106. How to Avoid "Outlaw Words" [with Mark Warren]

Every step-couple wants to experience healthy communication.  They want to love each other with their words.  But for most of us, when the tension hits and our words matter most — we seem to do our worst.

For years, we struggled to communicate when difficult issues popped up.  Even the little irritations and disappointments seemed to derail our communication.

We frequently found ourselves stuck in painful cycles of conflict — unable to stay connected and effectively work through our issues.

Finally, we discovered something called "Outlaw Words".

These are key words that can quickly lead to conflict and disconnection — and our most critical conversations we're riddled with them.  In fact, simply eliminating a few of these "Outlaw Words" from our vocabulary transformed the way we worked through our disagreements.  

This simple change helped us end the recurring cycles of conflict and pain that we couldn't seem to get beyond.  We're confident that this can be true for you too!

In this episode, we welcome back communication expert, Mark Warren, to uncover the most damaging words many of us tend to use.  Mark offers alternative words, practical scripts and next steps to improve how we communicate in all our relationships.

 Good communication is a skill everyone can learn — that means this episode is for you! 

You'll Discover:

• Why "Outlaw Word" awareness is so important
• How certain words can trigger difficult emotions and send the wrong message
• Practical steps and scripts that will help you stay connected — even when your upset, disappointed, or in disagreement
• How learning to avoid "Outlaw Words" will improve your approach to parenting and grow genuine understanding

Resources from this Episode:

• Want to contact Mark Warren?  Find him here:  https://markwarrenassociates.com/  
• FREE Cheat Sheet:  How to Avoid Outlaw Words (from Mark Warren)
• Episode 36:  How to Change Your "Stories" and Grow Connection (previous episode with Mark Warren)
• We mentioned the video:  It's Not About the Nail
• We mentioned the video: Brene Brown on Empathy vs Sympathy 

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