Don't Take Revenge on a Narcissist - God Says Do This Instead!

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If you’ve been in or just left a relationship with a narcissist, you know how distressing and 

destabilizing it can be. 

Constantly questioning yourself, struggling to defend against their vicious, victim-like lies—it’s enough to make anyone furious. 

The temptation to seek justice on your own terms is real. You want to call them out, tell them off, and dismantle every lie they’ve told. Anything to get revenge for the harm they’ve caused.

But HOLD ON. 

What if I told you that there’s a way to achieve far greater justice than you ever could on your own—and that it would actually bring you peace? 

Stay with me. 

In this post, we’re going to talk about why taking revenge isn’t the answer—and what God wants you to do instead. 

Trust me, their downfall is coming, and you’ll have a front-row seat to witness God’s justice.

I recently went through a narcissistic attack from someone who was spiteful, vindictive, and deceitful. 

The lies, manipulation, and malice were worse than ever before. And for the first time, I was the direct target of their abuse.

I’ll admit, my flesh rose up. I wanted to tell them off, expose their lies, and undo the damage they caused. 

But something in my spirit told me to hold on—to ask, What would God want me to do?

As I cried out to God for strength, I heard Him speak clearly to my heart: Put your armor on. Therein lies your strength.

It stopped me in my tracks. 

In that moment, I pictured Jesus standing in front of me, shielding me from the enemy’s attacks. I saw this powerful shield protecting me from every dart the enemy threw, while the Lord held back the forces of darkness. It brought me to tears.

Then I was reminded of Ephesians 6:12: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

The Real Enemy Behind Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissists are often used as agents of the enemy, though they likely don’t even realize it. They’re sent to trigger and trip us up, causing us to react in the flesh. 

Now, I’m not excusing their behavior—they are still responsible for their actions. But their willingness to hurt others makes them a tool for evil.

So, what do we do? 

Should we just give up, roll over, and let them walk all over us? 

Absolutely not. 

We prepare for battle. This is spiritual warfare.

Spiritual warfare is the fight to believe God’s truth over the enemy’s lies. 

When dealing with a narcissist, you’re battling deception. 

The enemy attacks through lies, and one of his favorite portals is toxic people—those who come in like sheep but are really wolves. 

They deceive you about who they are, implanting lies that become strongholds in your mind.

The Armor of God: Your Protection Against Narcissistic Manipulation

The Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so we can stand firm against the enemy’s schemes (Ephesians 6:10-13). Each piece of armor was designed to protect us in battles like this.

• The Belt of Truth – This exposes the lies of the narcissist. It grounds us in God’s truth, helping us see through their manipulations.
• The Body Armor of Righteousness – This protects our hearts. When we live in righteousness, we guard ourselves from reacting out of hurt or manipulation.
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