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Are you ready to let go of what isn’t truly you and live a more meaningful life? If you answered yes, you’ve come to the right place! Enter I’m Not Your Shrink, a podcast hosted by clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. Each week, she combines her clinical knowledge, evidence-based research, and personal experiences as a wife and mother to address the everyday issues we all face. With over 17 years of experience, Dr. Tracy is on a mission to help couples break old patterns, find joy in their relationships, and empower themselves to show up meaningfully for their families, relationships, and, most importantly, themselves. While she isn’t your shrink, you are invited each week to join Dr. Tracy as she sits down with fellow clinicians, experts, and partner in both business and life, her husband Greg, for insightful discussions on parenting, relationships, and personal growth, and start your journey towards a happier, healthier you.
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Have you ever reacted in a way that felt… bigger than the moment? Maybe your partner forgets to check in, and suddenly you feel unimportant or abandoned. Or you receive a small piece of feedback and spiral into shame.
You might wonder, “Why am I like this?”
In this episode, Dr. Tracy guides you through how to identify when your inner child is showing up—and how to begin healing those younger parts of you that still carry unmet needs and emotional wounds.
This episode explores:
What the inner child really is (and what it isn’t)
The subtle signs your inner child is driving your reactions
A personal story of when Dr. Tracy's own inner child took the wheel—and how she did the work
The exact steps Dr. Tracy uses with clients to heal emotional triggers and reparent themselves with compassion
Why understanding your inner child can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and your loved ones
If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I still react this way,” this episode will help you move from self-blame to self-understanding—and offer you a clear path to healing.
Press play now to begin the powerful process of reconnecting with your inner child in a way that’s healing, grounded, and life-giving.
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In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, tackle a communication struggle that so many couples face—understanding why saying "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction" backfires. It’s a fine line, and crossing it can quickly turn a conversation into an argument.
Dr. Tracy shares a personal experience that sparked this discussion, including a thought-provoking comment from one of her social media posts that made her pause and reflect: Was she explaining her perspective, or was she being defensive? From there, she and Greg break down how context, emotional intelligence, and tone shape our responses—and why so many of us misinterpret each other in the heat of the moment.
They also explore:
- The subtle (but crucial) difference between sharing vs. putting up a defensive wall. (e.g., when you say "I'm afraid to tell you because of your reaction")
- How social media has blurred the lines of healthy communication by over-labeling behaviors.
- Practical strategies to recognize and shift defensiveness in real-time.
- The power of slowing down, validating emotions, and staying connected even in difficult conversations.
This episode will leave you rethinking the way you respond to your partner—and help you approach communication with more clarity and intention. If you've ever struggled with feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frustrated in your relationship, this conversation is a must-listen.
Hit play now and share this with someone who needs to hear it.
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Have you ever felt lonely in your own relationship... longing for romance but afraid to ask for it?
You’re not alone.
So many of us crave connection, but the fear of rejection, disappointment, or even feeling like a burden keeps us silent.
In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg dive deep into the emotional weight of longing for more while holding back our true desires. They unpack why asking for romance can feel so vulnerable, how past experiences shape our fears, and the subtle ways resentment builds when needs go unmet.
Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the steps you can take to break free from this cycle.
This episode offers simple, actionable shifts to express your needs without guilt or fear.
Because you deserve love, effort, and connection in your relationship.
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Have you ever been told that if something still triggers you, it means you haven’t healed? This idea oversimplifies trauma, healing, and how the nervous system actually works.
In this episode, Dr. Tracy is breaking down why triggers aren’t just signs of unresolved wounds but natural responses from your nervous system—and why healing isn’t about never being triggered, but about recovering faster.
We’ll explore:
What Polyvagal Theory teaches us about triggers and emotional reactions
How your vagal brake helps regulate stress—and what happens when it’s weak
Why some triggers come from systemic or relational harm, not just personal trauma
What resilience really means for the nervous system
Through real client stories and my own experiences, you’ll learn how to stop blaming yourself for your reactions and start working with your nervous system, not against it.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by triggers or questioned whether you’re “healed enough,” this episode will give you the insight and tools to navigate emotional responses with more self-awareness, compassion, and resilience.
Press play to learn how to reframe your triggers, regulate your nervous system, and move through life with greater ease.
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Most people approach arguments with one goal in mind: winning. But what if winning an argument actually means losing something far more important—connection?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and viral communication expert, to explore why people approach conflict the wrong way. Jefferson shares practical strategies that will help you stay in control, reduce defensiveness, and shift from a "you vs. me" mindset to an "us vs. the problem" approach.
In this episode, they discuss:
Why winning an argument often damages the relationship
A simple phrase that instantly de-escalates conflict
How to say difficult things without fear or avoidance
A key mindset shift that transforms the way couples communicate
For anyone who has felt frustrated by recurring fights or struggles to be heard in their relationship, this episode offers game-changing insights. Communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle—learn how to argue better, not harder.
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The butterflies have faded, the sparks feel dim, and now… it’s like you’re just coexisting. You love each other, but your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners. Sound familiar?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into what really happens after the honeymoon stage—why passion shifts, why connection starts to feel harder, and why so many couples struggle with feeling distant as life gets busier.
If you’ve ever thought:
Why doesn’t it feel the same anymore?
Are we falling out of love, or is this normal?
How do we get back what we had?
This episode is for you. You’ll learn:
✔️ The biggest misconceptions about love after the honeymoon stage.
✔️ Why feeling like “roommates” doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human.
✔️ Practical ways to bring back connection, even when life feels overwhelming.
If you’ve been craving more intimacy, laughter, and closeness in your relationship, hit play now.
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What do you do when a partner replies with “Well, I guess I’ll just never … again” after you share something with them?
In this episode, Dr. Tracy and her co-host Greg answer this question and talk about how to respond to a partner’s "all or nothing" statement in response to a concern raised. Dr. Tracy talks about the underlying emotion in this expression, provides strategies for having a constructive conversation in that situation, and how to break out of this tricky cycle that stops couples from feeling close and connected.
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Have you ever felt the urge to bite your tongue when something’s bothering you—just to keep the peace? Would you describe yourself as a conflict avoider? Or maybe your partner is a conflict avoider.
In this episode, we dive into the real reasons behind conflict avoidance, uncovering how silent resentments can take a toll on your mental well-being and your bond with your partner. We’ll explore why we often dodge difficult conversations, the long-term impact on both individuals and couples, and share practical steps to move from avoidance to constructive communication.
Whether you’re struggling with unspoken irritations or seeking a healthier way to handle everyday disagreements, this conversation will help you and your partner break the cycle of conflict avoidance. Tune in as we discuss how small (but powerful) shifts can lead to deeper emotional connection and relationship growth. Don’t miss out on these essential insights to transform conflict into a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and closeness.
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It’s here! Season 6 of the podcast is launching with a brand-new name: Dear Dr. Tracy! In this episode, Dr. Tracy’s pulling back the curtain on why she made this change, what it means for the future of the show, and how she’s stepping outside her comfort zone to bring you even deeper, more real conversations about relationships, resentment, intimacy, and all the messy in-between moments.
Dr. Tracy discusses why the name change, how you can be part of the show, what’s been going on behind the scenes, a parenting moment she didn’t sign up for (and why she got a cake for it), and what’s coming this season.
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In the season finale of the podcast, Dr. Tracy tackles one of her most frequently asked questions: "How do I get my partner to go to therapy?" But first, she has a special announcement to share: she's writing her second book! Dr. Tracy then dives into the importance of starting therapy early in a relationship to build trust, enhance communication, and address issues before they become critical. She discusses the challenges many couples face, especially when one partner is hesitant, often due to stigma or fear of blame. She shares strategies for encouraging a reluctant partner, including empathetic communication, understanding their concerns, and approaching the conversation with care. The episode also explores the benefits of therapy, such as identifying and changing negative cycles, fostering personal growth, and deepening emotional connection. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be patient, respect their partner's pace, and consider therapy as a tool to strengthen and sustain their relationship.
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In today's episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist, author, and creator of the "Attachment Nerd" online community. Eli shares her personal journey of overcoming inherited attachment trauma, emphasizing the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Together, Dr. Tracy and Eli explore the pressures of parenting, emphasizing the value of attunement, co-regulation, and being present with children during painful moments rather than trying to eliminate their pain. Eli also introduces her new book, "Raising Securely Attached Kids," which offers insights and practical advice for parents. Key takeaways from this conversation include the importance of repair over perfection in relationships, the necessity of connection in parenting, and understanding that parenting is challenging because it requires confronting our own vulnerabilities. The episode highlights that fostering connection through vulnerability and repair is what truly strengthens relationships.
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In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy delves into how early childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt, an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist known for her expertise in trauma and resilience. Dr. Truitt, founder of the Truitt Institute and CEO of the Amy Research Foundation, shares insights from her memoir, Keep Breathing, highlighting the powerful role of the amygdala—"Amy"—in shaping our responses to safety, lovability, and belonging. Their discussion covers the positive and powerful impact that showing personal vulnerability as therapists has had on their client relationships, the importance of connection, and the difference between codependency and trauma bonding. Dr. Kate expresses that while our past influences us, we have the power to choose healthier paths and that self-compassion is a key to healing and growth. Tune in to discover how understanding these dynamics can lead to deeper self-awareness and stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
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It’s safe to say that "mommy brain" is due for a rebrand! In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, a clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker and author of "Rattled," to discuss the challenges and opportunities of motherhood, particularly during the postpartum period. Dr. Nikki shares her journey from academia to becoming a mother, emphasizing the mental health needs of mothers often overlooked. They discuss the transformation of the maternal brain during matrescence, the pressures of social media, and the reality of baby bonding and breastfeeding challenges. Dr. Nikki rebrands "mommy brain" as a brilliant adaptation to motherhood's demands and advocates for early postpartum mental health care. They explore three pillars for thriving postpartum: mental health treatment, understanding motherhood, and thriving beyond birth trauma. The episode flips the narrative on motherhood, viewing it as a profound opportunity despite its challenges. Dr. Tracy concludes with actionable tips: self-compassion, incorporating movement, and practicing present-moment connection.
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In this mini session, Dr. Tracy talks with Rini and Shaun Frey about overcoming difficult periods in their relationship. Together, they discuss how anger and passive-aggressiveness can lead to disconnection and the importance of initiating early communication before things blow up. Despite eight months of built-up emotions, therapy helped them learn to talk openly and brought them closer. Rini shares her struggle with vulnerability and the expectation that men should take the first step, while Shaun recalls initiating reconciliation after a major fight. They highlight the importance of humour, managing egos, and learning repair strategies, encouraging parents to model these behaviours for their children.
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Greg, AKA, Dr. Tracy's favourite co-host and hubby is back this week to discuss strategies to de-escalate disagreements. In this episode, they emphasize the importance of understanding how escalation occurs and how to effectively de-escalate before diving into the deeper and necessary conversations. They share insights from their own relationship, highlighting how childhood experiences shape behaviour in relationships and the impact of perpetual conflicts. Dr. Tracy and Greg discuss the physical sensations of escalation, common negative communication patterns, and the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and making agreements with your partner to take breaks and return to conflicts with a calmer mindset. They also cover practical techniques for self-regulation and co-regulation and answer a listener's voicemail about navigating loss and its impact on relationships.
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In today’s mini-session, Dr. Tracy addresses coping with anxious attachment in relationships. She explains that it’s not your fault and stems from unmet needs in the past. Dr. Tracy emphasizes self-soothing with affirmations like “I am loved, I am enough, I am worthy” and highlights the importance of looking inward for acceptance. Understanding triggers, practicing self-compassion, and clearly communicating your needs and struggles to your partner are key strategies. Self-compassion involves acknowledging suffering, recognizing it as a human experience, and offering yourself grace.
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Trigger warning: Traumatic birth experience
In today’s session, Dr. Tracy sits down with Dr. Mona Amin, a board-certified general pediatrician, online parenting educator, wife and mother. She shares her mission to provide relatable content for parents, aiming to instill confidence and calm in their parenting journey. In this episode, Dr. Mona candidly opens up about her traumatic birth story, the subsequent health challenges her family faced, how it affected her marriage, the importance of self-advocacy and the key role therapy played while navigating her postpartum reality. As a recovering perfectionist she also shares how she's learned to get comfortable in being uncomfortable and trust the healing process. Together, Dr. Mona and Dr. Tracy explore how traumatic experiences can shape relationships, the ongoing, unpredictable journey of parenthood, the need to prioritize therapy and how to maintain hope in the face of uncertainty.
Be sure to keep up with Dr. Mona on Instagram @pedsdoctalk and visit her website www.pedsdoctalk.com
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In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Becky discuss the impact of growing up with parents who, despite their best efforts, did not validate certain emotions. This creates an intergenerational legacy where unvalidated feelings become triggers today. They highlight the importance of changing the script for our children's future and our own mental health. By showing kindness, compassion, and curiosity to ourselves, we can model these behaviours for our kids. They challenge the outdated belief that emotions are "soft" and emphasize that feelings are primary, reacting before we think. Ignoring emotions leads to negative outcomes, and addressing them is essential for effective change.
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Tired of always being the initiator in your relationship? This week, Dr. Tracy addresses the common issue of "my husband doesn’t plan date nights," a struggle many listeners have shared. She discusses the prevalent belief in heterosexual relationships that men should instinctively know and plan for their partner's needs, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional effort and open communication. Dr. Tracy highlights the importance of recognizing different seasons in partnerships, acknowledging bids for connection, and separating self-worth from a partner's actions. She offers practical advice on creating a system for planning date nights, balancing the division of labor, and appreciating each partner's contributions. By understanding and communicating needs effectively, couples can improve their connection, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction.
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In this week’s mini session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker, tackle mom burnout and perfectionism, highlighting the pressures modern mothers face. They discuss how today’s moms spend twice as much time on parenting compared to 1965, coupled with the demands of being constantly available to employers. This has led to unrealistic expectations of being a hands-on, super-present mom. They emphasize the importance of allowing yourself to just "be," as taking a moment to relax doesn’t diminish your worth as a mother. The session calls for reevaluating perfectionist standards and giving yourself grace in the journey of motherhood.
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The dynamic duo is back together! This week, Dr. Tracy welcomes back her fellow Canadian sister, Renee Reina, host of the top-ranking podcast The Mom Room, for an open and honest discussion about handling visitors after giving birth. Renee shares her personal experience and how her perspective on postpartum visits shifted after having her son, Milo. They distinguish between true support people and visitors, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing the mother's comfort and needs. The conversation covers cultural expectations, the challenges of navigating in-laws, and the guilt often associated with saying no to visitors. Through engaging listener voicemails, they tackle real-life scenarios, offering practical advice on setting expectations and advocating for one's needs. This episode is a must-listen for all the soon-to-be and new mom's out there!
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Today's mini session is all about scheduling sex and prioritizing intimacy. Don't leave sex until the end of the night when you're exhausted. Dr. Tracy encourages listeners to be intentional about scheduling it and making it a priority. Remember, intimacy isn't just about intercourse; it's also about emotional connection and shared activities. She offers suggestions and encourages new approaches like naptime sex and taking off the pressure by just being close. If sex feels like a chore, talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Build intimacy through vulnerability and connection in all forms!
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This week, Dr. Tracy has the great honour of speaking with Dr. Brooke Weinstein, a renowned expert in sensory and emotional regulation, about the critical importance of understanding and managing our nervous systems. Dr. Brooke, known for her engaging and digestible social media content, explains the concept of sensory overload and how our fast-paced digital world contributes to widespread mental health issues. They discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, the necessity of regular self-regulation, and recognizing personal sensory needs. The conversation also covers supporting partners during dysregulation, the need for flexibility in coping strategies, and the importance of accepting each other's unique needs. This episode aims to promote healthier connections and overall well-being by understanding and respecting the diverse sensory requirements within our relationships.
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In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Anna Aslanian about codependency and understanding how people end up in codependent relationships. They redefine codependency, moving away from the old assumption that it always involves addiction, and instead highlighting it as a response to trauma and a way of seeking safety in relationships. They emphasize that dependency is not inherently negative, as humans are relational beings who need connection. Dr. Tracy and Anna also explore the nuanced definition of trauma, explaining that it isn't always about major life events but can include any hurtful experiences that remain unprocessed. They discuss the importance of recognizing both big and small traumas, approaching them with self-compassion and without judgment, and avoiding comparisons with others' experiences.
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In this highly relatable episode, Dr. Tracy teams up with her favourite co-host, her husband Greg, to dive into the tricky terrain of avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Sharing their personal stories, they unpack how our past experiences shape behaviours today. Dr. Tracy breaks down attachment theory, reminding us that dependency isn't weakness—it's human. They explore why updating relationship "scripts" is crucial and how regular check-ins can prevent resentment. Greg opens up about his journey to overcome avoidant tendencies, emphasizing the power of asking for what you need. With practical advice on handling avoidant partners and fostering deeper connections, this episode is a heartfelt guide to building a stronger, more understanding relationship.
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In this mini session, Dr. Tracy chats with Eve Rodsky about turning "invisible work" into "visible work." Invisible work includes the behind-the-scenes tasks mothers and women often handle without recognition. Eve shares how she created the "Shit I Do" spreadsheet, listing all these tasks and gathering input from women in various communities. This effort made the extensive contributions of mothers more visible. Eve discusses the importance of women taking agency in their lives and introduces the core findings of her book "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do.”.
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Have you ever wondered why you constantly end up in the same type of relationship? Or maybe you're contemplating whether or not you can continue on with your current partner. These are all common questions we've all asked ourselves at some point in our lives and will be addressing in today's conversation.
In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp and author of "The Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," to discuss why we stay in bad relationships and how to break harmful patterns. Amy shares insights from her own experiences and her work in helping people heal from heartbreak by understanding the deep-rooted reasons behind their relationship choices. They explore concepts like the attraction of deprivation and the sunk cost fallacy, highlighting why people stay in unfulfilling relationships and how to recognize these patterns. Amy also introduces the "shit bucket" theory, emphasizing that all relationships have challenges, and it's crucial to have realistic expectations and effective communication. This conversation offers valuable advice on nurturing oneself, maintaining a sense of self, and fostering mutual motivation and creativity in relationships, ultimately guiding us toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.
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In this mini session, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg debunk the myth of "Happy Wife, Happy Life." They argue that true happiness in a relationship should not come at the expense of one's own well-being. They emphasize the importance of having difficult conversations and maintaining a genuine friendship within the relationship. They also touch on the necessity of self-awareness and curiosity in resolving conflicts and highlight that we can only control our responses, not our partner's actions. Ultimately, they stress the importance of authenticity and mutual respect in building a healthy, balanced relationship.
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In a world where we're encouraged to prioritize individualism, and set boundaries, the importance of our relationships can often get lost. In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy chats with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned clinician, researcher, and author of the bestselling book "Wired for Love." They explore the concept of interdependence in relationships, using the three-legged race analogy to highlight the importance of teamwork. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes understanding our own and our partner's brains to foster secure and functioning relationships, addressing the impact of negativity bias and the pitfalls of social media diagnoses. They touch on secure attachment, the couple bubble, and aligning on priorities for lasting connections. Dr. Tatkin shares insights on conflict resolution, mutual relief during disagreements, and maintaining a strong partnership through mutual sensitivity and understanding. This conversation offers practical advice and profound insights to help listeners build resilient and loving relationships, highlighting why it's actually ok to put your relationship at the top of the priority list.
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In this week's mini session, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss the challenges of relationship repair through the lens of attachment styles. They explore how individuals with anxious attachment struggle with distance, often engaging in anxious pursuit and abandoning their own needs to regain a sense of safety. These individuals must learn to self-soothe, such as by taking a walk or doing a task, and become comfortable with discomfort. Whereas those with avoidant attachment deactivate their feelings and needs, pushing away closeness and often wanting to sweep conflicts under the rug. For the avoidantly attached individuals, the focus should be on self-soothing while learning to turn toward their partner, asking for reassurance, and setting clear boundaries. Both attachment styles face unique challenges in repairing relationships, but understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier and more resilient connections.
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In this week's solo episode, Dr. Tracy tackles a topic that affects many of us but is also something that is very near and dear to her heart, and that is perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism is more than a desire to do well, often becoming a relentless pursuit of flawlessness that can harm our mental health and relationships. Dr. Tracy explores the internal and external roots of perfectionism and introduces the concept of urge surfing, a technique used to manage the impulse to be perfect. She shares five practical tips for managing perfectionism that have helped her: raising awareness, stepping into discomfort, practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and embracing acceptance. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she aims to provide support to listeners in navigating their struggles with perfectionism to foster a healthier, more balanced life.
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Are you dealing with a narcissist or someone with chronically defensive tendencies? In this session, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime Zuckerman explore the key differences between a chronically defensive person (non-narcissist) and a full-blown narcissist. The session delves into the behavioral contrasts, highlighting that defensive partners lack malicious intent, whereas narcissists are often intentionally harmful. To wrap up, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Jaime offer insights on managing relationships with both non-narcissistic and narcissistic partners.
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Did you know that 69% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode, we’re going to gain insights on why this is the reality. Join Dr. Tracy and guest Kate Anthony, author and host of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, as she shares her expertise on the pivotal decision many women grapple with: "Should I stay or should I go?" Having personally navigated an emotionally abusive marriage, Kate understands better than anybody the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment for children caught in the crossfire, the power toxicity holds, and why divorce doesn't ultimately "screw up" our children. She discusses the disproportionate emotional and domestic labor women often shoulder in heterosexual relationships and why women are left exhausted by the time they reach their breaking point. Kate also encourages women to reconnect with themselves in order to make empowered decisions moving forward in their lives. Tune in for a conversation filled with essential perspectives on nurturing healthier relationships and personal well-being.
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In this session, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Frey discuss a crucial issue that affects many relationships: defensiveness. They explore how defensiveness not only creates barriers but also diminishes and invalidates your partner's feelings. Matthew shares a personal revelation from his own life, noting how his failure to validate his wife's experiences contributed significantly to the deterioration of their marriage. He highlights that understanding doesn't require agreement but rather a mindful consideration of another's perspective.
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In this incredibly important episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma expert and author to discuss the profound impact of trauma on personal development and well-being, as well as insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved: A Memoir of Truth, Trauma and Transformation," exploring the journey towards healing and forgiveness. The two kick things off by highlighting the importance of therapists sharing their vulnerabilities and human-ness to bridge the gap between them and their clients. Frank delves into how trauma is really just absorbed energy from our experiences with others and why that energy doesn't actually "belong" to us. They also touch on the power of forgiveness in healing trauma, emphasizing that it allows us to let go of negative emotions and see the humanity in others, including ourselves. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma’s role in shaping our lives and how embracing our true selves through healing can lead to profound transformations.
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This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host/hubby, Greg, are back and here to tackle one of the most common issues couples face in relationships: why bringing up one problem with a partner often leads to a flood of additional grievances. They discuss why this might happen, identify defense mechanisms and avoidance strategies, and emphasize the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. They introduce the metaphor of a "bridge" between partners and the importance of integrating regular relationship "check-ins" as crucial for maintaining connection and preventing relationship explosions. They also address some listener questions, offering insights into managing different parenting styles and in-law tensions and stressing the importance of empathy, patience, and individual growth in a relationship. Tune in solo or listen with your partner for the wisdom you didn't even know you needed!
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In this deeply relatable episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Julie Chavez, an elementary school librarian from Northern California and the author of the USA Today bestselling memoir "Everybody but Myself." Julie opens up about her journey from prioritizing everyone else's needs to understanding the crucial importance of self-care, a lesson learned through her own struggles with anxiety and depression. Together, Julie and Dr. Tracy dive into the transformative power of therapy, the discipline and "work" required to maintain our mental health, and how changing her own patterns impacted her marriage and family dynamics. Tune in, and discover why your joy is worth your time.
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Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!
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Is love really all you need when it comes to relationships? In this insightful conversation, Dr. Tracy and Matthew Hussey, renowned love and relationship expert, explore the very real challenges of finding the right person in today’s society. Before diving into the advice and strategies, the two share a candid connection about the ironic struggle they face as "experts" in their field, when really, they are just humans navigating the same love-life struggles as everyone else. Matthew then shares the details of his new book and breaks down the four critical levels of a relationship that we should value: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, and compatibility, discussing how each plays a vital role in the journey towards a lasting connection. They also touch on the unrealistic way love is portrayed in the media, the negative role familiarity can play when it comes to our relationships and why so many of us repeat the same patterns when it comes to love. This episode aims to guide listeners through the complex maze of love, offering practical advice on how to find and nurture a fulfilling partnership.
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Have you ever considered the subtle ways grief touches our daily lives? In today's episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with grief therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis to unpack the nuanced experiences of grief and loss beyond what we often associate with obvious tragedies, like the death of a loved one. They discuss how grief can sneak into our everyday lives, often unrecognized, and explore the importance of tuning into our bodies and managing our nervous system's response to grief. Meghan, drawing on both her professional expertise and personal experiences of loss, offers insights into the physical and emotional impacts of grief, strategies for coping with the body's fight or flight response, and the significance of processing grief to avoid long-term trauma. Hopefully, this episode offers a deeper understanding of grief's complex nature and provides listeners with the tools necessary to navigate their own experiences of loss.
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This week, Dr. Tracy and her favourite co-host and hubby, Greg, dive deep into the heart of what it means to parent as a team, especially when faced with the unique challenges of raising a highly sensitive child (HSC). Through their personal stories and recent parenting experiences, they offer a candid look at the complexities and joys of navigating life with an HSC. They discuss the critical role of teamwork in understanding and supporting their child's intense emotions, while also reflecting on their own unique sensitivities and approaches to parenting. This conversation sheds light on the strategies that have been helpful for them, highlighting the importance of empathy, depersonalization, patience, and maintaining a united front. Dr. Tracy and Greg aim to not only share wisdom for parenting HSCs but also a message of hope and solidarity for other families facing these beautifully complex parenting journeys.
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It's time to get uncomfortable. This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Heather Chauvin, a renowned leadership coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of "Dying to be a Good Mother." Together, they tackle the universal challenge of embracing discomfort and leaning into fear. Heather brings a wealth of experience from her own life, sharing how her battle with stage 4 cancer and the trials of motherhood propelled her towards a life of authenticity and courage. She emphasizes the significance of energetic time management, acknowledging fear in the body, and making conscious choices towards self-care and personal fulfillment. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the transformative potential of facing discomfort head-on, offering listeners actionable insights for living more aligned and purposeful lives.
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Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleeps in separate beds? In honour of Sleep Awareness Week, we're revisiting the intriguing concept of "sleep divorce," a choice often misunderstood and stigmatized in society. Dr. Renee Reina, a Ph.D. in psychology and host of "The Mom Room," joins Dr. Tracy to debunk myths surrounding this phenomenon. Together, they explore how prioritizing sleep by choosing to sleep apart can actually nurture and strengthen relationships, contrary to the belief that it signifies a lack of love or intimacy. This discussion sheds light on the importance of addressing sleep needs openly and making mindful decisions to enhance both personal well-being and partnership dynamics.
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Do you feel you put others before yourself in order to keep the peace? In this week’s episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Anna Aslanian to dive into the complex world of codependency, self-sacrifice, and interdependence in relationships. Anna, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a rich background in psychological care, sheds light on the roots of codependent behaviour, often tracing back to early relationships and trauma. Together, they explore the nuances of trauma and debunk the negative connotations of codependency, advocating instead for an understanding of dependency as a means of seeking safety and connection. Anna offers practical advice for embracing authenticity and self-compassion, crucial steps towards cultivating healthier, more balanced relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to find the delicate balance between caring for others and nurturing oneself.
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Zibby Owens is the creative force behind the award-winning podcast "Moms Don’t Have Time to Read Books," an accomplished author and CEO of Zibby Media. In this episode, she joins Dr. Tracy to explore her latest fiction work, "Blank: A Novel," reflecting on her multifaceted journey from writing her first article at 14, through her divorce, and into the literary world, emphasizing the therapeutic power of storytelling. Zibby shares insights into overcoming internal barriers and the importance of embracing the reality of life’s brevity to fearlessly pursue your passions. She also touches on the complexities of work-life balance, doing your best as a mother, the inspiration behind the name of her podcast, and the unique challenges of writing fiction. This episode is packed with wisdom and an inspiring message that it’s never too late to go for it.
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This week, Elise Loehnen is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and sharing her journey from a behind-the-scenes ghostwriter to a New York Times bestselling author, tackling the unrealistic expectations placed on women to always be the "good girl." Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires.
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This week, Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties.
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In this insightful episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life.
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Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach specializing in "spicy" children. This week, she is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and bringing her coaching and teaching skills directly to us! Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey.
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In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, addressing the feelings of anger that show up for many parents, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviours, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy.
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In this vulnerable episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Nina Caviggiola, an influential online creator, a mom in her mid-thirties, and the powerhouse host behind the "Mama Knows” podcast. Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth.
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Ready to leave people pleasing behind this year? This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment!
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New year, new season! Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion!
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For today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.
Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.
If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and Dr. Tracy discuss the parent-child relationship.
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In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life!
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In the heart of the holiday season, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond.
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As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Robyn Silverman, also known as The Conversation Doc! Dr. Robyn, a child and teen development specialist and host of the "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" podcast, just released a new book with the same title and is here to share all of her wisdom. Reflecting on her personal experiences, Dr. Robyn emphasizes the crucial role parents play in initiating important conversations with their children, covering topics like bullying and self-esteem. The discussion explores challenges in addressing body image, the identity feedback loop, and practical advice for fostering self-esteem. Dr. Robyn provides valuable guidance on creating a safe space for children, recognizing self-esteem struggles, and dealing with external influences. This episode is a powerful resource for parents, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and openness in the parent-child relationship at any age.
Today’s topics include:
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As we approach the many gatherings that the holiday season brings, the need for teamwork and connection in our relationships is as relevant as ever. This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Christa Hardin, host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, author, and founder of Reflections Counselling Centre, to explore the Enneagram assessment as a tool for building stronger connections in our partnerships. She shares her own personal experience with the Enneagram, the positive impact it’s had on her marriage, and the several benefits of this assessment when it comes to couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and better themselves. Christa takes us through the nine enneagram types, the concept of wings, the three conflict triads, and emphasizes the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. She also provides guidance on approaching relationships with compassion, focusing on individual self-improvement, and embracing each other's strengths and imperfections. It’s such an eye-opening discussion that goes beyond partnerships and into gaining a better understanding of ourselves to help us navigate and live more meaningful and connected lives.
Today’s topics include:
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*Trigger Warning: Childhood Sexual Trauma
This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with the inspiring and resilient Jessalynn Biederstadt, the host of the Invisible Scars podcast and owner of the Doted Boutique. As a victim and survivor of the Willow River, child sexual assault pornography case in 1999, Jessalynn has shown immense strength in her healing journey and is opening up and sharing the very real ups and downs of that process with us today. From the incredible work she’s doing with her podcast and the platform she’s giving to other victims of trauma to the messy and inconvenient aspects of the healing process and a very realistic look into what it’s like to “do the work” as a mother and partner, we’re so grateful to have her on to share with us today, and we hope this episode is a reminder that there is no right way or time to heal; you're already doing better than you think you are.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly, licensed marriage and family therapists, co-owners of the therapy practice “The Therapy Group,” and co-hosts of the “Shrink Chicks” podcast. The two kick off the episode by taking us back to their grad school days and the reasons why their ultimate goal as therapists, podcast hosts, and public figures is to make therapy more relatable, digestible, and accessible for all. They then open up about the reality of starting a podcast about therapy as a practicing therapist and the ways it’s impacted their relationships with their clients. For the main event, the conversation dives into the roots of personalization and why some of us are quick to take the blame for other people's feelings or behaviour. From childhood experiences and parental dynamics to how personalization can manifest in our various adult relationships, the trio provides valuable insight and guidance on how to navigate, find empathy, set boundaries, and respond instead of reacting in triggering situations with the people closest to us. Ultimately, this episode emphasizes the power of personal agency and how to honor your authentic self in adult relationships, just in time for the holidays.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is celebrating 100 episodes of the podcast! Kicking off the show with a moment of gratitude, she reflects on the show’s incredible journey towards nearly one million downloads and expresses her appreciation for the supportive community we’ve created together.
The episode then dives into the essential topic of emotion regulation with the guest of honour, Dr. Cindy Hovington, a mom of three with a doctorate in neuroscience, podcast host, founder of Curious Neuron, and the Wondergrade app. Together, they explore the shift from impulsive reactions to deliberate responses in parenting, highlighting the formative role of past experiences in shaping our emotional reactions as parents and individuals. The conversation touches on the importance of giving children the space to express their anger in a safe way and the invaluable practice of modelling emotional awareness as parents. Additionally, the episode underscores the significance of identifying emotional regulation zones and addresses the sensitive issue of physical abuse in parenting. Dr. Cindy's profound insights offer invaluable guidance to parents navigating the intricate landscape of emotions, both at home and beyond.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Stephanie Kramer, a leader in the beauty industry who serves as the Chief Human Resources Officer at L'Oreal USA, a professor at FIT, a mother of two, and the author of "Carry Strong”. Stephanie’s book aims to empower women in navigating the intricate balance of pregnancy, parenthood, and work. Drawing from her personal experiences, Stephanie shares her inspiration for writing “Carry Strong”, shedding light on the often-overlooked silent struggles and unique challenges faced by working women before, during, and after pregnancy. The conversation then explores the complexities of work-life balance, the pressure to do it all and how to take a more “flexible” approach to adapt to the ever-changing demands of motherhood. Plus, the two also swap notes on topics like mom guilt, the fear of missing out (FOMO), and the very real struggle of trying to maintain a sense of identity in this particular phase of life. In the words of Stephanie herself, you can do it all, not at the same time, and not alone.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, life coach, and podcast host. Her extensive experience spans over two decades, during which she's been dedicated to helping women navigate challenging relationships and discover their inner strength. Dr. Shaw opens up the conversation by candidly sharing her own complex journey with shame, tracing it back to her teenage years, when she grappled with a secret pregnancy at the age of 15. She explores the various ways shame can manifest itself, emphasizing the profound difference between guilt and shame and how these emotions manifest in individuals, leading to externalizing or internalizing behaviours. Lastly, the two address the impact of shame on relationships and offer valuable insights into healing and self-acceptance.
Today’s Topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, and author of two bestselling books “Loving Bravely” and “Taking Sexy Back”. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world, and today, Dr. Solomon and Dr. Tracy are diving into the real experiences of therapists, the common misconceptions of couples therapy, and how to develop a strong relationship with your therapist. Together, they explore the elements that went into Dr. Tracy’s new book, “I Didn’t Sign Up For This,” and the importance of the patient-client relationship. They also discuss the shifting narrative and stigma of therapy and the many misconceptions and fears of couples therapy in particular.
Today’s Topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Alyssa Blask Campbell, parent, teacher, emotional development expert, and CEO of Seed and Sew, and together, they delve into the realm of children's emotional intelligence. Alyssa shares her journey into this field, driven by the need for personalized approaches to regulating children's emotions when she recognized that all of the resources out there were often crafted as a “one size fits all” approach. She shares her work creating the Collaborative Emotional Processing (CEP) method, emphasizing sensory mismatches, the impact of parental shame, and the importance of allowing children to experience various emotions safely. Together, they highlight the significance of equipping children with emotional processing tools and supporting them through challenging experiences that will help them not only when they are young but as they grow into adulthood. Lastly, they discuss the significance of setting boundaries and understanding consequences in the context of a child's growth and the development of their emotional intelligence skills.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Dr. Tanya Cotler, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of Renni, to discuss attachment science and its profound influence on our parenting and relationships. Dr. Cotler sheds light on how our earliest years, particularly the first three, significantly shape our relationship blueprints. Together, they explore the intriguing link between attachment and feelings of shame, stressing the spectrum of attachment strategies, from anxious to avoidant. Dr. Cotler also dispels common parenting misconceptions, advocates for compassionate and intuitive parenting, and underscores the value of recognizing ruptures and repairs in nurturing a child's autonomy. Furthermore, the discussion extends beyond parenting to how these principles can enrich various relationships, emphasizing negotiation and acknowledging our own needs while fostering connections with others.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to discuss what it means to fight fair. Whether it’s in your relationship or with a friend, they are breaking down the 8 practices that will help you navigate those frustrating disagreements that we find ourselves in when we feel overwhelmed. Together, they discuss the common build ups that can happen when one person isn’t clearly communicating their feelings and the importance of acknowledging each others frustrations. They expand on each of the 8 practices including sticking to one issue at a time, giving the most generous interpretation, avoid bringing up the past, and more.
Lastly, they dive into your personal questions surrounding what it means to fight fair and offer valuable advice to help you shift your mindset and navigate those challenging moments.
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This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with her editor at PESI Publishing for a behind-the-scenes look into the making of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This." In this intimate conversation, Dr. Tracy shares the origin story of her book and her observation of the common experiences we all often face in relationships yet we don’t talk about openly. Recognizing that people often learn best from stories rather than just tips and tricks, she wanted to create something that was accessible at home and incorporated realistic, everyday stories such as the fights with our partners, the stressors of cohabitation, co-parenting, blending families, and even retirement. Dr. Tracy also opens up about her decision to incorporate her own experiences into the book, drawing from her own marriage. She explains what led her to choose the title "I Didn't Sign Up for This" and how she maintained client confidentiality while sharing their powerful stories within the book.
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In this week's episode, Dr. Tracy returns for episode 4 of her mini-series, and she's joined by the remarkable couple, Ryan and Britt, hosts of The Laughing Couple Podcast. Together, they shed light on balancing both the romantic and professional aspects of their relationship with their bustling home lives and their thriving business. They share how they’ve learned to navigate the often unspoken challenges that arise and emphasize the importance of open and honest communication in relationships. Together, they dive into the key pillars that they've really leaned on to maintain a connection with each other, including focusing on experiential intimacy and creating a bucket list of shared activities that they both look forward to completing with each other. Ryan and Britt also share some heartfelt advice for those struggling in their relationships, emphasizing the importance of generosity and empathy in partnerships. They share the exercises and tools they've used to overcome relationship roadblocks, especially when it comes to navigating the mental load both at home and in business.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 3 of her mini-series to speak with Audra and Chelsi, hosts of the "Dear Chiefs" podcast, to discuss the complexities of relationships and marriage with a first responder. As two wives of fire fighters, Audra and Chelsi know all too well the challenges that come with being the default parent while their partner is away at work for days and weeks at a time.
In this episode, Audra and Chelsi discuss the often-misunderstood sacrifices of stay-at-home parents, emphasizing that these individuals take on immense responsibilities both at home and within their relationships. They shed light on the concept of being the "default parent", the emotional toll it can take, and the importance of planning, setting expectations, and finding a balance that prioritizes both partners and children. Lastly, they share realistic strategies on how to integrate their partner back into family life after their work block is complete and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being and independence.
Today’s topics include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy sits down for episode 2 of her mini-series highlighting the hard, less talked-about moments in relationships that we often don’t see on social media. This week, she’s joined by the hilarious and honest duo, Cat and Nat, to bring a fresh perspective on the realness of building and balancing strong friendships as adults and how rewarding it can be when you put yourself out there. Together, they delve into the nitty-gritty of maintaining the balance between personal needs and nurturing friendships—a struggle especially familiar to parents. They also highlight their experiences of being both friends and business partners and the importance of recognizing what each person brings to the partnership and the ebbs and flows of their relationship. Whether you're navigating the complex landscape of adult relationships or just looking to make new connections, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering meaningful bonds that truly last.
Today’s topics include:
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This week is episode 1 of Dr. Tracy's exciting new mini-series, where she sits down with real couples to unravel their untold stories beneath the surface of their relationships. In this episode, Dr.Tracy sits down with Shaun and Rini Frey, parents to a 2.5-year-old daughter with another baby on the way. They share how their relationship felt more than solid for so many years and how the arrival of their daughter brought on new challenges in their relationship that they didn’t anticipate. From passive-aggressiveness to scorekeeping and doubts, they share the struggles they faced and the steps they took as a couple to strengthen their relationship again.
Topics of today’s episode include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Deja Riley, a renowned dancer, Lululemon global ambassador, podcast host, and trainer. Deja has had an extraordinary career, having danced alongside global icons including Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, and Britney Spears. She is now a trainer in the fitness space and serves on the Lululemon ambassador advisory board. Together, they discuss establishing personal boundaries and finding the connection between the mind, body, and soul. Deja shares her own experiences, from her artistic upbringing to her transformative shift from her dancing career to the fitness industry, and shares her path to self-acceptance and self-care. She also sheds light on the unpublicized moments that shape us.
Topics of today’s episode include:
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This week, Dr. Tracy explores the complex emotions of anger and shame and how they shape our relationships and upbringing. She discusses the responses she received when asking how her audience learned about anger growing up, how anger was handled at home, and what anger meant. Additionally, she discusses the powerful impact of shame, especially on highly sensitive children, and the struggles it poses in embracing and understanding our emotions. Dr. Tracy, offers insights on how to navigate these emotions in our relationships and provides valuable tips on expressing anger constructively and how to let go of those shame-based parenting patterns.
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This week, Dr. Tracy sits down with Eli Weinstein, a therapist specializing in relationships and parenting with a private practice in New York and Nevada. He is the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, where he aims to modernize mental health discussions and offer relatable views. Together, they discuss communication patterns in relationships, renegotiating the expectations we hold in our relationships, and some of the things we should consider early on in a partnership. Eli discusses parenting and the idea that often arises that each parent has to parent the same, and when it’s important to recognize that each person in a partnership brings something unique to the table when it comes to parenting. Lastly, they discuss parenting challenges and boundaries, along with understanding the core needs in relationships and how addressing these core needs can positively impact relationship dynamics.
Today’s discussion includes:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dayna Abraham, a bestselling author and parenting expert. She is the founder of Lemon Lime Adventures, and her unique, out-of-the box perspective and workshops have been used by 200k+ parents, teachers, therapists, and pediatricians to get control of their child’s most difficult behaviors. Together, they will discuss Dayna’s Calm the Chaos Framework and roadmap, consisting of five key steps that everyone experiences at their own pace. Dayna provides practical insights on diffusing challenging situations, emphasizing the impact of fatigue on our patience.
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This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe, a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and mother, and together they discuss the effects of social media on children in this digital age and the importance of guiding conversations around it within the household. She shares the importance of fostering genuine connections, the stages of brain development in children, and the crucial role parents play in co-creating a healthy digital experience. Dr. LaPointe also shares valuable insights on maintaining discipline with a balance of firmness, compassion, and kindness and highlights effective tools and resources, such as the Dove Confidence Kit, to empower parents in guiding their children through the complexities of social media.
In this episode we discuss:
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This week, Dr. Tracy is joined by Dr. Taylor Arnold, a kids nutrition expert, nutritionist, PhD, pediatric dietician, and mom of three. Dr. Arnold specializes in helping parents shape healthy relationships with food, and she offers valuable insights on how to raise the next generation of eaters who love and nourish their bodies. Together, they discuss generational patterns related to food, high-pressure eating environments, and the importance of allowing children to learn about how different foods affect them, enabling them to connect feelings in their bodies with the foods they eat. We also address the challenges posed by well-meaning grandparents who may overstep boundaries and inject diet culture into conversations at mealtime. Lastly, Dr. Arnold discusses setting boundaries at mealtime and exploring alternative ways to minimize waste beyond forcing children to eat everything on their plates.
In this episode we discuss:
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In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with Mr. Chazz, a parent coach, consultant, and conscious discipline practitioner who is dedicated to helping adults truly understand and connect with children. Together, they discuss several topics including the challenges men face in expressing emotions and ways to create an environment that promotes emotional openness. They also delve into breaking free from generational patterns, embracing conscious and gentle parenting techniques, and effectively differentiating between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviours. Mr. Chazz shares the importance of redefining discipline and consequences, empowering parents to respond in new ways during conflicts, and promoting effective communication to understand and meet children's needs.
In this episode we discuss:
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In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to discuss bids for connection in a relationship and what these bids can look like. She provides valuable insights on how to effectively respond to these bids and offers tips specifically for individuals who tend to be people pleasers. Dr. Tracy also unveils details of her new book, "I Didn’t Sign Up for This", which is now available for pre-order and will launch on September 12th. She shares a glimpse into the lives of four real-life couples that she will be discussing in her book, all of whom she has personally worked with as their couples therapist.
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In this episode, I sit down with Mira Simone, a grief coach, published writer, mother, and widow. Mira shares her experience of losing her partner Brian to an aggressive form of cancer in 2019 and her story of navigating this grief in the years that followed. Mira discusses how she found her passion for writing, which led her to launch her grief support platform, New Moon Mira, in 2022. Together, we discuss how writing and sharing her story publicly became a crucial outlet for her to process her thoughts and grief, guiding her on her healing journey. We also discuss the additional challenges of being a solo parent, starting a business, and navigating friendships and relationships following her partner’s passing.
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In this episode, I sit down with renowned Potty Training Consultant, Allison Jandu. As the owner and founder of Potty Training Consultant, Allison has worked with over 6,000 families, offering potty training advice and support for parents. Together, we explore the pressures and challenges of potty training, how to navigate setbacks, and the importance of taking a personalized approach that suits your family's needs. From identifying readiness signs in your child to incorporating rewards and measuring small wins, we cover a range of practical strategies to make the potty training journey smoother and more successful.
In this episode, we discuss:
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In this episode, I sit down with my husband Greg to discuss our experience completing my 100 Questions to Spark a Deeper Connection Guide. We'll also discuss the poll results from a series of relationship questions I shared on my Instagram, and share our perspectives on enhancing communication and connection with your partner.
In this episode we discuss:
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In this episode, I sit down with Kacie Rose, the world traveler behind Kacie Rose Travel. After a life-changing solo trip and her own "Under the Tuscan Sun" moment, Kacie Rose moved to Italy in January 2021 to be with her long-distance partner. By sharing her experiences online about her life as an American living abroad, travel tips, and more, she has built an outstanding online community of 1.5 million people.
Together, we delve into her experiences of moving abroad and the struggles of navigating life living in a new country. She shares her experiences of embracing a new culture, navigating the language barrier, building friendships as an adult, and how she has worked to maintain a healthy relationship with her partner.
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In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.
Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage.
In this episode, we discuss:
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In this episode, I sit down with Christina Nelson, a social worker and creator of the Radical Stepmoms podcast.
Cristina is passionate about providing support to stepmoms and assisting them in getting unstuck so they can build the love and life they desire.
Together, we take a deeper look at the realities of being a stepmom and open up an honest conversation to discuss resentment, responsibilities, and dynamics within the stepmotherhood role.
In this episode, we discuss:
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In this episode, I sit down with Lo Mansfield, a specialty certified OB nurse who has spent her career in labor and postpartum, and the teacher and face behind the Labor Mama community courses and resources.
Together, we discuss the intricacies of postpartum and the power of how resources and knowledge can change our experiences.
In this episode, we cover:
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In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down to answer some of your most asked questions across social media, her website, and clinical visits.
Listen as Dr. Tracy tackles key topics in marriage and parenthood when it comes to managing boundaries, the mother-in-law dynamic, and more.
In this episode, she covers:
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In this episode, I sit down with neurodiverse affirming pediatric occupational therapist, Laura Petix, who specializes in sensory processing skills for neurodivergent individuals.
Laura is the parent of a neurodivergent daughter and CEO of the OT Butterfly, where she educates parents on how sensory processing can have a direct impact on learning and behavior.
Together, we discuss neurodiversity, sensory processing, and a lot of good stories in between.
In this episode, we cover:
After listening to this episode, be sure to listen to part 2, Episode 73, with Laura and Dr. Tracy here.
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In this episode I sit down with Neha Ruch, a rising thought leader and sought after speaker in the world of women, work, parenting, and identity.
Featured in Forbes, Oprah Daily, and New York Family Magazine, and founder of Mother Untitled, the digital destination for ambitious and progressive women, Neha is on a mission to update the perception of stay at home motherhood in America.
Together, we tackle the topic of what it means to be “A Stay At Home Mom” and dive into the complexities that mothers face when transitioning from traditional career paths into a focus on family life.
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In this episode I sit down with Dr. Jolene Brighten, a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine to address the common question we all have when addressing our hormones: Is This Normal?
We take a deeper look at common misconceptions behind every day female symptoms such as our energy levels, period pains, appetites, and sex drive in order to gain a more holistic understanding of why we feel the way we feel.
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In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.
We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.
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In this episode, I sit down with Allyn Rose to discuss her unique journey of processing grief, a preventative double mastectomy, IVF, marriage, and motherhood.
Allyn first made waves in the media and society when she decided to undergo a preventive double mastectomy as a contestant on Miss America.
Years later, she is sharing her journey as a breast cancer advocate, professional speaker, on-air host, legal and political scholar, Tedx speaker, national media outlet contributor, and the first ever featured Sports Illustrated swimsuit model with a mastectomy, wife, and new mom.
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We all have triggers.
Our partners all have triggers.
And they are not always the same things.
Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.
When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.
In this replay episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss building compassion for healthy and strong relationships.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Whether you’re expecting your first child or your fourth, pregnancy, childbirth, and bringing home baby can stir up a lot of big feelings. Fear of the unknown, discomfort from lack of control, sleepless nights, and hormones can leave us feeling anxious.
This week, I sit down with Liesel from Mommy Labor Nurse to discuss how birth and postpartum education can help empower couples to feel more satisfied with their experience.
If you haven't yet, be sure to check out Mommy Labor Nurse Podcast Episode 136 where Liesel and I talk about preparing your relationship for baby.
Liesel Teen, BSN, RN is a labor and delivery nurse and the founder of Mommy Labor Nurse. Mommy Labor Nurse equips pregnant women with the tools, knowledge, and confidence they need to erase the unknown, feel in control, and have an even better birth - no matter how they deliver.
With 8 years and counting as a bedside labor and delivery nurse, Liesel knows that knowledge is the key to an even better birth. To date, over 40k women have completed a Mommy Labor Nurse birth class, eliminated fear, and been empowered by Liesel’s comprehensive childbirth education.
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Have you ever tried to explain the mental load to your partner only to find yourself struggling to find the words or perhaps frustrated that your partner just doesn’t get it?
If you have, you’re not alone. This is a common experience shared in DMs, comments, and even in therapy sessions. So how do we communicate the mental load so our partners can understand?
In this episode, I sit down with Zach Watson, to talk about the mental load. Zach is a content creator, Accountability Coach using the Fairplay method, husband, father, author, TEDx speaker, rapper, and former teacher.
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Are we wired to fix our loved ones? It might feel that way when you notice discomfort showing up when your kids or your partner are experiencing something unpleasant.
It’s easy to get caught up in finding the solution, but could we be missing their feelings and leaving them feeling invalidated?
In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Kenney from Peace and Parenting, to talk about repair, the urge to fix our loved ones, and what we can do instead when these feelings show up in our partnerships and parenting.
Michelle is a mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counsellor turned Certified Parenting Instructor. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life. Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak who has found a more calm and connected way to parent. Using the ideas of Brain Science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last decade.
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Peace and Parenting YouTube Channel
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For today's bonus episode, I sit down with fellow Psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.
Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.
If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and I discuss the parent-child relationship.
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Order Dr. Shefali's newest book The Parenting Map
Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery
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We all pee ourselves a little after having kids and it’s totally normal, right? Sure, it’s common… but it actually isn’t normal.
Chances are your OB didn’t sit you down at your first prenatal appointment to discuss the importance of keeping your pelvic floor healthy and there’s an even higher chance they never talked to you about how urinary incontinence, at any level, isn’t normal after baby.
So what is normal and how do we take care of our pelvic floor?
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sara Reardon from The Vagaina Whisperer, to talk about your pelvic floor. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Board-Certified Women’s Health and Pelvic Floor Therapist, and mom of 2. She is the founder of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform for pelvic floor health and the owner of NOLA Pelvic Health.
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Have you ever found yourself suddenly the default parent, with your partner nowhere in sight and you’re left to tend to the baby?
Or maybe you find yourself asking your partner to watch the baby and if now is a good time to shower.
I’ll never forget the time I couldn’t find my husband one sunny Saturday. Left to do our baby’s bottle and nap time, I was enraged. When did I become the default parent and why?
When I saw Renee’s TikTok about her husband making pancakes, I knew this was a conversation we needed to have on the pod!
Renee Reina is the mom friend you always wanted. She is a writer, content creator, Doctor of Psychology, busy body, mom, self-proclaimed over-sharer, and is the host of the top-ranking parenting podcast The Mom Room.
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It's time for another Q&A episode where I answer your questions! In today's episode, I answer a community member's question about sex after baby.
Life changes so much after baby is born and the pressure to have intercourse can feel overwhelming.
Breastfeeding, hormone fluctuation, sleep deprivation, birth trauma, feeling touched out, recovering from birth.
Is sex off the table? Absolutely not, but the pressure to have it should be. There is no right amount of sex to have and during this postpartum period we are reassessing our entire lives... so intimacy might be a bit different than it was before.
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You’ve prepared everything for baby’s arrival:
✅Birth plan
✅Hospital bag
✅Freezer meals
✅Set up nursery
✅Install car seat
You’ve done the research and checked your list twice.
But did you prepare your relationship?
Many of us have thought that a baby will bring us closer as a couple. Perhaps you haven’t had any noteworthy struggles in your relationship so far and think nothing will change. Or perhaps things have changed a lot since then.
As a mother and a clinician, the thing that strikes me the most is just how much we don’t share our relationship difficulties. The resentment. The moments of anger towards our partner. The feelings of disconnection and like we are ships passing in the night.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Cassidy Freitas to talk about the things no one told you would happen in your relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a San Diego based mom to three and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. She hosts the top-rated parenting podcast HoldingSpace. Every Friday on Instagram Dr. Cassidy shares relatable reels and doses of joy with the funniest TikToks.
In this episode, we discuss:
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When we first fall in love, there’s an attraction and excitement that sets the person apart from anyone else in the world - yet over time, we shift away from this.
When I polled the community 67% of you said you felt like your partner’s roommate rather than their lover. Conversations feel transactional. There’s a loss of physical connection. The spark feels lost.
But why does this happen? What can we do about it?
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Do you find yourself frequently feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated by your environment?
Perhaps you’ve heard those close to you say “You’re too sensitive.”
You’re not alone and in fact, you might be part of the 20-30% of the population that are highly sensitive people.
Today I am sitting with Natalie Brunswick to talk about highly sensitive people and the impact that being a highly sensitive person can have on our lives.
Natalie Brunswick is a registered occupational therapist who focuses on supporting parents during the perinatal period, navigating the parenting journey, and beyond. She believes in a holistic, relational, and trauma-informed approach to mental health, wellness, and parenting. She has also been trained with Postpartum Support International and is a proud mom to two amazing boys.
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In today’s episode, I talk about 7 things your parents didn’t teach you about relationships, and the things we should tell our children. I polled the community several months ago about this topic and your responses were so cool to see.
It’s fascinating to see how so many of us didn’t learn how to show up in relationships - things like how to build healthy communication and what a healthy relationship looks like. So let’s deep dive into today’s episode where I’ll share what I think we should help the next generation learn.
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Let me set the scene.
The tree is up.
The lights are on.
The decorations are hanging.
And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo.
Cue. Reality.
My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned.
And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I was wondering when you would show up this holiday season.”
The challenge with social media is that we see these beautifully crafted images without seeing what truly happened before.
Family photos? Don’t even get me started – you know it didn’t look like “and everyone say cheese!” in one frame.
Holiday get-togethers? Nope, not everyone is happy 100% of the time.
The work project? Also probably didn’t go down as it is shown on social media.
The nursery and beautifully captured image of baby laying in the crib? This is the highlight reel.
So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.
The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.
And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us.
And this pressure from society is not helpful.
Join me as I speak with DR. JEN DOUGLAS, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way.
In this episode, we discuss:
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For so many, the holidays stir up so many emotions and old wounds. This is particularly true for parents while they sit in front of their children, seeing their own struggles and triggers being reflected back by their children - a window, an opening to be curious and to heal. And it often brings up questions of - where am I with my parent? How do I feel with them? What works and isn’t working anymore? What am I still holding on to? We’re going to tackle something big today.
Abbey Williams, MSW, LSW is a behavioural health therapist, the found of You, The Mother, the producer and host of the You, The Mother Podcast, Author of “An ABC of Families,” and mother of 4. She is committed to supporting, empowering, and connecting with mothers in all seasons of motherhood. Abbey has been featured in PopSugar, Parents, Romper, and SheKnows. She navigates her blended family/co-parenting life with her husband, four kids, and two sister labs in Cincinnati, OH.
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Social media has recently become a place for mothers to connect and share their real, raw truths, but it hasn’t always been this way. For many, we open up our feeds and are flooded with highlight reels of the lives of others. Perfectly curated holiday pictures, clean homes, and women glowing - it can seem as though every other mother has their life together.
Am I the ONLY mother who doesn’t love every aspect of motherhood? Am I the only one crying daily and feeling overwhelmed? Does anyone else feel a rush of anger that feels unrecognizable?
In this episode I sit down with Libby Ward, the Honest Mom, to talk about the myths, shame, and emotions that show up with motherhood. Libby is a digital creator, speaker, and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. Focusing on today’s difficult and complex experiences of mental health, Libby is focused on reaching more women with her perspective-changing stories through her community of over 1.3M on social media.
In this episode, we discuss:
Be sure to check out Libby’s Guided Journal on Amazon! The Honest Mom Journal
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Does it feel like a never-ending cycle with your partner when it comes to setting boundaries with the family?
Maybe you both end up getting stuck on what you should do when your mother-in-law gives TEN gifts, when you both told her only two.
What are the missteps in our relationship when it comes to boundaries?
My husband and business partner joins me for today's episode on boundaries. Why bring in Greg? In a heterosexual cis-gender relationship, he has the other side of the experience when it comes to holiday boundaries.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Being a parent brings new challenges to your life, but one that might have surprised you was constantly feeling touched out. Your child is tapping your arm, the furnace is humming, and you're beginning to feel like your head is going to explode.
So why is this?
In this episode, I sit down with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L from Steady Parents to discuss parenting and sensory overload. Larissa is a licensed occupational therapist specializing in the identification and treatment of sensory processing dysfunction.
Originally a pediatric therapist, Larissa experienced a life-altering concussion and experienced severe sensory and motor challenges. She soon realized the knowledge she used for her patients was helping her cope and that she could use this to help other parents who are experiencing overstimulation, overwhelm, and dysregulation.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Welcome to Season 4!
With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season!
To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is referred to as the parent whisperer of our time. If there is one thing that resonates with all of us from Dr. Becky's work, it is this: You are good inside. Your kids are good inside. Let's go into today's episode.
In this episode, we discuss:
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We are here! Already at the season finale.
Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break!
I love ending the season by taking your questions.
So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode:
Did something resonate with you this episode? If so, be sure to share it with a friend!
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What’s Coming Next?
We're taking a summer vacation! I'll be back in the fall with more great episodes and conversations. Be sure to leave me a review and send me a DM on Instagram about your topic ideas for next season. I love hearing from you!
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Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one!
When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first.
Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family.
In this episode, we discuss:
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The season finale where I answer YOUR questions!
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"My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?"
We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people.
It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles.
In this episode, I discuss:
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When change feels one-sided. What are we left to do?
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Do you find yourself asking…
How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement?
My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff.
My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations.
I get it.
This is a common experience in our relationships.
The reality?
We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame.
And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship because without it, we are more likely to build resentment and disconnection.
In today’s episode, I get to sit with Dr. Morgan Anderson. A previous guest on the podcast (Season 2, Episode 21, a must listen), we talk about:
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Dr. Morgan is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. Make sure you head over to her IG page and send her a DM to say hello!
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One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?"
Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships.
Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller).
He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and promote mental health awareness. On social media, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Kojo is also the author of Amazon's best-selling book titled "You Already Won". He is also working on his second book, which will be a mental health workbook.
He is also the host of Late Night w/Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Monday-Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother."
The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives.
But
What if our mother was wrong?
What if they are passing along their own trauma?
What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves?
Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her work. Though blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist history, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.
She is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Healing after conflict: why you need repair in your relationship with special guest Dr. Morgan Anderson.
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You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed.
How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you?
I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on.
Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and she knows how to help you declutter your home and your life.
In this episode, we discuss:
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A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body.
I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me.
It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime.
We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many of these are more examples of ways that we deeply abandon ourselves - the inner wisdom that our bodies hold.
In this episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Meagan Gallagher, psychologist at Integrated Wellness, on how we can start to listen to our bodies and goss these old messages around size, food, and body.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Does your partner share everything with their parents?
This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members.
In this episode, we discuss:
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One of the most common complaints I receive is, "We never talk about the hard stuff."
What's the barrier to turning towards each other and talking?
For many, it's time.
For others, it's not wanting to upset the other person.
Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me on the podcast for this episode. Dr. Morgan is a relationship expert and owner of My Love Thinks. If you are struggling with the mental load, be sure to check out Season 2 Episode 6 and Dr. Morgan's great Instagram space @MyLoveThinks. Dr. Morgan and I also have a boundary webinar that we created together.
In this episode, Dr. Morgan and I break apart all the details around the Weekly Check-In Meeting - a key strategy we encourage all of our clients to use. We talk about:
I want to hear from you. What ONE question would you want to ask each other this week?
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We're getting ready for another holiday season. With Passover, Good Friday, Easter, Eastern Orthodox Easter, and Ramadan coming up, it seemed like a great time to ask you, my community, some important questions about family get togethers and talk about how you want to show up.
When it comes to family gatherings, 46% of you feel "okay negative" about them.
In this episode, we talk about:
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Many said you have negative feelings about things you cannot control (86%). That's a lot!
One of the things we must recognize is that family gatherings bring out things that we have no control over, including:
... and more.
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For the parents who just want their child to be happy.
When I told my daughter that I just needed five minutes before I could rub her back at bedtime, she screamed at me. And what I did next was not my best moment. I could feel it coming over me. I screamed back at her. I know so many parents get to this point - the exhaustion and overwhelm. The Demands. Being pulled in so many directions.
We raise our voice. We show up not aligned with how we want to. We maybe even slip into shame.
It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. It was my luck that I was sitting with Dr. Shefali the next day for the podcast. Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.
In this episode, we talk about:
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I'm answering your questions in preparation for another holiday. How can we navigate difficult situations with our in-laws and family?
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In this week's podcast, I answer your question.
Q. Dear Dr. Tracy. Every time I try to share something with my partner, he goes and makes it about himself. Recently, I was trying to share about an issue with my sister. He got so heated and upset - we've had frequent conflict about my sister - that I ended up stop asking for the support that I needed. I'm not sure what to do in these moments, but I do know that resentment is building up and it doesn't feel good. - Nicole
In this episode, we discuss:
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Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate beds?1
Despite this common experience, many people continue to feel a lot of stigma around speaking out about their need for a restful night's sleep - which may mean sleeping in a different room from your lover.
People tend to learn that there must be something wrong with a relationship if a couple is sleeping in separate beds.
There is a term for sleeping in separate beds that contributes to this learned stigma: "Sleep divorce." This term implies that sleeping apart is a sign of a relationship lacking in love and sex.
But what if you continue to sleep in the same bed with restless night's sleep? Does your relationship improve or deteriorate? Are you more snappy and short with your partner the next day because their snoring kept you awake? Or maybe you feel a missing desire for your partner because you're the one waking with the baby all the time.
I invited Renee Reina, Ph.D. in Psychology and host of the top-ranking parenting podcast "The Mom Room" to break through the stigma and talk about prioritizing sleep and continuing to nurture our relationships.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Our collective experiences recently have been beyond challenging. The frequent suggestions of "go for a walk" are often not enough anymore.
Enter Eve Rodsky, an expert in family mediation and organizational management, and author of New York Time's bestselling book Fair Play and Finding Your Unicorn Space. Her message to us is to burn our guilt and get rid of other toxic messages that stop us from doing the very thing we need to find ourselves - and that is to find our Unicorn Space.
Eve and I talk about finding your creative space to ensure a life lived aligned with your values.
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This episode is quite a bit different than every other episode this season. I asked the community, via Instagram, to submit questions and I picked some to answer similar to a Dear Abby column.
As we close out Season 2 I want to thank this beautiful community - especially since we've hit the 100K download milestone! We truly would not be here without each of you listening and sharing it with those you love.
One of the most powerful things I have learned is what it means to rest. Just like flowers aren't always in bloom, we all have seasons and require periods of rest so we can bloom again. As this season comes to a close I will be taking time this summer to focus on rest.
Stay tuned for season 3 Fall 2021! Be sure to hit subscribe so you will be the first to know when the new season drops.
In this episode, I answer your questions!
Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about what you would like to see on the podcast.
What’s Coming Next?
Stay tune for Season 3 in Fall 2021!
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What happens when you sit two relationship experts down for a chat?
This episode is just that - two relationship experts, one conversation.
Everyone has their own attachment style, it's the way we build and respond to relationships. When we understand our attachment styles we can better help our relationship maintain healthy boundaries.
Speaking of boundaries, have you ever sat down with your partner to discuss your boundaries within the relationship?
In this episode I sit down with Dr. Morgan Anderson to discuss attachment styles and growth edges within relationships.
Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. She’s on Instagram @drmorgancoaching - make sure you head over to her page and send her a DM to say hello
In this episode, we discuss the following:
What’s Coming Next?
My next episode is the season finale where I answer your questions!
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Have you ever reached a point, through your motherhood journey, where you felt like something needed to change in order for you to be happy?
Perhaps you felt as though your needs were somehow lost in the mix while you were putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Who looks out for mom when she's taking care of everyone else?
But what if I told you the change you need in order to reach happiness comes from within?
This episode's guest is on a mission to encourage women, especially mothers, to prioritize themselves and choose to set time aside to do what makes them happy, outside of motherhood.
In this episode I sit down with Katie to discuss her journey through motherhood including learning to love her body and putting herself first.
Katie is a working Mom of three, a self-love advocate, a true believer in the mental and physical benefits of exercise, and she's on a personal mission to encourage women (especially Moms!) to put themselves on the top of their priority lists.
During her second postpartum season, Katie - craving connection, and determined to develop self love and confidence - began sharing her life publicly on Instagram. What began as an accountability page for her postpartum fitness journey, grew into an authentic, vulnerable, and relatable journal of self acceptance, body respect, and the highs and lows of motherhood.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
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Why is it that we treat men's time as if it is as "precious as diamonds" and women's time as if it is as "infinite as sand?" (As this week's podcast guest stated it).
Chances are you never sat down with your partner, before moving in together, getting married, or having children, to discuss who does what. Who takes the trash out? Who buys the mustard? Who care for the children when they are home sick from school? Who coordinates their activities and schoolwork? If needed, who leaves their job to become a full-time parent?
But how have mothers become the default?
In this episode I sit down with Eve Rodsky to discuss mental load and her book FAIR PLAY. In her New York Times bestselling book FAIR PLAY, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose.
Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
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Step moms seem to get a bad rap in movies - even cast in a poor light and labeled "Evil Stepmothers."
In reality, stepmothers are human beings parachuted into co parenting arrangements they had no part in making.
It can feel like fitting a circle peg into a square-shaped hole. You might be told you aren't a 'real' mother and in the same breath criticized for not being involved enough.
No one hands you instructions on how to be a stepmother and there sure isn't a one-size-fits-all approach.
In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Scrimgeour, a Life Coach specializing in Stepfamily Dynamics and the creator of The Exclusive Stepmom Community. We discuss her experience with becoming a stepmother and how her identity has changed since then.
Jamie Scrimgeour is a mom of one and a stepmom of three with kids ranging in ages from 6-18. Jamie creates raw, real, and relatable digital content about all things parenting, step-parenting, entrepreneurship, and living a KICK-ASS Life. She is also the host of The Jamie Scrimgeour Podcast. With candidness and humor, Jamie uses her personal and professional experience to support woman in living their best life.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience as a step mom.
What’s Coming Next?
My next episode is with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, where we will talk all about the mental load and creating balance in your relationship
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"Don't go to bed angry" is probably one of the most common well wishes provided to newly weds during evening toasts and handwritten cards.
But what this misses is that if you are escalated and angry, the last thing you should do is continue to talk about the issue at hand. When both partners are flooded and overwhelmed, this is a recipe for additional hurt words that do not get unheard.
In this episode, I sit down with Greg, co-owner of Integrated Wellness, my business partner, my co-parent, and my partner in life, to discuss some of the common stereotypes, misperceptions and myths in romantic relationships.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Not going to bed angry and what you can do instead
- Is it love at first sight?
- Are having disagreements dealbreakers?
- Does validating my partner mean they are right?
- "Happy wife, happy life"
- The idea that women should be the ones to stay at home with the kids and how this is a huge myth in our own home
- The stay at home parent isn't really "working"
- Women hold the cards in the relationship to make things work
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"You're young..." "You'll get pregnant again..." "At least you have a healthy child..." "At least you can get pregnant..."
It's estimated that nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. Yet somehow most of us are unaware of how many people we know that have experienced pregnancy loss until we experience one.
Feelings of isolation, self-blame, guilt, and shame can pour in during the aftermath of a loss, however the experience of pregnancy loss is incredibly personal and does not impact two people the same way.
An out of order loss can make it difficult for our support networks to know what we need and what to do, leading to an array of platitudes.
But how do we deal with these feelings and the platitudes?
I sat down with Dr. Jessica Zucker the creator of the #IHadAMisscarriage campaign and the psychologist behind the Instagram account @IHadAMiscarriage. Together we discussed our personal experiences with miscarriage, common themes that show up for mothers after, and the challenges that come with asking for support when a loss has occurred.
Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based reproductive and maternal mental health psychologist. She specialized in this field long before experiencing a second trimester miscarriage firsthand. She earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Master's degree in human development, as well as a Master's degree in public health. Her educational pursuits married with her clinical practice and research have lead her to write extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Her first book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement is available now (Feminist Press + Penguin Random House Audio)
In this episode, we discuss:
Now it’s your turn! Join me over on Instagram, or leave me a note here about your experience with miscarriage.
What’s Coming Next?
My next episode is with a special guest that has changed my world, and we are going to bust through the common relationship myths that couples can fall into.
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Have you ever thought to yourself "are we having enough sex?" or maybe you have fallen into a rut where you can recall step-by-step how each time will go because nothing ever changes.
Could anyone else be feeling this way too?
In most relationship we will find mismatched sex drives, doubts, unspoken desires, and self-esteem issues blending into the bedroom.
Sex is something humans do, but for many women we've been socialized to hate our bodies, minimize our desires, and to not talk with our partners about sex.
I was able to sit down this week with a fellow college, Vanessa Marin, to talk all things about sex and intimacy, like what kind of myths about sex women hold, the role of body confidence in our sexuality, the foundations of desire, and what makes sex great.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She's here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.
She has a bachelor's degree in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured in over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real SImple.
Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through Courses like The Passion Project: A Couple's Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark and Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm and Orgasm With A Partner, she finds immense joy in spreading the message that we all deserve more from our sex lives.
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Have you ever had someone say to you "I'm sorry about your divorce?" or maybe you've said this to someone.
Is there really something to be sorry for?
"It was a choice I had to make and for other people, who don't understand what it is to be in a bad marriage and how hard it is to get yourself out of it, all they feel for you is sadness."
Sometimes marriages just don't work. Toxic relationships can bring out the worst versions of ourselves and we just know it's time to move on.
Moving on and your relationship with yourself after is what we are talking about in today's podcast episode as I sit with Michelle Dempsey-Multack to talk about divorce.
Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a co-parenting mom, author, divorce coach and certified divorce specialist helping women move on before, during, and after divorce.
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We all know that feeling when someone apologizes but doesn't really apologize. Or what about for ourselves, when we aren't sure we have anything to apologize.
Why is apologizing so hard? What makes a good apology?
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So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism.
The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.
And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us.
And it’s not healthy.
Join me as I speak with Dr. Jen Douglas, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way.
In this episode, we discuss:
To find our more about Dr. Jen Douglas, visit her on Instagram or check out her Freedom from Perfectionism course.
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One of the biggest struggles being seen with dealing with COVID19?
The uncertainty.
What does this look like tomorrow? Next month? This winter?
So it's no wonder that 85% of the women I polled said they were stressed out and experiencing burnout.
Today, I sit with Dr. Julie Beaulac to talk about how we can calm the F*#$ down by re-tuning our nervous systems. And ultimately, if we can retune our nervous systems, we can master burnout. Dr. Beaulac is a registered psychologist and consultant based in Ottawa, Canada. She is also a mindfulness and yoga teacher and an enthusiast of all things movement and in nature. She works with individuals, groups, and organizations to become more engaged, productive, and happier in their lives.
In this episode, we discuss:
Grab Dr. Beaulac’s free guide to the 5 QUICK and EASY things you can do right now to find calm. Click here to download.
Looking for more to tackle burnout? Dr. Beaulac and I have a special BLACK FRIDAY SALE for our e-course Beyond Burnout. Save $100 off with promo code F2020 (because it’s just that kind of year). You can overcome burnout. Click here for more information.
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Take a moment and reflect on the year of 2020.
Sidenote. It’s already November 3rd!
Did you get all of the projects completed that you wanted to? Make all of the moves you planned to? Start that new workout routine, begin to eat healthier, and find extra time in the day to be with your friends and family?
Let’s be honest, the answer is probably “no.”
And you are not alone in that.
In today’s episode we slow down and talk about the stress of 2020 and how, as a female, this affects your body. And we need to be aware of this!
Join me and Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur as we dive into how the stress of 2020 is affecting your hormones, your sex drive and so many other systems in your body.
Dr. Sarah Vadeboncoeur helps women reboot their thyroid for energy they can count on. She is the owner of Docere Naturopathic Clinic located in the heart of Little Italy in Ottawa and has been working for the past decade to help women who are suffering from fatigue, thyroid conditions and hormone imbalances. Her mission is to help women get back to a healthy, happy, feel-good life. Dr. Sarah believes health is the result of creating new habits, one small step at a time. She helps make lifestyle changes feel possible and enjoyable and she truly believes that coffee, chocolate and wine can be part of a healthy diet.
In this episode, we discuss:
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We all long to know that we matter to the ones we love. We have an innate need for emotional contact and security, and these attachment needs are healthy and adaptive.
But at times, we question if we are important to our partners or if we matter.
When our attachment figures - our partners - are not reliably accessible and supportive, the ability to securely attach is undermined. Insecurity develops when there are repeated experiences of nonattunement and noncontingent communication, and our partners are repeatedly unavailable and rejecting. How we ask for our needs will depend on our attachment style. When we do not feel secure, we must find other ways to cope with this stress.
How can we cope when we struggle with insecurity? This is exactly what I talk about in this episode. I sit with Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She owns A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, PA where she and her colleagues have supported hundreds of couples. Elizabeth also writes and speaks on relationships. She shares many of her insights on her Instagram account, @lizlistens, and within her membership program Love Lessons 365.
In this episode, we discuss:
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We all have triggers.
Our partners all have triggers.
And they are not always the same things.
Building a relationship that brings an understanding of each other’s triggers, strengths and differences is complicated.
When we bring compassion, understanding, kindness and accountability into our relationships, our love and connection blossoms.
In this episode, Michaela Thomas, clinical psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private psychology practice The Thomas Connection, and I discuss build compassion for healthy and strong relationships:
7:23 - The Fire Triangle of Relationships
22:59 - The 3 Parts of Compassion
29:12 - Motherhood & Compassion
33:13 - Defining Compassion & Mindfulness
46:07 - What you can do in your relationship to start using compassion
Links From This Episode:
Pause*Purpose*Play Group on Facebook
The Lasting Connection Book Now Available
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In June of this year, I was asked to speak at a conference on imposter syndrome for women in business. Being one of my goals for the year, I was super excited and quickly said yes.
Then, a feeling crept in.
This feeling of “who are you to speak in front of all those women?” and “do you really have anything to share that they already don’t know?”
Have you been there before? When you start feeling like an imposter and that you are not qualified or worthy of that opportunity?
That’s what Amanda Tobe, an Industrial Organizational Psychologist from Toronto, Canada, and I are diving into on the podcast today: Imposter Syndrome. Whether this is a new term for you, or an old familiar face, Amanda shares how to move beyond imposter syndrome that may be holding you back:
Links from this episode:
Book: Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo
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We know that women and mothers carry a higher mental load than their partners. It isn’t just completing the household and childcare tasks, it is also the mental and emotional work that it takes to remember to do these tasks.
The mental load became even more evident to me after my second child was born. It wasn’t just going to the doctor appointments for check ups, it was remembering to schedule them. It wasn’t just showing up for the birthday parties, it was buying the gifts and remembering to RSVP.
In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship coach and owner of My Love Thinks, and I discuss the mental load:
To find out more about Dr. Cutlip, you can visit her blog here, check out her course for couples on coping with the mental load, and be sure to follow her on Instagram.
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When I returned to work after my second maternity leave, I was doing it all.
Eight clients back to back.
An hour commute home.
Nursing my daughter.
Building a website.
Creating a podcast.
The list goes on. I was feeling exhausted. I was often dizzy and short of breath (despite looking after regular meals, water intake, and sleep). And then my body started screaming at me, telling me that I needed to stop.
This. Was. Burnout.
If you have experienced burnout, or think you might be experiencing it, you are not alone. In this episode, I speak with Mallory Rowan, coach and speaker, and a recovered woman from burnout, about moving towards living your life and business in alignment with what matters most to you:
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Overwhelmed.
Can you relate to this feeling?
Overwhelmed with the number of things you need to get done. From cleaning the house, homeschooling your kids, organizing meals, working, maintaining friendships, and connecting with your partner - the list goes on.
But what would happen if you took a pause? Took a deliberate moment to rest through the day.
In this episode, I connect with Allison Keating, founder of bWell Clinic in Ireland, about how we can move out of the mindset of being a perfect woman and giving ourselves the space to not always please, perform or be perfect. Here are a few of the highlights:
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Friendships are hard, particularly as adults. Many of us believe that the quality of our life is based on the number of people we can count on as friends. The more friends we have, the better off we are.
So when we go through a friendship breakup, it's hard to understand that it’s not necessarily about the type of person we are, or the kind of life we live, but rather a part of any relationship and personal growth.
To dive deeper into the world of friendships, I had the honour to speak with my good friend, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. We spoke about:
Want to learn more with us?
Dr. Miriam Kirmayer and I have a special bonus. We were asked what it’s like to build friendships as therapists. So, we had a candid and unscripted conversation around what it’s like to make friends as a professional.
If you are a professional, a therapist, or curious about friendships, head over to drtracyd.com/friends to download this bonus episode.
To learn more about Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, visit her website or follow her on Instagram.
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There is so much happening in the world today. The events taking place are outside of our control, from COVID19 to the Black Lives Matter Movement.
So that is why today’s podcast brings my favourite colleagues from across North America to share their top way of coping with the challenges so many of us are facing in the world today.
Here is the list of experts sharing on this episode:
Dr. Rachel Goldman, Clinical Psychologist in New York City, New York, on the importance of daily check-ins. www.DrRachelNYC.com
Dr. Morgan Francis, Clinical Psychologist in Scottsdale, Arizona, on how to cope through the pressure of a whole body transformation after this pandemic. www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.com
Dr. Ann Louise Lockhart, Pediatric Psychologist, parent coach and business owner in San Antonio, Texas on the importance of connection over correction. www.anewdaysa.com
Dr. Betsy Chang, Clinical Psychologist in Newport Beach, California, shares about the power of teamwork in your relationship. www.DrBetsyChung.com
Hatty J Lee, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles California, dives into our own trauma responses and what happens when they are triggered. www.oakandstonetherapy.com
Dr. Shawn Horn, Clinical Psychologist, TEDx Speaker and host of the Inspired Living Podcast, shares what toxic shame is and how to work through it. www.drshawnhorn.com
Dr. Morgan Anderson, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach shares one mindset that you, as single women, could find helpful right now. https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/
Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship Expert, Coach and Course Creator on how to shift the guilt of motherhood during this time. http://www.lovethinks.com/
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We are in a time of crisis. Moving into the summer, what is one question that you should be asking yourself.
Picture your life as a garden. Everything you can pour your energy into, everything that is important to you is a different plant.
You have a plant for each relationship (your children, your partner, your extended family), for career, friendships, self-care, etc. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your garden.
When you can see your garden, now picture a watering can filled with water.
That watering can - that’s you.
You get to choose, each day, where you pour your water into. You only have 1 watering can; what will you choose today?
Launching Season 2 of I’m Not Your Shrink Podcast, I share the number one question we all need to be asking ourselves, which I have personally learned in the past year.
Looking for more with me?
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It's episode 12 and the season finale! In this episode I'm talking about my THREE R's for maximizing your wellness over the summer months. Be sure to get out a piece of paper because I challenge you to set an intention for this season, and I want you to write down one idea under each R! We know that when we write out our goals and intentions we are more likely to achieve them!
I look forward to touching base with all of you in Season Two! Want to get the latest updates and keep in touch? Sign up for my email list here.
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Anxiety. So many of us experience this normal emotion. And yet, anxiety is a common presentation in the therapy office, often times clients saying they want to get rid of it. It has taken over their lives and impacted their ability to cope each day. They have stopped going out to the grocery store. They have stopped seeing friends. They can't complete what they want to do each day because they are stuck in a worries and fears.
Can you get rid of anxiety?
Dr. Julie Groveman, clinical psychologist in NYC who focuses on helping clients break toxic patterns, conquer fear and empower them to be the most confident version of themselves, talks about whether we can get rid of this emotion, and what we can do to manage anxiety.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Today I chat with Melissa Mitri, a Registered Dietitian-Nutritionist, where her practice is focused on helping moms and moms-to-be build a healthy baby and nourish themselves through a practical, whole foods approach. Melissa has over 10 years of experience in the field of nutrition, and has a true passion for helping women feel confident entering motherhood.
In this episode, we talk about:
If you are a new mom or soon to be mother, this is a must listen! Melissa shares such key pieces of nutrition that I wish I had known earlier on. If you know a new mom, or soon to be mom, or even if you are going to be a second, third, or fourth time mom, her tips are helpful for managing key nutrients and body health in this stage.
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Shame is the notion that one is unworthy, defective, or a failure in some way. As one of the most painful emotions experienced, shame disconnects us from others, leading to feelings of isolation. And we all experience shame! On a regular Tuesday morning, I find myself yelling at my son, and then being washed away in shame. In this episode, I talk all about shame and how it impacts our relationships, the difference between shame and guilt, and give strategies you can use to help you cope with shame.
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Money matters. But women don’t like to talk about it and there are so many emotional barriers to talking about and addressing issues related to money. I chat with financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin about the challenges women face when it comes to the view of money and their own worth, connecting money to your values, core themes that people get stuck on when it comes to managing money, and how couples can begin to manage their money together.
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I sit down with registered physiotherapist, yoga teacher, and mother, Andrea Plitz. We talk about the the fundamentals of pelvic floor health for ALL women and when you need to see a pelvic floor therapist. I ask Andrea to demystify the kegal and teach us how we can access this area in our body. Finally, Andrea gives three different ways that you can connect to your pelvic floor.
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I answer a listener’s question on how to deal with her partner’s defensiveness in their relationship. I first talk about what is defensiveness, and then discuss different strategies for you to use to address and change this tricky response style with our partners! Are you someone that tends to feel defensive? This episode is also for you!
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I sit down with Erica from Mom.Break and talk about her experience with postpartum depression and going to therapy. As a psychologist, I could never ask my clients to share in this format. When I met Erica through Instagram and for coffee, I wanted others to hear her story. We talk about the realness of motherhood, the intrusive thoughts and difficulties coping as a parent. Tune in to hear Erica's journey of acknowledging when she needed help and how she told others about going to therapy.
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I am talking all about self-care this week - an important aspect of living a meaningful life. I talk about what self-care is not and what gets in the way of you looking after you. I offer specific tips about how you can improve your self-care. Be sure to tune in to the end of the episode - since so many people struggle with the term "self-care," I offer a new perspective on how you can view this pivotal act.
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I speak with psychologist Dr. Soph about authenticity, shame, and navigating boundaries in your life. Setting boundaries is one of the top things we talk about with our clients. Tune in to find out more about just what boundaries are, signs you may need to set boundaries, and how you can do this. If you are someone that always says yes, has a hard time saying no, feels overwhelmed by others asking you to do things, and feels stressed by caring for everyone but you, this episode is for you!
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There are so many times when fear stops us from doing something that is important – from taking that big risk or making a change. In this episode, I talk about my experience of fear through creating this podcast and how this primary emotion derails us from living a meaningful life. You will learn specific tools that you can use to help face your fear so that this emotion becomes just an emotion and not something that stops you in your life!
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Join me, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and couples therapist, as I discuss two core themes that I see in therapy every day and why I created this podcast. With over ten years of training and experience in providing therapy, I’m combining what I have learned as a psychologist sitting with people in their hardest moments and my experiences of being a mother and a wife, to help you change the dialogue in your life so you can live a life filled with meaning.
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