82. Stop looking to your kids to validate your parenting

In this week’s episode I share a subtle thing I’ve noticed across all the parents I work with. A little hiccup that keeps us stuck, that keeps us in a frustrated power loop and draws us back into conflict with our kids. 

It’s this longing and almost expectation that our kids are going to validate our hard work as parents. We’ve done so much work, we’re putting in a tremendous amount of effort and we still get yelled at, we still get pushback, we still get their aggression. It can feel so defeating and frustrating. It can make us question whether what we are doing as parents is the right thing for our kids. 

And it makes it 10x easier to revert back to the old patterns that we grew up with: yelling, shaming, threatening etc. 

I’m excited for you to listen and please reach out if you had an “ah ha” in this episode! 

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