Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life?

Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships.

She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel… and is there a difference between those two things?

Is it anxiety, or is it God?

Is it infatuation, or the Holy Spirit?

We process through all of this and dig a little deeper today on the Podcast!! if you are making decisions in your dating life, don’t miss this episode!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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How do you handle rejection?

Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust?

How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity?

This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection.

I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It’s a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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What do you do when you feel like you don’t fit in?

What do you do when you don’t even feel like you belong in your own family?

How can you take that feeling that you don’t belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful?

This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason.

We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present.

Let me just tell you, this man is a character… And it was a joy to chat with him and process some of these things out loud.

Let me know what you think of this conversation!!

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How do you date after the deep loss of a marriage? Is it possible to love again?

Today I talk with Diane who is a widow that is trying to heal her heart after the death of her husband. She’s having a hard time navigating the dating world now that she’s single in her 60s, yet hasn’t dated since her 20s!!

We talk about her grief, how to heal, and when to know you’re ready to date!

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Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson!

I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years.

Their relationship didn’t start healthy, in fact — it was rather dysfunctional— and they really had to learn the hard way.

You are going to love this open, honest conversation with them about their marriage… and where they are today.

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Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t.

Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels.

She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic.

We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!!

In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here).

In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present.

Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs.

Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations?

No matter what type of past we come from, it’s important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity.

Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda!

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Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She’s wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships!

Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses…. And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal!

When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up — but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today’s episode!

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Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf.

In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down.

In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about medical trauma, and how she has processed these things moving forward. We talk about her childhood, and how God was preparing her for suffering, even from a young age.

It is one of the most encouraging episodes, so go give it a listen!

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Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia!

She’s 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life — versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself.

Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative?

And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen – considering some people think it’s wrong for a woman to take an initiative.

We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn’t mean… And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!!

It’s an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!!

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Connect with Faith on Instagram: @ugafaith09

Tune in now!

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In honor of my good friend – Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness.

Do you feel like you’re struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. 

If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you.

Tune in now!

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Today on the podcast, I talk with Lauryn, who is struggling with navigating friendships in this season of singleness.

She’s single, but all her friends are married… and she can sometimes feel a bit out of place. She feels as though some of her relationships are becoming unbalanced and she called in looking for some advice.

We dug a little deeper into her relationship history, and found out that unbalanced relationships aren’t as new as she thought they were … they are just a little more prominent in this season.

I encouraged her to take ownership of her role in relationships, addressing and communicating her needs… and learning to bring balance to her relationships. The most interesting thing about our conversation is what it revealed about her (tune in to find out!)

I think this is an important conversation for everyone to listen to, especially if you’ve ever felt the lack of balance in your closest friendships.

Tune in now!

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Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, “why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?”

Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you!

Are you ready to talk to me?

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Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?”

After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed…

And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce?

I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed.

What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me!

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Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting.

Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She’s having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately.

She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help!

I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways instead… It’s a really insightful conversation! If you’ve ever felt triggered in conflict, you need to listen to this episode!

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Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce… wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that.

We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn’t something that you necessarily “find” as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs.

We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships.

If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you!

Tune in to this powerful conversation!

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Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating!

She’s having a hard time figuring out if the fears she’s having are legitimate or not!

Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn’t the right fit or do I have anxiety because I’m just scared?

And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating!

Tune in to this powerful conversation today!

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Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he’s actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He’s battling feelings of regret from the decisions he’s made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward.

In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart…including his personal sexual struggles— and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing.

Tune in to this powerful conversation today!

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Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way!

The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!!

She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone… And she got started on her own journey of healing!!

Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversation with her… And it’s a testament to the fact that when you begin to do the personal work in your life, things begin to shift in your life!!! You are not going to believe her story!! It brought tears to my eyes.

For anyone who is in the middle of an unhealthy or difficult marriage, I believe this conversation will give you hope and the perspective you need to take the next steps — even if your spouse is not willing to do the same.

Tune in today!

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What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship?

On this final of couples therapy, I’m joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years.

Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder.

The ups and downs of their relationship have correlated to her mental health, and they have found themselves struggling to know how to move forward.

this conversation is so important, because too many people failed to address the underlying mental health issues that may be having a significant impact on a relationship!!

In order for the marriage to heal, the mental illness has to be healed and addressed. Today we talked through what that looks like… and steps for them moving forward.

Tune into this important couples therapy session!!!

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On today’s episode of couples therapy, I talk with Tim and Kathy Bush! This couple has been through so many hard things yet has come out the other side….

From addiction to affairs to control and trauma, and everything in between, it’s truly a miracle that they are together today and have a message to share.

It’s amazing how little we often know about marriage going into it. But like I always say, marriage is a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses… It exposes everything. But it also invites us into healing!!

This couple has definitely proved that to be true. So sit back and listen to their unbelievable story!! And then ask yourself, what needs to be healed in your life and in your relationships?

Tune in now!

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Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. 

The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before. 

Today’s couple is struggling with boundaries with the opposite sex! After overcoming an affair, they find themselves navigating what is OK and not OK in their marriage.

She’s feeling insecure and jealous, and he’s feeling misunderstood and controlled… And in this episode, I help them unpack their needs, fears, and struggles as they come head to head with their differences.

I can’t wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today!

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Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. 

The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before. 

Today’s couple is Dave and Ashley Willis! You may recognize their name from their ministry and work at XO marriage.

Today, Dave and Ashley get real about a really difficult season they navigated in their marriage including stress, porn addiction, and deceit.

But I know they are not alone. I hear from so many of you that are battling porn problems in your marriage right now, and it’s an epidemic we have to face head on!

Their journey of healing has not stopped, and God has used their healing to impact so many other couples… I know you will be blessed by this on air session! I can’t wait for you to hear this powerful episode!

Tune in today!

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Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today I have an on air session with Faith Eury Cho. 

Faith and I talk about a difficult season she went through when everything was falling apart and it seemed like she had no one to blame but herself. We talk through the concept of self-blame, where it comes from, and how we can begin to take ownership of what’s ours to own vs. what’s not! 

In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of her childhood, her Korean-American upbringing, increasing our expectations of God, and learning to let others own what belongs to them. We process why it’s so easy for her to take more blame and responsibility on her shoulders than she deserves. 

Listen to this powerful session with Faith, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to “shift” some of the responsibility and ownership in your life in healthy ways. 

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect 

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Today I have an on air session with Havilah Cunnington.

Havilah and I talk through the crisis that happens when people of faith go through a significant mental illness!

Having come from a church background where mental illness was denied or simply seen as an attack from the enemy — the solutions that were given to her were to pray more and confess more.

But what happens when those solutions don’t work? What happens when you are plagued by depression and anxiety?

In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of the darkest season she walked through in her life… And how she got out the other side.

We affirm the importance of Jesus plus therapy and medication as needed.

Listen to this powerful session with Havilah, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to take next steps in your own healing journey.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today I have an on-air session with Anh Lin (@girlandtheworld).

Anh opens up about her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, navigating through the hardships of enmeshment and codependency.

What do you do when you feel like you are the only one who can care for your family, but you come from a dysfunctional family?

How do you navigate the toxicity in a culture where boundaries and limits are frowned upon?

Listen in on this heart felt counseling session with Anh — and as you do, ask yourself what role you have in your own family dynamics.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today on Talk To Me, I’m having an on-air counseling session with Joshua Broome, a former male porn star.

We talk about the struggles of life working the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years.

Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn’t even realize. we talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many things that can get in the way of believing the truth about who we are.

It’s a powerful conversation about letting go of shame, and dealing with the pain of the past.

if there is anything in your past that still haunts you today, I know his counseling session will inspire and challenge you to deal with your past and be freed from your past.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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I’m so excited to kick off the New Year with this episode of Talk To Me with Madison Prewett Troutt. In this on-air counseling session, Madison talks to me about the massive amount of pressure she faced being on national TV show called The Bachelor, but we also trace that feeling of pressure back to old feelings and experiences that have followed her the majority of her life.

We talk through how to break free of the pressure, of people pleasing, and learning to get to the bottom of the unhealthy beliefs that keep us feeling under pressure.

It’s a powerful counseling session to tune into, especially for anyone who has ever struggled with feelings of insecurity, people pleasing tendencies, or feeling like you never measure up.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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I am excited to start 2024 with a bang! Thanks to your love and support, the podcast has grown into something that I never could have imagined and together we’ve been able to reach millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.

Thank you so much for being a part of our journey!

On January 1st, The Love + Relationships Podcast is getting a little makeover to reach even more people with our message of hope! The show will be renamed, Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast.

The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air authentic counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers the opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor.

Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.

So if you’re ready… Let’s talk.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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When today’s question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one.

Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage.

Today we talk through what it looks like to get through those early years of marriage and come out stronger on the other side. They open their heart in talking about confession, vulnerability, and intimacy in marriage through all areas of their life, and we spend some time talking about how they dealt with the intruder of pornography in their relationship.

This episode will encourage and inspire you in your current marriage, and help you dream about your future marriage. Tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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We’re continuing our Marriage series with the bad relationship advice that says, “A happy wife makes a happy life”. 

I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve heard this bad relationship advice. It’s advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships.

But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage? 

Happy Wife Makes A Happy Life?

This short, 5-minute episode will offer you a counter perspective to this common advice, and challenge you to see things differently when it comes to marriage and relationships. In this short episode, we cover:

• Why this is bad advice.
• Talk about how this advice encourages passivity.
• What happens when we follow this advice and why it forms one-sided relationships.
• How to approach marriage from a healthier perspective.
• Learning to adapt a mutual model in marriage.
• The BETTER formula to apply instead of Happy Wife = Happy Life

I hope this episode encourages you and challenges you to say no to this bad relationship advice!

Tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!

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Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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“You need to go on a weekly date night outside of the house every single week to keep your marriage strong….”

I remember the first time I ever heard that phrase. My husband and I were married with an infant and a toddler at the time, born only 20 short months apart, trying to survive the madness of parenting young children. 

I was staying at home with the kids 6 out of the 7 days a week and also working desperately to complete my very first book, and John was halfway through his extremely busy medical residency. Needless to say, we were short on cash, short on energy, and short on time. 

As much as I wanted to have “one date night out a week”, to be completely honest with you, it was nearly impossible. Trying to find a babysitter we trusted, find time in his crazy schedule, and then fork out the minimum $100 dollars to cover dinner and a sitter just seemed way out of our “weekly” budget. Heck, I was trying to simply stay under $100/week for groceries, much less a date night. 

So when I heard those words coming from a trusted leader at the time, my heart kinda sank. We’re doomed, I thought to myself. 

Over the next few years, I’ve actually heard that phrase many-a-time in sermons, books (not mine!), and even in one-on-one conversations. On one hand, I absolutely agree that couples need focused time carved out in their week for one another. But on the other hand, the traditional thought of a “date night out” can really amount to a lot of pressure. Especially when you’re in the stage of having young children. 

If you want my personal opinion, the idea that you HAVE to go out every single week in order to keep your marriage strong is actually a harmful idea. The expectation for fancy date nights out, fine dining and dancing, or whatever it is you put on your list, is not only impossible (and unwise) for some people’s budgets, but doesn’t always work out in the daily grind of life (finding a sitter, collaborating schedules, etc). 

And trying to meet unrealistic expectations can leave one or both partners feeling disappointed, bitter, and discouraged in their marriage.

DATE NIGHT IN NOT DATE NIGHT OUT

Healthy marriages don’t hinge on going out, but on going IN. Connecting with one another on a deep and meaningful way.

In today’s episode I’m going to tell you what it means to “go in” in your relationship.

Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to tune in to 10 Date Night In Ideas….hopefully they inspire you to take the time to go in with your relationship!

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BOOKS BY DEBRA

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Marriage should make you happy. That’s the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true?

How much weight do we need to put on our happiness? What is the secret ingredient to creating happiness in marriage? Does happiness create a good marriage, or does a good marriage create happiness?

And what happens when you’re not happy? Is it even realistic to say we’re going to be happy all the time in marriage? 

We need to take the time to evaluate this relationship advice, and make sure we’re questioning it and seeing it for what it’s worth.

Marriage Should Make You Happy — or Should It?

Today, my friend, pastor, and bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas, helps me tackle this important bad relationship advice, because it’s advice that’s hurting many marriages. We’re going to take a look at both scripture and psychology and get to the root of this bad relationship advice, and offer you a BETTER perspective — a perspective that helps us look at holiness before we look at happiness.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Time is everything. In fact, it’s one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you…because it’s the only thing you can never get back.

The past two episodes, we’ve been talking about how we protect our marriage.

We started with talking about our emotions in episode 264, our interactions in episode 265, and today we’re talking about our time.

Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream of Netflix at your fingertips, it’s easy for your time to get away from you.

But if you’re not careful, you can find that your time is going to the inanimate – instead of the intimate.

TIME MATTERS

One of the survey results I write about in Choosing Marriage, has to do with the amount of married people who report spending their time on separate hobbies and interests. There’s a lot of time getting lost on things that don’t really matter, and it’s having serious impact on our marriages.

In this episode, we talk through some of the things we do in our marriage and how we prioritize our time for one another, because if you’re not intentional – it just won’t happen.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we’re comfortable talking about, but it’s a necessary conversation.

It’s easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don’t actually sit down to do.

A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked some additional controversy as well. It’s clear this is a topic people don’t always agree on.

So what’s too much when it comes to boundaries, and what is not enough?

Boundaries With the Opposite Sex

What does it practically look like to protect your marriage by setting boundaries, specifically with your interactions with the opposite sex?

Last week on the Love + Relationships Podcast we talked through the boundaries we set with our emotions, and today on the podcast we’re talking through the boundaries we set up with our interactions.

The conversation you’re about to hear is about the things WE have chosen to do for our marriage. You may agree with some of it, and you may not…but let’s start by having the conversation, and getting comfortable talking through it.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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BOOKS BY DEBRA

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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How do you protect your marriage? 

What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong?

What’s your secret sauce to marriage?

Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage? 

Today on the podcast, we’re starting a new Marriage Series by discussing a topic that’s close to our hearts:

How to PROTECT your marriage.

PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE

Specifically, we’re talking about the three intruders that are known to get in the way of a healthy marriage. These intruders are quiet, and sly, and sneaky – but if you aren’t careful, you’ll find them starting to creep in and separate your hearts and your lives from one another.

Join John and me, and get a front-row look into our relationship and the things we do to be DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL about protecting our love and drawing closer to one another.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:

For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage

BOOKS BY DEBRA

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: In today’s episode, we’re addressing a question that was sent in by one of our listeners. The listener is seeking advice on how to maintain a positive perspective despite the difficulties they’re experiencing.

To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Bewindi Jackson, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Bewindi offers Christ-Centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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BEWINDI JACKSON, LCSW– Bewindi Jackson is a licensed clinical social worker and is a part of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bewindi offers Christ-centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Book a session with Bewindi today!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that.

To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Larinda is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. 

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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LARINDA HORTON, M.A., LPC– Larinda Horton, is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. She is a woman who loves Jesus and out of this love desires to help bring a sense of hope and freedom to all she works with. A passionate therapist, mentor, and speaker Larinda enjoys combining her passions for mental health and ministry as an invitation into a deeper relationship with Jesus while developing healthier mindsets. She has an extensive history in providing therapy for all age groups and working with multiple diagnoses, providing spiritual guidance and mentorship, and providing teaching on mental health and spiritual topics. Her education includes a B.A. in Bible and Leadership Education, M.A. in Professional Counseling, and two years of courses towards a Ph.D. in Professional Counseling.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship.

To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional counselor with over a decade of experience in the counseling field and nearly two decades of experience in ministry.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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ALLISON FISHER, M.A., LPC – Allison’s areas of specialty are marriage and family relationships, trauma, depression and anxiety, grief and loss, and spiritual hurt. She utilizes practical and evidence-based clinical interventions integrated with a Christ-centered perspective in her counseling approach. Allison holds a M.A. in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. She and her husband have been married for 23 years, and live in Alabama, where they have raised their two sons. Her family has recently gained a daughter, through their oldest son’s marriage. She is currently navigating life with her husband and their adult children.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a listener who wants to establish healthy boundaries around unhealthy people in their life.

We are excited to welcome Danielle Day, MSSW, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master’s of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. 

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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DANIELLE DAY, MSSW, LCSW – Dani is passionate about helping you gain the skills and knowledge you need to get unstuck. Some of the areas that Dani helps individuals address include boundaries, core beliefs, communication, healthy ways to manage emotions, overseas living, forgiveness and more. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master’s of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. She has experience working in a wide variety of settings, but most recently has been worked with women requesting Bible-based Christian counseling. 

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks if there is really one person out there for you to marry. In this episode, we are talking about The Myth of The One.

We are thrilled to welcome John Perez, LMFT, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. He is working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has a bachelor’s degree in pastoral counseling and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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JOHN PEREZ, LMFT – If you are looking to change and help heal past wounds. You found the right person to join you in your healing journey. You can expect to feel heard and supported. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. Working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has his bachelors degree in pastoral counseling and his masters degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. John invites the Holy Spirit to his counseling work and uses an integrative approach from different psychology models. John is bilingual (Spanish/English)

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health.

To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today’s episode of our podcast series, “Ask a Counselor”. Julie encourages her clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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JULIE LUNDY is a Licensed Professional Counselor who focuses on helping build an authentic, trusting, and connected relationship with her clients as they work toward their coaching goals. She encourages clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener that brings up another wonderful question! Our caller today is interested in learning more about The Imposter Syndrome. She’s curious to know what it is, what it means for her, and how to define it.

To best answer that question, we are being joined by Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today’s episode of our podcast series, “Ask a Counselor”. Lesly Moreno is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health and is honored to create a safe space for others to process life’s demands, stressors, and trauma.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC  is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health, and honored to create a safe space for others to process life’s demands, stressors, trauma and even celebrate milestones. She is also passionate about trauma informed care. Her strengths as a therapist include being an active listener, providing unconditional positive care, empathy, compassion, gentleness, resourcefulness. She loves to guide and lead orders to help them discover who God has created them to be and be their encouragement as they achieve their social emotional health goals. As a first generational Hispanic professional, she has a keen interest in advocating for migrant families and helping them navigate life transitions in a new world. Lesly believes in the power of a safe space that helps cultivate healthy singles in order for our communities to have healthy families, which lead to healthy churches and a healthy world.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives?

We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”. Melissa has worked for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today.

Tune in now for today’s discussion!

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MELISSA CRUTCHFIELD, M.A., LPC has worked in the “people business” for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Melissa has a passion for helping individuals step into the freedom and fullness of who they were made to be.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks how we can maintain friendships as an adult. In this episode, we will be discussing some helpful tips on how to navigate the challenges of friendships during this season of our lives, and ways to foster healthier relationships with our friends.

We are joined by Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley, MS MHP, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”. Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care. She has experience in community mental health, crisis, suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. 

Tune in now for today’s hope-filled discussion!

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JENNIFER HINKLE-STANLEY, MS MHP Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley has been married for 24 years, and has 3 teenage daughters as well as a granddaughter. She has worked in Missouri, Kansas, and now Pennsylvania. Her husband is in full time ministry and together they lead the Freedom ministry in their church. Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care.She has experience in community mental health, crisis and suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. She is the co-founder of Busted Biscuits, a program teaching women to be in healthy relationships with one another through in person group sessions and podcast. Her desire is to promote healing and growth within her sessions, helping each individual to find their identity and purpose, while also healing their relationships.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We’ll discover that answer in today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”.

Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today’s hope-filled discussion!

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BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage?

Today’s caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you’re experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously?

Enjoying Singleness

We’re talking through this important topic today….so if you feel like you’re having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!!

Tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!

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Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:

For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

• Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
• Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
• Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
• Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It

FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship? 

If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school.

Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs. 

So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin? 

Whether you’re praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love. 

8 Ways To Pray For Love

Today on the podcast, we’re talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one. 

So check out today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life. 

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Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:

Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you’re going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It’s a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love!

For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

• Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
• Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
• Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
• Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It

FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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“Guard your heart”. 

That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice.

But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded?

How To Guard Your Heart

Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart…because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it’s worth protecting.

We’ve got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries. 

Today we’re talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely.

So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart!

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon

Upcoming Events:

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn’t spiritually in tune with where you’re at with your faith?

What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship?

Attracted To a Non Christian

Today’s episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you’re attracted to someone who is not a Christian. How do you proceed with the friendship, or the relationship, without compromising your own faith?

As a professional counselor who also happens to be a Christian, I’ve seen the role that faith plays in my personal relationship with my husband. But more so, the research backs it up….so let’s have this conversation about faith and romance!

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For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon

Upcoming Events:

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. 

Being a Christian who also happens to be a Licensed Professional Counselor, I’m often asked to speak about the topic of biblical dating.

How does a person date in a biblical way? 

What does the bible actually say about dating?

How can a Christian manage the world of dating with a God-honoring perspective?

Which concepts of dating can you take from the “world” and which should you take from the bible?

I wrote my book, True Love Dates, because I wanted to tackle some of these important questions and bring to light how we can apply the concepts from the bible to approach toward dating, in a way that’s spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically healthy.

On the podcast, the question came up yet again: How do you pursue biblical dating? Interestingly enough, the answer might surprise you.

BIBLICAL DATING ISN’T WHAT YOU THINK

Interestingly enough, if we look through the pages of the bible, biblical dating is non-existent. People didn’t “date” in the Middle East, and in fact, dating is still a brand new concept even today.

In today’s episode of the podcast, I talk through why biblical dating isn’t actually what we think – and probably not what we want.  Yet with the reminder that God’s word is filled with concepts and principles that we can apply to dating right here and right now.

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon

Upcoming Events:

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with no prospect of love in sight?

“I never imagined I’d be single in my 30s”. 

Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined. 

I’m not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it’s with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint. 

And in this world, there aren’t always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we’re demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart. 

Single in my 30s

If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward. 

Tune into today’s episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below.

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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST. 

For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST

Upcoming Events:

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is.

In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on Tuesday’s popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn’t Date.

Avoiding Heart Break

These 10 ladies will string you on…drag you down…and break your heart. But it doesn’t have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we’re going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for.

Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on.

Tune into today’s episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below.

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For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST

Upcoming Events:

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date?

When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together.

The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you to read about more in this article called “Why You Always Date Jerks“. But make no mistake about it – these bad boys can be recognized from a distance – and the healthier you are, the more quickly and easily you’ll be able to recognize a bad boy when he comes along.

Dating The Bad Boys: What To Look For

But in this episode – we’re not talking about the WHY….we’re talking about the WHAT. What are the traits that help us recognize when a guy is not good for us?

In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I’m talking you through a list of 10 guys that you need to avoid like the plague if you start noticing these qualities in your relationship. Because what you see in dating, you’ll see multiplied times 100 in marriage….the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tune in and subscribe by clicking below! And be sure to tune in next week when we talk about the 10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date!

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST

Upcoming Events:

30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another Single’s Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear?

So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon.

Am I Going To Be Single Forever?

There are so many things in life where we just don’t know what God has planned. But there are some truths and promises that can keep you grounded and hopeful while you wait.

This episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast is an important one and one that is really close to my heart with all the waiting I have done in my life – and the waiting I continue to do in so many other areas of my life. I hope and pray that this episode will leave you encouraged as we collectively learn to trust God with the unknowns in life.

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

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Ready to make some changes in your love life? Check out this 21 Day Course – 21 Days To Jump Start Your Love Life!

Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient

Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“.

Upcoming Events:

30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another Single’s Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Do you feel like you’re struggling with singleness? I know that the struggle can be heightened during this season of life, especially with all that’s going on in the nation in light of Covid 19. Social distancing, quarantine, sheltering in place can make you feel even more lonely and disconnected than ever before. 

But struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. 

I got a question from a listener asking for tips and advice on how to deal with loneliness and anxiety during this time, and I brought my good friend – the one and only Mandisa, to help me tackle this question!

Mandisa is a an incredible woman of God on the journey of singleness…and I know that having her help me address and answer this question will bless you beyond belief!

So tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!

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Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:

FROM TODAY’S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA’S BOOK!

For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

• Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
• Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
• Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
• Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It

FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY

Upcoming Events:

30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another Single’s Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 

40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more!

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? 

This is a question that’s always on my radar, because I know it’s going to come in about every single Q&A session I have – and let’s be honest, it’s a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms.

But it’s a topic that’s holding a lot of women back and it’s about time we had this conversation on the podcast.

Who Should Make The First Move?

For many years, the majority of people would have answered no to this question, saying that a woman shouldn’t make the first move in a relationship. Some people said it wasn’t their preference for a woman to initiate a relationship.

Others said it wasn’t biblical.

Still today, 35% of readers that I polled on the blog believe that it’s not okay for a woman to initiate a relationship.

But I respectfully disagree. 

There are four reasons why I think it’s totally okay for a woman to make the first move in a relationship, and today on this episode of the podcast, I’m going to break it down with why I think it’s perfectly okay for a woman to take initiative and make a move.

With a few exceptions that I’m going to cover, as well as a few things to be on the lookout for that signify a healthy relationship.

Whether you’re a male or female, you don’t want to miss Episode 018 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!

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Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers. 

Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient

Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“.

Upcoming Events:

Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, (July 28th, 2023) at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30’s Single’s Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement.

30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another single’s mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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You don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single!

It really is. I’m giving you – reading this post – permission to go ahead and feel those feelings. And in this episode, I’m going to tell you exactly why.

On this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, I’m talking to a young woman who is struggling with singleness. She’s just not feeling content.

How can you survive singleness in a world that seems to revolve around marriage?

How can you keep from getting discouraged when you’re not in a relationship but want to be?

What do you do when you find yourself living in a season of waiting…and waiting…and waiting?

What do you do when it seems like the people who AREN’T doing it God’s way are being “blessed”, and you feel like you’re trying to follow God’s leading and you’re feeling like life just isn’t working out for you?

What can you do while you’re waiting? Let’s have this conversation, friends.

Being Single Doesn’t Have To Be Time To Kill

After our chat, I’m going to talk you through some of the TOP 10 ways to use this time of singleness in your life as a time of preparation, rather than just a time you’re wishing away.

Being single doesn’t have to ruin your life…in fact, it shouldn’t. So we’re going to discuss the things my married friends WISHED they would have done during their time of singleness, and I think it’s important to talk through some of this stuff.

Because it’s so easy to look at what God is NOT doing, instead of what He IS doing (CLICK TO TWEET IT!).

We’ve got to learn to adjust our perspective on being single.

You don’t have to like being single – but you do have to learn how to NOT LET SINGLENESS hold you back!! Singleness might be a struggle for you, but don’t let it be a stronghold that paralyzes you from living!

We’re talking through this delicate topic today, and I hope you’ll stick around and join us, because you’re going to love this candid conversation on today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast.

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Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Desires Before They Control You

Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Check out these articles: 7 LIES THAT ARE KEEPING YOU SINGLE or 3 THINGS MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD STOP SAYING TO SINGLES

Upcoming Events:

Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, July 28th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30’s Single’s Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement.

30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another single’s mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE.

Books:

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today we’re talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage.

Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it’s time to walk away? 

A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That’s a question we’re diving in to today.

Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from relationships, even when they get to a place where they’re harmful or even dangerous.

I’m joined by my friend and bestselling author, Gary Thomas, to tag-team this question today because he just finished writing all about toxic relationships, and it’s a conversation we need to bring to the surface.

Toxic Relationships

In today’s episode we’re covering:

• Why is it actually biblical for us to walk away from toxic relationships?
• What are some key motivators to remember when it comes to making the choice to walk away from a toxic relationship?
• How do we recognize a relationship that’s hurting us?
• How to handle toxic relationships in dating as well as in marriage.
• And so much more!

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Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION

Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:

For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

• Top 10 Relationship Killers. Small Things That Cause Big Problems. 
• Is There Such A Thing As “The One”? And Why My Husband And I Disagree.

MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Q: We’re struggling through the reality check of marriage. It’s not always as easy as we imagined it to be. Do you have any tips or advice for us?

I often talk about the differences between our expectations of marriage , vs. the reality of what marriage.  But today, I’m excited to tag team this question about the reality check of marriage with my friends Jeremy and Addie Camp.

Jeremy Camp and Addie are so real and raw about their own marriage, the struggles they’ve been through, and the victories they’ve had. In this episode we talk about the reality check of marriage in their own lives, as well as practical things they do to keep their connection strong and nurture their relationship. It’s packed with encouragement and practical advice, and I know it will encourage you whether you’re married or one day hoping to be.

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Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION

Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:

Check out Jeremy and Adrienne’s book: In Unison

For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

• Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
• Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
• Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
• Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It

FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY

MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA

Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, “This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected.” 

What happens when life doesn’t turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected. 

Maybe your hard time is that you just went through the heartbreaking loss of a failed or broken relationship. 

Maybe you’re single, and your hard time is that you thought FOR SURE you’d be married by now, but find that instead, you’re struggling with loneliness and discouragement. 

Maybe your hard time right now is walking through grief, or loss, or illness…and you find yourself asking why. 

Today’s guests went through their own difficult journey of asking why. After the tragic untimely deaths of their respective spouses, Brittany Price and Daniel Brooker each found themselves as a young widow/widower – dealing with their own individual journey’s of grief, and pain, and heartache, and loss…a loss that ultimately brought them together in remarriage.

This is an incredible story of two broken hearts, who never let go of Hope. Their story encouraged me during one of my darkest times and I know it will encourage you.

When Life Doesn’t Turn Out How You Planned

In this special episode we cover:

• The details of their journey of grief and loss and the heartbreaking experience of losing their first loves. (I about lost it, hearing their stories you guys!)
• Their honest and candid truths about the hardest part of remarriage and blending families.
• Their best advice for anyone who is considering remarriage.
• Some incredible encouragement for ANYONE who is dealing with a hard time in life.
• How the past can be paralyzing, and the importance of taking steps to move forward in healing.
• Learning to shift your perspective from WHY to WHAT as a way to deal with grief and loss.
• The importance of gratitude in the midst of suffering.
• Why mentorship is a critical part of the healthy life.
• Learning to trust God and cling to His Word in the midst of hard times.
• Remembering God’s faithfulness and goodness through it all – and how he can redeem every story and every situation.

Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Bring the tissues. Grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this inspiring and challenging episode.

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Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more.

Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Connect with Brittany and Daniel on Instagram @BrittanyPriceBrooker and @DanielOBrooker.

Brittany was so sweet to give a shout out to my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. I’m so grateful to hear how it’s encouraged her on this journey of marriage, and I pray it will encourage your heart as well as you learn to give out of your overflow. Pick up a copy for you or someone you know who needs some perspective and encouragement on what it looks like to choose marriage on a daily basis, and why it’s worth it.

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Q: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”. 

A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family?

Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be – as well as how you do relationships.

Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it’s important to understand the dynamics that are at play. 

In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I’m joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today.

Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order – why it’s an actual thing, and how we’ve seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through:

Birth Order Episode:

• We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses.
• The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses.
• We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses.
• What it’s like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!)
• A hilarious story of how the Willis’ totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child.
• Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships.
• How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up.
• The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order.

Tune in today for a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you’ll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order – and how it might be impacting your closest relationships.

Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Dave and Ashley Willis have become some of America’s most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas.

For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman’s book: The Birth Order Book, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order.

For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon

BOOKS BY DEBRA– Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind?

When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week…and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren’t actually talking!)

There was such a drastic difference between what singles thought communication in marriage looked like, vs. what married people actually reported communication in marriage to be. 

But there are so many things that get in the way of communication in marriage. Life. Jobs. Kids. If we’re not constantly trying to move together in marriage, we’ll find ourselves moving apart.

MARRIAGE COUNSELORS TALKING ABOUT REAL COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and marriage counselor, Dr. Kim Kimberling. We cover some of these issues that can come up with communication and connection in marriage.

• We talk about our own respective marriages, some of the challenges and successes we face when it comes to communication in marriage.
• We talk about child-centric homes, why they’re dangerous to marriage, and what to do about it.
• How to set some boundaries with your kids so you can enrich your marriage.
• We talk about some steps you can take to build your marriage or restore it when you’re feeling off-track.
• Why most married couples aren’t spending enough time together, and how to make it happen.
• We talk about the importance of the first 10-minutes of contact with your spouse.
• We talk about who should initiate communication and why it matters.
• We also share some ways we stay connected to our spouses and some practices that you can apply to your marriage to stay connected….and so much more!

This episode is so full of amazing conversation and insight. You’re going to love it! Whether you’re single, or married, or somewhere in between – take the time to tune into today’s episode.

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Be sure to connect with today’s guest, Dr. Kim Kimberling and all his encouraging marriage resources at AwesomeMarriage.com. And be sure to check out his new book, 14 Keys To Lasting Love: How To Have The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted

Learn more about communication by checking out this article: You Have Walls, And They’re Keeping People Out. The Truth About Communication in Marriage.

BOOKS BY DEBRA– Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe it’s your relationship with food. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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Today’s conversation is for anyone who struggles with negative or worst case scenario thinking. This type of thought process is usually rooted in something deeper — and this insightful conversation with Roosevelt will help you get to the roots in your own life. I’m believing this conversation will not only open your eyes, but help you begin to break free from these types of thoughts. Tune in today!

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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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Today we talk to a couple with a remarkable story. After years of functioning in an unhealthy marriage, they reached the lowest point… and ultimately got a divorce. During that period of time, things begin to change and shift. And as God healed them on an individual level… They were eventually reunited again in marriage. Their story is powerful, and a testament to God can do when we trust him with our individual healing. If you are struggling in relationships today… The best thing you can do is get yourself healthy, standing alone. Take some time to listen to this incredible story… and be inspired to reset in your own life.

RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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Today I am talking with Toni Collier about resetting from trauma! If we don’t address it, the trauma from our past will end up making its way into our present. We find ourselves living out of a place of pain, rather than a place of power. Tony has some serious trauma history that ended up ultimately destroying her life from a broken marriage, to addiction, and everything in between. Today we walk through the journey of healing with her, reminding you that healing as possible for you as well!!! If there is any level of trauma in your life, this episode will encourage and inspire you.

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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe it’s your relationship with food. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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Insecurity is one of those things a lot of people battle, but it’s some thing we rarely discuss out loud. Today I am talking with Nanette, a woman who has struggled with deep insecurity for much of her life. In our conversation today we trace back the roots of where her insecurity began, why it’s continued into her adulthood, and then I give her practical suggestions to walk in freedom and confidence today. If you’ve ever struggled with insecurity or question your value and worth… This episode is for you.

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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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In this weeks episode, I had an incredible conversation with my friend and mentor Christine Caine. We talk about the subtle influence of negative thinking, tracing it back to the roots of the past. Christine shares some of her story and her tendencies to struggle with negative thinking, as well as how she has learned to overcome those things and live in God’s truth. It’s a Powerful episode that will help you reset from negative thinking.

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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God. 

Maybe it’s your relationship with food. 

Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. 

Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. 

It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. 

Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. 

My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.  

In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. 

We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! 

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Today I’m talking with Sabrina about resetting from grief… Sabrina and her husband have gone through loss after loss in the form of miscarriage, but through our conversation today she realized that the way she has been grieving, has actually brought more heartache into their lives. We can’t make grief go away, but how we respond to grief will make or break our lives. If you have ever felt stuck in grief, whether grief of things lost, dreams that have never come into fruition, or the loss of a loved one… This episode will challenge and encourage you.

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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. 

Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck. 

Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. 

Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.