Ian Kerner | Is Predictable Sex Killing Your Marriage?

She called me a sex god.  I laughed, but knew I may have earned it!  

Gents... this show is going to get seriously personal.  We’re talking oral sex, bedroom routines, easing anxiety, ethical porn and more. 

A few years ago, my friend Lance Salazar, author of The Miracle Morning for Couples, gave me a copy of Dr. Ian Kerner’s book, She Comes First. 

Long story short: six months later, my wife was telling all our friends that I’d become some sort of sex god (not kidding).  

It wasn’t until I was in my early 40s that I started to learn how to really light up my wife.  

We cover a lot of ground on the show, including a look into the work behind his new book, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives.

Some of the topics I discuss with Dr. Ian Kerner: 

• What does variety look like in a healthy sexual relationship?
• The $2.00 purchase that saved my sex life
• The one thing that needed to happen, for my wife to beg for sex.
• Are your routines (sex scripts) killing your love life?
• What are your core erotic themes?
• How do you create variety in a sexual relationship? Is there ethical porn and has porn become problematic?
• Do men need to manage masturbation?
• If you’re kids bust you having sex, is that traumatic?
• Why our cultural norms surrounding sex leave people dysfunctional, depressed, and without sexual self-esteem.
• Why dominant cultural narratives fail to honor female sexuality.
• Why guys should be talking about sex more often.
• Why do sex scripts fall into predictable patterns or just get boring?
• The common threads of sex scripts that work.
• Why anxiety is the enemy of arousal
• When should we talk to our kids about sex and pornography?
• Is there more trauma for a child in seeing their parents have sex, or feeling that their parents lived in a sexless marriage?

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