differences of opinion embittered by group hostility / Daniel Dennett’s Four Steps to Arguing Intelligently / expressing respect by trying to understand the other / understanding morality requires more than citing the moral rules of scripture / sometimes good people perform bad deeds / Bhisma’s progression to consequentialism / Prthu leaves it at 99 / the more we resist providence, the more we enter into the darkest region of materialistic thought / fate is the language of God / aligning one’s heart with God’s through full forgiveness SB 4.19.32-42