Single Mom Society

Co-parenting is hard. Co-parenting with an addict? A complete nightmare.

This week on The Single Mom Society, I sit down with Jill Weinstein, an addiction counselor who gives us the real, unfiltered truth about parenting alongside substance use disorder. How do you protect your kids? What boundaries actually work? Does the system protect you? And how do you keep your sanity when the other parent is in chaos?

I’m sharing my own experiences, asking the tough questions, and getting the expert advice we ALL need. If you’ve ever felt trapped between keeping the peace and keeping your kids safe or are dealing with a co-parent who struggles with addiction - this episode is a must-listen. 🎧🔥

 Find me on Tik Tok and Instagram @singlemomsociety_

🚨 Special Announcement: A New Home for Single Moms! 🚨

This week’s episode is a little different—because something BIG is coming! 🎉 I’m creating a brand-new, exclusive online space just for single moms. No more feeling alone, no more sifting through bad advice—just real talk, real support, and a sisterhood that gets it. 💪✨

So, while there’s no full episode this week, trust me, what’s coming next is WORTH IT. Stay tuned, because The Single Mom Society is about to level up in a way that will change everything. 🔥💖

Tag your single mom besties—this is for US! 🙌 

Find Jennifer on TT and IG @singlemomsociety_

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In this must-listen episode of The Single Mom Society, Stephanie Madrid opens up about the impact of infidelity on a family, sharing her personal journey of rebuilding after her ex-husband’s affair. From heartbreak to resilience, she puts words to emotions so many moms have felt but struggled to express.

But we’re also diving deeper—what role does emasculation play in infidelity? Why do some men cheat when they feel insecure? And why are women so often left to clean up the mess?

If you’ve ever felt blindsided, unheard, or stuck in the aftermath of someone else’s choices, this episode is here to remind you that you’re stronger than you think—and healing is possible. ❤️‍🩹

✨ Ready to take your power back? Stephanie has created two incredible guides to help you heal. Grab them here: https://beacons.ai/betterthroughbetrayal

Find Stephanie: 📲 FB, IG & TT: @betterthroughbetrayal 👩‍💻 Private FB group for women healing from betrayal 📧 Email: [email protected]

You don’t have to go through this alone. Your next chapter starts today. 💪✨

🔥NEW EPISODE ALERT!🔥

Ladies, whether you’re thinking about leaving, knee-deep in divorce drama, or just trying to survive the mess—this one’s for YOU. 💪✨

I sat down with Freedom Warrior Tribe's Amy Polacko - author, journalist and divorce coach - to talk about how to strategize, prepare, and protect yourself before, during, and after divorce. No sugarcoating, just straight-up power moves to help you break free.

Find Amy on Instagram @freedomwarriortribe and see everything she's up to and offers @https://linktr.ee/freedomwarrior?utm_source=linktree_profile_share

🚨 STUCK IN LEGAL LIMBO WITH YOUR EX? 🚨

If your ex treats the courtroom like his personal playground, this episode is for you! 🎤🔥

This week on The Single Mom Society, we’re diving deep into legal abuse with expert Lisa Johnson—a high-conflict divorce strategist who knows exactly how to handle a coercive ex who just won’t quit.

Lisa and her partner, Chris Barry, don’t just help their clients survive—they teach them how to outsmart their ex, shut down the nonsense, and take their peace back. 🛑💥

So if you’re tired of the legal merry-go-round 🎠 and ready to take control, don’t miss this episode!

🎧 Tune in now!

Find Lisa at [email protected] and Chris at [email protected]

Or both of them on on Instagram @been.there.got.out

Purchase Her Books: 

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/been-there-got-out-toxic-relationships-high-conflict-divorce-and-how-to-stay-sane-under-insane-circumstances/38068027/#edition=65986303&idiq=55282317

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/recognizing-the-red-flags/29716645/#edition=60420024&idiq=46674451

🎙 New Episode Alert! 🚨✨

Ladies, grab your coffee (or wine, no judgment here) because this episode is JUICY! I’m sitting down with the fabulous Stephanie Lastella, aka The Date Profiler, to talk all things dating safety—especially for us single moms. Because let’s be real: we don’t have time for games, ghosts, or guys with “separated” in their bios. 👀

💡 First up, I kick things off with a little Catfish 101—how to spot a fake faster than he can say, “I swear, my camera’s just broken.” 🕵️‍♀️ Then, Stephanie dives into her top safety tips, from vetting a date before you even meet to keeping your kids (and your sanity) protected. And, of course, we red flag EVERYTHING—love bombing, sketchy excuses, and that gut feeling you should never ignore. 🚩🚩🚩

This episode is a must-listen if you’re in the dating world or just love some tea on the wild things women put up with. So hit play, take notes, and remember: the right guy won’t make you question your safety OR your sanity. 💁‍♀️💖

Do you want to know the 15 must-ask questions to spot red flags? 

Get Stephanie's Free Guide:

thedateprofiler15questions.gr-site.com

Find her on Tik Tok, YouTube and Instagram @thedateprofiler

 http://www.instagram.com/thedateprofiler

🚨 Divorced? Co-parenting? Struggling to move forward? 🚨 You don’t want to miss this episode!

Michelle Dempsey-Multack—writer, speaker, and the go-to expert on divorce and co-parenting—joins The Single Mom Society to drop game-changing insights on healing, communication, and protecting your peace.

We’re talking about: 💥 The hidden impact of trauma and how it affects your choices 💥 Dating after divorce—what to watch out for (and what to embrace!) 💥 The #1 mistake parents make when navigating co-parenting 💥 How to help your kids through the emotional rollercoaster of divorce—and make sure they never blame themselves

Michelle keeps it raw, real, and empowering—this is an episode you can’t afford to skip! 🎙🔥

Catch more of Michelle's wisdom on Instagram @themichelledempsey and learn more about her work at linktr.ee/themichelledempsey 

Girl! It's time to let go of the mom guilt and shame! You did not choose the wrong man. The wrong man chose you.

Summary

In this conversation, Teresa shares her tumultuous journey through the challenges of parenting, legal battles, and emotional turmoil. The discussion highlights the struggles of navigating custody issues, the impact of courtroom experiences on mental health, and the importance of resilience and awareness in the face of adversity. Teresa's innovative parenting approaches and her determination to fight for her children serve as a powerful testament to the strength of women facing similar struggles.

• Teresa's journey through family court is filled with challenges.
• The emotional toll of court proceedings can be overwhelming.
• Navigating custody battles requires resilience and self-advocacy.
• Empathy plays a crucial role in understanding legal battles.
• Systemic changes are needed in the family court system.
• Parenting through adversity can strengthen the bond with children.
• Legal strategies can help in navigating complex situations.
• It's important to fight for your children's best interests.
• Sharing experiences can empower other women in similar situations.
• Finding strength in adversity can lead to personal growth.

Kimberly Worthing had an 8 week old baby when she learned of her husband's infidelity. She began channeling her shock and pain into Instagram posts, and in just a few months, almost 54,000 women have come to rely on her raw, real time experiences. Kimberly is both the woman you are as well as the woman you want to become. You can find her on instagram @kimbolyworthing

Thanks so much for listening! Don't forget to leave a 5 Star review on Apple or Spotify!

PS: As I take this pod through a glow up, please ignore any bumps or cracks.

The shocking truth about deadbeat dads extends beyond financial irresponsibility. These fathers often shirk their parental duties, failing to provide emotional and financial support for their children. They may avoid paying child support, leaving single mothers struggling to make ends meet. Some deadbeat dads prioritize their own needs over their children's, spending money on themselves while neglecting their offspring. Moreover, they might be reluctant to have a baby with you, as they fear the responsibilities and commitments that come with parenthood. Their behavior can stem from immaturity, selfishness, or a lack of understanding about the importance of their role in a child's life.

In this episode, I am joined by Jas Lee, who fearlessly tackles the controversial topic of deadbeat dads. Jas, a TikTok personality who "triggers deadbeats and enablers," brings her raw and unfiltered perspective to expose the shocking truth about fathers who neglect their parental responsibilities. Jas delves deep into the multifaceted issues surrounding deadbeat dads. She shares personal insights on how these fathers often prioritize their own needs over their children's and display reluctance towards parenthood. Jas also explores the underlying causes of such behavior, including immaturity, selfishness, and a lack of understanding about the crucial role fathers play in their children's lives. Throughout the episode, Jas offers her unique take on narcissistic behavior, domestic violence, and manipulative tactics employed by some men. She provides valuable advice to women on recognizing red flags and protecting themselves in relationships, all while sharing her own experiences as a mother and survivor.

Timestamps

[01:00] Deadbeat dads

[08:44] Men not being responsible for their babies

[14:08] Home should be your safe space

[16:38] Narcissists will light your candle to get you to come back

[20:07] How to handle a first time meet up with a man

[22:26] Jas’ insights about the incident at Scotty McCreery’s concert

[29:09] Narcissists know how to act like good men

[31:57] Jas’ advice to women: Manipulate the manipulator

[35:16] About Jas’ children

[42:31] About Jas’ abortion story

• “A lot of these deadbeats have multiple children.” - Jas Lee [02:13]
• “Narcissists will gladly go buy a ring if thats all that you require.” - Jas Lee [15:49]
• “When you are actually a domestic violence victim, you have a different outlook on it.” - Jas Lee [22:29]
• “You will really never know a man’s true intentions or his true colours until a baby is there.” - Jas Lee [32:04]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_jasleeee/?hl=en

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jasleeee_

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

In a world where divorce can often feel like an adversarial battle, mediation emerges as a powerful tool for women seeking peace and resolution. This approach prioritizes collaboration over conflict, allowing individuals to voice their needs while fostering understanding. By embracing mediation, women can reclaim their narratives, reduce stress, and create healthier environments for themselves and their families. 

In this episode, I am joined by Melissa Farag, a mediator and legal professional specializing in family law and divorce mediation. Melissa helps divorcing spouses communicate and negotiate to reach mutually acceptable agreements on crucial matters like property division, child custody, and spousal support—offering a peaceful alternative to courtroom battles. Melissa shares her journey from entering the legal field to navigating personal experiences with addiction in relationships and how these shaped her compassionate approach to mediation. She sheds more light on the power of accountability, the benefits of mediation over litigation, and the importance of intuition in decision-making. Melissa also discusses practical strategies for dealing with high-conflict personalities, her thoughts on prenups, and advice for women contemplating divorce. Tune in to discover how mediation can create healthier family dynamics and empower you to reclaim peace and clarity in challenging times.

Timestamps

[00:28] About Melissa

[01:07] How Melissa got into law

[06:16] Melissa’s experience living with addict partners

[13:15] Taking accountability for our flaws

[18:14] Why you must consider mediation before going to court

[26:02] Melissa’s thoughts about prenups

[30:34] About getting re-married

[35:07] Dealing with high-conflict people through mediation

[43:16] How we can change some family laws

[47:22] Advice to women before leaving their marriages

[52:22] Divorce can be a great relief

[01:01:27] Listen to your intuition: You know the answers

• “A mediated settlement is better than going to court.” - Melissa Farag [02:26]
• “We just need to constantly be kind of aware and be willing to have conversations with ourselves and others if something is unhealthy.” - Melissa Farag [13:46]
• “You can get divorced so much faster if you use mediation.” - Melissa Farag [20:31]
• “He who comes to court must come with clean hands.” - Jennifer Muscatel [25:36]
• “If you are not happy in your marriage, then your kids aren’t happy in that family.” - Melissa Farag [54:36]
• “You don’t know how much better your life can be until you change your environment.” - Melissa Farag [56:26]

1. Podcast by Melissa Farag - High Vibe Divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-vibe-divorce/id1755033191
2. Bill Eddy’s book - Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://www.amazon.com/Splitting-Protecting-Borderline-Narcissistic-Personality/dp/1608820254

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/

Website: https://www.highvibemediation.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

Divorces is a significant life event that brings unique challenges. Especially for women who often bear the brunt of the emotional and logistical burdens in co-parenting. Before entering the divorce process, it's essential for women to understand what to expect, from legal proceeedings to custody arrangements. Knowledge about your rights, available resources, and effective communication strategies with your ex-partners can empower women to navigate this transition more smoothly. 

In this episode, I am joined with Tessa Noel, a Certified Divorce Coach and co parenting expert dedicated to helping women gain peace, clarity and confidence during divorce and co parenting. Tessa shares invaluable insights into the emotional challenges women face, such as anxiety of child exchanges and the complexities of family court. She emphasizes the importance of understanding of understanding legal rights, effective communication strategies and the benefits of private mediation. Additionally, Tessa addresses the realities of co-parenting with abusive ex-partners and offers practical advice for women ready to leave toxic relationships. Tune in to learn how to navigate co-parenting challenges with resilience and empowerment. 

Timestamps

(01:17) The anxiety of exchanging your child to the other parent.

(3:10) Tessa's co-parenting experience

(6:04) How to represent yourself in family court

(9:55) Family court how to know what's best for your child

(13:30) Tessa's thoughts on women being so strong in family court.

(16:32) Benefits of private mediation

(22:18) Abusive men never change, even in co-parenting dynamics

(24:45) Narcissists can not grow

(28:53) Advice for women who want to leave but can't

(33:33) A plan for women who are ready to leave their abusive relationships

(36:56) The strong stigma of being afraid of divorcve

(41:51) The importance of being vulnerable to people

(48:28) About Tessa's book

(50:11) How to appropriately speak to your child about your impending divorce

(55:58) Drug use conversations with your children

Notable Quotes

 "When you go into family court, you have to learn a different language, and you have to learn how to present yourself."

"Stay out of family court if you can help it"

" Talk to a Divorce Coach, consult with a few Attorney's to manage your expectations before you file."

" No one ever thinks there is going to be high conflict"

"You have to find a divorce support group on social media"

"It is so much better to be alone than to be in this circumstance where you are constantly on edge.

Resources Mentioned

1. Mana Divorce Support: https://web.facebook.com/groups/387435842660237??_rdc=1&_rdr#
2. The Book Stella's Two Homes by Tessa Noel: https://wwwamazon.com/stellas-two-homes-tessa-noel/do/B0D1NR4S78

Connect with Tessa Noel

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmana/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/tessanoel1229/?locale=gi_rdc=1&_rdr

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkindmama

Website: https://www.kindmanadivorcecoaching.com/

Connect with your host Jennifer Muscatel and Single Mom Society

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

Single mothers, you are the protagonists of your own incredible story. In the grand symphony of life, you're not just playing a supporting role – you're the conductor, the lead violinist, and the star of the show. Embracing your "main character energy" means recognizing the strength, resilience, and unwavering love that defines your journey. It's about owning your narrative, celebrating your triumphs, and facing challenges with the confidence of a true heroine. Your solo performance is a testament to your power, inspiring not just your children but everyone around you. So stand tall, single moms, and let your inner strength shine. Your symphony is a masterpiece in the making.

In this episode, I am joined by Emma Jasper, an author, creator, and self-proclaimed "glimmer finder" who is dedicated to empowering others on their healing journey and embracing their "main character energy." Emma, known for her book "Daily Sparkles" and her inspiring social media presence, shares her profound insights on navigating divorce, healing from past relationships, and reclaiming one's sense of self. Emma delves into various aspects of her journey, including her divorce experience, the healing process, and the importance of self-love. She discusses the concept of "main character energy" and how embracing it can lead to personal growth and empowerment. Emma also shares valuable insights on recognizing red flags in relationships, handling toxic situations, and the significance of trusting one's intuition. Tune in and get wisdom and encouragement for single moms on a path of self-discovery and healing.

Timestamps

[01:05] Emma’s divorce experience

[04:21] Getting through the healing process

[12:20] About Emma’s book: Daily Sparkles

[18:58] The line between sharing and oversharing

[20:10] Things that helped in accelerating Emma’s healing process

[27:33] The beauty of being solo without stepping on eggshells

[29:43] Emma’s post on how she felt when he was mad about something

[30:41] The red flags Emma saw in her relationship

[34:44] How Emma handled herself through divorce

[38:28] The importance of getting a lawyer through a divorce

[40:58] Main character energy

[42:48] Advice on how to handle a toxic relationship earlier

[48:48] How to know narcissistic men early before marriage

[51:37] Listening to our intuition as women

[57:00] You must love yourself

• “Healing doesn’t ever end; there is no end for it.” - Emma Jasper [03:27]
• “When you are healing, your circle gets smaller.” - Emma Jasper [05:49]
• “Divorce is freedom.” - Emma Jasper [07:07]  
• “You don’t really notice it until you reflect on it.” - Emma Jasper [29:31] 
• “The person that you divorce is not the person that you married; they are always different people.” - Emma Jasper [33:36] 
• “No one knows what goes on in a marriage besides the two people who are in it.” - Emma Jasper [37:24] 

The Book - Daily Sparkle by Emma Jasper: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Daily-Sparkles-Illuminate-your-Glimmers/dp/1577154819

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedilemmasofemma/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emma.jasper.7

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmajasper/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

In a world that often criticizes and stigmatizes, single mothers stand as resilient warriors, their strength a testament to unwavering love and determination. These women have not faltered in their decisions, but rather have chosen paths of empowerment and self-respect. Divorce or separation is not a failure, but a courageous step towards creating healthier environments for themselves and their children. Single mothers navigate a complex landscape of challenges, balancing multiple roles with grace and fortitude. Their journey is one of continuous growth, resilience, and triumph over adversity. By embracing their inner strength and trusting their instincts, these remarkable women redefine societal norms and prove that single motherhood is a powerful force for positive change

In this powerful episode, I delve into the heart of single motherhood, addressing the unfair stigma and criticism that often surrounds it, emphasizing that single mothers haven't made mistakes but have instead chosen paths of empowerment and self-respect. The discussion covers crucial topics like trusting your instincts, challenging societal norms, and recognizing the strength within. I share personal insights on how I ignored my own instincts for years and the importance of listening to that inner voice. Throughout the episode, I reinforce the message that single mothers are warriors capable of navigating complex challenges with grace and fortitude. Tune in to empower single moms to embrace their journey, trust their decisions, and recognize their remarkable resilience in creating positive change for themselves and their children.

Timestamps

[00:16] You haven’t messed up anything in your life

[01:54] Men’s stupid thoughts: You made the wrong choice

[03:12] We are taught not to listen to our instincts

[07:58] We have all the answers that we need

[09:25] You are a warrior

[09:56] How I ignored my instincts for so many years

[11:49] My final remarks to single moms

• “We are very much shamed for the position that we’ve found ourselves in.” [01:00]
• “We are taught as women not to listen to our intuition.” [03:12]
• “Every two hours, a woman is killed by her romantic partner.” [03:58]
• “Listening to your instincts takes a lot of bravery.” [05:27]
• “Trust that you can trust yourself to get yourself and your kids where you need to be.” [09:46]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

Many of us believe we must wait for clear signs or evidence before leaving unhappy situations, especially when it comes to toxic relationships. But the truth is, if you’re feeling unhappy, that feeling alone is enough reason to take action. In this episode, we discuss how this applies to mothers who find themselves in toxic marriages and why prioritizing your happiness is essential for both you and your children. Join us as we explore the importance of self-love and the courage it takes to break free from negativity. Tune in to learn more!

Timestamps

[00:36] The story of my pregnant friend and her husband

[04:31] The times I thought that I needed proof

[08;39] Other examples that I felt I needed proof

[13:59] How I came up with the rule of not tolerating lies

[18:00] My experience with an addicted husband

[27:05] The right time to leave your relationship

• “When you are unhappy, that is enough for you to leave.” - Jennifer Muscatel [24:30]
• “If you can leave, leave. If you can’t leave, start planning how you can leave.” - Jennifer Muscatel [27:04]
• “You deserve the best life!” - Jennifer Muscatel [24:30]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

Narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars, but recognizing manipulation tactics is the first step toward healing. Women who have survived narcissistic relationships often emerge stronger, more resilient, and with a renewed sense of self-worth. By trusting their intuition and setting firm boundaries, they can overcome the gaslighting, love bombing, and other insidious tactics used by narcissists. The journey to recovery may be challenging, but it leads to personal growth, emotional freedom, and the opportunity to build healthier relationships. 

In this episode, I am joined by Laura Richards, a globally recognized advocate for survivors of narcissistic abuse and a voice of empowerment for women worldwide. As the creator of the internationally acclaimed podcast "That's Where I'm At" and author of the #1 bestselling book "Married To A 'Nice' Guy," Laura has become a guiding light for those navigating the complex aftermath of toxic relationships. Laura shares her profound insights on recognizing and overcoming narcissistic manipulation tactics, drawing from both her professional expertise and personal experiences.  Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of narcissistic abuse, learn how to recognize red flags in relationships, and discover the power of trusting your intuition. Laura shares invaluable strategies for setting boundaries, overcoming gaslighting, and embracing personal growth after leaving a toxic relationship.

Timestamps

[00:42] About Laura Richards

[01:35] How Laura came up with the title of her book 

[06:28] Childhood trauma: Do not convince people to like you

[09:54] How Jennifer’s husband started to change

[11:47] How Laura was trained not to ruffle up the feathers

[16:44] The importance of having boundaries

[18:56] What it felt like for Laura when she found out her ex-husband was cheating

[27:48] The gift of intuition and gut feeling

[29:48] The little ways they chip away at your self-esteem

[38:27] The red flags Laura noticed during her marriage

[42:18] Narcissists move into a new relationship easily

[45:23] Laura’s divorce experience

[48:31] Narcissists will tell stories to make you look bad

[52:11] How to prepare yourself for divorce

• “It’s not our job to convince others of what we’ve been through.” - Laura Richards [03:21]
• “Words and behavior need to match.” - Laura Richards [13:14]
• “As humans, we have a deep need to be seen and heard.” - Laura Richards [24:30]
• “Narcissists are pretty consistent, and they will say the same things over and over.” - Laura Richards [30:10]
• “All narcissists need another supply, they are like a battery and they need like a supply to charge their batteries.” - Laura Richards [42:03]

1. The book by Laura Richards - Married To A “Nice” Guy: https://www.amazon.com/Married-Nice-Guy-Getting-Narcissistic/dp/B0D73PT1GB
2. That’s Where I’m At Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-where-im-at/id1704083491

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thatswhereimatpodcast

Instagram: https://instagram.com/thatswhereimatpodcast

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thatswhereimatpodcast

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thatswhereimatpodcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemomsociety_/

Navigating the holiday season as a single mama can feel like a juggling act worthy of a circus ringmaster. Between crafting new traditions and managing co-parenting schedules, there's never a dull moment. For those sharing custody, the holidays can bring both the joy of seeing your children thrive and the bittersweet quiet of an empty house when they're with their other parent. But fear not, fellow warriors of motherhood! This is your chance to embrace imperfection, laugh at the chaos, and create memories that outshine any Hallmark movie.

In this episode, I am joined by Marisol Vasquez, a High Conflict Co-Parenting Speaker, Coach, and Writer who empowers moms to transform co-parenting struggles into a thriving, unified family dynamic. Marisol brings her wealth of experience and insights to tackle the challenges of navigating the holiday season as a single mother. From setting healthy boundaries and dealing with toxic exes to preparing children for interactions with inconsistent fathers, Marisol offers practical advice and emotional support. She delves into crucial topics such as recognizing red flags in relationships, understanding trauma bonds, and the importance of self-value. Marisol also shares her personal journey through a high-conflict custody case, providing valuable strategies for managing co-parenting dynamics during the holidays.  Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of high-conflict co-parenting and learn how to transform holiday stress into memorable experiences for you and your children.

Timestamps

[05:09] About Marisol Vasquez

[07:03] Pros and cons that come when they leave you with the children

[10:25] Setting up boundaries through unhealthy relationships

[15:05] Tools to show your kids that you love them no matter what happens

[20:30] Key points to note when dealing with a narcissist

[25:27] Placing your own value as a mum with 50% custody of your children

[30:51] How to deal with a toxic ex who doesn’t want to leave you

[36:06] Ego death: Evolving with children and yourself as a person

[39:05] Marisol’s thoughts on why so many men are so toxic

[42:37] Red flags to look out for before getting into a relationship

[46:27] The meaning of trauma bond

[48:30] The issue of mocking women: Knowing your value

[55:16] How men have a different moral code

[57:08] Marisol’s high conflict custody case for her daughter

[01:00:16] Tips for mums during the holidays

[01:10:02] How to prepare your kids to interact with their inconsistent dads

[01:18:23] How our kids are becoming more intelligent

[01:19:15] Marisol’s plan for the holiday

[01:21:14] Leveraging what we’ve been through as single mums

• “We know what it’s like for people not to be there for us.” - Marisol Vasquez [10:30]
• “We are all imperfect.” - Marisol Vasquez [21:24]
• “Pulling away from a life that no longer serves you or from people that no longer serve you is very difficult.” - Marisol Vasquez [21:53]
• “Some of them are really good at playing victim though they actually are the ones who have curated these really toxic dynamics.” - Marisol Vasquez [37:28]
• “Some of these people literally thrive in chaos, their goal is to make your life as chaotic as possible.” - Marisol Vasquez [58:06]
• “It’s okay to remind yourself that you can have big dreams.” - Marisol Vasquez [01:22:02]

• The Book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend - Boundaries: https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisolvasquezofficial/

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/marisolvasquez

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/13344770373/user/1546321402/

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Narcissism: a word that conjures images of self-absorbed individuals, but what lies beneath the surface? For women caught in the web of narcissistic relationships, the reality is far more sinister. A silent epidemic, narcissistic abuse leaves deep emotional scars, eroding self-esteem and identity. Studies show that women exposed to such relationships experience significantly lower self-worth and higher rates of anxiety and depression1. The manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional turmoil can be devastating yet often go unrecognized. As we peel back the layers of narcissism, we uncover a complex world where women struggle to reclaim their power and heal from the invisible wounds inflicted by those who claim to love them.

In this episode, I am joined by Chantal Contorines, a coach specializing in helping parents navigate the challenges of co-parenting with narcissists. Chantal's mission is to empower individuals and their children to thrive despite these difficult circumstances. Drawing from her extensive experience, Chantal sheds light on the often misunderstood concept of narcissism and its devastating impact on relationships. She explores why narcissists are seemingly prevalent in today's society and offers invaluable insights on recognizing the signs of narcissistic abuse. From the narcissist's inability to truly love to their manipulative tactics like gaslighting and coercive control, Chantal unravels the intricate web of narcissistic behavior. She also shares practical advice on creating boundaries, teaching children critical thinking skills, and, ultimately, finding the strength to break free from toxic relationships. Tune in to uncover the hidden truths about narcissism and learn valuable tools for healing and empowerment.

Timestamps

[00:20] About Chantal Contorines

[01:23] Chantal’s take on the buzzword narcissism and why narcissists are so many 

[05:31] You are not alone in dealing with an abusive husband

[07:40] A narcissist is incapable of love

[12:18] You cannot imagine what narcissists think

[17:06] Narcissists have zero value

[20:40] Creating and enforcing boundaries in your life

[23:47] Critical thinking: Teaching children to know when you are being bad-mouthed

[27:26] Narcissists will gaslight you in the entire relationship

[33:24] About Chantal’s coaching program

[35:36] The meaning of coercive control

[42:20] What narcissists accuse you of is a reflection of what they are doing

[46:13] Getting out of their mocks

[51:16] Narcissists don’t really love their children

• “It’s very rare for a true narcissist to actually be vulnerable.” - Chantal Contorines [02:23]
• “Most people don’t realize that they are actually dealing with a narcissist until after they leave.” - Chantal Contorines [03:36]
• “Abuse is so much more than a raised hand and a raised voice.” - Chantal Contorines [05:54]
• “A narcissist will only ever feel secure through external validation.” - Chantal Contorines [18:39]
• “You actually have so much power to positively impact and influence your children far more than you think you do.” - Chantal Contorines [22:50]
• “Every narcissist is a coercive controller.” - Chantal Contorines [37:38]

1. The book by Lyz Lenz - This American Ex-Wife: https://www.amazon.com/This-American-Ex-Wife-Marriage-Started/dp/0593241126

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Divorce is a significant life transition that can be particularly challenging for women. The process begins with filing a petition and navigating legal requirements, such as submitting affidavits and marriage certificates. Emotionally, women may experience a rollercoaster of feelings, from shock and denial to anger, bargaining, and eventual acceptance. Financially, it’s crucial to prepare by organizing documents, creating budgets, and reassessing insurance6. Building a robust support system of friends, family, and professionals is essential for emotional resilience. Through these steps, women can empower themselves to face divorce with strength and emerge ready for new beginnings.

In this episode, I am joined by Erica Rose, a Family Law Attorney at Rose Sanders Law Firm, who brings her expertise to the complex world of divorce. Erica, with her wealth of experience in family law, offers invaluable insights and practical advice for women navigating the challenging terrain of divorce. From the critical steps of preparing for divorce to protecting children's interests and managing emotions in court, Erica covers a wide range of essential topics. She emphasizes the importance of financial preparation, building a strong support system, and understanding the legal intricacies of the divorce process. Erica also sheds light on often overlooked aspects, such as enforcing child support laws and involving mediators when children are involved. Her advice extends to empowering women to stay informed, handle their emotions effectively in legal settings, and ultimately emerge stronger from the divorce process. Tune in to gain expert guidance on navigating divorce with confidence and resilience.

Timestamps

[00:24] About Erica Rose

[01:17] Courts are not enforcing child support laws enough

[03:19] What women can do to prepare for divorce

[07:34] External sources and help to get before divorcing

[09:12] How to get financial information about your ex-husband after divorcing

[10:44] Advice to women getting through a divorce

[11:29] What you need to know going into the divorce process

[12:54] The best way to protect your children

[13:48] How to be strong and handle your emotions in court

[15:17] Involve a mediator when a child is involved

“Keep yourself in the loop about everything, it’s really important.” - Erica Rose [08:24]

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