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Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and expert at turning Fear into Freedom. Helping people all over the world face their fears, get unstuck from the past, move past their limiting beliefs, and start living the lives they desire.
This show is for anyone who wants to learn more about practical psychology, achieving personal freedom, self-improvement, meditation, mindfulness practices, harnessing the power of intention, and real-life strategies for personal transformation.
Episodes feature expert interviews, discussions, Terri’s observations, listener Q&A, and how to apply practical strategies to create more freedom in all areas of your life.
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I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life!
Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be.
We talked about why self-worth needs to be in place to set healthy boundaries, why triggers are a gift and what we can learn from them, how to shift into empowerment and so much more.
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Are you a nice person?
Do you think it’s possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict?
In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it’s not great for your relationships.
In this episode, we’ll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness.
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I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation.
Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show.
During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his parents influenced his communication skills and style, the lessons he learned from them, as well as why direct communication is attractive, how to keep calm during tricky conversations, and so much more.
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Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today’s episode, I’m uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being there with all of you!
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I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement, on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives.
We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we're not 'supposed' to talk about as women!
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and are inspired to think about what shame you're holding and how you might acknowledge and honor it.
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I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand!
Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee.
She shares a ritual with us later in the conversation and also how her many varied life experiences brought her here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, and as a gift, if you head to puritycoffee.com/terricole and use code "terricole" you get 30% off your first order until May 15, 2025.
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How manipulatable are you?
When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not?
If not, or you’ve never heard of FOG, you’re in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I’m breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible.
Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists.
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I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too.
We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy's views on perfectionism, saying no and feeling scared, the freedom in saying "it's not for me," and the importance of being present. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you’re tolerating in life?
Whether it’s a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you’re putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.
So…what are you consistently putting up with that gets on your nerves or depletes you?
In this episode, we’re looking at what we’re tolerating in life– because we’re not always aware of the things we put up with that make us low-grade aggravated and drained.
I hope you’ll leave with more awareness around what you’re putting up with and feel inspired to stop settling and make changes for a more fulfilling life.
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Today I’m so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choices!
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How curious are you?
Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often?
Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it?
It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who enjoy questioning conventional wisdom, which I love.
Stoking curiosity also makes life more juicy and satisfying, which is why this episode is all about the different ways in which we can curate more of it.
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I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving.
Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand.
We talk about upper limit problems (self-sabotage) first, and then move into how to create epic relationships. Throughout the conversation, Gay shares invaluable wisdom from his own life. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Do you get offended if a date doesn’t immediately get back to you?
How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don’t?
When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you?
Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally?
In this episode, I’m sharing what the research says are the four dimensions of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood, breaking down the difference between having a victim mentality and being a victim, and giving you ideas on how you can shift from a victim mindset into a growth mindset.
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I am so excited to have my pal, award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, Tamsen Fadal, back on the show to celebrate her new book How To Menopause, which I had the honor of contributing to!
It has been amazing to watch Tamsen step into being a midlife mentor. She is truly leading the menopause movement we desperately need and I am here for it. I don't know about you, but it wasn't fun going through perimenopause and menopause with next to zero knowledge and no one publicly talking about it.
Tamsen shares how watching her mother go through menopause inspired her to cultivate a strong, shame-free community where women can talk about their menopause journeys. We’re all going to go through it. Why not empower ourselves and the next generations with more knowledge? I think that's exactly what How to Menopause will do. ❤️
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I am so excited to have Breeshia Wade, author of Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow, on the show to talk about fear of future loss and Elemental Grief™. She explains some ideas from the book: The way that fear of future loss has shaped society, and the responsibility that majority groups have to attend to their own feelings of fear so that they do not project those feelings onto members of oppressed minorities. Breeshia also shares her experience attending Stanford University as a Black student, and we chat about fear of future loss in our marriages.
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Does it often feel like life is a grind of checking off endless to-do lists, where you barely have a moment for yourself?
The emphasis on hustle culture in society has conditioned many of us to believe that rest and reward must be earned through hard work.
It’s no wonder "little treat culture," a trend on social media that encourages us to use small rewards to stay motivated, is exploding in popularity.
As a little treat gal for many years, I want to talk about the power of motivating yourself by using little treats throughout your day, the psychology behind why they work, and how treats can make life a little sweeter.
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I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes 🙌) This is an inspiring and feel-good episode you don't want to miss.
You’re a fly on the wall for this girlfriend jam– We share our experiences with empowering ourselves with boundaries to end high-functioning codependency, why how we talk to ourselves matters, and how Sabrina manifested her new show and soulmate!
Remember, tune into The Sabrina Soto Show (Hulu, Amazon, Roku, Tubi, Dish, Plex, etc.) and DM Sabrina to let her know you watched it!
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Have you ever lost someone close to you?
Or do you worry about the people you love dying?
Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying.
Whether you’re actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sharing my experience and what I’ve learned will help you feel more prepared.
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On today’s episode, I’ve invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than reacting, and making space to listen to others when they are overwhelmed with emotion rather than matching their energy. Plus, Diego shares his origin story and his own biggest boundary struggle!
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Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before?
If you haven’t, does it sound like it’s all about sex?
Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that’s kind of what I thought.
Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was in Costa Rica and who would say no to that?
I was surprised to learn erotic intelligence is actually about feeling alive and energized in your life, and I walked away with a renewed sense of vitality.
In this episode, I’ll share what I learned during the retreat as well as the questions and exercises we walked through to help raise your awareness around erotic intelligence. By the end, I hope you’ll feel similarly lit up about life.
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Becoming a mother at 18 turned Heather from a self-described under-achiever into a high-functioning codependent. Receiving a stage 4 cancer diagnosis at 28 was the wake-up call that reminded her to live for herself. Heather shares her story, tells how she learned the role of internal resistance in positive change, and gives you tips that will help you take back control when you feel like you just don’t have enough time.
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How are you actually doing in this turbulent world we're living in right now?
If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or ungrounded, you're not alone. The constant barrage of negative news, social media alerts, and global uncertainty can take a serious toll on our mental and emotional well-being.
The good news? You are more resilient than you think. But being proactive about protecting your peace isn't just nice to have – it's essential for navigating these challenging times.
In this week's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I'm sharing practical techniques to soothe your nervous system and ground yourself, even during the most turbulent times. Plus, I've created a special guided meditation that you can download and use whenever you need a few minutes of calm.
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Today I’m sharing a chat with Karena Dawn, a second-time guest on the show! Since we spoke last, she’s been hard at work writing as well as continuing to develop a platform around wellness and mental health awareness. We chat about her new memoir The Big Silence, in which she shares the story of how she and her family coped with her mother’s schizophrenia during a time when people struggled to discuss mental health openly. Plus, she tells us the secret to building a successful community which can become a successful brand.
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Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)?
Are both you and your partner HFCs?
In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC.
Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware of (and perhaps annoyed by) their behavior.
If you can relate, this episode is for you because I’m talking about the dynamics of high-functioning codependency in relationships, how I’ve managed this in my marriage, and steps you can take to stay on your side of the street while shifting this dynamic into a healthier space.
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Today’s guest has brought optimism and mindfulness to the interior design and DIY space like nobody else I know! I chat with Meaghan about how she got into decorating, writing, and editing– and how she maintains the pragmatic, positive mindset that helps her navigate her success. Plus: How parenting can offer special challenges and lessons for high-functioning codependents like Meaghan and I.
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Is flaking - canceling at the last second - the new self-care?
It seems to be on the rise and according to an article in The Guardian, the answer for some people is yes.
I disagree.
Flaking is avoidable with healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, and there are many self-care practices we can do that don’t involve regularly canceling on others.
In this episode, I share my thoughts on flaking, explore the nuances of having the right to change our minds (which I stand by), and detail steps to take for actual self-care in your life.
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Jen Kem has spent her career marketing for some of the biggest corporate and personal brands–and today, she’s sharing some tips to help you launch your next big idea! We chat about how Jen’s leadership types model can help you construct the team that will help you reach your goals, how structure can help you let go of team members when they no longer serve you in a new season of your career, and Jen’s childhood being told that women needed to be everything at once.
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Are you considered “successful” by societal standards, but can’t enjoy your success because you’re busy moving on to whatever’s next?
Or do you constantly feel behind, like you could be doing more?
Have you checked all the ‘big’ boxes in life (degree, career, love, stuff), but still feel unfulfilled or uninspired by what you’ve achieved?
If you answered yes, this episode is for you because I am talking about the power of redefining success for less burnout, especially for high-functioning codependents (HFCs). I’m also giving you real-life examples of how our stories about success can lead us astray and practical steps to take to clarify what success means to you.
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I first found Dr. Bryant on Instagram, where her approachable wisdom about partnerships reeled me in. Today, I’m sharing it with all of you! This conversation is a real talk about why we sometimes seek relationships where people need us instead of want us and overcoming the urge to control everything instead of co-creating with a partner. Plus, we chat about when to cut someone out and when continuing to improve your 50% of the relationship might be a viable choice.
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How do you feel about Valentine’s Day?
Do you often find yourself disappointed? Does it make you feel alone and down?
Does your partner forget about it, even though you ask to make plans? Do they give you gifts that feel hollow?
Whether you’re single or partnered, I invite you to put a self-consideration spin on Valentine’s Day with my favorite three-step self-love ritual. All the steps are below along with tips on how to avoid disappointment on the day.
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Some say you should never talk about politics, religion, or money in polite company – But today’s guest doesn’t agree! On today’s episode, Marianne Williamson contextualizes Christianity and Christ to offer insight into modern challenges: Personal hardships, disconnection from others, and even the growing polarization of the political climate. She offers a perspective that harmonizes Christianity with other religious and spiritual ideologies that can guide us to cultivate healthy minds. Plus, Marianne shares the human moments that bring her joy despite her concern about world events.
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Is setting boundaries intimidating because you worry that people will get mad or abandon you if you do?
Do you avoid telling the truth or setting limits out of fear?
Or do you people-please to keep the peace and avoid rejection?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about how fear of rejection is the common root of many of our self-abandoning behaviors, what this fear costs us, and steps you can take to overcome it.
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Today I have the pleasure of sharing a chat with my long-time friend and repeat guest Christine Hassler. She shares the incredible story of how she pursued a healthy, mature partnership– And how you can also call that love into your life if you want to be partnered and you’re not. We also chat about ways to self-regulate and soothe your immune system and how to seek love from a mindset of growth rather than suffering or lack.
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Do you reluctantly agree to things you’d rather not do because you don’t know how to say no?
When you’re annoyed about something, do you say everything is FINE rather than saying what’s bothering you?
Do you also tend to judge someone if they don’t pick up on how you really feel?
In these situations, there’s an expectation that people will intuit our true emotions from the clues we drop.
However, relying on indirect communication can cause stress and resentment in our relationships because how we feel isn’t always apparent to others, even if we feel like it is.
The solution is authentic and direct communication, which is usually less comfortable, and why we often act rather than talk things out!
I want to empower you to choose to talk and assert your needs, which is what this episode is about. I’ll cover why we find it hard to speak our minds, why we may find it easier to judge and blame others, and ideas for being more authentic in our communication.
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Today I’m chatting with Jillian Turecki about her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. She shares how acceptance and shared vision for the future can help you create a lasting love, how to tell if your partner isn’t right for you, and some hard truths that will help you get unstuck in love and life. Plus, she answers a question that could change how you approach dating: In order to love someone in a healthy way, do you need to love yourself first?
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Are you overly invested in the feeling states, situations, careers, circumstances, and relationships of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own internal peace?
So invested, that setting and maintaining boundaries feels selfish or impossible?
If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you. I’m looking at the Boundary Boss Bill of Rights from my first book, but through the lens of high-functioning codependency because that’s what my newest book, Too Much, is all about!
For high-functioning codependents (HFCs) who are used to giving, setting boundaries can be challenging, but they’re essential to our relationships. These boundary rights can serve as transformative tools for breaking free from the cycle of over-giving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so prevalent in HFCs.
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Today John and I are doing something new for the show– We’re both interviewing each other for our own podcasts, at the same time! We jam on how breakups create the perfect conditions for reflection, how high-functioning codependency interferes with healthy relationships, and the ultimate purpose of love. Plus, I share some details about how I turned to the web to help more people over a decade ago!
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Are you tired of being the one doing all the things for all the people?
Are you the point person for everything in your family life?
Does it feel like you’re the only one who can reliably get things done?
Then this episode is for you because I am talking about a common relational dynamic I see in high-functioning codependents (HFCs): how one person over-functioning causes the other to under-function.
To illustrate this dynamic, I’m sharing an excerpt and case study from my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. You’ll learn how this dynamic impacts us, examples of how it shows up in our relationships, and how you can stop over-functioning.
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Today, I’m sharing a chat with Katie Bramlett about her perfectionism, self-acceptance, and rejecting messages from society that harm our mental wellness. She tells us how questioning the toxic nature of the fitness industry led her to co-found WeShape, a fitness app focused on emotional safety and self-acceptance. Plus, how listening to and reconnecting with your body can help your mental health!
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How do you relate to time?
Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others?
If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!)
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On today’s episode, I’m chatting with Andrea Owen to explore the journey of self-discovery, the nuances of personal growth, and the vital role of vulnerability in relationships. Andrea shares how the re-release of her book, 52 Ways to Life a Kick-Ass Life, addresses personal growth, toxic positivity, and the role of shame in our unwanted behavior patterns. Plus, she tells us how we can use genuine vulnerability to get the help and connection we need!
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Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.
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On today’s episode, I’m so stoked to talk to Dr. Sara Gottfried, a medical doctor and hormone expert whose work I really connect with. We talk about one of my favorite subjects: The gender gap in healthcare and how we can help women navigate big hormonal changes like menopause. She also shares a more holistic and effective perspective on treatment for autoimmune disease, and tells us about her own personal boundary struggles!
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Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.
In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.
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Today, I’m sharing a chat with my new-old friend Britt Frank– We met so recently, but it feels like we’ve known each other forever!
We talk about getting unstuck, the importance of mind-body connection in personal growth, and how anxiety can act as a map for navigating stuckness.
Plus, Britt shares some tips and tools for overcoming fear and doubt from her new Getting Unstuck Workbook.
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When you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news, what do you do to help yourself feel better?
Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.
In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit.
Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing!
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How much anxiety and fear are you walking around with on a daily basis?
If you struggle with worry, fear, or anxiety consistently thrumming in the backdrop of your mind, it is worth it for you to take a look at where the roots of these thought patterns lie.
In this episode, you’ll learn simple shifts you can make to better manage anxiety so you can have less stress and more joy in your life!
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I am thrilled to welcome my pal, author, podcaster, and teacher, Cathy Heller, to the show to talk about her new book, Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease, because who doesn't want that?!
We talk about creating what you want and the resistance we feel toward that, abundance, being afraid and putting things out in the world anyway, our inherent oneness, and feeling unworthy of ease and prosperity.
Cathy breaks all of this down in an accessible and practical way, and I know many of you will resonate with what she shares here.
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I am so excited to have my new pal, Cheryl Burke, on the show to talk all about why she's passionate about mental health and what got her here.
You might be familiar with Cheryl if you're a Dancing With the Stars fan, as she appeared on 26 seasons of the show and retired two years ago.
In this conversation, she shares beautifully and candidly about the difficulties of her career, the freedom she's found in being single, and what she has learned in her six years of sobriety.
This was such a heartfelt (new) girlfriend jam and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
*TW: sexual abuse and abuse in relationships is mentioned throughout the conversation. Please skip if these are sensitive topics for you!*
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Do you find yourself doomscrolling more than ever?
Does the news of what’s happening in the world negatively impact your mental state?
Do you focus more on what’s wrong, making you feel like nothing is right?
Whether you’re looking at the whole world or your corner of it, if the answer is yes, this episode is for you.
I’m talking all about the transformative power of gratitude, how it can impact what happens in your life, and some strategies you can use to create more of it.
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I am so excited to welcome psychotherapist and author Israa Nasir to the show to talk about her new book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More. If you're a high-functioning codependent, tune in, because I think we tend to struggle with this!
Israa shares practical strategies we can use to stop feeling like we need to do it all. We also touch on what healthy productivity looks like, signs you might be falling into toxic productivity, the dangers of running on autopilot, and feeling like you have to prove yourself.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Do your friendships feel unbalanced?
Are certain friendships draining?
Do your friends disrespect or trample on your boundaries?
Or do your friends bring you down rather than lift you up?
If the answer is yes, this episode is for you because it’s all about assessing friendships: why we stay in unhealthy dynamics, what unhealthy friendships look like, and how to figure out what you want from friendships and what you can change.
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Have financial boundaries been hard for you?
Do you tend to spend more than you make?
Does "budgeting" sound unappealing?
Then you're in the right place, because I am talking with Jill Sirianni, co-author of Buy What You Love Without Going Broke: Transform Your Spending and Get More of What Money Can’t Buy and co-host of the @FrugalFriends podcast.
The book is all about connecting with your values and ensuring your financial life aligns with them. Jill is also a licensed clinical social worker and speaks to how finances affect ALL areas of our life.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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When something good happens for you, do you ever think, “Wow, I hope I don't get found out!” or, “I don’t deserve this”?
Do you start doubting yourself? Do you think it must have been a mistake?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about imposter syndrome, how to navigate it, and how to boost your confidence.
Imposter syndrome is fresh in my mind as I ran into it writing my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to High-Functioning Codependency. I hope hearing about my experience can normalize it for you and give you some ideas on how to deal with it.
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When something good happens for you, do you ever think, “Wow, I hope I don't get found out!” or, “I don’t deserve this”?
Do you start doubting yourself? Do you think it must have been a mistake?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about imposter syndrome, how to navigate it, and how to boost your confidence.
Imposter syndrome is fresh in my mind as I ran into it writing my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to High-Functioning Codependency. I hope hearing about my experience can normalize it for you and give you some ideas on how to deal with it.
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Do you ever get so close to achieving a goal, and then something stops you from achieving it?
Do you find yourself getting in your own way and self-sabotaging?
Then you'll want to tune in because I have Dr. Sophie Mort on the show talking about her newest book, (Un)Stuck: Five Steps to Break Bad Habits and Get Out of Your Own Way, which I think we could all use!
We talk about all the ways you can get unstuck and shift from feeling disempowered to empowered, the reasons why changing habits is hard, the compulsion to repeat our past, and the drama triangle (which can explain a lot about the ways we relate to others).
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Do you feel heard in your relationships with your spouse, kids, colleagues, friends, and family?
Do you find you get the results you’re seeking when talking to people?
Do you feel understood?
If the answer is no or sometimes, this episode is for you. I’m covering what effective communication is, what it looks like, how to get better at it, and giving you scripts to use to be more accurately understood.
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I am so excited to share this conversation about building epic love with my pal, psychiatrist and relationship expert Dr. Ish Major.
We met at the Real Love Ready Relationship Summit in Vancouver only to realize we were both heading to LA after to the set of Nick Cannon's Counsel Culture.
We talk about how Dr. Ish's interest in psychology came to be and how his childhood experiences impacted him, and then the conversation turns to codependency in relationships.
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Dr. ish says he was a "card carrying captain of team codependence" for the first 40 years of his life, which I think a lot of us can relate to! He shares the lessons he learned and he offers so much wisdom in really simple, accessible terms. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Are there people in your life who are conflict connoisseurs? People who really love stirring the pot, who are addicted to drama?
In response to you being upset, these types of people might rile you up or suggest you should be angrier rather than talking you off a ledge.
I know many of you are not into stirring the pot but find yourselves with high conflict lovers in your life, which can be stressful. That’s why I’m talking about high conflict versus healthy conflict, how to identify high-conflict people and protect yourself from them, and steps for more constructive ways to manage conflict.
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I am thrilled to have Dr. Mindy Pelz back on the show in celebration of her new book, _Eat Like A Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat._ Who doesn't want that?!
Dr. Mindy and I talk about everything from why we struggle to lose weight with age, our philosophies on aging, how to eat for the stage of life you're in, and how to produce GLP-1 hormones naturally within your own body.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Are there couples who make you think, what do they know about love that I don’t? How do they do it?
Or do you see couples on TV and wonder, how can I get that kind of love? Where can I even find it?
If so, this episode is for you because I am sharing reflections from 25 years of marriage (I can’t believe it!) to my one and only, Vic, about how we’ve kept it good, and how to apply these lessons to your relationships.
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I am so excited to welcome my pal Tamsen Fadal back to the show to talk about her new documentary, The M Factor: Shredding the Silence On Menopause. It's available to stream right now on PBS!
Tamsen is an award-winning news anchor and menopause advocate, and she combined her skills and passion to create this amazing documentary.
During our conversation, Tamsen and I talk about our experiences with perimenopause and menopause, the lesser-known symptoms many women have, how the documentary came about, the hope Tamsen has for how it will impact the healthcare we receive as women, and so much more.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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How do you react to seeing a friend, sibling, or partner having a rough time?
Not how do you respond, but how do you react?
Do you immediately jump to share ideas or thoughts to try to fix their problem?
Or do you inadvertently invalidate their feelings by saying, “Hey, it’s not so bad. It’ll be better tomorrow”?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking about the transformative power of learning to sit with emotional discomfort, why you may feel compelled to avoid it by taking action, and what you can do instead.
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I am so excited to welcome Emily Sadri to the show to talk all things perimenopause! She's a Board Certified Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, Certified Nurse Midwife, and hormone expert who's helped thousands of women through this journey.
Emily is amazing at breaking down complex topics and making them accessible, and we got into the weeds on weight loss, insomnia, and how and why the loss of estrogen affects us so deeply.
If you want more info, join the summit for free! I'll be speaking there: https://perimenopauserevolution.com/?orid=16
North American Menopause Society: https://www.menopause.org/ (referenced during the interview)
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Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships?
Are you a people pleaser who prioritizes others above yourself?
Do you look outside yourself for validation?
If you answered yes and you’re tired of these relational dynamics, you’re in the right place because I’m talking all about self-abandonment: what it is, why we do it, the signs, and how you can move into self-consideration instead.
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I am so thrilled to have my pal, embodiment expert and author Elizabeth DiAlto, back on the show!
We talked about Elizabeth's new fiction book, Dark Healing, and why she wrote it, as well as the differences between being triggered and activated, how embodiment can help us get out of our minds and into our body, the spiritual aspect of embodiment, and so much more.
I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did!
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How do you feel about asking others for help?
Are you good at it, or do you avoid it because you don’t want to ‘owe’ anybody anything?
Do you find it difficult to believe other people will show up for you the way you show up for them?
Or does being vulnerable scare you?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about hyper-independence: what it is, why it matters, what causes us to act this way, signs to help you identify whether this is you, and how to shift into healthy independence and interdependence.
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I am so excited to welcome my science girl crush, Leah Elson, to the show to talk about a variety of things: her book, There Are No Stupid Questions in Science, why she's so passionate about being a public science communicator, her pivot from sportscasting into this field, and how she is working to give herself more grace and place less pressure on herself.
If you're a fellow high-functioning codependent, I really think this is one you'll relate to!
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Do you believe that setting boundaries means being confrontational?
Do you wish you knew how to cut someone off nicely, especially if it involves a professional relationship?
Are you tired of confiding in others only for them to make your own pain into something about them?
Or have you wondered if it’s ever okay to “jump in and fix things” for someone who is struggling?
These are just some questions I’m answering about boundaries and high-functioning codependency in this episode. Let’s dive in.
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I am so excited to have my pal, best-selling author and speaking expert, Ashley Stahl back on the show to talk all things public speaking!
Whether you want to give keynote speeches, give a presentation at work, or pitch a crucial project, Ashley's tips will help you shine. We talked about the aspects of viral speeches, from the title to the opening and structure, as well as stage presence and the power of pausing.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Does it feel like if you don’t fix problems or move things forward, no one will?
Do you feel overly responsible, like everything will fall apart if you don’t do all the things?
Do you just find yourself saying, “It's just faster/easier/more efficient if I do it myself”?
If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I am talking about the five traits of high-functioning codependency (HFC), the cycle of codependency I often see my clients go through, and how to shift from over-doing and over-giving into more balance and less exhaustion.
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I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler, to the show to talk about his new workbook, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love.
Unresolved grief is so common, and I love the way David makes this topic so accessible. During this conversation, we talk about ALL kinds of grief, because it's not just about losing someone you love. It's also about endings and abrupt changes.
David is such a kind soul and no matter what loss you've experienced, I think you'll find comfort and hope in his message.
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Do you automatically accommodate others because it’s the “nice” thing to do?
Do you consistently overthink how your actions will impact others?
Are you always on the lookout for how you can help people or solve problems?
If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between codependent, caring, or controlling behavior, this episode is for you.
I’m breaking down the distinction by discussing a little-known aspect of codependency, sharing real-life examples to clarify, and providing tips on how to shift from codependency to healthy giving.
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I am so thrilled to welcome Hospice Nurse Julie to the show to talk to us all about end-of-life care: what to expect, what actively dying looks like, why it's so important to normalize discussing death, and what inspired Julie to start posting on TikTok and write her book, Nothing to Fear: Demystifying Death to Live More Fully.
If you're afraid of dying, or even thinking about death, this conversation might just be the one you need to hear. Julie's content went viral on TikTok just after 4 days which speaks to the need for education around death and dying. And getting educated often reduces our fear around it, so I hope you enjoy this conversation with Julie as much as I did.
CW: a large portion of this conversation focuses on death and dying, and Julie talks about what actively dying looks like at the 22 minute mark. If you're sensitive to this, please consider skipping that section or this conversation.
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Do you find it hard to open up to people, especially when you’re struggling?
Is it hard for you to ask for or allow help?
Have you ever had a crisis where you kept what was happening to yourself because you didn’t want to worry anyone?
If you’re nodding yes, today’s video is for you because I’m sharing the high-functioning codependent (HFC) behaviors I noticed in myself as I navigated a recent health scare.
I’m also talking about the hidden cost of not asking for help.
By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to care for your health and let other people show up for you.
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I am so excited to have my pal and one half of The Astrotwins, Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about her and Tali's new book, The Astrology Advantage: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success.
It’s a new way of looking at your birth chart to figure out which archetype you are: Innovator, Authority, or Maven. Ophira dives into what each type does best (we're both Innovators!) and how she and Tali created it.
We also talk about how Ophira got into astrology, how she got me into it, and how it can be a useful tool in your life.
I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did!
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Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin?
Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them?
Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing?
Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family.
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I am so excited to welcome my new pal, author Najwa Zebian, to the show to talk about her newest book, The Only Constant: A Guide to Embracing Change and Leading an Authentic Life.
We cover so much, from feeling like an outsider to setting boundaries with friends (and social media followers), to navigating change that we didn't choose and how to come into acceptance, and so much more.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Did you grow up with emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers?
Do you identify with having a father or mother wound?
Do you feel unlovable or undeserving of love?
When our emotional needs go unmet in childhood, it often leaves a lasting impression on how worthy we think we are.
Reparenting can help.
In this episode, I’m sharing examples of reparenting, why and how it can help us heal childhood wounds and practical strategies you can use to begin reparenting yourself today.
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I am so excited to welcome my wise pal, Vanessa Cornell, to the show to share her story of breaking down to break through. Vanessa had everything she could have ever dreamed of - a loving husband, five children, abundance and success - and yet, she felt trapped in a crushing and debilitating loneliness. (I'm sure many of you can relate!)
We also talked about how to navigate mom guilt (and why it's really fear in disguise), how high-functioning codependency shows up in motherhood, how we're taught to be in the world and why it causes rage and resentment later on, and so much more.
I hope you enjoy this heartfelt girlfriend jam as much as I did.
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P.S. - Grab Vanessa's free gift at nushu.com/terri
Do you endlessly think about the mistakes you’ve made?
Do you replay the scene and ruminate over what you could have or should have done differently?
Are you filled with regret, worried you’ll make the same mistake again?
If so, you’re not alone.
But living in regret is living in the past, which isn’t empowering. What is healing and empowering is to work through our regrets and learn from them to make better decisions in the future.
In this episode, I’m sharing a different perspective on regret which may lessen feelings of shame, the four types of regret (from behavioral scientist Daniel Pink), and how to move on from endless rumination.
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I am super excited to welcome my new pal, Jessica Zweig, to the show to talk about her newest book, THE LIGHT WORK: Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth, Illuminate the World.
While Jessica is most known for her work as a brand expert and entrepreneur, she is here to talk about her journey into the dark to find the light.
We had such a beautiful, soulful, and nourishing conversation around Jessica's burn out, coming back to ourselves, navigating the shame we often feel around "failure," redefining success, AND how embracing the feminine helps us succeed.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are?
Do you feel like you’ve grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates?
Or do you wish you had black-and-white signs telling you to stay or go?
If you feel torn over whether it’s time to end your relationship, this episode is for you.
I’m giving you questions to determine if it’s time to leave as well as ways to break through confusion to get to the truth of how you feel and what comes next.
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I am so excited to have my new pal, Michelle Demaree, on the show to talk about how she changed her life after getting divorced.
Her story is one of self-actualization, self-love, and perseverance. It illustrates the power of investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with women who will cheer you on and lift you up when times are tough.
Michelle is also the founder and CEO of Miss Diamond Ring, where she offers bespoke concierge service for those looking for the perfect, meaningful ring to honor their love story.
I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.
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Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why?
Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers?
Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people?
All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past.
Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships.
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I am so thrilled to have family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman on the show. I had the pleasure of meeting him on the set of a TV show we were invited to do and on my way there, I listened to his book, Rules of Estrangement, and I think you'll love it.
I invited Dr. Coleman on to talk further about it because cutting contact with parents is something many of you have painfully decided to do, and Dr. Coleman shares his wisdom *and* personal experience with us here.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Have you experienced a major relational trauma that made you less trusting?
Are you reluctant to trust people because you are unsure you can trust yourself to avoid making similar mistakes again?
Or do you find it easier to be alone?
Many of you have told me you can’t trust anyone anymore, which is why this episode covers a six-step strategic process for learning to trust others and yourself again.
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I am so happy to welcome my pal, life coach and media expert Susie Moore, to the show to tell us about the power of sharing our stories.
This isn't just for entrepreneurs or business owners. This is for anyone looking to make a difference in the lives of others.
Susie shares specific tips to help you pitch your stories to media outlets successfully, so you can reach more folks.
And if you want to learn more, sign up for our free workshop on July 24 at 12 pm Eastern: getrockstarpr.com/terri
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Are you someone who proudly proclaims they never get angry?
Does anger feel unsafe and uncomfortable for you?
Or do you tend to bottle up your anger until you explode, leaving you feeling guilty and wanting to take everything back?
If you’re raising your hand, you’re not alone. I struggled with my own anger for many years.
But denying our anger intentionally or not doesn’t make it magically disappear, which is why I am covering 10 signs you might be suppressing or repressing your anger, six common ways anger presents, and tips on how to acknowledge, honor, process, and integrate your anger.
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I am so excited to finally welcome Jeff Guenther (better known as TherapyJeff on social) to the show to talk about his new book, Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self.
We talk about dating in the modern world, how it's shifting, what trends Jeff is seeing in his practice, our best tips for lasting relationships, and also what it's like to try and date when you’re a bit of an internet celebrity!
There was a lot of laughter in this conversation and I hope you enjoy Jeff's humor (and wisdom) as much as I did.
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Does finding the right therapist feel overwhelming?
Are you worried you might end up with the wrong therapist or a therapist you don’t click with?
Or have you had bad experiences with therapists in the past?
If you want to try therapy but don’t know how to find a good fit, this episode is for you. I am sharing a four-step process to find the right therapist because you deserve to get the help you need. ❤️
(If you are in urgent need of help, please refer to this page for free mental health resources, hotlines, and online chats.)
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I am so excited to welcome world-renowned health expert on female-centric healthcare, Dr. Stephanie Estima, to the show! We're talking all about optimal health and hormones, discussing the changes we typically see as we move into perimenopause and menopause, and finding out how we can navigate them.
Dr. Stephanie also shares her philosophy on health and wellness as a healthcare provider, how we might want to think about second opinions, and why perimenopause is something to be celebrated.
I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!
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What does living your best life look like for you?
How would you spend your time?
What habits would you have or not have?
What's stopping you from living this version of yourself?
There are many reasons, conscious and unconscious, that we stay stuck in unhealthy, limiting, or unsatisfying behaviors.
In this episode, I break down some of those reasons and share questions you can use to identify where you might be self-sabotaging and why. With this awareness, you can make different choices and begin living your ideal life.
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I am so happy to welcome author and wellness expert, Yasmine Cheyenne, back on the show to talk about her new book, Wisdom of the Path: The Beautiful and Bumpy Ride to Healing and Trusting Our Inner Guide.
Yasmine shares her inspiration for writing this book (something I think many of you will relate to!), and we also talk about our creative practices, self-care (as recovering perfectionists), and so much more.
What I love about Yasmine's teachings is that she's focused on making healing easily accessible. I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did.
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How do you feel about aging?
Are you afraid of getting older, or are you embracing it?
Do you struggle with how your body is changing?
I’ve spent the last ten years exploring my feelings and thoughts on aging both in and out of therapy, and in this episode, I’m sharing those thoughts and reflections with you.
I’ll talk about how I practice self-acceptance and compassion and share my best tips on how you can take care of your future self.
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Do you ever feel like at some point, you lost your sense of self?
That’s what my pal, acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author, Christina Rasmussen, is back on the show to talk about. She just published her newest book, Invisible Loss: Recognizing and Healing the Unacknowledged Heartbreak of Everyday Grief.
Christina describes invisible loss as unacknowledged and unvalidated. She says it comes from "a moment of impact, an emotional punch, when we feel rejected, disregarded, thrown away, isolated." It is a phantom loss, one we cannot even see within ourselves.
In this conversation, Christina takes us through the process of identifying these losses and how to work through them, because almost everyone struggles with invisible loss at least once in their lives.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Are you the go-to person for your friends, colleagues, and family?
Do you over-give, over-function, over-feel, or put other people’s needs above your own?
Do you sometimes say “yes” when you want to say “no” to avoid conflict?
Or are you in the healing arts?
I know many of you are natural-born healers who struggle to balance it all without burning out. I’ve been there, too.
In this episode, I share how being a healer impacts our ability to have healthy boundaries and how to identify if you’re a high-functioning codependent (many healers are!). Raising your awareness around these behaviors will help you avoid burning out.
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I am so happy to welcome back a frequent guest of the show, Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert on narcissism and codependency, and he's here to tell us about his amazing new book, Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Already Broken, which also helps raise awareness around what codependency actually is, why codependents tend to end up with narcissists, and what you can do about it.
One brilliant takeaway: codependency is an addiction.
I always enjoy talking with Ross because he speaks from personal and professional experience, and he brings new observations and thoughts from the field into the fold.
What he offers is hope, something many of those in these toxic relationships need, so I hope you enjoy what Ross shares with us as much as I did.
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Do you ever stand in the card aisle around Father’s Day, endlessly searching for a card that doesn’t exist because none of the cards on the shelf accurately describe your relationship with your father?
This used to be me.
Growing up, all the cards I saw said, You’re the most amazing father ever! You were always there for me! You did everything right!
None of these messages felt right. They didn’t capture my feelings toward or my reality with my father.
If Father’s Day is painful for you, you’re not alone. There are ways you can grieve, mourn, and honor the complex emotions this day evokes, which I share in this episode.
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I am so excited to have fellow therapist Todd Baratz on the show to talk about his new book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind: Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real. You might know Todd on Instagram as @yourdiagnonsense, which is how I came across his amazing work.
Todd wrote this book for anyone feeling stuck in their relationship, and it was inspired by his own relationship struggles. As we mention in the interview, just because we're therapists doesn't mean we have it all figured out!
We cover a range of topics, from what inspired Todd to write this book and become a therapist specializing in sex, to the importance of differentiation in long-term relationships and intergenerational trauma.
I hope you enjoy this therapist jam as much as I did.
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Do you think father wounds are obvious?
That you can only have a father wound if you had a ‘difficult’ father?
Or do you think successful women can’t have father wounds?
There is a lot of misinformation about the father wound online, from what causes one to how it impacts us.
In this episode, I set the record straight by sharing the top six father wound myths I’ve encountered and the truth behind each.
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I am so excited to welcome my new pal and expert on narcissism, Dr. Les Carter (known as Dr. C) to the show to talk about the traits of narcissists.
Dr. C walks us through the 8 questions narcissists can't answer and why, and it is incredibly illuminating. We talk about the inability of narcissists to be vulnerable, respect differences, manage conflict healthily, consider other opinions, and their need to be in control.
Dr. C also shares his definition of narcissism and the most common misconceptions he sees about it.
I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!
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What drives your ambition?
Are you passionate about creating something, or are you out to prove something?
Or are you out to prove someone wrong?
I fell into the latter category in my twenties, unaware of how my father wound drove my career ambitions.
I was also unaware of how much my father wound was influencing the romantic partners I chose.
In this episode, I am covering how an unhealed father wound impacts our relationships, careers, and health to raise your awareness and hopefully save you years of pain, heartache, and dissatisfaction.
Signup for the upcoming Father Wound course at terricole.com/fatherwound!
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Are you intolerant of how you actually feel?
Or are you intolerant of what others believe?
My amazing guest and pal, Africa Brooke, is here to tell us how to get curious and be in the middle with her new book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance, which I think is a much-needed antidote right now.
Africa shares why she believes curiosity is a dying art, how to spark more of it (especially in ourselves), and how we can begin bravely expressing ourselves in the world, one step at a time, without censorship.
Toward the end, Africa also tells us about her own experience of self-sabotage and how this led her to her current body of work.
I hope you enjoy this enlightening conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.
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Growing up, my mother, my sisters, and I were all afraid of him.
I didn’t think either of these things was a “big deal” until I connected the dots in therapy and realized how much I was playing out my father wound in my romantic relationships.
Many of you say you think you have a father wound. By sharing my own story, I aim to illustrate a few of the different ways it can present and impact your life.
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My amazing guest this week is Kara Loewentheil, a feminist lawyer-turned-life coach. She’s here to tell us how a sexist society gets in our heads and how to get it out with her new book, Take Back Your Brain.
We talk about the messages we absorb from society at a young age, how they shape our thoughts, and how we can slowly replace those thoughts with less crappy ones.
If you're a high-achieving woman who feels like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. As Kara says: You can't hate yourself into liking yourself!
If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to preorder her book, Take Back Your Brain, releasing May 21!
Have you ever wondered if your relationship with your father or father figure is normal?
Or maybe you know it wasn’t normal, but you’re not sure how it impacted you and your adult relationships.
If you suspect you have a father wound, this episode is for you. We’re starting with the basics: what a father wound is, the symptoms and causes of father wounds, and why it is painful.
Healing my own father wound has had a profound impact on my life, and I can’t wait to share more about this with you over the next few episodes.
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I am so excited to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, renowned trauma expert, to the show to talk about his newest book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation.
It's both a memoir and a beautiful exploration of healing trauma. I absolutely loved what Frank had to share about the different types of trauma, the healing process, forgiving the perpetrator, forgiving ourselves, and reclaiming our own narratives.
If you've experienced childhood trauma of any type, I think you'll get a lot out of this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Gentle TW: there is a mention of suicide at 21:15. If this is a tender topic for you, please skip forward 20 seconds
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Does Mother’s Day bring up hard feelings for you or give you anxiety?
Do you find it difficult or frustrating to find a Mother’s Day card that speaks to your relationship with your mother?
Is it a day you’d rather pretend doesn’t exist?
If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re in the right place. I am sharing ideas for how to honor, grieve, mourn, and celebrate on Mother’s Day, no matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother.
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I am so thrilled to welcome my pal Lisa Bilyeu back to the show to celebrate the paperback launch of her book, Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want.
We talk about the practical steps you can take to build confidence over time, how toxic relationships erode our confidence, and boundaries and family (specifically, the moment Lisa found out her dad disapproved of her marriage plans).
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Do you know what your boundary style is?
Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships?
Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically.
Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries.
You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments.
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I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness.
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Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict?
Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue?
Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship?
Are you the defensive one?
Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer.
We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict.
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I am so thrilled my pals Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath are here to talk about how they healed their codependent patterns and created liberated love in their relationship.
This conversation is in celebration of their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependnt Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. ❤️ If you identify with any of what we discussed, definitely get it!
Grab Liberated Love here: https://liberated-love.com
Gentle warning: there is a mention of SA around 17:50 - 18:43. Please skip this section if this is a tender topic for you.
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Have you ever hesitated to end a relationship because of the intricate ways your lives were intertwined?
Or have you ended a relationship and struggled to move on because of a profound sense of loss?
Then you are in the right place. I am breaking down the secondary losses we experience after a breakup: what they are, their impact, and how honoring our secondary losses helps us pick up the pieces.
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I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life.
Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more.
I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me.
**Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ **
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Does co-parenting feel difficult because you and your ex are never on the same page?
Is your ex combative, dismissive, or a narcissist?
Are you worried about what they’re saying to your kids when you’re not there?
If you want what is best for your kids and find co-parenting activating, this episode is for you.
I am covering the common blocks to cooperative co-parenting, protecting your child from an emotionally unhealthy ex, and the boundaries needed for healthy co-parenting.
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Today I’m sharing an unbelievable interview with Sebastian Bates, who is a best-selling author, podcast host, retired professional fighter, father, and founder of The Warrior Academy.
Sebastian's story is amazingly inspiring. At 24, he experienced a horrendous BASE jump accident and was told he would never walk again.
He refused to accept that and through a combination of willpower and discipline, he recovered.
He shares his story with us and we dive into the details: his mindset, determination, his background as a fighter and teacher, his passion for helping others, and the impact he is having and wants to have through his philanthropic work at The Bates Foundation.
I hope this interview makes you feel as inspired and motivated as it made me!
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As a child, were you responsible for cleaning the house? Cooking for your siblings? Taking care of an adult because they were unable to care for themselves?
Did the adults in your life expect emotional support from you? Did you mediate between family members?
If so, you may have Parentified Child Syndrome.
In this episode, I am breaking down the two types of child parentification, why it happens, symptoms you may have experienced, and steps to take to begin healing.
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I’m sharing another interview this week where I’m on the other side of the microphone– This time, with host of Passion Struck, John Miles. We chat about the journey of self-discovery that led me to leave my job, pursue grad school, and start a new career in the mental health field. Plus, how I learned how to prioritize my own needs and desires and set healthy boundaries as I did it!
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How fluent are you in your own emotions?
Are you able to identify and feel your feelings, or is it a struggle?
Do you tend to focus more on what other people are feeling?
If so, you are not alone.
This episode is all about becoming more emotionally resilient. We will explore why emotional resilience matters, the four common blocks we tend to experience around it, and ideas for putting the focus back on you.
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Today I’m so excited to share this older interview I did on The Good Life Project podcast with Jonathan Fields. I hope you’ll learn something new from this episode, whether or not you already know my story.
We chat about my early experience with alcoholism, how I left my career as an agent to fulfill my purpose as a therapist, and how we both balance being ourselves with being the face of our brands. Then, I share some advice about becoming and staying connected in long-term partnerships!
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Does your family disrespect your boundaries, making it challenging to set and maintain them?
Does your family of origin still treat you like a child?
Or do they simply get mad when you try to set limits or assert your preferences and desires?
If you are nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend, because I am diving into why many of us struggle to set boundaries with family and what you can do about it. I also give you a few scripts for when your family of origin offers you unsolicited advice. 🔥
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Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own?
Do you feel like you get taken for granted in your relationships?
I am so excited to share this interview I did on Danny Morel's show, The Higher Self. Danny asked such amazing questions and we had a candid conversation about boundaries: the good, the bad, what people get wrong, how you can improve at setting boundaries, and so much more. I also share boundary scripts you can use.
Very thankful to Danny and his team for allowing us to share this with all of you. Make sure to check Danny's show out here: https://youtube.com/@DannyMorelshow
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How often do you check social media throughout the day?
Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away?
Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing?
Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices?
If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you.
I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social.
Let’s dive in.
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I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life.
Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person!
I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others.
But what about boundaries with ourselves?
How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love.
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I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships.
She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships.
We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!)
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Does your job exhaust you?
Do you feel like you need to respond to your colleagues as soon as you receive a message from them, even after you’ve ended your workday?
Do you say ‘yes’ to tasks you don’t have the capacity for?
Many of you have told me you struggle with work boundaries. In this episode, I am sharing tips and tools you can use to make your job work for you with more ease and less frustration.
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I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal.
I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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How is your relationship with money?
Do you tend to overspend?
Neglect your bank account balance out of fear?
Self-soothe by making impulse purchases?
Many of you struggle with financial boundaries, and in this episode, I talk about your money blueprint, how it influences your relationship with money, and how you can develop a better awareness of your spending habits.
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Today I’m doing something a little different: I’m sharing an episode of my friend Marie Forleo’s show where I am the guest!
She asks me about my own origin story, shares a listener question, and we talk about finding the courage to express preferences, desires, and dealbreakers– And how you might express them differently in close vs. distant relationships.
I hope you enjoy today’s episode, including the chance to see me as the interviewee rather than the interviewer.
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Do you people-please to avoid hurting them?
Are there decades-long friendships you’re afraid to lose, despite having outgrown them?
If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about boundaries with friends: why some of us have misguided loyalty, the qualities of a good and healthy friendship, and how to raise your awareness around disordered behaviors in your friendships.
Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/584
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I am so excited to have my pal and award-winning podcast host, John R. Miles, on the show to talk about his new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life.
I'm excited because intentional living is how I live my life, and I teach all of my clients and students to do it, too. There is nothing quite like harnessing the mind-blowing power of our own intention.
But what does that look like in practice? John is here to break it down with examples from his own life and case studies from the book. I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I did.
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Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with?
Does it cause more disappointment than happiness?
Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it?
You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself.
What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day?
If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered.
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Welcome to a super special edition of The Terri Cole Show where I am doing something I've never done before: interviewing my husband, Victor Juhasz, along with bestselling author, Steven Pressfield.
Vic and Steven collaborated on Steven's new book, The Daily Pressfield, which is an excellent companion for anyone giving a creative endeavor their all. (Currently me, writing my second book!) Vic provided the illustrations and the book is filled with Steven's wisdom from the many years he's spent in the writing trenches.
In this conversation, we talk about how the book and illustrations came together, our experiences with resistance and creativity, imposter syndrome, fear, self-sabotage, inspiration, and so much more.
You can get a signed copy here: https://sassmediallc.com/products/the-daily-pressfield-hardcover-signed-copy
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Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency.
In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here.
In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it.
When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency.
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I am so excited for frequent-flyer guest, Ross Rosenberg, to be back on the show. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute.
We cover so much: Ross's definition of codependency, why codependents and narcissists are attracted to one another, how to detach from a narc (Ross's technique is called "observe, don't absorb"), why narcissists try to induce conversations, love bombing, and so much more.
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Are you endlessly giving and doing for all the people all the time?
Do people come to you when they need something because they know you’ll get it done, no matter what?
If you are nodding your head, you might just be a high-functioning codependent, and this episode is for you.
I am covering what high-functioning codependency is, the considerable cost of being a high-functioning codependent (on you, your relationships, and others), and sharing my own experiences with these disordered relational behaviors– both personally and professionally.
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I am so excited to have my pal, bestselling author and personal finance expert, Farnoosh Torabi, on the show.
We are talking about her new book, A Healthy State of Panic: Follow Your Fears to Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, and Win At Life, which Newsweek chose as a "Best Book of 2023." I don't know about you, but the title definitely resonates with me!
In this conversation, Farnoosh shares how she shifted from being limited by fear to constructively responding to fear. She also offers a few tips you can use if you struggle with fear around money and reveals what we can learn from fear if we allow it a chance.
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Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it?
Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it?
If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you.
I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered!
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I am so excited to have award-winning TV host and cook, Daphne Oz, on the show. Daphne and I have known each other for over a decade and it has been so fun to watch her career flourish. I love watching her cooking and makeup tutorials on Instagram, too.
If you love Daphne's recipes, I think you'll enjoy this girlfriend jam because we go much deeper into Daphne's food philosophy, the childhood experiences that shaped who she is today, how she navigated the trial-by-fire of a college book tour and being a co-host on The Chew in her 20s, and so much more.
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Do you think true love is never having to say you are sorry?
Do you think boundaries are unnecessary with real love?
How do you feel about unconditional love? Do you believe it exists? Or that it is something to aspire to?
Many of us were indoctrinated to believe in these myths about love, but from my 25 years as a psychotherapist and my own experience, I believe real, epic, healthy, and amazing love is boundaried and conditional.
Read on to discover why.
I also cover questions you can ask to unearth your downloaded blueprint around unconditional love and I’m sharing some concrete steps you can take toward better, healthier love in your relationships.
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I am so excited to welcome my pal and brilliant clinician, Dr. Mariel Buqué, to the show! Her new book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma is a salve the world needs right now (in my opinion), and I am so grateful for the wisdom she shared in this conversation.
We talked about how to start to heal intergenerational trauma, what it looks like, what causes it, and so much more.
If you have, or suspect you have been affected by intergenerational trauma, you'll want to watch this.
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Do you undervalue your accomplishments?
Do you brush off compliments about your work?
Do you use self-effacing humor to put yourself down before anyone else can?
If you answered “yes,” let me ask you this:
How do you feel about your own worthiness?
From your emails and comments, I know many of you struggle with self-worth. If this is you, you are not alone, and I invite you to read on as this episode is all about worthiness.
I cover why many of us feel unworthy, my own experience with worthiness, and how you can begin to feel more worthy in your life, because you deserve it.
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I am so excited to have my pal (and one-half of the Astrotwins), Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about horoscopes for 2024.
Ophira explains the big themes for next year and also breaks down what each sign can expect to see in the first and second half of the year. (Mine is pretty accurate 👀)
Tune in to see what might be coming up for you, and let me know if any of it resonates in the comments!
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How do you feel about change?
Do you resist it?
Are you afraid of it?
Or are you someone who sees new possibilities in change?
If your relationship with change is not where you want it to be, this episode is for you. I cover the highs and lows of change, our natural and often ingrained fear of change, and how we can relate to change in a healthy way because it will happen whether we resist or not.
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I am thrilled to have my pal, actress and author Josie Bissett, on the show today! Josie and I recently reconnected and in this girlfriend jam, we reminisce about our days in and around Hollywood and Josie's time on Melrose Place. We also chat about what Josie has been up to- her children's books, getting back into acting, and working on better boundaries.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!
P.S. Josie is offering personalized, signed copies of her award-winning children’s book, the 'Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.' This could be a perfect gift for your little ones or a cherished addition to your family’s bookshelf.
To make one of these special copies yours, simply send an email to [email protected]. They’ll email back with more details and instructions. You can also go to www.josiebissett.com to buy an unsigned copy of Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.
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Do you feel like nothing ever works out for you?
Like you never get what you want?
Like good things only happen to other people, but not you?
Do you often blame other people for your unhappiness?
If any of this resonates, listen in, because this episode is all about a powerful perspective shift you can use to move from an unempowered state of mind to a much more empowered place.
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I am thrilled to be joined today by none other than the Supernanny herself, parenting expert Jo Frost.
We covered so much in this episode, from Jo's thoughts on kids having phones and being on social media, to the importance of raising awareness of anaphylaxis, and the biggest struggles families are facing right now.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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Are there particular people at family, work, or friend gatherings you would rather avoid?
Is it painful to interact with them because they ask intrusive questions or love to complain?
Or do you simply find social gatherings tricky to navigate?
Whether you are attending family gatherings, friend celebrations, or holiday work parties, in this episode I am giving you a few ways to get out of seemingly impossible social situations.
If you feel stuck between not wanting to answer a deeply personal question and not wanting to seem ‘rude,’ I have scripts for you. And if you are tired of people who tell inappropriate jokes or make rude comments, I have you covered there, too.
Ultimately, this is about your right to be selective about whom you share information with and focus on how you want to feel in these situations.
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**Trigger Warning**
This episode contains a story about gun violence and narcissistic abuse. If this is distressing for you, please skip it!
Katre has a phenomenal story of escaping a toxic, narcissistic abusive relationship that highlights the resiliency of the human spirit. She shares how she escaped, what brought her to the moment of needing to get out, and how she healed afterward.
Those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse may see yourself in Katre's journey. She shares it to help others feel less alone because when you go through something like this, as Katre shared, people in your life may not understand the extent of the abuse. Many of her friends waved off her ex's behavior as emotionally immature.
But Katre was able to leave this relationship in 2018 and has worked on healing in the years since, even becoming a mentor and coach to others. If you can relate to her story, consider joining her Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1917430661795072/
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What are the stories you tell yourself about the things you want in life?
Do you have limiting beliefs, ideas, or thoughts about your capabilities and worthiness?
Does it feel safer to long for something than to have it?
Many of you have written to me wanting to understand, on a deeper level, what stops you from taking action toward the things you say you want.
If any of this rings true for you, read on because I am talking about why many of us find wanting more comfortable than having, and how we can get unstuck and take actions aligned with our desires.
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I am thrilled to welcome back my pal Dr. Perpetua Neo. She is an expert in high-functioning, overachieving women, as well as trauma bonding and abusive relationships.
In this conversation, we talk about the realities of trauma bonds, mainstream misunderstandings around therapy speak, and the pitfalls Dr. P sees in her high-functioning clients and what they can do to regulate their brains.
We end with a discussion about respecting our hormones, my experience with perimenopause and menopause, what Dr. P learned about her own cycle, fasting, and more.
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Are there people in your life who don’t respect your boundaries?
People you can’t talk true around, who use your words against you later?
People who don’t support what is best for you?
People who take and take, leaving you drained?
If you are nodding your head, you might need more discernment when it comes to who has access to you, and how much.
In this episode, I am covering what discernment is, why being discerning with the people in our life is important, how to practice discernment, and how discernment can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.
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I had so much fun interviewing my pal Dale Moss. You might know Dale from The Bachelorette in 2020, where he got engaged after a few episodes and shook up the season. Dale is also a former NFL wide receiver and is currently exploring his love of storytelling and film by executive producing three docu-series, which he talks about near the end.
We cover his childhood, how the unconditional love he received from his parents influenced how he continued to show up in the world despite being the repeated target of racism, his experience on The Bachelorette, his current relationship, his love for his sister and the Special Olympics, and so much more.
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Do you feel frustrated or unsatisfied with life?
Do you want more success? More abundance?
Are there situations or relationships you wish would change?
To be in a better (or different) relationship?
Then this episode is for you. I am walking you through the six-step process I personally use to intentionally create what I want in my life on an ongoing basis. These are the same six steps I teach my therapy clients and students.
Anyone can follow this process because it is all about harnessing the mind-blowing power of your own intention to create what you want in life with mindfulness (and action!).
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I am so happy to have Rae McDaniel (they/them) on the show. Rae is a non-binary Speaker, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator. They are also the author of Gender Magic, which came out earlier this year.
Rae's style of teaching is so accessible and inviting, and we cover their backstory, setting boundaries while staying true to yourself, moving from fear into empowerment, finding chosen family, intimacy and friendships, and so much more.
I love following Rae on Instagram because I always learn something from them, and I think you will, too.
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Do you have a difficult relationship with your maternal impactor or your mother?
Do you suspect your mother is a narcissist?
Then this episode is for you.
One of the most-watched videos on my YouTube channel is about how daughters of narcissistic mothers can survive and thrive. I thought it might be time to update this for those of you just discovering the term ‘narcissist’ and what it might mean to have a narcissistic mother.
We cover the common signs of narcissistic personality disorder and what it is, how having a narcissistic mother may impact your life and your relationships, and ways you can begin to heal.
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I am so excited to have love coach Shaun Galanos on the show. I love following Shaun on Instagram and had the pleasure of meeting him at a Real Love Ready event we both did in Vancouver earlier this year.
We dive deep into how Shaun became a love expert, how he is navigating his father's passing along with a breakup, and he recounts the story of how he was robbed and what happened between him and the robber. We also talk about the reality of not being okay, how to be there for people in difficult times, and Shaun's thoughts on polyamory.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!
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When you say “no” to someone, do you often feel immense guilt afterward?
Or do you second-guess your boundaries after setting them?
I have seen a lot of my therapy clients sacrifice their boundaries due to guilt. But letting guilt sabotage our efforts to have healthy boundaries is a one-way ticket to Bitter Town.
Boundaries are meant to protect ourselves and our relationships. They deepen our connections. Yet, many of us still feel guilty for having and enforcing boundaries.
This episode is about deepening our understanding of post-boundary setting guilt. I talk about what you can do to combat it, how to tell if it is actually guilt you are feeling, and when feeling guilty may be appropriate.
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Jen Gottlieb is an expert in how to be authentically seen. Not just seen as in getting lots of publicity, but being seen as who you want to be in the world and pushing back on everyone's "shoulds."
After an acting gig that was so not her, Jen realized the price of not being aligned with who she truly was was too high to pay. She made it her mission to be authentically seen in the world, and in this conversation and her new book, Be Seen: Find Your Voice. Build Your Brand. Live Your Dream, that's exactly what she teaches.
We talk about navigating imposter syndrome, getting really clear about what you want in all aspects of life, how Jen "manifested" her husband and her apartment, why you need to create a badass list, how to slowly (but surely) gain confidence, and so much more.
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How often do you feel misunderstood when communicating, whether it be by email, in person, or text?
Do you often feel like your messages are not received how you intended them to be?
If you are nodding your head, then you know how unsatisfying it is when the person you are talking to does not get what you are saying.
The good news is that you can learn to be a better communicator.
In this episode, I lay out a seven-step formula to ensure your side of the street is clean when it comes to communicating effectively and powerfully.
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I had the pleasure of interviewing best-selling author and talented interviewer, Kelly Corrigan.
We covered so much:
- Kelly's childhood dream of becoming a writer
- How her dad's unwavering support bolstered her
- Her experience with chemo and cancer
- Kelly's reflections on her mom's parenting style and how she may have benefitted from it
- Kelly's favorite interview questions and techniques.
If you ever wanted to know more about her or simply want to tune into a thought-provoking conversation (thanks to Kelly's astute self-awareness), this episode is one you must watch! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Have you ever wondered how to set boundaries without guilt?
Do you second-guess yourself when setting boundaries?
Or are you unsure of what boundaries you even need?
Then read on, my friend, because in this episode, I am answering the eight most common questions I get asked about boundaries.
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I am thrilled to welcome my favorite menopause doctor to the show: Dr. Mary Claire Haver.
I have been obsessed with following her on Instagram because she shares so much helpful information for free. I know menopause is a topic you wanted to see more of and I couldn't be more excited to have Dr. Mary Claire here to set the record straight.
For those who don't know, Dr. Mary Claire is a board-certified OBGYN who, after experiencing menopause and not being able to lose weight, went back to school at Tulane University to become a Certified Culinary Medicine Specialist. She went on to create The Galveston Diet, a three-pronged lifestyle plan that encourages fuel refocusing, intermittent fasting, and anti-inflammatory nutrition to manage hormonal symptoms, stabilize weight, and revitalize the body as it ages to provide benefits that will last a lifetime.
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Have you ever said, “I’ll start working out/meditating/eating better/going to bed earlier…” and didn’t follow through?
Where next week comes, and you’ve either forgotten about it or no longer feel like making the change?
If you experience this type of resistance and struggle to keep your word (to yourself and others), you are not alone. I was there in my 20s.
But it is a sign of disordered internal boundaries, which could be robbing you of potential.
In this episode, I break down the symptoms of having crappy internal boundaries and give you a 7-step process to kick resistance to the curb. Follow this process, and in time, you will reach your goals, feel better about yourself, and follow through on what you say you will do.
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I am psyched to welcome one of my nearest and dearest, master coach Josselyne Herman-Saccio. I met Josselyne during my talent agent days, and she has had a profound impact on my life.
Growing up, Josselyn's parents separated. After attending transformational workshops, they got back together. Josselyn noticed they were completely changed by the experience, and attended her first transformational workshop at age 11. It was at her nudging that I attended mine, which led to me leaving my talent agent career behind to become a psychotherapist.
Josselyn has taken the principles she learned in those transformational workshops to change people's lives. Her focus is on living the life you want NOW rather than a mysterious "someday" in the future.
I hope you find our conversation as fascinating as I did.
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When someone comes to you with negative feedback, do you get defensive?
Do you automatically come up with reasons why you did something, building a case for the way you did it?
Do you shift the blame onto someone else?
Or does your heart start racing?
If this resonates, you are not alone. It is human to want to defend your choices, actions, and beliefs.
But defensiveness damages our relationships, which is why this episode is all about becoming more aware of defensive behavior and what you can do instead.
I am covering the signs and symptoms of defensiveness, why we get defensive in the first place, and strategies you can use to become less defensive.
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I am so excited to welcome my pal, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, on the show to talk about her new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.
This conversation is all about love: how we can keep our love strong, what to do if it's not going so well, daily practices you can start doing today, and so much more. Dr. Alexandra Solomon and I discuss relational self-awareness, family of origin issues, and the difficulties of dating in a modern world.
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode/blog contains a story about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.
Many years ago, my husband and I were held up at gunpoint.
I have mentioned it before, but I have never shared the full story because it was traumatic.
When one of you asked me to share this experience, how it impacted my life, and how I recovered from it, I thought it might be time to share.
By sharing my story of trauma and recovery, I hope to help others who have experienced a traumatic event.
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I am so excited to welcome my friend, Emily Fletcher, to the show to talk about Sacred sexuality, meditation, pleasure, and manifestation. Emily has been teaching meditation for the past 13+ years and recently started exploring how we can tap into our Sacred sexuality to manifest our dreams and desires. Don't worry- Emily breaks all of this down in a practical way and offers tips on how to get started during our conversation. Emily's perspective resonated so much, and for those of you who don't prioritize pleasure, I got you covered because I asked Emily about that, too. Enjoy!
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Is it difficult for you to say “no” to your parents, draw a boundary with a sibling, or set a limit with a cousin, aunt, or uncle?
Do you struggle to share your preferences, limits, desires, or deal-breakers with some of the people in your family?
If the answer is “yes,” this episode is for you. I am talking about the different kinds of disordered boundaries we often have in our families of origin and giving you ideas on how to get proactive so you can release yourself from these frustrating situations.
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Best-selling author Kris Carr is one of my nearest and dearest. We go way back to my talent agent days (I represented her).
Kris's newest book, I'm Not A Mourning Person: Braving Loss, Grief, and the Big Messy Emotions That Happen When Life Falls Apart, is a beautiful read. I could not put it down, and I lived a lot of this book with Kris as it was happening.
If you are experiencing grief of any kind, whether due to the loss of a loved one, the loss of your former self, or the loss of a job, I think you'll enjoy this heartfelt conversation.
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When should you stop trying to make it work with a partner who is seemingly uninterested in self-improvement?
What do you do when the love between you and your partner is no longer enough?
How can you keep yourself from falling back into old roles within your family of origin when visiting home, especially if you’ve grown and changed?
And when is it time to consider moving into independent living when you are a full-time caregiver for your spouse?
I answer all of these questions in this Q&A episode, which is all about relationship dynamics. Let’s dive in.
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Have you ever wondered, "Who am I, and why am I here?" If so, this interview is for you, my friend.
I am beyond excited to have Dr. Sara Kuburic, better known as The Millennial Therapist on Instagram, on the show to talk about her new book, It's On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life.
Sarah is an existential therapist and has had a lifelong interest in psychology. This book was inspired by a loss of self she experienced in her twenties, which she also saw in her therapy clients. If you've felt meaningless or purposeless, like you don't know yourself, then I invite you to tune in as Sara offers many tips on how to discover your sense of self.
I've loved her work for a while and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!
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Do you assume everyone has the same values and moral compass as you? Do you assume everyone has good intentions?
Or do you assume other people are untrustworthy, even though you have no way of knowing?
Whether you are too trusting or more distrustful, this episode is for you. I am giving you questions to gain a deeper understanding of your downloaded trust blueprint, as well as tips to become more discerning about whom to trust.
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I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned Peloton instructor, Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts, to the show. We chat about Chelsea's yoga journey, what inspires her, the tragedy she endured in college, the rewards and challenges of motherhood, and so much more.
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Have you ever wondered what makes people vulnerable to trauma bonding?
Or how to tell if you are in a trauma-bonded relationship versus one based on mutuality or true love?
From the questions I've received, I know many of you want a deeper understanding of trauma-bonded relationships: What are the signs and symptoms, and what does it mean?
Listen for everything you need to know to protect yourself and your relationships.
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Our guest today excels in so many fields: He’s a former pro athlete, podcast host, published author, and father of nine kids. He’s also a respected personal development guide who helps people elevate their experiences and improve the ways that they show up for others.
Today, we’re taking a deep dive into motivation– Both healthy and unhealthy. Kevin shares lessons from his own life, past and present, and we also touch on being mindfully driven rather than recklessly impulsive.
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A few weeks ago, Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend, Sarah Brady, shared a bunch of text messages he sent her when they were dating. Among them was the above list of “boundaries.” As you can imagine, this stirred up a lot of discussion online.
I fell into a Reddit hole about it and was stunned by the amount of misinformation out there about boundaries. People are truly unaware of the differences between coercion, abuse, effective boundaries, and control, which is what this episode is about.
I also talk about the signs of coercive control to watch for and why the Jonah Hill situation is more manipulative than it may seem.
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I am excited to share this conversation I had with fascia expert and Pilates Pro, Lauren Roxburgh.
My sister and I were turned onto Lauren's work at the beginning of the pandemic, and I intuitively knew fascia health was the missing link in my wellness. I love stalking Lauren's Instagram page to see what new practices I can integrate into my routine.
This conversation was fascinating as Lauren shares the newest fascia research with us and explains how it has the potential to impact every aspect of our lives. (and bodies!)
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Have you ever wondered when it is appropriate to cut your parents out of your life?
Do you feel like you missed out on life because you spent more time focusing on others than yourself?
Have you experienced multiple losses and feel overwhelmed with grief?
Or have you experienced unacknowledged sibling abuse?
In this Q&A episode, I answer four questions from the community on these topics. Let’s dive in.
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I am so happy to have my pal and design expert, Sabrina Soto, back on the show. This conversation is more like a girlfriend jam as Sabrina and I talk about the effect of decluttering on your mental health, past relationship experiences, codependency, boundaries, manifesting, getting out of your comfort zone, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Do you walk on eggshells around certain people in your life?
Do you avoid telling your partner or best friend the truth out of fear they’ll disagree or be unhappy with you?
Would you like your relationships to feel safer?
Then this episode on emotional safety is for you. I go over the signs of an unsafe relationship and give you the steps to create more safety in your relationships.
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I am so excited to share this conversation with my pal and breathwork expert, Samantha Skelly.
Sam led a 30-minute breathwork session at a peer mastermind we attended earlier this year, and let me tell you, it was profound. She has 14 years of experience in this space and her energy is so amazing.
I invited her on the show to share her journey and explain how breathwork can help us heal trauma and return to our bodies. I hope you enjoy her wisdom as much as I did.
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Have you ever wondered how your relationship with your maternal impactor has impacted you?
Do you feel like your relationship with your mother/mother figure is ‘off’?
Or do you find yourself longing for a different relationship with her altogether?
Then this episode is for you. I cover the seven archetypes of mothering and give you deep-dive questions to determine which archetype you experienced and whether you have a mother wound.
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I am so grateful to Dr. Anne Peled for coming on the show to share her story and expertise on breast cancer. She explains how to do a self-exam at home, tells us the warning signs to be aware of, shares what we can do to reduce our risk of breast cancer, and so much more.
Dr. Peled is a breast cancer survivor AND is pioneering an entirely new way of treating breast cancer with a combined mastectomy and reconstruction technique that preserves the nipple, skin, and sensation.
I hope you learn something from what Dr. Peled shares in this conversation. I know I did!
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When something bad happens to your partner, does it feel like it’s happening to you, too?
Are you compelled to fix what you see as the ‘problems’ in their life?
Do you find areas in which they can improve to help them become ‘better’?
Do you feel like it is your job to prevent them from getting into bad situations?
If you are nodding your head, you might be in a codependent relationship.
In this episode, I break down what codependency is and give you powerful questions you can answer to gain clarity about your codependent behaviors (which is the first step to healing).
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I am so thrilled to have my pal Rachel Luna on the show to talk all about her new book, Permission to Offend: The Compassionate Guide for Living Unfiltered and Unafraid. Doesn't that sound like something we all need?!
We chat about how to have hard conversations, handle judgment and rejection, how Rachel's life experience informed her decision to write this book, figuring out who you are and what you believe, and so much more.
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I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life.
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I am so excited to have Scott Jeffrey Miller on the show to talk about his new book, The Ultimate Guide to Great Mentorship: 13 Roles to Making a True Impact. I love Scott's take on mentorship and found our discussion fascinating.
Whether you are a mentor, want to be one, want to find one, or have been one, Scott has a lot of wisdom to share on the subject. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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Are you ever surprised by your reactions or feelings?
Does it ever feel like you get hit by a bus of your own emotions, where you’re left wondering what the hell was that about?
If you have experienced this, you are not alone.
Emotional reactions can seem kind of mysterious, and understanding our own emotional needs can be challenging.
And becoming aware of your emotional needs allows you to communicate them and get them met. This leads to more fulfilling relationships, which is why today’s episode is all about the steps you can take to uncover your emotional needs.
I walk you through a process of understanding and discovering your emotional needs and suggest what you can do when you discover the unmet needs you have in your life right now.
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I am so excited to have my pal, Tamsen Fadal, on the show to talk about all things mid-life: aging, botox, menopause, divorce, re-marriage, authenticity, and so much more. I've followed Tamsen's Instagram obsessively over the last two years and I love her take on these topics. I also appreciate how open she is about her experiences. If you like what you hear, be sure to check out her podcast, Coming Up Next: Honest Conversations on Midlife, Menopause and Embracing Change: tamsenfadal.com/podcast.
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When you’re on vacation, do you actually take time off and unplug? Or do you anxiously check your phone, afraid you’ll hear from work?
Worse, do you come back from a vacation feeling like you still need a vacation because you’re exhausted?
It is time to take a real vacation – without work – so you can feel rested and restored instead of frazzled and drained. Below, you will find tips to help you create boundaries on vacation– because I see you, fellow recovering workaholics!
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I am thrilled to have my pal Dr. Daniel Amen back on the show for a third time to talk about his brand new book, Change Your Brain Every Day. Vic and I have been working through this book - and let me tell you, it’s so accessible, no matter how busy you are! In this conversation, Dr. Amen gives us some daily habits we can begin for better brain health, and offers his unique perspective on why brain health is just as important as physical health.
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Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?
Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?
Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t?
Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?
Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements.
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Today's guest, Mimi Bouchard, is the CEO and Founder of the modern meditation app, Superhuman. As Mimi tells us, she created this app after having the idea to record and listen to 'future self' meditations on the go, which quickly changed her life. Her core belief is if you can visualize the future you want, you can create it.
I hope you find this conversation as inspiring as I did.
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Are you a generous giver in relationships?
Do you give from your heart? From a place of love?
Or are you a little more tit-for-tat, where you expect something specific in return for giving?
If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heart-centered) and transactional unions (more quid pro quo).
I also give you steps to become more balanced between the two, because you do not want the pendulum to swing too far in either direction.
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I am so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Sarah Jenks, an ordained Priestess who, like so many of us, used to be a people-pleaser and codependent. Sarah and I have traveled the same circles for years, yet this is the first time I actually got to speak to her.
She is an expert in the Sacred Feminine and I found our conversation fascinating. You'll learn how to bring more ceremony into your life, how Sarah defines Sacred Femininity, and so much more.
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Does Father’s Day bring up hard feelings for you?
Does it give you anxiety because it feels like you can’t escape the endless promotions for Father’s Day?
Or does it leave you longing for a different (or any) relationship with your father?
If so, this episode is for you. I talk about my difficult journey with my father, how to handle grief around Father’s Day, and alternate ways to ‘manage’ the day to make it less difficult.
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I am so happy to have my new pal, award-winning copywriter and new author, Laura Belgray, on the show to talk about her experience writing her first book, how it came about, feeling behind in all aspects of life, her unique business tips, and work boundaries!
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Are you a worrier?
Are you constantly thinking of all the things that could go wrong?
Or do you seek to control situations outside of your control?
If you answered yes, this episode is for you, my friend. I am breaking down what it means to be a worrier, the high cost of worrying, how to know when worry is excessive, and giving you steps you can act on right now to worry less and live more in the present moment.
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Today's guest, therapist, and author, Minaa B., is an amazing original thinker. I first came across her work on Instagram, and I was blown away by how precise she is with her words and finding the intersection of our humanness.
I love her content and wanted to have her on the show to talk about her new book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World. We also chat about boundaries and Minaa describes how she deals with pushback against having her phone on "do not disturb."
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.
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How do you feel about change?
Does it make you anxious? Nervous? Uncomfortable?
Do you tend to want things to stay the same?
Think about how you might feel if your favorite shampoo was discontinued, your favorite grocery shop closed, or someone took “your spot” in a gym or yoga class.
In this episode, I am talking about how to navigate change, growth, and transformation, and where grief fits into this process. We have to grieve the way things were to embrace how things are. This is true even when we experience changes we desire, like getting married, buying a home, or relocating for a dream job. We still need to mourn the loss of how our life used to be.
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I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love.
We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much more.
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Do you ever wonder why setting boundaries feels like a struggle?
Why it is difficult to speak up when you have something to say?
Or why it can feel impossible to set a limit when you don’t want to do something?
If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am giving you the top five boundary blocks I have seen in my 25+ years as a psychotherapist and suggesting ways to overcome them.
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Have you struggled with "mom guilt"?
Do you find yourself emotionally activated by certain things your child does?
Or do you feel like being a mother is harder for you than it is for others? (Especially when you look on social and find picture-perfect families?)
Then this interview with Zoe Blaskey, host of The Motherkind Podcast and a transformational coach, is for you. Zoe has first-hand knowledge of how difficult it is to navigate modern motherhood and offers insight and wisdom on how to give ourselves more grace and compassion.
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Have you ever experienced “mom guilt”?
Do you try to get it all done and then feel like you’re failing in one area or another (or all of them)?
Does it feel like everything will fall apart if you take five minutes for yourself?
If you are nodding your head, you are not alone. “Mom guilt” is a common experience. But as I’ve seen with many therapy clients, healthy boundaries can help mitigate this experience.
It is time to stop feeling bad about being human (which is really what “mom guilt” is about). In this episode, I give you the top five essential boundaries for empowered motherhood to lessen mom guilt.
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It was a joy to have Kassandra Reinhardt on the show to discuss being an online creator, finding "balance" within that, being exactly where we are supposed to be, inner elder work, the struggle with people-pleasing, aging, and so much more.
Yoga With Kassandra is one of my fave yoga channels. Her 10-minute morning routines are perfect if you're busy and don't have time for a longer practice. Give her channel a look!
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In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am sharing my mental wellness journey publicly for the first time.
You’ll discover why I began therapy at age 19, why I left my career as a talent agent, and how I discovered my dharma in psychotherapy.
If you have ever wondered why I am passionate about vibrant mental health or why I put out tons of free content, you will find your answer in this episode.
And if my mission aligns with your values, near the end, you’ll find an invitation to help me create a movement to make mental health information more readily accessible to others. ♥️
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I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another.
Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like, the types of dysfunction Nedra sees most often, what you can do about family dysfunction, codependency in family, and the pressures we face when we are the first to break a dysfunctional cycle within a family.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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Have you ever left a doctor’s appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood?
Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals?
Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare?
If you’ve had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for you. By the end, you will know the best way to prepare for a doctor’s appointment and when it might be a good time to ditch your doc.
I am passionate about medical boundaries because of my experience with a cancer diagnosis many years ago. It is at the forefront of my mind again because many of you are writing in about perimenopause and menopause and dealing with dismissive doctors.
I wanted to give you some of my hard-earned wisdom because boundaries have everything to do with this.
(Disclaimer: I am not an MD, so this information is not medical advice. I am sharing my story with you from a patient experience. Always consult your doctor.)
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Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too.
I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it.
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Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them?
Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires?
Or does it feel like you can’t control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation?
If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends.
Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You’ll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received.
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Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph.D? Change careers? Write a book?
Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life.
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Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child?
Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school?
If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps you can take to begin to heal.
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Does your stuff own you?
Does your house actually function well for you?
Or do you ignore some cluttered rooms or spaces because they fill you with a sense of overwhelm?
If any of this resonates, check out my conversation with @tracy_mccubbin on how to become more intentional with the things we own. Tracy has been in the decluttering biz for over 15 years and has amazing tips and insights for us. 💕
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Do you minimize your negative past experiences?
Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences?
Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences?
If you’re nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if it is happening with them, maybe you are experiencing this, too.
In this episode, I am talking about euphoric recall – what it is, why it’s dangerous, and how to protect yourself from falling back into old, toxic patterns or relationships.
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Today's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul.
I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more.
Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.
Do you think something good can come from a traumatic experience?
Or do you feel like awful things simply happen to us, and nothing productive comes from them?
I explore these questions in today’s episode on post-traumatic growth. I talk about the potential for positive experiences after traumatic events, and I share what I have witnessed as a psychotherapist and in the aftermath of my own traumatic experiences.
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Do you struggle with work/life harmony?
Could you use a little more of it?
Then today's interview with Tina Wells is for you. She is the author of The Elevation Approach: Harness the Power of Work-Life Harmony to Unlock Your Creativity, Cultivate Joy, and Reach Your Biggest Goals.
We chat about our experiences with burnout, workaholism, and the importance of filling up your own cup. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Tina as much as I did.
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Do certain people, conversations, or situations provoke an amplified response from you?
Do you find yourself extremely upset by specific TV or movie content?
Or do you get really bothered when people ask you about particular topics?
If you have noticed these somewhat “disproportionate” reactions in yourself, today’s episode on emotional triggers is for you.
I am breaking down the nature of emotional triggers, walking you through a process of decoding what these triggers might mean for you, and giving you action steps you can take to protect yourself.
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Today's guest is narcissistic abuse expert and clinical psychologist, Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, better known as Dr. Z on Instagram (@dr.z_psychologist).
We dive deep into narcissism and explore the differences between narcissistic tendencies and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, give you red flags to watch out for when dating so you can steer clear of narcissists, and share our insights on narcissism from many, many years with clients.
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Have you ever marveled at how some people turn heads simply by entering a room?
Or at how easily some people set boundaries and stand firm?
Or at how others freely speak their mind without the worry of judgment?
These are all examples of real self-confidence, and in today’s episode, I am talking about what self-confidence is, where it comes from, what cuts it down, and five simple ways you can build more self-confidence.
Many people think we are either born with confidence or we aren’t. While we are born extroverted or introverted, no matter how you interact in the world, self-confidence is something you can build, and we can always build more of it.
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I am so excited to have my pal, Chela Davison, on the show to share her thoughts and observations on the "quiet quitting" movement. We dive deep into themes like living seasonally, pushing back against workaholism, figuring out our identity outside of work, and why working constantly simply isn't sustainable. We explore what it might be like to do "slow business," too.
Chela is an original thinker and I enjoyed her take on this so much. I hope you do, too. As we said during our conversation, share your thoughts with us below!
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Do you find yourself ruminating on past decisions, actions, or conversations?
How much time do you spend regretting these past experiences? If the answer is more time than I would like, then this episode is for you. I am covering why we hold onto regrets, the high cost of regret, and why we should let regrets go. Most importantly, you will learn how to let go of your regrets with a five-step reflection exercise.
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Today's guest is Mara Glatzel, MSW, author of the brand new book, Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty. Needy is a powerful and tender guide to help us grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership, radical self-care, and self-advocacy.
I had so much fun doing a deep dive into self-care, self-abandonment, and self-advocacy with Mara. Everything she says is so on-point. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.
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Do you have “repeat boundary offenders” in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn’t do, even though it upsets you?
Are you tired of boundary violations, but don’t know how to get through to boundary bullies?
If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you
I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It’s time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood.
Of course, setting consequences doesn’t guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to.
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Today's guest is none other than best-selling author and psychologist, Dr. Shefali. Her new book, The Parenting Map, and this conversation are for anyone raising a kid in this scary social media-driven environment.
We dive into the walls that parents hit with their children, what to do if your child is "acting out," and what to do about the pressure you might feel to raise a "perfect" child. Dr. Shefali has such amazing insights into parenting and I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did.
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Have you heard the terms “reactive abuse” or “reactive anger” making the rounds on social media? Are you wondering what the heck it means?
Are you curious if passive-aggressive anger factors into this?
Or maybe you want to know: can anger ever be healthy?
I have received a number of emails asking me to clarify all of these terms, so in today’s episode, I break down what reactive abuse/reactive anger is, what passive-aggressive anger is, and what healthy anger might look like.
If your relationship with anger has been tenuous at best, or if you are seeking clarity on an abusive situation, this episode is for you.
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Today's guest is Amy Porterfield, host of the popular podcast Online Marketing Made Easy and my personal teacher from when I transitioned into online business! Amy's work is incredibly accessible and easy to follow, and...
Her new book, Two Weeks Notice: Find the Course to Quit Your Job, Make More Money, Work Where You Want, and Change the World, has *just* been released. To celebrate, we're talking all about entrepreneurship, Amy's journey into the online business world, and how you can become your own boss, too.
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Does the word “manifest” sound like magical thinking to you?
Or does it remind you of the movie, The Secret, where all you need to do is think about something, and *poof,* it appears right in front of you?
Or perhaps “visualizing” what you want has never made sense to you in the first place.
I get it. Even though I teach people how to get what they want in life, I stay away from the word “manifesting” because I feel like it has been used and abused.
If you feel the same and want to know how to take real steps toward getting what you want in life, with real results, this episode is for you. Inside, you’ll find a simple three-step process for going after and getting what you want in life.
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I would love to introduce you to the podcast Humble & Hungry with Natalie Puche. Grab your cheeseboard and favorite bottle of wine, Natalie is back! Embark on a new journey with her as she juggles motherhood, keeping up with her chef fiancé in the kitchen, and blind-fully navigating through her 30’s the only way she knows best, humble and hopefully not hangry.
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Today's guest is Kimberly Williams-Paisley, someone I met decades ago when I was a talent agent. We reconnected a few years ago, but it has been so fun to watch her flourish. What's amazing about Kimberly is how down-to-earth she is all these years later. She is so giving and her joy is infectious.
She joined me on the show to talk about her journey with her mom, who was diagnosed with Primary Progressive Aphasia, a rare type of dementia. Kimberly candidly shares her family's struggles and how she embraced the changes in her mother despite the challenges they all faced.
We also chat a bit about Kimberly's acting career and how being famous affected her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.
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Are your female friendships challenging?
Have you struggled to find the right crew?
Have you ever needed to “break up” with one of your female friends?
Or have you gone into therapy because of a female friendship?
If this resonates, you are not alone. In my 25 years as a psychotherapist, I can’t even begin to tell you how many women have experienced these exact things. The pain and suffering of having not-so-great female friends landed a number of them in therapy long before any romantic relationship.
But female friendships don’t have to be problematic. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the benefits of healthy female friendships, what they look like, and how to create them. I also share my own experience with female friendships and why I couldn’t live happily without my nearest and dearest pals.
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Today's guest, Amberly Lago, has an inspiring, phenomenal tale of overcoming traumatic experiences, and is the best-selling author of “True Grit and Grace.”
We talked about all the things, from her tremendous motorcycle accident, the pain she still lives with, getting sober, and how her life changed.
I really love her message because it's about how we can build our resiliency muscle one step at a time. I hope this interview leaves you as inspired as it left me.
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Does Valentine’s Day bum you out?
Maybe you are in a relationship and your partner puts the onus on you to make plans.
Or maybe you do the same thing every year and it’s getting stale.
And, if you are not in a relationship, you might feel excluded from the day altogether thanks to every piece of media being centered on relationships.
I say it’s time to take back Valentine’s Day and make it into something meaningful, fun, exciting, and inclusive.
To help you do that, today’s episode includes a beautiful three-step ritual you can do to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single, partnered, or something else. Ready to make this day a self-love experience? Let’s dive in.
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I was a gym person pre-pandemic, but thanks to today's guest, Michelle Briehler, I find myself loving the ease and convenience of at-home workouts. Michelle is a YouTube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves.
In this conversation, Michelle answers the questions I've received from you guys on health and wellness, we chat about our love of trampolines, and Michelle gives some quick tips on how to make changes to live a healthier lifestyle.
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Do you remember how much desire and passion you felt when you first met your partner? Or how incredibly hot the beginning of your relationship was?
Maybe it was the way you couldn’t stop thinking about them. How you flirted via text, emails, or calls in between seeing each other. When your dates were full of spontaneity, fun, and adventure.
Have you lost a little bit of that spark?
If you miss the passion you had at the beginning of your relationship and want to reignite it, then today’s episode is for you. I am giving you my top three tips to rekindle the spark so you can have a passionate, long-lasting, inspired love relationship.
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My guest today is none other than former model Paulina Porizkova. She just released her book No Filter: The Good, the Bad, and the Beautiful, and it was a page turner. I was up until 3 am reading it. It's so good.
I am so, so excited to share this beautiful, candid conversation with Paulina. We cover a lot of ground, from how Paulina's childhood experiences influenced her relationship with Ric Ocasek to her thoughts on aging and the betrayal she experienced when Ric cut her out of his will.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed speaking with Paulina.
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Do you think some folks are just lucky in love?
Has finding true love felt like a lifelong struggle for you?
Are you in a relationship that you know could be more loving and satisfying, but don’t know how to get there?
If any of these resonate with you, this episode is for you. I’m giving you six tips to attract and create more good, healthy, vibrant love in your life – whether you’re single or partnered. Because you deserve it, my friend.
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My guest on today's episode is Connor Beaton, a leading men's work facilitator, speaker, teacher, and coach. But ladies, you might want to stick around because Connor offers plenty of insights into the inner working of men. His new book, Men's Work, is out January 31, and you can order it here: https://mantalks.com/book
During our conversation, we chat about shadow work, the shadow self, and how you can integrate your shadow self into your life for more freedom. Halfway through, we change tracks as I ask Connor to share the latest research on men's addiction to pornography and how it can affect relationships. He candidly shares many of his own struggles in hopes of helping others. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
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Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells in your relationship?
Do you worry that anything you say (or don’t say) might set your partner off?
Do you work overtime to avoid doing or saying anything that will upset them but still somehow fail?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, today’s episode is for you. I’m unpacking the signs and symptoms of walking on eggshells, describing what that phrase looks and feels like IRL, and giving you ideas of what you can do to break this exhausting cycle.
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My guest today is Hailey Magee (@haileypaigemagee on Instagram, which is where I found her), a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps individuals set empowered boundaries and break the people-pleasing pattern. It's no surprise I loved her content the moment I saw it, and I had to have her on the show so she could share her unique perspective.
We chat all about setting boundaries with and on social media, the nuance of boundaries (that social often doesn't allow the space for), figuring out whether to break off a friendship, and so much more. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.
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Do you think that people who are generally happy are simply born that way?
That it is just in their nature to be glass half full types?
I believe it is slightly more complex than that.
As a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience, I can tell you that it is possible to purposely build habits that curate more happiness in your life.
So if you could use a little more happiness, today’s episode is for you. I’m sharing my top happiness curating tips with you, along with the mindset you can adopt if you want to experience more joy in your life.
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I am so happy to have best-selling authors Lisa Garr and Marci Shimoff on the show to talk all about miracles and happiness habits. I look to both of these women for inspiration during tough times and they never fail to deliver.
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Are you settling in your life?
In your relationships?
In your career?
Maybe in a friendship or a family situation?
If you feel like you are settling for less than you actually want, for any reason, then this episode is for you. I share a few telltale signs you might be settling for less, a few examples of when I settled in the past, and what to do if you no longer want to settle. Because you deserve so much more, my friend.
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I am so excited to welcome my pal Steven Washington to the show. His new book, Recovering You: Soul Care and Mindful Movement for Overcoming Addiction, is full of inspiration, accessible tips, and beautiful stories. It's honestly for anyone, not just those who are overcoming addiction.
In this conversation, Steven and I chat about his journey from addicted and numbing to feeling and moving, the tools he used to stay sober, and why his dharma is all about mindful movement. I hope you enjoy it.
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When something bad happens to someone you dislike, do you feel a little glee inside? Maybe a lot of glee?
Or do you cheer when the villain in a movie or TV show gets what’s coming to them?
There is a German word for the feeling of joy we get from the suffering or misfortune of others: schadenfreude.
The other day, I wondered: is there an opposite of schadenfreude? There is, and it’s called freudenfreude. This is when you find joy in the success and happiness of others. (It’s an English word created from a German word where “freuden” means “joy.”)
Today’s episode is all about why we experience schadenfreude, its high cost, and how to find real happiness in the joy of others.
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Today I’m welcoming back frequent guest Andrea Owen to chat about the new edition of her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back from Happiness. We talk about aging well, not allowing shame to control us, and recognizing the importance of our own feelings.
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How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions?
Do you like them? Do they work for you?
Or… do you get to February and realize you’ve barely made progress on them?
If you aren’t a fan of New Year’s resolutions, you are not alone. Only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions, and nearly 80% fail by February.
Not great odds.
That’s why today’s episode contains a therapeutically designed process to help you unpack 2022, honor your experiences, and understand your growth so you have clarity on the changes you want to make for 2023.
It’s my favorite sacred ritual to start the new year as it leaves me energized and clear about what’s ahead.
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Have you been wondering recently whether your substance use is normal? Do you find yourself drinking more than you would like, smoking every day, or taking gummies every night to help you sleep? How do you tell when using substances to cope with the circumstances of life becomes a problem?
If you have been asking these questions, you’re not alone. Recently, so many of my listeners have been writing to me with questions just like that.
I invited today’s guest, sober coach and friend Patty Powers, so that I can ask her all of the questions about substances that you have been asking me. Not only is she a friend who I have worked with professionally for many years, Patty was also the one who helped a very dear family member of mine when they relapsed.
Listen to today’s episode to get some clarity: When does substance use become substance abuse? And what can you do to support healing if you recognize problematic substance use in yourself or a loved one?
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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who uses fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate you into doing what they want?
Or are you in that kind of relationship right now?
Then this episode on emotional blackmail is for you. I break down what emotional blackmail is and how to spot it so you can avoid being a victim of this painful, dysfunctional, abusive cycle.
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Today’s episode is super special because I’m talking to my very own friend and strategist, Camper Bull. Back when I was promoting the Boundary Boss book, I was skeptical that working with a strategist would make a difference. When one of my team members recommended I meet with Camper, I was blown away by his expertise and ability to hold space and make it accessible.
Camper worked with my team for 6 months to help us understand what it takes to run a successful book launch. In our interview, he shares some of the secrets to his own success– Plus, we chat about some of the changes that have helped Team TC run so much more smoothly since I started working with Camper!
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Have you ever confided in someone you wanted comfort from only to be told…
“It could be worse.”
“At least it wasn’t X, Y, or Z!”
“Look on the bright side…”
“I don’t know why you are making such a big deal…”
These are all examples of emotional invalidation.
Maybe you’ve even said these things to others, unintentionally invalidating them. This is common if we're high-functioning codependents and other people's distress causes us distress.
But even if your heart is in the right place, emotional invalidation can damage your relationships.
That’s why in today’s episode, I’m breaking down what emotional invalidation is, discussing why so many of us are emotional invalidators and offering ways to emotionally validate our loved ones so that we can strengthen our relationships.
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If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I am an empath and a highly sensitive person. That’s why I was so excited to speak with Alissa Boyer, a mentor who coaches highly sensitive people on their journeys to spiritual growth and greater self love. We chat about how HSPs can be kind to themselves even when the world is set up to overwhelm them and how to avoid people-pleasing when you are sensitive to others’ desires.
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Do you ever feel mentally exhausted?
Foggy-brained?
Forgetful?
Like even doing the smallest task feels like moving through mud?
If so, cognitive fatigue could be to blame.
In this episode, I break down what cognitive fatigue is and what it might feel like. I also give you some ideas on what might cause cognitive fatigue and what you can do to start healing.
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I first met today’s guest about 15 years ago, when she was first considering leaving her job as a top Hollywood agent to begin a more fulfilling career. Now, Dr. Elisa Hallerman is a successful drug and alcohol counselor who uses her PhD in Depth Psychology and Somatic Studies to inform her work with clients. She recently wrote her first book, Soulbriety: A Plan to Heal Your Trauma, Overcome Addiction, and Reconnect with Your Soul to help people who she wouldn’t be able to reach through her traditional practice alone. In today’s episode, I chat with Dr. Hallerman about how soul-centered healing has the potential to help everyone overcome trauma and addiction. Plus, a guide to understanding your own soul journey.
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When you’re in the heat of a fight do you have a tendency to explode or say things you don’t mean? Or do you withdraw in anger and become silent?
Both of these reactions to conflict are very common communication-blocking techniques. Effective communication is something we hear a lot about but often I think the meaning is unclear.
In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the top 4 communication blockers + giving you sentence starters and scripts to help. You’ll learn what you can do to break these unhelpful behavior patterns and work towards actually solving conflict with effective communication instead.
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Do you ever wonder what self-love actually is, not just in theory or in a meme, but in real-life practice? Self-love isn’t a destination or just a feeling. It’s daily action steps and more of a way of life.
In this episode, I’ll cover how we can organize and break down our behaviors and practices in a way that is moving us into more real self-love. I’ll also break down five paths to curate more self-love into your daily routines.
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Have you ever found yourself stuck in conversation hell at a family gathering?
Maybe you have a nosy aunt who loves asking you super personal questions you don’t want to answer. Or a cousin who manages to dump all their problems on you at every party.
Enough! Let’s get you some strategies and scripts to create better conversational boundaries! You can keep these in your back pocket for if and when these awkward situations arise, so you can enjoy your family gatherings and avoid conversation hell!
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Today, I’m chatting with my friend and relationship expert Silvy Khoucasian. We chat about holding firm boundaries to create nourishing, supportive relationships as you go through life– That includes understanding attachment theory, making your own choices about what aging successfully means to you, and setting compassionate boundaries with family even when it conflicts with their cultural expectations.
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Do you have people in your life who are so difficult and demanding that speaking your mind feels like it’s not even worth the hassle?
If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you.
I’m giving you proactive ways to approach impossible people and tips to verbally de-escalate situations so you can protect yourself from being harmed by future interactions!
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In today’s episode, I’m interviewing author and well-being teacher Alex Elle. Her work, including her new book How we Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free, is all about helping others find their voice and create clarity in their lives. Alex invites us to rewrite our personal narratives to heal not only ourselves, but the generations that come after us.
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When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself?
How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simply because you exist?
This episode is all about what self-love actually is and what it looks like in action, because there are a lot of myths out there (hint: it’s not just about getting a mani/pedi).
You’ll learn some indications of having a deficit of self-love and ideas on how you can create more rock-solid self-love, because you deserve it, my friend!
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In today's episode, I'm sharing a fascinating conversation with Stefanos Sifandos. I met Stefanos through his wife Christine Hassler, a wonderful life coach and podcast host who I've known her for a really long time. After they got married and had a baby, I started to follow Stefanos as well. He has more than 20 years experience in the personal transformation space, and his work around love, sensuality, and sexuality is outstanding. He shares advice on how knowing yourself can help you become a better parent and partner and how willingness to surrender can open you to deeper intimacy. Plus, Stefanos shares his own story of healing from an unhealthy sex and romance addiction.
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Do signs of aging on your face or body concern you? Do you feel pressure to stay looking a particular way (as in, forever young)? If this is resonating, then you, my dear, are not alone.
In this episode, I’m breaking down different aspects of the aging process (it’s more hopeful than you think!) and giving you some ideas on how you can age gracefully and gratefully because when you really get down to it, it is a privilege to age!
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Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with Rikki Cloos. Rikki is a writer and content creator with a captivatingly authentic passion for attachment healing.
She shares insights and stories about anxious attachment from her own life: How anxious attachment behaviors can damage relationships, how you can stop those habits with work and understanding, and why it can make it so difficult to set healthy boundaries if you are prone to being anxiously attached.
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Are you a natural-born helper? Are you someone who is always willing to lend a hand or advice even if no one asked? Does it feel like your helping is on auto-pilot or even compulsive?
Do you ever wonder if there are times when helping maybe…isn’t that helpful?
In this episode, I’m breaking down what constitutes unhealthy helping. You’ll also learn what you can do so you can get back some of your bandwidth and increase your potential for intimacy and authentic connection with the people in your life.
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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with one of my BFFs Danielle LaPorte. She shares how changing your perspective on yourself can help you become more loving and how tending to your body and nervous system can be a spiritual practice. Plus, Danielle shares why now was the perfect time to release her new book, How to Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up.
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Do you react strongly to bright lights, crowds, loud places, or too many stimuli? Do people ever tell you you’re too sensitive? How about high maintenance?
You might be a highly sensitive person. A highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone who has an increased or deepened central nervous system with extra sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli.
In this week’s episode, you’ll learn strategies to up your comfort level in all areas of your life so you can thrive!
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I had the pleasure of inviting acclaimed podcast host and author Jay Fantom on for today’s episode. We chat about how he found his passion for storytelling as a curious child, the inspiration behind his new book The Path of an Eagle, and the necessity for persistence in pursuing your dreams. Plus: We bond over the special sense of purpose that pets can bring to our lives!
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When you think about a narcissist what comes to mind?
Do you think of the life of the party bragging about their accomplishments to anyone who will listen? Or someone out there seducing people with their considerable charms only to torture them once they are caught in their narc web?
In this episode, you’ll learn the top 10 signs to help you spot a covert narcissist, because this personality type can be even trickier and more insidious than the overt narc.
This kind of narcissist might be flying under the radar because they can come off as shy or even awkward unlike what we typically might think characterizes these personality types. Raising your awareness is the first step to proactively protecting yourself!
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Today I’m sharing another girlfriend jam with Ophira Edut, who is one half of the AstroTwins along with her sister Tali. Since we talked last, Ophira and Tali have been busy: They released a new book, What Sign is Your Relationship? as well as creating the Amazon Prime reality show “Cosmic Love.”
In this chat, Ophira shares some tips for navigating your relationship with the help of astrological charts and past life knowledge. Plus, I share my very own insights from a past life reading about my marriage with Vic!
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Have you ever described yourself or someone else as having OCD?
I recently had someone write to me about their “neat freak” partner, referring to them as having OCD, and I was like…hold up. Not everyone who likes things orderly has obsessive-compulsive disorder, yet it’s a term that gets thrown around lightly.
It is much more complicated than excessive hand washing or checking that the stove is actually off.
In this episode, I’m covering the differences between obsessive-compulsive disorder and a need for order and cleanliness. Plus, what it is, the way that it can present, and the real struggles that people with OCD face.
Remember, learning how to talk about mental health with sensitivity and compassion starts with getting informed so let’s go!
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I have an especially exciting girlfriend jam to share today with my pal LeAnn Rimes! She’s an incredibly talented artist as well as an amazing person. She first became known for her country hits, and she could have rested on her laurels, but she has never stopped challenging herself in her creative work and personal development. We chat about managing the anxiety that comes with creating passionate, disruptive work. Plus, she shares the story behind her new record, “God’s Work,” and the single “The Wild.”
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Do you ever find yourself exhausted and you’re not sure why? Do you ask yourself, “Why am I soooo tired?” often?
Emotional energy leaks can drain us of our vitality and leave us physically exhausted, compromising our quality of life.
Listen now to learn how to identify and fix energy leaks that might be sucking your precious bandwidth dry!
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Do you ever scroll social media and think to yourself, “Wow, there’s never anything but bad news?” Well, today’s guest ione butler was tired of the exact same experience. She created a platform called Uplifting Content to share the kind of content that she wanted to see, including inspiring stories of human kindness and advice about healing and self care. Today, we chat about why good news is so important and how sharing your story with others can prepare you for positive change.
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Do you ever wonder how you’re doing when it comes to boundaries?
Healthy boundary setting is a lifetime skill and that means it takes practice. Our boundaries continually evolve throughout our lives and our relationships, so even if you feel like you’re already a boundary boss, it’s great to take an inventory every so often.
In today's episode, I'm breaking down the five different types of boundaries and walking you through how to do a boundary inventory so you can see where to focus your attention to strengthen your skills.
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Dr. Perpetua Neo (Or Dr. P, as I like to call her) is the author of the fantastic workbook This Is What Matters: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Identifying Your Values, Priorities, and Path Forward after a Crisis. In this interview, she shares how she left an abusive relationship with a narcissist. We also chat about vulnerability, over-functioning, and resetting your brain through meditation to make sure your higher self is in charge.
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When you get into a new relationship, do you ever make assumptions that the other person has the same morals, values, and integrity as you…
…without having a conversation about those things?
Do you think healthy relationships just develop naturally on their own?
If this is you, you’re not alone. These are some of the most common pitfalls we can hit early in relationships, that is, unspoken assumptions + lack of communication around boundaries.
In this episode, you’ll learn the top 5 most important foundational boundaries for you to create at the beginning of a relationship (or to establish in a long-term relationship) for an EPIC partnership.
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Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with therapist Cathy Adams, who recently published the book Zen Parenting: Understanding Ourselves So We Can Take Better Care of Our Children. Whether you have children, plan on having children, or even just know any children, this episode is for you. She teaches us how to prepare kids for the real world in a holistic, loving way, while managing your own fear and uncertainty about the future.
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When you and your partner come together at the end of the work day what’s the first thing you do? Flip on the TV, check email, or hop on social media? Do you ever feel like your connection has become an afterthought?
What I’ve seen in more than 25 years as a psychotherapist is how very easy it can be to take our people for granted. Cultivating lasting love is a daily practice.
If you seek a deeper connection and more intimacy with your lover, this episode is for you.
You’ll learn some tips and strategies to ritualize acknowledging your person. When there is a mutual commitment to daily appreciation rituals, it keeps us close with those we love the most!
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In this episode I’m going to be talking to Doug Bopst, who was arrested when he was 20 years old and sent to jail for possession of a large amount of weed with intention to sell. Since then, he has become a successful personal trainer, author, and podcast host. His mission is to inspire others to overcome their own adversity, whatever it may be. He shares his inspiring life story and reminds us to reflect on how we can take responsibility for our actions and their consequences, even in difficult circumstances.
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When you’ve repeatedly been hurt by someone and you share it with others in your life do you ever hear things like,
“Well, you probably provoked them” or…
“You can be really sensitive” or…
“Maybe you just took it the wrong way” or…
“I’ve never had a problem with them” or…
“Aren’t you being a bit of a drama queen”?
These reactions are the opposite of supportive. If it happens often, you need to learn how to protect yourself with boundaries from others who (whether they realize it or not) are contributing to keeping an abusive or dysfunctional system in place.
As a continuation of last week’s episode, I’m laying out some strategies you can use to protect yourself emotionally plus boundary language and scripts to help you better manage the abuse enablers in your life.
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When I called Niyc Pidgeon for this interview, I thought we would be talking about productivity and positive psychology. Instead, when I asked her about the work that was really energizing her lately, her answer surprised me: She’s writing a book about suicide prevention. What’s more, she finds hope and joy in writing about it — even though suicidal behavior has heavily impacted her own personal life.
We discuss the ripple effects suicidal thoughts and behaviors can have on communities, tips for talking to somebody you worry may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, and Niyc’s own experience coping with suicidal thoughts after a sexual assault. Plus: Niyc introduces her next book, One More Day.
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When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like:
“Well, it takes two to tango…” or
“You’re too sensitive…” or
“You need to let it go…” or
“Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof?
If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.
In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships.
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When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like:
“Well, it takes two to tango…” or
“You’re too sensitive…” or
“You need to let it go…” or
“Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof?
If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.
In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships.
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Be honest: Could you use a little more chill in your internal life? How about being less stressed and experience more joy, more relaxation, and more flow?
Well, in today’s episode I’m talking to the perfect guest for you: Kelly Smith, the globally celebrated yoga and meditation teacher who founded Yoga For You and hosts the podcast Mindful in Minutes.
Today we’re chatting about the reasons you should consider incorporating a daily meditation practice into your life and how meditation can be accessible for you no matter how busy you are.
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I don’t think I’ve ever shared this story publicly, but skin cancer awareness is a topic that is near and dear to my heart (and my nose!). If my journey can inspire even a handful of you to start a new routine of daily sun protection, sharing it will have been worthwhile.
If you're someone who knows you should be using SPF when you go out in the sun, but you still don't do it consistently, this episode is for you, my friend, because I don’t want you to experience what I experienced.
I’m sharing my very personal story (and some raw pics!), as well as resources and ways you can become more educated to take the very best preventative care of the skin you’re in!
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Today I’m excited to share my chat with weight loss expert, author, and creator of the Target 100 program, Liz Josefsberg. When I first heard about her holistic approach to weight loss and health, it made so much sense to me that I took her 10 week course myself! In this episode, we talk about ways to disrupt unhealthy patterns, set new boundaries around food, and target lifestyle goals that you can really live with.
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Are you someone who goes on vacation…but doesn’t actually go on vacation?
Are you checking your work messages when you should be present to the folks you are with or the beauty that’s surrounding you?
If you're nodding your head yes then this video is for you. You’ll learn why it can be so hard to actually BE away when we’re on holiday - whether it’s a staycation or a vacation- plus some steps you can take to create proactive boundaries so you can actually enjoy your time off!
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Today I’m sharing a chat with my longtime friend Rob Mack. We’re talking all about love: How to find it ourselves, create more of it in the world, and embody it by searching for a story that is both positive and true. Plus, Rob shares his own meditation practices and helps us understand how we are naturally wired to see problems, and how we can work on reducing that bias.
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Have you ever told someone something important to you in confidence, only to find out they told someone else?
Are there people in your life you are hesitant or afraid to share your truth with because you know you’ll be judged?
In this episode, we are talking about emotional trustworthiness, how to spot it in others, how to maintain it in your relationships, and how to become more emotionally trustworthy yourself!
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Today I’m chatting with Allyson Byrd, an expert in entrepreneurship, success, and manifestation. We chat about how creating the life that is true to your inner self today will set you up for financial success in the future. Plus, she shares some tips to help you let go of your learned fear of financial abundance.
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Do you identify as someone who is a kind and generous person? Does that sometimes mean you prioritize other people's wants, needs, and desires above your own?
It is possible to be kind and generous without self-abandoning!
In this episode, you’ll learn why we do this plus the most common signs you might be self-abandoning, so you can up your self-love and begin to take better care of yourself (because you deserve it).
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Today I’m happy to share an interview with one of my friends, Trudi Lebrón. I’ve been following her work for many years and have learned so much from her. She’s an expert in diversity, equity, and inclusion in business, and just published her new book, The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, and Leadership. We chat about exploring identity, defining what success should mean in your own life, and how to be ethical without rejecting capitalism.
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Is there someone in your life who uses guilt to try to get you to do what they want you to do? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of flattery where someone says all these amazing things about you, but then expects something from you?
These are both examples of emotional manipulation tactics.
In this episode, I'm talking about the most commonly used manipulation tactics to help you recognize them + understand why you might be falling victim to this kind of dysfunctional behavior.
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Today I’m sharing a chat with Sheleana Aiyana. She is the founder of Rising Woman, an online community with more than 3 million readers. She talks about her childhood experiences parenting her own mother and coping through addiction. Then, she shares some strategies to help you heal, come home to yourself, and heal childhood wounds.
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.
We have all experienced some level of primary or secondary trauma over the past few years. The pandemic, the war in Ukraine, and school shootings among other events have brought the topic of trauma front and center in our public discourse.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the definition of trauma so you can have a better understanding of what it is and can make the distinction between normal trauma responses and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
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Today I’m sharing an interview with Dr. John Delony. He’s a mental health expert, podcast host, and author who specializes in making the path to mental wellness accessible for everyone, especially people who don’t come from an academic background.
John explained five steps you can take to heal past traumas that are getting in the way of your current life, no matter who you are. Plus, we chatted about codependency in parent-child relationships— how damaging it can be to both parties when parents are dependent on children for their emotional stability.
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Are you someone who proudly proclaims that you “never get angry”?
Or do you wait so long to deal with your anger that when it finally comes out you explode- only to feel guilty and wish you could take it back?
Either way, if you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down six different types of anger people experience so you can get a better understanding of how your anger might be affecting you, your health, your relationships, and your behaviors. You’ll learn some things you can do to have a healthier relationship with your anger because trying to ignore or suppress it is not the answer. Honoring your anger is honoring yourself. So click below to watch the video or keep on reading.
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Do you feel like you could use a little more inner peace right now? You’re not alone. The world today feels more hectic than ever. Today’s guest, Shannon Kaiser, has some tips to help us re-tune inward and protect our inner peace. She also shares her boundary struggles as a world renowned spiritual and self-love teacher as well as guidance from her new book, Return to You: 11 Spiritual Lessons for Unshakable Inner Peace.
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Do you dread Father’s Day? Do you find yourself frustrated in the greeting card aisle every year because you feel like you have to get a card but none of the Hallmark messages ring true?
Are you estranged or is your father absent? If so, you are not alone. While Father’s Day is a celebration for some, for others, it can bring up feelings of sadness, anger, and disappointment. I get it.
I had a very complicated relationship with my father and Father’s Day was always kind of painful for me. I was that person who would go into a store and see all these cards that would say things like:
“Dad, you were always there for me,” or, “You’re so amazing, thanks for always cheering me on,” etc. None of the Father’s Day sentiments were accurate for me or represented my experience with my father.
If you can relate, this episode is for you. I’m sharing 5 non-traditional ways to celebrate Father’s Day to give you options to honor the beautiful, supportive relationships in your life.
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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with the wonderful Kerri Kelly. As a community organizer and author of the brand new book American Detox, her goal is to make well being accessible and inclusive for all.
We chat about the dark side of the western wellness industry: the ways it excludes minorities, appropriates practices, and exploits vulnerabilities. Then, Kerri guides us on how each of us can make positive change.
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If you’re honest with yourself, does the idea of forgiving someone feel like you might be condoning their bad behavior or like they are getting one over on you?
If forgiveness feels complicated (and it is!), this episode is for you. You’ll learn about what I’m calling the new forgiveness, which is about releasing resentment that might be holding you back- not about letting someone off the hook.
Plus, inside this week’s guide, you’ll get a powerful 4-step process to release yourself from the prison that prolonged resentment can become so you can begin your healing process.
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Do you feel like it’s impossible to get what you want? Do you love to lift other people up but never really see yourself shine? If those questions resonate with you, today’s interview with Julie Solomon is for you. Julie is the recent author of Get What You Want: How to Go from Unseen to Unstoppable. She shares some tips from the book as well as her own experience growing out of a mindset of scarcity, hiding, and codependency to see herself shine.
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Do you think something terrible has to happen in your life before you pick up the phone to call a therapist?
Do you think you need to be on the verge of a nervous breakdown or ever think to yourself…well, it’s not that bad…I’m not crazy. I should be able to manage this on my own.
If you’re sheepishly nodding your head yes, then this week’s episode is for you. It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and I’m breaking down all of the good reasons for you to get into therapy as a proactive way to protect your overall health.
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Today I’m chatting about blended families and stepfamilies with Jamie Scrimgeour. She’s an expert on stepfamily dynamics and the host of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. We have a great conversation about pitfalls to avoid when you join a family and how to appreciate the unique beauty of being a step-parent. Along the way, we share some of our own experiences as stepmoms!
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This week, I’m breaking down simple mental wellness strategies you can incorporate into your daily life to support robust mental health.
While some of the things on this list might be things you already know you “should” do, with 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can tell you a lack of these wellness essentials can negatively impact the quality of your life and how you feel (and you don’t get the amazing benefits from knowing without actually doing, lovebug!)
I’ve included a ton of resources to help make it even easier for you to focus on simple things you can do on a daily basis to proactively support yourself and your mental health.
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Today I’m interviewing Kute Blackson. He’s an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher who is an expert on surrender. When you think of surrender, you might associate it with weakness. However, surrender can actually take great strength. In this episode, Kute is going to explain how finding the courage to let go can help you live authentically and fulfill your life’s true purpose. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Kute as much as I enjoyed talking with him!
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Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but one thing usually holds true across the board- we can feel very conflicted about how to respond to curious (even if they’re well-meaning) people.
Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of personal questions you don’t want to answer?
How did your father die?Why did you get divorced?
What happened with your job?
If you’ve ever grieved the loss of something or someone and felt like people were asking for information you didn’t want to give, but were unsure how to respond, I get it.
In this week’s episode, you’ll learn how to establish appropriate boundaries when dealing with any kind of loss, how to inform people how to treat you, and how to treat others in life’s most difficult moments.
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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with my friend Lisa Bilyeu, author of the new book Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life and co-founder of the wildly successful business Quest Nutrition. She tells us how she challenged her family’s expectations to transform a life that was not working for her into one that is really, really working for her. I really hope you enjoy this chat with Lisa as much as I enjoyed hanging out with her.
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How do you feel when you go to your favorite exercise class and someone is sitting in your spot? Are you low-key burning up on the inside?
Let’s say you go to Sephora to get your favorite face cream and they've discontinued it…are you really bummed out?
Does change make you uncomfortable, especially when you have no control over it? If so, then this episode is for you.
You’ll learn about the power of becoming more adaptable and how adaptability is one of the keys to cultivating more happiness in your life.
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Tricia (also known online as Your Joyologist) is an ex rock-and-roll roadie and current life coach, podcast host, author, and speaker who I’ve known for at least a decade now. We chat about all the ways it’s unhealthy to hold ourselves to “shoulds” instead of acting on our true wants. If you sometimes struggle with shame, guilt, and rumination over what you could have done differently in the past, Tricia has some advice for you.
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Do you ever wonder if your relationship with your mother (or maternal impactor) is “normal”? Are you curious about how it has affected you as an adult?
Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated and in this episode, I’m breaking down the 7 types of dynamics I’ve seen the most in my 25 years as a psychotherapist, plus the lasting impact each type has on emotions and behaviors in adulthood.
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How do you relate to time?
Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others?
If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!)
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Today I’m sharing a special double interview with John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann. Though John and Ana are both amazing authors and have been happily married for decades, their most recent book The Go-Giver Marriage is the first one they have written together. We’re chatting about the five secrets to lasting love, as well as their relationship-damaging opposites. Plus, how to keep appreciating what your partner brings to your life, even when people around you see their relationships as limiting.
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Today I’m talking with repeat guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. We talk about how codependency, which he calls self-love deficit disorder, attracts narcissists, and why a codependent-narcissist relationship is so damaging. Then, he walks us through the steps to healing, from first reaching out for help to finally living a self-love abundant lifestyle.
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Let’s say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better?
Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.
In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit.
Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing!
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Today I’m sharing a chat with filmmaker, writer, and musician Vandana Kohli. She joins me from India to discuss how our constant interaction with electronics is causing a global mental health crisis. Plus, she shares mindfulness practices that will help you find a balance between your digital connectedness and your mental health.
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How do you feel when Sunday rolls around?
Maybe you had an amazing weekend, but slowly but surely, as Sunday afternoon gives way to evening, does anxiety, fear, and dread start to creep in?
The “Sunday Scaries” is a real thing, so if this is you, check out this week’s episode because in it, you’ll learn how to decode why you might be feeling this way and take your Sunday back so you can face Monday refreshed and relaxed!
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Today, I’m sharing an interview with author and ex-stand up comedian Pam Gaslow. After more than a decade of sobriety, Pam relapsed into addiction at age 45.
While many people think of marijuana as a harmless drug, Pam’s experience was different: She became an addict, living without purpose and barely able to function.
We chat about everything, from why people think weed is completely harmless when it almost destroyed Pam’s life, to how her mindset has shifted post-addiction.
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Are you running low on happiness and joy in your life after everything we have been experiencing for the past two years? Do you have relationships that drain your energy and happiness?
If you're nodding yes to either of those questions, this episode is for you. I'm going to share four steps that will help you take charge of your own happiness, joy, and contentment, even when the outside world makes it difficult.
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Kristine Carlson and her husband, the late Dr. Richard Carlson, co-authored the bestselling book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… And it’s All Small Stuff. Today, I am sharing an interview with Kristine about the big stuff: Profound loss, grief, and how to honor your love by healing and choosing to live. Kristine shares what she personally learned from the loss of her husband and explains how allowing yourself to grieve fully allows you to live more fully as well.
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Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.
In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.
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Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with “It could be worse”? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn’t allowed.
Today’s guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic positivity. She is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the Instagram account @Sitwithwhit as well as an author and the owner of her own therapy practice in Miami, FL, The Collaborative Counseling Center. In this episode, Whitney teaches us how to leave behind toxic positivity to become authentic and supportive — for ourselves and the people we love.
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Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships.
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Today I’m interviewing New York Times bestselling author, health and fitness expert, and former neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse Tana Amen. If the name seems familiar, it’s because she’s married to recent guest and friend of mine Dr. Daniel Amen. We talk about her recent memoir The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child, she shares how she broke the cycle of abuse and poverty she was born into, and we dive deep into the ways that we can heal ourselves.
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How much fear and anxiety do you experience every day? Do you think of yourself as a chronic worrier? In today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand the roots of your fear and anxiety and share some steps that you can take to have less stress and more joy in your life.
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Today I’m interviewing dietician, entrepreneur, model, and actress Melissa Boloña about what it’s like to own her business, Beauty and the Broth.
We talk about her transition from acting to entrepreneurship, how she manages the daily stress of her responsibilities for her company, and how the health benefits of bone broth can extend to your mood too!
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Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts?
We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships.
From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive distortion. It is our emotional brains convincing us to believe negative things about ourselves, others, and our situations without concrete evidence.
In today’s episode, you’ll learn more about how cognitive distortions can show up in our lives and wreak havoc on our self-esteem and our interpersonal relationships. So if you are struggling with negative thoughts or feel like there’s a negative filter on your brain- take heart, you can achieve more mastery over your emotional brain (so it stops playing tricks on you)!
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Today I’m bringing you a special episode with repeat guest Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain health expert who hopes to end mental illness by revolutionizing how it is treated. Just like any other organ, the brain doesn’t work well when you don’t take care of it. Dr. Amen shares seven ways you can change your behavior now for a healthier, happier brain, as well as the substances and habits you might want to avoid.
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Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you’ve found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?
If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, you’ll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out (‘cause they’re not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout.
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Today I’m chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. This book is Gabby’s most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children.
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Have you ever met someone you would describe as an “old soul” or seemingly older than their years?
You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.
Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations.
Listen to today’s episode to learn more about your current emotional maturity level and what you can do to increase it because doing so will create more opportunities for growth and more harmony in your life!
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Today I’m excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the “adult chair” to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We’re talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing.
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Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?
Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?
What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.
If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence.
In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life.
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Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we’re playing catch-up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success.
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How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine’s Day?
I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day.
What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desires this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself?
Listen to today's episode to learn several ways you can get your needs met this Valentine’s Day plus a sacred self-love ritual to help you feel supported, deeply nourished, and adored.
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Today I’m interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don’t know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today’s episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forward through that grief, and we also talk about the importance of practicing self-love and self-forgiveness even when you believe guilt is all you deserve.
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Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I’m helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult relationships and reviewing the most common causes of chronic fear of abandonment.
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Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today’s guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workouts and we talk about why home workouts are a staple of my routine even now that my gym is open.
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Do you feel like you’re continually struggling in relationships with the same self-absorbed, controlling people? It could be in your romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work relationships.
Maybe you keep finding yourself with narcissistic partners even though after your last breakup you swore, “never again”...
Or you get a new job and, sure enough, you end up with the same version of your last bully boss.
If you’re nodding your head yes, trust me, you are not alone. Looking into our past can help us understand why we might be enacting behavior patterns that can leave us vulnerable to narcissists.
Listen to today's episode to learn the most common signs of being raised by a narcissist, plus the 5 red flags you should look for in your relationship/dating life so you get empowered to break the cycle.
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I started out wary of astrology, but over the past decade, I have become increasingly open to the perspective it can offer on our individual struggles and the shifts we see in society as a whole. My change in perspective is thanks in part to Ophira Edut, a good friend of mine who is one half of the celebrity astrologer duo the AstroTwins. I invited her today to chat a bit about what astrology tells us to expect from 2022, and the entire decade ahead of us. She also shares a special elemental horoscope just for empaths and we discuss how trauma and unfamiliarity can be opportunities for positive change.
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When you are in a conflict do you clam up and go silent? Do you run away and avoid it at all costs? Or maybe you explode and escalate it?
Listen to this episode to learn the top four most common communication in conflict issues that people experience. Plus, you’ll get some tips and scripts that you can use when you find yourself in a heated situation.
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Real Love Revolution season is in full swing, my people, and that means I’ll be teaching all month long about how to raise your love vibe and create vibrant, lasting love in your life!
One of the foundational pieces of my body of work on healthy love is the love blueprint. Your love blueprint contains information to help you understand the conscious and unconscious ways you currently relate to love.
This learned behavior is not your fault, but understanding it now is your responsibility– especially if you want to make changes in your love life. The exciting news is with the right tools and guidance, you absolutely have the power to rewrite your love blueprint.
In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you how to uncover your downloaded love blueprint!
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I’m excited to share my interview with Alex Banayan, author of The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers. After a decade of interviewing very successful people, he shares what he has learned about approaching success by thinking outside the box.
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Have you ever wondered why you attract the people you do romantically?
Do you find yourself dating a version of the same person over and over again...only to eventually be disappointed and frustrated? Or maybe you are in a relationship and you are craving more- more intimacy, better communication, and a deeper connection?
If you have ever thought amazing, epic love is for other people or the lucky few who happened to be in the right place at the right time, you are not alone. I used to think the same until I started diving deeper into therapy to understand my own attraction style.
In this episode, I'm teaching you how to identify your romantic attraction style, because it is an important aspect of understanding your romantic experiences which sets the stage for you to create and maintain healthy, vibrant love. Self-knowledge is power and I can attest that real love isn’t for the “lucky,” it is for the self-informed.
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Recently, many people have been asking me to talk about addiction. During the pandemic there has been an increase in consumption of substances like alcohol, weed, and pills around the world as people use them to cope with difficult times we are going through. Today I invited a special guest, my friend Patty Powers, who is an amazing addiction recovery coach who I have referred my own clients to. We’re sharing our conversation about addiction, relapse, and psychoeducation, as well as Patty’s own incredible battle with addiction.
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How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions? Did you know studies show that only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions and that nearly 80% fail by February?
Those aren’t great odds. Why is it so difficult to follow through with our New Year’s resolutions despite our best intentions? From a therapeutic perspective, resolution setting is missing an essential piece; honest self-reflection.
For real, lasting change to stick, we need to look back, assess, and find evidence of what’s working and what’s not in our lives. It is only from a place of self-awareness and clarity that true transformation can happen.
That’s why in today’s episode, I’m offering you a therapeutic process to help you unpack 2021, honor your experiences and understand your own growth so you can clear the way for the changes you want to make!
It’s my favorite sacred ritual to start the year feeling energized, clear, and ready to take on 2022!
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Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.
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Today I’m excited to share a chat with my friend Latham Thomas, who is a celebrity wellness and lifestyle guru, doula, and educator. She explains the role a doula can play in a client’s childbirth village. We also discuss the Black maternal health crisis, and Latham shares how she became a doula herself and later launched her doula training program so that more parents could experience childbirth the way she did.
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Are you stressed out of your mind from anticipating all of the needs of all of the people, all of the time? Do you go out of your way to indulge a particularly difficult family member so that they don’t explode and ruin the family gathering? If you find that you are always anticipating the needs of others, I might be able to help. In this episode, I’m breaking down what I call codependent anticipation and giving you some steps that you can take to stick to your side of the street a little bit more and stress a little bit less.
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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with Jennifer Pastiloff. She shares her takeaways about her experiences with the traumatic loss of a parent and her deafness and shared her deafness: How it led her write her book, On Being Human, how to quiet your inner asshole voice with kindness, and how to reach outside your bubble to truly be of service to other humans and feel connected to the world.
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How hard is it for you to apologize when you hurt someone? Do you find yourself starting the apology with “I’m sorry you feel…” “I’m sorry you think…” or “sorry, but I was tired?” Do people feel understood when you apologize, or does it make things worse?
In today’s episode, I am going to outline some bad apology habits and then share some tips for how you can avoid them in your life to give satisfying, authentic apologies when you accidentally hurt the people you love.
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Today I’m interviewing Lindsey Ellison, a breakup breakthrough coach, author of two books, and podcaster. She gives us some advice about all things narcissist and how to break up without being broken. Plus, she shares her personal experience with discovering her own higher power helped her stop treating a codependent relationship as one.
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When you have to say no to someone, do you feel compelled to give them a long explanation of why you are saying no, or do you find yourself defending your right to say no?
How often do you find yourself building a case to convince the people in your life that you’re doing the right thing?
When you make a choice do you want everyone to approve of your decision?
If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you. There is an important difference between convincing and providing context when it comes to communicating our boundaries and preferences.
In this episode, I'm breaking it all down for you, because the bottom line is:
You don’t have to convince anyone of anything.
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Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Elizabeth Earnshaw, licensed marriage and family therapist and director of A Better Life Therapy, LLC. She shares her thoughts about how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted different types of relationships, gives tips for starting difficult conversations with your partner, and explains the importance of rituals in building reliability in your relationship. Plus, I ask her about the inspiration behind her brand new book I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age.
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If something is really important to you, can you go to the mat for it?
Do you know how to negotiate and stand up for what you want? Or do you avoid the conflict and potentially end up living with regrets?
Knowing when and how to fight fair for what you want is part of being a boundary boss and essential to living your most satisfying, self-determined life!
That’s why in today's episode, I'm walking you through how to pick your battles wisely, how to stand your ground, and how to negotiate like a pro.
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Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a clinical psychologist at northwestern university and expert in relational self-awareness. We talk about love, self-reflection, monogamy, and how the field of relationship psychology has changed in the last 25 years, as well as sharing our own experiences with self-awareness in our intimate relationships. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Alexandra as much as I enjoyed interviewing her!
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When you're upset with someone about something, do you:
Say nothing, but silently keep score?
Talk to other people about it?
Ice the person out?
Send them a passive-aggressive or sarcastic text?
If any of those rang a bell, you are not alone which is why in this week’s episode, I’m breaking down the top 10 indicators that you might be suppressing and/or unconsciously repressing your anger.
Raising your awareness around when you might be acting out feelings of frustration or anger is the first step to expressing yourself in a healthier way. I promise you, learning these skills will improve all of your relationships, including the one you have with yourself.
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Do you think epic love is random?
Is it just a twist of fate for people in the right place at the right time?
Is real love only for the lucky?
The short answer to all of these q’s is...nope.
In this episode, I am teaching you how you can build a rock-solid foundation and infrastructure for a lasting, vibrant, EPIC love relationship.
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Would you like to be more self-assured? You aren’t alone: So many of us want to live our lives with more confidence and less fear. Today’s guest, my long-time friend Anna Goldstein, has some tips. Anna is a certified life and business coach who tells it like it is, and she is going to share steps you can take today to dial into the part of you that is already more confident. Plus, she shares her own lifelong journey building self-confidence and how it inspired her to write her book Be Bold: A Guide to Unbreakable Confidence.
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Are you ever tempted to look at your partner’s phone? Or if you’re dating someone new… do you ever feel an urge to peruse social media for a glimpse of their ex?
Jealousy is normal...but only to a degree. If you or your partner’s green-eyed monster is rearing its head a little too often, then this week’s episode is for you.
I’m going to break down the differences between normal and extreme jealousy and help you locate the origin of a jealous streak so you can decode it, deactivate it, and move into more healthy ways of relating.
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Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice?
If you’re nodding your head yes, that’s understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life.
In today’s episode, I’m delivering rock-solid clarity about what codependency is by showing you what it’s not. Ready for some major myth-busting?! Let’s go!
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Today I’m sharing an interview with Gabrielle Stone. She’s an actress, podcaster, director, and best-selling author of two books: Eat, Pray, FML, and her newest book, The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl. We have a long conversation about love, loss, and self-love, and Gabrielle shares the compelling story of how she moved on from being cheated on by her husband of two years to arrive where she is today.
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Do you give ‘till it hurts in your relationships? Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings, problems, and situations?
I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get asking me: “How can I tell if I’m codependent?” and “What’s the difference between being caring and codependency?”
Raising your awareness of these 8 codependency warning signs can help you start to focus on your own side of the street.
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the most common symptoms and red flags that could point to codependency.
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I’m so excited for you to tune into this juicy chat I had with my girlfriend Africa Brooke. She’s a globally recognized coach, consultant, thinker, and writer who specializes in helping people overcome self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. I met her through a virtual event on empowerment. She was the speaker right after me, and I was blown away by what she shared and what she talked about. I think you guys are going to love her work too.
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Do you have trouble asking for help? Do you find yourself saying, “It’s just so much easier if I do it myself?” Trust me, you are not alone. In today’s episode, I’ll be sharing how I learned to do less, produce more and ask for help, and I’ll teach you how to do the same.
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Today I’m interviewing my super smart friend Jayson Gaddis who just released a brand new book called Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships.
If you are a conflict avoider, you sometimes passive-aggressively communicate your displeasure rather than having a conversation about it, or you just don’t know how to repair your relationship after there has been a blowup or rupture, this episode is for you.
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How do you handle ruptures and communication breakdowns in your relationship? Do you avoid talking directly about the blow-ups and conflicts that you have? Do you ever pretend that they haven’t happened or act extra nice to avoid talking about them?
I am going to help you understand what is and isn’t normal when you fight in a healthy relationship and give you a couple of in-the-moment strategies to prevent small ruptures from becoming huge problems.
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I have a really exciting interview for you today with my friend Rachel DeAlto, who has a brand new book out called Relatable: How to Connect With Anyone, Anywhere, Even if it Scares You. We talk about social anxiety, how the lockdown has impacted our ability to be confidently social, and what to do with the existential loneliness the last two years has created for many of us.
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Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today’s episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help.
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Today I’m talking to Jonathan Fields, a friend who I’ve known for many years, about his new book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive. I think the book is perfect for the current era, when so many people are reconsidering the kind of work that fills their days. Jonathan shares a summary of ten "sparketypes" that will help you think about what kind of person you are and what tasks will naturally ignite your passion.
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Are you a giver? Do you find that you are usually on the giving end of things in relationships? If you’re a giver, do you attract takers? In today’s podcast, I explain what can be particularly dangerous about a relationship between a codependent and a narcissist and give you the tools to avoid becoming entangled in one.
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Today I am chatting with my friend Cassandra Bodzak about her brand new book “Manifesting Through Meditation: 100 Guided Practices to Harness the Power of Your Thoughts and Create the Life You Want.” She talks about how you can lay down the foundation for attracting what you want in your life and manifest the life of your dreams — all from a perspective that blends spirituality and practicality. She also shares a sneak peak from the book by reading one of her guided meditations for us!
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Do you have difficulty when it comes to setting boundaries? Do you worry what others will think of you when you do? In today’s episode, I want to help you feel at ease with setting boundaries by answering the most common 5 boundary questions my audience asks.
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Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Sabrina Soto. She shares how she manifested her life as a lifestyle expert, interior designer, bargain hunter, TV personality, and mom, and how she lives that life with confident boundaries.
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How often do you say to yourself, “I guess that’s just the way it is,” even when you wish that things were different? In this episode, I’m inviting you to question the status quo, helping you to identify whether you’re a rule follower or a rule breaker, and giving you ideas to help you create a better life outside of the box that someone else designed.
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We all want to see ourselves as good people, but everybody has the capacity to hurt others when we don’t understand them.
Today I’m chatting with with nonbinary author, actor, and activist Jeffrey Marsh about how you can celebrate those with diverse identities even before you know all the rules, how to be an ally without being perfect, and some practical tips for being comfortable with they/them pronouns. Plus: Jeffrey tells me about their biggest childhood inspirations and their new book, “How to be you.”
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Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous? Do you want to avoid it? Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, “I don’t want to deal with it”? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotions you can expect to feel when you set boundaries and some strategies to avoid self-sabotaging in response to them.
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Today I’m sharing a super insightful jam with my girlfriend Cathy Heller. We chat about how you can tap into your passion and pivot from what you’re doing now into what you really want to do, hear the inspiration behind Cathy’s podcast “Don’t Keep Your Day Job,” and express the importance of making time for the things that make you light up with happiness, even when they aren’t practical.
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How do you feel when other people tell you “no”? Even if you are a good at setting your own boundaries, it’s natural to feel defensive or afraid when others do the same because accepting others’ boundaries is a different set of skills to learn. In today’s episode, I teach you some steps to be as graceful and gracious in accepting the boundaries of others as you would like them to be in receiving yours.
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Lots of us are feeling overwhelmed by the process of returning to work -- Especially empaths and introverts, who use even more energy when they are around other people. In this episode, I explain how the shared traumatic experience of the pandemic can also be an opportunity to shape our new normal as we go back to work and other social spaces in person.
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Today I’m sharing a conversation with Andrea Owen, the author of “How to stop feeling like shit,” “52 ways to live a kickass life,” and her new book, “Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength.” She tells us who should read her newest book, how to replace assumptions with superior internal stories, and shares a memory about a turning point in her life when a drug addicted boyfriend showed her she needed to learn to speak her mind.
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Have you ever noticed that even the way somebody walks into a room tells you all a lot about them before they even say one word?
Whether we want to or not, we convey a lot of information through our body language. In this episode, I’m teaching you how to make sure your body language is supporting the boundaries you want, not sabotaging them.
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Today I’m sharing a conversation with Tanya Dyer, Esq, a relationship coach, divorce lawyer, author, and alpha woman. We dive deep into relationships, marriage, self-healing and Tanya’s origin story. She gives us steps that we can take to heal relationships that are unbalanced by taking care of ourselves first.
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If you grew up with a narcissistic parental impactor, you’ve likely experienced some behaviors that would seem totally crazy or even unbelievable to other people. Your needs were unmet when you were a child. You felt invisible.
In this episode of the Terri Cole Show, I help you identify the signs of narcissistic parents and explain some strategies for overcoming their impact they have left on you.
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Do you ever think that somehow, something was wrong with your relationship with you and your mother?
In today's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I help you understand whether you have a mother wound that needs your attention. I’m defining mother wounds, their causes, how they could be showing up in your life, and the benefits of healing from them.
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In today's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I talk with writer, survivor, and inner child work advocate Nate Postlethwait about his experiences overcoming trauma and building community to help others heal as well.
"I want to share the things that have been most beneficial for me as a survivor, not an expert." — Nate Postlethwait
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In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between silent agreements and clean agreements so you can avoid the pain and frustration of making assumptions or suffering quietly and shift towards healthier, more direct communication in your relationships.
"Establishing clean agreements sets up everyone in your life to succeed. - Terri Cole"
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In today’s episode with Robert Mack, we address: what happiness is and isn’t, how we can increase our happiness, the power of living a peacefully alive and present life, plus so much more!
"Happiness isn’t what you do, who you surround yourself with, or what you think, but it is what you are." - Robert Mack
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In this episode of the Terri Cole Show, I am opening up a dialogue about projection and helping you get to the root of what it is and how it may be affecting you, your life, and relationships because awareness + new actions = transformation and informed decisions!
The more well-versed you become in understanding the most common psychological defense mechanisms you are using in your life, the healthier your relationships will be and the more empowered you become. - Terri Cole
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In today’s episode I am speaking with the brilliant, Ross Rosenberg. We target the topics of codependency, narcissism, and of course, self love.
"People often find themselves in a codependent situation- whether it be personal, professional, or relational- because they lack self love." - Ross Rosenberg
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In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the differences between over, under, and optional functioning. As well as, outlining the characteristics of high functioning codependency, and giving you some steps to have better boundaries and self care!
“At its core, codependent behavior is a covert or overt bid for control.” - Terri Cole
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In today’s episode, Dr. Avanti shares her story of her path to Ayurveda, further explaining what the practice is centered around, how to find balance and optimize your health, and most importantly, her new book The Health Catalyst.
"You can quit your job, but you can’t quit your calling." - Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh
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In this episode of the Terri Cole Show, I’m getting to the root of boundary- setting anxiety and talking about ways you can overcome feelings of discomfort so you can become better at boundary setting!
"When you’re abandoning yourself, you’re not really helping the people in your life." - Terri Cole
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In today's episode, I am speaking with a new pal, Gina DeVee, author of The Audacity to be Queen 👑 about how to treat yourself like the queen that you are, among other juicy topics.
"Your value as a queen is not from these artificial things outside of you but it is about the connection within." - Gina DeVee
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In today's episode, I am covering how to identify emotional abuse and some safety steps you can take.
“Trust is impossible if emotional abuse is present.” - Terri Cole
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Would you like to be confident as F*ck? (So to speak ;)
Well, in today’s episode that is exactly what we are addressing - what being confident as F is all about, and who better to speak on this than coach, podcast host and author of Confident as F*ck: How to Ditch Bad Vibes, Clean Up Your Past, and Cultivate Confidence in Order to Make Your Dreams a Reality, Elle Russ.
Being confident is on the inside AND the outside. - Elle Russ
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Have you ever been in an argument with someone and before the end of the argument, even though they have done something quite egregious, you find yourself apologizing? In today's episode, we're talking about emotional manipulation because it's real people!
Emotional manipulation is a calculated effort to control you. Expressing your needs, desires, and limits can set these personalities off. - Terri Cole
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In today’s episode, we are discussing author Nina Restieri's journey as a mother of four over the past fifteen years, jump-starting her own business empire, and learning to stay true to herself and her needs.
It was very important to me that Overcoming The Mom-Life Crisis reflected my truth. I wanted it to be truthful, because authenticity is the only way my words will have power. - Nina Restieri
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When you begin dating someone, are you unsure if and when you should call or text the person? Is it hard for you to tell someone what your preferences are? Do you struggle to know how much to reveal about yourself and how soon when you’re seeing someone new? Luckily, in today's episode, I'm talking about Boundaries and Dating!
“How we review our romantic love and our own love ability, has everything to do with how we grew up.” - Terri Cole
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In today’s episode, I am super excited to announce that I’m hanging out with the brilliant Pilar Gerasimo! Pilar is an award winning health journalist and the author of The Healthy Deviant: A Rule Breaker's Guide to Being Healthy in an Unhealthy World.
"If you choose to be a healthy, happy person in a context of a world where most people are not, you’re going to have to deviate from a bunch of social norms and conventions." - Pilar Gerasimo
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In this episode, I’m handling everything that makes up the complex world of boundaries in friendships.
"Remember, every adult friendship in your life is voluntary. " - Terri Cole
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In today’s episode, we open conversation to Sheri Salata's unique career journey, how she transformed her life, a very special 12 week course you don’t want to miss out on, and so much more!
"When I began to take my words seriously, my life changed dramatically." - Sheri Salata
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about white lies, keeping secrets and boundaries.
By talking true, I became someone I could count on. - Terri Cole
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Dr. Shefali and I are having a girlfriend jam to discuss her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free.
"We get to be queens, we get to be empowered, and we get to change our mind whenever we want." - Dr. Shefali
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In today’s episode, I am opening the discussion to mental health and further aim to normalize the conversation around mental wellness.
"Your mental health challenges do NOT define you."- Terri Cole
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I loved speaking with Dr Adi Jaffe today about addiction, relationships, abstinence and shame, as well as his book, The Abstinence Myth.
People need guidance and understanding, not judgment and stigma, and the sooner we realize this, the more lives we’ll be able to save. - Dr. Adi Jaffe
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How much time do you think that you will have spent by the end of your life on social media or your device? It may shock you.
Oftentimes we use social media as an outlet to not feel the way we really feel. - Terri Cole
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Today, Kute Blackson returns to The Terri Cole Show and we have a very interesting conversation surrounding his new book, The Magic of Surrender.
"Surrendering, for me, is a process of giving up my need to know what everything means and where it is going. "- Kute Blackson
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Did you know there is a connection between boundaries and self esteem?
"When you care for yourself, it shows." - Terri Cole
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When you know you need to set a limit or draw a boundary with someone, do you labor over the words forever and still feel like it came out wrong? In this episode, I am teaching you how to talk true and in turn be authentically you.
"When you talk true, you are inviting the people in your life to know the real you." - Terri Cole
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Clinical psychologist, Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is the CEO and Director of Dr. Elizabeth Cohen and Associates, a group private practice in the heart of New York City serving hundreds of clients a year.
You have to mourn the things you once dreamed of having. - Dr. Elizabeth Cohen
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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free has officially arrived at its publication date!
I am so excited to share all this boundary wisdom with you and in honor of my first book baby’s “birth” to the world, I am taking a deep dive into a very special topic: Your Boundary Rights.
"Healthy robust personal boundaries are the key to living a fulfilled, empowered, and self directed life."- Terri Cole
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My guest, Dave Asprey, is the Founder and Chairman of Bulletproof. Dave’s mission is to empower the entire globe with information and knowledge that unlocks the Super Human in everyone at any age.
"What we need right now is more community and more knowledge of what works instead of what’s supposed to work." - Dave Asprey
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In today’s episode, I am walking you through difficulties you may have regarding boundaries with parents, how you can set them successfully, and the benefits you’re adding to your life by doing so.
“Your job as a grown up is to set the boundaries that work for you in your adult life.” - Terri Cole
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Steven Pressfield is the author of the million sellers Gates of Fire and The War of Art, as well as The Legend of Bagger Vance, Tides of War, The Afghan Campaign and a number of other historical novels set in the ancient world.
"Resistance is the negative force inside your head- it can riddle us with self doubt." - Steven Pressfield
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When it comes to difficult people, it doesn’t seem to matter how you interact with them or respond to them, there’s always a problem. So in this episode, we're talking about ways to draw boundaries with them!
Drawing boundaries is sharing your preferences, your desires, dealbreakers, with people in your life. It is letting the people in your life know what is okay with you and what is not okay with you. -TC
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Ashley Stahl is a counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with.
"Don’t do what you love, do what you are." - Ashley Stahl
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In this episode, we are diving into everything you need to know regarding sexual boundaries (and their violations)!
"I think it is SUPER important that we normalize talking about sexual boundaries." -Terri Cole
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Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is the founder and director of Maze Women's Sexual Health, the country's largest independent women's sexual health center.
“Being in touch with your sexuality connects you with some of the pleasures of being alive.” - Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus
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We're back to boundary basics! I talk about the areas in life where we need boundaries and how you can identify boundary violations.
"You, and you alone, are responsible for your feelings just as others are responsible for theirs." - Terri Cole.
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Yasmine Cheyenne is a mental health and wellness expert who specializes in teaching her clients tactics so that they can heal themselves.
"My goal is always to completely dissociate the societal context that keep us boxed in living unhappily." - Yasmine Cheyenne.
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If you feel confused about your boundaries, these 7 signs will help you figure out where you can get better at setting them.
"It doesn't matter if you have been the biggest boundary disaster in the history of the world, I promise you that you can learn." - Terri Cole.
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Christine Hassler, is a friend, bestselling author, fellow podcaster and coach. Today she talks about connecting and healing your inner child.
"So much of these protective mechanisms we adopt as adults, but they really start in our childhood. They really just block us from love and intimacy." - Christine Hassler.
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Healthy boundaries are so important, and at the same time, they easily get confusing. But I'm hope this episode helps clear things up for you.
"We were raised and praised to be self-abandoning codependents" - Terri Cole.
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If you're interested in bringing more YAY to your life, then you'll love my guest, Meaghan Murphy. She recently came out with the book, Your Fully Charged Life, and Meaghan talks about upleveling your life on today's show.
"I truly believe my book is for anyone who thinks tomorrow can be more awesome but just doesn't know how to get there." - Meaghan Murphy.
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In our new pandemic work from home normal, we're asked to put in place a new set of boundaries so that we can feel our best.
"Create some sort of fun ritual to indicate the end of day." - Terri Cole.
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Do you ever wonder why you are so anxious? Dr. Daniel Amen has helped millions of people overcome anxiety and change their brains for life.
"Mental hygiene is just as important as washing your hands, we need to disinfect our thoughts and tame the dragons." - Dr. Daniel Amen.
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Covert manipulation and guilt can be very sneaky. In order to avoid being manipulated we have to be aware of the covert manipulation tactics. I'll go over the tactics and how to avoid covert manipulation on this episode.
"In every relationship money is never just money." - Terri Cole.
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A question that I often get is "I can’t decide, should I stay in my relationship or should I go?" This will help you figure out what's best.
"Every time we feel pain in a relationship it tells us that something needs out attention." - Terri Cole.
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You should treat yourself with kindness and compassion, that’s why I came up with a self love ritual that's perfect to be your own Valentine.
"Falling madly and deeply in love with you changes your life." - Terri Cole.
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The last year has been full of a lot of uncertainty. However, strengthening our emotional safety can help us build resilience to get through tough moments in the future.
"There’s nothing that stunts growth more than fear." - Terri Cole.
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Epic loves does not just happen as we see in movies and shows, but it is a life-long process. Join me as I share my top 4 verbs of Epic Love.
"Feeling seen in your brilliance and in your bad stuff, and being loved anyway, that is what epic love looks like." - Terri Cole.
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Recently, someone sent a message asking me why she was still single, so I decided to dedicate this episode to answering that question.
"Whether you are partnered or whether you are single, you definitely have a downloaded love blueprint." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about how to make 2021 your year of extraordinary love, and the origin of all healthy real love starts with self love.
"All healthy love starts with you." - Terri Cole.
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The first step to stop feeling bored in your realtionship is to get out of old routines. Today, I share my top 3 passion producing tips.
"The more good will that you have, the easier it is to be honest about how you fell and what you want." - Terri Cole.
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This is the last week of 2020! I share my annual ritual, that allows you to leave behind all the crap that you don’t want to bring into 2021.
"How do we want to feel, especially as we are embarking on a brand new year?" - Terri Cole.
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So many of you desire to have real love in your life - but how do we know what real love looks like? Real love is different (and sometime opposite) than what we see in romantic movies, but these top 10 traits give you a solid guide to find or keep the healthy love relationship you desire.
"In a healthy relationship you are each a full person. The magic is that when you get together the thing that is created is something that would never exist if you haven’t get together." - Terri Cole.
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Raise your hand if you are an empath or a highly sensitive person? I know I am, and if your are too, this show is for you. Today, I'm talking about having a proactive protection plan, so we don't feel exhausted and drained by absorbing other peoples' energy.
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This show is inspired by the work of researcher Dr. John Gottman on love and partnerships. John Gottman is famous for being able to predict divorce based on specific characteristics especially around communication in relationships. Today, I talk about the criticism, boundary requests, how to deal with conflicts, the importance of taking responsibility for yourself, and more.
"If you are just criticizing someone, you really are just attacking them." - Terri Cole.
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I am talking about reactivity, self-regulation, and the common ways to know when we are in a reactivity mode.
"Self-regulating is our ability to manage disruptive or upsetting emotions and/or impulse." - Terri Cole.
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Julie Anne Eason is a speaker, author, and CEO of Thanet House Books. If you are a writer or aspiring writer, this show is for you.
"A book carries your message and your life experience out to help people you don’t even know you are helping." - Julie Anne Eason.
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There is something incredibly uplifting about focusing on what’s going well. Listen in for 3 simple step to harness the power of gratitude.
"Gratitude can be this great connector of people." - Terri Cole.
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"Healing the Mother Wound" is one of my most popular episodes, and so today I'm talking about self-parenting to heal the mother wound.
"You don’t need to involve your parents if your mother is alive. This is really between you and you." - Terri Cole.
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Why do we stay in problematic relationships? I want you to take a good look at the people you are spending time with and how you feel after spending time with them. I know that ending or modifying relationships can be very difficult, that’s why I created a little guide to help you figure it out the best way to change your relationships.
"You are the only bouncer of your VIP section." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about how to avoid conversations with inconvenient people, and how you can flip the script and only share what you want to share without coming off as awkward or rude. I also share some strategies for dealing with interrupters, what to do when people are on their phone while you are talking, and much more.
"We have to be discerning about who we are talking to, because what’s appropriate in one situation wouldn’t be appropriate in another." - Terri Cole.
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Words like "denial" and "projecting" are thrown around a lot in casual conversation these days. These words are actually psychological terms that are defense mechanisms, and I think we've begun to throw them around so much that defense mechanism vocabulary can easily get misunderstood. On today's episode, I go over common defense mechanism terms that we often hear, and I clarify what they actually mean.
"The more we know about the way our mind works, the better shot we have at really being the boss of us." - Terri Cole
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I share 7 ways to recognize if you are in a codependent relationship. Codependency can happen in any relationship, not just romantic ones.
"When you are codependent, the line between where you end and the other person starts are completely blurred." - Terri Cole.
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If you are in a relationship where you are often justifying or minimizing behavior, then that can be the case of trauma bond.
"It is very difficult to stay broken up with someone if you are trauma bonded and you continue to have contact." - Terri Cole.
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Dr. Mariel Buquè is an Afro-Dominican Psychologist and educator. She helps heal wounds of intergenerational trauma for BIPOC.
"When you do not have interactions with a subset of people enough, you operate from a stereotype perspective." - Dr. Mariel Buquè.
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I talk about the symptoms of seasonal depression and what to do to avoid it (or at least lessen the SAD) this year.
"Reframe your relationship to winter, reframe your relationship to the days being shorter." - Terri Cole.
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Whether you normally struggle with fearful thoughts or not, most of us are feeling overwhelmed in 2020. I give tips to overcome overwhelm.
"When we are feeling overwhelmed, it is so easy to be stuck in the disorder thinking where we are just repeating the same fearful thought." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about the hidden boundary busters that prevent you from having effective boundaries in your relationships.
"Our job is to constantly teach people how to treat us." - Terri Cole.
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Everybody struggles with making decisions, but sometimes we find ourselves sitting on the fence, staying stuck in a dysfunctional situation.
"If you are an empath or highly sensitive folk, whether you want to or not, you put yourself on the shoes of other people, cause it just happens naturally." - Terri Cole.
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Have you ever asked yourself why a particular commercial elicits a reaction from you? Today's show is about emotional recognition.
"If it causes you pain, then it needs your attention." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about all the 5 love languages and how you should pay attention and understand what kind of love language you and your partner are speaking. I also talk about being fluent in the love language, how you can use the platinum rule in your relationship.
"Love speaks. but not only in words." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about breaking codependent cycles between parents and children, how to prepare your children to go out into the world, and more.
"Codependency is the rotten foundation that bad relationships are built upon." - Terri Cole.
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As an intuitive love coach and matchmaker for successful women, Coach Cass is an amazing speaker, TedX presenter, and writer.
"A dream delayed is not a dream denied." - Dr. Casandra Henriquez.
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Sana Powell is an Indian-American licensed therapist. Today, we talk about the intersection between Social Justice and mental health.
"It's very easy to bypass vulnerability by just staying within our comfort zone. If we only talk about things that we are comfortable with or that we feel we are experts on, you might feel good on a day to day basis, but you will never grow." - Sana Powell.
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We talk about how to get out of the self-abandonment codependency mindset and the importance of doing some of the things that make you feel happy every day.
"If you ever wanna get a hold of your own happiness, you've got a get a hold of codependency." - Terri Cole.
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Today's episode is all about codependency with the human connection specialist, relationship expert, and Create the Love founder Mark Groves.
"If you have to become a private investigator while being in a relationship, you are codependent." - Mark Groves.
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My guest today, Christine Gutierrez, is the author of the upcoming book, I am Diosa. She talks about her book, women's empowerment, healing patterns, and more on this episode.
When you know you are not alone, you heal faster." - Christine Gutierrez.
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I talk about the importance of creating boundaries and overcoming trauma in your life, how to understand the past experiences in your life, and more.
"Personal boundaries are basically knowing where you end and the people in your life or the next person begins." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about what it means to have anxiety, and how it can manifest itself in your day-to-day life. I also share tips on how you can reduce your anxiety.
"Worrying is like praying for the opposite of you want to happen" - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about adopting a healthy perspective around finding a therapist, taking advantage of free consultations, and much more.
" Not everyone is gonna be a great fit, but I want you to go in with the right frame of mind." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about how to get your needs met. I share tips with you on how to observe without judgment, use non-violent communication, and more.
"Know how you feel first, that’s your side of the street." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about the best ways to resolve conflict, the most effective ways to communicate, the best way to control your anger, and more.
"If every conversation is a debate and not a dialogue, you are going in with the wrong intention." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I share with you a guide step-by-step guide of how to change your life, define your greatest desires, assess what's not working in your life + more.
"Real change and sustainable change really does happen in consistent small steps." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about managing and understanding your fear, the process of changing our perspective, the best ways to create more internal space, and more.
“Set your intention to not just to survive, but to learn something about yourself.” - Terri Cole
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Could you use a power pivot towards something better than what you’re experiencing or feeling right now? Today, I share 6 steps to make that emotional pivot without ignoring your true feelings.
"Stop judging your feelings." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about how to protect yourself, protect your energy, build boundaries, and more during this pandemic - especially for empaths, codependents+ HSPs.
"You are not someone's receptacle for their negativity, fear, and freakout."- Terri Cole.
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I talk about who to surround yourself with during this coronavirus pandemic, how to get the support that you need, how to tune into mindfulness, and more.
"When you protect you, you are actually protecting me." - Terri Cole.
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This episode is one of my most powerful Terri Cole Show episodes from 2017 about how to set boundaries with difficult people, including narcissists!
"Drawing boundaries is probably the most loving act that you can execute in a relationship." - Terri Cole.
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I give you tips on how to spot perfectionism, how to change your inner dialogue and let go of perfectionism to become a high achiever, and much more.
"Be present enough to look around and see beauty." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I do a live Q & A and answer questions from the audience like how to communicate in moments of difficulty in relationships.
"We have to clean up our side of the street first - understand our 50% of what is happening." - Terri Cole.
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Do you get offended easily? In this episode, I'm going to give you 6 simples steps to understand why you might be taking things personally.
"You never want to be in the position of giving people you barely know power over you." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I'm talking about breaking up with someone humanely. If it is time to end your relationship, then I hope you find this helpful.
"Sometimes someone is perfectly awesome, but they're just not your person. And you breaking up with them is actually freeing them to be with someone who actually is their person." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about my V-Day self love ritual, creating a zen den, finding a gift to show gratitude to yourself, the importance of self love, and more.
"I firmly believe that self love is the only path to getting other real love." - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, I talk about how to get clarity on whether or not to end it, and I go over some of these essential questions to think about.
"Relationships are like getting your Masters Degree in knowing who you are - learning how to communicate - learning what you want." - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, Danielle LaPorte and I talk about finding real love, getting honest about secondary gain, letting go of the past, and much more.
"My truest core self, my most divine self, my most essential original self is pure love." -Danielle LaPorte.
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Today we're talking about how to stop walking on eggshells and how to understand why we are compelled to walk on eggshells in the first place.
"A lot of times our own disfunction is that we're still responding like we're in our childhood homes, but we're not." - Terri Cole
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Gabby Bernstein and I talk about how to get what you want in life, her postpartum experience, her new book Super Attractor, and more.
"It's not selfish to feel good. It is selfless to feel good." - Gabby Bernstein.
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We compiled "the best of" 2019 for you. I talk about the most popular podcast episodes, and the most popular YouTube and IGTV episodes as well.
"My goal is to help as many people as possible live the most empowered life." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about New Year's reflection and ritual. Those lists include looking at EVERY aspect of your life and getting clear on what you want for 2020.
"Part of the evolutionary path is being willing to do hard things. And you can do hard things." - Terri Cole.
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Today, we're talking all about unconditional love and the kind of love you might actually want in your relationships (hint: it has to do with boundaries).
"If you don't have any conditions on your love, that really means to me that you don't have boundaries." - Terri Cole.
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Previously a dancer on Strictly Come Dancing (the UK’s version of Dancing with the Stars), Camilla Sacre-Dallerup talks about her new book and more.
"We really need to work with the mind in the same way that we work with the body in the gym." - Camilla Sacre-Dallerup.
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I talk about the questions to ask yourself to see if YOU struggle with "people pleasing", how to assert yourself, and much more.
"How can anyone authentically love you if you don't let them authentically know you?" - Terri Cole.
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Is Your Parent a Narcissist? I’m giving you 20 real-life behaviors that your parent might exhibit if they are a narcissist.
"You can lessen your suffering by being accepting about what your parent may or may not be." - Terri Cole.
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I'm actually not into Black Friday at all, so I wanted to create something that makes it easy to sink into gratitude - a meditation. Listen in to the end of the episode to hear it.
"I think it is important that we honor the way that we feel." - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, Satya Scainetti talks about what she did before she made jewelry, how she got her name, how to make the world better and much more.
"We all have these little hidden gifts inside us and sometimes we just need a little push to remind us." - Satya Scainetti
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I know that breakups and broken hearts can hurt. I think this episode will be helpful to heal, process your emotions, and move forward.
"Get really clear on how it actually was - not your fantasy of it." - Terri Cole.
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The holidays are just around the corner. Today we are going to talk about how to stop auto-accommodating and start enjoying this season.
“Give yourself permission to not do something that you'd done in the past.” - Terri Cole.
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I talk about how to get out of your own way, why we resist change, what you are gaining out of staying stuck, and much more.
“We can go kicking and screaming, or we can accept that change is apart of life.” - Terri Cole
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I talk about how to take a perspective inventory (why we take on a perspective to protect ourselves from pain), simple steps to changing your perspective, and much more.
"I feel more empowered looking at a problem and seeing an opportunity." - Terri Cole.
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I talk about what emotional labor is, how to find out if you're taking on too much emotional labor, and how to balance it out in relationships.
"As women, there is a tendency for us to be like sponges to a degree." - Terri Cole.
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Today's show is all about transference. It can hold you back if you're not careful. I talk about how to spot transference and what to do about it.
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“There's a part of you inside - the child within - that's thinking that this time it is going to be different.” - Terri Cole
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There's been a ton of news about the importance of vulnerability, but it is REALLY important that we are CONSCIOUSLY being vulnerable.
"We need to fully understand what healthy voluntary vulnerability is." - Terri Cole.
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Dr. Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author of two groundbreaking books on parenting. Oprah has named her work as "revolutionary", and I do too!
"Meditation is the pathway to self-regulation and self-care and manifestation." - Dr. Shefali.
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TODAY (Sept 30, 2019) is the LAST DAY to sign up for Boundary Bootcamp 2019! The doors are closing and it won't be available for another year! To prepare for Boundary Bootcamp, this episode is all about 4 hidden boundary killers that you probably haven't thought about.
"I want you to waltz into 2020 like 'bring it universe!'." - Terri Cole
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“I knew that I wanted to feel lit up, not trapped in these golden handcuffs of a life.” - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, I'll talk about some amazing things that you can do all on your own to help heal your trust issues and live a more fulfilled life.
"You are the common denominator in your life, just like I am the common denominator in my life." - Terri Cole.
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How can we change anything without changing our underlying thoughts? I talk about finding real love and reprogramming your mind to be a master attractor.
"There was so much more unconscious materials that I had yet to uncover in my own personal therapy, and when I did, I was able to understand my own repeating romantic reality and stop repeating it." - Terri Cole.
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Love bombing is a term used to describe a form of conditioning or manipulating behavior done with gifts, attention and affection. Listen in to learn more!
"Push-back inspires punishment from someone who is using love bombing as a manipulation tool." - Terri Cole.
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We are talking all about how to raise your emotional IQ. It isn't the same as being an empath, your emotional IQ is a skill that you can actually BUILD!
"When you become someone that you can trust, then the sky is the limit as to what you can create." - Terri Cole.
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How can you identify your own emotional triggers? I share with you 4 steps so you can respond instead of reacting when you are in triggering situations.
"Unresolved trauma can make you very susceptible to having triggers." - Terri Cole.
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We're talking about boundaries in relationships and knowing your non-negotiable deal breakers to help you avoid getting into relationships with narcissists.
“How someone responds to you making a simple request, will be very telling.” - Terri Cole.
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Do you walk around feeling like you're waiting to explode at something? Today I talk about the real reasons that you're angry and what you can do about it.
It doesn't mean that we're not going to be angry. It just means that nobody taught us how to be." - Terri Cole.
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The last few episodes have focused on how to spot dysfunctional family systems, but this week focuses on what a HEALTHY family system looks like.
“If you effectively draw boundaries, there has to be some consequence at some point if those boundaries are stepped over.” - Terri Cole.
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Today, I debunk some popular "procrastination myths". I touch on how to be aware of your procrastination pattern, and how to STOP procrastinating!
“Someone is procrastinating not because they don't care. But a lot of times (especially in reference to the perfectionists), it is because we care way too much.” - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, I talk about how to be more decisive, the "secondary gain" with indecision, how indecisiveness is related to codependency, and much more.
"When one of us gets healthy, the whole world gets just a little bit healthier than it is right now." - Terri Cole.
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Are you super dialed into all of environments that you're in? Do you think that you might be an empath? Today we're talking about auto-accommodating or over-accommodating, what to do about it + more.
"There is something about having some kind of a dedicated morning practice in stillness and silence that creates expansion throughout the rest of your day." - Terri Cole.
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Mark is a human connection specialist, or in other words, an emotional translator, writer, speaker and coach. His purpose is to help individuals and companies step into their most authentic, effective, loving selves by way of his bold, no-BS relationship guidance.
"The beautiful thing about knowing about a pattern is that a pattern isn't who you are. So you don't have to change who you are, you just change what you choose." - Mark Groves.
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How do we know what is normal if what we've experienced is all we know? I identify narcissistic family roles, and what you can do about it on today's show.
"The narc family is really interested in things looking good. They are more interested in what it looks like, of course, then what it is." - Terri Cole.
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Today will go over the 6 very common family roles and how they influence relationships. Next week, we'll talk about how you can break out of these roles.
"So much of the time, we grow up and we just keep repeating this patterns. We don't even realize where they came from or why we're doing it." - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, I cover some dysfunctional family dynamics that have become normalized in our society so that YOU can be aware of them.
"Unless they are people who have done a lot of self-help work, so much conflict stems from really not knowing how to communicate and when to communicate." - Terri Cole.
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I recently got back from a meditation immersion where we did 2 days of silence. Quiet-time for YOU can give you more real love in your life.
“I thought it would be hard to not talk, but what I found was that it was a relief.” - Terri Cole.
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Dana is the founder of Booty Parlor. She has changed the lives of thousands of women by inspiring them to boost their sensual self-confidence.
"You have to reclaim it for yourself first, and then from that point, you can start to ignite the fire and the passion in your relationship." - Dana B. Myers.
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I take a deep dive into shame and guilt. I think it will help you understand what those emotions are, and what to do about them when they come up.
"Instead of treating ourselves like a child who is going to mistakes because they are human beings, we treat ourselves like someone who should be perfect, and we're not, and we're never going to be." - Terri Cole.
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Spring is a great time to start getting rid of things and decluttering your home physically, but it is also an amazing time to cleanse your MIND!
"We don't have to have selective inattention to thoughts that are taking up space (precious real estate in our mind) that are basically bringing us down or not doing anything positive for us." - Terri Cole.
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Last week's episode addressed what the Mother Wound actually is, and in this week's episode, I focus on how to HEAL the mother wound. "There are so many aspects of having an unloving mother that profoundly impact us as children." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/191
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With Mother's Day coming up, I'm taking advantage of the is time period by talking about THE MOTHER WOUND. This show is the first of a 2-part series.
"If your deepest darkest fear is that you are unworthy of love, attention, and affection because of this mother wound, you will find that experience everywhere." - Terri Cole.
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Life is dramatic enough as it is, and none of us need additional drama in our lives. Today's show is all about how to get rid of unnecessary drama.
"Life is dramatic enough, people. We don't need people manufacturing or exacerbating the drama that already exists." - Terri Cole.
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Kate Northrup shares amazing insights into how to start doing less and earning more, and the surprising data that she has found about work and productivity.
"What's required is getting clear on what the results are that you want and then what actions actually lead to those results." - Kate Northrup.
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I'm super passionate about effective communication, and a HUGE barrier to effective communication and healthy relationships is DEFENSIVENESS. “You have something you want to say to your partner? Start it with softness. Start it with a positive. Be aware of what your intention is. Do you want to be right or do you want to be understood?” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/187
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I had a listener write in and say that she was concerned that she was sharing too much too soon, so today I get clear about WHEN you should be vulnerable.
"Being real is not the same as spilling your guts too early."- Terri Cole.
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We talk about our "food stories" with Elise Museles. She is a Certified Eating Psychology and Nutrition Expert + creator of the Food Story platform + host of the Once Upon a Food Story podcast.
"I was causing myself so much stress just by what was going on in my mind. Not by my eating habits, but by my thinking habits." - Elise Museles. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/185
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What happens when you lose the passion in your relationship? In this episode, I share tips for re-kindling and bringing that PASSION BACK.
"I want you to think about a long-term relationship as you, your partner, and the third entity is the actual relationship itself." - Terri Cole.
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One of my listeners wrote in asking about how to deal with a partner who is ALWAYS on his phone. Today, I talk about tech addiction and what to do about it.
"As much as there is so much good that has come with this advancement in technology, there is also so much bad and there is so much we don't know yet." - Terri Cole.
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Today, I talk about how to spot a narcissistic parent, how to deal with one, how to set boundaries, the Grey Rock method and so much more.
"What are you willing to do to protect yourself from this parent?” - Terri Cole.
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There is a fine line between codependent behavior and caring behavior, and THAT’S what today’s show is all about.
“With codependency, eventually we end up feeling resentful because we in some ways voluntarily over-give and over-do.” - Terri Cole.
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I’m excited to introduce to you a new ritual that you can adopt into your life, so we can use Valentine’s Day as a reason to love on ourselves.
"I want you to really understand that you are constantly setting the bar for all of the relationships in your life.” - Terri Cole.
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Christy Whitman is a Celebrity Coach and the bestselling author of The Art of Having It All. We talk about how to manifest your reality on today's show.
"We are always emitting energy, and everything is energy. All energy carries a vibration. That vibration goes out into the universe is matched by the universal law/Law of Attraction, and that is what we then attract into our lives.” - Christy Whitman.
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On the subject of Real Love Revolution, on today's show I take a deep dive into CODEPENDENCY, what it truly is, and how it is getting in your way.
"It is almost like people have the illusion/misunderstanding/misconception that being in a codependent relationship means that you’re relying on someone else to do something for you. That’s not necessarily true.” - Terri Cole.
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On today's show, I lead you through 5 steps that will help you attract more love in your life, and guess what? It all starts with YOU.
“It’s really only when you get really clear about your 50% that you can change anything.” - Terri Cole.
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"It is all about your mental health. It is all the energy that you’re putting out into the world. It is all about your beliefs (your LIMITING beliefs) about love and what is possible for you.” - Terri Cole.
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"We repeat what we do not repair, but we also repeat what we do not become of aware of.” - Terri Cole.
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"We do not know what 90% of our existence is made up of.” - Christina Rasmussen.
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"The very beginning of attracting lasting love is straightening out your relationship with yourself.” - Terri Cole.
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“You’re potentially over-giving not from a place of niceness, but from a place of need.” - Terri Cole.
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“One of the most important things is staying connected to your friends and your family no matter how amazing your relationship is.” - Terri Cole.
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“Perhaps make a decision this year if you generally feel blue during the holiday to prioritize your actual wants, needs, and desires.” - Terri Cole.
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“There is a way to be firm, but loving.” - Terri Cole.
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“I was having a very pivotal moment in my life where I was turning a corner. The pain was high enough that I was starting to go “maybe I am the problem”, and when I started asking that question, my life completely changed .” - Jayson Gaddis.
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“What we’re really talking about is being mindful when you’re dating.” - Terri Cole.
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"I want you to communicate effectively, efficiently, and directly, which you can do with ease, grace, and with appropriate love.” - Terri Cole.
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“You don’t have to work yourself to death solving other people’s problems to be worthy of love.” – Terri Cole
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“Your job is to create an amazing relationship with yourself. Take time. Do your own personal work.” – Terri Cole
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"Don’t just become a receptacle for someone else’s compulsive negativity.” – Terri Cole.
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“If you don’t prioritize you, how the hell can you expect other people to do it?” - Terri Cole.
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"My real hope and intention for this book is that it helps people have the difficult conversations that we need to cross bridges and reconnect in a powerful way that is positive for everyone involved.” - Alexandra Jamieson.
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“The most effective language to use is a question. And the most effective question to use is a question about the communication that was spoken.” - Kasia Urbaniak
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"I’m giving you all the information that you need to look at your life from a different framework.” - Terri Cole.
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“Being a mom really taps into that already over-developed desire or need to give yourself and put your own needs, wants, and desires last.” - Terri Cole
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“You cannot have the disease-to-please and rock-solid boundaries at the same time.” - Terri Cole,
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"The little kid in you, just like the little kid in all of us, hopes that it can be different, wants it to be different, wants to be wrong about their parent being a narcissist.” - Terri Cole
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"Because narcissists and codependents are basically two halves of this perfect whole. So you have the narcissist who is basically the taker and the controller, and the codependent person who is the fixer, the giver, the person who wants to make everything ok.” - Terri Cole.
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"There is something special about being around people who see you in your greatness." - Michelle Goldblum
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“The power of your intention…please don’t under-estimate it, because it can actually change things.” - Terri Cole
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"We learn to deny, dismiss, and not prioritize our own feelings about things." - Terri Cole
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"The only way for a relationship to be healthy and balanced and to last is to have boundaries." - Terri Cole
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"What happens when we fill a pregnant pause? A lot of times you say things you might not mean, you agree to things you might not want to do, say things that aren't true for you." - Terri Cole
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"I want to live my life open to everyone and every experience that's around me." - Melissa Ambrosini
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"You are the bow and the child is the arrow: your job is to pull that bow back and then let them go, and to be there if they need you." - Terri Cole
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"There is one three-letter word that can change any mindset challenge you have: yet." - Alex Jamieson
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"Every minute, every hour, every day is valuable." - Terri Cole
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"Just because someone used to have a pass to the VIP section of your life doesn't mean that they should retain that pass forever and ever." - Terri Cole
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"This is a time for making decisions, planting your intentions for what's to come." - Terri Cole
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"You don't need to wait for something terrible to happen to your body for you to appreciate it for the amazing instrument that it is." - Terri Cole
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"Our ability to learn, to change things, to see something from a different angle is a gift." - Terri Cole
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"If you really know that it's over, you have to honor the way that you feel." - Terri Cole
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"Use this mental spring cleaning as an opportunity to become aware of the thoughts that are taking up space without adding value, and then decide to let them go." - Terri Cole
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"It's these ordinary actions that you on a daily basis that have extraordinary healing benefits." - Dr. Frank Lipman
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"When you are committed, the universe revolves to help you reach your goal." - Barbara Huson
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"Being aware of the warning signs will prevent you from wasting precious time in your in your beautiful, one-of-a-kind life." - Terri Cole
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"Think about the things you can do to reframe the black and white thinking you have going on in your mind." - Terri Cole
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"I want you to use this as a guide to get to your own truth of what is real for you." - Terri Cole
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"Passive aggressive behavior doesn't work, it's unhealthy, and it keeps you stuck in a cycle of behavior that doesn't give you the satisfaction you want." - Terri Cole
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"The biggest obstacle to meditation is discipline, it's the actual showing up every day." - Elizabeth Novogratz
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"Real love looks like choice: choosing to be in the relationship because you want that person, not necessarily because you need that person." - Terri Cole
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"The fact that you don't want to do something actually matters, and the only way it's going to matter to other people is if it matters to you." - Terri Cole Learn more about Hello Freedom at https://terricole.com/131
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"We wanted to make women slow down to take the opportunity to love on themselves." - Latham Thomas
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"What would be a beautiful Valentine's Day gift to give yourself?" - Terri Cole
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"My definition of weight is that it's a physical sign, a physical manifestation that we want something to be different in our bodies and in our lives." - Robyn Youkilis
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"What happens when what is reflected back to you as a child is negative?" - Terri Cole
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"When you are diagnosed, you have this opportunity to create a deeply healing, loving, forgiving, everlasting relationship with yourself." - Kris Carr
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"When you have an inner mean voice that is always putting you down and making you feel less than, that is shame pretending to be your conscience." - Terri Cole
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"I just started unlocking a lot of deep stuff that was coming up in waves of feeling that I didn't understand." - Anjali Kumar
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"Instead of viewing it as forgiving them, we're going to see it as releasing toxic emotions that interfere with you creating the life you want!" - Terri Cole
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"Your fulfillment in a relationship is on your shoulders, it's not about the other person." - Jayson Gaddis
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"So much of why you haven't gone after your dreams is because this inner mean chick doesn't think that you deserve it." - Terri Cole
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"All your other relationships begin with: how is your relationship to you?" - Terri Cole
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"How do you want your life to look and feel in 2018?" - Terri Cole
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"As long as we are allowing ourselves to grow and learn, then we are freaking perfect." - Terri Cole
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"What I hope this episode will do for you is inspire you to honor the way that you feel rather than muscling through the holidays." - Terri Cole
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"Are you constantly reaffirming your negative experience of winter? Because I'm going to try to inspire you to flip your script."
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"How can we come up with ways that you can actually be peaceful and joyful this holiday season?" - Terri Cole
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"Can we change the definition of what it looks like to be strong?" - Andrea Owen
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"What can you actually do to get your power back in a situation that can seem so utterly helpless?" - Terri Cole
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"This is primarily a way of encouraging the psychopath or narcissist or whomever to lose interest in you." - Terri Cole
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"Being able to, with ease and grace, tell people what is ok with you and what is not ok with you will change your entire life." - Terri Cole
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"When you don’t tell your loved ones what you like, what your preference is, you’re setting them up to fail." - Terri Cole
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"Don’t add fuel to the explosive fire." - Terri Cole
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"When you learn to say no early and often this spares you trauma down the road." - Terri Cole
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"How will anyone know how smart, creative, and amazing you are if you never share authentically and speak up." - Terri Cole
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"Drawing boundaries effectively and healthily is actually learning an entirely new language." - Terri Cole
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"You don’t just have a right, you have an obligation to be clear about your boundaries." - Terri Cole
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"Whenever I want to move forward in anything, surrender is not just the logical but also the mental, emotional, and spiritual first step." - Elizabeth DiAlto
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"Do your best to focus on what’s right in your life right now." - Terri Cole
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"People hate to be around a chronic complainer." - Terri Cole
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"What is spirituality really? All of us becoming the best versions of ourselves." - Terri Cole
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"How far are you going to go with your rose-colored glasses before it really is detrimental?" - Terri Cole
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"What is the cure for toxic shame? It really is empathy, compassion, vulnerability." - Terri Cole
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"It’s all about understanding what eludes you in your life, and then we follow the dots backwards to an original injury." - Terri Cole
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"You need to be endlessly curious about you. You need to master you." - Terri Cole
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"When you’re [talking] in a self-centered way you’re not really being connected, are you? You’re just pouring yourself on them, but you’re not knowing them." - Terri Cole
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"You’ve got to put yourself first in some way so that you can keep your individuality alive and intact." - Terri Cole
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"You can be a loving person and not take shit from people. And by not taking shit from people, you actually become a more loving person." - Danielle LaPorte
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"You have a right to be completely self-determined, and that’s what drawing amazing boundaries will do for you." - Terri Cole
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"If you have a narcissistic mother, you have endured a lifetime of abuse and trauma." - Terri Cole
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"It really does erode your confidence and your ability to believe in your own interpretation of events." - Terri Cole
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"It requires a certain amount of emotional strength to handle something head on, to tell the truth." - Terri Cole
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"Ghosting is one of the cruelest forms of torture that dating itself can serve up." - Terri Cole
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"If you don’t start to balance out who’s doing what in the relationship, the relationship will either become super toxic or will end." - Terri Cole
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"Once you know that you are a highly sensitive person there’s a way that you can be in the world that really helps you out." - Terri Cole
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"You’re not going to have any freedom as long as you believe that your body, your physical health, is in a separate universe from the rest of you." - Dr. Christiane Northrup
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"What’s important is that you think consciously about what roots you’re building: are you going to own a home? Are you going to own a business? Are you going to invest in stock market type accounts?" - Amanda Steinberg
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"When you put together these two pieces of information - your attachment style and your love blueprint - you will get a much more clear idea of why you are the way you are when it comes to love." - Terri Cole
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"No matter how someone else behaves, no one has the power to make me act below my own level of integrity." - Terri Cole
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"My need and my desire to serve is so much bigger than what people are going to think of me." - Dimple Mukherjee
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"It’s a slow but sure erosion of your self esteem when somebody is constantly denying your reality." - Terri Cole
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"Every relationship is a dance, and communication is part of that dance." - Terri Cole
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"You have to look at every crappy situation that happens in your life and and say, ‘What was in that for me?’" - Terri Cole
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"If you can help give a woman confidence to give her that unmatched leverage in life, well that’s not just putting makeup on." - Shalini Vadhera
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"Having some sense of mindfulness about the way we act, the way we do, the way we talk to ourselves is always the first step." - Dr. Perpetua Neo
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"You never know what’s going to happen when you start to follow your passion and to really live a purposeful life." - Dr. Del Millers
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"Let’s all decide together, how do you want to feel for the next six weeks?" - Terri Cole
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"If I am meant to be relevant, I will be relevant. If I am meant to help people, I will do that. I am not someone to be forgotten, but most importantly I didn’t want to forget myself." - Vasavi Kumar
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"Spirit is the source of our supply and wholeness is everywhere and abundance is everywhere." - Colette Baron-Reid
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"I’m going to be 85 and still be learning, and I just have to accept that." - Lisa Lampanelli
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"People think that becoming kind to themselves or making space for imperfection means that they’re going to become complacent." - Megan Bruneau
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"My goal was to essentially create a book that wouldn’t be read but would be done." - Jonathan Fields
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"Eating well for me is about being happy and healthy." - Daphne Oz
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"Such a pivotal part of our freedom as women comes through the experience of being a sisterhood." - Nisha Moodley
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"If I don’t have myself, I have nothing really." - Kute Blackson
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"It’s honoring our wounds, honoring our resistance, and honoring our patterns before we start to transform them or choose to see them differently." - Gabby Bernstein
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"It is my conviction that women are the greatest untapped natural resource on this planet. " - Regena Thomashauer
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"The only thing you need to be when you’re marketing is authentic." - Steven Aitchison
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"My goal, my dream is to tell stories that move people and make people think about who they are and hopefully impact change." - Alysia Reiner
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"The choices that I make today, all 100 of them, predict my future." - Nancy Levin
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"I practice yoga not just so I can feel good in my body, not to feel good for the sake of feeling good but to feel good for the sake of feeling free." - Tara Stiles
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"How we feel in the morning and taking care of our physical and emotional and spiritual selves in the morning is going to have everything to do with how much you want to have that drink at the end of the day." - Caitlin Padgett
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"My favorite part of what I do is watching the transformation in someone when I dress them, watching them discover who they really are." - George Brescia
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"I have a lot of collected energy inside of me that I sometimes feel like I just need to express and share something and hope that hopefully someone reading it or witnessing it will benefit from it too." - Misha Lambert
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"You want to uncover something unexpected, and that’s what I love about the creative process." - Mark Osborne
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"I’d rather be in this body and happy than be in this body and think I suck." - Emily Nolan
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"We’re creating the space for people to be able to trust that voice inside and choose what they want to do, and that’s really scary for people." - Allison Leipzig
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"From the minute I started writing songs I was using a guitar as my healing tool." - Beth Nielsen Chapman
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"Journaling is one of the few things that I really have to be 100% with myself for, I have to be 100% present." - Katie Dalebout
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"Be interested in the truth more than being interested in being right." - Terri Cole
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"My mission has always been to reach as many people as possible and take their nutrition up a notch." - Keri Glassman
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"You can deliver extremely polarizing view points with the utmost kindness and grace." - Amy E. Smith
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"When we are bold enough to share our scars and dimples and pimples and beauty, it allows us to boldly proclaim who we are. " - John O'Leary
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"Instead of learning how to do Qoya, it’s more like unlearning all the things that tell you that you don’t innately know how to move your own body." - Rochelle Schieck
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"It’s important to zero in on what is truly important to you and cut the rest, because you’re going to have so much more financial freedom as a result." - Amanda Steinberg
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"Talking is the most dangerous thing people do, and listening is the most infrequent." - Harville Hendrix
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"We know how undertold women’s stories are, and so in that perspective we feel like there’s an incredible abundance in this space." - Allison Rapson
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"I’m choosing to get to know myself better so that I can navigate this terrain as gracefully as possible." - Carrie-Anne Moss
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"The food part was really fun for me, to tackle that part of my life, because I had already been creative in the kitchen." - Arielle Haspel
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"We don’t have to live in this reactive world, we can live in a responsive world, and when we do that we’re a little calmer, we’re a little more patient." - Davidji
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"We are all these many things, and for me it’s helpful to compartmentalize it." - Jennifer Ford
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"In my meditation I found that safety within myself when nothing around me was really offering me any comfort." - Cassandra Bodzak
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“We’re all going through the same things, and so few of us say it out loud, and we so seldom have permission to be vulnerable.” - Emily Greener
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"There’s always something new to explore, there’s always some new expansion to be made; This is an infinite system we’re dealing with here." - Jeff Kober
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"I had to get to a point where trying sobriety and recovery was a little bit less scary than continuing to drink." - Andrea Owen
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"When your mouth says yes and your heart says no, you get sick." - Neha Sangwan
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"I have no doubt that you can make whatever changes you want to make in your life so that you feel the way that you want to feel." - Terri Cole
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"You can make the choice to eat healthy or unhealthy, and you should make both choices." - Jamie Graber
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"The world is in such need of honest, integrous people who are makers, who are creators, who are entrepreneurs, who want to make a change in this world." - Marie Forleo
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"Getting out of your head and into your physical form and feeling everything that it can do for you, it carries over into everything." - Robyn Youkilis
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"I believe it’s just consciousness, and I have an aptitude and ability to access information from an amorphous place where I see potentials and probabilities and I’m able to put puzzles together." - Colette Baron-Reid
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"We have such intuition, and if we take the time to get quiet enough to really listen, we’re always guided." - Christine Hassler
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"I really feel like self care should be about eating well, sleeping well, being good to others, and being good to yourself." - Candice Kumai
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"The bigger mission for me has been to eradicate loneliness." - Christina Rasmussen
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"To choose to be healthy in the culture we currently have requires you to be somewhat unconventional in your choices." - Pilar Gerasimo
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"You have a choice, it’s your life, and sometimes you have to get the point where you opt out of what does not work for you." - Terri Cole
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"What you want is right here and right now, it’s available, hidden beneath the business of life." - Britt Steele
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"I want to be surrounded by women who cheer on the successes of other women." - Debbie Phillips
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"I love the ability to dance wherever I feel like dancing and play wherever I feel like playing." - Latham Thomas
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"A sense of profound and enduring meaning, is really central in our desire to live good lives." - Jonathan Fields
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"Movement is just the vehicle. My purpose with this is to get people instead of working out, to work in." - Elizabeth DiAlto
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"The ludicrous questions we ask ourselves are among the most profound." - Jan Black
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"Ultimately, that outward search for finding that source of love that’s going to be limitless and unconditional needs to be directed inward." - Meggan Watterson
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"All the good stuff that we want really comes to us in our lives when we are in that sweet spot of following how we feel." - Tara Stiles
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"The tendency that many of us have is to think a+b=c, and then we get attached to that and addicted to the stuff that we do, when in fact, we have to take a step back and realize that may not actually be helping me at all." - Mike Robbins
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"I am absolutely capable of being evil, and knowing that and then choosing light all that time, that is what makes me powerful." - Danielle LaPorte
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"If we can always be in that mode where we’re doing what we love and it’s helping, healing, and serving others, then we will have such little stress." - Davidji
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"If we know that eating our fruits and veggies is one of the greatest things we can do to support our health, then let’s find a way to do it that doesn’t take a lot of time or money or stress." - Kris Carr
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"Everything you want is outside of your comfort zone, and the price you have to pay to achieve it is to leave your comfort zone." - Patricia Moreno
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"It’s so much fun to be able to wake up in the morning and trust that there’s no lie in my space, there’s no secret." - Elena Brower
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"It’s really a mix of serene, almost mirage-like beauty mixed with really fun, campy things." - Michelle Goldblum
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"We have an emotional body, we have a physical body, we experience physical pain in heartache." - Ashley Turner
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"Setting boundaries is essential if you want to be physically and emotionally healthy." - Terri Cole
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"We were really taught every day to think about the qualities in our life that would make us feel happier, more connected, and more purposeful." - Mallika Chopra
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“Energy truly does manifest in the body physically.” - Laura Riggio
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“Your body is constantly telling you information, and one of the ways it speaks to you is cravings.” - Alexandra Jamieson
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"Wearing something that feels like a true expression of yourself and makes you stand up a little taller can change the way you approach your day." - Gala Darling
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"It’s what we’ve done to the food that has become a problem, not the food itself." - Dr. Frank Lipman
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“We don't need to go into that cage of age, we don't need to have our life force dwindle.” - Dr. Christiane Northrup.
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"Since it’s completely unavoidable, you might as well mine the wisdom in your fear." - Terri Cole.
Hello Freedom features expert interviews, discussions, observations, listener Q&A and how to apply practical strategies to create more freedom in all areas of your life. Join me in Episode 01 of Hello Freedom where I share my journey to personal freedom.
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