The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview Greg Santucci a pediatric OT and founding Director of Power Play Pediatric Therapy. We discuss what the sensory processing system is and how to decode behaviour through cultivating a “sensory lens”.

This conversation was recorded in my membership, where community members were able to ask Greg their questions. 

We talk about:

• 6:00 The “hidden” senses

• 9:00 What sensory processing is

• 12:23 Why sensory seeking behaviour happens

• 13:50 What “regulation” is

• 21:28 How parents can start looking at behaviour through a sensory lens

• 24:00 Trying to figure out the root cause of behaviour

• 27:00 Toddlers repeatedly dumping things

• 30:30 How to improve interoceptive awareness with kids

• 35:00 Accommodating sensory challenges/preferences at school

• 40:47 Potty training challenges in a daycare setting

• 47:00 Teaching strategies to manage sensory challenges

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• www.reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership to join my membership for the rest of June. You still have time to join the live Q&A with Ned Johnson, my workshop on healthy self-esteem, and access our weekly Office Hours

• Greg on Facebook: Greg Santucci, Occupational Therapist

• Greg’s resources: https://gregsantucci.com/ 

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In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview one of my favourite people and author of two parenting books, Ned Johnson. We discuss how to talk to kids to build stress tolerance, manage anxiety, build intrinsic motivation, and self regulate screen time.

Ned has been on the podcast twice before- be sure to check out the other two episodes linked below once you’re done listening to this one.

We talk about:

• 2:17 How you can get access to a live Q&A with Ned

• 6:35 Increasing stress tolerance in kids

• 9:30 The difference between resilience and stress tolerance

• 11:00 How to help kids with their anxiety

• 21:48 How to help kids stuck in a loop of negative thinking

• 37:00 How to help kids with intrinsic motivation

• 48:00 How to help kids with balanced screen use

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• www.reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership to join a live Q&A with Ned Johnson, my workshop on healthy self-esteem, and access to our weekly Office Hours

• What Do you Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home By Ned Johnson and William Stixrud https://amzn.to/3HwZuDT 

• Raising A Self-Driven Child with Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode8/

Bonus Q&A: What Do You Say? How to Talk to Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home with Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/bonusnedjohnson/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview Ruth Whippman about her book BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity. We discuss the humanity lacking in traditional models of masculinity and the type of sensitive and connection-based parenting that is desperately needed for boys.

We talk about:

• 4:00 Systems of power and oppression

• 4:35 How the same systems that harm women and girls, also harm men and boys

• 6:00 How we see boys as mad, not sad

• 7:13 Neuroscience research on the sensitivity of boys’ brains

• 12:45 Why stats on boys’ mental health struggles are not accurate

• 13:55 Why adolescent boys are in a mental health crisis

• 28:34 How screens are displacing socializing in person for boys

• 36:00 Incel (involuntarily celibate) movement

• 43:00 Buddy vs. Sweetheart

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity by Ruth Whippman https://amzn.to/4c6W60C 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

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• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Brief summary of show:

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I discuss how to help children through the end of the school year transitions and give you tips for how to facilitate an “old-fashioned” play based summer.

We talk about:

• 1:18 End of the school year is a transition

• 1:46 Transition years are even harder (end of kindergarten, moving to middle school, moving to high school etc.)

• 3:00 End of school anxiety

• 3:28 Report Cards and academic pressure

• 6:12 The importance of play during the summer

• 10:00 Ways to maintain academics in a low pressure ways during the summer 

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• End of School Anxiety article https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/end-of-school-year-anxiety/

• “How to help out kids with Transitions” with Sarah Rosensweet https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode50/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I talk with Destini Davis, certified parenting coach, author, and parenting influencer on Instagram and TikTok. We discuss her transition from permissive to conscious parenting and address backlash against this parenting style.

We talk about:

• 6:16 moving from permissive parenting to conscious parenting

• 8:00 understanding compassionate discipline

• 9:10 importance of taking care of and working on yourself

• 10:33 addressing backlash against conscious parenting

• 20:00 moving away from a “power over” relationship with our kids

• 22:00 importance of flexibility and collaboration

• 28:00 effects of conscious parenting on your relationship with your kids

• 29:00 debunking the idea that conscious parenting isn’t realistic

• 31:00 challenges transitioning from conventional or permissive parenting, to conscious parenting

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free Stop Yelling Course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/stopyelling 

• Very Intentional Parenting: Awakening the Empowered Parent Within by Destini Ann Davis https://amzn.to/3QN4ri3 

• Destini Ann on IG and TikTok

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In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, longtime peaceful parent, Bonnie, fine tunes her approach to her 4-year-old and 6-year-old children with big feelings.

We talk about:

• 4:24 The difference between obedience and cooperation

• 11:42 The difference between punishments and limits

• 17:00 Balancing doing things for your kids and meeting your own needs

• 35:00 The benefits of roughhousing before bedtime 

• 40:23 How to appreciate yourself more, when home full time with kids

• 46:00 Why it is okay if you have kids who “push back” on demands

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Episode 121: How To Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode121/ 

• Episode 23: ‘Raising Helpful Kids: Navigating Chores’ with Sarah Rosensweet https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode23/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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Peaceful parenting teenagers small group coaching/course. 

Starts Thursday May 16

This course is for you if:

✅ You have teenager(s) (ages 13-19)

✅ You want to build or REbuild a great relationship with your teen

✅ You want your teen to be happy, safe and successful

✅ You want to send your teen off prepared for independence

Email Sarah: [email protected] or send a DM to Sarah on Facebook or IG. 

SPACE IS LIMITED

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I talk with Phyllis Fagell, a licensed clinical counselor, school counselor, and author of two books. We discuss how to parent Middle Schoolers (9-15 year olds) and focus on staying curious and coaching them through challenges with friends.

We talk about:

• 3:55 Why middle school is parents’ “Last best chance” 

• 5:42 Some differences based on gender during Middle School

• 7:35 Fitting in vs. Belonging

• 10:00 Our role as parents when witnessing friend conflicts

• 15:10 Balancing accepting kids as they are and helping with social skills

• 20:00 How to lead with curiosity when our kids are unkind 

• 25:11 Characteristics of bullying

• 28:22 What to do if your child is being bullied

• 36:00 FOPO (Fear of Other People’s Opinions)

• 40:45 How to know if your child needs additional support

• 42:36 How did COVID affect middle schoolers

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Middle School Matters https://amzn.to/4brcCbo 

• Middle School Superpowers https://amzn.to/3y8eeZp 

• The Congruence App (voice activated self coaching for teens)- Email [email protected] for a free month. Include the name “The Peaceful Parent Podcast” in the subject of the email

• https://phyllisfagell.com/

• IG @pfagell

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I break down 8 myths about peaceful parenting that keep coming up on social media. We discuss the nuance involved in this parenting approach and what it really means to be a peaceful parent.

We talk about:

• 2:09 Backlash about Peaceful Parenting (PP)

• 4:07 How nuance of the approach doesn’t come across on social media

• 5:31 Myth 1: Parents need to be calm all the time

• 9:48 Myth 2: The child’s needs and preferences are more important than the parents

• 17:29 Myth 3: PP is not realistic or actually possible to do

• 21:13 Myth 4: There is one way to do PP

• 27:22 Myth 5: PP is about never making your children feel bad and shielding them from all pain

• 29:49 Myth 6: PP is the same as permissive parenting

• 30:15 Myth 7: PP is just a bunch of scripts and it’s robotic- you can’t be yourself

• 33:20 Myth 8: Standards are too high and lead to perfectionism

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Understanding Challenging Behaviour with Dr. Stuart Shanker https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode78/

• Hunt, Gather, Parent with Michaeleen Doucleff https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode60/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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This is the replay of a workshop I taught this week. In it, I explain what peaceful discipline is and how it differs from conventional fear- and power-based discipline. I also tell you HOW to do it, with examples and also examples from those parents who attended the workshop. 

If you want to watch the workshop instead of listen, the link is here: https://youtu.be/56G5FiCuwrQ?si=um0ta2c-q68SKPUR

My Transform Your Family Life parenting course is enroling now til Tuesday April 30 at 11 PM. We start on Wednesday. More info here: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-course

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I talk with Dr. Roberto Olivardia, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School, about feeding/eating challenges with children with ADHD. We discuss how to help kids with ADHD learn interoception and mindfulness around eating without perpetuating diet culture.

We talk about:

• 7:23 Flexibility when parenting an ADHD child

• 8:25 The effects ADHD has on eating, and the prevalence of eating disorders

• 11:03 Misconceptions and explanations of eating disorders

• 28:00 Navigating ADHD kids eating while not harming their relationship with food

• 40:00 Tips for families where intuitive/responsive feeding isn’t working

• 48:26 Differentiating between helping an ADHD kid eat/tune into their body vs. diet culture

• 54:45 When language can become harmful and perpetuate diet culture

• 1:02:00 Mindfulness when eating

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys by Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://amzn.to/3W4TJGS 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

What do you do when you don't want to yell, threaten or use consequences? Join me to learn exactly how to raise great kids with the peaceful discipline tools. 

2 dates and times to choose from. Sign up here: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/workshop

Join me and learn:

✅ the difference between limits, consequences, and natural consequences

✅ why consequences are not in our peaceful parenting tool kit

✅ why we always lead with empathy in limit setting

✅ tips for effective limit setting

AND a live Q&A with me to get all your questions answered.

It is totally possible to get kids to cooperate without yelling, threats, bribes or punishment. 

Plus- let's think about the long term-- We want to raise great kids who do the right thing when no one is looking. 

Sign up here-

https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/workshop

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Kathy, a neurodivergent mom of a 7 year old neurodivergent boy, joins me on a coaching call. She shares the challenges she is having with her partner, and the effects that was having on her parenting.

We talk about:

• 9:00 Effects of separation on her son

• 11:09 What to share and not share with her son about the separation

• 16:20 How to sidestep fault/blame conversations with her son

• 19:20 Navigating her son’s big feelings around the separation 

• 28:00 How Kathy has broken cycles of generational trauma

• 41:48 The key to giving people real empathy

• 46: How Peaceful Parenting is a set of relationship principles

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Episode 129: Co-Parenting After Divorce with Aurisha Smolarski https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode129/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

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• Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Dr. Megan Anna Neff discusses parenting while neurodivergent, parenting neurodivergent kids, and differentiating between anxiety and sensory dread. Dr. Neff also talks about her new book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!

We talk about:

• 5:14 Parenting while neurodivergent

• 6:41 Shame around struggling as a parent

• 10:14 What helped Dr. Neff when she had young children

• 15:24 Connecting with other parents who are having a hard time

• 16:00 Parenting neurodivergent kids

• 20:00 Normalizing talking about neurodivergence and diagnosis in the home

• 24:31 Grief and complex emptions around neurodivergence

• 26:21 Sensory Dread vs. anxiety

• 34:24: Self care for neurodivergent people

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Divergent Conversations Podcast 

• Neurodivergent Insights 

• Masterclass with Dr. Jonathan Dalton on Anxiety and Sensory Dread 

• Dr. Megan Anna Neff’s book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask! 

• https://pinkymckay.com/6-games-to-play-when-you-dont-want-to-play-any-more/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This is an updated re-release of a favourite episode! “How do I get my kids to help out with chores?” This is a common question that I get from parents across my community, so I thought I would do an episode with some tips and tricks to help you encourage your kids to want to help out more around the house.

I share my top strategies and what has worked well for my family over the years. The information I’m sharing today is tried and true, and will serve as a stepping stone to your journey with chores!

“Should I give your kids specific jobs?” or “What do I do if they refuse?” This episode covers these questions and so much more.

If you like what you hear, be sure to share the episode with someone you know needs to hear it. 

Listen in as we talk about:

• The main strategies to encouraging your kids to help with chores

• Tips to motivate our kids to want to pitch in and help out

• Why empowerment is a key tool

• How to avoid power struggles in asking our kids for help with chores

• Giving yourself appreciation when it feels like your child is unappreciative of your help

Download the transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode

• Connection Strategies 

• Blog post about cleaning

• Model Graciousness article

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

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• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Sonali Vongchusiri of Forward Together Parenting shares her story of both growing up and being a parent as a legally blind person with Albinism. Sonali and I discuss navigating differences and finding true belonging.

We talk about:

• 6:00 Why Sonali didn’t find out she had Albinism until age 12

• 9:00 Sonali sharing her story of how she found out

• 13:00 Sonali’s struggles to accept herself and her disability

• 17:40 Sonali realizing she couldn’t parent the way other parents could

• 18:45 Sonali finding her own unique way to parent

• 26:30 Fitting in vs. belonging

• 34:43 The problem with pretending there is no difference

Download the episode transcipt HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/

• https://www.facebook.com/groups/raisingyourstrongwilledchild

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This is a re-release of one of our favourite coaching calls with Georgina, who joined me to talk about managing her son’s big feelings. 

Georgina is the mom of six year old Oswald and a five month old baby. Georgina wanted to know how to best support her six year old, who is a really intense little guy with big feelings. Be sure to listen to the end to hear about Georgina’s big breakthrough!

We talk about:

• How our kids can trigger unhealed traumas from our past 

• Giving our kids space to process their big feelings and managing ours at the same time

• Strategies to empty emotional backpacks before coming home from a long day

• How Georgina was able to connect with her inner child

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode

• www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter 

• Episode 20: Reparenting Ourselves: Being the Parents We Want To Be with Leslie Priscilla

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

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• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

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• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we discuss the recent findings by the Canadian Pediatric Society about the health benefits of risky play. We cover not only why risky play is beneficial but also how to manage our own anxiety as parents.

We talk about:

• 2:00 Seven categories of risky play

• 4:00 Risky play vs. actual dangerous play

• 5:10 Benefits of risky play

• 5:56 Play is the work of children

• 7:20 Risk assessment

• 11:40 Why is letting our kids do risky play hard?

• 12:26 Managing our own anxiety around our kids getting hurt

• 13:38 17 second rule

• 14:50 What do say instead of safety chatter

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Canadian Pediatric Society “Healthy Childhood Development Through Risky Play: Navigating the Balance with Injury Prevention” https://cps.ca/en/documents/position/outdoor-risky-play 

• Episode 99 How Anxiety Shows Up in Our Parenting and What to Do About it with Lynn Lyons https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode99/ 

• Heather Shumaker’s book https://amzn.to/3PbukHi

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we are doing a podcast swap with Stephanie Pinto of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast! Listen in to hear how the common thread in both Peaceful and Emotionally Intelligent Parenting are welcoming and normalizing feelings, and how doing so can change the energy in your home and set up your kids for future success.

We cover:

• 3:00 Introduction to both Sarah and Stephanie- backstories, coaching journeys
• 17:00 Similarities between peaceful and emotionally intelligent parenting
• 20:55 Normalizing emotions
• 32:32 Dos and Don'ts of Peaceful Parenting
• 43:00 What parents in Stephanie's community wish their parents had said to them
• 46:33 Advice Stephanie and Sarah would give to their younger selves

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Stephanie Pinto's podcast "Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast" www.stephaniepinto.com/podcast
• Stephanie Pinto's book  www.amazon.ca/Chaos-Connection-parenting-emotional-intelligence/dp/0645574600/
• Sarah's Peaceful Parenting Mantra's Colouring Book  https://peacefulparents.kartra.com/page/colouringbook

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

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• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup
• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
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In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we tackle a common issue among parents - having a child who argues about everything. 

The episode provides insights into why this might happen and how parents can handle it effectively. A child continually arguing could be an indication of intelligence and lack of fear, considered good signs. However, we highlight the importance of evaluating your limits and strategies as a parent, discussing scenarios such as being too strict and controlling or being excessively permissive. 

Overall, parents are encouraged to value a child's perseverance and possibly channel it into activities where it would be considered an advantage, like joining a debate team.

We talk about:

• 2:36 Evaluating our limits & Good Will bank

• 04:55 Being ‘too’ permissive

• 08:00 Too giving too many explanations

• 11:43 Empathy for our child and looking at our reaction

• 13:54 Kids feeling disconnected

• 15:28 Using superpowers for good

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Kalista, a full time working mother joins me for a coaching session. She shares her challenges as a neurodivergent mom in parenting her highly sensitive toddler.

We talk about how to move from survival mode to simple life mode, the realization that perfection is not the goal, the usefulness of empathizing with our child's perspective, empowerment in making active choices, the value of self-compassion and understanding the functioning of the nervous system, and the concept of using tools like earplugs to manage overwhelming noise.

We talk about:

• 2:44 Kalista's family background

• 4:02 How overwhelm impacts the enjoyment of her child

• 7:16 Taking a nervous system reset

• 14:42 Simplifying the things you need to do 

• 17:38 Is the solution worse than the problem? 

• 19:51 Emotional backpack

• 26:33 How does she calm her nervous system

• 36:18 Addressing the tactic for saying no or correcting behavior

• 43:14 Update

• 49:49 Not identifying as your emotions

• 52:09 Learning how to regulate together

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

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• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Kyle Wester, a Peaceful Parenting coach and father of three, shares his journey from initially planning to spank his children to advocating for peaceful discipline. 

He sheds light on his transformation, prompted by uncovering the psychology of children's behavior and redefining what strength and discipline mean as a father. 

We talk about effective ways for dads to communicate with their children, handling anger, and the importance of creating a nurturing and safe environment for children to grow. 

We talk about:

• 6:24 Did he know that he wasn't going to spank? And how his kids were raised

• 11:43 What to do when one parent wants to peaceful parent and the other isn't on board yet

• 16:11 Advice that might help dads reach that ‘aha’ moment

• 21:55 Kyle’s biggest aha moment 

• 27:21 Modeling behavior for your child in how to talk to your partner

• 31:48 Switching the energy and teaching your kids how you would like them to talk to you

• 44:29 The relationship development through different stages with your kids

• 45:41 The underlying fear that drives dads

• 49:20 Advice to his younger parent self

Kyle Wester, Licensed Professional Counselor, MHR, is in full-time private practice having worked with families and children for over 15 years; working with a variety of clientele including children, adolescents, individual adults, and families. 

Wester specializes in providing counseling to individuals who have experienced trauma, parenting skills training, and working with children with challenging behaviors including anger, ADHD, opposition, and defiance, and children going through divorce.

Wester received a Master's Degree in Human Relations (MHR) from University of Oklahoma (License number: LPC4892).

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Kyle

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans

• Podcast: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/podcast

• https://www.parentinglegacy.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Sophie joins me for a coaching episode, where we cover the adoption of peaceful parenting techniques and emotional navigation in sensitive kids. 

Sophie is a single mother who's transformed her parenting style to manage her sensitive son Peter's big emotions effectively, leading to her growth as a confident parent. We talk about therapeutic strategies, coping mechanisms, and instilling responsibility in kids, especially with ADHD tendencies. 

We also talk about their family dynamics, highlighting the importance of tailored disciplinary actions, empathy, and tactful conversations. 

We talk about:

• 3:43 The work we have done together

• 6:20 Misunderstandings about attachment parenting

• 11:09 Reparenting herself

• 17:31 Sophie's background as a sensitive person and how it affects her parenting

• 24:34 Diving deeper into the problems surrounding getting out of the door in the morning

• 29:45 Adjusting expectations

• 37:16 How to get Peter to open up

• 49:23 Two-week check in

• 50:26 Update about her mental progress

• 53:20 Using incentives

• 58:50 Systems + resource for things completing tasks like cleaning a room

• 1:01:56 Using money as a reward

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, guest expert Casey Ehrlich from At Peace Parents joins me to discuss Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). 

She provides an in-depth understanding of PDA, a profile of autism that is characterized by a consistent survival drive for autonomy and equality, and shares how it can affect everything from an individual's eating and sleeping habits to maintaining safety. 

Casey's approach centers on accommodating rather than activating the individual's nervous system. For parents raising PDA children, she shares an effective cost-benefit decision making framework that offers radical acceptance of the situation. She also touches on the hard choices parents sometimes need to make, including separating siblings for safety and allocating resources for help. 

We talk about:

• 5:10 Definition of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

• 7:32 How she found out that her son was PDA

• 13:44 5 Characteristics of PDA

• 25:51 Is Masking a form of Freeze

• 26:11 Do you talk about FON with PDA

• 29:59 How common is PDA

• 31:05 Strategies for parents

• 40:35 What do you do if one sibling is PDA and one is not?

• 45:25 How PDA adults manage this in terms of their relationships

• 52:12 Advice to her younger parent self

Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. (she/her) is a social scientist, parent coach and educator, the CEO and founder of At Peace Parents, and a leader of the first peer-reviewed studies of PDA in the United States.  Casey brings 15 years of work experience and expertise in social science methodology to help parents and therapists understand how to connect with and accommodate PDA Autistic children. She specializes in teaching parents and therapists practical skills in the home or clinical setting to accommodate neuroception-driven demand avoidance and nervous system differences through creative techniques. Her original research as a social scientist was conducted on post-conflict reconciliation, social capital, trust, and trauma in Colombia, South America - themes she brings to her work with parents, therapists, and teachers. She has served more than 1,000 families raising Autistic, PDA Autistic, ADHD and traumatized children since 2020 and is also raising a PDA autistic son.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Casey

• https://www.instagram.com/atpeaceparents/

• https://www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents/

• https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCP92MJiCpuWTpgtOaFty2Cw

• https://www.atpeaceparents.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

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In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Mary Van Geffen, a parenting coach, mom of spicy kids, and former marketing MBA executive, shares about her experiences and learnings from parent coaching. 

She explains the difference between a 'spicy kid' and a 'spirited kid', emphasizing that both include elements of overlap, but their understanding depends on the perspectives and expectations of the parents. 

Mary discusses methods of self-care for parents, the importance of creating healthy relationships within and beyond the family, and the power of maintaining a positive outlook towards your kid. 

We talk about:

• [4:43] Definition of Spicy Ones

• [6:33] The difference between Spicy and Spirited children

• [10:53] What's great about spicy kids

• [12:13] Knowing what is truly important in your life and where boundaries need to be

• [17:19] How did her mother deal with her growing up

• [19:30] How has her relationship with herself changed through her parenting journey

• [23:37] Building what she’s teaching other parents

• [25:18] Best ways parents can support themselves

• [30:35] Advice to her younger parent self

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Mary

• https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/?hl=en

• https://www.facebook.com/parentcoachforspicyones

• http://www.maryvangeffen.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we discuss why kids try to blame somebody else, and how they often blame others when they're hurt or upset. We explore reasons why this happens, including the fight, flight, or freeze response and a subconscious attempt to avoid difficult feelings. 

We cover tips to help parents effectively respond when a child blames someone for something. I also talk about my free and upcoming 'Peaceful Parenting Reset' event that helps parents better manage and empathize with their children. 

We talk about:

• [3:00] Why kids want to blame somebody else

• [5:48] Anger as a secondary emotion

• [7:23] What we can do about blame

• [9:23] Not needing to make everything a teachable moment

• [12:24] How to respond when our child is blaming us

• [17:12] Understanding our strong feelings

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Free reset: www.sarahrosensweet.com/reset

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Jennifer Anderson, Registered Dietitian and founder of Kids Eat in Color. 

Jennifer, a leading expert in addressing picky eating and food anxiety in children, shares the importance of the 'division of responsibility' in feeding kids, noting that parents decide what food is provided, when, and where, but children decide if and how much they eat. 

We also talk about promoting healthy eating habits without instilling fear of 'bad food,' and explore how diet culture, neurodivergence, and parental fears can influence children's relationships with food. 

We talk about:

• [6:33] Why it’s important to get kids to eat a variety of foods

• [10:15] Age as a factor in picky eating

• [11:50] Sensory issues with picky eating, and reasons kids might not just ‘grow out’ of picky eating

• [16:31] Realizing our own capacity and releasing parental guilt

• [18:33] Child led exposure therapy vs. ARFID

• [19:45] The line between doing feeding therapy out of concern vs. pressuring kids into eating more

• [26:42] Two sides to a good relationship with food

• [28:04] Drawing the line between genuine needed concern and diet culture influence

• [33:28] Good food vs. Bad food

• [39:33] Suggestions for how parents can talk about food 

• [42:48] Support families around feeling their kids are eating too much or little

• [55:45] Advice to her younger parent self

As a mother, wife, registered dietitian, and founder of Kids Eat in Color®, Jennifer Anderson faced challenges in feeding her children, especially when her first child began falling off the growth chart. This experience led her to specialize in child nutrition and picky eating. 

After extensive research, she developed an approach involving small, evidence-based adjustments to mealtime routines that effectively reduced food-related stress. She established Kids Eat in Color and assembled a team of experts to offer practical strategies and resources to parents struggling with similar issues. Recognizing the impact of small changes and variety in a child's diet, her platform provides guides, courses, and tools to help parents manage mealtime challenges and promote their children's health.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Jennifer 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kids.eat.in.color/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kids.eat.in.color

• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/kidseatincolor/

• https://kidseatincolor.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Melanie for a coaching episode.

Melanie is a mom of two spirited boys – Ben and Eamon. We talk about the challenges Melanie is facing, from managing often intense energy levels and instances of aggression to understanding strong emotions and dealing with non-cooperation in daily routines. 

I give Melanie solutions, like introducing one-on-one time and sensory activities, prioritizing problem-solving situations, and reminding children that their parents are on their side. 

We talk about:

• [3:49] When Melanie’s son gets lost in play and becomes physically aggressive

• [5:58] Handling meltdowns at dinner

• [12:53] Running in the street to the car

• [16:28] Random acts of aggression

• [21:31] Finding your own triggers and then knowing what to do about them

• [30:20] Prevention tips of physical violence between the two boys

• [37:00] Sensory issues

• [46:40] Check in and update

• [55:51] Eamon's random acts of violence

• [1:08:27] Helping Ben when he is tuning everything out

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Ginny Yurich, to discuss the numerous benefits of nurturing a slow childhood, marked by ample outdoor play and fewer structured activities. 

We shed light on how unstructured outdoor play can promote a child's adaptability, independence, creativity and resilience, aspects that are critical for success in a rapidly changing world.

Ginny Yurich is a homeschooling mother of five and founder of 1000 Hours Outside, a global movement designed to reclaim childhood. Along with her husband, Josh, Ginny is a full-time creator and curator of the 1000 Hours Outside lifestyle brand, which includes a robust online store, an app, and books. She also hosts the 1000 Hours Outside weekly podcast. A thought leader in the world of nature-based play and its benefits for children, Ginny lives with her family in the Ann Arbor area of Michigan.

We talk about:

• [7:00] Ginny’s first good day as a mom

• [17:16] Generational differences in childhoods

• [23:52] The filter in which parents look at the desire for their child to be successful 

• [29:46] How her perspective on parenting was changed by the Rich Habits Test for Parents

• [33:22] Managing your own fears so your child can have a slow childhood

• [38:00] Light, and looking at different light inside and outside 

• [42:47] Advice for parent who feel like they don’t have enough time

• [51:23] Advice to her young parent self

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Ginny’s Book: https://amzn.to/3GCL7hN

Connect with Ginny 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/1000hoursoutside/ 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/1000hoursoutside 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/1000hoursoutside 

• Podcast: https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/podcast 

• https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I bring back one of my favorite holiday episodes, which is an interview with my kids, where we talk about ‘people, not stuff’.

I know many parents are concerned that their children might become materialistic due to the abundance of gifts they receive during the holiday season, which is why I highlight the importance of showing kids that there's more to life than possessions. 

We talk about why it's normal for children to desire many things, and how to remind them that we can welcome their feelings without necessarily fulfilling all their materialistic desires.

We talk about:

• [1:05] Discussion on Kids Wanting More Stuff

• [2:13] Raising Non-Materialistic Kids

• [2:19] Acknowledging Financial Privilege

• [4:33] Addressing Parents' Fears about Kids Wanting Stuff

• [8:50] Encouraging Kids to Give Presents

• [10:06] Parents' Role in Reducing Materialism

• [16:46] Kids' Excitement and Gratitude for Presents

• [24:06] Changing Values with Age

• [26:10] Influence of Parenting on Materialism

• [27:10] Importance of Anticipation in Celebrations

• [27:56] Advice for Parents on Materialism

• [28:47] Reflections on Childhood and Consumerism

• [30:14] Transition from Wanting to Appreciating

• [37:12] Understanding Gratitude and Privilege

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Vivek Patel, a fellow parenting coach, joins me to talk about non-coercive collaborative parenting.

We talk about strategies to create healthier dynamics among parents and children by building life skills over time and indulging in kind, empathetic connections rather than enforcing control or exerting power. 

Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 10 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes.

We talk about:

• [6:55] What respect is

• [11:35] How do you use non-coercive parenting in a way that fits with the real world

• [18:15] Vivek's experience in noticing when his kids "close" and "open"

• [25:50] The principle of ‘no wrongness’

• [31:25] Knowing what’s in it for me (WIIFM) 

• [39:25] The three most important relationships

• [43:00] Empowering your child's relationship with themselves

• [52:05] Advice to his younger parent self

He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 300 videos. There is also a book in the works.

Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful approach called “Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting”, based on Communication, Connection and Collaboration. He is also best friends with his 26 yr old.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Vivek 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/meaningfulideas

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/meaningfulideas

• Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/meaningfulideas

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meaningfulideas 

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/meaningfulideas

• https://www.meaningfulideas.com

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Christy, a mother of two boys, for a coaching episode. 

We discuss the challenges Christy has faced with her older son, Jay, in terms of emotional regulation, sibling rivalry, and self-deprecating behavior. We talk about Christy's nurturing approach and understanding towards Jay's needs and I offer strategies to improve their relationship.

The importance of one-on-one time, being neutral during sibling fights, and indirect discussions about feelings are highlighted as well. We talk about:

• [3:30] Christy’s intro and background

• [5:35] What PDA means

• [8:00] What Jay’s struggles look like 

• [10:05] Handling meltdowns

• [12:45] How to handle when your child's response turns to self harm

• [15:10] How Jay responds to empathy

• [20:55] Understanding their sibling dynamic

• [23:40] How is 1:1 and special time

• [30:25] Focusing on prevention

• [44:55] Part 2: Check In

• [46:25] Update on sibling rivalry

• [48:05] Special time update

• [53:25] Handling verbal lashing out 

• [57:35] How to address him calling his brother names

• [59:30] How has his self talk improved

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey joins me to discuss how to handle situations where extended family members criticize or disagree with your peaceful parenting approach. 

We talk about educating family members about the principles and science behind peaceful parenting, setting clear boundaries, and understanding the importance of self-confidence and self-compassion. We also emphasize the importance of critical thinking, open-mindedness, and flexibility in some parenting beliefs, such as children's diet and screen time when visiting grandparents. 

We talk about:

• [0:50] When your extended family is not on board with peaceful parenting

• [2:20] The difference between people openly criticizing you and just you feeling judged

• [3:30] Overcoming the trigger of love withdrawal

• [5:10] The challenge when family doesn’t understand or know what peaceful parenting is

• [8:30] How to set a boundary with your loved ones

• [11:15] raising kids who aren't afraid of adults, and not comparing your kids to others

• [13:55] Building breaks into time with family around the holiday

• [15:20] Grandparents going into protection mode when they feel like their grandchildren are pushing against their parents

• [20:05] Learning how to set boundaries

• [25:25] Talking to your kids about the differences in how other family members approach discipline 

• [29:40] Learning what you can let go and what needs to be discussed

• [32:10] Limiting time with people who are truly toxic

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Aurisha Smolarski, a therapist and author of 'Cooperative Co Parenting for Secure Kids: The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes'.

We talk about co-parenting: attachment styles and their role in communication between co-parents, the emotional impact of divorce on kids, methods for managing transitions and holiday arrangements, and advice for maintaining a child-focused approach in co-parenting. 

Aurisha shares specific tips for creating a secure foundation in a two-home setup, while also advising parents to adapt and revisit parenting plans as children grow and their needs evolve. She emphasizes the importance of self-reflection for parents in managing their own reactions and contributing positively to their co-parenting dynamic.

Aurisha Smolarski, MA, LMFT is a therapist, a co-parenting coach, a mediator, and a co-parent. She lives and has a practice in Los Angeles where she also co-parents her 11 year old daughter. She specializes in helping families navigate the complex terrain of co-parenting and build healthy, cooperative co-parenting relationships.  

We talk about:

• [4:55] How Aurisha got into this work

• [5:35] Why she wrote her book

• [12:00] Common mistakes she sees co-parents make 

• [15:45] What it means to put kids in the middle

• [19:15] When a divorce might not be a harmonious split

• [30:10] When households have different values or beliefs while co-parenting

• [36:05] Easing the transition between houses

• [41:45] Nesting in the same house

• [44:10] Court-mandated custody agreements that have kids moving more

• [46:50] Different reactions kids might have when parents split up

• [50:55] Advice to her younger parent self

Teaching people how to break up or divorce well, for the sake of their children, is what she loves about her work and what led her to write Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids: The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes. Having watched co-parents go from confusion to clarity, conflict to cooperation, and loneliness to a sense of belonging, she's honored to empower and provide guidance to co-parents so they can do what they most want: make sure their kids thrive. 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Cooperative CoParenting For Secure Kids:The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes: https://www.amazon.com/Cooperative-Co-Parenting-Secure-Kids-Attachment/

Connect with Aurisha

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cooperativecoparenting

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cooperativecoparenting 

• www.aurishasmolarski.com

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Amanda Diekman, an eminent advocate for low-demand parenting, discusses her own experiences as an autistic adult, and how it has shaped her parenting style. 

She also explains the core principles of low-demand parenting and emphasizes on building trustful relationships by being creatively supportive to meet the child's distinctive needs. We also look into the parental process of accommodating a child's neurodiversity, experiencing a sense of deep 'why', and their own need within it. 

We talk about:

• [6:40] What is low demand parenting and how did came to adopt it

• [10:35] How she grew low-demand parenting from watching her children

• [11:55] The breakdown that changed things with her middle child

• [17:00] What happens in the nervous system of a PDA

• [19:30] The continuum of resistance when being told what to do

• [23:30] How to handle family demands in parenting

• [29:00] Getting assessed when there are challenges

• [35:30] Handling a hungry kid who won't eat because they're experiencing it as a demand

• [37:40] When dropping the demand for the child creates more of a demand for a parent

• [41:50] The deep ‘why’

• [47:10] Struggling doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong

• [50:55] The difference between low demand parenting and permissive parenting

• [54:40] Advice to her younger parent self

With two Duke degrees, countless academic papers, and a Masters in Theology under her belt, it seemed she was on a steady path. But in 2020, when her child went into severe autistic burnout, and she was diagnosed with PTSD from parenting, everything in her life changed. She reworked her parenting approach and her self-care rhythms based around radical acceptance. From this experience, the low demand approach was born.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Amanda

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lowdemandamanda

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lowdemandamanda

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lowdemandamanda

• https://www.amandadiekman.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Today's episode is a guest coaching episode with Yael. You may remember Yael from a few years ago as she was on the podcast before, and she's back talking about her complex kiddo, Rowan.

In this episode, we’re trying to find a way for him to feel supported at school, how to get his teachers on board, as well as some strategies for her to support herself. If you stick around to the end, you will hear her update on how things went with him. 

We talk about:

• [2:15] Yael’s background and a re-introduction to her son

• [4:30] A recap of what we covered in our first episode

• [6:40] Getting Rowan assessed

• [8:55] The current challenges: Rowan not wanting to participate at school

• [13:30] How to ask teachers for support of our kids

• [20:00] Looking at different school options

• [21:50] Finding a mantra to soothe anxiety

• [26:15] Filling the gaps in learning

• [31:35] Putting our kids in the driver’s seat and encouraging autonomy 

• [37:40] Strategies for self regulation

• [45:05] Check-in after a few weeks

• [53:20] Giving Rowan breaks from school

Resources mentioned in this episode:\

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Dr. Michele Borba, author of the book 'Thrivers', and I discuss the importance of teaching children resilience and optimism. 

We explore parenting strategies and practical tips for nurturing self-confidence, empathy, and self-control in kids. Our conversation highlights the role of parents in helping children navigate challenges and develop the skills needed to thrive in today's uncertain world.

We talk about:

• [3:50] Teaching our kids self empowerment

• [8:05] Three categories of character strengths

• [10:05] Nurturing a caring heart and developing self-confidence

• [14:10] Seven traits and using them interchangeably 

• [17:20] Developing a strong mind and self-control

• [22:10] Noticing when kids are feeling out of control and responding calmly

• [24:00] The impact of stress in our kids’ lives

• [26:40] Developing and encouraging optimism 

• [35:05] Advice she would give to her younger parent self

Dr. Michelle is an educational psychologist, bestselling author, and Today Show contributor who has spoken to over 1 million participants on five continents and to countless media about child development issues.

She blends 40 years of teaching and consulting experience with the latest science to offer sound Realistic advice to parents and teachers and child advocates about helping children thrive.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Michele

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmicheleborba/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drmicheleborba/

• https://micheleborba.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Ed Center shares his personal journey as a queer Brown dad, raising his children with a different approach from the cultural norms he grew up with. 

We discuss the challenges of parenting in a way that goes against the grain, the importance of healing and self-forgiveness, and the need for support and community. 

Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the significance of creating space for understanding and connection with our children, as well as fostering relationships that allow for growth and change.

We talk about:

• [3:15] Ed's background becoming a parent

• [6:20] Elements of his culture he wanted to pass down to his kids and parts he did not want to

• [7:30] His son's mental health crisis during the pandemic

• [11:30] Research as a trauma response and noticing the last of coaches of color in the parenting space

• [13:30] His creation of The Village Well

• [15:20] Trying to parent differently than how we were raised

• [24:35] Creating trust with the parents we work with

• [27:45] Showing grace and processing our own trauma

• [33:50] How to not repeat toxic styles 

• [37:20] Dealing with disapproval of family members

• [43:55] Strategies for self control and triggers

Ed Center was a child with big feelings and impulsive behaviors. He drove his mom and teachers crazy. Now he helps grown-ups to understand and support these kids. 

During the height of the pandemic, Ed’s son suffered an acute mental health crisis. Searching for support, Ed discovered the field of positive parenting and learned strategies and tools to strengthen his connection with his son, leading to healing for the whole family. However, Ed was frustrated with the lack of attention to diverse cultures and traditions. 

He founded The Village Well to bring more connection, joy, and healing to families of color. Ed and his husband raise two boys and three cats in San Francisco.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Free first Fridays and $1 Coaching

Connect with Ed

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/villagewellparenting

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/village-well-parenting/

• TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@queerbrowndad 

• https://www.villagewellparenting.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Corey and I explore a wide range of topics and challenges that parents frequently encounter on their journey towards becoming Peaceful Parents. Sometimes parents find that peaceful parenting doesn’t “work” like they think it’s “supposed to” work and then they feel like they’re doing it wrong or worry that peaceful parenting isn’t for them. This is probably because they have a kiddo who is more complex than the typical kiddo-- and it’s why we are on a mission to reimagine peaceful parenting. 

We talk about the nuances from parent to parent, and kid to kid, when it comes to peaceful parenting strategies and techniques. For example, we talk about the differences in special time, connecting with our kids in different ways as well as finding different tools and strategies to help them to process their emotions.

Ultimately, we want you and your child to be on the same team. To help even more with this, we’re putting on a Summit to help you and your kids flourish.  

We talk about:

• [1:20] When you feel like you’re doing Peaceful Parenting “wrong”

• [3:00] What you will gain from our upcoming Summit

• [4:20] How ‘Special Time’ looks different between each parent and child relationship, and what to do about it

• [7:20] Connecting with your child aside from special time

• [11:55] How to help our kids process emotions, aside from emptying the emotional backpack

• [15:55] Connecting with your child when they’re being defiant

• [18:25] Making sure you and your child are on the same team

• [20:00] Feeding and division of responsibility 

• [28:50] Our upcoming rebrand

• [34:30] Opening the doors to our membership

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, we have a coaching episode with Stephanie. Stephanie is the mom of two kids, Felix, who's 18 months, and Thomas, who's nine. 

Stephanie shared with me before we recorded that Thomas is an amazing, curious, strong willed, more extra 2E kid. She explains how he watches her and also triggers her, which invites her to work hard on her own self regulation and self compassion (as we dive into in our conversation). We talk about:

• [1:20] You don’t want to miss this summit

• [4:35] When to start transitioning to letting your kids have more say over what they do and not forcing them or having to distract them to get things done

• [7:20] How others' emotions can affect us, and especially children 

• [10:45] When kids struggle to take medications 

• [14:35] When a habit of making snarky comments can make kids feel bad

• [20:00] Her sons relationship with his dad

• [23:05] What to do when it feels overwhelming to get things done with him

• [24:40] Implementing collaborative proactive solutions

• [29:20] Emptying his emotional backpack 

• [30:20] What her connection is like with her son

• [36:20] Helping her son learn how to communicate his feelings

• [38:00] Finding forgiveness for yourself

• [41:10] Dealing with her parent’s disapproval for how she’s raising her kids

• [45:50] One month check in

• [49:30] The progress she has seen

• [1:01:25] Managing our relationship to stress and time

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Rachel Harrington and Jessica Hill join me to talk about all things sensory processing disorder.

Rachel, COTA/L, AC and Jessica, COTA/L are two passionate Certified Occupational Therapy Assistants and the hosts of the popular podcast, All Things Sensory. Their podcast, digital courses, YouTube, and blog on Harkla.co covers topics related to sensory processing disorder, special needs, parenting, and topics related to child development and health. We talk about:

• [4:00] Who Rachel and Jessica are

• [6:15] What is sensory processing disorder?

• [8:15] Our 3 hidden senses

• [11:20] Sensory challenges that come with going to the bathroom

• [13:35] Triggers with taking a bath 

• [16:11] Common triggers you may not know are sensory challenges

• [17:45] Oral seeking

• [19:15] Picky eating

• [26:30] Sensory integration and OT evaluation

• [29:30] Adopting a sensory diet

• [34:20] Noticing what your child needs

• [37:30] Tips for parents who struggle getting kids dressed

• [41:50] Knowing this isn’t a choice your kids are making

• [45:05] Advice to their younger parent selves

With over 9 years of clinical experience, Rachel and Jessica are on a mission to help parents, educators, and therapists raise strong and confident children, no matter their abilities. They are passionate about taking clinical topics (such as Sensory Processing Disorder, primitive reflexes, sensory diets, and more) and breaking them down in a way that is actionable for anyone to benefit from.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Summit: www.sarahrosensweet.com/summit 

Connect with Rachel and Jessica

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/harklaproducts/ 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/allthingssensorypodcast

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/harkla_family 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer 

• https://harkla.co/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Melinda Wenner Moyer joins me to talk about her book, and a range of topics around bullying, raising kids that aren’t selfish, and how to help our kids develop self esteem.

We talk about:

• [4:40] How Melinda and I met, and an introduction to her book

• [7:40] The most surprising thing she learned while researching for her book

• [12:45] Bullying and the parents of kids who bully

• [13:50] Increasing our kids’ theory of mind skills

• [17:30] Raising kids that aren’t selfish

• [19:50] Leaning into conversations with your kids that you don't want to have

• [22:10] The message we send when we don’t talk about race and gender

• [33:00] Can your child develop narcissism by bolstering their self-esteem too much?

• [36:20] How kids are affected by pressure applied by parents

• [40:35] Why parents care more about hitting milestones than their child’s happiness

• [44:00] Advice she would give to her younger parent self

Melinda Wenner Moyer is a science journalist based in Cold Spring, New York. She's a regular contributor to The New York Times, a contributing editor at Scientific American magazine, and a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Her first book, How To Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, was published in July 2021 and won a gold medal in the 2022 Living Now Book Awards.

Melinda was the recipient of the 2022 Excellence in Science Journalism award from The Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Melinda

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melindawennermoyer/ 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/melindawmoyer 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer 

• www.melindawmoyer.substack.com 

• www.melindawennermoyer.com   

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, we dive into the world of neurodivergent parenting with Jaya and Priya. We explore their backgrounds and the vital work they do in this space, shedding light on the essence of neurodivergence. 

They share their motivations behind writing "Parenting at the Intersection" and discuss challenges they face as neurodivergent parents. We also delve into themes like normalizing emotional overwhelm, the link between parenting, supremacy, and capitalism, and empowering individuals to navigate external influences. 

Plus, discover hidden wisdom within children's behaviors and practical strategies for tough moments, all while receiving heartfelt advice from our guests to their younger parent selves.

We talk about:

• [3:30] Jaya and Priya’s background and work in this space

• [5:55] The definition of what we mean when we say neurodivergent

• [10:25] What made them want to write Parenting at the Intersection 

• [16:50] Challenges they face parenting while neurodivergent

• [23:20] Normalizing emotional overwhelm and big emotions

• [28:10] Big ideas from their book in terms of the correlation between parenting, supremacy and capitalism 

• [31:30] How to help people tune into their own wisdom when influenced by outside factors, especially when influenced by fear 

• [35:30] The wisdom or medicine in your child's behaviors

• [38:25] Specific practices to use when things are particularly challenging

• [43:30] Advice to their younger parent selves

Priya Saaral is a mama, a play therapist, and a parenting coach in the Greater Seattle area. She also identifies as neurodivergent and a first-generation immigrant settler. Her work is centered on helping young people and parents find their voice and their playful spirit amidst personal and structural adversity, seeking to be seen and to belong. Priya herself was in this space too, and her own experiences of strength and hardship motivated her to help all children feel seen and heard as valuable human beings in society, and as agents of change. When she's feeling playful, you may likely find her engrossed in a jigsaw puzzle, on the wrestling mat with her son, or replenishing her cup by exploring South Indian Classical and Jazz music forms.

Jaya Ramesh is a cis, immigrant, neurodivergent woman of color, who holds caste, class, and education privileges. She currently resides on the unceded lands of the Duwamish peoples. Jaya's passions revolve around creating liberatory healing and learning spaces while actively working to disentangle from and dismantle systems of oppression. She identifies herself as a truth-teller and facilitator, driven by a deep passion for unlocking the stories waiting to be shared, both within herself and among others.

In her private practice, Jaya supports BIPOC and neurodivergent individuals in cultivating more authentic and nourishing relationships. She shares her life with her partner of 18 years, and together they are raising two neurodivergent children and a puppy. Jaya's interests encompass reading novels, practicing vipassana meditations, challenging herself with strenuous hikes, indulging in long naps, passionately singing 80's tunes at karaoke, preparing elaborate dinners, and taking leisurely strolls with her family.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Parenting at the Intersections: Raising Neurodivergent Children of Color https://amzn.to/3RgeM77

Connect with Priya and Jaya

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/parent.village 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/parenting.at.the.intersections  

• www.play-it-out.com

•  www.parentvillage.me 

Connect with Jaya

• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jayarameshlmhc 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/Indigobunting1101 

• www.parentingattheintersections.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, I sit down for a coaching episode with Jessica, who is a mom of two. 

We talk about the morning chaos, which many of us can relate to, especially as we get the hang of new routines and back to school. She also shares about her own triggers, internal stress, and letting go of the fear of disappointing our kids.

We talk about:

• [3:20] Finding it hard to ask for support when stressed or overwhelmed

• [6:20] Struggles and tips for getting up earlier 

• [8:45] Strategies to carve out special time

• [11:30] Jessica's internal way of dealing with stressful mornings

• [15:50] The natural consequences of being late

• [18:05] The fear of disappointing our kids

• [20:35] Jessica's transformation in my membership

• [27:20] How can you motivate yourself in a more loving way

• [31:10] Grounding practices to help regulate yourself

• [34:00] One-month check in 

• [35:10] Working on our internal stress triggers on being late and setting new routines

• [42:00] Triggers around being late

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Dr. Devorah Heitner joins me to talk about raising kids in the era of technology, and different tools and strategies to implement, all while continuing to respect their privacy. 

Dr. Heitner is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and her book on navigating Privacy and Reputation with kids and teens, Growing Up in Public will be out in 2023 with Penguin Random House.

Her work has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. She is delighted to be raising her own teenager and she lives with her family in Chicagoland.

We talk about:

• [2:55] Screenwise and Growing Up In Public

• [9:50] Are there ways to track your kids without using phones

• [11:50] Tracking kids over the age of 18

• [13:00] When and why kids should get a phone

• [17:25] Her philosophy on mentoring kids vs. monitoring kids 

• [21:20] How to do this without invading on our kids’ privacy

• [24:10] Setting screen-free boundaries for kids without killing their social life

• [28:00] Navigating school devices and wanting to have screen time limits

• [31:15] Tracking your kids’ grades

• [36:15] Advice she would give to her younger parent self

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Devorah’s Books

• US: https://devorahheitner.com/growing-up-in-public/

• Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969 and: https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/growing-up-in-public-coming-of-age-in-a-digital-world/9780593420966.html

• Growing Up in Public: https://amzn.to/3OZNe4o

• Screenwise: https://amzn.to/3OENSTl 

Connect with Devorah

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/DevorahHeitner 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devorahheitnerphd/ 

• Website: www.devorahheitner.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Julie Bogart joins me to talk about homeschooling: the positives, the challenges and advice for parents looking to potentially homeschool their children. We also discuss learning in general. You’ll want to listen to this whether you homeschool or send your kids to school!

Julie Bogart is the creator and proprietor of Brave Writer, an online writing and language arts program.

She holds a deep passion for writing, a genuine affection for children, and a strong appreciation for parents. Julie sees her involvement with these three aspects as a fortuitous and delightful convergence of her affections, which she experiences on a daily basis. 

We talk about:

• [6:20] Parents yearning for cooperation from their kids

• [7:45] Why kids are craving self-loyalty

• [13:35] Factors to consider when you're thinking about homeschooling

• [15:40] My experience as a "failed homeschooler", and why it's ok

• [19:30] Advice for parents who are homeschooling and feel like they can't get their kids to focus on schoolwork

• [23:55] Have Julie’s grandkids been homeschooled?

• [27:20] Why our best work as parents is to ensure happiness and reduce pressure

• [31:35] Misconceptions about homeschooling 

• [33:10] Homeschooling vs. unschooling 

• [35:15] Kids who aren’t meeting the benchmark that the school system has set

• [41:30] Advice for parents on how to support their child who doesn't like school 

• [45:55] Advice to her younger parent self

In her earlier professional journey, she invested time in the realm of professional writing, engaging in activities such as editing, ghostwriting, and freelancing. However, as her children approached the stage of transitioning from pencil control to self-expressive writing, Julie's inclination shifted towards coaching. This transformation was driven by her recognition that she found the most fulfillment in guiding and facilitating the emergence of original thoughts in others.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Julie’s Books

• The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool, Learning, and Life

• Raising Critical Thinkers: A Parent's Guide to Growing Wise Kids in the Digital Age

Connect with Julie

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bravewriter

• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/bravewriter/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliebravewriter/

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/bravewriter

• Website: https://bravewriter.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Yael joins me to talk about her new book, as well as how to feel less guilty and overwhelmed in your parenting.

Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much).

We talk about:

• [3:30] The background of her book

• [8:10] Advantages of working parenthood

• [13:10] Work family conflict vs. work family enrichment & the three different paths

• [16:15] Parenting guilt and shaming

• [19:55] The function of guilt and evolution

• [23:50] Acceptance and commitment therapy

• [25:35] Unhooking from unhelpful labels

• [31:35] Reinforcing that all parenting rolls are important

• [34:45] What is subtracting

• [40:05] A ‘stop doing’ list

• [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• https://www.wsj.com/articles/work-life-conflict-cant-be-solvedand-thats-a-good-thing-11593230460 

• https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2022/11/17/working-parent-conflict-balance-mindset/ 

• https://behavioralscientist.org/doing-less-is-hard-especially-when-were-overwhelmed/ 

• Book: https://amzn.to/45cg2Mv

Connect with Yael

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/offtheclockpsych 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrYaelSchonbrun 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yaelschonbrun/ 

• Website: www.workparenthrive.com / www.offtheclockpsych.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, I’m answering a listener's question whose eight year old daughter hates school.

As some parts of the country are going back to school now, we are all getting ready to start that season again. Listen in for tips on how to navigate this question and support your kiddo through this challenging moment.

We talk about:

• [1:25] This episode’s listener question

• [3:20] Troubleshooting the root cause of ‘I don’t want to go to school’

• [6:15] Is the school a good fit for your child?

• [6:50] Is school too easy?

• [8:50] What to do if your child needs an evaluation 

• [10:20] Suggestions for kids that are homebodies 

• [12:50] Pinpointing anxiety 

• [14:20] Resources for anxiety

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons: https://amzn.to/3tF6Qj2 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It’s not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it’s an episode of the Calm the Chaos Podcast hosted by my friend Dayna Abraham.

She will share everything you need to know about surviving challenging behavior from your kids, as well as her four step Ride the Storm Plan that can help you survive the eye of the storm and remain calm during your kids' challenging behavior. 

Dayna is the founder of the Calm the Chaos® Framework, best-selling author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day and founder of the popular blog, Lemon Lime Adventures.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Purchase Calm the Chaos: https://amzn.to/3QolM1s

• Podcast: https://calmthechaospodcast.com/

Connect with Dayna Abraham   

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lemonlimeadventures/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LemonLimeAdventures 

• Website: https://lemonlimeadventures.com/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, Sonali Vongchusiri joins me to discuss needs and boundaries for both parents and children.

In traditional parenting, we are taught that the needs of our children come after our own needs – but what if they can both co-exist together?

Sonali is a parent guide and the founder of the beloved Raising Your Strong-Willed Child series. She possesses a unique style that incorporates her own experiences as a sensitive, high-needs child who later became a parent to a highly sensitive, strong-willed child. Sonali combines heart-centered and empowering parenting approaches to help parents become aware of the underlying challenges causing unrest in their relationships. Her true passion lies in supporting parents to rediscover trust, connection, confidence, and delight in themselves and their bond with their child.

We talk about:

• [4:50] Growing up as a highly sensitive child

• [8:40] How Sonali supports parents as a parenting coach

• [9:30] Understanding our needs and core values as parents

• [12:40] M&M Respect

• [15:00] Holding two ideas in our minds at the same time

• [20:00] Acknowledging the ‘whole person’

• [27:00] How acknowledging our child changes their response to us

• [29:50] The ‘no’ game

• [34:50] Investigating the ‘no’

• [41:30] Empowerment through empathy

• [46:35] Advice to her younger parent self

Highly sensitive and intuitive, Sonali finds breaking through barriers to be enjoyable. She believes in the wisdom and presence of both children and parents during their interactions. Originally from the US with Indian origin, Sonali now resides in Bangkok. Her albinism gives her a unique perspective, allowing her to see people in ways they might not see themselves. In her free time, you can find Sonali jogging at the park or attending dance classes. She loves singing loudly while listening to music with her headphones on. Rain holds a special place in her heart, as she finds solace in the sensation of a downpour soaking through her clothes, enabling her to completely let go. Sonali and you will get along well if you share her love for chocolate and her aversion to mixing it with fruit. Most importantly, Sonali is living proof that repairing any fractured relationship with one's child is entirely possible.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter

• The Cove: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/the-cove-sign-up

Connect with Sonali

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/forwardtogetherparenting/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisingyourstrongwilledchild/

• Website: https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode, Dr. Alok Kanojia joins me to discuss video games and healthy gaming for our kiddos.

Dr. Kanojia is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist specializing in the intersection of technology x mental health. Also known as ”Dr. K” to millions of people on the internet, Dr. Kanojia is the co-founder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform that serves the gaming community. 

He has inspired millions of people with online content while overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people. He is widely regarded as the foremost expert on video game addiction and most prominent mental health authority for young people. When he’s offline, he’s usually traveling, gardening, or grilling with his family.

We talk about:

• [3:05] Dr. K’s background in this space

• [4:45] Video games for enjoyment vs. addiction 

• [6:15] What is healthy gaming?

• [7:40] The brain on ‘gaming addiction’

• [10:35] Does TV/screen time fulfill the same dopamine hit?

• [12:25] How screens give the temporary appearance of regulation

• [13:35] The impulse to check our phones

• [15:15] Why kids meltdown each time the screen is taken away

• [22:20] What kids can do instead of screen time

• [27:10] Approaching conversations about this with your kids

• [32:00] Guidelines for gaming in a healthy way

• [37:00] Types of games to avoid

• [41:25] The problem with multiplayer games 

• [44:00] Helping promote the balance of friends in life versus online

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse 

• https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/hg-parent   

Connect with Dr. Alok

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healthygamergg/ 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_alokkanojia

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthygamer_gg/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/healthy-gamer/ 

• Other: https://wa.me/message/S4EVN3BAM4TXE1 

• Website: https://www.healthygamer.gg 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Karen Young joins me on the Peaceful Parenting Podcast to talk about co-regulation, anxiety, and aggression that sometimes comes to light within our kiddos. 

Karen began her career as a psychologist in private practice. She has worked extensively with children, teens and families, and in educational and organization settings. She has lectured and has a Masters in Gestalt Therapy. It is through her work with children, teens and families, that she learned the power of solid information when it is placed in the solid, loving hands of parents or any important person in the life of a child. 

Karen created Hey Sigmund, an internationally popular online resource, as a way to provide contemporary, research-driven information on the art of being human, and being with humans.

We talk about:

• [2:55] How she became an anxiety specialist

• [5:10] Where to begin when it comes to anxiety and aggression

• [8:25] Using recognition as a first step

• [10:00] Regulating your own nervous system

• [10:50] Using co-regulation 

• [17:00] Is repair most effective done immediately?

• [19:20] How ‘soothing’ changes as kids get older 

• [20:25] Validating ‘anger’ as an emotion 

• [23:05] How kids learn what a threat is and isn’t

• [27:30] Strategies for compassion when there's a meltdown

• [31:05] Helping kids understand where their big emotions come from

• [37:00] Tips for when kids refuse to use the strategies you've worked on them with

• [43:50] Advice to her younger parent self

She is the author of four books, including the bestselling ‘Hey Warrior’ and ‘Hey Awesome’, which creatively assist children to understand and manage anxiety. The books have been translated into a number of languages and have sold more than 180,000 copies worldwide. 

Karen lives in Australia and has two children and two stepchildren. Experience has taught her that people can do amazing things with the right information, psychology has something for everyone, jargon doesn’t, everyone has a story to tell, short bios are the longest to write, nobody has it all figured out and the best people to be around are the ones who already know this.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Karen

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karenyoungheysigmund

• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/heysigmund001

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/hey_sigmund

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenyoung_heysigmund

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/KarenYoungHeySigmund

• Website: https://www.heysigmund.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

I’m popping onto your podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a *free* workshop on Thursday, July 27 at 8pm EST.

It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Punishments and I would love for you to join me. 

You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop. 

If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you’re there live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting!

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I take you through the eight pitfalls of peaceful parenting that I have learned through my coaching and parenting years.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost in your own peaceful parenting journey, these pitfalls may be helpful in helping you reframe your mindset, find community, and validation in your feelings.

We talk about:

• [3:25] Getting caught up in the 'shoulds'

• [6:20] Not thinking long term

• [9:25] The firmness of kind, firm limits

• [12:10] Feeling ignored and getting frustrated

• [14:45] Not having a community and feeling alone

• [16:25] Not being intentional about limits

• [19:45] Setting a limit as a punishment in disguise

• [23:40] Being too hard on ourselves

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Free workshop: www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop 

• Membership waitlist: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Seth Perler joins me to unpack executive function, what to be on the lookout for, and how to help parents become more aware of hidden red flags.

Seth Perler is an educational coach and advocate for students with executive functioning challenges, such as ADHD and learning disabilities. He offers coaching, resources, and strategies to help students improve their organization, time management, and study skills.

We talk about:

• [3:55] Seth’s journey into this work

• [6:55] What is executive function

• [14:25] Potential red flags when it comes to executive function that parents should be on the lookout for

• [17:15] Creating the scaffolding to get out of being our children's executive function

• [22:10] ‘Can’t vs. Won’t when it comes to motivation and changing behavior

• [29:45] Remembering that kids want to do well

• [31:30] Unpacking attachment theory

• [32:30] Understanding classroom behavior – why kids want to be seen and heard

• [34:35] Being shamed at school

• [39:00] Seth’ framework: Systems, Mindsets, and Habits & Routines

• [42:25] Helping a kid who is meeting you with resistance

• [49:40] One thing Seth wishes all parents knew

As you can read on his website, Seth Perler struggled with his own executive functioning challenges throughout his academic journey. He experienced difficulties with organization, focus, and productivity, which led to academic setbacks. However, he eventually developed strategies and techniques that helped him overcome these challenges and achieve success.

Seth Perler now shares his insights and expertise through his website, blog, coaching sessions, and online courses. His goal is to support students, parents, and educators in understanding and addressing executive functioning difficulties to unlock their full potential.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Seth

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ShineOnEducation

• Executive Function Summit: https://executivefunctionsummit.com/

• Website: https://sethperler.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Emma Nadler joins me to talk about building compassionate relationships and community, especially as parents.

Emma Nadler is an author, speaker, and psychotherapist. In her private practice, she helps people better understand and tolerate emotions, build deeper relationships, and find meaning in life's challenges. She is passionate about transforming her own experiences as a parent of a child with disabilities into empathy, compassion, humor, and stories. 

Her memoir, The Unlikely Village of Eden, is about learning to adapt and accept when life doesn’t go to plan, redefining community, and creating your own imperfect path. 

We talk about:

• [4:35] What her book is about

• [5:40] Bucking cultural norms

• [9:50] Feeling of perfection and the expectations we have of parenthood

• [13:10] Advice for parents that feel like they're a failure

• [14:45] Listening to each other with compassion

• [17:30] Saying yes to people who are wanting to give connection

• [22:00] Advice for parents who feel they do not have a community

• [24:30] Building and using community

• [30:30] Her own personal grief journey

• [34:00] What helps Emma in the moments of being hard on herself for not being "perfect"

• [38:00] Advice to her younger self

PLEASE NOTE: Listening to this podcast in no way creates a client/therapist relationship with Emma Nadler. This is educational in nature. No legal, counseling, or other professional services are being rendered and nothing is intended to provide such services or advice of any kind. If you are having a mental health emergency, please contact 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also text or call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Book: https://amzn.to/3Js1BLt 

Connect with Emma

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmanadlerwrites/

• Website: www.EmmaNadler.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Linda Murphy joins me to discuss how to develop better communication between kids and parents.

Linda is a speech language pathologist and RDI® Consultant. She co-founded Peer Projects Therapy From the Heart, a clinic in Beverly, MA dedicated to helping kids and families by using a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness. Linda has been working with individuals with social learning differences for over 25 years. 

We talk about:

• [3:15] How Linda got into this work

• [4:40] What is declarative language

• [10:40] What happens when a person is given a command

• [14:55] Different strategies for kids who are rigid thinkers

• [18:35] Giving kids processing time

• [20:50] The balance between alternative thinking vs. giving kids notice of things changing

• [25:30] Acknowledging the ‘communication dance’

• [28:40] Strategies for modeling ‘black and white thinking’ 

• [32:05] Voicing your moments of flexibility to help your kids

• [34:00] What we can do as parents to help our kids to not be afraid of making mistakes

• [38:55] Examples of declarative language vs. imperative language

• [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self

She leads trainings on the topic of social learning, has authored Declarative Language Handbook, Co-Regulation Handbook, numerous articles, and co-authored the book Social Thinking and Me with Michelle Garcia Winner. Linda lives north of Boston with her husband and their two busy lovable boys.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Parent Workshops: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/8-week-workshops 

• Trainings for educators: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/trainings-for-professionals 

Connect with Linda

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/declarativelanguage/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057683280110 

• Blog: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/sunday-snippets-of-support 

• Website: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Beth joins me to talk about transforming our mindset around blame, removing the shame of parenting responses, and wanting a more peaceful home.

Beth is the mom of three kids, and her third child, Sophie, is one of our kids that we call “more” or “extra”.

Beth is relatively new to Peaceful Parenting, and is a member of my Peaceful Parenting membership. She wanted some more help with making sure that she was on the right track with Sophie, and we worked together to find solutions and tools to the challenges she was facing.

We talk about:

• [4:10] About Beth and her three kids

• [6:30] Sophie’s background and wanting a more peaceful home for her family

• [10:15] Why rewards don't work

• [12:55] What co-regulating is and why it’s important 

• [19:45] Being an intense person and peaceful parenting

• [24:20] Meeting your child where they are

• [35:10] What systems can you have in place for a child who loses things?

• [37:30] Gardener and Carpenter metaphor

• [38:45] Wanting to help your kids, but at what cost to the relationship?

• [41:10] Four-week update

• [45:25] The challenges around not wanting to help our kids “too much”

• [47:20] Sensory triggers while getting dressed

• [49:35] Shifting our mindset around ‘blame’

• [52:20] How to be more patient when wanting quicker results

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Jonathon Reed joins me to talk about ‘the man box.’ The man box is the way we limit boys and men - and our relationships with them- with a rigid view about masculinityWe also discuss how as parents we can support our boys, help them tap into their emotions and help them to develop emotional health and intimacy.

Jonathon is Youth Program Manager with a nonprofit organization called Next Gen Men, which means he does workshops and presentations at schools, trainings for teachers, a Discord server and a summer camp program all about supporting boys’ wellbeing and challenging gender-based violence.

We talk about:

• [4:05] How Jonathan got into this work, and why

• [6:50] The lack of emotional intimacy boys grow up feeling they can't have with each other

• [7:30] What's the man box

• [11:20] Why it’s so hard to be outside of the man box

• [15:55] How lack of emotional safety impacts boys and men

• [19:45] The good and bad environments that sports offer boys

• [22:50] Exposure to violence at a young age

• [26:20] Why it’s hard for boys and men to ask for help

• [28:45] What parents can do to keep their sons from being stuck in the man box

• [32:55] Grounding in curiosity

• [35:30] Encouraging boys to cry

• [43:00] One thing Jonathan wishes all parents knew about toxic masculinity

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein

• Wilderness-based summer rite of passage trips in Ontario and Alberta: https://nextgenmen.ca/expeditions 

• Online course on boys and masculinity for parents and educators: https://nextgenmen.ca/courses 

• Discord server for boys and masculine-exploring youth in Grades 7-9: https://nextgenmen.ca/club 

• Breaking the Boy Code podcast on the inner lives of boys: https://breakingtheboycode.com 

Connect with Jonathan

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nextgenmen/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boypodcast 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/nextgenmen

• Twitter:  https://twitter.com/boypodcast

• Facebook: http://facebook.com/nextgenmen 

• Podcast: https://breakingtheboycode.com/ 

• Website: https://nextgenmen.ca 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Domari Dickinson shares her journey from traditional parenting to peaceful (or conscious) parenting. We explore the challenges and complexities of this transformative process, discussing practical strategies for repairing relationships and implementing conscious parenting principles in larger families.

We also talk about decolonizing the family's microsystem, and how to create a nurturing and inclusive environment for children. Domari also discusses her experience with unschooling.

Domari Dickinson is a parenting coach and mom of four who helps moms identify and break toxic parenting patterns. After working as an educator and instructional coach for over 15 years, Domari decided to use her teaching and curriculum design skills to create programs that provide parents with clear, easy-to-implement techniques to become more positive, purposeful, and effective parents.

We talk about:

• [3:30] Conscious parenting vs. Peaceful parenting and how Domari got into this work

• [6:10] The tricky part of shifting from traditional parenting to conscious parenting 

• [8:35] What gave Domari the confidence to trust peaceful parenting 

• [12:00] Advice for parents who are also on their peaceful parenting journey

• [14:10] Acknowledging that we will mess up, and gain the tools to repair 

• [16:35] Conscious parenting in bigger families 

• [20:45] Carving out special time with each child 

• [23:10] Using scripts when dealing with difficult situations 

• [28:40] Helping parents navigate when they feel like what their child is upset about isn’t important 

• [30:45] Decolonizing the microsystem of the family

• [33:10] How and why Domari started unschooling 

• [37:10] Advice for her younger parent self

Through her parenting programs, workshops, online challenges, and 1-on-1 coaching, Domari has helped countless parents across the United States navigate the everyday challenges of life with kids using proven, research-based strategies. She is passionate about building a community of women who are committed to challenging popular parenting norms as they groom their kids for success in a loving, peaceful, and respectful home environment.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Positive and Purposeful Parenting Tips: https://positive-purposeful-parenting.ck.page/43118fd9eb

Connect with Domari

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/domaridickinson/

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/domaridickinson?lang=en

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domaridickinson

• Website: http://domaridickinson.com/collective/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Corey and I discuss our best tips for traveling with kids.

We know that traveling with our kids can be challenging, and there are tips and mindset hacks you can adopt and use in your own travel journeys. We cover meltdowns, setting expectations, routines, emotional backpacks, and more.

We talk about:

• [2:25] Acknowledging that traveling with children is really difficult 

• [4:05] Important mindset tips for traveling with kids 

• [8:10] Planning your trip and keeping your schedule loose

• [10:10] Letting your kids know what to expect and setting expectations

• [11:15] Expecting meltdowns 

• [13:40] How to make traveling with your kids more pleasant

• [23:50] Handling kids being out of their routine 

• [26:55] Helping them empty their emotional backpacks

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Lawrence Cohen joins me on the show to talk about how play and roughhousing can help you in your parenting.

We talk about everything from why we need to be playful, to aggression, to calming our kids down, and incorporating more fun and play into our days.

Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, is a psychologist and the author of Playful Parenting and The Opposite of Worry. His newest book is Unplug and Play: The Illustrated Guide to Roughhousing with Your Kids, co-authored with Anthony Debenedet.

We talk about:

• [5:50] How Lawrence got into this work, and about his new book

• [6:45] The importance of roughhousing 

• [8:15] How Lawrence became a more playful parent

• [11:15] Advice for parents who shy away from roughhousing and play

• [19:20] Having ‘personal agency’

• [21:20] Building self-determination of risk

• [25:45] The Knot of Tension concept

• [28:50] Handing unsavory behavior when it comes to play

• [35:00] Responding to aggression with playfulness

• [41:10] When ‘play’ turns aggressive 

• [45:50] Tips for getting play to stop

• [49:35] What to do when your kid swears 

• [54:20] Lawrence’s advice to his younger parent self 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• The Opposite of Worry by Lawrence Cohen: https://amzn.to/3LFgyLI

• Playful Parenting: https://amzn.to/427erpu

• Unplug and Play by Lawrence Cohen: https://amzn.to/3AJzByl

Connect with Lawrence

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Larrycohenplayfulparenting/

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/Larjack1

• Website: www.playfulparenting.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode, Samantha, mom of two boys aged four and five, shares her journey of transitioning from traditional parenting approaches to Peaceful Parenting. She talks about how she struggles with her older son, who is more intense and requires a different approach. 

Samantha talks about how hard it is for her to handle noise, conflict, sibling rivalry, and more.

We talk about:

• [4:10] Samantha’s trigger around ‘noise’

• [7:30] Handling rejection and being sensitive to language 

• [11:30] The difference between being sad and feeling sad

• [13:25] Sensory processing challenges

• [17:15] Navigating sibling rivalry alongside my online course

• [22:20] Letting kids cry and encouraging tears 

• [26:20] Biting during meltdowns and tips to navigate them

• [30:40] Using friends at school as teaching moments

• [31:55] ‘Twice exceptional’ kids

• [37:10] 3 week check in

• [42:20] Major epiphanies Samantha has had

• [47:20] Strategies to find self compassion 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• My Transform Your Family Life Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Oliver Levy joins me to talk about mindful parenting. Plus since he’s a sports coach and a sports dad, as well as a parenting coach, I asked him about the peaceful approach to kids and sports.

Oliver Levy is the Ceo and Founder of MPTK. He became a parenting coach in 2016. He became a retired yeller in 2017. He no longer yells or raises his voice at his children. He retired as a parent in 2019. He is now a mentor to his children. Both him and his wife are living their best lives as parents and they are just loving it. He has been married to his beautiful Queen Lisa since 2007. He has 3 children (ages 29, 14, & 11). 

Oliver has been there, in the same shoes as parents who struggled with temper tantrums, kids not listening, whining, sibling battles, co-parenting battles, teenager issues and more.  

We talk about:

• [4:10] The events that brought Oliver into this work

• [7:15] His wife’s ultimatum that changed the course of his parenting

• [8:35] Finding his way through his personal challenges to coaching parents

• [11:35] The 12 laws of mindful parenting

• [22:45] How to coach a kid who’s a bad sport

• [24:30] Finding the root cause to our behaviors as parents

• [28:15] How to use car rides to create open communication lines

• [34:05] Tips for coaching your own kids

• [37:30] How should kids be introduced to sports

• [42:35] When you feel like your kids should be in sports or on a team, even if they don’t want to be

• [46:00] How to handle your kids wanting to quit sports

• [53:20] Advice to his younger parent self 

The misbehaviors mentioned above caused him many challenges in his marriage. After having several meltdowns, and constantly yelling at home, he became determined to find a healthier, happier means of raising great kids without losing control. 

This was the catalyst for developing Mindful Parenting Tools. He immersed himself in the study and principles of Adlerian Psychology and several child psychologists and parenting experts. 

Oliver believes that trauma can affect kids when it comes to self-esteem, self-confidence, resilience, being respectful, taking responsibility and setting goals so they can create the life that they desire. He also believes that parents, teachers, sports coaches and other caregivers in the community must be equipped with modern-day parenting tools & strategies to avoid trauma in the home and in the community.

He is on a mission to equip 10 million parents with actionable steps so they too, can feel composed and confident when guiding their children to greater achievements with fewer frustration despite any past trauma.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• https://linktr.ee/Parentingtools 

Connect with Oliver

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MindfulParentingToolkit/

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/MindfulTool

• Website: www.mindfulparentingtoolkit.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Corey and I sit down for a joint episode about when your child has a preferred parent (or not).

We talk about various ideas for sparking connection within your family unit, the normalcy of primary and secondary attachment, taking turns at bedtime, tips for bedtime routines, understanding how it feels to be the preferred parent, the importance of play, and effective communication as partners, and so much more.

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We talk about:

• [4:20] Favorite ideas to help spark connection 

• [5:40] The normalcy with primary and secondary attachment 

• [8:25] Taking turns at bedtime 

• [11:20] Tips for working up to bedtime routines

• [13:50] What the non-preferred parent can remind themselves of 

• [17:20] How it feels to be the preferred parent

• [23:00] The importance of ‘play’ and including both the preferred and non-preferred parent

• [26:10] Communicating as partners 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Lynn Lyons joins me on the podcast to talk about anxiety and how it shows up in adults and in our parenting.

Lynn has been on the podcast twice before – be sure to check out the other two episodes linked below once you’re done listening to this one.

Our conversation today centers around her new book, The Anxiety Audit, and she gives us tangible tips to transform our relationship with anxiety starting today.

We talk about:

• [3:55] How Lynn got into this work

• [5:20] About Lynn’s new book: The Anxiety Audit

• [10:10] ‘Catastrophizing’ and its relation to anxiety

• [15:10] How to handle anxiety as the aftermath of the last few years

• [17:30] How to step out of anxious patterns

• [22:55] Is ‘worry’ the rehearsal for tragedy?

• [26:50] What to do instead of worrying?

• [30:45] Using ‘business’ to mask anxiety

• [34:55] Tips for reducing business and chaos 

• [37:50] Leveraging unstructured play

• [49:30] Lynn’s advice to her younger parent self

Lynn is a psychotherapist, author and speaker in Concord, New Hampshire. She has been in private practice for 28 years, and specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders in adults and children.

She travels globally as a speaker and trainer on the subject of anxiety, its role in families, and the need for a preventative approach at home and in schools.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Episode 35: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode35 

• Episode 45: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode45 

Connect with Lynn

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/LynnLyonsMSW

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPraoDm3VQl56hLah5DM4UA 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lynnlyonsanxiety/ 

• Website: https://www.amaze.org

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, I have two special guests to talk about puberty and the changes our kids experience during this time.

First up is Rachael E. Gibson, PhD, MPH, MS, MEd (she/her/ella), the Senior Program Manager of AMAZE Education at Advocates for Youth. Dr. Gibson is an AASECT Certified Sex Educator based in Miami, Florida and Cape Town, South Africa and has taught comprehensive sexuality education all over the U.S. and the world. 

Dr. Gibson talks about the specifics when it comes to puberty, the changes our kids go through on a physical, emotional and mental level, and how to help them navigate these changes as parents.

Our second guest is my teenage daughter, Maxine, who shares her experience getting her first period, going through puberty and having a ‘red party’. 

We talk about:

• [3:45] Defining 'puberty'

• [4:40] Average ages of puberty today 

• [5:30] Common challenges kids have when going through puberty and how can we best support them

• [8:10] How hormonal changes affect our kids’ emotions 

• [10:05] The social changes that come with puberty

• [13:20] Helping kids understand ‘am I normal?’

• [14:15] How we as parents can help our kids when they are getting unwanted attention

• [17:55] Tips for talking about puberty with your kids to prepare them

• [22:15] How to answer your kids’ puberty questions 

• [26:40] Celebrating ‘coming of age’ in different cultures

• [29:25] Rachel’s advice to her younger parent self 

• [31:25] From my daughter’s perspective: what to keep in mind if you're scared about your kid going into puberty

• [33:10] Are you worried your kids are going to turn into unrecognizable people?

• [34:20] Does Maxine remember first learning about puberty

• [37:20] ‘Red parties’ and why you should consider one

• [40:20] What made it easier for Maxine when getting her first period

Dr. Gibson has over 20 years of experience in the health and sexuality education field, and currently serves on the SHAPE National Health Education Council. Prior to joining the AFY/AMAZE team, Dr. Gibson was an Instructional Coach and Content Specialist in the NYC Department of Education, Office of School Wellness Programs. Dr. Gibson also spent 17 years as a secondary health education teacher in California and New York.

In addition to her work with AMAZE and AFY, she is an adjunct professor in Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies.  Dr. Gibson's research examines the interactions between teacher and learner identities. Her most current work titled Learner experiences of teacher gender: Associations among gender and comfort in the sexuality education classroom, offers recommendation for pre- and in-service teacher training that includes strategies for meeting the perceptions of students in affective and culturally responsive ways. 

Dr. Gibson holds a B.S. in Health Science from the University of Arizona, an MPH from California State University, Long Beach, a Master of Science in Educational Leadership from the City College of New York, and a MEd and PhD from Widener University’s Center for Human Sexuality Studies.  In her free time, she is an avid hiker, dancer, and traveler.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Dr. Gibson

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amazeparents

• Website: https://www.amaze.org

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

In this episode, we take a look inside my membership community, which is currently open for enrollment.

Our conversation is a beautiful example of the support, love, kindness and guidance that you will receive within this community. We focus specifically on the challenges we face as parents – from handling our ‘extra’ or ‘more’ kids, to grieving the parenting journey we thought we would have.

We talk about:

• [2:20] Introducing our parenting panel guests 

• [5:40] Realizing your parenting journey is not the experience you were expecting

• [10:15] The challenges that come with parenting kids who are ‘extra’ or ‘more’ 

• [20:40] Forgiving ourselves to the grief we feel 

• [26:15] Learning compassion for ourselves 

• [32:00] How our ‘extra’ kids show us how ‘extra’ we are

• [39:30] Adapting and healing within 

• [46:55] Advice for parents who feel alone in their parenting journey 

• [53:30] Learning how to see yourself from your kid’s eyes

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Hey y'all, I'm jumping in here today, which is not my usual day to be in your podcast feed because I have a couple questions for you…

How are things going with you in your parenting? Are you feeling calm and confident? Are you feeling connected to your kids? 

If the answer to that question is, ‘I think it could be better, I think I could feel more calm, more confident, and more connected...’

Then you should sign up for my free Peaceful Parenting Reset starting on Monday, April 10th. 

Every day, Monday through Friday, starting Monday, April 10th, I am going to be sending you an email with an assignment for the day – which only takes minutes to do. 

If you’d like to join us, you can by going to www.sarahrosensweet.com/reset 

If you're listening to this at a time when the reset has already passed, you can still sign up for the waitlist to be notified the next time we offer it.

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Tosha Schore joins me to talk about what to do when your child is aggressive.

Most of us have been there – kids fighting over toys, hitting, sibling rivalry, or anger that seems to come out of nowhere. How do you handle it? Is there an effective way to deal with it?

Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families. She is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting you to care for yourself, connect with your boy deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly! 

She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.

Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts your confidence so you’re better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys.

We talk about:

• [4:30] How Tosha got into this work

• [5:50] Why kids get aggressive

• [9:10] Meeting your child where they’re at

• [13:00] How to stop your child’s aggression

• [16:40] Common mistakes parents make when trying to end aggressive behavior

• [23:15] What to do when the aggression seems to be impulsive 

• [32:00] How to handle being fearful of your child hitting or hurting you

• [40:45] Sibling rivalry and aggression between siblings

• [48:35] Lashing out after breaking toys

• [51:15] How to know if you’re handling these situations correctly 

• [53:35] Figuring out our triggers 

• [57:25] When aggression comes out of nowhere

• [59:25] What Tosha would tell her younger parent self

Tosha is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including “Parenting Boys Peacefully: A 10-Day Reconnect,” an online group experience shared by over 15,000 parents worldwide. She is also a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges.” Tosha is also a frequent guest expert on podcasts and online and in-person conferences.

Oh! And if it makes you feel better, Tosha’s got some letters after her name…She holds a BA in Women’s Studies & Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics and a certificate in TESOL from UCLA, and is a certified trainer of instructors in Hand in Hand Parenting.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Membership: www.sarahrosensweet.com/membership 

Connect with Tosha

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toshaschoreyourpartnerinparentingboys

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ToshaSchoreYourPartnerInParenting

• Website: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, we’re answering how to handle when your child says ‘I hate you’.

Of course, when we’re on the receiving end of this, it can feel painful to hear, so how do we navigate it and what can we do about it?

This episode is inspired by my daughter, Maxine, who suggested I do this topic and share it with you. In fact, she joins me in the second half of the episode to share her perspective and what she wants parents to know.

We talk about:

• [1:30] Responding with ‘calm’

• [2:40] Reminding yourself what you're seeing is the "fight"

• [4:30] How to respond to the feeling that's driving the behavior

• [8:00] What to do when this is a trigger for you

• [11:20] Knowing that you're not alone

• [12:35] What my daughter Maxine thinks parents should know about this

• [15:20] The kind of reaction parents should have

• [17:10] How to not take offense 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode, Sarah Moore joins me on the podcast to talk about what story teaching is, and why it’s important to focus on ‘play’.

We also touch on consequences, and natural consequences, when it comes to peaceful discipline. 

We are also giving away a copy of Sarah’s new book. From March 22, 2023 to March 28, 2023, share a screenshot to your social media of you listening to this episode, tag me on either Facebook or Instagram, and be automatically entered to win.

Sarah R. Moore is the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior and founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting. 

As a Master Trainer in conscious parenting and Board Member for the American Society for the Positive Care of Children, she’s also a public speaker, armchair neuroscientist, and most importantly, a Mama. 

We talk about:

• [3:15] Sarah’s new book, Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior 

• [5:00] How trying improv can help parents

• [6:50] How natural consequences play out in the real world 

• [9:10] Our limbic system reactions 

• [16:50] Why kids are wired to play, and how that’s actually okay

• [25:35] What to do if you don’t ‘have time’ to be playful

• [27:50] How to use Story Teaching in peaceful parenting 

• [34:40] Can kids really learn without consequences?

• [40:50] Debunking the myth that peaceful parenting has no consequences 

• [44:00] What Sarah would tell her younger parent self

With training in child development, trauma recovery, interpersonal neurobiology, improv comedy and play, her work supports parents and caregivers around the globe. 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Book: Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior by Sarah Moore 

Connect with Sarah Moore

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dandelionseedspositiveliving/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DandelionSeedsPositiveParenting/

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/DandelionSeeds5

• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/dandelionseeds5/

• Website: https://dandelion-seeds.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode is a coaching call with Kate, the mom of 11-year-old James.

She initially reached out wanting some coaching around James’ tendency to be a bit socially anxious. As you’ll hear in our conversation, he was hesitant to talk to people in new situations and hesitant to speak out in class.

I coached Kate on some strategies that she could use to help James. When we have kids who are a little bit anxious or anxious at all, we as parents are the ones who are best situated to help them.

Be sure to stay until the end, as we check in with Kate two months later and hear how the strategies and suggestions went for her and James.

We talk about:

• [3:40] The challenges James is facing when interacting with others

• [6:30] Explaining the ‘worry brain’

• [7:45] Getting your way into the worry brain

• [8:50] Strategies to help kids understand the worry brain

• [13:00] Our anti-anxiety phrase and recognizing the signs of anxiety 

• [17:45] How to get ‘buy-in’ from our kids

• [19:00] Two-month check in

• [20:20] How James is coping today

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Record a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast

• Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

After school can be a very difficult time! Our kids have full emotional backpacks, they’re hungry and cranky- hello, meltdowns!

How can we set ourselves up for success so that this overwhelming time of day can feel a bit easier? Corey and I give our best tips and strategies to navigate after school routines with ease!

We talk about the important role mindset plays, tips for ‘transition times’, homework, and much more.

We talk about:

• [3:00] Getting yourself into the right mindset

• [6:25] The best roughhousing solutions when you’re in a pinch

• [9:05] Developing an emergency exit plan

• [11:00] Transitioning to dinner time when kids may not be hungry

• [15:35] Tips for making ‘walking out the door’ easier

• [18:50] Thoughts on screen time after school

• [25:20] How to fit homework into your after school routine

• [29:00] One big tip to be that calmer parent during your after school routine

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Record a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast

• Taking the Stress Out of Morning Routines: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode77 

• Bedtime Best Practices: www.sarahrosensweet.com/episode86 

• Grab our cheat sheet: www.sarahrosensweet.com/afterschool 

• Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff

• Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson    

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, Rosalia Rivera joins me to talk about teaching children about body safety, boundaries and consent.

One of the key takeaways from our conversation is the importance of empowering children with knowledge and tools to recognize and communicate boundaries. Parents can help their children understand the difference between safe and unsafe touch, and good touch/bad touch. 

When it comes to teaching children about consent, Rosalia suggests starting with modeling consent in everyday life. This can include asking for permission before giving a hug or sharing personal information. Additionally, parents can teach children about body literacy and the foundational blocks of sex ed in developmentally appropriate ways.

Balancing a child's natural curiosity with their safety is a delicate balance. Rosalia shares some strategies that can help parents strike this balance effectively. She also talks about the importance of reinforcing 'stranger danger' and building strong relationships with children.

Rosalia Rivera is a consent educator and child sexual abuse prevention specialist, sexual literacy advocate, TEDx speaker, Chair of SAGE (Survivor Advocates Globally Empowered) representing the BRAVE Movement, and the founder of CONSENTparenting™, the host of the AboutCONSENT™ podcast and creatrix of CONSENTwear™. She is also a CSA (child sexual abuse) survivor, turned thriver.

She helps busy parents go from fearful and anxious to confident and empowered, about teaching their kids about body safety, boundaries, and consent to prevent sexual abuse. 

We talk about:

• [3:10] How Rosalia helps parents teach their kids about body safety boundaries 

• [4:15] The greater risk for survivor parents when it comes to this work and having hard conversations with their kids

• [7:25] Where to start when it comes to teaching about consent

• [12:10] Teaching kids about body literacy and the foundational blocks of sex ed

• [12:50] The difference between safe and unsafe touch, and good touch/bad touch

• [16:05] Helping kids learn that they should never say yes to something that doesn't feel good for them

• [20:00] How to balance letting your child explore with also teaching concepts to keep them safe

• [21:30] The opportunity to reinforce 'stranger danger'

• [24:30] 'Grooming' signs and red flags 

• [29:55] Why kids with challenging relationships to their parents can often be easily targeted 

• [32:10] When would you explain what grooming is and what to be aware of

• [35:55] Rosalia's advice to her younger parent self

As a CSA survivor and parent, from a family of survivors, she discovered how triggering it was to learn about abuse prevention when it was time to educate her own kids once she became a mother. Determined to break the intergenerational cycle of abuse, Rosalia dedicated herself to her healing so she could overcome the anxiety and triggers that kept coming up when learning about abuse prevention so she could teach her kids. 

Rosalia is certified in the Canadian Centre for Child Protection® COMMIT TO KIDS® Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Training Program and is a Certified Facilitator of the Stewards Of Children® Training by Darkness to Light, as well as OnWatch™.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Private Part Safety Workshop: https://www.consentparenting.com/getting-started

Connect with Rosalia

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• On Twitter

• On LinkedIn

• https://aboutconsent.com/ 

• https://www.consentparenting.com/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, Mark and Kanae, parents of two sons, aged five and three, join me to talk about the challenges they face together as partners in their relationship.

I first met Mark through my Transform Your Family Life Online Course (www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse), which is now open for enrollment and starts on Wednesday, March 1st. If you are listening to this episode after that, you can always get on the waitlist to be notified the next time it opens. 

Learn how to transform your communication and your family life in this conversation with Mark and Kanae.

We go into:

• [5:30] The big transformation Peaceful Parenting brought Mark and Kanae 

• [11:15] The challenges Mark and Kanae are facing parenting as partners

• [13:30] Having a hard time being on the same page

• [18:15] Empathy and shame and how they go hand in hand

• [19:20] Challenging each other on not empathizing enough

• [25:30] Projecting our own fears and insecurities onto our parenting

• [28:50] Why being hard on your kids won't make them not do that "bad" behavior again

• [34:20] Breaking down old communication patterns in relationships

• [43:15] Knowing and understanding that your partner is always worthy and loveable

• [45:00] Acknowledging criticism and how partners should be supporting each other

• [50:30] Mark and Kanae’s check in

• [52:40] How diving into past stories and bringing them to the surface has transformed their parenting today

Resources mentioned in this episode

• FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Book coaching or a free consult: www.sarahrosensweet.com/coaching 

• Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Transform Your Family Life Online Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/parentingcourse 

• The Gardener and The Carpenter by Alison Gopnik: https://amzn.to/3YFnRXW

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call

I’m popping onto your podcast feed today to let you know I am hosting a *free* workshop on Wednesday, February 22 at 8pm EST -OR-  Friday, February 24 at 12pm EST.

It’s called Peaceful Discipline: How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Using Punishments and I would love for you to join me. 

You can go and sign up for free at www.sarahrosensweet.com/freeworkshop. 

If you can't make it live, I will have a replay available for you that you can watch later. If you’re there live, I will be answering all of your questions about discipline and how to get your kids to listen to you without using yelling, threats, bribes, punishment, all of those things that we don't want to use in peaceful parenting!

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram

• On Facebook

• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call