74. How to Develop Appropriate and Effective Consequences that Empower Responsibility

Ever wondered why your usual 'go-to' consequences for the kids seem to have lost their impact?  Or maybe you've been struggling to get on the same page as a couple to come up with consequences that you're able to follow through with?

We want our kids to learn self-control and take responsibility for their poor choices.  But it feels like we've run out of options to respond with consequences that actually help kids learn.

When Mike and I were stuck there, it took us a while to figure out the secret to discovering appropriate and effective consequences — ones that helped our kids easily connect to their poor behavior and pick up important life lessons.

In this episode, we'll share the 5-step process we've used for years to develop  appropriate consequences that are not only effective, but have also given us a solid plan we can stand behind as a parenting team!

You'll Discover:

• A 5-step process to developing appropriate and effective consequences
• Why the usual 'go-to' consequences lose their effectiveness
• The difference between punishments and consequences
• How creative consequences mirror real-life — which helps kids take responsibility for themselves and make better choices

Resources from this Episode:

• FREE DOWNLOAD:  5-Step Consequence Plan Worksheet
• Episode 71:  How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 19:  How to Help Step-Siblings to Get Along Better
• Episode 4:  Can You Overcome Your Parenting Style Differences?
• Episode 13:  How to Parent as a Team in Your Blended Family
• Episode 17:  6 Simple Steps that will Help You Respond to Disrespect
• Episode 59 & 60:  Why Are You Stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance
• Episode 63:  5 Strategies to Help You Get United - Even When You Disagree
• Love & Logic Anticipatory Consequence Technique
• Create your family's "Code of Conduct" with our workshop:  Stepfamilies That Make It!

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