My Ramaḍān series has begun alḥmadulillah!
This year, I will be doing a series entitled, "The Manners of the Believer," and the goal will be to educate ourselves regarding the noble akhlāq that believers should embody.
In today's introductory lecture (see link in comment below), I discuss the meaning of 'akhlāq', the types of manners, some blessings of perfecting manners, and then dive into the subject of whether one's manners are inherent from birth, or acquired.
We learn that while indeed all of us are inherently born with and predisposed to certain characteristics, that is not an excuse for us to retain status quo. We are all obliged to better ourselves, and Allah in His Infinite Wisdom will reward each one according to his or her own struggles.
How does one better a mannerism that he or she might not have?
Four points:
Knowledge of its blessings and reality (like Luqmān taught his son) Having a role-model to see this manner implemented (and the best role model is the Prophet SAW)Learning through one's own trials and experienceMaking du'a to Allah to be blessed with good manners (as is the Sunnah).