The Barry Long Podcast

This full-length recording, recently restored, remastered, and made freely available, was originally recorded in July 1997 at Koningshof, Netherlands. 

This recording is the fifth in a series of seven recordings. The complete set will be released later in 2024 in the paid versions of the podcast on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barry-long-podcast/id1709595005) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/34rcMFK6b4CcicY7JDxo9f).

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Summary:

In this episode, Barry describes the human condition as one of suffering or attachment to suffering. He says, "I define the self—my self—as the accumulation of all the unhappy emotions I have experienced since birth. Each emotion, from infancy through childhood, and especially the disastrous sexual experiences, disappointments, bitterness, and heartbreak—all of it gathers in the subconscious as emotion."

Barry continues, "The better things get, the more the self will try to destroy it—your own self, not someone else's—because it's made of pain. Whenever there is harmony or sweetness in a relationship or within your own body, the self emerges. Once the self, which is pain, enters a painless situation, that situation inevitably becomes painful." This, he says, is our fundamental human condition.

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Extract:

My 'self,' this pain in my body, has been running my life as long as I can remember – it's been running my life in that body, listening to me. It makes my decision who I'm going to make a partnership with. It makes decisions on the looks of people. It makes decisions on how it feels at the moment – and all these feelings are not true. It makes decisions out of fear. It makes decisions out of the terrible lack of security inside – it's always insecure inside, so it goes for the money instead of the joy of the job. It goes for the sex instead of love. It goes for everything that causes problems and unhappiness.

If you look at all the people around you – and you have to observe them pretty closely – you will see that everybody is unfulfilled, unhappy in some way, making excuses for the lack of love in their life. It's this self that makes the excuses, making excuses for what mum and dad demands on me, making excuses – 'well, that's all right –' while inside, something in me, in that body, knows that there's something wrong. 'I don't want this demand of people on me, I just don't I don't enjoy it, It's not right, –' and yet my self puts up with it, and my self makes excuses for it.

God is in charge of everything. God the great creator behind all existence and my body and my life – your life – that I can realize within. That's the easy part, although it's terribly hard and terribly rare to realize God within, but to bring that God into existence, to eliminate unhappiness from this body, which is your that your body to eliminate the self's utter obsession with itself and being unhappy.

To continue reading visit: http://barrylong.org/articles/294/the-human-condition

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We are excited to announce the creation of an extensive digital archive of Barry’s talks spanning 30 years. This repository contains an impressive 500 hours of video footage and 2,000 hours of audio recordings.

Over three years, a dedicated team undertook the monumental task of digitizing and modernizing a vast collection of historical recordings, some of which were stored on outdated formats like cassettes and magnetic tapes. Driven by the goal to preserve and safeguard this invaluable material, the project involved meticulous planning, cutting-edge technology, and a deep expertise in both analog and digital audiovisual systems.

In the coming weeks and months, we will share further updates about this digital archive.

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This full-length recording, restored and re-mastered recently, and made available freely, was recorded in November, 1985. In this episode Barry proclaims that he is a Master of the West and he has had the experiences of the Western man or woman, and therefore he can talk to them as one of them.

More episodes are available in the paid version of the podcast, available on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barry-long-podcast/id1709595005) and Spotify Podcast (https://open.spotify.com/show/34rcMFK6b4CcicY7JDxo9f)

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Extracts from this episode:

• I am a Western guru. I do not mystify. I am guru of the West. I do not need to use abstractions. I speak right down to earth where my fellow man and woman have to play and work in the muck of the West. Where it is hard because it is competitive, cruel, unjust, violent. I am of this violent and cruel culture. Just about everything that you have done has happened to me. So, I am with you. I am not in some robe. I am an ordinary man as you are an ordinary man or woman.

• I know everything that is going on in you. I have had the experience so that I would be able to speak to you at every level. I've raised children. I've had to leave a wife and two children. I'd done that. Watch the woman that I love die of cancer and serve her. I've done that. Worked 9 to 5. 12 in the night to six o'clock in the morning. Started at 6 o'clock in the morning. I've done that. Had a rotten boss on top. Paid the rates and been completely ignorant in my body and my mind – but I am not ignorant any longer. I am here. I have enlightened this brain of its dependence on the past, of its dependence on promises. On its dependence on expectations, its dependence on tomorrow.

• There is no tomorrow. But tomorrow always comes there is no tomorrow because there is only now to be free. I can only be free and now. I can't be free tomorrow. I can only be free now. Are you free now? It just means to give up the past now. Give up all yearning for the past. When we want the repetition of yesterday we're always looking forward to tomorrow.

• Are you free now? Do not worry about tomorrow because if you worry about tomorrow you created tomorrow. Be free now. And tomorrow will come. And it'll be alright.

• If you worry about tomorrow, you create tomorrow's worry. You are anxious about tomorrow. You create the anxiety of tomorrow. And so tomorrow will be filled with anxiety. It will be filled with problems.

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We are pleased to announce our work on an extensive digital archive of Barry's talks over 30 years – this expansive repository houses an impressive collection comprising approximately 500 hours of video footage and a staggering 2000 hours of audio recordings, spanning a rich tapestry of content accumulated over the course of three decades.

Over the course of three painstaking years, a dedicated team embarked on an ambitious journey to digitize and modernize a vast collection of historical audio and video materials stored sometimes on obsolete formats like cassettes and magnetic tapes. The project, born out of a commitment to preserving and preventing the loss of invaluable content, required meticulous planning, state-of-the-art technology, and a deep understanding of both analog and digital audiovisual systems.

In the coming weeks and months we will make further announcements about this digital archive.

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Barry Long was a spiritual teacher who taught internationally from the 1980's up until his death in 2003. His spiritual teaching is grounded in practicality and addresses all aspects of modern day life.

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This full-length recording, restored and re-mastered recently, and made available freely, was recorded in June, 1987. Barry is particularly commanding and authoritative in this talk. In this talk Barry demonstrates what it takes to live the truth.

More episodes are available in the paid version of the podcast, available on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barry-long-podcast/id1709595005) and Spotify Podcast (https://open.spotify.com/show/34rcMFK6b4CcicY7JDxo9f)

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We are pleased to announce our work on an extensive digital archive of Barry's talks over 30 years – this expansive repository houses an impressive collection comprising approximately 1000 hours of video footage and a staggering 2000 hours of audio recordings, spanning a rich tapestry of content accumulated over the course of three decades.

Over the course of three painstaking years, a dedicated team embarked on an ambitious journey to digitize and modernize a vast collection of historical audio and video materials stored sometimes on obsolete formats like cassettes and magnetic tapes. The project, born out of a commitment to preserving cultural heritage and preventing the loss of invaluable content, required meticulous planning, state-of-the-art technology, and a deep understanding of both analog and digital audiovisual systems.

In the coming weeks and months we will make further announcements about this digital archive.

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Extracts from this episode:

Why are we here? We're here to discover the truth together, the most remarkable thing that man and woman can do, there is nothing else to do but discover the truth together, obviously...

Why I am here is to show it to you to demonstrate it in your own experience, so that you can do it when you are not with me. Many teachers tell you the truth, and they are beautiful to be with. But the point is that YOU have to do it...

The truth is not here to entertain you. The truth is here purely to free you. The thing that wants to discuss it, understand it, be interested in it, or interpreted is the only burden that you have...

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Barry Long was a spiritual teacher who taught internationally from the 1980's up until his death in 2003. His spiritual teaching is grounded in practicality and addresses all aspects of modern day life.

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https://www.facebook.com/BarryLongQuotes
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This full-length recording, made available freely, was recorded on the  29th of July 1999. This recording is one of twelve in this series. The series is available in the paid version of the podcast, available on The Barry Long Podcast on Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barry-long-podcast/id1709595005) and Spotify Podcast (https://open.spotify.com/show/34rcMFK6b4CcicY7JDxo9f)

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Extracts from this episode:

Taking charge of your own life. Being responsible for your own life. This is a rare thing in existence because people act from their feelings. And they think that's being responsible for their life. But then it is the feelings being responsible for the life because the feelings make the decision, instead of the intelligence that you are. And feelings are emotions. There is no good feeling. If you have a good feeling, then you are going to have a bad feeling. Because in this existence, this existence exists on opposites. For every good feeling, there's a bad feeling. For every up, there's a down and everyone's struggling to get ups all the time...

The human condition is based on endeavouring to be happy. And as soon as you endeavour to be happy, there is a reflex action that's going on in your psyche that is going to bring the endeavour to be unhappy. Is it true in your experience? What is very difficult for people to see it because we live attached to everything that we do, acting out of our emotions, and our feelings – we have a momentum going on all the time. We're so busy trying to be happy that we forget that our bad times came from something that pleased us two years ago...

Once when you and your lover first came together, it was so beautiful, it was so lovely.  And then it started to slip. Because what was beautiful was taken for granted. Well, true love is beautiful. But not imagined love, not love without intelligence – it's only beautiful for a while. And then you have to pay the price of a downer depression, uncertainty about your lover or your own life.

When you get down here in depression – what do you do? What can human nature do when you go into depression? You can get drunk, as we see on the movies. You can do that. But then that's no good, because that gives you an upper. And the next day you got a downer. So then you got to have another upper and a downer. So then you get into the drug situation where you take an upper. So you get a downer. And this is how humanity lives...

So what's the enlightened truth of this? The truth is – the only fulfilment is – never to be excited, which means never to be depressed. That's the only way of living in this existence without being torn up and pulled down, torn up, pulled up, torn down...

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Barry Long was a spiritual teacher who taught internationally from the 1980's up until his death in 2003. His spiritual teaching is grounded in practicality and addresses all aspects of modern day life.

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Barry Long demonstrates his one pointed love of truth in this most engaging interview with David Freeman from 1984.

Barry Long rarely gave interviews to the media and the purpose of this one was to promote his newly published book 'The Origins of Man and the Universe'.

More details about the book can be found here – https://www.barrylong.org/products/book/the-origins-of-man-and-the-universe

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This full-length recording, made available freely, was recorded on the 14th of August 1994 in Colorado. This recording is one of eight in the Colorado Talks 1994 series. The series is available in the paid version of the podcast, available on Apple Podcast and Spotify Podcast.

Extracts from this episode:

I am master of the West – and you are all Westerners, you are not easterners. Unless you are addressed in the Western way, you won't be able to live the teaching of truth, you won't be able to be the truth, no matter who you are...

To be the truth is to be free of unhappiness – I am the only one that has ever said that... You have no right to be unhappy – I have no right to be unhappy – ever, ever, ever. You don't have a right because your son died to be unhappy. Get it? You don't have a right to be unhappy because you got cancer. Get it? You know, I'm talking ever, ever, ever...

The spiritual path is a path of ignorance. When you reach the truth, there is no path, there is what is.

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I live with a woman or a man, if I'm a woman, to enjoy being together. What we've got to examine is what stops us from enjoying being together? That would be a reasonable question, wouldn't it?

Man is with woman, where I come from, for her to help him to give up his structures – only to help him, as he is with her to help her to give up emotion. So it's a two-way deal.

Man's main difficulty in living with woman is that he won't listen to her. If he gets emotional, where I come from, it is right for his partner woman to say, 'Why are you emotional?' If he gets angry, the same thing it is right for his partner to say, 'why are you angry?' Now there's no reason that he should not reply straightly why he's angry. 'I'm angry because of the way you speak with to me.' Then, 'what is it about the way I speak to you that makes you angry?' And so the questions can go on, as long as both are willing to engage in a straight conversation what I call them intelligent conversation. But there's no good one of them being intelligent. Without the other, that's hopeless.

A real woman is she who is true to the situation – not to be true to your own feelings, but to be true to the situation. So what is the situation between man and woman? The situation is that we are together to enjoy ourselves. And I do not enjoy your anger, if you're angry. And so I will point that out to you when you're angry, trusting that you are intelligent enough to either say the source of it, or to get rid of it within you. So that's been true to the situation. And if the man doesn't get rid of his anger, and insists on his that he has right to be angry or emotional, then the woman has to be a real woman has to very, very seriously look at whether she can remain in this relationship. Because it won't get better, no matter how much she thinks she can change a man unless he is willing to listen, she cannot change him. She only thinks she can. Because she thinks her love is so strong, that she can change anything, it's not true. There has to be a willingness to change.

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Keywords: love and sexual drive, resonance and reflection, civilisation and emotion, making love without sexual stimulation, making love, the nature of man and his sexual drive, the difference between man and woman, woman is fundamentally love, man's sexual drive seeks to possess, woman fundamentally wants to love and to give, moving from sex to love

Outline:

0:00 On resonance and attraction. The inter-connected and inter-penetrating nature of all existence. The individual's inherent love and connection to the divine. Love within is reflected through external world, resonating with objects and circumstances.

6:10 The nature of the male sexual drive and its selfish aspects. Men and women are fundamentally different, with men driven by a desire to possess and women driven by a desire to love and to give. The two drives and its consequence. The sexual drive is the main impediment to realizing one's true nature and source of love.

12:02 Emotion and evolution. Civilization is a protection of self, leading to selfishness and hardness. Overcoming emotion is necessary for the evolution of man and woman on Earth.

20:52 Woman and sexuality. Woman is the only hope of stopping men's sexual drive. Woman must know what she wants - sex or love – can she say no to sex but yes to love? The importance of a woman being sensitive to love and not giving into sexual advances.

27:10 Love, sex, and relationships. On making love without sexual arousal. On prioritizing love over sexual drive in relationships. What happens when lovers first meet and why love goes out of the relationship. On compromise. Woman is fundamentally a 100% love and man is 90% love with 10% something to do.

Extracts:

We've got to get this – that the external world is there as a reflection – as a reflector of what we are. Often, you can say the other thing – that the external world reflects as circumstances – it reflects what we are or what is necessary for us to cope with.

When you love an object – this is what this external world is for – you reflect off that object; and your love reflects off that object. It doesn't reflect off this one or that one or that one; it somehow or the other resonates with that particular object. You resonate with that particular object. And there is a correspondence between the two.

All love fundamentally is the love of That – the love of God, the love of It – That which is behind everything, behind all existence. All love is that. You have that love inside of you because you came out of that place, that vastness, into conception in some woman's womb. You came out of that place. And to that place, your consciousness and intelligence will return. So, you have that love inside of you, where there are no problems, where there is no movement, where there are no bodies, where there is no necessity for separation, because all is one, although you have an individual consciousness, you cannot separate the part from the whole. The part which is the individual consciousness is the part of the whole and, therefore, cannot be separated from it.

Woman is a totally different creature to man. Woman's desire is not to possess – in her immediacy, her love is to give – her love is to give and to please man. Her desire is to give everything to him – to be able to open up completely and utterly to the male principle – that's what love is.

Woman is the hope of it all – of stopping man, and how does she do this? She's got to know – 'What do I want,' 'Do I want sex or do I want love?' That's the fundamental question that's coming at you, woman.

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Transcript:

Now, I'd like to make it clear to the people with me that emotions are always negative or excitement. I want to make it clear that joy is not an emotion because the world thinks that joy, beauty and love are emotions – and they are not.

Joy is in me. Joy arises from the place of stillness in me. If you emotionalise joy, you come up into the subconscious where you want to make an impression on somebody or communicate, whereas joy just rises, and it can be there now without any emotionalising.

Love is never an emotion. An emotional person, in the moment of their emotions, cannot be a lover – cannot be love – because love does not project itself as emotion. Love is a state – like joy is a state – like sweetness is a state – like beauty is a state – and this state is within. And it's just there.

Whereas emotion is always out – "e" meaning out, "motion" meaning movement – emotion is always trying to go out. It tries to make a point; it tries to hit back. "You're mine," it says. "You're no good," it says. "I resent what you've done to me," it says. "You must understand me," it says. This is all emotion.

Love says, "What do you want?" or "What can I do for you?" or "I love you." If I say "I love you," that's the end of it. What do I mean by "I love you?" I am patient with you. I hold nothing against you. I don't hold any of the past against you. I don't accuse you of anything, and I don't blame you. Love says it all in that one word. You don't have to say other words. That's the beginning of the end – "I love you."

The way we use love mostly is, "I want you." Want is an emotion.

If "I love you", it follows that it is good to be with you. But I can't want you. Not in love. Because it is not necessary. Because if I love you – what is the good of loving you if you don't love me? If you don't want to be with me? What's the good of me loving you if you don't love me or want to be with me? That would be to put a lack of freedom on you. Because surely if I love you and you don't love me, I don't want you to be with me because that would cause you to be emotional and unhappy. So, do you want to hold anyone that doesn't want to be with you? If you do, then you want to keep someone prisoner. You won't be happy, and they won't be happy. So – what's the point? It all comes from emotion.

Love says – "well, I don't want you to leave because I love you, but if you've got to go, you've got to go; if you don't love enough to stay, then I can't hold you because that would be holding on to something."

If I hold on to something when I go into me (in meditation,) I say, "Come on, let go, don't hold on."

Love is not holding on. Whereas our whole society teaches us – that love is a holding on. So everything (out there) is reversed, really.

Love is not an emotion. Joy is not an emotion. They are both states which are immediately there now. A state is not a condition. Emotion is conditional – "I am angry" because of that condition – "I am jealous because of you." "I am resentful because of what you have done to me." All these are conditions.

Whereas "I love you" does not have a condition on it. "If you want to be with me, that's lovely – but if you don't want to be with me, well, what's the point if you don't love me?"

"I love you –" it's not a condition you see.

Joy – can anyone take my joy from me? Because my joy is within me. Nobody can take my joy from me. They can take other things from me, which are material and objective, and that might disturb me to some degree, but it would not take my joy – my joy of life. Nobody can take my joy of life from me.

So, the point is love and joy are states, not conditions.

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Keywords: God, love, human race, man, woman, compassionate giver, thought process, body, consciousness, emotion, truth, river of life, human condition, minds and emotions, planted together forever, great mystery, human mind, sex, enjoyment, fantasizing

Outline:

0:00 Love, God, and the human condition. On the love between man and woman, and how it is a reflection of the love of God. The importance of love as the key to understanding and achieving unity among people, despite the prevalence of misinformation and division in society. Love is the sacrifice of myself for something greater than the ordinary.

6:25 Sex, fantasy, and intimacy. Sex should lead to love, not just personal enjoyment. The importance of giving up fantasy for sexual pleasure. Two magnets – male and female – that are perennially attracted to on another. On familiarity between man and woman. Love between man and woman is diminished as we become discontent and argue with our partner, rather than remaining in the beauty of our love. How to get out of the need for sexual fantasy.

14:40 What is psychic possession? How does it work? Breaking psychic possession and self-doubt. If we love each other – why are we moody? The psychic possession that affects the human race. Emotions are a form of psychic possession that can be broken through living the spiritual life and through making love. On breaking attachment to excitement, visualization, and fantasy to avoid psychic possession and self-doubt.

22:05 Life, death, and consciousness. On the dangers of vanity and the importance of accepting oneself as beautiful, without using it in a flirtatious way. Consciousness is key to understanding existence. Sentimentality and fear of death prevent people from seeing the truth.
    
28:07 Love, attachment, and self-awareness. Suffering in love is self-made due to attachment, and that love itself never breaks hearts – love never ever broke anyone’s heart. Emotional people seek warmth in love, but true love is not warm.

37:06 Love and relationships. On avoiding emotional attachment. On becoming attached to someone who may not be worthy of love. Love between man and woman is the source of greatest unhappiness – on giving up loving something that doesn't love us back. The importance of personal experience and recognition in understanding truth and love.

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Keywords: intelligence, love, woman, life, relationships, penis, blame, gratitude, emotions, resentment, man, vagina, transform, interaction, orgasm, self knowledge, body, accuse, practical, earth

Outline:

0:01 Love, sex, and relationships. Understanding what you don't enjoy is key to wise relationships. On making love too quickly after meeting a new partner. A woman's vagina holds the emotional hurts from past relationships and lovemaking, causing pain and tightness. A loving man's penis is supposed to extract and transform this hurt in the woman's vagina, healing and transforming the emotional pain.

8:24 What’s love for? Love between man and woman is supposed to be a healing force.

15:22 Sexual intimacy and pleasure in relationship. The right penis can heal woman through love. The importance of mutual love and understanding in relationship. The body's natural ability to make love, without emotional or mental stimulation.

22:09 Personal responsibility and self-awareness. Personal responsibility for emotional disturbances in life. Begin the process of taking responsibility for life by recognizing when you blame or accuse others.

30:35 Four stages of meditation, with practical demonstration. The challenge of maintaining newfound intelligence in everyday life, as old habits and beliefs can act as a "disk brake" on one's progress.
     
37:51 Emotional prisoners and resentment. The importance of meditation and overcoming fear to live a fulfilling life. Emotions of resentment in the body can cause discomfort, confusion, and difficulty breathing. Examine resentment towards others, as it hides in the mind and harms self, not the other.

44:11 Gratitude and resentment. On the nature and interconnectedness of gratitude and love. The importance of gratitude to the "source" – God – for the good in one's life.

51:55 Meditation and spirituality. Pure sensations in the body. Life in body animates, but can't be shown, dies but never passes away.

59:47 Meditation and symbolism in the cosmos – the sun is the source of life, and the mother earth is like a mother who gives birth to all living things through the father's rays. The solar plexus as a sensitive point in the nervous system. The importance of stillness. Releasing emotional prisoners. Cultivating love and joy.

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Keywords: spiritual life, emotions, truth, senses, love, gratitude, life, thinking, presence, anger, unhappiness, god, death, intelligence, past, aim, blockage, innocence, resentment, fight

Outline:

0:06 The power of acknowledgment in life. In relationships familiarity sets in when we stop acknowledging each other. Acknowledge the good in your life to attract more positivity, rather than dwelling on negative thoughts – what you acknowledge you get.

4:40 Embracing life's goodness and overcoming negativity. The importance of gratitude in life. God is only good and man-made negative emotions are a result of wrong choices and attitudes.

11:08 The dangers of excessive thinking and the importance of "looking" in life. Barry sings about the "place of the sinking heart." The importance of letting go of selfishness and wants to reach God. The past in us and its consequences. The importance of intelligence.

19:07 The importance of straight thinking and seeing the fact in life. Intelligence becomes consciousness through sensory experience, but thinking about past spoils it. Emotions cloud intelligence, causing circular thinking and delusion. The importance of seeing the fact and truth, rather than relying on emotional interpretations.

26:53 Emotions at work. On greed and unhappiness.

32:57 Spiritual growth and health. The aim of the spiritual life is to reduce selfishness and emotional thinking by revealing the truth inside oneself through gradual dissolution of old patterns. Spiritual life as a flow of psychic energy, blocked by unhappiness and emotion.

40:45 The impact of human ignorance on children. The impact of past experiences on the present and the difficulty of removing them. The need for a long process of self-cleansing and personal growth. Humans are born with a burden of ignorance created by their own minds and emotions, rather than a pure psyche. On ignorance and evil in society.

47:51 Letting go of anger and resentment. Giving up anger, resentment, and jealousy to find true love. Frustration – the inability to control others and get your way. Psychic possessions by resentment and anger in one's life.

55:24 Emotions and thoughts in spiritual life. The importance of being present in one's senses to avoid suffering, rather than getting caught up in emotions and thoughts. Acknowledging emotions can lead to disaster, as it perpetuates their existence, and instead, one should stop giving in to them and stay present in their senses. The importance of accepting situations as they are, rather than fighting or worrying.

Excerpts:

What you acknowledge you get – once in a relationship you stop acknowledging I would say every moment, every hour that you are together, once you stop acknowledging each other, this living death sets in, you start to become familiar. And the beauty and wonder that you had when your two bodies first came together gradually diminishes with the familiarity and the thinking that you know each other so that you can just acknowledge your work, acknowledge your problems, acknowledge your emotions...

Acknowledge the good in your life, and there's plenty of it – I don't care what's happened to you. If you stood in front of me, I would show you what was good in your life. And I would show you that you are not being worthy to life, honorable to life, because you're still depressed about your own selfish considerations. You are acknowledging the unhappiness in you. And therefore you draw more of the same to you. But when you acknowledge the goodness in your life, which is in everybody's life, this moment, then that goodness, somehow or other, and we can't say how returns to you...

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Keywords: God, love, man, female, self doubt, truth, pure sensation, intelligence, body, assertive, decisions, life, woman, emotional attachment, judgment, consciousness, spiritual, innocence

Outline:

0:02 The nature of woman and female. Woman has lost her natural state – the female in her – and must reclaim it to be truly happy and fulfilled. Woman has become disconnected from her true nature and has become possessed by her self to a large degree, leading to unhappiness and discontent. Woman must arise like the phoenix and reclaim her true nature, which is simple and beautiful, and this is what men are drawn to.

6:02 Woman desires a man who loves God enough to give up his self-doubt and assertiveness and love her.

13:18 Relationships. Woman can be truly loved only when a man is purely what he is, and that this requires the woman to stop trying to teach or instruct the man. The man should already know what comes between them, and that if he hasn't lived a spiritual life enough, he doesn't have to be taught. The difference between man and woman.

18:15 Love, relationships, and spirituality. Love is a quality, not a quantity, and cannot be "qualified" or measured. Woman never leaves man if she is loved enough – woman leaves for lack of love.

38:17 Living in the present moment.

45:31 Memory and aging. Remembering and forgetting. Stop remembering and instead rely on your body to guide you. Memory loss is a natural process as people age, and it's a relief to no longer have to remember everything. How innocence is gained as people age.

51:13 Awareness and evolution. Consciousness is the equivalent of nothingness. Involution focuses on inner world of awareness, dissolving old ideas for new ones.

57:19 Life, intelligence, and emotions. The true nature of life, beyond evolutionary concepts, and the importance of involution in revealing a life that never ends. Self-reflection in personal growth, particularly in love life.

1:01:49 Embracing body and instinct over mind. On the relationship between consciousness and body. Discovering intelligence through body's instinctive responses. The importance of living in the present moment, free from confusion, doubt, and fear, and of giving up unnecessary thinking and remembering.

1:08:06 Consciousness, life, and the importance of self-awareness. Most decisions are made by a "monitor" within oneself, rather than through conscious thought. The world created by humans is choking the earth and its inhabitants, while the blessed earth within us remains untapped. The importance of intelligence and directness in facing life's challenges.

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The female in the woman – this is extremely important to us men, as well as a woman. Because unless woman starts to be what she is, man can't be what he is. And that's been the difficulty because woman has lost what she is...

Woman really fundamentally doesn't really want to do anything but be loved. That's the true nature of woman. But then woman has become has become assertive, she's become emotional – if doesn't matter what the reasons are – she's become emotional, assertive, more and more, as I say, like a man. What she's got to do is to be the female that's in her, because the female in woman is quite natural. But then something has crept into woman, such as her pain or unhappiness, or the conditioning of pain and suffering, or the conditioning of not being loved in the way she needs to be loved, the conditioning of not liking and liking– which are just conditions, and all this has corrupted the pure body of woman, who she truly is...

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Keywords: spiritual life, intelligence, love, negative emotions, body, pure sensation, karma, consequences, human race, negativity, ignorance, worry, thinking, pure intelligence, sensation, chest, pain, self, moat, feelings, emotion

Outline:

0:00 Spirituality and maintaining innocence in the world. The importance of dedicating time to spiritual growth, rather than just attending events. Maintaining spiritual innocence in a world filled with insincerity and tensions.

5:21 The consequences of holding onto anger and resentment. The history of religion is marred by violence, betrayal, and ignorance. On holding resentment towards others. Anger, an entity that must be let go of.

12:27 Living a spiritual life and overcoming negative emotions. On anger, resentment, self-doubt and negative emotion. True spiritual growth requires overcoming negative emotions. Emotions and feelings are not good or God, but rather a form of thinking and imagination that can lead to worry and suffering. Looking at emotions and feelings directly, recognizing that they are not the same as God or truth, and to let go of them in order to find peace and liberation.

19:45 Inner reality and pure intelligence. On the relationship between thinking and emotions, and the importance of confronting negative emotions. The importance of pure sensation and stillness.

27:59 The role of the subconscious in shaping emotions and experiences. Ignorant self resides in belly, causing misguided decisions and emotions. Past ignorance and negative emotions, seeking to emerge from darkness into light.

34:44 Self-awareness and tension release. Self-doubt manifests as physical tension in the chest, throat, and neck, causing discomfort and difficulty speaking. The fear of abandonment. Internalizing societal expectations and beliefs. The nature of self and its role in causing unhappiness. Releasing tension in the body.

41:40 Sensation and intelligence in the body.

48:43 The journey back to the beginning. Uniting body and mind through pure sensation, overcoming mental analysis.

57:15 Spiritual growth and self-awareness. Distinguishing between real and perceived pain. The importance of detaching from worldly activities and cultivating inner awareness.

1:03:00 Spirituality and consciousness in a busy workplace. Helping others find their true identity as the Supreme Being. Barry describes his experience working in a busy newspaper office, feeling unattached to their job and able to perform well due to his transcendental realization. Barry describes their personal journey of spiritual growth and transformation, emphasizing the importance of devotion to the truth and God.

1:11:51 Spirituality, self-awareness, and taking action. Eastern teachings cannot be applied in the West due to negative self-obsession. The importance of taking action on desires and loving oneself to be loved. Taking action without overthinking. Responsibility and consequences.

1:18:46 Lust, love, and the internet. Internet is a manifestation of corrupted thought, leading to distraction and lack of spontaneity. The limitations of love and relationships in modern society.

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I am a Western Master. Wherever you look, you will find some master who has had an Eastern master or an Eastern background. It's very difficult to find a Western master. Western masters are totally different to Eastern masters. Although that might not be apparent. A Western master doesn't use Eastern terms. I don't use Eastern terms, unless I have to because there's no Western Anglo Saxon equivalent...

Karma means just repetition of the past. We all have our karma, which is consequences since we were born of all our actions.

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Keywords: mind, clarity, awareness, truth, god, honesty, body, emotions, pain, life, nothing, silence, emotion, past, divine mind, beauty, thought, joy, sweetness, love.

Outline:

(0:01) Thoughts about past experiences can activate emotions of loss or absence, distracting from the present moment.

(7:32) Emotions and honesty. Thought is in the past, and thought can never lead to truth. Reflecting on past actions and past experiences.

(17:56) Consciousness and clarity of mind. The self, the troublemaker.

(26:27) Peace and self-awareness. The power of consciousness in seeing and being nothing, with the human mind seeking to project thoughts into the stillness. Mind connected to pain, distracted by emotional problems. Finding inner peace through feeling goodness inside, sinking into it. Descending into silence reveals truth, relief, and homecoming.

(43:42) Self-awareness and perception.

(52:18) Senses and their connection to the mind. Senses produce the universe and disappear with sleep or death.

(1:01:54) The nature of the mind and self. The mind's resistance to letting go of the self. The importance of being present and not trying to analyze or rationalize, as the mind cannot fully comprehend the depth of being.

(1:09:39) Purity, self-awareness, and inner peace. The importance of purifying the mind. Recognizing the source of problems is within, not outside. Grappling with emotional pain and insecurity, longing for comfort and connection with others.

(1:17:49) The importance of giving and clarity in relationships. Giving as the solution to problems, while also using honesty and clarity to identify and address underlying issues, such as unrealistic expectations. On the duality of expecting to win and fearing failure, leading to disjointed thinking and emotions. Asking others what they want, seeking to do something for them without causing unhappiness.

Excerpts:

You can only be joyous now. Whenever I am emotional, I am thinking about the past. Now, when you're thinking about the past, it means you're not here. You're not present. You're not aware of what's happening now. And if you're not aware of what's happening now, then you can't be aware of me because I'm only present now. So whenever you are emotional, then really we are not together. You see that?

I say to you, you will never learn where you went wrong. You will never learn from the past. The only way that you can learn is to be in the present...

In order to be honest, we have to be willing to feel everything, both the good and the bad. We have to go past our emotions, which can sometimes be the source of our unhappiness. And into a place where there is no opposite...

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This episode is a part of the 1993 Gold Coast Talks. Five other episodes are available for subscribers exclusively on The Barry Long Podcast in the Apple Podcasts app.

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'Sex is really love, only it has a selfish drive in it. Eventually that drive becomes the drive to master yourself and to transform your sexual drive into love.’

Barry Long’s tantric teaching reveals the next step in our evolution. Transforming Sex into Love shows you how this revolutionary change can make your most intimate relationship an ever deepening expression of love. Questions from the audience offer practical situations to demonstrate the idea. Profoundly relevant, this down-to-earth talk outlines the steps that ultimately lead to the mystical union of man and woman.

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Keywords: emotion, love, hurt, spiritual life, subconscious, loss, offense, self, energy, emotional, argument, love life, man, sexual excitement, stillness, life, grief, emotional reactions, personality, childhood

Outline:

0:00 Emotional reactions and past hurts affecting present behavior. Emotional reactions from childhood can resurface in the present, taking on the personality of the past hurt. The self seeks to understand past hurt through insistence on wrong words in the present.

5:48 Past hurts and their impact on present reactions. Past hurts and defenses resurface in present circumstances.How people can offend others with their words and how to respond to such comments without getting defensive.

13:12 Emotions and the spiritual life. Importance of recognizing and addressing past hurts and insecurities in the spiritual life. Reflecting on past hurts and offenses hinders spiritual growth.

19:41 Emotions, vulnerability, and healing from past traumas. The unreliability of human opinions and the futility of worrying about what others think. On emotions and vulnerability in relationships. How past traumas, such as child abuse, can resurface in present-day love lives.

31:36 Sexual obsession and love. Love is not dependent on sex or thought, but rather on the connection between two bodies. The degradation of love and sexuality, citing the influence of bad company and the lack of proper guidance.

38:50 Spirituality and inner peace. Giving up the need to have the last word in arguments and to align with their true self, rather than living off their mind and emotions. The importance of dying to oneself and loving God above all, rather than loving oneself first. The importance of dropping thoughts to address emotions in the stomach. Power of stillness responsible for human existence, never moves or thinks.

46:34 Grief, love, and personalization of life. Rest into state of being, free from thought and emotion. On the nature of love and loss, arguing that everyone experiences it and it's not unique to personal relationships.

52:01 The nature of love and mortality.

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