The Bad Girls Bible – Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

Welcome back to another episode of The Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show, we are joined by Alaina Schwartz to talk about her marriage of 17 and a half years and her subsequent divorce. Alaina grew up on long island in New York in a family of staunch disciplinarians that was incredibly emotionally dysfunctional, emotionally violent and sometimes even physically so. After high school, Alaina moved away to New York where she went to law school, and eventually was a lawyer in the music industry for almost 18 years. Today she is a successful transformational mindset and business coach, who teaches her clients the same mindset tools that radically changed her life. In this episode we talk about everything from how her husband was incredibly romantic at first, how she started to realize something wasn’t quite right in her relationship, how she earned more than him, and also how she stayed positive since divorcing him. So for an incredibly honest, and insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode.

• Alaina’s background story and her early life.
• The day the Alaina met her ex husband: love at second sight.
• Timeline and story of how Alaina’s ex husband proposed.
• Alaina’s fairytale wedding in Central Park.
• The first couple of years of their marriage.
• The incident that led up to their marital problems.
• Alaina’s heartbreak and challenges with her in-laws.
• The lowest point Alaina experienced in her marriage.
• When Alaina finally decided to move on with her life.
• Facing the allegations of being called an “unfit mother”.
• How Alaina’s life has turned out differently than what she expected.
• Why Alaina has no regrets from her past.
• Advice for listeners who are going through a divorce: mindset shift.

“I was determined to try to make it work every day I was there and every day I was rejected by him.” — @alaina_s7 [0:25:25]

“There was no doubt that I thought we were going to be together forever that we would figure out a way to make that work.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:26]

“There can be multiple people that are really good for us in our lives at different times in our lives, depending on how we grow.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:46]

Alaina Schwartz — https://alainaschwartz.com/ 

Alaina on Twitter — https://twitter.com/alaina_s7

On today’s show we welcome Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor in the department for Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia and the Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health.

Lori has also the author of the book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. In this episode we are discussing sexual desire, and how a low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well. Many people struggle for different reasons, both psychologically and socially. Lori helps us today to uncover those struggles and those reasons and step beyond our negative beliefs to reignite our sexual desires through mindfulness. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Hear more about Lori and how she became a sex researcher and sex therapist.
• Researcher’s findings on reasons why women experience low sexual desire.
• Why low sexual desire is often confused.
• Understanding how mood and depression suppresses desire.
• How your beliefs can impact your desire.
• Cognitive behavioral therapy and how it can effectively treat sexual complaints.
• Physical conditions people can have that may interfere with sexual function.
• A female Viagra solution to fix female sexual arousal disorder, how terrible can it be?
• Struggling to reach orgasm during sex: whether you’re lacking desire or full of it.
• How mindfulness can help women and man be more present and reignite desire.
• Lori share some stories from her book on how mindfulness can be useful.
• Adopting a regular mindfulness practice and engaging the muscle of the mind.
• And so much more!

Tweetables:

“Low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:04:01]

“Negative beliefs in the brain can also stimulate certain brain path ways that interfere with desire and arousal.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:11:21]

“Pretty much anything that impacts hormones has the potential to impact sexual response.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:14:35]

“If you are going to have sex, you may as well show up for it.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:27:30]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Lori Brotto — http://www.loribrotto.com/

Dr. Lori on Twitter — https://twitter.com/DrLoriBrotto

Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire — https://www.amazon.com/Better-Sex-Through-Mindfulness-Cultivate/dp/1771642351/

University of British Columbia — https://brottolab.med.ubc.ca/about/dr-lori-brotto/

On today’s show we welcome Annabelle Knight. Annabelle is a dating, sex and relationship expert along with being a certified couple’s councilor. She’s also written a novel, The Endless Autumn, which has been featured by Cosmopolitan.

Annabelle has her own range of sex toys available online and is a resident sex and love expert for online retailer, lovehoney.com. Our topic for today is sex toys. Thanks to Annabelle’s expertise on the subject she is able to share with us just how useful they can be and how they can cause breathtaking pleasure.

We’re also talking about getting your partner on board with using sex toys during sex and the different types of vibrators and sex toys available. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Hear more about Annabelle’s background and how she started her own line of sex toys.
• How sex toys can improve your pleasure, whether you’re alone or with a partner.
• Annabelle’s favorite sex toys - the cock ring and the vibrating bullet.
• Advice to people wanting to buy their first sex toy.
• Why some guys are hesitant about using sex toys during sex.
• Ways to help your partner get on board with using sex toys.
• Why using sex toys has nothing to do with how good you are in bed.
• Different types of vibrators for clitoral stimulation.
• What to look for when buying a sex toy.
• Sex toys that are unisex or male specific that men can use.
• Learn more about prostate play and prostate massagers.
• Toys to use during sex that can give different sensations.
• Anal first-timers prep.
• Main types of lubricant: water based, silicon based and oil based.
• Using the right type of lube with your sex toys.
• What to do if sex toys just aren’t for you.
• And so much more!

Tweetables:

“Sex toys are like the cherry on the cake so you don’t need the cherry to make the cake tasty but it kind of gives you a third dimension, a little extra something.” — @missbelleknight [0:03:10]

“Sex toys provide different type of stimulation and that’s not a better type or worse type, it’s just a different type.” — @missbelleknight [0:07:50]

“The end goal for any sex toy manufacturer is pleasure and the better their toys and their products provide pleasure, the more popular they are.” — @missbelleknight [0:18:26]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Annabelle Knight — http://annabelleknight.com/

Annabelle on Twitter — https://twitter.com/missbelleknight

Annabelle on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/annabelleknight/

The Endless Autumn — https://www.amazon.com/Endless-Autumn-Annabelle-Knight/dp/1786939606/

Love Honey — https://www.lovehoney.com/

Cosmopolitan — https://www.cosmopolitan.com/

Aneros — https://www.aneros.com/

Joining us today is Dee Dussault, a sexuality coach, Yoga Alliance® certified yoga teacher, the creator of Ganja Yoga, and author of the book by that title. She has taught partner yoga, vanilla tantra, and cannabis-enhanced yoga to thousands of people across the US, Canada, and Europe.

She studied sexuality for over a decade and carries an honors degree in Sexuality Studies. Her training was in the tantric tradition of Swami Satyananda of Bihar, India. Dee tells us what got her into tantra and explains that the practice is about much more than sex. She highlights the spiritual value as well as the opportunities it offers to fuel the evolution of our consciousness.

She further discusses mindfulness, the importance of slowing down your sexual encounters, and why the edge of your comfort zone is where you want to be. We talk about solo orgasmic experiences, Kegel exercises and the exhilarating dynamic that marijuana can bring to your yoga routine. So tune in to find out how Dee can help you tap into your radiant embodied self!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Some of Dee’s background and how she became a sexuality coach.
• How tantra facilitates the whole human experience.
• Why tantra is for everyone, at any time.   
• The relationship between breathing and feeling.
• What to do when you feel awkward at first.
• How yoga can lead to arousal and orgasmic experience.
• The benefits of redirecting genital energy.
• How energy orgasms can be achieved.
• How tantric sex helps older people and those with sexual dysfunction.
• The importance of balancing Kegel exercises with stretches.
• How cannabis enhances your yoga routine.
• And so much more!

Tweetables:

“The idea is in Tantra that our sexual energy is the most potent energy we have as humans.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:04:05]

“Tantra allows the whole range of human emotions and experiences.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:08:00]

“You don’t need a partner to do tantra.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:08:22] 

“As you slow down your breath, your capacity to feel increases.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:09:37]

“I recommend people play at the edge of their comfort zone.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:11:09]

“Pleasure is our birthright.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:22:51]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Yoga Alliance® — https://www.yogaalliance.org/

Swami Satyananda — http://www.biharyoga.net/bihar-school-of-yoga/about-wyc/sri-swami-satyananda/

Dee Dussault — https://www.deedussault.com/

Ganja Yoga — https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062656841/ganja-yoga/

Ganja Yoga on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/ganjayoga/

Sting — https://www.sting.com/

Sting on Twitter — https://twitter.com/OfficialSting

Today on the podcast we are joined by Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman. They are the cofounders of the Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching.

Danielle Harel received her Ph.D. and Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality from The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. She has a graduate degree in Clinical Social Work and a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Educational Counseling. Celeste Hirschman received her Master’s Degree in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and her Bachelor’s Degree in Women’s Studies at the University of California at Santa Cruz.

In their teaching, Danielle and Celeste connect with unconditional love, erotic energy, and presence to help their students and clients deepen their insight on self-awareness. They’ve also coauthored the books Making Love Real and Cockfidence, and this episode they share more about the importance of vulnerability and empathy in relationships, and how to be more mindful in your sex life. We also dive into ways to work through shame and fully embrace your sexual desires and fantasies without feeling judged. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode!

Key Points From This Episode

• The story of how Danielle and Celeste met, and founded the Somatic Institute.
• Somatica: an experiential approach to sexuality and relationships.
• Importance of vulnerability for having a good sex life.
• Most common reasons why we often struggle to be vulnerable with our partners.
• How mindfulness plays a role in having better sex.
• Advice for couples who want to develop mindfulness.
• Learning to have embodied empathy when it comes to your relationship.
• Understanding how to process shame and embrace your sexuality.
• Key elements of a healthy relationship: attachment and individuation.

Tweetables

“The more that we can be vulnerable about our deepest desires and longings, the more that we can give each other the most hot, fulfilling sex.” — Celeste Hirschman [0:08:32]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Danielle Harel — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/about-danielle/

Celeste Hirschman — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/about-celeste/

Website — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/

Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching — https://www.somaticainstitute.com/

Making Love Real — https://www.amazon.com/Making-Love-Real-Intelligent-Intimacy/dp/0692525483

Cockfidence — https://www.amazon.com/Cockfidence-Definitive-Guide-Being-Driving-ebook/dp/B004SV2DKC

On the show today we are joined by Dr. Adam Mathews. Dr. Mathews is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of experience working with couples and families. He’s an adjunct professor for both North Central University and Piper University and he’s also the cohost of the popular podcast, Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy. Currently, Dr. Mathews also serves as president of the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

In this episode we’ll be discussing the five sex conversations every couple needs to have to improve their sex life and address the regular problems that persist in relationships when sex is MIA or when your partner isn’t comfortable talking about it. Who better to talk on the subject of sex in relationships than the expert, Dr. Mathews!

Highlights

• How Dr. Mathews came to be a therapist and started Foreplay Read Sex Therapy.
• Why some couples intentionally avoid difficult conversations about sex.
• Why when conflict grows: disconnection grows and your sex life follows suit.
• The first initial steps, what leads people to therapy and how to uncover the problem.
• What emotional and sexual disconnection does to your relationship.
• The right approach when you want to initiate the ‘sex’ conversation.
• Owning your part in it and focusing on one thing at a time.
• Laying off the pressure when making new requests.
• The “My parents did what?” conversation: what your family was like about sex.
• The “I’ll have what she’s having” conversation: getting away from assumptions.
• The “Indianapolis 500” conversation: what puts us in the mood for sex.
• The “I have a headache” conversation: How to deal with rejection, when you’re not in the mood.
• How to politely honestly and politely say, “Hey just not tonight”.
• The “The professor plum in the bedroom with the lights off” conversation.
• Not underestimating the soft skills: communication and how it can bring connection.
• And so much more!

Tweetables

“Just never force a sex conversation on somebody if they don’t want to have it.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:13:17.1]

“Sex is the ultimate expression of love and connection.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:16:38.1]

“You mention the soft skills and I think that is what they are and I would just say, don’t underestimate the power of this stuff.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:35:33.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Dr. Adam Mathews — https://mathewscounseling.net/

Dr. Mathews on Twitter — https://twitter.com/MathewsCounsel

Dr. Mathews on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/dradammathews

Dr. Mathews on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/dradammathews/

Foreplay Read Sex Therapy —http://foreplayrst.com/

Today on the show I am talking to Dr. Laurie Mintz. She is a professor, author, speaker, and therapist. She teaches psychology of human sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students annually and she has also authored two books, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters — And How to Get It, along with A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.

Inside this episode, Laurie shares her findings on the orgasm gap that exists in relationships and why that often starts at the beginning of a sex ed program. We also dive into the importance of self-discovery and understanding what works best for you as an individual, and then communicating that to your partner. Finally, we bust some of society’s myths about sex and Laurie shares her take-home advice that women can implement in their sexual journeys today.

So if you want to learn all of Laurie’s incredible secrets to experience orgasms during sex, don’t miss out on today’s episode!

Highlights

• Laurie’s background and how she came to teach psychology of human sexuality.
• How the orgasm gap inspired Laurie to write Becoming Cliterate.
• Understanding why there is so much ignorance about female sexual pleasure.
• The effective strategy of sex education in the Netherlands.
• First steps a woman can take to increase her “cliteracy”.
• How to incorporate yourself; a journey of self-discovery.
• Why sexual communication can really go a long way.
• Getting rid of the myth that sex should be spontaneous.
• Approaching your partner about introducing new ideas into your sex life.
• Advice for women struggling to orgasm or struggling with low sexual desire.

Tweetables

“It’s truly, truly impossible to have an orgasm while you are worrying about something.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:17:19]

“Mindfulness is putting your mind and body in the same place.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:17:19]

“Communication is the bedrock to make your bed rock.” — @DrLaurieMintz [0:26:17]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Dr. Laurie Mintz — http://drlauriemintz.com/

Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/drlauriemintz

Becoming Cliterate — https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062664557

A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex — https://www.amazon.com/Tired-Womans-Guide-Passionate-Sex/dp/1605501077

OMGYes — https://www.omgyes.com/

Calm — https://www.calm.com/

Head Space — https://www.headspace.com/

Today we are doing something a little different, which I think you will find pretty interesting…Instead of our regular guest, I am talking to a listener of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast to bring you a whole new perspective to all things relationships, and real world experiences.

So in this episode we welcome listener, Paige, to talk about her relationships and the struggles she’s faced, including dealing with her difficult mother-in-law and even finding out her husband had been texting his ex! Paige then goes on to talk about how she came through these relationship struggles to be in a better, happier place.

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, there is a lot to learn from our conversation and hopefully some inspiration too, especially if you’re facing your own relationships struggles.

If you’d like to tell your relationship story on the podcast, shoot me an email to [email protected]

• Hear more about who Paige is and how she met her husband.
• Getting proposed to after only 6 months of dating.
• What life was like for Paige between the proposal and the marriage.
• Dealing with the mother in law.
• Issues of jealousy early on in her marriage.
• Being a new mother and dealing with the frustrations that come with it.
• How Paige found out that her husband was talking to one of his exes.
• Getting on with depression - another baby and 5 years later.
• Going back to school and doing something for yourself.
• Finding your own happiness - having a positive mindset.
• How her marriage changed once she changed her mindset.
• The importance of developing your mindset.
• And much more!

Bad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com/

Bad Girls Bible Facebook Page — https://www.facebook.com/badgirlsbible/

On the show today we are joined by Vanessa Marin, who is a sex therapist specializing in helping women achieve orgasms. Through her work, in person and online, Vanessa has coached countless clients towards more fulfilling sex and a greater understanding of their bodies. In our conversation we cover Vanessa’s early desire to become a sex coach and the challenges that she faced on her journey towards her current status.

We then get into the nitty gritty of the big ‘O’, unpacking different types of desire, the dual control model, common myths on the subject and the helpful concept of curiosity. We also discuss sex toys, menopause, and some of the methods and resources that Vanessa offers.

• How Vanessa found herself in the job of orgasm coach.
• The basis of Vanessa’s program for helping her clients.
• The strong bond between desire and orgasm.
• Differences between spontaneous and responsive desire.
• An explanation of the dual control model.
• Female orgasms are complex, how can we simplify it?
• Where to start focussing your efforts when learning how to orgasm.
• A few of the myths around female orgasm.
• The courses, steps and guides that Vanessa offers on her website
• Rethinking orgasm through the idea of curiosity.
• The use of sex toys in this endeavour.
• Menopause and orgasm and comparing different perspectives.
• A more realistic idea of a healthy sex life for couples.
• And much more!

“I always knew that female orgasm would be a hot topic in this area but I was definitely surprised by how many women were really desperately seeking some sort of solution.” — @VMTherapy [0:03:38.7]

“There’s a really powerful relationship between desire and orgasm and I think that a lot of women tend to neglect that relationship.” — @VMTherapy [0:07:50.3]

“I think it’s equally as important to think about what are the things that get in the way of me feeling desire.” — @VMTherapy [0:13:28.8]

Vanessa Marin — https://vmtherapy.com/

Brown University — https://www.brown.edu/

New York Times — https://www.nytimes.com/

Oprah — http://www.oprah.com/index.html

Real Simple — https://www.realsimple.com/

Finishing School — https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm/

Emily Nagoski  — http://www.emilynagoski.com/

Come As You Are — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

On today’s show we welcome Laurie Watson. Laurie is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Couple’s Counselor and author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. She is also the co-host of a podcast along with Dr. Adam Matthews called Foreplay: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples, designed to help couples keep it hot.

In clinical therapy, she has helped thousands of couples recover sexual passion and make love again in joyful, intimate, creative and exciting ways, sometimes even after years of sexless marriage. Inside this episode we dive into the topic of people wanting to reignite their passion and the desire that’s lost in a marriages or relationships. Laurie shares some incredible strategies to help you get back that fiery passion, today. We also diving into Laurie’s 444 Solution and getting your SEX confidence back!

• Laurie’s background and how she came to writing Wanting Sex Again.
• How a good marriage becomes a sexless marriage.
• The power struggle between the pursuer and the “distancer” in the relationship.
• Examples of a pursuer and a distant person.
• Understanding the concept of Attachment theory.
• Detailed talkers versus bullet point talkers.
• Importance of secure attachment.
• Doing a self analysis to understand where you are at personally (and your relationship).
• Laurie’s 444 Solution and how to use it in your relationship.
• What birth control can do to a woman’s libido.
• The Madonna Whore Syndrome.
• Common issues affecting couples in their sex lives.
• Getting your self confidence and body confidence back.
• And so much more!

“Within two years of marriage, one third of all couples are sexless.” — @asklauriewatson [0:03:31.1]

“If there’s no big bang, there’s no big deal.” — @asklauriewatson [0:09:12.1]

“We need a talking avenue and we need a physical touching avenue to really have secure attachment.” — @asklauriewatson [0:15:53.1]

Laurie Watson — http://lauriewatson.com/

Laurie’s Website — https://awakeningscenter.org/

Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/asklauriewatson

Laurie on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/foreplayrst/

Laurie on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/foreplay_radiosextherapy/

Laurie on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-watson-436b551a/

Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage — https://www.amazon.com/Laurie-Watson-Wanting-Sex-Again/dp/B00G4GDCVI/

FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples — http://foreplayrst.com/

Awakenings Center — https://awakeningscenter.org/

Love and Sex Quiz — https://awakeningscenter.org/love-sex-quiz/

Make Love Not Porn — makelovenotporn.tv

Today on the podcast we are joined by a very special guest, none other than Alice Little from the Bunny Ranch and the Wing Woman Podcast. Alice is one of the most prominent sex workers in America and she is here to give our listeners expert advice and all round insider scoop on great sex and easy tips for increased pleasure and intimacy. In our discussion we cover Alice’s personal history and thoughts on sex work and perceptions around the subject. From there we cover dirty talk, orgasms, oral sex, BDSM and a lot more. Alice also gives some practical advice for body positivity and managing a partner of a different height in the bedroom. For all this amazing information and more from a truly wonderful ambassador for better sex, join us for today’s episode!

• How Alice found herself at The Bunny Ranch.
• Why do people visit sex workers?
• Some of the common misconceptions around sex work.
• Alice’s advice for those listeners wanting to work on their dirty talk. 
• Closing the orgasm gap and finding ways to share pleasure.
• Alice’s advice to listener’s wanting to improve their fellatio skills.
• The reciprocal advice for cunnilingus.
• How to go about getting more acquainted with BDSM and sensation play.
• Use of safe words and aftercare and why they are so important.
• Clearly defining the BDSM acronym.
• Some of Alice’s tips for overcoming height difference between partners. 
• Getting over self doubt and getting on top of your partner.
• And much more!

“I believe so strongly in the good that legal sex workers can do for society and I believe so much so that it’s the perfect job for me that I plan to continue to do so.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:05:27.3]

“If you can’t talk about sex and intimacy outside of the bedroom, you’re never going to get to the point where you can express yourself openly and comfortably while actually in the bedroom.” —   @TheAliceLittle [0:06:51.9]

“It’s the biggest sexual mistake that America is making right now, we’re failing to ask what our partner actually likes.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:10:26.9]

Alice Little — https://thealicelittle.com

Wing Woman Podcast — https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wing-woman-podcast/id1434992925

Alice Little Twitter — https://twitter.com/TheAliceLittle

Alice Little Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/thealicelittleofficial/

Moonlite Bunny Ranch — https://www.bunnyranch.com

Alice Little Email — [email protected]

Dennis Hof — https://www.dennishof.com/about-dennis/

Ron Jeremy — https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000465/

Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy — https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/usmt20/current

Sephora — https://www.sephora.com

Ulta — https://www.ulta.com

Kink —  https://www.kink.com

Kink University — https://www.kink.com/channel/kinkuniversity

Adam and Eve — https://www.adameve.com

Liberator — https://www.liberator.com

Pornhub — https://www.pornhub.com

Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com

Jason Julius is a world renowned sex coach and female orgasm expert and his goal is to help as many men, women, and couples achieve the amazing sex lives they deserve. In this episode we are going to discuss everything a man can do to give his partner more intense and satisfying pleasure inside and outside the bedroom. We also dive into how to really get your female partner aroused by communicating with her throughout the day, and building on the fantasy for her ultimate sexual readiness. Jason is very candid and shares all his tips and advice on stimulating your female partner’s G-spot and A-spot, ways to encourage her to let go towards ejaculation, and the real culprits behind premature and delayed ejaculation for men. So if you’re listening and have a male partner, you may want to get him to listen to this episode too!

• Jason’s background and how he got to where he is today.
• Advice for getting your female partner aroused.
• Breaking down the arousal process for men and women.
• Understanding the concept of “sexy context”.
• What makes for good foreplay from a guy.
• The importance of quieting down your female partners’ mind.
• Simplicity and the general rules of dirty talk.
• Why it is critical to get to know yourself sexually.
• Advice for providing clitoral stimulation, manually and orally.
• How to find the G-spot, and why many people struggle to find it.
• Why using a lubricant is sometimes a must.
• Strategy for helping your partner achieve female ejaculation.
• The dangers of too much porn, and forming the wrong paths in your brain.
• And much more!

“I think that there’s a huge misunderstanding about female desire and how female desire actually works.” — @jasonjulius [0:05:37.1]

“For guys, we need to understand that we need to be constantly flirting with our woman to create the fantasy that she desires to get her mind engaged.” — @jasonjulius [0:09:10.1]

“The purpose of foreplay is to build up the fantasy.” — @jasonjulius [0:13:35.1]

Jason’s Squirting Tutorial Video - http://www.orgasmarts.com/

Jason Julius — https://www.jasonjulius.com/

Jason’s website — http://www.orgasmarts.com/

Jason on Twitter — https://twitter.com/jasonjulius

Jason on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnJ25wY59ezVT3CXFunkuQQ

Come As You Are — https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

Today on the podcast we welcome Poly Anna from the Sexploration with Poly Anna Podcast! In this episode we will be chatting about all things polyamory and getting Poly Anna’s personal and professional ideas, experiences and views on the subject. After a more traditional upbringing and early parts of her adult life, Poly Anna eventually found the strong desire for polyamory within herself and chose to pursue this urge. We get into the social aspects, catching feelings, intimacy and a host of other factors in this largely uncharted world of love. Poly Anna also gives us some great definitions and differentiations between various forms of ethical non-monogamy as well as sharing some positive and negative experiences of her own, navigating multiple partners and relationships. It promises to be a great episode with loads of helpful and juicy information for all of you.

• Poly Anna’s own experiences and history with monogamy and polyamory.
• Social expectations of polyamory and taboo acts.
• How Poly Anna found her kinks and deeper desires.
• Defining polyamory more clearly.
• Some other versions of ethical non-monogamy.
• Catching feelings and managing these in multiple relationships.
• Is polyamory just an excuse to cheat without getting caught?
• The initial steps to take in exploring polyamory.
• Reaching out for help, support and information regarding this.
• Maintaining intimacy with a primary partner.
• Some of Poly Anna’s own experiences in polyamorous relationships.
• Common stumbling blocks for different models of relationships.
• Lessons for monogamy from polyamory!
• Should everyone try polyamory?
• Communication and coming out as polyamorous.
• And much more!

Poly Anna: https://sexplorationwithpo.wixsite.com/website

Poly Anna Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/instawithpolyanna/

Poly Anna Twitter: https://twitter.com/polyannatweets

Poly Anna Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/instawithpolyanna/

Poly Anna Email: [email protected]

Polyamory: Married and Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2227610/

On today’s show we welcome Dr. Saketh R. Guntupalli who is the Vice Chairman for Clinical Affairs and Quality in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Colorado School of Medicine in Denver. He is also the author of the book Sex and Cancer: Intimacy, Romance, and Love after Diagnosis and Treatment, and in this episode we chat about exactly that. Dr Guntupalli gives us some background into what inspired him to write the book and then goes onto some great anecdotes and information on the ways that cancer can influence intimacy and sexual relationships.

He stresses the key points that partners should always remember in trying to combat these potentially negative effects as well as focusing on some of the beautiful and surprising situations that arise out of something as scary as a cancer diagnosis. For all this and much more, be sure to tune in!

• The patient that inspired Dr. Guntupalli to research and write his book.
• A particular story from the book about reimagining intimate life.
• The connection between cancer, hair, breasts and sexuality.
• The gender disparity around anatomical procedures in medicine.
• A three-pronged approach to overcoming the sexual challenges of a cancer diagnosis.
• Some pointers for being a helpful partner to someone in treatment.
• The emotional repercussions that a cancer diagnosis can have on a relationship.
• And much more!

“So what I would suggest is not to think about sex as intercourse and orgasm. It is a platter of different things that you choose from.” — Saketh Guntupalli [0:19:53.9]

Sex and Cancer — https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Cancer-Intimacy-Diagnosis-Treatment/dp/1442275081

Saketh Guntupalli —  [email protected]

University of Colorado School of Medicine — http://www.ucdenver.edu/academics/colleges/medicalschool/Pages/somWelcome.aspx

Dammit Doll — https://dammitdolls.com/Home

On the show today we welcome Xanet Pailet, tantra educator, sex coach, and author of Living an Orgasmic Life.

Xanet is here tell us all about her work and how accessing your sexual blueprint and core erotic themes can guide you to a more fulfilling sex life and transform your whole world. We discuss Xanet’s own journey and the events in her life that led up to her current vocation before launching into some examples of the difficulties that people can have accessing and communicating their sexual needs.

We talk about lowered libido, sexless marriages, shame and how these relate to our early development and socialization.

Xanet gives great insight into simple ways to approach these sensitive subjects and shows just what a difference these measures can make.

We finish off the chat thinking about some pragmatic solutions to these issues and ways in which individuals and partners can make progress in this regard.

• Some of Xanet’s personal and professional background.
• The experiences that contributed to her pursuing a career in sexual therapy.
• An anecdote showing the damage an unspoken desire can do to a relationship.
• Some of the reasons for sexless marriages and lowered libido.
• The issue of shame and socialization related to pleasure.
• An example of the crippling effects of shame on our bodies.
• Core Erotic Themes and our underlying sexual emotions.
• How to go about communicating sensitive needs or fantasies. 
• Using games or apps to start the process of communication.
• Redefining sexuality and finding ways around tricky needs.
• Explaining Attachment Theory and it’s different formulations.
• And much more!

“I think most women have never really had continuous great sex. I know that’s a big statement to make but I think it’s really true.” [0:08:35.9]

“And I think that is what people really need to understand and to realize is that they really need to look at sex in a much, much wider spectrum than what we currently talk about it as.” [0:27:21.6]

Xanet Pailet — https://www.ecstaticliving.com/teachers/xanet-pailet

Power of Pleasure — https://powerofpleasure.com/

Living an Orgasmic Life — https://www.amazon.com/Living-Orgasmic-Life-Yourself-Pleasure-ebook/dp/B07BWKTWVT/

OkCupid — https://www.okcupid.com/

Jack Morin — https://www.linkedin.com/in/jack-morin-ph-d-0824851a

The Erotic Mind — https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment-ebook/dp/B009YJYEKK

MojoUpgrade — http://mojoupgrade.com/

John Bowlby — https://www.verywellmind.com/john-bowlby-biography-1907-1990-2795514

Welcome back to another episode of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show we are talking to Vikki Ziegler, a practicing attorney of matrimonial law and civil litigation.

Vikki is also a television personality known for her commentaries on high-profile cases, an active volunteer for women’s and children’s charities, and the innovator of a unique and realistic approach to “divorce management.”

In her career, Vikki brings together her insights as a divorce attorney along with her childhood experience of her own parents’ divorce, and years of careful listening to clients and friends to give pragmatic advice to those currently going through divorce.

Vikki’s approach seeks to de-stigmatize divorce by allowing its empowering aspects to triumph and her concrete pre-marital tips help couples avoid the pitfalls that can lead to divorce. In today’s episode we are going to talk about the strategies you can use to keep your relationship solid and prevent divorce in the first place.

For an incredible conversation with advice you can implement in your own life today, don’t miss out on this episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Vikki’s childhood and how it shaped her life to becoming an attorney.
• The most unique divorce case that Vikki has had.
• Why divorce can sometimes be a good outcome from a bad situation.
• The main reasons why people get divorced.
• Building a strong marital foundation; get emotionally and financially naked.
• Importance of vulnerability and communication for building trust in relationships.
• How childhood wounds shape your ability to be a partner.
• Advice for couples who are on the brink of a breakup or divorce.
• Why volunteer work and helping other people is key for those going through divorce.

Tweetables:

“I tell everybody, marriage is just like a job. Whatever you give in, you get back.” — @vikkiziegler [0:08:54.1]

“Things change and you have to have a strong marital foundation before you walk down the aisle in order to weather these storms.” — @vikkiziegler [0:10:43.8]

“If you're not happy, you can't make someone else happy.” — @vikkiziegler [0:15:44.8]

“99% of the time I recommend that everyone should have a prenup, because nobody knows what the future holds.” — @vikkiziegler [0:17:34.8]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Vikki Ziegler — http://www.vikkiziegler.com

Vikki on Twitter — https://twitter.com/vikkiziegler

Vikki on Instagram — http://instagram.com/Vikkiziegler

Vikki on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikki-s-ziegler-payne-1794988/

The Pre-Marital Planner — http://www.vikkiziegler.com/product/pre-marital-planner/

Today on the podcast we are joined by Dr. Holly Richmond, Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT).

Dr. Holly is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples, and gender diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She has been featured and quoted everywhere including Cosmo, CNN, Newsweek, Marie Claire, The New York Times, and more.

In the Sex Tech industry, Dr. Holly is also a sought after consultant and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health education and adult entertainment.

Her work through the Next-Sex platform is an exploration of the context of emerging technology and sexuality and how to positively address both.

Today, Dr. Holly is on the show to discuss sex tech and how it can help and sometimes hinder your sex life. She also shares the benefits of Teledildonics to improve your sexual experience and the advances of using sex dolls and sex bots in the practice of psychotherapy.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Dr. Holly’s background and how she got involved in sex tech.
• What is sex tech, and the role it plays in Dr. Holly’s work as a somatic psychologist.
• The positive roles sex tech can play in someone’s sex life.
• How virtual reality can help to encourage people to experience healthy eroticism.
• Defining Teledildonics; Bluetooth connected sex toys.
• Why deepfakes can either be really great, or really dangerous.
• The difference between a sex doll and a sex bot; are they a good influence?
• The role of sex dolls and sex bots in psychotherapy.

Tweetables:

“Through my sex positive view, all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable. I don’t get to make the choice about how much is too much. Every client does.” — @DrHollyRichmond [0:05:24.1]

“Virtual reality is almost a direct line to feeling and not thinking, experiencing instead of watching. It’s this embodied technology where we can become anything.” — @DrHollyRichmond [0:08:37.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Holly Richmond — http://drhollyrichmond.com/

Dr. Holly Richmond on Twitter — https://twitter.com/DrHollyRichmond

Next-Sex platform — http://next-sex.com/

Naughty America — https://www.naughtyamerica.com/

Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com

Kiiroo — https://www.kiiroo.com/

Ella Paradis — https://www.ellaparadis.com/

Lioness — https://lioness.io/

Our Lovely Toys — https://ourlovely.com/

RealDoll — https://www.realdoll.com/

Synthetic Surrogates — https://syntheticsurrogates.com

In this episode we welcome Eyal Matsliah, author, sex therapist and business coach.

Eyal takes a tantric approach to helping his clients overcome trauma, achieve multiple orgasms and take this energy into the rest of their lives.

We chat about the importance of conscious sex and how it can permeate through people’s intimate and public lives, inspiring creativity and success as well as bringing previously unimaginable heights of pleasure.

The conversation also covers sexual repression, early ejaculation, and achieving the sometimes illusive orgasm. Eyal has plenty of helpful instructions from his book and website to share as a taste of what he offers.

Finally, Eyal explains the idea of slow sex and how our attitudes towards sexuality can maximize our enjoyment and benefit.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Eyal’s background and how he came to his current position.
• What Eyal understands by the term ‘conscious sex’.
• The yoni massage and the healing that it can entail for both parties.
• Prevalence of sexual repression and freeing ourselves from these shackles.
• Harnessing energy through tantra and using it for your life.
• Help for those who struggle to have any type of orgasm.
• A guide to a helpful and exploratory self pleasuring practice.
• A remedy for men with a lack of longevity in bed.
• How to help your partner along the path to better sex in the right way.
• Slow sex and getting away from the fast paced fiction of porn.
• The different attitudes we can foster towards these goals.
• Direct and indirect pleasure and considering giving and taking.
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Intimate Power — http://www.intimatepower.com/

Intimate Power on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/intimatepower/?hl=en

Eyal on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/eyalnow1

Eyal on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/eyalnow/?hl=en

Eyal Matsliah Twitter — https://twitter.com/eyalnow?lang=en

Orgasm Unleashed — https://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing/dp/0994414919

Layla Martin — https://www.layla-martin.com/laylahome/

Are We Sexually Repressed and Don’t Know It — http://www.intimatepower.com/are-we-sexually-repressed-and-dont-know-it/

Huffington Post — https://www.huffingtonpost.com

Napoleon Hill — http://www.naphill.org/

Think and Grow Rich — https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Napoleon-Hill-ebook/dp/B01BT0ISHQ

Tim Ferriss — https://tim.blog/

Bulletproof Coffee — https://blog.bulletproof.com/

Start with Why — https://startwithwhy.com/

On the show today we are joined by Jamie Elizabeth Thompson who is a sex coach and intimacy expert, helping couples achieve a more fulfilling and connected sexuality and increased libido through erotic intelligence and somatic movement.

Jamie has designed a number of online courses for her clients to access their desire more successfully, with an emphasis on communication and self-awareness.

In our conversation Jamie lays out the useful concepts of her work and how they fit together to support the purpose of owning our sexuality and relating this to someone else.

We also talk about simple starting techniques in battling low libido, embodiment, foreplay, a sexual calendar and Jamie’s own Erotic Menu™. 

We finish off with some thoughts on how to share your own desires with a partner and how much this can benefit all areas on one’s life.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Jamie’s background work in relationships and how she ended up working with couples.
• Somatic movement reprogramming and body awareness.
• Understanding the concept of erotic intelligence.
• The key to erotic intelligence and the first steps to take on a path to increasing yours.
• Jamie’s advice to those struggling with low libido.
• Turning the body on and using embodiment to get out of your head.
• The importance of foreplay and navigating different needs.
• Sexy scheduling and making time for intimacy in a busy life.
• Jamie’s Erotic Menu™ and how it outlines different ways we give and receive.
• Creating our own ‘training manual’ and sharing it with a partner.
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson — https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

The Erotic Menu™ — https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/eroticevolution/

Dr. Esther Perel — https://www.estherperel.com/

The 5 Love Languages — https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Today on the podcast we welcome Megan Riley. Megan is a sexual empowerment coach, trainer, psychic, and the host of The Woman’s Guide to Living Your Orgasmic Life Podcast.

Throughout her career, Megan has worked with more than 19,000 men and women over a period of 14 years to heal the past and create more love, abundance, freedom, peace, and joy in all aspects of their lives.

She believes that everything happens for a reason, and in today’s episode, Megan opens up about her story of dealing with alcohol addiction and how her experience with a Yoni egg completely turned her life around.

We dive into the benefits of the Yoni egg crystal, how it works with a woman’s body, and Megan shares her advice and practices for first-time users.

Finally, we hear from Megan about how to better communicate with your partner to close the “orgasm gap” between men and women, and why she believes the prostate to be the “God Spot” for men.

• Megan’s story and how she became a sexual empowerment coach.
• What is a Yoni egg, and how does it work?
• Advice for first-time Yoni egg users; what are the first steps?
• How to communicate better to bridge the orgasm gap between partners.
• Why the prostate is the God spot for men AND how to pleasure it.
• Understanding how to approach the subject of giving a prostate massage.
• The step-by-step guide to prostate massage.

Megan Riley — http://meganmriley.com/

The Woman’s Guide to Living Your Orgasmic Life Podcast — http://meganmriley.com/pages/podcast

Work with Megan — http://meganmriley.com/pages/services

Megan on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/Megan.M.Riley0/

Today we are joined by Nadja Eriksson who is here to tell us about her work in coaching women to experience a more fulfilled sexuality and the seven types of tantric orgasms.

Nadja hosts her own podcast called The School of Feminine Pleasure with her colleague and friend Ingunn Tennbakk.

The two have also recently completed a book about tantra and enlightened spiritual pleasure, which is due out next year. In our conversation Nadja unpacks her understanding of the term ‘tantra’ and its applicability to all.

She then lays out the seven different type of female orgasms and also spends time discussing the roadblocks that women can experience in achieving pleasure.

This episode ends with some thoughts on healthy practices for couples to have meaningful and interesting sex even as your relationship matures & potentially becomes boring.

Key Points From This Episode:

• We start with Nadja’s background and the path to her current work.
• The book she has been writing for the last two years.
• Nadja’s understanding of the term tantra and who can practice it.
• Differentiating the seven different tantric orgasms for women.
• Common roadblocks to female orgasm and stored tension in the body.
• Exercises and practices to release tension and trauma.
• Nadja’s advice to couples wanting to maintain an exciting sex life.
• The importance of vulnerability and honesty in maintaining a connection. 
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Nadja Eriksson — https://www.nadjaeriksson.com - go here to download the first four chapters of her book.

To inquire about working with Nadja, contact her through her website or on Facebook. 

Public FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1080654912093085/

Women only FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/438089836574954/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/school_of_feminine_pleasure

Nadja Eriksson on Twitter — https://twitter.com/Nadja_Eriksson

The School of Feminine Pleasure — https://www.theschooloffemininepleasure.com/

The School of Feminine Pleasure Podcast — https://soundcloud.com/schooloffemininepleasure

David Berceli — https://traumaprevention.com/

The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process — https://www.amazon.com/Revolutionary-Trauma-Release-Process-Transcend/dp/1897238401

Learn 22 powerful foreplay tips that will make sex much more intense and enjoyable in today's episode. You'll discover how to turn your man on and have him begging you for more.

Show Highlights

1.40 - Tip 1 - Why mental foreplay is key and how to use it to your advantage.

3.45 - Tip 2 - Why how you look matters and what to do about it.

5.20 - Tip 3 - The secret to perfect foreplay.

6.45 - Tip 4 - Foreplay at the bar. Seriously.

8.00 - Tip 5 - Pinching, grabbing, groping and touching your man the right way.

10.10 - Tip 6 - How to take your foreplay into the shower.

11.30 - Tip 7 - How to kiss your man with passion.

13.05 - Tip 8 - A simple way to massage your man using just 3 massage techniques.

15.25 - Tip 9 - Why you should put on a show for your man.

17.25 - Tip 10 - Foreplay that shows your man what you enjoy.

18.36 - Tip 11 - How to smoothly move from kissing your man to giving him a blow job.

19.35 - Tip 12 - A really fun game with your vibrator.

20.20 - Tip 13 - How Dominance & Submission (D&S) can help your foreplay game.

22.20 - Tip 14 - Why Play fighting is key.

24.00 - Tip 15 - The Hot & Cold game.

25.15 - Tip 16 - Why sex dice may be right for you and your man.

27.15 - Tip 17 - How to make a foreplay checklist (for both of you).

28.45 - Tip 18 - Using "The Countdown" to supercharge the sexual tension.

29.50 - Tip 19 - Why porn can sometimes be a good thing for foreplay.

30.50 - Tip 20 - Driving stick & Licking his lolly pop.

32.05 - Tip 21 - V is for Variation. This is key.

33.10 - Tip 22 - Why communication is the key to great foreplay.

Show Notes

Throughout the episode, I also mention:

The Blow Job Bible: http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

The kissing section: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-kiss

How to give a great handjob: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-give-a-hand-job

This anal sex episode is quite in depth so you may want to listen to it more than once, BUT it has everything you need to know. You're going to learn the difference between having deeply satisfying anal sex that gives you full body orgasms.

Show Highlights

1.35 Tip 1 - The pros and cons of anal sex.

5.05 Tip 2 - An important question you must ask yourself before trying anal.

6.10 Tip 3 - Why communication is the bedrock of great anal sex.

7.05 Tip 4 - The 4 types of lube you can use and which one is the the best (by far).

9.45 Tip 5 - How to ensure pain-free pleasure.

14.05 Tip 6 - The best position to use for the first time you try anal.

16.50 Tip 7 - Which positions give you the most pleasure.

18.10 Tip 8 - 7 separate advanced anal sex techniques.

21.55 Tip 9 - The key to maximum pleasure during anal.

23.30 Tip 10 - The dangerous mistakes some women make during anal. Make sure to avoid these.

25.35 Tip 11 - Why giving each other feedback makes anal sex better and better each time you have it.

Show Notes

Learn 13 girl-on-top sex positions here. 

Learn 19 more anal sex positions here.

How to prepare yourself for anal sex

How to have anal sex

Want to learn how to talk dirty with confidence? Well, today I'm going to teach you exactly how to do it and what to say to him to turn him, build sexual tension, make sex incredible and most importantly to keep him obsessed with you.

1.00 - The 3 reasons why you need to talk dirty.

5.15 - Tip 1 - Why you need to start in the 'shallow end of the pool' when learning to talk dirty.

6.05 - Tip 2 - I explain why the bedroom is the best place to start talking dirty to your man.

6.40 - Tip 3 - Tailoring your dirty talk to your man's tastes.

8.15 - Tip 4 - Tailoring dirty talk to YOUR tastes.

9.30 - Tip 5 - Why some dirty talking phrases and techniques work better than others on your man.

11.10 - Tip 6 - The great talking dirty lie.

13.15 - Tip 7 - Why 'context' is key.

15.30 - Tip 8 - Why your voice tone is vital when talking dirty to your man.

17.55 - Tip 9 - How quickly you talk when talking dirty plays a major role in it's effectiveness. Discover when to talk fast and when to talk slow.

19.40 - Tip 10 - It's more than just the words and I explain why.

Learn more phrases at http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases

If you want a dirty talking masterclass, then you may want to check out the tutorial video I put together at

badgirlsbible.com/dirty

David Wygant joins me on the show today to dole out some tough love to listeners. His advice is top notch and he doesn't sugarcoat it. David is a relationship and dating coach who's been featured everywhere from Huffington Post to the New York Times.

Show Highlights

1.35 - How David became a dating and relationship coach thanks to Whole Foods.

5.00 - Why it's important to understand and know yourself if you want to meet a great partner.

7.40 - David's tough love advice for a woman who wants a loyal man & why trying to 'fix' a guy is usually a bad idea.

9.25 - Why dating multiple people works in the beginning of a relationship, but not as the relationship progresses.

10.30 - David gives a woman some hard-to-hear, but powerful advice on how to deal with an affair.

14.25 - David explains why some women enjoy getting dominated during sex.

16.50 - David gives some really harsh (but fair!) advice to a woman who is being cheated on.

22.20 - Why there is no magic pill when trying to fix your relationship troubles.

26.30 - Discover how to reignite the passion and spark in your relationship.

28.55 - What to do to get your sex life back on track after having kids.

31.20 - The solution to starfish syndrome.

33.25 - David talks about his podcast that's blowing up.

Show Notes Listen to David's podcast at: davidwygant.com/podcast or at mdrc10.com Get his podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/10-minute-daily-reality-check/id1213564830?mt=2 Visit his website here: davidwygant.com

David talks about the 5 love languages on the show. You can find out more about them here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by Elizabeth McGrath, author of The Couples' Kama Sutra. She explains the origins of Kama Sutra, how to break out of your sex routine, how to overcome sexual shame, gendered expectations and much, much more.

1.20 - Elizabeth explains emotion focused therapy and how she uses it to improve clients' sex lives.

4.55 - Learn what somatic coaching and therapy is and how it can help you and your sex life.

8.25 - Why getting the basics right when it comes to sex is more important than learning a million fancy sex techniques if you are serious about pleasure.

9.45 - Discover the origins of Kama Sutra and what it will teach you.

12.10 - Elizabeth explains how you and your man can break out of your routine.

19.05 - We discuss sexual shame and how to get over it so that sharing sexual fantasies with your man is easy.

23.00 - Elizabeth explains how 'gendered expectations' often leads to bad sex and how to avoid this happening to your relationship.

28.45 - What Elizabeth tells women who have never had an orgasm.

29.55 - Elizabeth runs through (step-by-step) an exercise you can do right now to connect more deeply to your body and orgasm more easily.

35.30 - Why the best sex is where you're not even thinking AND how to have it.

39.00 - Elizabeth explains what positions are best for more clitoral stimulation.

40.10 - Elizabeth describes the 'Sexy Back' position aka the Poles Apart position (http://badgirlsbible.com/poles-apart-sex-position) and why it's great for lots of manual clitoral stimulation.

43.45 - Elizabeth shows you everything you need to know about stimulating your G Spot.

Show Notes

Get In Touch With Elizabeth on her site: https://www.mcgrathsextherapy.com/ Get her book, The Couples' Kama Sutra on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Couples-Kama-Sutra-Deepening-Incredible/dp/1943451540/ref=sr_1_1 Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/mcgrathsextherapy/ http://www.facebook.com/mcgrathsextherapy

We also talk about a bunch of other positions detailed below: http://badgirlsbible.com/launch-pad-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/anvil-sex-position

This episode will teach you how to use vibrators and dildos to enhance your pleasure when masturbating and as orgasm 'assistant' during sex so that you experience the most powerful orgasms of your life.

Show Highlights - Vibrator Section

1.25 - How to make sure you choose the right vibrator for you.

5.20 - The key thing you must know so that you experience maximum pleasure with your vibrator.

6.40 - Vibrator foreplay. Learn why 'vibrator foreplay' can make your orgasms way more intense.

9.40 - A secret way to use your vibrator to stimulate your entire vagina at the same time WITHOUT your hands.

12.15 - Discover how to use more than just your vibrator to enhance your orgasms.

13.25 - How to use your vibrator to enhance sex with your man.

15.30 - Discover to enhance your blow job by using a vibrator.

16.45 - A DANGEROUS warning about vibrators.

Show Highlights - Dildo Section

18.50 - How to choose the right dildo for you.

21.55 - Rocking your dildo to stimulate the bottom of your vagina.

24.05 - Learn how to 'milk' your G Spot with your dildo for neighbor-waking, screaming orgasms.

27.10 - Discover how to have anal orgasms with your dildo.

27.40 - Double your pleasure! How to use your dildo for double penetration.

28.45 - How to use all the techniques in this episode during Skype sex.

33.50 - What to do after listening to this episode.

Show Notes

Check out the complete guide on using your vibrator here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-vibrator Get step-by-step instructions on using your dildo here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-dildo Learn about your A Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot Learn about your G Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot Missionary Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position Coital Alignment Technique: http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position Spooning Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/spooning-sex-position Doggy Style: http://badgirlsbible.com/doggy-style-sex-position

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Learn how to have intense clitoral & vaginal orgasms during sex with your man. You're going to learn the techniques, positions and tips you need to climax every time you have sex with your man. It's a lot easier than you think!

In this episode, you'll learn:

1.40 - The one thing you must do to have clitoral orgasms.

2.10 - The Grind - A super powerful & super simple clitoral stimulation technique. 3.00 - How your man can use circular motion on your clit during sex to stimulate all of your vagina.

3.40 - The Vulcan will give you huge amounts of pressure on your clit during any girl on top positions.

4.50 - Why a vibrating cock ring is a good idea if you need more clitoral stimulation.

7.10 - The sex positions that make it easy to orgasm during sex.

12.15 - Why vaginal orgasms can be easy for some women but hard for others.

13.05 - Discover your A Spot and learn how it can lead to vaginal AND full body orgasms.

15.25 - The easiest way to have your first vaginal orgasm.

16.30 - Why the angle of penetration and the depth of penetration is so important.

18.30 - Learn what rhythm & speed is required if you want to experience a vaginal orgasm.

19.40 - Size matters. I explain why.

Show Notes

Here are all the links I talk about during the episode

Sex Positions I mention http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/thigh-tide-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/sliding-lady-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/drill-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions

Other Links http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot http://badgirlsbible.com/episode-10-effortless-orgasms-use-techniques-orgasm-easily-powerfully-every-time

Learn how to squirt when masturbating alone AND during sex in today's episode. I'll explain how to squirt, why you may be having trouble squirting and I'll teach you techniques you or your man can use to have intense squirting orgasms.

Show Highlights

2.25 - Why you must understand your own anatomy if you want to squirt.

3.00 - Exactly how to find your G Spot and learn why your Skene's gland is so important.

4.25 - Discover the scientific reason why some women have trouble squirting.

6.00 - A very simple, but vital secret you must know if you want to squirt.

7.40 - Why some women feel like they need to pee when trying to squirt AND why this is completely natural.

8.50 - The Hook technique is the best technique for squirting orgasms. Learn how to perform it.

9.35 - The Push the Button technique.

10.10 - How you or your man can use the Come Hither technique to experience squirting for the first time.

11.00 - Discover why the Arm Shaker technique often leads to the MOST POWERFUL squirting orgasms you can experience.

11.55 - Using sex toys like vibrators and dildos to make yourself squirt - What you need to know.

12.45 - How to squirt during sex.

13.30 - Positions that will help you squirt during sex.

15.45 - I answer some of the most frequently asked questions to problems that women often encounter when learning how to squirt.

Show Notes The squirting article I talk about repeatedly in the podcast: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-make-yourself-squirt

Other pages I mention: http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

This second episode in the five episode series focuses on all the different techniques you can use to masturbate and finger yourself. In total, you're going to learn 20 different techniques to pleasure yourself with. And keep in mind that you can also use a lot of these techniques during sex too!

You can see diagrams and demonstrations explaining each of these techniques in these three articles: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot

Show Highlights

1.35 Masturbation Tip 1 - Discover the very easy-to-perform Up & Down masturbation technique.

2.15 Tip 2 - Learn why the "Long, Slow Stroke" is perfect for teasing yourself and almost acts like masturbation foreplay.

3.10 Tip 3 - The deceptively pleasurable Side-to-Side stroking technique that you can also use during sex for added stimulation to push you over the edge.

4.35 Tip 4 - The MOST effective masturbation technique you can use.

5.10 Tip 5 - U Spot Orgasms. Discover how this secret area can unlock incredible pleasure. See a diagram here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

6.35 Tip 6 - Loving your shower head. Discover why you can climax in a totally different way by using your shower head or a faucet.

8.05 Tip 7 - Using your clitoral hood. If your clitoris gets too sensitive, then you need to use this technique.

9.05 Tip 8 - How to easily expose more of your clit to experience more sensations. Perfect if your clit is NOT particularly sensitive. See a demonstration here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

10.30 Tip 9 - Orgasmic Meditation. This technique requires your man and will give you a prolonged orgasm (up to 10 minutes!). See a demonstration here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

12.50 Tip 10 - The Squeeze. A little known technique to 'jerk' yourself off.

14.25 Tip 11 - Why you should NEVER ignore your labia.

15.05 Tip 12 - Humping & Grinding. A great way to enjoy different and new sensations when masturbating.

17.05 Tip 13 - The Pearl Necklace. Yet another way to experience completely new physical sensations during masturbation.

19.20 Tip 14 - The basic technique to finger yourself. See it demonstrated here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

21.50 Tip 15 - The exact movements your fingers should be making as your finger yourself. 3 techniques: stroke-stroke-stroke, pressing the 'magic' button, rubbing it. Demonstrations here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

24.55 Tip 16 - G Spot Orgasms, learn exactly how to have them when masturbating. Learn more about your G Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot

27.30 Tip 17 - The pressure pressing technique. This technique is designed for women who struggle to have G Spot orgasms. See it demonstrated here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

28.45 Tip 18 - Fingering yourself from behind.

29.30 Tip 19 - Doubling your fun. A powerful way to reach orgasm easily requiring both hands.

30.10 Tip 20 - Anal fingering. This one is not for everyone, but it's super powerful.

Just a quick reminder. If you want to see demonstrations of these techniques, make sure to check out these three articles:

http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot

Learn how to orgasm powerfully and effortlessly in this podcast. If you currently struggle to orgasm when masturbating or during sex, then listen and learn what you need to do and what you need to STOP doing to start having powerful orgasms with ZERO effort. It's surprisingly easy.

Quick Note: This is the first episode of a five part series where you will learn how to have powerful orgasms when masturbating and during sex.

2.10 - Why having strong and effortless orgasms all comes down to being comfortable.

2.40 - A simple guide to masturbating and reaching orgasm easily.

3.55 - Learn why your clit is the most important part of your vagina when masturbating and trying to orgasm during sex.

7.25 - Why what happens between your ears is the most important part of having an orgasm.

8.05 - Why stress is a major issue that can prevent you from reaching orgasm AND how to overcome it.

9.45 - How to stop worrying about climaxing and start enjoying yourself...which will actually help you to reach orgasm.

11.00 - Discover how to get rid of performance pressure during sex.

12.40 - Learn why body confidence can impact your ability to orgasm and discover the solution.

13.30 - Sexual shame: This can act like a weight on your mind. Learn how to deal with it.

14.20 - The importance of experimentation and exploration: I discuss the importance of knowing your body and why this is vital for learning how to orgasm alone and during sex.

Learn more on how to orgasm here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-orgasm

Forrest Andrews joins me on the show today to discuss how prostate massage can lead to powerful 'Super' orgasms AND improve your man's health. If you are squeamish or nervous at the idea of exploring your man's backdoor, then you'll love this episode as Forrest explains everything you need to know, from hygiene to why your man may just adore it.

Show Highlights

1.35 - Learn how Forrest started working for a sex toy company.

5.55 - Learn exactly what the prostate is and where to find it.

7.25 - Why prostate massage does NOT make your man gay.

11.15 - Why prostate orgasms (aka the Super 'O') are STRONGER than regular orgasms.

13.45 - How to suggest prostate play to your man.

17.10 - Vital things you must consider before you try any anal play with your man (these also apply to you).

19.15 - The reason why prostate play and anal sex can be painful and how to make it pleasurable for your man.

21.55 - One last thing to properly prepare your man (this also applies to you if you enjoy anal sex).

24.30 - The positions that make prostate play easiest (side lying, doggy style, lying on your back).

27.45 - We discuss why some people do and some people don't experience the Super 'O' AND how to train yourself to experience it.

34.05 - What happens between your ears is the most important part to having an orgasm, whether you are a man OR a woman. Forrest explains why.

36.40 - Women don't have a prostate gland. Instead, they have something else that leads to powerful orgasms AND squirting. Forrest explains why.

Show Notes

The sites mentioned by Forrest

Visit the Aneros website here: https://www.aneros.com/

Visit the Anereos wiki here: http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Main_Page

Visit the Aneros forum here: https://www.aneros.com/community/

The final episode in the 3 part series to give your man a perfect blow job. Over three episodes, you'll going to learn 37, techniques and tactics so powerful, that your man will become completely obsessed with you.

If you haven't already listened to the first two episodes in the series (episode #6 contains the first 11 techniques & episode #7 contains the next 12 techniques), then I'd advise you to go and download them right now from iTunes or the Bad Girl's Bible website.

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Show Highlights 1.05 Blow Job Tip 24 - Why Variation is vital to making sure your man NEVER gets bored.

2.00 Tip 25 - How to make every blow job a special occasion, WITHOUT much effort from you.

3.30 Tip 26 - Discover why WHERE you give your man oral sex is so important. Plus, I'm going to teach you a bunch of great places where you can give your man oral that will blow his mind.

5.15 Tip 27 - Why you should keep it simple and "small" when you first go down on him. It makes everything easier for you and keeps it constantly exciting for your man.

7.05 Tip 28 - How to use BDSM during oral sex. You'll learn how to dominate your man when giving him a blow job AND how to be submissive.

9.35 Tip 29 - A crazy-simple trick so that you can use the same blow job techniques every single time you go down on your man, but make the experience feel completely different for him.

12.55 Tip 30 - A very important aspect of his orgasm that you MUST understand to make sure he climaxes with maximum pleasure.

16.35 Tip 31 - Why finishing your blow job with your hands can be incredibly enjoyable for him and easier for you.

18.15 Tip 32 - Learn a number of different ways to finish your man off. This one is perfect if you like your man finishing by cumming on your body.

20.25 Tip 33 - Learn what to do when your man cums in your mouth. Bonus: Learn how to make swallowing his load easier and more enjoyable.

23.20 Tip 34 - Advanced: Some really kinky things you can do with his cum.

27.20 Tip 35 - Why making eye contact with your man as he climaxes is red hot!

28.40 Tip 36 - How to know when your man is about to orgasm and blow his load.

30.05 Tip 37 - I finish up reinforcing why great communication is VITAL for a great blow job, incredible sex life and satisfying relationship.

Don't forget, this is part three of the 37 tips to give your man a perfect blow job. Get part one and part two by subscribing on iTunes.

Find out more about the Blow Job Bible book at http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

This is part two of my three part series on how to give your man a perfect blow job. Throughout the series, you're going to learn a total of 37 blow tips, techniques and tactics that are so powerful, they will literally turn your man into your own personal stalker.

If you haven't already listened to the first episode in the series (the first 11 techniques), then I'd advise you to go and download that right now from iTunes or the Bad Girl's Bible website. Show Highlights

1.05 Blow Job Tip 12 - An easy-to-perform blow job technique that delivers a huge amount of pleasure.

2.55 Tip 13 - Learn how to suck your man. That's right, I'm talking about how to suck him. Learn why so many women misunderstand this technique and how to do it right.

4.00 Tip 14 - "Awesome Sauce" - Discover how to change the texture of your blow job so that it feels completely new to your man and tastes great. It's an effortless way of changing up your blow job routine.

8.10 Tip 15 - Why you absolutely must use your hands AND more importantly, how to use them to double the amount of stimulation you give him.

11.30 Tip 16 - How to rub, caress and massage your man's testicles during your blowjob so that it's pleasurable and NOT painful.

14.55 Tip 17 - How to make eye contact confidently and effortlessly during your blow job to make it more intimate and intense.

16.50 Tip 18 - A counter-intuitive trick to build your man up to orgasm. He will literally beg you for more when you use this trick on him.

18.40 Tip 19 - Why taking the initiative is both easy and powerful. Your man will thank you for it. Listen and learn how to do it.

21.00 Tip 20 - Discover how to talk dirty BEFORE and during your blow job to build his anticipation and ultimately make it more enjoyable for both of you.

25.05 Tip 21 - A more advanced BJ technique to allow your man to take control and dominate you. Perfect if you enjoy being submissive.

26.25 Tip 22 - Why slowing down can make your blow job more enjoyable. This also has the added benefit of making oral sex easier for you.

28.10 Tip 23 - Why "wetter is better"

Don't forget, this is part two of the 37 tips to give your man a perfect blow job. Get part one and part two by subscribing on iTunes.

Find out more about the Blow Job Bible book at http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

This is the oral sex episode subscribers have been begging me for. Today, I'm opening up my vault of secret blow job tips to give you my most powerful ways to please your man with your mouth. Yes, some of these fellatio tips are outrageous and possibly a little too "out there" for some, but if do you use them, you'll be VERY happy with the results.

Show Highlights

2.00 Blow Job Tip 1 - The importance of effective communication if you want to give your man a great blow job.

3.20 Tip 2 - The "golden technique. This is the most important and most powerful blow job technique you can ever use.

5.20 Tip 3 - How to build your confidence when going down on your man.

8.35 Tip 4 - The right kind of foreplay to use to slowly build up the tension and excitement before you go down on him. This will drive him wild and have him begging you for oral sex.

12.10 Tip 5 - How to smoothly build up to giving him a blow job.

16.05 Tip 6 - Stimulating the most sensitive spot on his penis. This alone will make him orgasm very quickly.

17.50 Tip 7 - A bunch of things you can do with your lips to increase his pleasure.

19.25 Tip 8 - A powerful but simple way to tease him mid-blow job.

21.00 Tip 9 - What you should be doing with your tongue. I teach you a number of different techniques and ways to lick your man's penis. I also include an advanced anal technique that drives some men wild.

24.45 Tip 10 - Why "wetter is better."

25.10 Tip 11 - 5 separate techniques to stimulate the top of his penis.

Remember this is just part one of the 37 tips to give your man a perfect blow job. Tune in over the next two weeks for parts two and three.

Find out more about the Blow Job Bible book at http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

Today sex therapist Dr. Kat Van Kirk answers listeners sex questions on BDSM, pegging, jealously in relationships, the porn "problem" and many more. If you got questions you'd like answered anonymously by a sex expert in a future episode, please send your question to [email protected].

Show Highlights

2.35 - How to deal with a man that is "jealous" of your vibrator.

6.25 - How to approach using a strapon with your man and why strapon sex is both healthy and fun.

8.20 - What you need to know about anal lube. Why silcone based lube is best for anal.

8.50 - The do's and don'ts of mixing alcohol and sex.

9.40 - Why guys are afraid of pegging.

14.05 - Dr. Kat talks about the problem with lower testosterone rates in men and why it's happening to so many guys.

16.20 - We discuss how porn causes problems in relationships AND why porn can sometimes be a good thing in your relationship.

23.10 - Practical tips on how to explore BDSM with your man.

24.50 - Why the submissive is always in control.

25.50 - Safe words and the traffic light system.

27.10 - Why BDSM doesn't have to be "hardcore" but can be a little bit more subtle and light.

32.50 - Practical tips for moving past infidelity.

More About Dr. Kat Van Kirk

You can find Dr. Kat at http://drkat.com or on social media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drkatvankirk Twitter - https://twitter.com/DrKatSexChat Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/drkatvk/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drkatvk/ Tumblr - http://drkatsexchat.tumblr.com/

In today's episode, I talk to family and marriage therapist Dr. Corey Allen on the three dangerous mistakes that can affect your relationship. We dive deep and discuss how to prevent all three from becoming a major problem: money, sex and the in-laws/kids.

Show Highlights

5.00 - Why it's not money that causes problems, it's the meaning attached to money.

6.28 - What to do when you and your partner view money in a very different way so it doesn't become a problem.

10.30 - Why you don't have to agree with everything your partner says or does.

12.40 - Why committed relationships are designed to help us grow up and how we need to grow through problems we face with our partner.

17.55 - Possibly the most important question you can ask yourself before you get married or if you are already married: "Would you want to be married to you?" and then applying this question to specific aspects of your marriage.

18.20 - What to do if you and your partner have different sex drives.

21.20 - The mistake guys make who have a higher sex drive than their wife and how it turns her off.

24.30 - Being honest with your partner and it's amazing benefits.

28.25 - We talk about when making a compromise in your relationship is not really a compromise at all.

31.30 - The issue with the in-laws.

33.45 - Why having a great relationship only requires common sense, but the problem is that we attach emotion to relationship...which make things complicated.

36.50 - Why recognizing that your emotions are going to cloud your judgement in your relationship.

38.00 - The main issue to avoid with your in-laws.

Show Notes

You can find Corey at http://simplemarriage.net and pick up a copy of Naked Marriage at simplemarriage.net/naked-marriage You can also listen to his podcast at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597?mt=2

In this episode of the Bad Girl's Bible podcast, I talk to swinger Cooper S. Beckett from the Life in the Swingset podcast. Cooper explains in detail what swinging is, the steps a couple can take to safely explore it, how it can help your relationship (or hinder it!) and more.

Show Highlights 1.25 - how he got into the swinging scene. 4.55 Why monogamy, NOT SWINGING is the right choice for many people. 6.05 - The traditional definition of swinging 6.50 - What polyamory and why it's different. 8.15 - Why swinging and polyamory is definitely not cheating 9.45 - The problem with life's unspoken "social contract." 10.35 - How to start talking to your partner about swinging in a smooth way. 18.10 - Why non-monogamy has improved Cooper's communication skills. 18.35 - How to start your swinging journey with your partner and make sure it's a great experience, and why some couples have a bad first experience. 21.55 - Tips on how to spot and avoid fakers when using swinging sites 23.30 - How to make your first swinger date easy going and successfull. 25.10 - What to do if one partner has reservations. 28.40 - Dealing with jealousy. 33.55 - What to do if swinging doesn't work for you 43.55 - One of the most important benefits of non-monogamy

Show Notes Kinsey scale - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Cassidy - https://www.kasidie.com - the swinger site Cooper mentioned on the show

More On Cooper If you want to get in touch with Cooper, you can find him online at:

http://coopersbeckett.com/ https://twitter.com/coopersbeckett?lang=en https://www.facebook.com/coopersbeckett/ https://www.instagram.com/coopersbeckett/ Cooper's Podcast Podcast website: http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/ Podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/life-on-swingset-swinging/id354627460?mt=2

Cooper's Collection of Swinging Podcasts: swingset.fm

Cooper's 1st book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/my-life-on-the-swingset-adventures-in-swinging-polyamory/

Cooper's 2nd book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/a-life-less-monogamous-a-novel-by-cooper-s-beckett/ Special Discount for Listeners Cooper kindly gave me a discount code that you can use to get 10% off anything you purchase on his site, coopersbeckett.com. Just enter the word bible in the offer code section and that 10% discount will be applied to your order.

Sex Therapist Dr. Lori Buckley is my guest on the podcast today. We talk about everything from how to more easily reach orgasm during sex to getting over sexual shame and exploring new fantasies and ideas in the bedroom. You'll also learn why a "judgy" attitude in the bedroom is a bad idea and why "asking" for sex is even worse. Show Highlights 1.35 Lori's background and how she became a sex therapist. 5.10 We discuss why some women struggle to reach orgasm during sex. 9.20 Why getting "out of your head" is vital for reaching orgasm more easily. 11.40 A simple technique to help you orgasm during sex. 15.30 Tips for getting over sexual shame and exploring new fantasies and ideas. 20.00 Simple steps for sharing your sexual fantasies and fetishes with your man. 23.10 Why a "judgy" attitude is going to kill your sex life. 28.30 An easy trick for getting in the mood, IF you are in a long term relationship. 29.15 Why asking for sex is a BAD idea. 35.30 Why women sometimes need their man to be more assertive. 36.20 Why many gifts don't need to cost a cent but still have a massive impact. 37.00 We talk about the deep importance of sexual tension in your relationship. You can learn more about Dr. Lori Buckley at https://www.drloribuckley.com/ and listen to her podcast here on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/looking-for-love/id1146640020).

Welcome to the very first episode of the Bad Girl's Bible podcast. In this episode, I interview Scot McKay from X&Y Communications and the Mountain Top Podcast. We talk about a range of issues to keep your relationship and sex life red hot and satisfying.

Show Highlights

3.45 Avoiding Netflix and chill

4.50 Why finding your best friend is more important than finding someone hot

6.35 The importance of communication

7.05 Why relationships aren't hard work if you're with the right person

10.45 The mistake people make when they try to spice things up

12.25 We talk about the value of arguing the right way

14.05 Why Scot and Emily give each other space to be angry and frustrated.

17.25 One of the most important things about sex.

19.15 why sex shouldn't be so serious

21.00 how men can bring more masculine energy and women can bring more feminine energy to their relationship

27.45 We talk about how people carry negative experiences from previous relationships into their current relationship and why it's dangerous

30.50 We talk about the major reasons why relationships fall apart

35.45 Scot's tips on how to improve your sex life.

You can learn more about Scot at http://deservewhatyouwant.com and http://mountaintoppodcast.com