Forgiveness Is For YOU – Overcome Trauma Through Forgiveness

Friend,

In this special edition, I invite you to a brand new workshop I created called Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits.

I wonder if you resonate with any of these:

• You were, at some point, forced to say you were sorry as a child when you didn’t actually mean it.

1. 1. 1. A caregiver may have punished you for an infraction you were accused of without hearing your side of the story and made you apologize. 

• You saw people in your life say, “It’s OK” but hide their resentment.

1. 1. 1. The offended party might have brushed off the incident but then gossiped about the offender afterwards.

• Adults in your life gave each other the silent treatment and never truly resolved conflicts.

1. 1. 1. You might have sensed that something was off or distance between your caregivers. 

• You held yourself accountable for something that wasn’t actually your fault.

1. 1. We are often taught that children are supposed to be seen and not heard, and it’s easy for us to internalize shame and blame that does not belong to us. 

If you answered yes to one or more of these, the Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits Workshop is for you.

Ready to dive in?

Register HERE

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Wednesday, November 13, 2024

9 am PDT/11 am CST/12 pm EDT

Registration fee: $37

Plan on 90 minutes of interactive learning and sharing. 

Replay available

Hope to see you soon!

Dr. Carron

Friends, 

In this episode, I sit down with Licensed Therapist and Coach Claire Schiemer to discuss the transformative power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. As an advocate for integrating spirituality into healing, Claire shares her journey and expertise in using IFS to help clients navigate trauma and find forgiveness.

Claire explains the fundamentals of IFS, highlighting how it views symptoms as parts of ourselves that need compassion and integration, rather than problems to be fixed. By understanding and addressing these parts, individuals can achieve deeper healing. The conversation also explores the profound connection between IFS and Christian principles, emphasizing the core self as an embodiment of God's image and grace.

Whether you're struggling with past traumas or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for harnessing the power of IFS to foster forgiveness and personal growth. Tune in to discover how you can begin your journey toward wholeness and self-compassion.

Claire Schiemer's Links:

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Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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Thank you, and remember Friend, Forgiveness is for YOU!

Friends, 

In today's episode, Father Ken Geraci of the Fathers of Mercy shares his journey from a secular life to embracing the priesthood, highlighting the transformative power of faith. We discuss the nature of spiritual warfare, explore the dangers of complacency in faith, and the importance of engaging actively in this cosmic battle for our souls.

The conversation also delves into the power of the Divine Mercy Chaplet and the Sacrament of Reconciliation, offering insights on how these spiritual tools can aid in healing and forgiveness. 

Join me and Father Ken as we explore the intersection of faith, forgiveness, and spiritual warfare. Fr. Ken shares practical guidance for those seeking to deepen their relationship with God and equip themselves for spiritual battle. 

Fr. Ken Geraci's Links:

Instagram.com/Fathersofmercy

youtube.com/fathersofmercy

www.fathersofmercy.com

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Thank you, and remember Friend, Forgiveness is for YOU!

Friends,

In this episode, I dive into the world of habits, specifically focusing on "forgiveness habits" and how they shape our lives. Discover how your upbringing and the behavior patterns of your caregivers influenced your ability to forgive or hold onto resentment.

I explore five key points of awareness that contribute to your forgiveness habits: your unique design, values, belief system, family of origin, and perception of agency. Through reflective exercises, learn how to identify and transform negative patterns into positive, healthy forgiveness habits.

Relevant Links:

https://www.etymonline.com/word/habit

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/habit

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Friends,

The hardest thing one can encounter in life is forgiving one's own transgressions. In this episode, I review research studies on self-forgiveness, self-exoneration, and the cycle of self-condemnation as presented in the Handbook of Forgiveness.  Additionally, I contribute tips for mindset work to eliminate rumination in the cycle of condemnation and offer an easy-to-understand process for overcoming self-condemnation presented in the research literature. 

Whether you're struggling to forgive yourself or others, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to aid in your journey toward forgiveness.

To learn more about the Handbook of Forgiveness, go to:

https://www.perlego.com/book/1547385/handbook-of-forgiveness-pdf

Reference:

Everett et. al. (2019). Handbook of Forgiveness (2nd ed.). Taylor and Francis. Retrieved from https://www.perlego.com/book/1547385/handbook-of-forgiveness-pdf (Original work published 2019)

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Friends,

In this episode, I  delve into the psychological concept of attachment and how our early childhood experiences with caregivers influence our approach to conflict and forgiveness.

I discuss the foundational work of psychologists like John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who identified various attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—and their implications for our adult relationships. Learn how these styles can affect your capacity to forgive and navigate conflicts effectively.

Discover why securely attached individuals might find forgiveness more accessible, while those with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments face unique challenges in letting go of past grievances. Understanding your attachment style can be a valuable tool in healing relationships and moving toward self-possession and love.

Relevant Links:

https://cmapspublic2.ihmc.us/rid=1LQX400NM-RBVKH9-1KL6/the%20origins%20of%20attachment%20theory%20john%20bowlby%20and_mary_ainsworth.pdf

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/14616734.2024.2342665?needAccess=true

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4321742/

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Friends, 

In this episode, I explore the concept of forgiveness as an area of stewardship. Drawing inspiration from biblical parables and stories, I delve into how forgiveness can be seen as a valuable gift from God that we are called to steward wisely.

I reflect on the parable of the talents and the story of Joseph to illustrate the importance of using the gift of forgiveness to heal and grow spiritually. I also share practical insights on how to become better stewards of forgiveness in our daily lives, emphasizing that the more we forgive, the more grace we receive to heal our wounds.

Relevant Links:

https://www.etymonline.com/word/forgive

https://www.usccb.org/committees/evangelization-catechesis/stewardship

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Friends,

In this episode, my guest Lisa Leopold, a faith-based counselor and survivor of spiritual betrayal, touches on a topic that some find taboo to discuss. Lisa shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming trauma in a fractured family, spiritual betrayal, and her struggle with forgiveness. 

We discuss the impact of spiritual abuse and the role of forgiveness in healing. This episode offers profound insights and practical advice for anyone struggling with forgiveness after being betrayed by someone who was supposed to help bring them closer to God. Lisa's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of faith and forgiveness.

Lisa's links:

www.bethaniacounseling.com

FB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61560810090294

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089251193478

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Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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*Content Warning* 

Friends, 

In this episode, I am joined by Elsa Escobedo-Lopez, an occupational therapist, mother, and wife of 35 years, who shares her powerful story of overcoming the trauma of abortion through forgiveness. Elsa opens up about her journey of post-abortive forgiveness and how she now helps others heal from the pain of abortion as a healing retreat facilitator.

This is a heartfelt conversation about the complexities of forgiveness, the impact of trauma, and the importance of community support in the healing journey. Whether you have been affected by abortion or are struggling with forgiveness in other areas of your life, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement.

Relevant Links:

Abortion Hurts, God Heals: https://www.abortionhurtsgodheals.com/

Surrendering The Secret: https://surrenderingthesecret.com/

Rachels’s Journey: https://www.rachelsjourney.org/

Rachel’s Vineyard: https://www.rachelsvineyard.org/

Sisters of Life: https://sistersoflife.org/

Connect with Dr. Carron

1. Link to my weekly newsletter. 
2. I'll send you a copy of my book if you purchase my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat.
3. Need someone to help you forgive in a shame-free, nonjudgmental space? Let's chat!
4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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*Mature Content Warning* 

Friends,

In this episode, I take the guest chair for Part 2 with Heather Gaffney from the Warrior Words Podcast to share my journey from Apartheid South Africa to life as an immigrant in the United States. We talk about the importance of forgiveness in the healing of political terror. 

Here's the AI Summary:

Dr. Carron discusses her early life in a segregated South African school, her involvement in the resistance against Apartheid, and her unexpected path to the U.S. She recounts the profound cultural shifts, the challenges she faced, and the moments of divine intervention that guided her journey. Through her experiences as a life coach for immigrants and survivors of severe trauma, she highlights the enduring power of healing and forgiveness.

Listeners will gain insight into the complexities of trauma, the importance of support systems, and the transformative power of forgiveness. Join Dr. Carron as she navigates the past and offers wisdom on how to integrate and heal from life's wounds.

Links for Heather Gaffney: Warrior Words Podcast

https://subscribepage.io/pearlsofwisdom

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/warrior-words-stories-of-hope-lessons-learned/id1725674975

IG: @mywarriorwords and @heathergaffneyauthor (Warrior Words would be my first choice)

Facebook: @heathergaffneyauthor

1. Receive a free PDF when you sign up for my weekly newsletter.
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4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

If the Forgiveness is for YOU podcast resonates with you, please rate, share on social media, write a review, and subscribe.

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Friends,

In the next two episodes, I am in the guest’s chair as I share my story on the Warrior Words podcast with Heather Gaffney. Heather shares stories of people who have experienced trauma and have learned how to thrive despite what happened to them. She looks for the beauty in the broken. In this episode, I talk about growing up under the political system of Apartheid in South Africa. By sharing these episodes, I hope that you can see why it’s so important for me to teach forgiveness as a life skill and accompany those who are stuck in unforgiveness.

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Dr. Carron's story is a testament to resilience and the transformative power of forgiveness. Tune in to understand why forgiveness is crucial and how it can turn pain into purpose. If her story resonates with you, share it with friends and family. Enjoy these inspiring episodes with Heather Gaffney from Warrior Words.

Connect with Dr Carron! 

1. Link to my weekly newsletter. 
2. I'll send you a copy of my book if you purchase my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat.
3. Need someone to help you forgive in a shame-free, nonjudgmental space? Let's chat!
4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

If the Forgiveness is for YOU podcast resonates with you, please rate, share on social media, write a review, and subscribe.

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Thank you, and remember Friend, Forgiveness is for YOU!

Friends,

In this episode, my guest Justin Veazey, an IT consultant and father of seven, and I delve into the complexities of praying for oneself. Justin shares his journey of overcoming the hesitation to pray for himself and how it has deepened his trust in God.

We discuss the challenges of self-love, the misconceptions around it, and the importance of recognizing one's own value. We explore how self-forgiveness plays a crucial role in this process and how it aligns with loving others as oneself.

Join us as we unpack practical steps to start praying for yourself, the significance of the Surrender Novena, and the transformative power of prayer in overcoming personal struggles and fostering a forgiving heart.

Whether you struggle with self-forgiveness or find it hard to pray for your needs, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement to help you on your journey to a more forgiving and fulfilling life.

Surrender Novena

1. Receive a free PDF 5 Forgiveness Myths Busted when you sign up for my weekly newsletter.
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4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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Thank you, and remember Friend, Forgiveness is for YOU!

Friends,

In this episode, I sit down with Deanna Bartolini, an experienced Unbound Prayer Minister, to delve into the transformative power of Unbound Prayer Ministry.

Through heartfelt stories and personal experiences, Deanna shares how this unique prayer practice has brought profound healing to many, including herself. We discuss the importance of forgiveness, the role of the intercessor, and how Unbound Prayer can help release burdens and foster spiritual freedom.

Deanna also provides insights into the five keys of Unbound Prayer and explains how listeners can access this ministry or become prayer ministers themselves.

Join us for an inspiring conversation that underscores the importance of faith, healing, and the transformative power of prayer. Don't miss out on this opportunity to learn how to let go of past hurts and embrace the freedom that Jesus offers.

Deanna Bartalini's Links:

Website:  https://livenotlukewarm.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannabartalini/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LiveNotLukewarm

4 Ways to Pray with Scripture when you sign up for  my newsletter: https://subscribepage.io/bqmnCS?fbcli

Connect with Dr. Carron

1. Need someone to help you forgive in a shame-free, nonjudgmental space? Let's chat!
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3. Receive the 5 Forgiveness Myths Busted PDF when you sign up for my weekly newsletter.
4. Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat. 

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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Friends, 

In this episode, Prayer Warrior, Spiritual Director, and Mindset Coach, Kylie Hein, shares her journey with Ignatian spirituality, revealing how the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola can guide us in healing and forgiveness.

Discover the significance of contemplative and mental prayer, the practice of the daily Examen, and how imaginative prayer can place us in the Gospel scenes to deepen our connection with God. Whether you’re struggling to forgive others or yourself, this episode offers practical insights and spiritual tools to help you on your journey.

Tune in to learn how to cultivate a deeper sense of trust in God's plan for your life and find freedom from the burdens of resentment and anger.

Reference Links:

IG: @kyliemhein

email: [email protected]

Website: www.kyliemhein.com

Free Daily Examen: https://kyliemhein.kartra.com/page/home

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/63-forgive-yourself-with-dr-carron-silva/id1675778101?i=1000660187617

About Ignatian Spirituality: https://rb.gy/wsf8tg

Next Steps:

1. Receive a free PDF when you sign up for my weekly newsletter.
2. Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat. 
3. Need someone to help you forgive in a shame-free, nonjudgmental space? Let's chat!
4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Note: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

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Friends,

During July we explored mourning loss in the forgiveness process. You heard interviews with Mama Jane, who struggled with fertility, Dr. Abby Jorgensen, who supports families experiencing perinatal loss, and Paige McLemore, whose sister was tragically murdered. Forgiveness involves loss, but it also brings hope, accessible through prayer.

In August, we will delve into various forms of prayer and devotion, focusing on inner healing prayer to soften our hearts towards self-forgiveness and forgiving others.

In today's episode, we explore what prayer is, different types of prayer, and their importance in the forgiveness process. We start with the definition of prayer and I share my earliest memories of prayer involving my grandmother, teaching me the Gentle Jesus prayer and the Our Father in Afrikaans.

I discuss two postures of praying—mental or silent prayer (contemplative prayer) and vocal prayer. Additionally, I explore four prayer intentions: blessing and adoration, petition, intercession, and thanksgiving.

Prayer is crucial in the forgiveness process. Without prayer, we're like a compass without a needle. 

Reference Links:

https://www.etymonline.com/word/prayer

https://mgoretti.org/mgstory

Next Steps:

1. Receive a free PDF when you sign up for my weekly newsletter.
2. Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat. 
3. Need someone to help you forgive in a shame-free, nonjudgmental space? Let's chat!
4. Check out this Brochure to learn more about my work.

Disclaimer: Opinions expressed by guests on this podcast are their personal opinions and do not necessarily represent those of the host. The host understands that guests have the right to freedom of expression. 

If the Forgiveness is for YOU podcast resonates with you, please rate, share on social media, write a review, and subscribe.

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Thank you, and remember Friend, Forgiveness is for YOU!

*Content Warning* Infant and Childbirth loss. 

Friends, 

In this week's episode, I delve into the delicate topic of perinatal loss with bereavement doula and sociology professor, Dr. Abby Jorgensen. Discover how Dr. Jorgensen helps families navigate the process of forgiveness, and the complex emotions that accompany such profound loss.

We explore her unique role in supporting parents through the stages of grief, providing both emotional and practical support. Dr. Jorgensen shares her journey into this field, the intersection of her sociological expertise with her doula work, and the importance of validating grief in our society.

Learn about the resources available for grieving families, the role of siblings in the mourning process, and how men can also find space to grieve. Dr. Jorgensen offers insights into the nuances of grief support, emphasizing the need for compassion and understanding in the face of loss.

Whether you are seeking to understand grief better or looking for support, this episode provides valuable perspectives and resources to help navigate the difficult journey of perinatal loss.

Dr. Abby Jorgensen's Links and Offers:

To gain more bereavement support skills: What’s a bereavement doula? - bereavementdoulas.com 

Haven Bereavement Doula Q&A series in October: Bereavement doula q&a

Trainings: Trainings - bereavementdoulas.com 

A Catholic Guide to Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss: Compassionate Answers to Difficult Questions: Jorgensen, Abigail: 9781646802395: Amazon.com: Books 

Abby the Sociologist Doula – Childbirth education, birth doula, and bereavement doula services that are science-based and faith-informed 

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Friend,

This week I welcome Paige McLemore, Middle School Principal and Forgiveness Ministry Founder, who shares her remarkable journey of forgiving her sister Lee's murderer after 20 years of wrestling with hatred. 

Paige opens up about her life before and after the tragedy, the immense grief and anger she faced, and how she eventually found peace and joy through her obedience to Christ. She discusses the transformative power of forgiveness, not just for others, but also for oneself, and how it led to a life filled with love, grace, and purpose.

This episode is a heartfelt conversation that dives deep into the emotional and spiritual challenges of forgiveness, and how Paige's unwavering faith in God guided her to a place of healing and ministry. Tune in to hear Paige's inspiring testimony and learn about the profound impact of forgiveness on her life and others.

Links for Paige McLemore:

Paigemclemore.com 

Book: Remembering Lee: The Noblest Revenge is to Forgive

FB: Paige McLemore

Instagram: Lpaiges

TiKtok: @paigemac70

Paige Mclemore Ministries 

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*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not intended for persons under the age of 18.

Friends, 

In this episode, I am joined by Mama Jane Snyder, a fertility awareness instructor and Catholic Mindset Coach. Together, we explore the emotional and spiritual challenges of infertility, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness and self-compassion.

Jane shares her journey through seven years of infertility and how she now supports couples in similar situations. We discuss the unitive and procreative aspects of marriage, the cultural silence around infertility, and the impact of faith in navigating these challenges. This episode offers valuable insights for both men and women, encouraging a deeper understanding and compassion for those facing infertility.

Join us as we delve into the complexities of infertility, the significance of charting, and the power of trusting in God's plan. This heartfelt conversation is a beacon of hope and support for anyone struggling with infertility or seeking to understand it better.

Mama Jane's website: https://www.wisdomwellnesscoaching.net/home/

Relevant Links:

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/infertility

https://www.factsaboutfertility.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/SymptoThermalPEH.pdf

https://www.vatican.va/content/paul-vi/en/encyclicals/documents/hf_p-vi_enc_25071968_humanae-vitae.html

https://www.factsaboutfertility.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/BillingsPEH_REV3.pdf

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Friends,

In this episode, we delve into the complex emotions surrounding forgiveness, particularly in the aftermath of betrayal and deep personal loss. My exploration is framed by personal reflections on a former colleague's shocking conviction for sexual assault on minors, a person I worked closely with for 14 years. This experience has led me to reflect deeply on grief, identity, and the forgiveness process.

I compare grieving stages to phases of forgiveness, drawing from Bowlby and Parkes’ Four Phases of Grief Model, and use personal anecdotes and insights into how to navigate through these emotional phases.

I remind listeners that forgiveness is a deeply personal and transformative journey requiring acknowledgment of grief and a commitment to healing. I highlight the resilience of the human spirit in overcoming betrayal and finding hope through forgiveness. 

Resource Links:

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/bereavement

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507885/

https://www.colorado.edu/ova/four-phases-grief-grieving-loss-loved-one

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In this podcast episode, I explore the concept of revenge through scientific research and Catholic teachings. I begin by examining the contrast between a heart of stone, hardened by experiences of injustice, and a heart of flesh, capable of forgiveness and love.

Drawing from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and psychological research, I discuss how revenge impacts individuals psychologically and spiritually, often leading to further harm rather than healing.

The episode emphasizes the transformative power of forgiveness, highlighting its role in restoring inner peace and aligning oneself with God's compassion. Ultimately, it encourages listeners to embrace forgiveness as a path to healing and reconciliation, echoing the promise of a renewed heart and freedom through divine grace.

References:

Carlsmith, K.M, Gilbert, D.T., Wilson, T.D, (2008) The Paradoxical Consequences of Revenge

https://dtg.sites.fas.harvard.edu/CARLSMITH,%20WILSON,%20&%20GILBERT%20%282008%29.pdf

The Catechism of the Catholic Church Article 3: Man’s Freedom https://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P5N.HTM

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**Content Warning!** This episode contains mature content. 

Friends,  in today's episode, I delve into the powerful connection between gratitude and forgiveness with my special guest, Amy Latino.

A devoted wife, homeschooling mom, and entrepreneur, Amy shares her compelling story of growing up with a father who struggled with his own traumas, leading to a strained relationship filled with emotional neglect and abuse. Despite these challenges, Amy reveals how a moment of gratitude for the gift of life led her to a profound sense of forgiveness for her father, years after his passing.

We explore the generational wounds, the impact of parental shortcomings, and how Amy's gratitude practice became a transformative tool in her journey toward forgiveness. This episode also touches on the complexities of forgiving within the context of systemic injustices and personal traumas.

Join us as we uncover the healing power of gratitude and the importance of never giving up on the pursuit of forgiveness, no matter how difficult it may be. This conversation is filled with insights and hope for anyone struggling with forgiveness. 

Amy Latino’s Links:

https://www.facebook.com/amy.benoit1

Dish It Out Private FB Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1278175459500138/

IG:  @dishitout_0

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In this episode, Canadian Teresa Eppich, a fifth-grade teacher and author of the book A Legacy of Love, How a Holocaust Survivor Inspired Me to Live with Greater Freedom and Purpose shares the profound impact of her decade-long friendship with Eva Olsson, a Holocaust survivor who has touched countless lives with her message of resilience, love, and forgiveness.

Eva's incredible journey from surviving the Holocaust to becoming a celebrated author and speaker is a testament to her unyielding spirit and dedication to spreading hope. Teresa discusses how Eva's life and teachings have transformed her own perspective, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, love, and choosing to forgive despite unimaginable hardships.

Join me and Teresa as we explore the powerful themes of justice, forgiveness, and the enduring legacy of Eva Olsson. This episode is a moving tribute to Eva's legacy and a reminder of the crucial importance of remembering history to ensure it is never repeated.

Don't miss this inspiring conversation that highlights the radical courage of forgiveness and the transformative power of love.

Links:

A Legacy of Love, How a Holocaust Survivor Inspired Me to Live with Greater Freedom and Purpose:

https://www.amazon.com/Legacy-Love-Holocaust-Survivor-Inspired-ebook/dp/B0CVQYYD5G

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In this episode, I explore the concept of spiritual bypassing, a term coined by Clinical Psychologist John Welwood in the 1980s. I discuss how spiritual practices can sometimes be used to avoid facing unresolved emotional issues and trauma, particularly in the context of religious observance. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical references, I delve into the dangers of disordered religiosity and how it can hinder true forgiveness, spiritual growth, and healing. Join me as I uncover ways to cultivate a genuine relationship with God that embraces suffering and leads to holistic healing.

References:

John Welwood: Spiritual Bypassing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_bypass

Religiosity Etymology https://www.etymonline.com/word/religiosity

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In this episode, I celebrate the milestone of 5,000 downloads and express my deepest gratitude. The episode takes inspiration from a listener's struggle with forgiveness, expanding on a discussion that began in episode 24 with Hannah Dustman. The episode also encourages reflection on the role one may take in conflicts and the tendency to self-blame.

Listener's comment:

I was floored by the description of Phlegmatic tendencies as I checked off every box! I think Hannah kind of hit on another aspect I was acknowledging about myself in that a lot of times I find myself not only trying to acknowledge what part I am responsible for in any type of relationship fracture, but I tend to look for ways to take it all on and remove any responsibility from the other person. It’s probably the conflict avoider in me.

But I can see the truth that it makes the process of “forgiveness” (I use quotes because sometimes I feel like a person doesn’t necessarily need me to forgive as much as I need to “get over” something) take longer. Refusing to allow my emotional reactions to real experiences, even if they haven’t yet entirely worked through reason, have their moment in the light takes a lot of work and maybe it’s the self-imposed work I resent more than any perceived hurt from another person.

I interpret the statement "get over it" as an invitation to explore underlying unhealed wounds, possible power dynamics, and abdicated responsibilities. I prompt listeners to question the power differentials within themselves and in their relationships. Listeners are urged to recognize and value their emotional reactions to circumstances and give them the time and consideration they deserve.

 Drawing wisdom from St. Paul’s teachings in Romans Chapter 7, I end on a hopeful note, reassuring listeners that they have the power to work through forgiveness.

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In this episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with Claudine Noel, Board-certified physician, Life Coach, Catholic convert, and the editor of the transformative book,  Sacred Wounds, Stories of Redemption, Healing, and Growth. We delve into the complex themes of family, faith, forgiveness, and the unique experiences and challenges faced by immigrants. This episode offers valuable insights into forgiveness, faith, and healing, it's a must-listen for anyone on the path of personal growth and healing.

The conversation stresses the indispensable role of forgiveness in the healing journey. We discuss challenges in identifying personal wounds to heal and understanding prevailing patterns and traumas we've inherited. We emphasize the importance of forgiveness in letting go of past painful experiences, thereby initiating true healing and growth.

The episode concludes with an exploration of how forgiveness, intertwined with faith, can trigger personal transformation and growth. It encapsulates our book's essence, 'Sacred Wounds', vividly portraying the stunning metamorphosis that can arise from suffering.

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Sacred Wounds Book website: www.sacredwoundsbook.com

https://www.femininegeniuscoaching.com/

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This insightful episode of the "Forgiveness is for You" podcast ushers you into the intricacies of forgiveness for people with a melancholic temperament through the challenge-filled journey of Tiffany Haller, a resilient mother working through her forgiveness amidst marital separation.

With Dr. Silva's guidance, uncover the unique struggles melancholics face while aiming to forgive, be it their introspective nature, sensitivity, or tendency towards rumination. Further, she enlightens you on their fears and barriers, such as high expectations, vulnerability fear, and lack of closure, which often make forgiving oneself a daunting task.

Discover the helpful strategies that Dr. Silva suggests to tackle these tough challenges, predominantly self-awareness, self-compassion, journaling, and focusing on personal growth. Also, learn ways to release resentment and harness the transformative power of forgiveness for individual healing and growth.

In an emotional heart-to-heart with Tiffany, witness her recount the real-world struggles and victories of a melancholic coming to terms with forgiveness. Her narrative of dealing with self-judgment, decision-making issues, and understanding of her offenders' actions unfolds the realities a melancholic faces while seeking forgiveness through self-awareness.

In this meaningful conversation, delve deeper into the significance of emotional processing and faith integration on the forgiveness journey. Tiffany reveals how her faith plays a crucial part in aiding her emotional processing, sharing the cathartic release that comes from navigating demanding relationships, high personal expectations, and post-divorce ramifications.

Make your way through a profound discussion about the specific strengths within every person's character design and emotional perspectives, unveiling the potential for transformation by acknowledging and expressing emotions spiritually. Realize the crucial role of self-compassion and how difficult emotions can be processed and released with patience, time, and divine grace.

Tune in to this episode to gain essential insights on leveraging faith for personal growth and understand how to nurture a forgiving heart capable of overcoming even the toughest challenges. Let's embark on this inspiring journey together.

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This episode features a heart-to-heart conversation with Hannah Dustman, a single woman who grapples with her phlegmatic disposition and the process of forgiving.

Through Hannah's personal experiences and candid reflections, listeners are offered a glimpse into the unique path to forgiveness undertaken by a phlegmatic individual. Hannah’s story is a testament to the delicate balance between preserving peace and addressing issues calling for forgiveness.

This podcast episode is a thought-provoking exploration for anyone wishing to learn how temperament types impact the path to forgiveness, or for those desiring a greater understanding of their own forgiveness journey. Much focus is given to themes of self-understanding, personal reflection, conflict resolution, and embracing vulnerability. Hear firsthand, the host's battle with rumination and second-guessing, particularly within her own singlehood experiences.

Imbued with wisdom and candor, this episode is certain to appeal to anyone navigating personal relationships, internal conflicts and forgiveness, particularly individuals on a faith journey. Join us as we delve into the intricate relationship between phlegmatic temperament and forgiveness, uncovering their interconnectedness amidst spiritual battles and emotional struggles.

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Happy Mother's Day!

In this bonus episode, I share a story of my family and how Mother's Day has changed over time. I also remind moms that it's OK to make mistakes and that we are all human and forgiven. 

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In this insightful podcast episode, we plunge deep into the psyche of the choleric temperament. We unravel nuances of anger and the therapeutic strength of forgiveness, through the lens of a choleric. The guest, Catherine Johnson, a Catholic Mindset Coach and mother, engages in a candid conversation about her battles with rage, mom guilt, and her path to forgiveness.

The podcast emphasizes understanding the choleric person's tendencies like direct communication, boundary-setting, and the propensity to set aside resentment for personal growth. It shines a light on obstacles commonly faced by cholerics when attempting to forgive, such as a reluctance to vulnerability, impatience, obstinacy, fear of exploitation, and empathy deficit. It further provides constructive approaches for cholerics to steer towards forgiveness, such as emotional recognition, conflict root identification, empathy exercises, assertiveness, and ego subdual.

In a particularly stirring segment, the mother takes us through her struggle of dealing with guilt, shame, and the arduous road to self-forgiveness. Her powerful insights teach us about genuine apologies to the child and the cruciality of self-pardon. The discussion gracefully transitions into how humility plays a crucial role in admitting our transgressions and in seeking forgiveness, from ourselves and those we hurt.

Whether you identify with the choleric temperament or are intrigued by this personality type's perspective on anger and forgiveness, this podcast will undoubtedly offer you valuable learnings and reflections. With a blend of vulnerability, humility, emotional intelligence, and an appropriate understanding of boundaries, this compelling episode presents a universal lesson in forgiveness that everyone can learn from.

Catherine Johnson's Links:

Catherine Johnson – Emotional Resilience for Catholic Moms (cjjcoaching.com)

Catholic Parenting Coach | Catherine Johnson (@catherine.j.johnson) • Instagram photos and videos

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In this enlightening episode, delve deep into the sanguine temperament and its relationship with forgiveness. Explore the intrinsic qualities of Sanguines, their optimism, tendency to avoid conflict, and how these traits impact their journey towards forgiveness. Listen as our sanguine host shares her personal experiences, providing an intimate perspective on sanguine forgiveness and the challenges it presents.

Engage in a candid discussion with Marty Thompson, a Catholic Mindset Coach, Father, and self-identified sanguine. Gain insight into his battle with addiction, the healing power of forgiveness, and the crucial role it played in his journey towards sobriety. Learn the strategies for practicing forgiveness as a sanguine, from acknowledging and processing emotions to setting boundaries and practicing self-care.

Marty elaborates on his decade-long struggle with alcohol, drugs, and pornography, laying bare the transformative impact of the 12-step recovery program on his life. Discover how forgiveness was not just instrumental in overcoming his fear of rejection and alienation, but also in the repair and formation of healthier relationships. Listen as Marty reveals how he channels the power of his storytelling to support others on their path to recovery and forgiveness.

In this soul-stirring episode, not only the Sanguines but anyone grappling with forgiveness can find valuable lessons. Immerse yourself in Marty's poignant tale of self-discovery, redemption, and healing. Explore the path towards forgiveness that not only leads to sobriety but also to spiritual growth and healing. Tune in, relax, and allow Marty’s story to inspire and guide you on your own journey of forgiveness and healing. For those interested, details on how to reach Marty and join his mission are provided towards the end of the episode.

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We all have a certain way of being, what psychologists call a personality type. There are hundreds of personality tests designed to determine what makes you tick. In this episode, I discuss one approach to understanding personality: The Temperaments. I will be discussing their origin, and what they are. In the next four episodes, I will go into depth about how each temperament might show up in the forgiveness process.

Click HERE to discover your temperament.

References: The Four Temperaments by Rev. Conrad Hock

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Welcome to Episode 20 of the Forgiveness is for YOU Podcast. Today I talk about LOVE. What is love? What is self-love and what does it all have to do with forgiveness? What does it mean to love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves? I explore the answers to these questions through the lens of the Theology of the Body and invite you to contemplate that who you are is how you forgive.

I contend that our primary caregivers influence our image of God, which could pose a challenge to the commandment to love God. But what if our understanding of love determined our relationship with God instead?

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"No matter how ugly things get, there is always a way to find beauty in the broken." That is what my guest on this episode, Heather Gaffney, believes and so beautifully exemplifies through her story as a survivor of domestic violence. Heather shares her forgiveness process of herself and her ex-husband in a kind, loving, and open way that feels genuine and inspiring. 

Heather Gaffney is an author, podcaster, and YouTuber. She is the host of the Warrior Words podcast and the Beauty in the Broken YouTube channel.

Guest Bio: Heather has a Master’s Degree in Education and is the mother of two young adult children. She is a domestic abuse survivor, breast cancer survivor, and autism advocate. Her favorite things include caramel coffee drinks, good books, sappy movies, the colors of nature, and spending time with the Master Artist in prayer.

You can reach Heather at: https://subscribepage.io/pearlsofwisdom

Link to her podcast Warrior Words: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/warrior-words-stories-of-hope-lessons-learned/id1725674975

IG: @mywarriorwords 

Facebook: @heathergaffneyauthor

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Welcome to Episode 18! In this last episode on emotions in the forgiveness process, my best friend and husband of almost 32 years, Steve Silva, shares his thoughts about the emotion of bitterness and how it can be redeemed. We talk about the difference between bitterness and sorrow and his process of forgiving me for emotional injuries in our marriage. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Welcome to Episode 18 of the Forgiveness is for You Podcast. Today, I make a distinction between two concepts people around the world contemplate as we enter into Holy Week: Making amends and atonement. These concepts, if I may, are central to the act of forgiveness. One is utterly dependent on our own strength, and the other is only possible by the grace of God.

I refer to the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-Step Recovery Program’s directive to make a list of persons harmed and make amends. I trace the etymology of amends and atonement and their application to lived experience. The episode ends with an exhortation to explore forgiveness through the lenses of making amends and atonement.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In today's episode, I define pride in the context of forgiveness. Pride is like two sides of a coin, heads or tails, virtue or vice. 

If pride stops at the pleasure or satisfaction we experience for an accomplishment that required great sacrifice, or a level of intimacy we achieved in a relationship, or recognition for a job well done, but doesn’t become the measure by which we measure others, then pride is a virtue.

From a Judeo-Christian perspective, pride is considered a capital sin, a sin that “begets” or gives rise to other sins. Pride is not OK because it blocks the graces God wants to bestow on us to live in the truth of our experience and the gift of freedom from bondage to the offender. We cannot change what happened to us, but we can change our disposition toward what happened and toward God, the offender, and the people in our lives. We can choose to show up as a victor or victim. If we choose to indulge in prideful thoughts and actions, we are more likely to show up as a victim.

References:

Catechism of the Catholic Church 

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary

St. Thomas Aquinas on Humility

Resources: 

Surrender Novena 

Litany of Humility

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In today’s episode, I discuss the power of resentment in the forgiveness process and offer 10 steps for overcoming it.

The definition of resentment comes from an article, From Ressentiment to Resentment as a Tertiary Emotion by Warren D. TenHouten published in 2018 in the Review of European Studies Volume 10, No 4.

TenHouten claims that resentment is not a primary or secondary emotion, but a tertiary emotion, “whose primary emotional components are anger, surprise and disgust, and whose secondary components are contempt, shock and outrage.” Resentment is a conglomerate of emotions.

I refer to a study by Almeida and Cunha on the physical effects of resentment and mention Dr. Caroline Leaf's work on processing emotions. 

Forgiveness is as much about mastery of our own emotions as it is about using our will in the decision to forgive. Forgiveness requires a level of maturity that allows us to recognize when our emotions are running the show, and when we are using reason to guide our actions. When resentment is driving our behavior, it’s time to take a step back and become private investigators. Get to the thoughts underneath, challenge them; decide on a course of action that produces the result you want. I hope that the result you want is healing and forgiveness.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In today’s episode, I welcome my first Guest, Monica Herber. We talk about Monica and her husband’s adoption of a child with profound disabilities and their journey through forgiveness to joyful living. Click on this LINK for a picture of Monica's family. 

Monica is the founder of The Joyful Unknown LLC, Speaker, and Certified Catholic Mindset and Marriage Coach. Her passion is to help individuals and married couples learn the tools needed to choose joy in the midst of suffering. Monica guides clients into joyful living while helping them cope with losses due to tragedy, devastating diagnoses, or life-altering events. As a proud adoptive mom of a child with profound disabilities, a survivor of infertility, and a happily married wife of 15 years, she knows how to stop settling for mere survival and start enjoying the abundance of God’s resurrection life.

Monica’s website: www.thejoyfulunknown.com. Email: [email protected]

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In this episode, I discuss how we can make ourselves receptive to joy amid our suffering and how we can use our suffering for the good of others. I discuss the four levels of Happiness in Fr. Robert Spitzer’s book, Finding True Happiness and give three tips for how to cultivate receptivity to joy: 1. Stop, 2. Drop and 3. Rock & Roll. I mention the song Jerusalema as one of my favorites to dance to when I am opening myself up to receive joy. 

I refer to the Laughing Jesus image and wonder what Jesus' laughter sounds like. 

We can have joy in the midst of suffering. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In this episode, I discuss the emotion of shame, the third core emotion we might experience in the forgiveness process. In recent history, shame researcher Brene Brown has made headlines around the world as she exposed this gnarly emotion and its effects on the human psyche and relationships. I focus not so much on the research but speak directly to shame concerning the forgiveness of self.

I explain the Christian understanding of the origin of shame and talk about what happens in the mind when we experience shame.

Finally, I give tips on how to develop the courage to become vulnerable, and to have empathy for ourselves in the process of self-forgiveness.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Disgust is an oft-overlooked emotion in the healing of trauma and deciding to forgive. Moral disgust is the reaction to a physical reaction towards a person who violated the moral code, such as sexual, verbal, or physical abuse and betrayal in a relationship.

If we are to forgive ourselves, we will need to take a good, hard look at how disgust is showing up in our thoughts and is manifested in our bodies.

When disgust is internalized, we have a visceral reaction to our own thoughts, emotions, and actions.

When disgust is externalized, we hyperfocus on one or two aspects of the offender and define them as a “disgusting person” based on their behavior.

Recognize that feeling disgust is part of the healing journey and you are not wrong for feeling it toward yourself or the other person. It’s a natural reaction to a moral injustice. Avoid judging yourself for feeling disgusted.

References: Pope St. John Paul II Theology of the Body 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

It’s important to understand how our emotions can help us heal or keep us stuck in unforgiveness. In this episode, I talk about the role of anger in the forgiveness process. I make the distinction between the state of anger and the emotion of anger.

We can allow ourselves to be in a state of anger, but not for too long. When we allow the emotion of anger to morph into a state of being, we become an angry person and our tendency toward sin increases. We can allow ourselves to experience the emotion of anger and decide to use that emotion to move us toward healing.

Emotions are neutral, they are neither good nor bad. They just are. It’s what we do with them that matters. Our senses receive information and engage our imagination which informs our thoughts and leads to emotions, which can be governed by our will.

Anger’s motivation is a desire for justice, but I can show up vicious or virtuous in my anger. If my anger compels me to take action towards a good, then it’s tempered by reason. If I understand that my anger is righteous and forgiveness is for me, not the offender, my anger can help me move forward to co-create a new reality with Christ. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In this episode, I examine how our thoughts, words, and actions in unforgiveness can result in sin that we may not even be aware of committing. I also caution against advice I was given in the early stages of my recovery from sexual abuse.

The advice I got was to retell my story in all the minute detail to anyone who would listen, with the understanding that validation cures trauma. However, with each retelling of my stories, I was strengthening the neural networks in my brain that held the trauma. I was making myself sicker by reliving the trauma with each retelling. 

We know now about neuroplasticity and the ability to form new neural networks through mind-body modalities in addition to the healing we receive through our relationship with God. As the term neuroplasticity indicates, our brains are not static, what we think and believe and how we behave as a result can change, and with it, the structures in the brain that hold those thoughts and memories can also change. We can’t change the circumstances, but we can change our thoughts and behavior about the circumstances to help us move through the pain to a healthier version of ourselves.

I also sinned against God in how I retold my stories and formed judgments about my offenders, failing to see how my judgments hardened my heart in unforgiveness. By recognizing which sins I was committing, I was able to take full responsibility for how to respond rather than react to my trauma and make space for God to heal me. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In this episode, I am tackling the belief that “good” Christians have to forgive because God tells us to love our enemies. But is loving the same as forgiving?  So many Christians who are still in the process of working through forgiveness get trapped in unhealthy relationships because they feel guilty about not loving their enemies as Jesus exhorts us to do in Matthew 5: 43-45. Victims are often strongly encouraged to re-engage in relationships with offenders as their Christian duty to forgive. 

I challenge two concepts in this belief, (1) what it means to be a “good” Christian and (2) what it means to love our enemies.

It is well and good to have standards, but when we start to define Christianity by a set of rules instead of a relationship with our triune God, we are missing the boat. It’s time to get back to basics. Drop the “good” in front of Christian and sit at the foot of the Master, Jesus Christ. In Luke 18 v. 19, the rich official calls Jesus a good teacher, and He responds, “Why do you call me good? No one is good but God alone.” We cannot earn grace. Forgiveness heals us and it frees us, but it has to be an act that is done in freedom and never under duress. Making someone believe that they somehow don’t make the cut as a “good Christian” to get them to forgive is manipulative and should stop.

The love that Jesus refers to in Matthew 5: 43-45 is agape love, the love that God infuses into our hearts when we are in a relationship with Him. It’s the love that Saint Paul refers to in 1 Corinthians 13 that bears all things. Jesus gives us a way to express that love by saying, “...pray for those who persecute you” Simply put, praying for our enemies is loving them. Do we need to be in a close relationship with someone when we pray for them? Absolutely not.

Are we supposed to tolerate behavior that insults our inherent dignity? NO. Jesus himself stated in Matthew 18:6, “Woe to the one by whom the stumbling block comes” about those who would tempt us to sin” What Jesus is asking of us here is to follow his lead and be merciful. But what does being merciful mean?

It doesn’t mean we have to submit to manipulation or abuse. We can love from a distance.

If you are in a situation where harm has been perpetrated against you, and you feel guilty for not having forgiven the offender and pressure from others to forgive, know this. You have free will. God respects your free will. He will never ask you to do something He has not already allowed His Son to suffer and redeem.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Today’s episode is about how we learn to forgive, what we can do to unlearn some bad forgiveness habits, and how to make a sincere apology.

We are social beings and human brains develop in community. From a very young age, we observe how adults in our homes behave toward one another. We copy their behavior, but we are also directly impacted when we are instructed to do as they say.

How we learn to forgive has a direct impact on our relationships throughout life. Forgiveness requires words and actions. Some of us believe that if they say they’re sorry without actually owning what they are sorry for it should be OK so relationship issues never get resolved and we end up with what marriage and family therapist Dr. John Gottman calls perpetual problems.

We can tap into the graces we receive through the Sacraments and allow Christ to enter into the places where we need to forgive and be forgiven. 

A sincere apology does not contain any conditions, most especially the conjunction “if”. It shouldn’t put the victim on the defensive or leave room for doubt. For example, Don’t say, I’m sorry IF I did X. The truth is, I did what you did, and it impacted someone else negatively. Instead, say something like I did X to you, and I can see how much it hurts you, and I am sorry. What can I do to make it better? Describe in sufficient detail what you did so that the victim feels validated in their experience, but not so much detail that the victim re-experiences the injury. Allow the victim to respond to the apology in the way they feel is appropriate without trying to control the outcome. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

In today’s episode, I discuss how Internal Family Systems Therapy is one way to uncover the parts of ourselves that carry blame and shame in our unforgiveness of self.

Forgiving ourselves is in line with the second commandment, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Loving ourselves as God loves us requires fully accepting who He created us to be. We cannot extend to others what we cannot do for ourselves.

Shame and blame are tango partners in keeping us stuck in unforgiveness of self.

When it comes to forgiving ourselves, we must be ready, willing, and able to face, love, and accept the parts of us that carry the shame attached to the memory of what transpired.

Internal Family Systems Therapy, developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, might help identify the parts of us that need to be relieved of shame and blame in the process of forgiveness. I share a personal story of a protective part of me that caused the rupture of a lifelong friendship.

I read the entry Right Judgment story in my book With You Always: A Journey with Jesus

Self-forgiveness means we allow ourselves to be fully seen and known and let go of the shame and guilt we feel about our actions. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Today’s episode, What Forgiveness Is Not, is the fourth in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss what forgiveness is not.

1. Forgiveness is not a one-time event we have to do it over and over and over sometimes for years before we can actually say that we have forgiven the person.
2. Forgiveness not for the offender, it is for you, to set your heart free from holding on to the emotional bonds and the memory that you have connected to the offender.
3. Forgiveness is not accountability for someone else. We may never be able to hold the offender accountable. They might not even be aware that they've done anything wrong to us, so the possibility of holding them accountable may not always be available. 
4. Forgiveness also does not erase the consequences for myself or the offender. If we need to ask for forgiveness, that other person may never want to speak to us, see us, or have anything to do with us ever again. In contrast, we may never receive justice. We do have a responsibility to pursue criminal justice if we are aware that the person is still causing harm, especially to protect minors.
5. Forgiveness is not forgetting or erasing the memories of what happened to us.
6. Forgiveness is not reconciliation. We may never have the opportunity to reconcile with the other person and we may not want to reconcile. There are exceptions. We can have reconciliation with that part of us that was hurt. It can be healed and integrated into our whole being. We can also have reconciliation with God.
7. Forgiveness is also not a disempowered state. When we decide to forgive, we're taking back our power and that gives us more agency over how we are going to interact with that person and that's where boundaries come in.
8. Forgiveness is not dehumanizing the other person. When we forgive, we have to broaden our view to perceive that person in their entirety because God created that person or those people and he did not create them as a monster or an entity that doesn't have full human dignity.  

This concludes our four-part series, Understanding Forgiveness. I hope you will join me next episode as we explore how who we are impacts how we forgive.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Today’s episode is the third in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss seven more distinct characteristics of forgiveness.

1. Forgiveness requires supernatural love – what we call agape love. This is the type of love with which God loves us and is made available to us through participation in the Sacraments. Forgiveness frees us to love more abundantly.
2. Forgiveness is an opportunity to reconcile ourselves with God. The Catechism of the Catholic Church # 2844 states that forgiveness is "...a high point of Christian prayer. Forgiveness also bears witness that, in our world, love is stronger than sin…Forgiveness is the fundamental condition of the reconciliation of the children of God with their Father and of men with one another." Forgiveness is the fulfillment of the first and second commandments, to love God and to love our neighbor as ourselves.
3. Premature forgiveness blocks healing. Before true forgiveness can happen, there is work to be done. “The survivor must first develop a full understanding of the moral questions of guilt and responsibility and reconstruct a system of belief that makes sense of her undeserved suffering…” (Judith Herman, M.D., Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of Violence from domestic abuse to political terror). The victim must first determine what belongs to whom in order not to take on any guilt, shame, or residual consequences that belong to the perpetrator.
4. Forgiveness requires humility. A major roadblock to forgiveness is pride. Humble forgiveness recognizes that we are all human, all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23 ESV). We recognize that we are created equal in dignity, and only God knows the whole story.
5. Forgiveness requires goodwill – the desire to do God’s will in everything, forgiving the offender with a pure heart. God’s will is for me to forgive so that He can in turn forgive me freely. When I am lacking in goodwill, I may not desire to forgive someone because it seems like my life is so much worse off than theirs. I want them to suffer the same way that I am suffering. It’s a constant battle within my own heart to let go and let God heal me.
6. Forgiveness can be vengeful when we use it as a form of manipulation to get the offender to do what we want them to do. We are willing to forgive, but only if certain conditions exist. I forgave you for doing X so you should do Y for me and an unhealthy, unequal dynamic ensues in the relationship. This type of false forgiveness creates a superficial relationship where trust is compromised. Forgiveness becomes a weapon or a shield with which I am willing to protect myself at all costs. It sets up a cycle of offense and false forgiveness.
7. We cannot truly extend forgiveness to others if we cannot first forgive ourselves. Forgiveness of self requires self-compassion, self-love, not in a self-centered way, but in the way that God loves us, unconditionally. Self-forgiveness is often the most difficult act of the will we can engage in. I will be devoting an entire future episode to forgiveness of self.

This concludes our episodes on what forgiveness is. I hope you will join me next episode to learn more about what forgiveness is NOT.

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

1. Today’s episode is the second in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four more characteristics of forgiveness.
2. Forgiveness is our own responsibility. If we wait for the offender to ask for forgiveness first, we may never have an opportunity to forgive. Waiting for the offender to show remorse is surrendering our power and agency to the offender. 
3. Forgiveness is allowing God to help us walk through the pain of the forgiveness process. Instead of moving away, it’s moving toward the thoughts and emotions that are rooted in the wound or past painful experience, what I call the pain story, and asking God/Jesus to accompany us there. You can have a three-part conversation with Jesus as you move toward him in your pain.
   1. First, tell him what happened. Jesus, so and so did this to me.
   2. Then tell him how you feel. I feel betrayed, brokenhearted, sad, furious, angry resentful, whatever you are feeling.
   3. Then ask him what you need. Jesus, I need you to help me through this. I need you to help me figure out a way to move forward. I need you to help me learn how to forgive this person. He hears all our prayers. Sit with Him for a while. He's patient, and he can take all of your emotions. Jesus is the Divine Physician. He has already suffered every imaginable wound we have suffered and He is with us in the present moment, waiting for us to invite him into our pain story. He knows our sorrow. We can trust in that.
4. Forgiveness is being willing to acknowledge the offender’s right to moral justice. Moral justice is the justice that belongs to Christ Himself. This is the hardest saying. God sees the heart of the person who committed the act, and only He knows the whole story. This doesn’t mean that we can’t desire and pursue criminal justice. 
5. Forgiveness is allowing God’s grace to flow through us to the other person, making us their intercessor. The Catechism of the Catholic Church #2843 states, It is not in our power not to feel or forget the offense, but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming hurt into intercession.  Our forgiveness may be what softens the heart of our offender, whether they are in a relationship with us or not. Pope St. John Paul II and President Ronald Reagan both forgave the men who attempted to kill them. Both perpetrators showed remorse afterward. St. Pope John Paul II taught us that the suffering we face in our pain story can be redemptive if we unite our suffering to Christ on the cross. This, my friends, is a gift we as Christians can treasure. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Today’s episode What Forgiveness Is, Part 1 is the first in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four distinct characteristics of forgiveness.

1. Forgiveness is an act of the will. We decide if, when, and how we will forgive. Jesus never forces us to forgive. He equips us with the ability to forgive through the free gift of grace to fill our hearts with forgiveness. The more we forgive, the more we will be forgiven. When we struggle with forgiveness, our prayer can simply be, Lord, I want to forgive, please help my unforgiveness.
2. Forgiveness is an ongoing or iterative process. We have to do it over and over in some instances, even for weeks, months, or years, depending on the situation. When we can tell the story of the pain without reliving it, we will know that we have finally forgiven the offender. 
3. Forgiveness is adaptive. With each act of forgiveness, we become someone new. We adapt ourselves to a new reality in which our ties to the offender are no longer keeping us emotionally bound. We now have space to pay attention to those parts that were overshadowed by the pain of unforgiveness. 
4. Forgiveness may also involve a grieving process for the loss of who we were meant to be or the life that we were meant to have. The harm that was done to us could have physical, mental, and emotional consequences that last a lifetime.

As you've listened to me talk about forgiveness today, I hope that you can see that forgiveness is multifaceted. There is no one way to do it. Although it is an act of the will, there is a process that leads up to that decision to forgive. When we are wounded, those parts of us that are wounded tend to be disintegrated from our whole selves. And once we can work through that disintegration and heal those wounds, we can get to a place where we can decide to extend forgiveness to the person or people who have harmed us.

In the next two episodes, I will continue to discuss what forgiveness is and following that, I will be talking about what forgiveness is not.

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Email me at [email protected] to schedule a speaking engagement at your church or small faith-sharing group.

Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.

Hello Forgiver,

In this very first episode of the Forgiveness is For You Podcast, I explain why I believe that forgiveness is the ultimate path to healing from any kind of trauma. I include a brief history of my background as a South African immigrant and my own healing through forgiveness from various traumas. I hope that my story will inspire you to explore the role that forgiveness can play on your own path to interior freedom.

In the next four episodes, I will debunk common myths about forgiveness and help you begin contemplating how you can integrate forgiveness into your life.

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Connect with me as your forgiveness guide at www.drcarron.com. I will hold space for you as your Christian Life Coach as you work through your pain and rewrite your story.

Not ready for coaching? Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat at www.drcarron.com.

Check out my website for how you can bring me to speak to your church or small faith-sharing group

Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.