosterone levels spike by 25x How much of our gender roles are a result of culture, parenting, and biology??Relationship play? vs ?rough and tumble play? for young boys and girls Is the debate on nature vs nurture dead?These behavioral patterns and traits are like a standard distribution that mostly overlap, but do have differences Does this research about the human brain reinforce gender stereotypes and biases?What is ?daddy brain? and how does it affect men?Testosterone decreases by 30% for about 6 monthsThis triggers the male brain to be more protective and more nurturing You can hear infants cry from much further awayVideo games impact the male brain by tapping into your search for mastery and flowHow do we shape or change our behavior as a result of our different brains?Other people are different from you - they think differently! Why offering people advice or solutions instead of validating their feelings can often be the wrong strategy If you?re missing the emotional component when to try to influence people, you?re missing a key piece Homework: For men - say ?Honey, I know how you feel? and then pause Homework: For women - Men?s testosterone levels are 10x more than yours, that means your partner is (if you?re the same age) 3x more sexually interested than you are  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-05-02
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Never Satisfied? Always Feel Like You?re Chasing The Next Thing? Here?s Why with Dr. Daniel Z. Lieberman

Have you ever desperately wanted something, and then as soon as you get it, or as soon as you achieve it, you seemingly toss it aside and move on to the next new thing? In this episode we explore the powerful brain science behind why this happens. We look at dopamine, how it shapes your behavior, why it causes you to desire certain things and motivates you to achieve new things, but also why it can be dangerous if it becomes too imbalanced. We share strategies for enhancing and harmonizing with your brains ?dopamine circuitry? and much more in this interview with Dr. Daniel Z. Lieberman. Dr. Daniel Z. Lieberman is a professor at George Washington University. He has published over 50 scientific reports on behavioral science and provided insight on psychiatric issues for the U.S. Government. He is also co-author of the best-selling book Molecule of More, which discusses the effect dopamine has on the human desire and the human brainThe simple concept of ?up versus down? and how it cascades through the way we all live and interact in the world The ?paripersonal? space - everything within arms reach - things that you own, possess, and control. When you look ?down? into the paripersonal space - you experience these things in ?the here and now"When you look ?up? you look into the ?extra personal space? - beyond yourself - things beyond the here and now that require effort, planning, and motivation to get, acquire, or achieveThe idea of dopamine as the ?reward molecule? is WRONGDopamine is not the molecule of reward, but rather the molecule of DESIRE and MOTIVATION People who are dopaminergic might have addictive personalities - excessively eating, gaming, watching porn, etc. A brain on dopamine is like a high performance sports car - it can produce spectacular results, but it breaks down easily What is a dopaminergic brain? A brain with a highly active dopamine system. How does dopamine impact our love circuitry and our experience of love?All dopamine derived pleasures DON'T LAST - as soon as what we desire in the future becomes what we have in the present, dopamine shuts down - and achieving it becomes a let downIf you?re spending most of your time in the dopamine circuitry - you?re ALWAYS focused on WHATS NEXTUnderstanding the brain is the most important thing we can do Highly dopaminergic people like ideas, concepts, and tools - not emotionsEmotional intelligence is the perfect counterbalance to being highly dopaminergicA more advanced strategy to spend more time in the here and now would be mindfulness meditationMeditation is all about clearing your thoughts of future clutter and focusing like a laser on the here and now. Meditation strengthens the circuitry in the brain responsible for processing the here and now. When those circuits are strong it becomes easier to shift into them.Homework: If you are dopaminergic - spend more time focused on the fine arts - fine arts are a great way to see the synthesis between dopamine circuitry and the here and now circuitry.Bonus Homework: Take up a hobby that involves the creation of something. Painting, cooking, playing an instrument, woodworking. These hobbies have fallen out of favor in our modern world. If you want to get the most out of your brain - you have to appreciate its structure, which has been built up for millions of years of evolution. Find ways to do things with your hands. Tinkering, making things. When you?re engaged in a sport or physical activity you?re also harmonizing the here and now (moving your body) + using dopamine to develop strategies to score points and defeat your opponents. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-04-25
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Healing Trauma - How To Start Feeling Safe In Your Own Body with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

In this episode we discuss trauma and how it is stored in the body. What causes trauma and what does it do to your body? We explore whether the rational, thinking mind can deal with trauma and look at some of the ways you can deal with traumatic experiences in your life. What are the best strategies for feeling safe, feeling calm, and feeling in control of your own body? How do you release trauma from your body and feel safe? We discuss all of this and much more with our guest Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk.Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk is a Boston-based psychiatrist and The New York Times best-selling author of The Body Keeps the Score. He was previously the President of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University Medical School, and Medical Director of the Trauma Center. He has taught at universities around the world and his work has been featured in TIME, The New York Times, The Boston Globe, and more!What is Trauma? How do we define and understand trauma in today?s society?It makes you want to forget, it makes you want to push it away, it makes you want to erase it. Trauma is something that is so horrendous that you can?t cope with it, it?s too much to deal with Trauma renders you helpless and makes you feel like there is no way out Helplessness is an absolute precondition for a traumatic experience Our society continuously ignores how trauma is formed and created - pushing it under the rug and hiding from itTrauma is not a story - trauma is not a memory about the past. Trauma changes the brain. Trauma sits within you and within your body. People experiencing trauma keep behaving and reacting as if they were stuck in that experience When we are traumatized - the brain often cannot process it and the body ?stores it? - the body gets stuck in a state of hyper alertness, the mind gets stuck in a state of hyper-alertness The perceptual situation in the brain becomes rewired to be on ?high alert"Your body, your mind, your entire system gets frozen or stuck in ?fight or flight? mode When you?re traumatized, it?s very hard to learn or integrate new experiences - thats what makes treating trauma  so difficult Trauma is not typically rationally processed, it goes into the irrational part of the brain and your body gets locked into a place of constantly reacting as if you?re in a sense of danger One of the most tragic results of trauma is people try to shut the feeling down and end up shutting down their ability to feel - or they turn to drugs, alcohol, and pharmaceuticals Studies show that yoga is more effective than any drug that has been studied for solving trauma There is promising research around psychotropics (psylocbin and MDMA) for trauma reliefNeurofeedback is another promising solution for trauma Self regulation - learning to control your own physiology using ancient Chinese and Indian methods - research is starting to show these solutions help as mind body interventions to solve trauma in the body Exposure treatment misunderstands how to treat real trauma It?s not the memory its that your brain/body - entire system - is locked in a state of being ?high alert? - and that these mind body interventions are some of the best ways to help people feel ?Safe? inside their own bodies Once your body feels safe, you can allow yourself to slowly go to experiences from the past that caused the body to be put into a traumatic state Homework: Take care of your body. Develop a loving relationship to taking care of your body. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-04-18
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No Hard Feelings: Your Complete Guide To Dealing With Emotions At Work with Liz Fosslien & Mollie West Duffy

In this episode we discuss emotions at work. Do they have a place? What can you do about them? We look at why you should be less passionate about your job, we explore the science behind actually being motivated at work and prevent yourself from being burnt out, and we share a powerfully simple emotion management checklist you can start using right now with our guests Molly West Duffy and Liz Fosslien. Liz Fosslien and Molly West Duffy are the co-authors of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work. Liz has run workshops for leaders at organizations such as Google, Facebook, Nike, and Stanford on how to create inclusive cultures. Her writing has appeared in CNN, The Economist, The Financial Times, and NPR. Molly is an Organizational Designer at global innovation firm IDEO. Her writing has been featured in Fast Company, Quartz, Stanford Social Innovation Review, Entrepreneur, Quiet Rev, and other digital outlets, and she?s taught design courses at Stanford.Why you should be LESS passionate about your jobCaring too much about your job can actually be bad for your healthHow do we ?take a chill pill? and distance ourselves from our work?The Power of Rest and Recovery and the diminishing returns of over workingCarve out time to think, carve out time to be alone, make time for friends and family What do people get wrong about motivating and inspiring themselves?Your emotions can create and sustain your motivationsWhat are the things that kill motivation?How to take back control of your work and deal with a tough or micro managing boss The ?progress principle? - small incremental progress of small wins can snowball How do you build motivation at work? (And stop the things that kill your motivation) It?s biologically impossible to stop feeling emotion. You cannot make decisions without emotion. Is it possible that envy can be a productive emotion? Can envy help you make better decisionsCan anger and anxiety be productive tools to helping you achieve your goals?We walk through a great emotional management checklist that you can start to use right away to improve your decision making Discover your decision-making tendency - satisfiers and maximizers - what are the differences and why is that important?Run your thinking by another person - verbalizing them out loud forces you to synthesize information and identify biases in your thinking How do you create psychological safety? One easy strategy is to positively reinforce someone taking one of these risks. Use ?generative language? to keep ideas flowing and open The concept of ?task conflict? - we like each other, but we clash with each other over the CONTENT of our work Write your own ?User Manual? or ?How To Work With Me Guide? to give to your boss, coworkers, etc Your feelings aren?t factsWe often react and interact with each other based on assumptions that we never both to explore or look into at all The words we say are not always what we mean The 3 things to do if you have an issue with someoneLabel your feelingsUnderstand where those feelings are coming fromFeel calm enough to have a conversation about your emotions without getting emotional An in person request is more than thirty times more likely to be a yes than an emailed one What are some best practices for digital communication?Homework: Sit down and write down everything you?re feeling to develop your emotional granularity and self awareness. Take the time to reflect and think about what you?re feeling. Then identify the NEED behind those feelings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-04-11
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Reveal How You Can Banish Stress & Anxiety With Science & Ancient Wisdom with Dr. Mark Epstein

In this episode we share how to ?get over yourself? and stop taking things so seriously, we discuss the important relationship between confusion and clarity, and we explore the art of letting go of the need for safety, security and control in your everyday life so that you can relax into who you?ve always been with our guest Dr. Mark Epstein. Dr. Mark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and the author of a number of books about the interface of Buddhism and psychotherapy, including his most recent books The Trauma of Everyday Life and Advice Not Given: A Guide to Getting Over Yourself. He is currently Clinical Assistant Professor in the Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University and his work has been featured in Psychology Today, The New York TImes, and more!How do we move from addiction/anxiety/depression/worry to love/relief/understanding?What?s the prescription for solving anxiety and worry?The prescriptions from the ancient texts of buddhism are still highly relevant in solving many of today?s problems with the human condition Realizing that the mind is trainable is the beginning of your journey towards relief and understanding The untrained mind is a wild thing - one of the challenges of adulthood is to get a handle on your own mindHow do we start to be honest with ourselves and confront our own mental addictions and negative thoughts?Anything that promotes self reflection is the way to begin confronting your thoughtsYou don?t have to overcome your fears - you just have to be willing to examine them The hardest thing is often just being willing to take the first step You can?t force someone into meditation - someone has to reach a critical point of personal suffering and to make their own decisionHow his father?s battle with brain cancer transformed Dr. Epstein?s relationship with helping othersHow do you handle your own mind when facing death or dying??The craft of meditation? - the practice and technique of what to do and how to meditate - is only one part of the puzzle The ?art of meditation? - beyond just the physical technique - is a rich field of exploration Ancient buddhist texts offer some deep insights into modern psychotherapy - but the language of ancient Buddhism is couched in the understanding of thousands of years ago and needs some interpretationWhy people ?expect too much from meditation? and what that means In the west especially - we want the science to ?do it for us? - but we have to do it ourselves There?s an important relationship between confusion and clarity The clarity that one seeks only comes from sitting and staring at your confusion The fundamental power of meditation and mindfulness comes from really staring and facing the difficult Creating a "therapeutic split in the ego"It?s possible to be both the observer and that which is being observed in your own stream of consciousness The ego - as we think about it in western society is all about self preservation and self control - it?s looking for safety, security, and control We can?t jump right into enlightenment - it's about the JOURNEY and the everyday work, practice, and moments of honest reckoning with ourselves  How to create humility and graciousness in your life Homework: Read a book, or go to an art museum. Go outside, close the door, stand there and listen. Trust yourself.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2019-04-04
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