#147: “Defiance” and ADHD: Getting Curious About What’s Beneath the Surface

SHINING WITH ADHD 

EPISODE #147: “Defiance” and ADHD: Getting Curious About What’s Beneath the Surface

The Childhood Collective

3/13/2024

SUMMARY

Asking your child to clean their room or do one page of homework shouldn’t launch a battle complete with meltdowns, but often, for kids with ADHD, it does. You’re trying your hardest to breathe and regulate, but inside, you’re thinking, “Why is everything a fight?!” For those of us who grew up in strict, authoritarian homes, this is even more triggering. We feel disrespected by the “defiance” and don’t understand why some tasks cause such a disruption. While it’s incredibly frustrating, you are not alone. This is common in children with ADHD. The truth is that defiance is often a symptom of something deeper for the child. So today, we are going to dig into four possible explanations for why your ADHD child may seem defiant.

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We are Lori, Mallory, and Katie. Lori and Mallory are child psychologists, and Katie is a speech language pathologist. Most importantly, we are moms, just like you. After working with families over a combined total of 40 years, we saw a need to provide ongoing support and education to parents raising children with ADHD.

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