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Episode 33: Maintaining Intimacy After Kids with Vanessa and Xander Marin @vanessaandxander

37 min • 4 april 2024

Episode 33: Maintaining Intimacy After Kids with Vanessa and Xander Marin @vanessaandxander

In this episode, Rachael Shepard-Ohta speaks with Vanessa and Xander Marin, authors and husband and wife duo, all about intimacy, relationships, and their new book, Sex Talks! They discuss the inspiration behind the book and the importance of open and honest communication about sex and relationships. They highlight the conversations on emotional connection and pleasure as particularly important. They also address the challenges couples face during the roommate phase and provide tips for navigating different levels of readiness for intimacy. Hear their take on the benefits of couples therapy and alternative resources for couples seeking support. 


Meet New York Times Best Selling authors Vanessa and Xander Marin. She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he’s a regular dude, and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. They’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you’ll be calling your new besties in no time. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Follow them on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!


Mentioned in this episode:


Xander and Vanessa’s Instagram @vanessaandxander

Vanessa and Xander’s Online Courses: https://vmtherapy.com/courses

Rediscovering Us: Intimacy and Sex for Parents Course

Pillow Talks Podcast 

Sex Talks Book



Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

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