The Terri Cole Show

How do you react to seeing a friend, sibling, or partner having a rough time? 

Not how do you respond, but how do you react?

Do you immediately jump to share ideas or thoughts to try to fix their problem? 

Or do you inadvertently invalidate their feelings by saying, “Hey, it’s not so bad. It’ll be better tomorrow”? 

If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking about the transformative power of learning to sit with emotional discomfort, why you may feel compelled to avoid it by taking action, and what you can do instead.

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I am so excited to welcome Emily Sadri to the show to talk all things perimenopause! She's a Board Certified Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, Certified Nurse Midwife, and hormone expert who's helped thousands of women through this journey. 

Emily is amazing at breaking down complex topics and making them accessible, and we got into the weeds on weight loss, insomnia, and how and why the loss of estrogen affects us so deeply.

If you want more info, join the summit for free! I'll be speaking there:  https://perimenopauserevolution.com/?orid=16

North American Menopause Society: https://www.menopause.org/ (referenced during the interview)

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Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships?

Are you a people pleaser who prioritizes others above yourself?

Do you look outside yourself for validation?

If you answered yes and you’re tired of these relational dynamics, you’re in the right place because I’m talking all about self-abandonment: what it is, why we do it, the signs, and how you can move into self-consideration instead.

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I am so thrilled to have my pal, embodiment expert and author Elizabeth DiAlto, back on the show! 

We talked about Elizabeth's new fiction book, Dark Healing, and why she wrote it, as well as the differences between being triggered and activated, how embodiment can help us get out of our minds and into our body, the spiritual aspect of embodiment, and so much more. 

I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did!

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How do you feel about asking others for help?

Are you good at it, or do you avoid it because you don’t want to ‘owe’ anybody anything?

Do you find it difficult to believe other people will show up for you the way you show up for them?

Or does being vulnerable scare you?

If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about hyper-independence: what it is, why it matters, what causes us to act this way, signs to help you identify whether this is you, and how to shift into healthy independence and interdependence.

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I am so excited to welcome my science girl crush, Leah Elson, to the show to talk about a variety of things: her book, There Are No Stupid Questions in Science, why she's so passionate about being a public science communicator, her pivot from sportscasting into this field, and how she is working to give herself more grace and place less pressure on herself. 

If you're a fellow high-functioning codependent, I really think this is one you'll relate to!

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Do you believe that setting boundaries means being confrontational?

Do you wish you knew how to cut someone off nicely, especially if it involves a professional relationship?

Are you tired of confiding in others only for them to make your own pain into something about them?

Or have you wondered if it’s ever okay to “jump in and fix things” for someone who is struggling?

These are just some questions I’m answering about boundaries and high-functioning codependency in this episode. Let’s dive in.

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I am so excited to have my pal, best-selling author and speaking expert, Ashley Stahl back on the show to talk all things public speaking!

Whether you want to give keynote speeches, give a presentation at work, or pitch a crucial project, Ashley's tips will help you shine. We talked about the aspects of viral speeches, from the title to the opening and structure, as well as stage presence and the power of pausing.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Does it feel like if you don’t fix problems or move things forward, no one will?

Do you feel overly responsible, like everything will fall apart if you don’t do all the things?

Do you just find yourself saying, “It's just faster/easier/more efficient if I do it myself”?

If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I am talking about the five traits of high-functioning codependency (HFC), the cycle of codependency I often see my clients go through, and how to shift from over-doing and over-giving into more balance and less exhaustion.

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I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler, to the show to talk about his new workbook, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love.

Unresolved grief is so common, and I love the way David makes this topic so accessible. During this conversation, we talk about ALL kinds of grief, because it's not just about losing someone you love. It's also about endings and abrupt changes. 

David is such a kind soul and no matter what loss you've experienced, I think you'll find comfort and hope in his message.

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Do you automatically accommodate others because it’s the “nice” thing to do?

Do you consistently overthink how your actions will impact others?

Are you always on the lookout for how you can help people or solve problems?

If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between codependent, caring, or controlling behavior, this episode is for you. 

I’m breaking down the distinction by discussing a little-known aspect of codependency, sharing real-life examples to clarify, and providing tips on how to shift from codependency to healthy giving.

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I am so thrilled to welcome Hospice Nurse Julie to the show to talk to us all about end-of-life care: what to expect, what actively dying looks like, why it's so important to normalize discussing death, and what inspired Julie to start posting on TikTok and write her book, Nothing to Fear: Demystifying Death to Live More Fully.

If you're afraid of dying, or even thinking about death, this conversation might just be the one you need to hear. Julie's content went viral on TikTok just after 4 days which speaks to the need for education around death and dying. And getting educated often reduces our fear around it, so I hope you enjoy this conversation with Julie as much as I did.

CW: a large portion of this conversation focuses on death and dying, and Julie talks about what actively dying looks like at the 22 minute mark. If you're sensitive to this, please consider skipping that section or this conversation.

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Do you find it hard to open up to people, especially when you’re struggling?

Is it hard for you to ask for or allow help?

Have you ever had a crisis where you kept what was happening to yourself because you didn’t want to worry anyone? 

If you’re nodding yes, today’s video is for you because I’m sharing the high-functioning codependent (HFC) behaviors I noticed in myself as I navigated a recent health scare. 

I’m also talking about the hidden cost of not asking for help. 

By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to care for your health and let other people show up for you.

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I am so excited to have my pal and one half of The Astrotwins, Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about her and Tali's new book, The Astrology Advantage: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success. 

It’s a new way of looking at your birth chart to figure out which archetype you are: Innovator, Authority, or Maven. Ophira dives into what each type does best (we're both Innovators!) and how she and Tali created it. 

We also talk about how Ophira got into astrology, how she got me into it, and how it can be a useful tool in your life.

I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did!

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Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin?

Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them?

Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing?

Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family.

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I am so excited to welcome my new pal, author Najwa Zebian, to the show to talk about her newest book, The Only Constant: A Guide to Embracing Change and Leading an Authentic Life.

We cover so much, from feeling like an outsider to setting boundaries with friends (and social media followers), to navigating change that we didn't choose and how to come into acceptance, and so much more. 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Did you grow up with emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers?

Do you identify with having a father or mother wound?

Do you feel unlovable or undeserving of love? 

When our emotional needs go unmet in childhood, it often leaves a lasting impression on how worthy we think we are.

Reparenting can help. 

In this episode, I’m sharing examples of reparenting, why and how it can help us heal childhood wounds and practical strategies you can use to begin reparenting yourself today.

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I am so excited to welcome my wise pal, Vanessa Cornell, to the show to share her story of breaking down to break through. Vanessa had everything she could have ever dreamed of - a loving husband, five children, abundance and success - and yet, she felt trapped in a crushing and debilitating loneliness. (I'm sure many of you can relate!)

We also talked about how to navigate mom guilt (and why it's really fear in disguise), how high-functioning codependency shows up in motherhood, how we're taught to be in the world and why it causes rage and resentment later on, and so much more. 

I hope you enjoy this heartfelt girlfriend jam as much as I did.

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P.S. - Grab Vanessa's free gift at nushu.com/terri

Do you endlessly think about the mistakes you’ve made?

Do you replay the scene and ruminate over what you could have or should have done differently?

Are you filled with regret, worried you’ll make the same mistake again?

If so, you’re not alone. 

But living in regret is living in the past, which isn’t empowering. What is healing and empowering is to work through our regrets and learn from them to make better decisions in the future.

In this episode, I’m sharing a different perspective on regret which may lessen feelings of shame, the four types of regret (from behavioral scientist Daniel Pink), and how to move on from endless rumination.

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I am super excited to welcome my new pal, Jessica Zweig, to the show to talk about her newest book, THE LIGHT WORK: Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth, Illuminate the World.

While Jessica is most known for her work as a brand expert and entrepreneur, she is here to talk about her journey into the dark to find the light. 

We had such a beautiful, soulful, and nourishing conversation around Jessica's burn out, coming back to ourselves, navigating the shame we often feel around "failure," redefining success, AND how embracing the feminine helps us succeed. 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are?

Do you feel like you’ve grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates?

Or do you wish you had black-and-white signs telling you to stay or go?

If you feel torn over whether it’s time to end your relationship, this episode is for you. 

I’m giving you questions to determine if it’s time to leave as well as ways to break through confusion to get to the truth of how you feel and what comes next.

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I am so excited to have my new pal, Michelle Demaree, on the show to talk about how she changed her life after getting divorced. 

Her story is one of self-actualization, self-love, and perseverance. It illustrates the power of investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with women who will cheer you on and lift you up when times are tough. 

Michelle is also the founder and CEO of Miss Diamond Ring, where she offers bespoke concierge service for those looking for the perfect, meaningful ring to honor their love story.

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.

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Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why?

Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers?

Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people?

All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past. 

Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships.

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I am so thrilled to have family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman on the show. I had the pleasure of meeting him on the set of a TV show we were invited to do and on my way there, I listened to his book, Rules of Estrangement, and I think you'll love it.

I invited Dr. Coleman on to talk further about it because cutting contact with parents is something many of you have painfully decided to do, and Dr. Coleman shares his wisdom *and* personal experience with us here.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Have you experienced a major relational trauma that made you less trusting? 

Are you reluctant to trust people because you are unsure you can trust yourself to avoid making similar mistakes again?

Or do you find it easier to be alone?

Many of you have told me you can’t trust anyone anymore, which is why this episode covers a six-step strategic process for learning to trust others and yourself again.

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I am so happy to welcome my pal, life coach and media expert Susie Moore, to the show to tell us about the power of sharing our stories. 

This isn't just for entrepreneurs or business owners. This is for anyone looking to make a difference in the lives of others. 

Susie shares specific tips to help you pitch your stories to media outlets successfully, so you can reach more folks. 

And if you want to learn more, sign up for our free workshop on July 24 at 12 pm Eastern: getrockstarpr.com/terri

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Are you someone who proudly proclaims they never get angry?

Does anger feel unsafe and uncomfortable for you?

Or do you tend to bottle up your anger until you explode, leaving you feeling guilty and wanting to take everything back?

If you’re raising your hand, you’re not alone. I struggled with my own anger for many years. 

But denying our anger intentionally or not doesn’t make it magically disappear, which is why I am covering 10 signs you might be suppressing or repressing your anger, six common ways anger presents, and tips on how to acknowledge, honor, process, and integrate your anger.

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I am so excited to finally welcome Jeff Guenther (better known as TherapyJeff on social) to the show to talk about his new book, Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self.

We talk about dating in the modern world, how it's shifting, what trends Jeff is seeing in his practice, our best tips for lasting relationships, and also what it's like to try and date when you’re a bit of an internet celebrity!

There was a lot of laughter in this conversation and I hope you enjoy Jeff's humor (and wisdom) as much as I did.

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Does finding the right therapist feel overwhelming?

Are you worried you might end up with the wrong therapist or a therapist you don’t click with?

Or have you had bad experiences with therapists in the past?

If you want to try therapy but don’t know how to find a good fit, this episode is for you. I am sharing a four-step process to find the right therapist because you deserve to get the help you need. ❤️ 

(If you are in urgent need of help, please refer to this page for free mental health resources, hotlines, and online chats.)

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I am so excited to welcome world-renowned health expert on female-centric healthcare, Dr. Stephanie Estima, to the show! We're talking all about optimal health and hormones, discussing the changes we typically see as we move into perimenopause and menopause, and finding out how we can navigate them. 

Dr. Stephanie also shares her philosophy on health and wellness as a healthcare provider, how we might want to think about second opinions, and why perimenopause is something to be celebrated. 

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!

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What does living your best life look like for you?

How would you spend your time?

What habits would you have or not have?

What's stopping you from living this version of yourself?

There are many reasons, conscious and unconscious, that we stay stuck in unhealthy, limiting, or unsatisfying behaviors. 

In this episode, I break down some of those reasons and share questions you can use to identify where you might be self-sabotaging and why. With this awareness, you can make different choices and begin living your ideal life.

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I am so happy to welcome author and wellness expert, Yasmine Cheyenne, back on the show to talk about her new book, Wisdom of the Path: The Beautiful and Bumpy Ride to Healing and Trusting Our Inner Guide.

Yasmine shares her inspiration for writing this book (something I think many of you will relate to!), and we also talk about our creative practices, self-care (as recovering perfectionists), and so much more. 

What I love about Yasmine's teachings is that she's focused on making healing easily accessible. I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did.

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How do you feel about aging?

Are you afraid of getting older, or are you embracing it?

Do you struggle with how your body is changing?

I’ve spent the last ten years exploring my feelings and thoughts on aging both in and out of therapy, and in this episode, I’m sharing those thoughts and reflections with you.

I’ll talk about how I practice self-acceptance and compassion and share my best tips on how you can take care of your future self.

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Do you ever feel like at some point, you lost your sense of self?

That’s what my pal, acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author, Christina Rasmussen, is back on the show to talk about. She just published her newest book, Invisible Loss: Recognizing and Healing the Unacknowledged Heartbreak of Everyday Grief.

Christina describes invisible loss as unacknowledged and unvalidated. She says it comes from "a moment of impact, an emotional punch, when we feel rejected, disregarded, thrown away, isolated." It is a phantom loss, one we cannot even see within ourselves. 

In this conversation, Christina takes us through the process of identifying these losses and how to work through them, because almost everyone struggles with invisible loss at least once in their lives. 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Are you the go-to person for your friends, colleagues, and family?

Do you over-give, over-function, over-feel, or put other people’s needs above your own?

Do you sometimes say “yes” when you want to say “no” to avoid conflict?

Or are you in the healing arts?

I know many of you are natural-born healers who struggle to balance it all without burning out. I’ve been there, too.

In this episode, I share how being a healer impacts our ability to have healthy boundaries and how to identify if you’re a high-functioning codependent (many healers are!). Raising your awareness around these behaviors will help you avoid burning out.

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I am so happy to welcome back a frequent guest of the show, Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert on narcissism and codependency, and he's here to tell us about his amazing new book, Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Already Broken, which also helps raise awareness around what codependency actually is, why codependents tend to end up with narcissists, and what you can do about it. 

One brilliant takeaway: codependency is an addiction. 

I always enjoy talking with Ross because he speaks from personal and professional experience, and he brings new observations and thoughts from the field into the fold. 

What he offers is hope, something many of those in these toxic relationships need, so I hope you enjoy what Ross shares with us as much as I did.

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Do you ever stand in the card aisle around Father’s Day, endlessly searching for a card that doesn’t exist because none of the cards on the shelf accurately describe your relationship with your father?

This used to be me. 

Growing up, all the cards I saw said, You’re the most amazing father ever! You were always there for me! You did everything right!

None of these messages felt right. They didn’t capture my feelings toward or my reality with my father.

If Father’s Day is painful for you, you’re not alone. There are ways you can grieve, mourn, and honor the complex emotions this day evokes, which I share in this episode.

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I am so excited to have fellow therapist Todd Baratz on the show to talk about his new book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind: Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real. You might know Todd on Instagram as @yourdiagnonsense, which is how I came across his amazing work. 

Todd wrote this book for anyone feeling stuck in their relationship, and it was inspired by his own relationship struggles. As we mention in the interview, just because we're therapists doesn't mean we have it all figured out!

We cover a range of topics, from what inspired Todd to write this book and become a therapist specializing in sex, to the importance of differentiation in long-term relationships and intergenerational trauma. 

I hope you enjoy this therapist jam as much as I did.

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Do you think father wounds are obvious?

That you can only have a father wound if you had a ‘difficult’ father?

Or do you think successful women can’t have father wounds?

There is a lot of misinformation about the father wound online, from what causes one to how it impacts us. 

In this episode, I set the record straight by sharing the top six father wound myths I’ve encountered and the truth behind each.

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I am so excited to welcome my new pal and expert on narcissism, Dr. Les Carter (known as Dr. C) to the show to talk about the traits of narcissists. 

Dr. C walks us through the 8 questions narcissists can't answer and why, and it is incredibly illuminating. We talk about the inability of narcissists to be vulnerable, respect differences, manage conflict healthily, consider other opinions, and their need to be in control. 

Dr. C also shares his definition of narcissism and the most common misconceptions he sees about it. 

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!

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What drives your ambition? 

Are you passionate about creating something, or are you out to prove something?

Or are you out to prove someone wrong? 

I fell into the latter category in my twenties, unaware of how my father wound drove my career ambitions. 

I was also unaware of how much my father wound was influencing the romantic partners I chose. 

In this episode, I am covering how an unhealed father wound impacts our relationships, careers, and health to raise your awareness and hopefully save you years of pain, heartache, and dissatisfaction.

Signup for the upcoming Father Wound course at terricole.com/fatherwound!

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Are you intolerant of how you actually feel?

Or are you intolerant of what others believe? 

My amazing guest and pal, Africa Brooke, is here to tell us how to get curious and be in the middle with her new book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance, which I think is a much-needed antidote right now. 

Africa shares why she believes curiosity is a dying art, how to spark more of it (especially in ourselves), and how we can begin bravely expressing ourselves in the world, one step at a time, without censorship. 

Toward the end, Africa also tells us about her own experience of self-sabotage and how this led her to her current body of work. 

I hope you enjoy this enlightening conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.

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Growing up, my mother, my sisters, and I were all afraid of him. 

I didn’t think either of these things was a “big deal” until I connected the dots in therapy and realized how much I was playing out my father wound in my romantic relationships. 

Many of you say you think you have a father wound. By sharing my own story, I aim to illustrate a few of the different ways it can present and impact your life.

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My amazing guest this week is Kara Loewentheil, a feminist lawyer-turned-life coach. She’s here to tell us how a sexist society gets in our heads and how to get it out with her new book, Take Back Your Brain. 

We talk about the messages we absorb from society at a young age, how they shape our thoughts, and how we can slowly replace those thoughts with less crappy ones.

If you're a high-achieving woman who feels like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. As Kara says: You can't hate yourself into liking yourself! 

If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to preorder her book, Take Back Your Brain, releasing May 21! 

Have you ever wondered if your relationship with your father or father figure is normal?

Or maybe you know it wasn’t normal, but you’re not sure how it impacted you and your adult relationships.

If you suspect you have a father wound, this episode is for you. We’re starting with the basics: what a father wound is, the symptoms and causes of father wounds, and why it is painful. 

Healing my own father wound has had a profound impact on my life, and I can’t wait to share more about this with you over the next few episodes.

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I am so excited to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, renowned trauma expert, to the show to talk about his newest book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation. 

It's both a memoir and a beautiful exploration of healing trauma. I absolutely loved what Frank had to share about the different types of trauma, the healing process, forgiving the perpetrator, forgiving ourselves, and reclaiming our own narratives. 

If you've experienced childhood trauma of any type, I think you'll get a lot out of this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 

Gentle TW: there is a mention of suicide at 21:15. If this is a tender topic for you, please skip forward 20 seconds

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Does Mother’s Day bring up hard feelings for you or give you anxiety?

Do you find it difficult or frustrating to find a Mother’s Day card that speaks to your relationship with your mother?

Is it a day you’d rather pretend doesn’t exist?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re in the right place. I am sharing ideas for how to honor, grieve, mourn, and celebrate on Mother’s Day, no matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother.

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I am so thrilled to welcome my pal Lisa Bilyeu back to the show to celebrate the paperback launch of her book, Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want. 

We talk about the practical steps you can take to build confidence over time, how toxic relationships erode our confidence, and boundaries and family (specifically, the moment Lisa found out her dad disapproved of her marriage plans). 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Do you know what your boundary style is?

Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships?

Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically. 

Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries. 

You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments.

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I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness.

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Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict?

Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue?

Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship?

Are you the defensive one?

Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer. 

We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict.

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I am so thrilled my pals Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath are here to talk about how they healed their codependent patterns and created liberated love in their relationship. 

This conversation is in celebration of their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependnt Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. ❤️ If you identify with any of what we discussed, definitely get it! 

Grab Liberated Love here: https://liberated-love.com

Gentle warning: there is a mention of SA around 17:50 - 18:43. Please skip this section if this is a tender topic for you.

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Have you ever hesitated to end a relationship because of the intricate ways your lives were intertwined?

Or have you ended a relationship and struggled to move on because of a profound sense of loss?

Then you are in the right place. I am breaking down the secondary losses we experience after a breakup: what they are, their impact, and how honoring our secondary losses helps us pick up the pieces.

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I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life. 

Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more. 

I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me.

**Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ **

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Does co-parenting feel difficult because you and your ex are never on the same page?

Is your ex combative, dismissive, or a narcissist?

Are you worried about what they’re saying to your kids when you’re not there?

If you want what is best for your kids and find co-parenting activating, this episode is for you.

I am covering the common blocks to cooperative co-parenting, protecting your child from an emotionally unhealthy ex, and the boundaries needed for healthy co-parenting.

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Today I’m sharing an unbelievable interview with Sebastian Bates, who is a best-selling author, podcast host, retired professional fighter, father, and founder of The Warrior Academy. 

Sebastian's story is amazingly inspiring. At 24, he experienced a horrendous BASE jump accident and was told he would never walk again. 

He refused to accept that and through a combination of willpower and discipline, he recovered. 

He shares his story with us and we dive into the details: his mindset, determination, his background as a fighter and teacher, his passion for helping others, and the impact he is having and wants to have through his philanthropic work at The Bates Foundation. 

I hope this interview makes you feel as inspired and motivated as it made me!

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As a child, were you responsible for cleaning the house? Cooking for your siblings? Taking care of an adult because they were unable to care for themselves?

Did the adults in your life expect emotional support from you? Did you mediate between family members?

If so, you may have Parentified Child Syndrome. 

In this episode, I am breaking down the two types of child parentification, why it happens, symptoms you may have experienced, and steps to take to begin healing.

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I’m sharing another interview this week where I’m on the other side of the microphone– This time, with host of Passion Struck, John Miles. We chat about the journey of self-discovery that led me to leave my job, pursue grad school, and start a new career in the mental health field. Plus, how I learned how to prioritize my own needs and desires and set healthy boundaries as I did it!

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How fluent are you in your own emotions?

Are you able to identify and feel your feelings, or is it a struggle?

Do you tend to focus more on what other people are feeling? 

If so, you are not alone. 

This episode is all about becoming more emotionally resilient. We will explore why emotional resilience matters, the four common blocks we tend to experience around it, and ideas for putting the focus back on you.

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Today I’m so excited to share this older interview I did on The Good Life Project podcast with Jonathan Fields. I hope you’ll learn something new from this episode, whether or not you already know my story. 

We chat about my early experience with alcoholism, how I left my career as an agent to fulfill my purpose as a therapist, and how we both balance being ourselves with being the face of our brands. Then, I share some advice about becoming and staying connected in long-term partnerships!

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Does your family disrespect your boundaries, making it challenging to set and maintain them?

Does your family of origin still treat you like a child?

Or do they simply get mad when you try to set limits or assert your preferences and desires?

If you are nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend, because I am diving into why many of us struggle to set boundaries with family and what you can do about it. I also give you a few scripts for when your family of origin offers you unsolicited advice. 🔥

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Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own?

Do you feel like you get taken for granted in your relationships?

I am so excited to share this interview I did on Danny Morel's show, The Higher Self. Danny asked such amazing questions and we had a candid conversation about boundaries: the good, the bad, what people get wrong, how you can improve at setting boundaries, and so much more. I also share boundary scripts you can use. 

Very thankful to Danny and his team for allowing us to share this with all of you. Make sure to check Danny's show out here: https://youtube.com/@DannyMorelshow

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How often do you check social media throughout the day?

Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away?

Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing? 

Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices?

If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you.

I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social. 

Let’s dive in. 

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I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life. 

Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person!

I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others.

But what about boundaries with ourselves?

How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love.

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I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships. 

She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships. 

We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!)

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Does your job exhaust you? 

Do you feel like you need to respond to your colleagues as soon as you receive a message from them, even after you’ve ended your workday?

Do you say ‘yes’ to tasks you don’t have the capacity for?

Many of you have told me you struggle with work boundaries. In this episode, I am sharing tips and tools you can use to make your job work for you with more ease and less frustration.

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I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal.

I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like. 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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How is your relationship with money?

Do you tend to overspend?

Neglect your bank account balance out of fear?

Self-soothe by making impulse purchases?

Many of you struggle with financial boundaries, and in this episode, I talk about your money blueprint, how it influences your relationship with money, and how you can develop a better awareness of your spending habits.

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Today I’m doing something a little different: I’m sharing an episode of my friend Marie Forleo’s show where I am the guest! 

She asks me about my own origin story, shares a listener question, and we talk about finding the courage to express preferences, desires, and dealbreakers– And how you might express them differently in close vs. distant relationships. 

I hope you enjoy today’s episode, including the chance to see me as the interviewee rather than the interviewer.

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Do you people-please to avoid hurting them?

Are there decades-long friendships you’re afraid to lose, despite having outgrown them?

If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about boundaries with friends: why some of us have misguided loyalty, the qualities of a good and healthy friendship, and how to raise your awareness around disordered behaviors in your friendships.

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I am so excited to have my pal and award-winning podcast host, John R. Miles, on the show to talk about his new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. 

I'm excited because intentional living is how I live my life, and I teach all of my clients and students to do it, too. There is nothing quite like harnessing the mind-blowing power of our own intention. 

But what does that look like in practice? John is here to break it down with examples from his own life and case studies from the book. I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I did.

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Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with?

Does it cause more disappointment than happiness?

Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it?

You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself. 

What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day?

If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered.

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Welcome to a super special edition of The Terri Cole Show where I am doing something I've never done before: interviewing my husband, Victor Juhasz, along with bestselling author, Steven Pressfield. 

Vic and Steven collaborated on Steven's new book, The Daily Pressfield, which is an excellent companion for anyone giving a creative endeavor their all. (Currently me, writing my second book!) Vic provided the illustrations and the book is filled with Steven's wisdom from the many years he's spent in the writing trenches. 

In this conversation, we talk about how the book and illustrations came together, our experiences with resistance and creativity, imposter syndrome, fear, self-sabotage, inspiration, and so much more. 

You can get a signed copy here: https://sassmediallc.com/products/the-daily-pressfield-hardcover-signed-copy

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Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency. 

In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here.

In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it. 

When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency.

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I am so excited for frequent-flyer guest, Ross Rosenberg, to be back on the show. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. 

We cover so much: Ross's definition of codependency, why codependents and narcissists are attracted to one another, how to detach from a narc (Ross's technique is called "observe, don't absorb"), why narcissists try to induce conversations, love bombing, and so much more.

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Are you endlessly giving and doing for all the people all the time?

Do people come to you when they need something because they know you’ll get it done, no matter what?

If you are nodding your head, you might just be a high-functioning codependent, and this episode is for you.

I am covering what high-functioning codependency is, the considerable cost of being a high-functioning codependent (on you, your relationships, and others), and sharing my own experiences with these disordered relational behaviors– both personally and professionally.

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I am so excited to have my pal, bestselling author and personal finance expert, Farnoosh Torabi, on the show. 

We are talking about her new book, A Healthy State of Panic: Follow Your Fears to Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, and Win At Life, which Newsweek chose as a "Best Book of 2023." I don't know about you, but the title definitely resonates with me!

In this conversation, Farnoosh shares how she shifted from being limited by fear to constructively responding to fear. She also offers a few tips you can use if you struggle with fear around money and reveals what we can learn from fear if we allow it a chance.

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Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it?

Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it?

If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you. 

I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered!

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I am so excited to have award-winning TV host and cook, Daphne Oz, on the show. Daphne and I have known each other for over a decade and it has been so fun to watch her career flourish. I love watching her cooking and makeup tutorials on Instagram, too. 

If you love Daphne's recipes, I think you'll enjoy this girlfriend jam because we go much deeper into Daphne's food philosophy, the childhood experiences that shaped who she is today, how she navigated the trial-by-fire of a college book tour and being a co-host on The Chew in her 20s, and so much more.

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Do you think true love is never having to say you are sorry?

Do you think boundaries are unnecessary with real love?

How do you feel about unconditional love? Do you believe it exists? Or that it is something to aspire to?

Many of us were indoctrinated to believe in these myths about love, but from my 25 years as a psychotherapist and my own experience, I believe real, epic, healthy, and amazing love is boundaried and conditional.

Read on to discover why.

I also cover questions you can ask to unearth your downloaded blueprint around unconditional love and I’m sharing some concrete steps you can take toward better, healthier love in your relationships.

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I am so excited to welcome my pal and brilliant clinician, Dr. Mariel Buqué, to the show! Her new book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma is a salve the world needs right now (in my opinion), and I am so grateful for the wisdom she shared in this conversation. 

We talked about how to start to heal intergenerational trauma, what it looks like, what causes it, and so much more. 

If you have, or suspect you have been affected by intergenerational trauma, you'll want to watch this.

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Do you undervalue your accomplishments?

Do you brush off compliments about your work?

Do you use self-effacing humor to put yourself down before anyone else can?

If you answered “yes,” let me ask you this:

How do you feel about your own worthiness?

From your emails and comments, I know many of you struggle with self-worth. If this is you, you are not alone, and I invite you to read on as this episode is all about worthiness.

I cover why many of us feel unworthy, my own experience with worthiness, and how you can begin to feel more worthy in your life, because you deserve it.

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I am so excited to have my pal (and one-half of the Astrotwins), Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about horoscopes for 2024.

Ophira explains the big themes for next year and also breaks down what each sign can expect to see in the first and second half of the year. (Mine is pretty accurate 👀)

Tune in to see what might be coming up for you, and let me know if any of it resonates in the comments!

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How do you feel about change?

Do you resist it?

Are you afraid of it?

Or are you someone who sees new possibilities in change?

If your relationship with change is not where you want it to be, this episode is for you. I cover the highs and lows of change, our natural and often ingrained fear of change, and how we can relate to change in a healthy way because it will happen whether we resist or not.

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I am thrilled to have my pal, actress and author Josie Bissett, on the show today! Josie and I recently reconnected and in this girlfriend jam, we reminisce about our days in and around Hollywood and Josie's time on Melrose Place. We also chat about what Josie has been up to- her children's books, getting back into acting, and working on better boundaries. 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

P.S. Josie is offering personalized, signed copies of her award-winning children’s book, the 'Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.' This could be a perfect gift for your little ones or a cherished addition to your family’s bookshelf.

To make one of these special copies yours, simply send an email to [email protected]. They’ll email back with more details and instructions. You can also go to www.josiebissett.com to buy an unsigned copy of Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.

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Do you feel like nothing ever works out for you?

Like you never get what you want?

Like good things only happen to other people, but not you?

Do you often blame other people for your unhappiness?

If any of this resonates, listen in, because this episode is all about a powerful perspective shift you can use to move from an unempowered state of mind to a much more empowered place.

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I am thrilled to be joined today by none other than the Supernanny herself, parenting expert Jo Frost. 

We covered so much in this episode, from Jo's thoughts on kids having phones and being on social media, to the importance of raising awareness of anaphylaxis, and the biggest struggles families are facing right now. 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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Are there particular people at family, work, or friend gatherings you would rather avoid?

Is it painful to interact with them because they ask intrusive questions or love to complain?

Or do you simply find social gatherings tricky to navigate?

Whether you are attending family gatherings, friend celebrations, or holiday work parties, in this episode I am giving you a few ways to get out of seemingly impossible social situations. 

If you feel stuck between not wanting to answer a deeply personal question and not wanting to seem ‘rude,’ I have scripts for you. And if you are tired of people who tell inappropriate jokes or make rude comments, I have you covered there, too. 

Ultimately, this is about your right to be selective about whom you share information with and focus on how you want to feel in these situations.

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**Trigger Warning**

This episode contains a story about gun violence and narcissistic abuse. If this is distressing for you, please skip it!

Katre has a phenomenal story of escaping a toxic, narcissistic abusive relationship that highlights the resiliency of the human spirit. She shares how she escaped, what brought her to the moment of needing to get out, and how she healed afterward. 

Those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse may see yourself in Katre's journey. She shares it to help others feel less alone because when you go through something like this, as Katre shared, people in your life may not understand the extent of the abuse. Many of her friends waved off her ex's behavior as emotionally immature. 

But Katre was able to leave this relationship in 2018 and has worked on healing in the years since, even becoming a mentor and coach to others. If you can relate to her story, consider joining her Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1917430661795072/

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What are the stories you tell yourself about the things you want in life?

Do you have limiting beliefs, ideas, or thoughts about your capabilities and worthiness?

Does it feel safer to long for something than to have it?

Many of you have written to me wanting to understand, on a deeper level, what stops you from taking action toward the things you say you want.

If any of this rings true for you, read on because I am talking about why many of us find wanting more comfortable than having, and how we can get unstuck and take actions aligned with our desires.

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I am thrilled to welcome back my pal Dr. Perpetua Neo. She is an expert in high-functioning, overachieving women, as well as trauma bonding and abusive relationships. 

In this conversation, we talk about the realities of trauma bonds, mainstream misunderstandings around therapy speak, and the pitfalls Dr. P sees in her high-functioning clients and what they can do to regulate their brains. 

We end with a discussion about respecting our hormones, my experience with perimenopause and menopause, what Dr. P learned about her own cycle, fasting, and more.

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Are there people in your life who don’t respect your boundaries?

People you can’t talk true around, who use your words against you later?

People who don’t support what is best for you?

People who take and take, leaving you drained?

If you are nodding your head, you might need more discernment when it comes to who has access to you, and how much.

In this episode, I am covering what discernment is, why being discerning with the people in our life is important, how to practice discernment, and how discernment can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.

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I had so much fun interviewing my pal Dale Moss. You might know Dale from The Bachelorette in 2020, where he got engaged after a few episodes and shook up the season. Dale is also a former NFL wide receiver and is currently exploring his love of storytelling and film by executive producing three docu-series, which he talks about near the end. 

We cover his childhood, how the unconditional love he received from his parents influenced how he continued to show up in the world despite being the repeated target of racism, his experience on The Bachelorette, his current relationship, his love for his sister and the Special Olympics, and so much more.

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Do you feel frustrated or unsatisfied with life?

Do you want more success? More abundance?

Are there situations or relationships you wish would change?

To be in a better (or different) relationship?

Then this episode is for you. I am walking you through the six-step process I personally use to intentionally create what I want in my life on an ongoing basis. These are the same six steps I teach my therapy clients and students.

Anyone can follow this process because it is all about harnessing the mind-blowing power of your own intention to create what you want in life with mindfulness (and action!).

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I am so happy to have Rae McDaniel (they/them) on the show. Rae is a non-binary Speaker, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator. They are also the author of Gender Magic, which came out earlier this year.

Rae's style of teaching is so accessible and inviting, and we cover their backstory, setting boundaries while staying true to yourself, moving from fear into empowerment, finding chosen family, intimacy and friendships, and so much more.

I love following Rae on Instagram because I always learn something from them, and I think you will, too.

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Do you have a difficult relationship with your maternal impactor or your mother?

Do you suspect your mother is a narcissist? 

Then this episode is for you. 

One of the most-watched videos on my YouTube channel is about how daughters of narcissistic mothers can survive and thrive. I thought it might be time to update this for those of you just discovering the term ‘narcissist’ and what it might mean to have a narcissistic mother. 

We cover the common signs of narcissistic personality disorder and what it is, how having a narcissistic mother may impact your life and your relationships, and ways you can begin to heal.

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I am so excited to have love coach Shaun Galanos on the show. I love following Shaun on Instagram and had the pleasure of meeting him at a Real Love Ready event we both did in Vancouver earlier this year. 

We dive deep into how Shaun became a love expert, how he is navigating his father's passing along with a breakup, and he recounts the story of how he was robbed and what happened between him and the robber. We also talk about the reality of not being okay, how to be there for people in difficult times, and Shaun's thoughts on polyamory. 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

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Visit https://boundarybossworkbook.com/ to order the brand new boundary workbook that I mentioned in today's episode!

When you say “no” to someone, do you often feel immense guilt afterward?

Or do you second-guess your boundaries after setting them?

I have seen a lot of my therapy clients sacrifice their boundaries due to guilt. But letting guilt sabotage our efforts to have healthy boundaries is a one-way ticket to Bitter Town.

Boundaries are meant to protect ourselves and our relationships. They deepen our connections. Yet, many of us still feel guilty for having and enforcing boundaries.

This episode is about deepening our understanding of post-boundary setting guilt. I talk about what you can do to combat it, how to tell if it is actually guilt you are feeling, and when feeling guilty may be appropriate.

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Jen Gottlieb is an expert in how to be authentically seen. Not just seen as in getting lots of publicity, but being seen as who you want to be in the world and pushing back on everyone's "shoulds." 

After an acting gig that was so not her, Jen realized the price of not being aligned with who she truly was was too high to pay. She made it her mission to be authentically seen in the world, and in this conversation and her new book, Be Seen: Find Your Voice. Build Your Brand. Live Your Dream, that's exactly what she teaches. 

We talk about navigating imposter syndrome, getting really clear about what you want in all aspects of life, how Jen "manifested" her husband and her apartment, why you need to create a badass list, how to slowly (but surely) gain confidence, and so much more.

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How often do you feel misunderstood when communicating, whether it be by email, in person, or text?

Do you often feel like your messages are not received how you intended them to be?

If you are nodding your head, then you know how unsatisfying it is when the person you are talking to does not get what you are saying.

The good news is that you can learn to be a better communicator. 

In this episode, I lay out a seven-step formula to ensure your side of the street is clean when it comes to communicating effectively and powerfully.

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I had the pleasure of interviewing best-selling author and talented interviewer, Kelly Corrigan. 

We covered so much: 

- Kelly's childhood dream of becoming a writer 

- How her dad's unwavering support bolstered her

- Her experience with chemo and cancer 

- Kelly's reflections on her mom's parenting style and how she may have benefitted from it

- Kelly's favorite interview questions and techniques.

If you ever wanted to know more about her or simply want to tune into a thought-provoking conversation (thanks to Kelly's astute self-awareness), this episode is one you must watch! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Have you ever wondered how to set boundaries without guilt?

Do you second-guess yourself when setting boundaries?

Or are you unsure of what boundaries you even need?

Then read on, my friend, because in this episode, I am answering the eight most common questions I get asked about boundaries.

Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to pre-order the Boundary Boss Workbook! By pre-ordering, you will get exclusive bonuses and send bookstores the message that boundaries matter!

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I am thrilled to welcome my favorite menopause doctor to the show: Dr. Mary Claire Haver. 

I have been obsessed with following her on Instagram because she shares so much helpful information for free. I know menopause is a topic you wanted to see more of and I couldn't be more excited to have Dr. Mary Claire here to set the record straight. 

For those who don't know, Dr. Mary Claire is a board-certified OBGYN who, after experiencing menopause and not being able to lose weight, went back to school at Tulane University to become a Certified Culinary Medicine Specialist. She went on to create The Galveston Diet, a three-pronged lifestyle plan that encourages fuel refocusing, intermittent fasting, and anti-inflammatory nutrition to manage hormonal symptoms, stabilize weight, and revitalize the body as it ages to provide benefits that will last a lifetime.

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Have you ever said, “I’ll start working out/meditating/eating better/going to bed earlier…” and didn’t follow through?

Where next week comes, and you’ve either forgotten about it or no longer feel like making the change?

If you experience this type of resistance and struggle to keep your word (to yourself and others), you are not alone. I was there in my 20s. 

But it is a sign of disordered internal boundaries, which could be robbing you of potential. 

In this episode, I break down the symptoms of having crappy internal boundaries and give you a 7-step process to kick resistance to the curb. Follow this process, and in time, you will reach your goals, feel better about yourself, and follow through on what you say you will do.

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I am psyched to welcome one of my nearest and dearest, master coach Josselyne Herman-Saccio. I met Josselyne during my talent agent days, and she has had a profound impact on my life. 

Growing up, Josselyn's parents separated. After attending transformational workshops, they got back together. Josselyn noticed they were completely changed by the experience, and attended her first transformational workshop at age 11. It was at her nudging that I attended mine, which led to me leaving my talent agent career behind to become a psychotherapist. 

Josselyn has taken the principles she learned in those transformational workshops to change people's lives. Her focus is on living the life you want NOW rather than a mysterious "someday" in the future. 

I hope you find our conversation as fascinating as I did.

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When someone comes to you with negative feedback, do you get defensive? 

Do you automatically come up with reasons why you did something, building a case for the way you did it?

Do you shift the blame onto someone else? 

Or does your heart start racing?

If this resonates, you are not alone. It is human to want to defend your choices, actions, and beliefs. 

But defensiveness damages our relationships, which is why this episode is all about becoming more aware of defensive behavior and what you can do instead.

I am covering the signs and symptoms of defensiveness, why we get defensive in the first place, and strategies you can use to become less defensive.

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I am so excited to welcome my pal, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, on the show to talk about her new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.

This conversation is all about love: how we can keep our love strong, what to do if it's not going so well, daily practices you can start doing today, and so much more. Dr. Alexandra Solomon and I discuss relational self-awareness, family of origin issues, and the difficulties of dating in a modern world.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode/blog contains a story about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.

Many years ago, my husband and I were held up at gunpoint. 

I have mentioned it before, but I have never shared the full story because it was traumatic. 

When one of you asked me to share this experience, how it impacted my life, and how I recovered from it, I thought it might be time to share. 

By sharing my story of trauma and recovery, I hope to help others who have experienced a traumatic event.

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I am so excited to welcome my friend, Emily Fletcher, to the show to talk about Sacred sexuality, meditation, pleasure, and manifestation. Emily has been teaching meditation for the past 13+ years and recently started exploring how we can tap into our Sacred sexuality to manifest our dreams and desires. Don't worry- Emily breaks all of this down in a practical way and offers tips on how to get started during our conversation. Emily's perspective resonated so much, and for those of you who don't prioritize pleasure, I got you covered because I asked Emily about that, too. Enjoy!

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Is it difficult for you to say “no” to your parents, draw a boundary with a sibling, or set a limit with a cousin, aunt, or uncle?

Do you struggle to share your preferences, limits, desires, or deal-breakers with some of the people in your family?

If the answer is “yes,” this episode is for you. I am talking about the different kinds of disordered boundaries we often have in our families of origin and giving you ideas on how to get proactive so you can release yourself from these frustrating situations.

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Best-selling author Kris Carr is one of my nearest and dearest. We go way back to my talent agent days (I represented her).

Kris's newest book, I'm Not A Mourning Person:  Braving Loss, Grief, and the Big Messy Emotions That Happen When Life Falls Apart, is a beautiful read. I could not put it down, and I lived a lot of this book with Kris as it was happening. 

If you are experiencing grief of any kind, whether due to the loss of a loved one, the loss of your former self, or the loss of a job, I think you'll enjoy this heartfelt conversation.

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When should you stop trying to make it work with a partner who is seemingly uninterested in self-improvement?

What do you do when the love between you and your partner is no longer enough?

How can you keep yourself from falling back into old roles within your family of origin when visiting home, especially if you’ve grown and changed?

And when is it time to consider moving into independent living when you are a full-time caregiver for your spouse?

I answer all of these questions in this Q&A episode, which is all about relationship dynamics. Let’s dive in.

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Have you ever wondered, "Who am I, and why am I here?" If so, this interview is for you, my friend.

I am beyond excited to have Dr. Sara Kuburic, better known as The Millennial Therapist on Instagram, on the show to talk about her new book, It's On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life.

Sarah is an existential therapist and has had a lifelong interest in psychology. This book was inspired by a loss of self she experienced in her twenties, which she also saw in her therapy clients. If you've felt meaningless or purposeless, like you don't know yourself, then I invite you to tune in as Sara offers many tips on how to discover your sense of self.

I've loved her work for a while and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

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Do you assume everyone has the same values and moral compass as you? Do you assume everyone has good intentions?

Or do you assume other people are untrustworthy, even though you have no way of knowing?

Whether you are too trusting or more distrustful, this episode is for you. I am giving you questions to gain a deeper understanding of your downloaded trust blueprint, as well as tips to become more discerning about whom to trust.

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I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned Peloton instructor, Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts, to the show. We chat about Chelsea's yoga journey, what inspires her, the tragedy she endured in college, the rewards and challenges of motherhood, and so much more.

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Have you ever wondered what makes people vulnerable to trauma bonding?

Or how to tell if you are in a trauma-bonded relationship versus one based on mutuality or true love?

From the questions I've received, I know many of you want a deeper understanding of trauma-bonded relationships: What are the signs and symptoms, and what does it mean?

Listen for everything you need to know to protect yourself and your relationships.

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Our guest today excels in so many fields: He’s a former pro athlete, podcast host, published author, and father of nine kids. He’s also a respected personal development guide who helps people elevate their experiences and improve the ways that they show up for others. 

Today, we’re taking a deep dive into motivation– Both healthy and unhealthy. Kevin shares lessons from his own life, past and present, and we also touch on being mindfully driven rather than recklessly impulsive.

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A few weeks ago, Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend, Sarah Brady, shared a bunch of text messages he sent her when they were dating. Among them was the above list of “boundaries.” As you can imagine, this stirred up a lot of discussion online. 

I fell into a Reddit hole about it and was stunned by the amount of misinformation out there about boundaries. People are truly unaware of the differences between coercion, abuse, effective boundaries, and control, which is what this episode is about. 

I also talk about the signs of coercive control to watch for and why the Jonah Hill situation is more manipulative than it may seem.

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I am excited to share this conversation I had with fascia expert and Pilates Pro, Lauren Roxburgh.

My sister and I were turned onto Lauren's work at the beginning of the pandemic, and I intuitively knew fascia health was the missing link in my wellness. I love stalking Lauren's Instagram page to see what new practices I can integrate into my routine. 

This conversation was fascinating as Lauren shares the newest fascia research with us and explains how it has the potential to impact every aspect of our lives. (and bodies!)

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Have you ever wondered when it is appropriate to cut your parents out of your life?

Do you feel like you missed out on life because you spent more time focusing on others than yourself?

Have you experienced multiple losses and feel overwhelmed with grief?

Or have you experienced unacknowledged sibling abuse? 

In this Q&A episode, I answer four questions from the community on these topics. Let’s dive in.

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I am so happy to have my pal and design expert, Sabrina Soto, back on the show. This conversation is more like a girlfriend jam as Sabrina and I talk about the effect of decluttering on your mental health, past relationship experiences, codependency, boundaries, manifesting, getting out of your comfort zone, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Do you walk on eggshells around certain people in your life? 

Do you avoid telling your partner or best friend the truth out of fear they’ll disagree or be unhappy with you? 

Would you like your relationships to feel safer? 

Then this episode on emotional safety is for you. I go over the signs of an unsafe relationship and give you the steps to create more safety in your relationships.

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I am so excited to share this conversation with my pal and breathwork expert, Samantha Skelly. 

Sam led a 30-minute breathwork session at a peer mastermind we attended earlier this year, and let me tell you, it was profound. She has 14 years of experience in this space and her energy is so amazing. 

I invited her on the show to share her journey and explain how breathwork can help us heal trauma and return to our bodies. I hope you enjoy her wisdom as much as I did.

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Have you ever wondered how your relationship with your maternal impactor has impacted you?

Do you feel like your relationship with your mother/mother figure is ‘off’?

Or do you find yourself longing for a different relationship with her altogether? 

Then this episode is for you. I cover the seven archetypes of mothering and give you deep-dive questions to determine which archetype you experienced and whether you have a mother wound.

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I am so grateful to Dr. Anne Peled for coming on the show to share her story and expertise on breast cancer. She explains how to do a self-exam at home, tells us the warning signs to be aware of, shares what we can do to reduce our risk of breast cancer, and so much more.

Dr. Peled is a breast cancer survivor AND is pioneering an entirely new way of treating breast cancer with a combined mastectomy and reconstruction technique that preserves the nipple, skin, and sensation. 

I hope you learn something from what Dr. Peled shares in this conversation. I know I did!

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When something bad happens to your partner, does it feel like it’s happening to you, too?

Are you compelled to fix what you see as the ‘problems’ in their life? 

Do you find areas in which they can improve to help them become ‘better’? 

Do you feel like it is your job to prevent them from getting into bad situations? 

If you are nodding your head, you might be in a codependent relationship. 

In this episode, I break down what codependency is and give you powerful questions you can answer to gain clarity about your codependent behaviors (which is the first step to healing).

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I am so thrilled to have my pal Rachel Luna on the show to talk all about her new book, Permission to Offend: The Compassionate Guide for Living Unfiltered and Unafraid. Doesn't that sound like something we all need?!

We chat about how to have hard conversations, handle judgment and rejection, how Rachel's life experience informed her decision to write this book, figuring out who you are and what you believe, and so much more.

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I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life.

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I am so excited to have Scott Jeffrey Miller on the show to talk about his new book, The Ultimate Guide to Great Mentorship: 13 Roles to Making a True Impact. I love Scott's take on mentorship and found our discussion fascinating. 

Whether you are a mentor, want to be one, want to find one, or have been one, Scott has a lot of wisdom to share on the subject. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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Are you ever surprised by your reactions or feelings? 

Does it ever feel like you get hit by a bus of your own emotions, where you’re left wondering what the hell was that about?

If you have experienced this, you are not alone. 

Emotional reactions can seem kind of mysterious, and understanding our own emotional needs can be challenging. 

And becoming aware of your emotional needs allows you to communicate them and get them met. This leads to more fulfilling relationships, which is why today’s episode is all about the steps you can take to uncover your emotional needs. 

I walk you through a process of understanding and discovering your emotional needs and suggest what you can do when you discover the unmet needs you have in your life right now. 

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I am so excited to have my pal, Tamsen Fadal, on the show to talk about all things mid-life: aging, botox, menopause, divorce, re-marriage, authenticity, and so much more. I've followed Tamsen's Instagram obsessively over the last two years and I love her take on these topics. I also appreciate how open she is about her experiences. If you like what you hear, be sure to check out her podcast, Coming Up Next: Honest Conversations on Midlife, Menopause and Embracing Change: tamsenfadal.com/podcast.

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When you’re on vacation, do you actually take time off and unplug? Or do you anxiously check your phone, afraid you’ll hear from work?

Worse, do you come back from a vacation feeling like you still need a vacation because you’re exhausted?

It is time to take a real vacation – without work – so you can feel rested and restored instead of frazzled and drained. Below, you will find tips to help you create boundaries on vacation– because I see you, fellow recovering workaholics!

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I am thrilled to have my pal Dr. Daniel Amen back on the show for a third time to talk about his brand new book, Change Your Brain Every Day. Vic and I have been working through this book - and let me tell you, it’s so accessible, no matter how busy you are! In this conversation, Dr. Amen gives us some daily habits we can begin for better brain health, and offers his unique perspective on why brain health is just as important as physical health.

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Were you raised in a family with silent agreements? 

Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors? 

Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t? 

Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them? 

Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements.

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Today's guest, Mimi Bouchard, is the CEO and Founder of the modern meditation app, Superhuman. As Mimi tells us, she created this app after having the idea to record and listen to 'future self' meditations on the go, which quickly changed her life. Her core belief is if you can visualize the future you want, you can create it.

I hope you find this conversation as inspiring as I did.

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Are you a generous giver in relationships? 

Do you give from your heart? From a place of love? 

Or are you a little more tit-for-tat, where you expect something specific in return for giving? 

If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heart-centered) and transactional unions (more quid pro quo). 

I also give you steps to become more balanced between the two, because you do not want the pendulum to swing too far in either direction.

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I am so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Sarah Jenks, an ordained Priestess who, like so many of us, used to be a people-pleaser and codependent. Sarah and I have traveled the same circles for years, yet this is the first time I actually got to speak to her. 

She is an expert in the Sacred Feminine and I found our conversation fascinating. You'll learn how to bring more ceremony into your life, how Sarah defines Sacred Femininity, and so much more.

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Does Father’s Day bring up hard feelings for you? 

Does it give you anxiety because it feels like you can’t escape the endless promotions for Father’s Day? 

Or does it leave you longing for a different (or any) relationship with your father? 

If so, this episode is for you. I talk about my difficult journey with my father, how to handle grief around Father’s Day, and alternate ways to ‘manage’ the day to make it less difficult.

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I am so happy to have my new pal, award-winning copywriter and new author, Laura Belgray, on the show to talk about her experience writing her first book, how it came about, feeling behind in all aspects of life, her unique business tips, and work boundaries!

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Are you a worrier? 

Are you constantly thinking of all the things that could go wrong? 

Or do you seek to control situations outside of your control? 

If you answered yes, this episode is for you, my friend. I am breaking down what it means to be a worrier, the high cost of worrying, how to know when worry is excessive, and giving you steps you can act on right now to worry less and live more in the present moment.

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Today's guest, therapist, and author, Minaa B., is an amazing original thinker. I first came across her work on Instagram, and I was blown away by how precise she is with her words and finding the intersection of our humanness.

I love her content and wanted to have her on the show to talk about her new book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World. We also chat about boundaries and Minaa describes how she deals with pushback against having her phone on "do not disturb." 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.

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How do you feel about change? 

Does it make you anxious? Nervous? Uncomfortable?

Do you tend to want things to stay the same?

Think about how you might feel if your favorite shampoo was discontinued, your favorite grocery shop closed, or someone took “your spot” in a gym or yoga class. 

In this episode, I am talking about how to navigate change, growth, and transformation, and where grief fits into this process. We have to grieve the way things were to embrace how things are. This is true even when we experience changes we desire, like getting married, buying a home, or relocating for a dream job. We still need to mourn the loss of how our life used to be.

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I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love.

We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much more.

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Do you ever wonder why setting boundaries feels like a struggle?

Why it is difficult to speak up when you have something to say? 

Or why it can feel impossible to set a limit when you don’t want to do something? 

If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am giving you the top five boundary blocks I have seen in my 25+ years as a psychotherapist and suggesting ways to overcome them.

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Have you struggled with "mom guilt"? 

Do you find yourself emotionally activated by certain things your child does?

Or do you feel like being a mother is harder for you than it is for others? (Especially when you look on social and find picture-perfect families?)

Then this interview with Zoe Blaskey, host of The Motherkind Podcast and a transformational coach, is for you. Zoe has first-hand knowledge of how difficult it is to navigate modern motherhood and offers insight and wisdom on how to give ourselves more grace and compassion.

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Have you ever experienced “mom guilt”?

Do you try to get it all done and then feel like you’re failing in one area or another (or all of them)? 

Does it feel like everything will fall apart if you take five minutes for yourself?

If you are nodding your head, you are not alone. “Mom guilt” is a common experience. But as I’ve seen with many therapy clients, healthy boundaries can help mitigate this experience.

It is time to stop feeling bad about being human (which is really what “mom guilt” is about). In this episode, I give you the top five essential boundaries for empowered motherhood to lessen mom guilt.

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It was a joy to have Kassandra Reinhardt on the show to discuss being an online creator, finding "balance" within that, being exactly where we are supposed to be, inner elder work, the struggle with people-pleasing, aging, and so much more. 

Yoga With Kassandra is one of my fave yoga channels. Her 10-minute morning routines are perfect if you're busy and don't have time for a longer practice. Give her channel a look!

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In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am sharing my mental wellness journey publicly for the first time. 

You’ll discover why I began therapy at age 19, why I left my career as a talent agent, and how I discovered my dharma in psychotherapy.

If you have ever wondered why I am passionate about vibrant mental health or why I put out tons of free content, you will find your answer in this episode. 

And if my mission aligns with your values, near the end, you’ll find an invitation to help me create a movement to make mental health information more readily accessible to others. ♥️

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I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another. 

Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like, the types of dysfunction Nedra sees most often, what you can do about family dysfunction, codependency in family, and the pressures we face when we are the first to break a dysfunctional cycle within a family. 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Have you ever left a doctor’s appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood? 

Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals? 

Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare? 

If you’ve had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for you. By the end, you will know the best way to prepare for a doctor’s appointment and when it might be a good time to ditch your doc. 

I am passionate about medical boundaries because of my experience with a cancer diagnosis many years ago. It is at the forefront of my mind again because many of you are writing in about perimenopause and menopause and dealing with dismissive doctors.

I wanted to give you some of my hard-earned wisdom because boundaries have everything to do with this. 

(Disclaimer: I am not an MD, so this information is not medical advice. I am sharing my story with you from a patient experience. Always consult your doctor.)

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Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too. 

I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it.

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Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them?

Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires?

Or does it feel like you can’t control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation? 

If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends. 

Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You’ll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received.

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Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph.D? Change careers? Write a book?

Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life.

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Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child?

Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school?

If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps you can take to begin to heal.

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Does your stuff own you?

Does your house actually function well for you?

Or do you ignore some cluttered rooms or spaces because they fill you with a sense of overwhelm?

If any of this resonates, check out my conversation with @tracy_mccubbin on how to become more intentional with the things we own. Tracy has been in the decluttering biz for over 15 years and has amazing tips and insights for us. 💕

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Do you minimize your negative past experiences? 

Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences?

Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences?

If you’re nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if it is happening with them, maybe you are experiencing this, too. 

In this episode, I am talking about euphoric recall – what it is, why it’s dangerous, and how to protect yourself from falling back into old, toxic patterns or relationships.

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Today's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul. 

I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more. 

Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.

Do you think something good can come from a traumatic experience? 

Or do you feel like awful things simply happen to us, and nothing productive comes from them? 

I explore these questions in today’s episode on post-traumatic growth. I talk about the potential for positive experiences after traumatic events, and I share what I have witnessed as a psychotherapist and in the aftermath of my own traumatic experiences.

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Do you struggle with work/life harmony?

Could you use a little more of it?

Then today's interview with Tina Wells is for you. She is the author of The Elevation Approach: Harness the Power of Work-Life Harmony to Unlock Your Creativity, Cultivate Joy, and Reach Your Biggest Goals. 

We chat about our experiences with burnout, workaholism, and the importance of filling up your own cup. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Tina as much as I did.

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Do certain people, conversations, or situations provoke an amplified response from you? 

Do you find yourself extremely upset by specific TV or movie content?

Or do you get really bothered when people ask you about particular topics? 

If you have noticed these somewhat “disproportionate” reactions in yourself, today’s episode on emotional triggers is for you. 

I am breaking down the nature of emotional triggers, walking you through a process of decoding what these triggers might mean for you, and giving you action steps you can take to protect yourself.

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Today's guest is narcissistic abuse expert and clinical psychologist, Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, better known as Dr. Z on Instagram (@dr.z_psychologist). 

We dive deep into narcissism and explore the differences between narcissistic tendencies and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, give you red flags to watch out for when dating so you can steer clear of narcissists, and share our insights on narcissism from many, many years with clients. 

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Have you ever marveled at how some people turn heads simply by entering a room?

Or at how easily some people set boundaries and stand firm? 

Or at how others freely speak their mind without the worry of judgment?

These are all examples of real self-confidence, and in today’s episode, I am talking about what self-confidence is, where it comes from, what cuts it down, and five simple ways you can build more self-confidence. 

Many people think we are either born with confidence or we aren’t. While we are born extroverted or introverted, no matter how you interact in the world, self-confidence is something you can build, and we can always build more of it. 

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I am so excited to have my pal, Chela Davison, on the show to share her thoughts and observations on the "quiet quitting" movement. We dive deep into themes like living seasonally, pushing back against workaholism, figuring out our identity outside of work, and why working constantly simply isn't sustainable. We explore what it might be like to do "slow business," too. 

Chela is an original thinker and I enjoyed her take on this so much. I hope you do, too. As we said during our conversation, share your thoughts with us below!

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Do you find yourself ruminating on past decisions, actions, or conversations?

How much time do you spend regretting these past experiences? If the answer is more time than I would like, then this episode is for you. I am covering why we hold onto regrets, the high cost of regret, and why we should let regrets go. Most importantly, you will learn how to let go of your regrets with a five-step reflection exercise.

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Today's guest is Mara Glatzel, MSW, author of the brand new book, Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty. Needy is a powerful and tender guide to help us grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership, radical self-care, and self-advocacy. 

I had so much fun doing a deep dive into self-care, self-abandonment, and self-advocacy with Mara. Everything she says is so on-point. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.

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Do you have “repeat boundary offenders” in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn’t do, even though it upsets you? 

Are you tired of boundary violations, but don’t know how to get through to boundary bullies? 

If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you

I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It’s time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood. 

Of course, setting consequences doesn’t guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to.

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Today's guest is none other than best-selling author and psychologist, Dr. Shefali. Her new book, The Parenting Map, and this conversation are for anyone raising a kid in this scary social media-driven environment. 

We dive into the walls that parents hit with their children, what to do if your child is "acting out," and what to do about the pressure you might feel to raise a "perfect" child. Dr. Shefali has such amazing insights into parenting and I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did.

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Have you heard the terms “reactive abuse” or “reactive anger” making the rounds on social media? Are you wondering what the heck it means? 

Are you curious if passive-aggressive anger factors into this? 

Or maybe you want to know: can anger ever be healthy?

I have received a number of emails asking me to clarify all of these terms, so in today’s episode, I break down what reactive abuse/reactive anger is, what passive-aggressive anger is, and what healthy anger might look like. 

If your relationship with anger has been tenuous at best, or if you are seeking clarity on an abusive situation, this episode is for you.

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Today's guest is Amy Porterfield, host of the popular podcast Online Marketing Made Easy and my personal teacher from when I transitioned into online business! Amy's work is incredibly accessible and easy to follow, and...

Her new book, Two Weeks Notice: Find the Course to Quit Your Job, Make More Money, Work Where You Want, and Change the World, has *just* been released. To celebrate, we're talking all about entrepreneurship, Amy's journey into the online business world, and how you can become your own boss, too.

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Does the word “manifest” sound like magical thinking to you? 

Or does it remind you of the movie, The Secret, where all you need to do is think about something, and *poof,* it appears right in front of you? 

Or perhaps “visualizing” what you want has never made sense to you in the first place.

I get it. Even though I teach people how to get what they want in life, I stay away from the word “manifesting” because I feel like it has been used and abused. 

If you feel the same and want to know how to take real steps toward getting what you want in life, with real results, this episode is for you. Inside, you’ll find a simple three-step process for going after and getting what you want in life.

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I would love to introduce you to the podcast Humble & Hungry with Natalie Puche. Grab your cheeseboard and favorite bottle of wine, Natalie is back! Embark on a new journey with her as she juggles motherhood, keeping up with her chef fiancé in the kitchen, and blind-fully navigating through her 30’s the only way she knows best, humble and hopefully not hangry.

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Today's guest is Kimberly Williams-Paisley, someone I met decades ago when I was a talent agent. We reconnected a few years ago, but it has been so fun to watch her flourish. What's amazing about Kimberly is how down-to-earth she is all these years later. She is so giving and her joy is infectious. 

She joined me on the show to talk about her journey with her mom, who was diagnosed with Primary Progressive Aphasia, a rare type of dementia. Kimberly candidly shares her family's struggles and how she embraced the changes in her mother despite the challenges they all faced. 

We also chat a bit about Kimberly's acting career and how being famous affected her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it.

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Are your female friendships challenging?

Have you struggled to find the right crew?

Have you ever needed to “break up” with one of your female friends? 

Or have you gone into therapy because of a female friendship?

If this resonates, you are not alone. In my 25 years as a psychotherapist, I can’t even begin to tell you how many women have experienced these exact things. The pain and suffering of having not-so-great female friends landed a number of them in therapy long before any romantic relationship. 

But female friendships don’t have to be problematic. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the benefits of healthy female friendships, what they look like, and how to create them. I also share my own experience with female friendships and why I couldn’t live happily without my nearest and dearest pals.

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Today's guest, Amberly Lago, has an inspiring, phenomenal tale of overcoming traumatic experiences, and is the best-selling author of “True Grit and Grace.” 

We talked about all the things, from her tremendous motorcycle accident, the pain she still lives with, getting sober, and how her life changed. 

I really love her message because it's about how we can build our resiliency muscle one step at a time. I hope this interview leaves you as inspired as it left me.

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Does Valentine’s Day bum you out?

Maybe you are in a relationship and your partner puts the onus on you to make plans. 

Or maybe you do the same thing every year and it’s getting stale. 

And, if you are not in a relationship, you might feel excluded from the day altogether thanks to every piece of media being centered on relationships. 

I say it’s time to take back Valentine’s Day and make it into something meaningful, fun, exciting, and inclusive. 

To help you do that, today’s episode includes a beautiful three-step ritual you can do to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single, partnered, or something else. Ready to make this day a self-love experience? Let’s dive in.

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I was a gym person pre-pandemic, but thanks to today's guest, Michelle Briehler, I find myself loving the ease and convenience of at-home workouts. Michelle is a YouTube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves. 

In this conversation, Michelle answers the questions I've received from you guys on health and wellness, we chat about our love of trampolines, and Michelle gives some quick tips on how to make changes to live a healthier lifestyle.

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Do you remember how much desire and passion you felt when you first met your partner? Or how incredibly hot the beginning of your relationship was? 

Maybe it was the way you couldn’t stop thinking about them. How you flirted via text, emails, or calls in between seeing each other. When your dates were full of spontaneity, fun, and adventure.

Have you lost a little bit of that spark? 

If you miss the passion you had at the beginning of your relationship and want to reignite it, then today’s episode is for you. I am giving you my top three tips to rekindle the spark so you can have a passionate, long-lasting, inspired love relationship. 

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My guest today is none other than former model Paulina Porizkova. She just released her book No Filter: The Good, the Bad, and the Beautiful, and it was a page turner. I was up until 3 am reading it. It's so good. 

I am so, so excited to share this beautiful, candid conversation with Paulina. We cover a lot of ground, from how Paulina's childhood experiences influenced her relationship with Ric Ocasek to her thoughts on aging and the betrayal she experienced when Ric cut her out of his will. 

I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed speaking with Paulina.

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Do you think some folks are just lucky in love?

Has finding true love felt like a lifelong struggle for you?

Are you in a relationship that you know could be more loving and satisfying, but don’t know how to get there?

If any of these resonate with you, this episode is for you. I’m giving you six tips to attract and create more good, healthy, vibrant love in your life – whether you’re single or partnered. Because you deserve it, my friend.

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My guest on today's episode is Connor Beaton, a leading men's work facilitator, speaker, teacher, and coach. But ladies, you might want to stick around because Connor offers plenty of insights into the inner working of men. His new book, Men's Work, is out January 31, and you can order it here: https://mantalks.com/book

During our conversation, we chat about shadow work, the shadow self, and how you can integrate your shadow self into your life for more freedom. Halfway through, we change tracks as I ask Connor to share the latest research on men's addiction to pornography and how it can affect relationships. He candidly shares many of his own struggles in hopes of helping others. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells in your relationship?

Do you worry that anything you say (or don’t say) might set your partner off?

Do you work overtime to avoid doing or saying anything that will upset them but still somehow fail? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, today’s episode is for you. I’m unpacking the signs and symptoms of walking on eggshells, describing what that phrase looks and feels like IRL, and giving you ideas of what you can do to break this exhausting cycle.

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My guest today is Hailey Magee (@haileypaigemagee on Instagram, which is where I found her), a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps individuals set empowered boundaries and break the people-pleasing pattern. It's no surprise I loved her content the moment I saw it, and I had to have her on the show so she could share her unique perspective. 

We chat all about setting boundaries with and on social media, the nuance of boundaries (that social often doesn't allow the space for), figuring out whether to break off a friendship, and so much more. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.

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Do you think that people who are generally happy are simply born that way?

That it is just in their nature to be glass half full types?

I believe it is slightly more complex than that.

As a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience, I can tell you that it is possible to purposely build habits that curate more happiness in your life.

So if you could use a little more happiness, today’s episode is for you. I’m sharing my top happiness curating tips with you, along with the mindset you can adopt if you want to experience more joy in your life.

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I am so happy to have best-selling authors Lisa Garr and Marci Shimoff on the show to talk all about miracles and happiness habits. I look to both of these women for inspiration during tough times and they never fail to deliver. 

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Are you settling in your life? 

In your relationships?

In your career?

Maybe in a friendship or a family situation? 

If you feel like you are settling for less than you actually want, for any reason, then this episode is for you. I share a few telltale signs you might be settling for less, a few examples of when I settled in the past, and what to do if you no longer want to settle. Because you deserve so much more, my friend. 

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I am so excited to welcome my pal Steven Washington to the show. His new book, Recovering You: Soul Care and Mindful Movement for Overcoming Addiction, is full of inspiration, accessible tips, and beautiful stories. It's honestly for anyone, not just those who are overcoming addiction.

In this conversation, Steven and I chat about his journey from addicted and numbing to feeling and moving, the tools he used to stay sober, and why his dharma is all about mindful movement. I hope you enjoy it.

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When something bad happens to someone you dislike, do you feel a little glee inside? Maybe a lot of glee? 

Or do you cheer when the villain in a movie or TV show gets what’s coming to them? 

There is a German word for the feeling of joy we get from the suffering or misfortune of others: schadenfreude. 

The other day, I wondered: is there an opposite of schadenfreude? There is, and it’s called freudenfreude. This is when you find joy in the success and happiness of others. (It’s an English word created from a German word where “freuden” means “joy.”) 

Today’s episode is all about why we experience schadenfreude, its high cost, and how to find real happiness in the joy of others.

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Today I’m welcoming back frequent guest Andrea Owen to chat about the new edition of her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back from Happiness. We talk about aging well, not allowing shame to control us, and recognizing the importance of our own feelings.

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How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions? 

Do you like them? Do they work for you?

Or… do you get to February and realize you’ve barely made progress on them? 

If you aren’t a fan of New Year’s resolutions, you are not alone. Only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions, and nearly 80% fail by February. 

Not great odds. 

That’s why today’s episode contains a therapeutically designed process to help you unpack 2022, honor your experiences, and understand your growth so you have clarity on the changes you want to make for 2023. 

It’s my favorite sacred ritual to start the new year as it leaves me energized and clear about what’s ahead.

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Have you been wondering recently whether your substance use is normal? Do you find yourself drinking more than you would like, smoking every day, or taking gummies every night to help you sleep? How do you tell when using substances to cope with the circumstances of life becomes a problem? 

If you have been asking these questions, you’re not alone. Recently, so many of my listeners have been writing to me with questions just like that. 

I invited today’s guest, sober coach and friend Patty Powers, so that I can ask her all of the questions about substances that you have been asking me. Not only is she a friend who I have worked with professionally for many years, Patty was also the one who helped a very dear family member of mine when they relapsed. 

Listen to today’s episode to get some clarity: When does substance use become substance abuse? And what can you do to support healing if you recognize problematic substance use in yourself or a loved one?

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who uses fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate you into doing what they want? 

Or are you in that kind of relationship right now? 

Then this episode on emotional blackmail is for you. I break down what emotional blackmail is and how to spot it so you can avoid being a victim of this painful, dysfunctional, abusive cycle.

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Today’s episode is super special because I’m talking to my very own friend and strategist, Camper Bull. Back when I was promoting the Boundary Boss book, I was skeptical that working with a strategist would make a difference. When one of my team members recommended I meet with Camper, I was blown away by his expertise and ability to hold space and make it accessible. 

Camper worked with my team for 6 months to help us understand what it takes to run a successful book launch. In our interview, he shares some of the secrets to his own success– Plus, we chat about some of the changes that have helped Team TC run so much more smoothly since I started working with Camper! 

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Have you ever confided in someone you wanted comfort from only to be told…

“It could be worse.”

“At least it wasn’t X, Y, or Z!”

“Look on the bright side…”

“I don’t know why you are making such a big deal…”

These are all examples of emotional invalidation.

Maybe you’ve even said these things to others, unintentionally invalidating them. This is common if we're high-functioning codependents and other people's distress causes us distress.

But even if your heart is in the right place, emotional invalidation can damage your relationships.

That’s why in today’s episode, I’m breaking down what emotional invalidation is, discussing why so many of us are emotional invalidators and offering ways to emotionally validate our loved ones so that we can strengthen our relationships.

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If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I am an empath and a highly sensitive person. That’s why I was so excited to speak with Alissa Boyer, a mentor who coaches highly sensitive people on their journeys to spiritual growth and greater self love. We chat about how HSPs can be kind to themselves even when the world is set up to overwhelm them and how to avoid people-pleasing when you are sensitive to others’ desires.

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Do you ever feel mentally exhausted?

Foggy-brained?

Forgetful?

Like even doing the smallest task feels like moving through mud? 

If so, cognitive fatigue could be to blame. 

In this episode, I break down what cognitive fatigue is and what it might feel like. I also give you some ideas on what might cause cognitive fatigue and what you can do to start healing.

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I first met today’s guest about 15 years ago, when she was first considering leaving her job as a top Hollywood agent to begin a more fulfilling career. Now, Dr. Elisa Hallerman is a successful drug and alcohol counselor who uses her PhD in Depth Psychology and Somatic Studies to inform her work with clients. She recently wrote her first book, Soulbriety: A Plan to Heal Your Trauma, Overcome Addiction, and Reconnect with Your Soul to help people who she wouldn’t be able to reach through her traditional practice alone. In today’s episode, I chat with Dr. Hallerman about how soul-centered healing has the potential to help everyone overcome trauma and addiction. Plus, a guide to understanding your own soul journey.

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When you’re in the heat of a fight do you have a tendency to explode or say things you don’t mean? Or do you withdraw in anger and become silent?

Both of these reactions to conflict are very common communication-blocking techniques. Effective communication is something we hear a lot about but often I think the meaning is unclear. 

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the top 4 communication blockers + giving you sentence starters and scripts to help. You’ll learn what you can do to break these unhelpful behavior patterns and work towards actually solving conflict with effective communication instead.

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Do you ever wonder what self-love actually is, not just in theory or in a meme, but in real-life practice? Self-love isn’t a destination or just a feeling. It’s daily action steps and more of a way of life. 

In this episode, I’ll cover how we can organize and break down our behaviors and practices in a way that is moving us into more real self-love. I’ll also break down five paths to curate more self-love into your daily routines.

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Have you ever found yourself stuck in conversation hell at a family gathering?

Maybe you have a nosy aunt who loves asking you super personal questions you don’t want to answer. Or a cousin who manages to dump all their problems on you at every party.

Enough! Let’s get you some strategies and scripts to create better conversational boundaries! You can keep these in your back pocket for if and when these awkward situations arise, so you can enjoy your family gatherings and avoid conversation hell!

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Today, I’m chatting with my friend and relationship expert Silvy Khoucasian. We chat about holding firm boundaries to create nourishing, supportive relationships as you go through life– That includes understanding attachment theory, making your own choices about what aging successfully means to you, and setting compassionate boundaries with family even when it conflicts with their cultural expectations.

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Do you have people in your life who are so difficult and demanding that speaking your mind feels like it’s not even worth the hassle?

If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you.

I’m giving you proactive ways to approach impossible people and tips to verbally de-escalate situations so you can protect yourself from being harmed by future interactions!

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In today’s episode, I’m interviewing author and well-being teacher Alex Elle. Her work, including her new book How we Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free, is all about helping others find their voice and create clarity in their lives. Alex invites us to rewrite our personal narratives to heal not only ourselves, but the generations that come after us. 

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When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself?

How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simply because you exist? 

This episode is all about what self-love actually is and what it looks like in action, because there are a lot of myths out there (hint: it’s not just about getting a mani/pedi).

You’ll learn some indications of having a deficit of self-love and ideas on how you can create more rock-solid self-love, because you deserve it, my friend!

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In today's episode, I'm sharing a fascinating conversation with Stefanos Sifandos. I met Stefanos through his wife Christine Hassler, a wonderful life coach and podcast host who I've known her for a really long time. After they got married and had a baby, I started to follow Stefanos as well. He has more than 20 years experience in the personal transformation space, and his work around love, sensuality, and sexuality is outstanding. He shares advice on how knowing yourself can help you become a better parent and partner and how willingness to surrender can open you to deeper intimacy. Plus, Stefanos shares his own story of healing from an unhealthy sex and romance addiction.

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Do signs of aging on your face or body concern you? Do you feel pressure to stay looking a particular way (as in, forever young)? If this is resonating, then you, my dear, are not alone. 

In this episode, I’m breaking down different aspects of the aging process (it’s more hopeful than you think!) and giving you some ideas on how you can age gracefully and gratefully because when you really get down to it, it is a privilege to age!

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Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with Rikki Cloos. Rikki is a writer and content creator with a captivatingly authentic passion for attachment healing.

She shares insights and stories about anxious attachment from her own life: How anxious attachment behaviors can damage relationships, how you can stop those habits with work and understanding, and why it can make it so difficult to set healthy boundaries if you are prone to being anxiously attached.

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Are you a natural-born helper? Are you someone who is always willing to lend a hand or advice even if no one asked? Does it feel like your helping is on auto-pilot or even compulsive?

Do you ever wonder if there are times when helping maybe…isn’t that helpful? 

In this episode, I’m breaking down what constitutes unhealthy helping. You’ll also learn what you can do so you can get back some of your bandwidth and increase your potential for intimacy and authentic connection with the people in your life.

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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with one of my BFFs Danielle LaPorte. She shares how changing your perspective on yourself can help you become more loving and how tending to your body and nervous system can be a spiritual practice. Plus, Danielle shares why now was the perfect time to release her new book, How to Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up.

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Do you react strongly to bright lights, crowds, loud places, or too many stimuli? Do people ever tell you you’re too sensitive? How about high maintenance?

You might be a highly sensitive person. A highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone who has an increased or deepened central nervous system with extra sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli. 

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn strategies to up your comfort level in all areas of your life so you can thrive!

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I had the pleasure of inviting acclaimed podcast host and author Jay Fantom on for today’s episode. We chat about how he found his passion for storytelling as a curious child, the inspiration behind his new book The Path of an Eagle, and the necessity for persistence in pursuing your dreams. Plus: We bond over the special sense of purpose that pets can bring to our lives!

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When you think about a narcissist what comes to mind?

Do you think of the life of the party bragging about their accomplishments to anyone who will listen? Or someone out there seducing people with their considerable charms only to torture them once they are caught in their narc web?

In this episode, you’ll learn the top 10 signs to help you spot a covert narcissist, because this personality type can be even trickier and more insidious than the overt narc. 

This kind of narcissist might be flying under the radar because they can come off as shy or even awkward unlike what we typically might think characterizes these personality types. Raising your awareness is the first step to proactively protecting yourself!

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Today I’m sharing another girlfriend jam with Ophira Edut, who is one half of the AstroTwins along with her sister Tali. Since we talked last, Ophira and Tali have been busy: They released a new book, What Sign is Your Relationship? as well as creating the Amazon Prime reality show “Cosmic Love.” 

In this chat, Ophira shares some tips for navigating your relationship with the help of astrological charts and past life knowledge. Plus, I share my very own insights from a past life reading about my marriage with Vic!

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Have you ever described yourself or someone else as having OCD?

I recently had someone write to me about their “neat freak” partner, referring to them as having OCD, and I was like…hold up. Not everyone who likes things orderly has obsessive-compulsive disorder, yet it’s a term that gets thrown around lightly. 

It is much more complicated than excessive hand washing or checking that the stove is actually off. 

In this episode, I’m covering the differences between obsessive-compulsive disorder and a need for order and cleanliness. Plus, what it is, the way that it can present, and the real struggles that people with OCD face.

Remember, learning how to talk about mental health with sensitivity and compassion starts with getting informed so let’s go!

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I have an especially exciting girlfriend jam to share today with my pal LeAnn Rimes! She’s an incredibly talented artist as well as an amazing person. She first became known for her country hits, and she could have rested on her laurels, but she has never stopped challenging herself in her creative work and personal development. We chat about managing the anxiety that comes with creating passionate, disruptive work. Plus, she shares the story behind her new record, “God’s Work,” and the single “The Wild.”

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Do you ever find yourself exhausted and you’re not sure why? Do you ask yourself, “Why am I soooo tired?” often? 

Emotional energy leaks can drain us of our vitality and leave us physically exhausted, compromising our quality of life.

Listen now to learn how to identify and fix energy leaks that might be sucking your precious bandwidth dry!

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Do you ever scroll social media and think to yourself, “Wow, there’s never anything but bad news?” Well, today’s guest ione butler was tired of the exact same experience. She created a platform called Uplifting Content to share the kind of content that she wanted to see, including inspiring stories of human kindness and advice about healing and self care. Today, we chat about why good news is so important and how sharing your story with others can prepare you for positive change.

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Do you ever wonder how you’re doing when it comes to boundaries? 

Healthy boundary setting is a lifetime skill and that means it takes practice. Our boundaries continually evolve throughout our lives and our relationships, so even if you feel like you’re already a boundary boss, it’s great to take an inventory every so often. 

In today's episode, I'm breaking down the five different types of boundaries and walking you through how to do a boundary inventory so you can see where to focus your attention to strengthen your skills.

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Dr. Perpetua Neo (Or Dr. P, as I like to call her) is the author of the fantastic workbook This Is What Matters: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Identifying Your Values, Priorities, and Path Forward after a Crisis. In this interview, she shares how she left an abusive relationship with a narcissist. We also chat about vulnerability, over-functioning, and resetting your brain through meditation to make sure your higher self is in charge.

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When you get into a new relationship, do you ever make assumptions that the other person has the same morals, values, and integrity as you…

…without having a conversation about those things?

Do you think healthy relationships just develop naturally on their own?

If this is you, you’re not alone. These are some of the most common pitfalls we can hit early in relationships, that is, unspoken assumptions + lack of communication around boundaries. 

In this episode, you’ll learn the top 5 most important foundational boundaries for you to create at the beginning of a relationship (or to establish in a long-term relationship) for an EPIC partnership. 

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Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with therapist Cathy Adams, who recently published the book Zen Parenting: Understanding Ourselves So We Can Take Better Care of Our Children. Whether you have children, plan on having children, or even just know any children, this episode is for you. She teaches us how to prepare kids for the real world in a holistic, loving way, while managing your own fear and uncertainty about the future.

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When you and your partner come together at the end of the work day what’s the first thing you do? Flip on the TV, check email, or hop on social media? Do you ever feel like your connection has become an afterthought?

What I’ve seen in more than 25 years as a psychotherapist is how very easy it can be to take our people for granted. Cultivating lasting love is a daily practice.

If you seek a deeper connection and more intimacy with your lover, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn some tips and strategies to ritualize acknowledging your person. When there is a mutual commitment to daily appreciation rituals, it keeps us close with those we love the most!

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In this episode I’m going to be talking to Doug Bopst, who was arrested when he was 20 years old and sent to jail for possession of a large amount of weed with intention to sell. Since then, he has become a successful personal trainer, author, and podcast host. His mission is to inspire others to overcome their own adversity, whatever it may be. He shares his inspiring life story and reminds us to reflect on how we can take responsibility for our actions and their consequences, even in difficult circumstances.

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When you’ve repeatedly been hurt by someone and you share it with others in your life do you ever hear things like,

“Well, you probably provoked them” or…

“You can be really sensitive” or…

“Maybe you just took it the wrong way” or…

“I’ve never had a problem with them” or…

“Aren’t you being a bit of a drama queen”? 

These reactions are the opposite of supportive. If it happens often, you need to learn how to protect yourself with boundaries from others who (whether they realize it or not) are contributing to keeping an abusive or dysfunctional system in place.

As a continuation of last week’s episode, I’m laying out some strategies you can use to protect yourself emotionally plus boundary language and scripts to help you better manage the abuse enablers in your life.

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When I called Niyc Pidgeon for this interview, I thought we would be talking about productivity and positive psychology. Instead, when I asked her about the work that was really energizing her lately, her answer surprised me: She’s writing a book about suicide prevention. What’s more, she finds hope and joy in writing about it —  even though suicidal behavior has heavily impacted her own personal life. 

We discuss the ripple effects suicidal thoughts and behaviors can have on communities, tips for talking to somebody you worry may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, and Niyc’s own experience coping with suicidal thoughts after a sexual assault. Plus: Niyc introduces her next book, One More Day.

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When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like:

“Well, it takes two to tango…” or

“You’re too sensitive…” or

“You need to let it go…” or

“Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof?

If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you. 

In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships.

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When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like:

“Well, it takes two to tango…” or

“You’re too sensitive…” or

“You need to let it go…” or

“Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof?

If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you. 

In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships.

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Be honest: Could you use a little more chill in your internal life? How about being less stressed and experience more joy, more relaxation, and more flow? 

Well, in today’s episode I’m talking to the perfect guest for you: Kelly Smith, the globally celebrated yoga and meditation teacher who founded Yoga For You and hosts the podcast Mindful in Minutes. 

Today we’re chatting about the reasons you should consider incorporating a daily meditation practice into your life and how meditation can be accessible for you no matter how busy you are.

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I don’t think I’ve ever shared this story publicly, but skin cancer awareness is a topic that is near and dear to my heart (and my nose!). If my journey can inspire even a handful of you to start a new routine of daily sun protection, sharing it will have been worthwhile. 

If you're someone who knows you should be using SPF when you go out in the sun, but you still don't do it consistently, this episode is for you, my friend, because I don’t want you to experience what I experienced. 

I’m sharing my very personal story (and some raw pics!), as well as resources and ways you can become more educated to take the very best preventative care of the skin you’re in!

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Today I’m excited to share my chat with weight loss expert, author, and creator of the Target 100 program, Liz Josefsberg. When I first heard about her holistic approach to weight loss and health, it made so much sense to me that I took her 10 week course myself! In this episode, we talk about ways to disrupt unhealthy patterns, set new boundaries around food, and target lifestyle goals that you can really live with.

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Are you someone who goes on vacation…but doesn’t actually go on vacation? 

Are you checking your work messages when you should be present to the folks you are with or the beauty that’s surrounding you? 

If you're nodding your head yes then this video is for you. You’ll learn why it can be so hard to actually BE away when we’re on holiday - whether it’s a staycation or a vacation- plus some steps you can take to create proactive boundaries so you can actually enjoy your time off!

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Today I’m sharing a chat with my longtime friend Rob Mack. We’re talking all about love: How to find it ourselves, create more of it in the world, and embody it by searching for a story that is both positive and true. Plus, Rob shares his own meditation practices and helps us understand how we are naturally wired to see problems, and how we can work on reducing that bias.

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Have you ever told someone something important to you in confidence, only to find out they told someone else?

Are there people in your life you are hesitant or afraid to share your truth with because you know you’ll be judged?

In this episode, we are talking about emotional trustworthiness, how to spot it in others, how to maintain it in your relationships, and how to become more emotionally trustworthy yourself!

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Today I’m chatting with Allyson Byrd, an expert in entrepreneurship, success, and manifestation. We chat about how creating the life that is true to your inner self today will set you up for financial success in the future. Plus, she shares some tips to help you let go of your learned fear of financial abundance.

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Do you identify as someone who is a kind and generous person? Does that sometimes mean you prioritize other people's wants, needs, and desires above your own?

It is possible to be kind and generous without self-abandoning!

In this episode, you’ll learn why we do this plus the most common signs you might be self-abandoning, so you can up your self-love and begin to take better care of yourself (because you deserve it).

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Today I’m happy to share an interview with one of my friends, Trudi Lebrón. I’ve been following her work for many years and have learned so much from her. She’s an expert in diversity, equity, and inclusion in business, and just published her new book, The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, and Leadership. We chat about exploring identity, defining what success should mean in your own life, and how to be ethical without rejecting capitalism.

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Is there someone in your life who uses guilt to try to get you to do what they want you to do? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of flattery where someone says all these amazing things about you, but then expects something from you?

These are both examples of emotional manipulation tactics. 

In this episode, I'm talking about the most commonly used manipulation tactics to help you recognize them + understand why you might be falling victim to this kind of dysfunctional behavior.

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Today I’m sharing a chat with Sheleana Aiyana. She is the founder of Rising Woman, an online community with more than 3 million readers. She talks about her childhood experiences parenting her own mother and coping through addiction. Then, she shares some strategies to help you heal, come home to yourself, and heal childhood wounds.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors.

We have all experienced some level of primary or secondary trauma over the past few years. The pandemic, the war in Ukraine, and school shootings among other events have brought the topic of trauma front and center in our public discourse.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the definition of trauma so you can have a better understanding of what it is and can make the distinction between normal trauma responses and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

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Today I’m sharing an interview with Dr. John Delony. He’s a mental health expert, podcast host, and author who specializes in making the path to mental wellness accessible for everyone, especially people who don’t come from an academic background. 

John explained five steps you can take to heal past traumas that are getting in the way of your current life, no matter who you are. Plus, we chatted about codependency in parent-child relationships— how damaging it can be to both parties when parents are dependent on children for their emotional stability.

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Are you someone who proudly proclaims that you “never get angry”?

Or do you wait so long to deal with your anger that when it finally comes out you explode- only to feel guilty and wish you could take it back?

Either way, if you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down six different types of anger people experience so you can get a better understanding of how your anger might be affecting you, your health, your relationships, and your behaviors. You’ll learn some things you can do to have a healthier relationship with your anger because trying to ignore or suppress it is not the answer. Honoring your anger is honoring yourself. So click below to watch the video or keep on reading.  

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Do you feel like you could use a little more inner peace right now? You’re not alone. The world today feels more hectic than ever. Today’s guest, Shannon Kaiser, has some tips to help us re-tune inward and protect our inner peace. She also shares her boundary struggles as a world renowned spiritual and self-love teacher as well as guidance from her new book, Return to You: 11 Spiritual Lessons for Unshakable Inner Peace.

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Do you dread Father’s Day? Do you find yourself frustrated in the greeting card aisle every year because you feel like you have to get a card but none of the Hallmark messages ring true? 

Are you estranged or is your father absent? If so, you are not alone. While Father’s Day is a celebration for some, for others, it can bring up feelings of sadness, anger, and disappointment. I get it. 

I had a very complicated relationship with my father and Father’s Day was always kind of painful for me. I was that person who would go into a store and see all these cards that would say things like:

“Dad, you were always there for me,” or, “You’re so amazing, thanks for always cheering me on,” etc. None of the Father’s Day sentiments were accurate for me or represented my experience with my father. 

If you can relate, this episode is for you. I’m sharing 5 non-traditional ways to celebrate Father’s Day to give you options to honor the beautiful, supportive relationships in your life.

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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with the wonderful Kerri Kelly. As a community organizer and author of the brand new book American Detox, her goal is to make well being accessible and inclusive for all. 

We chat about the dark side of the western wellness industry: the ways it excludes minorities, appropriates practices, and exploits vulnerabilities. Then, Kerri guides us on how each of us can make positive change.

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If you’re honest with yourself, does the idea of forgiving someone feel like you might be condoning their bad behavior or like they are getting one over on you? 

If forgiveness feels complicated (and it is!), this episode is for you. You’ll learn about what I’m calling the new forgiveness, which is about releasing resentment that might be holding you back- not about letting someone off the hook. 

Plus, inside this week’s guide, you’ll get a powerful 4-step process to release yourself from the prison that prolonged resentment can become so you can begin your healing process.

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Do you feel like it’s impossible to get what you want? Do you love to lift other people up but never really see yourself shine? If those questions resonate with you, today’s interview with Julie Solomon is for you. Julie is the recent author of Get What You Want: How to Go from Unseen to Unstoppable. She shares some tips from the book as well as her own experience growing out of a mindset of scarcity, hiding, and codependency to see herself shine.

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Do you think something terrible has to happen in your life before you pick up the phone to call a therapist?

Do you think you need to be on the verge of a nervous breakdown or ever think to yourself…well, it’s not that bad…I’m not crazy. I should be able to manage this on my own.

If you’re sheepishly nodding your head yes, then this week’s episode is for you. It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and I’m breaking down all of the good reasons for you to get into therapy as a proactive way to protect your overall health.

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Today I’m chatting about blended families and stepfamilies with Jamie Scrimgeour. She’s an expert on stepfamily dynamics and the host of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. We have a great conversation about pitfalls to avoid when you join a family and how to appreciate the unique beauty of being a step-parent. Along the way, we share some of our own experiences as stepmoms!

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This week, I’m breaking down simple mental wellness strategies you can incorporate into your daily life to support robust mental health. 

While some of the things on this list might be things you already know you “should” do, with 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can tell you a lack of these wellness essentials can negatively impact the quality of your life and how you feel (and you don’t get the amazing benefits from knowing without actually doing, lovebug!) 

I’ve included a ton of resources to help make it even easier for you to focus on simple things you can do on a daily basis to proactively support yourself and your mental health. 

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Today I’m interviewing Kute Blackson. He’s an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher who is an expert on surrender. When you think of surrender, you might associate it with weakness. However, surrender can actually take great strength. In this episode, Kute is going to explain how finding the courage to let go can help you live authentically and fulfill your life’s true purpose. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Kute as much as I enjoyed talking with him!

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Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but one thing usually holds true across the board- we can feel very conflicted about how to respond to curious (even if they’re well-meaning) people.  

Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of personal questions you don’t want to answer? 

How did your father die?Why did you get divorced?

What happened with your job?

If you’ve ever grieved the loss of something or someone and felt like people were asking for information you didn’t want to give, but were unsure how to respond, I get it. 

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn how to establish appropriate boundaries when dealing with any kind of loss, how to inform people how to treat you, and how to treat others in life’s most difficult moments. 

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Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with my friend Lisa Bilyeu, author of the new book Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life and co-founder of the wildly successful business Quest Nutrition. She tells us how she challenged her family’s expectations to transform a life that was not working for her into one that is really, really working for her. I really hope you enjoy this chat with Lisa as much as I enjoyed hanging out with her. 

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How do you feel when you go to your favorite exercise class and someone is sitting in your spot? Are you low-key burning up on the inside?

Let’s say you go to Sephora to get your favorite face cream and they've discontinued it…are you really bummed out? 

Does change make you uncomfortable, especially when you have no control over it? If so, then this episode is for you. 

You’ll learn about the power of becoming more adaptable and how adaptability is one of the keys to cultivating more happiness in your life.

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Tricia (also known online as Your Joyologist) is an ex rock-and-roll roadie and current life coach, podcast host, author, and speaker who I’ve known for at least a decade now. We chat about all the ways it’s unhealthy to hold ourselves to “shoulds” instead of acting on our true wants. If you sometimes struggle with shame, guilt, and rumination over what you could have done differently in the past, Tricia has some advice for you.

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Do you ever wonder if your relationship with your mother (or maternal impactor) is “normal”? Are you curious about how it has affected you as an adult? 

Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated and in this episode, I’m breaking down the 7 types of dynamics I’ve seen the most in my 25 years as a psychotherapist, plus the lasting impact each type has on emotions and behaviors in adulthood.

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How do you relate to time? 

Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others?

If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!)

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Today I’m sharing a special double interview with John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann. Though John and Ana are both amazing authors and have been happily married for decades, their most recent book The Go-Giver Marriage is the first one they have written together. We’re chatting about the five secrets to lasting love, as well as their relationship-damaging opposites. Plus, how to keep appreciating what your partner brings to your life, even when people around you see their relationships as limiting.

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Today I’m talking with repeat guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. We talk about how codependency, which he calls self-love deficit disorder, attracts narcissists, and why a codependent-narcissist relationship is so damaging. Then, he walks us through the steps to healing, from first reaching out for help to finally living a self-love abundant lifestyle.

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