Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Having a teen is as hard as having a newborn! All the firsts and all the angst, let’s face it, the stakes are really high, and we parents worry tremendously about our children, and the teen years can really exacerbate our worry and stress. What I know works is connection, but many times, parents pull away from their teens because the teens are trying to find their own way too. When I lean into being with and understanding my teens, they respond with more kindness and the ability to self-regulate more readily. Listen in as I give you ten ways to do this.

This episode originally aired February 2022

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Is Your Toddler Testing Your Limits? Here’s How to Turn No into Cooperation.

Have you ever resorted to reverse psychology just to get your strong-willed toddler to brush their teeth? What if there were a kinder, more effective way to gain their cooperation? In today’s episode, I share some practical strategies to foster a harmonious and cooperative relationship with your little one.

Today, I connect with Lauren, a mom from Indiana who is facing the very relatable challenge of dealing with a strong-willed three-year-old. We explore why some classic parenting tactics like bribes, threats, and punishments might feel like short-term wins but can backfire in the long run. 

In this Episode:

• Navigating a strong-willed toddler's defiance
• The dangers of bribes, threats, and punishments
• The importance of deep, connected relationships
• Utilizing empathy, special time, and play
• Practical play ideas for tough moments

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Is your approach to restricting electronics actually fostering sneaky behavior in your child? What if instead of wrestling over electronics, we focused on fostering genuine moments of togetherness? In today’s episode, we venture into the intricate relationship our kids have with their devices and discover practical, connective ways to navigate this modern challenge.

I’ll dive into the ever-present issue of electronics in our children's lives, and contrary to popular advice, I argue against outright bans and restrictions. Instead, I emphasize connection as the core solution. 

How can we foster a healthier relationship with electronics without making them the forbidden fruit? How can we create meaningful interactions that make gadgets less appealing? Join me as I explore this nuanced approach and provide you with actionable strategies to integrate connection over control in your daily lives. 

In this Episode:

• Importance of modeling good electronic habits
• Offering opportunities for connection
• Discussing over-usage pitfalls openly
• Maintaining safety online
• Avoiding electronics as punishment or reward

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Are you caught in the cycle of correction and control in your parenting journey? Today, I am joined by Nadia, a parent who bravely shares her journey from a place of control to discovering the impact of connective parenting.

Nadia candidly shares her experiences of shedding the instinct to correct and control and embracing empathy and connection instead. Through her journey, she unveils her challenges in stepping away from conventional parenting methods and the profound shifts she witnessed in her family dynamics. Tune in to discover the profound impact of prioritizing connection over control in creating a more peaceful and harmonious family dynamic.

In this Episode:

• The Awakening: From Correction to Connection
• Embracing Change: Letting Go of Control & Shame
• The Impact of Connection: Transforming Family Dynamics
• A New Way of Parenting: Grace and Empathy
• The Journey Ahead: The Road to Peaceful Parenting

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Can we truly control our children, or are we simply deluding ourselves? Imagine a world where we don't force our kids to do things, but instead, they genuinely want to cooperate because of the loving relationship we share. Today, I explore why letting go of control can lead to a more harmonious and joyful parenting journey.

Many believe that trying to control our kids through threats, bribes, or even physical punishment will produce the desired behavior. However, in the long run, these tactics are unsustainable and damaging. In this episode, I’ll share insights on how coercive methods can fracture the parent-child relationship, hindering long-term influence and true cooperation.

In This Episode:

• The pitfalls of parenting through control
• Shifting focus from behavior control to connection
• How coercion severs parent-child relationships in the long run
• The power of influence over manipulation
• Redefining discipline as a form of teaching

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Araminta was struggling with her child's behavioral issues when she discovered Peace and Parenting, which proved to be a lifesaver for her. After signing up for personal coaching the most important lesson she gained was that her son understood the difference between right and wrong, but lacked the ability to regulate his emotions. With this knowledge, Araminta is now better prepared to deal with her son's tantrums and intense feelings without becoming upset herself. She has discovered a method for remaining calm and collected in difficult circumstances.

This episode originally aired July 2023

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What if the everyday moments with your kids held the secret to building a stronger bond? Imagine transforming those challenging instances of whining, fighting, or acting out into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. Today, I’ll share with you some subtle yet powerful ways to enhance connection with your children without adding extra tasks to your already busy day. 

Connection doesn't always require special time set aside or grand gestures; it's about how we engage with our children in the little moments. Whether it's handling social issues, whining, defiance, or sibling rivalry, the key lies in how we respond. By embracing empathy, play, and affection, we can create an environment where our kids learn problem-solving and emotional resilience.

In This Episode:

• Using play to address whining and sass
• Affection as a tool for managing aggression
• Turning sibling conflicts into connection moments
• Avoiding actions that erode relationships

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What happens when a teen’s risk-taking behavior leads to serious injuries? Balancing safety and freedom is a challenge many parents face, especially when dealing with sports-loving teenagers. Today, I sit down with Kelli, a mother from Utah, who navigates this tricky landscape after her son suffered a string of concussions. How do you keep your kids safe while respecting their need for independence?

Together, we explore the power of empathy, the nuances of setting boundaries without triggering rebellion, and the struggle to connect with teens coping with setbacks. I share with Kelli how fostering open conversations and acknowledging our children's emotions can transform our approach to parenting in challenging times.

In This Episode:

• Striking a balance between safety and freedom
• Using empathy in parenting tough decisions
• Navigating sports-related injuries with teens
• Encouraging kids to express their feelings
• Implementing small, incremental changes for better outcomes
• Alternative activities during recovery periods

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What happens when you choose not to engage in a fight with your child? Can you handle a power struggle with your child without losing your temper? We all want to navigate those heated moments with grace, empathy, and understanding, even when your child is completely offline.

In this episode, I discuss the multifaceted approach to maintaining a harmonious parent-child relationship, even amidst conflicts. We'll explore how stepping back, listening actively, and regulating our own emotions can turn potential blowouts into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. Drawing from some of my personal insights, I hope to show you that while holding our ground is important, doing so from a place of empathy and calm can make all the difference.

In This Episode:

• Why you can't have a one-sided power struggle
• Recognizing the signs your child is offline
• The art of active listening during arguments
• Strategies for your self-regulation
• Using empathy to defuse tension
• Encouraging your child's emotional self-regulation

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Are your children constantly fighting and you’re at your wits' end on how to handle it? What if the key to resolving sibling rivalry doesn’t lie in punishments but in fostering deeper connections? Join me today as I welcome Sandra, a mother from Egypt who seeks advice on improving her two daughters' tumultuous relationship.

In this episode, we dive into Sandra’s experience as a mom of two constantly quarreling daughters. Through a heartfelt conversation, we uncover the challenges of maintaining harmony and the tendency to use punishments or let kids "fight it out." Sandra shares her journey from using punishments and consequences to struggling with a hectic lifestyle that leaves little room for meaningful connection. Join us as we discuss the importance of making space for connection amidst a busy routine and how empathy and consistency play pivotal roles in cultivating peaceful sibling relationships.

In This Episode:

• Fostering connection over punishment in parenting
• The significance of empathy in resolving fights
• Why daily special time is essential
• How a busy life impacts family dynamics
• Supporting kids to solve their own conflicts

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Are you feeling at the end of your rope, wondering how to keep calm when everything around you is chaotic? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll give you some practical strategies for those moments when staying calm seems impossible. From the importance of recognizing when a situation is truly an emergency to the value of walking away momentarily to gather your thoughts, these TEN tips are rooted in empathy and real-life scenarios.

In This Episode:

• Assessing if situations are true emergencies
• Managing reactions when emotions run high
• Practicing the “pause” before responding
• Walking away to regroup without shame
• Valuing the power of sincere apologies

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How can playing more and disciplining less lead to a happier household? Today, you'll hear Ashlena's remarkable journey to connected parenting as she shares how her family transitioned from turmoil to tranquility.

In this heartfelt episode, Ashlena, a dedicated member of our community, opens up about her challenging yet rewarding transformation. She dives into the hurdles she faced with her adopted daughter, Devin, and how traditional parenting techniques were failing them both. When stress and desperation took a toll on her well-being, Ashlena finally reached out for help and discovered the incredible impact of our peace and parenting community. 

In This Episode:

• Transforming hellish times through connection
• Importance of empathy over consequences
• Managing stress and health through better parenting
• Building a sanctuary of safety at home
• Reaping the rewards of group and individual coaching

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Do boundaries and limits really matter in parenting? Have you ever wondered if the secret to a more harmonious parenting journey lies in how we set and manage boundaries with our children? Today, I tackle the often confounding topic of boundaries. I’ll unravel misconceptions about boundaries and explain that they aren't about controlling our children but rather about providing a safe space for them to release their emotions. 

Many parents struggle because they believe stricter boundaries equate to more obedient children, but today, I’ll share why this isn't necessarily true. This episode is packed with practical examples, including how to handle common situations like turning off the TV without resorting to punishment and the importance of not mistaking control for safety. 

In This Episode:

• Redefining the role of boundaries in parenting
• Connection over control
• Empathy's power in handling emotional outbursts
• Balancing limits and free will
• Cooperation through understanding, not punishment
• Tailoring boundaries to developmental stages

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What happens when empathizing with your child seems to backfire? Should we apologize when they have big feelings? Is it possible that our efforts to validate their feelings might actually increase their frustration? Today, I'm joined by Nandini, a passionate mom to a 7-year-old daughter. Nandini shares her experiences and parenting dilemmas, sparking an enlightening conversation about the delicate balance of validation, empathy, and responsibility. We explore why children might react negatively to our attempts at empathy and the importance of not taking their responses personally.

In This Episode:

• When empathy frustrates instead of calms
• Validating feelings without personalizing blame
• Holding space for children's emotional outbursts
• Creative ways to foster connection
• The unintentional consequences of over-apologizing

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Are you fighting an uphill battle with your child's “defiance”? What if defiance wasn’t something to squash but an invitation to connect? Today, I’m turning the traditional parenting playbook on its head and exploring how to respond compassionately to our kids when they push back.

Often, when our kids push back, we instinctively react with frustration, viewing their refusal as disrespectful or unkind. However, what if small changes in our approach could lead to significant improvements? Instead of using consequences or bribes, we could invite cooperation naturally through play or empathy.

In This Episode:

• Why “defiance” isn’t what it seems
• Transforming chores into bonding moments
• How patience can encourage cooperation
• Choosing empathy over punishment in conflict
• Building connection through playful approaches

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What if the journey to better parenting starts with accepting our imperfections? In this week's episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with one of my listeners as we explore the emotional process of reparenting ourselves while we raise our children.

Pavlina, a dedicated mother striving to balance her own healing process wants to be more present for her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. She faces the challenge of overcoming avoidance parenting, a tendency rooted in her upbringing, and aims to create a nurturing, playful environment for her child. We explore the delicate balance of empathy, self-acceptance, and the joy of connection in parenting.

In This Episode:

• Combating avoidance parenting tendencies
• Navigating emotional triggers from your own childhood
• Incorporating empathy into daily interactions
• The impact of striving for perfection
• Cultivating joy and playfulness in parenting

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Are you torn between teaching your child to stand up for themselves and maintaining respect? It’s a struggle many of us face, but what if we allowed our kids the space to practice—even if they don’t get it right the first time?

Today on Peace and Parenting I dive head first into a topic many parents wrestle with: Can we truly let our children stand up for themselves if we always require them to be respectful? Parenting is messy, and kids need space to make mistakes as they learn important life skills. By giving them a safe place to practice expressing themselves, especially when it’s uncomfortable for us, our children can grow into empowered, confident adults.

In This Episode:

• Kids learning to stand up for themselves
• The balance between free will and respect
• Why it’s okay for kids to “get it wrong”
• Allowing space for self-expression and mistakes
• Parenting from a place of empathy, not control
• How to be a safe space for your child’s growth

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What happens when the family you imagined doesn’t turn out the way you planned? How do you navigate single parenting while ensuring your children thrive in both homes? Today is a heartfelt episode where I sit down with Beth, a fellow single mom, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of raising kids post-divorce, co-parenting, and creating a nurturing environment without letting conflict define the journey.

As a mother of two teens and someone who’s experienced the highs and lows of divorce, I share with Beth some personal insights on how empathy has been the cornerstone of my parenting approach. Together, we talk about the pain of missing out on moments in our children's lives and how to handle those difficult emotions while staying connected to our kids. 

No matter where you are in your parenting journey—whether newly separated or a seasoned single parent—this episode offers a compassionate perspective on creating a supportive, loving environment for your children, even when the family structure changes.

In This Episode:

• Navigating single parenting post-divorce
• Importance of empathy in co-parenting
• Managing emotions when kids are with your ex
• How to handle missing out on special moments
• Using play as a tool for emotional release

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Is your child acting out, biting, or hitting their sibling despite your best efforts? What if the problem isn’t defiance but disconnection? Today I talk about a family I worked with recently who struggled to raise a strong-willed child. They had tried everything: timeouts, punishments, and rewards, but nothing worked to stop the aggression.

As I dive into this family's journey, I explain why punitive measures often backfire and how shifting focus toward connection can create the change we’re all looking for. I share with you how I guided this family to stop using threats and start using special time and empathy. You'll hear the small but powerful steps that led to a transformation, both for the child and the family dynamic.

In This Episode:

• Punishments worsen aggression, not solve it
• Connection as the foundation of behavior change
• The power of empathy and special time
• How to stop sibling rivalry from escalating
• Shifting from punitive measures to understanding
• The importance of removing shame from discipline

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Are you tired of the traditional school system stifling your child’s natural curiosity? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to trust your child to lead their own learning journey?

Today, I am joined by Leah McDermott, a homeschooling expert and advocate for unschooling. Leah shares her personal journey, starting as a rigid, homeschooled child and how she transitioned into a more flexible, child-led approach to education. We discuss the emotional and practical challenges of unschooling, including how societal fears and conditioning can make it difficult to trust our children to learn at their own pace.

If you’re curious about how unschooling works in real life or how to foster a deeper relationship with your kids, this episode is a must-listen.

In This Episode:

• Shifting from homeschooling to unschooling
• How schools disconnect kids from curiosity
• Trusting children’s natural ability to learn
• Overcoming societal fears around unschooling
• Why connected parenting and unschooling overlap
• Creating a safe space for independent learning

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Are you worried about your child’s safety on social media? It's easy to jump to the idea of banning electronics, parties, or risky behaviors altogether, but do restrictions really protect them? Today i open up a can of worms as I tackle the tough topic of social media and explore a different approach to keeping our kids safe. 

In This Episode:

• Should you restrict social media completely?
• Why strong connections reduce risky behavior
• Handling tricky situations like parties and curfews
• Balancing autonomy with guidance for teens
• Creating open dialogue around social media usage

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How do you handle it when your child withdraws in tough moments? We've all been there, right? We want our kids to open up about their feelings, but we’re faced with silence or resistance. This can leave us feeling helpless and unsure of how to connect with them when they seem to shut down emotionally.

Today, I talk with a listener named Stevie, who shares her struggles with her 9-year-old daughter’s reluctance to express her emotions, especially after witnessing conflict at home. I share with her how our urgency to “fix” things can often create even more distance, and explore how empathy, patience, and a shift in mindset can bring us closer to our children without pushing them to talk before they’re ready.

In This Episode:

• How to respond when kids shut down
• Why space and empathy matter more than words
• The power of repair in front of your kids
• Breaking the cycle of parenting from guilt
• How to honor your child's emotional boundaries

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Have you ever worried that being "too soft" might set your kids up for failure in the harsh realities of life? Or maybe you’ve heard that using connection instead of consequences will spoil your children. Today is a special episode for me because I sit down with my oldest daughter Esme, who’s just about to leave for college, to reflect on our 18-year parenting journey. Together, we debunk the myths surrounding connective parenting and explore how it has shaped her into a self-assured, empathetic young adult.

In This Episode:

• Misconceptions about “soft” parenting and discipline
• How empathy fosters resilience and self-esteem
• Benefits of letting kids learn responsibility
• The impact of no punishments on long-term behavior
• Encouraging independence through connection

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Ever feel like you’re stuck between what you know is best and what your instincts tell you to do in the heat of the moment? You’re not alone! Today I am tackling a battle many parents face, choosing connection over consequences when setting limits for our kids.

Today, I talk with podcast listener Cecilia, a mom of three, as we discuss the struggles many of us face when balancing connective parenting with the pressures to revert to punishments. We talk about everything from the challenges of setting boundaries with empathy to how we can reframe our kids’ misbehavior as a moment of dysregulation, not defiance.

In This Episode:

• Reframing behavior as a moment of dysregulation
• Why punishment doesn’t foster lasting change
• Strategies for setting limits with empathy and play
• How to build connection in tough moments
• Shifting your mindset to create lasting change

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Are You Taking Care of Yourself as a Parent? We all want our kids to thrive, but what if the key to their success lies in our own happiness? In this episode, I dive into the research from the University of Ohio that explores the profound impact a mother’s happiness has on her child’s success. This study found that a mother’s well-being is the most crucial factor for a child’s development, more important than anything else. But what does that really mean for us as parents?

In This Episode:

• The importance of parental happiness for child success
• Balancing self-care with parenting demands
• How children are attuned to their parents’ emotions
• The connection between self-care and parenting
• Real-life examples of managing happiness as a parent

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What if we didn't need to fix our children's feelings? Imagine if the key to a peaceful household lies not in solving every problem but in simply being present. Today, we explore the transformative power of witnessing our children's emotions.

In today's case study, I chat with Shweta, a mother to two children, about the struggle of managing her nine-year-old daughter’s anxiety. Shweta shares the weight of feeling responsible for her child's emotional well-being and the pressure she places on herself to "fix" everything. We unpack the importance of validating our children's feelings without rushing to solutions and how this practice can lead to deeper connections and fewer anxiety-driven outbursts. 

In This Episode:

• Why the need to fix our children’s feelings is a myth
• The importance of witnessing and validating emotions
• Letting go of guilt and control
• Embracing tantrums for emotional release
• Building deeper connections through empathy

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Today, I tackle one of the most common concerns I hear from parents: Am I doing my kids a disservice by not using punishments and consequences? Many argue that without experiencing the "real world" of control and manipulation, children won’t be able to cope when they face it as adults. But is that really true?

I believe raising children with connection, empathy, and unconditional love doesn’t leave them unprepared for the real world, it actually makes them more resilient. Instead of learning to accept harsh treatment, my kids know how to walk away from it. They understand the value of boundaries, and they seek out relationships that nurture rather than control. Let’s redefine what it means to truly prepare our children for the world ahead. It’s not about toughening them up; it’s about teaching them to thrive.

In This Episode:

• Why connection builds true resilience in kids
• How gentle parenting prepares kids for the real world
• The harmful myth of “necessary” consequences
• Teaching children to walk away from toxic situations
• Encouraging kids to expect kindness in relationships

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Is your child resisting potty training? What if the secret to smoother potty training is all about connection? Join me today as I tackle a common parenting dilemma: potty training with one of my Instagram followers, Jamie. We'll discuss her experiences with potty training her spirited three-year-old daughter.

Jamie shares her challenges, from her daughter’s resistance to potty training to the battles around diaper changes. I'll share strategies prioritizing connection, empathy, and letting go of control and guide Jamie on adopting a more connective approach, highlighting the effectiveness of special time and play in resolving conflicts.

In This Episode:

• Connecting through special time
• Setting limits with empathy
• Avoiding control battles in potty training
• Understanding the impact of new siblings
• Reframing diaper changes with play

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Ever feel like every request turns into a battle with your kids? You ask them to put their shoes on, help with chores, or even just sit down for dinner, and instead of cooperation, you get resistance or silence. It’s frustrating, right? But here’s the big question: What if their refusal has less to do with defiance and more about how they FEEL about the relationship?

Today, I tackle why our kids may not cooperate and how it relates to our connection. I explore how common parenting techniques, like punishments and rewards, often backfire, creating distance instead of understanding. If we shift our approach, it can transform daily interactions with our kids, bringing more peace and cooperation into our homes without resorting to punitive measures.

In This Episode:

• Why do kids refuse to listen or cooperate
• Defiance or disconnection, what’s really happening?
• The negative effects of punishments and rewards
• How to use empathy and play to encourage cooperation
• Adjusting expectations for more harmony at home

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Is your child constantly glued to their screen? Do you feel torn between setting strict boundaries and fostering trust? In today’s world, technology is everywhere, and balancing it with real-life connection can feel overwhelming. How do we guide our kids through it without falling into the trap of punishments and control?

In this episode, I talk with Melissa, a fellow mom, about the daily challenges of managing her daughters' screen time and maintaining a healthy relationship with them. I share with her the tricky balance between allowing technology in our kids’ lives and ensuring they are still grounded in the real world. We also tackle the challenges of not letting electronics become the villain in every sibling dispute and why letting our kids learn from their own screen habits can be more powerful than strict rules. 

In This Episode:

• Managing screen time without creating conflict
• How to set limits without control
• Sibling fights: When the phone isn’t the issue
• The importance of open conversations about online safety
• Why connection is the best defense against tech risks

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What if offering your child choices isn't really giving them autonomy? Have you ever considered that the choices you present might feel manipulative? Let’s delve into the nuanced world of offering choices and explore how to empower our children genuinely and constructively.

In this episode, I unpack giving children choices, spotlighting its potential benefits and pitfalls. I illustrate how choices can sometimes come off as controlling rather than empowering. I also discuss the vital role of true autonomy in developing a child's independence and problem-solving skills.

In This Episode:

• The importance of real choices in parenting
• Examples of fake choices and their pitfalls
• Autonomy's role in childhood development
• Parental control vs. child independence
• Real-life anecdotes on flexible parenting
• Connection strategies for more meaningful choices

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What are the modern challenges of raising teens in a Snapchat and TikTok world, and how should parents adapt? Does taking away their smartphone do more damage than good? Today, I sit down with Danielle, a dedicated mother of four navigating the challenging terrain of parenting a 13-year-old daughter in the digital age. Over the past year, a widening gap has formed between them, fueled by social media and smartphone usage complexities.

Danielle opens up about her struggles setting boundaries around smartphone use while attempting to build trust and connection. We discuss why traditional punitive measures often backfire and explore alternative strategies prioritizing empathy and understanding. Together, I share the nuances of allowing social media access, addressing the temptations and pitfalls teens face online, and finding ways to remain a supportive and present parent.

In This Episode:

• Rebuilding bonds with rule-resistant teens
• Understanding modern social pressures on adolescents
• Shifting from punishment to building trust
• Navigating social media challenges with empathy
• Embracing the role of connection in discipline

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What if the key to being a better parent isn't being perfect but embracing our imperfections? It's time to get real about the rollercoaster journey of parenting, which is filled with mistakes, learning, and growth.

Today, I will talk candidly about the misconceptions around "parenting experts" and our own expectations as parents. I’ll share my experiences, exploring how moments of stress, like a recent family vacation, can shed light on our triggers and mistakes and how we can transform these mistakes into valuable lessons for ourselves and our children.

In This Episode:

• The myth of the "perfect parent" debunked
• Understanding the impact of high expectations
• Embracing mistakes as learning opportunities
• Navigating the emotional challenges of parenting transitions
• The importance of continuous growth and self-compassion

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What do you do when a nine-year-old flat-out refuses to take a shower? How might giving your child more autonomy reduce daily power struggles? In today's episode, we dive into these nuanced dynamics of connected parenting.

Joining me today is Jade, a dedicated mother juggling a blended family and her journey into connected parenting. Jade shares her struggle with her strong-willed nine-year-old daughter who challenges the status quo by simply saying, "No." Together, we explore the beauty of natural consequences, the search for autonomy in adolescence, and the importance of connection over control.

In This Episode:

• Embracing natural consequences over artificial punishments
• Supporting your child's search for autonomy
• Prioritizing connection to improve cooperation
• Guiding with questions instead of dictating
• Empowering children through their own decision-making

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Ever find yourself questioning your parenting because your child’s behavior doesn’t match up with society’s expectations? Today, I discuss a topic that hits close to home: the idea that successful parenting is not about having perfectly behaved children but about how we respond to their imperfections.

We often get caught up in societal expectations, believing that good parenting is reflected in having compliant, well-mannered kids. But real success lies in how we handle the challenging moments, the times when our kids act out, and how we use those moments to foster a deeper connection. I reflect on how important it is to ground ourselves in the truth that parenting is a journey filled with highs and lows and that every moment, good or bad, is an opportunity for growth.

In This Episode:

• Redefining parenting success beyond behavior
• The pressure of societal expectations on parents
• Why your child’s behavior doesn’t define your worth
• Using difficult moments to deepen connection
• My story of handling an outburst with grace

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What if the hardest moments in parenting are actually the best opportunities for connection? Can the struggles we face with our kids actually help us heal our own past? Today, I'm joined by the wonderful Cammie, who shares her heartfelt journey into connected parenting. We delve into the challenges and triumphs of raising young children while navigating the lingering effects of our own childhood experiences. From sleepless nights with a newborn to embracing the big emotions of a toddler, Cammie's story is a testament to the power of empathy and connection.

We explore how facing our children's most challenging moments can become a pathway to our own healing. As Cammie recounts her experiences, we discuss strategies for staying connected with our kids even in the midst of tantrums and upsets, and how these very moments can become the foundation of a deep, enduring bond.

In This Episode:

• Unexpected benefits of challenging parenting moments
• Healing past wounds through connected parenting
• Practical applications of empathy and connection
• Visualizing our inner child during parenting
• Group support and its transformative impact
• It’s never too late to strengthen connections

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Imagine this: Your child has just knocked over their sibling's Lego creation, and you’re torn between wanting to gently correct their behavior and wondering if there’s a better way. Is it really about making them say, "I'm sorry," or is there a deeper lesson to be learned?

In this episode, I share a more nuanced concept of accountability in parenting. We explore the common desire to hold our children accountable for their actions—whether it's making them apologize or ensuring they understand the consequences of their behavior. But what does "accountability" really mean in a connected parenting approach? I challenge the traditional views and offer insight into how we can foster true responsibility in our children without resorting to shame or force.

In This Episode:

• Redefining accountability in parenting
• Encouraging children to internalize lessons
• Balancing empathy with discipline
• Avoiding shame while teaching responsibility
• The impact of connected parenting on long-term behavior

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Is there a way to navigate sharing disputes that affirm both children's feelings and boundaries? Are sibling meltdowns causing tension in your home? Today, I sit down with Katrina, a mother of two daughters, navigating the tricky terrain of tantrums and toy sharing. Together, we delve into practical strategies for setting boundaries while respecting each child’s feelings, fostering a sense of fairness and validation for both siblings.

In This Episode:

• Handling sibling meltdowns empathetically
• Importance of listening to children’s feelings
• Teaching boundaries using connective principles
• Strategies to self-regulate as a parent
• Repairing and validating sibling relationships

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Does your child connect with some teachers but not others? Have you wondered why? Imagine a classroom where connection, not just curriculum, is the priority. Could this change everything?

Teaching has always been challenging, particularly due to crowded classrooms and lack of support for educators. However, I have personally witnessed how building real connections with students can significantly decrease behavioral problems and improve engagement. With 13 years of experience in public schools, I’ll share my thoughts on why our education system is letting down both teachers and students and explain how shifting our emphasis from academic rigor to nurturing relationships can establish a more productive and empathetic learning environment.

In This Episode:

• Teaching through connection, not curriculum
• Systemic issues in education
• The power of relationships in learning
• Practical tips for teachers
• Parallels between parenting and teaching
• Importance of play in education

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From a troubled teen to a mindful mom: Today, you’ll hear one mom’s journey of breaking the cycle of chaotic parenting. Have you ever felt like you're falling short as a parent despite your best efforts? In this powerful episode, I have an intimate conversation with Taylor, a mom who openly shares her struggles with regulating her emotions and the impact of her challenging upbringing on her parenting journey. Together, we explore practical strategies for overcoming self-doubt, managing sibling rivalries, and fostering a deeper connection with our children.

In This Episode:

• Strategies for managing anger and frustration
• The impact of childhood experiences on parenting
• Fostering connection through daily special time
• Empathetic approaches to resolving sibling conflicts
• Focusing on progress over perfection in parenting
• Recognizing and celebrating personal parenting strengths

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Ever feel the panic rise when your child declares, "I'm bored!" How is your summer going? Is your little one at a loss for what to do? Do you rush to fix it or let them find their own way?

Today, I want to discuss the phrase "I'm bored!" As parents, we often feel the need to constantly entertain and engage our kids, especially during long summer days. But what if embracing boredom could actually benefit our children? I'll share my thoughts on why it's okay for our kids to be bored and how it can help foster their creativity and resilience. Our role as parents isn't to solve every problem for our children but to guide them with love and understanding. So, the next time your child says they're bored, consider it an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

In This Episode:

• Embracing your child's boredom
• Leaning into empathy and connection
• Avoiding the urge to fix everything
• Encouraging creativity through boredom
• Building resilience in our children

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How can we balance the emotional needs of two children in different and challenging stages? Today, I help one mother with her busy world of juggling parenting techniques while maintaining calm and connection.

Corynne is a mother to a three-year-old and a five-month-old, and today, she shares the difficulties of staying calm and connected during intense emotional moments, such as when she is breastfeeding and her older daughter wants to play. We discuss the importance of creating preliminary bonding moments before tending to the baby and explore some of her challenges regarding her husband's contrasting parenting style, particularly when past traumas influence present reactions.

In This Episode:

• Balancing the needs of a toddler and a baby
• How proactive connection eases the transition
• Managing different parenting styles
• Strategies for staying calm under pressure
• The importance of post-incident discussions

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Have you ever felt like you're losing your little one as they grow into a teen? Imagine the mix of pride and heartbreak as your child starts to pull away, seeking independence while you long for those cozy, close moments. How do we navigate this bittersweet transition?

Today, I explore the emotional rollercoaster of transitioning from parenting young children to guiding adolescents. It's a journey filled with unexpected challenges and poignant moments of letting go. As our children grow and seek more independence, we often feel a deep sense of loss, coupled with the fear of not being needed anymore. But this phase, while challenging, is also a crucial period of growth for both parents and children.

I’ll share with you my own struggles and realizations during my daughter Esme's transition into adolescence. From feeling like the center of her world to navigating the painful moments of rejection and the need for autonomy, I want you to understand how important it is to reframe these experiences. By leaning into connection, understanding our children's need for independence, and finding new ways to bond, we can maintain a strong, supportive relationship.

In This Episode

• The emotional impact of children growing up
• Coping with feelings of loss
• Understanding your child's need for autonomy
• Navigating the push-pull dynamics of adolescence
• Balancing safety and independence
• Maintaining connection through the teenage years

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Are you struggling with sibling rivalry or managing multiple kids' needs? Imagine a morning when you’re pulled in every direction, resolving online meeting issues for one child while another is desperate for your attention. How do you manage these conflicting demands without losing your cool or compromising the peace in your home? Today I’m joined by Stephanie, a dedicated stay-at-home mom from Virginia. With four children aged between 6 and 14, Stephanie faces the daily challenges of balancing her kids' needs while maintaining boundaries with empathy. Through our discussion, we uncover some practical solutions for managing sibling rivalry and ensuring each child feels connected and valued.

In This Episode

• Tackling sibling rivalry with neutrality
• The power of empathy in conflict resolution
• Importance of daily special time with each child
• Strategies for handling simultaneous demands
• Reducing the need for punishments and bribes

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Ever wondered if punishing your child for bad behavior might actually be counterproductive? Picture this: your child hits their sibling. Instead of a timeout, what if you offered a hug and some empathy? How might that change the dynamic?

I want to challenge some deeply rooted beliefs in traditional parenting that may benefit from a new perspective, such as the notion that punishment is essential for teaching right from wrong. I believe our children naturally desire to do well and that their behaviors often indicate a need for connection rather than defiance. By understanding the underlying needs that drive your child’s actions, you can foster a stronger bond and guide them with empathy and respect.

In This Episode

• Challenging the necessity of punishment
• Understanding behaviors as cries for connection
• Recognizing the inherent goodness in children
• Responding to misbehavior with empathy
• The impact of traditional wisdom on parenting
• Empowering parents to connect with their kids

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Are you unknowingly falling into controlling patterns with your kids? Can relinquishing bedtime control to your kids transform your evenings and lead to a more harmonious family life? Today, we explore the delicate balance between control and connection in parenting.

I am joined by Carolyn, a mother of three adorable girls, as we explore her journey of shedding control and embracing relational parenting. I dig deep into Carolyn's realization of mirroring her father's authoritarian style and discuss how to pivot towards more empathy-driven interactions.

We discuss Carolyn's specific struggles with sibling rivalry, and I offer practical advice on handling these using natural consequences instead of punitive measures. I hope our conversation provides you with valuable insights and tools to reconsider your approach to parenting. Whether you're dealing with sibling rivalry, bedtime routines, or simply want to improve your family dynamics, this episode has something for you.

In This Episode

• Exploring control and its impact on relationships
• Fostering cooperation naturally, not forcefully
• Allowing children bedtime autonomy
• Addressing sibling rivalry with empathy
• Implementing special time for connection
• Encouraging choices in kids' daily activities

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Are you dreading the summer chaos with kids at home all day? Imagine a summer where connection replaces stress and laughter fills your home. How can you create magical moments without the pressure of extravagant plans?

Today, I want to offer some help to parents struggling with their kids at home during the summer. I want to help you make it enjoyable for both you and your kids. Summers can be challenging with the lack of routine and constant presence of children, but it’s also a perfect opportunity to lean into connections. In this episode, I'll share some practical tips and gentle reminders to help you stay calm and connected during the summer months.

In This Episode

• How to lean into connection to ease summer stress
• Daily special time with each child
• Embracing boredom and its benefits
• Sibling special time to strengthen bonds
• Easy and fun activities at home

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Have you ever restricted your kids' screen time because they talked back? Or perhaps taken away their favorite toy after they fought with their sibling? Today, I am speaking with Noelle, a stay-at-home mom of two young daughters. She has been facing challenges with her 2-year-old's refusal to follow her three-strikes policy.

We delve into the common struggles of many parents: the feeling that their child isn't listening. Noelle shares situations where her daughter resists instructions, leading to tantrums and meltdowns. I provide Noelle with some practical advice on how she can transform her daughter's defiance into cooperation.

In This Episode

• Connection over punishments and rewards
• Cooperation and setting boundaries with empathy
• Dealing with toddler tantrums positively
• Shifting mindset and expectations for parenting success

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Ever felt like your child's whining is driving you up the wall? What if there’s a way to turn this frustrating behavior into a moment of connection and understanding?

Today, I want to help you with a common parenting challenge… whining. It can feel like nails on a chalkboard, but what if we reframed it as a cry for help rather than an annoyance? In this episode, I share my personal experiences and strategies to help you transform your response to whining from correction to connection. Understanding the root causes and responding empathetically can foster a closer bond with our kids and reduce those dreaded whiny moments. Let's explore how to shift our mindset and approach to create a more peaceful and connected parenting experience.

In This Episode

• Understanding Whining
• Empathy Over Explanation
• Holding Firm Limits
• Public Tantrums
• Building Daily Connection

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Are you finding it difficult to stay calm in tense situations? Just picture navigating through parenthood without using punishments or rewards, focusing solely on establishing a strong connection. I'm Michelle Kenney, and today, I'm excited to be joined by the insightful and authentic Destini Ann, who is a certified parenting coach, author, and TEDx Speaker.

Destini and I explore the importance and challenges of self-regulation. We discuss how this approach may not yield immediate results and address misconceptions about natural versus logical consequences. We also highlight the significance of proactive parenting. Destini's insights emphasize that the aim is to build an authentic, collaborative relationship with our children rather than striving for perfection. Additionally, we’ll also leave you with some practical strategies for incorporating connective parenting into your busy lives, empowering you to make a positive change.

In This Episode

• Self-regulation challenges in parenting
• Difference between natural and logical consequences
• Impact of proactive parenting
• Overcoming the myth of the perfect parent
• Integrating connection into busy schedules
• Long-term benefits of connective parenting

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Have you ever felt like the parenting advice you get (from me and any other parenting experts) doesn’t fit your family? Imagine a world where parenting tips are tailored just for you and your child. How can we bridge the gap between general advice and our unique parenting challenges?

In today’s episode, we tackle the giant world of parenting advice. We'll discuss what strategies work, what doesn't, and why. I'll provide insights on how to take general parenting frameworks and tailor them to suit your unique family dynamics. We'll explore why certain methods may require adjustments and how understanding your child’s temperament can make a significant difference. Whether you’re dealing with a defiant teenager or a toddler who uses a pacifier, remember that, above all, it’s about prioritizing connection over correction; every family is unique.

In This Episode

• Understanding general parenting advice
• Adapting tips to fit your child
• Building a strong parent-child relationship
• Handling parenting challenges with empathy
• Embracing imperfection in parenting

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Have you ever felt at your wit's end, not wanting to spend another minute in the presence of your kids? Today, I have a heartwarming conversation with Rachel, a mother who once felt overwhelmed and disconnected from her two young daughters. Rachel bravely shares her initial struggles with her eldest child, who exhibited extreme emotions and behaviors that left Rachel feeling helpless and frustrated. 

Rachel’s journey of growth and understanding demonstrates that with the right tools and support, every parent can move from mere survival to thriving with their children.

In This Episode

• Rachel's initial challenges with emotional shut-down
• Validating your children’s feelings over dismissing them
• The impact of parenting support on family life
• The softer, more connected child after change
• How the sibling relationship transformed with a new approach
• Challenges and successes in ongoing cooperative parenting

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Have you ever wondered why your child may tell lies even when they know they will likely get caught? Just imagine a world where lying isn't seen as a child's desperate escape from trouble but as a way to seek deeper understanding. Let's take some time to explore how we can turn those little lies into opportunities for building strong connections. Today, I want to share with you the emotional and psychological reasons that lead children to bend the truth and emphasize the importance of understanding and empathy. It's important to remember that behind every lie is a child seeking connection and acceptance.

In This Episode

• Why do kids lie to avoid trouble
• The impact of disappointment and shame
• Differentiating between harmless and harmful lies
• Strategies to reduce lying without punishments
• Encouraging honesty through curiosity and empathy

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How did abandoning punishments and consequences transform a father-daughter relationship on the brink? Today, I sit down with Erik, a single father who experienced a profound change in his relationship with his daughter. Erik shares how he moved from seeing her behavior as manipulative to understanding it as a cry for help. His journey started during a crisis when his daughter was battling significant anxiety, stress, depression, and self-harm. Traditional methods of rules and consequences weren’t working, so Erik took a leap of faith with a radical, connective approach that changed everything.

In This Episode

• Shifting from rules to empathy
• Recognizing cries for help in behavior
• Building trust and deepening connection
• The transformative power of words of affirmation
• The importance of self-reflection in parenting

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What happens when natural consequences fail to teach your child a lesson? Today, I tackle challenging situations where natural consequences simply don’t apply. I’ll help you navigate these tricky scenarios with empathy and creativity, offering alternative approaches that still foster growth and learning in your children. Understanding the underlying emotions and motivations behind your child's actions is as important as finding constructive ways to address them without relying on punishments.

In This Episode

• When natural consequences don’t fit the situation
• Understanding your child’s underlying motivations
• Alternative strategies to natural consequences
• Maintaining connection without relying on punishment
• Practical examples of empathetic parenting
• Building resilience and understanding in your child

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What happens when parenting dynamics take a sudden turn? Can connection truly transform challenging behaviors? Today, I sit with Taryn, one of our inspiring Peace and Parenting coaches, to recount her journey from traditional parenting to embracing connective parenting. After facing unexpected challenges with her second child, Taryn discovered the transformative power of hand-in-hand parenting. Her story beautifully illustrates how deeper connection and empathy not only reshape parent-child relationships but also rejuvenate the entire family dynamic.

Taryn shares the complexities she faced when her seemingly 'easy-going' firstborn started showing regressive behaviors and aggression towards her younger sibling. Her light bulb moment led her to embrace new parenting tools, which turned around her family's struggles and cultivated deep bonds. From enduring sibling rivalry to teenagers who feel completely safe in their authentic selves, Taryn's story encapsulates the highs and lows of parental connection.

In This Episode

• Navigating challenges with a second child
• Recognizing and fixing disconnection in parenting
• Transforming through connective parenting tools
• Balancing sibling rivalry with empathy and play
• Sustaining parenting connection through different stages

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What hidden stories from your past are impacting your parenting today? What if the secret to better parenting lies within us? Today, I explore the profound idea of self-regulation and the underlying narratives that influence how we engage with our children.

I open up about a personal session I had recently with a client who is grappling with the complexities of raising a child with ADHD and ODD. Throughout this experience, we uncover how past grievances and unresolved pain can subtly hinder our parenting endeavors. Join me as we explore practical approaches to clearing these mental and emotional obstacles and find empowerment to evolve into a more attentive, compassionate, and connected parent.

In this Episode

• Uncovering hidden stories affecting parenting behaviors
• The importance of self-regulation in parenting
• The impact of unresolved emotions on parent-child connection
• Strategies for recognizing and addressing resentments
• Practical tools for clearing mental blockages

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What if open communication and respect could revolutionize your relationship with your teenager? Today, we're thrilled to bring you a captivating conversation with the one and only Billy Vsco. Billy, who found his way into the world of parenting through his viral TikTok videos and football coaching, has garnered a substantial following. He's now a guiding light for parents, advocating for stronger relationships and better communication with their children.

In this episode, we discuss essential topics like maintaining a strong parent-child relationship even beyond the age of 18, the importance of apologizing and taking responsibility, and the transformative power of open communication and respect. Billy shares insights from his journey, the challenges, and the joys of parenting.

In this Episode

• The impact of apologizing to our children
• Transitioning from a teen to an adult audience
• The role of empathy in parenting multiple children
• Challenges of dealing with criticism in parenting

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Ever wonder if letting your kids fail could actually be the best thing for them? Today, we're diving into the counterintuitive but transformative idea that failure is not only okay but necessary. Join me as I explore why allowing our children to stumble, make mistakes, and experience the natural consequences of their actions in a safe and supportive environment is a cornerstone of connected parenting.

I’ll share practical ways to shift from overprotective habits to fostering independence and learn how to hold space for your children's emotions without rushing in to fix everything. This episode is a must-listen for parents ready to embrace a new approach that empowers their kids to grow into capable, confident individuals.

In this Episode

• Why letting children fail helps them grow
• Creating a safe space for failure
• How to avoid overprotection and emotional shielding
• Embracing failure for deeper learning
• Understanding failures in interpersonal relationships
• The balance between intervention and natural consequences

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Why is understanding a child’s developmental stage crucial for effective parenting? Today, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Joel Warsh, an integrative pediatrician passionate about children's health and well-being. Dr. Warsh shares his frustration with children's over-medication and his journey towards integrative medicine, blending the best of Western and alternative practices. We delve into his new book, "Parenting at Your Child’s Pace," which focuses on de-stressing parents and promoting health from the earliest stages of childhood.

Together, we’ll explore the societal pressures to create 'superhuman' children and the resulting parental stress. Dr. Warsh emphasizes the importance of balance, connection, and trusting our instincts as parents. He shares insights on managing common parenting worries, from growth charts to developmental milestones, reminding us that each child is unique and that most concerns are normal.

In this Episode

• An integrative pediatrician's approach to balanced parenting
• Stress and its impact on parenting
• The importance of developmental milestone understanding
• Navigating societal pressures on perfect parenting
• Balancing discipline: boundaries vs. permissiveness
• Rethinking medication as a last resort

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Is compliance really the goal in parenting neurodivergent kids? Have you ever wondered if there's a better way to connect with your neurodivergent child beyond the conventional methods of rewards and punishments? Today, I reflect on the profound impact of connection in parenting, especially for children with ADHD, autism, and other neurodivergent conditions.

Many believe these kids need strict compliance through rewards and punishments due to their executive functioning challenges. But I challenge that notion. What if the secret to truly supporting our children lies in the strength of our connection with them? I've worked with wonderful families with neurodivergent kids, and I believe that traditional methods might not be the best approach and that connection can foster genuine growth and understanding.

In this Episode

• Connection over compliance for neurodivergent kids
• Traditional methods vs. connection-based parenting
• The challenges with rewards and punishment systems
• Success stories of connection-focused parenting

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Today I sit down with Shelly Robinson, the inspiring founder of Raising Yourself. Shelly shares her transformative experience with reparenting herself and offers powerful insights into inner child work, conscious parenting, and breaking the cycle of punitive approaches.

We delve into the concept of “mom rage” and explore the underlying fears and insecurities that often ignite our outbursts. Shelly’s candid storytelling, including a poignant moment with her young son, will strike a chord with many parents who grapple with similar challenges. This episode isn't just about enhancing your child’s behavior, but also about our own healing and creating a nurturing environment where both parent and child can flourish.

In this Episode

• The importance of connection over punishment
• Using play as a parenting tool
• Addressing “mom rage” with empathy and understanding
• How to handle parental dysregulation effectively
• How to collaborate with children to solve conflicts
• Self-compassion in overcoming parenting challenges

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Have you ever been stung by your child's words? Have you felt the sting of "I hate you" or "shut up" from those you love most? It's a moment that cuts deep, triggering a whirlwind of emotions and questions about our parenting. But what if I told you it's not about us?

Today, I explore the reasons behind hurtful moments, how children react, and how we can respond with grace and empathy. I’ll share some practical tips on supporting our children's emotions without disregarding our own and why punishment is not the solution. It's all about understanding, connection, and allowing our children to express their feelings without judgment. Ultimately, it's not just about how they communicate with us but how we choose to respond that truly makes a difference.

In this Episode

• Understanding children's emotional outbursts
• How to shift focus from personal to empathetic responses
• The importance of holding space for children's feelings
• Exploring the impact of punishment on communication
• Recognizing the role of your environment in behavior
• Embracing grace and compassion in parenting

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Today, I’m joined by guest Mariah, one of our vibrant Peace of Parenting community members. Mariah shares her journey of discovering a new approach to parenting that prioritizes understanding over obedience. From navigating challenges with her strong-willed son to embracing playful corrections, Mariah offers insights that resonate with every parent striving for deeper connections with their children.

We delve into the layers of traditional disciplinary methods, shedding light on the pitfalls of shame and the power of empathy. This episode is packed with practical insights and actionable strategies that you can immediately apply to nurture stronger bonds with your children.

In this Episode:

• How playfulness fosters deeper parent-child connections
• Shifting from correction to empathy-based discipline
• Challenges with strong-willed children and playful solutions
• The importance of avoiding shame in parenting
• Prioritizing understanding over blind obedience
• Cultivating trust, respect, and resilience in children

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Many people often compare connective parenting to gentle parenting, but in reality, they are very different. Today, I want to clarify the misconceptions surrounding gentle parenting and explain how connective parenting encourages children to learn and grow on their own terms. Through empathy, understanding, and a lot of support, connective parenting empowers both parents and kids to navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace. It allows children to fail, stumble, and learn from their experiences.

In this Episode:

• Connective parenting vs. gentle parenting
• Embracing failure as a pathway to growth
• A grounded approach fosters resilience in children
• Empathy and support are foundational parenting tools
• Navigating boundaries with empathy and understanding
• Allowing children autonomy while providing guidance

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How can parents cultivate a healthy balance between responsiveness and setting boundaries? Today, I’m joined by Eli Harwood from Attachment Nerd. Eli's expertise in attachment theory sheds light on the complexities of parenting in today's world. Eli and I delve into the essence of secure attachment, exploring its profound impact on children and parents alike.

Today, we’ll explore the various attachment styles, from avoidant to resistant and even disorganized, and dissect how our childhood experiences influence our parenting styles. Eli will share her four strategies for transforming your parenting journey: show up, listen up, light up, and make up.

In this Episode:

• Attachment parenting styles and their impact
• What is secure attachment: trust, regulation, and support
• Parenting challenges: emotions, boundaries, and repair
• Recognizing and addressing inherited attachment patterns
• Strategies: Show up, listen, light up, make up
• Aim for 30% synchronicity in interactions
• Importance of ongoing research and learning

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Have you ever felt like you were losing the bond with your child? Or struggle to navigate their strong will without resorting to traditional methods of discipline. Today, I want to share my personal experiences with my daughter Esme, whose unwavering spirit challenged me to rethink my approach to parenting.

Parenting my daughter has been a challenging journey. Her strong will and refusal to conform led to moments of frustration and doubt. However, I have witnessed a remarkable transformation in my relationship with Esme by adopting connection-based parenting. By shifting my focus to nurturing our bond, I have created an environment of understanding and empathy in which she has thrived.

In this Episode:

• The challenges of parenting a strong-willed child
• Transitioning from traditional to connection-based parenting
• The impact of connection on parent-child relationships
• How to navigate defiance and maintain empathy
• The importance of nurturing individuality and autonomy

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Are you worried about the kind of friends your child spends their time with? Do you fear that these bad influences might lead them astray? Join me as I sit down with Anna, a fellow parent who shares her concerns about her children's friendships during their tween years. We discuss practical strategies for empowering our children to trust their instincts, navigate peer pressure, and set healthy boundaries. Let's explore how we can help our children stand up for themselves and make better choices in their friendships.

In this Episode:

• Parenting from fear vs. connection
• Embracing empathy in guiding children's choices
• Fostering open communication and understanding
• Navigating peer pressure with resilience
• Cultivating deeper family connections through support

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Ever felt caught in the crossfire of sibling battles, unsure how to step in without taking sides? As parents, we yearn for peaceful homes where our children thrive together. But when it comes to resolving conflicts between siblings, finding the balance between intervention and neutrality can feel like navigating a minefield.

Today, I delve into the transformative power of neutral intervention in sibling conflicts. I’ll explore practical strategies for defusing tension and fostering understanding between siblings without inadvertently fueling the fire.

In this Episode:

• How neutral intervention fosters understanding and harmony
• Empathy empowers children in conflict resolution
• Reframe your approach to conflict resolution
• Create a harmonious sibling dynamic rooted in empathy
• How to guide children to express themselves authentically

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How do you navigate traditional parenting methods when they don't align with your child's temperament? Today, I sit with some of my longtime clients, Danielle and Neal, who discuss their parenting journey with their highly sensitive and strong-willed son, Jack. They tried traditional discipline methods such as timeouts and taking toys away, but these did not work for Jack. As a result, Danielle and Neal sought alternative approaches and eventually discovered Peace and Parenting.

Danielle and Neal share the significant role that working on their childhood issues played in their journey. They also discuss which techniques worked for them, the impact of setting limits without punishments, and the importance of understanding your child and parenting style.

In this Episode:

• Challenges and Traditional Parenting Fails
• Discovering a New Approach to Parenting
• The Impact of Coaching on Parenting and Personal Growth
• The Evolution of Parenting: From Struggles to Success
• Reflections on Parenting Techniques and Setting Limits

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Are you spending your time parenting, or is parenting spending your time? Today on Peace and Parenting, I delve into Pam Leo's profound wisdom, exploring the intricate balance between meeting our children's emotional needs and managing their behaviors.

Drawing from my own personal experiences, I share the transformative power of filling our children's cups with love. From navigating sibling rivalry to taming the spirited soul, we explore how investing in connection yields dividends of resilience and harmony in the years to come.

In this Episode:

• Pam Leo's wisdom on parenting priorities
• Connective parenting vs. traditional methods
• Investing time in connection reaps long-term benefits
• Navigating challenges with empathy and play
• Tools and resources for embracing connective parenting

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Are you ever mortified in public when your child’s voice rockets through the mall? Today, we unpack the nuances of communication, tantrums, and the genuine distress many parents face.

It's a scene familiar to many—a peaceful outing shattered by a sudden outburst from a toddler. Cherry, a mom from my Instagram followers, joins me in sharing her dilemma of dealing with her son's screams in public. This opens a world of parenting concerns centered around societal norms and effective communication. Together, we explore the delicate art of understanding your child's unique signals. I guide her through the thorny paths of public judgment, childhood expression, and the profound power of connection over correction.

In this Episode:

• Responding to a toddler's screams with play
• The stigma around public outbursts in children
• Reflecting on parental reactions to yelling
• Using affection to address behavioral issues
• How to use playful interaction as a parenting tool

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When we punish and discipline our children, are we truly teaching them respect, or are we inadvertently instilling fear? We have been conditioned to believe that respect is synonymous with obedience. But is that really what respect is all about? Today, I want to challenge this conventional thinking and urge you to reconsider your parenting approach. 

From my own experience as a parent, I have realized that respect cannot be forced upon our children. It is something that is earned through genuine connection, kindness, and empathy. While punishments and rewards may seem effective in the short term, they do not necessarily foster respect. Join me as we explore the complexities of respect in parenting and discover how nurturing genuine connections can lead to organic respect from our children.

In this Episode:

• Rethinking respect beyond obedience and fear

• Earning respect through genuine connection and empathy

• How punishments and rewards hinder organic respect

• How mutual respect fosters healthier parent-child relationships

• Nurturing respect: The keys to peaceful parenting

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Could your pursuit of a "perfectly" behaved child be disrupting the peace in your home? This episode will unravel the intricate dance between setting boundaries and forging bonds of connection.

As parents, we tend to focus on controlling our children's behavior and enforcing consequences when they make mistakes. However, what really matters is creating an environment where our children feel safe to make mistakes without fear. By showing empathy toward our children's behavior, we can establish a foundation of trust that is unbreakable. 

Today, I have invited Shauna, one of my Instagram followers, to share how loosening the reins of strict parenting has allowed her to build more authentic relationships with her children. We will discuss how to set boundaries without resorting to punishment, but rather through the warmth of connection. You will learn how to turn homework time into a fun activity and how to handle difficult school transitions with compassion. These methods have the potential to transform challenges into opportunities for growth.

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Are we unwittingly damaging our children by repeating the mistakes of our own upbringing? Today, I'm diving into a question that plagues many of us: Are we ruining our kids? This thought can grip us in moments of frustration and self-doubt. But let me tell you something: You're not alone, and you're definitely not ruining your kids.

As parents, we're often held to impossible standards, haunted by our own childhood traumas, and bombarded with societal pressure to be flawless. But here's the truth: It's okay to make mistakes. In fact, it's human. I've been there—I've yelled, lost my cool, and felt like I'm failing. But here's the thing: It's not about being perfect. It's about being willing to grow and change.

In this Episode:

• Embracing imperfection is essential for growth
• Breaking the cycle of generational trauma
• Cultivating self-compassion in parenting
• Recognizing the impact of unresolved issues
• Seeking help is a courageous step

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Parenting can be challenging, especially in a world that often values achievement and busyness over connection. Have you ever found yourself caught up in the trap of prioritizing tasks over building stronger bonds with your children? It's a common struggle. Today, I have a heartfelt conversation with Erica, a mother who shared her deeply personal experience of transitioning into motherhood through adoption. Her journey highlights the pressures of perfectionism and the impact of her own dysregulation, which many of us can relate to.

We talk about the transformative power of prioritizing connection over control and how it has positively impacted Erica's relationship with her daughter. From embracing vulnerability to dealing with guilt and shame, Erica shares her story with honesty and openness and shares the steps she took to create a nurturing and loving environment for her family. I hope her story resonates with you and helps you on your own parenting journey.

In this Episode:

• The challenges of transitioning into motherhood
• Pressure to be a "perfect" parent
• The impact of personal struggles on parenting
• Overcoming guilt and self-judgment in parenting

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Imagine cutting your kids' chaotic bedtime routine in half and witnessing your relationship thrive in the process. That's exactly what unfolded for Karla and her husband. Struggling to manage the nightly wind-down of their three lively children, they discovered that the secret wasn't in a more rigid schedule but in fostering a deeper bond. Today, I am touched to share Karla's story of transformation.

We unravel how switching up bedtime duties and dedicating special time led to stunning improvements in cooperation and the soul of their family life. This episode isn't just about the strategies that work; it's a testament to the power of empathy, patience, and the ongoing commitment to learning that parenting requires.

In this Episode:

• The struggles of traditional schooling
• Importance of validating children's feelings
• Impact of generational trauma on parenting
• Navigating the balance between empathy and worry
• Exploring alternatives to conventional education

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Imagine cutting your kids' chaotic bedtime routine in half and witnessing your relationship thrive in the process. That's exactly what unfolded for Karla and her husband. Struggling to manage the nightly wind-down of their three lively children, they discovered that the secret wasn't in a more rigid schedule but in fostering a deeper bond. Today, I am touched to share Karla's story of transformation.

We unravel how switching up bedtime duties and dedicating special time led to stunning improvements in cooperation and the soul of their family life. This episode isn't just about the strategies that work; it's a testament to the power of empathy, patience, and the ongoing commitment to learning that parenting requires.

In this Episode:

• Strengthening family bonds through bedtime routines
• Switching off parental duties builds connections
• Integrating "special time" enhances child cooperation
• Avoiding punishment fosters emotional health
• Continuous parenting education promotes improvement

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Today I'm diving into a recent eye-opening experience with my teenage daughter, Pia. Picture this: it's a typical evening until I receive a text that sends my heart racing. Pia and her friend have taken an Uber to the ice cream shop, leaving me puzzled and anxious. What unfolds next reveals a deeper layer of trust, peer pressure, and the delicate balance of parenting teens.

Join me as I navigate the complexities of teenage autonomy, parental trust, and the blurred lines between protection and freedom. We'll uncover the significance of dialogue, understanding, and reevaluating our parenting strategies. How do we balance trust and safety? How can we empower our teens while keeping them grounded? Tune in as we unravel these questions and more because in the world of parenting, every moment is teachable.

In this Episode:

• Navigating trust and peer pressure
• Importance of open communication with teens
• Balancing autonomy and parental guidance
• Understanding the teenage developmental stage
• Reevaluating parenting strategies for teen safety

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Navigating the emotional ebbs and flows of neurodivergent children can feel like sailing uncharted seas. But what if I told you there's a way to foster connection and understanding even in the midst of these turbulences? Today we delve deep into the unique world of parenting neurodivergent children and how prioritizing connection can make all the difference.

My guest, Eloise, shares her heartfelt journey of discovering that empathy and genuine connection were the game-changers she needed to guide her neurodivergent son with love and understanding. She talks about embracing play, creating safe spaces, and understanding each child's diverse needs.

In this Episode:

• Eloise's parenting journey in a challenging year
• Overwhelming transitions and traumatic events
• Discovering the transformative power of connective parenting
• Using playfulness and connection to manage challenging behaviors
• Embracing connection and building strong relationships

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As parents, we often struggle to balance enforcing rules and maintaining a deep, meaningful connection with our children. It's natural to believe that strict guidelines are necessary for shaping our kids' behavior. However, we may unintentionally undermine the very trust and bond we seek to build with them.

I understand how challenging it can be to navigate the complexities of rule-based parenting. Let's explore the underlying motivations driving our rule obsession and how we can cultivate genuine connections with our children. Doing so can foster organic cooperation and instill moral values more effectively than rule enforcement ever could.

In this Episode:

• Rule obsession versus genuine connection.
• Organic cooperation fosters moral values.
• Impact of empathy and mutual respect.
• Breaking free from rule enforcement cycles.
• Prioritizing relationships over rigid guidelines.

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Are you caught in the cycle of correction and control in your parenting journey? Today, I am joined by Nadia, a parent who bravely shares her journey from a place of control to discovering the impact of connective parenting.

Nadia candidly shares her experiences of shedding the instinct to correct and control and embracing empathy and connection instead. Through her journey, she unveils her challenges in stepping away from conventional parenting methods and the profound shifts she witnessed in her family dynamics. Tune in to discover the profound impact of prioritizing connection over control in creating a more peaceful and harmonious family dynamic.

In this Episode:

• The Awakening: From Correction to Connection

• Embracing Change: Letting Go of Control & Shame

• The Impact of Connection: Transforming Family Dynamics

• A New Way of Parenting: Grace and Empathy

• The Journey Ahead: The Road to Peaceful Parenting

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As parents, we put a lot of effort and care into raising our children. However, have you ever felt like you crave recognition for your hard work? As I look back on my own journey as a parent, I've realized that the validation we seek doesn't necessarily have to come from our children. Instead, it should come from within ourselves. Today, I encourage you to think about your own search for validation in parenting. Let's explore together how we can re-parent ourselves, break free from outdated norms, and acknowledge our own personal growth.

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