205. 4 Facets of Parenting: What Bio Parents Need to Know to Achieve Best Outcomes (Part 2)

We know firsthand that parenting in a blended family isn’t the same as parenting in a first family. A biological parent's role is crucial in helping kids adjust to change, supporting step-relationships, and keeping things running smoothly.

But here’s the challenge—many bio parents either hold too tightly to their old parenting patterns or step back too quickly and expect their spouse to fill in. Both can create major tension.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the four key facets of parenting and defining the roles and responsibilities of the bio-parent: 

• Meeting practical needs while avoiding unnecessary friction
• Providing support while managing shifting priorities 
• Teaching important life lessons  - and overcoming parental blind spots
• Delivering discipline in a way that strengthens relationships rather than tearing them apart

If you’ve ever felt stuck between your kids and your spouse—or if you’ve struggled with guilt, fear, or parental paralysis—this episode is for you. 

You'll Discover:

• The most common 'easy wrong turns' that bio parents make when trying to “blend” the family
• How to avoid creating unnecessary frustration, and resentment in your home
• Why bio parents need to lead in discipline—and how to set step relationships up for success
• How to provide boundaries and emotional support for your kids without letting guilt or fear take over
• Strategies for building an effective parenting partnership — even when you see things differently

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 204. 4 Facets of Parenting:  Clarifying the Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1) 
• Episode 163. How Intentionality Helped One Couple to Accomplish a Successful Blend [with Sean & Staci] 
• Episode 81. How a Missing Bio-Parent Impacts Kids in the Delicate Blending Process (Part 1 of 2)
• Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?
• Episode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid Them
• Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)
• Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve
• Episode 49. Should your highest priority be your marriage - or your kids?
• Episode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy) 
• Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman

Ready for some extra support? 

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