During Elul, meet with your mashpi'im for guidence.

Mashpi'im possess much tradition and experience. Study Derech Chayim of the Mitteler Rebbe. It is incorrect to assert that someone who goes to the mikvah but does not have kavannah it doesent count. While kavannah is an important aspect, the act itself is very important. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/011/012/3782