Real Mother Fuckers

Dungeons and Dragons (D&D) is a fantasy tabletop role-playing game that focuses on storytelling and collaboration. It can be played in person or online and has gained popularity through shows like Stranger Things.

D&D allows players to create characters and go on adventures together, with one player acting as the dungeon master who guides the story. The game offers a safe space for creativity, problem-solving, and social interaction. It has been used therapeutically and as a tool for self-discovery.

Our guest, Shelly Mazzanoble, shares her experience with D&D and how she merged her love for the game with parenting. In this conversation, Shelly Mazzanoble discusses the benefits of playing Dungeons & Dragons (D&D) as a parent. She highlights how D&D can foster creativity, problem-solving skills, and social interaction in children. Shelly also explains how D&D can be used as a tool for everyday parenting, emphasizing the importance of communication, collaboration, and setting expectations. She shares personal anecdotes and insights from her own experiences as a parent and a Dungeon Master.

Overall, Shelly encourages parents to find joy in the unexpected, let go of control, and embrace the unique journey of parenting.

Are you ready to cultivate creativity in your life?

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How do you finally do life after the loss of your spouse? In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Julie Margaret Martella, a resilient woman who has turned her personal tragedy into a source of inspiration and guidance for others. Julie opens up about her journey through widowhood, sharing the emotional and practical challenges she faced after the loss of her spouse. She offers profound insights on coping with grief, finding strength in solitude, and rebuilding a fulfilling life after loss. Whether you are experiencing a similar journey or supporting a loved one through theirs, Julie's story is a beacon of hope and a testament to the power of resilience and love. Tune in for an episode filled with empathy, wisdom, and the unwavering spirit of a woman who navigates life with grace and courage.

This episode offers a realistic insight on having to deal with life without your spouse!

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This episode explores a mother whose child has been diagnosed with Sturge-Weber Syndrome, a rare neurological and skin disorder characterized by a facial birthmark and can also include, neurological abnormalities.

In this episode, Mallory Kilgore will take us through her family’s journey, from the initial signs and diagnosis to the everyday challenges and triumphs they encounter. She’ll share her insights on navigating the healthcare system, managing treatments and therapies, and finding the right support. We’ll also explore the emotional and social aspects of living with Sturge-Weber Syndrome and how it has impacted their family dynamics.

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If you’re in a happy marriage or relationship, we still recommend listening to this episode. Holly has worked on high profile divorce cases with professional athletes and celebrities and has seen the messiest of situations. But it doesn’t matter how much money and status you have – Holly shares the most common thread for divorce and it may surprise you.

We love Holly because she gets real with us on the divorce and separation process. We bust myths, we learn about the brutal length of the divorce process, and who the judges typically are and how they ultimately decide the fate of your divorce. Also, should you get a pre-nup?

Listen and find out! Holly is so fun to listen to, even about a difficult topic like divorce!

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Ali has an impressive imaginative fire in her and she joined us to share how she makes that creativity spark. She is a TV writer (Apple TV’s The Morning Show), director + producer (Comedy Central, BuzzFeed) & the creator of writeandflow.com.

This episode is for nearly everyone. You don’t need a title as an artist to be creative. We think everyone has room for a little extra creativity, whether it’s doodling in your journal, writing a funny caption to your IG post, watercolor painting, or just driving a new route home. Studies show that creative pursuits are good for your mental health.

Are you ready to cultivate creativity in your life?

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This interview is a testament to the power of authenticity and vulnerability, as Anna Alcorn

fearlessly opens up about the realities of raising a child with Down syndrome. Her story is a beacon of hope for parents facing similar challenges, reminding us all of the beauty and resilience that lies within every individual, regardless of ability.

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Hey Mother Fuckers, this is Steph. I’m bowing down from the podcast and Vanessa will keep it alive as a solo podcaster. In this episode, we talk about our business divorce, why I decided to leave, and I answer Vanessa’s lingering questions. I’ve read that this sort of a breakup is called a “conscious uncoupling” and I like the sentiment. I’m just glad to have my old friendship with Vanessa again. I’ll transition out slowly from the pod so you will see me on interviews over the next couple of months. If I’m lucky, I’ll be a guest in future episodes.

Let’s support Vanessa and watch this bitch fly solo. Podcasting is a lot of work and I look forward to seeing her take on the wonderful beast, like everything she does in her life – with grit and grace.

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Lux ATL is a former stripper with a PhD in literature. If you're feelin' fancy, you may call her Dr. Lindsay Byron even though she ditched professor life to focus on being an author, a podcaster, a mom of two, a wife, and she hosts world class retreats teaching women sensual movement. Lux ATL turns societal norms upside down and we love her for it. Through her thought-provoking content and captivating storytelling (literally, we were on the edges of our seats when she spoke to us), she inspires everyone who listens and reads her work to embrace their flaws and celebrate their uniqueness. We talk about what it's really like to be a stripper, why she stayed with her stripping career for so long even with a doctorate, and how she drastically transformed her life and work.

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Reyna Beckler runs a thriving yoga studio (also our first sponsor!!!) and has built a loyal customer base yet she has dealt with a phenomenon many of us encounter: imposter syndrome. According to a VeryWell mind article, it “is the psychological experience of feeling like a fake or a phony despite any genuine success that you have achieved. It can show up in the context of work, relationships, friendships, or just overall.”

Imposter syndrome can affect anyone. Reyna shares her life story to remind us that this mindset is holding us back from our dreams and deprives us from the self-confidence we deserve to feel. We have a feeling that our listeners will resonate with her path, as a child of Mexican immigrants, a survivor of domestic abuse, and a determined woman who carved her own career path in a male-dominated industry before taking the plunge into starting her own business.

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Mikaela is a trailblazer who defies norms and we love her courage, her passion, and our educational experience with her on the pod. She is on a mission to provide open-source, community-driven data for a seldom studied area in psychedelic research – mushrooms and mothers. She is currently working on preliminary results from 300 testimonies in the Mothers of the Mushroom survey.

We talk about psilocybin use as a sacrament and a spiritual medicine, its categorization by the US government as a schedule 1 substance, the history of its use dating back to our ancestors, and its place in the home today.

Some may think this is a controversial episode and we think it’s enlightening and educational. As always, listen with an open mind.

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Our modern lives lead us in constant search to chill the F out. Mom rage is a thing. Anxiety and depression are in our regular vernacular. We are stressed. Some of us address these issues with a vacation, a trip to the spa, therapy, meds, and other options. None of these are bad but what if we can address them with something we have with us at all times and is completely free?

Chintu Shah, an ER doc in Southern California, and a father of 2, joined us to talk about our breath. As you can imagine, his job ain’t no walk in the park. During his shifts, it’s high intensity all the time. Through years of work, he uses his breath to help him regulate his nervous system on overdrive.

He gives us very practical tips on how to approach our breath. Anyone can do it. No apps are needed. Just a few minutes of your day and a bit of curiosity.

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Nicole is a Peloton founding master instructor, four-time Ironman triathlete, and has spent a decade in NYC as a writing professor at Columbia and Rutgers (she has 4 masters degrees, what!!!). She joined the pod to gives moms words of wisdom on how we can achieve the art of hustle and flow. Oh boy, don’t we all need to hear this one?!

This interview was a personal favorite for Vanessa because she rides with Nicole on many 5 am rides on her iFIT-enabled bike. Listen to this episode where we talk about limiting beliefs, growing courage in our vulnerability, and how it all deepens as we age.

And even though Nicole is a mentor for the mind, body and spirit, we love how she still got vulnerable with our questions around her personal baggage and f*ck ups.

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Get a free 5-day trial of the Alter Together membership at nicolemeline.com/alter with code MOTHER

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What’s it like to grow up in Generation Z? Often labeled as the lonely generation, the young adults of our society grew up in a confusing time, warping their sense of belonging, self, and community with the help of the Internet and social media. We spoke to Anaya, who is a beautiful soul and an open book. She gets in-depth about a topic we explored last week – suicide. She is a suicide-attempt survivor and she bravely told us about her struggles with mental illness and how she got help (with so much support from her mother). She also gives helpful tips for parents – from a child’s POV – on how to talk to your kids struggling.

Anaya was fortunate to attend a rehabilitation center and she shares what she learned from her time there and how listeners also struggling can add these options to their wellness toolkit.

In our previous episode, we talked to a mother whose son died by suicide. Let’s continue to learn and bring awareness to suicide, the second leading cause of death of our young generation.

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Julia’s son, Kyle, died by suicide at age 22. Steph found her on the writer platform, Substack, where she writes about mental illness, suicide, and alternative treatments for depression. She wrote about recent statistics: “Suicide is the second leading cause of death for young people in the US — those ages 10 to 14 and 25 to 34.” Did you know that nearly 800,000 people a year die by suicide worldwide?

How do we change this number? Could an answer be to bring more awareness to alternative treatments, methods, and therapies? We discuss this in-depth in the episode. Julia wants more awareness of a topic we do not talk about enough. So here we are, doing what we can.

This episode may be hard to hear but it’s important for us to listen. We discuss her experience working with doctors and the healthcare system when it comes to mental illness and how she would do it differently if she had another chance with Kyle today.

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Shana has opened our eyes on how we might want to think, act, and talk about food in our homes. 22% of children and adolescents worldwide show disordered eating, according to JAMA Pediatrics. What if there’s a better way for us to have a relationship with food?

A Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, Shana gives an approachable look at wellness topics that are inclusive, non diet, and weight neutral, all with an intersectionality of social justice. What does healthy really mean? What if we no longer shame foods? What if we reframe how we talk or look at our diets? A lot of this is a practice of unlearning what we’ve grown up with, what society and social media and influencers shove in our faces — on how to eat, how to look, how to be “healthy.” We invite you to keep an open mind, for you and your families.

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Vanessa was fortunate to have experienced working with a doula for her second birth. What a difference she made. We talked to the thoughtful, lovely and elegant Jeanne-Marie to explore why one of these professionals might be a great option for your birth, no matter where you plan on having your baby – at a hospital, a birth center, or at home. We like to think of a doula as your birth experience’s COO, the homie that will always have your back, and your bedside therapist. We talk about the role of the doula (they are not just for mom!) and how to find one that works for you.

According to Dona international, a doula is a trained professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to their client before, during and shortly after childbirth to help them achieve the healthiest, most satisfying experience possible.

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Kristen is a widely followed woman online. As of writing this description, she has 691K followers on IG, 580K on YT for her personal channel, and 188K for her animal channel. She talks about the early days of being online, before it was even called “influencing” and we discover how much it’s changed back in the day, to now.

This woman does it all. She’s a mom of 2 under 2, she’s an entrepreneur, she’s an animal lover, a first-responder’s wife, and much more. Kristen is raw and real and it’s what she’s known for online. In this episode, you will find out: how she deals with haters, how much she actually documents her life and what her husband thinks of it, and how she was able to fish out a cashew from her daughter’s nostril, delicious! Lots of funny and juicy stuff in this one!

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In 2000, Julie Stotlar’s 6-year-old daughter, Lauren, was killed by the school bus that took her to school every day. In their grieving process, Julie and her husband found that the support available just didn’t resonate. They found that the most helpful way to support families was connecting them with others who had been through a similar loss.

Vanessa read about Julie’s story in the book by internationally acclaimed spiritual medium Rebecca Rosen, called What’s Your Heaven? She was so touched by Julie’s story and how she created hope out of tragedy through her organization GrieveWell and we are so honored she came to talk to us on the pod. We talk about unimaginable loss, grief, and healing.

She gives us tips on how to make a shittier day even slightly better. Some of these include singing even if you suck at singing, yoga, going outside, and more. This isn’t just a sad story, it’s a meaningful and hopeful journey of loss and love and working on forgiveness.

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What’s Your Heaven? by Rebecca Rosen: https://www.rebeccarosen.com/whats-your-heaven

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In America alone, an estimated 11.3 million tons of textile waste – equivalent to 85% of all textiles – end up in landfills on a yearly basis (source: EPA). Today’s guest, Grace Spath has many incredible talents as an artist, fiber artist, fashion designer, master of sewing textiles – and she’s made it her mission to honor nature and our environment while she makes these works of art. She is a true inspiration to create mindfully.

She wrote on her Etsy shop, ShopNeedlesandSpines, “When I became pregnant with my first child my husband and I stated that our life and our interests were to continue. Having children changes your life in so many ways, we didn’t feel it should have to change the things we enjoy doing and who we are at our core.”

That’s right, sister! You do you! We discuss how she makes time for what she loves to do. She draws, dyes fabrics and fibers from nature, she shares her process of upcycling stuff that would otherwise be considered as “trash” into really rad new pieces, and she talks in-depth about being part of San Diego Fashion Week.

Grace has lit up a creative fire in us and makes us think about our clothing consumption (thrifting and secondhand shopping is cool, guys!). We have a feeling she might inspire you, too.

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Anita has been a widow since January 3, 2019, when her husband Jason, died of sudden cardiac death while lap swimming. They were married for 19 years.

She is a mom to 4 kids and gets very honest about how she does it all after her husband’s death. Spoiler: she doesn’t, and it’s refreshing. This badass woman has been on the cover of Triathlete magazine and uses physical activity as her outlet. You can find her mountain biking and racing off-road triathlons.

Since she talks about death often (she co-hosts the cleverly named podcast Widow We Do Now), she has seen so much heartache in the grief process because spouses and families aren’t prepared for an untimely death. It can happen to anyone, even though we don’t want to believe it could. Listen for her practical tips.

Also, this woman is funny! We didn’t think having a mom on such a sad topic could be so lighthearted.

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How many sex editions can we get to?! We can’t believe we are actually writing these words down for our description but here goes… this sex episode is about two topics… ANAL + AGING. Can we destigmatize doing it up the butt? It’s an exploration of doing it there, for both men and women, for all sexualities. A lot of our listeners have been with their partners for a long time and the curiosity is there for many of them. Dare we say everyone is curious about this!?

We also talk about sex as we age. How many of you remember thinking in your younger years that “old” people don’t have or need sex anymore? Yeah, let’s debunk that myth and, yet again, destigmatize the idea that sex when you age sucks. It doesn’t! it’s just different. Listen for ways you can continue to have a great sex life as our minds and bodies change as we age.

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***Lola is hosting a women’s pilgrimage to Scotland Scotland! March 18th-24th, 2024. Check out her website journeys to find more information.

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Professional organizer Amy Brockhaus joined the pod to talk about our relationship with consumption, owning and chucking things, and how our spaces make us feel. In an article from 2022: “Jennifer Baumgartner, clinical psychologist and author of the book You Are What You Wear, most Americans don a mere 20% of their closets 80% of the time. So, if you own 103 pieces of clothing (the actual average among American women), you typically wear approximately 20 of those pieces.”

We’ve got a stuff problem. We explore what to do with it.

We also ask Amy a lot of questions you might also be wondering. Listen to find out the answers: Can you fix your hoarder family member’s mess? Where do you start if you’re feeling overwhelmed with your space? Does Amy have a junk drawer or a closet like Monica’s secret closet?!

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We took a winter break, folks. It was lovely, it was difficult, it was weird, and it was much needed. Some people think we spend a lot of time together, that we’re joined at the hip, and we’re always texting and talking. We actually don’t! In this episode, we decided to catch up on each other’s time off, on air. Tune in to hear about a 40-year-old tantrum, a cancer diagnosis, mood meds and microdosing shrooms, puppies, budding friendships, and more.

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Get your seatbelt on. Jenna is a vibrant mama to Josh. She is a badass with very little filter, especially when she talks about her life’s #1 passion: fighting for her son's rights and well-being. Jenna has been through so much with her son’s disorder, a rare neuro-genetic disorder that occurs in one in 15,000 live births. According to the Angelman Syndrome Foundation, “symptoms and characteristics with other disorders including autism, cerebral palsy and Prader-Willi syndrome. Due to the common characteristics, misdiagnosis occurs often.”

Another common symptom, which we talk about in-depth, are seizures. They suck, they’re scary, and they are a part of Jenna’s reality as Josh’s mama. We discuss an alternative form of medication that has changed everything for Josh and his seizures: CBD, a chemical found in marijuana. There’s lots to unpack in this episode.

Josh is an angel and so is his mom for sharing their story.

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We interviewed 4 beautiful women on the many ways they celebrate the winter holidays. We kick off with Steph interviewing her mom on what Christmas was like in the Philippines in the 1940s and 50s. For those of you watching on Spotify or YouTube, you can take a peek at the house Steph grew up in and her mom’s rockin’ purple hair. Proof you can still have fun at 79!

Thank you for enlightening us with your traditions, Taina Rodriguez-Berardi, Sky Swisa and Rachael Smith. We heard themes around making and eating meals together, keeping religious traditions alive, singing, acting, dancing, and more.

How do you celebrate the holidays? What are the traditions you keep and pass on from generation to generation? Did you start new traditions in your family?

Happy holidays 🙂

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Did you hear about parents asking Google to update its search results to not ruin the magic for curious kids on their iPads? In this episode, we explore the magic of Santa and his helpers. What do you say to kids who question his validity? How do you explain Santa to children of a certain age, on the cusp of believing?

This episode isn’t just about Santa’s magic. We discuss the practices and wonders we still have and hold as adults. Is it silly or dumb, or is it believing in the possibilities? Just because we can’t see, does that mean we can’t believe? We can’t see love but we feel it and believe it. Just a few thoughts for you as you listen to this pod.

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Gianina joined us on the pod to talk about the hardest day of her life. Her story involves an incredible journey of resiliency, support from loved ones, and working closely with a team of excellent doctors and nurses. Gianina went through one of the most complicated pregnancies we have ever heard and we are impressed with her bravery, optimism, and her desire to bring awareness to what happened to her and her babies.

Gianina was diagnosed with two conditions. TTTS, twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome, is an unequal sharing of volume of blood through the babies' shared placenta causing an amniotic fluid difference. sIUGR, selective intrauterine growth restriction, a form of TTTS, is an unequal placental share causing growth restriction in one of the babies.

We love what she wrote here: “Everyday is still an emotional battle to honor Gianna and to also be present and happy for my baby girl Liliana who I love so much. Looking into Liliana’s eyes everyday and watching her grow is a daily reminder that I was to have another beautiful girl just like her and that she was in the womb with her identical best friend. When she looks into my eyes deeply I feel her sister’s presence and feel as though her soul is inside of Liliana. She’s our angel 👼 watching us everyday and is here with us in spirit.”

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Do you go on vacation without your child/children? How much time away do you have from your kids? When was the first time you left your kids overnight? Have you left your children for an extended amount of time? There’s no right or wrong answer to any of these questions. We explore the joys, challenges, emotions and experiences from taking time off from our kids.

Leaving our kids means coordinated time and resources. It means we need to be mentally and emotionally ready. We talk about our time spent away from kids – on work trips, trips with friends, trips with our spouses, and trips to the bathroom with the door locked.

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Today’s guests are master masochists and we love them for it. Four years ago, Caitlin and Brandon decided to move their family of 5 from Southern California to Spain. For shits and giggles, they made the adventure more fun by moving somewhere they’d never visited, didn’t know anyone there, and none of them spoke Spanish fluently.

In this episode, hear how the couple made the major move and why they did it. They do not hold back on the humor or the honesty about the struggles of integrating into a new culture and country.

Brandon is an amazing photographer and you can follow their family travels on his IG. Make sure to read all his hilarious captions!

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We’ve got our first dude on the show, ya’ll! In this episode we sit down with Ethan Gregory Dodge, the first dad to grace our podcast, for an intimate conversation on his decision to leave the Mormon Church and the impact it has had on his approach to parenthood.

Join us as Ethan shares his past work with MormonLeaks, navigating life beyond the constraints of religious norms, and shedding light on the complexities of redefining family values.

Discover how leaving the Mormon Church has shaped Ethan's parenting style and the lessons he imparts to his children. From fostering open-mindedness to encouraging critical thinking, Ethan offers valuable insights that transcend the boundaries of religious upbringing.

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The beautiful Mexican tradition, Día de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, is a time for family and friends to honor and remember their loved ones who have passed and it is celebrated like a family reunion, with the deceased as special guests. Have you thought about the possibility of communicating with the dead?

Join Vanessa and Steph as they explore the mystical and the maternal. They delve into the realms of intuition, and spirituality, guided by their extraordinary guest, a renowned spirit medium, Kelly Fisher. She also happens to be a mama and talks about what it’s like having this gift and being a mother.

For those of you who are skeptical, we had the same feelings too when she gave us an initial reading in April. What she brought forward was remarkable and detailed. This is a fun and fascinating episode, it may make the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, or allow you to think of your loved ones. Believe it or not, we invite you to listen and have fun at the idea of the possibilities.

We will have a special reading from Kelly available exclusively on Patreon soon. Check us out on Patreon and support your Mother Fuckers!

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For our Halloween episode, we’ve got spooky stories for you! As a mom podcast many of you listen only but this time you should check us out on video to SEE our crazy costumes – on Spotify or Youtube! 

In this episode of our parenting podcast, we shine a spotlight on the unspoken fears that keep us awake at night. Join us as we explore the deepest, most authentic concerns of motherhood, and life, while offering a place for you to relate as fellow parents. 

Do you deal with motherhood fears and parenting anxieties? Have you overcome old fears but have gained new ones since raising kids?

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One of our previous guests is back on our pod to tell more of her story. 

She is a survivor of child abuse, domestic abuse, and an eating disorder. She told us the story about how she was locked in a dark room and sex trafficked for 6 weeks. After her escape, she did not tell authorities what happened to her. Her perpetrators are still out there.

But, to her, it does not matter. She said, “justice is peace.” Hear why she chose to heal in solitude. 

Her healing story is not linear, it is not finished, and it does not come neatly tied in a bow. 

She shares therapies and treatments that have helped her, including a life-changing experience with Ibogaine at Ambio.

“I was surrounded, draped, engulfed by pure love.”

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From the Ambio website: Ibogaine is an atypical psychoactive that many people have reported provides psychological and medical benefits that can support people with important personal changes. Treatments with ibogaine are experimental and have not been approved by the FDA or any other regulatory agency, but can still be provided legally and safely at Ambio facilities. In some cases, we use ibogaine that is produced semi-synthetically from alternate plant sources (such as voacanga africana) in order to protect natural supplies and cultural heritage of iboga and its traditional knowledge holders.

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Anonymous survivor + healing from sex trafficking and child abuse

One of our previous guests is back on our pod to tell more of her story. 

She is a survivor of child abuse, domestic abuse, and an eating disorder. She told us the story about how she was locked in a dark room and sex trafficked for 6 weeks. After her escape, she did not tell authorities what happened to her. Her perpetrators are still out there.

But, to her, it does not matter. She said, “justice is peace.” Hear why she chose to heal in solitude. 

Her healing story is not linear, it is not finished, and it does not come neatly tied in a bow. 

She shares therapies and treatments that have helped her, including a life-changing experience with Ibogaine at Ambio.

“I was surrounded, draped, engulfed by pure love.”

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Shawn Ryan's Psychedelic Experience | SRS #024: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asrnXJ-xCzs

Ambio Life Sciences: https://ambio.life/ 

From the Ambio website: Ibogaine is an atypical psychoactive that many people have reported provides psychological and medical benefits that can support people with important personal changes. Treatments with ibogaine are experimental and have not been approved by the FDA or any other regulatory agency, but can still be provided legally and safely at Ambio facilities. In some cases, we use ibogaine that is produced semi-synthetically from alternate plant sources (such as voacanga africana) in order to protect natural supplies and cultural heritage of iboga and its traditional knowledge holders.

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Steph is one of those moms where you ask yourself… how the heck does she do it all?! She is a woman of many hats and does it with grace. She’s a mother of 3 boys, wife of a US Marine, chef, water polo coach, aspiring real estate agent, and activist. This episode dives into what it’s like to be a military wife and the experience of many months-long deployments. What is it like for partners to spend so much time apart? Coming together is also a struggle. Steph is open about the mental woes and how they advocated for healing themselves and their relationship.

This pod also covers the influx of out of California moves. Many people talk about it, Steph and her family actually did it. She talks about why they moved to Texas and the freedom to choose how to raise a family in a sea of many different beliefs. They talk about some polarizing topics like vaccines and the discussion of sex education and the gender binary in schools.

At Real Mother Fuckers, we aim to share all perspectives. Listen with an open mind. Find healthy ways to support each other even if you disagree on ideals and beliefs. 

P.S. This episode is a reminder to vote locally, not just in the national election.

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Steph and Vanessa became moms in their 30s, well into adulthood, and that shit was hard enough. What is it like to be a mom as a teenager?

Stephanie Martinez shares her story about being pregnant her senior year of high school, in 2000. She reveals how her parents reacted to the news, how she fought for her sense of normalcy to finish out her high school career, and what it was like to raise her son largely without the father. 

She has special words for teen moms who might feel scared or lost. She also gives guidance on how parents of teens going through pregnancy can support their children. 

Fun fact: Stephanie has always been a sweet and loved person by many. Proof: she was voted by her classmates as queen of winter formal court, 5 months pregnant! 

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Our vulvas, vaginas, labias, coochies, yonis – whatever you call it – need love, too. Many of us spend a solid amount of time taking care of our faces and hair. We exercise our bodies, moisturize our skin. Have you ever thought about giving your privates devoted self-care? 

This isn’t about self-pleasure (if that’s what you’re looking for, listen to Lola + sex, part 1 + 2). This pod is about taking care down there. The ladies talk about steaming, pubic hair and grooming, massage and pussy butter, pH and the mystery bleached underwear phenomenon, probiotics, and COCKPOTS. You will have to listen to find out what the last one means.

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“It’s not a fight. It’s a puzzle.”

Steph and Vanessa love it when someone gives them an entirely new perspective on a topic. Jessica Richer did just that. 

Jessica joined the pod to talk about competing as a cage fighter, owning a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu gym, and being a mom of 2. Mixed martial arts (MMA) is, no doubt, a physical feat. Jessica reminds us that size and strength are a factor but this sport is truly a battle of technique and problem solving. She has a beautiful approach to life’s situations, many of which she learned at the gym or on the mat. 

Also, Jessica is a poet, does she even know it?! She is full of wonderful thoughts and messages. Steph was loving this convo and eagerly wrote down many of her wisdoms and quotes.  

Listen until the end to hear who inspires her. The answer will punch you in the gut, figuratively, of course. 

For shits and giggles, who wants to play a drinking game? Take a shot (of tea!) every time Vanessa says “kick ass” in this pod.

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This one is a mixed bag so come and join Steph and Vanessa as they sort through it all. Veronica is an independent smart mama, and career woman with a storied life. 

The gals cover a lot of different topics so be sure to listen to each chapter. First, she’s a mother who conceived her baby in a very unconventional way. Plus, she has a crazy working while breastfeeding and pumping story. Second, she’s an Assistant District Attorney in Tomkins county, which is in Upstate New York. She deals with some of the most scary and heartbreaking cases, specializing in rape and child abuse. Understand what it’s like to seek justice and to be a mom through this demanding career. For all the moms out there with emotionally tolling jobs, how do you not take work home with you?! We salute your bravery.

Lastly, Veronica talks about being sober. Now 11 months sober, it’s been a journey, especially as a lawyer with an incredibly stressful job. According to a study published in the New York Times, 1 in 3 practicing lawyers are problem drinkers. 

For all the moms out there celebrating their sobriety, WOOOO! For the moms exploring sobriety or cutting back, we support you! 

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This week’s guest holds a position in a demanding, selfless, and courageous profession where some days all she does is put out fires. This sounds a lot like being a mother, doesn’t it?!

She is a mom AND she literally fights fires for her job. Kelley Delotch is one of less than 5 percent of female career firefighters in the US. Living in California, a fire state, you can imagine Kelley’s schedule is crazy. Now, let’s imagine it with 3 kids and a husband who was also a firefighter. 

Listen to her talk about the realities of the job and how she does it. Hint: she says, “attitude is everything.” Hear how she got into this field, the mental and physical stamina involved, and how she deals with the highs and lows.

We released this episode on 9/11 as we think about the firefighters and first responders who bravely chose their careers to help their communities when under fire, under attack, and simply when they needed help. 

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Let’s bring up the next generation of female firefighters. Kelley wishes she had a program like this around when she was younger. Girls Empowerment Camp is a free 2-day camp open to teens ages 14-18. GEC introduces them to the fire service and provides campers with a realistic, hands-on overview of firefighting and exposure to all aspects of public safety career opportunities in the fire service. Additionally, the program empowers campers with life skills and professional guidance that encourages them to pursue a career in public safety. 

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"The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing." Socrates

Listen up, Real Mother Fuckers. Its OK to not know everything. In fact, it's cool if you don't know much. When Steph and Vanessa started this podcast, they didn't know what they didn't know and look, they're still standing! Or... technically, sitting on a brown couch. But they're here to tell you what they've learned from starting a podcast. It's been 4 months since they aired their first episode. Find out what they've discovered about themselves, their guests, and each other.

They also answer the 3 questions they ask their guests.

1. What's one thing in your purse and what does it say about you?

2. What or who inspires you?

3. When did you f*uck up as a mom and what did you learn from it?

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We love a love story. This one comes from Melissa Staricka, who was fostered and adopted as a baby. We often hear about sad and tragic stories about a failed foster system, about how it’s incredibly hard for parents to adopt, or how many children never get placed in a safe home. Yes, these do happen, unfortunately. But you can find trust in the good — there are positive foster and adoption stories.

Melissa shares her experience being fostered then adopted, how she found out she was adopted, and what it was like to learn more about her birth parents as she grew older and became a mother. 

Melissa is a ray of light and Steph and Vanessa are honored to hear her beautiful childhood and how it has shaped who she’s become as a mother, a sister, a wife, and a business owner.

Melissa Staricka is the owner of Avo Aesthetics and Med Spa. She is a Board-Certified Nurse Practitioner. She obtained her undergraduate degree from Loma Linda University, followed by her Master's degree from the University of Washington. Her medical knowledge and experience include emergency room, urgent care, family practice, dermatology, and aesthetics. 

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Victims of human trafficking are often left in the dark, voiceless, and completely unseen by society. Vanessa and Steph shed light on the topic by sharing the story of a sex trafficking survivor. She has entrusted them with telling her story for the very first time on this podcast. Listen with an open heart and an open mind. For the safety of their guest, she will remain anonymous and this episode is audio only. 

Trigger warnings: this episode includes detailed discussion of sexual abuse, self-harm, violence, eating disorders.

Your co-hosts take this topic seriously and continue to research human trafficking. In their findings, they realize human trafficking has many stories and many experiences. It is why the movie The Sound of Freedom is polarizing. Hear what their guest thinks of the movie and why human trafficking needs more awareness.

Get help or report a tip

National Human Trafficking Hotline

Call: 1-888-373-7888, TTY: 711

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Department Defense General Inspector Hotline

1-800-424-9098

Statistics, myths, facts on human trafficking from Polaris, the largest known dataset on human trafficking in the US

• “It can happen to anyone,” and “it’s happening in your backyard,” are common in the anti-human trafficking field. Technically, they are true: Anyone can be trafficked, in any community, just as anyone can be the victim of any kind of crime. But the real story is that while it can happen to anyone available evidence suggests that people of color and LGBTQ+ people are more likely to be trafficked than other demographic groups. That’s not a coincidence. Generational trauma, historic oppression, discrimination and other societal factors and inequities create community-wide vulnerabilities. Traffickers recognize and take advantage of people who are vulnerable in certain ways.

• Worldwide, experts believe there are more situations of labor trafficking than of sex trafficking, but there is much wider awareness of sex trafficking in the U.S. than of labor trafficking.

11 facts about human trafficking

Slavery is everywhere

• Researchers estimate that 40 million are enslaved worldwide, generating $150 billion each year in illicit profits for traffickers.

• Labor Slavery. About 50 percent (21 million) toil in forced labor slavery in industries where manual labor is needed—such as farming, ranching, logging, mining, fishing, and brick making—and in service industries working as dish washers, janitors, gardeners, and maids.

• Sex Slavery. About 12.5 percent (4 million) are trapped in forced prostitution sex slavery.

• Forced Marriage Slavery. About 37.5 percent (15 million) are trapped in forced marriages.

• Child Slavery. About 25 percent of today’s slaves are children.

MORE RESOURCES

Domestic Violence: National Domestic Violence Hotline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Sexual Abuse: Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

Dating Violence: National Dating Abuse Helpline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-866-331-9474

Runaway and Homeless Youth: National Runaway Safeline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)

Missing Children and Child Pornography: National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678)

According to the CDC, as of 2023, around 1 in 36 children in the U.S. has been diagnosed with autism. 

This week, Vanessa and Stephanie learn about autism from Luana Barajas, a mother of 3, middle school teacher, and author. Your co-hosts admittedly did not know very much about autism so they were grateful to learn more about it with an open heart and mind. They learn about masking, stimming, and how the autism spectrum is not linear.

The conversation is also an important lesson on advocating for yourself and your kids, even when the world is telling you otherwise. Luana shares how she listened to her gut and how it changed the trajectory of her relationship with her family and herself. Those mom instincts are real, people! 

Stay through the end because Luana tells us about her new book, called V! It’s a sexy novel about vampires, featuring BIPOC characters, inclusive language, and from a neurodivergent POV.

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V has already received meaningful reviews: “I love this book so much! I find it relatable, and it’s really an interesting read. I would highly recommend this book to my friends and family-and the neurodivergent community!” -Jenna

RESOURCES ON AUTISM

Neuroclastic: Content about autism by autistic and neurodivergent people. A resource for autistic adults, parents of autistic children, educators, and physicians.

Understand more about autism by following others who are autistic or have autism

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Lola is back, bitches. Hang out with the ladies to talk about dom vs. sub roles, no whips needed. Thanks to pop culture, Steph and Vanessa envisioned dom/sub talk to be all about leather gear, tying each other up and kink but, thanks to Lola, she expands our minds beyond this discussion. Let’s talk about sex in more realistic ways, how our roles in the home also affect our roles in our sexual relationship. Knowing how we interact in our daily life can also spice things up in the bedroom.

They also get juicy with talking about how women can explore and get to know themselves more deeply. They get into specifics about sex toys that are more geared toward knowing ourselves. Vibrators can be nice but have you heard of slow pleasure tools? Lola explains ways we can better know our female bodies with the help of some beautiful tools. 

Lastly, who has seen the Barbie movie? Lola’s take on the story opened up our minds about the patriarchy and matriarchy. This is a podcast for women and mothers AND we invite men to listen! We love our men, our fathers, our uncles, our grandfathers, our brothers, and our sons. We do believe that men and women are on this earth for a reason. Our goal in this podcast is to know ourselves as women more and, when we do this, we can improve our relationships with the many meaningful men in our lives. 

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BOOKS MENTIONED

The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future

Strangers to Soulmates: A poetic journey for lovers

Girls on the Edge

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For complex, uncomfortable and serious topics, awareness is often the first step to understanding and healing. This is why we started this podcast. 

Join Steph and Vanessa’s conversation with Diana (Di) Bamford about her experience with Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs), including severe postpartum depression, anxiety, PTSD, and OCD. Inspired by her personal struggles, Di made it her mission to raise awareness about PMADs and destigmatize maternal mental health. 

Other topics discussed in this episode: unnecessary medical interventions, birth trauma, 3rd degree tears, and much more.

Did you know perinatal depression affects 1 in 7 moms and 1 in 10 dads or partners? It can begin during pregnancy, immediately postpartum or up 2 years postpartum.

Let's support our mom tribes and have a deeper understanding of maternal mental health because it affects more of us than we think.

TRIGGER WARNING: detailed discussion of postpartum mood disorders

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RESOURCES FOR MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH/PMADs

Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/

Postpartum Health Alliance: https://postpartumhealthalliance.org/

Journey of the Lotus: https://thejourneyofthelotus.com/ 

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Join Vanessa and Steph as they have an honest chat with Suzy Yatim Aslam, who wrote the book Post Pardon Me. For those moms on the go, give it a listen on Audible and hear Suzy’s wonderful storytelling voice!

What Suzy has to share is real, raw, and an honest take on what can go on in a new mother’s mind postpartum. Her book is written in the form of journal entries, using candid language and dark humor to illustrate her struggle with postpartum depression and anxiety. Each new mother’s journey is different, let’s listen and have an open mind to an experience that may not be our own. 

A note from Suzy, which you can also find when you purchase her book here. “I wrote Post Pardon Me not to offer medical advice but to hold the hand of mothers who struggle with the dark thoughts that can accompany postpartum depression and anxiety. I love laughter. It really is the best medicine. (Sorry real doctors.) Laughter may not make the sadness go away forever but it can be the reprieve we need to make it through dark moments. A good comedian or a funny book is just the ticket sometimes. So that's what my book is; a cheeky, slightly irreverent dark comedy that you read and think "Ah! That's how I feel too!" And you'll know; you'll know that you're not alone.”

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Did you know the preferred age to take children on vacation in the U.S. is between the age 6 and 9? Taking your toddler or teen on the vacation you spotted on Instagram may not have the outcome you were expecting. Or maybe it’s about having realistic expectations. 

When you go on vacation with kids, do you need a vacation from your vacation? We see you, we feel you, and we’ve got you. In this episode Vanessa and Steph step into a time machine and tell you all their good and horrible vacation stories. As you create the itinerary for your next trip, keep their f*ck ups and lessons in mind.

Stay for Just the Tip to get amazing tips from seasoned traveling parents. Steph’s friends Caitlin and Brandon have 3 kids and their eldest has been to 30+ countries. Take a look at their IG and website to be in awe of the places they’ve been to – and be thankful you did not endure their toddler on a flight not sleeping for almost 24 hours. 

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Lola L'Amour joined Steph and Vanessa to chat about the thing that’s often on our minds but we don’t talk about enough. Sex! Have you asked your friend lately, “how’s your sex life?” You might be surprised with how initiating this conversation with your femme friends can turn out to be a great topic. 

Lola discusses ways to improve or change your sex life. Tools and toys? Optional. A better sexual relationship with yourself? Mandatory.

This episode will open your eyes, heart and bodies to new beautiful ways to look at your relationship with your sexuality.

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Lola L'Amour says YES to life, love, and connection. She is a ceremonialist, a healer, and a seer. Her work plays at the intersection between sacred sexuality and spatial design… helping clients around the world make space for true love; within themselves, inside their homes, and in their relationships. She’s been married to her partner Tigre for over 10 years and together they share two beautiful children. When Lola is not facilitating healing work or reimagining sacred spaces, you’ll find her on her yoga mat, off on an adventure, out on a hike, or playing with her family in the mountains above San Diego. She can be found online at TheDesignDomme.com

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Remember when Vanessa and Steph talked about their birth stories in "What the birth?" This sparked their interest in talking to experts in the labor and delivery field. They speak with the smart, funny, and very candid Hilary Erickson, a.k.a. The Pregnancy Nurse⁠®. The ladies talk about how to create your hospital birth plan, what to do and what not to do while in the hospital, and just some crazy little stories she's experienced as a nurse for the past 25+ years.

Hilary teaches families how to simplify the labor room, their homes, and their families through online courses, podcasts, writing, video, and other content. Hilary has been a nurse since 1997 and has 20 years of labor and delivery experience. Pulling Curls was started in 2005 and Hilary is consistently found to be an honest OG leader in the "blogging" community. She lives in the Phoenix area with her husband and 3 children (some of whom are adults now).  

Pulling Curls®

The Online Prenatal Class for Couples

The Organized Home 

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This week, guest Winter Redd helps listeners better understand stillborn and infant loss from her own story. Winter’s son, Brannan was stillborn at 38 weeks. She and her husband, Lee, started a podcast called Still Apart of Us. Many loss parents want to share their stories. Through their podcast, Winter and Lee give them a way to safely share their experiences to the world.

Winter chats with Vanessa and Steph about Brannan’s birth story and what happened for her and the rest of her family afterward. She reminds us that mothers still go through postpartum, fathers also grieve, and how to support parents in bereavement.

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Also known as transitional objects, security blankets can be an important emotional support for children, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. As a kid, did you have a security blanket, a lovey, or something that gave you comfort? Do your kids have one? Are there items that are emotional support for you now as an adult?

Vanessa and Steph divulge their security “blankets.” We hope this episode takes you down memory lane and that you can cherish the items that made you feel safe. 

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Shanna's daughter received a heart transplant at the age of 3 and her husband, a professional BMX champion, suffered a heart attack and stroke two years later. Like riding a vert ramp, the Tabron family has experienced the ups and downs.

Hear Shanna’s story about how she trusted her mama instincts and what was going on in her mind – and heart – as life threw more obstacles at her. This interview showcases her resilience and wisdom.

• See their sweet family in this interview with People magazine with Make-a-Wish. 

• Follow Simon as he openly shares his journey with aphasia and, as he puts it, a “heart attack/coma/strokes/madness."

Thank you, Shanna, for being our first guest interview!

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What is a boundary? It’s a force field meant to protect you and your loved ones - physically, mentally, emotionally. 

Vanessa and Steph talk about their many boundaries. They talk about sleep, work, the social media trap, coping with depression, and the teacher/parent/student dynamic. Hear a juicy story about when Vanessa bust out her taser gun! They even talk about how their animals understand their boundaries, thanks to Steph’s wonderful dog trainer Emily Haley, The Dog Listener!

Stick around for Just The Tip. We’ll give you a hint. It’s not about YOLO or FOMO and it gives you the permission to do whatever you damn well feel like, if it serves you well. 

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What. the. birth.

We all have unique and different birth stories. Heck, each one of Vanessa and Steph’s pregnancies were polar opposite experiences in many ways. Whether you had your baby in a bathtub, on a hospital bed, in the car on the way to a birthing center, your story can be helpful for another mom as she decides on her birth plan. Vanessa spoke to 30 moms on their experiences before her first baby joined the world. Steph, on the other hand, aimed to read a book while working full time and, well, let’s say she “tried” and it was a good coaster for her coffee table.

They also talk about making scary medical decisions while pregnant, unsuccessful breathing techniques, cooking while in labor, and eating placenta.

Whatever you decide to do is the right one. Do your research. Talk to doctors, doulas, midwives, and other experts. Especially, talk to other moms and celebrate their births, even if it’s completely different from your plan or your story.

Some references!

The Business of Being Born documentary

HypnoBirthing: The Mongan Method: A natural approach to a safe, easier, more comfortable birthing

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Vanessa and Steph talk about working, before and during motherhood. Have some tea while they spill the tea on... pumping milk-filled boobs in public places, changing careers, working crazy hours, and feelings of value and worth.

A 2022 report by the US Bureau of Labor Statistics found that the percentage of women participating in the workforce (working or looking for work) has fallen to 56.2 percent, which was the lowest rate since 1987. Many socio-economic factors and societal issues may be reasons for the shift, such as childcare costs, mental health, and changing mindset on work.

The ladies know every mom's path in work, whether that's dedicating all her time to family and/or working elsewhere, is valuable. However, they do believe in keeping something for yourself. Every mom needs to have something special to her, whether that's a career or a hobby or giving back to the community, or you fill in the blank!

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This one is deep. Vanessa and Steph explore their rich family histories, how they were parented, and their approach to mothering from what they learned from their parents. Both come from immigrant households but have very different family stories. They explore intergenerational trauma and what they learned from their childhood.

This episode features a few surprise guests: Steph’s cat, Nala, and Vanessa’s tears (she doesn’t usually cry, people!)

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Becoming a mom can feel like an identity crisis. Vanessa and Steph get real about the struggles with who they were before becoming moms and their evolving view of their identities after having babies and raising little humans. They talk about what they “should have” felt as new moms vs. their realities. It ain’t easy, says everyone! But you know what? You don’t understand the depth of mothering until you’re swimming in 1-hour increments of sleep and infant puke. 

They talk about their multiple mom identities: working mom, stay-at-home mom, tired mom, depressed mom, bad mom, you-can-fill-in-the-blank mom.

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- Journals they recommend: 5 Minute Journal, a journal with a lock on it, learn about morning pages in The Artist’s Way

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Vanessa and Steph get real about sex, changing body parts after baby, sex after baby, pooping while giving birth, and lots more. Vanessa talks about her hot sex life while Steph reminds us to touch our partners everyday because sometimes couples forget this in the midst of the parenting chaos.

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Being a mom can feel isolating even though you’re always surrounded by little humans, or partners, or animals, and piles of laundry. It’s why moms need friends! Steph and Vanessa explore all the different types of friendships, especially mom friends. They explore good friends, bleh friends, and what they look for in friendships. 

They discuss the 18 different types of friends, a fun list of friendships written by Emma Gannon. Steph recently wrote about 24 types of mom friends in her newsletter, go check it out!

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How many times have you put too much on your plate? Are you guilty of the rushy-rushy crime? Steph talks about how a class pizza party was too dang much while Vanessa gives you permission to take a pause and slow the F down. They also reveal their truths about summer camps, activities outside the home, saying no to playdates and birthday parties.

Vanessa talks about this article and a great resource from Amy Slenker-Smith on overscheduling.

P.S. If you watch the video, WHERE IS STEPH?!

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New podcast, who dis? Vanessa Anderson and Stephanie Cooley are friends, moms and co-hosts of the Real Mother Fuckers. Will you join them for tea talk? You’ll learn a heck of a lot more about them in each episode but you can get a sneak peek of who these ladies are here. 

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Hi mamas! We are working on a podcast about motherhood. Will you come hang out? We will release our first episodes on Mother's Day. Stay tuned!