56 What is Essential for Catholics to Recover from Porn?
45 min •
22 februari 2021
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This is episode 56, released on February 22, 2021
This is the eighth episode in our series on sexuality and the second one on Pornography.
And it is titled: What is Essential for Catholics to Recover from Porn?
And I am really happy to have Dr. Gerry Crete, past president of the Catholic Psychological Association and the CEO and co-founder of Souls and Hearts with me for this episode
Recognize that the fantasy involved in the pornography choices represent a dynamic that seeks to meet the unmet need
Safety
Attachment injuries
Being seen
Seeing others
Connection
Sense of “power” or agency
Traumatic re-enactment
The fantasy may provide a temporary answer to those needs while avoiding the pain
Allow him to experience having his needs met in a healthy way
What new information can you share with him
What new role or position can the protector have now
Recognize the courage it takes for the protector to seek a new role and embrace change
Allow time to grieve the losses that pornography use has brought
Recognize negative effects of pornography or other sexual acting out behavior in one’s life
Prepare to make reparations
Wife/Family
Self
Others
God
Invite protector to grow and embrace freedom – recognize there will be a period of growth – it will need time and patience. Commit to being by his side
What does it mean for the parts to be “in recovery”
The self is present – better connections with others
Completing tasks with a sense of completion rather than trying to escape pain (life)
Ability to set goals and focus on them rather than obsession with momentary perceived needs
Willingness to receive feedback
Ability to recognize time rather than entering into a blackhole of time