Love and First Responders – with Audra and Chelsi

This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. As two wives of fire fighters, Audra and Chelsi know all too well the challenges that come with being the default parent while their partner is away at work for days and weeks at a time. 

In this episode, Audra and Chelsi discuss the often-misunderstood sacrifices of stay-at-home parents, emphasizing that these individuals take on immense responsibilities both at home and within their relationships. They shed light on the concept of being the "default parent", the emotional toll it can take, and the importance of planning, setting expectations, and finding a balance that prioritizes both partners and children. Lastly, they share realistic strategies on how to integrate their partner back into family life after their work block is complete and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and independence. 

Today’s topics include: 

• Balancing the role of being a stay-at-home parent and the sacrifices involved 
• Unveiling the reality of living with a split person due to first responder schedules 
• Managing missed family moments and embracing the role of the default parent 
• Strategies for prioritizing both partner and children while maintaining personal balance 
• The importance of having backup plans and self-care routines 
• Navigating reintegration and supporting partners after work blocks 
• Setting realistic standards and reframing expectations in parenting and partnership 
• Addressing resentment and embracing personal agency within the relationship 
• Shifting from dependency to self-sufficiency and self-fulfillment 

Be sure to follow Audra and Chelsi on Instagram @dearchiefspodcast and listen to their podcast! 

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