88: Failure to launch: What we can learn from struggling young adults about how to help our teens.

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We all love our kids and hope for the best, but we also worry about how well they'll navigate life once they're old enough to leave home. It's a fine balance between supporting them enough for them to feel loved, and letting them fail so that they learn the skills they need.

With the reported increase in kids who 'fail to launch' I thought it might be really helpful to talk with someone who spends his days helping  young adults who're struggling.

We talked about the vital importance of routine, helping them to feel positive about themselves - especially in the face of failure - what we can do to help them find their own purpose in life, and giving our kids healthy role models on which to build their own life.

KEN'S TIPS:

Start with the sleep/wake routine, helping them to create their own schedule.

Once they have a solid routine in place, introduce three extra things:

• Something creative
• Something reflective 
• Something physical

Types of anxiety:
Body-based
Mind-based
Totems: something that represents a challenge
Time-based 
Distance: Having to leave a safe space 

Depression: 
All the parts of the daily routine will help make a difference to their depression.

If you would like to ask Ken any questions, or learn more about mentoring:
Www.kenrabow.com

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