Don't Fight with a Narcissist - God Says Do This Instead

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Have you ever wondered why narcissists never seem to face the consequences for their actions?

It seems like they just skate through life using, abusing, and manipulating people without so much as a slap on the wrist. What if I told you that God actually has a plan for dealing with narcissists—even your narcissist? And it doesn’t involve you getting stuck in the mud with them.

That’s why today, I want to share with you the biblical proof that God has a strategy to handle these problematic people. By the end of our time together, you’ll clearly see how His plan will bring you the peace you desire and the justice they deserve.

Before we dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God's justice, I want you to come with me while I get my laundry done. No, I’m not multitasking on you. I’m actually here to share that God’s justice works a lot like this washing machine.

You see, if you’re like me, your laundry is a mixture of dirty, not-so-dirty, and downright disgusting clothes. We throw them all together in one big bin, turn it on, and then check on it every three minutes...

Of course not. We walk away and let it do its thing. That is my hope today, that you will just let God do His thing. In other words, let God be God.

So, while we’re waiting, we can go back, grab a cup of tea, and chat.

The Scripture That Will Forever Change How You See God's Justice

It’s found in the book of Psalms, chapter 37. Shall we start in verse 1?

Psalm 37:1-2

"Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away."

We could park there for half a day, but let’s keep going.

They will soon fade—proof that the Lord is sovereign and knows what He’s doing. Proof that the Lord will not allow this to go on forever, even when it doesn’t look like it. You may be asking, "Lord, where are you? Do you not see what this person is doing to me? Do you not see how they hurt me?"

It’s easy to fret and be envious—not envious as in wanting what they have—but struggling because they don’t seem to struggle the way you do. You want it to stop. You want a healthy, loving relationship. But my friend, that ship has sailed. So now the focus is justice (and if you’re being honest, vengeance). Maybe you don’t need to see harm come to this person, but you are tired of there seeming to be no consequences in their life.

Every little move they make becomes your focus: every sin against you, every lie they tell, every self-centered, manipulative move. You keep adding it to the bank of bitterness. Before you know it, you’ve taken the enemy’s bait, and he has you right where he wants you.

I know, I’ve been there. You pray for two minutes for this person, then go on for two hours about what they’ve done. The thoughts rail in your mind for hours and days until it’s all you can think about. That’s why you think the solution is to just get away from this person. But I’m telling you there is another solution.

The Solution to Seeing Justice Served and Regaining Your Peace

It doesn’t involve selling your soul and forfeiting your peace to do it. So what are you supposed to do? Is it possible that God just wants us to sit back and do nothing?

Psalm 37:3 

"Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. 

Should You Endure Abuse?

You might be asking, "Kris, are you saying that I should stay and endure abuse?"  “Is that what it means to ‘do good’?

 NO. 

But if it’s uncomfortable, if there seems to be no way out, if there seems to be no change, no justice, no