Mentally Flexible

My guest today is Diana Hill, PhD. Diana is a clinical psychologist, international trainer, and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Wise Effort with Dr. Diana Hill and author of The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, The ACT Daily Journal, and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives.

Some of the topics we explore include:
- The value in stretching outside of our comfort zone
- Ways to help carry the heaviness in life 
- Fears related to being more self-compassionat
- Diana’s process of releasing a new book while also navigating personal challenges
- How we can minimize our difficulties and struggle to ask for help
- Dealing with the pain of past regrets and forgiving ourselves

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Diana’s website: https://drdianahill.com/

The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: https://a.co/d/aBwmnIM

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My guest today is Dr. Steven C. Hayes. Steven Hayes is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno and President of the Institute for Better Health, a 45-year old charitable organization dedicated to better mental and behavioral health. With 47 books and nearly 700 scientific articles published, Dr. Hayes is one of the most cited psychologists in the world as he continues to innovate in the field of psychology. He is the developer of Relational Frame Theory (RFT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

Some of the topics we explore include: 
- The launching of the PsychFlex and Mindgrapher apps
- How this opens the potential for 24/7 integration of treatment
- The ways we can better attend to often ignored client issues
 - The limitations of the DSM and its history
- Moving away from a one size fits all approach to treatment
- The current development of new data sets and statistical methods
- Hope for the future of behavioral health and helping people

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Dr. Steven Hayes’ Website: https://stevenchayes.com/

PsychFlex: https://psychflex.com/signup/

A Liberated Mind: https://a.co/d/aGBpF8S

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today is Anna Lembke, MD. Dr. Lembke is a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she has published more than a hundred peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and commentaries. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice.

Her new book, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence was an instant New York Times Bestseller,  and explores how to moderate compulsive overconsumption in a dopamine-overloaded world.

Some of the topics we explore include:
- Dr. Lembke’s path through medical school and psychiatry training
- Early lessons learned about substance use and addiction
- The neurobiological overlap between addictive and compulsive behavior
- How Dr. Lembke navigates some of the highly stimulating parts of the modern world
- Childhood development and technology 
- The way compulsive overconsumption can lead to a dopamine deficit state
- What it’s like having Dopamine Nation be so well known 
- What matters most to Dr. Lembke in her life today

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Dr. Lembke’s Website: https://www.annalembke.com/

Dopamine Nation: https://a.co/d/5VQODAp

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today is Dr. Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a New York Times best-selling author, neuroscientist, addiction psychiatrist, and thought leader in the field of habit change. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, where he also serves as an associate professor. He is the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. His new book is called The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop, which we discuss in the episode.

Some of the topics we explore include: 
- How all urges converge in one place in the brain
- How our biological drives around food cause challenges in the modern context
- The way we  use food to numb ourselves from difficult emotions
- The healing potential of curiosity
- Challenges with mindless eating
- The difference between hunger and craving

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Dr. Jud’s Website: https://drjud.com/

The Hunger Habit: https://a.co/d/5VQODAp

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

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My guest today is Dr. Sarah Pegrum. Sarah is a Clinical Psychologist and ACT Peer-Reviewed Trainer who has been working in the field of body image, weight stigma, and eating disorders for over 15 years. Dr. Pegrum is the outgoing president of the Atlantic Canada Chapter of ACBS. She is also the author of the new book, Break the Binds of Weight Stigma: Free Yourself from Body Image Struggles Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Some of the topics we explore include: 

- Dr. Pegrum's move from Australia to Canada
- How she was first introduced to ACT
- How ACT helped Sarah moved through loss and grief 
- Challenges people face related to body image and weight stigma
- Some of the unhelpful messages we receive about our bodies
- And how seeing our bodies as problems can keep us from what is most important

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Dr. Pegrum's Website: https://drsarahpegrum.com/

Break the Binds of Weight Stigma: https://a.co/d/9jq1A5L

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

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My guest today is Steve Haberlin, PhD. Steve is a researcher and academic who has studied mindfulness and meditation in higher education settings for the past decade. As an assistant professor in the College of Community Innovation & Education at the University of Central Florida, he currently researches meditation practices with undergraduates. Steve’s most recent book is called Meditation in the College Classroom, which we discuss in this episode.

Some of the topics we explore include: 
- How Steve first got into meditation and mindfulness
- The benefits of meditation on unhelpful mind wandering 
- Why only a small percentage of people regularly meditate 
- Some nuances using meditation in a clinical setting
- What led Steve to research meditation in the college classroom
- The need for education systems to  focus on the development of a whole person
- And how teachers to start integrating meditation into the classroom

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Steve’s Website: https://www.stevehaberlin.com/

Meditation in the College Classroom: https://a.co/d/2jwzVMr

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today is Oliver Burkeman. Oliver is the author of the New York Times bestseller Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, which is about embracing the finite nature of life and finally getting around to what matters most. He is also the author of  The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking and Help!: How to Be Slightly Happier, Slightly More Successful and Get a Bit More Done. For many years Oliver wrote a popular column on psychology for The Guardian called, This Column Will Change Your Life. He currently writes a newsletter called, The Imperfectionist, where he discusses productivity, mortality, and building a meaningful life in an age of distraction. Oliver is also a contributor to Sam Harris’ meditation app, Waking Up. 

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: 
- How Oliver’s work overlaps with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) 
- Oliver’s background and how it helped him understand what doesn’t work regarding time management
- The idea of paying yourself first with time
- Making our peace with not being able to do everything that matters
- The importance of finding value in experiences themselves 
- How our limitations are connected to distraction and impatience 
- Oliver’s new book that he is currently writing

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Oliver’s website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/

4000 Weeks: https://us.macmillan.com/books/9780374159122

Twitter: https://twitter.com/oliverburkeman

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today is Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman. Scott is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist  He is among the top 1% most cited scientists in the world for his groundbreaking research on intelligence, creativity, and human potential. He is the founder and director of the Center for Human Potential and the author of several books, including “Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization.” Scott is also the host of The Psychology Podcast, which frequently ranks as the #1 psychology podcast and has over 30 million downloads.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: 
- The influence of individuals like Alan Watts and Abraham Maslow
- Scott’s latest book “Transcend” and his sailboat metaphor to understand the hierarchy of needs
- How the full vitality of life requires discomfort
- Areas of Scott’s personal growth
- Vulnerable Narcissism 
- What it’s been like doing The Psychology Podcast for almost 10 years
- The difference between being-love and deficiency-love
- And the connection between transcendence and spirituality 

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Scott’s website: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/

Transcend: https://a.co/d/79Lrh83

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottbarrykaufman/?hl=en

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today is Ben Eckstein, LCSW. Ben is a therapist specializing in the treatment of OCD, Anxiety, and OC-Spectrum Disorders. He is the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety & OCD Treatment Center in Durham, North Carolina. In addition to his clinical work, Ben is also an accomplished speaker, trainer, and is the author of the new book, Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck. He also serves on the board of OCD North Carolina, the state affiliate of the International OCD Foundation.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- How Ben ended up writing Worrying is Optional
- The overlap between Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
- How worrying can get in the way of other areas of life that are more important
- Understanding the habitual nature of worry
- The power of choosing what not to do
- The role of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in addressing worry and rumination
- Ben’s background working in residential treatment for OCD

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Worrying Is Optional: https://a.co/d/aE4FjqK

Ben’s practice: https://www.bullcityanxiety.com/

Instagram: @bullcityanxiety

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:

You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible

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My guest today Jill Stoddard, PhD. Jill is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. She is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors, Be Mighty, and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Jill’s writing has appeared in places like The Washington Post and Psychology Today, and she regularly appears on podcasts and other media outlets. 

Some of the topics we explore include:
- Jill’s new book, Imposter No More
- How and why she opens up about her own struggles in the book
- Learning that can come from our fears coming true 
- The history of “Imposter Syndrome” and why it makes sense
- The different strategies people use to try to cover up their imposter thoughts and feelings
- The challenge and value of being vulnerable in a public way
- Skills and exercises to help work on imposter related challenges
- And the importance of learning how to accept discomfort 

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Jill’s Website: https://jillstoddard.com/

Imposter No More: https://a.co/d/iDJsikJ

Jill’s Instagram: www.instagram.com/jillastoddard

Psychologists Off The Clock: https://offtheclockpsych.com/

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My guest today is Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, or 'Dr Z' as she is commonly known. She a clinical psychologist specializing in children, adolescents, and adults struggling with OCD, anxiety, and emotion regulation problems. Dr Z is the founder of East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, a therapy practice, where she runs an intensive outpatient program integrating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Exposure Response Prevention (ERP). She is the creator of “ACT beyond OCD,” an online class for people that want to augment their ACT and ERP skills for tackling OCD. In addition to her clinical work, Dr Zurita Ona supervises and teaches doctoral students at The Wright Institute, a private graduate school for psychology. She has also authored several books and workbooks which I can leave links for below

Some of the topics we explore include:
- The importance of behavioral flexibility in the face of adversity
- The difference between harmonious passions and obsessive behaviors
- How perfectionism can show up in a range of life areas
- Common challenges related to decision making, regret, and the fear of failure 
- How a connection to a deeper awareness can help us move through difficulty
- The role of psychedelic-assisted therapy in cultivating an observer self

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Dr. Z’s website: https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/

OCD Workbook: https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/act-workbook-for-adults-with-ocd/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drz_behaviorist

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My guest today is Leidy Klotz. Leidy is a Professor at the University of Virginia, with appointments in Engineering, Architecture, and Business. He studies the science of design: how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. He has secured over $10 million in competitive funding to support this new area of research. To share research insights with those who can use them, he has written more than 80 articles and two books. His most recent book is called Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less.

Some of the topics we explore include:
- The research and insights that led to writing his book Subtract
-How neglecting to consider subtraction can create challenges in our lives 
-The role that our environmental spaces can play in wellbeing 
-The similarities and difference between subtracting and minimalism
-How Leidy works to integrate these ideas work into his own life
- How subtraction can be useful in places like therapy, music, and relationships

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Leidy website: https://www.leidyklotz.com/

Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less: https://a.co/d/hzbeMBg

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My guest today is Yael Schonbrun, PhD. Yael is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University,  and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock.  Yael’s academic research explores the interaction between relationship problems and mental health conditions. She has authored chapters in several books and has written dozens of scientific articles. In her private practice, writing, and podcasting, Yael uses evidence-based science to help individuals and couples learn to manage work, parenting, and marriage in more effective and fulfilling ways. She draws upon treatments that integrate ancient Eastern philosophy with scientifically backed practices. Yael’s writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in places the New York Times and Wall Street Journal. Her new book is Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much).

Some of the topics we explore include:
- What is was like for Yael to bring her own life experience into Work, Parent, Thrive
- The difference between approaching problems “inside out” vs “outside in” 
- The challenges associated with balancing multiple important life roles
- The books, ideas, and people that influenced Yeal’s new book
- The importance of removing things from our lives instead of exclusively adding
- How ACT is integrated into Yael’s clinical work with couples
- We end by exploring both of our experiences podcasting 

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Yael’s website: https://yaelschonbrun.com/

Work, Parent, Thrive: https://www.shambhala.com/work-parent-thrive.html

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My guests today are David Juncos and Elvire de Paiva e Pona.

David Juncos is a clinical psychologist based in Philadelphia, PA. He works with individuals on clinical issues ranging from anxiety to mood and substance use disorders He is also on faculty with the Voice Study Centre in the UK, where he lectures on topics such as peak performance and statistics/research design, and trains music teachers in using ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) principles to address performance anxiety and enhance music performance.

Based in Vienna, Elvire de Paiva e Pona is a classically trained singer who performs internationally. With degrees in vocal pedagogy and psychology in addition to vocal performance, she is also a dedicated educator and teaches individual and group singing lessons and facilitates music classes for young children.

We explore a range of topics including:
- The story behind Dave and Elvire collaboration for their new book. ACT for Musicians
-How ACT can support musicians in both formal clinical approaches as well as music lessons
-How Elvire’s direct experience as a professional musician has played an important role in this work
-Some of the barriers within music education to integrate mental and emotional components 
-Some of the common challenges musicians face including:
       - Performance anxiety
       - Perfectionism
       - Shame and self-critical thinking
- Hopes for the future of ACT within music 

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ACT for Musicians: https://www.amazon.com/ACT-Musicians-Acceptance-Commitment-Performance/dp/1627343814

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My guest today is Tamar Black, Ph.D. Tamar is an educational and developmental psychologist in Melbourne, Australia. She has over 20 years of experience working with children, adolescents and parents. Tamar has extensive experience providing clinical supervision to early career and highly experienced psychologists. She also provides training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to clinicians and teacher. Tamar is the author of ACT for Treating Children, which we will be discussing today.

Some of the topics we explore include:
- How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy first came into her life
- The important roles Russ Harris and Louise Hayes played in Tamar’s ACT development
- The process behind her new book ACT for Treating Children
- Some of the core differences when working with children in therapy
- Looking at the hexaflex through Tamar’s adapted “ACT Kidflex” model
- And how to use our own experience and psychological flexibility as an agent of change

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Tamar’s website: https://tamarblack.com.au/

ACT for Treating Children: https://www.amazon.com/ACT-Treating-Children-Acceptance-Commitment/dp/1684039762

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My guest today is Dr. Steven C. Hayes. Steven Hayes is a Nevada Foundation Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of 47 books and nearly 670 scientific articles, his career has focused on an analysis of the nature of human language and cognition and the application of this to the understanding and alleviation of human suffering. He is the developer of Relational Frame Theory and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), He is also a co-developer of Process-Based Therapy (PBT), a new approach to evidence-based therapies more generally, which we discuss in this episode.

Some of the topics we explore include
- Death and dying young
- Aging and how Steve views his own process
-Challenging meaninglessness to make space for conscious meaning making
- We go deep on all things Process-Based Therapy
- Self-compassion and how it is not helpful for some people
- Making psychological flexibility more inclusive from a process-based approach
 - The problems with current diagnostic, syndrome based treatment 
- How racism and classism has been built into the traditional statistical methods 
- And how the concept of “ being normal” played a role in atrocities in Nazi Germany

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Dr. Steven Hayes’ website: https://stevenchayes.com/about/
Learning PBT Book: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684037551/learning-process-based-therapy/

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My guest today is Dr. Ron Siegel. Ron is an author and Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught for over 35 years. He is a long time student of mindfulness meditation and serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. He teaches internationally about the application of mindfulness practice in psychotherapy and other fields, and maintains a private clinical practice in Lincoln, Massachusetts

Some of the topics we explore include:

-What process behind Dr. Siegel’s new book, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary
-The science behind our pursuit of specialness and comparison
-How to focus on making connections, not am impressions with others
-How social media can amplify our suffering 
-How stressful early life experiences or trauma intersects with these processes
-The potential healing power of psychedelic-assisted therapy
-The connection between psychopathology and self preoccupation 
-And we end by discussing some practical tips to shift unhelpful evaluative processes

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Dr. Siegel’s website: https://drronsiegel.com/

The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: https://www.amazon.com/Extraordinary-Gift-Being-Ordinary-Happiness/dp/1462548547

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My guest today is Jennifer Kemp, MPsych. Jennifer is a clinical psychologist who works with adults and adolescents on issues such as perfectionism, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (ODC), eating disorders, and chronic illness. Jennifer uses acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help people notice their experiences, make conscious choices “in the moment,” and move toward a fulfilling life.

Some of the topics we explore include:-
- How Jennifer’s own story informs her new book, The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism
- The underlying processes of perfectionism and how metaphor can be used to understand them
- The role of self-compassion
- How exposure techniques can develop greater flexibility 
- The intersection of perfectionism and OCD
- And we explore the impact of perfectionism on relationships and our professional lives

** PS I had an audio issue during the recording process, so I apologize in advance for my mic quality not being as strong as usual - apt for the episode on perfectionism :) **

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Jennifer’s website: https://jenniferkemp.com.au/

The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism: https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B08WJ5YK19&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_YTDG6CNKNNN4ARND7R7P

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My guest today is Diana Hill, Ph.D. Diana is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She is also the host of the podcast Your Life in Process, and she offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT through Insight LA and Mindful Heart Programs and Instagram.

Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice, she encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. She completed her undergraduate work at UC Santa Barbara, majoring in Biopsychology, and earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at CU Boulder where she researched mindfulness and acceptance-based approaches for eating disorders.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include :

- Diana’s recent shift away from Psychologists off the Clock and into her new podcast, Your Life in Process
-Being able to hold different perspectives on the world and others
-The pitfalls of constantly striving 
-How technology can get in the way of being present in our lives
-Common processes that promote human flourishing
-The value and challenges of humility
-And Diana helps me explore how to navigate opening up publicly 

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Diana’s website: https://drdianahill.com/

ACT Daily Journal: https://drdianahill.com/book/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdianahill/

Diana’s new podcast: https://drdianahill.com/your-life-in-process/

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My guest today is Billy Ryan. Billy is a performance psychology consultant located in Savannah, GA who works with the military, sports teams, and individuals at the highschool/club, NCAA, NAIA, and the professional level. He specializes in applying ACT and behavior science to increase meaning and performance in a given context.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- How Billy first got into using ACT for sport performance
- The importance of language and messaging in sports 
- The use of ACT Matrix in Billy’s work with athletes
- The role of  attentional flexibility and holding outcomes lightly
- The current influence of mental and emotional well-being in sports
- And Billy’s hopes for the future of ACT in the world of sport

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Billy’s website: https://www.awareperformancegroup.com/

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My guest today is Dr. Russ Harris, author of the international best-selling self-help book ‘The Happiness Trap’, and a world-renowned trainer of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT). Russ’s background is in medicine and now works in two different, yet complementary roles – as a therapist and as a coach. We discuss this life shift more in the episode.

Since 2005, Russ has run over 700 two-day workshops and provided ACT training for almost 50,000 health professionals. He has authored four ACT textbooks (ACT Made Simple, Trauma Focused ACT, Getting Unstuck in ACT, ACT Questions & Answers), and four ACT-based self-help books (The Happiness Trap, The Reality Slap, The Confidence Gap and ACT with Love). His best-known book, The Happiness Trap, has sold over one million copies worldwide, with translations into more than 30 languages.

Some of the areas we explore in this episode include:
- Russ’s early career in medicine and how his own suffering was the catalyst for change
-Some of the books and ideas that were influential during this transition
-Russ’s first introduction to ACT and how it led to writing ‘The Happiness Trap’
-His work with the WHO developing an ACT protocol for individuals in refugee camps
-We discuss how pain can be used for growth, the nature of trauma, and the danger of toxic positivity
-And we end by exploring some of Russ’s future goals within ACT and in other areas of life

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Russ’s website: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

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My guest today is Louise Hayes PhD. Louise is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and active humanitarian. She is the Past President of ACBS, and a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy(ACT) trainer, and codeveloped of the evidence-based DNA-v model. She is the co-author of the best-selling books: Get Out of Your Mind and into your Life for Teenagers, The Thriving Adolescent, and Your Life Your Way. Louise is a clinician, working with adults and adolescents in private practice. Louise is also active community member, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to develop their mindfulness skills and raise funds for children in remote Nepal. 

In this episode we explore a range of topics including:
- How Louise found ACT and the impact it had on her personally and professionally
-Louise’s interest in eastern spiritual traditions
-How these practices can integrate with a more clinical perspective
-How imagination can play a role in both our wellbeing and our suffering 
-What gives Louise meaning and purpose in life
-And we unpack the 4 core abilities contained within the DNA-v model

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Louise’s website: https://www.louisehayes.com.au/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/_Louise_Hayes

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My guest today is Brenton. Brenton is a Cardiac Surgery Intensive Care Nurse who served 9 years in the US Army as a Combat Medic. He is now an advocate for the needs of the transgender community.  Brenton is a personal friend going back to Elementary school and was graciously willing to share his story of understanding his identity and navigating the transitioning process. 

In this episode we explore: 

-When issues of identity first became conscious in elementary and middle school
-How this led to significant life stressors throughout development
-Brenton’s experiences first receiving mental health treatment
-The early stages of understanding being transgender  
-How this intersected with his involvement in the military
-And we unpack many of the dynamics involved in Brenton’s internal and external transitioning process

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Follow Brenton’s transition journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bren_plus_t/?hl=en

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My guest today is Jessica Lahey. Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She currently serves as a recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont, where 100% of her salary goes to a scholarship fund for young adults. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs.

In this episode we explore:
- Jessica’s new book, The Addiction Inoculation
- The complexity of whether adolescents develop substance use issues
- Jessica’s personal experiences later in life with addiction 
- The role that AA has played in her recovery 
- The missing gaps in our education system for preventing substance use disorders
- What it means to live in a culture of dependence

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Jessica’s website: https://www.jessicalahey.com/

Her books: https://www.jessicalahey.com/books

#AmWriting Podcast: https://amwriting.substack.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jplahey

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jesslahey

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My guest today is Dr. Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a New York Times best-selling author, neuroscientist, addiction psychiatrist, and thought leader in the field of habit change. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, where he also serves as an associate professor. He is the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. His new book is called “Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind”

 In this episode we explore a range of topics:

-Dr. Jud’s early experiences with meditation and mindfulness
-The dance between being the experiencer versus the researcher of mindfulness 
-How Dr. Jud has been able to integrate of science and spiritual traditions
-How awareness can shift addictive patterns
-Dr. Jud’s thoughts on psychedelic-assisted therapy
-The story behind his new book, “Unwinding Anxiety”
 -The nature of consciousness
 -Dr. Jud’s thoughts on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

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Dr. Jud Brewer’s website
Follow Dr. Jud Brewer on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter
Unwinding Anxiety (app)
Eat Right Now (app)
Craving To Quit! (app)

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My guest today is Debbie Sorensen, PhD. Debbie is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado, and a part-time Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain VA MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She co-created and co-hosts the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off the Clock. Further, she is a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (Along with Diana Hill PhD who was also on the podcast). Debbie has presented her work nationally and internationally at ACBS World Conferences and has served as a lecturer in the psychology department at Harvard University. 

In this episode we explore:
- How Debbie found her way to ACT
- The value of emotional openness and present moment awareness
- Debbie’s reflections on collaboration 
- Challenges associated with having a public voice
- Debbie’s clinical work with those impacted by burnout
- Being a therapist when we are dealing with our own life stressors

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Debbie’s Website: https://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/

Psychologists Off The Clock: https://offtheclockpsych.com/

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My guest today is Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D. is the Director of TL Consultation Services, Associate Director at the National Center for PTSD and is Associate Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice.

Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 3 books on ACT including Learning ACT, The Mindful Couple and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for the Treatment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. She also has expertise in traumatic stress and substance abuse and has authored a number of articles and chapters and books on these topics.

In this episode we explore a range of topics including:

-Robyn’s first ACT workshop with Steve Hayes
-Creating a space for growth through our own presence as therapists 
-What makes working with individuals with a trauma history unique
-The concept of Moral Injury and how it relates to shame
-How Robyn stays connected to her work as a therapist

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Robyn’s Wesbite: http://www.tlconsultationservices.com/

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My guest today is Nathalia Freitas. Nathalia is the creator of Loving My Dots, a space she created to promote connection among diversity. Nathalia was born with Congenital Melanocytic Nevus, which is a non-genetic birthmark that can form on a person’s body. This left a birthmark covering 40% of her face plus moles all over her body. Her case is an example of a giant nevus, which occurs only once in 500,000 births. From ages nine months to 13 years old, Nathalia had many surgeries to remove her facial Nevus.

 In 2018, Nathalia began sharing her story on social media, leading to a number of collaborations with various publications. She was also chosen to be featured in a documentary by the British news agency Barcroft TV. 

The first 10 minutes or so of the episode Nathalia gives an overview of her story

We then shift into exploring more detailed parts of her journey including:

- When Nathalia remembers first becoming aware of her condition 
- The challenges related to looking and feeling different than others 
- Nathalia’s conflicting narratives regarding her surgeries as a child
- How the relationship with her mother played a role throughout this journey
- How Nathalia supports others going through similar situations

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Nathalia’s Website: https://www.lovingmydots.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovingmydots/

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My guest today is Dr. Miles Neale, PsyD. Miles is a Buddhist psychotherapist in private practice and founder of the two-year online Contemplative Studies Program. Author of Gradual Awakening, and co-editor of Advances in Contemplative Psychotherapy, Miles is a faculty member of Tibet House (US) and Weill Cornell Medical College. With more than twenty years integrating the mind science and meditative practices of Tibetan Buddhism with psychotherapy, trauma research and neuroscience, Miles is a forerunner in the emerging field of contemplative psychotherapy, and leads pilgrimages around the Buddhist world.

Some of the topics we discuss in this episode include:

- Miles’ contemplative studies program
- The importance of fully integrating fundamentals
- How Miles’s childhood informed his spiritual life
- Using your presence to help another person feel truly safe 
- And how we can bring a deeper sense of consciousness to our therapy work and every day lives

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Dr. Miles Neale’s website: https://www.milesneale.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milesneale/

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My guest today is Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, aka Dr. Z. Dr. Z is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California. She has significant experience working with children, adolescents, and adults with OCD, trauma, anxiety, and emotional regulation problems. Dr. Z is the founder of the East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, a boutique therapy practice, where she runs an intensive outpatient program integrating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) to support clients getting stuck from obsessions, figure out what they care about, and do stuff that matters to them.

Some of the topics we explore include:

- Our interviews with Steven Hayes
- How Dr. Z found her way to ACT
- How ACT and Exposure have been useful for Dr. Z personally
- Dr. Z’s early life in Bolivia and how it’s shaped her worldview
- And how ACT can be used to treat OCD

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Dr. Z’s website: https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/

OCD Workbook: https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/act-workbook-for-adults-with-ocd/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drz_behaviorist

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My guest today is Dr. Rheeda Walker.  Dr. Walker is a tenured professor  in the department of psychology at the University of Houston. She has published more than fifty scientific papers on African American adult mental health, suicide risk, and resilience. Dr. Walker and her work has been in places like Good Morning America, The Washington Post, and CNN Health. In 2020 she released a new book called, The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health, which we touch on in this episode.

Some of the other topics explored in this episode include:

- The rise in suicide among black children
- The role of protective cultural traditions
- How Dr. Walker works to stay connection to her roots
- The concept of psychological fortitude  
- The stigmatization of mental health in the African-American community
- And navigating racial differences within the therapeutic relationship 

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Dr. Walker’s website: https://www.rheedawalkerphd.com/

Book link: https://www.rheedawalkerphd.com/book

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.rheedawalker/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/rheedawalkerphd?

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guests today are Matthew Boone LCSW, Jennifer Gregg PhD, and Lisa Coyne PhD, authors of the book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway. This book draws on the model of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, delivering accessible skills to help people face their fears and build a more meaningful life.

In this episode we explore:

- The origin story of their book, “Stop Avoiding Stuff”
- The concept of “you do, you get” to better understand our behaviors 
- They each share personal stories of how the content within the book has played a role in their lives
- And we unpack some of the core skills that you can learn within “Stop Avoiding Stuff”

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Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Avoiding-Stuff-Microskills-Anyway/dp/1684036054

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Matthias J Barker LMHCA, a psychotherapist from Spokane, WA. He holds a private counseling practice and utilizes evidence-based approaches in his clinical work with adults, children, and couples from all walks of life. Matthias also makes mental health content online and has amassed over a million followers on platforms like TikTok, Instagram and YouTube (@matthiasjbarker). Matthias’ goal is to help the people he works with move towards health and what is meaningful in life amidst hardship.

In this episode we explore a ton of topics, some of these include:

- Matthias’ rising popularity through his social media content
- Our shared interests in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy 
- What caused Matthias to reevaluate personal values 
- The process of deconstructing spiritual beliefs 
- Matthias’ experience preparing for fatherhood
- Letting go of outcomes and trusting values-based living
- And Matthias ends by sharing his thoughts on the meaning of love

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Matthias’ website: https://www.matthiasjbarker.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthiasjbarker

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthiasjbarker

Twitter: https://twitter.com/matthiasjbarker

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Diana Hill, Ph.D. Diana is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She is also a co-host of the popular podcast, Psychologists Off the Clock where she has interviewed leaders in the field of psychology, mindfulness, and wellness. 

Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. 

Diana has a knack for unpacking complex, science-based concepts and making them applicable to daily life in work, parenting, relationships and health. She completed a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at CU Boulder where she researched mindfulness and acceptance based approaches for eating disorders. 

In this episode we explore a range of topics including:

- How certain self stories shaped Diana’s spiritual life 
- The universality of pain and suffering
- The origins of Psychologists Off The Clock and her new book ACT Daily Journal 
- The value of connecting to a more collective identity
- And allowing space to “tune up” your values in life

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Diana’s website: https://drdianahill.com/

ACT Daily Journal: https://drdianahill.com/book/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdianahill/

Psychologists Off The Clock: https://offtheclockpsych.com/

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. Mariel Buquè. Dr. Buquè is a Columbia University-trained licensed psychologist, holistic mental health expert, and sound bath meditation healer. Her work centers on helping people heal their whole selves through holistic mental wellness practices and on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma.

In this episode we explore a range of topics including: 

- Books that have influenced Dr. Buquè throughout her life 
- What first sparked Dr. Buquè interest in intergenerational trauma 
- We dive deeper into both the nature and nature parts of ancestral wounds
- Dr. Buquè shares how these areas have touched her life personally
- We unpack the approaches to healing intergenerational trauma
- We end by discussing the healing power of sound and perform an impromptu sound meditation together 

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Dr. Buquè’s website: https://www.drmarielbuque.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.marielbuque/

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My guest today is Cory Allen. Cory is an author, podcast host, meditation teacher and audio engineer from Austin, Texas.

His podcast, The Astral Hustle, where he discusses mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy has been featured by the New York Times. He has written a book called Now is the Way which explores an unconventional approach to modern mindfulness.  Cory has also created an amazing meditation course called Release Into Now - I was first introduced to Cory when  I took his course several years ago.

We explore a range of topics in this episode including: 
- Following your own curiosity in podcasting
- Cory’s process of figuring out what success means for him personally
- Cory picks Tom’s brain on holding space for others 
- Setting boundaries with love
- Validating emotional wounds from childhood
- And how to find peace by embracing the impermanence of life 

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Cory’s website:  http://www.cory-allen.com/

The Astral Hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-astral-hustle-with-cory-allen/id1033011814

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heycoryallen/?hl=en

Cory’s book, Now Is The Way: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0525538046

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. David Puder. Dr. Puder is a board certified psychiatrist and host of the amazing Psychiatry & Psychotherapy Podcast. If you are a mental health professional, I highly suggest this podcast. Each episode is so well researched and presented that it is like going to a training each time you listen. Dr. Puder was most recently on faculty at Loma Linda University where he was the medical director of a partial program and intensive outpatient program. Towards the end of the episode, we talk about his recent relocation across country and how he’s using this time as an opportunity to connect with values. Dr. Puder is an incredibly fascinating and thoughtful person whom I’ve learned so much from both in this conversation and through his podcast. 

In this episode we explore a range of topics including: 

- What sparked David's interest in philosophy and understanding suffering at a young age
- The importance of doing our own inner work as mental health professionals
- The historical roots of helpers doing their own inner work
- The difference between therapy modalities
- The importance of feedback in life; David’s personal mentors
- The framework of the hero’s journey
- The trauma of confronting malevolence within others or ourselves
- Understanding and integrating our own shadow 
- How we can use ourselves a barometer for a client’s experience 
- David's current transition stage of life

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Psychiatry and Psychotherapy Podcast:  https://www.psychiatrypodcast.com/

Instagram: @Dr.DavidPuder

Twitter: @DavidPuder 

Facebook: @DrDavidPuder 

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My guest today is Jill Stoddard PhD. Jill is the founder and director of The Center for Stress and Anxiety Management in San Diego, CA. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology specializes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for anxiety and related issues. Jill cohosts a great podcast called Psychologists Off the Clock which I highly suggest for anyone interested in topics related to ACT. She also is an author and has written two books including The Big Book of ACT Metaphors and Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance. 

In this episode we explore:

- The role that ACT has played in Jill’s personal life 
- The inspiration for writing her book “Be Mighty”
- Anxiety and anxiety disorders
- We discuss the story behind Jill’s recent Ted Talk
- And explore the role of Imposter Syndrome in the writing process

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Jill’s Wesbite: https://jillstoddard.com/
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efXDYu0LYe4
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jill_stoddard
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jillstoddardphd/?modal=admin_todo_tour
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillastoddard/?hl=en

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Welcome to a special episode of Mentally Flexible with one of my favorite songwriters, Jake Klar. 

Have you ever had a song or album become the soundtrack to an important period of your life? That’s exactly what happened to me with Jake Klar's music. It was 2015 and I had just graduated from college. With no idea of what was to come next in life, I loaded up my bike with some clothes and camping gear and started peddling north from Central CT. 300 miles and several baby wipe showers later, I made it to Burlington, VT. My first stop at then end of the day was usually a local bar with good beer and food which I could consume guiltlessly after burning more calories that day than I did in a typical week of normal life. The place I ended up that night was called Radio Bean, and to my pleasant surprise there was live music. This was different than your average bar performance (I would know because I would consider myself an average bar performer). This guy was something special. The songs instantly connected with me in a deeper place. That musician was Jake Klar, and he is is my guest today. For the remainder of my bike trip up through Canada, Jake’s music became the soundtrack of this transformative life experience. I have since continued to follow Jake’s inspiring development as an artist, and knew that I had to have him on as a guest for the podcast.

In this episode we explore a range of topics include:

- How music can bring you back into emotions and experiences from the past
- Jake’s process of letting go of certain dreams
- The role of self-criticism in the artistic process
- How suffering can be used to fuel songwriting
- The inevitable feeling of Imposter Syndrome that comes as an artist
- And how spirituality is connected to trusting our intuition

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Intro song: Crescent St. Blues by Jake Klar

Outro song: Rosy by Jake Klar

Find all of Jake’s music..

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0rcb7huZfHcu9UTeF1uHD6?si=gFwA-PCGQxqyJ-05v6QxZg

Bandcamp: https://www.jakeklar.com/music

Masquerade EP: https://jakeklar.bandcamp.com/album/masquerade - All proceeds of this EP will be donated to G.L.I.T.S. which is a grassroots organization dedicated to providing care and resources for the LGBTQ+ community on a global scale. The organization is currently using funds to provide housing for Black trans people. Visit their website for more info about what they’ve done and what else they are currently working on.

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. Alysse Loomis. Alysse is an Assistant Professor at the University of Utah in the College of Social Work. She also has experience as a clinician specializing in early childhood trauma. Alysse’s current research explores the impact of early childhood trauma and other adversity. She is interested in identifying mechanisms through which childhood adversity contributes to educational and health disparities as well as understanding how natural systems of care, such as schools, can be leveraged to prevent future adversity exposure and support child well-being.

In this episode we explore a range of topics including:

- Alysse’s background in researching trauma 
- The overlap of trauma and attachment disruptions 
- Alysse’s research in childhood adversity and the education system
- The need for greater support for teachers 
- The consequences of Pre-school expulsions and suspensions
- Alysse’s experience having a child and understanding attachment more directly 

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Learn more about Alysse and her research: https://faculty.utah.edu/u6025588-ALYSSE_M._LOOMIS/research/index.hml

Follow Alysse on Twitter: https://twitter.com/AlysseLoomis

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. Menije Boduryan-Turner. Dr. Menije is a clinical psychologist with a private practice in California. While Dr. Menije has experience in a number of different clinical areas, she has made perfectionism a main area focus of her work. Dr. Menije as a beautiful way of using her own life experience to inform her work as a psychologist. 

In this episode we explore: 

- Dr. Menije’s immigration to America from Turkey as a teenager
- How this led to self stories of inadequacy 
- Her process of integrating socially and navigating cultural differences
- How this shifted family dynamics 
- We explore how the root of perfectionism and how it manifests in many different ways
- How perfectionist thinking gets in the way of goals and New Year’s resolutions
- How perfectionism connects to OCD and Imposter Syndrome
- The impact of perfectionism on relationships 

Learn more about Dr. Menije and her course on perfectionism https://embracingyoutherapy.com/course-for-perfectionism/

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.menije/

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Kyle Buller. Kyle is a clinical mental health counselor and co-host of the wonderful podcast, Psychedelics Today. Kyle’s interest in exploring non-ordinary states of consciousness began when he was 16-years-old when he had a near-death experience that changed his life - we talk about this more in the episode. 

Since then, Kyle has earned his B.A. in Transpersonal Psychology, where he studied areas like shamanism, plant medicine, Holotropic Breathwork, and psychedelic psychotherapy.  Kyle completed his M.S. in clinical mental health counseling with an emphasis in somatic psychology. Kyle’s clinical background in mental health consists of working with at-risk teenagers in crisis and with individuals experiencing an early-episode of psychosis.

In this episode we explore a range of topics including:

- Transpersonal Psychology
- Uncertainty, Intuition, and Consciousness 
- Holotropic Breathwork
- Kyle’s near-death experience
- His struggles integrating back into the world
- And how that experience has since shaped his passions and perspective

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If you want to learn more about Kyle and the healing potential of non-ordinary states of consciousness, I suggest checking out his podcast Psychedelics Today: https://psychedelicstoday.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychedelicstoday/

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Welcome back to episode 7 of Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Tracy McCubbin. She is author of the book Making Space, Clutter Free and is a regularly featured expert on decluttering in the media, including The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal and Goop. I was interested in speaking with Tracy because there is no doubt that our inner and outer worlds are interconnected, so the way we relate to our homes can teach us a lot about our psychology and mental health. Tracy’s work goes deeper than just simply how to organize your home, she helps people understand what she calls, the emotional clutter blocks that drive our clutter. 

In this episode we explore:

- "emotional clutter blocks"
- the 7 types Tracy has identified throughout her career
- How emotional clutter blocks relate to values, identify, and shame
- The role of intergenerational family dynamics
- Understanding the global impact of consumption 
- The potential for overcorrecting and becoming excessively orderly 
- How to gauge if your home has become too chaotic 

Learn more about Tracy and her work: https://dclutterfly.com/
https://www.instagram.com/tracy_mccubbin/

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. Dennis Tirch. He is a clinical psychologist and Founding Director The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy. He has been described as one of the country's foremost leaders in compassion training in evidence-based psychotherapy.

Dr. Tirch is an author of 6 books and numerous peer reviewed articles on mindfulness, acceptance and compassion. He also has a rich personal history of spiritual practice that we dive into in this podcast. I was so happy to discover Dennis and his work as he has such a beautiful way of integrating eastern wisdom with western science.

In this episode we explore:

- The development of Dennis’ spiritual interests and practices
- How he navigated intense transformative experiences
- Integrating spirituality into his clinical psychology endeavors 
- The difference between challenges and agony
- How to live in the world while being spiritually awake
 -Staying compassionate in the face of immense suffering of strangers
- The value in compassionately recognizing our own hypocrisy
- Starting your inner work from where you rather than where you think you should be
- We end with Dennis leading a guided compassion focused meditation

Learn more about Dr. Tirch and the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy: http://www.mindfulcompassion.com/

Follow him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DennisTirchPhD
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdennistirch/

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is James Fox, Founding Director of Prison Yoga Project. I met James several years ago when I attended one of his trainings to learn more about trauma-informed yoga and how it can be implemented in prisons. James is a pioneer in this area as he began teaching yoga to incarcerated individuals in San Quentin Prison in 2002 and ultimately founding the Prison Yoga Project. Since then James has trained thousands of teachers who have replicated PYP's methodology in 28 states and many other countries. He is also the author of Yoga: a Path for Healing and Recovery, which is available free of charge to any prisoner who requests a copy. It has now been sent to over 33,000 people.

In this episode we explore:
- The early years of Prison Yoga Project
- How James works with racial and cultural differences
- How you can make yoga trauma-informed
- How to be a witness to another's suffering
- The path of Karma Yoga
- The difference between being a helper and being of service
- James' vision for the future of prison reform

Learn more about Prison Yoga Project at https://prisonyoga.org/

If this work resonates with you, please consider donating to the cause - https://prisonyoga.org/inside-that-yoga-room/

Follow PYP on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prisonyogaproject/

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The song used in this podcast is called Glimpse at Truth, off of my second EP Nowhere to Stand. Check out the full song below!
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/0Jjw7UEztBD8rTxIZFzsUe
Bandcamp: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth

Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Paul Gilmartin. Paul is a stand-up comedian, television personality, and podcast host. He was the long time host of the TV show, Dinner and a Movie, on TBS. As a comedian he has a Comedy Central Presents special, performed on the Late Show with Craig Ferguson, and is a frequent guest on the Adam Carolla show. Paul is the host and executive producer of the very popular podcast, The Mental Illness Happy Hour - which is one of my favorite podcasts. Paul has a very powerful story of experiencing childhood trauma which manifested in depression and addiction later in life. He is now sober and has become an incredibly important voice in the mental health world through sharing his story and creating a space for others to do the same on his podcast.

In this episode we dive into:
- The relationship between humor and pain
- Paul's early experiences in therapy
- How he has processed his childhood trauma
- Going no contact with his mother
- Paul's experiences in comedy and television
- The connection between spirituality, meaning, and purpose

Learn more about Paul and The Mental Illness Happy Hour
https://mentalpod.com/
Twitter: @mentalpod
Instagram: @mentalpod

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Welcome back to Mentally Flexible! In this episode I speak with Marriage and Family Therapist, Kimberley Quinlan. Kimberley specializes in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and other related disorders. She has previously served as the Clinical Director of the OCD Center of Los Angeles and currently runs a private practice.

Kimberley has been featured in many world known media outlets, such as LA Times, Wall Street Journal, and many of my favorite podcasts.  She is the host of her own podcast, Your Anxiety Toolkit and has an amazing instagram page full of resources that I suggest you check out. 
 
 We explore a range of topics including:
 
 - OCD and some common misunderstandings
 -  A few of the subtypes of OCD 
 - What treatment generally looks like
 - The role of self-compassion and values
 - Kimberley’s Eating Disorder history
 - What recovery looks like for her today
 - What we value most about being therapists 
 
 Learn more about Kimberley and get a ton of great free resources:

Website: https://www.cbtschool.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberleyquinlan/?


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Welcome to episode 2 of Mentally Flexible! My guest today is Dr. Kelly Wilson. He is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Mississippi in the department of psychology. He is the author of 11 books and more than 100 articles and chapters. He is also cofounder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT. If you listened to episode 1, you got to know the other cofounder of ACT, Dr. Steven Hayes. 
 
 In this conversation we dive into a range of topics including:

- the ubiquitous nature of suffering
- the cost of concealing our pain
- Kelly’s personal history of suffering
- what brings Kelly the most meaning in life today
- the connection between values and vulnerabilities 

 
Kelly is someone who inspires me immensely and I was honored to get to have this conversation. 

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Learn more about Kelly: http://onelifellc.com/

Welcome to episode 1 of Mentally Flexible! On this episode I speak with Dr. Steven C Hayes and I couldn’t be more excited! Steven Hayes is a Foundation Professor at the University of Nevada. He is pioneer in the psychology field and has had a tremendous impact in the domain of psychotherapy. He is the author 46 books and nearly 650 scientific articles. He is a cofounder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which is the form of therapy I use with my clients. He is absolutely one of the people who inspires me most in the world and I could not be more grateful for this opportunity to speak with him.

In this free flowing conversation we cover a range of topics including:

– the value of psychological flexibility
– flow states
– psychedelics
– transcendence
– the promises and pitfalls of spiritual experiences
– our core yearning for belonging
– lying and the trap of pretense
– connecting to our inner child

To learn more about Steve Hayes you can check out his website: https://stevenchayes.com/

I also recommend checking out his popular Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o79_gmO5ppg&t=815s

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