“Dating Roundup #1: This is Why You’re Single” by Zvi

Developments around relationships and dating have a relatively small speed premium, so I figured I would wait until I had a full post worth of them.

Indeed I now present such a post, in which I present several theories as to why so many of you might still be single.

While I am my usual opinionated self, I am not going to be offering a section of my list of related Good Advice. That would be its own project, which may or may not happen at some time in the future. There is still much in the way of practical implications or implied advice throughout.

You’re Single Because You’re Not Even Trying

A 2022 sample of singles is out, and charts are available, so that seems like a good place to start. None of this is properly representative or anything. It’s still good data.

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Outline:

(00:36) You’re Single Because You’re Not Even Trying

(04:43) You’re Single Because You Are The Fourth Child and Do Not Know How to Ask

(17:44) You’re Single Because Dating Apps Suck

(32:02) You’re Single Because You Didn’t Make a Date Me Doc

(37:42) You’re Single Because the Dating Market Is Not In Equilibrium

(41:59) You’re Single Because You’re Asking the Wrong Questions

(44:55) You’re Single Because You’re Trying Weird Stuff

(47:38) You’re Single Because You Suck at Relationships

(48:36) You’re Single Because You Decided You Were Poly

(50:52) You’re Single Because You Didn’t Take Their Good Advice

(01:03:27) What About My Good Advice?

(01:04:57) Ask and You Might Receive

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First published:
August 29th, 2023

Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/BAqvAvPC7GiZhTyR3/dating-roundup-1-this-is-why-you-re-single

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Narrated by TYPE III AUDIO.