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We're off this Monday for the holiday but didn't want to leave you empty-eared — so here's an episode of How To! starring our friend Carvell Wallace's son. We'll be back with you Thursday for a new episode.

Ezra is adrift in his early 20s. He craves a life of meaning, community, and love. But he’s struggling to find those things in a world that seems increasingly uncertain and discouraging for young people. On this existential episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Andrew McPeak, author, podcast host, and vice president of Growing Leaders. He tackles Ezra’s big questions and explains how Gen Z (and everyone else) can make life more meaningful.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises

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How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth take flight. Our listener’s kid has suddenly decided – or realized – he’s afraid of airplanes and heights. With a big trip coming up, this parent is looking for advice… and musing on whether bribes have to be involved. Or are they simply little treats?

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Special thanks to Alicia Montgomery, on her last week at Slate, for being an extraordinary cheerleader for this show.

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On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who emailed us wondering how to break up a friendship. Her son is friends with an obnoxious girl who the parent would just rather not see. But, of course, friendships are complicated… and this might not be as easy as just not inviting this girl over.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, the hosts are listening back to their 2024 resolutions and deciding if it truly was the year of “meh.”

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Jamilah’s check-in: the duck was secured.

Elizabeth’s check-in: fawning and freedom 

Zak’s check-in: how long was winter break, actually? 

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A note: this episode was recorded just minutes after the Palisades Fire reportedly ignited in California. Jamilah and her family are safe as of the airing of this episode. 

If you want to help victims of any of the fires in the Los Angeles metro area, please consider donating to the California Fire Foundation, Direct Relief, World Central Kitchen, or CORE. 

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help the favorite parent. This 6-year-old says she might love mom more than dad… and dad is, understandably, upset. We’ll offer some assurances to both parents — and some evergreen advice to love harder. 

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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On this episode: Lucy sits down with actress and author Mandy Gonzalez for a wide-ranging conversation about parenting, building a creative mom group, and enduring cancer treatment with your head held high. Mandy also answers questions from our own budding Broadway stars.

Lucy also shares a quick update about her mom's cancer journey - and Care & Feeding's production schedule in the new year.

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We’re still enjoying the last dregs of the holiday season — but we thought C&F listeners might love to hear Zak’s recent appearance on another advice show you might’ve heard of.

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Zak Rosen, who co-hosts Slate’s Care & Feeding parenting podcast – and doles out his own advice on The Best Advice Show. Together, they answer letters from a listener concerned their step son is turning into an attention seeking drama queen, a cancer patient whose husband is turning resentful after taking on primary caretaking duties, and a couple concerned with making new friends post-retirement. 

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On this episode: we’re sharing our favorite Slate Plus segments with our whole audience, as we do every year. 2024 was a big year for our Slate Plus supporters: we launched the Slate Plus Playground, which is a whole new way to get bonus content and recommendations. If you like the Playground segments you’re about to hear, we hope you’ll consider joining us for them every week.

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On this episode: it’s the day after Christmas and the first day of Hanukkah — so we thought there would be no better time than now to sit down to talk about parenting, faith, and the cultural traditions that we adopt, and craft, for our kids.

Zak is joined by Slate writer and friend of the show Aymann Ismail and interfaith relationship and parenting expert Susan Katz Miller. 

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On this episode: it’s our annual holiday party! We traditionally hand the mics over to our kids at this time of year. This year, we did something a little different: our kids all interviewed each other. It’s sweet, it’s chaotic, and you’re going to love it.

Some naughty elves left a glitch in the show’s audio on Dec 23. It’s been fixed and they learned their lesson.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Lucy, and returning guest host Dillon Michael White answer a question from a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group about being on time. This kindergartener’s class has helper days that you lose if you’re late to school that day… but what do you do when it’s your fault your kid is late? 

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a parent who’s thinking ahead to when her baby is a little bigger… and wondering how to build a close relationship with a kid who has a life of their own. How do you raise someone who wants to come to you for advice?  

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re continuing our conversation about building trust between parents and kids… and talking about what happens when it all breaks down. 

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Jamilah’s check-in: Chi-town and Christmas

Elizabeth’s check-in: the gift is the trip

Zak’s check-in: whales and lights

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose whole household is struggling with a little one’s sleepless nights. We’ll talk about how to help a kid settle, and stay settled… and why it might not be smart to watch the clock.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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On this episode: a member of the Slate Parenting community is wondering about how to handle tattletales. On the one hand: secrets can be bad. But on the other hand… are authority figures always there to help?

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking through the US government’s list of dangerous toys.

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Lucy’s check-in: I don’t care

Elizabeth’s check-in: photobombing field trip photos

Zak’s check-in: mess around on the escalator

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose almost-5-year-old is stuck on the word “stupid…” and won’t stop saying it. One parent thinks this word is unacceptable and requires punishment. The other parent is pretty sure punishment will only make things worse. We’ll weigh who’s right and whether there’s a middle ground.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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On this episode: Every year, like clockwork, we start getting questions about how to do, or not do, the whole Santa thing. We’ll answer a listener's question and muse on the nature of belief.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re honoring peak holiday meal szn with a round of food would-you-rathers. 

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Jamilah’s check-in: Wicked and a cold

Elizabeth’s check-in: terrifying VR jungle trek

Zak’s check-in: Noa’s accent work

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We're off for Thanksgiving but still got together to share some things we're grateful for — and then, Zak is grateful to share an episode of his other show with you... all about being grateful for friendships, even in the rear-view.

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On this episode: we’re weighing how to teach little ones about the dangers of germs… without making it sound too scary. We’ll talk about how to explain why eating off the floor is bad… without unlocking some new fears.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re calling a meeting of the C&F weed caucus to order.

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Jamilah’s check-in: let’s unpack that 

Elizabeth’s check-in: bestie inbound

Zak’s check-in: out and about and car-free

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak share advice for weighing whether you want your kids on Roblox. The company just announced some impending safety enhancements to the mega-popular online multiplayer game… but, as the hosts and our Slate Parenting community will tell you, the platform might still be a wild west.

After that, of course, we’ll circle up to share some Triumphs and Fails. 

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On this episode: Zak sits down with Zach O’Hora and Lisa Whittick – respectively, the creator and director of the new PBS Kids show Carl The Collector. They’ll talk about crafting a kids’ show with neurodiverse characters… and what it means to tell a good story.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re celebrating the life and work of children’s folk singer Ella Jenkins.

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Jamilah’s check-in: tall fun man and an IEP 

Elizabeth’s check-in: self-sufficiency and model UN 

Zak’s check-in: two wheels and a dream

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak talk about the aftermath of the presidential election — from the policy issues that freak us out to handling grief in front of our kids. And we’ll share a ton of amazing thoughts, advice, and reassurance from the Slate Parenting community.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose toddlers are at each other… Constantly. We’re just glad they don’t have cartoon hammers.

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re talking about the long history of making stuff with your kids.

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Lucy’s check-in: planning a Costco trip weeks in advance 

Elizabeth’s check-in: small things made big

Zak’s check-in: the newness wears off.  

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak crack open our mailbag. You’ve been sending a ton of emails about everything from Zionism to the Red Light District to Lucy’s Impala impulses… so today, we’re sharing all that and more. 

And then, of course, we’ll share some triumphs and fails.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak share how they’re talking to the kids about tomorrow’s election. We’ll offer tips for cutting through the noise to talk civics… and also how to address the serious, nasty, and scary. 

Elizabeth’s book recommendations: 

V is for Voting by Kate Farrell

Equality’s Call: the Story of Voting Rights in America by Deborah Diesen

Usborne: Politics for Beginners 

The Politics Book: Big Ideas Simply Explained 

We’ll also check in on where the hosts are this week – and then, if you’re coming to hang out on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re sharing our deep-seated love of (and gripes with) daylight savings.

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Lucy’s check-in: back to the shitty little walk (as heard on Hear Me Out)

Elizabeth’s check-in: blow darts and ninja stars and teens and days in the month

Zak’s check-in: therapy 

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener's question about something that happened last Halloween… when an older gentleman might’ve taken a photo of her young kid. We’ll talk about whether it’s as creepy as it sounds — and also, why Elizabeth is over Halloween. 

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an update on Lucy’s mama. 

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We’re always getting questions about puberty. And even if we’re not dealing with a question explicitly about puberty, it seems like this topic always finds a way to come up anyway… like in last Thursday’s episode, for example.

And puberty is always in the news – just this year, the NIH published research about precocious puberty caused by chemicals in personal care products. And Harvard researchers developed an existing theory that socioeconomic factors might be linked to an early onset of puberty, too. Plus, our friends at Well, Now just published their own episode on puberty that we'd love for you to check out.

So we thought this might be a good time to re-share this great interview from last year — where Jamilah sat down with Cara Patterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, authors of This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. They’ve got some amazing insights to share, and we’d love for you to hear them if you haven’t already.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth tackle a letter from a Care and Feeding reader who is trying to explain code-switching to a six-year-old. This kid doesn’t seem to understand how or why to speak differently to his peers than to adults… but how can you convey that without giving him the wrong message?

We’ll also, of course, circle up for a round of triumphs and fails. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who's wondering how to help her seven and five-year-olds — and especially her son — learn how to listen. They’re both vibrant kids with a lot of ideas… so how do you not dull their sparkle, while also getting those lips a little more zipped?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re discussing a column from The Guardian that says parenting is financially ruinous.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Midwest musings

Elizabeth’s check-in: Grand Theft Bra-to

Zak’s check-in: Noa and Eli

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth help a listener whose son is at the perfect age to learn about the birds and the bees. There’s just one problem: he really doesn’t want to know. We’ll help our listener with some strategies for communicating the important stuff, while still respecting a shy kid’s limits. 

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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We're off for Indigenous Peoples' Day but didn't want to leave you empty-handed — so we're sharing an episode from our friends over at How To!

Ben has two sons in the fourth grade. Like a lot of kids, they love YouTube videos, gaming, movies, and other online entertainment. Before his sons begin using social media, Ben wants to ensure they develop a good relationship with tech—and he’s ready to recruit other families at their school to agree upon some rules of engagement. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Richard Culatta, CEO of the International Society for Technology in Education and ASCD. He’s also the author of Digital for Good: Raising Kids to Thrive in an Online World. He shares his refreshingly practical approach to tech, screen time, and social media.

Resources Mentioned:

Guide to create healthy conditions in schools

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sara McCrae.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth share what’s in their emergency kits and talk about their approaches to disaster preparedness. We’ll also share a dispatch from our Florida correspondent — whose family is, fortunately, safe and well. 

If you want to help Floridians recover from hurricanes Milton and Helene, check out the Florida Disaster Fund.

For more on disaster preparedness: ready.gov

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak are joined by author, speaker, and soccer superstar Abby Wambach. We’ll talk about her new book, The Wolfpack Way, and what it means to raise a little leader.

We also slip in a quick conversation about what it’s like to blend families and become a “bonus mom.” And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — Abby answers the hosts’ kids’ questions, and it is precious.

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On this episode: Zak and Elizabeth are joined by Rachel Riskind, a longtime listener and mom to three Jewish kids. Together, they’ll commemorate Rosh Hashanah by reflecting on how to raise Jewish kids in the complicated world of 2024. Our community had a ton of questions and stories to share on everything from Gaza to fasting to how to explain to teachers that Hanukkah isn't that important.

We’re excited to do more interfaith conversations soon, and we want to know what you think: so, email us at [email protected] to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s struggling with wrangling her new baby… and the baby’s very clingy new grandma. Grandma’s struggled with loneliness and is-over-the-moon about the baby. But is it time to set some boundaries? And how many photos is too many?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re sharing our favorite educational stuff to stick on ye olde tablet.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: feeling like gauze.  

Elizabeth’s check-in: the major highs and major lows of preteendom

Zak’s check-in: Ami carries a backpack (and more)

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener who’s worried that her preschooler has already encountered a lot of bullying and cliques… so what is kindergarten going to be like? And why are these little kids already capable of being so mean?

We’ll also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an update on Zak’s talking-about-the-Holocaust dilemma.

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On this episode: it’s Friendship Week at Slate, and we’re hopping aboard the friendship train to talk about the beauty, and challenges, of making friends in the parenting world… with special guest host Rebecca Onion, a senior editor for Slate.

We also check in on what’s happening in Elizabeth, Zak, and Rebecca’s lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re talking about what happens when a friendship dies.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check in: healthy snacks at school PLEASE

Elizabeth’s check in: phones for good

Rebecca’s check in: friendship necklaces: revenge edition.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy help a listener who left us a voicemail about their little athlete who’s just not great at baseball… and he also gets upset when the game doesn’t go his way. If this kid were an adult, it’d be time to have an honest conversation about knowing your strengths. But how does that conversation work with a kid?

And after that conversation, of course, we’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails. 

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Thanks to the listeners who caught a technical error in today's upload. It's now been fixed.

On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Dr. Jennifer Freed to talk about how astrology can help us parent… even if you’re a skeptic about the whole star sign thing. It’s all about figuring out how to communicate with people who see the world differently than you do, right?

We also check in on what’s happening in Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah’s lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re using Dr. Freed’s parenting deck to learn about the hosts’ birth charts.. And their kids’!

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Zak’s check-in: how early is too early to talk about the Holocaust?

Jamilah’s check-in: middle school woes (whoa.)

Elizabeth’s check-in: grownup Henry/baby Henry

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah are joined by Allison Price of the Care & Feeding text column to talk through one of her most recent columns. This dad lets his wife lean into her Type A tendencies… and as a result, he’s been pushed out of parenting decisions. Who’s to blame here? And why was Allison worried about commenter clapbacks?

And after that, of course, we’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails. 

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On this episode: helping a little guy with some big changes. A member of our Slate Parenting Facebook Group is getting ready to move with a three-year-old (and another kid on the way) — and between the disruption, the feelings, and the impending newness, this parent wants to know how to help smooth things out for her kid. Luckily, Elizabeth and Zak are seasoned experts.

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re weighing whether it’s okay to toss out kids’ art.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Elizabeth’s check-in: say yes! 

Zak’s check-in: shoot your shots!

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On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak debrief on your reactions to last week’s special episode about Gus Walz — and we’ll touch on some elements of this story that our audience thinks we might’ve missed the first time around. 

And, of course, we also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails. 

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The Care & Feeding team is off for Labor Day — but we won't let that stop you from hearing something great from elsewhere in the Slateiverse. So: we're handing the mic over to our friends at Decoder Ring!

Axolotls. Narwhals. Llamas. Sloths. Every few years, it seems like American kids and parents collectively decide they cannot get enough of a creature that makes teddy bears seem impossibly quaint. In today’s episode we’re going to swim after the axolotl, as it takes us to some far-flung and unexpected places, to understand how it came to rule the stuffed animal kingdom. Though the answer absolutely has to do with parents eager to please their children at the gift shop, it’s bigger than that. The insatiable hunger for novelty that is bound up with the axolotl — well, that has to do with all of us.

This episode was written by Willa Paskin. It was produced by Katie Shepherd. It was edited by Evan Chung. We produce Decoder Ring with Max Freedman. Derek John is Executive Producer. Merritt Jacob is Senior Technical Director.

In this episode you’ll hear from Elaine Kollias who works with Folkmanis Puppets, Diana Laura Vasquez Mendoza who is a biologist at the National Autonomous University of Mexico, Dr. Jessica Whited who is a professor at Harvard, Gerhard Runken who is the executive vice president of global brand and marketing for Jazwares, and Laura Wattenberg who is a baby name expert.

Thank you to our translator Ezequiel Andino, as well as Luis Zambrano, Kelley Garnier, and Alejandra Escobar. And if you’d like to help the wild Axolotl, here is the conservation project where Diana works and they accept donations.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy, and guest host Maribel Quezada-Smith circle up to talk about the viral moment surrounding Gus Walz’s appearance at the DNC last week — and what it meant to us, and our community, as parents of neurodivergent kids, and especially of boys. 

We’ll also tackle a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a story about a very special language lesson. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak offer tips for a kid who’s really, really good at losing library books and incurring the dreaded fees. How can parents help keep track of library books… and, more broadly, do communal school supplies mean we don’t have to worry about labeling anymore?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re sharing strategies for the after-school debrief.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: immersive theater!! 

Elizabeth’s check-in: the kids do anniversary dinner

Zak’s check-in: honeymoon phase (covid included)  

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On this episode: Lucy sits down with actress and author Mandy Gonzalez for a wide-ranging conversation about parenting, building a creative mom group, and enduring cancer treatment with your head held high. Mandy also answers questions from our own budding Broadway stars.

Then: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including an update on the Rosen family’s move overseas. 

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We’re excited to share an episode with you that we think you’ll love that comes from Didn’t I Just Feed You - a weekly podcast hosted by two long time food editors, Stacie Billis and Meghan Splawn.

If you like what you hear, make sure to subscribe to Didn’t I Just Feed You wherever you get your podcasts. It's a practical companion to our show, giving you easy meal ideas every other week in their What We’re Cooking and Eating Now series while covering everything from picky eating to how to grocery shop with your kids without losing your mind in regular weekly episodes.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dillon Michael White help a listener whose kid is struggling hard to enjoy the summer break… and complaining about everything in the process. How can this parent nip the negativity in the bud and prevent a bad attitude from ruining everyone’s break?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, if you’re joining us for the Plus Playground — out now in your podcast feed — we’re talking about how to handle sharing kid stuff for a big audience of strangers online… including the uglier stuff that comes with it.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: where are the Black teachers?

Elizabeth’s check-in: the car ride wormhole.  

Dillon’s check-in: the big 0-8.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and special guest host Dillon White of DadChats and ChatsFam help a listener whose kid really, really struggles with losing. The smallest not-wins send this boy into hysterics… even though he knows all that sportsmanship stuff. So what might help — and what might this parent be missing?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including an update on Naima’s first day of middle school.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about a kid who seems dedicated to making family hikes suck. He’s energetic and capable during other activities, but long walks are full of whining and fussing. What could this listener do to get him excited about family walks… and are there any options that aren’t making every walk a treasure hunt?

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now. And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re sharing a round of recommendations and a round of anti-recommendations. 

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Jamilah’s check-in: Stiiiiiill hotel living

Elizabeth’s check-in: Internet friends are real friends! 

Zak’s check-in: Just hoping the dog won’t poop on the plane

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On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Zak help a listener who’s wondering why her friend is bodyshaming her own toddler so intensely — not to mention our listener’s kid, too — and what to do about it. These kids are still little enough to avoid lifelong damage to their relationships with food, and their bodies… but where’s the line when it comes to telling this friend to shut it and let the kids eat cake?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — and we'll share an update on the tricky question we tackled earlier this week about not liking your kid.

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a listener who’s struggling to feel love for her daughter. Mismatched neurodivergence might be to blame… but what is a parent to do when they don’t feel connected with their kids? How can they work on translating irritation into love — and grappling with the guilt of not feeling like a good parent? 

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now... And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re venting (really, complaining) about the slog that is back-to-school shopping.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: Not a Sephora kid, just need some stuff

Elizabeth’s check-in: Safaris are just watching everything eat 24/7

Zak’s check-in: “You’re gonna have a bike accident”

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On this episode: Lucy, Elizabeth and Zak help a listener who’s grappling with whether it’s worth trying to keep up a friendship with a family that is just not reliable. It’s only started recently, but they show up to events and hangouts hours late… if at all… with very scant communication. The flakiness disappoints our listener’s kid, but is this worth cutting out friends?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a quick update about the Newcamp family’s trip to Africa.

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Chris Duffy answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group about what to do when dinner rolls around. This member of the group would be perfectly happy with toast or popcorn, but also wants to make sure their toddler grows up with a healthy relationship to food. We’ll share some low-effort, high-tastiness ideas for the weeknight dinner rush.

We’ll also try out a new segment called Just Checking In — where we’ll share what’s on our mind this week. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re circling up on the Playground and talking to Chris about his new ebook, all about making and keeping platonic relationships.

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Lucy’s check-in: a euphemism for Espresso

Chris’ check-in: how do you have a platform but also respect your kids’ privacy?

Zak’s check-in: moving across the world (soon)

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On this episode: Lucy and Zak are joined by special guest host Chris Duffy to talk about the power of a painting. Our listener has a piece of art hanging on her wall that features some nudity — and it recently startled a crew of kids over for a playdate. Should the painting be moved, or taken down? Or is our listener just becoming the fabled Cool Art House?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails, and share an update about the parent who sparked the great shorts under skirts debate.

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On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah, and Dan Kois help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook community who’s wondering how to help her teenage son through the rite of passage that is shaving. We’ll also help out a listener whose six-year-old is an overzealous shaver, and talk through whether it’s a real problem.

We also dole out a round of recommendations. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re relaunching our Plus offerings and welcoming you to the Plus Playground. This week, we’re offering an additional round of recommendations, and we’re debriefing on two recent, controversial, columns that Dan wrote for the Care & Feeding web column. 

If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how.

Dan recommends: Before Sunrise, especially for teens

Jamilah recommends: Watch a bad movie together (on purpose)  

Lucy recommends: My Spy: The Eternal City

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On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah, and special guest host Dan Kois help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s unable to sleep unless everyone in the household is tucked in and all the doors are locked. That’s making it challenging to live with a 16-year-old night owl… so is the answer to just suffer through the evenings where not everyone is back in the nest? 

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails – and chat about what Dan’s been up to since we last heard from him.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Jamilah help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook Group who’s torn about her kid’s new bestie. This girl is mostly unsupervised and tends toward naughtiness — ding-dong ditching, messy play, and watching adult YouTube — and that tendency is trickling down to our group member’s son. How can this parent make sure her home is a safe space, but still keep order? 

We also dole out a round of recommendations. Then, for Slate Plus listeners – we’re weighing when it’s okay to leave your kid home alone.

Zak recommends: See what happens if your kid’s in charge of packing lunch

Jamilah recommends: Jersey Mike’s

Lucy recommends: Pick Your Poison 

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Jamilah help a listener who wrote in wondering how to soften her landing after taking a break from the kids. She’s grateful for them, and for time away… but why doesn’t she feel refreshed?

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails, and share some of your responses to our recent episode about shorts under skirts and dresses.

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We’re taking it easy after the holiday last week but didn’t want to leave you empty-eared… so we’re very excited to share an extended cut of Jamila’s recent interview with Ruby Russell, author of Doing It All: The Social Power of Single Motherhood. 

We’ll be back with a regular episode Thursday — see you then! 

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Hi listeners! We're off from the holiday but wanted to share an episode of another Slate show that we think you'll love:

Leo is a high-achieving high school senior on the cusp of graduation. Growing up in a rigorous school environment he faced endless pressure to follow the expected track of attending an elite university and eventually securing a good job. Yet, Leo feels slightly unfulfilled and is curious what an alternative path might look like. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace is joined by Abby Falik, founder of The Flight School, and organization dedicate to helping students and parents rethink and reshape their education. Abby shares her insights and experience guiding students through gap years so they find their own way.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Parent Less

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How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis. 

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth help a listener whose daycare has requested that her toddler daughter wear shorts underneath skirts and dresses. The listener’s knee-jerk reaction is that it’s unnecessary… but we’ll offer some suggestions about what she could be missing, and why how we dress our kids is important.

We also dole out a round of recommendations, and share some stuff you listeners have been loving — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’ll talk about the way we choose baby names, and how hard it is to escape the popular name hivemind.

Zak recommends: Lake drawing app

Elizabeth recommends: Shakespeare Insult Generator book or online 

Lucy and Amelia recommend: “The Throne of Glass” 

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group whose daughter forgot how to ride a bike… and is now pretty insistent that she doesn’t want to re-learn. We’ll talk through how to incentivize some bravery and get siblings involved in the process.

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a triumph that wasn’t a triumph until we talked through it.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth talk about the bold thesis statement of this piece from Romper Magazine… arguing that actually, traveling with a big group is the best way to relax on vacation. We’ll talk strategy for booking reservations, handing off kid duties, and casting the perfect vacation collective.

We also dole out a round of recommendations for beating the heat — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’re taking a trip down memory lane and sharing some travel-themed triumphs and fails.

Zak recommends: a hat box so the kids can choose their own

Lucy recommends: Twister Splash 

Elizabeth recommends: UV Umbrella & Handheld Mini fan 

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group come up with ways to prevent a summer backslide – and keep school skills fresh over the break. We got some great tips from our audience of parents and educators, too.

We’ll also debrief with a round of parenting Triumphs & Fails — including a tale of middle-school heroism involving a very large cockroach.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth help a member of our Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s struggling to keep her head above water. There’s always another deadline, appointment, and thing to do… and when it all piles up, it’s hard to feel like you can dig yourself out. We’ll have some concrete advice for how to move in the right direction — and more importantly, how to feel better.

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’re talking about keeping teeth and making jewelry, and whether it’s actually as weird as it sounds.

Lucy recommends: Makeup/Skincare shopping with your 12 yr old

Elizabeth recommends: Silicone Nesting Scoops 

Zak recommends: Babes

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On this episode: Lucy sits down with researcher and friend of the show Tova Walsh to talk about her work on dads who experience postpartum depression. Paternal mental health is a topic we don’t talk about nearly enough, so we wanted to give you some advice — and some resources to learn more and get help. 

Tova wants to share the following:

• A conversation she hosted about understanding fathers’ mental health
• Help for dads via Postpartum Support International
• A training on paternal perinatal mental health, geared toward care providers
• And a piece of her research on including fathers in perinatal mental health practice.

Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth will also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including ROLY-POLIES.

Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading). 

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about whether it’s really necessary to lug around strollers and car seats during an international trip. The answer is complicated, but among other tips, we do recommend the following:

• The City Mini stroller
• The gb Pockit+ stroller line
• The Doona car seat/stroller system
• The Mifold compact booster seat
• The CARES harness for plane seats

We also dole out a round of regular recommendations and share some stuff that listeners have been loving – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we’ll imagine our own personal parenting training montages (shoutout to listener Aili and her son Silas).  

Jamilah recommends: A hotel staycation (but voluntary)

Elizabeth recommends: Magic Puzzle Company Puzzles 

Zak recommends: Taki

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth help a listener who, for a few reasons, is at the end of her rope with a friend of her daughter’s. The friend is sweet… she’s just LOUD, to the point that the listener doesn’t want to drive the girls around anymore. Where does she go from here?

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a dip in the creek.

Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading). 

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On this episode: Zak sits down with Jessica Calarco, whose new book – Holding It Together – is out tomorrow. The two walk through the ways in which women, and especially mothers, replace a social safety net in the United States… and, more importantly, why it doesn’t have to be this way.

We also dole out a round of recommendations – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we continue Zak and Jessica’s conversation and ask Jamilah and Elizabeth what they think their unpaid labor is holding together. 

Elizabeth recommends: Brain Inflamed

Zak recommends: Play your favorite music videos for your kids. Like this. 

Jamilah recommends: If (in theaters now!)

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener email about how to keep someone’s memory alive. This listener is pregnant for the first time and thrilled, but also can’t stop thinking about her late brother… and all the uncle stuff he won’t get to do. We’ll offer some tips for navigating grief and helping little ones remember family members they’ll never know.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a brush with ugly racism that got brushed right off.

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We're off for Memorial Day, but we didn't want to leave you empty-handed. So: we're thrilled to share this episode of Well, Now — Slate's new show all about health and wellness.

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On this episode: Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener email about whether an 8 and 5 year old should still be sharing a room. The basement is a communal space, and it’s also home to some creepy crawlies… but is it worth making that work in the name of some separation?

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a postcard from a spat with a sleepy toddler.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy and Elizabeth answer a question from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about a 7-year-old who’s at home being naked at home. It’s not really a problem right now, but with puberty around the corner… will it be?

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we offer suggestions for mess-free (or mess-minimal) car snacks.

Zak recommends: The Daily Dad Newsletter by Ryan Holiday  

Lucy recommends: Planet of the Apes

Elizabeth recommends: Murdle Puzzle Book 

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On this episode: Jamilah sits down with author Ruby Russell to talk about her new book, Doing It All: The Social Power of Single Motherhood. They talk about the ways that single mothers upend the patriarchy — and why that’s a good thing.

Lucy, Elizabeth, and Zak also circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — including an epic saga involving a hospital in the Philippines.

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth answer a question from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about the eternal struggle of the messy preteen bedroom. It seems like no matter what you do, there just keeps being stuff. Everywhere. So, we’ll offer some practical suggestions to help.

 We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we muse on how anyone expects anyone to manage a summer camp schedule.

Elizabeth recommends: 2 Player Games: The Challenge (google play & app store) 

Zak recommends: Play Cafes like Kidcadia

Jamilah recommends: the Slate Parenting Facebook Group

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On this episode: we present two very special segments celebrating the lifelong journey of being a mom. 

First up: Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh is back for mini therapy sessions with Jamilah, Lucy and Elizabeth — who each share a nagging guilt they have about being a mom (and a daughter). 

Then: Zak, our resident dad, sit down with Luisa, mother of our very own Lucy Lopez. The two talk about maternal instincts, growing up in Cuba, and having faith in the competence of your kids… and yourself. 

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Lucy answer a question about a very independent kindergartener. This member of our Slate Parenting Facebook group has a six year old who’s taking solo walks around the neighborhood… and while his parents are cool with it, the neighbors aren’t. How can this mom field questions about why her kid is out by himself – and should he be out, at all? 

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we debrief on Lucy’s first prom mom experience… and reminisce on proms of yore.

Lucy recommends: Having your kids interview older folks

Zak recommends: Kids clothes shopping at Salvation Army

Jamilah recommends: Doing It All: The Social Power of Single Motherhood by Ruby Russell

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On this episode: Zak sits down with Priya Krishna, New York Times bestselling author of Indian-ish, to talk about her new cookbook for kids: Priya’s Kitchen Adventures. We’ll talk about formative international foods, picking up new culinary skills, and – of course – how to get picky eaters onboard.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including a comedy fail, and a Seder community triumph.

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth give a pep talk to a listener who’s not sure she’s doing this right. Her toddler is behind his peers by a few metrics, and this parent knows it’s not a big deal… but the thought still lingers.

We also dole out a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Elizabeth has a dilemma.

Elizabeth recommends: Can I Recycle This by Jennie Romer (Adult Version & Kids Version)

Zak recommends: When Babies Rule the Dinner Table

Jamilah recommends: Baby Reindeer — and not getting airport gift shop souvenirs.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a listener who’s worried about firearms in their in-laws’ home. They have a strained relationship already, and a recent argument led to threatening words that are lingering. If this parent wouldn’t let their kids be in a friend’s house with guns, should family be an exception?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including two triumphs about the beauty of abandoning ship.

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On this episode: Zak sits down with Dr. Nicole Schultz of UC Davis to talk about teens and marijuana. It’s a different world than when we were growing up — so we have Dr. Schultz share her understanding of why and how teens are using cannabis.

Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, our mom-hosts circle up to talk about how they remember being talked to about drugs… and whether DARE worked on, well, anyone.

Elizabeth recommends: iHome Slim USB Wall Charger 

Lucy recommends: Have your kids make a movie

Jamilah recommends: Jane The Virgin 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah answer questions from our Slate Parenting Facebook group about using marijuana as a mom. As 4/20 approaches, we decided there was no better time to tackle big-picture questions about substance use… and practical stuff too, like where to hide your stash with kids in the house.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including two different, unrelated fails involving birds.

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On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Jes Daylover and her metamour, Ash, of the Remodeled Love podcast, to talk all things polyamory and parenting. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about what polyamory is and isn’t — so we think you’ll love hearing about how it works as a parenting co-op.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Jes and Ash stick around for a round of parenting yeas and nays.

Elizabeth recommends: Reusable Water Balloons  

Zak recommends: Kasey Musgraves’ song, The Architect

Lucy recommends: Grow some stuff in your garden!

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak help a longtime listener who’s expecting her first baby. We’ll offer suggestions for how to manage your whole life changing in an instant – plus, enjoying the before-times, and staying afloat in the aftermath.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — with nary a fail in sight this week.

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On this episode: a Swedish member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group is getting ready to visit the U.S. with her baby and is wondering about all things puréed, squished, and jarred. We’re here to help. 

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we convene a meeting of the Parents Of Picky Eaters Support Group.

Elizabeth recommends: The Fish Doorbell & Fish Doorbell News Report

Zak recommends: Busy Ideas for Bored Kids: Activity Cards 

Lucy recommends: The Regime on Max

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak put the “feeding” in Care & Feeding by answering a question about traveling with a picky eater. Going to Kenya is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity… so should a kid with an American kid’s palate be the reason it doesn’t happen?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including the sticky situation of managing a young teen’s flirty texts to her peers.

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s having trouble securing a babysitter for their toddler… and starting to resign themselves to just not going anywhere. We’ll talk about what might be causing the end of the teenage babysitter, and some childcare solutions that might be worth trying instead.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, we’ll share some memories of what it was like to be babysat, all those years ago. 

Elizabeth recommends: Solar Eclipse Glasses; NASA Solar Eclipse Resources 

Zak recommends: Ninja Classes

Jamilah recommends: Quiet On Set on MAX

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Zak help a member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s getting ready to have their 10-year-old walk home from school. Communication without a phone is one thing… but what about tracking and other bells and whistles?

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails — including a hotly-anticipated update about Red Lobster.

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Lucy offer some quick advice to a listener who’s wondering how to help a young student with possible ADHD focus up, particularly about homework.

Then, Elizabeth sits down with Australian author Sally Rippin to discuss her book Wild Things — the story of her neurodivergent son’s struggles in school, and why it’s important to help kids learn when they need it.

 Zak, Jamilah and Lucy also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Sally continue their conversation by sharing some recommendations for young readers.

Jamilah recommends: The 50/50 Solution The Surprisingly Simple Choice that Makes Moms, Dads and Kids Happier After a Split by Emma Johnson

Lucy recommends: WomensHistoryMonth.gov

Zak recommends: School of Rock (2003)

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On this episode: Lucy, Jamilah and Zak ask a teacher! We heard your desire to hear from the professionals about education… and we’re so excited to welcome dad, 9th grade English teacher, and longtime C&F listener Jeff Olsen Biebighauser to the show. We’ll talk through grades, homework, and the art of a parent-teacher conference.

We’ll also debrief with a round of triumphs and fails, of course — including stories about birthday dinners at Red Lobster, low-budget birthday parties, and the advent of the hair tantrum.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Lucy answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group… about whether identity is implicit or explicit in the way we raise kids. This mom is “an invisible minority three times over…” and musing on whether her kid would pick up on those things, even if she didn’t talk about it.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, for Slate Plus, our three mom hosts share the things they miss about the baby and toddler years. 

Jamilah recommends: Boarders on Tubi

Lucy recommends: Brillando Books

Elizabeth recommends: Dixit Board Game 

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On this episode: first, a quick update about our discussions on grades. TL;DR: We hear you, and we’re already working on ways to do better. 

Then: Lucy, Elizabeth and Jamilah help a listener who wrote in looking for advice on a 7-year-old’s big feelings. This girl is showing some signs of negative self-talk, catastrophic thinking, and anxiety. How can her parents help de-escalate… and is it time to revisit therapy? 

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, including stories about magnet schools, sibling love, and standing on the table.

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux answer a question that someone actually posed to Jamilah on Instagram… about whether it’s okay to entertain compliments about your kid’s appearance. A facilitator at school has suggested redirecting to character compliments when this toddler — the only Black kid in her class — is praised for her appearance. But is there place for just calling a cute kid a cute kid?

We’ll also do a round of recommendations. And then, in the Slate Plus realm, we’re talking about a piece in NYTMag… asserting that the teen subculture as we knew it is dead. In its place? The *~ aesthetic ~*

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends: Get a 64 oz water jug

Zak recommends: Art Hub For Kids YouTube Channel

Elizabeth recommends: UV Detection Stickers for Sunscreen (link to uVify) 

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On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah open the Care & Feeding mailbag to talk, once again, about grades. A lot of you have thoughts about our take on grades (namely, that they’re bullsh*t), so we thought it was time to revisit the conversation… but include you, too.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, including stories about Hawaii, the Wiz, and an ongoing puke episode.

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux talk about cutting through the noise. A member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group recently posted asking about earplugs — but there are lots of strategies for tuning out, and dealing with, the noise and energy of kids in your house.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we discuss a program in Philadelphia that pays parents to handle school dropoff and pickup… and what other tasks we wish we were getting paid for.

Recommendations:

Jamilah recommends: The End Of Love, and keeping a book of your kid’s quips

Zak recommends: Father of the Bride

Elizabeth recommends: Rainbow Making Window Clings 

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On this episode: Jamilah sits down with Andie and Sabrina of Pop Culture Moms, ABC’s newest podcast. The three talk through the origins of the show (and Andie and Sabrina’s friendship), and the onscreen moms who shaped our understanding of motherhood. 

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails… including some stories about learning to shower, a shower of [redacted bodily fluid], and choosing clothes for a preteen. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez answer a question from the Slate Parenting Facebook group… wondering what counts as a good grade, and what the consequences should be at home for bad grades. We come in hot with a dismissal of the whole premise. It’s great. 

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’re assembling our own toddler book tolerability index.

Recommendations: 

Elizabeth recommends:  This episode of Radio Lab: Zoozve

Lucy recommends: What The Bread Says by Vanessa Garcia

Zak recommends: A Light in the Attic read by Shel Silverstein

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy dive into the voicemails you left us about last week’s special After Dark episodes. We’re so glad that these got you talking — so we’re closing the loop on Elizabeth and Jeff’s morning routine, and how to deal with mismatched sex drives.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails… including some stories about the Amazon app, desk doodles, and owning your sexuality.

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We’re off today for President’s Day, but we didn’t want to leave you empty-handed. So! We’re sharing a great episode from our friends at Decoder Ring — where they’ll answer great questions about everything from the baby on board sign to why we all played the recorder in school.

If you like what you hear, be sure to follow Decoder Ring wherever you listen for new episodes every two weeks.

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On our second C&F After Dark episode: we know that Valentine’s has come and gone. But we’re not done talking about grownup stuff! 

Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy each sit down with their spouses — Jeff, Shira and Geno — to talk through a problem they’ve had as a co-parenting couple. The hosts chime in on each others’ problems, too. It’s an advice extravaganza… and, dare we say, a love-fest?

Then, we’ll wrap up by testing how in-sync our hosts are with their spouses. It’s time for a round of the Newlywed Game! 

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux talk about the birds and the bees. 

Parents don’t often get to talk about their sex lives out in the open… So this Valentine’s week, we thought we’d open the door to all things romance. 

First up: we answer a listener question about managing different sex drives and all the normal parenting stuff. Then you’ll hear from resident single mom Jamilah about the logistics of swiping and dating with a kid in the house.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll basically have a “hating Valentine’s Day” support circle. 

Recommendations: 

Elizabeth recommends: Super Simple Biology

Jamilah recommends: Grilling your PB&J

Zak recommends: Recording your kids' laughter and dating it.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah advise the parent of a handsy kindergartener. The little girl comes from a cuddly family and just doesn’t have a sense of personal space… and it’s impacting her school experience as a result. How can a parent help teach the value of a bubble?

Zak found two books that might be helpful: Personal Space Camp and Personal Space Invader.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, and then offer some important perspective on how long kids have been killing time with screens.

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux help a member of our Facebook group brainstorm ways to keep a 4th grader occupied… that don’t revolve around screentime. With busy schedules and parents working from home, it’s hard to be hands-on. But we have some ideas.

We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll dispense some highly subjective wisdom about the best times to do… well, everything. 

Recommendations: 

Elizabeth recommends: ordering a specialty meal on airplanes

Zak recommends: the Hairstreaq brush 

Jamilah recommends: Ugly Betty

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a member of our Facebook group who’s worried that her son isn’t making friends… because the kids at school separate into gender cliques, and he’s not into roughhousing “boy stuff.” We’ll discuss how to help this kid feel more comfortable joining games — and whether the teacher needs to be looped in.

We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of triumphs and fails, and then revisit a conversation we had about a toddler with separation anxiety. 

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On this episode Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez help a listener whose toddler has suddenly developed what looks a lot like panic attacks at preschool. Nothing seems wrong at school… but the girl’s dad has been deployed for a while. What’s happening here, and how can you soothe someone so little about such big stuff?

Elizabeth wants to share these resources: 

• Military One Source
• Sesame Street for Military Families 
• Maggie the Military Rat 
• The Invisible String
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We’ll also share a round of recommendations — and then, if you’re in the Slate Plus club, we’ll play a round of parenting Would You Rather. 

Recommendations: 

Zak recommends: Life On Our Planet

Elizabeth recommends: Timeline Twist Cardgame 

Lucy recommends: Orion and the Dark (out Feb 2 in the U.S.!)

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Lucy help a listener who’s pretty sure they smelled marijuana when their young teen and a friend got in the car. The parent is wondering if they should have said something… but if so, what? And when is really too young?

We’ll also go over our week in parenting triumphs and fails — including an update on Henry’s solo trip in Tokyo — and share some listener mail we got about teenage tattoos.

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On this episode Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Lucy Lopez weigh in on a classic question: what school is right for your family? Our letter writers’ kid is gifted and their family has fallen in love with a local private school — but they’re also grappling with some guilt. How important is it to give your kid the best, if it also means putting them in a privilege bubble? 

They also share some products and activities they’re loving right now. Then, if you have Slate Plus, is yelling actually useful? 

Recommendations: 

Zak: De-icing your car in the winter with a warm bag of water. 

Lucy: Quarterly family vision boards!

Elizabeth: Sushi Monster App 

Reading: 

The Truth About Yelling by Emily Edlynn 

How (and why) to stop yelling at your kids by Shannon Shelton Miller

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On this episode: Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp welcome Lucy Lopez to the team as our fourth regular host. 

The three of them tackle a letter from a listener who’s dreading the return to work after a year off with their newborn. We’ll offer some advice for how to soften the emotional blow and smooth out the logistical snarls — and, how to find new moments to cherish.

We’ll also dive into our week in triumphs and fails, as usual — and then, we’ll share a quick piece of listener mail. Which we’re going to start doing every episode… so why don’t you drop us a line? 

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From our friends at Slate's Hear Me Out:… new year, new you?

If you’ve resolved to make 2024 your happiest, healthiest, most organized, most peaceful, etc. year yet? You’re not alone. And if you’re pretty sure the people who have made resolutions are doomed to abandon ship before January is over … you’re not alone, either. Nor are you wrong, exactly.

In the season of giving, getting, and evaluating self-improvement advice, there’s a line between over-optimism and self-limiting skepticism. And our guest wants to help you walk that line.

Zak Rosen, host of The Best Advice Show and co-host of Slate’s Care & Feeding, joins us.

If you have thoughts you want to share, or an idea for a topic we should tackle, you can email the show: [email protected]

Podcast production by Maura Currie.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who’s thrilled that she and her siblings all had kids in 2022 — but, as those babies become toddlers, the temptation to compare the cousins is strong. How can this no-drama mama prevent herself and her siblings from falling into this trap… not to mention grandparents and partners?

We’ll also dive into our week in triumphs and fails, as usual. We’re off this coming Monday for MLK Day, but we’ll see you back in the main feed Thursday.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who is fed up. Her husband works a lot and when he is around he’s only ‘fun dad.’ Upon experiencing burnout, the letter writer asked her husband to pitch in more—to which he suggested ‘hire a nanny.’ Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak have suggestions for rebalancing the relationship. They also share recommendations and then, on Slate Plus, they discuss the parenting resolutions they are not going to keep this year. 

Recommendations: 

Zak: Wonka

Jamilah: Wonka and The Color Purple

Elizabeth: TypeLit.io

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux ring in the new year with a name change. We’re now Care & Feeding! 

For our first advice of 2024, the hosts help a listener who funds their 18-year-old’s life — but the prospect of a tattoo has the listener second-guessing. Should they try to stop their kid from doing something they might regret (with their parents’ money)... or has that train already left the station?

We’ll also dive into our holiday triumphs and fails. For our Slate Plus listeners: the exclusive Slate Plus segment is moving to Monday shows, so hang in there for a few days and then we’ll be back to our weekly schedule.

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From our friends at Slate's How To! podcast: Allison is on the hunt for her next hobby. One that’s satisfying. One that she can stick with. One that will fit into her family’s very busy schedule. Except…maybe she’s thinking about that last part all wrong. On this episode, Courtney Martin brings on Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space. Eve argues that drawing—and defending—boundaries for individual, creative pursuits is necessary for living a fulfilled life. She’ll share how to balance domestic labor in order to carve out creative space and pick something that makes your soul sing. 

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stop “Having It All” (Before You End Up With Nothing)

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How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis. 

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On this episode: Our favorite Plus segments of 2023. Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak step back in time to talk tips for winter break, the photos our kids take of us, respecting those kids’ privacy when we talk about them on air, the social media accounts we’re loving, and the parenting trends we wish would disappear.

Remember: we’re changing names in 2024! We’re so excited to become Care & Feeding and bring you more great advice from around the Slate Parenting universe. If you’re subscribed, you should stay that way, even when we change names; but if you lose track of us in the new year, just search for Care & Feeding wherever you listen.

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On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp discuss their biggest parenting triumphs and fails of the year and reveal their favorite piece of advice they gave or received this year. Also, in grand holiday party tradition, their kids take the mic to answer your listener questions. In Slate Plus, the hosts look to the future and have a few recommendations for starting 2024 off strong. 

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On this episode: the best way to show a solo parent you’re here for them—even if you live far away. Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen also debate what to do if your kid is constantly coming home from school with gifts. Then they discuss How To ‘Un-Spoil’ Your Kid, According To Parenting Experts by Kelsey Borresen. 

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On this episode: a longtime listener writes in hoping for some bedtime guidance. Their kindergartener is a night owl, and a big reader — but now that sleepless nights are impacting his daytime hours, our listener needs help getting him to sleep.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: cooking recommendations for a listener, and their newly-un-allergic-to-wheat daughter.

Elizabeth recommends: The Complete Cookbooks for Young Chefs from America's Test Kitchen, and No Knead Bread 

Jamilah recommends: Kids Cooking

Zak recommends: The best cookie recipe but sub in brown butter. Millionaire’s Shortbread. Homemade noodles. Watch: Junior Bakeoff

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On this episode: a listener noticed that her six-year-old isn’t sharing well when his friends come over. He even told one friend to leave mid playdate. They’re wondering how to help her kid be a better host and, if things become overwhelming, take some time for himself instead of getting upset. 

Recommendations: 

Jamilah recommends eating duck. 

Zak recommends tossing out the tools you don’t reach for, inspired by Conor Barnes’ 100 Tips For A Better Life. 

Elizabeth recommends Group Buy Ins. The one she uses is called Storms In The Sky. 

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On this episode: a listener writes in from the bench. Their kid is in a sports class that’s been overrun by grown-ups and siblings — on the court, doing the drills, and taking up equipment. What’s going on in this class for 3-6 year olds, and is it time to give up?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus: how can we purge the stuffie plague, and what other toys are collecting dust?

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On this episode: Elizabeth sits down with Alana Best, travel blogger and author of Around the World in Black and White: Traveling as a Biracial, Blended Family. Together, they talk about how to make ambitious travel plans work, even with the littlest kids — and, how to navigate the lived reality of family members who experience the world differently because of the color of their skin.

Then, Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah go over their recommendations for the week: 

Elizabeth recommends: Keep Going Small Travel Kit 

Jamilah recommends: Sweet potato honey bun cake 

Zak recommends: Mega Wow on PBS Kids 

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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help a listener who is conflicted over their vacation plans. Her mother-in-law lives across the country and doesn’t have a super strong bond with her young grandson. They’re wondering if they should spend their precious vacation days visiting grandma or if there’s some kind of compromise. 

In Slate Plus, they answer a bonus listener question about unique Christmas and Hanukkah activities that would actually keep older kids engaged. 

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s actually written in to us before — but this time, he needs help with his brawling toddler. How can parents help their littler kids simmer down – and older kids defend themselves – before anyone gets hurt?

We’ll also share some of the letters and voicemails that listeners have sent in recently. And we’re doing a round of recommendations, with a twist: in the spirit of Giving Tuesday, we’re sharing charities that we love to support. 

Zak recommends: Standing Together

Elizabeth recommends: Conservation Fund (or, sign up for a beach/river/creek clean up)

Jamilah recommends: Girls for Gender Equity 

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Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There’s no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin bring in Nonnahs Driskill, professional organizer and founder of Get Organized Already. She has lots of insight into why we value certain items, what it means to have an organizing mindset, and how to archive your child’s life in a way that works for you. 

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a listener who’s in a quandary. Her young son started copying his Black classmates’ vernacular. She doesn’t know if or how she should correct him. 

Recommendations: 

Jamilah: Jiffy Cornbread

Zak: Proper Noun Song (to the tune of September by Earth, Wind and Fire)

Elizabeth: Car Sickness Glasses 

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s struggling with a deep pessimism about the state of this country — and he wants to make sure that his kids have some hope to hold onto. 

We also go over our week in parenting triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’ll share some strategies for explaining the war in Gaza to kids – and hopefully not frightening them in the process.

On that topic, here are some resources that our hosts wanted to share:

• From the New York Times: What I Told My Daughter About The War
• From NPR: How to talk to children about the violence in Israel and Gaza
• From The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: Talking to Children about War

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On this episode: Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, a psychologist and military marriage coach. She also hosts a podcast called Married to Military. Lindsay is here to help Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener question about a couple who cannot agree on parenting styles. The letter writer loves to research and consume parenting content. The husband, on the other hand, refuses to do any education and the information discrepancy has led to disagreements on how to raise their kids. 

Recommendations: 

Lindsay: Marriage coaching with me!  

Elizabeth: Sound Detectives 

Zak: The Very Best of Enya

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who feels like a failure for leaning on YouTube to get their energetic 10-month-old to chill out — so they can handle household stuff for 30 minutes a day. Is this something to feel bad about?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and listen in on a real-time parenting moment for Zak. Then, if you have Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Jamilah tackle some common issues that crop up for us around the holidays.

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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help out a listener who’s not sure why their family’s bedtime routine isn’t working. Their school-aged kid just won’t settle down sometimes, even after storytime and lights out – so what other tools are out there?

We also share a round of recommendations, and a round of your own tips and tricks for flying with kids.

Elizabeth recommends: Google Chrome Library Extension 

Za recommends: Puppy Chow, aka Muddy Buddies, with milk 

Jamilah recommends: No Hard Feelings

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Note: This episode contains discussions of murder and grief. Listener discretion is advised between 6:30 and 12:00 of this episode. You can read more about Sam Woll, a close friend of Zak’s family, here.

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen help a listener who’s worried that her son’s play is skewing a little too much toward good guys, bad guys, and violence. What’s the difference between normal play and a red flag – and how can we make sure boys want to include girls?

Zak found two great resources for this listener that we want to share: an article about violent play from Parents.com, and a book called Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play.

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we discuss an episode of RadioLab that got us thinking about how kids change our perception of time.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen interviews Erin Johnson of the Detroit Urban Forest School about how her work brings kids from different backgrounds together – all in the name of appreciating the great outdoors.

Then, Jamilah Lemieux and Elizabeth Newcamp share some tips for wrangling some of the trickier treats that come with parenting during Halloween. And, as always, we end with a round of recommendations.

Elizabeth recommends: LectroFan Portable Sound Machine 

Jamilah recommends: The Golden Bachelor

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On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and guest host Ophira Eisenberg of “Parenting is a Joke” help a listener whose daughter is sorry. For everything. All the time. For no reason. Why is this happening, and how can this parent help her stop feeling sorry? 

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, Ophira and Elizabeth tackle some of the most controversial topics in MADAF history… from toddler leashes to cloth diapers and co-sleeping. 

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino share all their tips for flying with young kids. They talk about navigating security, in flight entertainment, and energy management throughout the trip. They also tackle a question about making sure your kid’s things come back from the lost and found. (Shout out: The Best Labels for Kids School Gear and Clothing by Lauren Sullivan.) 

Recommendations: 

Duarte: Alphabet Learning Locks

Jamilah: Patti Labelle’s Macaroni and Cheese recipe

Zak: Mario Lopez dancing with his daughter on IG

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino tackle twin-dom. 

Durate, a single dad of twins, helps us help two listeners (both of whom asked questions on our Slate Parenting Facebook page): one whose twins are at different levels of advancement, and one whose twins have a fierce rivalry. 

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’re taking on a bracket-style tournament to determine who are the best pop-culture twins.

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On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux is joined by Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, authors of This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. They explain how puberty has changed over the last few decades, what these shifts mean for today’s kids, and how caregivers can guide these young adults through this transition. If you want to check out more of Cara and Vanessa’s wonderful advice, they also host The Puberty Podcast. 

Recommendations: 

Elizabeth: Clubhouse Games (Nintendo Switch) 

Zak: Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza

Jamilah: You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener whose niece lives overseas… and thinks that racism doesn’t exist anymore. How can the listener help educate, but not in a judgy or alienating way?

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we decide whether Arnold Schwarzenegger’s parenting strategies deserve an “I’d Do That” or a termination. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp is joined by Dr. Sarah Wayland, founder and owner of Guiding Exceptional Parents and co-author of Is This Autism. Together they answer a parent whose child is exhibiting neurodivergent behaviors and, as such, their pediatrician recommended an evaluation. The letter writer is nervous that an evaluation will mean that their child will be seen as a diagnosis, not for the person she is. 

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about what your kid actually means when they tell you ‘no.’ 

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who loves sharing the bed with their partner and kid. However, their current sleeping arrangement is creating quite the barrier for intimacy. How can they maintain a healthy and passionate relationship while also parenting? 

Recommendations: 

Elizabeth: “We Overcame The Wind” from The Drop That Contained the Sea. 

Jamilah: Clue Jr. 

Zak: Splitting up kids on the weekend. 

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who’s struggling with a very outgoing kid who can’t seem to understand stranger danger. How can the listener help their child be more aware, without causing fear — and what should they do when a stranger is a little too friendly in return? 

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about no-gift birthday parties… and whether we’re tempted to ignore other parents’ rules.

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On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by Slate writer, Aymann Ismail, to talk about his piece, Closed Book. He tracked down one of the most challenged books—a health and sexual education book called It’s Perfectly Normal—to see why it’s being banned. It’s “particularly blunt and graphic” yet Aymann was surprised at the feelings of embarrassment and shame surfacing as he read the book. They talk about parent’s squeamish feelings when it comes to sexual education, why age-appropriate education is so important, and what these involuntary reactions have to do with book bans. 

Recommendations: 

Zak: Slow-Cooker Cauliflower, Potato and White Bean Soup

Elizabeth: Make your own ‘choose your own adventure’ game.

Jamilah: Connections

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about toxic achievement culture.

The three of them talk with Jennifer Breheny Wallace, journalist and author of Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – And What We Can Do About It — about how we push our kids, and ourselves, even when we don’t need to.

We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Jennifer, and the hosts will discuss how they, and their kids, fall victim to toxic achievement culture.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about climate change and kids with Anya Kamenetz. Anya is a journalist who covers the intersection of the climate crisis and parenting in her newsletter, The Golden Hour. She is a former NPR education reporter and author of many books including, The Stolen Year. She has lots of wonderful information and advice for any caregiver who will be helping a kid navigate this crisis. 

Recommendations 

Jamilah: DenTek floss picks 

Zak: Cleaning the dishwasher

Anya: YouTube karaoke

Elizabeth: Spyrogliphics 

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about parenting digital citizens. 

Elizabeth sits down with author and speaker Dr. Devorah Heitner about her latest book, Growing Up in Public. The book helps guide parents through navigating social media and phone usage for their kids — and the privacy, freedom, and surveillance issues that come along with phones. 

We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Devorah — and how the hosts handle screentime and internet access in their own households.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp tackle two listener questions. First: How young is too young for an allowance? The question-asker’s 4-year-old really likes asking for things when they go to the store and she’s wondering if an allowance will help him learn the value of money. Second: How to make time for playdates, especially when both parents work and the weekend is pretty packed.

Recommendations: 

Jamilah recommends Curb Your Enthusiasm

Elizabeth recommends this fridge calendar

Zak recommends The Eyes & the Impossible by Dave Eggers

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On this episode: Zak interviews Jake Gyllenhaal, Greta Caruso, and Dan Santat about their new book, The Secret Society of Aunts & Uncles. They dive into what makes that particular relationship so special, why it’s overlooked in children’s literature, and even what goes into crafting a kids book. 

We also go over our week in triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we share some Instagram accounts that are actually making our lives better.

Zak recommends: 

• @owen.han
• @daily dad 
• @inspiredtowrite (author Amy McNee)

Elizabeth recommends: 

• @games.4two (The Board Game Couple)
• @sexpositive_families
• @adailycloud

Jamilah recommends: 

• @singleblackmotherhood
• @goodmoms_badchoices

And of course, you can always follow your hosts on Instagram, too:

• Jamilah: @jamilahlemieux
• Zak: @bestadviceshow
• Elizabeth: @ejdn

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On this episode from our friends at Slate's Decoder Ring podcast: When Slate’s Evan Chung was a kid, he was obsessed with a mysterious advertisement that ran for decades in the scouting magazine Boys’ Life. Under the enticing headline “You Can Float on Air,” the ad assured Evan—and generations of scouts—that a personal hovercraft could be theirs for just a few bucks. 

In this episode, the adult version of Evan journeys halfway across the country to wield power tools, summon his latent scouting skills, and conscript his father into a quest three decades in the making. 

Will Evan float on air? Scout’s honor: You’ll just have to listen. 

This episode was written by Evan Chung, who produced this episode with Decoder Ring’s Willa Paskin and Katie Shepherd. It was edited by Willa Paskin and Joel Meyer. Derek John is Slate’s executive producer of narrative podcasts. Merritt Jacob is our senior technical director.

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On this episode: Award-winning journalist Dashka Slater joins to talk about her new book, Accountable: The True Story of a Racist Social Media Account and the Teenagers Whose Lives It Changed. It’s a story of a teen sharing extremely racist memes and photos of classmates on a private instagram and what happened when the account was discovered. It led to even more hurt, protests, botched mediation, and a community-wide conversation about justice and what it means to be complicit. 

Besides the interview, hosts Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share their parenting ups and downs of the week—including a late night before the first day of kindergarten and big-kid summer camp. Then, on Slate Plus: we share lots of listener letters ranging from two player games to suggestions for handling the great bathroom conundrum of 2023. 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener who isn’t happy with her kid’s friend getting unrestricted phone access. Is there a way to enforce their family rules when they’re playing at the friend’s house? Then, Elizabeth has a back-to-school conundrum of her own and is seeking advice. 

Recommendations:

Jamilah: Simply Light Lemonade with Raspberry. 

Zak: Jazz Baby

Elizabeth: Caep phone strap 

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener who’s realized their community at school is super tight knit… to the point that new families feel left out and lonely. How can this listener and the PTA help bring newbies into the fold?

 We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — including potty training breakthroughs, overrated board games, and a mishap involving a glass wall. Then, on Slate Plus: handling little kids’ big feelings about going back to school.

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a parent who wants to give their youngest some mindfulness tools to help with their nighttime anxiety. They share a ton of resources—so you’re bound to find something that will work for your family! 

This week’s non-meditation recommendations: 

Jamilah: Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson

Elizabeth: Cino Linko

Zak: Goodles

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On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp are reunited! They start the show with a round of ‘Triumphs and Fails,’ which include a back-to-school clothing haul, a budding song writer, and a difficult swim test. Then they advise a listener who is wondering how to tell their kids about the realities of life, especially when there are so many difficult conversations to be had. If you, or anyone you know, are in crisis—contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 or visit 988lifeline.org.

Then, on Slate Plus: Elizabeth shares some of the whimsical playgrounds her family has encountered on their international travels. 

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On this episode: Zak Rosen talks with Phillip Maciak, TV critic with The New Republic, teacher at Washington University in St. Louis, and author of the book, Avidly Reads Screen Time. He explains where the concept of screen time started and how it became this marker of good (or bad) parenting. 

Recommendations: 

Zak: If You Give a Mouse a Cookie + The “Mouse Game”

Jamilah: The Barbie movie

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On this episode: Zak and Jamilah go over their week in triumphs, fails, solo parenting, and solo travel. Then we talk youth sports before hearing an interview between Elizabeth and Kirsten Jones, nationally recognized performance coach, former athlete, and author of Raising Empowered Athletes.

Then, on Slate Plus: what if friendship, not marriage, was the center of our adult social lives?

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On this episode: Zak is joined by Lucy Lopez, host of the Mamacita Rica podcast, and Doyin Richards, an author, founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club, and Care and Feeding contributor. Together, they help a listener who thinks her husband is being too reckless with their toddler. (If you’re looking for an informative, yet entertaining, episode on car seat safety check out: Car Seat Safety, Explained!)

Recommendations: 

Lucy: Song exploration through sampling.  

Doyin: Naps! 

Zak: This Be the Verse by Phillip Larkin