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As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess.
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“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace” (Isaiah 9:6 ESV)
It’s easy to get caught up in the to-dos and materialism of Christmas. There are so many activities and so many gifts to purchase. And while giving and receiving gifts is exciting, the greatest gift we can ever receive came as a tiny newborn baby in a lowly manger all those years ago. It’s up to us to receive this gift! So we can always be praying that our kids will accept God’s gift, believe in him, and love him all the days of their lives.
The book of Luke tells us that when Jesus was born, shepherds worshiped and spread the word, angels sang, and Mary treasured all those moments up in her heart and pondered them (Luke 2:19). As we approach Christmas day, let’s focus our attention on those same acts. As a family let’s worship the Lord, spread his good news, sing songs of adoration and celebration, and let’s store up the memories and meaning in our hearts so that we can remember God’s great gift to us all year long.
This week, let’s pray that our kids grow to know and love the true meaning of Christmas and that they would focus less on consumerism and sparkle, and more on the good news of Jesus.
Father God, thank you for sending us the greatest gift when you sent your Son to be born. May we all focus on you this season, not on the stress, pressure, or things. May _____________ remember that Christmas should be fun, but the most important part about it is you. Amen.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Happy December!!!
I am so very delighted to introduce you to one of my favorite moms on the planet - Dana Sheheane! This episode is a simple, rambling and lighthearted chat with one of my real life mom friends. You will LOVE her! She’s one of us folks.
I feel like we can raise amazing Christian kids - if we are wearing the right bra and our coffee stays warm. Amen? So let’s dive into some practical ideas and a girlfriend chat.
The majority of the episode is just fun ideas and simple tips for your everyday life. However, don’t miss the end. We talk about a few intangible and critical things you need to survive in 2025 - from margin to community. Enjoy her wisdom and her adorable laugh!.
In this episode, we chat about:
Love,
Courtney
(05:55) Parenting Insights and Challenges
(11:58) Holiday Traditions and Family Dynamics
(18:52) Navigating Hormonal Changes
(29:56) Embracing Embarrassment as Parents
(39:04) Must-Have Gadgets for Everyday Life
(45:14) Finding Joy in Everyday Challenges
(51:16) Building Community and Connection
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Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Resources from today’s show:
Dana’s Story - StoryTellersLive Part 1
Dana’s Story - StoryTellersLive Part 2
EOS Lotion- not cherry. No scent. We lied
Dawn Platinum Powerwash Dish Spray
Podcast episode i LOVED lately
Treasures in the Dark by Katherine Wolf
As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44)
It’s one thing to love your neighbor as yourself, it’s a whole other thing to love your enemies. As believers, we aren’t called to ignore our enemies or to tolerate our enemies, we are called to love them and to pray for them. This is a radical teaching that goes against the norm in society because it is much easier to judge or gossip about our enemies (guilty!). But even more, we are supposed to love our enemies without expecting anything in return.
Scripture makes it clear that the most powerful way we can actually love our enemies is to pray for them.
We begin to see a change in ourselves as we pray for others. First, we start to see our enemies the way God sees them, and God sees them as his beloved and dearly loved children, just like we are. Second, we can be freed from bitterness, resentment, and anger by praying for our enemies as our hearts are softened by the Holy Spirit.
So, this week let’s pray that our kids will love their enemies in a radical way and that they will begin to see themselves as God sees them.
Father God, loving our enemies starts with us. I pray that ___________ would learn to love their prayed and pray for them while establishing healthy boundaries. I pray that their hearts are softened towards the people who treat them poorly so that they see them the way you do. I pray for reconciliation and peace if ________ is being bullied or bullying others. Give me wisdom in those conflicts. Amen.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
I crave mentors and wisdom! I feel like I can spot wise women in any room. Lisa Clark is one of those mentors and I’m delighted to share her with you today. You will absolutely love hearing her “best and worst parenting advice” as she thinks back over her 35 years of parenting.
As a grandmother now, she is at a place in life where she can look back and assess what was true and what wasn’t. Some advice is helpful and some is not. Some advice is biblical and some is not. Lisa shares so many incredible pieces of encouragement with us today - from how to discipline, the role of dads, when and how to have sex talks and much more. Lisa prioritizes her faith in a beautiful way but also has a very solid grasp on the realities we are facing as moms. I always feel lighter and more encouraged after time with her.
My favorite part is at the end when she shares why we should be deliberate in teaching the gospel. She gives very specific ways we can do this and reminds us why it matters. I am praying that you feel so deeply seen in this episode and that the work you are doing as a mom matters.
In this episode we discuss:
Enjoy!
Courtney
(00:00) Navigating Grandparenting Dynamics
(02:12) The Myth of 18 Years
(04:31) Evolving Relationships with Adult Children
(06:50) The Balance of Discipline and Gentle Parenting
(10:51) Challenging Conventional Parenting Advice
(14:58) Trusting Your Instincts as a Parent
(18:24) Navigating Kindness and Boundaries
(20:29) The Importance of Sleep Schedules
(22:25) Open Conversations About Sex
(25:52) The Balance of Parenting Styles
(30:33) Empowering Dads in Parenting
(33:38) Intentional Gospel Teaching
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Resources from today’s show:
Raising Sinners book by Lisa Clark
Raising Sinners podcast by Lisa Clark
Age of Opportunity by Paul David Tripp
Dr. David and Amanda Erickson episode - Discipline, Consequences
Birds & Bees (Mary Flo Ridley)
Dangers of Growing Up in a Christian Home
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34–35)
We are commanded to love others the way we love ourselves—which is kind of hard when we sometimes aren’t so nice to ourselves (we can pray against that for our kids). But we are also called to love others the way Jesus loves us: sacrificially and actively.
For our kids, love as an action means more than being kind to everyone, it means our kids notice when someone is left out and they include them. It means forgiving others, standing up for others, noticing the lonely, and looking for ways to serve others. It’s not always easy, but it’s always good.
When we love people in this way, the people around us notice that there is something different about us. The love of Christ shines bright so the whole world can see that we are his disciples. That is what it is all about because, at the end of the day, the most loving thing we can do for the people around them is to tell them about Jesus and his great love for us.
So this week let’s pray that our kids love others with their words and their actions. Let’s pray that when people see the way our kids treat others, they will see Jesus in them.
Jesus, thank you for loving us. Help ____________ to notice the lonely, the sad, and the hurting and love them well. May they always seek to be more than kind to everyone, but be moved to action so that they can show the world around them your love. Amen.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
What an absolute delight! If I could have dinner with 5 people (dead or alive) - it would be Jesus, Princess Diana, my grandmother, Mother Teresa and Bob Goff. What about you? Are there people in the world that have shaped your mind and heart? Bob’s first book, Love Does, had a significant impact on my faith and the way I parent my kids. So, you can imagine it was PURE JOY to have this conversation today.
He sprays wisdom, inspiration and joy like confetti - so you will not be short on takeaways for this one. I loved his encouragement for us to, “GO BE YOU!” He encourages us to reconnect and rediscover how God made us. When we do that, we have less comparison with other moms. And we can settle into who we are. And then, as parents, we get to help our kids settle into who they are.
One of my favorite parts is when he talks about his role as a dad and grandfather. He encourages us to ask “What do they uniquely need that only I could give?” Let’s sit with that today and try not to overcomplicate it. What do our kids, friends and family need that only I could give?
- Courtney
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Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Resources from today’s show:
Catching Whimsy - Bob’s new book
Love Does - Bob’s first book
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads” (Deuteronomy 6:5–8)
To love God with all our hearts is to love God despite our emotions and our circumstances.
To love God with all our soul is to rest in him. It is to know our creator and to be in relationship with him, knowing that he is where we will find peace and eternal rest.
To love God with all our mind is to know God, but also trust him with our life, our soul, and our story. It is to know that he is sovereign and knows what is best for us.
To love God with all our strength is to live our faith in everyday life. It is to serve him by using the gifts that he has given us, being the hands and feet of Jesus, and putting into practice all the things we know to be true about God.
We love God fully when we love him in these ways and it is that full love that overflows into the way we love others. So this week, let’s pray that our kids will love God fully in every area of their lives.
Jesus, you love us completely, fully, and perfectly. May __________ love you with their whole heart, soul, mind, and strength. May their love overflow in a way that everyone around them notices there is something different about them. May they grow in their love for you every day and every year. Amen.
Happy Thanksgiving!
I hope you are having a beautiful day with your friends and family. I am so very thankful for each of you. I got to meet several of you in person at a recent retreat - and you were so kind to stop me and tell me the impact this podcast is having on your life. I care about each of you so much and it was so refreshing to meet you in person and hug you tight.
Today’s episode is just ME! I decided to pause from interviewing guests and start a series that we will sprinkle in over the next year or so. As I am launching my first child into the world, it’s fun to look back and think “What mattered most?” One of the things that has mattered most in our parenting journey is the topic of GENEROSITY.
As Ron and I reflect, we do believe making that a priority in our home has genuinely impacted our girls’ faith - in big and small ways. We didn’t always get it right - but we did make sure we spent very practical time giving to others. This is way more than giving money - it’s our time, talents and more.
Today, you will hear some super practical ideas too for the holiday season. You can find 100 free ideas over at Light ‘Em Up. Enjoy this season with your family shining the light of God. Praying we each have eyes to see where God is moving and that we have the courage to step in and be a part of it this Christmas season.
Send me some stories after the fact!
Much love,
Courtney
00:00
Thanksgiving Greetings and Gratitude
10:25
Living Generously: Personal Stories and Experiences
20:02
Creative Acts of Kindness and Community Engagement
25:52
Making Room for Generosity
33:20
Listening for God's Guidance
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Resources from today’s show:
Light ‘Em Up - acts of kindness ideas
In This House, We Will Giggle - Courtney’s first book
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:16–18)
We tend to tie gratitude to our situation. We feel grateful if life is good or we feel happy. We feel grateful when God answers our prayers the way we want.
But God’s challenge to us is to rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances! And even when we don’t feel thankful for our circumstances, we can be thankful for this: God loves us enough to heal us (like he healed the lepers), God loves us enough to provide for us, protect us, and guide us. And most importantly God loves us enough to send his only Son, Jesus, to die on the cross and forgive us our sins.
On our kids’ journey of faith, it’s important that they learn to love God by expressing their gratitude to him. This week, let’s pray that our kids always have a grateful heart, even when it’s hard. Let’s pray that they would recognize God’s blessing in their lives and actively praise him for them.
Jesus, thank you for showering us with blessings and for changing our lives by going to the cross! May ____________ always remember that you are good. May they bow before you in reverence and awe knowing that you are worthy of praise and may they acknowledge the way you work in their life, always remembering to have a posture of gratitude towards you. Amen.
Listen to the Gratitude playlist on Spotify
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This episode was incredibly special to me. I have long admired Pastor Louie Giglio and the work he has done through Passion Conferences and Passion City Church. I invited Amelia McBrayer, one of my favorite college kids, to join me in chatting about how to find authentic faith in the college years. This episode is packed with wisdom on how to help encourage our kids (and all of us) to not just know ABOUT God, but to really KNOW God.
Since 1997, Passion Conferences has gathered over one million collegiate-aged young people in events across the U.S. and around the world. It was so much fun to bring one of those students on the podcast with me today - to share what God has done through Passion and how her life has been impacted by Jesus.
My favorite part is when he talks about the ups and downs of faith. That we need to keep praying and believing for the faith of our kids - but never to shove it on them. He encouraged us to spend more time doing what we want our kids to do. He reminds us that our time as parents in God’s word and praying will have a massive impact on the lives of our kids.
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy!
Courtney
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:02
The Impact of Passion Conferences
06:03
Faith and College Life
10:51
Navigating Spiritual Challenges
15:04
The Power of Prayer and Authenticity
20:11
The Role of Devotionals
23:05
Maintaining Faith After Events
30:08
Prayer for the Next Generation
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Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Resources from today’s show:
Grace & Glory - Louie’s new devotional
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“‘For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you” (Isaiah 54:10 ESV)
Everything in our world may change, but God’s love will not be moved. Our kids will be disappointed too many times to count over the course of their lives. Despite our best efforts, even we will let them down. But throughout it all, God will not change, will not leave them, and will never let them down. His love is steadfast.
God loves us, and he loves our kids, with a fierce love. It’s hard to even wrap our heads around God’s love for us: the kind of love that led him to the action of sending his son to die on a cross to deliver us from our sins. While the unending, unshakeable, unbreakable, constant love of God may be hard to grasp, once we take hold of it, we won’t want to let it go.
For our kids to truly live a journey of faith, they must recognize and accept the full, steadfast love of God. So this week, let’s pray that our kids will truly feel God’s love for them. The enemy will lie to them and make them doubt God’s love for them, so our prayers in this area are essential!
Father God, you love us enough to send your one and only Son to die on the cross so we can be reconciled to you and live eternally with you. May ________________ fully know your steadfast love. I pray they feel your love wrapped around them today and every day, and I pray they can rest in that love. May they never doubt that no matter what is going on in their world, your love will not change. Amen.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
I am so fired up about this episode with Chris and Jan Woodruff. I believe serving together is one of the very best things you can do as a family. As I look back over 18 years as a mom, I can truthfully say that the times we have served together has deeply impacted each of us. We always see the best version of our family.
Many times, the service opportunities are only available for teens and older. When we discovered Lighthouse, we found a way for our kids to serve as young as 4 years old. In this episode, we talk about the benefit of serving and putting others before yourself. My goal for today’s episode is that it unlocks the power of serving together and motivates many to find unique ways to serve as a family.
My favorite part of the episode is when we talk about the benefits of serving together. We have both seen unique benefits on each of our kids. They have practiced and prioritized serving others and we can now see how it has helped develop their character and passions and gifts.
Challenge today: Go on a date with your spouse or grab some girlfriends and brainstorm: “What are the top values we want to instill in our home? In our family culture? And then how can we be intentional to live out those values?”
Enjoy!
Courtney
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Family Background
03:02
The Importance of Service and Generosity
05:57
Building a Family Culture of Service
08:52
Transitioning from Volunteers to Staff
11:49
The Impact of Serving on Children
15:12
Finding Individual Strengths in Service
18:00
Creating Community Through Service
20:12
The Joy of Serving Together
22:25
Empathy and Growth Through Service
24:36
Building Community and Communication Skills
26:46
The Impact of Small Acts of Kindness
28:04
Finding Your Family's Serving Style
30:39
Navigating Overwhelm in Family Service
33:45
Encouragement for Busy Families
37:04
Getting Involved with Lighthouse
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Resources from today’s show:
Light ‘Em Up - 100 simple ideas and random acts of kindness
In This House, We Will Giggle - Courtney’s book
Under shorts for women - you’re welcome
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, ‘If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free’” (John 8:31–32 ESV)
To abide in Christ is to remain, continue, or stay in Christ. It means taking what we know about who God is, who we are in Christ, and what the Bible says, and using those things to grow in a permanent relationship with the Lord. It means trusting him for all things—trusting we are loved, trusting his word is true, and trusting in his promises.
Truly knowing and following Jesus means continuing to grow our relationship with him. It’s a relationship worth investing in because it is the one relationship that matters: a relationship with Jesus gives us eternal life, peace in this lifetime, and allows us to bear good fruit and do good works.
This week let's pray that our kids will know and abide with Christ their entire lives and commit to deepening their relationship with him every day.
Jesus, I pray that ____________ would abide in you. That they would remain in your love and choose that every day of their lives. May they read scripture and learn about you in a way that lasts. Help them to keep your truth in their mind so that they may choose your ways over the world’s ways, and let it sink into their heart so that they become more and more like you. Amen.
My friend, Heather MacFayden, is a mom of four boys and I am a mom of two girls. We have two very different (but equally enjoyable) parenting experiences. We are both podcasters, but we are also real life friends. We have had many conversations over the last 10 years about the unique differences between raising boys and girls.
We decided to take our offline conversations online for you! Part 1 is over at her podcast, Don’t Mom Alone - Boys vs Girls (Part 1): The Early Years. And today, you will hear Part 2 which is all about the dating years. We even get into the anxiety that comes with dances like homecoming and prom.
I learned several things from Heather about how boys are feeling during these dating years. After our chat, I immediately went and talked to the girls about how the guys may feel used at times. They are more than a prop in a photo. I was encouraged to hear that her boys want deep conversations and interesting girls.
My goal for this conversation was to grow our understanding and empathy of the opposite gender - especially if you only have 1 gender of children in your home. Let us know what you think! What do you wish moms of girls knew about boys? What do you wish moms of boys knew about girls? Send me a DM!
In this episode, we discuss:
-Dating challenges for teens today
-Ideas on how to help boys and girls interact when curiosity begins
-How social media and phones are impacting the dating process
-Seeing behind the homecoming drama - what is going on with each gender
Enjoy!
Courtney
(02:00) Empathy in Parenting: Boys vs. Girls
(04:04) The Challenges of Modern Dating
(10:05) Navigating Social Events and Relationships
(18:08) The Impact of Social Media on Dating Dynamics
(20:21) The Pressure of Appearances in Relationships
(21:06) Navigating Modesty and Self-Confidence
(22:38) The Emotional Impact of Rejection
(23:52) Social Media's Role in Self-Perception
(24:40) Understanding Boys' Perspectives on Relationships
(25:45) The Importance of Communication and Planning
(27:39) The Dynamics of Dating and Social Expectations
(29:52) Boys' Leadership in Social Situations
(32:11) The Cost of Social Events and Expectations
(33:34) Teaching Boys About Respect and Kindness
(35:27) Building Confidence in Girls
(37:53) Encouraging Individuality in a Conformist Culture
(39:55) A Prayer for Our Children
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Resources from today’s show:
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend” (Proverbs 27:17 NLT)
Godly friends make us better, not out of shame or peer pressure, but out of a desire to see us faithful to God and pursuing his will for our lives. Godly friends know that God wants more for us than what the world has to offer, and so they will push us in that direction when we start to veer from the path.
Who our kids hang out with is important, iron sharpens iron and bad company corrupts character (1 Corinthians 15:33). Godly friends will help our kids grow in their faith and keep them accountable. Ungodly friends will bring them further and further from God’s truth.
So this week, let’s pray that our kids will be surrounded by true, godly friends and be a light to the friends around them who don’t know Jesus.
Jesus, I pray that ______________ surrounds
themselves with friends who know and love you. I pray they would encourage each other in faith, hold each other accountable, and that their friendships would draw them closer to you. Where there is conflict, may they be quick to show forgiveness, just as you forgave us. May _____________ be a light to those around them, always showing what a godly friend is. Amen.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
These two episodes with Dr. David and Amanda Erickson are packed with practical ideas for the little years. Truthfully, it can be overwhelming to determine how to discipline, redirect, manage chaos while not breaking the spirit of your child. I see a cultural shift from one extreme (punishing behavior out of kids and using fear) to another extreme - letting the kids run the house with no rules.
This couple has an approach that I really believe in - they combine child development with scriptural truth. I wish I had had them when my kids were younger. They focus on “what to do” vs “what not to do” which puts an upfront emphasis on your family’s values and expectations.
My favorite part is when they talk about how to take a biblical value like “trustworthiness” and live it out in the home. As you listen to this episode, I am praying you feel equipped and not discouraged. Their way isn’t a prescribed formula - it’s a parenting philosophy that has many benefits and ideas attached to it.
When my kids were little, it was so chaotic at times and I would get so overwhelmed at my lack of parenting principles and felt like I kept messing it up. You are not alone. Don’t give up! This work and effort will pay off.
In this episode, we chat about:
Enjoy!
Courtney
Part 1
(03:03) Parenting Principles and Practical Application
(05:55) Cultural Shifts in Parenting Styles
(09:04) The Importance of Early Emotional Development
(11:53) Building Trust and Honesty in Parenting
(15:11) Consequences and Discipline Strategies
(17:53) Redirecting Behavior and Managing Chaos
Part 2
(2:30) Understanding the Impact of Fear on Parenting
(6:33) The Importance of Separation in Conflict Resolution
(9:10) Timeouts: Purposeful or Punitive?
(12:10) Channeling Physical Energy in Children
(16:20) Teaching Control Over Emotions and Actions 5
(22:00) The Role of Respect in Parenting 2
(23:48) Assuming the Best: Navigating Disrespect 3
(27:20) Affirming Positive Behavior in Children 4
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Resources from today’s show:
The Flourishing Family - new book
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
These two episodes with Dr. David and Amanda Erickson are packed with practical ideas for the little years. Truthfully, it can be overwhelming to determine how to discipline, redirect, manage chaos while not breaking the spirit of your child. I see a cultural shift from one extreme (punishing behavior out of kids and using fear) to another extreme - letting the kids run the house with no rules.
This couple has an approach that I really believe in - they combine child development with scriptural truth. I wish I had had them when my kids were younger. They focus on “what to do” vs “what not to do” which puts an upfront emphasis on your family’s values and expectations.
My favorite part is when they talk about how to take a biblical value like “trustworthiness” and live it out in the home. As you listen to this episode, I am praying you feel equipped and not discouraged. Their way isn’t a prescribed formula - it’s a parenting philosophy that has many benefits and ideas attached to it.
When my kids were little, it was so chaotic at times and I would get so overwhelmed at my lack of parenting principles and felt like I kept messing it up. You are not alone. Don’t give up! This work and effort will pay off.
In this episode, we chat about:
Enjoy!
Courtney
Part 1
(03:03) Parenting Principles and Practical Application
(05:55) Cultural Shifts in Parenting Styles
(09:04) The Importance of Early Emotional Development
(11:53) Building Trust and Honesty in Parenting
(15:11) Consequences and Discipline Strategies
(17:53) Redirecting Behavior and Managing Chaos
Part 2
(2:30) Understanding the Impact of Fear on Parenting
(6:33) The Importance of Separation in Conflict Resolution
(9:10) Timeouts: Purposeful or Punitive?
(12:10) Channeling Physical Energy in Children
(16:20) Teaching Control Over Emotions and Actions 5
(22:00) The Role of Respect in Parenting 2
(23:48) Assuming the Best: Navigating Disrespect 3
(27:20) Affirming Positive Behavior in Children 4
Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Resources from today’s show:
The Flourishing Family - new book
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near” (Hebrews 10:23–25 ESV)
Getting our kids to church can be a real struggle. They may fight you about it at any age (toddler to teen), it’s early in the morning and everyone wants to sleep in, and it can be hard to find a church community that meets the needs of everyone in your family. You may have been hurt by the church and find it difficult to trust a faith community again. If you identify with any of that, you are not alone in these struggles!
But we are not meant to do life alone and church is where we can find our best community. Attending church is also one of the ways we can get to know and experience God more.
The discipleship that happens in church is about relationship. There is a reason people often refer to their congregation as their “church family.” It is a place of encouragement where brothers and sisters in Christ can build each other up in love and spur each other on in faith.
So this week, let’s pray that our kids know and understand the value of church. Let’s pray that they will love the church and have a desire to serve with God’s family. Let’s ask God to help them love going to church and to feel loved, known, and safe there.
God, thank you for the gift of church. I pray that _____________ would love going to church, that it would not be something we convince them to do, but something they participate in out of love for you and your family. May they use their gifts to expand your kingdom and serve your church. Amen.
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I couldn’t wait to have a chat with the founder, producer and director of The Chosen, Dallas Jenkins. Although that’s super cool - I also wanted it to be practical for us as parents. He was fantastic!
My kids are very visual learners and I am sure many of your children are as well, so I wanted to hear his thoughts on creative storytelling. Some kids cannot read the Bible and get what they need right away. They don’t understand the context around the stories. Dallas is a master at providing context to scriptural truth through his TV series and films.
This conversation challenged me to keep thinking creatively about how we infuse virtues, values and faith in the lives of my kids. It encouraged me to keep living faith more than I lecture about it. We know that much of life’s most valuable lessons are “caught not taught.” It reminded me to relax if my kids are more into movies, books, music vs reading.
My favorite part is the amazing God story behind his newest movie for kids, The Best Christmas Pageant Ever. It is truly extraordinary how it came about. I can't wait to take my kids to see it (with all of their friends) and kick off the season that is all about the birth of our Savior.
In this episode, we chat about:
Enjoy!
Courtney
(00:00) The Power of Friendship and Faith
(02:53) Transformative Impact of 'The Chosen'
(06:05) Family Dynamics and Sacrifices
(09:01) Creative Storytelling in Parenting
(12:00) The New Movie: The Best Christmas Pageant Ever
(14:55) Behind the Scenes of the Movie Production
(17:51) The Journey of Faith and Persistence
(21:00) Encouragement for Families and Communities
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Resources from today’s show:
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever
Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God” (Philippians 1:9–11)
Biblical discernment is understanding something through the power of the Holy Spirit. It means being able to see what is good vs. evil, false teaching vs. truth, wise vs. unwise. Being discerning does not mean being judgemental, though it is easy to fall into that. Being discerning means being able to distinguish the voice and will of God from the noise of the world.
It is so easy to accept what we see on social media, the news, or the internet as truth. But so often, it is far from the truth. Even our favorite Christian writers, podcasters, or pastors could share false teachings. Our kids are growing up in a world that is completely different from the world we grew up in. The access to information alone is overwhelming, which is why we need to be praying that our kids know how to discern God’s truth in the world around them.
Our kids will face peer pressure to do things that they know aren’t right, they will be taught to follow their emotions and desires over the Lord, and they will be told that there are ways that are better than God’s. The ability to recognize those things as harmful and untrue is a gift that we all desire for our kids.
For our kids to truly live in God’s will, they need to have a discerning spirit, so let’s pray for their ability to discern truth this week.
Father God, I pray that ____________ will learn to test what they read, hear, and see with scripture. Help them to seek your truth above all else. I pray that your word will guide their paths. May they base their life on your truth instead of the lies of the enemy and of this world. Will you daily renew their minds and make their hearts wholeheartedly devoted to you?
In this week’s episode, I have the honor of chatting with Reese - a college-aged friend that I adore. She bravely shares her testimony - one that involves abuse by a coach, a “not guilty” jury decision and God’s faithfulness through it all. Reese wanted to come on and share her story so that parents see that an authentic faith is often born from life’s toughest struggles.
When I asked Reese’s mom about this journey, this was her text to me.
“My daughter’s journey reminds us that God can use even our worst fears and redeem them. We can’t protect our kids from their testimony. God always takes what the enemy intends for evil for good. Maybe even their very purpose. Trusting him with their growth and process and pain. We were the parents with such tight controls. No sleepovers. No phones until HS. No ipads. Locked down YouTube. My control can’t protect her from everything.”
My favorite part is when she shares a story of how God spoke directly to her during some of the hardest parts of her story. It gave me chills and also great comfort. It reminded me that no matter what our kids face - they will never be alone. I can either get swallowed up with fear and the “what if’s” of parenting or I can make the choice to lean into faith and trust God has them. He has them in the best of times and the worst.
I am so excited for you to hear from an 18-year-old with a solid and authentic faith that wasn’t born out of a perfect life. Her faith is hers, it’s tested and it’s remarkable.
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy,
Courtney
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:01
Impacting Children's Faith
04:18
Overcoming Abuse and Finding Identity in Christ
08:47
Timeline and Legal Proceedings
17:06
Experiencing God through Visions and Dreams
19:28
The Table of the Lord
27:50
Encouragement for Parents
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Resources from today’s show:
Reese’s ministry - Abundant Grace
God Made All Of Me - recommended book for littles
Untold - her favorite ministry in Africa
Ella’s purple dress from Amazon
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“But Jesus told him, 'No! The Scriptures say, "People do not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from the mouth of God"’” (Matthew 4:4 NLT)
Reading the Bible and memorizing scripture matters because it is one way we can fight the battles in our own lives—both big and small. Scripture can help our kids (and us!) feel confident in our God-given identity, face a life crisis, and everything in between. Knowing God’s word also develops our faith and brings us closer to God. Every bit of scripture is alive and active (Hebrews 4:12), God-breathed, and teaches us to live righteously (2 Timothy 3:16).
The more we know God’s word and keep it in our hearts, the more we understand God’s heart and his ways, aligning our wills to his. The word of God protects us from the desire to do it all by ourselves and replaces that desire with the desire to let God direct our paths. God loves us too much to leave us to our own devices. He reveals truth to us through his word so that the desires of our hearts become more like his!
So this week, let’s pray that our kids will know the word of God and lean on it to guide them in every area of their lives.
Father God, I pray that ____________ grows to learn your word, love your word, and see it as holy and infallible. May they love the Bible and read it daily with the goal of knowing your heart more and more. May they rely on your word to direct their paths. Remind them to hide your word in their hearts so they can use it to fight any battle they face—now and in the future. Amen.
It’s an absolute delight to have my dear friend Lysa TerKeurst on the podcast today. Lysa has been sharing her deepest struggles through writing books, devotionals and bible studies for decades. She has a beautiful way combining biblical truth and heartfelt empathy that makes us all feel less alone.
In today’s episode, we discuss TRUST and DISTRUST. She shares that when you starve a relationship from trust - it’s like not giving a human air to breathe. I can imagine that many of you are working through some trust issues - we all are. Whether it’s a broken friendship or marriage or a strained relationship with a family member or dear friend. It can be really hard to manage the healing and repairing process for yourself and even more difficult when it involves your children.
One of my favorite parts is when she talks about the importance of healing in a community. She shares how natural it can be to isolate when you’re hurt - but trust rebuilds in community. I am praying this episode touches a tender topic with such encouragement and practical help.
In this episode we discuss:
Enjoy!
Courtney
00:00
Practical Wisdom and Biblical Truth: A Conversation on Trust and Distrust
03:16
The Impact of Broken Trust: Emotional Abuse and Betrayal Trauma
15:24
Triggers and Discernment: Patterns of Behavior and Self-Exploration
32:55
Resilience and Healing: Overcoming Broken Trust
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Resources from today’s show:
I Want To Trust You, But I Can’t - Lysa’s newest book
Dr Amen and Lysa - her brain scan
WOW - root cover up
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us” (1 John 5:14)
One amazing way our kids can know more about God is through prayer. The practice of prayer involves talking to God and listening to God. We tend to be better at the talking part because, with the busyness of our lives, it can be a real challenge to slow ourselves down and listen to God! But we can’t hear a whisper when we’re running. As parents, our role is to help guide our kids into a mature faith where they can quiet themselves enough to hear God’s voice.
Prayer should not be an afterthought in our minds. Going to God and conversing with him should be our first thought when we start a new day, face a dilemma, or experience something great! We know prayer changes things. Prayer transforms hearts, renews minds, and gives us peace that passes all understanding. We need to remember that promise because God, who wants to talk with us, will answer every prayer. It might just look different than we expect – sometimes “no” is an answer and other times we won’t understand how he answered a prayer until much later, or even heaven.
So this week let’s pray that our kids stand in confidence, knowing that God always hears them and wants to talk with them.
Lord, may ______________ make prayer a priority in their schedule. When something happens, may their first instinct be to talk to you about it, not anybody else. I pray they learn to hear your voice, submit to your will, and deepen their relationship with you through prayer. Give them an eternal perspective, knowing that all their prayers may not be answered in the way they envision, but they will be answered in your perfect way. May they grow to be a mighty prayer warrior, confident in the transforming power of prayer. Amen.
Do you ever feel far from God? This week, we get to dive into a crucial conversation with Jeannie Cunnion. She helps us unpack this very common feeling amongst believers. She has so much encouragement around why God desires us to get closer and closer. And then, she also gives us practical ways we can grow closer to God.
There isn’t a finish line for growing closer to God. We are all on our own journey with God. It’s personal and it takes time and it’s never-ending. However, we so often compare ourselves to other Christians in our lives. We believe others have arrived spiritually and we are behind. I am praying this chat gives you assurance and comfort in your own journey - no matter where you are in this season.
My favorite part is when we talk about “effort” vs “earn.” Sometimes, we confuse our effort to grow with the desire to earn something. The truth is that we can take steps to get to know God more without getting stuck in the lie that we must earn God’s love. Let this conversation with Jeannie give you peace and a new desire to grow closer to God through His presence.
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy!
Courtney
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Resources from today’s show:
Closer To God - Jeannie’s new devotional
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Colossians 3:12)
The world will tell our kids many things about who they are, and some of those things will be true and encouraging. Other messages from the world will be lies, and difficult to hear. No matter who is mean to our kids, what school they go to, or what position they play on the field, our kids belong to God. Your child is God’s child, holy and dearly loved. He or she is called upon, adopted, redeemed, and sanctified. Your child was created with intention for a purpose and God calls them precious.
So let’s pray that our kids will always stand firm in their identity in Christ so that their confidence will not shake when the world feels unsteady. Let’s ask God to help them base their identity and security in him alone.
Father God, thank you for calling __________ your child. Help them to remember that you love them and call them by name, that you have adopted them into your family, and lavish your love upon them. May they know deep in their hearts that their identity does not rest in what the world says about them, but in what you say. You say they are yours! Amen.
Interested in reading more? Here are 90 Biblical truths about your identity in Christ.
I hope you are finding a theme on this podcast. I am always trying to bring you conversations about real-life problems that us moms face on a daily basis. Also, I want to always point us back to Jesus as well as practical ideas to move forward.
Today’s episode is one of those issues we face on a regular basis: Alyssa Bethke is passionate about this idea of “being all and doing all.” She really digs into why women struggle with this. My intentions aren’t always bad as a “doer” - they just aren’t sustainable. I would love to fix it all, handle it all and make sure everyone in my life is happy. I really, really struggled with this in my 20s and 30s. However, I am so excited that I have grown in this area and found ways to trust what he’s calling me to do - and only those things.
I love how Alyssa asks herself this question, “Lord, what is mine to do?” Don’t miss this part at the end when she gives us how she practically handles the pressure of many demands on us. As moms, this pressure to help, fix and support our kids is very real. It is very hard to face that reality - that there is never enough time or energy to do and be all. And that is where our faith comes in. How can we really lean into God so that we know what is ours to take and then we have peace surrendering the rest?
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy!
Courtney
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
01:18
The Struggle of Trying to Do It All
08:11
Setting Boundaries and Saying No
11:08
Seeking God's Guidance in Each Season
14:58
The Desire for Control and Predictability
16:16
Finding Rest in God's Grace
16:48
The Struggle of Control and the Call to Surrender
19:05
Honesty and Unmet Expectations in Our Relationship with God
20:33
Parenting: Trusting God and Surrendering Control
25:55
Trusting in God's Goodness and Seeking His Guidance
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Resources from today’s show:
Alyssa Bethke Instagram
When Doing It All, Is Undoing You - new book
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“I am telling you these things now while I am still with you. But when the Father sends the Advocate as my representative—that is, the Holy Spirit—he will teach you everything and will remind you of everything I have told you” (John 14:25–26 NLT)
When we declare Jesus to be our Savior and commit to following him, the Holy Spirit enters us and changes our lives forever! With the Holy Spirit’s help and guidance, we can begin to live more like Jesus and display his character, learn the truth about God, receive and grow in our spiritual gifts, and have the power and courage to share our faith. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in us when we believe. The Holy Spirit helps us in every aspect of our faith journey.
When it comes to our kids, let’s pray that they would position their hearts to know the Holy Spirit and hear his voice, respond to his love, and let him guide their lives.
Lord, may ______________ grow to love you more and more every day. May they feel the presence of your Holy Spirit alive in them. Make their hearts soft so they can be more responsive to you, and when the world tries to pull them away from you and your ways, may they rely on the Holy Spirit to direct their paths. Amen.
Do you have a brand you love in your house? My girls have been obsessed with all the beautiful jewelry pieces of enewton for many years. I am always intrigued when I see a mom running a massive business. My hunch was that Eizabeth Newton was a faithful, generous and fun CEO. I learned that she is even more than that!
Elizabeth shares her story of raising triplets (and a 2-year-old) in the beginning years of enewton. She shares about her passion for generosity and how that has stayed with the company through the incredible growth and expansion. She also shares some practical ways that you can involve your kids in your business while prioritizing your family above all.
She offers so many nuggets of parenting wisdom through our chat, but I really loved her parting words for us. She encourages us to “show up and give yourself grace.” I know I needed that reminder as a mom that is trying so hard to get it right. We are doing better than we think. Keep giving it your best and give yourself loads of grace!
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy !
Courtney
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and shared connections
03:18 Having fun and not taking oneself too seriously
05:28 Parenting triplets and starting a business
08:54 The growth of enewton and giving back
12:49 Prioritizing presence and grace
15:35 Creating lasting memories and prioritizing what matters
18:08 Incorporating ministry into work and family life
20:24 Celebrating others and teaching independence
25:37 Showing up for your children and giving yourself grace
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Resources from today’s show:
Read Again and Again Bible Storybooks
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him” (John 3:16–17 NLT)
Jesus’ death on the cross gives us access to God again. It’s not just about eternal life with him, though he promises his followers that. Choosing Jesus is also about experiencing a peace that passes all understanding and building a relationship with the father right here and right now.
Jesus took what was broken in our world and made it whole again and he can do the same for us.
So this week let’s pray that our kids will know Jesus as the savior of the world and choose to follow him every day of their lives. Let’s pray they would come to know him as the way, the truth, and the life.
Jesus, thank you for coming to the world and sacrificing yourself for our sins. May __________ come to understand the gift of salvation, accept your grace, and choose to follow you. May they know that they cannot earn your grace, but it is a free gift that comes from the love you have for them. Amen.
Sophie Hudson aka “Boo Momma” is one of the funniest speakers and podcasters I have ever been around. Sophie has a way about sharing truth and encouragement in this most relatable way. Today, we cover key topics from Peepers (readers you need) to why Birmingham women are so classy and then we spend most of our chat time discussing women and leadership.
In this episode, she shares the hard truth that our churches and communities have not always prepared women for leadership. As moms, we so often wonder if we even have gifts? And we often don’t even see ourselves as leaders.
This conversation is a really important one for us as women. Sophie goes into ways we can embrace our roles as women and how to walk fully and confidently in our God-given gifts.This episode is very profound and at the same time practical. You will walk away with tangible things you can do today to see yourself more clearly - how God made you a leader.
If you have sons, don’t miss the beginning part as she shares about what God is teaching her as a parent of a grown son. She has some beautiful encouragement for moms of sons and how their relationship has morphed and strengthened over time.
I am praying you feel this conversation so fired up and excited to discover your gifts and go lead with passion! I pray that through his conversation we learn to be kind to ourselves and gracious as we learn who we are. Let’s pay attention to what makes us come alive and SEE clearly how God wired us to glorify Him right where we are.
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy !
Courtney
What brings you alive?
00:00
Introduction and Family Background
01:37
Active Parenting and Engaging in Conversations
04:23
The Growth of Self-Awareness in Children
07:56
The Importance of Light-Heartedness in Leadership
09:11
Empowering Women in Leadership
12:13
Recognizing and Embracing Leadership Gifts
15:56
Finding Peace in Pursuing Passions
20:02
Bringing Joy and Encouragement in Everyday Life
21:17
Finding Purpose and Identity Beyond Motherhood
23:26
Embracing Your Unique Gifts and Talents
25:53
Prioritizing Personal Interests and Passions
35:31
Living a Life that Brings Joy and Glory to God
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Resources from today’s show:
A Fine Sight To See - her newest book
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Scripture tells us that God is like a potter and we are like the clay that he works with (Isaiah 64:8). He forms us with his hands, but he doesn’t forget about us once he is done! We are not a clay pot that sits on a shelf and is only touched when we remember to dust it every now and then. No, God continues to shape us.In fact, God loves us so much that he calls us his own! When we choose to follow Jesus, we are adopted into God’s family where there is both freedom and grace. Our father is so faithful to us that even when we don’t choose him or we run away from him, he waits for us and rejoices when we return. There is nothing we, or our kids, could ever do that would make our heavenly father love us less (or more!).So this week, let’s pray that our kids know God as the good father that he is.
I didn’t know “swap” was a thing in podcasting. Who knew? It was an immediate YES when we got the opportunity to swap episodes with my dear friends Sissy Goff and David Thomas. You will get to hear one of their actual episodes from the Raising Boys and Girls podcast - to get a glimpse of how they support parents across the world.
These two have helped raise my kids in some ways. I have read every book they have written and listened to every episode of their podcast. Sissy and David, with Raising Boys and Girls, offer clinical experience and grace-filled encouragement for every stage of our parenting. You will see a glimpse of their practical parenting support and tender encouragement in this episode.
When you were growing up, did your parents pass a feelings chart around the dinner table? Or did you have healthy conversations around emotions? We’re guessing, for most of us, that’s a no—but we’d love to hear in the comments!
In case you didn’t or are just wondering what a healthy emotional vocabulary looks like for your family, this episode is the one for you! In it, Sissy and David discuss what it looks like to fold an emotional vocabulary into the life of your family, plus stumbling blocks and building blocks that are often more specific to girls and boys (and maybe mom’s and dad’s, too). We hope it helps and that you’re HAPPY and ENCOURAGED once you have a chance to listen!
Grab a copy of Are My Kids on Track? to follow along with us through the season over on our podcast, Raising Boys and Girls.
And be sure to listen for Pardon The Mess as we appear on their podcast in the next couple weeks!
Enjoy!
Courtney
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Resources from today’s show:
Sign up for Raising Boys & Girls monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share!
Tune into more of this series on the Raising Boys & Girls podcast
Go behind the scenes and watch Sissy & David’s podcast on YouTube!
Download a copy of the Raising Boys and Girls Feelings Chart.
Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com.
The mother-daughter relationship can be the most special bond out there. However, it can also be tough in many seasons. The mother-daughter duo of Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney are on the podcast today to give us very practical tips on ways to build, maintain and strengthen our relationships with our daughters.
As we think about the mother-daughter relationship, we can often jump to the things we need to add to our plate. We feel guilty that we aren’t doing enough. Sandra shares that we may need to actually eliminate things. We may need to limit what we do - to make room for this important relationship.
As a mom of daughters, I absolutely loved this chat and it gave me so many great ideas I can still implement in my own home. However, if you have sons, you will still gain some great thoughts on connecting with all of your children.
My favorite part of the episode is when Allie shares about her college experience and how she made her faith her own. Her insight was really helpful to me about our kids finding their identity and how they can change from “I have to love Jesus” to “I want to love Jesus.” So many powerful moments from two of my favorite people.
In this episode:
Enjoy!
Courtney
00:00
Introduction and Mother-Daughter Similarities
03:50
Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Daughters
07:16
Passing on Faith: Modeling and Encouraging a Personal Relationship with God
16:14
Modeling Authentic Faith
18:36
Personal Faith Journey
22:11
Staying Stable in Parenting
24:12
Being Available and Humble
28:30
Showing Interest in Your Child's Life
30:23
Adjusting Parenting Approaches
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Resources from today’s show:
Allie Stanley Instagram
Meet Me In The Middle - their new book
I Said This, You Heard That - temperament book
Parenting book by Andy and Sandra Stanley
Allie & Courtney - previous podcast episode
Have you ever had a season where you question everything about yourself? Have you found yourself in an insecure spot and wonder if you’re too late or too old? Do you wonder if you have anything to offer the world?
I have been in this place more times than I can count. Being a mom and balancing career and purpose and raising kids can be very complicated and very discouraging. It’s so very hard to discern what to do when God feels quiet and sometimes the path feels uncertain or vulnerable.
My guests today, Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan, share their own stories about why it’s so hard to discern around career and calling. I believe their honest feelings and practical advice will encourage you in your own journey.
Please don’t miss this entire episode. It’s a little long, so you may need to listen in two parts. My favorite part is at the end when we start tackling the practical stuff. What do we do with a complicated situation? How can we take a step? How can we discern what to do in the next season?
I pray this episode meets you in such a special way. That you feel like we opened your heart and soul and spoke to a place that needs encouragement. I am insanely thankful for authentic and honest friends that love me and love Jesus. It’s a true gift.
In this episode, we discuss:
00:00
Introduction and Entertaining Start
04:02
Talking About Fashion and Passion Projects
05:50
Midlife Crisis, Work, and Reinventing Ourselves
08:51
Introductions and Current Life Situations
11:54
Why Balancing Work and Personal Life is Hard
16:38
Discerning What's Next and Dealing with Lies
22:13
Navigating Transitions and Evaluating Priorities
25:20
Dealing with Comparison and Seeking Authenticity
27:13
Being True to Yourself and Finding Support
31:48
Conclusion and Final Thoughts
34:46
Staying Rooted and Grounded
37:13
Embracing Silence and Growth
44:34
The Journey of Faith
50:56
Redefining Success
57:45
Embracing Struggles and Failure
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Resources from today’s show:
Party On Purpose - Cari’s business with girls
The Unreal Reel - Terri’s Instagram
You can imagine, I have been quite excited to share this episode with you all. Priscilla Shirer is one of the gifted preachers that has inspired me and challenged me so much over the years.
I was so thrilled to get a chance to interview her about her latest movie and book. The Forge, produced by The Kendrick Brothers, is set to release next week. I Surrender All, her latest book, just came out last week.
Both of those new projects are all about surrender. How can we surrender our lives and go from being a believer to a disciple? I loved how she teaches us about that difference and how the idea of surrendering all can truly impact our faith (and our families).
Although Priscilla is a world-renowned teacher, preacher, actor and writer - she’s also a mom, just like us, giving it her very best. I love hearing about the ways her amazing parents instilled the practices of faith. She shares about their consistency and what she remembered about growing up in a house that honored God.
Don’t forget to grab your Prayer Journal! We will be starting to pray through that together on Pardon The Mess on September 9. Grab a friend or your small group and let’s commit to pray for our kids this entire school year.
In this episode, we chat about:
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Resources from today’s show:
Priscilla Shirer - Priscilla’s ministry, Going Beyond
The Forge - Her latest movie
I Surrender All - Her latest book
We are finishing our Summer of Stories with Nicole Zasowski. She is a counselor, author and speaker that shares her painful story of infertility and miscarriage. Many of you know too well what it’s like to embrace joy when you’ve walked through so much loss and disappointment. Nicole bravely encourages us all that it’s possible. It’s possible to find joy and practice thanksgiving even when mourning and grief is very present.
Make sure you follow along this week on Pardon The Mess Instagram page. I will share the picture of all of her kids that stopped me in my tracks. The photo was edited to feature her 3 kids on earth and her 5 kids in heaven all walking together on the beach. This photo so beautifully depicted the reality that Nicole is a mom of eight children, not just three. If you have been through loss like Nicole, I believe you will be so encouraged by her honesty about the emotions she feels and her journey with God through it all.
My favorite part is when she shares about the brain science behind negativity and joy. She shares practical ideas on how we can lean towards and practice savoring joyful moments. We can store these memories in a part of our brain that helps us recall them again and again.
Praying for each of you now, that you feel seen and heard through this episode. I pray that God meets you in the tender, broken and disappointed places of your heart.
Much love,
Courtney
In this episode, we chat about:
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction and Background
03:48 Struggling with Infertility and Miscarriage
08:09 Feeling Alone and Finding Support
11:35 Journey Between Children
16:01 The Vulnerability of Joy
22:24 Holding Both Pain and Joy
24:17 The Power of Celebration
27:56 Savoring Everyday Moments
30:21 Celebration as a Rhythm
35:40 Engaging God in Joy and Pain
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NLT Student Thinline Reference Bible
Welcome to Week 9 of our Summer of Stories series! This Summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.
In this week’s story, you will hear from the hilarious and wise Karen Stubbs. How many people can say they married a Top Gun fighter pilot? Well, Karen married that guy we saw in the movies. However, she very quickly realized that the cute uniform wasn't that cute when he was away most days of the month.
Karen’s story is one of raising her young four kids without support. So many of you know this road - whether you are a single mom, have a husband that travels or works often or even if you live from friends and community. Karen shares the very honest truth of what God did when she felt completely alone and isolated in motherhood.
Make sure you get to the end when Karen shares about parenting very different personalities. She explains why it’s so important that we really know how our kids operate and the benefits of parenting them with strengths in mind.
I am praying Karen’s story reaches so many moms that feel in over their heads and you find reassurance that God is with you every step of the way. Karen is now a grandmother and runs a global ministry for moms. She has mounds of wisdom and truth that you will enjoy!
In this episode, we discuss:
Love, Courtney
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:53
Challenges of Military Life
08:01
Relying on God to Meet Needs
11:03
Impact on Children and Marriage
14:25
Understanding and Parenting According to Temperaments
20:13
Navigating the Challenges of Raising Kids in the Church
24:16
Finding Hope in Difficult Circumstances
31:49
Practical Parenting Advice from 'The Survival Guide to Motherhood'
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Resources from today’s show:
Survival Guide to Motherhood by Karen Stubbs
Pinc Ministries with Ashley Hicks
Temperament & Personality Quiz
NLT Student Thinline Reference Bible
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Welcome to Week 8 of our Summer of Stories series! This summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.
In this week’s story, you will hear from the extraordinary Cleere Cherry Reaves. It’s very likely that you have one of her beautiful products and didn’t even know it. Her massive heart for Jesus pours right into her beautiful company. I have enjoyed so many of her books, devotions and gifts for years.
In the first part of our chat, we talked about her business and entrepreneurial spirit. So many of us moms have a creative stirring from God and we often aren’t sure what to do with that. How do we pursue a creative idea while raising kids? We often get overwhelmed and just put it aside. I’m praying that there’s a few moms listening that need to regain confidence and motivation to explore the creative ideas God put inside your heart.
The second part of our talk was my favorite! Cleere shares her story of going into labor prematurely and the miracle story that follows. Cleere’s son, Sledge, has faced so many uphill battles and has suffered more than any mom wishes on their child. Maybe you have a child with a tough diagnosis? Or you know of another mom with a motherhood journey that went differently than expected? This episode is for us all. We can all learn from Cleere’s undeniable faith and perseverance as she raises one strong and mighty boy.
Love, Courtney
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Small Talk
04:48
Creating Products that Serve a Purpose
09:36
The Challenges and Rewards of Entrepreneurship
13:03
Starting a Business with a Specific Person in Mind
16:11
Supporting and Celebrating Others in the Entrepreneurial Journey
28:12
From Challenges to Miracles: Trusting God's Plan
35:45
The Impact of Perspective on Others
37:37
Embracing Authenticity and Finding Joy
46:01
Trusting in the Character of God
49:59
The Power of Community and Support
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Resources from today’s show:
Promises from the Psalms - card set I bought Ella
Unfiltered - Cleere’s new devotional
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Welcome to Week 7 of our Summer of Stories series! This Summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.
In this week’s story, you will hear from the delightful, creative and intentional Erin Burchik. She is a family friend and I have long-admired her approach to parenting. She desperately wants to enjoy each of her kids and embrace the “good ole days” of kids in the home. She will share how traveling and taking trips became a passion of hers. And she will share some super practical ways to make trips doable and affordable when you’re on a budget.
Before we get to the scoop on traveling for less, she shares her story about becoming a mom. Through many trials and some devastating financial loss, Erin has fought through doubt and frustration with God. She felt called to adopt and then it didn’t go as smoothly as she had hoped. It’s so fun to see her on the other side of this battle and see the family that God designed from the very beginning.
My favorite part is when she explains the WHY behind their family adventures. She’s not traveling to flex on Instagram or show off or waste money. She’s traveling because she wants to create memories with her kids, to carve out time to adventure together and to get out of their comfort zone. I love her approach!
In this episode, we discuss:
Enjoy!!
Courtney
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
04:02
The Journey of Adoption
08:57
Building a Supportive Community
18:13
Creating Lasting Memories
20:05
Santa Bringing Christmas Trips
22:10
Maximizing Credit Card Points
25:29
Saving Thousands on Family Trips
28:21
Benefits of Traveling with Kids
30:15
Building Independence and Confidence
33:31
Enjoying Motherhood and Savoring the Moments
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Resources from today’s show:
Erin’s Instagram
Erin’s travel site - Points For Families
Erin’s book - Animals of the Nativity
Erin’s book - The Bear Hug
TBRI for families that have adopted
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When I engage with young moms, I often get asked a lot about alcohol. These women are wanting me to give them an “official answer” about how a Christian woman should handle alcohol. And I often don’t have the specific answer they want - because it is so often in the gray area. And only the person asking the question knows what’s going on under the issue.
Today’s story is about a mom that got curious about her relationship with alcohol in her early 30s. As you hear her story, you will be inspired to take an honest assessment and just get curious about your relationship with alcohol. She called it “getting sober minded.”
Although I don’t drink - I have my own vices which we discuss. I joke about my love of the phone, cookie dough and TJMaxx. If I’m honest, I often use those to outsource my comfort. This isn’t an episode for moms that drink - this is an episode for all of us.
My favorite part is when Jenn shares about the benefits of operating in a sober mind. She reminds us that being present with our kids is worth the fight. Let’s lean into Jenn’s story together and be brave enough to hear what God is nudging us to do in response.
Don’t forget to check in our Jenn’s community called Sober Sis and utilize all of the fantastic resources that are helping thousands of women become sober-minded and enjoy this life to the fullest!
In this episode we chat about:
00:00
Introduction and Connection
02:33
Early Years and Introduction to Social Drinking
05:46
The Influence of Mommy Wine Culture
07:41
Outsourcing Comfort and Dealing with Anxiety
09:44
Questioning the Relationship with Drinking
12:30
Understanding the Mindset and Motivations Behind Drinking
19:28
Questioning Your Relationship with Drinking
21:57
Introduction: Jenn's Journey of Sobriety
25:08
The Importance of Addressing the Root Cause
28:40
Taking the First Step: Sobriety Curiosity
33:28
Shifting Mindset: Gaining, Not Giving Up
39:11
The Power of Community in Sobriety
42:59
Personal Growth and Sobriety
45:07
Conclusion: Encouragement for Moms
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Happy July 4th!
This week’s story features my friend, Stacey Morgan, who is an astronaut’s wife! Her life is truly fascinating. Her family is currently living in the Marshall Islands which is 5 hours south of Hawaii.
Stacey honestly shares the truth about loneliness. She has had to start over multiple times as a military spouse. I love her hard truth about loneliness: we have to make the first move. She also shares how her kids are thriving as they were uprooted from the cultural norm in Texas, and now live on an island with 1,200 people total. They are learning valuable life lessons about what’s most important.
My favorite part is at the very end when she talks about her top learning as a mom of over 20 years. Her encouragement to “let go” was really timely for me. I am having trouble letting go of my oldest who is a rising senior. I need that reminder over and over again.
In this episode, we chat about:
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:47
Moving to the Marshall Islands
05:58
Supporting a Spouse's Career
11:04
Living in a Small Community
15:01
Transition and Loneliness
23:57
Supporting Military Spouses and Moms
26:30
The Importance of Community for Military Families
31:16
MomCo: Supporting Military Moms
39:19
Lessons in Trust and Letting Go
44:28
The Power of Grace and Understanding in Parenting
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Resources from today’s show:
Stacey’s Book: The Astronaut’s Wife
How to start an online MomCo group
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If she wasn’t one of my best friends, I don’t know if I would believe this story. However, it is true and real and incredibly powerful. My friend, Kylie White, was fully healed from near blindness. Her story and her miracle has exploded my faith the last several years. It has given me courage to pray bigger prayers.
I will never be over what God did for Kylie. Even though I’ve heard this story many times, I heard even more details during this conversation which exploded my faith yet again. God is so good. I’m truly excited for us all to have this reminder today through Kylie’s story.
My favorite part is hearing how she got to the miracle day. Listen closely as she shares the years leading up to her miracle. Lean into what God was pressing on her heart. And let’s lean into what God wants to say to you through her story. What is He asking you to release and surrender? What miracle do you believe is too far gone?
In this episode, we chat about:
Don’t forget to share the Summer of Stories with your friends - so that they can also be reminded that: God is good. You are not alone. And He is with you during life’s hardest moments.
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Catching Up
03:35
Adoption and Navigating Challenges
06:45
Parenting and Unconditional Love
09:40
Experiencing a Modern-Day Miracle
28:13
Asking for Healing
30:14
Miraculous Healing
35:23
Confirmation of Healing
39:26
Orphan Prevention and Untold
42:19
Lessons Learned as a Parent
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Resources from today’s show:
Untold - Nonprofit Kylie supports
Father’s House - Bible study by Rachel
Welcome to Week 3 of our Summer of Stories series! For the next 10 weeks, you will hear one powerful story after another. We are featuring 10 stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.
I need everyone to take a massive deep breath before listening. And listen to the entire episode, not just the first few minutes. This is not a political episode. This is a story of one incredible mom, Amy Ford, that chose to keep her baby boy after an unplanned pregnancy and the God-sized story that followed.
My favorite part is when she shares about her love for the women that walk with the shame of abortion. She is for all women and all stories. And she walks closely with women who have endured every part of the unplanned pregnancy journey.
I am praying deeply that this story reaches an untold number of women and heals their hearts in a special way. And that we may join together and support women with unplanned pregnancies in the way God would. That we would love them deeply.
Don't forget to share this episode with women in your community that need encouragement and healing around unplanned pregnancies.
In this episode we chat about:
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Amy's Family
03:34
The Love Box and Volunteer Opportunities
06:08
The Rejection from a Pastor and the Healing Journey
09:21
The Impact of Amy's Story on Her Son
14:35
Creating a Safe and Supportive Church Environment
19:28
Healing and Hope After Abortion
22:26
Creating Safe Spaces in Churches for Unexpected Pregnancies
26:34
Taking Small Steps of Obedience
29:15
Celebrating Women Who Turn Towards God
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A Bump In Life
For our Summer of Stories, I got the pleasure of interviewing a dear friend Rachel Faulkner Brown about her incredibly hard and beautiful life. In the first half of this episode, we talk about her journey with losing two husbands and walking that grief journey twice. She shares so much wisdom for other widows as well as practical tips for all of us enduring life’s toughest pain.
In the second half of our chat, Rachel bravely shares about their family’s most recent struggle - an eating disorder that quickly took a grip on her daughter. She provides invaluable insight and practical advice from the deeply painful journey they have walked.
My favorite part of the interview is when she shares honestly about the shame we can feel as mothers. As she watched her daughter walk through the hardest season of her life - she was also faced with a choice to hold onto that control or release her to God. We all have these moments in parenting and we can learn so much from Rachel’s incredible faith journey.
I’m so thrilled for you to get to know Rachel. She is a dear friend and a woman that has experienced God’s goodness throughout some of the deepest pain in her life. You will be inspired by her calling to pass on the love of God and hope to others’ in their darkest days.
In this episode, we chat about:
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background
10:46
The Importance of Honesty and Community
30:28
The Need for Aggressive Treatment
39:07
The Healing Journey and Future Hope
48:17
Prayer and Encouragement for Mothers
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Resources from today’s show:
Podcast with Rachel’s daughter about her eating disorder - Part 1
Podcast with Rachel’s daughter about her eating disorder - Part 1
Healing prayer - resource 1
Healing prayer - resource 2
Welcome to week 1 of our Summer of Stories series! For the next 10 weeks, you will hear one powerful story after another. We are featuring 10 stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through life’s most challenging moments.
Today’s guest is my dear friend, Joy Phenix, who bravely shares her journey of losing her amazing son. Her story of loss and indescribable grief is so very hard to hear but oddly peaceful and sacred.
My favorite part is when she encourages us to be a student of others’ grief journey. Every single person grieves at different times and in different ways. We cannot judge our friends or family members on that journey. This takes patience and grace and understanding.
This episode is for anyone walking in grief - not just the loss of a child. All of us have seasons of tragedy and unthinkable hard times. We want to know how to trust God again and how to move forward in the midst of the pain. Joy will touch your heart in a profound way. I am deeply thankful for her willingness to share her story to help others.
In this episode we chat about:
00:00
Introduction and Catching Up
09:16
The Power of Community in Times of Loss
15:30
Finding Hope and Healing Through Faith
28:25
Cherishing Memories and Finding Healing
34:38
Vulnerability and Trust in Difficult Times
Enjoy!
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Comedian Michael Jr went from living in his car to one of the most influential and talented comedians in the country. In fact, he used to open the show for Jerry Seinfeld and went on to headline his own shows. He is now sharing the stage with his wife, Ebony, as they focus on strengthening marriages across the country.
This engaging couple shares many great pieces of wisdom and insight during our episode, but I really enjoyed how they speak about conflict. It’s so easy to avoid conflict at all costs. They encourage us to utilize conflict for the greatness of marriage
My favorite part (or least favorite) was when Michael Jr. asked me to share honestly about a recent disagreement I had with Ron. He went through the list of the fruit of the Spirit to see how I was handling a specific situation. And I bombed his test. It was embarrassing, but really challenged me on how I handle conflict. I love their hearts for marriage. They have a passion to remind couples that marriage is GOOD and it does work.
In this episode, we discuss:
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Family Background
04:04
Letting Go and Trusting God with Our Children
08:54
Faith as a Consistent and Visible Part of Family Life
23:53
Merging Talents to Help Couples Find Joy in Marriage
29:19
Revealing Areas of Freedom Through Conflict
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Assessment for your conflict resolution
Happy almost Summer!! I am delighted to share the story of Sarah Harmeyer and her love for gathering neighbors. You will be so fascinated by her story of creating a table and setting out to have people over. Over time, she hosted thousands of people just one night at a time. She absolutely inspired me to get back out there and invite folks to my home.
You will be inspired and motivated and so very touched how God used Sarah’s life to start a movement called “Neighbor’s Table.” He took a nudge in her heart and kept expanding it across the country.
My favorite part was at the end when we talked about her current living situation with her aging father. She is so tender and so gracious with his walk with Alzheimers. I pray that I handle my own parents with such care and compassion one day.
In this episode we chat about:
Chapters00:00
Introduction and Catching Up
10:01
Stories of Love and Connection Around the Table
22:59
Building Relationships with New Neighbors and Introducing Sarah's Dad
27:02
Caring for Aging Parents with Love and Compassion
30:53
Closing Remarks and Action Items
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Table Talk Questions - source Close To My Heart
God’s Holy Spirit in Me kid’s devotional
“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” —Matthew 28:19–20
We’ve spent this school year praying for our kids to be marked by the things of God. We’ve prayed that they live with integrity, confidence, generosity, endurance, and much more. But these are nothing more than admirable qualities if they aren’t used for God’s kingdom purposes.
Before Jesus ascended to heaven, he gave us our mission. He told us to go and make disciples, sharing the story of his grace and love.
The Great Commission is our central mission. The same is true for our kids.
We’re God’s Plan A for spreading the gospel. There’s no backup plan, there’s no contingency, and there’s nobody else to tag in for our spot.
But it all starts at home. It happens in the seemingly insignificant moments of reading Bible stories to our toddlers and the really hard places of pointing them to Jesus on the heels of their biggest mistakes and greatest obstacles.
Please let us never underestimate the significance of our jobs as moms and dads, discipling our kids to share the gospel to the next generation.
Let’s wrap up this school year by praying that our kids will be marked by the mission of Jesus, doing it with truth, discipline, purity, and every other characteristic of God we’ve prayed over them this year.
Lord, thank you for the gift of my children and the privilege of praying over them this school year. Please mark their lives with a determination to fulfill the mission you created for them before they were ever born. Give [name] the wisdom to pursue you every day and a spirit of urgency in following your plans for their life.
God’s word speaks: 1 Peter 2:9; Mark 16:15; 1 Peter 3:15; Ecclesiastes 12:13–14
When our children hurt (emotionally or physically), we simply hurt. One of the hardest jobs as a parent is to discern when to step in and when to let them live through hard seasons. I am so thrilled to introduce you to my very own therapist, Dr. Cassie Reid.
Cassie has counseled me and my own children through many seasons. It’s taken me years to find a good fit and I am beyond thankful for her wisdom and direction for our family. It is not always clear if our kids are just being kids - or if they are really struggling internally.
Listen in as Cassie and I chat about the challenges that come our way as parents. She shares many practical recommendations for us parents.
My favorite part is when she talks about the expectations we have for our kids. She challenges us to look inward and really work on ourselves and our own healing journey. She shares how our unrealistic expectations can start to produce extra pressure and anxiety and how to look out for that scenario in our homes.
In this episode we chat about:
Chapters:
00:00
Introduction and Personal Connection
01:36
Dr. Cassie Reed's Background and Passion
08:35
Recognizing the Need for Professional Help
10:06
Finding Affordable Therapy Options
12:55
The Impact of Parental Anxiety on Children
14:36
Setting Boundaries and Recognizing Age-Appropriate Behavior
22:26
Setting Boundaries and Creating Space for Children
23:49
Managing Expectations and Apologizing to Children
26:19
The Impact of Technology on Children's Mental Health
27:10
Navigating Issues of Gender and Sexual Preferences as Christian Parents
29:04
Dr. Cassie Reid's Work in Spiritual Abuse Prevention and Healing
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Resources from today’s show:
Church Rehab by Dr. Cassie Reid
God’s Holy Spirit in Me kid’s devotional
“Then Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen. He named it Ebenezer, saying, ‘Thus far the Lord has helped us.’” —1 Samuel 7:12
The Israelites were in desperate need of a victory against the Philistines. Just as they were convincing themselves it was a lost cause, Samuel cried out to God and received an answer in the form of deafening thunder that scared away the enemy and secured an Israelite victory.
Orthodox battle move? No. God protecting his people? Absolutely.
No sooner than they finished their victory lap, Samuel stopped everyone in their tracks to make a critical point. He grabbed a stone as a memorial and named it Ebenezer, translated as “the Lord has helped us to this point.”
Samuel knew their battle win was significant from a tactical perspective, but he also knew the more significant win was the reminder that God had protected them in the past and he’d just done it again.
Our kids need the same reminder today that Samuel gave way back then: The God who has taken care of us up to this point will do it again. He is faithful and trustworthy.
What are the Ebenezers in your family? Where do you need to start laying down stones as reminders to your family that God’s faithfulness in the past shows he’s trustworthy for the future?
Lord, remind us to always pass down the stories of your faithfulness. Mark [name] with a good memory of your provision, giving them confidence to trust your heart when they can’t see your hand. Help us to celebrate the places where you’ve given us victory, making a lasting memorial of your faithfulness for generations to come.
God’s word speaks: Deuteronomy 7:9; 2 Thessalonians 3:3; Lamentations 3:22–23; Psalm 86:15
If you are a parent, you know the feeling of just “making it through” each day. So often, we want more for our lives. However, we feel stuck and are not sure how to do that when there are children depending on us every day.
My guest this week, Farrell Mason, shares about a time when she felt that her life was running her ragged. She decided to do something about how she lived her one precious life. She took action to create a more soulful life in the midst of raising six kids. Farrell Mason is a minister, a mom, a wife and a beautiful writer. She has a passion for standing with others in the midst of their hardest moments in life.
My favorite part is towards the end when Farrell offers very practical suggestions on how to love others well. She is so passionate about caring for yourself as a mom, but also leaning into simple ways we can care for our neighbors. You won’t feel guilt or more pressure to perform - you will feel seen and inspired to lean into more for your life.
In this episode we chat about:
Enjoy!
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Farrell’s Site - Bread and Honey
Chapters:
00:00
Introduction and Connection
09:50
Living a Full Life and the Importance of Time
16:22
Commitment to Intentional Living
32:21
Finding Hope in Difficult Times
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” —Philippians 2:3–4
We’re raising kids in a culture that basks in recognition and praise, making it difficult to strike the balance of teaching our kids to be confident in their God-given identity while also exuding a humble spirit. Humility is not ignoring their giftings, but it’s teaching them to be willing to use them in a way that draws attention to the Giver of the gift rather than the gift itself. Humility is also not a call to raise silent or passive kids. Rather, it’s teaching them a quiet and meek spirit before God.
Jesus is the perfect model of humility. He came to earth in the form of a baby and lived a blameless life so he could die on the cross and give us new life. He more than deserved recognition and acknowledgment for his heavenly status, yet he chose to demonstrate humility because of his commitment to the Father’s will and the larger gospel story. He was righteously indignant when necessary but gentle and loving in leading his flock.
We’re praying this week for our kids to humbly serve others, admitting their mistakes, and recognizing that all praise and glory belongs to the Lord as the giver of all good gifts (James 1:17). Let’s also ask the Lord to guide them in being passionate and outspoken when appropriate, but also disciplined enough to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger (James 1:19).
Lord, you’re the perfect model of living humbly while making a kingdom impact on those around you. Give [name] a spirit of humility and the desire to bring you glory, even when it comes with no acknowledgment. Help them to honor others above themselves and to live in your confidence so they don’t need praise or acceptance from others.
God’s word speaks: Ephesians 4:2; Romans 12:16; James 4:10; Colossians 3:12
Do you have regrets as a parent? We all do! I have a long list myself. I thought it would be encouraging and super helpful for me to share just a few of my own regrets in the last 17 years of parenting. I asked Kari Kampakis to share her own regrets in this podcast episode.
I have always loved Kari’s relatable and authenticity as a writer, podcaster and speaker. When I read her encouragement for moms - I feel like she has read my mind. She has a real gift for walking with moms so that we feel so seen. When you encounter Kari, you feel uplifted and equipped but never condemned or shamed.
My favorite part is when she shares about how to love strong-willed children well. She shares a powerful story of how her husband approached her strong-willed daughter vs her approach. There’s such humility that pours from Kari when she speaks. It gives us all the permission to be honest about our mistakes. And to have the courage to pivot as we discover a better way.
In this episode we chat about:
00:00
Introduction and Getting to Know Each Other
06:21
Parenting the Heart vs. Focusing on Behavior
13:05
Finding Joy in Every Season of Parenthood
29:39
Trusting God to Fill in the Gaps in Parenting
35:56
Delaying Cell Phone Use and Monitoring Social Media
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“Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.” —1 Corinthians 9:24
The Christian life is more like a marathon than a sprint, requiring significant endurance if we’re going to make it through the obstacles we face along the way. From the day we accept Christ until we see him face-to-face, we’re continually building up endurance so we can best run the race set out for us.
Having endurance in the context of our faith means we’re always in training mode, getting ready for the hard places of discouragement and suffering that will challenge our readiness for the race. We build up our endurance practically by staying true to the basics: things like spending daily time with God, finding Christian community, memorizing Scripture, and seeking discipleship.
What a GIFT to have author and speaker (and track coach) Dorina Gilmore-Young on with us chatting about endurance. I absolutely loved her perspective as a widow, mom and coach - how endurance is something God produces in our kids through trials. We can pray for that process - that they may endure life’s hardships with Jesus as their strength.
Let’s challenge our kids to run well so they will hear Jesus say at the finish line, “Well done, my good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23).
Lord, before you created even one of us, you set us apart for your purposes. Give [name] the endurance to run the race you have planned for their life. Help them to stay the course when they run up against obstacles along the way, reminding them of the importance of putting in the daily work so they are prepared for anything they face.
God’s word speaks: Philippians 3:14; Romans 5:3–4; 2 Timothy 4:7; Hebrews 10:36
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Are you struggling with where your child should go to school? This common fear and worry can grip us all. We want so desperately to make the right choice for each of our kids. It can also be confusing when your friends all have different opinions on the matter or maybe your spouse is in disagreement with your plan.
You will feel extremely encouraged by today’s episode with Terry Ann Kelly. She has practical advice for these decisions as well as grounding truths to calm our hearts. She is a grandmother, wife and mom and has many years of experience with schools. As the founder of Students Standing Strong, she has seen first hand that God can do anything with any child and any school.
My favorite part is the story she shares about her son at the end. It is so refreshing to hear a very personal example of how God can use each of our kids in the most powerful ways at school every day.
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“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” —1 Peter 4:10
As we wrap up the greatest commandment, we’re focused on how to love God with all of our strength. Contrary to how it sounds, loving God with all of our strength is not a reference to our physical strength. The Hebrew word used for strength in the context of the greatest commandment is me’od, which is translated as “much” or “very.”
Loving God with all of our strength is loving God with our “much-ness.” It’s using our possessions, our time, our talents, our parenting, our volunteering—everything we’ve got—to love God and live for him. Said differently, wherever the Lord has planted you and with whatever resources he’s provided, use all your strength to love him smack-dab in the middle of it all.
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their strength, we’re praying that they use all of their party-planning skills, math aptitude, athleticism, and social media acumen for God’s greatest glory. It’s taking the seemingly small places in their life and asking the Lord to use it in every possible way for his bigger purposes.
Spend time this week asking the Lord to use your kids’ gifts to bring God glory. Pray that he uses them for his greater purposes right where he has them, teaching them to love the Lord with all of their much-ness and strength.
Lord, thank you for all the gifts and talents you’ve given our family. I pray that you will guide my children to use these gifts generously for your glory. With all of the much-ness you’ve given [name], remind them to serve those around them as they learn to love you with all of their strength.
God’s word speaks: Hebrews 13:16; Proverbs 11:24–25; Deuteronomy 16:17; Colossians 3:23
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It’s not often you get to interview a college kid about growing up as a Christian. The Stites are family friends of ours and a family we admire and respect so very much. I am often asking them for advice since they are ahead of the game by a few years.
Today’s episode is a chat with their son, Campbell, who is studying political science at Texas A&M University. He has always been a leader and I have absolutely loved watching God grow his faith during his first year in college. He’s making some wise choices that we can all learn from.
My favorite part of the episode is when he encourages parents to get interested in their child's interests. He shares about how his mom invested in his interests and helped foster a super close mom/son relationship.
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“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” —2 Corinthians 10:5
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their minds, we have to consider that our mind is made up of our thoughts. So, in order to love God with all of our minds, we have to think about what fills our minds and how it impacts the way we love God.
Our thoughts are significant because they have the potential to grow our love for God or distract and pull us away from a relationship with him and his great plans for our life. The Enemy loves to get a hold of our thoughts and make us question God’s goodness and protection in our life.
For our kids to love God with all of their minds, we’re praying that they “take captive” all the thoughts that are destructive, not instructive. This process of taking captive their thoughts is accomplished by knowing God’s word so that their thoughts are weighed against the truth of Scripture.
It also comes by considering what’s going into their minds and how that’s fueling (or lessening) their love for God. It’s praying that they evaluate the movies they watch, the music they listen to, and the voices they allow to speak into their lives.
Since our kids’ thoughts have the greatest impact on loving God with all of their minds, let’s take time to pray over their thoughts and ask God to help them take each one captive.
Lord, teach us to love you in all of the different areas of our life, including our minds. If our minds are made up of our thoughts, teach us to take captive our thoughts and bring them in line with your truth. Be with [name], helping them to guard what they allow into their minds so that it always honors you.
God’s word speaks: Isaiah 26:3; Jeremiah 33:3; Colossians 3:2–3; 1 Peter 1:13
What a treat to talk to Adrienne Camp about how she is trusting God with her kids. Adrienne “Adie” Camp, a South African singer and songwriter, was the lead singer of the Christian rock band The Benjamin Gate before launching her solo career. She is married to fellow musician Jeremy Camp, whom she met on tour in 2002. They have been married since 2003 and have two daughters, Bella and Arie, and one son, Egan.
Throughout this entire episode, you will hear Adrienne’s heart to connect people in a very tangible way with Jesus. However, she acknowledges that we don’t always feel excited about that. Sometimes, we are sitting in a real place of doubt, frustration and disbelief. No matter where you are on your faith journey (or your kids) - I think you will feel so encouraged by Adrienne’s words and wisdom.
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As For Me - Adrienne’s latest bible study on Psalms
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Pardon the Mess episode with Jonathan and Peta Pitts
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“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” —Mark 8:36
Loving God with all of our soul sounds very important, but what exactly is our soul?
Our soul lies deep down inside of us and is our very core. It’s the invisible part of us that connects us with God. It is where we are most at home, and it’s the most fundamental driver of who we are from the inside out. If you strip away all of our outward actions and how we choose to portray ourselves (or how others may define us), the soul is our truest self.
To love the Lord with all of our soul, we’ve got to be faithful in private. We’ve got to be devoted to the things that drench our soul in Jesus and be willing to drop the things that don’t. It’s spending time in prayer confessing what’s in our soul, not just in our mind.
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their souls this week, let’s pray that they learn to love him with the very core of who they are—not by what they intellectually believe about him, or how they serve him, or what they communicate to others by their faith, but truly learning to love Jesus from the core of their being.
Pray for the Lord to reveal the depths of their soul and teach them how to love him with all that they are.
Lord, we confess to spending a disproportionate amount of time worrying about our earthly bodies, usually at the expense of our soul. Please teach [name] how to love you from their very core, giving priority to the only part of us that will live eternally.
God’s word speaks: Psalm 119:81; Psalm 63:8; Deuteronomy 4:29; Matthew 10:28
I am taking a guess that 100% of us are exhausted. And this is beyond the physically tired feeling. You all will love the encouragement and wisdom on today’s episode by Jess Connolly. I have always loved her teaching and preaching - because she balances compassion and truth so well. She doesn’t leave us sitting in the challenges - she provides biblical, practical and realistic ways we can move forward in this issue.
This idea of burnout and an unsustainable pace is not new information. We know we are in it but are not sure why or how to stop it as parents? So what do we do? Tune in to this week’s podcast chat with Jess - you won’t feel shame - you will feel equipped and encouraged to do the hard work of rest. We all know our souls are crying for it.
I was so absolutely amused at the start of our conversation when I asked her about her cold plunge obsession. Is anyone else into the idea of purposely jumping into ice cold water? She actually gives a pretty compelling case to try it.
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“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” —Mark 12:30
Remember the lawyer who tried to trick Jesus by asking him to name the greatest commandment? (Lawyers, am I right?)
Jesus, knowing this guy’s antics, responded with, “Love God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength.” If we break it down, what does it look like to love God with all of our heart?
Our heart is not just critical to our health; it’s also the epicenter of our spiritual life. It’s central to our thoughts and actions, where we spend money, and even the words that come out of our mouths. When Jesus talks about loving God with all our heart, he’s referencing our emotions and decisions.
In order for us to love God with all of our hearts, we have to prioritize spending time with him and in his word. When we spend time with God, we start wanting to do the things that are pleasing to God and we care about the things that he cares about. Having time with our creator enables us to know what he wants for our lives, and we can’t help but pursue him and the things he values and wants for our families.
Let’s pray this week that our kids learn to love God with all of their hearts, beginning with prioritizing time with him and pursuing him in all that they do.
Lord, teach us to show our love for you, not just with our words, but with our lifestyle. Lead [name] to prioritize time in your word and learn to pursue you in all that they do. Remind us that loving you means also loving our neighbor. Make us aware of the needs we can meet around us.
God’s word speaks: 1 John 4:7–8; 1 Corinthians 13:13; John 13:34; 1 John 4:19
There’s not a day that goes by that I do not hear these same sentiments from a mom. And I have been there many times.
In this episode, I get the pleasure of having a real life heart chat with my friend (and my Life Plan Coach) Brooke Warnock. She shares about her journey of raising 5 kids on a ranch - while wanting to use her unique gifts for the Lord. It can be a huge struggle for all of us.
My favorite part is how honest she is about the struggle of using your gifts and raising kids. She will make you feel so seen as she shares her journey. I pray you feel so very encouraged that this is not the end of your story.
In some ways, the motherhood years are just the beginning. If you don’t have your exact calling and purpose figured out - do not feel discouraged. I pray you never forget that God will use every bit of you and your giftings to raise those kids and build your home.
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What is wrong? What is right? What is confused? What is missing?
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“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” —Galatians 5:22–23
As we celebrate Easter, we have the opportunity to pray that the power of the cross impacts every area of our kids’ lives. It is an incredible assurance knowing that, by accepting Jesus, our kids have a new eternal destination. But we’re also praying for a daily life transformation.
When our kids become Christians, we should begin looking for (and hopefully seeing) fruit in their lives. Jesus said those who follow him will produce spiritual fruit, and it’s by this fruit you will know them (Matthew 7:20).
In Galatians, Paul describes some attributes of a life without Christ, including anger, idolatry, jealousy, selfishness, impurity, and strife. In contrast, with Christ we start to see the spiritual fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. Thankfully, this is not simply a checklist of things we’re constantly trying to achieve. Instead, it’s produced by allowing the Holy Spirit to work within us.
Without even trying, our kids will produce fruit that’s visible to the world around them. This fruit can either be produced by the Holy Spirit or produced by their own spirit. Our prayer is that our kids will submit to the Holy Spirit’s leadership, resulting in less of their own fruit and more of his.
This week, let’s pray that Easter Sunday impacts the way our kids live on Monday and that they produce fruit that leads others to trust Jesus and his great sacrifice at the cross.
He is risen! He is risen indeed!
Lord, thank you for your sacrifice at the cross. Allow our gratitude for the significance of Easter to impact how we live every day. Grow our kids in obedience and holiness, naturally leading them to produce spiritual fruit. Help [name] to submit to your Holy Spirit in both the small and big ways, making their life a clearer reflection of you.
God’s word speaks: Matthew 7:17–18; Romans 8:6; Ephesians 4:1–3; Romans 15:13
As soon as I heard about Jenna’s passion for JOY in the home - I knew I wanted to have her on the podcast. Parenting is hard, but there is a way to still bring joy into the everyday messes of motherhood.
I absolutely loved her encouragement on how to get intentional about redirecting our attitudes, conversations and outlook to one that is joy. She reminds us we do have control of our mind - and we can reframe how we see all the tiny annoyances and messes. This doesn’t mean we never get down or get honest with the hard - it’s just an encouragement to not let negativity and frustration ruin some very special years as a mom.
My kids would tell you I’m quite moody, but I do see the difference in our home when I find the good and let go of the tiny frustrations. My mood really impacts the home I’ve often called myself the CMO - Chief Mood Officer. Do you sense that your mood can often set the tone and even help redirect to joy?
My favorite part is when we talk about community. Are you surrounding yourself with other parents that only complain? What can you do in those moments when everyone is complaining about their kids?
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What a GIFT to have my dear friend Cari Trotter to pray for us this week about the armor of God. I was so incredibly blessed by our time and needed the chat and prayer myself.
“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” —Ephesians 6:11–12
Most of us don’t spend a lot of time contemplating how to fight against the devil’s schemes, but Scripture does. Thankfully, Jesus has already won our ultimate battle by his death on the cross and resurrection from the grave. But, even then, there will still be trouble in this world because we have a real Enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10).
As we face the visible (and often invisible) battles each day, Satan’s success hinges on catching us unprepared and with our guard down. Let’s pray that our kids are battle-ready by wearing the armor of God, as seen in Ephesians 6:13–17:
Lord, the battles waged against our kids will be difficult and often unseen. Help them to be ready for anything they face through your protection and power. Mark [name] with a readiness that only comes from you. Prepare them with every tool necessary for victory in your name.
God’s word speaks: Ephesians 6:13–17; 1 Thessalonians 5:6; 1 Peter 5:8; 1 Corinthians 16:13
If you know Carlos Whittaker, you love him. I have long admired his work in the world. He is honest, brave, vulnerable and simply loves walking with people. I find myself frustrated with the evangelical world when I see such divisiveness around tough topics and a dogmatic stance on every issue. Carlos encourages us that it’s possible to hold your belief and disagree with others in a way that draws people in.
My favorite part is when we talk about his approach to parenting. His desire is that we have more conversations of hope than conversations of despair. This was a good caution for all of us - as we see so much in our culture that causes stress and worry.
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“In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” —1 Peter 1:6–7
The final stage in gold production is refinement, the process of using heat to remove impurities from metal. After the gold is refined, only the most valuable qualities remain because the impurities and lesser qualities have been eliminated.
Scripture says that God is refining us. Even though we’re created in his exact image, we are free-willed human beings riddled with sin and impurities that don’t line up with who we were created to be. Just as the refinement of gold takes place in the heat of fire, refinement in our own lives often happens in the “furnace of affliction” (Isaiah 48:10).
As parents, we want to keep our kids from the hard places, so we find ourselves stepping in when they face difficulties. But what if God is working most significantly in the hard places in their lives? What if changing their circumstances prevents God from changing their heart?
As we’re praying for our kids to be marked by refinement, let’s not ask God to remove their obstacles but rather to remove their impurities. Let’s pray that when the heat intensifies, our kids learn to trust that the One who allows the fire will also bring them through it.
Lord, you refine us so that we are cleansed from unrighteousness and become a purer version of who you created us to be. We ask you to take all of the difficulties and trials that [name] will face and use them as an opportunity to see a clearer picture of you. Thank you for loving us too much to leave us as we are. Refine us for your glory.
God’s word speaks: 1 Peter 1:6–7; Zechariah 13:9; Romans 8:18; Job 23:10
I am still thinking about this episode and this thought-provoking conversation with Jen Wilkin. I wish I could bribe every single one of you (and your spouse and small group) to listen to this episode. Jen is a self-taught theologian that speaks about the Bible and Christianity in a way that we can all understand.
I believe you will be motivated to dive into your Bible and engage in more conversations about it. She challenges us to go beyond the one-way conversation that is Sunday morning and sermons. I learned so much from her breakdown of common misconceptions about faith and theology.
My favorite part is towards the end during our discussion on parenting and faith. Her answers gave me some freedom and a sigh of relief. She also gave some very practical ways we can start the conversation of faith and Jesus with our little ones.
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“Then Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.’” —Matthew 16:24–25
“I Surrender All” is a classic hymn that gained notoriety when Rev. Billy Graham began using it as the invitation song during his revivals. The words have such a great message for walking with Jesus:
All to Jesus I surrender, all to him I freely give;
I will ever love and trust him, in his presence daily live.
I surrender all, I surrender all,
All to thee, my blessed Savior, I surrender all.
Surrender is the antithesis of trying to “work” our way into a right relationship with God. A surrendered life allows the Spirit of God to enter into us, shaping us into something greater than we could be on our own.
The first and most significant act of surrender we can pray over our kids’ is their choice to surrender to the lordship of Christ by accepting Jesus as their savior. But, even after our kids have accepted Christ, we can pray that they surrender their words, plans, dreams, finances, and relationships to the Lord.
Pray for our kids to have the discipline to surrender all they are to the Lord each day, committing to live in a way that’s pleasing and brings him glory.
Lord, you become more when we become less. Please guide [name] to accept you as their Savior and surrender their lives to your glory. Help them know that surrendering to you is a lifelong process as they trust you with their burdens, fears, dreams, and aspirations.
God’s word speaks: Philippians 2:13; James 4:7; John 3:30; Psalm 32:8
Do you ever get overwhelmed with how to talk to your young kids about hard topics? I have been there. And sometimes, I actually disengage or ignore important topics because it feels too hard. I don’t want to say the wrong thing at the wrong time.
Diversity is one of those topics that matters. It matters to God and it matters to me. Trillia Newbell is the perfect guest for this conversation. She was looking for a resource to guide her discussions with our own kids and couldn’t find it. So, she wrote “God’s Very Good Idea” to center the discussion of diversity around the gospel.
In this chat, we also discuss another hard topic with our kids - bullying and loneliness. We talk about the importance of friendship for our kids and how we can turn our kids to Jesus in these moments.
My favorite part is when Trillia reminds us that the teaching is coming. Either culture is going to teach our kids or we need to get ahead of that messaging. It’s so very important that we frame tough topics with a biblical point of view and Trilia helps us do that so well.
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Jesus and the Gift of Friendship - Trillia’s new book
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“We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.” —Proverbs 16:9 NLT
We just don’t know what we don’t know.
History gives us some pretty funny stories of people who tried to predict the future but got it embarrassingly wrong. One great example is from 1962, when a record executive told the Beatles they “have no future in show business” because four-piece groups with guitars are a thing of the past.
Oops.
The only thing we can be certain about this side of heaven is that our lives are going to be uncertain. We don’t know that the next year holds for us or our kids.
But God does.
In the middle of uncertainty for Joshua, God reminded him that “every place that the sole of your foot will tread upon I have given to you” (Joshua 1:3 ESV). The message to Joshua is the same message for us: with God directing our steps, not even one of them is unexpected or without purpose to the One who authors them all.
This week, we’re praying for our kids to understand that what’s uncertain to them is anything but unexpected or unplanned to God. Knowing that, we can put our trust in the One who not only knows the future but also writes it.
Lord, you don’t just know what the future holds, you are the future. Help [name] to stand firm in the face of uncertainty, knowing that you determine their steps and, in doing so, go before and behind them with power and authority over all things. We don’t know what we don’t know—but you do.
God’s word speaks: Romans 8:28; Philippians 1:6; Isaiah 45:2; Proverbs 3:6
I have long admired Laney Rene online and was so thrilled to get a chance to know her through this interview. She is beyond her years in wisdom and her faith has always inspired me. She’s a young mom so those of you with littles will definitely relate to our episode.
She shares so tenderly about the loss of her son and how she experienced God in a new way through her pain. So many of you have gone through or are enduring tremendous pain. Painful parts of our story can feel so very crushing and devastating. So, how do we choose hope over despair? I believe Laney Rene’s story will encourage you.
My favorite part is when she talks about when you know that God is real. And what to do when you doubt that he is real or that he is actually speaking to you. I pray you will feel so very seen and loved through this conversation about how much God loves his daughters.
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“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” —Hebrews 12:11 ESV
Nobody lacks self-discipline like our precious two-year-olds. Their language repertoire is heavy with words like no, mine, and more—typically accompanied with a hearty side of theatrics. As cute as it might be when they are young (or not), a lack of self-discipline creates some big issues later in life.
Self-discipline (or lack thereof) will impact every part of our kids’ lives, including their dating relationships, finances, online accountability, marriage, physical health, and even their occupations. The author of Hebrews reminds us that discipline isn’t fun in the moment, but it’s a key step in the pathway to righteousness.
The good news is that self-discipline isn’t just a matter of mustering up enough willpower. Rather, it's a God-given perspective that the greater reward in waiting is better than the immediate temptation we’re facing. Warren Wiersbe says it this way: “Discipline means giving up the good and the better for the best. There is nothing wrong with food or fun, but if they interfere with your highest goals, then they are hindrances and not helps.”
Let’s ask God to give our kids the self-discipline to look away, walk away, or find a way to pass on anything that interferes with God’s highest goals in their lives. Jesus is worth waiting for, and self-discipline eliminates the pain and discouragement of settling for less than his best in their lives.
Lord, help [name] to have the self-discipline to pass up the good in order to accomplish the great you have planned for them. Give my children an eye for your bigger picture in all areas of their lives, knowing the ultimate goal of righteousness is worth waiting for.
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Well, it makes perfect sense that I have a minor cryfest on this episode. In this conversation with Jennie Allen, we dive into our feelings and emotions and what to do with those. You may have many feelings (like myself) or you may lean towards suppressing your emotions. Either way, we ALL have emotions and it’s important to understand how we handle those as faith-filled parents.
I get super teary as we talk about our mutual friend, Wynter Pitts, and how her death really sent me for a loop. In that season, I felt grief like I never had before and wasn’t sure what to do with that. Jennie is the real deal as you will see. She pauses in the midst of the interview to affirm my grief and why that loss hurt so much.
My favorite part is towards the end when we discuss how often our emotions get tangled up with our kids. When they hurt, we really hurt. She gives a couple practical ways we can avoid getting pulled into their worlds so far that we risk co-dependence.
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“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” —Matthew 28:20
We are on week 23. I am so proud of us! We have prayed every week together on Pardon The Mess for our kids.
Today’s prayer features our friend Jeannie Cunnion. I love her heart for Jesus and the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives. She’s written several books on this topic and encouraged me tremendously to lean into God’s presence in my parenting.
Jeannie’s latest study - Never Alone
Either you’re happy in your marriage and want to remain that way, or you are not that happy in your marriage right now and feel frozen on how to fix it. My guest today is Ted Lowe who is an author, speaker and podcast host who has been helping to strengthen marriages for over two decades. You’ll love his relatable and doable approach to marriage and leave this conversation feeling encouraged, not ashamed.
In this episode, we talk about the secret to happy couples. Spoiler alert - it’s our thought life. Join us as we discuss how scripture, research and neuroscience together provide a simple way to rethink how we see marriage.
Ted gives us a couple of ways we can change our thought life today that will impact our marriage for the good. I was definitely convicted on this statement. Ted said, “how you think is how you treat them.” That is a true statement that I will remember for some time.
My favorite part is when I ask Ted how a couple can take action together to improve their marriage. His answer may surprise you. It was a piece of advice I wish I had heard about 20 years ago. Let me know what you think!
Enjoy!
Courtney
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ForUsMarriage.com - Ted’s site
Ted’s latest book: Us In Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” —Psalm 119:9
The idea of raising pure kids in an impure culture can feel like an impossibly tall order as parents. Defining purity can be confusing and is oftentimes limited to discussions of physical relationships or online accountability. We sometimes mistakenly make purity a goal our kids must achieve, staying away from certain things or even keeping on a prescribed path until the finish line of marriage.
Noel Bouche of Pure Hope Ministries says, “purity it not an accomplishment; it’s a relationship.” It’s a relationship with Jesus, who comes to redeem us from the sin of this world and purify us to himself (Titus 2:14). He renews our minds and equips us to overcome our earthly temptations. He cleanses us and makes us new creations. He gives hope that is everlasting and brings healing when we fall short.
Biblical purity is bigger than a checklist of things our kids should or should not do, but instead focuses on the bigger picture of the lifelong pursuit of Jesus. It’s not about our ability to perform but about Jesus’ transforming power within us.
There’s nothing wrong with praying for our kids to have purity in their physical relationships, the way they dress, the motivation behind their actions, their pursuit of Jesus, and the music and media that fill their minds. But let’s also pray that if and when they fall short, they know that the Lord stands ready to forgive them and give them a new beginning.
Lord, please bring [name] to you, purifying them through a renewing of their heart and mind. Give my kids the freedom to come to me no matter what they have seen or done, knowing that, as a family, we will offer grace and seek your wisdom. Help my kids to take captive their thoughts and find companionship with those seeking a pure heart and a life of righteousness.
God’s word speaks: Colossians 3:5, 1 Timothy 4:12, Matthew 5:8, Titus 2:13–14
Links mentioned: https://dannahgresh.com/should-i-stop-using-the-word-purity/
Stay-at-home and working-moms: Embrace the season you're in with Paula Faris
As moms, we all work. We know that. However, our culture wants us to find a camp and defend it. We find ourselves in a “stay-at-home” world or a “working moms” world.
Paula Faris is a dear friend of mine and is just who we needed on this podcast topic. Like many of us, Paula has worked in many lanes since becoming a mom. She has worked full-time on Good Morning America and The View. She has also had a season at home with her kids and is now working from home on her new brand, Carry Media.
Paula and I chat about how often we (moms) judge each other’s decisions and what we really need is support and understanding. What if we could end these mommy wars and all get on the same train of support?
In this episode, we also talk about how employers could help shift the work environment for mothers in the future. Paula speaks from the true heart of an advocate that is using her voice and platform to fight for the working moms.
My favorite part is when Paula encourages moms to embrace each season. That we don’t need to defend our choices - but just follow God’s voice for our particular season and our family’s needs.
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Paula’s book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All
Paula’s children’s book: Who Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
Paula’s Instagram
Cynthia Yanof's book: Life is Messy, God is Good
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.” —Jeremiah 17:7
We all want to raise confident kids, but the hard part is making sure their confidence comes from the right source: God himself. We live in a culture that esteems strong finances, good looks, prestigious jobs, and realized dreams—none of which are lasting or fulfilling.
When we look to find our confidence in the things of this world, we will never find satisfaction. Solomon, among the wisest and wealthiest of all time, describes the pursuits of this world as “utterly meaningless” (Ecclesiastes 1:2). He pursued everything the world had to offer only to conclude that there’s “nothing new under the sun” so we should only “fear god and keep his commandments.”
The great irony of the gospel is that only in acknowledging our insufficiency can God do his greatest work by strengthening us.
Let’s pray that our kids are marked by confidence in things with lasting value:
Lord, this world is filled with uncertainty that threatens to rock our confidence. But you are steadfast and reliable, showing favor on your children and building them up to accomplish your purposes. Please give [name] a confident spirit marked by their reliance on you.
God’s word speaks: Psalm 27: 3, Philippians 4:13; Psalm 139:13–14; Romans 8:28
She’s baaaccckkkk!!! Did you know that Cynthia Yanof was the first host of Pardon The Mess? She passed the podcast baton to me in May and through this process has become a dear friend. I’m absolutely thrilled to catch up with her today.
We talk about how to find and follow the God-sized calling on your life. She shares about her personal journey with foster care and adoption and what that step of faith did for their family. It will get you so excited and expectant to look for what God is calling you to do and to run after it. We don’t want to miss these moments that matter in our lives! If we’re honest though, we often feel like we don’t know what that looks like and how to discern what God is saying to us.
I also loved when we chatted about the world’s expectations for us (and our kids) to be extraordinary. Her encouragement for us to embrace the ordinary is really encouraging. We see measurable “success” all around us and it looks so very big and flashy. Cynthia reminds us that the most God-honoring things we can do each day are likely not measurable.
Be sure to go check out her new book, Life Is Messy, God Is Good, that releases next week. We are so proud of you Cynthia! And thankful for the way you’ve model faithfulness to God for so many years.
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Courtney & Cynthia - Pardon The Mess announcement Part 1 and Part 2
Cynthia’s Instagram
Cynthia’s Podcast
Cynthia’s New Book: Life Is Messy, God Is Good
Discipleship Guide: cpgive.org
“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” —Isaiah 40:31
A few years ago, Pew Research released a poll revealing that seven in ten US teens considered anxiety and depression a major problem among their peers. Of those participating in the poll, 61 percent indicated they felt pressure to get good grades, while 29 percent felt pressure to look good and 28 percent felt pressure to fit in socially.
Considering that our culture’s expectations are so often arbitrary and impossible to meet, it’s not surprising that our kids struggle with anxiety and depression. When the world ties our worth to materiality and performance, it feels hopeless because we’re only as good as our most recent accomplishment or latest accolade.
But, as Christians, our hope is in the Lord. Practically speaking, that means we’re not looking to the world to meet our greatest needs and desires, Rather, we look to God. Biblical hope is not just desiring for something good to happen in our lives; it’s a confident expectation that God will actually do it.
There are so many reasons for our kids to be hopeful in the Lord:
The Pew Research statistics confirm what we already know: we need to diligently pray that our kids are not weighed down by impossible standards of our culture, but that they will be marked by a hope found only in the Lord.
Lord, there is no hope without you. Use [name] as an instrument to take your hope to those around them. Take our days, Lord—the good, the bad, the easy, the hard—and show us the greater picture of hope found only in you.
God’s word speaks: Ephesians 1:18; Jeremiah 29:11; Mark 9:23; Psalm 33:18
David Thomas never disappoints! As a counselor with decades of experience, David has counseled thousands of families of boys. He brings powerful insight, practical tips, and heartfelt encouragement.
You may be wondering if you are failing at this parenting thing or if there might be something wrong with your son. After this episode, I think you will feel much better about your parenting and your amazing son.
David agrees with the assessment that there is a “boy crisis” happening, as this article suggests. Reach out to us on social media - do you agree? Are you seeing “disinterest” in your son’s world too?
My biggest takeaway is when David distinguishes between “hard” and “harmful.” I have daughters - but I needed to hear this encouragement. Too often, I help them escape hard things because I believe they are in harm’s way when they are not. Many times, my kids are pushing back against discomfort and you’ll hear how this is needed and actually good for them.
This is one of those episodes you need to listen to, file away, save, listen again, and then discuss with a friend. Do not lose hope! Jesus has you and your kiddos. I’m so thankful he brings us so many wonderful and biblical mentors like David Thomas to help guide us through these parenting challenges. Don’t miss the last part when David reminds us that we have an opportunity and many years left to equip, empower and encourage all the kids we love.
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“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” —Ephesians 4:32
Compassion is one of the defining characteristics of God. He’s sympathetic to our struggles and burdened by what burdens us. But, even more than simply feeling compassion and sympathy toward us emotionally, his compassionate nature moves him to act on our behalf.
This compassion turned to action is most evident when we consider the cross. “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). That’s the overwhelming grace behind a compassionate God working all things for the good of his children.
If compassion is central to the gospel, what should it look like in our lives? Henri Nouwen describes it this way: “Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into the places of pain, to share in brokenness, fear, confusion, and anguish. Compassion challenges us to cry out with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, to weep with those in tears. Compassion requires us to be weak with the weak, vulnerable with the vulnerable, and powerless with the powerless.”
As we pray compassion for our kids this week, we’re praying that it’s more than a fleeting emotion. Rather, we’re praying that it’s evident in their actions. Pray that they stand up for the vulnerable, fight for the oppressed, and are intolerant of injustices around them.
Lord, your word calls us to have compassion and love for others. Please give [name] a compassionate heart to see the things that burden you and a spirit of determination to help others in whatever way you lead. Slow us down and give us discernment to see the needs around us and not to tolerate the things that break your heart.
God’s word speaks:1 Peter 3:8; 2 Corinthians 1:3–4; Colossians 3:12; Lamentations 3:22–23
Happy New Year!!!
Do you love the reset that comes with a New Year or does it stress you out? Either way, I think you’re going to find this conversation refreshing. It’s simple. It’s practical. And very doable.
On Pardon The Mess, we talk a lot about being intentional with our families. We talk about our values and how we are going to instill those into our kids. The truth is that all of that takes time and money - which is not an endless pot. I wish it wouldn’t run out.
As we begin the year, let’s hear from my friend Shawna Sullivan on some ways we can stop wasting time and money. And then, print her simple guide called “Make It Count” and just spend a few minutes thinking ahead through the year.
My favorite part is when she encourages us to cut the mindless spending. She calls it a “slow leak.” I am so so guilty of this and I do think it would help our budget a ton if I’d cut the slow leak (also known as TJ Maxx).
You will not feel judged or shamed in this episode. You will feel encouraged to make some small shifts to steward your time and money more wisely this year.
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“Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth.”—John 17:17
Sadie Robertson Huff has said that when she went to her mom for advice during struggles in her teenage years, her mom would always “meet her with Jesus”
Meeting our kids with Jesus just might be the most significant thing we can do in our kids’ lives. Satan is the father of lies, looking for ways to misguide and deceive us at every turn. Only in Jesus will we find real truth, especially in a culture that rejects absolute truth.
Jesus, you are the truth that overcomes the lies of the Enemy and shines light in the darkness. Help my family to identify the lies we’re believing, replacing them with the truth of your word. Give [name] an increasing understanding of who you are and your great love for them. Fill our families with hope, joy, and truth that comes only from you.
God's word speaks: Psalm 119:151; John 14:6; 2 Timothy 3:16; John 10:10
Happy New Year!!! Let’s take a big sigh together. The New Year can be intense and overwhelming right out of the gate. I don’t know if you’re entering 2024 with a lot of shame or excitement. This episode is such a breath of fresh air that made me feel hopeful.
I did this interview live at my church (Compass Church Colleyville) when Ruth was the guest speaker at our Christmas women’s event. It was so fun to do this in person and get to meet and sit with someone I have long admired.
You will sense PEACE when you hear from Ruth. She just oozes truth and encouragement that we all need in our lives. We have some fun and also discuss some parenting tips along the way. When a mom of 6 BOYS speaks up, I listen.
My favorite part is how she provides a way to read the Bible. A lens we can have to simply get to know the character of God with every moment we’re in His Word. For many years, I think I looked for me in the story and left feeling really discouraged and not enough. When we look for God instead - it can be a game changer in how we encounter our Heavenly Father.
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Ruth’s latest book, Pilgrim
Pre-Order Ruth’s next book, Now and Not Yet
Ruth’s jeweler, Mud Lowery
“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” —Psalm 90:12
Every seasoned parent knows how quickly time passes when you’re in the throes of raising kids. It seems like one day they’re toddlers and the next day you’re visiting colleges. Despite being cautioned that “the days are long, but the years are short,” it’s still hard to appreciate how fast it passes until you’re on the other side looking back.
As we start a new year, it’s a great time for our families to remember to number our days because time is fleeting. Counting our days is not meant to be mathematical, but missional. It’s living today as if you have no tomorrow. It’s making the most of every God-given opportunity, knowing that missed opportunities are often our greatest regrets.
David understood the brevity of life when he wrote, “You have made my days a mere handbreadth; the span of my years is as nothing before you. Everyone is but a breath, even those who seem secure” (Psalm 39:5).
As we pray for our kids to number their days, ask the Lord to give them the wisdom to evaluate every decision and opportunity through the lens of eternity.
Lord, you are the God of the past, present, and future. We claim your promise that for every good work you begin in our kids, you will carry it to the point of completion. Please impress upon [name] the importance of numbering their days, knowing there is nothing more important or significant than the plans you have for them in this moment.
God’s word speaks: Psalm 39:4; Ephesians 5:15; James 4:14–15; Psalm 144:4
I am so excited about this month’s episodes. They are designed to be lighthearted and very practical - like we all sat down and had coffee. Today, we are headed into a chat about simplifying our style and skin care with two of my besties.
Get fired up for some lighthearted banter about jeans, winter shoes, budget ideas, places to shop, aging skin care, drugstore favorites and much more. I hope you will feel practically equipped and slightly amused with our real life friend chat.
Heidi is a pastor and extraordinary leader in our town. Our families do life together on the regular. She’s one of the very first friends I met here in TX. Lindsay is a Bible teacher and woman of many talents. She is the best party planner I know and loves to celebrate her people so often. She has scooped up my girls on many occasions and loves them so well.
My favorite part is at the end when you get a pep talk from each of them. They do care for themselves and have fun with style and skin - but it is not the main thing. They remind us that our worth never lies with our physicality. These two radiate from the inside. Everytime I am with them, I feel so seen. Their smile, their hugs and their sincere interest in me is something I want to emulate. That kind of beauty is not sold at drugstores or Nordstrom. It’s cultivated after a lifetime of pursuing Jesus and living out their faith.
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Lindsay’s Moisturizer
Lindsay’s Facial Scrub
Lindsay’s Exfoliating Cleanser
Courtney’s legendary shoe clips
“‘The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel’ (which means ‘God with us’).” —Matthew 1:23
When I was growing up, my family had a beautiful Christmas nativity in our living room that had been hand-painted by my grandmother. I remember the meticulously adorned kings, the elegant white angel, and the pristine animals more fit for a banquet than a barn.
It would have met anyone’s definition of the perfect nativity set except for one thing: we lost baby Jesus.
This was quite the conundrum since it wasn’t something a quick trip to Hobby Lobby could remedy. But, even without Jesus, my mom continued to display her nativity because the significance behind my grandmother’s handmade gift meant more than the splendor of a perfect nativity set.
Christmas is full of pretty decorations, sparkly lights, and all the things that make this time of year special. But, much like my mom’s choice to continue displaying our nativity set, we’re praying that our kids grasp the significance behind the splendor as we celebrate Jesus’ birth.
The significance comes in praying for a faith like Mary, who was willing to say yes even when it didn’t make sense. Or learning to walk in obedience like Joseph, who did the God-ordained things, not just the easy ones. It’s going any distance to meet Jesus like the wise men did. It’s approaching him like the lowly shepherds, in complete awe and wonder of the newborn King.
Pray this week that our kids don’t just see Christmas for all of its splendor but live marked by the significance of Jesus’ birth and the message of the nativity.
Lord, allow the significance of the nativity to mark our kids as we celebrate your birth. Give [name] the faith of Mary, the obedience of Joseph, and the awe and reverence of the shepherds. Strip away the splendor of a secularized Christmas, showing our family the deep love you showed by coming to earth as a baby.
God’s word speaks: Luke 2; Isaiah 9:6; John 1:14; Luke 2:14
What a delight to chat with Tara Leigh Cobble - founder of The Bible Recap that has reached over 320 million people. I know we all want to read God’s word and believe it’s important. However, the majority of folks experience the feelings of being overwhelmed and lost during that process. Tara has so much encouragement because she has also been there.
You will just love her encouragement and disarming nature as it relates to reading our Bibles. I feel so ill-equipped sometimes to lead my kids when I am stumbling through myself. As you enter this New Year timeframe - make sure you listen to this one and get re-energized to make reading your Bible a priority for 2024.
I am agreeing with her ending prayer - that we may fall in love with who God is through reading his word this year. As she describes, it’s 20 minutes a day that could change our lives and our families.
My favorite part is at the end. Tara shares about how she didn’t like God after the first time through the Bible. Her pastor encouraged to try again with a different lens that changed everything. She is now on her 15th time through and more in love with Jesus than ever.
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“But the angel said to them, ‘Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.’” —Luke 2:10
The odds are pretty good that you will sing “Joy to the World” at a Christmas service this season. It’s a classic Christmas carol with a great reminder of why we have joy.
Joy to the world, the Lord is come!
Let earth receive her King!
These simple words explain the reason for our joy as Christians: Jesus has come. But how do we live with joy in a world with such real suffering?
Max Lucado talks about two different types of joy: contingent joy and courageous joy. Contingent joy is based on our circumstances and how things are going in life. Courageous joy is based in Jesus and is with us no matter what we’re facing.
Contingent joy focuses on the situational; courageous joy focuses on the eternal.
Joni Eareckson Tada is an author, speaker, and artist who was paralyzed as a teenager as a result of a diving accident. She says her joy comes from knowing that “God permits what he hates to accomplish what he loves.” She’s focused on the eternal.
Joy is one of the attributes the world sees in us and doesn’t understand; it’s a great testimony, especially when it’s displayed in the hard places of life. Let’s pray for our kids to be marked by joy, not just at Christmas but at all times, because it’s not based on today but eternity.
Joy to the world, the Lord has come!
Jesus, you are the reason we have joy. In complete humility, you came to earth as a baby, to pay the price for our sins so that we might live eternally. Reveal in [name] a joy that’s rooted not in their circumstances but in you alone.
God’s word speaks: Philippians 4:4; Psalm 118:24; 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18; Romans 12:12
I am so excited about this month’s episodes. They are designed to be lighthearted and very practical - like we all sat down and had coffee. Last week, we got to chat about simplifying traditions around Christmas. And this week, we have two more of my dearest friends to talk about all things HOME & SYSTEMS.
You are going to wish these two could come over and sort your entire house. They are both super gifted at making homes practical, functional and beautiful. I got so many new ideas during our conversation (and laughed often). They crack me up!
My favorite thing about them is how they view the home and how they always bring it back to the PEOPLE over the stuff. In the age of social media, I get so wrapped up in the appearance and making my home “look” just right. Sometimes, I just forget to make it work for our lives and the values we uphold as a family.
Krista shared this verse which really encouraged me and I pray it encourages you as well.
“You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’—but not everything is good for you. You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’—but not everything is beneficial. Don’t be concerned for your own good but for the good of others.” - 1 Corinthians 10:23
Merry Christmas!!!
Courtney
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Krista’s newest podcast for leaders - The Transformation Triad
Wendy’s Site - The Peaceful Homestead
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Shop The Peaceful Homestead - Scripture Cards, Candles and more
Wendy’s Home Consults
Wendy’s Laundry System
Wooden organizers for ziplocs
Spice jars with labels
“The Lord will keep you from all harm—he will watch over your life; the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.” —Psalm 121:7–8
It’s hard to feel safe when the news all around us tells a different story. But we can trust in the Lord’s protection because there is nothing he cannot do. He created everyone and everything in the universe and has complete control over every detail of it.
As parents, it’s often especially difficult to trust God’s protection when it comes to our kids. We constantly need reminding that our best defense on their behalf is a commitment to praying for them. Even when we question God’s protection over them, we can trust that he’s sovereign, good, and never acts contrary to his loving nature.
The real truth is that nothing can ultimately harm those who rest in the grip of our heavenly Father. Paul reminds us of this truth when he says: “Neither death nor life, nor angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38–39).
Jodie Berndt joins us for this mini episode to pray with us that when the world seems really scary to our kids, they will remember the One who created the world. He’s our fortress and protector, guiding our very steps and guarding our every path.
Lord, we pray for protection over our children that only comes from you. We pray not just for their physical protection but also for their spiritual health and protection. Please remind [name] that faith in you brings healing for all eternity because nothing can separate us from you. Keep them in your presence and protect them both today and always.
God’s word speaks: Isaiah 54:17; Psalm 34:7–9; 2 Thessalonians 3:3; Deuteronomy 31:6
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Website: https://jodieberndt.com/
Instagram: @jodie_berndt
Facebook: @JodieBerndtWrites
You are in for a treat! Courtney brings two of her very best friends on to get real about Christmas traditions. These three have been friends since their kids were babies and now they can look back over 18 years of parenting and share perspective.
In addition to some fun and simple ideas, they also share about the unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves during the Christmas season. They talk about everything from Santa, to the elf, and most importantly Jesus. They share some of the favorite traditions that their kids really remember.
My favorite part is at the end they each give parenting encouragement. Spoiler alert - it involves lots of grace. I am so incredibly grateful for these two moms and how they have walked so closely with me all of these years. They are wise, humble, hilarious and two of the best Jesus-loving mommas I know.
We didn’t even get to the miracle of Kylie White. She was healed from going blind. It’s a story I’ll never be over. You can listen to her miracle story here.
Merry Christmas!!!
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“The godly walk with integrity; blessed are their children who follow them.” —Proverbs 20:7 NLT
When we think about God’s character, we probably think of attributes like righteousness, holiness, mercy, love, and justice. The Bible reminds us that the character of God is unchanging: he’s the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). He’s dependable, he’s consistent, he’s compassionate, and he’s a God of integrity who desires the same for us.
Integrity is more than how we respond in a given situation or a prescribed moral code we follow when life gets tricky. The word integrity comes from the Latin root integer, meaning whole. It’s a reference to our whole person, both who we are in public and in private.
D. L. Moody has said that character is what you are in the dark. The same could be said of integrity.
As we pray integrity over our kids this week, we’re asking the Lord to guide them to live with biblical standards in all areas of their lives. At one point or another, integrity will impact their finances, profession, marriage, parenting, calling, and even the words that come out of their mouths. Let’s pray that “what they are in the dark” reflects God’s light in all areas of their lives.
Lord, you call us to a higher standard because you love us, you’re for us, and you know what’s best for us. I ask you to give [name] the desire to live with integrity in all areas of their life. Guide us as a family to value honesty and live set apart.
God’s word speaks: 1 Peter 3:16; Proverbs 12:22; 2 Corinthians 8:2; Proverbs 21:3
I have long admired Pastor Levi Lusko and his ability to portray the absolute power and sovereignty of God in a way that we can all understand. He is a gifted pastor, teacher and communicator that always leaves me feeling seen, known and inspired.
I first heard Pastor Levi at Passion Conference and have followed his teachings since that time. Today’s conversation centers around how to marvel at God’s creation and how to remind kids they are never alone in this big world. Our kids naturally look up at the moon and the sky and have so many questions. And Jesus even suggests that we are more like kids!
His newest devotionals for families, Marvel At the Moon, is a real passion of his to help start conversations about God’s majestic universe. His desire is that every child (and adult) will remember they are never alone in their real-life struggles. After my conversation with him, I promptly went to order 5 copies for families that I love. He shared so many fun facts about the moon that I had never heard before.
My favorite part is at the end, when he encourages all parents to not shy away from the failures. He encourages us to lean into the very normal road of messing up - and how God will use every bit of it. It felt like such a moment of grace washing over me. I pray you will feel that too.
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Through The Eyes of a Lion (His daughter’s story)
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” —John 1:5
A quick glance at the news confirms that our culture’s moral code is growing further away from the truths of Scripture. With the widening of this gap, our kids will likely face more scrutiny and persecution for living biblically than many of the generations before them.
Even so, we have the message of truth and are called to share it. In the middle of a world of darkness and uncertainty, our culture desperately needs to hear the gospel message that Jesus loved us to the point of death so that we might live forever (John 3:16).
Each new day presents opportunities for our children to shine God’s light in the darkness around them. It’s accomplished by refusing to conform to the world. Instead, pray that your children live set apart in how they talk, what they prioritize, and how they do life. Living counterculturally provides the opportunity to point others to the true source of our light: Jesus.
Ask the Lord to ground our kids in the confidence and determination necessary to stand firm in a culture that rejects absolute truth. Pray that they won’t pass up a single chance to shine the light of Jesus in a dark world.
Jesus, you alone change lives. Help [name] to be brave enough to live set apart for you. As our culture grows further away from the truths of the gospel, give us more opportunities to share our faith in you with love and conviction.
God’s word speaks: Matthew 5:16; John 8:12; 1 John 1:5; 1 Peter 2:9
Tissue alert! This one was incredibly special to me - a tearful and honest check in with Jonathan and Peta Pitts during a deeply painful season of their lives.
Although, those in the midst of grief will absolutely resonate - I do believe this episode is for every single one of us. Somewhere in our stories, we endure deep loss and are left standing with many questions for God. This week of Thanksgiving can be really hard for many families and I pray this message touches you in a profound way. We talk about Joanthan’s loss of his late wife Wynter Pitts, his new marriage to the amazing Peta Pitts, the often unseen role as a step-mom, their recent loss with a miscarriage and then stillborn and so much more. They are raw and honest with their pain - yet incredibly hopeful.
I used to host a podcast with Wynter about raising girls. We were about 4 months into the podcast when she suddenly passed away - leaving behind her husband and 4 precious daughters. She was a treasured friend of mine. As you can imagine, this episode was emotional and very sacred to me. You’ll hear a moment, when I realize that Peta is an answered prayer of mine. In those early days of Wynter’s passing, I begged God over and over again to bring those girls another mother that would love them and see them like Wynter did. And He did that and so much more.
My favorite part is when they share that they still choose Jesus, despite the hard questions and doubts. They share this verse that really stuck with me.
“Lord, to whom shall we go? Thou hast the words of eternal life. And we believe and are sure that thou art that Christ, the Son of the living God” (John 6:68–69)
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The Mothering Journal - More on Peta’s Writing
The Mothering Journal Instagram
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For Girls Like You - magazine and resources
Jonathan’s Book on Loss of Wynter
I Am Yours by Wynter Pitts
Questions about death by Tony Evans
“Jesus, the Light of the World”: An Advent Devotional for Kids!
“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” —Psalm 107:1
The Pilgrims celebrated the first Thanksgiving in 1621 despite having recently lost half of their population to a harsh winter filled with contagious diseases. By celebrating their first successful harvest, they reminded a young nation of the importance of giving thanks in all circumstances.
Today, most of us spend Thanksgiving day knee-deep in the traditions of turkey, football, and family time; however, as Christians, we also celebrate on a deeper level, knowing that all of our gratitude is owed to the Lord.
We’re praying this week that our kids live marked by thankfulness—even in the hard places. When the road they face is difficult, pray that they give thanks that Jesus goes before them and has won every battle waged against them. We’re promised that God will work everything according to his purposes, so we can be assured that God desires to bring out the good in whatever they are facing.
Paul reminds us from his jail cell in Rome that, in Jesus, we can sing, make music, and be thankful in all things (Ephesians 5:19–20).
Ingratitude is a sin, thankfulness is a choice, turkey is dry.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Lord, every good and perfect gift comes only from you, and we have the privilege of celebrating that this week. As we celebrate Thanksgiving as a family, give my kids a deep connection with you as the giver of all good things in their lives. Help [name] to be marked by thanksgiving no matter their circumstances.
God’s word speaks: Psalm 100:4; Colossians 3:17; Psalm 107:8–9; 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18
This is a big statement, but accurate: Toni might be our funniest guest so far. I was so highly amused by her experiences with krumping and twerking in the club. And I was deeply moved by her passion to help broken women find hope and healing.
Toni is a returning guest to Pardon The Mess because you all LOVED her so much the first time. She is the founder of an international women’s organization called Broken Crayons Still Color and helps women process through brokenness and get to healing and hope. Toni is a speaker, podcast host, author, pastor and mom of two adorable kiddos.
My favorite thing about Toni is that she confronts the hard things. She believes the best way to meet life’s challenges is head-on. She is honest and real - and never ever steers away from sharing the real pain involved in her own life - from survivingserving abuse to a tough divorce and much more. In the same breath - she brings you back to hope. We all need the reminder that being broken isn’t the end of the story.
Enjoy!
Courtney
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“Jesus, the Light of the World”: An Advent Devotional for Kids!
Toni’s First Book, Brave Enough To Be Broken
Toni’s Latest Book for Kids, Broken Crayons Still Color
Toni’s Suits, Shop Classier
Toni’s Threads’ Epic Content
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“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven.” —Matthew 6:19–20
Everything we have has been given to us by God.
When we really stop and think about this truth, it can’t help but reframe how we operate in light of God’s generosity toward us. The gospel calls us to be generous, not just because it benefits those around us, but because it benefits us.
To be marked by generosity, our kids need a few foundational truths:
Generosity is not just a financial matter. Our kids can practice generosity even now by having a compassionate heart, a willingness to include others, advocating for the underdog, and freely extending forgiveness.
When we give to God, we never lose. Instead, we gain the opportunity to participate in his larger kingdom ministries. Being faithful in little leads to opportunities to be faithful in much (Luke 16:10).
Lord, if you didn’t provide us with one more thing this side of heaven, we would still be overwhelmed by your generosity at the cross. Give [name] hearts of generosity, teaching them that our greatest gain comes from giving away what was never ours to begin with.
God’s word speaks: 2 Corinthians 9:6–7; Luke 6:38; Acts 20:35; 1 Timothy 6:17–19
It didn’t take me long to hear that Kayla Craig is a peaceful, gentle soul. You can absolutely tell she is a parent bathed in prayer and has a heart to help parents in the midst of really painful journeys. Kayla speaks about her child with Down Syndrome and shares about a time that a “book of prayers” helped her find the words when she didn’t have any.
My favorite part is towards the end when we are talking about when kids have hard questions about faith, and being okay with some of the unknown parts and mysteries of following Jesus.
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“Jesus, the Light of the World”: An Advent Devotional for Kids!
Every Season Sacred - Kayla’s latest book
“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” —James 1:22
Many of us have heard Bible stories for as long as we can remember. We learned about a young boy named David defeating a huge giant with a slingshot, an honorable man named Noah building an ark having never experienced rain, and the story of Daniel walking unharmed out of a lions’ den because of God’s protection.
As children, these stories were entertaining. As adults, they are the foundations of truth by which we’re called to live.
Being marked by God’s word means we don’t just hear it; we are changed by it. As parents, we commit to teaching our kids God’s word when they are little so that the foundational truths of Scripture are planted in their souls for when they grow older.
We’re praying for our kids to gain an understanding of the bigger picture of God’s word this week, that they understand how God gets the greatest glory when we boldly face our giants in God’s strength, like David did. We’re praying that God will call them to obey when it makes no earthly sense, like Noah did. And, as they grow older and weather some long, hard places of suffering, they will know they were never alone, like Daniel did.
Lord, your word never returns empty. We claim this truth as we raise our kids in Scripture, praying that you give them a deeper understanding of the Bible and its priority for their lives. Keep [name] from simply hearing your word, but give it life and meaning that changes the way they live.
God’s word speaks: Luke 11:28; Hebrews 4:12; Isaiah 40:8; Matthew 7:24
This is a big one. Titania Jordan, Chief Parent Officer and CMO of Bark, is with us today. Please don’t miss this conversation and share it with friends. You likely have the feeling of fear rising up in you as you see the topic. As parents, we have to face the beast of technology. The safety and overall health of our kids is on the line. The good news is that you are NOT ALONE in the struggle, and Titania is one of the experts in this field providing amazing resources to help us in the journey.
We get very practical in this conversation and I believe you will walk away feeling seen, understood and supported. Titania and I are both honest with how we have personally dropped the ball and what we would do differently looking back. She is so good about encouraging progress over perfection.
My favorite part is when Titania encourages parents to practically look at your child’s demeanor and behavior and trust your gut. Be brave enough to get help for them if you sense something has altered their behavior in a significant way.
At Christian Parenting, we wanted you to provide further support on this topic of technology. We have compiled some of the best resources Christian Parenting has on technology and put them in one place for you to easily find.
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The One Year Pray For Family Bible
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Parenting In a Tech World - Facebook Group
“Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.” —Psalm 86:11
We’re called to teach our kids to love Jesus when they wake up, when they go to bed, on the way to baseball, on vacation, coming home from preschool, getting dressed for prom, when someone was mean to them, and everywhere in between. We’re training them to live for Jesus in all circumstances.
As parents, it often means we’re less concerned with academic potential and more interested in our child’s heart for the lonely kid at lunch. It’s relentlessly praying that our kids’ inclinations to pursue popularity won’t dilute the truth of their calling and identity in Christ. It’s a mindset shift to the eternal when everyone around them seems focused on the temporal.
But, even with the best of intentions, our hearts become so easily divided this side of heaven. It happens when our commitment to Jesus starts to be overshadowed by our desire for comfort, convenience, entitlement, and entertainment.
As we pray this week for undivided hearts, we’re praying that our kids understand at an early age the importance of an unwavering commitment to Jesus. It’s praying that they have a God-given resolve to follow his word and his calling on their lives, whatever the cost.
Lord, teach us to appreciate that the small things of earth will someday be the big things in heaven. Teach [name] the significance of an undivided heart, marked by a commitment to following you—even when it’s the harder path. Give our family a new spirit of determination to seek you and rely on your faithfulness.
God’s word speaks: Ezekiel 11:19, Ezekiel 36:26–27; Jeremiah 17:10; Psalm 51:10
What an honor to chat with Max Lucado! Max is a pastor, speaker, and bestselling author with more than 145 million products in print, which have been translated into 56 languages and distributed across 80 countries worldwide
We talk about my favorite book written by Max, You Are Special, which I believe every family should own and read often. We also spend some time talking about the story of Jacob and how his life can encourage all of us. His story points us to a crucial truth we can know and understand about God - that he never gives up on us.
My favorite part is when we chat about the topic of grace – how to explain that to our kids and live it out when it’s hard. I confess that I like offering grace and have difficulty receiving it. His encouragement to me hit home and I will remember it for a long time.
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Max Lucado’s new book, God Never Gives Up On You
Courtney’s favorite Max Lucado book, You Are Special
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” —Ecclesiastes 4:9–10
On her wedding anniversary—and just weeks after unexpectedly losing her young husband—a friend posted this short tribute: “We made a good team and completed each other. When I failed, he stepped in and where he failed, I stepped in. It was a partnership made in heaven and ordained by God.”
This is a modern-day paraphrase of the Ecclesiastes verses describing godly relationships. It’s spouses, friends, pastors, and mentors who pick us up when we fall down and build us up when we’re struggling. It’s those who see bigger potential in us than we can see for ourselves and pray God’s biggest plans for us when we don’t have the strength to pray for ourselves.
Godly relationships are easily identified because they bear such impact, love, and support that we somehow know the purpose is greater than just for our pleasure. Rather, it is God-ordained and for his glory.
As we pray for godly relationships for our children, pray that the Lord guards and anoints every relationship that impacts their lives. Pray for the Lord to bless them with deep, biblical friendships like Ruth and Naomi, godly mentors who speak truth like Nathan did to David, and spouses with an unrelenting love like Jacob and Rachel.
Lord, we were created to have relationships that draw us closer together and closer to you. Bless my children with friends, spouses, mentors, and others who build them up and point them back to you. Protect them from influences that are not your best in their lives. Teach [name] not just the importance of having godly friendships but also the gift of being a godly friend.
God’s word speaks: Proverbs 22:24–25; Ecclesiastes 4:12; Proverbs 27:17; Proverbs 17:17
I LOVED this conversation with Sarah Molitor from Modern Farmhouse Family. We talk through the way words, anger and lashing out can be a pattern we despise in our homes. Just reading that may bring up some shame in your heart, and if so, this episode is for you. She is filled with such grace as she shares about her own experience with this struggle.
We also take time to remember how powerful words can be in a positive way. She encourages us to look for opportunities to speak life over our kids and families, and enter into their own sin with loads of grace and forgiveness.
My favorite part is when Sarah shares a really pivotal moment in her marriage when it so easily could have fallen apart. She gives us all hope that hard family moments and seasons aren’t the end of the story. You will feel so seen through her story and vulnerability.
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Sarah’s New Book, Well Said
Sarah’s website, Modern Farmhouse Family
Sarah’s viral gender reveal
“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” —Philippians 4:11
At one point, John D. Rockefeller was the world’s richest man and the first billionaire in America. When a reporter asked him how much money is enough, he responded, “Just a little bit more.”
“A little bit more” is our culture’s mantra. And it’s not just limited to more money. We want more friends, more toys, more accolades, more popularity, more recognition, more respect, more security (and on and on and on).
At the end of the day, contentment isn’t about our possessions, it’s about our heart. So often we think we’re discontent because of our job or bank account, but really our discontentment is a struggle with God’s measure of provision for our lives.
In Philippians, Paul writes about being content whatever the circumstances. In doing so, he gives us a significant hint as to how contentment works: it’s learned. It’s consistently taking ourselves back to the cross, knowing that only through the lens of the gospel can we move from grumbling about what we don’t have to gratitude for what we do have but don’t deserve.
Let’s pray that our kids can grasp the gift of contentment in a culture of “a little bit more,” allowing them to fully appreciate God’s provision in their own life while celebrating what he’s doing in the lives of others.
Lord, help my kids to live marked by contentment. Teach them to value people over possessions, appreciating that all their needs are already met in you. Reveal the greed, entitlement, and idolatry that leads to being discontent, and bring [name] back to a posture of gratitude no matter their circumstances.
God’s word speaks: 1 Timothy 6:6–8; Matthew 6:31–33; Hebrews 13:5; Psalm 37:4
It’s not everyday we learn from the Department Chair and Professor of Pastoral Ministries at Dallas Theological Seminary. You will love hearing his wisdom and encouragement for us everyday folks as we live in a world of many “influencers.”
Influencing is not bad. Our world has just fallen off course in how we go about leading others. And some of the way we do it - is often fake and inauthentic. Jonathan reminds us that influencing was God’s idea way before the Kardashians owned it. Influencing is so much more than social media. He shares about the way Barnabus encouraged and influenced others and what we can learn from his inspiring example
About halfway through, I was holding back the tears as he talked about the calling of motherhood and the unseen, thankless days we often live. We all need those reminders as parents. I am thrilled for you to remember you can live out your kingdom purpose in the midst of everyday life. We have opportunities to influence all around us.
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“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” —Jeremiah 1:5
In a world saturated by social media, it can feel like an uphill battle raising kids who are confident in who Jesus says they are, not in who the world professes they are. Our culture critiques us based on looks, talents, failures, and accomplishments. Thankfully, the Bible gives the real story of our identity, reminding us that we are:
When our kids are marked by their true identity in Christ, they can live free from the exhausting cycle of trying to please others in order to gain approval. Only in the wake of this freedom can they chase after the person Jesus created them to be, not who our culture wants them to be.
Pray for our children to know that they are valuable, loved, seen, chosen, and good enough—not because of who they are, but because of whose they are.
Carefully, meticulously, intentionally—that’s how you created every single one of your children. You made no mistakes in the creation process, and you knitted us together in the direct image of yourself. Lord, remind [name] that you alone assign value and that their value is secure and unchanging.
God’s word speaks: Ephesians 2:10; Jeremiah 31:3; John 15:16; Romans 8:1
This one was difficult to title, because it is PACKED with wisdom and practical ideas. We cover topics from empty nesting years, to codependency issues with moms and kids, to living with no regrets, to practical ideas around traditions and celebrations. Krista is an author, speaker, life coach and podcaster that feels like your best friend. You will hear her tenderness as she relates to all of us as moms and the real challenges we face. You will also hear her wisdom and encouragement to keep growing as a woman and mom.
I love how she encourages those with empty nests to be okay with two opposing feelings - joy and sorrow. And how she is coping with watching her kids launch into the world. My absolute favorite part is the last 10 minutes. Moms of younger kids - you will LOVE her ideas for traditions and celebrations. Find out what her “my night” tradition is - and why her kids remember that as a highlight.
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Krista’s Freebies - Celebrations & Traditions
CoDependent No More by Melody Beattie
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” —Isaiah 41:10 ESV
God is not surprised when we are fearful. In fact, the Bible is packed full of Scripture reminding us that we don’t need to fear anything because God’s love and protection are perfect.
When we choose to follow God, it’s not signing up for the easy road. We will face challenging times over and over again, and the choice will be ours: Are we going to choose faith in God or surrender to fear in the face of uncertainty?
Let’s help our kids pick faith over fear remembering these things:
In John 16:33, Jesus very plainly offers that in this world there will be trouble. But, in Christ, we need not fear, for he has overcome the world. In other words: let’s remind our kids to be courageous, knowing that no matter what they face, Jesus has already beaten it!
God’s word speaks: Joshua 1:9; Psalm 34:4; 2 Timothy 1:7; Psalm 27:1
I’m grateful for: ____
I’m praying for: _____
Lord, remind us that you are the author and creator over all things. You control the rising of the sun, the orbiting of the galaxies, and each and every star in the sky is placed there by you. Teach [name] to trust you in the difficulties each day. Replace fear with faith, knowing you have power over all things.
You guys LOVED the Empty Nester Wisdom series - so we’ve got another one to add to that list. This time, it’s a couple I LOVE and adore. My former pastor and my mentor - they just happen to be married. The Hendersons have encouraged my life and helped guide me through some of the biggest decisions in my life, and I don’t say that lightly. They are often my first call when making a choice that would impact my family.
In this episode, we discuss their current life stage as empty nesters and their advice for other couples. We also chat about “what to do next” - how to make tough decisions as a united couple. And even, when to involve kids?
My favorite part is how they reflect on the things they prioritized as a family and why. They are both so super intentional and it has truly impacted the way I engage with my own kids.
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What to Do Next, Jeff’s latest book
Know What You’re For by Jeff Henderson
Spoiler alert: these two are as normal as all of us. They are raising kids in the midst of a tough world and chaos at home - they just happen to minister to a worldwide audience. There is an authentic faith in both of them that is so refreshing. You will see why so many of us have been blessed by Chris’s songs throughout many years.
I have so many favorite parts from this conversation. I get to catch up with my long time friend, Lauren. Together, they share such wise and practical parenting tips for us, and then we end with a story from Chris - how one man blessed him with a prayer (that he would write songs that the world would sing). It’s truly unreal that the exact words he spoke came to life. It’s a powerful reminder for us to speak what God is telling us about the people in our paths. It could bring millions to the Lord.
Lastly, be sure to listen to Lauren’s simple yet profound routine to pray with her girls as they head to school. She asks God to speak to them about how much he loves them every day. Her desire is to teach them to hear how God speaks personally to them.
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“The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” —1 Samuel 16:7
If we want our kids to grow in wisdom, stature, and favor like Jesus, how should we pray when it comes to stature? Merriam-Webster’s definition of stature speaks both to physical height as well as status or reputation; both are key areas we can pray over our kids.
Praying for physical growth is praying that our kids remain healthy and develop into adults who can best accomplish God’s plans for them. It’s remembering that our bodies are God’s temple, so we are called to care for them with the same concern and reverence we would show the physical church. It's praying over our kids’ physical relationships, their decisions related to alcohol and drugs, their health, and praying over everything that impacts their bodies.
Along with physical growth, stature includes praying over our kids’ reputations. Our reputation has the power to lead people to Christ or, if not done well, ruin our witness. It’s what the world looks at to see if we practice what we preach. Knowing that we’re called to live a life worthy of the gospel, let’s pray that our kids grow a reputation consistent with their faith.
Lord, we know you’re more concerned with our heart than our physical appearance, so cultivate in [name]a heart that’s marked by their faith in you. Guide each of my children to make decisions with both their body and reputation that honors you.
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True confession: I was absolutely nervous on this one because I am such a fan of Korie and Willie Robertson. My admiration isn’t because they are famous - it’s because of the way they handle that fame. From afar, they feel so real and genuine and committed to honoring God with all they have and do. They were absolutely genuine and so much more!
In this episode, we talk about their parenting advice for all of us. We talk about kids having free will and how to handle when they make poor choices. They really encouraged me to think about the “why” behind the rules we enforce in our homes.
My favorite part is when we talk about their new movie, THE BLIND, that is coming to theaters on September 28. Long before Willie’s dad, Phil Robertson, became a reality TV star, he fell in love with Miss Kay and started a family. However, his demons threatened to tear their lives apart. THE BLIND shares never-before-revealed moments in Phil’s life as he seeks to conquer the shame of his past, ultimately finding redemption in an unlikely place.
It was so inspiring to talk through their desire for the film and why it was important to tell their family story. THE BLIND is a story of redemption which will encourage so many people in their own journeys to find hope.
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Raise your hands if you have goals? And sometimes, way too many goals? Me too! I have MANY goals and accomplish very few of them. It can be super frustrating to keep missing the mark on your personal and professional goals in the season of raising kids. Jon Acuff to the rescue! I was so delighted to interview a New York Times bestselling author and INC Top 100 Leadership Speaker about the idea of goals.
I have always been drawn to the way Jon communicates in the business space and we can learn so much from him as parents. He has the ability to make complicated topics simple. In this episode, he will motivate you to make progress in life - while giving yourself grace. He really encouraged me to realize that the distractions and busyness of our lives are stacked against us, but there is hope and ways we can combat this reality.
My favorite part is when we discuss my pattern of quitting things. He gave me such great counsel on how to go after my goals in a realistic and healthy way. You’ll also get a laugh out of the moment he realized his kids dropped a nap. He was furious. I can remember that moment myself.
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Parents, you will love listening to this episode together. Monica doesn’t just encourage moms - but brings an important message to dads as well. Although we definitely discussed parenting boys (because she has 4 of them), we also cover topics that all parents can appreciate.
From sibling relationships to their faith to their hobbies - Monica is so practical yet wise. She has a passion for how we can help draw out the amazing potential that each child was born with. Each child was created by one amazing Creator and we get to help influence their lives. It's a refreshing approach that you’ll enjoy.
Be sure to listen in for YOUR questions! Many of you submitted specific questions on Instagram and she answered so many of them with great advice.
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Calling all moms of girls, high school girls, college girls and young adult girls - trust me when I say “PRESS PLAY” and “SHARE!” I was blown away by this 27-year-old young woman who simply gets it. She is so honest, hilarious, inspiring and challenging. Your girls need to hear her story and how God has used her.
From being bullied to battling an eating disorder to partying in college - God drew her back to himself and has exploded her influence in the most beautiful way.
I have heard about Grace from multiple college kids and now I completely understand why so many of our girls are hanging on her words. She shares truth and wisdom and she’s incredibly relatable.
You will LOVE her!
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If you look next to “DeFeo family” in the dictionary - you will not find words like “grit” or “adversity” next to us. Although all families endure some really hard things, we are generally not actively looking for opportunities to experience hardship.
My time with Mike Erwin was fascinating. He really opened my eyes to all the ways we can introduce adversity to our kids and why “comfort” is a really dangerous pursuit as American families.
Mike Erwin is a husband and father living on a 32-acre farm. He is also one of our nation’s heroes - he served as a lead intelligence planner for one of the largest NATO-led combat operations in history and earned two Bronze Star Medals from his tours. You can understand why he is an expert in the subject of adversity - but he’s also a dad raising little ones just like us!
My favorite part is when he encourages us to let our kids struggle. He explains how this can bring incredible confidence that our kids won’t learn any other way.
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As I hung up with Cynt Marshall, CEO of the Dallas Mavericks, I had this urge to cry. The conversation was so touching and inspiring. I really wish every company out there was run by this woman. We talk about everything from faith to parenting to basketball and her great glasses.
You will fall in love with her during this episode, too. My favorite part is at the end when she gives practical advice to us as parents. She reminds us that it truly takes a village. That we should never try to go this road alone and forget to ask for help. I know you will enjoy her humor, her authenticity and her passion for people. We can learn from her in our role as parents and leaders within our workspace.
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Jamie Winship is quite possibly the most interesting and fascinating person I’ve ever interviewed. From his career in law enforcement to his work in the CIA to raising his kids in some of the most dangerous cities in the world - he has seen evil in a way most of us will never understand. He’s also seen God at work in profound ways. Jamie will share stories that will expand your faith and also make you shake your head in awe.
In the beginning of the episode, Jamie shares about learning to hear God’s voice and how it impacted his work in miraculous ways. My favorite part of the episode is when he shares specifically about finding our own identity and how we can help our kids learn to find their identity as well. And do not miss the story of when God used a skateboard and his son living in Baghdad to share the glory of God.
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Have you ever wished you had a mentor or life coach? Sharon Mankin is a mentor to many and one of the most incredible coaches I’ve ever been around. She is dedicated to her beautiful family including her precious grandkids.
Sharon is a speaker, coach, and mentor from the DFW area. When she isn’t loving on her people, she is helping others learn how to lead themselves and lead others well. I treasure her wisdom and you will treasure each moment of this conversation. You’ll feel seen and encouraged through her words as she helps us think through everything from best stain remover, to family vision statements, and everything in between.
If you missed the first two “Empty Nester Wisdom” episodes, head on back and enjoy the wisdom with Kristen Hatton and Jennifer Scott.
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When I was a young mom (yes, before social media took off) - I LOVED reading blogs. They made me feel seen, understood and more normal in my parenting journey. I have followed Jennifer Scott and her blog for almost 15 years. And every time she shares something, I read it and re-read it and try to absorb her wisdom. You are going to LOVE her heart for her kids, her vulnerability on where she’s still growing and her obvious relationship with Jesus that oozes out of her heart. You will feel like you grabbed coffee with a best friend and mentor.
Be sure to make it to the end, we discuss her “adulting” list. It’s such a fantastic checklist of things we can be practically teaching our kids before they leave our nest.
Be sure to listen back to Part 1 of our Empty Nester Wisdom series with Kristen Hatton and stay tuned for Part 3 with Sharon Mankin.
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The Christian Parenting 2023–2024 prayer journal is now available! Marked by Prayer is a weekly journal that includes a short devotional around a topic, space for you to journal what you’re grateful for and what you’re praying over your children, and a sample guided prayer.
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
So many of us parents are fearful about the “teen years”, but are so hungry for advice. That’s exactly why I had Kristen on today to give us encouragement around this topic. We want to prepare and be intentional without taking control of our kids’ entire story. You will love her practical tips while feeling a major sense of peace that God has got it!
Be sure to get to the end and enjoy my favorite part. Kristen opens up honestly with her struggle with perfection and how it impacted her daughter. She explains the power of transparency and embracing mistakes. She reminds us that we ALL need Jesus - not just our kids. The more we can show that to them - the more that faith and trust will take hold.
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Kristen’s website
Kristen’s new book, Parenting Ahead
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Get ready for an episode today with the Executive Director of Christian Parenting, Steph Thurling. I got to know Steph pretty well throughout my entire journey of becoming the new host of Pardon The Mess, and I can totally see why she is in a leadership position at this organization. She’s not just highly capable - she has a massive heart for parents to help raise kids that know and love God. That seems overwhelming at times, and she gets it.
In this episode, we go stage by stage (toddler years to teens) and chat about practical ways to introduce Jesus and your faith to your kids. You will love her insight and her realistic approach. She also shares her heart for prayer and how that can practically work in your home.
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Resources from today’s show:
Connect with Steph Thurling on Instagram
Steph’s ministry, Raising Prayerful Kids
Steph’s book, Raising Prayerful Kids
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
I have long admired and respected the work of author and speaker, Jennifer Dukes Lee. It was such a treat to meet Jennifer during this interview and ask her all about the idea of “journaling.” In this episode, we discuss the benefits of being honest with God, how to encourage your kids to journal, and how to look back and assess our lives in a way that brings healing and hope.
My favorite part of the episode is when she shares how difficult it can be to be vulnerable before God. She recognized the difficulty while encouraging us to work through that to experience God in a more special way.
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Resources from today’s show:
Connect with Jennifer on Instagram
Jennifer’s website
Jennifer’s new book, Stuff I’d Only Tell God
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This week Jeannie Cunnion and I talk about how often we try to parent in our own strength. We discuss how our relationship with the Holy Spirit can change the game of parenting and why this idea feels super spiritual or super strange.
Jeannie encourages us to access this unbelievable power and learn how to recognize God’s voice in this way. We can feel like we have to earn this level of faith, but Jeannie reminds us how available the Holy Spirit is - and challenges us to lean in and be active in this relationship. From that place, we can know that we are parenting in God’s strength not our own.
We also have some fun comparing her boy world (mother of 5 boys) versus my girl world. She’s basically a frat mom.
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Connect with Courtney DeFeo
Resources from today’s show:
Learn more about Jeannie Cunnion
Her most recent study, Never Alone
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
It’s not every day we get to hear from an NFL football player and his wife about raising 7 children - while trying to honor God, stay married AND do ministry together. Kirsten and Benjamin are the Directors of the NFL for Pro Athletes Outreach. In addition to this important work, they also spend time equipping and encouraging families through speaking and writing.
You will enjoy hearing these UGA Bulldogs (both former college athletes) chat a little about football, and we get to hear Kirsten affirm Benjamin ahead of this Father’s Day weekend.
My favorite part of the episode is when they discuss the non-negotiables in their family. It gives a framework for intentional parenting and how to get ahead of it all with a plan. It also encourages us to be on the same page with our spouses as we encounter the tough moments of parenting.
Enjoy!
Courtney DeFeo
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Resources from today’s show:
Connect with The Watsons
Benjamin’s New Book - New Fight For Life
Kirsten’s Book - Sis Take a Breath
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This week, we get to hear from one of my all-time favorite moms and leaders - Elisabeth Hasselbeck. She has worn many hats over the years - from Survivor contestant to co-host of The View to shoe designer to carpool mom and NFL wife and now author and speaker.
In this episode, we get into specifics around how to trust God. And how to teach our kids to trust God in prayer even when he feels silent or absent. This idea can be really tough because we often don’t get the answer we hope for in the big and small moments of life, and yet we want our kids to remain faithful in that disappointment.
We also discuss the idea of “contenting” - an idea God is stirring in Elisabeth for us to learn how to be stretched and be content in the midst of life’s struggles. As moms, it’s so easy to compare left and right and lose sight that God is at work even in the stretching and growing phases of motherhood.
Enjoy!
Courtney DeFeo
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Resources from today’s show:
Connect with Elisabeth
Her latest book - Flashlight Night
More on “Contenting”
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This week, Sissy Goff and David Thomas with Daystar Counseling are here! Each of them have been counseling kids for over 30 years. I cannot think of two individuals that have impacted my parenting in a more practical and profound way.
In this episode, we talk about a few of the challenges with raising our kids in a scary and sometimes dark time. From anxiety to school shootings - we’ve never felt more anxious or ill-equipped to raise children.
David shares some encouragement and tips on raising an emotionally strong boy. Sissy shares about her upcoming book to help anxious parents raise kids in the midst of our own self work. She notes that women and girls lead the statistics in anxiety.
There are also some tender moments where they both reflect back on the most horrendous time in their own Nashville community. You will be encouraged to hear more stories of God working in and around Covenant School. I know so many are grateful for the work Daystar did to step up, comfort and care for so many families (locally and nationwide).
Quotes:
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglas
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me: ‘Look for the helpers.’ You will always find people who are helping.” - Fred Rogers
Enjoy!
Courtney DeFeo
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Connect with Courtney DeFeo
Resources from today’s show:
The Worry Free Parent- Pre- Order!
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This week is a big week for Pardon the Mess! If you missed last week’s show, go back and hear the announcement about our new host, Courtney DeFeo. In this episode, Courtney and Cynthia talk about how this decision unfolded and the challenges of obeying God even when it’s messy and unclear.
Our show today is a super-fun conversation with Cynthia and Courtney giving a deep dive into these exciting changes. Join in as Courtney interviews Cynthia about her favorite Pardon the Mess moments. You can also hear the who, when, where, what, and why behind Cynthia’s move to a new podcast.
We are beyond excited about what’s to come! This summer is going to be packed with more great interviews about parenting in the midst of our messy lives. We will continue to laugh together and possibly cry together as we pursue our relationship with God during all of life’s challenges.
We did it!
We’ve made it to last week of our 2022-2023 prayer journal and praying our kids through the school year. 🙌🏼
I can’t think of a better way to wrap things up than to pray for our kids to walk with God. Today we’re talking very practically about ways to do that, and how the Psalms give a roadmap for weathering the ups and downs of our everyday faith.
On a personal note, I want to thank each of you for joining me each Monday this year (and the last several years) to pray. It’s been an amazing journey and hearing the ways the Lord is moving in your families has forever marked me.
I also want to let you know that after May, I will no longer be hosting Pardon the Mess. My dear friend, Courtney DeFeo, will be the new host and you’re going to LOVE her. I can promise you that 100%.
In the last two episodes, we’re sharing more details about Courtney, what’s to come on Pardon the Mess so definitely tune in.
I’m so grateful for each of you. Great days to come!
In this with you,
Cynthia Yanof
Today is a big day for Pardon the Mess! We’ve got an announcement that we’re so excited to share with you. At the end of May, Cynthia will be leaving Pardon the Mess and passing the mic to our dear friend Courtney DeFeo. Courtney is a wife, mom, author, speaker, and 100% the authentic and hilariously real friend we all need.
Our show today is a super-fun conversation with Cynthia and Courtney giving a deep dive into these exciting changes at Pardon the Mess. You will get to know (and love) Courtney DeFeo as well as hear the who, when, where, what, and why behind Cynthia’s move.
These next two weeks will be a big celebration of where we’ve been and where we’re heading towards on Pardon the Mess. And above all, we want to be sure YOU have all the scoop on the amazing things coming your way.
Continue to connect with Cynthia Yanof here:
MESSmerized Podcast
Resources from today's show:
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Having an inaccurate view of who we are to God is one of the enemy’s greatest weapons for keeping us discouraged, defeated, and ineffective for Kingdom purposes.
Today we’re praying for our kids to have the heart knowledge (not just head knowledge) of who they are in Christ. We’re praying they understand at the deepest levels how they were designed perfectly in the image of God and nothing can change his great love for him.
Join me in praying Psalm 139 over our kids and ask the Lord to shelter our families from anyone and anything that calls our value and significance into question.
Can’t wait to pray with you!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Emily Ley is always such a delight and today is no exception. She’s a master planner and creator with a knack for organization within the boundaries of real life. It was so fun to get a peek into her morning routine and a few ideas for keeping ourselves sane in the upcoming summer months.
I especially loved her words on being comfortable with who we are, while also being comfortable with who we are not. And reminders that taking care of ourselves matters, and we have permission to set routines that work for us and then stick to them.
Her new devotional is 🔥and a great way to start our days off right.
Can’t wait for you to hear from sweet Emily.
Resources from today's show:
Sure as the Sunrise devotional
All things related to Emily’s products and podcast can be found here!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
“Faith thrives in holy discomfort. The greatest moments in life can often result from some of the most uncomfortable decisions being made. Nothing worth having comes without a cost.” - Louie Giglio
This is one of my favorite quotes and it speaks perfectly to life in the middle of the struggle. Sometimes perspective is the key to handling life’s biggest struggles and knowing that God always controls the larger picture.
This week we’re praying for our kids to know God is compassionate towards them, fully aware they are doing life without him physically present in a world with real struggles. Let’s ask the Lord to remind them that some of our greatest God-given opportunities arise from the ashes of our hardest struggles.
Can’t wait to pray with you!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Lisa Whittle is joining us today and she’s an amazing speaker, podcaster, and author. We’re talking about the chasm between our head knowledge and our heart knowledge and how only God fills that gap. He knows our every worry, anxiety, and daily routine. Why does this matter? Because he loves us and so desperately wants to use us for His glory.
Lisa also cautions us to watch out for things that mimic the real experience of God, and very practically gives us pointers on figuring out the difference in dreams versus goals for our lives.
Heck, we even talk about our tendency to want to “payback” those who hurt us . . . and who doesn’t need a good word on that.
So glad you’re with us today.
Resources from today's show:
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Life gives us lots of good days while also throwing in some bad ones along the way too. As adults we know life is hard on this side of heaven, and knowing where to turn in our hardest moments is critically important.
This week we’re praying for our kids to know what David knew in Psalm 13—trusting God means trusting Him even on the hard days.
As parents our knee-jerk reaction is to try and eliminate the source of our kids’ pain. But so often that same hard place is the greatest opportunity for them to know that Jesus is their only hope. Join me in praying this week that our kids turn to God instead of drugs, self-harm, or anything short of God’s best when they are facing hard times.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
I recently attended the IF: Gathering and had the privilege of worshiping through music with the amazing Christy Nockels. I’ve always been a huge fan of her music, but in recent days I’m an even bigger fan of her heart for the Lord.
Today is super fun because we get a glimpse into the creative process behind her latest album, This is the Hour. She talks about coming to a place of complete exhaustion and how the Lord spoke rest into her life. We even have a super honest discussion about yelling at God when it feels as if life has become too much.
I can’t wait for you to hear this amazing conversation because I know you’re going to love Christy as much as I do!
Resources from today's show:
Sometimes, the worst advice comes from the most well-intentioned people in our lives. I don’t know about you, but I’ve definitely given and received lots of bad advice over the years.
Today we’re considering King David’s model for giving advice, which is simply pointing people to the Lord through our words and actions. In Psalm 31, David advises that in life’s very hardest places we are to love the Lord and put our hope and trust in him. Plain and simple.
Let’s pray this week that we learn to use discretion in whom we allow to speak into our own lives and the lives of our families. Let’s also pray that our kids only take advice from those who have prayed about it, searched Scripture, and ultimately point them back to Jesus. Talk less, pray more. Seems like the next right step.
Can’t wait to be with you this week!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Many of us are at the stage of caring for our aging parents. If you are not, it’s probably headed your way in the not too distant years. Undoubtedly it can be a hard topic, but loving our aging parents is a really important one we’re tackling today.
Sarah Smith joins us today to share her journey of caring for her mom who was diagnosed with early onset Alzhemiers. Sarah is honest about the challenges they have faced on this road, but also encourages us to draw closer to the Lord and trust him every step of the way.
Here’s a few of the topics we cover on today’s show:
Being realistic in expectations
Overcoming guilt when considering healthcare facilities
Supporting our friends who are caring for their parents
Allowing the Holy Spirit to guide us in patience and love
Don’t miss this important conversation with Sarah Smith.
Resources from today's show:
Over and over again we’re called to live differently as followers of Jesus. The way we defend ourselves is one example of living counter culturally and exactly what we’re praying for this week. When we are wronged the world returns the favor with equal vengeance. But the reality is that real justice only comes from the Lord, and we’re called to wait on him who is faithful, upright, and just. (Deuteronomy 32:4).
Join me in praying this week for our families in all the places where we are tempted to defend ourselves. Let’s be reminded that the Lord is looking for opportunities to be gracious to us, and only in him will we find true rest and strength from the enemies we face.
Can’t wait to pray with you this week!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
If there were a contest for great names of podcasts and books, Heather MacFadyen of “Don’t Mom Alone” just might win. Heather is my dear friend and is joining us today to talk about an incredibly important topic: Occupying your God-given space. She’s written an amazing new book on this topic, and we get to hear her heart behind it first-hand today.
This conversation is so practical when we’re wondering how to figure out where God has assigned us to work for him, and how to get past self-doubt and the dreaded imposter syndrome. (Been there, done that.)
I also LOVE her advice on hearing from God and discerning if our plans and dreams are from God or from ourselves. You guys, please go listen—because we can’t afford to spend even one more day questioning if we’re being faithful in the place God has entrusted us and our families.
Resources from today's show:
Right Where You Belong by Heather MacFayden
Every Parent Wants To Know Christian Parenting Event
Imagine a world in which we decide today to trust God with everything we have and from this moment forward we live in His peace and confidence because of that decision. It’s truly hard to imagine, right?
Instead, I’ve found that trusting God is a lifelong process of reminding ourselves how God is good and why he’s trustworthy. It’s going back to biblical truth that he’s our strength and our shield (Psalm 28:7), our hope and our future (Jeremiah 29:11), and working all things for good (Romans 8:28).
I’m guessing our anxiety and stress levels would look a whole lot better if we could fully embrace these promises of scripture.
Today we’re praying for our kids to learn to trust God just as David does in Psalm 3. We’re praying they know that God is their sole sustainer whether they are facing an army of enemies or simply a future of uncertainties. Why? Because God is trust worthy. He really is.
Let’s pray over that today.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Who read Kisses from Katie all those years ago and was blown away by a teenage girl who left her affluent life in the US to move to Uganda? That was the beginning of an amazing journey for Katie Davis Majors, who was also busy fostering and adopting 13 kids by the time she was 23. Talk about refusing to play it safe in life!
Today Katie is with us, and we’re talking about her new book, Safe All Along. She shares how the Lord called her to Uganda all those years ago, and then just recently called her back to the U.S. (and the anxiety and pain of leaving her home in Uganda that has accompanied this move).
Please take my word for it—you do not want to miss today’s conversation. Katie’s encouragement to let our kids chase after God’s plans for their lives is amazing, including her dad’s story of hearing from God in the early days as she was preparing to leave for Uganda.
I’m so thankful for Katie’s faithfulness to the Lord and how it has encouraged me and my family. I know you will feel the same way!
Resources from today's show:
Safe All Along by Katie Davis Majors
Every Parent Wants To Know Christian Parenting Event
I read a study recently that indicates our life expectancy is 79.3 years. When you’re young that number feels like an eternity as you consider the long road of life you have in front of you. And as you age, well, you realize how fleeting time really is and how important it is to make your days count.
This week we’re praying for our kids to live with urgency in their lives and number their days well. This happens when we realize that God is with us and for us so we have the freedom to live big, take risks, and make each day count.
Let’s ask the Lord to help our kids grasp the significance of every day—a day they were not promised—and use these days to follow the Lord, live by his Word, and pursue the things of eternity.
Can’t wait to pray with you!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
What is that “thing” you know deep down you’re called to do?
What phone call are you supposed to make? What book does your heart want to write? What is the nagging feeling you’re pushing down even knowing God is calling you to step out a little further in faith?
Rebecca George is with us today to talk about this exact subject. We’re talking about doing the very things God created us to do and addressing our hang-ups that keep us from going full-force after it. It’s such an important topic, and I’m grateful Rebecca has some practical advice for identifying your giftings and figuring out how they line up with God’s kingdom.
The world can be so hard right now, and those around us need hope. We can’t afford to shrink back and not do the things we’re empowered to do simply because we’re too busy, too afraid, or too insecure.
Don’t miss this great conversation, and start praying now that the Lord will tell you what “thing” he has for you to do. I’m praying over it for you!
Resources from today's show:
Do the Thing by Rebecca George
Every Parent Wants To Know Christian Parenting Event
If you’re anything like me, the word “influencer” tends to leave a bad taste in your mouth. In this day and age of social media born superstars, it’s easy to discount our influence and feel like we can’t change lives because we don’t have the right platform, title, or following.
But this week we’re taking a deep dive into this idea of influence and praying for our kids to realize that no matter who they are or how they spend their days, they have the opportunity to be a difference-maker for the kingdom.
In a world that thrives on self-promotion and living in excess, let’s lay down those things and pray for ways our families can raise up others. Luke reminds us that “to whom much is given, much will be required” (Luke 12:48). Let’s use what we have well and point others to Jesus.
Can’t wait to pray with you!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
The people have spoken.
Pastor Steve Frissell joined us last September for the very first time and you guys loved him so much that I begged him to come back again today! If you missed his first appearance, go back and listen because I promise it will reshape your thoughts on teens and dating relationships.
Today Pastor Steve is joining me to talk about our marriages and why it’s necessary to put in the hard and necessary work to love our spouses well. We talk about the importance of finding contentment in Jesus so that we aren’t asking our spouse to fill voids that only the Lord can fill, as well as practical ways to reconnect in our marriages.
Don’t miss this important conversation — your spouse will thank you! 💖
Resources from today's show:
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Raise your hand if you’re overwhelmed in some area of your life.
My fairly unscientific poll indicates that 9 out of 10 of us raised our hands. (And I’m guessing the rest of you thought the question was rhetorical. 😂)
If you’re anything like me, it’s easy to be overwhelmed by finances, family issues, parenting, and everything in between. The stress and anxiety that comes with being overwhelmed is not how God intended for us (or our kids) to live.
My sweet friend Kay Wyma joins us today with reminders of the many names of Jesus and how they speak to our deepest needs. We consider Psalm 55 and David’s advice to “cast” our cares to Jesus. Not just hold on to the problem and pray, or half-heartedly toss it aside but still worry about it all week. No, David says to literally throw our hardest places towards God and then wait for him to faithfully respond. And so that’s what we are praying for in our own lives and for our kids.
It’s always a great day when Kay Wyma is with us so take a few minutes and join us!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Almost weekly I’m asked about resources to help our teens grow in their faith. As much as I love the teenage years and all the crazy antics, I know these are also the years where time seems to be slipping away and our last ditch efforts of getting more Jesus into them kicks into overdrive. Or maybe that’s just me. 🤪
Laura Smith is joining us today to talk about our teens and everything from counseling, communication, and pointing them to Jesus very practically. She’s also written a new devotional that’s a great resource if you’re looking for ways to encourage your kids to spend time with the Lord each day.
Laura is a mom as well as a sought-after speaker and author. I’m thrilled to have her sharing a sweet word to those of us in the throes of raising teens (or kids who will be teens before we know what hit us).
Can’t wait for you to hear this conversation.
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
When you hear the word joy, what comes to your mind?
I’m guessing your answer is more profound than mine since I instantly start humming that old VBS song “I’ve got the joy, joy, joy, joy, down in my heart. Where?”
Anyone else with me?
This week we’re praying for our kids to experience joy in their lives. It seems especially important when considering how deeply our kids’ generation struggles with anxiety and depression.
One of my favorite verses is Psalm 30:5 that says, “Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.” What a wonderful reminder that no matter what we’re facing in this season, there is still joy to be found on the other side of it.
Let’s take a few minutes today to consider how thankfulness, hope in Jesus, and even walking through places of suffering are pivotal to joy in our kids’ lives.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Mark Batterson is back, and I’m slightly giddy.
You know how much I love his books, and when I tell you this conversation brought me new life . . . well, it’s true. I have a notecard on my desk at this very moment with some of my favorite quotes from today’s conversation titled “Batterson bullet points.”
Pastor Mark reminds us that if God can do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20), we’re actually honoring him by praying bold prayers and trusting in faith for his answer. You’re going to love hearing how God has been answering the bold prayers of his church, which most recently has included buying property on Capitol Hill he only dreamed of years ago.
Lastly, Pastor Mark shares the three words he believes are the greatest predictors of our success in life: please, sorry, and thanks. He’s so sure of the significance of these words that he wrote an entire book on their importance. Lots of practical life and parenting advice you won’t want to miss today.
Resources from today's show:
Please, Sorry, Thanks: The Three Words That Change Everything by Mark Batterson
The Best Worst Day Ever by Mark and Summer Batterson
Every Parent Wants to Know: A Christian Parenting Digital Event
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
As I think back to even my youngest years, I can pinpoint the friendships that have impacted my life. I’ve been blessed with solid, faithful friends who have prayed for me and loved me even when I’ve been somewhat unloveable. And then there have been other friendships that have been more difficult and left me with bumps and bruises along the way.
Our friendships are important because God created us with a deep need for connection. It’s in those very connections where we are so often drawn closer to Him and better equipped to walk the hard places we will inevitably face.
So this week we’re praying over friendships in our own lives as well as the lives of our kids.
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It seems appropriate in talking about friendships that I have one of my very dearest friends, Brandie Rodgers, joining us today. As long as I’ve known her (and it’s been many, many years), she’s been praying over her family’s friendships, and the Lord has faithfully provided.
Let’s take a moment today to consider the friendships our kids need and ask the Lord to provide them. And, of course, let’s also ask the Lord to teach our kids how to be good friends to others by showing kindness, loyalty, compassion, and respect.
Friendship is a big one—let’s pray it together!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Body image is a topic that has major implications in our lives, yet we tend to avoid talking about it because it’s so personal and oftentimes sensitive.
I’m so thankful my friend Rachael Gilbert is bravely speaking into these body image issues through her new book, Image Restored. She addresses our most common body image pitfalls and, as a licensed counselor and mom, comes at it both professionally and practically.
Here’s a few of the topics we cover:
Signs we’re dealing with body image concerns that need addressing
Core beliefs impacting our body image
Ways to reframe our body image biblically
Current health trends that are red flags for healthy body image
Parenting healthy body image with our kids
I hope you’ll take a few minutes to listen to this important conversation today. I also pray each of us will ask the Lord to reveal the places in our lives where we need to reframe our attitudes towards our bodies, not only for our own benefit but also for our families.
Resources from today's show:
Image Restored by Rachael Gilbert
Every Parent Wants to Know: A Christian Parenting Digital Event
When I Talk to God, I Talk about You
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
On any given day there’s a million things we could potentially tell our kids to do or not do. Some of those things are routine like do your best work or don’t touch your brother. But then there’s the things that one day come spilling out of your mouth that nobody ever warned you about. Like “you have to wear underwear to ride your bike.”
True story, sadly. 😂
Today we’re reading Psalm 37 and a few of King David’s “dos” and “don’ts” for biblical living. There’s great application as we pray for our kids to do the things that point them to Jesus and let go of the things that don’t.
If you’re looking for biblical life hacks, this week’s prayer time is just what you need!
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Beth Moore is joining us today and, simply put, you just can’t miss it! I’ve admired her powerful voice in God’s Kingdom for many years and, like many of you, have learned so much from her Bible studies, books, and conferences.
I teamed up with Steph Thurling from the Christian Parenting Podcast to chat with Beth about her new memoir, All my Knotted-up Life. This book is a vulnerable and authentic offering of Beth’s hardest places in life and how God has been faithful through it all.
I think my favorite part of our conversation was hearing Beth’s routine each morning in meeting with Jesus. Not to mention she has a great word on dealing with church hurts and why we keep going back even when it feels easier to walk away.
With 100% certainty I can say you’re going to love this conversation.
Resources from today's show:
All My Knotted-Up Life: A Memoir by Beth Moore
When I Talk to God, I Talk about You
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
How do you measure your value?
If you’re anything like me, you’ve measured it by the square footage of your house, the size of your bank account, the number on the scale, and the accolades of your kids. Yet none of these things tell the real story of who we are to Jesus—and that’s why measuring up gets us in trouble.
Today we’re praying for our kids as they struggle with this same temptation of comparison. Growing up in a day and age inundated with social media, it’s hard not to weigh looks, grades, athleticism, and talents against those around them. So we’re focused this week on praying for our kids to look to Jesus and not the world for value and identity.
As we pray through Psalm 84, I encourage you to really consider verse 10. Take a few minutes to read this Psalm and get a jump on where we’re headed in praying for our kids.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
If you haven’t heard of Risen Motherhood, today is going to be a great day for you!
Laura Wifler is an author, podcaster, mother, and the co-founder of the amazing parenting resource, Risen Motherhood. She’s back on Pardon the Mess today helping us bridge the gap between the faith we pursue on Sunday mornings and the real-life parenting we face on Mondays. Said differently, she speaks into ways we can practically bring the Lord into all facets of our parenting.
Laura is also a mother to a child with disabilities and she encourages us to have meaningful conversations with our kids about disability, empathy, compassion, and God’s overflowing love for everyone. Her practical advice on helping our friends walk these roads well is important and something you don’t want to miss.
Can’t wait for you to hear this great conversation with Laura Wifler.
Resources from today's show:
Like Me by Laura Wifler
When I Talk to God, I Talk about You
My youngest son, JB, is home from school today because I thought he was coming down with the same cold I’ve been struggling with all week. We kicked-off his “sick day” with a precautionary dose of Ibuprofen and breakfast in bed. By 8:10 a.m. I realized I had made a grave mistake in keeping him home. It’s been Ferris Bueller’s Day Off over here, and he’s Ferris and I’m the sickly sidekick friend trying to keep him from burning the place down.
But in this midst of his craziness I’ve noticed how quick he is to apologize. He loses his mind, apologizes, asks for forgiveness and moves forward with his next adventure. I love that he doesn’t overthink my forgiveness, wondering if I’m still angry or somehow going to think less of him or love him differently with each indiscretion.
It’s this same type of forgiveness (times a million) that God offers to each of us. It’s a forgiveness that extends as far as “the east is from the west” that we’re praying our kids will fully grasp and lean into with their Savior.
Let’s take a few minutes and pray for our kids to confess their sin so they can live fully in God’s overwhelming forgiveness. And then let’s also pray for this mom who should know better than to give a gratuitous day off to a kid with more energy than the sun.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
I’m guessing the title of today’s show caught your eye? Definitely not a title I’ve put together for a podcast show until today!
Yes, I recently went to see Bruno Mars with my hubs, and I can’t wait to weigh in on that a bit. But more importantly, Erica Renaud is joining us to chat about praying with our kids and how to get that rolling if it’s not a part of our regular routine.
Erica has a new book releasing soon that walks us through praying with our kids. Today she’s sharing some practical advice with us on how to physically engage in prayer with our kids, how to walk through unanswered prayer requests, and appropriate theology on prayer no matter the age.
We talk a lot about praying for our kids on Pardon the Mess, but today I’m excited to talk about praying with our kids. Don’t miss it.
Resources from today's show:
Pray with me: Help Your Children Engage in Authentic and Powerful Prayer
The Parent’s Guide to Social Media by Axis
The Christian Parenting Podcast
Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
This week we’re praying for godly families. More specifically, we’re praying for our families to be built on the foundation of Jesus. In Psalm 127, Solomon very pointedly reminds us that even our best work and greatest successes are nothing if the Lord isn’t in them.
The key to building godly families comes in the day by day and week by week decisions of choosing Jesus instead of chasing after earthly success, financial gain, and the other things this world so often points us to.
Jesus talked about building our foundation on rock so that the storms of life won’t destroy our homes. Let’s pray today for our families to be storm-proof so that we can share the gospel effectively to a world so desperately needing the good news.
Can’t wait to pray with you this week!
In this with you,
Cynthia Yanof | Pardon the Mess
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Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
Did you grow up believing certain things like I did? Things like . . .
These aren’t monumental to our belief systems, but it turns out they really aren’t even true.
We all have things we’ve bought into from our culture, our internal narratives, or even our families. Although the examples above are fairly silly, there are more significant lies we may believe that can impact our parenting, our faith walks, and our identity.
Today I’m getting personal and sharing three of the lies I’ve been prone to believe in my own life (don’t worry, they are deeper than the ones listed above). Although these lies began as fairly harmless, they snowballed into an underlying philosophy that needed to be called out and examined with a lens of biblical truth.
Take a few minutes with me today to consider the three lies we all need to stop believing in 2023.
P.S. If you enjoy Pardon the Mess will you take a minute to share it with a friend? There’s no better way to encourage others than to share biblical truth with them. Parenting is hard so let’s help others walk the parenting road together.
Failure fast tracks growth.
This is a principle I’ve learned very personally at various times throughout my life. In the midst of what we may perceive as a failure—God shows up and names it success.
That’s exactly why we’re considering failure as we’re praying for our kids this week. Yes, there are places where our kids will fall flat on their face from poor decisions, and we need to pray they will repent and turn back to God. But sometimes our kids simply “fail,” and often what the world calls failure is actually God’s road to Kingdom success.
If we’re in it for the long game of parenting, we’ve got to get comfortable when our kids fail, knowing God is willing and able to use all things to grow them into who he designed them to be.
Can’t wait to pray with you this week!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
If you haven’t been introduced to Carlos Whitaker, today’s your day! Carlos is a dynamic author, speaker, storyteller, and hope dealer who is in high demand as a podcast guest. You’re about to see why!
Our conversation today surrounds his new book, How to Human. We’re considering what it looks like to get back to the very basics of who God created us to be. Living in a world filled with anxiety, broken relationships, and divisiness has caused us to lose touch with each other. . . and with God.
Tune in today as Carlos and I explore our humanity through the eyes of Jesus and consider practical ways to recalibrate our lives.
Resources from today's show:
How to Human by Carlos Whittaker
Human Hope podcast with Carlos Whittaker
She is Confident in Healthy Relationships
Thirty-eight times in Ecclesiastes Solomon refers to our lives as “hevel.” Solomon is trying to paint the picture that our lives are just a vapor, here one moment and gone the next. Knowing this means we have the opportunity to stop chasing the things on earth and instead pursue God above all else and live for the eternal.
This is our prayer for our families this week. That we can appreciate the brevity of life and live intentionally and interruptible as families. We’re also praying our kids learn to live purposefully knowing their hope is in the Lord, not in wealth, popularity, or status.
Join me this week in asking God to teach our kids to define success the way God does. Each day is a gift, so let’s use our time wisely.
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
I’ve got to be honest here–today’s show is so enlightening that I’ve been quoting Kara Powell everywhere I’ve been speaking since we taped this conversation.
Kara is Executive Director of the Fuller Youth Institute, and based on her extensive research and knowledge she’s sharing the three pivotal questions our kids are asking. (Spoiler alert: these are some of the same questions many of us are still asking as adults.)
Combining research and biblical truth, Kara gives us practical ways to speak into these three questions while considering the unique characteristics marking this next generation. She also has a few great ways to give our kids a “sticky faith” that follows them all throughout adulthood.
Take a few minutes to listen today, because Kara’s research combined with biblical truth is the perfect combination for answering your kids' deepest questions.
Resources from today's show:
3 Big Questions That Shape Your Future by Kara Powell
She is Confident in Healthy Relationships
The things we desire the most direct our days and determine our priorities. Knowing this, it’s important to get it right when it comes to what we desire and how we spend our lives fulfilling our deepest wishes.
This week we’re praying that our kids desire the things God desires for their lives. Psalm 37:4 is arguably one of the most powerful verses God has used in my life to date (I’ll share more on today’s podcast), because he taught me how incredible our lives can be when our victories, achievements, and successes line up with His.
Join me in praying this week for our kids to dig deep to find God’s plans and desires for their lives, pursuing those things at all cost.
Lots to pray for this week. Don’t miss it!
P.S. We would be so grateful if you’d consider sharing Pardon the Mess with a friend. Encourage those you know and love to join us in praying each week by forwarding this email or sending a link to the show. Thank you!
Toni Collier is with us today talking about the brokenness we feel in this world and how to work through it in our own lives as well as the lives of our children.
I had never met Toni before this conversation, and we had an instant connection that I’m sure you’re going to feel too. She’s vulnerable and authentic in the hardest places she’s faced in life, and also hilariously funny and wise. Here’s a few of the topics we cover:
And a little behind the scenes tidbit: Toni recorded this conversation in her car on the side of the road because she was late after a dentist appointment. You would never know because she is on 🔥, but it made for some hilarious banter.
Resources from today's show:
Brave Enough to be Broken by Toni Collier
Still Coloring Podcast with Toni Collier
Did you pick a word of the year for 2023?
I don’t always do it, but this year I knew “pause” was my word because it kept coming to my mind whenever I would hear someone else mention their own word. The last few months I’ve felt the Lord lay it on my heart that I needed to learn to slow down and wait on him. Said differently, I need to learn to “pause” before . . . . .
I speak
I judge
I accept
I respond
I plan
I react
I engage
I assume
Isaiah 30:18 says, in part, “blessed are those who wait on the Lord.” So if blessing comes from waiting on God, I’m pretty confident that my year of “pausing” won’t go to waste.
This also goes along perfectly with Psalm 66 and our focus on praying for our kids to communicate well with the Lord. We’re not only praying they take all of their needs to Jesus, but also that they learn to wait on him and allow God to work in their lives before moving forward in their own plans. It’s “pausing” so that God can do the things that only God can do.
Lots to pray for this week, so “pause” for a minute and pray with me!
As we’re kicking off the new year, it’s a perfect time to evaluate what’s working well in our parenting, and what may need a few tweaks. It’s being intentional in asking God to reveal what he wants our families to be about, and ensuring we’re doing the things that will make this happen.
Pastor Andy Stanley and his wife Sandra are here to talk about all of this and more. Having grown children, they have an amazing perspective on figuring out what your “it” is in parenting, and charting the course accordingly.
I can’t tell you how much I love the part of our conversation where we discuss the dangers of letting our ego impact our parenting. And then there is a good reminder that our behavior—not our words—has the greatest impact on our kids. Yikes!
Don’t miss this and so much more from Andy and Sandra Stanley. Happy New Year!
Resources from today's show:
Parenting: Getting It Right by Andy and Sandra Stanley
It’s a brand spanking new year and the perfect time to jump in and join us as we pray over our kids.
We’re kicking off 2023 by praying purity over our kids, focusing on Psalm 119. I can’t imagine a more significant thing to pray for our kids than purity in all the different scenarios our kids face each day.
Listen in as we discuss biblical purity and praying for it in our kids’ sexual relationships, what goes into their bodies, what they look at online and listen to, and the standards by which they live their lives.
But praying purity also deserves a reminder that God brings grace and forgiveness to each of us when we miss the mark. That’s the beauty of a God who loves us (and our kids) so much that he wants purity to be more about our relationship with him, than a one-time accomplishment where we either hit the mark or miss it.
Lots to pray for this week. Don’t miss it!
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As we wrap up 2022, I’m finishing the year the same way I started it by sharing a few of the things I wish I had known as a younger mom.
I try not to live with regrets, but I also know the value that comes by taking inventory in our parenting and acknowledging the areas of growth as well as the struggles.The four things I’m sharing with you today began with an article I wrote several years ago from the perspective of “the oldest mom on the playground.” Since then, I’ve had opportunities to share these parenting truths to various groups, and the Lord has given me even greater clarity that I pray will encourage and challenge you.
I have no doubt that your social media feeds (like mine) are packed with all kinds of weight loss and exercise challenges for a physically healthier 2023. But I would also encourage you to avoid “back-burnering” (assuming that’s a word) your parenting and instead take this week to consider what’s working, what’s not, where you might need to be encouraged, and where you need to encourage others. I’ll start us off with today’s podcast on the four things I would tell my younger parenting self.
I would be so grateful if you would not only take a minute to listen, but then also share it with the other parents you’re walking alongside with each day.
P.S. As we wrap up this year, I’m praying that Pardon the Mess will reach more and more parents. One way you can help us do this is to leave a review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts. It would be a great blessing if you could take just a minute and do that for me today! So grateful 💕
Resources from today's show:
Christian Parenting Year End Giving
“Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” Psalm 91:1
We have a negative connotation around the idea of living in the shadows. We want to avoid raising kids in the shadows because it feels unknown, overlooked, or even worse: insignificant. Yet so often what the world calls “successful” is not God’s definition of success. And living with platform and worldly significance comes at a cost we often fail to consider.
This week we’re praying Psalm 91 over our kids, and asking God to reveal the beauty of shadow living—but only when it’s in the shadow of the Almighty. In this shadow is where we find God’s love and protection. In his shadow is where we find a nearness to God not present anywhere else, simply due to the sheer proximity required to walk in God’s shadow.
This is our last week of 2022 to pray over our kids. Please don't miss it.
“God permits what he hates to accomplish what he loves.”
— Joni Eareckson Tada
The ten words above have marked me from the very first time I heard Joni Eareckson Tada speak them. And today I want to re-share one of my favorite episodes of the year where Joni is sharing her heart behind these words.
Joni is an author, speaker, artist, and the most incredible example of loving Jesus in the hardest places that I’ve ever known. She suffers with quadriplegia, and, even so, has traveled the world sharing her hope in Jesus.
Joni very candidly talks to us about her accident and the words she prayed just months before it happened. We get a little insight into how she’s learned to love Jesus even when life’s midnight moments of despair come creeping in.
There’s literally no way for me to hype today’s show enough, so please, please take a minute and go listen.
Resources from today's show:
Christian Parenting Year End Giving
“Joy to the world, the Lord is come. Let earth receive her King. Let every heart prepare him room.”
Singing carols like “Joy to the World” is one of my favorite things this time of year. The nostalgia that comes with singing these beautiful words reminds me over and over again of the significance of Jesus coming to earth as a baby, paving the way for our salvation.
This week we’re praying for our kids to experience the true message of Christmas and respond with the profound joy that our favorite Christmas carols describe. My dear friend Kay Wyma joins us to talk about Psalm 98 and how Christmas impacts our parenting and changes the lives of our families.
As we enter this week leading up to Christmas, I pray we can remember to praise God no matter what we’re facing in the moment, because our eternity is settled. That’s the heart of Christmas.
Join Kay Wyma and me as we pray for our kids.
We hear Jesus referred to as Immanuel in the Christmas story and all throughout the Christmas season. We know it means “God with us,” but do we ever stop and think about what that means practically?
Rebecca Carrell is with us today and has the perfect Christmas reminder of why Immanuel changes everything in our lives. She challenges us to consider how the Israelites experienced God in the desert through the daily direction and provision of following a cloud and waiting for manna to eat.
We have the same opportunity to tap into the real presence of Jesus, who wants to guide and direct us through all we face each day.
Take a few minutes to nurture your soul as we consider the gift of Immanuel, the God who is with us in this very moment.
Resources from today's show:
Oh contentment, why are you so elusive this time of year? Why do the holidays leave us searching for better presents, bigger wow moments, and flawless family interactions?
As you may have guessed, we’re praying for contentment this week as we head into the home stretch of Christmas. We’re asking God to remind us that he knows each of our needs before we even realize them, and he’s faithful to provide in the most generous and comprehensive way that’s in our best interests.
Join me this week as we consider Psalm 34 and what it means to “taste and see” that God is good. Leaning into this truth will help us pray for our kids (and ourselves) to acknowledge that anything and everything that’s good in this life is from God—and his provision is perfect.
Friendships are some of God’s greatest gifts in our lives. However, they can be super complex too.
Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnson join us today to talk about healthy friendships in our own lives, as well as parenting friendships with our kids.
Here’s some of the great friendship topics we cover:
Amy and Jess are so much fun, and I know you are going to walk away with a new appreciation for the true gift of friendships.
Resources from today's show:
Christian Parenting Year End Giving
I’ll Be There by Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston
I realize it’s December and life is crazy! But let’s take just a few minutes to slow down and pray for our kids today.
Our focus this week is praying that our kids learn to fear God. Fearing God sounds confusing, but it’s not about living scared or fleeing from him. Instead, it’s living in such awe and reverence towards God that we’re willing to submit to him even when it doesn’t make sense.
We learned last week that fearing God is the key to wisdom (Psalm 111:10). And in a world that thrives on earthly knowledge, our kids need wisdom from God’s word now more than ever.
Join me in praying that our kids won’t settle for a head-knowledge of God, but instead gain a heart of awe and reverence that propels them towards their Savior. Fear God. Gain wisdom. Live in his blessing. That’s the long and short of it.
Today we’re talking all things Christmas with Alicia Wood and Lee Cordon!
Alicia and Lee are pros when it comes to Christmas preparations and keeping our sanity this time of year. They are so much fun and you’re 100% guaranteed to be in the spirit of Christmas after today’s show.
Here are a few of the things we cover:
🎄Gift giving ideas and how to keep it under control
🎄Making lists and preparing for Christmas early
🎄Hosting holiday gatherings with less stress
🎄Hacks for decorating your house and wrapping gifts
🎄Family traditions and keeping our faith central to our celebrations
This is the podcast you need while running errands, addressing Christmas cards, and doing all the Christmas things this time of year!
Resources from today's show:
Do Say Give with Lee Cordon
There’s a big difference between knowledge and wisdom, and this week Janet Denison of Denison Ministries is joining us to talk about praying wisdom over our kids. Psalm 111 tells us very plainly that wisdom comes by fearing God and following his word. And in a culture that is pursuing worldly knowledge at all costs, it’s a great time to pray for our kids to choose wisdom.
And please don’t miss Janet Denison’s great insight into teaching our kids to listen for God’s voice—something I wish I would have practiced much earlier in my faith walk.
It’s a great week to be praying for wisdom and the much-needed ability to focus on what’s unseen in a world that’s hyper focused on the temporary things that are here and now.
Kayla Craig’s Collection of Liturgies
Happy Thanksgiving! 🦃🦃🦃
I hope you are surrounded by friends and family today with the smell of familiar food floating through the house. There’s so much to be thankful for this year, but I’m especially thankful to be walking this parenting road together with each of you. It’s a true gift.
Today we have Kayla Craig with us and we’re discussing liturgies and how they add a richness to our prayer life. So often we overcomplicate prayer or even find ourselves at a loss for words—praying liturgies is a wonderful way to bridge the gap.
I’ll leave you with a list I wrote a few years ago of the top 10 ways to determine if your Thanksgiving was an epic fail.
1.) When sharing what they are thankful for, your first guest responds, “Thanksgiving rotates to a new house next year.”
2.) Your mother-in-law questions why your “homemade” pumpkin pie has a Costco imprint across the top.
3.) Despite dieting all year, you’re still asked to play linebacker in the annual family football game.
4.) When the conversation gets slow around the table, you nervously share your annual income and who you voted for in the last election.
5.) Several relatives tentatively decline your Christmas invitation pending ancestry results.
6.) When guests ask how they can help after the meal, your husband accidentally responds, “Why start now?”
7.) Grandpa grabs the Gas-X before agreeing to a game of Twister with the kids.
8.) After replacing the batteries on the meat thermometer, you decide “done” is a relative term.
9.) You receive multiple copies of the book Parenting with Love and Logic as hostess gifts.
10.) The Turkey Trot isn’t a family 5K but rather a reminder of how fast people exited your house after the meal ended.
All kidding aside, I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
Resources from today's show:
It’s the week of Thanksgiving and Psalm 16:2 gives us the most basic truth in these seven words: “Apart from you I have nothing good.” What a great starting place as we celebrate Thanksgiving by remembering that every single thing we have is from God.
Kayla Craig joins us today to pray thanksgiving over our kids. She also encourages us to consider the value of praying liturgies. A liturgy is simply a written prayer that helps us connect with God. I just started using liturgies as part of my prayer life, and it has been so impactful that I want to share a little bit about that with you today.
My prayer this week is for our hearts and minds to be filled with the gratefulness that comes only from knowing the generosity and abundance found in Jesus.
Don’t anyone panic, we’re not skipping Thanksgiving!
But we are chatting with Ruth Chou Simons about advent and why the posture of our hearts as we enter the holiday season matters. Ruth is hilariously practical and talks about her scrapbooking skills (or lack thereof) and her propensity to lose sight of what matters this time of year… if her perfectionist ways take over.
Ruth reminds us that there’s an opportunity to experience Jesus even during a time of year packed with family, parties, and preparations.
She also has the most BEAUTIFUL advent book available now—a 25 day journey leading up to Christmas. I’m going to be using this book all of Advent and would love for you to join me.
Today’s a fun conversation about holidays, family, and maintaining a posture that invites Jesus to be near in the middle of it all.
Resources from today's show:
The times of waiting in my life have hands down been the places where I’ve learned the most about God. Knowing this, I’m excited to be praying this week for our kids to learn to wait well. Waiting patiently on God is a hard thing to grasp when you live in an Amazon-style, instant gratification kind of world.
Psalm 40 is our key Psalm this week and David suggests that when we are waiting on God to act, we are to wait actively and expectantly. Instead of sitting around in despair and hoping for the best, we’re to be crying out in urgency for God’s deliverance.
So often, the key to waiting in the most difficult places we face means simply remembering God’s faithfulness in the past, turning only to him for deliverance, and finding a posture of dependence and trust.
Join me in praying for our kids as we consider what it means to wait well on God.
For the first time ever we have Lauren Chandler on Pardon the Mess!
Lauren is a worship leader, author, mom of three, and wife of Pastor Matt Chandler. I love this conversation because it’s all about Thanksgiving traditions, favorite recipes, and enjoying family this time of year. 🦃 🦃
She has an amazing heart for praising the Lord and gives us practical ways to foster a lifestyle of praise and Thanksgiving (even when life gets complicated). She also shares about her husband’s brain tumor revealed years ago on Thanksgiving day, and how that still impacts her today.
Take a few minutes to join us in preparing your heart and home for Thanksgiving!
Resources from today's show:
The Parent’s Guides to Social Media by Axis
Launch with Jamie Ivey & Lisa Whittle
David had an affair, murdered a man, and spent almost a year ignoring his wrongdoing before finally confessing his sin. Psalm 51 reveals his heart after such a significant moral failure, and his words are beautiful as he asks God to cleanse, restore, and continue to use him.
Our kids will sin too. This week we are praying they recognize it and repent, just as David did all those years ago. God cares so much about our right-ness with him that he sent Jesus to bridge the chasm between our sin and God. He’s the sacrifice that allows us right standing before God, even when we’re so prone to sin.
Join me this week in praying that our kids will have accountability in their lives (a Nathan) that will point out their sin. Let’s also pray they never feel defined by the places where they get it wrong, but instead know that Jesus is ready to give them a clean heart and full restoration—if they will simply ask.
Nothing makes you question the boundaries in your relationships like the holidays. Am I right?
Lysa TerKeurst is with us today to talk about relationships and the boundaries we often fail to put in place. The result? Chaos in some of our more challenging relationships. Like most of us, I haven’t thought a lot about boundaries and definitely not from a biblical perspective. But thankfully Lysa has so much wisdom in this area, talking us through the practicalities of setting healthy parameters and why that’s so necessary.
If you struggle with guilt, people-pleasing, and fear in your hardest relationships, this show is 100% for you!
Resources from today's show:
I think the twenty-third psalm just may be my favorite psalm of all. I used to think of it as just a funeral type psalm, or one for hard times—but now I realize how many nuggets are packed in there as we pray this over our kids.
I’m reminded that God is the provider for all things, and he’s oftentimes providing things we don’t even know we need. There are also verses giving us encouragement for the hard times and reminders of our ultimate hope—eternity with Jesus.
Just as sheep learn to follow their shepherd by knowing his voice, we’re praying this week that our kids do the same. I have a feeling you’re going to love Psalm 23 in a whole new way.
A Penn State study indicates that 91% of what we worry about never happens.
I don’t know about you, but this statistic holds true in my own life having worried about countless things that (thankfully) never actually transpired.
Louie Giglio is no stranger to fear and anxiety and comes today with a great word on how to deal with the inevitable worries we all face. He debunks the idea that we are “born worriers” with no control, and identifies the four lies that typically feed our anxiety.
Don’t miss the end of this episode where Louie talks about reconciling our suffering with God’s goodness. It’s so, so good!
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A discussion on being still seems especially relevant this time of year as we’re gearing up for the holidays while enjoying all the fun things of fall. Psalm 46 reminds us that being still allows us to better know Jesus. The Hebrew for “be still” means “to be weak, or let go, or to release.”
Who couldn’t use some of that this week?
We’re praying specifically that in a world that praises hard work and high achievement, our kids can be still and find peace from the grind of striving, performing, and controlling. After all, God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9), and we will know him best when we loosen the reins and allow him to cover our deficits.
If Jesus used the words “be still” in Mark 4 to calm a storm and all creation instantly obeyed the very sound of his voice—I’m guessing we’d be wise to do the same. Let’s pray together for our kids today!
Jonathan Pitts is back and he’s no stranger to Pardon the Mess. He’s an author, speaker, podcaster, and father to four daughters. Jonathan lost his wife, Wynter, suddenly to a heart condition in 2018—and he’s been learning how to wait on God in the hardest places ever since.
Today Jonathan shares his journey of walking through grief and disappointments with God. Spoiler alert: He’s also recently remarried an amazing woman, Peta, and is candid about the challenges of blended families and showing grace when it’s the last thing you want to do.
But I definitely don’t want you to miss Jonathan’s word on “moving on,” and the guilt oftentimes associated with good times that follow the hard. Jonathan always reminds me that struggling well is possible when we’re seeking Jesus along the way.
Resources from today's show:
So often we think of persecution as something that only happens in the places where faith in Jesus can cost you your life. But persecution is actually something all of us will experience if we’re seeking Jesus and trying to live godly lives (2 Timothy 3:12).
Today we’re praying for our kids to live big enough in their convictions to experience persecution, while also leaning on God to get them through it. Whether it’s in the middle of hard and dysfunctional relationships, in lost job opportunities, or even in places of being overlooked or disqualified while pursuing the Lord—God promises peace and hope for the persecuted.
Let’s pray together for all the dark and difficult moments our kids will face, asking God to remind them that “no weapon fashioned against us shall succeed (Isaiah 54:17).”
This week we’ve got Max Lucado with us—and yes I go fan-girl and it’s super weird.
But if you can get past that, Pastor Max has an amazing word on the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives and why it matters. Here are some of the topics we cover:
And to top it all off, he reflects on being a rebellious teen (I know, right?) and gives some solid advice for when our parenting road gets tough.
There’s so much I could say, but let’s just leave it at this—it’s MAX LUCADO today and you just can’t miss it.
Resources from today's show:
Help is Here: Finding Fresh Strength and Purpose in the Power of the Holy Spirit
We’re praying the Psalms over our kids this school year and this week our focus is on the words we speak. And let me tell you this, nobody puts their foot in their mouth more than me. I’ve learned first-hand the power of words, oftentimes in rather unfortunate circumstances.
In Psalm 19, David prays that the words of his mouth and meditations of his heart will be found pleasing to God. He understood the significance of our words and the weight they hold, but also the role our hearts play in it. That’s a great parenting application—to pray for our kids to be so filled with the God-things that it naturally flows to their words.
God cares about our words greatly, evidenced by how often it’s mentioned in Scripture. Let’s pray this week that our kids will have a reign on their tongues and use words for Kingdom impact this school year.
Amanda Pittman is with us today and she has a VERY important message on living in confidence. A lack of confidence runs the risk of keeping us from doing the God-ordained things in our lives because we think we aren’t good enough, or gifted enough, or ______(fill in the blank) enough.
We chat about why this matters not just for our own lives, but also how our confidence (or lack thereof) impacts those around us. She identifies some of the confidence crushing narratives we believe and practical ways to overcome them.
I really, really loved talking to Amanda about parenting our kids in a way that builds their inner-confidence, teaching them to live with conviction rather than focusing on their insecurities.
This is a powerful conversation on living out the abundant life God has for our lives and our families. I know you’re going to love Amanda Pittman as much as I do.
Resources from today's show:
Stand in Confidence: From Sinking in Insecurity to Rising in Your God-Given Identity
The last several years I’ve prayed that my kids will live interruptible lives. I’ve prayed for it because for so long, I was completely unwilling to have my own life interrupted. I like things to be planned out, organized, and on my schedule. So much so that I wasn’t open to the things God was calling me to that might “mess up” my best laid plans.
But now knowing what I know, most of God’s greatest plans for my life have come in the form of interruptions. And we see these same God-ordained interruptions in the lives of Noah, Mary, Abraham, and so many other biblical heroes.
The Psalm we’re praying this week says that God “thwarts the purposes of his peoples” in favor of his own greater plays. Why? Because his plans stand firm and impact generations to come.
So join me in praying interruptibility over our kids this week, so that God’s plans will trump any plans we make that are less than his very best.
Let’s be honest. There’s not a one of us that doesn’t often feel like the Simon Cowell of our family having to correct, instruct, redirect, and . . . sometimes criticize. We don’t call it criticism, but so often it feels that way for us (and definitely for our kids too).
Ken Wilgus is with us today talking about the real truth on critical parents and critical kids. We dig deep into issues of boundaries and respect, both of which are the hidden gems if we’re trying to avoid this issue. Ken is a licensed psychologist and always a fan favorite because of his practicality and willingness to lay it out there in areas we don’t love to discuss.
We also talk about the real truth behind overscheduling our kids as well as why we continue fighting parenting battles not worth fighting.
I’m so glad you’re exploring the “real truth” with us this fall, it’s always more fun when we’re all in it together!
Resources from today's show:
Feeding the Mouth That Bites You
There’s a lifetime worth of banter in Christian circles around the question of being “good enough.” This week we’re laying it down and considering Psalm 27 as David speaks into this question while hiding out because his life is in jeopardy.
He calls God his light (hope), his salvation (rescuer) and his stronghold (deliverer). Nowhere does he evaluate his own value or abilities, but over and over again he refers back to God’s. Yet maybe the greatest words he writes, and those we can be praying for our kids, are his heart’s desire to “dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”
I’m praying this week for our kids to flip the “not good enough” script and trust that God is more than enough for all they face today and each day. Join me in praying for your kids and trusting God to fill the gaps where our parenting skills inevitably fall short.
I hope you’re enjoying our real truth series as much as I am.
If I’m honest, most of the real truth topics we’re covering are areas of my life that could use a little bit of attention, and I’m guessing you’re dealing with the same things too!
Today is no exception as we visit with Gary Thomas, the King of Marriage. I mean, perhaps “King of Marriage” is not exactly in his bio, but when you write books like Sacred Marriage and Making your Marriage a Fortress, you’re pretty much royalty where I’m from.
We’re talking today about the many things threatening our marriages and how we prepare today for what may be a struggle tomorrow. If for no other reason, you can’t miss today because Gary has the best encouragement for pursuing emotional attachment with our spouses even when life happens and there’s barely a moment to spare.
We also have a great discussion on finances in our marriages, which pretty much lives in the top ten of problems married couples face.
I’m so thrilled to have Gary Thomas back with us today, and I know you’re going to love him!
Resources from today's show:
Making your Marriage a Fortress
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
We’re off to a great start in praying for our kids this school year and I’m so glad you’re doing this with me! Week one (last week) we prayed for our kids’ salvation, which is hands down the most important thing we can pray for them.
This week we’re praying for a blessed life. But there’s a hitch! We want to know God’s version of living blessed instead of relying on the world’s definition. Psalm 1 is our focus passage and we’re given a very practical visual on the way that sin progresses. We’re reminded of the theme all throughout the Bible that God blesses obedience and judges disobedience, and a blessed life requires following God’s word.
Join me this week as we talk about the road to a blessed life and what that means as we pray for our kids. Oh, and be sure and share this with your friends! It’s such an honor to pray together for our kids to know and love the Lord.
Is your husband child a gamer? (Just kidding.)
Is it hard for you to relate?
Do you wonder if there’s any redeeming value in it?
Have you wondered what the Bible would say about gaming?
Are you lacking a framework for determining what’s appropriate and what's not?
If you responded “yes” to any of the above, today’s your lucky day!
Drew Dixon is the cofounder of Love Thy Nerd, and has been speaking + writing about video games for over a decade. Today he’s answering the questions we’re all asking on behalf of our kids that love video games… perhaps a little bit too much.
His new book Know Thy Gamer: A Parent’s Guide to Video Games is a great resource on gaming, and I so appreciate him bringing practical advice today on parental controls, free to play games, and loot boxes (I didn’t know either).
If you live with a gamer or know someone who does, this is a great way to expand your knowledge base on the real truth about gaming.
Resources from today's show:
Mentioned on the show:
It’s week ONE of our 2022-2023 Monday prayer podcast, and this is where the journey begins to pray our kids through the school year!
This year we’re following the Christian Parenting prayer journal, Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids. If you haven’t grabbed your copy yet, now’s a great time to do just that.
I love the Psalms because it’s 150 songs, poems, and expressions of faith from real-life people who teach us how to pray, what to pray, and when to pray. And hidden in these vulnerable, pretense-free words, we learn the keys to being still, following our shepherd, seeking wisdom, fearing God, living with contentment, and so much more.
So today begins our journey through the Psalms, focusing on Jesus as our Salvation. There is nothing that can save us or our children but God. And because our sin separates us from him, he sent Jesus to pave the way through his death on the cross for our reconciliation to God for all eternity.
Our greatest prayer as parents (and what we begin with this school year) is that our children will confess their sins and accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. I can’t think of anything more significant to pray for this week.
So don’t miss out as we kick off this series. And please, share this with your friends, small group, Bible study, or anyone else that is ready to pray for our families together!
A huge thank you to First15 Worship for the amazing instrumental music!
Kirk Cameron won over our teenage hearts on Growing Pains many years ago. And I hate to be the one to do this to you, but it’s been over 37 years since that show premiered. So now who's feeling old? 🙋🏼♀️
Since that time, Kirk has given us a crash course on what it looks like to stand for the principles of our faith, including some amazing projects centered on social media, marriage, and family. His latest project is a movie coming out in theaters this weekend called Lifemark. He and the Kendrick Brothers tell a beautiful story about choosing life and the significance of adoption. And I can’t wait to take my family to see it.
Kirk and his wife Chelsea (his girlfriend in Growing Pains) have adopted four children, and I love how their biblical beliefs have guided their family values. Kirk gives some solid advice today for living out our faith authentically and boldly, and even throws in the top three parenting principles he and Chelsea have used in leading their family.
Don’t miss any of this good stuff today!
Resources from today's show:
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Step right on up if you have a teen that’s starting to date or if the sheer thought of it makes you break into a cold sweat.
There are so many questions behind the topic of dating and how to best shepherd our kids when they start down this road. Thankfully, we’re tackling it this week with Steve Frissell, an Executive Pastor at Bent Tree Bible Fellowship in Dallas, Texas.
Steve and his wife have been married for 26 years and the story he shares of their high school dating mishap is not one you will soon forget. They have six children now and Steve has an incredible word on balancing truth with grace when walking our kids through dating. He also shares ideas on conversations we need to have with our kids and thoughts on purity culture if you grew up in that era like so many of us.
When I tell you that this is a podcast you need to hear—well, this is a podcast you need to hear.
And just in case you missed it last week, the next few months we are going to be digging deep into the “real truth” behind common issues we face in our spiritual lives, parenting, and just in life generally (like dating).
Here are a few coming your way the next few weeks:
I can’t wait for you to hear today’s conversation with Steve Frissell!
Resources from today's show:
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
Today begins a new series that I’m so excited about on Pardon the Mess. 🥳
We’re going to dig deep into the “real truth” behind common issues we face in our spiritual life, parenting life, and just in life generally. We’ve been working super hard behind the scenes to get the perfect guests to encourage and instruct us in some important areas, and here’s a preview of what’s coming up:
And (drum roll please), we’re kicking it off this week with Brittany Ann to talk about the “real truth” on being godly women. Brittany is an author, blogger, speaker and has a great word for us on upping our spiritual game. Don’t worry, this isn’t one of those conversations that will leave you feeling guilty or not good enough—it’s just a great reminder on small changes we can make to experience big dividends in our walk with the Lord.
I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation with Brittany Ann today, and be sure you’re tuned in the next few months as we hit some really important “real truth” topics! Oh, and share us with your friends that could use some encouragement—that would be a huge gift all around.
Resources from today's show:
Called to Act Conference, September 13-15, 2022
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
If you love football and want to be inspired to live each day with purpose, you’re going to love today’s show with the Dungys. Tony Dungy is a football legend, playing for many years in the NFL and then coaching professionally with the Colts and Buccaneers. He’s a Super Bowl champ and now works as a football analyst for NBC.
Tony and his wife Lauren have been outspoken in their faith every step of the way as the Lord has given them opportunity after opportunity to boldly share their story. They join us today to talk about living with ‘uncommon influence.’ We discuss what it looks like to listen for God’s voice and move forward in the things with eternal impact that he has for our lives.
And for those of you wondering, yes we did talk a little bit of football and he has a great Peyton Manning story. We also get a great word on youth sports, and there ain’t a one of us that couldn’t use that.
The Dungy’s love for foster care and adoption will encourage you, and I have a feeling you’re going to walk away inspired by these sweet people and their commitment to living big for Jesus.
Resources from today's show:
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
I remember as a kid having a range of emotions the night before school started. I would lay in bed with questions swirling like…
Did I pick the right back to school shoes?
Will my friends still like me?
Is Mrs. Smith as mean as everyone says?
Will my favorite lunch table have enough seats?
Will the coach yell at me again for being the slowest to run the mile in PE? (oh wait, maybe that’s just me)
Whether or not our kids are willing to admit it, they are facing some of the same back to school jitters that we did. Even harder are some of the safety concerns they face that undoubtedly weigh on them this time of year.
Mia Mbroh is with us today and as a licensed counselor, she’s worked in private practice as well as in school settings. She’s helping us navigate some key areas of concern including school safety, friendships, bullying, and academics.
She has a good word on how our families can rewrite the narrative when it comes to what matters in school and how we will represent our faith this year.
Take a few minutes to listen to Mia’s great words for back to school, and then share it with a friend.
Also, we’re gearing up our Monday prayer podcasts in September so be sure to grab a copy of A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids if you haven't already!
Resources from today's show:
Be sure to check out A Sticky Story by Mia Mbroh. You can get your copy by emailing her directly at [email protected].
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
Boys… whatcha gonna do with them? Just kidding.
But they really are unique creatures and if you’re raising one or more, you know that finding ways to help them communicate and express their feelings in a healthy way can be challenging.
David Thomas is a Pardon the Mess favorite, and he’s with us today discussing the importance of raising emotionally strong boys. Don’t miss his insight into why our boys suffer from higher rates of suicide, addiction, and pornography abuse—oftentimes because they haven’t learned to deal with their emotions in a healthy way.
Here are a few highlights:
David’s new book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys is a must-read. Check it out and all the other great resources offered through Daystar Counseling!
Resources from today's show:
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build on for Life
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
I’m so happy to have Sean McDowell with us again today! We’re talking about practical ways to equip our kids to intellectually defend their faith. Sean is an author, speaker, and well-known apologist in today’s culture (just like his dad, Josh McDowell).
Sean and I talk about the confusing messages our kids are facing and how these messages are different from the ones in the past. We also talk about how to teach our kids to be bold in speaking up for their faith… with compassion and grace.
There’s so much you don’t want to miss on today’s show with Sean McDowell—he’s a big deal and you’ll love all he has to say about apologetics, preparing our kids intellectually, and his new book that is a great resource for our teens!
P.S. If you haven’t purchased our new prayer journal, now is a GREAT time to do that. We’re kicking off in September so grab your copy now!
Resources from today's show:
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
Is your face melting off from the heat? We used to just call this ridiculous weather “Texas in July.” But the odds are if you’re in the United States or Europe, you’re doing a little bit of sweating right alongside us. Not to mention, if you have kids home this summer and you didn’t plan enough activities, there’s some sweating involved with that too.
Thankfully we have Scarlet Hiltibidal with us today. She’s an author, speaker, and mom who knows what it’s like when you’re trying to be everything to everyone. She found herself feeling like “the worst person in the world” after years of hustling, striving, and trying to prove to God and everyone else that she was good enough.
Today she shares with us how important it is to come to terms with our status as sinners, and how to pivot from striving to chasing after the right things—the eternal things. She also gives us practical ways to defeat the lies we struggle with and stand on the truth we find in Jesus.
Can’t wait for you to hear from Scarlet this week! And then stay tuned because we have some awesome shows coming your way to prepare us for back to school. Stay cool!
Resources from today's show:
You’re the worst person in the world
Signals: How Brain Science and the Bible Help Parents Raise Resilient Children
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
A friend recently mentioned to me a podcast, Java with Juli, that has completely changed how she approaches the topic of sexuality with her kids. Fast forward to today, and Juli Slattery is joining us to talk about sexuality as it relates to our marriages, parenting, and so much more.
Now most of you know that talking about sex makes me squirm. So if for no other reason, you need to listen today because words are said in this show that have not been said in the 300+ podcasts I’ve released of Pardon the Mess. 😬
Here’s a run down of what we’re covering:
I would say this is probably a podcast to listen to solo before throwing it out for the whole fam on the way to the beach. You’ll thank me later!
Please, please take time to listen to this important podcast and then share it with others as we work to improve our conversations in our families around sexuality.
Resources from today's show:
Juli Slattery’s resources:
God Sex and Your Marriage book
Finding the hero in your husband
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
I hope everyone had an amazing 4th of July! We spent the last week in Boston on vacation and it was amazing, exhausting, and everything you can imagine from spending a week with your kids in small spaces. That makes today’s podcast especially timely (for me at least).
Today we have the privilege of hearing from Sissy Goff, a fan favorite when it comes to understanding our kids. Sissy is the Director of Child and Adolescent Counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and a dear friend to our show.
Sissy is unpacking some important topics to consider during the summer months, and a few issues that are probably cropping up in your home as well as mine.
Here’s a few of the things we discuss:
I’m so grateful you’re with us this week. You’re going to love what Sissy has to offer.
P.S. I’m so excited that our 2022-2023 prayer journal is out! Grab your copy now so you’re ready to hit the new school year running when it comes to praying for our kids. We will be praying the Psalms over our kids and it’s going to be amazing!
Resources from today's show:
More from Sissy Goff:
Raising Boys and Girls Podcast
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
This week as a part of our “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews, David Thomas is with us to talk about all things related to our boys.
Picture this: you’re picking up your son from the first day of school after waiting to hear all about his day. Even as he’s closing the car door you begin asking the most critical of questions like... How is your teacher? What friends are in your class? Who did you meet? Did you talk to any girls? What did you have for lunch? Are you tired? Why are you so quiet? Were the kids mean to you?
Apparently unaware of the millions of questions swirling in your mind, your son simply responds that his day was “good.” I feel your pain (like really feel your pain), and David Thomas from Daystar Counseling in Nashville does, too.
David talks with us about our boys’ developmental stages: explorer (0-4), lover (5-8), individual (9-12), wanderer (13-17), warrior (18-23). We also discuss the best ways to communicate and connect with our boys, which apparently does not involve barraging them with questions the second they get into the car (my bad).
So glad you’re with us today.
Resources from today’s show:
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
We’re using the next several weeks to release some of the “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews. With over 300 episodes and lots of new listeners, we don’t want any of you to miss a thing.
Today we’re re-releasing our conversation with Jennie Allen on the lies we believe about friendships.
Jennie shares what she now knows about friendships, what they are, what they aren’t, and what impedes us from the God-given deep connection we so desperately need.
Here are some of the great topics we discuss when it comes to finding your people:
Don’t miss this much-needed conversation on the importance of our friendships and reminders that finding community is not impossible with a little bit of intentionality.
Resources on today’s show:
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
I hope you’re enjoying summer and hopefully getting a little extra time with your kids!
The next few weeks we’re going to be sharing some of the “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews. Hard to believe we’ve released over THREE HUNDRED episodes! With so many new people joining along the way, we want to be sure you didn’t miss some of our favorite interviews.
Today we’re re-releasing our conversation with licensed psychologist Ken Wilgus, and he is talking with us about parenting teens.
If you don’t have a teen yet, no worries, because you can never prepare too early for navigating the treacherous waters of adolescence (just kidding—kind of).
Dr. Wilgus shares his ideas behind “planned emancipation,” the strategy of preparing our kids for adulthood by carefully and progressively letting go of our control in key areas of their lives.
We talk about this in the context of giving freedom in the music they listen to, the friends they pick, and even the state in which they keep their rooms.
Glad you’re with us today!
In this with you,
Cynthia Yanof | Pardon the Mess
Resources from today’s show:
Feeding the Mouth that Bites You book
Feed the Mouth that Bites You podcast
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Imagine having seven children and living in an RV. I know, I can’t either. Stephen and Amanda Miller are doing just that and today we get a sneak peek into their lives!
In his new book, Art of Getting it Wrong, Stephen reminds us that our failures are not final, and that it’s in those same failures where we learn to live courageously. It’s so easy to think our worth is equal to the sum of our successes and failures, but Stephen and Amanda help us dispel that notion and encourage us to follow God’s lead.
We also talk about adoption and finding God’s calling in our lives, and the Millers detail how God is using YouTube and their millions of downloads (literally) to point people back to him.
Thankful to each of you for joining us and can’t wait for you to hear from the Millers!
Resources from today's show:
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Hey Friends,
I often get questions on books I would recommend for our kids and honestly, more often than not, I draw a blank.
That’s why today’s bonus episodes of Pardon the Mess are dedicated to some of our very favorite authors and the children’s books they have written. These are books you can trust and your kids will love. Below you’ll find overviews of the books as well as links to the podcasts where we get the behind the scenes scoop with the authors.
Let’s start with our younger kids (ages 4 to 8) and a conversation I had with Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker about their wonderful book, The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude. Gratitude is a much needed quality in our kids, and this book (and our conversation below) provides great reminders for summertime.
Another great book for our littles is Claire and Anna Avidon’s, I Can Do Hard Things. These two ladies chat with us about refinement, perseverance, and encouraging our kids to take the hard road when God calls us to it.
For our older kids (think ages 8-12), there’s a great devotional by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker called Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King. Based on Solomon’s life, the book offers amazing lessons on peer pressure, finding your voice, living in confidence, and so much more. Sarah gives lots of wisdom in our conversation, so don't miss it.
My last recommendation in this bonus episode is for girls ages 8-12, and it’s all about friendships. The ladies from The Ruth Experience remind us of our need for deep friendships and the importance of being present, not setting up artificial boundaries, and being willing to invite others into our lives. Their book, 100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls is a great one for helping our girls navigate friendships.
I hope these resources are a huge help to you! Grab a book and guide your kiddos well this summer.
Resources from today's show:
The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude by Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker.
I can do hard things by Anna Avidon and Claire Avidon.
Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker
100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls: A Devotional by Julie Fisk, Kendra Roehl, and Kristin Demery.
Hey Friends,
I often get questions on books I would recommend for our kids and honestly, more often than not, I draw a blank.
That’s why today’s bonus episodes of Pardon the Mess are dedicated to some of our very favorite authors and the children’s books they have written. These are books you can trust and your kids will love. Below you’ll find overviews of the books as well as links to the podcasts where we get the behind the scenes scoop with the authors.
Let’s start with our younger kids (ages 4 to 8) and a conversation I had with Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker about their wonderful book, The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude. Gratitude is a much needed quality in our kids, and this book (and our conversation below) provides great reminders for summertime.
Another great book for our littles is Claire and Anna Avidon’s, I Can Do Hard Things. These two ladies chat with us about refinement, perseverance, and encouraging our kids to take the hard road when God calls us to it.
For our older kids (think ages 8-12), there’s a great devotional by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker called Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King. Based on Solomon’s life, the book offers amazing lessons on peer pressure, finding your voice, living in confidence, and so much more. Sarah gives lots of wisdom in our conversation, so don't miss it.
My last recommendation in this bonus episode is for girls ages 8-12, and it’s all about friendships. The ladies from The Ruth Experience remind us of our need for deep friendships and the importance of being present, not setting up artificial boundaries, and being willing to invite others into our lives. Their book, 100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls is a great one for helping our girls navigate friendships.
I hope these resources are a huge help to you! Grab a book and guide your kiddos well this summer.
Resources from today's show:
The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude by Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker.
I can do hard things by Anna Avidon and Claire Avidon.
Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker
100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls: A Devotional by Julie Fisk, Kendra Roehl, and Kristin Demery.
Are you overwhelmed with technology?
Do you wonder how to keep your kids safe while also teaching them to use it responsibly?
Have you wished for a biblical perspective on digital safety that goes hand in hand with the practical?
For me it’s yes, yes, and yes.
Today we have Chris McKenna with us and he’s the founder and CEO of Protect Young Eyes. We’re talking about a digital trust framework for our families and practical tips for keeping our kids safe. He’s giving us ideas on router filters, appropriate ages for kids to have phones, and important conversations to have while they are still under our roof.
Today is a big drink of water for those of us thirsty for technology answers!
Resources from today's show:
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It’s hard to believe that way back on September 13th of last year we began praying our kids through the school year and that today is our last day!
We’ve prayed for our kids to have connection, purpose, salvation, humility, and countless other attributes of our faith. Many of you have been with me each step of the way as we’ve asked the Lord to stand in the gap of our parenting while also drawing our kids to him. I’m so grateful.
This week is our very last week of the school year, and Bunmi Laditan is joining us to wrap it up. Please, please don’t miss this last week because Bunmi is amazing and you will love her. Also we are finishing up our year talking about why we pray for our kids, how to do it well, and how to respond even when we don’t see the answers we are praying for.
Bunmi has a new book out this summer on prayer, and it would be a great way to pray for your kids the next few months before we kick things off again in September. Speaking of the next school year, (drum roll please) we’re praying the Psalms over our kids, and I cannot wait to see how God uses this study to lead our families closer to him.
So thank you for praying with me this school year. Thank you for always sharing these podcasts with your friends and small groups. And thank you for allowing Pardon the Mess to speak into your parenting each week. I’m truly blessed to walk the road with each of you who want to love the Lord well in your parenting.
P.S. The prayer journal for the 2022-2023 school year will be available starting in July. Listen to Pardon the Mess on Thursdays for more information on how to grab a copy for you and your friends.
Resources:
To learn more about Bunmi Laditan, check her out here!
Happy Summer!
I hope you’re having a great ending to the school year and ready for a fun-filled summer! I know that summer can bring a mix of emotions for most of us, so no guilt as we navigate these days well with our kids.
Today Lisa Appelo is with us to discuss grief and how to walk our kids through it. This is so important for when our own kids are grieving, but also for when those around us are walking hard roads and need support.
Lisa lost her husband suddenly and has led her seven children through this enormous loss for ten years. She shares some critical principles of living through grief such as being authentic, making a safe space for your kids to mourn, and giving grace as each person grieves differently.
There’s a whole lot of wisdom packed into today’s podcast—so listen to it, take a few notes, and share it with someone who might be struggling in a hard place today.
So grateful for you!
Resources from today's show:
Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart
More from Lisa Appelo
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There are no words at a time like this and, if you’re like me, the news feels almost suffocating this morning. I want to take a minute to lead us in a special time of prayer for our friends in Uvalde as well as for all of our students.
Take a minute to listen to this special edition podcast and join me in praying for Uvalde and our schools.
Also, I wrote an article several years ago after the school shooting in Florida that I want to share with you. It’s equally relevant today, and I hope it’s a renewed call to action in praying for our children and schools.
We are not powerless in school shootings
We are down to the last two weeks of praying through our 2021–2022 journal, which is really hard to believe! Yet it also seems fitting to be praying for patience as we’re staring down the barrel of summer and preparing for lots of extra time with our kids the next several months.
It’s not lost on me that very few of us feel like we’ve mastered patience when it comes to our kids, which is why I’m thankful for my good friend Noel Pearce joining us today to work through it. We will not only pray for our kids to be patient with their siblings, friends, teammates, and parents, but also that they develop the discipline of waiting patiently for the Lord.
Pray with us this week, and then don’t miss next week as we close out the school year praying God-sized dreams over our kids!
“God permits what he hates to accomplish what he loves.”
— Joni Eareckson Tada
The ten words above have marked me from the very first time I heard Joni Eareckson Tada speak them. And today Joni is sharing her heart behind these words and much more on a show you definitely don’t want to miss!
Joni is an author, speaker, artist, and the most incredible example of loving Jesus in the hardest places that I’ve ever known. She suffers with quadriplegia, and, even so, has traveled the world sharing her hope in Jesus.
Joni very candidly talks to us about her accident and the words she prayed just months before it happened. We get a little insight into how she’s learned to love Jesus even when life’s midnight moments of despair come creeping in.
There’s literally no way for me to hype today’s show enough, so please, please take a minute and go listen.
Resources from today's show:
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The Biggest Story Bible Storybook
The word “submission” oftentimes has a negative connotation in our culture and is probably not any of our go-to prayers for our kids. But submission is exactly what we’re praying this week because submitting to the Lord means placing ourselves under his authority—and that’s a big component of accepting Jesus and living for him
My good friend Stephanie Martin joins us today to talk about how she prays for her family, and, as always, gives us a few laughs along the way. We also have a good discussion on how to submit our will for our kids to God, and we all know that’s not easy most days.
Join me in praying this week that our children submit to God through obedience to his word, a lifelong commitment to worship, and a desire to live to the higher standard to which they have been called. Can’t wait to pray together!
Attention❗️: If you have children born between 1997 and 2010, today’s podcast is especially for you!
We’re talking about all things Gen Z, and even if your kids aren’t technically a part of Gen Z age-wise, please take a few minutes to listen to this fascinating conversation with Grant Glover. He does an amazing job breaking down how Gen Z views the world as the first generation of kids with 24/7 access to technology. We get a peek behind the curtain on their inner-narrative and the loneliness so often associated with this age group.
His insight on raising kids in a post-Christian culture and how that impacts their feelings about church is so, so good. And although I love this entire conversation with Grant, you have got to hear the very end where he shares the one thing that has had the greatest impact on him staying the course in his faith.
This is a podcast that is going to stick with me for a long, long time. I know you’ll agree!
Resources from today's show:
Off the Clock with Grant Glover
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The Biggest Story Bible Storybook
My mom (aka Dorothy) is joining us on the show today to talk about humility, and I promise you don’t want to miss the chance to hear Dorothy share some wisdom.
It’s easy to skip over humility when praying for our kids because we live in a world that thrives on self-promotion and performance. But the Bible is full of warnings about pride and reminders that we are called to live each day with humility. It’s a foundation of our faith because it’s difficult to know your dire need for the Lord if you don’t have the humility to acknowledge it.
We will also talk about the importance of teaching our children to put others first, seeking to build them up and not just working for their own self-interests. That’s a big one when it comes to social media and raising kids who use it with humility and grace.
Join me and my mom today as we pray for humility for our kids!
Jen Wilkin is a speaker, podcaster, author, and someone who really knows how to study the Bible and lead others in doing the same. I am thrilled to have her joining us today to talk about the “why” and the “how” behind studying the Bible.
Bible literacy matters not simply because it’s how we know God (which is a big one), but it also matters in our parenting because our kids need to learn to measure cultural truth with biblical standards.
As summer approaches it’s easy to lose our routine and also the discipline of spending time with God. Let me encourage you to get a plan in place now so that doesn’t happen. A great way to do this is to gather friends and do a Bible study like Jen’s in community.
Don’t miss these practical yet significant words on studying your Bible.
Resources from today's show:
The Biggest Story Bible Storybook
Kay Wyma is joining us today to talk about purity and thoughts to consider as we pray for our kids. Praying purity definitely means we’re praying for our kids to pursue it in their dating relationships, internet searches, music choices, clothes, and pure groups. However, we also know that purity is rooted in our identity, and when we know our worth it makes purity less about checking a box and more about trusting our Savior.
I love how Kay reminds us that through the blood of Christ we are all clothed in righteousness, and that nothing our kids have done (or that has been done to them) can take that away. There’s a whole lot of soul issues around the notion of purity, and I’m grateful Kay is joining us today to break it down in ways we probably haven’t considered before.
It’s hard to believe we’re in our last month of praying through the school year! Finish strong and join us in praying today!
Do you ever struggle with the deep pain we feel in our lives and how to reconcile that with God’s loving character? I am guessing the answer for all of us is a resounding yes—I think we’ve all been there at some point or another.
Alexandra Hoover is on Pardon the Mess today to help us set up a framework of seeing God both in the hard places and the highlights of our lives. She shares her own Ebenezer-stone moments and walks us through a process of finding our “starting stone” as a beginning place for remembering God’s faithfulness.
This is such an important topic for each of us as believers who will inevitably face pain on this side of heaven, but it’s equally important for our kids. If we can begin to lay these foundational stones of God’s faithfulness in their lives, it will help them remember his goodness in the storms they will face in the future.
You’re going to love Alexandra Hoover!
Resources from today's show:
Eyes Up: How to Trust God’s Heart by Tracing His Hand
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There’s no question that we (as parents) have the greatest influence on our children in the early years of their lives. However, more and more they will begin leaning on people outside of our home, and that’s why we’re praying for Godly mentorship over our kids this week.
Lisa Clark is a dear friend who has mentored me in so many ways, and she’s on the podcast today sharing her thoughts on what mentorship is, what it’s not, and why it’s so important. And let me say, she gives us a lot to consider when it comes to praying for our kids to be godly mentors to others as well.
Can’t wait for you to hear these great words from Lisa Clark today as we pray for our kids' mentors. And don’t miss a little bonus at the end of the show as she gives her best parenting advice.
Today, for the first time ever, we have Ann Voskamp on the show!
I doubt there’s much need for a formal introduction, but I’ll try to give you a few highlights. Ann is a New York Times Bestselling Author, speaker, wife, and mom of 7 kids who lives on a farm with a mass of pigs. She has the most amazing voice and speaks unique truth as someone who has raised a college kid while simultaneously changing diapers. Sounds familiar. 😳
But I really love her vulnerability in sharing some of the hard places she’s faced and how it has changed her perspective and how she lives out her days. One example is learning to live from a perspective of grace in her parenting and her marriage, and it’s a word we probably all need to hear.
If you’re walking some difficult roads (or know someone who is) please take time to listen to Ann’s powerful message on finding the miracle in the middle of the obstacle. Lots of good truth today that I know the Lord will use to speak into your life.
Resources from today's show:
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” — Oscar Wilde
Clearly this isn’t good doctrine, but it’s pretty funny and also relatable.
This week we’re praying for our kids to be quick to forgive others because that’s a central message of the gospel. We’ve been forgiven over and over by the Lord so we’re commanded to forgive others in order to stay in step with the Lord and not harbor bitterness.
As we consider forgiveness we will look at the life of Joseph who gives the ultimate perspective on forgiveness in Genesis 50:20: “You intended to harm me but God intended it all for good.” He trusted God’s authority over all places in his life (even the very hardest) which allowed him to freely and lovingly forgive those who hurt him most.
Take a few minutes today to pray forgiveness over your kids and consider the deeper questions of why we forgive, how we forgive, and how do we point our kids towards the freedom that comes from the hard places of forgiveness.
Not only is Kirsten Watson the mother of seven kids (yes, you read that correctly) and married to former NFL great Benjamin Watson, but today she’s our guest and you’re going to love her. Talk about a lady who knows how to get things done while also living purposefully in her faith—she’s the real deal.
Kirsten and I chat about raising kids in today’s culture, the truth behind youth sports, and why talking about diversity matters to every one of our families. I also really appreciated her words on slowing down, being purposeful in the moment, and taking some deep breaths while leaning into God’s word.
Her new book is Sis, Take a Breath and it’s a great word for all of us in the throes of raising kids, while just trying to keep our heads above water.
Resources from today's show:
Parent with Purpose - A Perfectly Imperfect Christian Parenting Digital Event
“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9 NIV).
I remember when my youngest son was at the age where you’d ask what he learned at church and it was always one word: Jesus. Like anything I would ask, he responded with “Jesus.”
What was your snack today? Jesus.
Did y’all go to the playground? Jesus.
Did you hit anyone (listen to earlier podcasts for more on that one)? Jesus.
But as they get older your prayer really does become that of all the things they can learn about in life, let it be Jesus. He’s their savior, comforter, redeemer, and only hope in a world that claims lots of paths to eternal life.
This week as we talk about our kids’ salvation, I can think of nothing more important to be praying over them. And if your kids have already trusted Jesus as their Savior, thank the Lord for that great blessing and then join us in praying for the kids around us who also need this same message of hope and eternal life.
Shauna Niequest is with us today, and if you love New York City you’re going to love this show. Having moved to the city in the last several years with her family, Shauna’s learning to navigate a whole new way of doing things while also realizing there’s still some things (even as adults) that we don’t understand about life, and that’s OK.
Not only does she share her favorite things to do in NYC, but she also reminds us how to find new ways of doing things when the old ones no longer work. I love her thoughts on teaching our kids to live out their faith in the real world and the encouragement to find a life-long faith, even in the midst of faith disruptions.
Today’s show is full service for those of us who are still ironing out the hard places in our faith while also wondering where to go for the best pizza in New York.
Don’t miss it!
Resources from today's show:
I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet
Parent with Purpose - A Perfectly Imperfect Christian Parenting Digital Event
Praying good health for our kids is something most of us have intuitively prayed over them since the time they were born. As believers, we know that complete health and healing only come when we are in heaven with our Savior. But, until then, we will continue asking the Lord to keep our kids healthy and strong, protecting them from any illness that threatens their body or mind.
But in addition to praying for physical health for our kids this week, let’s also include their emotional health and everything from body image, depression and anxiety to the social media and friendship issues they all face.
Lastly, and most importantly, let’s not forget to pray for spiritual health for our kids. That’s asking the Lord to help them to truly know and trust him, exercising wisdom and discernment in all that they face each day.
There’s a lot to consider as we pray for health over our kids this week. Can’t wait to do it together.
If you’re married, or hope to be married, or have kids that may someday get married—today’s podcast is for you!
I’ve heard over and over again how amazing Gary Thomas is, and today’s the day we get to have him on Pardon the Mess. I can’t get over how much marriage wisdom is packed into our conversation, and here’s a few of the topics we covered:
I can’t wait for you to hear these important words from Gary about our marriages. And I’ll leave you with a great quote from the show: “A great marriage is not something you find, it’s something you make.”
Take a minute to listen to today’s show and then forward it to your spouse!
Resources from today's show:
Parent with Purpose - A Perfectly Imperfect Christian Parenting Digital Event
This week we’re praying peace over our kids, and this seems especially relevant considering the state of our world today. Peace for our kids means they are not consumed with fear and worry, but instead live filled with the peace of God which transcends all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We will spend a few minutes in Psalm 9 considering King David’s formula for living in peace. We’ll see how even in the turmoil he so often faced, he always came to the Lord with (1) praise, (2) perspective on God’s bigger picture, and (3) a healthy memory for God’s past faithfulness in his life.
It’s all about peace on Pardon the Mess today—so share it with a friend!
Have I told you this week how much my family loved Duck Dynasty all those years ago? If not, let me reiterate our love by sharing a few of my favorite Duck Dynasty lines:
I live by my own rules (reviewed, revised, and approved by my wife) . . . but still my own. —Si Robertson
You can talk any redneck into a challenge. That’s why so many rednecks die in strange ways. —Jase Robertson
My advice is: Don't take yourself too seriously, laugh a lot, enjoy your time with family, and appreciate the unique talents of others. Trust in God, love your neighbor, say you're sorry, forgive, and work hard. —Willie Robertson
Knowing my love for this family, you can appreciate how excited I am to have Missy Robertson joining us today. We’re talking about loving our kids unconditionally and her new children’s book written about this important subject. Our conversation also comes at a very interesting time in her life as she and Jace were unexpectedly given custody of a newborn and are working through the details of that.
Missy has a great word on standing in the gap for people around us and how their family has tried to live missionally before, during, and after the platform of Duck Dynasty. Her words on the importance of the nuclear family (and the attacks on it) are so good, and I’m grateful for the passion she has to speak into it.
Having talked to so many of the Duck Dynasty crew in the past, I’m now grateful to meet Missy, and I know you’re going to love her!
Resources from today's show:
Average Boy’s Above-Average Year
This week we’re praying for our kids to be marked by a heart that longs to serve those around them. Not only are we literally serving Jesus when we do so, but we get a beautiful new perspective on life.
There are so many ways to serve others well, but we’ll focus our time on praying that our kids share the gospel, befriend the marginalized, and actively find ways to serve others in our homes and our churches.
We’re also going to spend time praying for Ukraine this week. It feels overwhelming and oftentimes words even fail us. But with all that’s going on in the world, we can trust that where two or more are gathered—the Lord is with us and hears us.
Thank you for being so faithful to pray with us each week. Pray for your kids’ eyes to be opened to the needs around them so that serving others becomes second nature in their daily lives.
We spend a lot of time in these parts talking about the importance of praying over our kids. But this week we’re giving it a little twist and talking to Stephanie Thurling and Sarah Holmstrom about raising prayerful kids. Said differently—how do we raise kids who pray?
As with all things when it comes to parenting, intentionality is the key, and today’s show is full of practical yet intentional ways to incorporate prayer into your kids’ daily routines.
Sarah and Stephanie have a powerful book on teaching your kids how to pray—and let’s just say when they refer to starting a “prayer chain” it’s what you’re thinking of from the ‘80s with lots of serial phone calls and casseroles.
So glad you’re with us today! Be sure to share this with a friend. Let’s work together to raise kids who spend time with their Savior in prayer.
Resources from today's show:
❤️ Average Boy’s Above-Average Year
❤️ How Much Is A Little Boy Worth?
❤️ Parent with Purpose - A Perfectly Imperfect Christian Parenting Digital Event
We’re praying resolve over our kids this week, and a good working definition for resolve is “to reach a firm decision.” So praying resolve means we’re praying they reach a firm decision each and every day to follow Christ and grow in their faith.
Resolve is critical for this generation, who is bombarded daily with social media, pornography, graphic music, widespread internet access, and so much more. To follow the Lord, they will need to consistently do the faith-growing practices of connecting with the Lord daily, following godly mentors, and walking away from things that are less than God’s best for their lives.
Join me this week as we laugh a little bit about my half-marathon experience so many years ago, and the take-aways of discipline, muscle memory, and determination required to do the hard things in life.
Learning differences impact so many of our families, and oftentimes leave us confused and concerned as we consider the impact on our kids. I’m so grateful we have the opportunity to talk about this important issue today, and I’ve brought in the best to guide our discussion.
Dr. Matthew Housson has a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and focuses his Dallas practice on learning differences, specifically diagnosing autism, attention disorders, learning disabilities, and emotional and behavioral disorders.
He is preeminent in his field and is graciously giving us a crash course on topics like these:
My prayer is that we can dispel some of the myths and shed light in the dark places we fear on the learning difference journey.
Trust me when I say you need to hear this today—if not for your own children, then for those walking these roads beside you.
Resources from today's show:
Parenting for the Present resources
Parent with Purpose - A Perfectly Imperfect Christian Parenting Digital Event
I’m guessing you pray inerrancy over your kids every day like I do? Just kidding, me neither.
But I do believe inerrancy is a critical aspect of our faith and one we need to be praying for our kids. Boiling it down to one sentence—praying inerrancy means praying for our kids to believe that everything in the Bible is absolutely true. That’s it!
And it’s especially important in a culture of relativism that believes there is no absolute truth. Some of the anti-inerrancy (assuming that’s a word) messages we hear today relate to the Bible being dated and not relevant today because we’re more enlightened now. Or that the Bible was written by too many authors, so it’s contradictory and not a reliable historical source.
There’s lots more to this topic, but we’re going to keep it short by praying that our kids believe every word in the Bible is divinely inspired and the ultimate authority for their lives, no matter what the culture is telling them about the Bible.
Join me in praying inerrancy this week—it’s a big one!
The last few weeks we’ve discussed the various lies we believe when it comes to things like faith vs. science, or our friendships, or even lies our culture promotes such as Christians are intolerant and even dangerous.
But this week we’re honing in on lies good moms (like you and like me) believe, and Kari Kampakis joins us to identity and dispel them.
We’re talking about lies like:
✨ My needs are second to the needs of my kids
✨ I don’t have time to rest
✨ We’re to be comforters, not comforted
✨ Our personal wellness goals are selfish
✨ We aren’t important outside of our role in the family
I especially don’t want you to miss our discussion of having certain “malls” in our lives (you’ll understand when you listen) and how those places of stress and anxiety need to be identified.
I can’t wait for you to hear this word from Kari Kampakis and all that she is sharing from her book, More than a Mom.
Resources from today's show:
More Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family)
How Much Is a Little Boy Worth
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It’s all but impossible to do the things God calls us to without courage. David, Joshua, Moses, and Samuel each challenged their people to be courageous in their last days before going to heaven. Why? Because living for God isn’t the easy road, and we will be called to places that are impossible without courage.
I can’t help but think of what some of our favorite Old Testament greats would have missed without having courage.
I could go on and on, but let’s just say it’s important to pray courage over our kids because they are going to be asked by God to do bold things in this culture. Let’s also pray that they have the courage to say no to things that are not from God like drugs, toxic friendships, gossiping, pornography, etc.
We have one life to do the things God has called us to this side of heaven—and if the people in the Bible tell us anything it’s that we’re going to need a little courage along the way. Can’t wait to pray with you!
You had me at hello, Jennie Allen!
Too much?
Probably so, but let’s just stop right now and say that our conversation today on friendship (and the lies surrounding it) is amazing. Coming from a place of starting over in her own world, Jennie shares what she now knows about friendships and what they are, what they aren’t, and what impedes us from the God-given deep connection we so desperately need.
Here are some of the great topics we discuss when it comes to finding your people:
Jennie’s book is out this week and you need a copy!
Don’t miss this much-needed conversation on the importance of our friendships and reminders that finding community is not impossible with a little bit of intentionality.
Resources from today's show:
FIND YOUR PEOPLE: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
They say that character is how you act when nobody’s watching. And as believers, we know that there’s never a moment where no one is watching because the Lord is with us at all times.
This week we’re praying for our kids’ character, using Stephen’s life in Acts 6 and 7 as our reference point. Every time Stephen is mentioned in Scripture he’s described as being “full of faith” or “full of the Holy Spirit” or “full of God’s grace and power.” He had a reputation of knowing and living for God. Reputations matter, and a reputation marked by character has enormous impact.
When we pray for character this week we’re praying not only for our kids' reputation, but for the actions that form their reputation, and for significant character-building opportunities in their lives. We’re also discussing practical marks of good character, like serving others, speaking truth in love, and reigning in on our words.
Billy Graham once said that “[w]hen wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost.”
Let’s pray for character together!
Jim Denison is with us today, and I believe there’s no one more in tune with our culture and the narratives we’re facing as believers. Jim and I discuss why it’s important to identify the preeminent lies of the day so that we can have answers and bring light to those who so desperately need the Lord.
My hope is that today’s show gives you a new framework by which to consider our faith and encourages you to find your specific calling for the Lord. Although we cover a lot of ground, here’s some nuggets you don’t want to miss:
✨ How our culture has rejected Biblical morality
✨ The problem with living in a society that believes there is no absolute truth
✨ The smaller earthquakes forming a greater tsunami for Christians in America
✨ Ways to counter the incorrect narratives and bring light to a dark world
We can be assured that if we aren’t willing to inform our kids about cultural issues of our day, the world will gladly do it for us. I believe today’s show is critical for raising kids who are eyes wide open in today’s culture, but also confident in God’s sovereignty and hope.
What is that one thing that totally gets under your skin as a parent? Messy rooms, bad grammar, laziness? For me it’s disrespect.
It takes all I have not to lose my ever loving mind when my kids are disrespectful in our home or towards others. I think it’s because I know how detrimental it can be later in life if you don’t learn respect early on.
Respect is significant, so I’m thankful we’re talking about it this week. We’re praying that our kids learn to show respect not just towards the authorities in their lives but also respecting those around them because all people are made in the image of Christ. But taking it even further—let’s pray they have an extra dose of respect towards God’s Word, his church, and the people he has put in spiritual leadership in their lives.
Respect is one of the most important things we can teach our children as they learn to interact well with others. Let’s pray together over it this week!
Louie Giglio is back with us today, and you need to drop everything and listen now!
Okay, maybe it’s not that urgent but what a gift to have Louie join us in continuing our series on lies we believe as Christians. Today we’re discussing the common misconception that science and God do not line up, making christians have to turn a blind eye to certain science premises because of our faith.
Louie encourages us to actually do the opposite and stay diligent in exploring science to see how all things lead us back to God. We also discuss how important it is to have these discussions with our kids so they aren’t blown out of the water having never considered this “science vs. God narrative” after they leave our homes.
Louie has a new devotional out for our younger kids (ages 8-12) called The Wonder of Creation: 100 More Devotions About God and Science. Grab a copy for the little ones in your life as a great way to start science related discussions.
Lastly, if you aren’t familiar with his Passion Conferences for college kids, today is your perfect chance for an insider’s look as Louie shares some of the most meaningful moments in Atlanta last month.
It’s borderline comical when you stop and think about all the people in the Bible who were simply going about their business only to have God completely “interrupt” their plans and completely change their course.
I think of Noah stopping life to build an ark, or Abraham leaving it all to go to a foriegn country, or even Mary switching her wedding plans to baby preparations.
Only God can take our ordinary days and make them extraordinary for his purposes—if we’re willing. It takes some real intentionality to hold our plans loosely and allow the Lord to interrupt what we have planned in order to accomplish what he has uniquely designed. And the same goes for our kids.
This week we’re praying that our kids live interruptible lives in which they (1) live with enough margin to have time for the things God has for them, (2) learn to hear God’s voice in the still small moments, and (3) live with a willingness to go wherever he leads.
Oh, and I have my own story of interruptibility that I share in today’s podcast—I hope it encourages you as we pray interruptibility over our kids this week.
There are certain lies we frequently hear in our culture that, if not addressed, we just might start to believe as truth. It’s interesting the lies I’ve bought into throughout my life that I now look back on and regret. Lies I’ve accepted in friendships, in marriage, in my identity—I could go on and on.
I’m guessing you’ve got a little of this going on too, so let’s take a little time to hone in on these lies the next few weeks. Today I have Molly Stillman with us talking about a prevalent lie our kids are hearing about “following their heart.” When you really dig into scripture and consider what God says about our heart, the problem becomes very clear (see Jeremiah 5:7–13) with letting it become our guide.
Molly is a podcaster, author, speaker, wife, and mom. Extra bonus: she’s super funny.
Take a few minutes with me this week (and the rest of this month) to consider the truths of Jesus that overcome all the lies we’re tempted to believe.
Praying protection over our kids is probably one of the easiest things we pray for them from the day they are born. But this week in praying protection we’re doubling down on asking the Lord to watch over them physically, spiritually, and emotionally. One key point I try to pray over my kids relates to the messaging they receive about their identity and also the messaging they believe about God and their faith.
But anytime I get hyper focused on praying over the safety and protection of my family, I’m reminded of Francis Chan’s caution in his book Crazy Love. He suggests that as believers we sometimes become obsessed with our safety and protection at the expense of asking God for whatever brings him the most glory and allows him to accomplish his purposes in our lives. Ouch.
I truly believe there’s nothing wrong with praying for protection over our families—and it’s important we do so. However, I wonder this week if we can also pray that God’s divine purposes are accomplished through our families, and he is glorified even when that’s at the expense of our earthly protection.
Lots to think about and pray over!
These people in my house want something to eat every single night and, well, it’s all together exhausting. Anyone out there with me?
Thank goodness we have creator, writer, TV personality, and mom Dina Deleasa-Gonsar joining us today to address this age-old dinner dilemma. Dina created a popular food blog called DishItGirl.com.
What I love about Dina is her commitment to her faith, her family, and making food meaningful without all the mom guilt attached. I also loved these things we discussed on today’s show:
If you are tired of the every night dinner dilemma like I am, today’s episode is for you!
“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that” (1 Timothy 6:6-8 NIV).
Well that’s one way to put it bluntly, Paul. ⬆️
Today we’re praying contentment over our kids, and, let’s be honest, we probably need to be praying it for ourselves as well. Praying contentment for our children is praying they have an inner satisfaction and fulfillment no matter what their outside circumstances bring.
A great starting place is to pray that our kids live with gratitude, perspective, and inner peace— even when life brings the hard things we all face. Contentment seems most elusive when we’re suffering, but I believe Joni Eareckson Tada (an amazing Christian woman and quadriplegic) says it best in this quote: “When life is rosy, we may slide by with knowing about Jesus, imitating him and quoting him and speaking of him. But only in suffering will we know Jesus.”
Let’s pray this week for our kids to find contentment by pursuing and trusting Jesus no matter what life throws their way. Thanks for joining me as we pray this week, and please take a minute to share our podcast with a friend or two!
As we’re approaching our 300th episode of Pardon the Mess, I am thrilled to welcome back our very first guest all those years ago: Janet Denison!
Janet is an author, speaker, mother, grandmother, and friend who has given me a whole lot of parenting advice over the years. She’s joining us today to talk about finding “a great calm” in our lives even when everything around us feels completely chaotic.
Here’s a few of my favorite topics we cover in today’s show:
If you’re looking for some seasoned, biblical wisdom for raising kids no matter what you’re facing—you’ve landed in the exact right place today!
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Resources from today's show:
A Great Calm by Janet Denison
Perhaps the greatest gift my parents have ever given me is the gift of growing up in a praying home.
My parents have prayed before meals, before bed, and before every major decision for as long as I can remember. They’ve prayed over me more times than I can count, and I’m eternally grateful to them. That being said, I can think of many years in my own life where prayer was not a priority (and my life 100% reflected that).
I don’t want that same story for my kids, so this week is especially meaningful to me as we talk about raising kids with prayer-filled lives. We will consider not just the “how to” behind prayer but also the “why to.” Prayer is the perfect thing to recommit to in a new year, so join me in praying prayerfulness for our kids this week (quite the mouthful).
Oh friends, I really, really can’t wait for you to hear today’s show with Tricia Roos. I’m so grateful to know Tricia personally and see first hand how the Lord is using her story to speak of his faithfulness even in the deepest places of loss.
Tricia was three months into her pregnancy when she received a call that her unborn daughter had a rare condition that would be fatal. Against the advice of her medical team, she resolved to have her baby despite a chromosomal condition called Trisomy 18. In the midst of the uncertainty and pain, Tricia’s wish for a healthy baby girl changed into something more beautiful than she could have ever dreamed of.
Tricia’s story is a reminder of how God’s transforming power allows us to love deeper, go further, and grow more than we could ever have imagined for ourselves. I especially love Tricia’s words on learning to live for something bigger than ourselves—a great perspective to consider in our parenting. So glad you’re with us today!
When Wishes Change: What if the thing you feared most brings more than you dreamed? By Tricia Roos
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Might I share with you one of my favorite quotes of all time?
“Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” - Francis Chan
I heard that quote many years ago and it continues to guide how I look at the various things that occupy my days. As I pray for the Lord to show favor over my life and that of my families, I find myself asking him to not allow us to be successful in things that are insignificant.
This week as we’re praying excellence over our kids, I think this quote needs to be in the back of our minds as we consider how we pray. So often we want our kids to be excellent at the things the world holds in high esteem, yet those same things often distract them from the bigger purposes God has for their lives.
We’re called to do all things for the Glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31) and excellence is critical to doing that well. Let’s join together in praying for our kids to show excellence in all the things he calls them to.
I’m kicking off the New Year a little differently this year with no guest joining us today. Instead, I’m sharing some of the things I wish I had known as a younger mom. I try not to live with regrets, but I also know the value that comes by taking inventory in our parenting and acknowledging the areas of growth as well as the struggles.
The four things I’m sharing with you today began with an article I wrote several years ago from the perspective of “the oldest mom on the playground.” Since then, I’ve had opportunities to share these parenting truths to various groups, and the Lord has given me even greater clarity that I pray will encourage and challenge you.
I have no doubt that your social media feeds (like mine) are packed with all kinds of weight loss and exercise challenges for a physically healthier 2022. But I would also encourage you to avoid “back-burnering” (assuming that’s a word) your parenting and instead take this week to consider what’s working, what’s not, where you might need to be encouraged, and where you need to encourage others. I’ll start us off with today’s podcast on the four things I would tell my younger parenting self.
I would be so grateful if you would not only take a minute to listen, but then also share it with the other parents you’re walking alongside with each day.
P.S. As we begin this New Year, one of our prayers is that Pardon the Mess will reach more and more parents. One way you can help us do this is to leave a review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts. It would be a great blessing if you could take just a minute and do that for me today! So grateful 💕
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Happy New Year!
This time of year always inspires me to consider necessary life-style changes, incorporate missing things into my routines, and find ways to live a new year filled with amazing opportunities better than I did the year before. Or at least that lasts for a few weeks!
But I’m always thankful for the routine in place of praying for our kids, and I love that we’re beginning 2022 by praying purpose over each of them. People so often struggle with the age-old question surrounding their “purpose” in this life, so we’re tackling it as we pray over our kids this week. (Spoiler alert: our purpose is to glorify God.)
Praying for our kids to have purpose in their daily lives means praying they glorify God not only in how they live their earthly lives, but also in how they prepare for all eternity in heaven. We will break this down a little bit further and also take time to begin this new year asking the Lord to show our kids the things he has uniquely created for them to accomplish.
So grateful you are joining me to pray this year! Share our podcast with a friend or two and ask them to join in as we pray for our families.
I’ve never really loved the post-Christmas letdown.
But the one thing I do look forward to each year is the opportunity to make adjustments in my life, allowing me to live more purposefully and biblically. That’s why Pardon the Mess is revisiting one of our favorite episodes of 2021.
Louie Giglio joins us to talk through the spiritual aspects in our lives that may need some tweaking.
Louie is pastor of Passion City Church and the founder of the Passion movement. Having devoted his life to working with young adults, he shares the number one thing he believes our kids need before leaving for college.
We covered so much in today’s show, but here are a few highlights:
I’m so thankful you’re here, and I can’t wait to kick off 2022 exploring new ways to live and parent fully in Jesus.
Are you ready to ring in the New Year later this week?
My crew is skiing over the next few days, and my greatest hope is to enter into 2022 without any casts, crutches, or major casualties. We set the bar pretty low over here.
But as we take time to consider a new year and all the new opportunities before us, I love the thought of praying generosity over our kids. The Bible speaks of generosity often because God knows how quickly our allegiances can be divided, and he wants all of our affection and trust to be centered wholly on him.
Just as it’s a great time to consider what generosity looks like in our own lives, we are also praying it for our kids. And it’s not just financial generosity we’re considering since most of our kids don’t have a financial empire at this point—but we’re praying our kids generously serve others and love the people around them well.
It’s the week of Christmas, and if it ain’t already done, it ain’t gonna happen. Well maybe not, but nonetheless you need today’s podcast. Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson from the Big Boo Cast are sitting down for a hilarious conversation on so many things that I had a hard time even coming up with a title for today.
I love their wisdom on extending grace to our kids and how the whole notion of Jesus’ grace changes our families. Sophie also has a new devo on grace that fills a big gap in the devo world for teenage girls. I realize you’ve got some serious last minute Christmas crazy going on right now, but here’s a few additional topics you can’t miss on today’s show:
I hope you and your family have a very merry Christmas!
Enjoy this well-deserved break with Sophie and Melanie.
Resources from today's show: Grace Upon Grace Journaling Devotional: Trusting God No Matter What by Sophie Hudson The Big Boo Cast
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This is it! The Super Bowl of all holidays—it’s Christmas!
This week as we’re praying joy over our kids, I'm wondering what things have brought you joy this Christmas? Is it the small things like sitting by the Christmas tree late at night or car rides to look at lights? Or maybe it’s some of the bigger events that happen this time of year like parties and school programs.
I think my deepest joy in this season has come during an unexpected trip to New York City with my mom and my daughter to see the Rockefeller Christmas tree. There’s just something about NYC at Christmas, but also having the opportunity to do it with my mom and my daughter—well, what a sweet opportunity I’ve had to celebrate Christmas while being reminded that joy comes in all forms and fashions on this side of heaven.
When people ask me what books I consider “must reads,” I reference Mark Batterson 100% of the time. If I haven’t told you this week how much I love In a Pit with a Lion on A Snowy Day, then let’s just get it out there so you can add it to your Christmas wish list. 😀🎄
Knowing this, I’m going to ask you to excuse my gushing on today’s podcast since Mark Batterson is with us and talking about everything from Christmas in D.C., living with gratitude, speaking blessing over your kids, and so much more. Especially this time of year when we tend to be so consumer focused, I love his words on cultivating a lifestyle of gratitude and the heart behind his new children’s book, The Blessing of You.
As we begin thinking towards 2022, I know you will love his wisdom on setting goals and implementing changes in our daily habits. In other words, for those areas of our lives that need some, shall we say “growth” this next year . . . tune in for some great reminders on the importance of winning each day for the greater good.
If you listen for no other reason, Mark Batterson shares with us some of his must read books and let’s just say I’ve already bought three of them. So take this show on the road today for your Christmas errands and be encouraged!
Resources from today's show:
At the risk of saying this ad nauseum, may I once again mention how desperately I want our kids to truly know God and not just know about God? Maybe it’s because I grew up in an amazing Christian home and went to church every time the doors were opened but didn’t really know God personally for many years that leads me to drive home this point so often.
But at the end of the day our kids need more than just head knowledge about Jesus—they need daily connection. That connection is exactly what we’re praying for this week, and I came up with a somewhat lame acronym to guide us as we pray (it’s better explained on the podcast):
Even as there’s so much that feels STAT, or high priority these days, let’s flip the narrative and pray with urgency that our kids have a connection with the Lord that changes their lives.
I feel like there’s not a whole lot that needs to be said when introducing Sheila Walsh as the guest for today’s show. I mean after all, she’s godly, funny, and real. She’s not afraid to speak into some of the darkest places she’s faced and how God has met her there so faithfully.
But that’s exactly what we talk about today as we chat about her new book, Holding On When You Want to Let Go. She vulnerably shares about walking through another bout of depression this last year and how reading the Psalms has been so therapeutic. She identifies lies we believe about God when we’re in the middle of life’s struggles, and ways to reframe the narrative we allow in our hearts and minds.
Sheila and I have lots of fun talking about all things Christmas, but I also know this time of year can be difficult for so many, making her words very timely and necessary. So glad you’re doing this with me each week!
As I read through the Christmas story this time of year, I’m reminded of the great favor God has shown on us. Even before the world was created he devised this plan of sending his son in the form of a baby so that we might have the opportunity to spend all eternity with him.
He knew we would be rebellious, self-indulging, and sinful people, yet only by his favor are we not left in this desperate place—instead we’re lovingly called children of God. As we pray favor over our kids this week, let’s begin by praying they can experience even the tiniest glimpse of the significance God’s favor has over their lives.
How that changes the dreams they chase, the people they serve, and the routines they follow! And as we pray they fully experience God’s favor, let’s also pray that they live in a way that allows God to bless all they do and be a blessing to all those they encounter.
It’s a great privilege to start each week by praying for our kids. Take a minute to listen to today’s podcast and also share it with a friend as we focus this month on the things of significance in the midst of the craziness.
I’ve figured something out about myself the last few years when it comes to holidays, especially Christmas. I’ve realized that even though I say I have “no expectations” of what Christmas should look like and I wholeheartedly believe that it’s important to let go of the idealism behind the “perfect” Christmas—I still carry around some deep rooted expectations that leave me feeling disappointed when things don’t look like I had hoped.
I see it on the dreaded Christmas card photo day when I lose all signs of godliness trying to get my people to dress right, smile right, and have a good attitude while taking a picture that means virtually nothing to them (but for some reason is so important to me).
Or maybe it’s in the need to have the perfect “fun gift” for my kids each Christmas morning, or to host the most festive party, to be invited to the right events, or even when I’m knee-deep searching for the most meaningful Christmas show that’s entertaining, yet life-changing (but on a week night because our weekends are crazy in December, but not too long because it’s a school night, and we need Santa pics right before so it can’t be too early, and why can’t they have a snack bar because these people have to eat . . . ).
I’m guessing I’m not alone in this madness which makes today’s podcast with Tama Fortner very timely as we consider reclaiming the peace of Christmas. Tama suggests ways to camp-out at the intersection of ordinary and the divine, finding joy in the important things and dropping the rest of it.
We also consider the Christmas story and how Mary’s uncalculated yes can change our approach to the holidays and everyday. Here’s to kicking crazy to the curb this Christmas!
Simply Christmas: A Busy Mom's Guide to Reclaiming the Peace of the Holidays: A Devotional by Tama Fortner
Read, Ask, Go! Interactive advent devotional for the whole family
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If your pants are a little tighter and the stress level a little higher this Monday after Thanksgiving, you’re not alone. With all the shopping, wrapping, parties, family gatherings, cooking, and baking—it may feel like a little hope is exactly what it’s gonna take to keep going.
Kay Wyma is with me today (I mean seriously, she’s the best), and we’re talking about the role hope plays in our lives and the lives of our children. As we pray hope over our kids this week, we’re reminded that only the Lord can strengthen, restore, and deliver on the great plans he has for each of our lives. Knowing this, we can pray for our kids to find hope even on their most discouraging days as he faithfully restores their strength and gives them a kingdom perspective.
Can I encourage you these next few weeks to keep up the good work of praying for your kids each week? If you’re like me, it feels like sometimes the first things to go in the craziness of the holidays are those things that have the most significance. Prayer is significant, so let’s keep on keeping on the next few weeks.
On today’s show, Ellie Holcomb joins us to talk about seeing Jesus for who he really is and guiding our families to practice the truths of scripture and trust God even in the midst of the unknown. She very practically shares how she speaks truth into the darkness by using fighting words from scripture.
Ellie is an amazing singer, author, songwriter, speaker and, most importantly, mom. She literally draws me closer to Jesus every time I hear her speak. I’m so thankful for these few minutes with her today and can’t wait for you to hear her heart for the Lord.
Resources from today's show:
• Fighting Words -100 Days of Speaking Truth into the Darkness by Ellie Holcomb
• Ellie Holcomb's new record, Canyon
• Tyndale Kids and Compassion International globally-inspired, interactive resources that make planning family time a snap
• Read, Ask, Go! Interactive advent devotional for the whole family
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Happy Thanksgiving week!
Just curious, is anyone besides me completely grossed out by the whole cooking the turkey thing and pulling out the innards? Honestly, I could do without the turkey in general and just park myself in front of the sides for a fine little Thanksgiving. With great timeliness, my Mom is joining me on the podcast today to talk about Thanksgiving, praying for our kids, and everything in between.
One of my favorite things about this time of year (aside from the food) is the opportunity to reflect on and appreciate all that the Lord has done in the last year. Just as everything in me wants to rush right into Christmas decorating and gift shopping, I’m reminded that gratefulness is so critical for my soul and I desperately need to thank the Lord for his faithfulness day after day.
As we celebrate Thanksgiving this week, join with me and my sweet Mom to pray gratefulness over our kids. Let’s pray they acknowledge the Lord’s faithfulness in their lives, seeing him in the big and the small, the successes and the failures, and the trials and the triumphs.
Truly the Lord is the giver of all good things—let’s celebrate this truth by praying our kids are marked with a heart of gratitude.
It’s a hallmark day at Pardon the Mess because for the first time ever we have Annie Downs on the show. Annie lives in Nashville and is an author, podcaster, speaker, and expert on all things related to having fun!
You guys have no idea how long I’ve waited for a chance to chat with sweet Annie. Having followed her for many years, I’m absolutely in awe of how she lives out her faith in fresh and exciting ways, challenging believers to figure out what looks fun in their own lives (and then actually go out and do it).
Today she reminds us that God uses all things in our lives to prepare us for his greater purposes. I love her quote that God “full circles all things,” meaning he takes even our missteps and detours and uses them for his greater purposes.
But more than anything, I want you to hear Annie’s encouragement on having fun as Christians (so often we miss that component in life) and the importance of helping our kids figure out what “fun” looks like in their own lives both now and in the future.
This is the perfect time of year to be thankful for all that God has done for us. A great way to express this gratitude is to live with joy and chase after the fun things God has created for each of us uniquely. I just know you’re going to love Annie Downs like I do after today’s show.
When I read the verses above, it makes me think of how nice it would be to simply hear a voice telling me how to proceed in certain situations and the resulting confidence I would have in knowing that I’m getting it right. And then I’m reminded that the Holy Spirit does just this when we listen expectantly as believers.
My dear friend Stephanie Martin (and one of the most discerning people I know) is joining us today as we pray for discernment in our kids’ lives. We’re talking about teaching our kids to be attentive to God in all things and praying they learn to hear God’s voice in their lives from an early age.
Not only is having discernment critical in our kids’ lives—but we’re also praying they have people around them who help them discern truth in all the situations they will face.
There’s just nobody like Jamie Ivey when it comes to having a hilarious conversation filled with lots of truth and vulnerability. This girl loves Austin, Texas, her family, parenting, marriage, and encouraging people to walk the path God has uniquely designed for them.
Today’s show was such a great reminder for me that what we do matters, and that our job is to be faithful where God has us (instead of wishing our lives looked like someone or something else). I love Jamie’s thoughts on gauging if we’re staying on our own God-given path and also the gift of being a cheerleader for others.
Jamie and I also talk about marriage, teaching our kids to live comfortably in their own skin, and so much more that you just can’t possibly miss! Take a few minutes to listen to my conversation with Jamie and then share it with a friend who needs the reminder that God wants “you to be you.”
Today we’re talking about time-management on Pardon the Mess, and my husband Mike is making a cameo as we pray over our children.
As a young mom I so often remember being told to treasure each moment because “the days are long but the years are short.” Now as a mom who just celebrated a fairly large milestone birthday, I realize the absolute truth of those words both in raising kids and just in life generally.
Because it’s so hard to truly appreciate how precious each day is when you’re young, we’re focusing our prayer time this week on praying time management for our kids. Their days, like ours, are filled with so many demands as they balance school, activities, family, and time with the Lord. Let’s pray as they do this each day they learn to make wise decisions with their time and use it in ways that best honor God’s purposes in their lives.
I love the wisdom of Psalm 90:12 as it relates to time management: “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” The Lord is our sole source of all wisdom—so let’s ask him to guide our kids this week.
November is National Adoption Month, and I’m thrilled to be talking with Rebekah Lyons about adoption, following God’s callings, and what a ‘surrendered yes’ looks like in each of our lives.
And then there’s the fact that I’m slightly obsessed with the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade in New York City, and Rebekah (having lived in NYC for several years) tells us all about it. Basically I’ve reconfirmed my commitment to get there someday very soon!
Here are some of the important topics we cover in today’s show:
I can’t wait for you to hear today’s show, and, in honor of National Adoption Month, I give you a recent picture of my sweet little one (along with a few links to articles I’ve written about our adoption journey).
It’s November, and as we begin the countdown to Thanksgiving I naturally think of friends, family, and doing life together. Because of this, all month long I’ll be bringing some of my favorite people on the podcast to join us in praying over our kids. You’ll hear from people like my husband, my mom, and several of my sweet friends with lots of wisdom.
To kick it off today, we’re praying for the friendships in our kids’ lives. One of my dearest friends, Brandie Rodgers, is joining us as a mom who has prayed every single day for her three kids to have Godly friends. She has some sweet reminders on why we pray this for our kids and how God honors our prayers when we do.
We know that friendships can be a great blessing to our children, especially when they have good ones. Let’s pray this week for our kids to have at least one authentic, godly friendship to build them up in each stage of their lives. Let’s also pray they are good friends to others, showing kindness, encouragement, and inclusivity to those around them.
So glad you’re with us!
P.S. Did you know that we text out personalized scripture each morning corresponding with our prayer journal? To send your kids scripture each morning (and yourself too!) text ‘textingtruth’ to 888-308-9684.
When my son was about five-years-old he repeatedly urged me to say no to “rugs.” I was perplexed at his stance against floor coverings until I realized he was referring to drugs. Apparently he misunderstood a well-intentioned friends' advice on avoiding drug use—and it still makes me laugh today. But I digress.
This week is red-ribbon week in public schools and the perfect time for us to talk about the tough subject of drugs and addiction in our kids. Richard Capriola has great wisdom in this area from his work as a mental health and addiction counselor the last two decades, most recently at the Menninger Clinic in Houston.
Here are some of the important topics we cover in today’s show:
Please take time to listen to this important topic. If you’re like me, you may feel like it’s not relevant to your kids today or even that it’s a heavy subject you would rather avoid. But we don’t know what we don’t know about the future and who may need us to be knowledgeable in this area. So let’s do it together.
Check out The Addicted Child book by Richard Capriola.
If David was named a man after God’s own heart yet still needed accountability, how much more do we need it in our own lives? That’s why we’re praying this week for our kids to have mentors and friends (i.e. Nathans) who point them to truth when their actions don’t line up with God’s word.
Accountability is not only important for our kids now, but also as they leave our homes one day and need truth spoken into their marriages, finances, and careers. It’s so easy to be influenced by the norms of our culture, making accountability incredibly important from people who will say what we need to hear and not always what we want to hear.
Only after Nathan confronted David about his sin with Bathsheba did David confess and repent making his relationship right with God. It was in the blind spots of his sin where God placed accountability in David’s life. It’s those same blindspots where we will be praying accountability for our kids both today and all of their days this side of heaven.
She needs no introduction yet I’ll give her one anyway. Sadie Robertson Huff is with us today and she blows me away every single time. Sadie is a Duck Dynasty daughter, speaker, podcaster, New York Times best-selling author, and now in her most important role . . . . a mom!
Sadie talks with us about the ups and downs of being a new mom while also balancing God’s public calling on her life. She shares her best advice on fighting anxiety and the reminder that every single thing we fear still bows down to Jesus.
I also love her philosophy on Instagram and the encouragement that Christians need to be in this space pointing people to Jesus. Suffice it to say that today’s show is an encouraging word for all of us raising kids in today’s culture, determined to show our kids how to follow God in the middle of the chaos.
Resources from today's show:
Live On Purpose: 100 Devotions for Letting Go of Fear and Following God by Sadie Robertson Huff
All The Feels for Teens by Elizabeth Laing Thompson
Otter B Joyful by Pamela Kennedy
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What we believe about ourselves informs virtually every aspect of our daily walk in this world and with Jesus. If we don’t continually ground our identity in the Lord, we begin searching for identity in the things of this world. Paul Tripp says it this way: “Identity amnesia leads to identity replacement.”
Join us this week as we not only pray identity over our kids, but also address some of the lies they believe about their value.
Here’s a few identity reminders as you get started praying over your kids:
You are valued- Matthew 6:26
You are forgiven- 2 Chronicles 7:15
You have hope- Exodus 14:14
You are known- Jeremiah 1:6
You have purpose- Ephesians 2:10
I can’t wait for us to spend a few minutes considering God’s word on identity and ways to remind our kids of who and whose they are.
It’s double fun today with Heather MacFadyen AND Kay Wyma joining us on Pardon the Mess.
Kay and I talk with Heather about her new book, Don’t Mom Alone, and all the reasons it’s critical we seek community as we raise our kids.
Some of my favorite topics we hit are:
I’m so excited for Heather’s book that’s out THIS WEEK! So take a quick listen to our conversation and then go grab a copy so you “don’t mom alone” (see what I did there?).
Love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—it’s hard to think of a list of attributes our kids need more than those listed in Galatians 5:22–23.
Thankfully we’re spending this entire week praying the fruit of the spirit over our kids. As we do so, it’s important to remember that the fruit of the spirit isn’t something we’re simply hoping they will work harder to accomplish; but instead we’re praying it’s evident in their lives because the Holy Spirit is present and guiding them to live as God calls.
If you haven’t already, can I encourage you to memorize these verses this week? Even better, memorize them as a family. I’ve found so many times in my life that the scripture I’ve memorized naturally comes to mind at the perfect moments because I knew the verses, and the Holy Spirit directed me to their truths.
Thank you for praying with us each week! I’m overwhelmed by the response from parents just like you who want nothing more than kids who love and follow the Lord. These days matter and praying for our kids is significant.
“I’ve been raised in a family where telling people about Jesus is as common as drinking water.”—Rachel Ruth Graham Lotz
If you’ve ever wondered about the legacy Billy Graham left for his family then the quote above pretty much says it all. I don’t know about you, but in my house there’s a lot of things happening as common as drinking water, but it’s not telling people about Jesus. 😫
Either way, I’m so honored to have Anne Graham Lotz (Billy Graham’s daughter) and Rachel-Ruth (Billy Graham’s granddaughter) joining us today on Pardon the Mess. I had the opportunity to hear Anne speak many years ago, and the authority and wisdom with which she spoke is still with me today.
Rachel-Ruth and Anne talk have some great insight for us today relating to:
Anne and Rachel-Ruth also share practical ways to study the Bible, so be sure and check out the resources I’ve linked below. I can’t wait for you to hear this powerful conversation!
Jesus Followers by Anne Graham Lotz and Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright
Anne’s guide for studying the Bible
Anne’s website and other free resources
We’re a month into praying for our kids, and it’s not too late if you are just now jumping in! Each Monday morning we will pray an attribute of our faith over our kids with a short 10 minute podcast guiding us as we do it. It’s fast, it’s intentional, and it’s so important we cover our kids in prayer each day.
This week we’re praying for our kids to have self-control and . . . well—there ain’t a one of us who couldn't use a little bit more of it. For example, please refer back to a few weeks ago when my youngest ingested a magnet and a marble within a few weeks. Bless it child, self-control!
The thing about self-control is that it’s most noticeable when you don’t have it. And since our faith is typically displayed through our actions and not our words, self-control becomes pretty important in our daily lives. So this week we’ll be praying for our kids to have self-control in their words, friendships, dating relationships, electronics, marriages, finances, and everywhere in between.
Can’t wait to pray with you!
How do we raise sons of courage and character? That’s the million dollar question we’re tackling today on Pardon the Mess.
Jon Tyson, Pastor of Church of the City New York, spent six years shaping, guiding, and mentoring his son from adolescence to adulthood believing intentionality was the key to raising Godly men in today’s culture. As a part of this journey with his son, he learned practical ways for fathers (also equally applicable to mothers) to shepherd their sons and maximize this pivotal time in their lives.
Yes, it all comes down to intentionality and discipleship which is why you’ll love his advice on doing it well even in the middle of our crazy schedules. And then there’s a pretty significant mic drop when Jon throws down some of the greatest parenting wisdom I’ve heard in a long time: A huge “yes” to raising our sons intentionally requires a million “noes” to the smaller things. (Gosh that’s something I wish I would have embraced a long time ago.)
Don’t miss our discussion on the shifts boys need to make between adolescence and adulthood and the absolute must of giving them our blessing before sending them off to do great things.
You’re going to love Jon Tyson, and I’m so grateful you’re with us today!
If anyone can appreciate the impact influencers have in our world today, it’s our kids. They are inundated with social media influencers telling them what to buy, how to look, and what to do in given situations. But despite the somewhat negative perception we may associate with our culture’s “influencers,” as Christians we are called have influence in our own circles and our kids are too.
Today we’re praying that our kids will visibly and authentically live out their faith, and in doing so draw others to him. It’s no coincidence that they are part of the teams, friend groups, and clubs they are in—it’s by design. So we’re praying that as they go about their days they will have influence through their words, conduct, love, faith, and purity (1 Timothy 4:12).
Even though our kids will likely (hopefully) never have the influencer status of a Kardashian, we’re reminded that it’s the significance of the message not the size of the audience that matters. Let’s pray they are faithful influencers of the gospel message that our world so desperately needs.
We are coming in hot this week with Jackie Hill Perry. She’s chatting with us about holiness, what that even means, and why God’s holiness matters to our everyday lives.
If you haven’t heard of Jackie Hill Perry, or JHP as I like to call her (not really, but kinda wanted to) you’re missing out. She’s been given the opportunity to share her story in all the big places and has an amazing testimony of working through same-sex attraction issues of her past, and the role God’s holiness has played in redefining who she is today.
There’s so much you won’t want to miss, but here’s a few of the topics we hit on today’s show: why awareness of God’s holiness increases our trust in him, the problem with allowing our circumstances to have the final say in our beliefs about God, how to walk in love with those with same sex attraction, using our story to point to God’s greater good, teaching our kids that how you “feel” is not who you are
I’m just so grateful that we have this time today with JHP! It’s a conversation you won’t soon forget.
Praying fearlessness over our kids will likely result in a little bit of fear in our own lives—am I right? My youngest has already fully embraced the fearless life, and let’s just say it has caused me more gray hair than I care to highlight at this age. 🤪
Even so, as Christian parents we want our kids to live fearless when it comes to sharing their faith, walking in the ways of the Lord, and chasing after the God-things in their lives. I love that the anxiety and fear we face in this life is no surprise to God—he knew it was coming so he graciously gave us a Bible full of “fear not” verses.
Even though there’s nothing wrong with praying for our kids’ safety, let’s go a step further this week and pray for fearlessness in our kids, knowing that the one who created them will also protect and sustain them.
Click here to get a prayer journal: https://bit.ly/2Z7kdMF
If I was braver I would show you a picture of my closet floor at this very moment in solidarity with all those slowly being overtaken by the clutter in their homes. But I’m not that brave, so let’s move on. Ha!
Allie Casazza has been on Good Morning America, The Today Show, and a whole lot of other places talking about ways to keep our stuff from stealing our joy. Coming from a place of deep stress and frustration in her own home, she realized that what takes up our space takes up our time. She discovered she was spending all her time maintaining her stuff. Sounds vaguely familiar, right?
Allie shares with us today her best tips for decluttering our houses one room at a time. She encourages us to set the intention for the room and align everything in it with that purpose (note: the intention for my closet is unclear at this time). Even if this all feels overwhelming, you’ll love her tips for small steps that will make a big difference.
Don’t miss our full-service show today on ways to declutter our kids’ stuff, our own stuff, the sentimental stuff, and all the rest that’s tripping us up (quite literally).
It’s finally here! Week one of our 2021-2022 prayer journal kicks-off today on Pardon the Mess.
If this is your first time to join us for the prayer podcasts, here’s how it works. Each Monday morning we will release a short, ten-minute podcast praying for an attribute of our faith over our kids. We will be praying our kids are marked by things like gratefulness, purpose, patience, resolve, courage, and so much more. We wrap up each week with a time of prayer—and, let's just say, you won’t want to miss it.
This week as we begin a new school year, we’re praying our kids are light to all those around them. I can’t think of a more important thing to start with considering the opportunities they will have to share their faith and bring hope in a world that so desperately needs Jesus.
I’m so glad you’re joining us to pray for our kids this year—there’s truly nothing more significant we can do for them each day. And please consider sharing this with a friend and inviting them to join us in praying each week! It’s perfect for small groups, MOPS friends, and anyone/everyone that wants to pray for their kids with new resolve each week.
If I had to pick just one person to speak into the nitty gritty of starting a new school year, it would 100% be Mia Mbroh. She’s not only a licensed professional counselor, but she has also worked directly in the school trenches giving her a unique insider's perspective.
In the only way Mia knows how, today she brings us an honest and vulnerable look at the good, bad, and ugly that our kids are facing in this new school year. And as a part of that, I can promise you don’t want to miss a second of her advice on showing grace and letting go of some of the high expectations we’re holding onto for our kids (ouch, my toes).
There’s a really, really good word I needed to hear on walking our kids through hard friendships, social awkwardness, and the hard places we face with learning differences. And take note if you have a junior high or high school child, she addresses ways to best connect with these little darlings and gives a HILARIOUS dog/cat analogy.
If your kids are back in school, don’t miss the wise words of Mia Mbroh!
It feels like we’ve weathered some pretty significant storms the last 18 months, both in the world at large as well as individually and as families. If you’re anything like me, there have been hard places that have caused you to cry out to God and, at times, even question his plans.
I’m so thankful that Sally Clarkson is here today talking about the hard places we face, reminding us that storms are our training grounds for obeying God’s Word and walking in his ways.
Sally shares with us some of the storms she’s personally faced and how walking with God has allowed her to build a life on the rock of eternal values. We talk very practically of these important topics: how to to observe but not internalize the difficulties we face, the role of our feelings when we’re struggling, walking our kids through hard things and the trap of busyness and distraction, raising kids who are out of the box, and tips for weathering marriage difficulties
Some days it’s nice to have someone just a little further down the road giving us perspective and wisdom. Today is one of those days, and Sally Clarkson is just the right person for the job!
I don’t know about you, but it feels like now that school is back in session I can finally exhale and breathe a little bit knowing there’s going to be more routine in my days.
Maybe it was getting one ready for college, or mentally preparing for high school with my middle son, or the beginning of kindergarten with my youngest—but life has felt like a lot the last few months.
If you’re feeling this same way, today’s show with Jennifer Dukes Lee is for you. Jennifer shares with us a time when she was at a breaking point in her own life and realized the need to “un-hurry” her heart. She gave herself permission to slow down and wait for the better things that come only with slow growth and deeper connection with the Lord.
I love the practical advice she shares from her new book Growing Slow and how we can: stop living in hurriedness and instead rest in Jesus, trust the winter seasons in life to God even when we don’t see his hand moving, find rest knowing that the small, slow things we do in parenting often produce big fruit in our kids’ lives.
I’ll leave you with my favorite parenting quote from Jennifer: “In my most insecure moments as a mom, the only thing that ever gave me hope and guidance was the gospel.”
Amen and amen!
Don’t miss this much-needed word for all of us taking a deep breath at the beginning of a new school year!
Sean McDowell joins us today to talk about God’s design for our sexuality and raising kids biblically in a confused culture that blurs the lines. We tackle topics like the shortcomings of the purity culture movement, as well as the biggest misconceptions our kids are facing when it comes to love and relationships.
Sean is a gifted communicator who speaks all over the world, equipping Christians to make the case for their Christian faith. Alongside his Dad, Josh McDowell, they are passionate about teaching believers (especially youth) to identify the lies in our culture and respond biblically. Sean shares with us some of the top faith issues facing our kids today and how to address them with truth while keeping an open dialogue.
His new book, Chasing Love: Sex, Love, and Relationships in a Confused Culture, is a much-needed deep dive into God’s design for our sexuality. Oh, and If you missed our conversation with Josh McDowell, please go back and listen to it ASAP. I promise it’s worth every second of your time to hear Sean and Josh McDowell—some of the top apologists of our day—share their thoughts on raising kids biblically.
I had the opportunity to hear Sarah Harmeyer speak at an event in Dallas years ago, and her words have literally stayed with me to this day.
Long story short—after a pastor encouraged Sarah to be who God created her to be, she left a successful business career in pursuit of gathering people. It started by her sweet dad building her an outdoor table to host her neighbors, and thousands of people later, she has a ministry and business called Neighbor’s Table.
Sarah and her father hand-deliver their outdoor tables all over the country, allowing countless people to do life elbow to elbow just as Jesus did in his earthly ministry. Sarah encourages us to let go of perfectionism and keep it simple, opening up opportunities for meaningful conversation with a place for everyone at our table.
As we begin a new school year, it’s a perfect time to commit to being people gatherers in our neighborhoods and communities. Sarah says it this way, “I’m on a love mission. I just believe ordinary people, like me, can be called to love extraordinarily around the table. Why? Because we were made to do this.”
Sometimes we confuse spiritual health with mental health, assuming they are one in the same when that’s often far from the truth. Knowing this, it seems appropriate to take a little deeper dive into our emotional health with Licensed Professional Counselor, Debra Fileta.
We cover a lot of ground today with topics like: ways to take inventory of our mental health, when spiritual answers don’t address our mental health issues, the importance of modeling emotional health with our kids, training our kids to identify their emotions, recognizing our kids’ default emotion and investigating the deeper issue.
And please don’t miss Debra’s advice on preparing our kids for dating relationships, the frequent pitfalls they may face, and resources we can use to navigate the dating years.
Here’s to a show addressing the very important mental and emotional health issues facing all parents!
Please tell me you’ve heard of the Bible Recap!
If not, get ready for some good ole’ fashioned indoctrination today with Tara-Leigh Cobble, the founder of the Bible Recap. She’s passionate about helping people not only read through the whole Bible, but love it in the process.
Tara-Leigh shares her personal story of being in full-time ministry for years before someone challenged her to read through the entire Bible. Only then did she start to feel God’s complete presence in her life and begin writing the commentary that’s the basis of the Bible Recap.
There’s so much I want you to hear in today’s podcast, but here are a few highlights: why it’s important (and do-able) for every one of us to read through the Bible, how using the right lens changes how we experience God’s word, common mistakes in reading the Bible, how 12 minutes a day can be life changing for scripture-starved believers, and incorporating scripture into the lives of our families.
If you’ve never read through the whole Bible—or maybe you’ve started (and ended) in Genesis more times than you care to discuss—may I please implore you to join Tara-Leigh and so many of us on the Bible Recap journey? You won’t regret it.
Here’s the thing about parenting—It’s really hard to evaluate how you are doing or identify areas of improvement when you’re in the thick of it every day. Because parenting comes with no performance evaluations or long-term guarantees of success, we often find ourselves simply trying to survive, not thrive (I speak from experience).
Danny Huerta from Focus on the Family joins us today with some valuable benchmarks to consider in our parenting journey. His new book, 7 Traits of Effective Parenting, very practically lists some of the most critical areas of our parenting and how to assess how we’re doing or where we need to make some tweaks.
Some of the traits of effective parenting we discuss include adaptability, respect, and intentionality—and believe you me, there’s some truth spoken today that I needed to hear and I bet you will feel the same way, too.
Danny also shares with us the areas of our culture he believes will most challenge our kids' faith and gives us his thoughts on how to prepare them to live biblically.
I hope you’re having a wonderful summer, and I’m so grateful you’re joining me on this parenting journey!
Imagine this: You’re picking up your son from the first day of school after waiting to hear all about his day. Even as he’s closing the car door you begin asking the most critical of questions like... How is your teacher? What friends are in your class? Who did you meet? Did you talk to any girls? What did you have for lunch? Are you tired? Why are you so quiet? Were the kids mean to you?
Apparently unaware of the millions of questions swirling in your mind, your son simply responds that his day was “good.”
I feel your pain (like really feel your pain), and David Thomas from Daystar Counseling in Nashville does, too. He’s joining us today to talk all about the boys in our lives, including their developmental stages: Explorer (0-4) Lover (5-8) Individual (9-12) Wanderer (13-17) Warrior (18-23).
We also discuss the best ways to communicate and connect with our boys, which apparently does not involve barraging them with questions the second they get into the car (my bad).
If you have a boy in your life, please don’t miss this episode with David Thomas. He’s an expert on all things boys, and your son will thank you (probably without using words) for listening!
There are many things I don’t fully understand in parenting, not the least of which is video games. I don’t get what’s so enticing, or the anticipation surrounding “new skins,” or why every time I try to shut down my gamer I’m told they “just need to finish this level.”
Bless your heart for video games and those who love you.
Knowing that I’ve listed only a few of the mysteries facing every parent of a gamer, I happily present you with Drew Dixon on Pardon the Mess today to answer so many of our questions...
Drew runs a ministry with, hands down, the greatest name ever: “Love Thy Nerd.” It’s all about loving gamers well and helping Christians embrace those around them who happen to love a video game.
Here are a few gaming topics you will be empowered with after listening to Drew Dixon: What’s so fun about video games anyway, what misconceptions might I have about gaming, how do I connect with my gamer as a parent, what types of games are good and what types should we be avoiding, what’s up with chat rooms and should I be worried, what are some resources I can trust to navigate this gaming world with my kids?
If you find yourself frequently saying “take off that headset” or “that’s not really connecting with your friends”—well, today’s podcast is for you!
As we’re pushing through summer and finding ways to be intentional in our parenting, I can’t think of many topics more important than discipling our kids.
Don’t anyone panic—discipleship is simply teaching our kids about our faith by pointing them to the Lord in the most normal moments of everyday life.
Rebecca Carrell joins us today, and aside from being a morning show host on KCBI, a mom, wife, and podcaster—she’s my very good friend. We talk very practically about discipleship in our own homes and the ways we get it right (and very often the ways we get it wrong).
There’s so much good stuff in today’s show, but one truth we need to own as parents is this: if we don’t disciple our kids in the Lord, the world will disciple them in something else.
Join me today as we discuss practical ways to point our kids to Christ while also opening doors for them to step out in their own faith. Oh, and don’t miss tips for using discipline as a tool to disciple our kids (and we all know there’s plenty of discipline required in the dog days of summer).
It’s summer, and although we’re all glad to have a little bit of normalcy this year as opposed to last, it won’t take long before these people (i.e. our kids) start their usual antics and send us on a one-way trip to the crazy train.
In an effort to help keep our wits about us, I bring to you Dr. Ken Wilgus today. Dr. Ken has been with us many times and brings a wealth of knowledge as a licensed psychologist specializing in the treatment of adolescents.
Today we’re chatting about the age-old struggle of motivating lazy kids, and considerations for parents during the summertime versus issues of motivation during the school year. He also talks to us about video games, ratings, violence, social media, and concerns with social interaction when we don’t limit screen time.
There’s lots packed into today’s show, so give yourself permission to stop cleaning up the summer messes and sit back for a few minutes and listen to Dr. Ken. You won’t regret it (and your kids likely won’t notice you’re gone)!
In honor of Father’s Day this weekend, Pardon the Mess is dedicating our whole show today to the dads we love!
Former NFL quarterback Jeff Kemp speaks all over the country, championing fatherhood by speaking into God’s design for dads as difference-makers in their families. Today we’re blessed to have him speaking into our own families by sharing his passion behind building up men, encouraging them to be strong leaders both in our homes and in the world.
Here are just a few of the powerful topics we cover: dads building healthy relationships with their kids, needs our kids have that are best filled by their dads, healing from our own dad wounds, ways to evaluate your fathering, a reminder for imperfect fathers to run toward their perfect father, and a month long challenge for wives to support and build up their husbands.
Not only do the dads around us need to hear this word today, there’s also great encouragement for moms that I can’t wait for you to hear. Join me in celebrating our dads with a great message from Jeff Kemp as we head into Father’s Day weekend.
Learn more about the Fatherhood Comission and Jeff Kemp.
I’ve prayed for years that my kids would chase after God-sized dreams, so when I saw Sheila Erwin’s book on Raising Up Dreamers, I knew she would be perfect for our summer series on Pardon the Mess.
Sheila is the mother of Andrew and Jon Erwin, writers and producers of I Can Only Imagine, I Still Believe, and many other Christian films. Sheila shares with us the importance of recognizing our kids’ own unique giftings, then finding ways to help them maximize what God has woven into their design.
I loved her encouragement on working through learning differences in her own son’s life and now being able to see how these obstacles have become a gift to his flourishing career. We also have a great discussion around dream killers, and Sheila challenges us to make sure we allow our kids to chase after their own dreams, not ours (ouch).
I love this woman, and I can’t wait for you to hear her wise words. Let’s make sure we take some time this summer to look for what it is that God has planted in our children and find ways to help them maximize it!
Grab your copy of Raising Up Dreamers!
Alright guys, stop what you’re doing because I have the perfect summer experiment for us to do with our kids this month!
More accurately, Kay Wyma has the perfect 30-day experiment, and we’re talking all about it today on Pardon the Mess.
It’s called The Peace Project: A 30-Day Experiment Practicing Thankfulness, Kindness, and Mercy. What is it you ask?
The Peace Project is an experiment that invites us to experience lasting personal peace by getting serious about showing thankfulness, kindness, and mercy with everyone and everything we encounter each day.
Kay shares with us how this concept came about and the impact it’s had on her life and the lives of those around her. She’s practical in showing us what it looks like each day and how she’s lived in some really hard places this last year in complete peace because God reframed her perspective.
Let’s be honest: peace is a distant memory when all these kids are home all day asking for food, activities, and attention. I urge you to take a few minutes today to listen to our conversation and then join my family as we embark on this 30-day journey of showing thankfulness, kindness, and mercy.
There are few things we need more of on this side of heaven than peace. I just know God’s going to do big things through this experiment—so let’s do it together!
I’m so excited about today’s podcast with my dear friend, Clint Schumacher. He’s talking with us about the importance of resiliency which he defines as our “ability to deal with adversity in a positive and meaningful way.”
If we’ve learned anything from 2020-2021, it’s the importance of resilience in the face of uncertainty and allowing our faith to ground us during the hard times.
As much as I like to consider my own resilience and places where I need some work in this area, I’m even more excited about our discussion on fostering resiliency in our kids. I realize that given the choice we would probably prefer to shield our kids from all adversity, but that’s not realistic and doesn’t allow us to train them to walk the hard places well.
Don’t miss our practical discussion on the decisions resilient people make and common barriers to resilience such as resentment, shame, and self-pity. Oh, and don’t worry if you happen to have a kid who is . . . let’s say . . . lacking in the resiliency department (we’ve all got that one )—it can be developed with a little bit of intentionality on our part.
Take a few minutes to consider this important topic with me today, and then grab a copy of Clint Schumacher’s new book Second Wind: Decisions the Resilient Make to Overcome Adversity.
Max Lucado is on the show again today, and I kind of feel like it’s Christmas because... well it’s Max Lucado, and he’s pure gold! I’m sure I’ve said this many times before, but I’m hard pressed to find many authors whose books have impacted my faith more than those of Max Lucado.
I’m especially grateful as I’ve watched him bring God back into the narrative this past year, speaking to virtually every media outlet and giving hope to our struggling country. We talk about that today as well as so many other things you just don’t want to miss.
Here’s a little preview: truths to share with your kids post-pandemic, remembering the lessons we’ve learned as we re-enter life, teaching our kids to pray audacious prayers, how to disagree well with those around us, practical ways to spend time with God each day, and helping our kids work through their emotional hard places.
Take a few minutes in the midst of the May craziness to hear a good word from Max Lucado, and then please share it with a friend. And you will definitely want to grab a copy of his new children’s book Where’d My Giggle Go for all the littles in your life.
It’s officially here, the last week of our prayer journal!
I have mixed emotions as we wrap up the 2020–2021school year, especially as the mom of a graduating senior. Yet I’m so thankful that even as we’ve braved the hard places of a pandemic, we’ve come together each week (okay, most weeks) to faithfully pray that our kids are marked by the things of God.
We’ve prayed that our kids are marked with integrity, confidence, generosity, endurance, and much more. But these are nothing more than admirable qualities if they aren’t used for God’s kingdom purposes.
Before Jesus ascended to heaven, he gave us our mission. He told us to go and make disciples, sharing the story of his grace and love (Matthew 28). The Great Commission is our central mission. The same is true for our kids.
But it all starts at home. It happens in the seemingly insignificant moments of reading Bible stories to our toddlers and the really hard places of pointing them to Jesus on the heels of their biggest mistakes and greatest obstacles. Please let us never underestimate the significance of our jobs as moms and dads, discipling our kids to share the gospel to the next generation.
Let’s wrap up this school year by praying that our kids are marked by the mission of Jesus, doing it with truth, discipline, purity, and every other characteristic of God we’ve prayed over them this year.
I’m so grateful for your investment in praying for your kids, and I hope you’ve seen God’s hand move in remarkable ways in their lives.
Have a wonderful summer and keep listening to Pardon the Mess on Thursdays as we have lots of great shows coming your way.
It was about seven years ago when my husband and I realized the Lord was nudging us to explore foster care. And just in case you’re new to the Pardon the Mess family, the long story is we finally did what we were called to do and our lives are forever changed by fostering and adopting our little one, JB.
As I look back on my 20s and 30s, I kind of wish someone would have kicked me in the pants and told me to slow down and pray about God’s unique calling for my life. Maybe it should have been obvious, but I was so busy chasing after my own dreams that I wonder how many of God’s dreams I overlooked in the process.
Because of this, I want to very honestly ask if you’ve prayed about God’s calling for your life right now? Do you know that he has very specific plans for your life which he created long before you took even one breath? Might I encourage you to not fall into the trap I did for so long of missing his still quiet voice because of busy schedules and big agendas.
We’re talking about all of this today, and I’m thrilled to have Harmony Klingenmeyer with me. We discuss the good, bad, and ugly of foster care—however, my prayer is that you will take foster care and use it as the blank to fill in for whatever God is calling you to.
I hope you’ll take a few minutes to listen to today’s show and then stop and pray that God will reveal any callings on your life that you may be missing. Take it from me—chasing after the things of God will change your life forever, and I’ve got a 5 year old cutie to prove it!
It’s almost unbelievable that we’re down to our last two weeks of praying through the 2020–2021 prayer journal. As we’re beginning to wrap it up, I’m just so thankful that you’ve been doing this together with me.
As we pray this week for our kids to be marked by “remembering,” we’re praying they will trust God’s faithfulness in their present circumstances because they have seen his goodness in the past.
I love the reference to an Ebenezer stone in 1 Samuel 7. After experiencing a huge battle victory, Samuel grabbed a stone as a memorial and named it Ebenezer, translated as “the Lord has helped us to this point.” Samuel knew the Israelites’ battle win was significant from a tactical perspective, but he also knew the more significant win was the reminder that God had protected them in the past and he’d just done it again.
Our kids need the same reminder today that Samuel gave way back then: The God who has taken care of us up to this point will do it again. He is faithful and trustworthy.
What are the Ebenezers in your family? Let’s talk about it on today’s podcast and pray together that our kids are marked by remembering that God will protect all of their days when they are surrendered to him.
Lysa TerKeurst joins us today for a second time on Pardon the Mess, and she’s coming in hot (that’s a good thing, BTW)!
I’m continually blown away by how the Lord is using the hard places Lysa has faced in her marriage and health to show his goodness and redemption so powerfully.
Lysa and I talk about so much today, but here are a few of my favorite discussion points:
- Forgiving what you can’t forget
- What forgiveness is and what it is not
- Reframing life’s struggles as a tension to manage, not a problem to solve
- Reminders that bad moments don’t make bad mamas
- The importance of “Seeing Beautiful Again” even when it’s complicated
One more thing: I had a Pardon the Mess first during this interview where I may or may not have cried at one point. I know, right?
But truth is powerful, and I’m so thankful that we have Lysa joining us on today’s show. Listen, share it with friends, and be encouraged!
We’re raising kids in a culture that basks in recognition and praise, making it difficult to strike the balance of teaching our kids to be confident in their God-given identity while also exuding a humble spirit.
We’re kicking off this week on Pardon the Mess by praying humility over our kids, and I’m hard-pressed to think of an attribute that’s more lacking in today’s culture than this one.
Jesus is the perfect model of humility. He came to earth in the form of a baby and lived a blameless life so he could die on the cross and give us new life. He more than deserved recognition and acknowledgment for his heavenly status, yet he chose to demonstrate humility because of his commitment to the Father’s will and the larger gospel story.
Join me in praying this week for our kids to humbly serve others, admit their mistakes, and recognize that all praise and glory belongs to the Lord as the giver of all good gifts (James 1:17).
Let’s also ask the Lord to guide them in being passionate and outspoken when appropriate, but also disciplined enough to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger (James 1:19).
Many years ago I heard Sally Lloyd Jones speak on a friend’s podcast and she made a statement that struck a chord with me: always make sure your definition of success is the same as God’s.
That wisdom has stuck with me because so often I find myself judging success based on our culture’s version of it versus God’s definition. What a great parenting application when we stop to consider what we value for our kids and how we spend our time and resources in raising them.
For years I’ve been dying for the opportunity to chat with Sally Lloyd Jones, and I’m thrilled to have her with us on Pardon the Mess today!
If you aren’t familiar with her, Sally is a New York Times bestselling writer of over twenty-five books, including The Jesus Storybook Bible (which is required reading for every parent). She’s critically acclaimed by the Wall Street Journal and the New York Times, and, much more significantly, she is unbelievably wise and loves the Lord.
Can I cut to the chase and just tell you that you can’t afford to miss this conversation?
There’s so much we covered, but here are some highlights: God’s promotions often look like demotions, the importance of working the muscle of trust, hurry is often a sign that we’re in the wrong place, finding what sparks joy in our lives, a reminder that nothing can thwart what God has planted in the hearts of our children.
If you haven’t heard Sally Lloyd Jones before today, you’re in for a big treat. Don’t miss this one!
Many years ago I trained and ran a half marathon. The end. (Not really, but kind of.)
In doing so I learned a whole lot about what it takes to build endurance so that you can run the race well. I also learned a lot about chafing—but I digress.
The Christian life is like a marathon in that it requires significant endurance if we’re going to make it through the obstacles we face along the way. Having endurance in the context of our faith means we’re always in training mode, getting ready for the hard places of discouragement and suffering that will challenge our readiness for the race.
Practically speaking, we build up endurance by staying true to the basics: things like spending daily time with God, finding Christian community, memorizing Scripture, and seeking discipleship.
This week, we’re praying for our kids to run their spiritual races with endurance. We’re praying that they keep their eyes on Jesus, setting aside anything that weighs them down or keeps them from running effectively.
Take a quick moment to listen today and pray with me, and enjoy a few insights into my short stint as a “runner.”
Today’s podcast hits some tough topics we don’t often cover on Pardon the Mess. But these are very real issues facing so many, and I’m thankful Ashley Abercrombie is with us as we do it.
Ashley is a writer and speaker whose work has been featured in outlets like OprahMag.com, Relevant, and Grit and Virtue. She is the author of Rise of the Truth Teller and Love Is the Resistance.
Ashley chats with us today about her last eighteen years of working through recovery from drugs, alcohol abuse, eating disorders, sexual assault, and an abortion. She’s realized that, as Christians, we’re so often tempted to live in the bondage of silence instead of overcoming our shame and sharing our stories. She’s found that only in breaking the silence will we experience full healing and beautiful glimpses of God’s redemptive hand at work.
There’s also a great word for those of us who struggle with the need to perform (guilty ✔️) and parenting our kids through the hard places they will face in their own stories.
Can’t wait for you to hear from Ashley today, and please share this powerful testimony with those around you who need to be encouraged to share their own stories.
As we wrap up the last several weeks of praying the greatest commandment over our kids, we’re focusing today on what it means to love God with all of our strength.
Contrary to how it sounds, loving God with all of our strength is not a reference to our physical strength, but instead it’s using our possessions, our time, our talents, our parenting, our volunteering—everything we’ve got—to love God and live for him.
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their strength, we’re praying that they use all of their party-planning skills, math aptitude, athleticism, and social media acumen for God’s greatest glory. It’s taking the seemingly small places in their life and asking the Lord to use them in every possible way for his bigger purposes.
Let’s join together this week and ask God to use our kids for his greater purposes right where he has them today, teaching them what it looks like to love him with all of their strength.
It’s cool enough to have one opportunity to chat with Bob Goff, but then to get a second shot that includes his daughter, Lindsey Viducich?
Well, that’s the makings of a podcast packed with laughter and endless nuggets of truth.
Lindsey and Bob co-wrote Everybody, Always for Kids, and they describe it as a book of stories demonstrating how to live out our faith as expressed in love.
Take that in for a hot minute and consider how different our lives, our parenting, and our relationships would be if our primary focus was to express our faith through the lens of love.
As you might expect, there are lots of great stories coming your way on growing up in the Goff household and their crazy antics.
But I was especially challenged by their family goal of picking the meaningful over the practical in life and intentionally drawing others into our circle through the grace of Jesus.
Sit back and enjoy a few minutes of encouragement from Bob Goff and Lindsey Viducich—and then grab a copy of their new book so you can remind your kids that around every corner lies the opportunity to live bigger than ourselves, when we love “everybody, always.”
As you know, we’re praying the greatest commandment over our kids this month—that they will love God with their heart, soul, mind, and strength.
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their minds this week, we’re reminded that our mind is made up of our thoughts. In order to love God with all of our minds, we have to think about what fills our minds and how it impacts the way we love God.
Our thoughts are significant because they have the potential to grow our love for God or distract and pull us away from a relationship with him and his great plans for our life. The Enemy loves to get ahold of our thoughts and make us question God’s goodness and protection in our lives.
For our kids to love God with all of their minds, we’re praying that they “take captive” all the thoughts that are destructive, not instructive. We’re also praying about what’s going into their minds and how that’s fueling (or lessening) their love for God.
Let’s start this week together by praying over our kids’ minds and all that they will think about today and every day.
Having never met Angie Smith before, I had no idea what I was missing out on until I had the most heartfelt, Spirit-led conversation with her for today’s show.
Angie is a mom, wife, speaker, author, and a much-needed breath of fresh air for all of us trying to live our daily lives for Christ while struggling through the bumps and bruises we face along the way.
Angie recently wrote a book, Woven, that’s a beautiful depiction of how the seemingly different storylines throughout the Bible are actually woven together into one big story of God’s love. If you’ve ever found the Bible to be confusing or even disjointed, Angie provides a deep dive into the bigger picture of God’s word and why it matters.
As much as I loved talking about her book, I was struck by Angie’s vulnerability in sharing about her real-time fight with depression and loss.
Without going into too much detail, suffice it to say I walked away so thankful for a strong Christian woman willing to share the hard places of her journey so that we might be encouraged in our own journeys.
If you’ve ever had doubts about your faith, or struggled to understand the Bible, or even felt like life is too hard, I believe this conversation is exactly what you need today!
We’re continuing to pray through the greatest commandment to love God with all of our heart, soul, mind, and strength. This week we’re praying that our kids love God with all of our souls, but what exactly is our soul?
Our soul lies deep down inside of us and is our very core. It’s the invisible part of us that connects us with God. It is where we are most at home, and it’s the most fundamental driver of who we are from the inside out.
To love the Lord with all of our soul, we’ve got to be faithful in private. We’ve got to be devoted to the things that drench our soul in Jesus and be willing to drop the things that don’t.
As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their souls this week, let’s pray that they learn to love him with the very core of who they are—not by what they intellectually believe about him, or how they serve him, or what they communicate to others by their faith, but truly learning to love Jesus from the core of their being.
I’m so thankful you’re staying strong with me each week as we finish off this school year. Don’t miss today’s podcast and the opportunity to pray with me over your child’s very soul and the core of who they are.
Today is Opening Day for baseball, and in my baseball-crazy family, that makes today a big day!
In honor of this momentous occasion, we’ve got the perfect show for you with baseball-great Darryl Strawberry.
Darryl has an amazing testimony of addiction, redemption, marriage struggles, and cancer. He shares some very practical principles that have changed his life, things like weathering trials with hope, nurturing godly friendships, and always believing in the power of prayer.
And, of course, we also get some interesting behind-the-scenes scoop on his time in the Major Leagues and some amazing baseball moments.
Incidentally, Darryl Strawberry is one of my husband Mike’s all-time favorite players, making it only right for me to ask Mike to join me on this show; however, in a strange turn of events, Mike actually relieved me of my duties and ran with the interview himself. 😂
Don’t miss today’s show with Darryl Strawberry and Mike Yanof talking all things Jesus, MLB, and allowing God to transform our missteps into ministry.
“Love the Lord your God with all of your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30 NIV, emphasis added).
Remember the lawyer who tried to trick Jesus by asking him to name the greatest commandment? (Lawyers, am I right?) Jesus, knowing this guy’s antics, responded with, “Love the Lord your God with all of your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30).
It’s this verse that will guide us the next few weeks as we pray for our kids to be marked by loving God with their heart, soul, mind, and strength.
We’ll kick off this week by praying for our kids’ hearts, which is not just critical to their health—it’s also the epicenter of their spiritual life.
It’s central to their thoughts and actions and even the words that come out of their mouths. When Jesus talks about loving God with all their hearts, he’s referencing their emotions and decisions.
In order to love God with all of our hearts, we have to prioritize spending time with him and in his word. Having time with our creator enables us to know what he wants for our lives, and we can’t help but pursue him and the things he values and wants for our families.
Let’s pray this week that our kids learn to love God with all of their hearts, beginning with prioritizing time with him and pursuing him in all that they do. Join me on today’s podcast and let’s pray together for our kids.
This week we’re wrapping up our Pardon the Mess series on brave conversations we need to have with our kids. Dr. Ken Wilgus is with us to talk about addiction and its impact on today’s kids.
Believe you me, I would rather ignore this topic too and hope it never becomes an issue rather than face it head on—however, it’s too significant of a problem in today’s culture to idly stand by.
Dr. Wilgus and I discuss these topics: Defining addiction and the idea of addictive personalities, drugs, alcohol, and vaping—how to discipline when/if your child experiments, video games and the time our kids spend playing them, how parents can deal with addiction and avoid enabling, important conversations to have with our kids beginning at an early age
I’m so thankful for the information Dr. Ken shares today, and I know we will all be better for having listened.
Please take a minute to share this with your friends—it’s too important of a topic to take lightly.
As Easter approaches in the next few weeks, it’s the perfect time to begin praying that the power of the cross impacts every area of our kids’ lives.
It is an incredible assurance knowing that, by accepting Jesus, our kids have a new eternal destination. But we’re also praying for a daily life transformation.
When our kids become Christians, we should begin looking for (and hopefully seeing) fruit in their lives. Jesus said those who follow him will produce spiritual fruit, and it’s by this fruit you will know them (Matthew 7:20).
In Galatians, Paul describes some attributes of a life without Christ, including anger, idolatry, jealousy, selfishness, impurity, and strife. In contrast, with Christ we start to see the spiritual fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control.
Thankfully, this is not simply a checklist of things we’re constantly trying to achieve. Instead, it’s produced by allowing the Holy Spirit to work within us. Without even trying, our kids will produce fruit that’s visible to the world around them. This fruit can either be produced by the Holy Spirit or produced by their own spirit.
Our prayer is that our kids will submit to the Holy Spirit’s leadership, resulting in less of their own fruit and more of his. This week, let’s pray that the Holy Spirit produces fruit in our kids that leads others to trust Jesus and his great sacrifice at the cross.
We’re kicking off week two of brave conversations we need to have with our kids, and it’s a doozie (or at least for me it is).
I, for one, am particularly proud of myself for being brave enough to have a conversation around the birds and the bees in the confines of my home, much less on a podcast with all of you!
Thankfully, Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson speak into this topic biblically and quite practically—and I couldn’t be more grateful.
We cover everything from the hang-ups we have as parents when it comes to talking about sex with our kids, the importance of using correct anatomical technology (my bad), and shaping our family’s narrative in this important area before culture does it for us.
If you struggle to have conversations around this topic and need a little encouragement and practical wherewithal... I promise that today’s podcast is for you!
Check out there online course, Birds & Bees.
This week we’re praying a hearty topic over our kids as we focus on the armor of God.
Most of us don’t spend a lot of time contemplating how to fight against the devil’s schemes, but Scripture does. Thankfully, Jesus has already won our ultimate battle by his death on the cross and resurrection from the grave. But, even then, there will still be trouble in this world because we have a real Enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10).
As we face the visible (and often invisible) battles each day, Satan’s success hinges on catching us unprepared and with our guard down. Let’s pray that our kids are battle-ready by wearing the armor of God, as seen in Ephesians 6:13–17:
The belt of truth: Pray that God’s truth will defeat the enemy’s lies in their lives.
The breastplate of righteousness: Pray that they withstand attacks of impurity and wrongdoing by clinging to righteousness.
Feet fitted with the gospel of peace: Pray for a willingness to go and share the gospel.
The shield of faith: Pray for protection from doubt, fear, and anxiety.
The helmet of salvation: Pray for a mind controlled by God.
The sword of the Spirit: Pray that God’s word is their offense, knowing it’s sharper than any sword.
Take a minute to listen to today’s podcast, and then use the list above as your guide for praying all week for kids that are battle ready!
We’re focusing the next few weeks of Pardon the Mess on brave conversations we need to have with our kids.
This week we have licensed counselor Sissy Goff with us straight from Nashville. We’re chatting about anxiety in our kids and some of the hard emotions they are facing after this last year.
Sissy and I cover these topics around anxiety and mental health: Questions to ask your kids to gauge their anxiety level, strategies to implement when dealing with anxiety, eating disorders and other mental health issues increasing in teens, and common parenting mistakes in dealing with anxiety.
I especially loved Sissy’s explanation of anger being a secondary emotion that often stems from issues of fear and anxiety.
It’s a good reminder that what meets the eye is not always a true representation of what’s going on inside of our kids.
As we think through anxiety in our children this week, I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from Sissy’s new book, Brave: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Beating Worry and Anxiety:
“All the girls I’ve ever met who are anxious have a few things in common: they’re bright and conscientious, they care and feel deeply, and they try hard. Those very gifts are sometimes the things that make us more anxious. Worry’s voice does not have the power to define you. That job belongs to you and the God who loves and delights in you.”
What a great reminder of why we must have brave conversations with our kids around this topic.
As we begin a new week of praying for our kids, it may seem that praying they are marked by “refinement” is a bit odd; however, we’re asking the Lord to sift out any impurities that keep them from God’s best in their lives.
Refinement is the process of using heat to remove impurities from metal. Only after the gold is refined do the most valuable qualities remain because the impurities and lesser qualities have been eliminated.
God is in the constant process of refining all of us. Even though we’re created in his image, we are free-willed human beings riddled with impurities that don’t line up with who we were created to be. This refinement is best accomplished through trials in our lives, which may be uncomfortable in the moment but are important nonetheless.
As we’re praying for our kids to be marked by refinement, let’s not ask God to remove our kids’ obstacles but rather to remove their impurities. Let’s pray that when the heat intensifies, our kids learn to trust that the One who allows the fire will also bring them through it.
Looking forward to praying God’s refinement over our kids this week.
Candace Cameron Bure is on the show today! It’s as if nothing else matters having just reached a new Pardon the Mess podcasting pinnacle. 😀 💕 🙌
To say I love Candace is an understatement of epic proportions.
First of all, she’s Hallmark royalty, and there’s not a one of us that hasn’t needed movies with predictability and a happy ending after the year we’ve weathered. And don’t even get me started with her Full House greatness that marked all of our childhoods.
But then hearing about her life growing up in show business and how her faith has played into her career... well, it’s almost too much.
Candace (which is what I call her now because we’re best friends) very vulnerably shares the struggles she’s recently faced with social media critics and her best parenting advice having raised three kids. She also talks about how she came to know Christ and the impact it has on all facets of her life today.
Check out her new children’s book, Candace’s Playful Puppy, based on the fruit of the spirit, faithfulness. You’ll definitely want to grab it for the younger kids in your life.
Yes, I’m all over the place, and yes I’m giddy!
Please just take a few minutes today and enjoy our conversation with Candace Cameron Bure.
This week we’re praying for our kids to live each day surrendered to the Lord.
The idea of living a “surrendered” life may be one of those confusing concepts we hear about at church but don’t know how to practically implement. It’s the antithesis of trying to “work” our way into a right relationship with God—instead, it’s allowing the Spirit of God to enter into us, shaping us into something greater than we could be on our own.
The first and most significant act of surrender we can pray over our kids is their choice to surrender to the lordship of Christ by accepting Jesus as their Savior.
But, even after our kids have accepted Christ, we can pray that they surrender their words, plans, dreams, finances, and relationships to the Lord.
W. Tozer reminds us of the great benefit of living surrendered to God: “The man or woman who is wholly or joyously surrendered to Christ can’t make a wrong decision—any choice will be the right one.”
Join me in praying that our kids live each day in a way that’s pleasing to God and brings him glory.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who inspired you to do the very thing that deep down you knew God was calling you to do? That happened to me with today’s conversation with Christy Nockels.
She gave the most grace-filled, permission-giving reminder of the need for rest in our lives. As parents, that’s something that’s so easily neglected in the busyness of raising kids.
Christy is a singer, songwriter, author, and host of the podcast Glorious in the Mundane. She shares with us how God taught her to begin living from a heart of rest during a season where he called her to leave a busy touring schedule to stay home with her family.
In the quiet moments, God taught Christy to seek him in the deep places she had been neglecting so that she might live from the inside out instead of the outside in. (So convicting, but soooo good.)
I walked away with so many truths for my own life, but I think these will resonate with all of us: We need rest. Rest comes from surrendering to our creator. Our tendency to “hustle” prevents God’s supernatural work in our lives. It’s critical we learn to guard our time in order to prioritize physical and spiritual rest. Living from the inside out comes from resting in our Savior.
Join me today for a powerful conversation on rest. I have a feeling you’re going to walk away with the encouragement you didn’t know you needed.
If 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that we don’t know what’s coming our way at any given time.
One year ago this week, the World Health Organization confirmed an additional twenty cases of COVID-19 in the United States, bringing the total number of cases in our country to thirty-five. Even though the number was seemingly small at the time, it was unsettling not knowing what the future held with this virus at hand (and thank goodness we didn’t know).
The one thing we can be certain of this side of heaven is that our lives are going to be uncertain.
Yet even in the middle of uncertainty for Joshua, God reminded him that “every place that the sole of your foot will tread upon I have given to you” (Joshua 1:3 ESV).
The message to Joshua is the same message for us: with God directing our steps, not even one is unexpected or without purpose to the One who authors them all.
This week, we’re praying for our kids to understand that what’s uncertain to them is anything but unexpected or unplanned to God. Knowing that, we can put our trust in the One who not only knows the future but also writes it.
Join me in praying for our kids to be marked by God’s certainty through all of life’s unknown roads.
I come to you today in the midst of Texas’ 2021 polar vortex.
With great anticipation, we southerners were awaiting our first big snow in years. It was going to be sledding, hot chocolate bars, game nights, and family bonding. Until... we had an electricity crisis.
My house has been running a temp of around 46 degrees INSIDE, and there’s been more family bonding than I care to share with you. That said, we’re grateful to be safe and to have food, and we’re looking forward to some fun memories to share one day.
Nonetheless, we’ve got a great podcast for you today.
I’ll keep it short and just say YOU NEED to listen to my conversation with Susie Robb. She’s an interior designer, single mom, and has a great word on God’s redemption in our lives.
Besides giving us encouragement for single parents, she also shares design tips and even her favorite paint colors. Talk about full service!
So thankful for each of you and praying you’re safe and warm.
“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11 ESV).
Raise your hand if you feel like you check the box well when it comes to being marked by self-discipline.
Me neither.
That’s why I’m glad we’re praying it over our kids this week.
Self-discipline (or lack thereof) will impact every part of their lives, including dating relationships, finances, online accountability, marriage, physical health, and even their occupations.
The author of Hebrews (in perhaps the biggest understatement ever) reminds us that discipline isn’t fun in the moment, but it’s a key step on the pathway to righteousness.
The good news is that self-discipline isn’t just a matter of mustering up enough willpower. Rather, it's a God-given perspective that the greater reward in waiting is better than the immediate temptation we’re facing.
Let’s ask God to give our kids the self-discipline to look away, walk away, or find a way to pass by anything that interferes with God’s highest goals in their lives.
Can’t wait to pray with you this week!
As we focus this month on loving what God loves, I’m so excited to shine some much-deserved light on our precious families raising children with special needs.
Nichole Huggins, Director of Special Needs at Prestonwood Church in Dallas, Texas, joins us as both a mom to a son with special needs as well as one directly engaged in church ministry in this area.
Today’s podcast is not just for the families in the trenches each day raising children with special needs, but it’s also a much-needed word for those of us who are called to walk alongside and support these families.
There’s so much in this podcast that I can’t wait for you to hear, but here are a few takeaways you can’t miss:
Please take time to listen to this important conversation, and then share it with your friends who need this encouragement today.
The entire theme of this year’s prayer journal is built around the notion of being “marked” by the things of God.
In a culture that threatens to mark our kids with anxiety, depression, and social media inundation (and in the midst of a pandemic), we’re praying that our kids will be supernaturally marked only by the things of God.
This week we’re praying for arguably the most significant “marking” in our kids’ lives: that they will be marked by God’s presence.
The presence of God is a core message from Genesis, with Adam and Eve in the garden, all the way to Revelation and the promise of all eternity with God. Living in God’s presence is significant for our kids because it’s assurance that they are never overlooked, unseen, or insignificant.
We can find joy no matter what we’re facing in this world because of the presence of Jesus in our lives.
Join me in praying this over our kids this week.
We spent the month of January considering the different areas in our lives that might need some adjustments in a new year. We talked about our parenting, finances, and our physical and spiritual lives in the context of our faith.
Now as we move into February, we’ve got a month-long focus on love. More specifically, we’re considering how we might better love the things God loves.
You’re in for a big treat today because Lisa Harper is with us, and she’s amazing. If you haven’t run across her before, suffice it to say she’s hilarious, honest, real, and she really, really loves Jesus.
There are so many reasons to listen to Pardon the Mess today, but here are just a few topics you don’t want to miss:
Three traps women fall into with their faith. Is the gospel really good news this side of heaven? How do we experience abundant life in a turbulent world? Why we need to step into someone else’s story. Adoption being God’s megaphone for grace.
Oh, and I won’t lie—we covered a few other really important topics like Spanx, bathing suits, and chips and queso. 😜
Drop what you’re doing and join us as we lean into a month of loving the things God loves!
Check out Lisa Harper’s new devotional!
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word” (Psalm 119:9 NIV).
This week we’re praying that our kids are marked by purity in their lives.
The idea of raising pure kids in an impure culture can feel like an impossibly tall order as parents. We sometimes mistakenly make purity a goal our kids must achieve, staying away from certain things or even keeping on a prescribed path until the finish line of marriage.
But purity is not an accomplishment—it’s a relationship, as Dan Martin of Pure Hope Ministries shares with us on today’s podcast.
It’s a relationship with Jesus, who comes to redeem us from the sin of this world and purify us to himself (Titus 2:14). He cleanses us and makes us new creations. He gives hope that is everlasting and brings healing when we fall short.
Join me in praying for our kids to have purity in their physical relationships, in the way they dress, in the motivation behind their actions, in their pursuit of Jesus, and in the music and media that fill their minds.
Let’s also pray that when they fall short, they know that the Lord stands ready to forgive them and give them a new beginning.
We’re wrapping up January by discussing all things money with Art Rainer.
Art has written countless books on this subject and talks with us today about the biggest money mistakes we make.
He also gives suggestions on how to assess the state of our finances and how it’s impacting our marriages.
I love his approach to this sticky subject because it’s all based in Scripture and God’s design for our money.
This month, we’ve blown up the old adage that it’s taboo to talk about religion, politics, or money in mixed company. We’ve hit two of the three areas, and it’s been amazing.
As we wrap up a month of looking at a new year/new you in 2021, make sure you’ve caught these amazing guests:
• Louie Giglio on our spiritual lives
• Ken Wilgus on parenting our kids, especially our teens
• Dr. Hillary Lewis answering our medical questions
• Art Rainer and the money challenge
So thankful to kick off 2021 together!
Today we’re praying for our kids to be marked by confidence.
As I think back on the mistakes I made growing up, many of those could have been avoided if I would have rooted my confidence in the Lord and not in this world.
We will talk about practical ways to give our kids confidence in the character of God by pointing them back to our personal “stones of remembrance.” It’s sharing how God’s been faithful in the past to gain confidence in his faithfulness for our future. His character is unchanging.
And as an aside, I felt oddly compelled to share my mom’s most embarrassing moment as a reminder of how fleeting our earthly confidence can be. It’s really good stuff you can’t afford to miss. 😂
Remember, when we root our confidence in the things of this world, we will never find satisfaction. Let’s pray that our kids’ confidence comes from the right source: God himself.
Can’t wait to pray together!
Do you remember all the questions you asked the pediatrician about your first child?
I remember one particular appointment when my daughter was about six weeks old.
I showed up at the doctor’s office with a list so long it barely fit in my SUV. The questions seem silly now, but I asked things like: How do I know when to change diaper sizes? (Duh, when the others don’t fit). And how do I know if the crib bedding is overstimulating her? (Thanks a lot, Babywise).
Bless my heart, and thank goodness for patient pediatricians.
Today we have the chance to collectively ask our medical questions to Dr. Hillary Lewis.
Dr. Lewis is a pediatrician in Dallas who loves the Lord and is raising three kids of her own.
Much like the litany of questions I asked all those years ago of my pediatrician, I’m bombarding her with some of our most common medical questions when it comes to our kids (and not how to determine diaper-sizing).
We covered topics like:
I took one for the team and tried to ask the questions we’ve all been wondering about but haven’t actually voiced. Praying it’s as helpful to you as it was for me!
Remember in the book of Numbers when Moses sent the twelve spies into the promised land to scout it out and report back on the status?
After forty days of reconnaissance, ten of the twelve spies called a kibosh, saying there was no way the Israelites could succeed in taking the land from these giants.
Of course, there were the lone dissenters, Joshua and Caleb, who believed that with God’s help there was hope and even victory awaiting them. The whole debacle left God disappointed with the Israelites (understatement) but also brought to light a bright spot when God applauded Caleb for having a “different spirit.”
It’s this different spirit we’re talking about in today’s podcast as we pray hope over our children.
We’ll take a look at Caleb’s life and see how his different spirit came from living with a God-drenched mind, giving hope even in the most hopeless of situations.
We’re facing an epidemic of anxiety and depression amongst our kids that has gained footing during this pandemic. There’s no better time to be praying that our kids find the hope that comes only from Jesus.
Let’s anchor our prayer time in this verse this week:
“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint” (Isaiah 40:31).
Can’t wait to pray together!
I’m glad you’re joining us this year on Pardon the Mess as we’re dusting off some areas in life that may need a refresh in 2021. We’re talking about improvements to be made in our spiritual lives, parenting, health, and finances.
This week, licensed psychologist Ken Wilgus is talking with us about parenting teens. If you don’t have a teen yet, no worries, because you can never prepare too early for navigating the treacherous waters of adolescence (just kidding—kind of).
Dr. Wilgus shares his ideas behind “planned emancipation,” the strategy of preparing our kids for adulthood by carefully and progressively letting go of our control in key areas of their lives.
We talk about this in the context of giving freedom in the music they listen to, the friends they pick, and even the state in which they keep their rooms.
Brace yourself, it’s going to take a little bit of moxie to make it through some of this!
As a mother of two teens, I can report firsthand that Dr. Wilgus has a great recipe for helping us raise kids who are prepared for adulthood without driving ourselves (and them) crazy in the process.
Glad you’re with us today!
“The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.” —Exodus 34:6
The first characteristic God used to describe himself to Moses was compassionate.
It’s amazing to think that we serve a God who is sympathetic to our struggles and burdened by what budens us. Knowing this, it seems only fitting that we focus on praying for our kids to be marked by compassion in their own lives.
Henri Nouwen describes compassion as this:
Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into the places of pain, to share in brokenness, fear, confusion, and anguish. Compassion challenges us to cry out with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, to weep with those in tears.
Today, we will look at the story of Joshua and Rahab, seeing God’s compassion in action as he spared Rahab’s life and even elevated her to be included in his own lineage.
I’m challenged to revisit compassion in my own life and pray for the Lord to teach me to see the world through his eyes and respond as he leads.
Join me in praying compassion for our families this week.
“No matter how many times you’ve tried before or how loud the voice is that says you’ll never be different than you are, God says something else today. You. Can. Live. Free.”
—Louie Giglio, Goliath Must Fall
I’ve never really loved January and the post-Christmas letdown.
But the one thing I do look forward to each year is the opportunity to make adjustments in my life, allowing me to live more purposefully and biblically.
That’s why Pardon the Mess is kicking off 2021 with a month of shows speaking to the spiritual, circumstantial, physical, and financial ways in which we live. It’s practical advice each week on living more fully and freely in Christ.
Today, Louie Giglio joins us to talk through the spiritual aspects in our lives that may need some tweaking.
Louie is pastor of Passion City Church and the founder of the Passion movement. Having devoted his life to working with young adults, he shares the number one thing he believes our kids need before leaving for college.
We covered so much in today’s show, but here are a few highlights:
Living with “congruency” in our lives
Louie’s personal battle with anxiety and the role humility has played
Questioning God’s timing and his plans for our lives
Helping our kids win the battles against their giants
I’m so thankful you’re here, and I can’t wait to kick off 2021 exploring new ways to live and parent fully in Jesus.
I can’t think of a better way to begin the New Year than by coming together to pray over our kids. I’m thankful to each of you for joining me every week as we pray for our kids and for his guidance in parenting them.
This week we’re praying that our kids are marked by truth.
As we do this, it’s important to define truth. We live in a culture of moral relativism, meaning truth is subjective and personal. But God’s word tells us the real story of truth:
As we pray for kids marked by truth, we are praying that they have the discernment to go to Scripture no matter what they are facing.
Kids marked by truth will not waver with every opinion thrown their way. Kids marked by truth will live with a higher standard, even when it’s unpopular. Kids marked by truth will hear the lies of the Enemy and recognize them as just that: lies.
Living in God’s truth is a critical calling on our kids’ lives. Let’s kickoff this year praying this over them.
Happy New Year’s Eve!
Not that anyone asked, but I’m all in when it comes to New Year’s resolutions.
I enjoy planning new healthy recipes, dusting off the gym membership, and even reading books on how to better parent these kids in my house. But, like most people, my resolutions lack resolve after about six weeks.
However, this New Year I want to be especially intentional in implementing the things that will help me grow spiritually. I’m hoping to read through the Bible again, change up the way I pray, and dare I even mention journaling (at which I’m awful so I can never fully endorse).
As you think through ways to refresh your time with God in 2021, you’re going to love our chat with Chrystal Evans Hurst today. Chrystal shares her heart behind the 28-day prayer challenge and how this book is based on the struggles she’s faced with her own prayer life.
I really loved her wisdom on praying with our kids, specifically praying Scripture over them. That’s another thing I want to implement for 2021 in my own house.
Go back and listen to Priscilla Shirer on the podcast last week if you missed it, and then tune in today to hear her sister Chrystal Evans Hurst on our show.
Oh, and please don’t miss Chrystal’s vulnerability in sharing the hard places the Evans’ family has faced recently, as well as working through unanswered prayer.
As we gear up for 2021, let’s resolve to do the things that will cause us to know God better in the New Year. I can’t wait to do it together.
I’m praying you had a wonderful Christmas with your family, taking every opportunity to celebrate the birth of our Savior.
As we wrap up 2020, it feels like there’s so much to digest and reflect on after all we’ve been through. It’s crazy to think back to last year at this time and consider all the things we didn’t realize were heading our way.
This week we’re asking for God’s protection over our children.
It feels like the need for protection has new meaning after the year we just experienced. But can I encourage you to take a few minutes this week to reflect on how God has been faithful in protecting you and your family in 2020?
As you do this, I want to share an excerpt of a letter I wrote to “Dear Pre-COVID Me” last year. My hope is that it will remind you (like it did me) to thank God for his faithfulness and presence in all of the hard places we’ve faced.
Pre-COVID me, please know that somewhere along the way you’re going to stop to ask a really vulnerable but important question: God, where are you in the middle of this?
The answer may be hard to find as the days grow longer and the news seems darker. But dig deep. It’s there. He’s there.
You’ll find him in the still small places where he always has been and always will be revealing his greatest glory.
Look for God in everything from the birthday parades to the family baseball games. You’ll find him in the return of families around the dinner table and the unrushed nightly bedtime routines. He’s on your countless walks around the neighborhood and in the Zoom reunions with extended family.
You’ll feel his presence when you’re playing board games with your kids, teaching them how to cook and clean, and especially when you see your previously overcommitted family finding rest and perspective in a new, simplified routine.
You’ll hear amazing stories of God working through our frontline workers, caring selflessly for the sickest of patients and often at the expense of their own families. He’ll be evident in the melody of pots and pans banging from the balconies of high-rises as people unite in the most difficult of times.
God’s hand will be visible as communities rally together to support local businesses and as friends and neighbors dust off old sewing machines to make face masks to protect each other. You’ll feel his presence when you look up to see the Blue Angels soar through the sky, or even as you look down and find messages of hope in colorful sidewalk chalk.
I guess what I would want you to know is that there are going to be some really hard times to weather, but, in the middle of the uncertainty, there’s an opportunity to reaffirm God’s promise that he is with us, for us, and will never leave us.
I’m looking forward to praying protection over our kids this week with my friend Jerica Olson on the podcast. Glad you’re with us.
Happy New Year!
Merry Christmas Eve!
As I’ve been reading through the Christmas story the last few weeks, I keep going back to the passage in Luke 2 where Luke describes Jesus’ birth and Mary placing her baby in the manger. It’s right after that sweet account in the stable that Luke takes a hard turn to writing about the shepherds hearing of Jesus’ birth by the angels.
Shepherds, of all people, being among the first to hear the story of Christmas—that’s a good word for us.
I’m reminded that only in Jesus do those who seem to lack in significance (e.g., shepherds) suddenly become essential characters in the greatest story ever told. It makes me think of the similar insignificance I’m prone to feel in the daily grind of parenting—so many asks and sometimes little thanks.
But it’s as the shepherds were simply keeping watch over their flock that Jesus brought them into the larger story. It’s in those seemingly small places of faithfulness in our own lives that Jesus uses the mundane for his glory.
We are anything but overlooked with Jesus. He takes our small stories and weaves them in the fabric of HIS greater story.
Take a few minutes to thank Jesus today for your family. Ask him to remind you that what you’re doing each day for your family matters and has kingdom significance.
This week as we’re celebrating Jesus, I’m excited to re-release one of my favorite interviews to date on Pardon the Mess. Priscilla Shirer joined us with a powerful message on identity that’s the perfect word as we wrap up a hard year.
Priscilla is a wife, Bible teacher, mom, actress, and so much more. There’s so much to love about Priscilla, but what always sticks with me is the way she speaks so freely and powerfully about her faith while also practically reminding us of what really matters as we go about our days.
Priscilla and I had the opportunity to talk about her life as she raises her three boys and how she builds them up with statements of affirmation. She reminds us that living in a place of knowing our true identity in Christ means all of our decisions come from the truth. When we do that, it shifts how we live our lives.
Whatever you do, don’t miss the last few minutes as she talks honestly about the difficulties her family has faced the last few years and gives us words of encouragement for when we walk hard roads of loss and discouragement.
I don’t know about you, but when we talk about numbering our days this time of year I go straight to the Christmas countdown. And yes, Christmas is FOUR days away! (Thankfully there’s always Amazon to save us in a pinch.)
But this week, as we’re praying for our kids to number their days, we’re thinking less mathematically and more missionally. We’re praying they make the most of every God-given opportunity, living today as if there might not be a tomorrow.
David understood the brevity of life when he wrote: “You have made my days a mere handbreadth; the span of my years is as nothing before you. Everyone is but a breath, even those who seem secure” (Psalm 39:5 NIV).
Podcaster, author, speaker, and my friend, Lisa Clark, is on the show today to guide us in praying for our kids. She’s just about the coolest grandmother you’ll ever meet and always full of wisdom and humor. Today is no different.
Join me in praying this week that our kids learn to number their days in such a way that every decision and opportunity is viewed through the lens of eternity.
Let’s just say we’re coming in hot this week before Christmas on Pardon the Mess!
We’ve got worship leader, songwriter, mom, and wife Kari Jobe with us today.
I’m guessing when she began leading worship in her church at thirteen years old, she couldn’t have imagined the songs of faith she would have the opportunity to sing across the globe in the coming years. Her newest song, “The Blessing,” is no exception to the remarkable work God is doing through her voice and career.
I love our conversation today about how her parents taught her at an early age about the importance of hearing the voice of God. She shares how they would practice hearing from God and the impact that continues to have on her music today.
Kari also talks about a very difficult time she experienced with postpartum depression and how she was led to audibly speak God’s truth over her home and her own life. During this hard time, God gave her a very simple truth: my nature is good.
I’m struck by how much we all need that same reminder today—that God’s nature is good, even when the things around us feel bad.
As you’re running all of those last-minute Christmas errands, tune in for this great conversation with Kari Jobe!
And then go put her song “The Blessing” on repeat for the rest of 2020.
Can I be honest for a quick second?
If anyone should have a podcast that talks about parenting, it’s sweet Dorothy Wilkinson (a.k.a. my mom). She’s kind, she’s funny, she’s the best cook around, and she loves Jesus and her family like few others.
Thankfully, today she’s making her debut appearance on Pardon the Mess, and let’s just say you’re going to walk away wanting more Dorothy and less Cynthia. 🤪
As we’re praying for our kids to be marked by the Nativity this week, my mom talks about using the living room Nativity to talk about Jesus with our kids. She also encourages us to pray boldly for our kids to have a faith like Mary and a spirit that seeks Jesus like the wise men.
And then, of course, she shares a fairly embarrassing story from my childhood involving a small mix-up in the McDonald’s drive–through.
I couldn’t be more excited to introduce you to my mom today. Join us to pray for our kids!
It may be hard to believe that one of the greatest Christian apologists of our time grew up in a home with an alcoholic father, suffered sexual abuse as a child, and made it his life’s goal to disprove Christianity in college.
It’s clear that the only explanation for Josh McDowell’s incredible impact is the Lord’s hand.
What a great honor it is to have him with us on Pardon the Mess today. His work with Campus Crusade, as well as his books, have had a tremendous impact on my own life, and I know so many of you feel the same way.
Josh talks with us about the importance of teaching our kids how to defend their faith because a faith without conviction will not be sustainable in this culture. He walks us through the practical steps of addressing their hard questions while keeping an open dialogue in our conversations.
But I think my favorite part of the interview is when Josh shared this truth he’s learned over his many years of mentoring college kids through Campus Crusade: rules without relationship leads to rebellion.
We can all chew on that for a good while.
Josh McDowell has addressed more than 46 million people, giving talks in 139 countries. He’s written or co-authored over 150 books, including More than a Carpenter, with over 27 million copies distributed, and Evidence that Demands a Verdict, which was named one of the twentieth century’s top forty books.
Today he’s with us, and you don’t want to miss this opportunity to hear his wisdom.
If there’s anything we need these days, it’s some good news.
Can I get an amen?
Some days I find myself mindlessly searching online for some hint of good news in the midst of all the hard.
I love how Luke 2:10 very simply reminds us that the birth of Jesus is our good news.
“But the angel said to them, ‘Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.’” —Luke 2:10 NIV
Vaccines and good health are blessings we will never again take for granted, but the only lasting good news comes from the baby born in a manger all those years ago.
This week we’re praying our kids are marked by joy, which is especially fitting as we celebrate Christmas.
My friend Jonathan Pitts is joining us with encouragement on how to find joy in the midst of hardship. Losing his wife unexpectedly two years ago, he shares with us the “choice” in joy and how that guides him in parenting their four daughters.
Jesus is the only good news we need today.
Let’s have abundant joy as we celebrate Christmas and pray the same for our kids.
I don’t know what weird world we live in where Chris Tomlin kicks off our Christmas season on Pardon the Mess, but I’m completely giddy about the show today.
The lyrics from his newest Christmas album and title song, Miracle of Love, go like this:
A baby born, a baby born
A miracle of love
A gift from God sent to us
From heaven above
And I thought I heard angels singing
Hallelujah
A baby born, a baby born
A miracle of love
Chris shares with us the double meaning behind these words as his family welcomes a “surprise” baby this month. We also get a peek into what inspires the songs that have been so impactful in how we worship, like “Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone)”.
I can’t think of a better way to start December than with an encouraging word from Chris Tomlin.
Oh, and trust me when I say you’ll want to download his newest album, Miracle of Love, for all the Christmas errands on your list this month.
Parenting, worship songs, collaborating with Florida Georgia Line . . . we cover it all today!
Don’t miss it.
When I was in fourth grade, I had a class assignment to prepare a report on a well-known person we considered to have strong integrity.
Not joking, I did my report on Lee Iacocca (a famous automobile executive from the 1960s–80s).
I know about as much about Lee Iacocca today as I did then: nothing.
But I liked how his name sounded.
What’s the point to this story?
Basically nothing—other than that integrity matters and our kids need strong examples of integrity in their lives. 😂
Enter Nehemiah.
Today, we’re wrapping up our study of Nehemiah and considering the ways his life was marked by integrity.
We’ll talk about how Nehemiah:
These things and much more made him a man of integrity whom God used for great kingdom work.
I’m looking forward to praying integrity together for our kids.
And, for good measure, I’ll leave you with my “favorite” Lee Iacocca quote: “The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works, is the family.”
I can second that with God at the helm in our families,
“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; His love endures forever.” —Psalm 107:1
Happy Thanksgiving!
I hope today is a wonderful day full of family, food, and ample opportunities to thank the Lord for his provision in your life. I’m thankful for so much this Thanksgiving, but, in particular, I’m grateful for your support of Pardon the Mess.
This year we’ve been blessed to remain in the top 200 of Apple’s Christian podcasts, and we even hit a huge milestone of 1 million downloads.
None of this happens without the support of each of you, so thank you from the bottom of my heart.
It’s Thursday, so we’re also releasing a podcast you won’t want to miss with Rashawn Copeland. He’s quickly become one of my favorite people around because of his joyful spirit and testimony of God’s redemption in his life.
Rashawn will encourage you to accept yourself as a work in progress and trust that God wants to ignite a revival in your life. Don’t miss his story of how addiction, doubt, depression, and fear were transformed by God’s love and acceptance in his life.
The title of his book is a message we all need today: Start Where You Are.
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Happy Thanksgiving week!
Several years ago, I wrote “10 Signs of a Thanksgiving Epic Fail.”
Although our Thanksgiving this year will look quite different from most, the article is still available should you need a litmus test for determining the success of Thanksgiving 2020.
This week, we’re praying for our kids to be marked by thanksgiving.
I can’t help but consider how the hardships of 2020 have revealed what’s truly worthy of our thanks. Even as we miss so many of the things we’ve enjoyed in the past, the promise that Jesus goes before us and protects us is more real and powerful than ever.
We continue considering Nehemiah’s life and his example of making even our secular successes sacred by acknowledging God’s sovereignty. It’s a reminder to pray that our kids will always give thanks to the giver of all good things throughout their lives.
I’m so thankful to each of you for entrusting your time and parenting to our ministry. I’m praying you will have little reminders all week that God works all things for our good and his glory, and that’s reason enough to give thanks!
Today’s podcast is a must-listen to if for no other reason than hearing Matthew West describe 2020 in song.
Yes, he sings in real-time for us, and it’s funny and total greatness.
Most of us have loved Matthew West’s music for many years, but he takes it to a whole new level when talking about his family, raising kids while touring, and his battle with feeling like he has to constantly do more and be more.
He’s vulnerable about growing up as a preacher’s kid and going through the motions more than having a deep relationship with the Lord. He also gives us great encouragement on living our lives with no conflicting reports, especially as we’re raising kids who are watching how we live.
Matthew West is a breath of fresh air in a year that needs some transparency and reminders of what really matters. His challenge to us is a worthy one in these days: don’t leave 2020 unchanged.
You’re going to love Matthew West on Pardon the Mess today!
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“A holy life will produce the deepest impression. Lighthouses blow no horns, they only shine.” —D. L. Moody
That’ll preach, right?
This week, we’re praying that our kids are marked by light.
In a year full of profound uncertainty and anxiety, our culture desperately needs to hear the gospel message that Jesus loved us to the point of death so that we might live forever.
That’s the message of truth and the light we were created to shine.
On Pardon the Mess this week, we will consider how what we do in private allows us to shine light in public.
And, as we continue looking at Nehemiah’s life, we will see that mourning what God mourns is a great starting place for sharing the gospel.
“Lighthouses blow no horns, they only shine.”
I’m praying that same thing for our families.
What are some things you wish you would have learned earlier in your Christian walk?
I can think of so many, but I find myself wanting my kids to figure out early on that knowing about God isn’t the same as knowing God. A key ingredient to this is how we communicate with God in prayer.
We’re talking about this and lots more with Sheila Walsh on Pardon the Mess today.
She reminds us that vulnerability is a key component in teaching our kids how to work through the hard stuff they face. Suffering and pain will always exist, but in the middle of it we have the opportunity to point our kids back to God.
Be sure to check out Sheila’s new devotional, Praying Girls Devotional: 60 Days to Shape your Heart and Grow your Faith Through Prayer.
I know you’re going to love this conversation with Sheila Walsh as much as I did!
Alert: Only 46 days until Christmas!
I know, how is it even possible that Christmas is coming so fast?
Yet at the same time, doesn’t it feel like last Christmas was seven years ago?
As we’re headed into the home stretch of 2020, we have some important opportunities to pray generosity over our kids. This year, more than ever, it seems like an important time to teach generosity in our homes as the needs around us seem so significant.
As we continue studying Nehemiah’s life, we will consider how his fear of the Lord and compassion for others drove a lifestyle of generosity. I can’t think of a better formula for praying generosity over our kids: fear of the Lord + compassion = generosity.
On a much less significant note, on today’s podcast I also share an “overly generous” moment I had years ago, resulting in a bounced check to the church. Bless it.
As we consider how to best live out the next forty-six days leading up to Christmas, let’s flip the script on our kids’ tendency to want more and instead pray they have hearts of generosity toward those around them.
It’s November, and that means it’s National Adoption Month.
If you know anything about me, you know that foster care and adoption completely changed the trajectory of my family’s life. As this month marks the three-year “gotcha day” for our sweet little guy, I’m still overwhelmed by God’s goodness in allowing our family to participate in the amazing gift of adoption.
In keeping with the November adoption theme, I’m thrilled to have Sam Collier with us today on Pardon the Mess. Sam shares his own adoption story and how, even in the midst of opposition, God was writing a story Sam never could have written in his own strength.
I can’t stop thinking about the stories he shares about his adoptive family, meeting his biological parents on The Steve Harvey Show, and what it looked like for him to forego his own music dreams for a ministry calling.
In all those places where you need a reminder that God’s in the business of giving us life to its fullest, we’ve got the podcast for you. Don’t miss Sam Collier’s encouragement to trust our own stories to the God who rescripts all things in favor of his greater story.
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I was on a radio interview recently where the host asked me how to teach our kids about God without cramming the Bible down their throat. I guess I understood his general sentiment, but my initial thought was “can we ever give our kids too much of God’s word?”
Today we’re praying for our kids to be marked by God’s word because we know that God’s word is the only true wisdom in life. If God’s word is active and alive (Hebrews 4:12), God-breathed (2 Timothy 3:16), and our only refuge (Psalm 18:30), I’m not sure it’s possible to overplay its value.
This month we’ll be talking (and praying) from the context of the book of Nehemiah. Nehemiah had a deep love of God’s word which guided him in doing God-sized things while leading others to repentance and action.
Listen to today’s podcast and join me in praying for our kids to be marked by God’s word in their lives. Pray that they will know their infinite value and his great love for them even in the midst of today’s uncertainties and hard places.
There are a million things we do for our families each day, let’s be sure praying for them is at the top of the list.
If you’re anything like me, there are very few things we feel less inclined to speak into than politics.
Even so, it’s important to guide our kids well in these politically divisive days.
I recently gave a few considerations in an article I wrote on how to discuss politics with our kids:
Would the world recognize you as a Christian if all they knew was how you engaged in politics? Would your kids know Jesus better if all they heard was your political speak? The truth is our political opinions are unlikely to change minds, but quite likely to change our witness.
With all of that in mind, I am happy to introduce a two-part Pardon the Mess series to help us navigate this political culture.
Don’t worry: under no circumstances will we be talking about specific candidates or parties but rather principles that will help guide our kids.
In part 1, we have Jim Denison, co-founder of Denison Ministries, sharing ways we can disagree well and teach our kids to respect authority, even when we don’t agree with all of our leader’s actions. He reminds us that “winning arguments is not as important as winning souls.”
In part 2, Texas State Representative Jeff Leach and his wife, Becky, give us an insider look at our political system and suggest ways we might support our public servants through prayer.
I hope these podcasts equip you well in the coming weeks as we face the election and the days following.
If you’re anything like me, there are very few things we feel less inclined to speak into than politics.
Even so, it’s important to guide our kids well in these politically divisive days.
I recently gave a few considerations in an article I wrote on how to discuss politics with our kids:
Would the world recognize you as a Christian if all they knew was how you engaged in politics? Would your kids know Jesus better if all they heard was your political speak? The truth is our political opinions are unlikely to change minds, but quite likely to change our witness.
With all of that in mind, I am happy to introduce a two-part Pardon the Mess series to help us navigate this political culture.
Don’t worry: under no circumstances will we be talking about specific candidates or parties but rather principles that will help guide our kids.
In part 1, we have Jim Denison, co-founder of Denison Ministries, sharing ways we can disagree well and teach our kids to respect authority, even when we don’t agree with all of our leader’s actions. He reminds us that “winning arguments is not as important as winning souls.”
In part 2, Texas State Representative Jeff Leach and his wife, Becky, give us an insider look at our political system and suggest ways we might support our public servants through prayer.
I hope these podcasts equip you well in the coming weeks as we face the election and the days following.
What distracts your heart from being fully focused on God? It’s not a rhetorical question but one we should all consider from time to time.
Maybe it’s social media, consumerism, people-pleasing, the need for accomplishment, or even just the busyness of daily life. At any particular moment, I can honestly say there’s endless things with a hold on my heart.
The distracting factors are different for each of us. But the call of the Lord is the same: to live with an undivided heart that is fully committed to him (2 Chronicles 16:9). It is only with an undivided heart that we are able to be fully present and available to the plans he has uniquely created for us. When we give him our full attention, we are free from the distractions of this world.
This week, let’s pray for our kids to live with undivided hearts. Let’s pray for our children’s daily obedience, followed by a complete commitment to the Lord’s will and plan for their lives. Let’s pray they develop a trust so deep in their Savior that they rely on his faithfulness instead of trying to orchestrate and control the details of their days.
Join us on today’s podcast as we talk about King David and his journey to live with an undivided heart. Let’s pray that our kids’ commitment to Jesus isn’t overshadowed by the temptations to live in comfort, convenience, acknowledgment, and entitlement.
“Only two industries call their customers users: illegal drugs and software.” —The Social Dilemma
Well now, that’s a quote that will stop you right in your social media-ridden tracks.
If you haven’t had a chance to watch Netflix’s new documentary, The Social Dilemma, let’s suffice it to say that the veil has been lifted on the ins and outs of social media algorithms and the impact it’s having on our lives. For me personally, it was eye-opening to see how manipulating and addiction-based social media has become, all in the name of buying our attention.
Sadly, it’s working!
Licensed psychologist, Dr. Ken Wilgus, is with us today on Pardon the Mess discussing this very topic. With a specialty in adolescents and families, he breaks down The Social Dilemma as it relates to our kids and provides practical advice on important next steps.
Some of the areas we cover include:
This is an important conversation you don’t want to miss. There’s no need to be fearful, just informed and prepared.
Let’s do it together!
I’ve had the blessing of raising my kids with an incredible group of moms over the past ten years. We’ve weathered some really hard places together, while also enjoying some great successes. And I'm just so thankful the Lord has blessed me with friendships that are real and vulnerable. I am grateful for friends who are willing to fight for me and my family, when I’ve lacked my own will to fight.
We all want those friendships for our kids. We know and understand the differences they have made in our lives. This week, we’re praying our kids are blessed with friendships marked by an uncompromising faith and deep loyalty.
On today’s podcast, we talk about King David and his friendship with Nathan. Nathan was a friend who told David what he needed to hear, not just what he wanted to hear. He pointed him to the truth when David was living outside of God’s best. David and Nathan are a great reminder of why we want biblical friendships for our kids.
We’re praying this week for the relationships that will have the most influence on our kids’ lives. We are praying for the spouses, friends, pastors, and mentors who will pick them up when they fall down and build them up when they’re struggling.
Proverbs 27:9 says: “A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” As you’re praying for your kids this week, take a minute to be thankful for the godly friendships in your own life. Remember to thank those who have shown you the truths of this Scripture.
I am so grateful to be praying for our kids together this school year. And I can’t wait to see the godly relationships the Lord has in store for them.
How do you know when you’re hearing God? What’s the key to discerning his voice? If you’re anything like me, some days the loudest voice you hear is the one saying you need chips and queso—ASAP.
Thankfully, Alli Worthington joins us on Pardon the Mess today with a profound word on adversity and discerning God’s voice in the middle of it. When we learn to really hear from God, we are able to partner with him in the things he has planned for our lives.
I love her clarifying point: we aren’t called to spin our wheels figuring out our “purpose” in life. The Great Commission is clear, our days on earth are to be spent telling others about Jesus. But our calling is individual to each of us. And in order to obey our calling, we must discern God’s voice.
Don’t miss Alli’s five self-reflecting questions, guiding us to see if we’re truly hearing from God. Oh, and definitely, definitely don’t miss our discussion on letting our kids see us wrestle with God and refusing to sanitize God in their lives.
So much good stuff!
Thankful for each of you. I cannot wait for you to hear today’s podcast!
“I would be content in life if I just had __________ (fill in the blank).”
Ever felt that way? I know I have. And when you finally fill in the blank, it seems there’s always something else new that finds it way back into that empty blank.
Finding contentment in a culture that’s always chasing after the next big thing isn’t easy. It’s hard for us as adults. And it’s equally hard (or harder) for our kids. Given the right perspective, we can see that Christian contentment is far less about our possessions and far more an issue of the heart.
Paul gives us a great word on contentment in Philippians 4:11–13:
For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
We’re reminded in this passage that contentment is learned. It’s a matter of choice and discipline. A key component in the learning process is being able to discern what has earthly versus eternal value. Contentment is found in fixing our eyes on what’s eternal.
Join us on today’s podcast as we talk about the life of David and how contentment (and times of discontent) marked his life. Let’s pray our kids have a life-long contentment, separate from what they do or don’t have physically on earth. And let’s pray that their contentment is rooted solely in Jesus.
I’m guessing there’s not one of us who couldn’t use a bit of practical parenting advice, considering all #2020 has thrown our way. Thankfully, Kendra Adachi is on Pardon the Mess today, and she’s bringing us just that!
Kendra passionately and candidly speaks into how to stop doing it all, so that we can do the things that really matter. Her mantra is quite genius: Be a genius about what matters and lazy about what doesn’t.
Sign me up, right?
With her thirteen guiding principles, she helps us work through issues we all face in raising kids. She even “lazy geniuses” a struggle happening in my home with my preschooler.
Here are a few of my favorite takeaways:
Oh, and be sure to check out all of Kendra’s lazy genius podcast episodes, including how to make her change-your-life chicken, how to shop at Costco, or how to start a hobby. She even told me how to “lazy genius” when cleaning my bathrooms.
This girl has something for everyone!
Keep up with Kendra on Facebook and follow her on Instagram at @thelazygenius
You can also get Kendra's book, The Lazy Genius Way, here.
Can you think of any early events that shaped your identity for better or worse?
I remember one formative experience when I was a senior in high school. I heard a girl tell our group of friends that the reason I was admitted to a particular college was because my parents had connections. I’m fairly brilliant (ha!), so it was clearly not true. But it was hurtful just the same.
I look back now and see how many of my decisions were made in response to that one careless comment. I wanted to prove to myself (and others) that I was good enough. It’s a small example with a big reminder. When we search for identity anywhere other than in the Word of God, we will be disappointed.
This week, we’re praying that our kids find their identity in Jesus, not in what others say about them. The world will tell them their worth is based on looks, talents, failures, and accomplishments. God’s Word refutes that by saying they are already his sons and daughters (Romans 8:15), fully known and accepted by God himself (Psalm 139:1–4).
Identity matters because it informs how we live our days. Join me in praying for our kids’ identity. Let’s pray that they will know they are valuable, loved, seen, and good enough—not because of who they are, but because of whose they are.
When it comes to parenting, working, praying, exercising—come to think of it, in most things—I find myself constantly running on empty. And I have a feeling I’m not alone.
We’re living in a time when it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and impatient. Thankfully, we have a Savior who wants us to live with freedom and peace. And he wants it so badly that he selflessly died so we might have abundant life. Don’t miss that truth—it’s life changing when you truly live in the freedom of it.
Pastor, author, and podcaster, Levi Lusko, joins us on Pardon the Mess to discuss our need to confront the pain, loss, and darkness in our lives. Only in acknowledging these hard places, can we find the complete peace and healing the Lord offers. More than that, God is faithful to use these hard places to do great things with our imperfect progress. There’s some hope we can all use today.
I always love having Levi on the podcast because he’s completely transparent and authentic. Today, he shares how his need for productivity became an idol. He also discusses how he battles with feelings of inadequacy as a father.
If for no other reason, don’t miss today’s podcast to hear me share one of my most embarrassing podcast moments. Sadly, it happened in an interview with Levi earlier this year.
Bless my heart.
Thanks for listening. I can’t wait to hear how you’re encouraged to “take back your life.”
It’s hard to believe we’re wrapping up the first month of praying for our kids in this new school year! This week, we’re praying for our kids to be marked by faith in God. Specifically, we’re asking the Lord to give them deep faith that endures in the good times, hard times, and every time in between.
We’ve been studying the life of Joseph. We’ve seen how Joseph’s faith kept him steady as he faced the difficulties of family divisiveness, being sold into slavery, false imprisonment, and even a famine. He didn’t know what the future held, but he trusted the God who did. That’s exactly what we want for our kids.
In 2 Corinthians 4:18 we are given an idea of what it takes to live by faith: “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Fixing our eyes on the unseen is foundational to trusting God. We’re walking in days when the “seen” things are scary and unknown. But the unseen things, they remind us that God is on his throne and he goes before us and behind us promising to work all things for our good and his glory (Romans 8:28).
Join me this week as we pray for our kids to be marked by an enduring faith.
On August 25, 2018, Kayla Stoecklein lost her husband to suicide. Andrew was a pastor of Inland Hills Church in Chino, California. In the wake of the tragedy, Kayla embarked upon a brave journey to better understand her husband’s battle with mental illness. She ultimately sought to overcome the stigma of suicide.
Shortly after losing Andrew, Kayla wrote a letter that went viral. She apologized for not truly understanding his pain and promised to honor his name. I remember reading her letter, posted alongside the picture of their three beautiful children, and being shaken by the grief she was experiencing. I couldn’t help but wonder how God could possibly redeem such hardship in their lives. Two years later, I’m blessed with the opportunity to speak with Kayla and hear how God is faithfully using her story to help people navigate the difficult waters of mental health.
September is National Suicide Prevention month. The statistics are a stark reminder that each of us will likely be impacted by suicide in some manner. On this episode of Pardon the Mess, Kayla bravely shares her difficult story. She gives us proactive steps for our own mental health and emphasizes the importance of letting others into our pain.
Kayla is determined to ensure Andrew’s life is defined by how he lived, not how he died. I want to end with these beautiful words from Andrew’s last sermon, shared in Kayla’s book:
“We are all a mess, none of us have it figured out, all of us are broken, and all of us fall short. It’s the mess that brings us together and draws God near. If we weren’t all a mess, we wouldn’t need God.”
See more from Kayla:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
This week we’re praying that our kids are marked by God’s favor.
I used to think God’s favor meant I would have success in ministry, my kids would stay on track, my dog would bark less, and my husband’s work would flourish. But with a little gray hair (which will forever remain highlighted), I’ve learned God’s favor looks a lot different than earthly favor.
His favor is discovered in knowing that our name is written in the book of life. It is found in believing that there is nothing that can separate us from his love.
As we pray God’s favor over our kids this week, my hope is that we would understand favor in the context of Joseph’s life. We’re told that God gave Joseph success in all that he did (Genesis 39:3). Wait, success in all he did? He was sold into slavery, falsely imprisoned, estranged from his family, and more. If that’s success, we might want to consider being unsuccessful. (Just kidding)
But we know Joseph had God’s favor because the Lord was doing things in his life that surpassed his biggest dreams. Joseph’s faith allowed him to trust God’s favor even through some seemingly unfavorable circumstances.
We want that for our kids too!
God longs for his children to be obedient, walk in step with him, and surrender to his purposes. Join me in praying that our kids live in ways God can bless, allowing his great favor to encompass all they do.
Is it really possible that we have been given the opportunity to have Mark Batterson on the podcast twice this year? Yes, it is! And it’s exactly what’s going down on Pardon the Mess today. Look at you 2020, actually giving us something good for a change. 😂
Mark is the lead pastor of National Community Church in Washington, DC and a New York Times best-selling author of over eighteen books. When it comes to discerning the voice of God in our lives, Mark has a great word for us today.
As you’ve probably heard me mention ad nauseam, Mark’s book, In the Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, has arguably impacted my faith more than any book I’ve read in the last decade (other than the Bible). So of course, I didn’t miss the chance to talk about it on today’s podcast. Mark and I discuss how to navigate obstacles we face with confidence, knowing how God’s story ends and his great plans for our lives.
Mark and his daughter recently released a children’s book: God Speaks in Whispers. In their book, they share with us ways to teach our kids to listen for God’s voice and why we should pray for “long obedience” all of their days.
Lots of good stuff coming your way today! Dive in with me, and let’s be encouraged with the great reminder that God Speaks in Whispers.
Get your own copy of God Speaks in Whispers!
Mark is joining me for the Perfectly Imperfect digital event, learn more and register today!
My middle-school son is a man-child.
Or at least that’s what one of my friends called him after seeing him for the first time post-quarantine. I don’t know what happens to these boys between seventh and ninth grade, but they go from little lego building cuties to deep-voiced giants, basically overnight.
It’s amazing (and shocking) to see them grow so fast. It’s also a great reminder to pray for their physical bodies and development. This week, we’re praying for our man-children (really, all of our kids) to be marked by stature.
In praying over their stature, we’re praying for our kids to physically take care of their bodies. This includes everything from eating well to making the right decisions when faced with alcohol and drugs. We’re also praying for their physical relationships—that they honor the Lord as they approach the age of dating and in all relationships with their peers.
Aside from praying for the physical aspect of their stature, we’re also praying for their stature as it relates to reputation. How they conduct themselves has the power to lead people to Christ or, if not done well, ruin their witness. Knowing that we’re called to live a life worthy of the gospel, let’s pray that our kids are marked by a reputation consistent with their faith in God.
Darin Kinder is a special agent with the United States Secret Service. He has spent his career traveling the world protecting presidents and leaders. On September 11, 2001, he was in the heart of New York City when the World Trade Centers were attacked. His heroic actions earned him the Secret Service Medal of Valor.
As we approach the nineteenth anniversary of this somber day, Darin joins us on Pardon the Mess to share his reflections from September 11, 2001. He also shares where the Lord is continuing work in his life.
Darin and his wife, Heather, are in the midst of raising four boys and are passionate about teaching them to live each day to its fullest for Christ. Darin challenges us to raise kids with a fierce faith—one that matches the intensity of our culture. He offers four ways to raise our children with a fierce faith and adds a few great sports analogies along the way.
I’m frequently asked if I have a “favorite” podcast interview. And I honestly can’t point to just one. However, if I had to name one, I would choose my first podcast with Darin Kinder on Pardon the Mess. When I interviewed him last year, his words impacted how I live my daily life.
Listen to Darin’s great word for us today on raising kids with a fierce faith. And then go back and listen to our first interview with Darin. His message pertains to living our lives with “dirty suits.” I promise it will make you rethink how you're spending your days and inspire you to dig into the hard places to which the Lord has called you.
I’m thrilled to have Darin Kinder back with us today on Pardon the Mess. I know you will be too!
The Valiant Ministries: http://www.thevaliantministries.com/
Tim Keller’s message: http://keepingthemainthing.blogspot.com/2016/09/tim-kellers-sermon-after-911.html
Listen to last years episode with Darin Kinder!
I’m thrilled to announce that today is the official kick-off of Marked by Prayer: A Parents’ Prayer Journal for the 2020–2021 School Year. On today’s podcast, we will begin praying our kids through this school year alongside my prayer journal.
Each Monday morning, I will release a short podcast that corresponds with the journal. The podcast will guide us in praying an attribute of faith over our kids. Simply subscribe to Pardon the Mess and you will receive a notification each time we release a new episode.
The idea of being “marked” surfaced from a realization that life leaves its mark on our kids as they face the inevitable bumps and bruises of being raised in a fallen world.
As parents, we’re constantly navigating the uncharted territory of raising kids in a culture inundated with technology, gender-identity issues, school shootings, social media, a pandemic, and more—all potentially marking our kids. But there’s really good news: God wants to mark them with a faith that transforms their lives from the inside out.
It seems fitting that we begin this school year by praying that our kids grow in the same areas that Jesus experienced: wisdom, stature, and in favor with God and man (Luke 2:52). This week we will focus on praying for God’s wisdom over our children.
The world so often values the wisdom found in history, art, literature, and music. As believers, we’re reminded that true wisdom comes only from God (Matthew 6:33). And while the world has many “wisdom counterfeits,” I want to encourage you to pray that our kids seek the only true source of wisdom: Jesus.
So glad you’re with me as we come before the Lord, praying for our kids each week. Don’t miss our podcast today and ever Monday morning, as we commit to doing the most important thing we can for our kids—Pray!
Grateful to be walking this road with you!
Each time I'm given the incredible blessing of talking to Christine Caine, drinking from a firehose comes to mind. She brings wisdom and encouragement like no one else. And she does it with flair in her trademark high-impact, warp speed style.
Today’s conversation is no exception. Here are a few of the nuggets with which you will walk away after listening to Christine on Pardon the Mess:
Christine Caine is an Australian-born, Greek-blooded, lover of Jesus. She is an activist, author, and international speaker. And she is the founder of a global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign, alongside her husband, Nick. She’s one of the great female evangelists of our day.
I’m thrilled to have Christine on our show. Get ready for a good dose of truth, encouragement, and a few good laughs. Don’t miss this one!
I sit here writing to all of you after sending my daughter off for her “first last day of school.” I truly have no idea where the days have gone. Literally—yesterday I brought this wrinkled baby home from the hospital, in a onesie that swallowed her little body. I laid her in the bassinet wondering how I was old enough to have a newborn.
Seventeen years later, I’m speechless at the thought of her going to college. And I’m left pondering what we will need to go over before she heads out of our door. She knows how to do laundry ✔, she’s responsible with money ✔, and she is a good friend to those around her ✔.
But more than anything else, I want her to really know the Lord. I need her to understand that of all the things we stand for in this house, our belief that Jesus is Lord trumps everything else. Christ is for us and with us for all of eternity.
So whether you’re holding your newborn today or (like me) looking straight into the final chapters before launching a kid to college, today’s podcast is for you!
Kara Powell challenges us to consider ways we can give our kids a “sticky faith” that stays with them through college and adulthood. She covers critical conversations we need to have with our kids. She offers advice on navigating tricky faith subjects we cannot afford to avoid. And she provides some interesting thoughts on involvement in church, and how to make it most impactful.
Research shows that of the kids who graduate from a church or youth group, 40 to 50 percent will fail to stick with their faith in college. I’m not satisfied with that statistic. I know you aren’t either. Listen to my conversation with Kara Powell today, and join me in implementing the small things that will make a big difference in keeping our kids faithful to the Lord.
All in favor of being intentional about discipling your kids—raise your hand.
Great, it’s unanimous.
Now that we agree it’s important, how exactly do we do it?
Today on Pardon the Mess, Matt Chandler walks us through the idea of discipleship. You are going to be so glad you invested your time in listening to today’s episode!
As overwhelming as it might seem, the Lord has specifically placed each of us in our children’s lives as disciple-makers. Thankfully, our job doesn’t have to be complex. As Matt puts it: “We’re simply called to do whatever we can, whenever we can, to help our family become friends and followers of Jesus Christ.”
In their book, Family Discipleship, Matt Chandler and Adam Griffin lay out a very attainable rhythm of gospel-centered discipleship. It happens in three key areas of our family lives: time, moments, and milestones. Given even the slightest bit of intentionality, each of these three areas can be touched on practically and naturally.
Matt Chandler is the lead pastor at the Village Church in Dallas, Texas where he lives with his wife and three children. He’s an amazing communicator. If you’re not already hooked, let me leave you with my favorite parenting quote from Matt: “We’re working for the thank you when they are twenty-eight, not when they are fifteen” (I haven’t been able to get his words out of my head).
Ummm—yes! Let’s make sure we’re doing the God things that our kids will thank us for when they are adults, starting with discipling them in the Lord while they are still in our homes.
Allie Beth Stuckey joins us on Pardon the Mess today to discuss our culture’s tendency to lean into meology—a me-centered theology. Instead of teaching the truths of scripture and discerning what the Bible says about God, we often turn our focus on what scripture says about us and look to find our value apart from God.
Allie and I discuss the five popular myths our culture embraces:
Myth #1: You are enough.
Myth #2: You determine your truth.
Myth #3: You’re perfect the way you are.
Myth #4: You’re entitled to your dreams.
Myth #5: You can’t love others until you love yourself.
Each of these popular myths are dispelled in Allie Beth’s new book: You’re not enough (and that’s okay).
Today’s podcast reminds us to be discerning of our culture’s messaging and always weigh it against God’s Word. It’s easy to hear biblical near-truths and mistake them for complete truths. The great news is: when we turn our focus back to the Lord, and recognize our inadequacies, we live in freedom. We are reminded that we don’t need to constantly strive to be enough because we belong to the One who is enough.
Allie Beth is an author, the host of Relatable (a popular podcast), and a frequent political commentator on national media outlets. When she’s not at home with her husband and one-year-old daughter, she speaks across the country about the importance of biblical values.
What a privilege to have Matt Hammitt with us on Pardon the Mess today. You’re going to love our vulnerable conversation about his career, work-life balance, marriage struggles, and the challenges of walking away from old dreams when called by God to new ones.
From 1996-2016, Matt was the lead singer and songwriter for the band Sanctus Real, touring the country extensively for the majority of the year. As he and his wife, Amy, began to have kids, Amy struggled with Matt’s touring schedule and the demands of raising their young family alone.
The hit song “Lead Me” was born from the stress and struggle of balancing his marriage and family with his role in Sanctus Real. The lyrics of the song describe Amy’s need for Matt to lead their family well and to be more present. Although most of us are not lead singers of a band (or married to one), we can all relate to the push and pull between careers, dreams, and the huge responsibility of shepherding our families well.
Matt has received three Dove Awards, has been nominated for two Grammy Awards, and recently released his book, Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith.
This podcast is for all of us who have too many balls in the air and need a grace-filled reminder that God’s best for us sometimes requires a hard look at what we’re chasing. And it encourages us to really look at how our dreams impact the ones we love the very most.
“If you could give all couples a single piece of advice for pursuing a Godly marriage, what would it be?” Bob Lepine is an author, radio show host, and pastor. He joins us today on Pardon the Mess to answer this question and so much more. Pastor Lepine encourages us to build our marriages on strong foundations so they can withstand the storms that inevitably come with time (and kids). Most of us probably had 1 Corinthians 13 read as a part of our wedding ceremony, but have we gone back to see how we’re following through? Are we patient with our spouse? Are we showing kindness in our daily interactions? Are we willing to live sacrificially in order to honor our spouse? Let’s be honest, the last few months have been full of upsets to our normal routine. Our marriages are probably feeling some of the strain. Bob Lepine has a great word for us on living with the daily intentionality required to to strengthen our marriages. Join me in taking a few minutes to consider how we can love our spouse well, while honoring the Lord in the process.
Today is our last mini-mess episode for July. We’ve been studying places in the Bible where God changed a person’s name (Abram to Abraham, Jacob to Israel, Simon to Peter) and the massive impact it had on his life. This series has been a great reminder of how God comes to his people when they need him most, transforming their lives from the inside out.
The common thread in each of these transformative name changes resides in a deep encounter with God. I don’t know about you, but our mini-mess studies have really made me consider what I’m doing (or not doing) each day to foster transformational encounters with God of my own.
Although we tend to overcomplicate it, there’s really no way to overemphasize the importance of prayer. And as parents, what a great privilege and responsibility we have in praying for our kids!
While we are on the subject, I’m excited to tell you about my new prayer journal, available this week! Marked by Prayer corresponds with the 2020-2021 school year and serves as a weekly devotional guide to pray an attribute of faith over our kids each week.
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Of all the daily things we do for our children, I can’t think of anything more important than praying for them. I hope you’ll take a minute and grab your copy of Marked by Prayer.
I’m so glad you’ve joined me in this mini-mess series. Check out the podcast this morning and please share it with a friend who might need encouragement during these days!
Feeling anxious?
You’re not alone. Studies indicate that over a third of Americans report feelings of anxiety and depression as COVID-19 numbers continue to spike. There’s no playbook for how to navigate life in a pandemic. It can leave us (and our kids) feeling discouraged as we ponder the future.
But even without the stress of a pandemic, our kids face varying degrees of fear and anxiety throughout their lives, critical topics for all parents to consider.
Ken Wilgus is a licensed psychologist who specializes in the treatment of adolescents and their families. He’s joining us today to talk about parenting our kids through fear and anxiety. May I just say, you’re not going to want to miss a second of this!
Here are some of the areas we cover:
A friend sent me the link to Dr. Wilgus’ discussion on this topic, published on his podcast, Feeding the Mouth That Bites You. I knew it was just the word we need as we begin to think about back-to-school and all it entails.
I can’t wait for you to hear Dr. Wilgus today. And I have a feeling that you may even want the teens in your life to listen as well. (I know I did!)
It’s week three of our “mini-mess” episode series! We’ve been studying places in the Bible where God changed a person’s name and how the new name brought new beginnings and clarity to that person’s calling.
We’re digging into Matthew 16 this week, where Jesus changed Simon’s name to Peter. This name change reminds us that when we fully grasp who Jesus is, we become “a rock” or “cornerstone” in the larger narrative of the gospel. We begin to see new significance and meaning in our days.
Next week, we will begin to wrap up this study. There will be a lot of amazing applications you won’t want to miss! But for now, I hope you will remember: when we spend time with our Savior he transforms our lives in remarkable ways. Take time this week to dig into God’s word and consider the question of who Jesus really is in your life.
Grab your Bible. Tune into the podcast this morning. And please share it with a friend who might need encouragement during these days!
I can’t think of anyone who doesn’t need a good laugh as we plow through another month of the weird new normal called 2020. You’re going to want to carry me off on your shoulders after our Pardon the Mess conversation with Sophie Hudson. And you will equally enjoy her book, Stand all the Way Up.
Sophie has an honest and hilarious point of view on how to face the hard places in life that keep us up at night and make us want to “burn it all down.” During a hard time in her own life, she shares how she learned that the Lord has already provided all we need to “get up, straighten up, and stand all the way up” for our faith and the underdog. She reminds us that for every God-given task we are handed, he will equip us.
Sophie is hilarious, vulnerable, and has a good word for us in a time when it would be easier to pull the covers over our head and wait for a vaccine. Be encouraged that in our hardest days the Lord can have the biggest impact, if we will just allow him to use our weakness for his great glory.
Oh, and don’t miss Sophie’s words on turning fifty and her best advice to her younger self. It’s good stuff!
Check out Sophie and Melanie Shankle’s Big Boo Podcast!
Today we kick-off week number two of our “mini-mess” episodes, designed to offer quick biblical truths with lasting value. We’re studying places in the Bible where God changed a person’s name and how the new name brought new beginnings and clarity to that person’s calling.
This week, we’re looking at Jacob’s life and how an all night wrestling match changed his name from “deceiver” to Israel (because he wrestled with God and man). This wrestling passage might be one of the stranger events we read about in the Bible, but it serves as a great reminder of how much God treasures his creation. It recalls how he will go to any length to have a deep and meaningful relationship with us.
Grab your Bible. Tune into the podcast this morning. And please share it with a friend who might need encouragement during these days!
I think we can agree that one of the hardest parts of our COVID-19 existence is the lack of connection with friends and family. In our present circumstances, it has become very evident just how much we need connection, and it starts at the earliest of ages with our kids.
I’m thrilled to have Amy and Jeffrey Olrick on our podcast today, discussing this very topic. They speak to the six needs every child possesses in relation to connection. Amy and Jeffrey’s integration of neuroscience and practical parenting is a great reminder that God created us to be relational, and our kids need us to be present, not perfect.
We chat about topics such as:
You’re going to love how Amy and Jeffrey practically break our kids’ needs down into six essential areas. Join us and be encouraged.
What’s your name again?
One time I was podcasting someone fairly well-known, and within the first five minutes of our discussion, I called him by the wrong name (multiple times). Apparently, he wasn’t as well-known to me as I thought. Thankfully, his wife happened to be on the podcast too and she very graciously let me know that I had his name wrong. #Died
There’s a lot that goes into our names, especially if we go back and consider the significance of names in biblical times. We know that God has many different names, revealing different aspects of his character. And we also know that there are instances in the Bible where God changed someone’s name to give that person a new perspective and, oftentimes, a new beginning.
This month, I’m trying something a little bit different. On Mondays, I will be releasing short “Mini-Mess” podcasts, giving quick biblical truths with lasting values. As you may have guessed, we will be studying name changes in the Bible and their significance on how we live our lives each and every day this side of eternity.
As we continue to parent our kids in this new world with new rules, be reminded that God still rules. His word is an ever-present encouragement in the hard places we’re facing.
Grab your Bible. Let’s spend a few minutes together in God’s word.
As I’ve been working through the new realities of this pandemic, I’ve felt a bit of fear creeping into my life. Maybe it’s because I live in a COVID-19 “hot spot.” Or, it could be that as things have opened up in our state, my family is inevitably facing increased exposure to the virus. Either way, my lack of control over things I previously thought I could manage has revealed how quickly fear can replace faith in my life.
I’m guessing I’m not alone.
Ed Young, Senior Pastor of Fellowship Church, joins us on Pardon the Mess today to talk through dealing with fear in these uncertain days. In his new book, The Fear Virus, he encourages us to get “historical, not hysterical” when we’re fearful. Being historical means going back to all the places where God has been faithful in our past and using those times to remind us that God will continue to be faithful in the present.
Pastor Young shares with us the significance of trusting God in the face of fear and how to do that practically: naming our fears, taking captive our thoughts, and praying for wisdom and guidance. Trusting God is a daily (sometimes momentary) decision, and in days like these, it often means we deliberately choose to cling to God’s words instead of the words filling the air all around us.
You will love Ed Young’s vulnerable and entertaining words for us today! I’m praying this podcast will refresh you and bring biblical encouragement as you identify the areas of fear you’re struggling with.
The disciples were walking with Jesus one day when they happened upon a blind man. They asked Jesus whether the man’s parents or the man himself had sinned, causing him to be blind. Jesus said neither, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him” (John 9:1–3). And then Jesus put mud on the blind man’s eyes and gave him sight.
Discussing the truths of this passage of Scripture might be my favorite part of today’s podcast: the reminder that whether it’s sickness, health, disability, or poverty, God can use all of these things for his glory!
Jamie Sumner joins me with words of encouragement for those raising special needs children and for the rest of us walking the road with them. You will love her practical and heartfelt words describing her own journey in raising Charlie while also sharing some of the difficulties she’s faced with guilt, her marriage, finances, and managing disappointments and unmet expectations.
Jamie suggests how we can support those around us raising special needs children and how to guide our kids in their interactions with these precious kids. She encourages us to look at bravery in parenting from a different perspective and reminds us that our kids were God’s first so we can trust him in all the messy details.
I love how she ends her book, Eat, Sleep, Save the World: Words of Encouragement for the Special Needs Parent:
“Parenting a child who needs help to move, to speak, to interact with others is gritty. It takes courage and determination to know when to help and when to let go, when to fight for them and when to let them into the ring alone.”
Praying grit for every single one of us raising kids today!
Happy Father’s Day to our dads!
Father’s Day wasn’t officially recognized as a national holiday until 1972. And almost fifty years later, we’re still thankful for the opportunity to celebrate all the dads in our lives and what they mean to our families.
As we think fondly of our dads this weekend, let’s not miss the opportunity to acknowledge the universal “daddisms” that make them who they are.
For instance, when they say things like:
And then there’s the little things they do like driving endlessly around parking lots in search of the“perfect” spot, or insisting we have a little cash before getting on an airplane (as if cash will be our primary concern if the plane runs into trouble).
It’s the small things that make us big fans of the dads in our lives. And if you’re fortunate enough to have a dad who loves the Lord and has led your family well spiritually, then you’re doubly blessed.
In honor of our dads, we’re bringing you two podcasts this week!
Today, Steve Graves chats with my husband and me about crucial conversations every dad needs to have with their sons.
I hope you have a wonderful Father’s Day weekend, and be sure to share these podcasts with the men in your life.
Get Steve's book, 41 Deposits here!
Happy Father’s Day to our dads!
Father’s Day wasn’t officially recognized as a national holiday until 1972. And almost fifty years later, we’re still thankful for the opportunity to celebrate all the dads in our lives and what they mean to our families.
As we think fondly of our dads this weekend, let’s not miss the opportunity to acknowledge the universal “daddisms” that make them who they are.
For instance, when they say things like:
And then there’s the little things they do like driving endlessly around parking lots in search of the“perfect” spot, or insisting we have a little cash before getting on an airplane (as if cash will be our primary concern if the plane runs into trouble).
It’s the small things that make us big fans of the dads in our lives. And if you’re fortunate enough to have a dad who loves the Lord and has led your family well spiritually, then you’re doubly blessed.
In honor of our dads, we’re bringing you two podcasts this week!
In our first podcast, Jerrad Lopes of Dad Tired encourages men to lead well in their homes while also giving all of us wives some thoughts on how best to encourage our husbands as they lead.
I hope you have a wonderful Father’s Day weekend, and be sure to share these podcasts with the men in your life.
When it comes to technology, we’re raising our kids in a completely different world than the one we grew up in. The advancement of technology has provided some great benefits for our kids, most recently seen with online schooling successes during COVID-19. But technology has also given rise to some really sad statistics showing a steep increase in pornography use during quarantine.
Kristen Jenson, founder of Protect Young Minds, joins us today to discuss the impact of pornographic material on our kids. She highlights the importance of equipping them to deal with exposure to pornography from an early age. She believes the best filter we can provide is an internal filter, setting up a plan for dealing with pornography when our kids are inevitably exposed to it.
Kristen offers a great working definition of the topic and some easy ways to get past the awkwardness we may feel in discussing it with our kids. The reality is that really great kids are forced to deal with this issue in their lives, and as parents, we have the opportunity to set the stage for their success.
Don’t miss this encouraging and necessary conversation on a hard topic we will all face in parenting.
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We’re all trying to process the tragic death of George Floyd and the unrest in our country this week. Many of us, myself included, are hesitant to say too much for fear of saying something wrong or making it worse in some way.
But, as believers, we are instructed to stand up for the oppressed and to love those around us “not just in words or speech, but with actions and truth” (1 John 3:18).
So how do we do that well?
I had the great privilege of having a conversation with a community of believers speaking vulnerably and practically about the issue of racism and the state of our country. I love the heart of each of these friends in sharing their pain but also spurring us on to do the hard things that pave the way for reconciliation and hope for all of those around us.
On today’s episode of Pardon the Mess we discussed:
I’ll conclude with the words that a dear friend of mine, Jerica Olsen, sent me this morning.
“If the heart of God for his people hasn’t led you to stand up for the oppressed and defend those who can’t defend themselves - you might want to consider what God you’re aligning with.”
Let’s continue to align with Jesus and pray for his healing and direction in our country.
Mark Batterson is with us today on Pardon the Mess, speaking about reframing our biggest obstacles. By reframing obstacles as God-ordained opportunities, we allow him to do his work in us. We allow God to ensure we give him the glory as having done something bigger than we could imagine doing ourselves.
In a time when COVID-19 has thrown a complete wrench in all the things we call normal and predictable, today’s podcast is a good reminder that the size of our problems are far outweighed by the size of our God.
Mark’s book, In a Pit With a Lion On a Snowy Day, is one of those books that feels like it was written just for me in this season. One of my favorite quotes from the book (and there’s a lot) is: “God is in the business of strategically positioning us in the right place at the right time. But here’s the catch: The right place often seems like the wrong place, and the right time often seems like the wrong time.”
For many of us, this season has been a forced slow down. It has been a time when God has shed light on places that need re-prioritizing and refocusing. Maybe you’re feeling called to something new. Maybe you need a reminder to not let what you can’t do keep you from accomplishing what you can do. Or maybe you’re realizing that your view of God seems smaller, the more you focus on the size of your obstacles.
Whatever it is you’re praying for these days, I hope you walk away from this conversation encouraged to chase the lions in your life.
Oh, and here is one quick spoiler alert: my favorite part of our conversation happens at the very end (don’t skip out early). Mark reminds us that few people will have platforms that influence thousands of people. However, our greatest success is often when those who know us best respect us the most. As parents, let’s chase the lion of loving our family well and being the parents God has called us to be.
“We’ll never be a perfect parent, but we can be a praying parent.” —Mark Batterson
Today we wrap-up nine months of praying over our kids this school year. As I look back over the past few months, I’m amazed by the things we’ve seen and experienced in this country. We have witnessed things that we never could have imagined last August while taking our beloved first day of school pictures.
Thankfully, none of it surprises God.
If we’ve learned anything this school year, it’s that we cannot predict what tomorrow will bring. The events of these past few months have highlighted the importance of faithfully coming before the author of all of our days and praying for our families.
This week we are praying God-sized dreams for our kids. Pastor and best-selling author of Praying Circles Around Your Children, Mark Batterson, joins me with a powerful reminder of why we pray for our kids. He provides encouragement to pray for God's bigger purposes for their lives. My favorite part of the podcast is talking about not making the mistake that King David’s dad, Jesse, made. All he could see was a shepherd boy in David, yet God was in the process of grooming a king.
Join us today as we pray God-sized dreams for our kids and conclude a school year of prayer.
As a Mom, one of my recurring concerns is a focus on how to ensure my kids have a deep faith. When my kids leave the house, after eighteen years of growing, guiding, and leading them, I want them to understand why we believe what we believe. I realize that ultimately it’s up to them to decide whether to follow God or not. But I often find myself pondering the question: What is the best way for us to set them up to make the most important decision of their lives?
If this question is on your radar too, you’re going to love my conversation today with Ruth Chou Simons. We talk about the ordinary things in life that work to shape our family’s faith. We speak to the importance of individually pursuing Jesus and how our pursuits become a part of the fabric of our home. And Ruth shares her journey of balancing a career with family life—how she’s worked through seasons of saying “yes” professionally and other seasons where she’s been called to say “no.”
Ruth is a best-selling author, artist, founder of Gracelaced, wife, and a mom to six boys. She offers an encouraging word for all of us today. As we plow through the mundane moments of everyday parenting, Ruth prompts us to keep our eyes on the bigger and better prize of Jesus. Join us and find rest in his promises.
“The only thing getting thin during this quarantine is my patience.” – Author Unknown
I don’t know who said this, but I give it a resounding amen as we kick off week nine of sheltering in place. Who’s with me?
This week we’re praying patience over our kids, and I’m guessing few of us feel qualified to teach anyone a lesson in patience these days. Thankfully the Lord models his great patience in dealing with us and guides us with grace as we attempt to raise kids in this fruit of the spirit.
As we consider what patience looks like for our kids, we naturally think about it in the context of their siblings, friends, teammates, and especially their parents. But take a few minutes to listen to our podcast today as Kay Wyma joins me to talk about an even deeper level of praying patience for our kids – the discipline of waiting patiently for the Lord’s hand in their lives.
Praying and abundance of patience with you and for you this week!
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2
Terra’s ministry lies at the corner of theology and therapy. She is available NOW to share healthy relationship wisdom with parents of girls (from her new book, Courageous):
ª How to raise courageous girls in a world of fear, anxiety and loneliness
ª Teaching the truth about intimacy: we are loved and can have intimacy with God and others outside of sex
ª Empowering daughters (and moms!) with five tools for creating calm in the midst of anxiety
ª How emotions help us discover our authentic self and deeply connect with God and others
ª Step #1 for raising courageous girls? Become a courageous woman
ª Helping our daughters become resilient -- rather than avoidant or naïve or avoidant
ª Learning to recognize three types of friends - and becoming a better friend
ª The secret to honest relationships between moms and daughters
ª Why Terra intentionally travels the road of motherhood alongside other women
Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the clinical director of Living Wholehearted, an organization she co-founded with her husband and business partner, Jeff, which is dedicated to helping leaders live with integrity. Terra is also the co-founder of Courageous Girls, a free web-based curriculum offering biblical and clinical wisdom to moms and daughters, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace. Terra and Jeff have two daughters.
Do you ever feel lacking in the mom department? Do you find yourself drowning in the mundane, frantically searching for a greater purpose in the throes of laundry, dishes, teenage battles, and potty training?
Me too. Every season of parenting offers hardships that leave me questioning: “God, when will I serve your greater purpose?”
Authors and co-founders of the Risen Motherhood ministry, Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler, join me today with simple, biblical truths about the power of the gospel in everyday life. We discuss reframing our view of the ordinary parts of motherhood through the lens of the resurrection. Emily and Laura counter the entrapments of comparison with a challenge to lean into others’ giftings, allowing them to feed into our kids and aid us in our motherhood walks. And we touch on navigating parenting children with learning differences.
Join us as we explore beauty in the midst of the mundane. And make sure to check out Emily and Laura’s book, Risen Motherhood: Gospel Hope for Everyday Moments.
Today I am honored to talk with my friend, Lisa Clark, about praying submission for our kids. Submission is often talked about in the church, but it is rarely understood in its full context. It is not just something to be modeled in marriage, but something to be modeled to our kids as well. Join Lisa and me as we talk about how we, as parents, model the same submission that Christ modeled in going to the cross. My hope is that you will take away practical ways to practice submission in your homes and pray it over your kids daily.
Do you feel quarantined out? Are you struggling with feelings of getting it all wrong? We’re right there with you.
Author, speaker, and mom of four, Laura Smith chats with us about giving ourselves grace as we parent in these hard days. We talk about navigating the disappointment our kids are facing, while also finding hope in the bigger picture of Jesus.
Laura gives us a great reminder about using this time to model our faith well. She also discusses her new book and speaks to the power of hymns. Her insight and wisdom gave me new life!
Join us today and walk away humming “Amazing Grace”—that’s a promise!
I played in a band growing up.
Okay, so it wasn’t so much “a” band as “the” band. I played the clarinet and—if I’m honest—I felt pretty good about it until I hit high school. The first time I saw my sporty friends head off to their games, dressed in cute uniforms, I became keenly aware that my elective of choice was lacking in the cool department. There I was, left behind holding my plume (you young kids google the plume and you’ll understand my woes).
While practicing with 200+ other band members, I learned some great lessons on the hash marks of the football field. The lesson that has stuck with me the most is this: the greatest success in a marching band performance is achieved when the individual band member is completely unnoticed.
As we raise kids in a culture basking in recognition and praise, it’s counterintuitive to teach our kids the value of going unnoticed. It’s not that they aren’t gifted and called to use their talents for God’s glory, but it’s our job to teach them to be willing to do so in a way that draws attention to the giver of the gift rather than the gift itself.
Jesus is the perfect model of humility. He came to earth in the form of a baby and lived a blameless life so that he could die on the cross and give us new life. He more than deserved recognition and acknowledgement for his heavenly status, yet he chose to demonstrate humility because he was sold out to his Father’s will and the bigger picture of the gospel.
Join me and my dear friend, Julie Hildebrand, today as we talk about the important but difficult task of raising humble kids. And as we consider what humility really means this week, let the wisdom of Rick Warren sink in: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.”
If you have found yourself wondering what it’s like to live in New York City during a pandemic, Eric Metaxas is your guy! On today’s episode of Pardon the Mess, he speaks to this question and so much more.
Metaxas is a New York Times #1 bestselling author, the host of the Eric Metaxas Radio Show, an international speaker, and a trusted cultural analyst on CNN, Fox News, and MSNBC. More significantly, he’s a devout Christian. He brings the encouragement we could all use during this pandemic, a time that has led many to cope with feelings of discouragement and despair.
Metaxas shares the good he believes is coming from these challenging days and asks whether this time can lead to a revival in the midst of suffering. Eric and I talk about the heroes that are emerging during this crisis and highlight the importance of raising our kids to know their true heroes (instead of those society deems worship-worthy).
His new book, 7 More Men, speaks to this topic. It chronicles historical Christian heroes of faith who inspire us to live out our faith, whatever the cost.
I was encouraged, inspired, and honored to do this interview with Eric and feel certain you will feel the same.
I’m not sure there’s anything more significant we can pray for our kids than praying for their purity. Our culture is riddled with confusing messages relating to sexuality, and pornography is pervasive in our technology inundated world. If we’re honest, raising kids with biblical purity can seem near impossible in today’s culture.
Noel Bouché of pureHOPE joins us today to talk about what purity really means (and doesn’t mean). He reminds us that purity is not adherence to a list of do’s and don’ts in sexuality, but it’s a lifelong pursuit that doesn’t end after adolescence or on our kids’ wedding night. Hint: as Christians purity is less about an accomplishment and more about a relationship.
As we pray purity over our kids this week, we’re reminded that Jesus always pierces the darkness, and the darkness cannot overcome the truth (John 1:5); therefore, we put our hope in the One who brings hope and purity in the middle of a dark world. Let’s pray that our kids will pursue Jesus all of their lives because only in Jesus will they experience purity that comes from his transforming grace.
“There’s blessing in any story that ignites our longing for Christ.” —Nicole Zasowski
This is my favorite quote from today’s podcast, words that ring true as we consider our days in the COVID-19 pandemic. This time of uncertainty can either create more anxiety and unrest in our lives, or it can create a longing for an even deeper connection with Jesus, as we recognize that this world is not our home.
I’m praying we emerge from these hard days with a renewed hope that only comes from trusting in him. As we do this, I’m thrilled to share with you my conversation with Nicole Zasowski. We talk about identifying the things in life that keep us in bondage (think—performance, control, shame), and how freeing it is when we’re willing to give the reins back to the Lord.
During our conversation, Nicole vulnerably shares about her journey with infertility and how the Lord transformed her pain into healing. She focuses on how God is not the author of hardship, but that he is gracious enough to use our pain to accomplish his bigger purposes. What a perfect lesson during this week of National Infertility Awareness.
So grateful for each of you. Please know that I am praying for you as we continue to adjust to this new normal. Send us an email if we can add you to our team’s prayer list or to let us know how you’re doing.
My husband, Mike, grew up in a wonderfully loving home, but his family did not know Christ. He did not learn about Christianity until high school, when some baseball friends invited him to Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA).
These high school boys didn’t have all the right words or the big doctrinal arguments that best resonate with my husband. Nope—Mike just remembers how they lived differently than the rest of the pack, and how it made him want what they had.
I’m so happy to have Mike on our podcast today, talking about some of the mentors who have impacted his life. I am excited to engage with him in prayer for those who will influence the lives of our children. And as an added bonus, we will share some of our family’s most recent quarantine chronicles. I can promise you—you won’t want to miss it!
As we’re spending lots of time with our families these days, it’s a great opportunity to model the importance of prayer to our children. Let us be an example of how to turn to God no matter what we’re facing. I’ve written a seven-day prayer guide to help families pray through these COVID-19 times.
Download your free copy today, and please consider sharing it with your friends!
Wynter and Jonathan Pitts were married for fifteen years and twenty-seven days, until July 24, 2018, when Wynter unexpectedly went home to be with the Lord. Wynter left behind a family of four girls, a handful of books, and a ministry to tween girls—For Girls Like You. The niece of Tony Evans and the cousin of Priscilla Shirer, Wynter came from a strong family of faith.
Jonathan Pitts is a speaker and executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. He joins us today to speak about seeing God’s goodness in the middle of the pain of loss. His testimony is faith-filled and rooted in the knowledge that God allowed his wife to complete her mission before he took her to heaven.
Jonathan shares some of the truths found in the last book Wynter and he completed just hours before her passing—Emptied: Experiencing the Fullness of a Poured-Out Marriage. Jonathan and I talk about marriage, raising girls, living life in quarantine, and so much more. Jonathan’s mission to carry out Wynter’s ministry, while raising their daughters, is going to encourage you!
Be sure to follow us on social media @pardonthemesspodcast to get notices on our Instagram Live events as well many other encouraging parenting resources. We want to walk the parenting road with you!
I wrote a blog a few years ago about a period of time when my daughter had a problem with apologizing. Actually, she didn’t have a problem with the act of apologizing, it was more of how she did it.
It went like this: I would get on to her for something, and she would respond by saying: “I’m sorry?” Eventually, I figured out what was making my skin crawl—her alleged apologies were presented as a question. The words were right, her heart was not.
Try it sometime during quarantine. When someone calls you out for being grouchy, respond with: “I’m sorry?” I bet they won’t love it.
We focus a lot on apologizing when our kids are young. But do we focus on the opportunity for forgiveness presented by an apology? Proverbs 19:11 reminds us that it’s not just good to forgive, but it’s to “one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
Rebecca Carrell joins me today to chat about forgiveness and praying it over our families. During these stay-at-home times, there will be a multitude of opportunities for apologies. And there will be equal opportunities for extending forgiveness. Let’s choose to pray forgiveness over our families and remember it’s a central message of the gospel—one that will have a lasting impact if modeled well.
Praying that quarantine is granting you many opportunities to speak truth to your children and allowing you the time to iron out some of the rough spots of parenting (like when apologizing and forgiving end up in the form of a question).
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As we consider the death and resurrection of Jesus this weekend, we can’t help but be reminded of God’s great love for us—even to the point of death so that we might have eternal life.
Easter will look different in so many ways this year, but we can be especially grateful that Jesus is on his throne and there’s absolutely nothing in the world that can change the significance of an empty tomb and risen Savior.
As we continue to pray for the impact of COVID-19, I’m so thankful that we serve an approachable God who hears our needs and meets us right in the middle of the small and big things of life (like a pandemic).
Sheila Walsh, bestselling author and Bible teacher, joins us today on Pardon the Mess with a much-needed reminder that God is always listening and waiting for us. Sheila offers practical tips for praying when we don’t know what to say. She shares honest stories that remind us that God is not looking for perfect words or perfect people, just open hearts.
Sheila walks us through some of the common struggles in our prayer lives and gives great advice on what to pray when we have no words.
The prayer of a righteous man (and woman) is effective. In these hard days, let’s cling to this promise and be found faithful in praying for those around us. Sheila Walsh will encourage you as you do just that.
Anyone else feel like in the midst of all this family time you’re doing great one moment, and then a few minutes later, you’re completely off your parenting game? Me too.
I think the hardest part for me comes when I allow myself to go down the road of “how long” and “how big of an impact” these times will have. Whatever you are working through these days, please know you’re not alone; we are right here with you. If we can pray for your family, please send us an email ([email protected]) so our team can join you in prayer.
Also, I will be hosting Instagram live sessions (scary, I know) at 9 p.m. central each week with surprise guests speaking to finding God in the midst of uncertainties. For many of us, the hours before we go to bed are when the doubt creeps in, so we’re going to speak truth into the darkness and hopefully have some fun while doing it!
Please take a minute to follow @Pardonthemesspodcast on Instagram to know when we’re live and receive encouragement each day. If nothing else, you will see plenty of examples of my #parentingfails in this new age of togetherness.
Finally, don’t miss today’s podcast as we pray salvation over our families with Jerica Olson. There’s no better opportunity to shine light than in times of darkness. Jerica provides encouragement on praying that our families know Jesus and share him with everyone around us. Don’t miss it.
Praying for you!
Erin Weidemann joins Pardon the Mess as many of us find ourselves (unexpectedly and suddenly) in the throes of homeschooling. A professional educator and now a homeschooling mama, Erin offers extremely practical ways to maximize our homeschooling operations.
You will love her “Top Six Tips for Setting up a Temporary Homeschool.” They are both grace-filled and doable for those of us who feel like fish out of water when it comes to homeschooling our kids. More than anything, I promise you will walk away feeling encouraged and capable.
During these times, Erin reminds us that our real goal is to form bonds with our kids and lead them to Jesus every day—the rest is icing on the cake.
Amen, sister!
Grammy-nominated singer and songwriter Jeremy Camp experienced both love and gut-wrenching loss in his twenties after falling in love with Melissa Henning and then losing her to cancer shortly after their honeymoon.
I Still Believe is the newly-released film portraying their story of God’s faithfulness in meeting the deepest of needs, even in the midst of unimaginable loss.
Today, Jeremy is married to his wife of seventeen years, Adrienne. They have three children and are passionate about keeping Jesus in the middle of their life and marriage and sharing God’s love around the world any way they can.
Jeremy and Adrienne talk to us about the movie I Still Believe, as well as their new marriage book, In Unison. We chat about finding God’s blessings even in a pandemic and practical ways to navigate conflict in our marriages.
The Camps will encourage you with their deep faith and unrelenting message of the hope that is only found in Jesus.
I was reading through the book of Daniel this week, and I came across the part most of us learned about in first-grade Vacation Bible School: the part where King Nebuchadnezzar built a golden statue and told everyone they had to bow to it.
When Daniel and his buddies refused to comply, the king promptly decided the next best step would be to turn up the temperature on the ol’ furnace and throw them in it.
Daniel, committed to living the truths of his faith in God, said these profound words as he faced the possibility of going down in flames:
“If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up” (Daniel 3:16–17).
And God did deliver them, not allowing even one little scorch to their bodies.
I was thinking about what a Daniel kind of faith looks like for us at present, as we’re experiencing the angst of this potentially life-threatening pandemic.
Are we sharing Daniel’s sentiment with those around us?
Are we sharing that our God is able to deliver us?
Even if he does not, we will not fall to the temptation of fear, faithlessness, and despair?
In his commentary of this passage, Warren Wiersbe says, “The devil tempts us to destroy our faith, but God tests us to develop our faith, because a faith that can’t be tested can’t be trusted.”
As we face these days of uncertainty, many will find their faith tested. But even in the midst of the testing, we have hope knowing that, in the refining process, we will come out with a faith that’s even more trusted.
On today’s podcast, five-time cancer survivor and founder of Truth Becomes Her Erin Weidemann talks about the importance of praying for both the physical and spiritual health of our kids.
Erin’s testimony reminds me a lot of David’s. After beating cancer five times, she has complete confidence that her God is able to heal her over and over again.
But even if he chooses not to in the future, she will choose to live each day at peace without worry or despair.
Do you feel like you’ve got more questions than answers these days?
Me too!
Which is why I’m thrilled that we have Sissy Goff and David Thomas on our podcast to walk us through ways we can support our kids emotionally during these tough days.
Sissy and David are on staff at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, Tennessee, and have extensive experience counseling kids. They speak all over the country encouraging parents to raise their kids with intentionality, focusing on the most common struggles parents face in today’s fast-paced society.
One of the standout moments in our discussion was their advice that the best way we can help our kids work through their anxiety in these uncertain days is to manage our own. And then they give us some much-needed advice on how to practically do just that.
We also discuss the differences between fear, worry, and anxiety, and they help us recognize when our kids may be struggling and need extra support. Spoiler alert: there’s a lot of talk about being hopeful and patient parents—and I may or may not have felt like that was semi-directed at me. Ha!
Although this interview was scheduled months ago, the Lord clearly knew we would need a word from David and Sissy at exactly this time.
So let me encourage you to take a few minutes today to hear from two people who love the Lord and our kids. Be encouraged as they practically walk us through ways to best parent our kids in these days of uncertainty.
P.S. Want to hear and learn more from Sissy and David? Check out their podcast here and some of their book resources available now!
Have you found your family doing some unusual things as you’ve had extra time these last few weeks?
Us too.
For example, my family was sitting around yesterday searching pandemic playlists and laughing at the songs that have a completely new meaning in these days of social isolation. Here are a few we came across:
Stay with me, I’m coming back to songs in a second.
We’re praying peace for our families this week on Pardon the Mess.
I love that when I wrote this prayer guide for our families over a year ago, the Lord knew this week we would need an extra dose of peace. (It’s as if God already knew what we would need before it even happened. Ha!)
I think a keyword for us in the coming days is truth.
We need to be focusing on the truth of God’s word over the chaos in the world. We need to spend more time in Scripture and less time in the news and on our social media feeds. We need to be consumed with God’s promises instead of the world’s words of hopelessness.
What are we doing today to write a lasting song of God’s faithfulness?
What song will our family hear us sing as we walk difficult days?
Are we writing a song that could lead future generations to worship our Savior?
One day, we will have the opportunity to look back on this pandemic and consider how we fared in a time when many found it difficult to understand God’s plan and questioned his goodness.
For now, ask Jesus to write a song of peace and faithfulness in your life these next days and weeks.
Pray for a song that will speak truth and peace to our culture that needs Jesus, leaving a legacy of faith from your life.
What’s your song today?
The Israelites were trapped with seemingly no way out. The Egyptian army was fast approaching from behind. In front, they faced the unpassable waters of the Red Sea.
In frustration, they cried out to God, asking why he would allow this desperate situation and questioning if he really cared about them.
And then Moses answered with twelve words of truth: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” (Exodus 14:14).
These twelve words are as relevant for us in the middle of a pandemic as they were centuries ago to a flailing nation with its back against the wall.
Singer, songwriter, and author Ellie Holcomb joins me today to talk about suffering and what this passage has meant to her in the seasons of struggle. We talk about knowing God better in the middle of hard times and how God’s word is our defense when we feel trapped and helpless.
My favorite part of our talk with Ellie is her reminder that suffering never has the final word in our life because Jesus is coming back. He alone has and is the final word.
Ellie is a sweet, sweet spirit who will encourage you as she shares vulnerably about balancing faith, family, and the work God has called her to accomplish. She also has a great word for parenting with intentionality, even when our days can seem very mundane and ordinary. And, let’s be honest, there are lots of mundane moments these days as we spend hours upon hours with our kids in a time of social distancing.
My prayer is that you will be encouraged today, in the midst of struggling, knowing that God is for us.
We need only to be still.
“You don’t have to worry about whether your world is under control. God rules. You just have to learn to trust him when his rule isn’t evident.” —Paul David Tripp
This week, as we’re praying our kids through the school year, we’re focused on praying about service for our families (especially in days like we’re facing now).
Paul Tripp’s devotional, New Morning Mercies, is relevant to what we’re facing today as it speaks to living in a world that seems out of control:
Honestly facing your lack of sovereignty over your own life produces either anxiety or relief. Anxiety is God-forgetting. It is the result of thinking that life is on your shoulders, that it is your job to figure it all out and keep things in order.
But there is a much better way. It is God-remembering. It rests in the relief that although it may not look like it, your life is under the careful control of the One who defines wisdom, power, and love. In all of the moments when life is out of your control, it is not out of his control.
As we walk through days of uncertainty with the coronavirus and the fear surrounding it, let’s focus on serving others by sharing the message of Jesus’ sovereignty. Let’s teach our children that, even in the hardest of days, we are called to love our neighbor and serve them in our words, actions, and finances, and by praying for them.
Serving others is an opportunity that is most present when people are suffering. We are here for a time such as this, and the Lord can use us mightily when we are willing to trust his heart and follow his plans.
On today’s podcast, we talk about serving in the midst of a pandemic and how to best speak truth into our kids in a way that marks them for years to come. This is the closest thing to 9/11 that our kids have faced, so the opportunity is great.
If you haven’t had a chance to read my blog on “Parenting During a Pandemic,” check it out here.
These are times of uncertainty for all of us—but not for our Father. I’m grateful to be on this journey with you as we trust God in our lack of control, knowing “it is not out of his control.”
“It’s never too late to start today.”
That’s the challenge Latasha Morrison leaves us with on today’s podcast as we talk about diversity and racial reconciliation. I can promise you that listening to this forty-minute podcast will be one of the best uses of your time today. It’s that good!
Latasha Morrison is the founder of Be the Bridge, a nonprofit organization equipping folks just like us to serve as ambassadors of racial reconciliation. She speaks very practically and grace-filled about the need to listen, learn, lament, and leverage as we consider our part in this pervasive issue.
We talk about the call to being unified in Christ and that if one part of the body of Christ is struggling, we all have a responsibility to do our part to implement change. There’s so much to consider in today’s podcast, but I especially love the practical ways she suggests we teach our kids the truths about diversity beginning at an early age, starting with the books we read, the movies we see, and the restaurants where we eat.
The Lord has given a word to Latasha that we all need to hear, and I’m so thrilled to have her join us. Let’s keep the discussions on intentionality going this month as we tackle the uncomfortable but critical topics facing our families.
Interested in books Latasha recommends in today's episode? Check them out below:
How are your New Year’s resolutions coming?
It’s been a few months since we kicked off 2020 and, undoubtedly, many of us have decided those naïve resolutions of January were simply a pipe dream. The crowds at the gym have died down while the lines at the In-N-Out Burger have maxed out.
I have the “My Fitness Pal” app on my phone. Every single morning, it pops up a notification around 10:00 a.m. asking if I’ve forgotten to log my breakfast.
You’re precious, little app, but I haven’t logged my breakfast (or lunch or dinner) in about six weeks. But I do want to thank you for being so ambitious on my behalf and always thinking the best of me by assuming it’s just an oversight.
This week, we’re praying that our kids have the resolve to turn away from the temptations they face and a willingness to turn to Jesus when they need a way out.
Our kids’ generation is inundated with social media, pornography, graphic music, widespread internet access, and so much more. Their resolve will need to be mighty to withstand the temptation they will face in their lives.
Kay Wyma joins us today with a needed reminder that worth is at the center of the ability to show resolve.
Our kids need to be reminded that they have immense worth in Christ and that looking away, or saying no, or living differently comes from knowing you who you are to Jesus.
In short, we’re praying, through Jesus, that our kids will have the strength and conviction to live set apart or holy in a world that is growing further and further away from Christ.
We’re kicking off a new series this March focused on intentionality.
I can’t think of a better way to get started than with Jennie Allen encouraging us to be intentional in identifying the toxic thoughts in our lives.
Jennie says “the greatest spiritual battle of our generation is being fought between our ears.” And with an average of 30,000 thoughts a day going through our minds, it’s easy to see how quickly those negative thoughts can have a huge impact on our lives.
On today’s program, Jennie Allen, Kay Wyma, and I jump in the car for a carpool podcast of sorts.
We talk about:
It’s a fun interview you won’t want to miss. We even drove through McDonald’s for fries during our chat.
We’re so fortunate to have Jennie Allen on Pardon the Mess. She’s a gifted communicator and the founder and visionary behind the IF:Gathering, an organization that equips women to know God more deeply and disciple others. She’s a speaker, author, podcaster, and much more.
Listen to today’s podcast on your favorite podcast platform, or watch the video here!
As we pray inerrancy this week, you may be wondering what in the world that word even means.
And, for that matter, why does it matter for our kids?
You’re not alone. I think we’ve all had that question.
To believe the Bible is inerrant means we believe it is “inspired” and “God-breathed” (2 Timothy 3:16).
If that’s the case, then the Bible must be without error and completely trustworthy (2 Timothy 3:16) since God is without sin and cannot lie (Hebrews 6:18).
In other words, a perfect God cannot give us his word (the Bible) with errors or contradictions.
So, is inerrancy just a theological point debated by scholars or is it relevant to our parenting?
This concept is critically important for our kids because if they don’t believe in the absolute truth of Scripture, they will not use it as the anchor point for how they live their lives.
The heart of the gospel is that Jesus—God incarnate—was born to a virgin to pay our debt through death on a cross and resurrection.
It’s a dangerously slippery slope if our kids begin to question the truth of the recorded events in the Bible, leading them to question the theology that goes behind these critical events.
Our culture does not believe in absolute truth, and understanding the Bible’s inerrancy is foundational if our kids are going to live in a way that’s wholly pleasing to God.
Janet Denison joins us today to talk about inerrancy and reminds us that the Bible is not a book of suggestions but a guide on how to live our lives.
In a world that often redefines God’s word to meet the cultural relativism of the day, let’s pray that our kids believe every word in the Bible is divinely inspired and the ultimate authority for their lives.
New York Times bestselling author Melanie Shankle joins us on Pardon the Mess as we continue our February series focused on the things we love. Melanie has a great word of encouragement for us on truly appreciating friendship. She talks about what the ups and downs of friendship have meant in her life and reminds us that we have to make new friends in order to eventually have old friends.
We talk all about her new book, On the Bright Side, and the importance of finding joy in all that life has to offer (even when it doesn’t turn out like we expected). She talks honestly about raising her daughter, Caroline, and some of the tough spots of helping her navigate hard friendships. She reminds us to be careful with social media because it’s unfair to compare our inside with someone else’s outside.
You’re not going to want to miss this conversation because Melanie brings a word of hope and encouragement in a culture so often marked by online arguments, crazy politics, and unfiltered opinions. More than anything, she brings a needed reminder that faith in Christ is all we could ever possibly need, so cling to it and then look for all the gifts around us like kindness, love, mercy, and joy.
When life gives you lemons, always look “On the Bright Side.”
We say this often, but parenting is one of the greatest blessings and one of the greatest challenges. There are really hard places in parenting that are much easier to avoid rather than address head-on.
Suicide is one of those topics.
It’s emotional, it’s scary, and it’s easy to feel inadequate when it comes to talking about it. That said, the CDC lists suicide as the second-leading cause of death in children and young adults between the ages of ten and twenty-four. We can’t afford to gloss over a topic so pervasive in our youth.
This statistic has become more than a number in recent days as we have seen family after family impacted by suicide in our community. Many of you have asked us to consider entering the conversation and to provide biblical guidance and resources.
We heard you, and today we are doing just that by providing a special edition of content focused on suicide.
Our prayer is that these resources are helpful as you consider the topic of suicide. However, we are not a substitute for professional help. If you are struggling (or anyone around you is), please get the help you need and deserve.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is (800)273-8255.
We say this often, but parenting is one of the greatest blessings and one of the greatest challenges. There are really hard places in parenting that are much easier to avoid rather than address head-on.
Suicide is one of those topics.
It’s emotional, it’s scary, and it’s easy to feel inadequate when it comes to talking about it. That said, the CDC lists suicide as the second-leading cause of death in children and young adults between the ages of ten and twenty-four. We can’t afford to gloss over a topic so pervasive in our youth.
This statistic has become more than a number in recent days as we have seen family after family impacted by suicide in our community. Many of you have asked us to consider entering the conversation and to provide biblical guidance and resources.
We heard you, and today we are doing just that by providing a special edition of content focused on suicide.
Our prayer is that these resources are helpful as you consider the topic of suicide. However, we are not a substitute for professional help. If you are struggling (or anyone around you is), please get the help you need and deserve.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is (800)273-8255.
This week we’re praying for our kids to have courage. The further our culture strays from God’s truth, the more courage it will take for them to live biblically.
I wrote an article last year about the importance of raising kids who can stand alone. I saw a picture on social media of a boy standing by himself while praying at his school’s “See You At The Pole” Day. I realized right then how important it was going to be to raise kids who can stand alone in their faith.
Passionately following Jesus, especially in today’s culture, is not going to happen if we follow the masses and blend in with the crowd. We’re called to be holy, set apart, sanctified, chosen, and on a great mission for Jesus. So are our kids.
Our kids will need a strong dose of courage to stand alone in the hard places.
It takes courage to:
Let’s pray that our kids have the courage to stand alone when they need to and that God will do something big with it when they do.
We’re talking all things love this February, and it’s only fitting we talk about our love for our kids!
Speaking of love, how was your Valentine’s day?
Some years, V-Day (that’s what the cool kids call it) entails fancy clothes and a night out for a steak. Other years, it’s more of the boneless wings and a Diet Coke variety.
Mine fell in the wings category this year, but I have no complaints.
As I approach close to twenty years of marriage, I’ve found that I feel most loved in the small places that receive no huge fanfare. It’s my husband’s sweet smile when he knows I’ve kept my patience after answering my toddler’s hundredth question of the hour. Or when I come home from a work event to a clean kitchen and an empty dishwasher.
After you’ve been married for a while, it’s the small things that become the big things. Don’t let them go unnoticed.
Back to loving our kids.
Nell Bush joins us today to talk about being intentional in how we show love to our kids.
We talk about practicing patience and love by accepting their inborn temperament and understanding their particular stage of development.
She also reminds us of the importance of establishing a trusting environment through routines and rituals.
And don’t miss her practical suggestions on disciplining your kids. It will give you lots to think about.
Nell is a great parenting resource, and I can’t wait for you to hear her wise words.
It’s often said that character is how we act when nobody is looking.
As a parent of a toddler, I cling to the hope that character evolves with age.
For that matter, as a parent of teens, I’m counting on God’s promise that he will “finish what he started” and help me get them over the finish line (Philippians 1:6).
Character is a big one on the list of things we can be praying for our kids.
It’s easy to mix up character and personality, and that’s why I’m so glad to have Janet Denison join us today to talk about the difference between the two and how it impacts discipline.
As we focus on our kids’ character this week, let’s pray God’s character into their lives so they will be slow to anger (Nehemiah 9:17), rich in love (Psalm 145:8), merciful (Psalm 145:8), and compassionate (Romans 5:8).
The Lord is constantly searching for those with godly character to be used for his great purposes. Let’s pray he finds it in our children.
If you haven’t had a chance to check out our newest Pardon the Mess product, it’s time!
I’ve written thirty cards as a way to remind your kids of their identity in Christ. They are teen-inspired and a great way to put God’s truth in front of them in the kitchen, bathroom, or anywhere that will remind them that they are worthy because of who and whose they are.
This month, Pardon the Mess is focused on things we love, and we’re thrilled to have Kirk Cameron on the show to talk about family, marriage, faith, and raising kids. That pretty much covers all the things we love!
Kirk is best known for his 1980s portrayal of Mike Seaver in the sitcom Growing Pains. Since that time, he’s continued to act, direct, and produce films primarily in the context of his Christian faith. He’s married to Chelsea Noble (who portrayed his girlfriend on Growing Pains) and together they have six children.
Kirk visits with us today about his social media documentary, Connect, and his takeaway that we need to be relentless in connecting with our kids. We’re the first generation to raise kids with social media, and it’s important to stay current with technology and focus on our communication with our kids.
My favorite part of the interview is hearing Kirk’s heart behind why he continues to share his faith so publicly. He wants to hear the Lord say “Well done” at the end of his life, and that motivates him to continue to use his platform to tell others about his faith. He’s currently touring the country with a message that focuses on resetting our living rooms by pursuing God in our families.
Kirk is relatable, funny, humble, and godly. This is a podcast you’re going to love!
P.S. If you want to hear more from Kirk, check out his program Living Room Reset!
R-E-S-P-E-C-T!
There’s not a parent out there who hasn’t echoed the words of the legendary Aretha saying, “All I’m askin’ is for a little respect when you get home.”
This week, we’re praying for our kids to have respect. This is a core value that impacts all of their relationships, and it’s critical to walking well with the Lord. It starts by teaching respect in the home, and obedience is a key component as we raise our kids.
On today’s podcast, we talk about what it looks like to respect the Lord, starting with showing respect to the people around us who are his creation. We consider Scripture that tells us to honor and respect our governing authorities, and we talk about how to teach our children to disagree well with others.
If we take it a little bit further this week while praying respect, we can also pray that our kids respect the word of God, respect their bodies, and respect those with authority over them in all aspects of their lives. That’s a lot to pray over this week!
I also want to make you among the first to hear about a new product I wrote that’s available for the first time this week!
Raising kids involves lots of discipline and correction to keep them on course, balanced with ensuring they know that their true identity in Christ has absolutely nothing to do with their performance or behavior.
He Calls You By Name: 30 Reminders of Your Identity in Christ is a set of cards designed to be a visual reminder to your kids of their real identity. They are modern, they are biblically based, and they are a tangible way to remind your kids that they are loved and significant because of the One who loves them.
The front of the card has Scripture talking about identity, and the back has a short summary of why that truth matters in their life and how it impacts who they really are. Grab a set of these cards to put in your kitchen, on your kids’ nightstand, or anywhere that will remind them of who they belong to and the significance such knowledge brings.
In today's episode, I talk to Robert J. Morgan, the author of one of my favorite books EVER, The Red Sea Rules.
It’s about the Israelites’ journey across the Red Sea and ten biblical principles for when we face difficulties in our faith.
Pastor Rob got me thinking about the difficulties I’ve faced lately, as well as the way God has helped me in and through them. Which then got me thinking about my youngest son.
When my toddler falls down, he always waits for me to pick him up and dust him off.
Even when he’s not hurt, he dramatically lays on the floor until I walk over to pick him up, dust him off, and give him a hug, telling him he’s going to be okay. And then, just like that, he’s off in a million different directions like nothing ever happened.
I’m coming off a time where I’ve needed to be dusted off. I’ve had some bumps and bruises come my way and I’ve been discouraged.
There’s just something about being helped up and assured that you’re going to be okay.
P.S. Pastor Rob just released 100 Bible Verses that Made America this week, check it out!
“The truth is, of course, that what one regards as interruptions are precisely one’s life.” —C. S. Lewis
The Lord uses people for his kingdom purposes who are willing to let go of their own agenda and go with his. To trade in their own personal security for something bigger than they can accomplish on their own. He uses those who live interruptible lives.
Many of the disciples were asked to literally lay down their fishing nets in order to walk with Jesus. Jesus knew that, only when they were willing to walk away from their own plans, he could lead them on the journey of a lifetime with the message of eternity.
At his very core, Jesus wants his people to have a deep connection with him. Through this deep connection, he’s able to lead us to places we otherwise would not go.
We will have nets to lay down if we’re going to follow Jesus—and so will our kids.
Praying for our kids to live interruptible lives is an interesting prayer when we know personally how frustrating it is to be interrupted. It’s not easy, but it’s right.
Let’s pray this week that our kids have a heart for God’s calling in their lives and that they will be willing to lay down their nets every day in order to follow their Savior.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
—Isaiah 55:8–9
As we continue our “New Year, New You” series this January, we’ve covered topics related to our physical health, emotional health, and finances.
This week, we’re talking about marriage, and I don’t know of a better person to talk to about this important but oftentimes difficult subject. Today, we’ve got Lysa TerKeurst!
Lysa is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries. She’s married to her husband, Art, and they have five grown children. They live in Nashville, and Lysa is passionate about helping others experience Jesus by working through Scripture in the truest and most responsible way that everyone can understand.
Lysa shares vulnerably about her marriage and finding out about her husband’s infidelity and substance abuse. Living through that and seeing God restore her marriage, she encourages us in the hard places in marriage.
What we talk about:
She’s practical, she’s wise, and she gives us lots to consider in our marriages! Take time to listen to Lysa TerKeurst on Pardon the Mess and share it with your friends!
“Safety first!”
These words are the mantra everywhere, from the sixth-grade science lab to your own home when your kids run by with a pair of scissors. We’re all about safety when it comes to our families.
This week we are praying protection over our kids.
Praying protection is probably something that comes automatically when you’re praying for your family; however, if we look a little bit deeper, we find that God’s promise of protection comes in the form of security in our salvation and eternity in his presence. Not necessarily safety on this earth.
In his book Crazy Love, Francis Chan challenges us to stop making safety our greatest prayer and instead pray that we will know Jesus better, whatever road that takes.
I love this particular quote from Crazy Love: “People who are obsessed with Jesus aren’t consumed with their personal safety and comfort above all else. Obsessed people care more about God’s kingdom coming to this earth than their own lives being shielded from pain or distress.”
There’s nothing wrong with praying safety and protection for our kids, and we should do that this week. But let’s also be willing to pray that, whatever road God chooses for them to walk, they come out on the other side knowing God better.
Tune in this week on Pardon the Mess as we talk about protection versus safety and how to trust God as we pray for our kids to know Jesus better.
“The Lord will rescue me from every evil attack and will bring me safely to his heavenly kingdom. To him be glory for ever and ever.” —2 Timothy 4:18
“Mo Money Mo Problems” —The Notorious B.I.G.
It’s not often that one quotes The Notorious B.I.G. to kick off a Christian podcast, yet his song title is all too relevant for how many of us feel when dealing with our finances. It’s not necessarily a reference to how much money we have, but just to the problems money can cause when we don’t approach it biblically.
As we continue our miniseries this January, “New Year, New You,” we’re getting down to the nitty-gritty of our finances.
Chuck and Ann Bentley are on the show today, and they know their stuff. They speak all over the world teaching biblical financial principles, doing it with grace and love. Chuck also has a daily radio broadcast and has written several books.
Here are some of the highlights of what the Bentleys shared:
My hope is that we can take an honest look at our finances today, considering how we’re stewarding what the Lord has given us and if it’s pleasing to him.
“Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.” —Proverbs 11:28
P.S. You can check out their book Money Problems, Marriage Solutions: 7 Keys to Aligning Your Finances and Uniting Your Hearts here as well!
Why does contentment matter?
“I would totally be content if I had just a little bit more.”
We don’t actually say those words, but show your hand if you’ve ever bought into that lie. (Unfortunately, my hand is raised.)
When we define success by God’s standards of prosperity and not the world’s, life is lots easier and a whole lot more peaceful. If we define ourselves by what we have or how much we have, we will inevitably find a lack of contentment.
Christ-filled contentment brings peace and happiness, knowing that what Jesus has already done for us is more than we deserve. And, better than that, it’s eternal so it can’t be taken away.
The whole idea of contentment is a big one when it comes to praying for our kids. A lack of contentment doesn’t just impact our kids when they are young. When they become adults, a spirit of discontentment can seep into finances, jobs, friendships, and everything in between.
Let’s buckle down this week and ask the Lord to show us where we need to find contentment in our own lives so that we can model it well in our families. Let’s pray that our kids know that money and material things do not bring lasting fulfillment and happiness, but that only comes from Jesus.
And when you have those thoughts that a “little bit more” would make all the difference, call it out for what it is. Let it remind you to pray for contentment for yourself and your family.
John Piper said, “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him.”
May God be glorified through all of us.
Well, excuse us for getting a little personal so early in 2020!
But life is messy, and we plan on staying true to our name and hitting some of the hard stuff in our January miniseries called “New Year, New You.”
Last week, we talked about improvements we can make in our physical health. This week, we’re discussing mental health.
If we haven’t stepped on your toes yet, there’s still time as we round out January tackling topics like our finances and marriage. Whoever said it’s rude to talk about politics and money at the table?
Well, we are at least staying away from politics. Kidding.
Today, Paige Mayhew and Rebecca Leonard join us to discuss our mental health. Both of these ladies are licensed professional counselors who just so happen to love Jesus too. Doesn’t get much better than that!
Here are some things we discussed in the podcast:
Take a minute and chat with us about mental health and consider where the Lord might be challenging you to work through some of the hard places facing you this year.
Get equipped to pray for your kids as we face a new year and the opportunity to pray God’s hand on their lives! Grow closer to God as a family this New Year with the Christian Parenting Prayer Journal!
If you want to listen to week 1 of the series "New Year, New You" check out last week's episode with Maria Bower!
I always bristle when I read the passage in Matthew 26 where Jesus asks the disciples to stay awake to keep watch and pray with him the night before he’s arrested to be crucified.
Do you remember what happens?
Not once or twice, but three times Jesus comes back to find the disciples asleep because apparently “their eyes were heavy” (Matthew 26:43). This passage makes me sweat a little bit because I kind of think that might have happened on my watch too.
It’s easy to think that surely if Jesus specifically instructed us to stay awake to keep watch and pray, we would understand the urgency and make it our first priority to get it done. But then, if you’re like me, we find ourselves lying in bed each night with great intentions to pray for our families and, well, our eyes get heavy.
Today on our podcast, Becky Jones joins me to talk about our prayer lives. She reminds us of God’s grace in the places where we haven’t prayed well in the past but also encourages us to make changes moving forward by treating prayer as a continual conversation with God instead of a list to check off.
As we’re praying for our kids this year, let’s pray they understand the transformative power of prayer and how it leads to God’s guidance and provision in their lives. Let’s also pray that their lives are marked by prayer and they can remember it being a significant priority in our own lives.
Your eyes may be heavy, but God has asked us to pray always (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
Let’s do this!
As you know, this month on Pardon the Mess we’re doing a miniseries we’ve lovingly nicknamed “New Year, New You.” We’re tackling some of the messy areas in life that are often the basis of resolutions this time of year, like physical health, emotional health, and financial health.
This week we’re thrilled to have Maria Bower, author of Faith Vs. Weight, join us to discuss physical health and weight loss. Maria approaches nutrition from the perspective of how to best fuel our body to accomplish God’s kingdom work in our lives.
Discussing the “why” behind losing excess weight, Maria puts it this way:
"Like all other distractions from the devil, it is a problem that is stealing your energy from serving God, making you miserable in the process. It is time to reclaim your energy for His glory and serve His kingdom with love. This epidemic no longer needs to stop you and your family from reaching your full potential in Christ."
Maria has worked as a US Navy health care administrator and is a certified personal trainer. She’s funny, she’s direct, she’s passionate about our health, and she loves Jesus and approaches nutrition from a biblical perspective.
Food and dieting can consume our thoughts and be a tactic the enemy uses to distract us from God’s best in our lives. Let’s take a few minutes to consider God’s Word in this area and the steps we might take in 2020 to regain our energy for serving God and our families.
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
We’re continuing our prayer emphasis in 2020 by praying this week for our kids to be excellent in all that they do. When you think about excellence and praying it for your kids, what comes to mind?
For me it’s the cheesy inspirational posters in middle school classrooms back in the day with sayings like: “Excellence is never an accident” or “Excellence is not being the best - but doing your best.”
Well let’s just say I did my best in math and nobody has ever accused me of excellence in that arena. But that’s neither here nor there.
It’s easy to get excellence confused with performance. Scripture is clear that we are called to excellence because it honors the one who created us, and he alone is the only true model of excellence. Performance is cumbersome and puts the focus on us, but praying the Lord’s excellence in our kids will rightfully take the pressure off of them and allow the Lord to shine in their lives.
Let’s pray that our children approach all their work with a goal of excellence, not in order that they might be looked upon favorably by others – but so that God will.
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31
Happy New Year!
It’s that time of year when we find ourselves in a post-Christmas, tight-pants, can’t-remember-when-we-last-ate-a-vegetable stupor. Yet there’s still a fleeting tinge of optimism bubbling up as we face a new year and new opportunities for change.
Or is that just me?
This month on Pardon the Mess, we’re doing a miniseries we’ve lovingly nicknamed “New Year, New You.” We’re tackling some of the areas of life that so often become areas of resolution this time of year.
We will focus on physical health, emotional health, financial health, and more. As always, we will approach these subjects biblically and from the lens of how it best honors the Lord and impacts our parenting for his kingdom.
As we kickoff this miniseries, today we have a conversation with Luke Lezon. (Anyone who writes a book titled Your Mess Matters is a shoo-in for our podcast.) Luke shares what the proverbial mess has looked like in his life and how the Lord has been so good to turn his mess into a ministry.
Although he’s very candid in suggesting we stop praying for relief and start looking for God’s provision and faithfulness, he’s also very practical in suggesting how to best ground ourselves when we’re living in the middle of the mess (which, as parents, I might suggest is all of the time).
What a great way to kickoff January, remembering that no matter the mess we may face in 2020, we have a God who is in the business of making our mess matter for his kingdom!
It’s that time of year when we start thinking about resolutions. Or at least we start thinking about the fact that we aren’t making resolutions this year.
Either way, I think it’s natural to take a step back over the next few days to evaluate where we are in life and what we want to continue doing and/or the places we want to make some adjustments.
It’s also the perfect time to start praying for our kids to know their purpose this year (and all the years to come).
I’m so happy to have Craig Denison with us today to talk about the concept of knowing our purpose and why we pray that over our kids.
Craig and I drill down on what our true purpose is in the Lord and how we can pray that for our families. Take a minute to listen to our podcast, and then, as we approach January, pray that your children seek God’s greater purpose for their lives this year, not allowing the mundane things of life to trump the mission he has anointed for them.
Happy New Year, and I look forward to walking the parenting road together in 2020!
Today we get to chat with Jess Connolly about her passion to help women confidently walk the paths the Lord has called them to, even when they feel the least qualified to get it done.
She refers to herself as a “midwife for missions” because she loves to cheer on other women as they find what God has called them to.
In her own life, she tells us why she’s so grateful that she was the “least likely” for the job because it allows the Lord to show off his strength and power. Wow!
We talk about parenting and how emotional and complex it is raising kids. She gives us some wise words on encouraging our kids to find their place in kingdom work by creating a safe place for them to fail and also modeling, when we get knocked down, we get up again (Someone should write a song with those words).
One of my favorite quotes from this episode is when Jess says, “It’s time for us to stop trying to be the best version of ourselves. It’s time for us to stop waiting for someone to come and tell us exactly how we can use what we’ve got to change the world. Who we are and where we are today—we’re uniquely equipped to love others, and that will change the world.”
Amen and amen!
Joy to the world, the Lord is come!
What a week to pray joy for our children. The simplicity of the words of one of the most famous Christmas carols says it all:
Joy to the world, the Lord is come!
We have joy in this life because of one thing: the Lord is (not has) come.
The baby we celebrate this week left his heavenly home to be born in a manger so we might have eternal life. He brings forgiveness, redemption, and, yes, joy for all of us at Christmas and all our days.
No matter what we face in our earthly lives, he has overcome all things, and we live in victory through Christ our Savior. The Lord is come—present tense! He’s come for our ups, our downs, our good, and our bad. He is our Lord in all things.
Rebecca Carrell joins us today to talk about the importance of praying joy for our kids, especially when, as parents, it is so easy to be hyper-focused on their happiness. And she has a great reminder for us on how joy in our lives can actually become our strength.
In Christian circles, there’s always a lot of discussion on having “joy” in our lives instead of “happiness.” If you haven’t listened to our interview with Max Lucado from last week on happiness, take a minute to do that! Max has a great point when he says that God wants both joy and happiness for us.
This week, join me in praying that our kids have the kind of joy that comes not from the things we can give them but from a Savior who knows them and wants a personal relationship with them.
And let’s pray that when they face the inevitable difficulties of life they may remain joyful, knowing that Jesus came to earth to heal, restore, and make all things whole.
“Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.” Luke 2:10
Well, there’s really not much to say other than this is a dream.
If you’re anything like me, Max Lucado’s books have been instrumental in shaping your faith over the years. The fact that I had the chance to sit down and talk with him on our podcast?
Well, there are almost no words.
Max Lucado is the Teaching Minister of Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas. He’s widely regarded as America’s best-selling inspirational author.
Pastor Max shares a few thoughts about his new book on happiness and why it matters to God and others that we live happy lives. He encourages us to practice forgiveness and relays a story in his life that impacted his view of forgiving others.
He brought up a parenting point I had never considered before: although there aren’t many “parenting” passages in the Bible, we learn all we need to know by considering how Jesus responded to parents who brought their children to him. Simply put, Jesus was always faithful and quick to respond to parents in need.
What a great reminder for us to pray for our kids and to bring them to Jesus.
Pastor Max believes that encouragement is essential for happiness—and, believe you me, he was a huge encouragement today on our podcast.
I can’t wait for you to hear from one of my heroes of our faith!
If we’ve learned anything the last few weeks, it’s that acts of generosity are all around us this time of year – but definitely not in the form of a Peleton bike gifted to your wife and a resulting a video diary of her fitness journey. That, my friends, is dangerous territory.
I remember my Dad used to say you never give a gift with a plug to your wife for Christmas (meaning an appliance). Now I believe we can all agree that one might be wise to stay away from gifts with a plug AND a pedometer.
That’s just a little Christmas advice for you as we all finish up our shopping this year. You’re welcome.
This week, as we continue to pray for our children this school year, we’re praying for generosity in their lives. Kay Wyma joins us today with a great reminder that true generosity stems from acknowledging all the Lord has done for us.
Chew on that for a minute: Generosity naturally spills over to those around us when we live with gratitude for what the Lord has done in our own lives.
I can’t think of a better gift we can give our kids this week than praying they live lives marked with gratitude. Praying they show generosity in their friendships, being happy when others succeed, and compassionate when they do not. Let’s also pray generosity in their areas of influence by including peers who are overlooked, and always being willing to serve those around them when they see needs.
Let’s pray our kids live all of their days rooted in generosity with gratitude for who Jesus is to us – beginning all those years ago when he came to earth as flesh, born in a lowly manger so everyone could be offered eternal life with him. I can’t think of an easier time of year to show generosity because of what Jesus has done in our own lives.
Let’s share that with our kids.
Take a minute to listen to our podcast today while you’re driving, shopping, or sitting by the Christmas tree. And think long and hard before you purchase your beloved a blender, vacuum, or a Peleton bike. Ha!
Note: If you missed our podcast with Kay Wyma last Thursday, take a minute to listen today. She unpacks the song “Joy to the World” and gives us practical ways to hydrate our souls this holiday season. It’s just the word we all need as we make the final lap headed into Christmas.
A show of hands for anyone who might need a few deep breaths as we’re headed into the final lap before the big day?
Christmas often brings out our very best—generosity, focus on Jesus, time with friends and family. Christmas also may bring out our worst—exhaustion, materialism, sadness. You’re not alone if you’re feeling stressed, tired, overwhelmed, sad, excited, grateful, and everything in between.
Kay Wyma, author, blogger, and mother of five shares practical ways to experience true Christmas joy. She encourages us to hydrate for the holidays by practicing kindness, relishing the regular, and stopping to simply look up (literally).
Kay is my dear friend, and I am so grateful to have her join us again on Pardon the Mess. I was so refreshed by her words that a few times I forgot we were recording. She takes the Christmas carol “Joy to the World” and breaks it down beautifully, reminding us that you experience joy by trusting the One in whom you have faith.
I didn’t just enjoy hearing from Kay today – I needed to hear it. I have a feeling you will feel the same way. She’s got a word for all of us as we run errands and make last minute preparations for Christmas. And don’t miss the very end where she gives us a few thoughts on entitlement and how to overcome it with our kids this time of year.
“For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him.” Colossians 1:16
“All things were created through him and FOR him.”
I’ve read this verse many times before, and it only hit me today that we are literally created for Jesus. We exist FOR Jesus. We are his creation and his joy, and it only makes sense that he truly wants connection with us and our children. He wants our affection, our companionship, our good, and our not-so-good. He created us to have community with him—that’s his great desire for our lives.
It’s easy to focus on the things that will bring us and our kids temporary happiness. But don’t forget to keep praying for the things that are lasting. Pray this week that our kids won’t find connection only in social media, friends, teams, or activities, but that they will have encounters with Jesus that change the trajectory of their lives and are only found in connection with their creator.
It probably goes without saying (which naturally means I’m going to say it anyway), but we need this same connection daily with the Lord. It is hard to find extra time in our days, much less time to be alone and be quiet. Join me in committing to spending time with the Lord each morning and asking him to quiet your soul so you can experience true connection with him.
Today we have twice the fun with two different interviews on Pardon the Mess.
Jim Denison, founder of Denison Ministries, joins me for the first few minutes to discuss the issues our kids will face biblically in today’s culture. He suggests ways to explain the relevancy of the Bible to our children while reminding us that we are equipped to raise kids today because the Lord picked us for the here and now. It’s so much wisdom packed into fifteen minutes that you will want to hear it twice.
But that’s not all . . . . (I would be amazing on an infomercial).
Jim Denison then joins me in a second podcast with Steve Green, President of Hobby Lobby and founder of The Museum of the Bible in Washington, D.C. Steve talks about the themes woven through the Bible’s various stories and why the Bible has such impact and relevance still today. His family has maintained biblical values at all costs with their business, and it’s a great privilege to visit with Steve about his faith, family, and passion for the Bible.
Links:
This Beautiful Book and Museum of the Bible
Denison Ministries and Daily Article
As we continue to pray through the school year for our children, it’s almost unbelievable that it’s already December! Today we have a special guest joining us on the podcast, my husband Mike.
Last week you may remember we prayed that our kids would live out of a place of gratefulness, which was apropos as we celebrated Thanksgiving.
This week we are praying that they would have the Lord’s favor in their lives.
We have the Lord’s favor as his children; however, we also must live a life that he can bless and use for his greater kingdom purposes. Thankfully, we know that when we miss the mark, he’s quick to forgive and restore our relationship.
Join us as we pray for our children to live a life that allows God’s favor on all they do.
As we wrap up our Nashville series, we are excited to give you a word from Amy Parker. Amy has written and co-written more than sixty books for children, teens, and adults, with 1.8 million copies sold. She has collaborated with authors ranging from New York Times bestsellers to her very own son.
Amy shares with us how her calling to write books came about, and the setbacks she experienced as she pursued her career as an author. She has a good word for anyone who feels led to write a book and gives practical steps in doing so.
Amy and her husband have two sons, and she talks honestly about what has been hard in parenting and the places where she has had to let the Lord take the wheel (literally) along the way.
My favorite part of the interview was at the very end when Amy read a portion of one of her devotionals. It was really sweet, and you won’t want to miss it. For anyone thinking about writing a book, this is a great word from someone who is a pro!
This week we are discussing gratefulness and the importance of a good memory when it comes to knowing what God has done for us. We talk about places in the Bible where people gave thanks, even when their situations were less than optimal.
God is the giver of all good things and therefore worthy of our praise. As we celebrate Thanksgiving, let’s pray that our children exude gratefulness in the big and the small, the successes and the failures, and the trials and the triumphs. Pray that they grasp that all things come from him; therefore, we praise his mighty name.
Pardon the Mess brings you our special Thanksgiving episode straight from Willie and Korie Robertson’s home in West Monroe, Louisiana. In case you’re wondering, yes, I was a touch starstruck when Willie walked by to go hunting (he gone), and yes, I hummed “Sharp Dressed Man” walking up their sidewalk.
We had the great pleasure of chatting with three generations of this sweet family: Chrys Howard (Korie’s Mom), Korie Robertson, and John Luke Robertson (Korie and Willie’s son). They let us in on some of the traditions in their family and how faith has been central to all they do.
Korie talked about the two character attributes she and Willie worked to instill in their kids and what it looked like parenting their crew during the craziness of Duck Dynasty.
John Luke shared the most important thing his parents did that impacted his faith and what he hopes to carry on with his own wife and their new baby boy, who was born a few days after our interview.
And Chrys—bless it, she’s about the coolest grandmother one could ever hope for. She’s fun, practical, and gives great advice on keeping your family close and staying relevant to your grandkids.
The Lord gave this family a huge platform for sharing their faith and family values. Today’s podcast will give you a peek behind the curtain of what makes their faith so deeply rooted. You’ll leave encouraged to pass the torch well when it comes to family values and your love for Jesus.
That’s a fact, Jack!
Links:
Chrys Howard Book – Rockstar Grandparent
Chrys Howard Website: chryshoward.com
Korie Robertson Book – Strong+ Kind
John Luke Robertson book – Young and Beardless
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It’s week 11 of our prayer journal, and we are praying this week for our kids to have hope.
All around us, people are placing their hope in earthly things that cannot possibly deliver. Let’s pray that our children put their hope in the Lord, the only One who can strengthen, restore, and deliver on the great plans he has for us.
Without hope, our kids will face anxiety, depression, and much more. Ask the Lord for a hope that carries them in their days of discouragement and that he will daily renew their strength.
In his book Unshakable Hope, Max Lucado has a great reminder as we pray hope for our kids this week:
We are building our lives on the promises of God!
Because his Word is unbreakable, our hope is unshakable.
We do not stand on the problems of life or the pain in life.
We stand on the great and precious promises of God.
Thank you for joining us as we pray hope over our kids this week!
As we honor our veterans this week and their great sacrifice for our country, we are thrilled to have Ginger Gilbert Ravella join us on Pardon the Mess.
Ginger is a mother of five, stepmother of two, military wife, writer, and speaker. At thirty-six years old, she faced the sudden, tragic loss of her college-sweetheart husband and Air Force F-16 pilot in Operation Iraqi Freedom. Her husband, Major Troy Gilbert, gave his life while saving over twenty Special Operation soldiers.
As Ginger so beautifully puts it, “He was a hero every day, but that day he became an American hero.” Major Gilbert left behind five beautiful children under the age of nine and a wife who spent the following days wrestling with God in the midst of deep despair and depression.
Ginger learned that Iraqi insurgents had taken her husband’s body, thereby repeatedly making their story a CNN headline as multiple attempts were made to recover his body. Her testimony is so powerful, reminding us that God is enough even in the darkest places and how he prepared her well in advance for the hard days that were to come.
Ginger is now remarried to another Air Force pilot, Colonel Jim Ravella (Ret), who lost his wife to breast cancer. Ginger shares advice on blended families, grief, ministering to widows, and wrestling with God in the hard places of life.
Ginger and Jim Ravella continue to tirelessly support and raise funds to help fallen and disabled veterans and their families. Their inspirational memoir, Hope Found, weaves together their real-life struggles, vulnerable faith, and unshakable patriotism.
Links:
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Today we begin week 10 of praying our kids through the school year.
This week, we are praying specifically for our kids to have discernment. I can think of no one better to join us this week than Janet Denison.
Janet is the founder of Christian Parenting and someone who has shaped my parenting in so many ways. Janet chats with us about what discernment is and the difference between straight-up discernment and biblical discernment.
She reminds us of the importance of modeling discernment with our kids and also teaching them to listen for the Holy Spirit in their lives.
I don’t know about you, but when I started to think about praying for discernment for my kids, I wasn’t positive about what that would all entail. But don’t worry: Janet fills in the gaps for us today.
Join me this week as we pray that our children know God’s voice and can discern his path for their lives. Pray also that they learn to discern biblical truth and are led to make choices that best exemplify their faith in Christ.
What does the band For King and Country have in common with the Christian vocalist Rebecca St. James?
They are all Helen Smallbone’s children, and she’s with us today on Pardon the Mess.
Helen Smallbone and her husband moved from Australia to Nashville with their seven children, hoping for a new beginning after literally losing everything financially. Once they arrived in the US, their family was forced to start over in all respects, working together to put food on the table and rebuild their lives from the ground up.
All of the Smallbone children are grown now, giving Helen a wonderful perspective on raising kids. I loved her thoughts on the importance of fixing bad attitudes in children and not just focusing on their behavior.
She also had a great word on the priority of building lasting relationships with our kids, especially when it’s so tempting to focus on the temporary things that can easily fill our days. And her thoughts on taking a parental time-out to pray for the Lord’s guidance . . . well, that was definitely a word I needed to hear.
Helen Smallbone is another fun interview from our Nashville series, and I can’t wait for you to hear her great parenting wisdom!
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Today we begin week 9 of praying our kids through the school year. This week we are praying specifically for our kids to understand the importance of time management.
Our children’s days, like ours, are filled with so many demands for their time. If we teach them the importance of managing it now, it can have a huge impact on their adult lives.
I have a sweet friend joining us on our podcast today, Summer Dale. She shares some great reminders of why it matters that we teach our kids time management skills so they can effectively accomplish God’s greater plans for their lives.
Let’s pray that our kids manage school, activities, family, and time with the Lord in a way that best honors God and brings his perfect wisdom. The best life for our children is one spent prioritizing the things of God, not the things of this world.
Join us this week in praying our kids manage their time well as they balance the demands of life with the higher purposes of God.
Today we have the pleasure of talking to Crystal Paine, one of the most beloved voices speaking into our finances and how we steward the resources God has given our families.
Crystal Paine is a wife of three (with number four on the way), a businesswoman, a New York Times bestselling author, and the founder of MoneySavingMom.com. She averages close to two million readers per month, challenging women to manage their time and resources wisely while living on purpose for the Lord.
Crystal talks very practically on ways to save money by sticking to a budget, meal planning, and figuring out the “why” behind our spending. She not only gives us practical ways to save money, but she also has ideas on how to make money.
One of my favorite parts of the interview has nothing to do with money. Rather, I appreciated her encouraging words on saying yes to the things God calls us to, even when it’s scary. And, as a part of that, she shares how she has learned to say yes to hosting and opening up her home to others.
You will love the practicality of this podcast and Crystal’s sweet heart for helping families with their finances.
Links:
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It's week eight of our prayer journal, and we are praying friendships for our children this week.
It’s hard to overestimate the importance of friendships in our lives, especially good friendships that point us back to Christ. The Bible is full of examples of true friendships, even giving us prescriptive advice for the kinds of friends to look for and even how to be a good friend to others.
If you’re like me, I routinely pray for my kids to have good friends without thinking much about it. But this week let’s take time to dig into God’s word and pray for our kids to have solid Biblical friendships, not just people to hang out with.
Psalm 27:9 says a “sweet friendship refreshes the soul,” and if you’ve had the privilege of Godly friendships you know that to be true. Let’s pray that for our kids this week.
Today marks two months that we’ve been praying for our kids this school year! Thank you for being so faithful to join us each week to listen to our podcast, and pray as a community of believers for our kids to know Jesus and live in a way that honors him.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available.
Either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
This. Is. The. One.
This is the podcast to listen to with your teens/tweens. This is the podcast to share with your friends. This is the podcast to listen to twice because you might have missed a nugget.
I love that wisdom comes in so many different varieties. And today it comes through Sadie Robertson. My daughter, Kate, joined me in Nashville to ask Sadie questions about following Jesus during the teen years, when it’s hard to know your identity and easy to be influenced by the wrong things.
Sadie shares with us the importance of knowing your three—those three friends who are most likely to bring you back to Jesus. She also tells us about a decision she faced at a party that led her to literally sit with Jesus. It’s all kinds of impactful.
As a mom, I loved hearing Sadie talk about what her parents did that most impacted her faith and how her mom always “met her with Jesus.” It will make you stop and think about the advice you give your kids and the way you approach the problems they bring you.
Sadie Robertson is an author, blogger, speaker, and daughter to Willie and Korie Robertson of Duck Dynasty. She was the runner-up on ABC’s Dancing with the Stars Season 19 and currently speaks as a part of her Live Original Tour. She has more than 5 million followers on her various social platforms and boldly speaks to her love for Jesus and her family.
It’s week seven of our prayer journal, and we are praying for our children to have accountability in their lives.
Several years ago, a dear friend of mine encouraged me to start praying that my children would get caught in their sin, leading to accountability and restoration. I didn’t know what I thought about praying for my kids to be caught, but I started doing it any way.
Oh my, I found that to be a bold prayer.
The friend I’m referencing is on our prayer podcast today, talking with me about accountability and how that has worked in her life and with her kids. We share some personal stories and hopefully give you lots of encouragement.
Start praying today for your kids to have people in their lives who hold them to the higher biblical standards. Pray that they have teachers, employers, pastors, and friends who will have the courage to say the hard things in their lives out of love and help them see their sin for what it is.
A huge thank you to each of you who have joined us every week for these Monday morning prayer podcasts. We’re overwhelmed with the response we’ve received.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available.
Either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
You know that one time you went to Nashville for a podcast and Mike Donehey from Tenth Avenue North sang one of your favorite songs live in the studio?
Me neither—until our podcast today!
Mike Donehey is the lead singer, songwriter, and guitarist for the award-winning Christian rock band, Tenth Avenue North. He has four daughters and a lovely wife, and he just released a new book, Finding God’s Life for My Will.
Mike shares with us how a near-death car accident in high school kept him from playing the sports he loved, leading him to pick up a guitar for the first time and falling in love with music. He shares his struggle with being on stage, some of the parenting shenanigans with his girls, and he even has a hot sports opinion or two. It’s awesome.
But whatever you do, DO NOT miss the end of the podcast where he sings a little number for us. It’s pretty much the essence of why one would want to pick up and move to Nashville and join a band. But I digress.
Enjoy!
Book: Finding God's Life for My Will
Tenth Avenue North
Today we begin week six of our prayer journal, and we are praying for our children to know their identity is found only in Jesus, not in this world.
Psalm 139:13–14 so beautifully reminds us that God perfectly and very personally created each of us in our mother’s womb. We are very intentionally made in the image of God and have great worth and identity to the Lord who has created us and calls us by name.
Let’s remind our children that they are created in the image of God, uniquely gifted for his glory. They are not the names this world calls them but are called righteous and redeemed by the Savior.
Take a minute to listen to our podcast this week as we discuss the names culture has given our children in contrast to the names Jesus uses in Scripture to describe them. Identity is a big topic for our children and one we cannot afford to miss praying over them.
A huge thank you to each of you who have joined us every week for these Monday morning prayer podcasts. We’re overwhelmed with the response we’ve received.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available.
Either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
We had the great privilege of taking Pardon the Mess on the road to Nashville recently. We can’t wait for you to hear from all of the great guests who joined us live to talk about parenting, their walk with the Lord, and all the good and hard places of raising kids.
To kick off our Nashville series, we start with none other than the multi-platinum-selling, Grammy-nominated, seven-Dove-Award-winning artist Jaci Velasquez.
Jaci released her first album at the age of sixteen and found sudden fame. She became the first and fastest-selling solo artist in Christian music history to reach gold status with a debut album.
But despite all the successes in her life, she’s also walked some hard roads in her career and personal life that she shares with us today. She’s married to Nic, and they’re raising two sons, Zealand and Soren. Jaci speaks candidly about the joys and hardships of raising her son Zealand, who has autism. She also has a great word for all of us about the joy in watching God rescript our lives.
Book: When God Rescripts Your Life
Today we begin week five of our prayer journal, and we are praying for the fruit of the Spirit to be present in the lives of our children.
Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—these are not just “good” attributes we hope to see in our kids, but these qualities are evidence that the Holy Spirit is moving in their lives.
Notice that we are praying to see the fruit of the Spirit in their lives, not the fruit of their actions, the fruit of their parents’ rules, or the fruit of their works. I know that preaches to me.
If your children have accepted Jesus as their personal savior, pray for them to be able to discern the voice of the Holy Spirit in their lives, naturally producing fruit that comes only from their relationship with Jesus.
If your children have not yet accepted Christ, let’s continue to pray salvation over their lives and that they will know their desperate need for the Savior.
A huge thank you to each of you who have joined us every week for these Monday morning prayer podcasts. We’re overwhelmed with the response we’ve received.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available.
Either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
Lisa Harper joins us on Pardon the Mess with a thoughtful discussion of finding “happy” in the unlikely places. She shares how spending an extended amount of time in the book of Job gave her a new perspective on happiness. (Didn’t see that coming, right?) She reminds us that happiness is a biblical concept and explains why God wants us to be happy.
Lisa Harper is the real deal. She’s funny, honest, and shares about some of the hard places in her past and how God continues to work miracles. Oh, and you are going to love hearing about her sweet adopted daughter, Missy, and a hilarious story of Missy’s untimely use of a curse word in front of the church staff.
Lisa is a theological scholar, gifted communicator, and sought-after speaker. But what I like the most about her is that she’s just one of us! Don’t miss this one.
The Sacrament of Happy: What a Smiling God Brings to a Wounded World
It’s week four of our prayer journal, and we are praying for our children to have self-control.
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Okay, back to self-control.
You may be thinking that self-control is not one of the more exciting things you will pray for your kids; but my goodness is it a critical one. Self-control (or lack thereof) has the capacity to impact our kids their entire lives. It shows up in dating relationships, finances, online accountability, occupations, health, marriage, and lots of other places.
Take a minute to listen to this week’s podcast and pray with me as we consider self-control and how it impacts our kids. It may sound a bit dry at first, but the deeper you get into the concept, the more you realize the huge implications behind it.
I hope you are enjoying the podcast we release each Monday morning, giving a few thoughts on the topic we are praying. Hopefully this is an encouragement as we band together to pray for our kids this school year.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group – or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available. But either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be “faithful in prayer” this school year!
Can you believe it?
Pardon the Mess is already one year old!
We’ve had such an exciting year, and we’re so glad you’ve joined us on this wild ride. From recording a podcast in the midst of a tornado to the unbelievably inspiring advice from Bob Goff, it’s been quite the year.
Thank you for being a part of this journey with us!
Parenting is not easy, to say the least, and we love that we’re able to laugh, cry, and sometimes even yell with you during this crazy life. Most importantly, we are raising our kids to know Christ, even when it seems to be increasingly countercultural.
In honor of this birthday, we have released a very special podcast for you!
Sit back and relax (especially if you’re in the carpool line) and listen to our favorite memories from this past year.
We are so grateful for you!
Today is the start of week three of our prayer journal, and we are praying for our children to have influence.
Every group our kids participate in has influencers, whether they’re good or bad. It’s not by coincidence that our kids spend their days with certain people, doing life together through school, sports, and other activities.
Let’s pray that our children will be influencers in their circles and have the courage to live out their faith authentically and in a way that marks the lives of those around them.
I hope you are enjoying the podcast episodes we release each Monday morning that give a few thoughts on the topic we are praying. Hopefully, this is an encouragement as we band together to pray for our kids this school year.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week. If you have not ordered a journal, they are still available.
Either way, we want you to join us each week as we pray for our kids.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God accomplished this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
Hold on to your hats, people: Christine Caine is in the house!
She’s fast-talking, truth-giving, Australian-sounding and joining us today on Pardon the Mess. Christine describes herself as an Australian-born, Greek-blooded lover of Jesus and an activist, author, and international speaker.
Christine shares her very personal story of coming to terms with her identity in Christ after finding out as an adult that she was adopted. She walks us through the importance of living free from shame and fear and how she has practically worked through that in her life.
She reminds us that what others intend for harm, God uses for his good—always. And, in line with that truth, she shares how God led her to form the anti-human-trafficking organization A21.
Christine’s book, Undaunted, personally spoke to some places in my life where I realized I needed to be brave in how I answer God’s callings. I truly believe there’s a word for each of us in today’s podcast, and I encourage you to grab a copy of Undaunted.
You’re going to love Christine!
Today is the start of week two of our prayer journal, focusing on praying for our children to be fearless.
As a part of our prayer challenge this school year, I am releasing a short podcast each Monday morning with a few thoughts on the topic we are praying. I will also take a few minutes to pray out loud with you for each of our children.
Take a few minutes today to listen to our podcast and think about what it means to pray for our kids to live marked by a spirit of fearlessness. Consider what the Lord may someday call them to do that will require them to get out of their comfort zones, going to places that require complete trust.
Let’s start praying for them today to be equipped for just that.
It would be such a blessing if you would take a minute to forward our podcast to your friends, spouse, small group, or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week.
Our goal is to form a community of parents committed to praying for our kids this school year. In doing so, we pray you will tangibly feel God’s blessing on our families and schools, and that we will have testimonies to share with each other of the great things God will accomplish this year.
The verse on the cover of our prayer journal is Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”
May we all be found faithful in prayer this school year!
We have none other than Rebekah Lyons joining us today on Pardon the Mess. Rebekah is a national speaker and bestselling author living in Nashville, Tennessee. She’s a mom to four children and speaks honestly about the joys and challenges of raising her children, two of whom have Down syndrome. Her work has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN, the Huffington Post, and more.
Rebekah and I talk about her very personal battle of dealing with anxiety and panic attacks. She shares the four life-giving rhythms that have helped her quiet the inner chaos: rest, restore, connect, and create.
My favorite quote from our time with Rebekah is when she reminds us that “calling is where your talents and your burdens collide” and how our pain often becomes our purpose.
Rebekah is a breath of fresh air in a culture where anxiety and stress often seem to prevail. If your life feels as chaotic as mine does some days, you will be grateful to sit down, breathe deeply, and spend a few minutes with Rebekah Lyons on Pardon the Mess.
Links:
Rebekah’s latest book:
Rhythms of Renewal: Trading Stress and Anxiety for a Life of Peace and Purpose
Remember that time we purposefully prayed for our kids every day with such vigilance that lives all around them were changed?
Me neither!
Today we start week one of our prayer journal, focusing on praying for our children to be a light in their schools. As a part of our prayer challenge this school year, I am releasing a short podcast each Monday morning with a few thoughts on the topic we are praying. I will also take a few minutes to pray out loud with you for each of our children.
It would be such a blessing if you would take the time to listen to our podcast and join us in praying together. It would be equally amazing if you would take a minute to forward it to your friends, spouse, small group—or anyone you feel led to ask to join you in praying each week.
Let's pray light this week!
Ever felt like you’re stuck in a rut of boring, ordinary, or just routine days?
Lisa-Jo Baker is our guest today on Pardon the Mess, and she’s got a word for you!
Many of us are smack-dab in the center of (brace yourself) midlife and need some encouragement that the daily, not-so-picture-perfect moments in this middle portion of life really do all add up to the truly extraordinary life the Lord has blessed us with.
Lisa-Jo reminds us that we can be free from living up to everyone’s expectations for what a meaningful life should look like and embrace the life we are living right here and right now. She brings us practical truth for our marriages, parenting, body image issues, failures, and all the other places as we face these middle days.
Lisa-Jo is practical, funny, realistic, warm, and loves Jesus. I’m not sure what else we could possibly ask for! You’re going to get a good laugh and possibly a little bit of free therapy hearing her talk about her muffin-top picture after a school play and crying in her minivan when her son made the honor roll.
For those of us spending our days in the “middle,” this one is for you!
Links:
Lisa-Jo Baker
The Middle Matters: Why That (Extra) Ordinary Life Looks Really Good on You
John Cooper is about to rock your world – literally and figuratively. If you’re anything like me, you probably have not had a lot of exposure to the metal music of John Cooper and his band, Skillet. But after hearing John Cooper’s interview today, I can almost guarantee that you will be an instant fan.
Skillet has sold over 12 million albums worldwide, and their song “Monster” is one of the most streamed rock songs of all time; however, John’s interview with us has less to do with music and more so an encouragement in raising our kids, living out our witness in all places, and the importance of grounding our faith in God’s Word.
John wrote a Facebook post recently that went viral, pointedly addressing Christian influencers who have left the church, and cautioning all of us to value truth over feeling with this plea: “Let’s get back to preaching the true, unerring Word of God, and everything else will fall in line.”
I’m the newest fan of Skillet, and after you listen to Pardon the Mess today, I think you will be too!
Links in Podcast:
Facebook Viral Post: What in God’s Name is Happening in Christianity?
Skillet’s new album Victorious
The Knowledge of the Holy– A.W. Tozer
Skillet Songs John Suggestions in Podcast:
Monster
Stars
Anchor
Mary DeMuth talks friendships, parenting, and her new book, We Too.
It’s such a gift to have Mary DeMuth with us today on Pardon the Mess. She’s a wife, mother of three, a blogger, a podcaster, and the author of almost forty books. Having suffered abuse as a child, her faith brought her to a place of turning her difficult past into God’s glory, allowing her to re-story her past.
We start our conversation talking about the seven deadly types of friendships and how to identify unhealthy friendships in our lives. She speaks practically and biblically on ending friendships that are not the Lord’s best for us while also giving us parenting applications as we guide our kids’ friendships.
We also talk about her latest book, We Too, a book she hopes will challenge us to fully support those around us who have been marginalized by sexual assault and abuse. She urges the church as a whole to rise up and face this evil with candor and empathy.
Links:
We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Scandal
21 Days to Healing
https://www.wetoo.org/survivors/21days/
The Seven Deadly Friendships
https://www.marydemuth.com/deadly
Any introverts out there?
This episode of Pardon the Mess is for you!
Jamie C. Martin shares practical help for those who parent from a place of introversion. She also reminds us to accept our God-given personality by letting go of the false burdens and negative stereotypes we may associate with being introverted.
But wait, there’s more!
If you’re not an introvert (like me), you are very likely married to an introvert, or even raising a few introverts. Jamie shares stories from her life that help us relate and care for our introverted loved ones, appreciating their strengths while giving us practical steps for building them up and reminding them that they are more than enough.
I personally walked away with so much good information on what my introverted kids may need from me and how to parent them better. And Jamie provides great applications for our marriages, friendships, and so much more.
Spoiler alert: We talk about how our introverted children and extroverted children likely connect with God differently, and I’m guessing it will open a whole new window on understanding your kids (like it did for me).
Thank you for listening to Pardon the Mess. I’m praying that you’re blessed by our time with Jamie C. Martin today.
Links for today's podcast:
Introverted Mom: Your Guide to More Calm, Less Guilt, and Quiet Joy
Quiz: Are you an introverted or extroverted mom?
*scroll to bottom of the page
Priscilla Shirer is a wife, Bible teacher, mom, actress and so much more. There’s so much to love about Priscilla, but what always sticks with me is the way she speaks so freely and powerfully about her faith while also practically reminding us of what really matters as we go about our days.
Priscilla and I had the opportunity to talk about her life as she raises her three boys and how she builds them up with statements of affirmation. She reminds us that living in a place of knowing our true identity in Christ means that all of our decisions come from the truth. When we do that, it shifts how we live our lives.
We also get to hear about her new movie, Overcomer,and the companion book, Radiant, which speaks to women about identity. Priscilla tells us why she continues to act although she often feels ill-equipped.
Whatever you do, don’t miss the last few minutes as she talks honestly about the difficulties her family has faced the last year and gives us words of encouragement when we walk hard roads of loss and discouragement.
Links for today's podcast:
Life changed for Chris Norton in an instant, going from a talented college football player to a quadriplegic with a 3 percent chance of ever moving or feeling anything below his neck.
But, with determination and hard work, Chris proved his doctors wrong four years later by walking across the stage to receive his college diploma.
Emily Norton knew from a young age that she was called to help struggling children through mentorship and possibly even foster care. What she could not anticipate was the journey she was about to start as she helped Chris work through his physical challenges and goals while facing her own battle with anxiety and depression.
Don’t miss today’s episode of Pardon the Mess as Emily and Chris candidly share the ups and downs of their journey, including the road to adopting five beautiful girls and fostering seventeen children—and counting.
Chris and Emily encourage us to cling to the Lord in the hard places of life and to work hard and defy our seemingly impossible situations. Their words can’t help but remind us of the promise that in all things God works for his good for those who love him and have been called according to his purposes (Romans 8:28).
Chris and Emily are remarkable and can’t help but encourage you to find joy and courage in the hard places, trusting the Lord as he refines us for his glory.
Links for today's podcast:
Chris Norton’s Graduation Walk
Chris and Emily Norton’s Wedding Walk
This week on Pardon the Mess we’re going to places we’ve never been before!
You’ve heard Cynthia Yanof interview guests each week as we talk parenting, but today there’s no guest. It’s Cynthia unplugged!
Cynthia talks candidly about the places where the Lord has worked in her life the last several years, and encourages us to live for the higher purposes of God. She reminds us to be careful not to let the mundane trump the mission in our life, and challenges us to live interruptable.
Bonus: She share the best parenting advice she’s ever received!
Today’s episode will no doubt make you laugh while challenging you to make the most of every day for the Lord - because the Lord has mighty plans for each of us and there’s no time to waste when the days are short.
Links from this episode:
Christian Parenting Prayer Journal
Book referenced:
Nothing to Prove: Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard by Jennie Allen
Scripture referenced:
Ecclesiastes 1:1, 1:11, 12:8, 12:13-14
James 4:13-14
Deuteronomy 31
Joshua 23
1 Samuel 12
1 Kings 2:2-4
John 15:19
1 Corinthians 10:5
Esther 4:13-14
Acts 17:26
Vivian Mabuni describes herself as an Asian American Christian woman, wife, mom, and cancer survivor. Having the opportunity to visit with her on Pardon the Mess this week, I agree that she is all of this and so much more!
Vivian grew up culturally Buddhist before coming to Christ in high school. She talks candidly about being the only Christian in her family and the impact her cancer diagnosis had on both her family and her faith.
Vivian’s life mantra has become “Open hands, willing heart,” which is also the title of her book. She is passionate about helping others find the courage to live all out for the Lord, trusting his character so completely that we’re willing to be surrendered to whatever plans he has for our lives.
My favorite part of the interview was talking with Vivian about the importance of embracing the “Plan B’s” in our lives and how oftentimes the Lord’s very best for us shows up when we let go of our own Plan A. We also talk about raising kids who are surrendered to the Lord and the importance of holding them loosely so the Lord can have the only real grip on their lives.
Vivian Mabuni is a gift and her words will encourage you to look at your faith journey in a different light.
Thanks for listening!
Links for today's podcast:
Christian Parenting Prayer Journal
I first heard Christina tell portions of her story on the Today show several months ago. I was initially captivated by her unabashed sharing of the gospel on national television. But, even more than that, her hope in the Lord and her passion for foster care reform were visibly stirring during the interview that day. I knew we had to talk with her on Pardon the Mess.
Christina Meredith endured years of physical abuse at the hands of her mother before entering the foster care system as a teenager. After graduating from high school, Christina ended up homeless and living out of her car as she tried to make ends meet. Praying every day for the Lord to give her a new hope, she had no way of knowing that, within a few short years, she would be crowned Miss California.
Today, Christina is the author of her first book, CinderGirl, as well as the founder of a nonprofit organization that advocates for foster care children. She shares her difficult story with vulnerability while encouraging each of us to consider our part in helping the least of these around us.
Christina’s story will strengthen your faith as she reminds us that only the Lord can take our places of doubt, discouragement, and pain and turn it all for good. Practically speaking, it’s a great reminder that when we do the smallest things for those suffering around us it makes a big impact.
Spoiler alert: she has an amazing story near the end of the podcast about how Tim Tebow’s dad prayed daily with her in high school.
Don’t miss this one!
Links for today's podcast:
CinderGirl
Melanie Shankle is the New York Times bestselling author of Sparkly Green Earrings, The Antelope in the Living Room, Nobody’s Cuter Than You, and Church of the Small Things. Melanie lives in San Antonio, Texas, with her husband and daughter. She has the gift of being able to write humorously about the seemingly ordinary things of life while pointing to God in the midst of it.
Melanie talks to us today about parenting her daughter, Caroline, and how she’s realized the small things end up being the big things and the importance of just showing up in our parenting. We laugh about parenting teens, dealing with social media, avoiding the traps of comparison, and letting your kids do it on their own (even when we can do it better).
Melanie is funny, relatable, and authentic, and she will encourage you to stay the course (and laugh a lot) on the journey of parenting.
Links for today's podcast:
David Green is the seventy-seven-year-old founder of Hobby Lobby and our guest this week on Pardon the Mess. Mr. Green began his retail journey many years ago with a six-hundred-dollar bank loan for a frame business he operated out of his garage. The Lord grew that little start-up into a multibillion-dollar craft business that we know today as Hobby Lobby.
Mr. Green shares a great word for us today, talking about the legacy his parents left him by modeling a deep generosity and commitment to faithfully giving back to the Lord. His parents worked hard to be sure they raised kids committed to the Lord, evidenced by his mom following up his successes by asking, “What have you done for the Lord lately?”
His parents were faithful in the small things of parenting, ultimately making a big difference in Mr. Green’s life and how he runs his company today.
In today’s interview, we talk about the importance of modeling our faith well for our kids, how Mr. Green and his family strive to run Hobby Lobby guided by a higher biblical standard, and what it looks like when you decide you won’t compromise your faith—even when it may cost you everything in business.
I was so touched by this interview that I wrote an article about Mr. Green last week. His words are such a great reminder that we don’t know what we don’t know when it comes to raising our kids. Mr. Green’s parents had very little of what this world counts as material success, but they raised their family to know Jesus and live strong in their faith.
In doing so, they had no way of knowing they were raising a future billionaire who would someday take on the United States government in litigation because of his deep commitment to God’s word.
Please take the time to listen to our interview with Mr. Green. You won’t soon forget his timeless words of wisdom. And if you haven’t read last week’s article about this interview, here it is!
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Today on Pardon the Mess, we continue the conversation with Noel Bouché and Aszia Pearson of the pureHOPE organization about sex. Well, about more than that . . . but ultimately that’s the topic of the day.
pureHOPE aims to equip Christians to experience and model God’s love, purity, and justice in a sexualized culture. As related to our parenting, Noel and Aszia talk candidly about the importance of speaking always and often to our kids about sex, reminding us that we want their knowledge in this area to come from a biblical perspective, not from the loads of other sources that will inevitably try to inform them.
This is the second of a two-part series we are sharing with pureHOPE. Our goal is to be informative, practical, and biblical when it comes to a subject that many of us are less than comfortable discussing.
There’s something in this for everyone, so join in on the discussion!
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"Let’s talk about sex, baby."
If you’re a product of the 1990s and have a little bit of Salt-N-Pepa wherewithal, you might have just gotten that reference. If not, I apologize.
Today on Pardon the Mess, we have the great privilege or talking with Noel Bouché and Aszia Pearson of the pureHOPE organization about sex. Well, about more than that . . . but ultimately that’s the topic of the day.
pureHOPE aims to equip Christians to experience and model God’s love, purity, and justice in a sexualized culture. As related to our parenting, Noel and Aszia talk candidly about the importance of speaking always and often to our kids about sex, reminding us that we want their knowledge in this area to come from a biblical perspective, not from the loads of other sources that will inevitably try to inform them.
This is the first of a two-part series we are sharing with pureHOPE. Our goal is to be informative, practical, and biblical when it comes to a subject that many of us are less than comfortable discussing.
There’s something in this for everyone, so join in on the discussion!
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It’s May and, let’s be honest, who couldn’t use a good laugh to accompany the millions of events crammed in these final days as we wrap up another school year? Today’s episode of Pardon the Mess gives you just that – a good laugh, but with so much more.
Melissa Radke and her husband, David, talk to us about the crazy way the Lord has taken their own plans and dreams and turned them upside down, landing a story so unplanned that only God could author it.
Melissa is “that” friend we all love to laugh with about the wacky stuff in parenting and the absurdity we all buy into along the way. She’s the mom behind the viral videos “Signs” and “Red Ribbon Week,” with over 140 million views. And now the Radke family is looking forward to the release of their reality TV show, premiering May 4th on the USA network.
Beyond just being downright hilarious, Melissa candidly shares about the struggles in their marriage, the values they esteem as they parent their two kids, and leaves us with a good reminder that God has a plan bigger and better than anything we can dream up.
Get ready for some big energy with lots of laughs!
Links from the Show:
Melissa’s Website
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Sometimes we have parenting questions that can be awkward, right? And there’s times we need an honest discussion on a topic, but we aren’t sure where to start. In this Pardon the Mess mini-series, Janet Denison answers some of the more awkward or tough questions we face as we raise our kids. We’ve kept these podcasts short and to the point. They are not intended to be the only answer, but a starting point as you go to the Lord with all of your parenting needs. We hope to hit lots of topics that your facing, so please send us an email to [email protected] for topics you would love to hear us address in the future. Happy listening!
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Online relationships. Predators. Sex trafficking.
We tend to think these things happen to “other” people. But today’s podcast is a great reminder for all of us raising kids in today’s digital culture.
The Baldwin family is a strong Christian family living in the Dallas suburbs. Their life was typical of most of ours—that is, until John got word that his seventeen-year-old daughter, Mackenzie, had met a man online from Kosovo and was days away from fleeing the country to marry him.
With less than a month to devise a plan to save Mackenzie, John and Stephanie Baldwin did everything they knew to save their daughter from a mistake that could cost Mackenzie her life.
John, Stephanie, and Mackenzie Baldwin join us on Pardon the Mess and share of teenage friends brave enough to speak up for Mackenzie, FBI agents willing to go far beyond their job description to save a vulnerable teen, and parents who relentlessly prayed for the Lord to keep their daughter from making the mistake of a lifetime.
Today’s podcast is a must listen for both parents and teens as the Baldwins openly share about the importance of true friends who will do anything to keep you safe, the dangers of online relationships, and the importance of family and walking with the Lord.
Links from today's podcast:
Almost Gone: Twenty-Five Days and One Chance to Save Our Daughter
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Easter is quickly approaching, and sometimes it’s challenging to keep our kids focused more on Jesus and less on the baskets.
Let me ask you this: Have you ever gathered around the table with friends and family for a traditional Seder meal in celebration of Passover? Me neither.
But today we get to chat with Susie Hawkins about celebrating the Passover tradition with our families as Holy Week approaches.
Exploring the concept of the Seder meal helps us better understand the Jewish background of the Last Supper celebrated by Jesus and step into the story of Christ with our families. Don’t worry: this is totally doable with any age kids, and there’s no right or wrong as we get outside the box and help our kids gain a larger perspective on the life of Christ.
Listen to Susie’s suggestions and then jump over to passoverforchristians.com for a more detailed plan for starting the Seder tradition in your home.
Links from this episode:
Passover for Christians Complete Seder Guide
Passover for Christians: Creating a NEW Easter Tradition
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Today we get a word from New York Times best-selling author Mary Beth Chapman. Mary Beth is married to Steven Curtis Chapman and mom to their six children: Emily, Caleb, Will Franklin, Shaoey, Stevey Joy, and Maria.
As a double bonus, we also have Emily Chapman Richards, the oldest of the Chapman clan and executive director of ShowHope.org, which cares for orphans by engaging the church and reducing barriers to adoption.
Mary Beth and Emily candidly talk about some of the parenting nonnegotiables they have adopted in their families, while also reminding us to let go of the way we think things are “supposed” to look.
With authenticity, Mary Beth discusses the hard places in her marriage and the struggle of depression. She also encourages us to take it all to the Lord (and the professionals—ha!).
We talk about Mary Beth’s book, Choosing to See, and the heartbreaking loss of their daughter, Maria. Their family remains resolute with a testimony of faith in a God who finishes what he starts, even when we may not like how it looks here on earth.
Links from this podcast include:
Choosing to See by Mary Beth Chapman
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When you get the opportunity to chat candidly about the hard places in parenting with good friends Rebecca Carrell and Kay Wyma - well, you don’t want to miss it.
In this episode of Pardon the Mess, the three of us talk about the recent college admissions bribery scandal and the messaging our culture sends that our kids need to look a certain way or have certain credentials to be “good enough.”
As followers of Christ, it’s always a great reminder that our identity in Christ is received, not achieved. Kay and Rebecca share real-life examples of some of the tough places in parenting and encourage us to walk in the grace of the Lord as we remind our kids to call out God’s truth in their lives.
Kay Wyma is the host of the vodcast, Say Something. She has also written several books, the most recent being Not the Boss of Us. Rebecca Carrell is the co-host of Mornings with Jeff and Rebecca on Dallas radio KCBI 90.9, as well as an author, speaker, and founder of the HeartStrong Faith conference.
Links from this podcast include:
Say Something Vodcast
Not the Boss of Us by Kay Wyma
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On October 13, 2006, Abby Rike’s family was involved in a devastating car accident that instantly changed the course of her life. Refusing to let her tragedy become her identity, Abby started a journey that led her to know the Lord in a new, beautiful way.
Abby talks candidly and humorously about what gives her purpose and motivates her to get out of bed in the morning. She encourages us to refuse to accept a life of casual Christianity but rather to dive into God’s Word in a way that transforms all we do.
Abby humbly acknowledges that she doesn’t have all the answers, but, having walked a very difficult road, she wants everyone to be assured that God will meet you wherever you are.
Abby was also a participant on The Biggest Loser and tells us a little bit about that experience. She’s the author of Working It Out: A Journey of Love, Loss, and Hope.
Wherever you are in life, whatever you’re worried about or living through, Abby has a word of encouragement for you.
Links from this episode:
Working It Out: A Journey of Love, Loss, and Hope
How to Help A Grieving Friend by Abby Rike
No introduction necessary on this one, friends.
Kathie Lee Gifford joins us on Pardon the Mess, and we could not be more thrilled to spend time with her.
Kathie Lee has been blessed with a successful four-decade career as a television host, actress, singer, playwright, songwriter, and author. She is best known for her fifteen years on Live with Regis and Kathie Lee (eleven Emmy nominations), and she’s currently acting as the three-time, Emmy-winning co-host of the fourth hour of TODAY with Hoda Kotb.
Kathie Lee and I talk about her faith journey and the impact traveling to Israel has had on her understanding of why she believes what she does. She shares about the difficult days after losing her husband, Frank, and how Jesus is our only hope. Kathie Lee also let us in on her amazing children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give, and how important it is to allow our kids to live out their God-given talents.
Oh, and we talk about why she’s leaving TODAY next month and get some insider scoop on what’s next on her agenda.
It’s not every day you get to visit with someone who has had a career the likes of Kathie Lee Gifford—especially knowing how seamlessly she shares her faith at every turn.
Tune in for this one!
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Cultural issues inundate our news feeds every day, and it seems that, all too often, they relate to conflicts of diversity and race. As parents, we all want to talk honestly and biblically with our kids about the real world and the cultural issues they face each day. But if you’re anything like me, it’s easy to feel ill-equipped to talk about diversity with our kids and do it well without saying the wrong things.
On today’s podcast, Jenny Brady and Mia Mbroh encourage us to start conversations about diversity in our homes. They are quick to remind us that diversity is not just a matter of skin color, but also gender, socioeconomic status, age, culture, and economic status. Jenny and Mia love the Lord and create a safe place to consider issues of diversity while pointing us back to God’s design and the biblical implications on our faith.
Don’t miss this practical, honest conversation on diversity that will help you consider areas where your family might make small adjustments with big impact.
Resources from the podcast:
God's Very Good Idea: A True Story of God's Delightfully Different Family
White Awake: An Honest Look at What it Means to Be White
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie l TEDGlobal 2009 l The Danger of a Single Story
Sometimes we have parenting questions that can be awkward, right? And there’s times we need an honest discussion on a topic, but we aren’t sure where to start. In this Pardon the Mess mini-series, Janet Denison answers some of the more awkward or tough questions we face as we raise our kids. We’ve kept these podcasts short and to the point. They are not intended to be the only answer, but a starting point as you go to the Lord with all of your parenting needs. We hope to hit lots of topics that your facing, so please send us an email to [email protected] for topics you would love to hear us address in the future. Happy listening!
As a special agent with the United States Secret Service for 19 years, Darin Kinder has traveled to over 30 countries with presidents and leaders. But on September 11, 2001, he experienced the unspeakable horror as one of those at the World Trade Center.
Darin earned a Secret Service Medal of Valor for his heroism that day. But he’s quick to tell people that his story is only a story of survival, while Jesus’s story is one of salvation. For ten years following September 11, 2001, Darin held on to his story and prayed for the Lord to give him the mission for his life.
Darin now tells his story of that tragic day, and how even in the chaos and darkness, God was there. He knows that he is now called to speak to men on living lives marked by integrity, courage, and compassion through the ministry he founded, Valiant Ministries.
Darin and his wife of twenty tears are raising their four young sons, which he’d tell you is his greatest calling. Darin shares his thoughts on raising brave kids who are willing to live on purpose for the Lord. Darin’s story, his humility, passion, and purpose, will inspire you. Don’t miss this!
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Cheryl Scruggs knows firsthand the difficulties that come with marriage.
After divorcing her husband, Jeff, in the midst of her own infidelity, Cheryl realized the lies she believed in her first marriage and the critical importance of having Jesus central in her relationships.
Now remarried to Jeff, she talks vulnerably about working through the daily ups and downs and pitfalls we all experience along the way. Cheryl also shares about her daughter’s very public accident (Lauren Scruggs) and how their family drew to the Lord during this crisis.
You will be encouraged with her practical words, and even get some suggested readings and resources to give your marriage a boost.
(Today’s podcast references Ephesians 3:20, Matthew 19:26, Deuteronomy 8, 1 Peter 3, and Ephesians 5)
For More on Cheryl Scruggs:
http://www.hopeformarriages.com/
http://thrivingbeyondbelief.com/
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Joni Eareckson Tada wrestled with life’s toughest questions after a split-second decision left her quadriplegic as a teenager. Struggling with how God could allow that to happen, she was blessed with ten words that changed her life: God permits what he hates to accomplish what he loves.
Joni’s life is a testament to these words and will inspire you in the hard places in life. She talks candidly about questioning God’s sovereignty, working through depression, and living abundantly through Jesus.
Joni is an absolute breath of fresh air reminding us of Jesus’ love and urging us to make the very most of every moment the Lord gives us. She’s a well-known artist, author, sought-after speaker, and founder of JoniAndFriends.org.
This is a podcast you don’t want to miss!
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Do you ever think about the day you’ll take your kids to college and what you want them to really know before they leave home? We do too!
In this episode, author Holly Shivers and her sister, Wendy Hermes, remind us of the importance of teaching our kids how to pray and memorize God’s word.
We all know that with the busyness of everyday life, none of us are looking for something else to add to our to-do lists on a given day. But Holly and Wendy remind us that being intentional in the small things with our kids often pays big dividends in helping them know the Lord in a personal way. And truly knowing the Lord is something we all hope our kids “get” before they leave our homes.
Join us for a practical discussion on teaching our kids how to pray and memorize God’s word!
(Today’s podcast references Deuteronomy 11 and Psalm 121.)
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Bob Goff has the remarkable gifting of relaying his life adventures in a way that points you back to Jesus and challenges you to live life differently. We talk about the gift we are to those around us when we choose to be “available” to them and truly present. We also talk candidly about seeing people for more than what they can do for us, but seeing them for who they are. And Bob tells us stories of parades in his neighborhood, not getting accepted to law school, and calling the White House when one of his kids was sick. Bob Goff is energetic, hilarious, challenging, and practical. You won’t want it to end!
(Today’s episode references Matthew 13 & Luke 23)
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Bob Goff has the remarkable gifting of relaying his life adventures in a way that points you back to Jesus and challenges you to live life differently. We talk about the gift we are to those around us when we choose to be “available” to them and truly present. We also talk candidly about seeing people for more than what they can do for us, but seeing them for who they are. And Bob tells us stories of parades in his neighborhood, not getting accepted to law school, and calling the White House when one of his kids was sick. Bob Goff is energetic, hilarious, challenging, and practical. You won’t want it to end!
(Today’s episode references Matthew 13 & Luke 23)
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How can we love God more than we love our children? How can we let go of our struggle with control, for the benefit of our children and ourselves? Author Lisa Clark joins us to talk about raising children who take responsibility, who listen to God’s voice, and who follow him. Though it can be scary, she shows us how daily putting our kids on the altar is the only way to find freedom from fear and anxiety, and how that plan is so much greater: for God’s glory and our children’s good.
(Today’s episode references James 5:16, Luke 2:41, Genesis 22:1 & Psalm 145:4)
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Jamie Ivey joins us this week to talk about fear, control, shame, and vulnerability. Jamie and her husband Aaron Ivey are both biological and adoptive parents; she writes, speaks, and hosts a renowned Christian podcast “The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey.” As we discuss the parenting journey that the Lord has had the Iveys on (including adoption, being a working mother/parent, and work travel), Jamie shares about how vulnerability has transformed her friendships and her parenting. Together, we delve into the false gospel we preach with our lives if we, as believers, try and act like we have it all together -- and how shame plays into inadvertently training our kids not to confess sin.
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When Fox 4 News Anchor Chip Waggoner and his wife heard that the baby she was carrying would endure significant challenges from birth, they started on a journey they never anticipated taking. In this episode, Chip and his son, Benjamin, join us to share the blessings they have experienced despite the difficulties Benjamin has endured with his health. Together, Chip and Benjamin answer tough questions such as: How should a believer respond to devastating medical news in our children’s lives? How should we train our children to respond—with words and actions—to another person who is differently abled? What is God’s purpose in creating life in a child who isn’t “normal”? Powerful answers to these questions will move and inspire you to be joyful always and pray continually.
(Today’s podcast references 1 Thessalonians 5:16)
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Baylor Bear and NFL Hall of Famer Mike Singletary joins University of Texas and Pittsburgh Steeler Kirk McJunkin to talk about parenting your kids through sports. Coach Singletary experienced adversity at a young age, but through it, he believed rich teaching from his mother regarding his identity — teaching that rerouted him and his future. Coach McJunkin reveals how he began playing sports as a search for significance, until the Lord revealed to him that he could not find his self-worth in football. When the Lord changed his approach from being self-centered to being others-centered, his life was altered forever. Two elite athletes who excelled at the highest levels both point to their faith as the only firm foundation for families as they travel the path of youth sports. Today’s episode features a candid and vulnerable conversation about the difficult task of parenting our children in youth, select, and high school sports.(Today’s podcast references Luke 15:11-32, Deuteronomy 6:6-7, and Colossians 3:21)Get the encouragement and support you need to teach your kids to love Christ in a world that doesn’t — directly to your inbox each week!Christian Parenting offers trusted guidance for the hardest job there is.CONNECT WITH OUR COMMUNITY
The messaging of the world leads us to shame, silence, and isolation. Instead of recognizing our kids’ unique qualities, as parents, sometimes we act like we want our kids to “be great” at everything. But this messaging is “not the boss of us”, as guest author Kay Wyma discusses today. Kay reminds us of our phenomenal worth and value, and how believing that identity for ourselves helps fuel us to lead our kids to living out their identity. She calls us to stop valuing our children based on performance, and instead call in truth to point them back to their precious worth to God, and to how loved and uniquely gifted they are to Him. (Today’s podcast references Ephesians 2, Isaiah 55:8-9, Matthew 11:28, Isaiah 43:1, Daniel 3:26, Phil 4:6)
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Michael W. Smith joins us to talk about family, loving your spouse well, focusing on what really matters in raising kids, and slowing down by prioritizing what’s important in our lives. You will love hearing about his heart behind creating a new children’s lullaby album. Oh, and we even talked about his friendship with Billy Graham and singing at Reverend Graham’s funeral.
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Tony Dungy has two Super Bowl rings, but he doesn't need them to be significant. In today’s episode Tony and his wife Lauren reveal how to train a child to believe he is worthy (hint: it’s not by training them to accomplish more). The Dungys impart wisdom on how they parent differently now, after 3 decades of wisdom and experience raising 10 children. They answer "what prompted you to write 2 new children's books" regarding their latest project, and they reveal the heart behind their calling to foster care and adoption. Their words are both convicting and inspiring; you won’t want to miss it!
(Today’s podcast references Matthew 16:26)
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Do we rob our kids of the ability to trust God by constantly intervening when we see them struggling? What if our efforts to provide and protect are the actual barriers to their success? In this podcast we talk with Christian counselor Mia Mbroh about whether failure is important or overrated, how a Christian parent should respond to a child who is struggling, and how stop parenting out of our own wounds from the past. She asks us “is God still good enough for us, even in the difficult times?” and expands on how our behavior often answers this question with a resounding “no.” Mia gives us practical ways we can love our children by letting them fail – by choosing to walk with them through their failure instead of always trying to take the pain away. (Today’s podcast references Deuteronomy 8:17-18, the Heroes of the Bible, Proverbs 3:5-6)
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Can a Christian parent find success? Our performance and perfection driven culture can make us feel we will never measure up. As parents, we want to know how to define God’s version of success in parenting, so in this podcast we discuss how to raise up believers, and how to be character focused parents.
Today’s conversation is with Bible teacher, writer, and speaker Janet Denison. Janet reminds us that success is what it’s always been, and points us back to the oldest principles and the biggest picture in our parenting. She answers “how do we know if our child has accepted Christ” and gives us a short list of non-negotiables about which we cannot budge when guiding little hearts. (Today’s podcast references Matthew 23, Jeremiah 6:16, Jeremiah 29:11, Proverbs 22:6)
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