We romanticize big life changes—quitting the job, moving to the dream city, chasing the thing we’ve always wanted. But big changes have big side effects. And if you don’t see them coming, they might just send you running back to the life you were trying to leave behind. In this episode, we’re breaking down six warnings I wish someone had told me before I changed everything. If you’re craving a big shift, let’s make sure you’re ready for it.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
01:45 Life update + tour!
05:52 6 warnings about changing your life
06:14 1. It will not automatically make you happy
07:44 Harvard happiness study
08:34 The hedonic treadmill
9:54 2. You will have an identity crisis
10:12 Ship of Theseus
11:40 3. You’ll probably feel stuck
12:04 Diamond Example
13:12 Change happens at tipping points
15:31 4. It never stops feeling vulnerable
15:55 Asch conformity study
17:18 The neuroscience of fear & hope
19:43 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed
22:33 5. There’s no magic pill
24:32 6. You’ll feel torn between who you were and who you’re becoming
24:52 Janus, the Roman god of transitions
27:18 Lightning round recap
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