What is love?

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I live with a woman or a man, if I'm a woman, to enjoy being together. What we've got to examine is what stops us from enjoying being together? That would be a reasonable question, wouldn't it?

Man is with woman, where I come from, for her to help him to give up his structures – only to help him, as he is with her to help her to give up emotion. So it's a two-way deal.

Man's main difficulty in living with woman is that he won't listen to her. If he gets emotional, where I come from, it is right for his partner woman to say, 'Why are you emotional?' If he gets angry, the same thing it is right for his partner to say, 'why are you angry?' Now there's no reason that he should not reply straightly why he's angry. 'I'm angry because of the way you speak with to me.' Then, 'what is it about the way I speak to you that makes you angry?' And so the questions can go on, as long as both are willing to engage in a straight conversation what I call them intelligent conversation. But there's no good one of them being intelligent. Without the other, that's hopeless.

A real woman is she who is true to the situation – not to be true to your own feelings, but to be true to the situation. So what is the situation between man and woman? The situation is that we are together to enjoy ourselves. And I do not enjoy your anger, if you're angry. And so I will point that out to you when you're angry, trusting that you are intelligent enough to either say the source of it, or to get rid of it within you. So that's been true to the situation. And if the man doesn't get rid of his anger, and insists on his that he has right to be angry or emotional, then the woman has to be a real woman has to very, very seriously look at whether she can remain in this relationship. Because it won't get better, no matter how much she thinks she can change a man unless he is willing to listen, she cannot change him. She only thinks she can. Because she thinks her love is so strong, that she can change anything, it's not true. There has to be a willingness to change.

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