Why She Stayed

On this episode I am joined by forensic psychologist Dr. Dana Anderson where we discuss the dangers of non-fatal strangulation, what it is, what "counts", why it matters, and answering your most commonly asked questions.

Dr. Anderson's website and social links:

Instagram: dr.dana_anderson

Tiktok: @killerpsychologist

Website: https://psychologydr.com/doctor-of-clinical-forensic-psychology/

Further resources and videos:

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/being-choked-during-sex-is-rising-in-popularity-among-young-people

https://www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/survivors-perspective-the-impact-of-strangulation-during-sex-sexual-choking/

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/domestic-violence-op-ed-column/after-four-strangulations-i-googled-domestic-abuse

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/strangulation-is-the-highest-predictor-of-murder

https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/non-fatal-strangulation-is-what-domestic-violence-advocates-fear-the-most-right-now/

https://www.dangerassessment.org/DA.aspx

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On this episode I am joined by my guest Amanda where we discuss topics of emotional abuse, coercive control, sexual coercion and more. We also discuss how abusers use things like withdrawing or demanding intimacy as a way to control you and how porn use and spiritual manipulation can play a role in the cycle of abuse.

See my Instagram @gracestuart26 for more on guest information.

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On today's episode, Cindy and I discuss the progression of abuse in her past relationship/ marriage and how strong cognitive dissonance can be when you are dealing with "two versions" of your partner. We also talk about their claims of change, and how intense euphoric recalls can be when you are trying walk away and what helped Cindy to overcome that.

Cindy's Instagram: @cin.d.bin

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On this episode, I am joined by Elle Gargano speaking about enduring a 9 year abusive relationship and all of the aspects that kept her feeling stuck including surviving a mass shooting during the time when she was still with her abuser. We speak heavily about emotional and mental abuse and how the confusion kept her feeling uncertain of her experience for many years.

Elle's Socials and Website:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellegargano/

TikTok: @ellegargano

Website: https://www.ellegargano.com/

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Morgan shares her story of escaping a relationship that included extreme phases of "love" and devaluing. We discuss topics of coercion, reactive abuse, lying to escape his accusations, the addictiveness of the cycle, and overcoming self-blame.

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On this episode I'm joined by Karen DeArmond Gardner where we talk about covert, emotional, mental, and spiritual abuse. She gives new perspectives on how to handle the intrusive thoughts and lies that tell us "but am I supposed to stay?"

All Links for Karen's Socials and Website:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karendearmondgardner?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Hope-Healing-Domestic-Abuse-Reaching/dp/0825446945

Website: https://anotheronefree.com/

Facebook: Another One Free

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On this episode, Savannah shares her story about mental, verbal, and physical abuse and why it felt so hard to leave. We talk about how "smaller" physical trespasses escalate over time and how the perpetrator may pretend they are not even happening. This is an episode for anyone who is in a cycle of "good and bad" who is looking to gain new perspective.

Savannah's Socials:

Tiktok: @therealmessmom

IG: @therealmessmom

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On this solo episode, I give all of my best tips for bridging the gap with a loved one who may be stuck in an abusive relationship. I give advice on what could be most helpful VS. harmful and how to stay hopeful in the midst of it all.

Remember to always contact law enforcement in the case of an emergency, or call a DV hotline yourself for specific advice.

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On this episode, Jess shares her story about how abusers can weaponize mental health claims as an excuse to accuse you and gain control in very covert ways. We also discuss how perpetrators who are very charismatic triangulate people around them to feed into the manipulation and lies.

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On this episode I'm joined by my guest Quinn Padilla where we talk about how to gain clarity by focusing on what the *cycle* of abuse really looks like and new perspectives to help you identify patterns and stay strong. We also discuss Quinn's personal story as a DV survivor.

Quinn's Instagram: @itsquinnpadilla

Quinn's Website: https://www.rellawellness.com/

Article I cited: https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/

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On this episode, I am joined by Sherrie Lynn Lilley who is a DV survivor and owner of HEAL Creative Coaching. We speak about emotional & psychological abuse and how she navigated the trauma as a blind woman and as a mother of 5 amazing children.

Sherrie's Instagram is @sherrielynnlilley

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On this episode, Tatenda Mandingwa and I have an open conversation about the insidious parts of abuse, questions you can ask yourself to gain clarity, and what spiritual abuse can look like.

Tatenda's IG: @tatendamandingwa

My IG: @gracestuart26

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On this episode, I'm joined by my guest Maureen where we talk about her domestic violence story and the importance of calling abuse by name. We talk about the cognitive dissonance that happens when you are trapped in the cycle of abuse and how she eventually was able to identify what was truly happening to her.

Maureen's Instagram: @themaureenmurphy

TW: emotional abuse, SA, other sensitive topics.

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Savannah shares her DV story about emotional abuse, sexual abuse, substance use, and the escalation of physical abuse within a marriage. We also discuss post separation abuse, the challenges when a child is involved, and words of wisdom and hope for coming out on the other side.

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Today I am joined by Abuse Educator and DV Advocate, Eleni. We discuss commonly asked questions to provide you with education, strength, and understanding.

Eleni's Instagram: @no_narcsense

Tiktok: @nonarcsense

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On this episode, Lex will be sharing her domestic violence story and how the early warning signs of control and manipulation escalated over time and lead to a kidnapping incident by her abuser that she survived. Lex now has a passion for DV advocacy and speaks out to help people recognize the signs.

Her social media pages are:

Instagram: @lexruhlen

TikTok: @lexlittlepickle

Trigger Warning: Physical abuse, language, emotional abuse

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On this episode I am joined by my guest Lauren who shares her story of domestic violence and how she finally broke free from a powerful, addictive, and confusing cycle.

TW: emotional abuse, physical abuse, descriptions of SA

My Instagram: @gracestuart26

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On this episode we will discuss more of your most commonly asked questions about how to know if it's abuse, how to reassure yourself that it is that bad, smear campaign tactics, coercion, and staying strong through it all.

IG: @gracestuart26

TikTok: @gracestuart

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