You can be the most patient and understanding parent six out of seven days the week, but there's always the risk of some straw breaking your proverbial camel's back and turning you into Psycho Mom. It sucks for everybody involved, but don't beat yourself up over it; you're human after all. So instead of fretting about that one time you shouted, let's focus on some ways you can keep from shouting in the first place.
In this episode, Jamie discusses healthier ways to show frustration, helps you find the ideal middle ground, and reveals the one statement you need to stay away from.
The Finer Details of This Episode:
Remember: no matter how justified your anger is, Psycho Mom will always be scary to your little ones.
Finding healthier ways to let off steam than your Psycho Mom mode.
The three major factors that contribute to going over the edge.
Finding ways to build up steam rather than letting it all out at once.
Jamie’s story of a very conscientious mother who went full Psycho Mom despite her best intentions.
Why parents are afraid of being firm even though it's a better middle ground.
Testing limits: it's what kids do best.
Handy tips for when you next need to apologize. Practice away!
Quotes:
“If Psycho Mom makes a semi-regular appearance in your house, it's because you aren't letting out your feelings.”
“Dealing with real feelings and real apologies helps kids manage their own emotional landscape.”
“You want to be consistent and safe in your emotional reactions.”
“As long as you're in control, you get to be firm.”
“Nobody can make you feel anything.”
Links:
Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com
Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/
Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU
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