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Holiday as a Single Mom: Insights From Marisol Vasquez

88 min • 4 december 2024

Navigating the holiday season as a single mama can feel like a juggling act worthy of a circus ringmaster. Between crafting new traditions and managing co-parenting schedules, there's never a dull moment. For those sharing custody, the holidays can bring both the joy of seeing your children thrive and the bittersweet quiet of an empty house when they're with their other parent. But fear not, fellow warriors of motherhood! This is your chance to embrace imperfection, laugh at the chaos, and create memories that outshine any Hallmark movie.

In this episode, I am joined by Marisol Vasquez, a High Conflict Co-Parenting Speaker, Coach, and Writer who empowers moms to transform co-parenting struggles into a thriving, unified family dynamic. Marisol brings her wealth of experience and insights to tackle the challenges of navigating the holiday season as a single mother. From setting healthy boundaries and dealing with toxic exes to preparing children for interactions with inconsistent fathers, Marisol offers practical advice and emotional support. She delves into crucial topics such as recognizing red flags in relationships, understanding trauma bonds, and the importance of self-value. Marisol also shares her personal journey through a high-conflict custody case, providing valuable strategies for managing co-parenting dynamics during the holidays. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of high-conflict co-parenting and learn how to transform holiday stress into memorable experiences for you and your children.

Timestamps

[05:09] About Marisol Vasquez

[07:03] Pros and cons that come when they leave you with the children

[10:25] Setting up boundaries through unhealthy relationships

[15:05] Tools to show your kids that you love them no matter what happens

[20:30] Key points to note when dealing with a narcissist

[25:27] Placing your own value as a mum with 50% custody of your children

[30:51] How to deal with a toxic ex who doesn’t want to leave you

[36:06] Ego death: Evolving with children and yourself as a person

[39:05] Marisol’s thoughts on why so many men are so toxic

[42:37] Red flags to look out for before getting into a relationship

[46:27] The meaning of trauma bond

[48:30] The issue of mocking women: Knowing your value

[55:16] How men have a different moral code

[57:08] Marisol’s high conflict custody case for her daughter

[01:00:16] Tips for mums during the holidays

[01:10:02] How to prepare your kids to interact with their inconsistent dads

[01:18:23] How our kids are becoming more intelligent

[01:19:15] Marisol’s plan for the holiday

[01:21:14] Leveraging what we’ve been through as single mums

Notable Quotes

“We know what it’s like for people not to be there for us.” - Marisol Vasquez [10:30]
“We are all imperfect.” - Marisol Vasquez [21:24]
“Pulling away from a life that no longer serves you or from people that no longer serve you is very difficult.” - Marisol Vasquez [21:53]
“Some of them are really good at playing victim though they actually are the ones who have curated these really toxic dynamics.” - Marisol Vasquez [37:28]
“Some of these people literally thrive in chaos, their goal is to make your life as chaotic as possible.” - Marisol Vasquez [58:06]
“It’s okay to remind yourself that you can have big dreams.” - Marisol Vasquez [01:22:02]

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