Sex With Emily

Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags.

So on today’s show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Being upfront and honest in a new relationship is very important
• Lowering your expectations for a one night stand or a situation-ship
• When someone tells you who they are, believe them

Show Notes:

• Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.
• Try our FREE Guides Today!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
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• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Breakups. They can be a painful experience. Trust me, I know. After spending time considering your partner to be such an important aspect of your life, losing them can be like a mini-death. If you have decided your relationship is over and are struggling to know what to do next, this episode is for you. I give my top tips for how to cope and answer all your questions.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to cope with a breakup 
• Tips for giving better oral sex 
• Tools for communicating your needs

Show Notes:

• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Tune into this conversation with the incredible Dr. Josh Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist fellowship-trained in sexual medicine and specializing in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. Dr. Gonzalez has been featured in Vogue and is a medical contributor to Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan, among others. He is a sexual health expert who has built a following on TikTok and Instagram, where he uses social media to educate on sexual and reproductive health. He is also the co-founder of Popstar, a men’s supplement addressing semen health. I loved talking with Dr. Gonzalez. I can’t wait to share his incredible work with you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• That 50 percent of infertility cases are related to male factor infertility. That’s half of the cases, but somehow, we default label infertility as a female issue.
• How oral contraceptive pills cause an elevation in a protein called sex hormone binding globulin in women. This is a protein you don't want large amounts of in your body, as it binds up all of your hormones. When the hormones are bound, they can't be effectively used.
• About the groundswell of men coming into Dr. Gonzalez’s office requesting vasectomies after the overturning of Roe v. Wade.
• How you can easily test your sperm with at-home collection kits. For not much money, you can freeze your sperm, too.

Show Notes:

• More Dr. Josh Gonzalez: Instagram | Website | TikTok
• Try the Popstar Volume & Taste Supplement & Popstar Fertility for Men Today! Save 20% with code "EMILY" at popstarlabs.com/emily
• Try our FREE Guides Today!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to make eye contact during sex
• What to do about sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep)
• How to talk to your partner about not having much sex experience

Show Notes:

• Try our FREE Guides Today!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want to try Promescent's Delay Spray or Arousal Gel? Visit Promescent.com/emily for 15% off your order!
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Did you know that nipple sensations for vulva-owners ignite the same parts of the brain as clitoral stimulation? Today, we’re unlocking all of the overlooked erogenous zones including nipples. ALL genders can potentially have more pleasure and orgasms through nipple play—you just need the proper tips and tricks.  

We hear from a masseuse who is exploring the reality of “happy endings” as well as a couple who’s interested in perfecting the “g-spot orgasm” and closing the orgasm gap. (I like to call it the “g-area”... Find out why!)

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to have a nipple orgasm
• Ways to help with the orgasm gap
• How to respond to a partner who you feel may not be sexually attracted to you 

Show Notes:

• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to find your fantasies and how to talk to your new partner about them 
• What to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross
• How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it)

Show Notes:

• The Yes! No! Maybe? List!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order
• More Elle Chase: Website | Instagram
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

On today’s show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Steps to getting back into dating
• How to talk to your partner about their kinks
• What to do when you want your relationship to be open, but your partner doesn't
• How to talk to your kids about Sex and Sexual Wellness

Show Notes:

• Try our FREE Guides Today! 
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? Well folks, we are getting a kinky education today!

On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Various sexual fantasies, including submission, domination, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and consensual non-consent
• The importance of excellent communication, trust, and consent when exploring fantasies
• How to explore fantasies practically and safely, emphasizing that kink is a form of play meant to enhance relationships and understanding

Show Notes:

• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE 
• Shopify.com/swe
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live.

In today’s throwback episode, I’m taking your Sex With Emily hotline calls and answering your questions. Remember, you can always call and leave a voicemail with your question at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• What to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man)
• How to determine if birth control is tanking your sex drive
• How to communicate with a partner who won’t share their desires

Show Notes:

• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• Try our FREE Guides Today! 
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Have you found yourself fascinated with what's masculine or feminine, especially in the bedroom? On today's episode, volleyball star, Gabby Reece, redefines the modern day versions of these roles and explains why it matters in her marriage.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Gabby's definition of masculine & feminine in her marriage
• Why younger generations may not be having as much sex
• Which sex toys Gabby is into

Show Notes:

• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order.
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever dated a mind reader who just gets you? …Chances are, probably not. Unfortunately for us, deep connections need deep communication skills. I mean, how can your partner know your needs if you don’t tell them? I know it’s not easy, though, and that’s why today’s throwback is all about articulating what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics and hotter sex. You’re welcome!

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What to do if you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had
• How to deal with an emotionally detached partner
• Why you have to communicate to get the kind of touch you need in bed

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Try the LELO DOT Travel Today! 
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Volleyball legend and podcast host Gabby Reece takes the hot seat and reveals all her secrets to being a successful athlete, wife, parent and business owner with her famous surfer husband, Laird Hamilton.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Sex rules to keep your man happy
• How to play farmer and flower to have a long lasting relationship
• Gabby Reece's biggest turn on, it's not what you think it might be
• Why being kind is better than being nice

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure that your sex life follows suit. In this throwback episode, I’m sharing my steamiest ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. If you’re ready for a Hot Girl Summer, this ep’s for you.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties
• Where to (safely) have sex in public
• How to navigate a friends with benefits situation

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever wondered how culture has molded your sexuality? My guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabury, dives deep into this topic on today’s throwback ep, revealing how societal norms have conditioned us to suppress our true desires, cheat ourselves, and live inauthentically. But here's the twist: radically authentic love and desire are within reach! All it takes is confronting the myths we've been fed and making a conscious choice to live freely. Ready to break free and embrace your true self? Tune in. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to rethink marriage as a model for growth
• All about monogamy and why it’s the societal norm (and if it’s even natural…)
• How to replace societal conditioning with worthiness

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• Dr. Shefali: Instagram | Website Podcast: Parenting & You with Dr. Shefali
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Try the LELO SONA 2 TRAVEL today and get 25% when you use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout.
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

QUESTION: If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? I say absolutely! Even if it feels like you’re navigating a minefield, and even if your own parents left you in the dark (because let’s face it, they probably did), I get it – finding the right words can be trickier than solving a Rubik’s Cube. That’s why today’s episode is your ultimate guide, packed with tools, scripts, and resources to help you tackle this touchy topic with confidence and maybe even a little humor. In a couple years, your kid will thank you!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation
• The truth behind masturbation myths 
• Specific verbiage to make these uncomfortable sex talks a little easier

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• The Communication Guide (And Other Guides)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• For a limited time, you can save 20% off sitewide at Justthrivehealth.com with promo code: SEXWITHEMILY
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Have you ever been so in love that you lost your mind? I totally get it, and so does today's guest, sex therapist, author, and host of the podcast Diagnonsense, Todd Baratz, who joined me to chat about all things relationship and why dating can be such a struggle today.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How oral sex can make or break your relationship
• What to do when you date men who don't know how to connect emotionally
• Why we need to stop diagnosing everyone

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE 
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Did you know that the lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety and depression? How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Ever since the pandemic, many of us have been touch-starved, but now it’s time to feast. On today’s throwback show I’ll share how to satisfy your skin hunger and bring more touch and intimacy back into your life.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What questions to ask yourself to figure out if your relationship is where you want it to be
• How to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom
• How to get back into the dating scene

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• Pleasure Planner + Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• Shop Promescent for 15% off your order!
• Shopify.com/swe
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Why is it that vulva owners are the ones tasked with preventing pregnancy? That’s the burning question we’ve all been thinking about since 2017. 

On today’s throwback show, we’re diving into this hot topic with Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the mastermind behind a viral thread and the book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Joining us is my dear friend, anthropologist, and author, Dr. Wednesday Martin, to help unpack this loaded discussion. In our post-Roe world, Gabrielle—mother of six and a devout Mormon—is fiercely advocating for the importance of women’s lives and their pleasure. Get ready for an eye-opening conversation!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How society pressures vulva owners to become mothers
• Why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies
• How to talk to young penis owners about ejaculating responsibly

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Take the SWE Listener Survey Here!
• Gabrielle’s Viral Twitter Thread
• Ejaculate Responsibly
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Let's face it: sex isn't just a switch you can flip on and off. It's more like a whole playlist of tension, arousal, body exploration, playful antics, and steamy teamwork — there’s a lot more than just the main event. So, what do you do when you're ready to get it on, but your body keeps hitting snooze? In today’s show, I’ll show you my favorite tips and tricks and address even the most perplexing arousal questions. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• My special trick for giving oral sex with a gag reflex
• How to deal with vaginismus
• Why communication can fix (almost) every sex problem

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE 
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Imagine: You've got that special someone who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The trust is there, the connection is solid. But sometimes the fire just fizzles out when it comes to sex. I get it. When the routine starts feeling a bit too...routine, it's time to switch things up and rediscover what really gets your engine revving (and sometimes, it’s not your partner!).

On today’s throwback we're diving deep into the world of sexual attraction - what it is, how it's different from romantic love, and most importantly, how to use that knowledge to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Because at the end of the day, switching it up never hurt anybody. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why sexual attraction can feel so distinctly different than long-term love
• What to do when you and your partner are both submissive
• When you should hang onto your friend with benefits – and when to let them go

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• Sex and Psychology
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today’s throwback show, I talk to the one and only Shaun T, host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but, as you’ll learn in the episode it took a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. But hey, if he can do it, you can too. Trust me: if you’ve been looking for inspo to feel yourself in the bedroom, this convo is an absolute must. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How Shaun and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids
• Why you have to do the work to heal from trauma – and why it’s so rewarding
• Shaun’s genius sex and arousal hacks

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• What’s Your Arousal Type?
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• This episode is brought to you by: Bathmate (Use code EMILY10 or visit the link for 10% off)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about knowing yourself and being crystal clear about what you want from your casual encounters. This episode, I’ll be teaching you how to dive into casual sex with purpose and channel your inner Samantha Jones.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• All the different types of casual sex out there
• How to know if casual sex is right for you (because it isn’t for everyone!) 
• When it’s best to turn down a potential partner

Show Notes:

• Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch!
• 7 Myths of Non Monogamy
• Friends With Benefits: A Guide
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• LOKI WAVE 2
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I had the pleasure of talking to the “Scientific Carrie Bradshaw”, a.k.a Amy Chan, the revolutionary mind behind Renew Breakup Bootcamp, to talk about all things relationship. We chat about how her heartbreak helped in creating Breakup Bootcamp, why being present during dates is hard but necessary, and why dating outside of your comfort zone might be the key to finding the one. If you’re sick of swiping left and tolerating toxicity, this one’s for you.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to measure your chemistry compass 
• Why it’s important to date that short person (even if they aren’t exactly your type!)
• How to spot the “green flags” in a relationship

Show Notes:

• Attend Dating Bootcamp! 
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
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Eager to transform your hottest sexual fantasy into reality? Then today’s throwback Ask Emily show is for you! I'll be taking calls about fantasies and offering concrete tips on how to actualize them. However, it's essential to recognize that this journey is a blend of creativity and strategy. You must embrace your sensual desires, visualize intensely passionate — and perhaps even forbidden — scenarios, and explore what genuinely excites you! Lucky for you, I’ve given you tips on how to do just that. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery…

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to go about finding a “third” if your partner’s been hinting at cuckolding
• The 411 on play parties (and how to stay safe if you go to one!)
• What to do if you’ve been craving a sexual fantasy, but your imagination’s been letting you down

Show Notes:

• The Yes, No, Maybe List
• Fetlife
• Feeld
• #Open
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s my favorite month of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s throwback show, I’m honoring the month of self-love and giving you a brief history of the celebration, the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys and lubes for bringing you pleasure this May and all year long.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• What to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator
• Why masturbation can help you have orgasms during sex with your partner
• Signs that you’re masturbating too much

Show Notes:

• Mutual Masturbation Guide
• For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE 
• SEX WITH EMILY VESPER
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my conversation with my friend, YouTube personality, public speaker, and author Matthew Hussey. We chat about his latest book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What, Matthew’s texting skills, and why it’s best to follow your path and not your feelings. And if you were wondering about the texting cliffhanger from Part 1, it’s answered in today’s show. Enjoy!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Why “avoiders” can be more of a red flag in relationships than liars
• When to make things work and when it's not worth it
• Why speaking your truth is sexy

Show Notes:

• Find Your Person & Lead Your Love Life w/ Matthew Hussey Pt. 1
• Matthew’s New Book: Love Life
• LELO Tor 3 (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie…

But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O.  

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop
• Ways to talk dirty without swearing
• How to bring back an MIA orgasm

Show Notes:

• Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!)
• Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen in on my conversation with my friend Matthew Hussey. You may know him as the inspirational YouTube personality, author, and public speaker who has revolutionized the world of dating advice with his amazing methods. We chat about emotional journeys, what Matthew has learned in his experience as a relationship coach, and ways to take charge of your love life. If you've been in a dating slump, this is the episode for you.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to take charge of your love life
• Why reflecting on your instincts is a game changer
• The value of valuing yourself first

Show Notes:

• Matthew’s New Book: Love Life
• More Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Youtube
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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Today, I continue my candid convo with my friend Falguni, answering all your hottest and most personal sex questions. From my experiences in threesomes to my favorite positions, no question goes unanswered. If you’ve ever wondered what the mile high club is like or how to tell your partner they could step up their sex game, tune in. Trust me, this is an episode you won’t wanna miss.  

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Why penetration alone might not always give you an orgasm   
• How to take control of your orgasm 
• Why communication is the most important part of your threesome

Show Notes:

• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• LELO DOT Travel (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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Happy 4/20! While direct research is still in development, there's no denying the potential benefits of cannabis for enhancing your sexual experiences. Researchers theorize that the plant can unlock a world of heightened eroticism, tranquil minds, and pain-free sex. On today’s show, I chat about ways cannabis might light up your sex life, my favorite products and delivery methods for the occasion (I’m a huge edible fan!), and how to figure out if cannabis is right for you. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

•  How cannabis can affect sexual performance 
•  How to decide if you should bring cannabis into the bedroom
• My fave product recommendations for 4/20 fun

Show Notes:

• 6 Ways to Use Cannabis for Sex: A Guide
• The Journal of Cannabis Research Study
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide until 4/30/24)
• For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE  
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
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Buckle up: Today’s show is one you’ve all been waiting for…and spoiler alert, it’s all about me! I sat down with my good friend Falguni to flip the script and spill the tea on what sex with Emily is actually like (pun intended)! Tune in to hear me get up close and personal about my sexual journey, why I faked my orgasms until my 30s, and sex trends that I see making a comeback in the near future. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

•  How I stopped having performative sex
•  How to push past the pleasure thieves for fulfilling sex
•  My go-to positions and products for the best orgasms

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today’s gut-busting episode I dive deep into the tango between your belly's bacteria and your sexual wellness. And who better to guide us through this intestinal intrigue than Tina Anderson, the gut guru and CEO of Just Thrive, the brand whose mission is to reboot your microbiome. Prepare to have your life changed as Tina spills the beans on how bacteria in your gut really calls the shots, influencing everything from your mood swings to your mojo. 

Buckle up, lovers and health hackers, as we explore the steamy science that'll have you rethinking your next date night dinner. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What low libido, keeping the spark alive, erectile challenges, and gut issues all have in common
• How hormones and the gut biome each affect each other in a bi-directional system
• Why the 3 pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) also impact our general health and wellness

Show Notes:

• Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide at checkout!)
• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s 2024, and there’s no denying that everybody has sexual needs. However, it can be really difficult to articulate them and share them with your partner. On today’s throwback Ask Emily show, I’m here to help you take that vital next step and get your needs fulfilled. From those who’ve never had an orgasm before to those who just want to communicate with their partners better, I’ve got you! 

Just remember: for every sex problem, there is a path forward. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to communicate your sexual needs (even if your partner shuts down sex convos)
• Techniques to give your partner a crazy orgasm
• What to do if your partner desires things you might not be sure about like swinging

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I revisit my conversation with Dolly Josette, the PleasureMuse who turned the world of breathwork into the ultimate erotic adventure! Imagine unlocking a treasure chest of sensations and full-body orgasms you never knew you had with the work of meditation.. Dolly isn't just any guide on this journey; she's the Gandalf of sexual enlightenment, hailed by the high councils of Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines as a pioneering Sexological Bodyworker. But what truly sets her apart isn't the accolades; it's her magical ability to awaken the dormant erotic energy within women and couples, guiding them from numbness to dizzying heights of orgasmic bliss. So, if the idea of exploring the vast, uncharted territories of pleasure sounds good to you, Dolly Josette is ready to lead the way!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to hack your nervous system for better sex
• Why so many vulva owners are trained to numb from the waist down (and how to fix it!)
• How to become a great masturbator

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• More Dolly Josette - The Pleasure Muse 
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Mental health and sexual desire – do you have to choose between one or the other? It's a conundrum that's more common than you think, and it's a topic that's sure to get you thinking! Antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesavers for many, but they can also leave you feeling a little, well, deflated in the bedroom department. On the other hand, if your depression goes untreated, it can be tough to get in the mood. So, how do you navigate this predicament?

Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of this struggle, and you'll hear from some of our listeners who've been there. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How to understand the effects your mental health has on your sex drive
• Sexy strategies to manage the side effects of antidepressants
• Alternative treatments and lifestyle changes to maximize your pleasure

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all other products)
• LELO DOT Travel
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It's commonly said that the brain is the most significant sexual organ in the human body. But is it possible to manipulate our brains to enhance happiness or even improve our sexual experiences? Dr. Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist and acclaimed author, has compiled the most extensive collection of brain scans globally. Through analyzing this data, he has uncovered intriguing insights: by adopting habits grounded in neuroscience, we can significantly enhance our mental well-being, elevate our mood, and indeed – enrich our sexual lives. Tune in now to discover how to take control of your mind and enjoy the benefits.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• The way stress hormones can interfere with our sexual hormones
• Techniques to shield yourself from mental "noise"
• The reasons why individuals who are happier generally enjoy longer lives, maintain healthier relationships, achieve greater success professionally, and experience more fulfilling sex lives

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• Order Dr. Daniel Amen's New Book, Raising Mentally Strong Kids
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Sexting: it’s basically the foreplay of the 21st century - a steamy, sultry way to turn up the heat without even being in the same room. But let's be real, sending a bunch of suggestive emojis out of the blue might leave your partner scratching their head. That's why you need to master the art of sexting, and I'm here to help you do just that. In this show, I'll give you the inside scoop on how to craft the perfect sext, from the right tone to the perfect use of emojis. With my pro tips, you'll be able to turn up the heat and leave your partner begging for more. So buckle up, because we're about to take your sexting game to a whole new level!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How emotional intelligence influences your sexting skills
• How to manage your devices so messages don’t end up in the wrong place
• How to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• Sexting Guide
• Yes, No, Maybe List
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• LELO Sona 2 Travel
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Looking to connect with your partner on a whole new level? Lucky for you, today’s episode with human connection specialist Mark Groves will give you the tools to do just that. Mark uses his emotional translation skills to give accessible relationship and wellness advice to others and shares his relatable ways to be your most authentic self. From discussing a Thanksgiving dinner that changed his life to examining past toxic behavior, Mark and I dive deep into ways to become wiser in love. Get ready to get vulnerable, today’s show gets DEEP!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to break free from codependent relationships
• Why reflecting on past experiences is the key to better relationships
• Why we should all be using the word “boner again

Show Notes:

• Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE!
• Pre-order Mark’s new book: LIBERATED LOVE
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• LELO F1S V3
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

WARNING, WARNING: Your climax has exited the premises. Ever wondered why achieving orgasm can feel effortless with one partner but challenging with another? Or why squirting might occur without reaching climax? On today's throwback episode of Hotline Calls, we're delving into the topic of orgasm and its hidden secrets. Tune in for an orgasmic time. 

Got a burning question? Feel free to reach out and leave a voicemail anytime at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• The difference between squirting and orgasming
• How to orgasm for the first time, if you never have
• How to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve 

Show Notes:

• Buy tickets to my San Diego, CA Show on April 10, 2024 HERE! 
• Buy tickets to my Phoenix, AZ Show on April 18, 2024 HERE!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• OhMiBod Sphinx
• OhMiBod Foxy
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here

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Weddings: They're like a beautiful blend of tradition and flowers, but let's be real – Is married sex worth all the hype? Let's face it, folks. Married sex often gets stuck in this rut of tired old cliches. But guess what? It doesn't have to be that way! 

We're so over settling for dull or non-existent intimacy as we journey through life with our partners. So, buckle up because on today's show, I'm all about shaking things up to make sex with your spouse hot again. From crafting your own set of sex vows before you take that stroll down the aisle to pleasure planning with your long-time partner, we're rewriting the playbook on honeymoon passion. Oh, and we're diving into the cultural landscape of love, sex, and relationships because times are definitely changing!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to navigate bisexuality in a straight marriage
• What it means if you find yourself jealous at your friend’s wedding
• How to bring back the spark…even when the spark was a little dim in the first place

Show Notes:

• Buy tickets to my San Diego, CA Show on April 10, 2024 HERE! 
• Buy tickets to my Phoenix, AZ Show on April 18, 2024 HERE!
• Yes, No, Maybe Guide 
• Pleasure Planner 
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I’m joined by Liz Moody, the best-selling author and podcast host who shares insightful tips to help transform your life in all different aspects in her new book, 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success. We discuss her personal strategies for prioritizing wellness, ways to run your home like a CEO, and how to make your ideal Sex Bill of Rights. Tune in for so many amazing tips and tricks to upgrade your life!

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How planning your funeral helps you live a fulfilling present life
• Why it's important to run your home like you’re the CEO
• My new term "micro intimacy” and why that will be a game changer

Show Notes:

• Check out Liz’ New Book HERE
• LELO F1S V3 (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here

Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen up, assholes! Relationships and sex dynamics can be pleasure-filled and intimate, and also complicated and messy. Today, Producer Erica and I are reading your AITA questions and letting you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships. We answer questions like: AITA for wanting more sexual tension and intimacy in our relationship? AITA for re-evaluating a new relationship after they told me they have an STI? AITA for breaking up with my partner because they won’t go down on me? And more.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• How to communicate your sexual needs effectively with your partner
• What to do if your partner tells you they have an STI
• How to heighten sexual tension

Show Notes:

• Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!)
• Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I had a candid conversation with Chelsey Goodan, also known as the Teenage Girl Whisperer, about empowering teenage girls in today's society. Chelsey shares her insights from working with teenage girls for over a decade and discusses the challenges they face regarding sexuality, self-expression, and societal expectations. Join us as we explore the power of communication, empowerment, and authenticity in supporting teenage girls on their journey to self-discovery and empowerment.

In this episode you’ll also learn: 

• Effective communication strategies
• The power of radical honesty and authenticity in building relationships
• How to break cycles of criticism, self-doubt, and judgment

Show Notes:

• Chelsey’s Book: Underestimated
• Promescent.com/Emily (15% off your order!)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever wondered if there's a way to spice things up in the bedroom AND reignite the spark between you and your partner? Well, today I'm about to help you crack the code of the 5 Love Languages and supercharge your relationship. I'll also tackle your burning questions like what to do when you and your partner speak different love languages (more common than you’d think), how to keep the love alive in a long-distance relationship, and sex hacks based on your unique love language combo.

And if that wasn't enough, I also discuss some awkward situations like accidentally critiquing your partner's penis or navigating that awkward phase when you and your partner feel like the spark is gone.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• All about the 5 Love Languages
• How to keep the flame burning in a long-distance relationship
• How to best express your desires with your partner (even if your love languages are different!)

Show Notes:

• Je Joue Mimi Soft
• Talk Dirty to Me w/ Joanna Angel
• Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I teamed up with the brilliant developmental psychologist and host of the Raising Good Humans podcast, Dr. Aliza Pressman, for a rollercoaster ride through the wild world of parenting, sexuality, and relationships. From decoding the mysteries of "the talk" with kids to unraveling the enigma of why millennials and Gen-Zers might be having sex less often, we left no stone unturned. Join us as we dive headfirst into understanding and embracing children's gender identities and sexual orientations, all while figuring on how to be the best humans we can be. 

Get ready, because this episode isn't just about parenting—it's about living your best life and loving fiercely along the way!

Show Notes:

• 5 Principles of Parenting OUT NOW!
• More Dr. Aliza Pressman: Website | Instagram 
• Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase!
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here

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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

When you think of BDSM and kink, I’m sure leather and whips come to mind. But what if I told you that there’s much more to kink than that? Today, I’m here to sprinkle some spice and shed light on the art of BDSM and kink. First up, we'll define key terms and provide a comprehensive understanding of BDSM because let's face it, who really knows what "BDSM" stands for anyway? Then, we'll explore the psychology behind power dynamics and the core desires behind kinky practices. And last but certainly not least, we'll serve up some tantalizing tips for bringing a bit of kink into your bedroom – whether you're flying solo or have a partner in crime.

So, buckle up (or should I say, buckle down?), because we're about to embark on a journey into the wild and wonderful world of kink!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What BDSM and Kink are really about 
• The psychology behind dom/sub dynamics
• How to fearlessly bring kink into the bedroom

Show Notes:

• What NOT to Say to Your Partner When Talking About Sex
• How to Squirt (For Real)
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• LELO Tiani Duo
• We-Vibe Melt
• Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase!
• 5 BDSM Games To Spice Up Your Sex Life Tonight
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
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See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with #1 NYT Bestselling author Gabby Bernstein. As a spiritual leader and motivational speaker, Gabby shares how you can manifest the sex life you want but through a practical, less woo, lens and how to work through sexual trauma and change your core beliefs around sex. We also get into Internal Family Systems therapy and how young women today speak about sex differently than our generation.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• How spirituality can enhance your sexuality
• How to boost your confidence (in and out of the bedroom)
• Tools for working through trauma

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• My appearance on the Dear Gabby podcast!
• More Gabby Bernstein: Website | Instagram
• Happy Days
• The Universe Has Your Back
• Self Help (coming 2/31/24)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here

Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

We all want to grow and become better versions of ourselves. And no where is that more true than our sex lives. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to find solid friends with benefits
• Masturbation techniques
• The anatomy of the vulva!

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Psychology of Your Kink
• How to Squirt (For Real)
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Playground Lube
• Je Joue Mimi
• Je Joue Hera
• Magic Wand
• Insertion Toys
• Dual Stimulation Toys
• #Open
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

It’s the season of love - self love! That’s right, this Valentine’s Day, I’ve got all of you singles covered. In today’s Best Of episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How often you should masturbate in a relationship
• How to try masturbation when you never have
• The magic of mutual masturbation

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Psychology of Your Kink
• How to Squirt (For Real)
• Your February Solo Sex Challenge
• LELO DOT (up to 50% off until the end of February, code EMILY10 for an additional 10% off)
• We-Vibe Touch
• Je Joue Mimi
• We-Vibe Rave
• We-Vibe Nova
• Pjur Water-Based Lube
• Aneros Prostate Massager
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma
• How to get clearer on your sexual desires
• About the experiences of sex workers

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Give a Prostate Massage
• 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Erika Lust porn
• Vice Series: Sex Before the Internet
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Orgasms are one of the most pleasure-filled parts of sex. But what’s actually happening in your body when you have one? Today, I’m breaking down the physiological process of different kinds of orgasms and explaining how to have them. I also reveal how to find your G-area and have a G-spot orgasm, what it means to have a dry orgasm, what squirting really is and how to do it. Plus, I get into your orgasm questions.

In this episode, you’ll also learn:

• The anatomy of the clitoris, vulva, and penis so you can better stimulate them
• The many benefits of orgasms, for both your mental and physical health
• Tips for communicating with a partner if you no longer want jackhammer sex

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Give a Prostate Massage
• 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts
• LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I’m bringing you all into a LIVE conversation I had with renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, during a recent event in New York! After releasing her bestselling book on sex, Come As You Are, in 2015, Emily’s own sex life took a hit. Today, we discuss how she brought her sex life back from the dead, the Pleasure Thieves, and why it’s okay to stop sex once it’s already started.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to identify your sexual brakes and accelerators
• About the connection between wearing socks and having more orgasms
• How stress impacts your sex drive desire

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship)
• Magic Wand Micro
• Come Together, Dr. Emily Nagoski: Amazon | GoodReads | Bookshop
• More Dr. Emily Nagoski: Instagram | Website
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m here to make sure it’s your best one yet. First, I get into some common Valentine’s Day myths and things you should never do on the sexy holiday. After that, I’ll share some creative ways you should celebrate to ensure that your Valentine’s Day is hot, intimate and of course, sexy. Plus, I share some of my listeners’ favorite Valentine’s Day moments for some hot inspiration.

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• How to incorporate blindfolds into sexual play
• Which toys can be used during penetration
• How to cultivate sexual desire & intimacy

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship)
• How to Do the Kivin Method
• LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February 2024)
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• Massage Candles
• Le Wand Crystal
• Glass Dildo
• Cozy Earth (code “SEXWITHEMILY” for 35% off)
• Magic Wand
• Masterclass (use link for 15% off the 1st year of an annual subscription)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

On today’s Best Of episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily Hotline. We get into: how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to set intentions for new relationships
• How cannabis can improve your orgasms and intimacy
• How to guide a partner during oral sex

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship)
• How to Do the Kivin Method
• The Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• EMDRIA
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with a partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What “spectatoring” during sex means, and how to overcome it
• Tips for sharing a sexual fantasy with a new partner
• How to navigate mismatched libidos in a long-term relationship

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean)
• Solaray (code 20STAGES for 20% off)
• We-Vibe Nova Shop Site
• Podcast: Hotline Calls: Why Can’t I Orgasm?
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

To feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. So today, I’m taking some of my favorite Hotline calls on trust and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, and now sex feels sorta gross? What if you tell a new partner you love them, and they don’t reciprocate? Or how about being “too picky” of a dater - is it really because they’re all duds, or are there some underlying trust issues there? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• How to move forward after infidelity, whether you were the cheater or the cheated on
• Tips for feeling comfortable with new partners
• What to do when it feels like the “spark” is gone

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean)
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Podcast: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I’m answering my listeners’ most personal sex and relationship questions LIVE today. Can you only orgasm with straight legs? I’ve got positions and recommendations to help you get there. Nervous that chastity play is giving your partner delayed ejaculation? I ease your worries and help you collaborate with your partner for mutually fulfilling sex. Plus, we get into other kinky calls like erotic lactation and anal sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to teach your body new ways to orgasm
• Common causes of vaginal pain
• About chastity play and penis cage safety

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Initiate Sex
• LELO Hugo 2 Remote (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Sometimes, in our sex lives and relationships, it can be easy to wonder: Am I the Asshole? Don’t worry, because in today’s episode, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory in your sexual situations, like: AITA for wanting oral sex every time, not just on special occasions? AITA for rejecting my partner’s advances in the middle of the night? Or how about: AITA for getting upset when my partner turns me down? It’s a juicy one.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• Creative solutions for mismatched libidos
• What to do if you’re in a sexless relationship
• Tips for healthy sex conversations

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Initiate Sex
• Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide)
• Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Today I am bringing back LIVE Hotline Calls! Not only that, holistic psychologist, author, and my newest friend, Dr. Scott Lyons, joins me back on the show to help me answer your questions. From concerns about sexual compatibility to avoiding jackhammer sex, you will hear the change in these callers’ voices as we help them in real-time.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Effective ways to tell your partner you want to explore sexually
• How to have sex talks with a partner who gets uncomfortable
• How to feel confident going into a date

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Magic Wand Micro
• Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website
• The Embody Lab
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Burnt out from dating? Do you feel like you’ll never meet “the one?” In today’s episode, celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman dispels common dating myths and suggests new dating pillars. Plus, she tells us which dating rules to follow (and which to disregard), the #1 expectation for men on dates with women, and how to make your online dating profile stand out.

In this episode, you’ll also learn:

• How much chemistry really matters on a date
• Who should make the first move
• How to track your dates to be more strategic

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024
• F the Fairy Tale, Damona Hoffman: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• More Damona Hoffman: Instagram | TikTok | X (Twitter) | Website
• Dates & Mates Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website
• DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I dive into the psychology of foreplay and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. I also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to explore new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to set the mood for hotter, more intimate sex
• Specific sex tips to seduce a partner
• The key differences between couples with ‘great’ vs. ‘bad’ sex lives

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever
• 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024
• Podcast: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation
• Flavored Lubes
• Massage Candles
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk?
• Podcast: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel
• Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation
• Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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I’m answering your top asked sex questions of 2023 and taking a trip through the hottest moments of the year. It’s the last episode of 2023, and there were definitely some standout episodes you all loved the most. So I’m playing some of the highlights, from my fascinating conversation with Esther Perel to my top Hand Play tips, before answering your top questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What squirting really is and how to do it
• How often the average couple has sex
• How to have satisfying sex on SSRIs

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever
• Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel
• More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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I’m always encouraging you all to set goals for yourself in your sex life and relationships, and there’s arguably no better time than in the New Year. Today, Producer Erica and I review predictions for 2024 sex and relationship trends, make some of our own predictions, and suggest some New Year’s resolutions to make 2024 your sexiest year yet.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• About the living apart, together movement
• What pleasure mapping is, and how to do it
• What percentage of successful couples schedule sex

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Get to Know Your Body with “Vulva Mapping”
• LELO Dot
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Is it okay to get turned on thinking about my partner with someone else? How can we maintain intimacy amid financial stress? Is it possible to be a feminist and also want to be submissive in the bedroom? Should I be honest with my partner that I’ve never had penetrative sex before? You all ask the best questions, and I’m here to answer them in today’s juicy Hotline Call episode.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to create new fantasies, when you always have the same one
• How to watch porn creatively with a partner
• How to prioritize pleasure, even during your busiest weeks

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends
• Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide)
• Opening Up: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• The Ethical Slut: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• Open Deeply: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• Insight Timer
• Breathe App
• Where Should We Begin? Card Game
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Some sex and relationship advice is better than others. Today, Producer Erica and I review some of the most trending sex and relationship advice from TikTok this year, from “how to make them fall in love with you” and love bombing, to when you should sleep with someone or if the “bird test” will tell you whether you should stay with your partner or not. While reviewing all this advice, we’ll let you know if we agree or disagree.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to maintain sexual tension in long-term relationships
• How to avoid “mothering” your partner
• Whether it’s possible to make someone fall in love with you

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• How to Use a Penis Pump
• Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends
• LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Today, we’re diving into a topic I know you all love: sex positions! Today, I’m answering your juiciest positions questions before breaking down the top 3 sex positions, giving you the pros and cons of each one and adaptations to make them even better. Sex positions are often the first things people ask me about when looking to spice up their sex lives - so I’m giving you some options!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to feel confident on top
• Why pillows are the secret weapon to upleveling sex positions
• Pleasurable positions for curved penises and tilted uteruses

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way) 
• How to Use a Penis Pump
• Je Joue Gift Sets (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off)
• 6 Ways to Upgrade 69
• We-Vibe Rave
• LELO Loki Wave
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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On today’s Hotline show, I take your calls about having sex talks like: How to relax into oral sex and give your partner tips to make you scream. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. And how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this Best Of episode, and see if your next sex talk is a little bit easier. 

In this episode, you’ll also learn:

• All about the Kivin Method
• Whether age gaps really matter in relationships
• How to share sex toys safely

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them
• Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way) 
• FirmTech (bundle the Tech Ring with a 1:1 consultation and save $230 with code EMILY)
• Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class
• Everybody Loves Oral
• Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
• Sex With Emily Vesper Vibrating Necklace
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Solo sex is an integral part of being sexually healthy. But how do you spice up your masturbation routine? And how do you get rid of shame surrounding solo sex? I get into all this and more in today’s Best Of episode, including: the health benefits of masturbation, common masturbation fantasies, and whether or not your vibrator is desensitizing your clitoris.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How often the SWE community has solo sex
• How to practice mindful masturbation
• How to establish a healthy masturbation routine

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• How to Find the G-Spot
• Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (45% off sitewide, code EMILY for an additional 15% off)
• Edging 101 & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Ever felt like orgasming with a partner is like solving a Rubik's cube blindfolded? Well, you're not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I dive headfirst into this problem with a few tricks up our sleeves. Next on the agenda: how to tell your loving partner you want to be humiliated in the bedroom. I give you the tools to help your partner feel more comfortable with the idea. Then we discuss the ever growing debate: is masturbating with a cam girl considered cheating? Stick around to hear my two cents. And finally, we're talking about masturbating, even when you've got a willing partner on standby. We'll weigh the pros and cons, and why solo sex deserves just as much love as partnered sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• About core erotic desires
• The benefits of masturbation (by yourself and with a partner)
• How to communicate your fantasies to a partner

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69
• How to Find the G-Spot
• Magic Wand Micro
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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From cheating to sexless marriages, we’re back with another juicy Am I the Asshole? episode. Today, Producer Erica and I let you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships, answering questions like: AITA for wanting to leave my partner after he cheated, when I cheated first? Or AITA for not wanting my fiancé to talk about sex with my best friend? Tune in to find out and let me know what you think in my socials!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why you should practice new positions after a sex session
• How to navigate mismatched libidos
• The importance of establishing new goals for a relationship after infidelity

Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider
• 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The psychology behind our top sexual fantasies
• How to accept your fantasies, even when they feel like the most shameful
• Success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider
• LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• At what point in a relationship it's appropriate to gift someone a sex toy
• How to introduce sex toys to a new partner
• My top gift recommendations for your loved ones

Hottest Gift Guide Ever: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide
• The Giftables Collection by Plus One (30% off orders over $50, 30% off sitewide on Cyber Monday)
• The Rose by PlusOne
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Magic Wand Micro
• Je Joue Couples Collection
• Playground Mood Maker
• Je Joue Mimi
• OSEA Essential Hydrating Oil
• Brooklinen Super-Plush Bath Towels
• Bearaby Weighted Blanket
• Contigo Stainless Steel Travel Mug
• Sex Toys for Penises by Arcwave
• LELO LOKI Wave (code EMILY10 for an extra 10% off existing sales)
• Omala Skin Balm Candle
• HigherDose Red Light Face Mask
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Gel
• Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

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‘Tis the season… for more sex! Today, Producer Erica and I dive into the reasons why people have more or less sex over the holidays, how to maintain intimacy when you’re staying with relatives, and my top discreet toy recs. We also get into relationship dynamics over the holidays: Should you break up before or after? Should you bring them home to meet the parents? Should you hang out with your holiday hookup? And so much more.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• Why sex drives peak and decline over holiday breaks
• The best places to have sex while home for the holidays
• Things to notice in a partner while traveling

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• Je Joue Mimi, G-Spot Bullet Vibrator & More
• LELO Dot Clitoral Vibrator
• Womanizer Premium 2 Suction Toy
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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The Hotline is ringing, and we’re answering! Producer Erica and I answer all your juicy questions, from discomfort around a partner’s sexual history to how to find a third for a threesome. We also discuss prioritizing solo sex during stressful times like divorce, as well as how to manage premature ejaculation when you’ve started foreplay outside the bedroom.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to send sexy texts with confidence, even if you’ve never sexted with your partner before
• Suggested steps before bringing someone else into the bedroom
• Navigating age differences in relationships

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever
• Feeld.co/Emily for 30 Days of Free Majestic Membership
• Promescent.com/Emily for 15% off sitewide
• Podcast: Sex Party 101
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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One of the most important pillars of sexual intelligence is embodiment. Today’s guest knows a thing or two about connecting with your body for a better life and better sex. Bestselling author and wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh, also known as “the Body Whisperer,” teaches us how to listen to our bodies, simple exercises to reduce pain and heighten orgasms, how to work with changing hormones, and so much more.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• How to do a reverse kegel
• How posture and gait can affect our sexual performance
• All about fascia – the “WiFi” of our bodies!

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Orgasm During Missionary
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Awaken the Power of Your Pelvic Floor - Join the Waitlist!
• Aligned Life Studio (code EMILY30 for 30% off your first subscription)
• More Lauren Roxburgh: Instagram | YouTube | Website
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Confidence is something we all struggle with at times, particularly in our sex lives and relationships. From feeling insecure about our bodies, to not thinking we’re “good enough” in bed, messages from society, past partners, and our own shame can affect how we show up in the bedroom. In this Best Of episode, I’m giving you my top tips for boosting your sexual confidence. I also answer your questions like: how do you help a partner boost their confidence? How can you hack your brain to feel confident while naked? How can you fully let go in bed, so that you can experience maximum pleasure? And so much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Specific exercises for building body acceptance
• Sexual communication tips
• How to explore sexually, even if you feel less experienced

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Triple Stimulation Masturbation
• How to Orgasm During Missionary
• FirmTech (code Emily20 for 20% off)
• Feeld
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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I get asked all the time: what makes great sex? Well, today’s guests would argue that the best sex is shameless sex. Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex podcast, join me today in answering all your juicy questions. From learning to identify what you really want in bed to how to take hot vulva pics and deciding whether an open relationship is right for you, Amy and April share their top tips for becoming a better lover.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to feel more present and embodied during sex
• What “shameless sex” really means
• How to improve your sex life with old and new partners

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Triple Stimulation Masturbation
• Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life
• Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide)
• Magic Wand
• We-Vibe
• Podcast: Orgasms, Squirting & The Year of Anal Licking
• Pre Order Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For
• Shameless Sex Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts
• Shameless Sex Socials: Instagram | TikTok | YouTube | Website
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
• How to work through ultimatums in relationships
• Why your sex life should evolve over time

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.

Show Notes:

• Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life
• Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• Flavored Lubes
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What to know before meeting up with a date in person
• How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations
• How to combat dating app fatigue

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Handle Performance Anxiety
• 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to work through jealousy in relationships
• How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure
• How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Handle Performance Anxiety
• 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva
• Magic Wand Micro
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The history & evolution of relationship structures
• Reasons people have affairs
• How to rebuild trust after infidelity

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
• Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel
• Podcast: Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness
• The truth about porn addiction
• How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Use Anal Beads
• Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help
• Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you!

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Use Anal Beads
• Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker
• Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Master Pretzel Position
• Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• Magic Wand Mini Massager
• We-Vibe Chorus
• Article: Missionary Sex Position – New and Improved
• Podcast: High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Master Pretzel Position
• Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide!
• Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag)
• All Vulvas Are Beautiful
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment?

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Master Lotus Position
• How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant
• Playground Lube
• Feeld Dating App
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide.

Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Master Lotus Position
• How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign
• Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex
• Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• BetterLover.com
• More Susan Bratton: Instagram | Website
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires.

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Show Notes:

• The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign
• Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex
• Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• 4 Ways to Close the Orgasm Gap
• First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
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Ever wondered how often happy couples have sex? Or the little-known key to sexual satisfaction? In today’s Sex In The News episode, I reveal new research that answers both of these questions and a surprising new finding on who says “I love you” first. First, my Producer, Erica, and I look at a study on sexual frequency and the number of times per month couples have sex. Is it this often for you? Next, we dig into research on men saying “I love you” -- do you agree with our takeaway? We then get into amazing new research on mutual masturbation and give you easy ways to try it. Finally, we explore a study on sleep health and sex. Turns out, an orgasm might be more effective than sleeping pills.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette
• 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Mutual Masturbation & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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What are your sexual fantasies? No matter how unique (or not) your fantasies are, they teach us something about our needs. On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re exploring fantasies and partner dynamics so we can get our needs met shame-free. First, cuckolding: when a partner, typically male, asks their partner, typically female, to have sex with another man. What if your partner wants it… but you’re not so sure? Next, living with your ex -- if you’re still not over them, how do you successfully connect with others? Later, when you’ve got a unique kink or fetish, how do you talk about it with your partner, especially if they’re freaked out? Is there any way to get that need met? Finally, when a partner says they’re not sexually attracted anymore, how do you call it quits and find the sex you deserve?

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette
• 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out? 

I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play.

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

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Show Notes:

• Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life
• 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism
• Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves?

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility
• Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life
• Where Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify
• Where Should We Begin? Card Game
• Mating in Captivity: Bookshop
• The State of Affairs: Bookshop
• More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back? 

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina
• 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility
• Magic Wand Mini Massager
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Grand Bullet by Le Wand
• We-Vibe Tango X
• Je Joue Mimi
• We-Vibe Touch X Clitoral Vibrator
• Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant
• We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring
• Screaming O Two-O Double Pleasure Ring
• Hot Octopuss ATOM Plus Vibrating Cock Ring
• We-Vibe Chorus Wearable Vibrator
• Article: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy
• Sex With Emily: Home

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“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner?

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever
• 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina
• Glow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• Glow Getters Journal Club
• More Tara Schuster: Instagram | Twitter | Website
• EMDRIA
• Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Is My Penis Normal?
• How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever
• TOR 3 from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Dildos on Shop With Emily
• Prostate Toys on Shop With Emily
• Plugs on Shop With Emily
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Show Notes:

• Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy
• Is My Penis Normal?
• 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring
• Dame Fin Vibrator
• Ohmibod Lovelife & Rev Finger Massager
• Le Wand Grand Bullet Vibrator
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Show Notes:

• 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom
• Is My Penis Normal?
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• System JO Flavored Lube
• System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Limited Edition
• System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Neapolitan
• Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Amazon
• Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon
• “The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory
• “Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory
• Polyamory in BLACK!

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We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Show Notes:

• Prostate Play: The Comprehensive Guide
• 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives?

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Show Notes:

• 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks
• How to Train Your Vagina
• SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Show Notes:

• 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower
• 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks
• Dual Stimulation Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Insertion Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
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([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed? 

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Show Notes:

• 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex
• 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample)
• Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other Guides
• Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Want more? Sex With Emily: Home
• Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok 
• Let’s text: Sign Up Here
• Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women.

See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.com

Show Notes:

• The 6 Best Masturbation Toys
• 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex
• Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All
• The Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon
• @ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopause
• Menopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop | Amazon
• Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off)
• SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)
• Sex With Emily: Home
• More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok
• More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com)