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276. The surprising science of sibling relationships: Why your kids fight and how to foster closeness with Dr. Jonathan Caspi

55 min • 28 januari 2025

Sibling relationships are some of the longest-lasting and most influential relationships in our lives, but they’re also filled with complexity. Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a renowned expert on sibling relationships, is breaking down the fascinating science behind sibling dynamics and sharing actionable advice for parents.

 

In this episode we explore:

 

- The surprising science behind why if you give two siblings and two strangers personality tests, the siblings wouldn't be any more similar than the strangers.

 

- The importance of neutrality in parental interventions with siblings and how this can prevent feelings of favoritism and resentment.

 

- Practical strategies for managing sibling conflict: Like what to say in the heat of the moment to support their problem-solving skills, what to focus on (and what to ignore) to build closeness and empathy, and how to know it's time to get involved vs. when to let them work it out themselves, and more!

 

- How to respond if your child struggles when you bring a new baby home with methods that foster closeness and decrease rivalry. 

 

- Insider versus outsider status: How parents can unintentionally create sibling rivalry, and what to do instead.

 

- The vital importance of parental regulation and how to stay calm when our “mama bear” instincts are triggered.

 

Whether you’re trying to navigate sibling squabbles, encourage connection, or simply understand the dynamics at play in your own family, this episode is packed with fascinating insights and practical tools you won't want to miss!

 

 

LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JONATHAN CASPI:

https://siblingexpert.com/

 

READ DR. JONATHAN'S BOOK:

📚 Sibling Aggression: Assessment and Treatment

 

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🎧 The science of “mom-rage” and how to use mindfulness as a tool for being less reactive with Diana Winston

 

🎧 Raising emotionally intelligent sons: Parenting boys to combat "toxic masculinity" with Ruth Whippman

 

🎧 Getting on the same page as your partner in parenting

 

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