Criticism is not, per se, something necessarily offensive. In fact, friendly criticism is an absolutely crucial component for any mature conversation—and relationship—to exist and evolve. Unfortunately, some Gaudiya representatives tend to weaponize concepts like aparadha (offense) and even demonize any form of critique as something to be avoided at all costs. Instead, we should learn the art of constructive criticism, through which we offer and receive advice and perspective in the spirit of selfless service. We call this Radical Remark. —Quote from RADICAL PERSONALISM: Revival Manifesto for Proactive Devotion
Listen in as Swami Padmanabha shares his observations of the contemporary Gaudiya community in regard to constructive criticism. When offered in a compassionate and committed way, criticism can be a form of affection which inspires growth and change.
Noting the dangers that can arise if healthy criticism is not welcomed in a community and is actualy seen as something bad, or when criticism is not offered in a healthy way, out of compassion and care, but rather in an exploitative or manipulative way, Swami shares a 4-step process of compassionate criticism:
1) be introspective and discern that what one is seeing in another person isn’t actually a projection of one’s own fault, being willing to acknowledge and address that within oneself
2) be appreciative of the good qualities of the other person, making an exhaustive list of the positive values already present within that person
3) be introspective and make sure that the criticism shared is done so with the intention of helping the other person
4) commit to fully supporting the other person so that they can succeed in the desired transformation.
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RADICAL PERSONALISM: Revival Manifesto for Proactive Devotion.