162. How do Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification? [with Ron Deal and Lauren Reitsema]

Parentification is one thing — but Step-Parentification is unique to itself.

In this episode, we'll continue our conversation with experts Ron Deal and Lauren Reitsema to discuss the challenges of Step-Parentification.
   

The reality is that kids whose parent has remarried are now navigating a relationship with a step-parent.  Step-relationships can be tough for everyone involved.

And navigating the expectations that come with new or not-yet-established relationships in the home can make any family susceptible to inadvertently slide into unhealthy roles or misplaced boundaries.

No loving parent wants that for their kids — and neither does their caring step-parent.

That's why it's important for all the adults to be aware of how blended family dynamics can often set the stage for Step-Parentification to emerge.

Last week we talked with Ron and Lauren about Parentification, but step-parentification is an additional element we all need to understand so that we can avoid it.

We're picking the conversation up right where we left off to help you identify and define healthy step-parent/step-child roles and establish appropriate boundaries in your home.

You'll Discover:

• What "Step-Parentification" is and what it's not
• The negative impact of Step-Parentification for kids now and into their future
• Practical ways to safeguard your kids and step-kids from the burdens of Step-Parentification
• What to do if Step-Parentification is going on in your kids' other home
• What healthy roles and appropriate boundaries look like for a blended family

Resources from this Episode:

• Article:  Your Child Is Not Your Confidant from The Washington Post
• Book:  In Their Shoes by Lauren Reitsema
• Book:  Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary Chapman 

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