I keep on reminding of the Alter Rebbe's saying: "You state your needs but not your purpose."

This isn't a rebuke but guidance to improve your situation, like the Chassid whose change in attitude led to his condition improving even better than before. Begin your letters by reporting on increased study efforts, then address other matters. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/011/008/3511