Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings

Kids with vulnerable nervous systems often say BIG, hurtful, and scary words. They say things like “I hate you!” or “You hate me!” They sometimes threaten to hurt themselves- or you! Verbal aggression almost always pulls us right onto the watchdog pathway ourselves- which is understandable. Let’s talk about how you might respond if you’re able to hang onto your owl brain.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• To stay focused on the level of activation, not the words being said
• What to say (if anything) back to statements like “I hate you,” “I wish you’d never adopted me,” or “I’m going to hurt you.” 
• How to start listening for what’s really being expressed

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {EP 155}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/hate

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