Therapy and Theology

Research reveals that the average person lies at least 1-2 times per day. Why do we do this — even if it's considered a "white lie"? And what are the most common lies we tell?

Learn from Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress in Episode 4 of this six-part series of Therapy & Theology titled "I Want To Be More Self-Aware." Each week, we'll hear conversations providing tools for how we can live as the most healthy versions of ourselves.

Related Resources:

• Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here!
• We'd like to thank Compassion International for sponsoring this season of Therapy & Theology. Compassion brings real solutions to the poverty that so many children in today’s world are facing … all in Jesus' name and through the generosity of sponsors. Take your next step, and sponsor a child today here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

When we're blinded by self-deception, we can’t repent, heal, grow and get better. So how can we know how we're actually doing?

Learn from Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress in Episode 3 of this six-part series of Therapy & Theology titled "I Want To Be More Self-Aware." Each week, we'll hear conversations providing tools for how we can live as the most healthy versions of ourselves.

Related Resources:

• Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here!
• We'd like to thank Compassion International for sponsoring this season of Therapy & Theology. Compassion brings real solutions to the poverty that so many children in today’s world are facing … all in Jesus' name and through the generosity of sponsors. Take your next step, and sponsor a child today here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Even if we can't see it, there is a motivation driving everything we do and say. How can we identify what we really want and be aware of how it's shaping our daily life?

Learn from Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress in Episode 2 of this six-part series of Therapy & Theology titled "I Want To Be More Self-Aware." Each week, we'll hear conversations providing tools for how we can live as the most healthy versions of ourselves.

Related Resources:

• Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here!
• We'd like to thank Compassion International for sponsoring this season of Therapy & Theology. Compassion brings real solutions to the poverty that so many children in today’s world are facing … all in Jesus' name and through the generosity of sponsors. Take your next step, and sponsor a child today here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Why we do the things we don't want to do, and how do we overcome falling into the same habits and behaviors?

Learn from Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress in Episode 1 of this six-part series of Therapy & Theology titled "I Want To Be More Self-Aware." Each week, we'll hear conversations providing insight on how we can live as the most healthy versions of ourselves.

Related Resources:

• Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here!
• We'd like to thank Compassion International for sponsoring this season of Therapy & Theology. Compassion brings real solutions to the poverty that so many children in today’s world are facing … all in Jesus' name and through the generosity of sponsors. Take your next step, and sponsor a child today here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Welcome to the newest series of Therapy & Theology: "I Want To be More Self-Aware."
 
During these episodes, Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress, and Dr. Joel Muddamalle, Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, tackle questions like …

• Why do I do what I don’t want to do?
• In what ways am I falling into self-deception?
• How can I be more self-aware of my behaviors and habits?
• How is my past affecting the way I connect with God and others right now?

Having conversations around questions like these help us live as the most healthy, whole, yielded-to-Jesus selves we can be.

Season 5 begins on October 5, and you’re not going to want to miss a single episode. So make sure you’re subscribed, and get ready to take a bunch of notes!

Related Resources:

• Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here!
• We'd like to thank Compassion International for sponsoring this season of Therapy & Theology. Compassion brings real solutions to the poverty that so many children in today’s world are facing … all in Jesus' name and through the generosity of sponsors. Take your next step, and sponsor a child today here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!

Doing the hard work of setting boundaries in your relationships will sometimes leave you discouraged, questioning if you're doing the right thing. While you will experience some grief, you will also experience true love, healing and intimacy.

In the final episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim will send you off with some final encouragement for why the hard work of setting boundaries is worth it. Save this episode for a day you need to remember what's true!

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

What if instead of avoiding grief, you could see grief as your friend?

In the sixth episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress will teach you to recognize signs of codependency so you can adjust your own expectations and work toward seeing progress in your relationships.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Codependency is one of those "buzzwords" that can often be weaponized or overused. What does it really mean, and how can we recognize it?

In the fifth episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress will teach you to recognize signs of codependency so you can adjust your own expectations and work toward seeing progress with your relationships.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Walk through your past; don't wallow in it. Deal with your past; don't dwell on it.

In the fourth episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress will walk through simple steps to help you look back at your own story so you can better understand yourself and start your journey toward healing today.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

How can we best prepare ourselves for communicating boundaries so that we can honor ourselves and the other person?

In the third episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress gives you practical steps to talk about your boundaries with others. Learn how to say what you mean, mean what you say, and how to not say it in a mean way.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Sometimes the hardest part of setting boundaries is communicating them. What do we do when someone disregards or disrespects our parameters?

In the second episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress will help you know how to respond when someone challenges your boundaries.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing In Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Is it even biblical for Christians to draw boundaries in their relationships?

In the first episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress uses Scripture to give you a clearer picture and definition of boundaries to set you up for more personal peace and better relationships.

Related Resources:

• Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
• Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
• Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear about how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Welcome to the newest season of Therapy & Theology: "Boundaries Boot Camp" with Jim Cress!

During this season, you will learn what boundaries are and what they're not. You'll also receive the hope and encouragement you need to do the hard work of boundary-setting in your personal relationships. Every episode is short in length but jam-packed with insight and wisdom as Jim highlights best practices and practical tips in each one. 

"Boundaries Boot Camp" contains seven episodes and begins on September 11, 2023.

Related Resources:

• Subscribe today on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to make sure you never miss an episode!
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!

This bonus episode of Therapy & Theology was recorded to help you process questions like "Since God is sovereign and knows what’s going to happen, why should I pray?" and "Can our prayers change God's mind?"

Join Lysa TerKeurst and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for this thought-provoking, scripture-filled conversation. It may be tempting to think about prayer in a defeated way or question if God will even respond, but, friend, take heart. The power of prayer can change things.

Related Resources:

• Your prayers don't have to sound polished, put together or perfect to be effective. God invites us to talk about anything on our hearts with Him, just like we would share with a good friend. If you want help making this more of a daily practice in your life, join us for our new study, Praying Through the Psalms: 30 Days To Uncomplicate How You Talk to God.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

This bonus episode of Therapy & Theology was recorded for the day you hit a hard spot and find yourself wondering, Am I going to make it? What if I can't do this?

Join Lysa TerKeurst; licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for the encouragement your heart needs when circumstances you're facing feel unmanageable, uncertain or out of control. Even if you just need a reminder today that you're not alone, this episode is for you.

Related Resources:

• We know God has the power to take away all of our problems and pain on earth. But what do we do when He doesn’t? Join our next study on the book of Job, When the Hurt Feels Hopeless: How God Meets Us in Our Pain Even When We Don’t Know the Answers. Together, we’ll find that God meets us in the middle of every question we’re asking with His love and perfect plan. And while He doesn’t always take our pain away, He promises to give us His comfort, peace and presence in it. Order your digital study guide today, and join us in the free First 5 mobile app for additional daily teachings!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

This bonus episode of Therapy & Theology was recorded to help you process the question we often wrestle with as Christians: How can a good God allow pain and suffering?

Join Lysa TerKeurst and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for this encouraging, scripture-filled conversation. After listening, we hope you're both comforted and filled with confidence that just because we can't see what God is doing, it does not mean He is not working.
 
Related Resources:

• We know God has the power to take away all of our problems and pain on earth. But what do we do when He doesn’t? Join our next study on the book of Job, When the Hurt Feels Hopeless: How God Meets Us in Our Pain Even When We Don’t Know the Answers. Together, we’ll find that God meets us in the middle of every question we’re asking with His love and perfect plan. And while He doesn’t always take our pain away, He promises to give us His comfort, peace and presence in it. Order your digital study guide today, and join us in the free First 5 mobile app for additional daily teachings!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to hear how this podcast has impacted you! Share your story with us here.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."
 
Join Lysa TerKeurst; her Licensed Professional Counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for conversations about how to keep moving forward in a healthy way when relationships in your life are unraveling.
 
In Episode 5, Lysa, Jim and Joel discuss the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, debunk the myth of "forgive and forget," and show you how taking a step of forgiveness may be possible for you as soon as today.

Related Resources:

• Some say time heals all wounds ... but what if that’s not true? It’s what we do with that time that moves us forward or not. In the pages of Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, "You’re Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today," you will receive the biblical Truth and encouragement you need when hurtful situations leave you worn out and unmotivated to spend time with God. Order your copy today.
• Don't forget to download your Listener Guide! This guide will help you remember and apply what you have learned, with statements to cling to and scriptures to soak in. 
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to get to know you! Will you tell us a little bit about yourself by filling out this survey? 

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."
 
Join Lysa TerKeurst; her Licensed Professional Counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for conversations about how to keep moving forward in a healthy way when relationships in your life are unraveling.
 
In Episode 4, Lysa, Jim and Joel answer commonly asked questions surrounding the grief a family walks through after a divorce, how to know when you're ready to move on, dating again, and more.

Related Resources:

• Some say time heals all wounds ... but what if that’s not true? It’s what we do with that time that moves us forward or not. In the pages of Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, "You’re Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today," you will receive the biblical Truth and encouragement you need when hurtful situations leave you worn out and unmotivated to spend time with God. Order your copy today.
• Don't forget to download your Listener Guide! This guide will help you remember and apply what you have learned, with statements to cling to and scriptures to soak in.
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to get to know you! Will you tell us a little bit about yourself by filling out this survey? 

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."
 
Join Lysa TerKeurst; her Licensed Professional Counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for conversations about how to keep moving forward in a healthy way when relationships in your life are unraveling.
 
In Episode 3, Lysa, Jim and Joel open up God's Word to find biblical Truth, hope and answers as they discuss the hard realities of a marriage falling apart.

Related Resources:

• Some say time heals all wounds ... but what if that’s not true? It’s what we do with that time that moves us forward or not. In the pages of Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, "You’re Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today," you will receive the biblical Truth and encouragement you need when hurtful situations leave you worn out and unmotivated to spend time with God. Order your copy today.
• Don't forget to download your Listener Guide! This guide will help you remember and apply what you have learned, with statements to cling to and scriptures to soak in. 
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to get to know you! Will you tell us a little bit about yourself by filling out this survey? 

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."

In this special episode, Lysa talks with her friend Leslie Vernick about the difference between difficult relationships, which we all have to navigate at times, and destructive relationships, which are damaging to our relational and emotional health and overall well-being.

Related Resources:

• Some say time heals all wounds ... but what if that’s not true? It’s what we do with that time that moves us forward or not. In the pages of Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, "You’re Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today," you will receive the biblical Truth and encouragement you need when hurtful situations leave you worn out and unmotivated to spend time with God. Order your copy today.
• Don't forget to download your Listener Guide! This guide will help you remember and apply what you have learned, with statements to cling to and scriptures to soak in. 
• Links from Leslie Vernick:
  1. Free Quickstart Guide
  2. Free 5 Red Flags Guide
  3. "The Emotionally Destructive Marriage" by Leslie Vernick
  4. "The Emotionally Destructive Relationship" by Leslie Vernick
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.
• Click here to download a transcript of this episode.

We want to get to know you! Will you tell us a little bit about yourself by filling out this survey? 

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."
 
Join Lysa TerKeurst; her Licensed Professional Counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for conversations about how to keep moving forward in a healthy way when relationships in your life are unraveling.
 
In Episode 1, Lysa, Jim and Joel tackle the hot-topic word "toxic," defining what it is, what it isn't, and how to respond to toxic dynamics in a relationship.

Related Resources:

• Some say time heals all wounds ... but what if that’s not true? It’s what we do with that time that moves us forward or not. In the pages of Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, "You’re Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today," you will receive the biblical Truth and encouragement you need when hurtful situations leave you worn out and unmotivated to spend time with God. Order your copy today!
• Don't forget to download your Listener Guide! This guide will help you remember and apply what you have learned, with statements to cling to and scriptures to soak in. 
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.
• Click here to download the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to the newest series of Therapy & Theology: "When a Relationship Is Falling Apart."

Some of the most joy-filled moments and memories overflow from the relationships in our lives. And some of the most painful, heartbreaking moments and memories overflow from the relationships in our lives. Relationships are wonderful ... until they're not.

And when things begin unraveling, it’s so hard to know how to process it all in a healthy way.

In these new episodes, join Lysa TerKeurst; her Licensed Professional Counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, as they answer your questions and have conversations about how to keep moving forward when relationships in your life are falling apart. Lysa, Jim and Joel discuss topics like:

- Signs of destructive and toxic behavior.

- Marriage, divorce and dating again.

- Forgiveness and reconciliation.

Join us for this five-part series starting March 16, 2023.

Related Resources:

• Subscribe today on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to make sure you never miss an episode!
• Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• We'd like to thank the American Association of Christian Counselors for partnering with us to sponsor Season 3 of Therapy & Theology. Click here to apply for their Mental Health Coach program where you'll be equipped to respond to friends walking through tough issues like depression, stress and anxiety, grief and loss, trauma, addictions and more.

We want to get to know you! Will you tell us a little bit about yourself by filling out this survey? 

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 6, we look at women throughout history who have made a great impact and how emotionally healthy women today are vital in the flourishing of society.

Related Resources: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review. 
• Want to dig deeper? Dr. Joel Muddamalle put together additional biblical context for this episode. Click here to download now.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 5, we'll tackle how the word "submission" has been abused and what it looks like to identify if a relationship has gone from dysfunctional to destructive.

Related Resources: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Parental warning: Some of the topics in the video may not be appropriate for children. Please watch and listen with caution.

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 4, we discuss the problems and effects of our world's "porn-demic" and the hope for healing. 

Related Resources: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review.
• Want to dig deeper? Dr. Joel Muddamalle put together additional biblical context for this episode. Click here to download now.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 3, we focus on commonly debated and often misunderstood verses in the Bible that seem to silence women.

If you missed Episode 2, click here to listen now.

Related Resources: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 2, we’re talking about the part emotional abuse plays in silencing women.

Related Resources: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• At the end of the episode, Jim recommended a counselor named Leslie Vernick. You can learn more about Leslie at her website here.
• Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions, podcasts, speaking events, conferences, resources, online Bible studies, and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

In Episode 1, we focus on why it doesn't help anyone for a woman to be devalued.

Related Resources: 

• Want to dig deeper? Dr. Joel Muddamalle put together additional biblical context for this episode. Click here to download now.
• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order here!
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review. 
• Learn more about Proverbs 31 Ministries by visiting our website.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Welcome to a new series of Therapy & Theology: "Let's Stop Avoiding This Conversation: 6 Topics Women Have Big Questions About."

It’s a series you don’t want to miss … an invitation for you to come as you are with your hurts, your questions, your willingness to learn and your desire to heal.

Join Lysa TerKeurst; her licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about scriptures taken out of context and sometimes used to devalue and silence women. They will also tackle questions you have around pornography, emotional abuse, submission, boundaries, and identifying destructive patterns in relationships, causing so many of us to feel crazy and paralyzed by relational dysfunctions.

Join us for six weekly episodes, starting October 20, 2022.

Related Resources:
- Subscribe today on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to make sure you never miss an episode!
- Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram.

- Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions, podcasts, speaking events, conferences, resources, online Bible studies, and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website!

In the middle of painful circumstances you’re walking through, how do you know if you're moving toward healing?

There is hope, friend.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and licensed counselor Jim Cress will help you:

• Walk through a biblical framework of the healing process so you can be infused with hope for your own personal journey.
• Disempower the lie that the life you’re living right now is the full story, and remember that with God there's always something more true, lovely and good to be found.
• Find comfort in your longing to feel like your old self again, as Lysa, Jim and Joel bear witness to the hurts you’ve faced.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom. 
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

When you’ve experienced something heartbreaking or even devastating, it’s easy to question if you’re on your way to healing.

Is it normal to feel this way? How do I stop hurting? Is this going to hurt forever? Maybe you’re even wondering: Is what I’m feeling a sign of trauma?

When this is happening, how can we move forward after we’ve experienced significant trauma?

With theological research and therapeutic insight, Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and licensed counselor Jim Cress will help you:

• Define what trauma is so you can better understand how it may be impacting your daily life in unexpected ways.
• Develop a strategy for recognizing and processing triggers so you aren't caught off guard when they come at you.
• Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and begin experiencing true healing today.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode. 

When hurtful circumstances happen, we wonder, “How will I ever get over this?” Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands that feeling. Since the release of her book “It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way,” she’s received hundreds of emails, direct messages on social media and inquiries from people asking her how she got through one of the hardest seasons of her life.

The goal of the Therapy & Theology podcast is to meet you in the middle of your hurt and give you biblical answers on how to move through it. In this episode, you’ll hear a conversation between Lysa TerKeurst and her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress, as well as Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Together they will unpack depression and anxiety, helping you identify triggers and learn how to combat anxiety in a healthy way.

After listening, you’ll learn how to …

• Overcome the feeling that you’ll never get over the hurt you’re facing, and recognize small steps you can take to get through the hurt, little by little.
• Replace the negative stigma of “therapy” by gaining a healthy, biblical view of counseling for your situation.
• Find hope in the midst of devastating circumstances by seeking restoration for yourself through prayer and proven exercises to help you process your pain.

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that might not be suitable for young children and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Our words frame our reality. The words we use are strong indicators of our personal emotional health, the health of our relationships, and whether or not we will go the distance with those relationships. By carefully watching our words, we can see relational differences as growth opportunities that bring us together instead of tearing us apart.

Colossians 4:6 (NIV) says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” This same verse is paraphrased in The Message Bible like this: “Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.” In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and licensed counselor Jim Cress discuss the framework needed for any healthy conversation.

After listening to this conversation, you will be equipped to …

• Discover the framework for healthy conversations by learning words to avoid and better scripts to use.
• Discern when to have important conversations without the other person shutting down or getting defensive.
• Make progress with points of contention in your relationship that you’ve previously felt stuck in knowing how to resolve.

Helpful Links: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to download A Healthy Way to Have Hard Conversations.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

We can love people … but we can’t change them. So what can we do? Draw necessary, healthy boundaries. It may feel overwhelming or even unloving at times, but what if boundaries are the unlikely thing needed to help your most difficult relationships?

In this episode, Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and licensed counselor Jim Cress help you …

• Overcome the frustrating cycle of ineffective boundary-setting with realistic scripts and practical strategies to help you communicate, keep and implement healthier patterns.
• Discern what types of boundaries you may need in your relationships so you can live in the peace you really long for.
• Be encouraged as you find boundaries aren't just a good idea — they're a God idea.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, you’ll hear Lysa TerKeurst; her personal, licensed counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle unpack the topic of narcissism. 

Listen in as Lysa, Jim and Joel discuss how to have a confrontational conversation with a narcissist — without being too confrontational. As a reminder, these episodes are not to victimize a person who struggles with narcissism but rather to shed light on this very real and often overlooked topic in the Christian world.

After listening, you will ...

• Be reminded that God is the only One who can handle worship from man, and we cannot label or define Him based on what He does or doesn’t do on our behalf.
• Learn that compassion and healthy boundaries are necessary if you are in a marriage, family or working relationship with a narcissist. 
• Understand how to have a constructive conversation with a person who has narcissistic tendencies, and know when it’s time to set stronger boundaries or even end the relationship.

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: The content in this podcast covers the topic of narcissism. 

Narcissism is a personality disorder that requires a medical diagnosis. Proverbs 31 Ministries does not condone labeling another person with a personality disorder. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

“Narcissism.” It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean? And how does it affect your life? 

So … what do we do if we’re in a relationship with a narcissist? And how is narcissism different than a personal struggle with selfishness? And what does selfishness teach us about our own need for God, even if we don’t struggle with narcissism? 

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, we'll unpack narcissism through a conversation between Lysa TerKeurst; her personal, licensed counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle. 

After listening, you will …

• Understand the medically defined character traits of a narcissist as well as the difference between narcissism and selfishness.
• Discover that the desire of a narcissist — to receive admiration and praise and to control others — is a human need that we all struggle with on some level and that only Jesus can truly fulfill. 
• Learn that compassion and healthy boundaries are necessary if you are in a marriage, family or working relationship with a narcissist.

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: The content in this podcast covers the topic of narcissism. 

Narcissism is a personality disorder that requires a medical diagnosis. Proverbs 31 Ministries does not condone labeling another person with a personality disorder. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

If you want to become a doctor, you go to medical school. If you want to become a lawyer, you go to law school. But the truth is, no one sends us to school to become emotionally mature. 

However, if we want our relationships to be healthy and fruitful, emotional maturity is actually a key component we must be committed to work on continually in our lives. 

Simply put, emotional maturity is emotional sobriety. It is living in such a way that our emotions are not swept up in traumas, triggers, coping mechanisms, addictions and more.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst; her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle talk about the signs, symptoms and cures for emotional immaturity and how we can “Be alert and of sober mind” (1 Peter 5:8) to really experience the fulfillment found in healthy relationships, secured in emotional maturity. 

After listening to this episode, you will be equipped to:

• Apply healthy coping mechanisms in your reactions and responses when your emotions get hijacked by past or present trauma.
• Learn the secret to experiencing the peace of Christ every single day by clothing yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
• Embrace the freeing truth and encouragement that a journey of growing in emotional maturity is not marked by perfection but by progress.

Friend, we pray this conversation blesses you with encouragement and practical wisdom wherever you are in your journey today!

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.
• Here’s a list of some signs of emotional maturity or sobriety mentioned in this episode: Be committed to healthy habits, not unhealthy coping mechanisms. Operate in self-awareness, owning your stuff and taking responsibility for your actions without saying “but you …” and blaming. Express empathy. Admit your mistakes and confess them. Steer clear of judgment. Practice and enforce healthy boundaries. Seek first to understand before you’re understood; say, “Help me understand …” 

When our earthly experiences with love have left us feeling unprotected, uncertain and ultimately unloved, it’s tempting not to want to risk trusting anyone again.

And all too often, our view of love and God’s love for us is tainted by the people who have failed us. But God doesn’t want us to stay stuck in our places of hurt. He wants to heal us and help us move forward so we can experience not only the depth of His love for us but also the power of life-giving, healthy relationships with other people, fostered in an environment of authentic love both given and received.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst; her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle tackle some of the most important questions surrounding love and our motivations behind love, including:

• How can you love the Lord with your heart, soul and mind?
• How can you really love your neighbor as yourself?
• What is motivating your love? And what is that motivation revealing?
• Where is what you love ultimately leading you?
• How would you define love?

After this conversation, you will be equipped to:

• Understand what biblical love is, and what it isn’t, by discerning the difference between kindness and enabling.
• Know what to do if you feel stuck in an unhealthy relationship, and learn the safest outlets you can take your most important questions to, including trusted friends, a pastor or a Christian counselor.

Like Jim Cress says, “true love connects and communes.” So, friend, we pray this conversation leaves you feeling more loved by God and more equipped to pursue healthy, loving relationships with others.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

All of us have facts that make up the stories of who we are. But we’re not just the sum total of these facts. There’s also the impact from these facts, which lives with us beyond the occurrence of the devastation, abuse or pain that happened to us. And in the middle of that impact, chances are there are some Shame Scripts holding us hostage from living in the freedom God so desires for us.

A Shame Script can simply be defined as a faulty belief or perception of self, others and/or God. Shame Scripts back us into isolation, making us imprisoned by lies, like …
 
You are unwanted.
You are an inconvenience.
No one really cares about you.
If you’re not performing or achieving something, you don’t have value.
You’re just not good enough.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Joel Muddamalle dive into how Shame Scripts reveal themselves personally in their lives, and this episode also discusses practical tips and tools for how we can find our way out of the shame caving us in.
 
After listening, you will be equipped to:

• Live true to your most healed, healthy, whole, holy, surrendered-to-God self and not the version of yourself that’s haunted and held back by shame.
• Replace scripts of shame with words of life by uncovering the truth, found in Genesis, of how God really made us and what He made us for.
• We pray this conversation blesses you, friend!

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that might not be suitable for young children and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

Chances are, we all have been plagued by one of the heaviest, silent battles one can fight: shame. The enemy wants us to believe this lie: We are isolated and stuck in carrying the weight of our sin and ultimately our own shame. But Jesus paved the way for us to live in freedom beyond the destructive weight and narrative that shame begs us to believe and live by.

In this episode of Therapy & Theology, Lysa TerKeurst dives deep into some of her own personal testimony and into conversation surrounding “Good Guilt Vs. Destructive Shame” with her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress, as well as Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle.

By listening to this episode, you will …

• Learn the distinct differences between shame, guilt, conviction and condemnation and be equipped with tools to combat the specific lies associated with each of them.
• Overcome feeling disconnected and isolated, and learn how to utilize healthy guilt that actually leads to healthy connection with God and others.
• Stop feeling alone in your shame struggle, and apply practical tools and scripts for life-giving conversations that birth compassion, empathy and vulnerability with others.

Friend, God already sees you. He is ready for you to turn to Him, even in the weight of the shame you may feel. We pray this episode blesses you!

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that might not be suitable for young children and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links: 

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
• Has the Therapy & Theology podcast helped you personally gain a fresh, biblical perspective for what you’re facing? Tell us about it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. When you review and rate the podcast, it helps us reach even more people with biblical Truth and therapeutic wisdom.
• Click here to view the transcript for this episode.

When we’ve been deeply hurt, whether by someone or by circumstances outside of our control, we often wonder if forgiveness is even possible. What if they never say they’re sorry? What if things will never feel “normal” again? Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled with these same questions.

In this episode, you will hear from Lysa as well as Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress, Lysa’s personal, licensed professional counselor. They'll equip you to …

• Reconsider the misconceptions you've always believed about the forgiveness process, and discover seven truths — about what forgiveness is and isn't — that may surprise you. 
• Let go of any bitterness holding you back from offering forgiveness to those who hurt you, and understand the necessity of daily confession.
• Find hope in the losses that are unchangeable, or that feel unforgivable, by trusting in the character of God, even when you don’t understand what has been allowed by God. 
• Recognize what codependency is and how it may be keeping you from setting the appropriate boundaries you need to ensure that you and your relationships are healthy.

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that might not be suitable for young children and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the links below if you need help finding a counselor.

Helpful Links:

• Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relationship dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight surrounding the topic of boundaries, helping you confidently apply what you read. Order the Proverbs 31-exclusive version here.
• Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances.
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Have you ever looked at a situation you’re facing in utter disbelief and thought, “How will I ever get over this?”

Lysa TerKeurst understands. But after several years of extreme heartbreak and emotional trauma, she's realized it’s not about just getting over hard circumstances. She's had to learn how to work through what she has walked through. 

And she wants to help you do the same.

That’s why Lysa teamed up with her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress, and Director of Theological Research at Proverbs 31 Ministries Dr. Joel Muddamalle to bring you Therapy & Theology.

After listening to an episode, you will be equipped to experience hope in the midst of devastating circumstances through practical and proven exercises to help you process your pain.           

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