4127 - The goal is not to be embarrassed, but rather to bring about a fundamental practical change.

There is no such thing as being unable to help yourself, as Hashem asks it of you and has given you the powers. You can't expect instant transformation; it's a step-by-step journey. The Rebbe gives him some specific guidance. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/012/005/4127