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Start / Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy
Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy
Finding You Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving individuals, parents, couples, and families.
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Finding You Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving individuals, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]
The podcast Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy is created by Dr. Brad Reedy. The podcast and the artwork on this page are embedded on this page using the public podcast feed (RSS).
Avsnitt
The Power of Our Contexts - Ep 662
25 april 2025 |
61 min
#MentalHealthMatters #HealthyRelationships #ParentingSupport #AddictionRecovery #EmotionalWellness #MindfulParenting #TraumaInformed #SelfCareJourney #RelationshipAdvice #PsychologicalSafety #HealingJourney #FamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #OvercomingAnxiety #BreakTheStigma #PersonalGrowth #MindBodyConnection #WellnessWarrior #LifeCoaching #ResilienceBuilding
Why is “Small-t” Trauma So Insidious. (A.M.A.) – Ep 661
22 april 2025 |
38 min
In this Ask Me Anything episode, Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on topics ranging from how we communicate our energy to our children, making the unconscious – conscious, debunking the cause and effect thinking, and how small-t trauma is insidious. He answers a question on shadow work. And he talks about how to handle the mistakes we have made as parents when our children remain angry.
Finding Peace in Uncertain Times - Ep 660
16 april 2025 |
61 min
In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses how so many clients are coming to therapy with great worries and distress due to the tumultuous events in the world. He suggests that we need to become more discerning with the news we consume. He proposes that peace is found by focusing on what we can control. He talks about the Buddhist concepts of impermanence, radical acceptance, and mindfulness.
Religious Trauma – Ep 658
11 april 2025 |
58 min
In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses religious trauma and what kinds of family systems are at the greatest risk. He distinguishes religion from moral development and spiritual development. He talks about how families with dogmatic, strict-father-styles use religion to control, intimidate, and mold their children. He discusses how religion can be used as a defense against the experience of God and how religion can prevent spiritual development. He discusses the function of religion within a spiritual life. He talks about how many clients come to therapy with a history of religious trauma.
An Interview with Noah Rasheta (Secular Buddhism Podcast Host) - Ep 659
9 april 2025 |
51 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Noah Rasheta, host of the Secular Buddhism Podcast. Noah is a philosopher, author, and host of a podcast on Secular Buddhism, where he shares Buddhist teachings & concepts for everyday life. He shares practical, accessible skills and concepts to help people incorporate Buddhist teachings into their life in an attempt to reduce unnecessary suffering. In this episode, Noah discusses his favorite principles from Buddhism and how we can think about enlightenment. He shares his personal journey and provides listeners an overview of the goals and objectives of the practice of Buddhism.
How Can I Learn to Be More Authentic? (A.M.A.) – Ep 656
1 april 2025 |
38 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions on topics from the audience. He discusses what to do when our adult children seem to be going off course. He talks about how we can learn to be our most authentic self and how to protect that journey by the company we keep.
An Interview with Ian Morgan Cron (Enneagram Expert) - Ep 657
1 april 2025 |
69 min
In this episode I am so pleased to welcome Ian Morgan Cron to the podcast. While he wears many hats, as he shares in this episode, the fundamental nature of his work is a spiritual one. Ian is Bestselling Author, Enneagram Expert, Priest, and the host of the Typology Podcast. After many years in recovery and in the wake of a relapse, he released his most recent book, The Fix. In it, he reveals how the twelve wteps can be key for anyone who wants to take their life back.
Richard Rohr says about his newest book, “Ian Cron’s generous and hard-earned wisdom reveals that the Twelve Steps are not just for alcoholics and addicts, but a path to a profound transformation of Self for everyone.” In the this interview we cover a wide variety of topics including God and family, making an amends, how his various roles overlap and complement each other, his experience with shame (in real-time), and how he leans into his personal story to inform his work and hopefully make himself useful to the people he loves and serves.
Communication and Connection – Ep 655
29 mars 2025 |
73 min
Dr. Reedy explains communication theory and the deeper psychological principles required for connection. He warns against using communication skills to change others and emphasizes that such skills can improve self-awareness first. They can also help us to remember to own our feelings (they are ours). He talks about listening and how it requires a significant amount of psychic energy.
Coping with Uncertainty - Ep 654
24 mars 2025 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how humans cope with the anxiety of uncertainty and ambiguity. He explains that if we seek for security and absolute answers, we move towards mental illness. But if we can embrace the mystery of this life, we become more human and in that lies our resiliency.
Parenting is Impossible (Q&A) - Ep 653
18 mars 2025 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting and relationships. He talks about the difference between caring and wanting someone to know you care. He explores the nuances of loving and caring for yourself and loving and caring for your partner.
Dealing with Resistance - Ep 652
10 mars 2025 |
71 min
Dr. Reedy explains the origins and function of resistance and defensiveness. He talks about how we can make it worse as parents, therapists, and spouses.
Experiential Therapies - Ep 651
4 mars 2025 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy describes various forms of experiential therapy, including psychodrama - the primary type of therapy used in Finding You Programs’ Intensives. He explains why they work on the unconscious aspects of the psyche, and how healing can be accelerated with an experiential approach. He explains how experiential therapy bypasses resistance. He also explains how any therapy can be reparative and a “re-experiencing” of ourselves.
Shadow Work - Ep 650
25 februari 2025 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Jung's concept of the Shadow, how to recognize it, and how to integrate it. He explains how this brings peace and freedom and lays the foundation for greater intimacy.
Why Your Therapist Needs Therapy - Ep 649
19 februari 2025 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how therapists and their clients can benefit from the therapist goin to therapy. He empowers clients to ask their therapists about their participation in therapy. He also explains the parallels between the client’s and the therapist’s resistance to therapy are mirror images of each other.
Fundamental Principles in Parenting & Marriage (Q&A) - Ep 648
14 februari 2025 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship principles that transcend through all relationships. He talks about how becoming who you are forms the basis for greater connection to others. He addresses the line between “can’t” and “won’t” when it comes to our children.
Analysis-Informed Psychotherapy - Ep 647
12 februari 2025 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Finding You’s method of therapy. Informed by psychoanalysis, this therapy is a way of being with people in such a fundamentally different way that the clients re-experiences themselves. He suggests that safety is the treatment and as the therapist is able to hold the client in patience, compassion, and non-judgment, the client is able to explore their untold stories.
Individual vs. Couples Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 646
7 februari 2025 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy discusses what to look for in a therapist. He also explores the pros and cons of individual work vs family work in therapy. He discusses the genetics and the trauma of our issues. He answers a question on making amends to our family members.
Finding Compassion - Ep 645
5 februari 2025 |
55 min
Finding Compassion - Ep 645 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Grief and Loss - Ep 644
22 januari 2025 |
73 min
Dr. Reedy discusses explains complicated and complex grief in the wake of the LA fires. He talks about how no two people are grieving the same thing in the same way. He talks about how when others can’t sit with us in our pain, we feel shameful and inadequate. Conversely, when people can hold our feelings, we can learn to feel and sit with them, and they move through us. He explains that our relationship to grief is our relationship to life. And the pain of our lives doesn’t shrink, we get larger and more capable of holding it.
Humility and Humiliation: Search for the Real Self - Ep 643
16 januari 2025 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how we may feel humiliated when the distance between the false self and real self is exposed. Most often, the real self is exposed when we encounter difficulties or failures. He explains that the narcissistic wound, the wound of not being seen, of not having our whole self (in contrast to the “good” self) is rarely addressed without failures and humiliation. He explain that defenses don’t feel like defenses from the inside – they feel like, “they don’t understand me.”
Keys to Intimacy in Romantic Relationships - Ep 642
9 januari 2025 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges and keys to creating intimacy. He explores how, when we don’t own our feelings, our histories, or our issues, we see problems "out there" – specifically in our partners. He explains how sharing your feelings are only one part of intimacy. Listening, with compassion and non-judgment is often the real challenge that prevents intimacy in couples.
Goals: New Year, Know Me - Ep 641
31 december 2024 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy discusses goals and how our goals change as we change. He discussed the difference between first order change (behavior, skills, tools) vs. second order change (a fundamentally different way of seeing the world and relating to it). He suggests that we ask different questions, bigger questions, to get unstuck from old patterns. The great task is to look critically into our programming and challenge the answers to the largest questions in life.
The Drama of the Gifted Child (Book Review) - Ep 640
20 december 2024 |
74 min
Dr. Reedy reviews Alice Miller’s, "The Drama of the Gifted Child." He touts this book as the most important book written on the subject of the parent-child dynamic. Miller explains how a child will give up who they are to meet the parent’s needs. The call is to do the deep work necessary to “cut the tragic link between admiration and love.”
The Obnoxious Stage of Setting Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 639
14 december 2024 |
41 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries in relationships where that hasn’t been the practice. He explains that we will get better as we go. He explains that the ability to listen to a feeling or a boundary says more about the receiver than it does about the person sharing.
Self-Care: A Gift to the Self - Ep 638
12 december 2024 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy discusses boundaries and self-care and how guilt, shame, and fear must be dealt with in order to love yourself. He explains how boundaries are beyond right and wrong. He explains how love of self is the foundation for loving everyone else.
Regression: When and Why it Happens - Ep 637
9 december 2024 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.
Amends, Apologies, and Forgiveness - Ep 636
28 november 2024 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the characteristics of an authentic apology. He explains the difference between an apology and an amends. He explains that forgiveness is not a future but something we can do when we can do it - we do it when we can so that we can feel better.
Home for the Holidays - Ep 635
19 november 2024 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy explores the pressures and dilemmas that many people grapple with over the holidays. He talks about why we feel obligated to show up to our old context is certain ways. He talks about observing ourselves when we visit family and how to develop a practice of self-compassion for our regression.
Why NOT to Practice Gratitude - Ep 634
14 november 2024 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the risk of practicing gratitude and proposes that a more effective route might be by learning to feel all our feelings. He explains toxic positivity, gaslighting and spiritual bypass. He talks about Thanksgiving and the pressure to feel a certain way and what to do about that.
Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633
13 november 2024 |
74 min
Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 by Dr. Brad Reedy
The Relationship with Yourself First (Q&A) - Ep 632
4 november 2024 |
49 min
Dr. Reedy discusses why personal work is the basis for all our relationship issues and challenges. He takes live questions from the audience on psychedelics, religion, children using marijuana, and how to respond to these issues.
Narcissism & the Narcissistic Wound - Ep 631
30 oktober 2024 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy explains the etiology of narcissism and how we all have some of it. He defines the narcissistic wound as the wound of not being seen. He debunks many ideas taught today in pop-psychology. He makes a plea to stop responding to the diagnosis intuitively, but with a deeper understanding we can help others and take-in less of the pain the narcissist tries to project on or into us.
Projections and Mental Health - Ep 630
23 oktober 2024 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy explores the process of projection, starting with splitting-off the parts of ourselves we were told were unacceptable and relegating them to the unconscious – the shadow. He talks about how we want the problem to be out there, in the other. He talks about othering when we don’t own our own feelings of fear, insecurity, or overwhelm.
The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629
18 oktober 2024 |
59 min
The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Being Right or Good vs. Being a Self - Ep 628
9 oktober 2024 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between trying to be right or good and being yourself. He discusses how the things we have been taught to fear often hold great wisdom or energy. He explains that if we are operating with the need to be good, driven by ego, we are incapable of love. He explains that when we come to terms with who we are, through self-compassion (by time spent with someone who sees us and doesn’t judge us), we are free to love and hold space for others and their feelings.
Holding Boundaries While Keeping Connection (Q&A) - Ep 627
4 oktober 2024 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses how to hold boundaries without sacrificing the relationship. He discusses how to honor your feelings of betrayal while staying in relationship to the other. He explains the benefit of group work at Finding You Intensives.
Finding You Therapy Programs - Ep 626
2 oktober 2024 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy announces his new project, Finding You Therapy Programs. Providing Therapy Intensives, Coaching, and On-line Workshops for parents, couples, and therapists, Brad explains the underlying philosophy of Finding You. Based in Attachment Theory, he explains how the goal is to draw closer to your authentic self. From here, relationships and difficult life decisions come into focus; anxiety is replaced with hope and empowerment.
The Hero’s Journey - Ep 625
25 september 2024 |
50 min
In his last broadcast representing Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Reedy shares both his personal connection to the hero’s journey as well as how understanding stories, art, music, literature, and nature draw us back to the one idea that the purpose of life is your life. The goal in Dr. Reedy’s therapy is to become who you are, to become your authentic self. Dr. Reedy says goodbye and takes time to read as live participants share their heroic stories in the chat. And he says goodbye with the invitation to join him on the next journey, Finding You Therapy Programs.
Grief and Loss - Ep 624
18 september 2024 |
40 min
Grief and Loss - Ep 624 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Healthy Family Dynamics - Ep 623
5 september 2024 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the foundations of healthy family dynamics. He talks about how the identified patient becomes the scapegoat for other family members’ undone work.
Attachment and Therapy - Ep 622
25 augusti 2024 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy discusses attachment based therapy and how repairs to our attachment wounding can be made through the relationship with the therapist.
Rethinking Divorce: An Interview with Morgan Foster - Ep 621
22 augusti 2024 |
83 min
Morgan Foster is not only a seasoned divorce attorney with more than 20 years of experience, but she’s also the visionary founder of The Pivot Process—a groundbreaking approach that transforms the often painful process of divorce into an opportunity for growth, healing, and new beginnings.
Morgan has spent a decade handling complex divorce and custody cases. She has seen firsthand the toll that traditional divorce can take on families. This inspired her to create The Pivot Process, a holistic and empowering method that helps individuals and families navigate the emotional, financial, and relational challenges of divorce with dignity and clarity.
Nature Based Therapy - Ep 620
12 augusti 2024 |
62 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Nature-Based Therapy. He explains boundaries and how such an intervention can trigger feelings of betrayal. He talks about grit, growth mindset, the comfort crisis and why therapy set in nature can be so powerful.
The Un-Lived Life of a Parent (Q&A) - Ep 619
5 augusti 2024 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the live audience on parental self-care, boundaries, and the guilt that comes as we heal and progress.
Walking Through Shame & Guilt - Ep 618
26 juli 2024 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy discusses shame and guilt and how they work in our lives. He suggests that becoming healthier, making progress, and healing will inevitably require that we confront our guilt. He also makes it clear that guilt (and shame) are synonymous with morality.
Parental Narcissism (Q&A) - Ep 617
22 juli 2024 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy discusses narcissism, the narcissistic wound, what distinguishes the diagnosis vs. traits, and how narcissism can be treated effectively.
Trauma and Codependency - Ep 616
10 juli 2024 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy explores the definition and origins of Codependency. He explains that the root of codependency is the way parents and other big people talk to and respond to the child. Codependency is a modern term that encompasses anxious attachment styles. He explains that codependency is NOT the cause of addiction in another but rather is at the core of all addictions. He teaches that healing codependency does not cure another person’s addiction but only resolves the codependency in the individual who is healing.
Be Curious About a Child’s Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 615
3 juli 2024 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on the how to respond to a child that won’t open up and when it is okay to take a vacation from the work in therapy.
Aftercare and Transitions - Ep 614
28 juni 2024 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how aftercare is the key to a successful treatment intervention. He also talks about the pitfalls and vulnerabilities we encounter during any transition.
Mindfulness and Psychotherapy - Ep 613
22 juni 2024 |
54 min
Largely drawing from the book with the same name by Thich Nhat Hanh, Dr. Reedy explains mindfulness as a boarder idea than what people think of when considering mindfulness. He explains how therapy is a “talking mindfulness” practice. He explains several tenants on Buddhism including impermanence, non-duality, inter-being, and radical acceptance. He also clarifies that what Buddhists refer to as the concept of “non-attachment” is synonymous with the characteristic in psychology associated with a secure attachment.
Attachment Theory in Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 612
20 juni 2024 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how when we accept ourselves and are able to see who we are, we are able to move forward. Conversely, thinking of mental health in terms of being completely free of our issues is a breeding ground for denial. He talks about how guilt and shame are at the crux of so many of our dilemmas. He explains attachment theory and how it is thought of in the therapeutic relationship. He explains how we listen when we can and it is absolutely okay to set a boundary and remove ourselves from the conversation when we can’t listen to others.
Technology Addiction - Ep 611
14 juni 2024 |
71 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the new epidemic in addiction: technology addiction. He covers some of the science behind game and technology design and how developers are using the most up-to-date and sophisticated science to hook their users. He explains how these designs, focused on dopamine and need for an individual’s sense of wellbeing, prey upon the chemical reaction when we experience a connection to others. He explains how nature-based therapy and mindfulness and starting early are keys in our fight against the ubiquitous issue of addiction to technology.
Loving All of You: An Interview with Esin Pinarli - Ep 610
12 juni 2024 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Esin Pinarli to the podcast, Esin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and a Master’s Level Certified Addiction Professional (MCAP) specializing in IMAGO, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals, couples, and families suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, dysfunctional family system dynamics, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole.
They cover topics ranging from Internal Family Systems, the intersection between clinical work and the 12-Steps, codependency, and self-care.
Mothers and Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 609
6 juni 2024 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses the challenges when a spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy. He explores the dynamics in our culture around expectations of mothers and how guilt can be the barrier to improved mental health. And he further explains how the suicidal impulse can be a call to a higher level of consciousness.
How Children Suffer Because of Our Issues (Q&A) - Ep 608
4 juni 2024 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about why children take risks on their devices and on social media. He talks about when we take care of ourselves, we can be there for those we love. He talks about how we may need to set strong boundaries with our parents if engaging eth them reaches a certain level of toxicity.
Ego and Soul - Ep 607
29 maj 2024 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy discusses ego and soul and explains how these two ideas represent two primary driving energies. Ego, he explains, is the part of us than manages and represents the conscious mind. Defenses, the need to be right, and gatekeeping the unconscious material are its primary roles or duties. Ego is fear based and operates withing a scarcity mindset. Soul is the whole, authentic, or real self- it is our whole self. It is our wisest knowing, and it is fueled by love – love for self and others.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Co-Parenting - Ep 606
22 maj 2024 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges of co-parenting. He explains how to avoid making things worse. He emphasizes that we “stay on our side of the street” and not become overly focused on the other’s shortcomings.
Parenting Through an Attachment Lens - Ep 605
15 maj 2024 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy discusses attachment, what it takes to provide a secure attachment, and what to consider to prioritize a secure attachment over behavior or symptom management.
Love and Fear - Ep 604
1 maj 2024 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy explains how love and fear are driving forces in our unconscious, motivating much of our behavior. He explains that we need to learn to distinguish between love and fear and understand when we are taking from others and when and how we can show our love to our children and partners.
Evoke Therapy Intensives for Couples, Parents, and Families - Ep 603
25 april 2024 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Evoke’s custom private intensives for couples and families. He explains what make Evoke’s Intensive work different and how we aim to be the experts, not on your life, but on creating a process where you can discover your truth.
Evoke Intensives: What Sets Us Apart - Ep 602
17 april 2024 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy discusses what sets Evoke Therapy Intensives apart from other programs. He explains the clinical model and explains how Evoke uses attachment and the concepts of transference and counter transference.
When Apologizing Doesn’t Work (Q&A) - Ep 601
10 april 2024 |
39 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on what to do if doing your own work and apologizing to your children doesn’t make a difference.
Blocked Care: Regaining Compassion for Your Child - Ep 600
5 april 2024 |
54 min
From an article by Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, Dr. Reedy discusses what happens when the chronic stress from children struggling with mental health issues bring parents to a point of numbness, disconnection, and shame. He talks about the isolation and shame that comes when a parent loses their ability to feel warmth and love for a struggling child. Dr. Reedy talks about this dynamic in the context of attachment, parental guilt, and self-care. Full article here: https://thearchibaldproject.com/blocked-care-how-to-regain-
compassion-for-yourself-and-your-child
Is Taking Care of Yourself Selfish? (Q&A) - Ep 599
3 april 2024 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy talks takes live questions from the audience and talks about self-care in the context of the child parent dynamic. He talks about looking for a therapist that is patient, kind, and secure. He explains attachment-based therapy and the upcoming Master Class and how the medicine in therapy is the way the therapist is with the client.
Communication Theory and Skills - Ep 598
29 mars 2024 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy talks about communication skills and how “why” we share is more important than the words we use.
Helping Children Move Through Feelings (Q&A) - Ep 597
27 mars 2024 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy take live questions from the audience. He discusses how to deal with an angry, resentful child. He also talks about what can happen when one spouse doesn’t want to do their therapy work.
Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596
21 mars 2024 |
57 min
Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Modeling Change for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 595
20 mars 2024 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on the process of wilderness therapy, how to support a family member in treatment, the new book "Bad Therapy," and how to model the change you want to see in your children.
Myth, Story, and the Heroic Journey Inward - Ep 594
15 mars 2024 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how myth and stories provide a template for the heroic journey inward to discover ourselves. He uses this idea to show that our stories and out myths are invitations to look at the lost parts of ourselves so that we can heal and become who we are.
Finding Hope After Mistakes (Q&A) - Ep 593
13 mars 2024 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy answers a question about finding hope and worth after an affair. He talks about how to make a repair with a child who doesn’t want to engage anymore. He explains that our context can be internalized and the way to healing is to spend time with a patient, empathic Other.
How to Find a Therapist - Ep 592
6 mars 2024 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy talks about what to look for in a therapist. He talks about how to recognize a mature therapist who is capable of holding you with compassion and patience. He explains that "the way a therapist is with you" is the medicine. He talks about characteristics of the adequate or "good enough" therapist. He emphasizes that the therapist must first model being human since that is the task in therapy. He explains that if the therapist can hold your anger, frustration, and resistance with love, you have found a therapist worth keeping.
Let’s Talk About the “Defense” (Q&A) – Ep 591
1 mars 2024 |
46 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about defenses, where and why they happen, what it feels like when we encounter the defense in ourselves or the Other, and what healing looks like so we don’t need the protection of the defense.
The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other by James Hollis (Book Review) - Ep 590
28 februari 2024 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy provide an overview of The Eden Project by James Hollis. He explains how the early stages of romantic love are fraught with pitfalls of projection, blame, and the working out of the unconscious, unexplored parts of ourselves. He talks about the responsibility to live our own life and cease abdicating our chief responsibility – to individuate and become more whole, more conscious as the pathway to greater intimacy and love in marriage.
How We Love Those Hurting Themselves - Ep 589
23 februari 2024 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on loving our children when they are hurting themselves and on finding the right kind of therapist for ourselves.
The Teen Whisperer: An Interview with Kirsten Cobabe - Ep 588
21 februari 2024 |
37 min
The Teen Whisperer: An Interview with Kirsten Cobabe - Ep 588 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Skills and Self - Ep 587
21 februari 2024 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the value and limitations of skill-based work and therapy. He talks about how the development of the self is the foundation for deeper change and how that can be accomplished. He posits that the outcome of therapy is that we become who we are.
Owning and Dealing with Your Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 586
14 februari 2024 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses that the work isn’t always about learning to put up with more and more, but may be setting boundaries with people in your life. He explains that the primary barriers to higher enlightenment are shame and guilt. He says that the dominant cultures offers erroneous ideas on the subject of becoming and person and loving others. Dr. Reedy explains that enlightenment means that we deal with the parts of ourselves we avoid.
How Al-anon and Coda Help - Ep 585
7 februari 2024 |
72 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Al-anon, Codependency, and how the 12-Steps apply to the non-identified patient. He defines codependency and talks about its connection to attachment and the attachment wound we suffered. He goes through each of the 12 Steps and ties them back to the principles they address. He debunks the excuses people have when resisting attending meetings for themselves.
Shadow Work - Ep 584
31 januari 2024 |
73 min
Dr. Reedy discuss the shadow and how the repressed energy of our unconscious impacts our behaviors and relationships. He talks about how to recognize the shadow and how to unpack and heal so that we don’t ask our children and our partners to carry our unconscious, undone work.
Listen to What the Symptom is Saying (Q&A) - Ep 583
26 januari 2024 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on dealing with children who fight, co-parenting, and learning how to love. He explains that before we try to eradicate behaviors in our children, we learn to listen to them to hear the untold story of the child’s dilemma.
Repairing Fractures with Your Children - Ep 582
19 januari 2024 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy discusses repairing relationships in the context of attachment. He emphasizes that repair, forgiveness and reconciliation come on the terms and the timeline of the person who was hurt. He talks about the ego and how we need to let it die to mature and grow.
Parenting with Older Children (Q&A) - Ep 581
17 januari 2024 |
36 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting older children: what is different and what is the same. He talks about what boundaries sound like and how the measure of a good boundary is not in how the child or other person responds.
A New Take on Goals and Resolutions - Ep 580
12 januari 2024 |
49 min
Dr. Reedy explores the problems with setting goals and measuring our progress. He explains that goals often need to be altered, surrendered, and discarded. He gives a list of goals that relate to being and growing in contrast to goals which point towards arriving.
Good Parenting is its Own Reward - Ep 579
11 januari 2024 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members who have tried everything, and they are still not able to reach their child. He talks about the goals of healthy parenting: peace, confidence, clarity…he also explains how the goal in therapy is not to become “better,” but to become yourself.
Understanding How Human Development Leads to Compassion - Ep 578
5 januari 2024 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy explains various models of human development and how they lead to a more compassionate understanding of mental illness in our children. He explains how parents are often going through a parallel process with their children of individuation and identity development.
“My Child is Avoiding Their Work” (Q&A) - Ep 577
3 januari 2024 |
50 min
“My Child is Avoiding Their Work” (Q&A) - Ep 577 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Rebellion and the Cure - Ep 576
29 december 2023 |
78 min
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Rebellion and the Cure - Ep 576 by Dr. Brad Reedy
School Refusal – A Post Pandemic Look - Ep 575
15 december 2023 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy discusses school refusal. He considers behavioral modification 9in the context of what we know about trauma informed approaches. He encourages parents to be flexible and look for the root issues when dealing with school refusal.
You Are the Problem and the Solution (Q&A) - Ep 574
13 december 2023 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about staying connected to yourself and how our anger and resentment are signals to set better boundaries. The talks about how parents must put themselves first if they are to love and compassionately care for their children and others.
An Interview with Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom - Ep 573
12 december 2023 |
41 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom to the podcast. From a career in business, to a journey supporting a child struggling with mental health issues, Andy brings his passion for helping parents find the tools and empowerment they are looking for while navigating a family's journey towards mental health. Go to www.parentsjourneycoaching.net for more on his work and www.oplm.com and www.skysthelimitfund.org for more information on donations.
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries (& Self-Care) - Ep 572
6 december 2023 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy talks about principles involved in discovering and setting healthy boundaries. He explains that boundaries are synonymous with - or come out of - self-care. He warns against trying to explain your boundaries and using boundaries to change other people.
Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571
1 december 2023 |
48 min
Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571
Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570
29 november 2023 |
65 min
Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Parenting: The Wisdom to Know the Difference (Q&A) - Ep 569
17 november 2023 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on difficult parenting issues. He talks about learning what is inside of our control and how to face life threatening dilemmas with our children. He talks about understanding the boundaries between self and others and unlearning what we learned about love and life as a way towards greater enlightenment.
Social Anxiety - Ep 568
15 november 2023 |
73 min
Social Anxiety - Ep 568 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Difficult Questions in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 567
2 november 2023 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries with our parents when our parents are toxic. He talks about how to motivate others to enter treatment and accepting what is outside of our control.
Suporting Your Child While You Are Still Healing - Ep 566
25 oktober 2023 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the shift that occurs when parents turn inward. He talks about how parents can model vulnerability and accountability. He uses communication skills to illustrate that the work of healing is to take responsibility for your own life. He explains that what happened to us as children is not our fault but how dealing with it and healing from it is our responsibility.
Reducing Resistance (Q&A) - Ep 565
20 oktober 2023 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the live audience on how to effectively encourage those we love to seek treatment. He explains that resistance is a threat response, and the primary objective is to create safety. He explains how curiosity replaces judgment and he explains how and why a sense of self and boundaries must be at the foundation of anything we do with those we love. He gives the audience an assignment to apologize to the identified patient as a starting point for creating safety.
Secure Attachment & Trauma - Ep 564
11 oktober 2023 |
62 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between attachment (secure or anxious) and trauma. He explains that how we relate to our children - focusing on our nervous system regulation, our personal trauma histories, and how well we “see” and provide safety for our children, the more we can minimize the effects of traumatic events. He explains how exposure to a regulated and healed parent can foster resiliency in our children.
Setting Boundaries While Creating Safety (Q&A) - Ep 563
6 oktober 2023 |
41 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about how to create safety while still holding boundaries. He explores how to set boundaries without judgement.
Behavioral Contracts & Home Agreements - Ep 562
28 september 2023 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy discuses Evoke’s perspective on Behavioral Contracts. He talks about why they don’t work and now attachment is more important that managing behavior. He talks about how the key is for parents to use such tools to get clear on their boundaries and focus on their own relapse and regression.
Parental Alienation and Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 561
22 september 2023 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parental alienation and how much is ideal for the kids know about the other parent’s responsibility for divorce. He talks about the outcome of doing your work: unlearning and becoming a larger person. He explains how boundaries are for self-care and not for changing the child or other person.
Marriage, Divorce, and Co-Parenting - Ep 560
20 september 2023 |
74 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the tasks in building a strong and healthy marriage. The talks about the critical do’s and don’ts in co-parenting.
When Boundaries Aren’t Respected (Q&A) - Ep 559
13 september 2023 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on setting boundaries with parents, dealing with a child with Borderline Personality Traits, and helping children resolve difficult feelings.
PTSD, Trauma and Your Work - Ep 558
8 september 2023 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the diagnosis of PTSD, C-PTSD and trauma in general. He talks about small and big “T” traumas. He talks about how resiliency is tied to how well a parent sorts out their childhood and how it this is the greatest predictor of the quality of attachment that can mitigate trauma in a child.
Will My Child Forgive Me? Dealing With Your Child’s Anger - Ep 557
1 september 2023 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy talks about a child’s anger and forgiveness in the context of child psychology and a child’s development. He talks about the paradox of letting go of a child’s anger in order to facilitate its release: the greatest way to impede a child’s moving through anger and forgiving is to try to manage or control it.
Guilt/Shame/Regret & a Humble Apology (Q&A) - Ep 556
30 augusti 2023 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on dating in sobriety, the relationship among guilt/shame/regret/and a humble apology. He talks about the necessity of doing your own work and how not doing it asks your children (and partner) to carry your burden for you.
Accountability - Ep 555
25 augusti 2023 |
68 min
Dr. Reedy discusses accountability. He explains the best way to teach accountability is to model it to our children. He talks about why parents are challenged with modeling this and how guilt blocks our ability to own up to our part in things.
Boundaries: Being Right vs. Being a Self. (Q&A) - Ep 554
23 augusti 2023 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy explores the distinctions between and boundary and a consequence. He also talks about showing up with humility and not taking on shame for triggering our children. He talks about the difference between trying to get it right and being yourself.
Recovery (and Wilderness) - Ep 553
17 augusti 2023 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy explores recovery and how it is supported in the wilderness. He explains the underlying principles of psychology embedded in the 12-Steps and talks about how surrender is a necessary starting point for change.
Is it Enabling or Not? (Q&A) - Ep 552
11 augusti 2023 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy explores the difference between enabling and authentic behavior in parenting. He also talks about letting go vs. trying to control what others feel, think, and do. He explains how guilt and shame must be dealt with on our path towards greater mental health.
Attachment and Book Review of "You Are Special" by Max Lucado - Ep 551
5 augusti 2023 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy explains attachment theory and how a secure attachment creates resiliency. He reads the children's book, "You Are Special" by Max Lucado to illustrate how a secure attachment is earned and how it helps us to see ourselves as whole and not needing external validation.
The Underlying Truths in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 550
2 augusti 2023 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on parenting older children, medication management, and how family members (older siblings) can support someone while in treatment.
Evoke Coaching - Ep 549
30 juli 2023 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy discusses what makes Evoke’s Coaching program unique. He explores what to look for in a coach or a therapist. He also explores the process of therapy/coaching and how it promotes growth and mental health.
The Hardest Questions in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 548
26 juli 2023 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions for the audience on questions of the role of medication, nature vs. nurture, epigenetics, and when is a boundary a boundary or when is it manipulation.
Evoke’s Parent Meeting - Ep 547
21 juli 2023 |
76 min
Dr. Reedy travels back in time to present a parent seminar he would present for parents visiting their children for the first time in months. From 1996 to 2010, Dr. Reedy would teach this meeting focusing on letting go, communication styles and assertive communication, and the Cycle of Wholeness (as a basic model for therapy). He provides this updated version to share the information and his current perspective on the skills presented.
Parenting and Mental Health (Q&A) - Ep 546
19 juli 2023 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the challenges and the support needed when parenting children who struggle with mental health issues and addiction. He talks about how diagnoses help therapists understand the style of the person's defenses, but that the real task is to find the individual story that explains the symptoms.
Transitions and Going Home - Ep 545
14 juli 2023 |
87 min
Dr. Reedy discusses transitions and how they expose our ways of emotional maturity or lack of it; how we can be inclined to regress into old, comfortable ways of dealing with stress. He talks about going home from wilderness and moving on to another program. He explains how family work is best done when we focus on our work rather than how the child or others are doing.
Responding to Relapse and Regression (Q&A) - Ep 544
12 juli 2023 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions on various topics from the live audience. He talks about how to respond when children regress or relapse into old behaviors. He talks about not trying to control how the child feels and how letting them feel helps them to move through and let go of emotions.
Wilderness Therapy and Other Short Term Treatment Options - Ep 543
6 juli 2023 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the proliferation of 30-day, short term programs that are covered by insurance. He talks about the need for longer lengths of stays for best outcomes. He also talks about he unique aspects of wilderness therapy’s experiential approach and how it helps to bypass resistance. He explains that short term programs appeal to families due to their lower cost and shorter length of stay and how these aspects, while attractive, may not be the most effective and lowest cost for treatment in the end.
Where You End and Your Child Begins (Q&A) - Ep 542
16 juni 2023 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy take questions from the audience on where to set boundaries with your children. He explains the similarities and differences between the relationship of parent and child versus our other relationships. He talks about attachment-based therapy and how a person develops (or doesn’t) into an authentic and real self.
Religion and Therapy - Ep 541
14 juni 2023 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy explains Evoke’s approach to religion and emphasizes that therapists remain neutral when it comes to religion. He explains that good therapy will help clients find a spiritual practice that works for them. He explains how therapists are ethically bound to avoid giving advice when it comes to important life decisions including participation and identification with one’s religious ideology. He also talks about principle inherent in all the world’s major religions: surrender, humility, mindfulness, gratitude, and faith/radical acceptance.
Getting My Spouse To Do Their Work (Q&A) - Ep 540
9 juni 2023 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy talks about what to do when loved ones aren’t willing to look at their part in things. He answers questions on boundaries with children and how learning to love our horrible, rotten self is the key to freedom and leads to reduced suffering.
Abandonment - Ep 539
7 juni 2023 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the wound of abandonment. He talks about the different ways that we can abandon our children and how it’s not really accurate to talk about our children abandoning us. He talks about the benefit of studying parenting and child development from our perspective as children. He explains the need for us to take care of ourselves and come to terms with our “horrible, rotten selves” in order to be available to love more.
To Share or Not to Share Your Feelings (Q&A) - Ep 538
1 juni 2023 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on attachment from a distance, supporting your child over your family of origin, when sharing feelings becomes manipulative, and the advantages and disadvantages of a stepparent’s perspective.
Neurodiversity - Ep 537
30 maj 2023 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy discusses neurodiversity, Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and how to navigate relationships with those who process information differently than we do. He discusses the empathy and patience that arises when parents understand their children and the uniqueness of their neurology.
Self and “Right” Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 536
29 maj 2023 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on boundaries and pressure we experience from our family of origin. He talks about how we decide boundaries. He explains how “this is what I am comfortable with” is the strongest position one can take when setting boundaries.
Depression and Anxiety Unmasked - Ep 535
19 maj 2023 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy describes the clinical criteria for depression and anxiety and goes beneath to explore the spiritual and psychological functions of mood disorders. He explains that our symptoms are messengers for an unexplored or unfinished task that we must attend to in order to alleviate our suffering.
Transitions, Awakening, and Language for Boundaries - Ep 534
17 maj 2023 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from live audience members on a variety of topics including preparing for transitions, what it means to awaken, and specific language for setting boundaries.
Communication 101 and Beyond - Ep 533
10 maj 2023 |
72 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the intrapsychic benefits and the underlying value of communication skills as a template for a new way to understand yourself and your relationship to others. He discusses “I statements,” reflective listening and the barriers to both. He also offers tools and skills that families use who identify as having improved family relationships.
An Interview with Danielle Gagnon - Ep 532
6 maj 2023 |
32 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Danielle Gabon to the Evoke Therapy team.
Listening While Keeping Boundaries (Q&A)- Ep 531
3 maj 2023 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses how to listen and empathize with children while still maintaining a boundary. He talks about defending yourself when your child is angry and how to understand personality disorders.
How to Find a Therapist - Ep 530
26 april 2023 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how to engage a therapist to know if they are the right one for you. He talks about the difference between therapists that have done and are doing their own work versus those who rely on technique and academics. He encourages clients to ask tough questions and expect intelligent answers. He explains how therapy can trigger a regressive position and invites clients to share their frustrations and feelings toward the therapist to see whether the therapist is capable. He also explains how therapy is less about fixing you and your symptoms and more about understanding you and your dilemmas.
How to Handle My Child's Anger(Q&A) - Ep 529
21 april 2023 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He replies to questions about how to handle a child's anger due to placement in a treatment program and finding the balance between listening and the boundaries that support self-care.
Myth, Metaphor, and Therapy - Ep 528
19 april 2023 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how myths can teach us about ourselves. He explains Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey and how the patterns in our stories and our myths provide a road map for living our authentic, human lives. He offers examples from movies and contemporary songwriters as well as classic mythology.
Setting Boundaries: When is it Enough? - Ep 527
12 april 2023 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the live audience on setting boundaries with a child who is abusive. He talks about tattoos, family systems-based approach to treatment, and how you can take responsibility for your own serenity.
What is the Work and How Do We Do It? - Ep 526
6 april 2023 |
84 min
Dr. Reedy explores what it means to “do your work.” He talks about the process of unlearning and liberating the self from the should and shouldn’t we unconsciously carry. He talks about what therapy looks like when the project is to become who we are.
How Do I Know if My Boundary is Appropriate? (Q&A) - Ep 525
5 april 2023 |
68 min
Dr. Reedy takes live question from the audience on boundaries and parenting. He explains that there is no generic solution or advice when it comes to boundaries. Boundaries are synonymous with self-care and the discovery of the “right” boundary is essentially the discovery of the Self.
Boundaries and “Healthy Betrayal” - Ep 524
24 mars 2023 |
72 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how setting boundaries will feel like a betrayal. He talks about the differentiation scale and how if we move up the scale, those left behind may experience our increased awareness and individuation as abandonment.
Failure is a Step Towards Enlightenment (Q&A) - Ep 523
22 mars 2023 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. In this episode he emphasizes the need for parents to model their imperfections and humanity to children. He explains how parents teach accountability by owning their mistakes and how when we share our struggles, from a place of strength and confidence, we show children how to grow up.
Transport, Trauma, and a Parent’s Work - Ep 522
16 mars 2023 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the pros and cons of transporting. He talks about how to respond to children who report being traumatized by being transported to treatment. He talks about allowing children to define their own trauma and letting go of trying to control what they feel and think.
Getting Healthier Feels Wrong (Q&A) - Ep 521
14 mars 2023 |
71 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and talks about how healthy changes often feels wrong and those around use will not recognize it as healthy. He also talks about how, when we feel lost and the path seems darkest, to keep going – but we don’t have to do it alone. Therapists can walk beside us and help us carry some of the guilt.
The Role of the Field Guide - Ep 520
1 mars 2023 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the role and impact of the field guide in wilderness therapy. He talks about the value of the mentor role, and how this role can be more impactful on young clients than that of the therapist. He also explains how the field guide is supported and trained to become capable facilitators in the therapeutic process.
How to Change a Child (Q&A) - Ep 519
22 februari 2023 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy answers question live on various topics like “How to apply lessons from wilderness therapy to home” and “How to confront children or others when we see something in their behavior where they are struggling.” He explains how to avoid confronting defenses and letting our advice or suggestion fail when the other person is not ready to hear it.
The Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter (Book Review) - Ep 518
16 februari 2023 |
75 min
Dr. Reedy gives a glowing review of The Comfort Crisis. In his book, Michael Easter expounds on the scientific body of research which shows that humans thrive physically and psychologically through exercise, outdoor activities, and challenges which stress them to moderate degrees. He emphasizes primitive camping, exposure to nature’s harshness, and backpacking as the most effective ways to replicate what our ancestors did that helped them to survive and thrive as a species.
Couple Work, Intimacy, and Individuation - Ep 517
10 februari 2023 |
79 min
Dr. Reedy talks about marriage and couples. He explains how intimacy is painful, difficult, and requires us to so the work of facing our own issues. He explains how talking tends to be a taking thing and listening tends to be a giving thing. Dr. Reedy explains that the start of the marriage and our ideas and projections on it to give us all our childhood didn’t provide are the energies and issues that later become chasms.
Focus on the “Why” of a Child’s Behavior Rather Than the “What” (Q&A) - Ep 516
8 februari 2023 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience and discusses how we can look beneath the behavioral problems of the child and look into what they are feeling. He also gives examples of how shifting our style from an emphasis on behavioral modification to relationship-connection can create a shift in the child’s life.
How Children Learn, Change, and Grow (Questions from Social Media) - Ep 515
1 februari 2023 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from Evoke's social media followers. He explains how children learn (compared to adults). He talks about how ego, the need to be good or right, is the great barrier to mental health. He also explains how children benefit when they, the parents, make their own anxiety their responsibility.
Parenting and Ego-Death (Q&A) - Ep 514
25 januari 2023 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience and discusses the cycle of shame that parents go through when their children give them feedback, or they become aware of their mistakes. He describes how tolerating feelings, what some refer to as an ego death, shows the child that we are a safe base in their lives.
Boundaries & Choosing How to Lose - Ep 513
18 januari 2023 |
71 min
Dr. Reedy explains the concept of boundaries: where they come from, what they are, and the barriers we have to setting them. He explains that surrender, choosing how to lose, is a key component in developing healthy boundaries.
The More You Know, the More You Realize You Need Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 512
11 januari 2023 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience on topics such as “How to help your co-parent,” “Should I allow my young adult to use THC while living at home,” and “How much should I tell my child about my own issues?”
Containing: How Listening Can Lead to Healing - Ep 511
6 januari 2023 |
73 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses one of the most invaluable tools in building connection with others: the ability to listen and hear what another person is saying without reaction, defense, justification, or retaliation.
The Method of Attachment Based Therapy (Q&A) – Ep 510
4 januari 2023 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the attachment, weather in the field, and navigating a loved one who doesn’t want to do their own work. He explains further how to support someone who is experiencing a lack of a will to go on and gives some great book recommendations!
Wilderness Therapy in the Media - Ep 509
21 december 2022 |
81 min
Dr. Brad Reedy responds to and offers insight on the recent news that has come out regarding wilderness therapy and wilderness therapy alumni experiences.
Co-Parenting - Ep 508
14 december 2022 |
72 min
Dr. Brad Reedy covers co-parenting. Whether divorced or married, couples can help their children by following some key guidelines such as: separating their need form the child's need, not parentifying the child, and focusing on one's own growth rather than the co-parent's, among many others.
Self-Forgiveness: The Greatest Gift (Q&A) - Ep 507
9 december 2022 |
47 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how or if parents can help their "almost adults" see the effects of their actions on the family, how to know whether to bring a child directly home after wilderness or send them to another program, whether to do a family Intensive as a final step before a child returns home from treatment, and how best to support a sober child in danger of relapse, among others.
An Interview with Cori Wright - Ep 506
9 december 2022 |
34 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Therapy's Cori Wright. Cori works with adolescents and young adults in Evoke's Wilderness Therapy Program and she shares her journey into the field. She talks about the gift of regulating the nervous system using somatic experiencing and the outdoors. She explains how therapists set the stage for a client's healing through the process of co-regulation with the therapist via deep listening. She shares how becoming a mother has carved out deeper compassion and humility in her work with parents.
Winter and the Holidays at Evoke - Ep 505
7 december 2022 |
61 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about what the winter season is like for Evoke students: how they stay warm and healthy, how they mark the winter holidays, and how their varied emotions about not being home for the holidays can lead to important insights.
The Myth of Self-Sabotage (Q&A) - Ep 504
5 december 2022 |
51 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions regarding a son's self-sabotage, how to "be close with" your teenager, what to do when your child is engaged in illegal activity, and self-forgiveness.
Authentic Gratitude - Ep 503
30 november 2022 |
56 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses his habit of practicing mindfulness rather than gratitude. He shares how sometimes redirecting oneself to gratitude when one is feeling difficult feelings--looking on the bright side--can drift into toxic positivity or a denial/avoidance of uncomfortable feelings. Alternatively, when one is mindful, one can feel and manage the difficult feelings as they arrive--and then also naturally appreciate and feel grateful for life when things are going well. He also elaborates on his belief that the most important step to more contented living is self-care/self-compassion.
Debunking the Virtue of Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 502
23 november 2022 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the guilt, shame and self-care. He explains how that in order to expand our skills as a parent, we need to let go of our guilt.
Evoke's Re-launched Young Adult Program - Ep 501
18 november 2022 |
47 min
Dr. Brad Reedy details the immense growth and change going on in the young adult brain as well as their attendant behaviors. He then discusses Evoke's updated Young Adult program, which makes space for their growth and change employing expeditions, adventure, mindfulness, service, as well as a newly added therapeutic Intensive, among other activities.
Secure Attachment: You'll Know It When You Feel It (Q&A) - Ep 500
11 november 2022 |
54 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took questions about how to know when you have formed a secure attachment, how not to absorb your teen's moods, how to get in alignment with your spouse about parenting issues, and what codependency does--and doesn't--mean, among others.
Evoke's Three Founding Principles - Ep 499
9 november 2022 |
61 min
Dr. Brad Reedy reviews, explains, and illustrates Evoke's Three Founding Principles:
1. Know Your Truth
2. Express Your Truth
3. Heal in Relationships
The Way We Do One Thing Is the Way We Do Everything (Q&A) - Ep 498
8 november 2022 |
26 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers live questions regarding what a relationship can look like with a fully adult child and how to regard the concept of boundaries as well as how to set effective ones, among others.
The Identified Patient - Ep 497
27 oktober 2022 |
68 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discuses the concept of the Identified Patient. When a family focuses its efforts on saving, fixing, or helping one specific family member, that person becomes the Identified Patient. Once this person has been identified, it can absolve or in some way prevent the family from looking at their family system as a whole and each of themselves as individuals. This set-up can prevent or impede anyone in the family from doing the true growth work they need/want to do. Dr. Reedy talks about the history of this concept and how this dynamic can play out in families.
Letting Go and Accepting What Is(Q&A) - Ep 496
25 oktober 2022 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions. He spoke about learning how to be curious and non-judgmental in our reactions to our children, how to hold a boundary once it's been set, and the stages of a wilderness stay, among other things.
Changing Seasons: Learning to Let Go of Old Ideas, Relationships, and Contexts - Ep 495
12 oktober 2022 |
58 min
As autumn leaves drop from the trees, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the changing seasons of our lives and how in order to grow, the biggest lesson we must learn is to let go. Tonight he specifically elucidates Key Three from the Three Keys to Enlightenment mentioned in his book, The Audacity to Be You.
Creating Healthy Attachments (Q&A) - Ep 494
5 oktober 2022 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy took live questions about how best to create a healthy attachment with your child, how to navigate a client/therapist relationship, how to manage the financial stresses of sending your child to treatment, and whether birth order can determine parent/child enmeshment, among others.
How to Handle it When Your Child Turns 18 in the Wilderness - Ep 493
22 september 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how to handle your child turning 18 while away at treatment, i.e. meaning what to do if and when they exercise their legal ability to leave or "walk out" because they are now adults. Yet in an approach that will appeal to many more than just those in this specific circumstance, he discusses it through a lens focused on understanding and outgrowing codependency, not counting on outcomes, and setting boundaries that will reinforce your own self-care and mental health.
An Interview with Dr. Gabor Maté and The Myth of Normal - Ep 492
13 september 2022 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast. A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and has coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in nearly 30 languages. His new book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, is in bookstores now.
Self Care is not Selfish (Q&A) - Ep 491
9 september 2022 |
42 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to balance taking care of self and others and shedding old notions about both, drug testing your child when they are living at home, how not to micromanage a child who has recently returned home from treatment, and others.
Differentiation and Codependency: Becoming Responsible for Your Life - Ep 490
7 september 2022 |
60 min
Dr. Brad Reedy starts his broadcast with the words: "If we talk about connection and intimacy, we must first talk about boundaries and individuation." What follows is a meditation on the importance of becoming a "Self," how boundaries actually *foster* intimacy, and how codependency kills it.
An Interview with Mary Warren, Ed Consultant and Parenting - Ep 489
4 september 2022 |
27 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Educational Consultant and Parent Coach, Mary Warren to the broadcast. Mary and Brad discuss the challenges people face during transitions, specifically the challenges of moving from Wilderness Therapy to a Residential Treatment Program or Therapeutic Boarding School.
The Shadow and Feeling Overwhelmed (Q&A) - Ep 488
2 september 2022 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the shadow, when we feel overwhelmed by parenting, and how to create an emotionally space for someone while still maintaining our boundaries
What to Look for in a Therapist and Therapy - Ep 487
31 augusti 2022 |
67 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses some of the ways you can know whether your therapist is right for you--or not. He also explains how to think about and approach therapy in order to get the most out of it.
Guilt and Shame as Barriers to Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 486
24 augusti 2022 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to get over the guilt and shame of seeing your child wrestle with the same difficult issues you do, how to research and choose a therapeutic boarding school, and how or if to intervene when you know your child is engaging in risky behaviors. He also supports a parent who reports an abusive therapist and addresses another who wants to know how to authentically connect with her teenage son who has a potential personality disorder.
Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family: What is right for me? - Ep 485
19 augusti 2022 |
75 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the three types of therapeutic Intensives Evoke offers: Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family. He elucidates Evoke's practice of Attachment-based therapy and how and why it helps. He also offers and in-depth description of each Intensive, as well as its benefits.
What to Do When You've Reached Your Limit (Q&A) - Ep 484
17 augusti 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy addresses questions about what to do when you feel you've tried everything and your soon-to-be adult child rejects it all, how to proceed when your child "doesn't believe in boundaries," and finding balance between curiosity and consistency, among several others.
What Is Wilderness Therapy and How Does It Work? - Ep 483
11 augusti 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about wilderness therapy and how it can be effective for struggling children and young adults--and their families. He covers how being in a therapeutic setting in the wilderness forces a digital detox, fosters grit and mindfulness, allows clients to play again, all while exposing them to positive mentoring and experiential therapy. Wilderness therapy is especially effective with resistant adolescents and allows kids to build self-esteem through tangible accomplishments. It removes the negative influences from home, allows individuation, and supports connections to things "greater than" or outside themselves like the group--and nature itself.
The "Dents" We Make in our Children (Q&A) - Ep 482
9 augusti 2022 |
63 min
In a live Q&A parents asked questions about a child with a potentially devastating mental health diagnosis, the basics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it might help, what to do when you are overwhelmed by guilt about the ways you have "dented" your children, and one parent reached out expressing fear and loneliness because her son's involvement in gangs has left her feeling like she has no parental peers in the treatment world.
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: Reflecting on the work of James Hollis - Ep 481
4 augusti 2022 |
70 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, recently back from vacation, speaks of lessons learned during his time off, through the lens of the works of Dr. James Hollis, a Jungian psychoanalyst. One of Dr. Reedy's opening quotes from Hollis's book The Middle Passage, perfectly previews this talk: "But such is the first [half of] adulthood: full of blunders, shyness, inhibitions, mistaken assumptions, and always, the silent rolling of the tapes of childhood. If one had not set forth and made those mistakes and crashed into those walls, then one would have remained a child. Reviewing one's life from the vantage point of the second half requires understanding and forgiveness of the inevitable crime of unconsciousness."
An Interview with Clement Wilson - Ep 480
29 juli 2022 |
40 min
Dr. Brad Reedy interviews public school social worker and Evoke Intensives therapist and coach, Clement Wilson.
Guest Host Travis Slagle on The Myth of Being Good - Ep 479
27 juli 2022 |
54 min
Evoke Intensives Clinical Director, Travis Slagle talks about the myth of being good, and how our need to be "good," bred into us from the earliest parts of our lives, can destroy our agency and authenticity. "It's better to be a Self, than to be 'good.'"
An Interview with Casie Fariello - Ep 478
18 juli 2022 |
28 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks with Casie Fariello, co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, a subscription-based online platform designed to support young people with mental health and substance abuse challenges.
Become Selfish Like the Buddha (Q&A) - Ep 476
30 juni 2022 |
53 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.
Book Review: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PhD. with a Forward by Alanis Morrissette - Ep 475
24 juni 2022 |
55 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD. He covers Schwartz's writings on the parts of the self, the eight C's of Internal Family Systems, and other concepts elucidated in the book. Reedy ends with key takeaways from the work that overlap with Evoke's philosophy. Find out more at www.evoketherapy.com
Influencing vs Controlling Our Kids' Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 474
22 juni 2022 |
59 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what to do when you discover your child might be into dangerous pastimes or behaviors, how to feel and contain your anger so you can then be a safe container for your child's feelings, and how to best support your child while they are in wilderness. He also addresses a parent who will be taking in a Ukrainian refugee, the value of somatic experiencing, and family visits to the wilderness, among others.
Parental Trauma: Share Your Stories - Ep 473
16 juni 2022 |
63 min
Dr. Brad Reedy did a short discussion of parental trauma, including how to think about it and some key take aways for handling it. He then invited parents to share their tough stories, to show everyone that they are never alone in their trials. Parents opened up about dilemmas that felt terrifying and unsolvable. They shared about overdoses, run aways, relapses, and seemingly intractable behavioral problems. The goal in this episode was not to troubleshoot and help parents solve their problems, but rather to model what truly seeing and hearing "the Other" as they vulnerably share looks and feels like.
An Interview with Noel Koons - Ep 472
12 juni 2022 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Noel Koons to the broadcast. Noel covers topics that ranger from Taoism to mindfulness to Fining Nemo as he explains how he helps clients move through difficult and painful emotions to find themselves and heal.
Is It Compassion or Is It Guilt? (Q&A) - Ep 471
10 juni 2022 |
59 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about compassion vs. enabling, guilt, the nature of addiction, and co-dependency. He also talks about what to do when your therapist may not be the right fit, how much to share with your children about your own personal growth journey, and whether/what to tell a child's potential new school about their time in the wilderness.
The Evoke Clinical Vision - Ep 470
8 juni 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy explains the Evoke Clinical Vision. He explains the Cycle of Health and Wholeness, what Experiential Therapy is, what Attachment Theory is, and why we base our care on it. He then walks through some memorable quotes that have important ways of thinking behind them. He finishes with the Three Keys and explains the Shame Cycle.
What is "The Work?" (Q&A) - Ep 469
1 juni 2022 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what he means when he refers to "the work," how to handle it when the work feels too hard, and what to do when your co-parent is not doing their work. He also answers questions about when one's child is ready to leave wilderness, whether and how Evoke supports spirituality/religion and its practice for its students, along with several other questions.
Let's Talk About Sex - Ep 468
25 maj 2022 |
61 min
In this podcast, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about sex as it relates to parenting teens and young adults. He covers topics such as consent, promiscuity/sexual "acting out," sexual double standards for boys and girls, and how to walk the line between privacy and safety for a child who is under 18. He also makes the case that parents' attitudes/shame/hang ups about sex will have an impact on how their children feel about sex, how they talk about it, and how safe they feel opening up about it.
Why Wilderness? Why Therapy? (Q&A) - Ep 467
19 maj 2022 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about how therapy can help us, why and how wilderness therapy creates positive change, Evoke wilderness's different phases, and Evoke's parent mentoring program. He also addressed what to do when visiting an adult child with severe OCD, how to think about writing a will when you have a struggling child, and how to manage your own life and health when you have a child with multiple behavioral and mental health issues.
An Interview with Christian Snuffer - Ep 466
18 maj 2022 |
29 min
Evoke therapist Christian Snuffer joins the podcast and discusses his journey from wilderness therapy to the Evoke Intensive team. Christian discusses his integrative approach, including psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.
The Masculine and Feminine Energy in Each of Us - Ep 465
10 maj 2022 |
64 min
Dr. Brad Reedy explains the definitions of masculine and feminine energies and how they differ from the terms "sex" and "gender." He then goes on to discuss the qualities of each and how we are at our best when we accept and cultivate a balance of both within us. He also touches on toxic and healthy masculine and feminine traits.
A Parenting Paradigm Shift (Q&A) - Ep 464
6 maj 2022 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about what happens when a child goes directly home from wilderness, what to do when we wound our children, holding a boundary against marijuana in the home, and how to find the balance between being self-focused and others-focused, among many others.
Evoke Family Work and Family Walkabouts - Ep 463
28 april 2022 |
55 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the importance of parent work, both while their child is away at wilderness/treatment, but also as a routine practice. He shares, "Doing your own work isn’t about 'You caused it, you broke it, you gotta fix it.' Doing your own work is modeling for your child to do *their* work.” In this context he also discusses Family Walkabouts at Evoke, and why they can be a benefit to all.
Toxic Families (Q&A) - Ep 462
21 april 2022 |
59 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took your live questions. He addressed toxic families and how to (or not to) live with them, wilderness solos, and the benefits of attending an Evoke Intensive therapeutic retreat. He also discussed the impact of siblings vs parents on family systems and adoption.
Wilderness Solos: A Tool to Find Your Voice - Ep 461
20 april 2022 |
55 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the concept of wilderness solos, the practice of Evoke students taking time away from the group and on their own during their stays. He likens the solo to Joseph Campbell's hero's journey, where the circumstances in the hero's life compel them to go deep within themselves, understand who they truly are, and experience life-changing revelations because of that reflection.
When the Work Gets Difficult (Q&A)- Ep 460
14 april 2022 |
52 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about individuation vs. rebellion, what to do when a child doesn't honor your boundaries, and what families can do toward their growth and healing while their child's away at wilderness. He also discusses how to think about the concept of a higher power in recovery groups if you are not religious, and what to do when you are doing your work and growing, but difficult emotions are overwhelming you as you do that healing.
"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part two)- Ep 459
5 april 2022 |
61 min
In this second part of the book review of "Contexts" by J.D. Gill, Dr. Brad Reedy dissects the destructive nature of binary thinking, the importance of safety in healthy attachments, and how rebellion happens and what it signifies.
That “Tube” We See Through (Q&A) - Ep 458
1 april 2022 |
59 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers parents’ questions about what to do when their child, who is back from treatment, starts smoking weed again, how to handle defiance, and how to avoid seeing your child or partner in a predetermined “tube.” He also covers questions about author J.D. Gill’s new book "Contexts" and his latest book, "The Audacity to Be You."
An Interview with Justin Baldoni: Connection in the Struggle to Be Human - Ep 457
30 mars 2022 |
53 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes actor and director, husband, father and human, Justin Baldoni to the podcast. Justin shares about the work that went into writing his book, “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity.” Justin shares his perspectives on God, life, and family from the perspective of the Baha’i faith. Brad and Justin talk about the growth that can only come from failing and struggling. Justin shares his “why” about doing your own personal work. The special aspect of Justin’s words are how challenging it is to be a human and to come face to face with one’s own imperfections.
"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part one) - Ep 456
24 mars 2022 |
68 min
In the first of this two-part series, Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book Contexts, newly released by his therapist and mentor Dr. J.D. Gill. The book dissects the meaning and importance of contexts—familial, societal, and behavioral, among others—when endeavoring to understand one’s Self and Others. This understanding, this “seeing” as Gill might call it, can help turn judgment into compassion, leading to a more authentic and honest way of living.
Art, Therapy, and the Unconscious: An Interview with Caitlin Connolly - Ep 455
18 mars 2022 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes renown artist Caitlin Connolly to the podcast. Caitlin shares her perspectives on motherhood, activism, feminism, and duality. Caitlin uses her art to give a voice to themes that often lie just beneath the surface of the conscious mind. She shares insight into her accidental journey into feminism and the challenge of dialectics—holding two seemingly opposite ideas at the same time. She talks about exploring all of life, the light and the dark, and how such a pursuit adds depth and texture to our lives.
The Opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety…It Is Connection (Q&A) - Ep 454
17 mars 2022 |
62 min
In this Q&A Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to handle it when your child, who is back from wilderness, starts to smoke pot again. He answers other questions about how not to let the symptoms of your problems distract from the root of your problems, what one parent could do about being triggered when attending the Evoke recommended 12-Step programs, and how to “detach with love.” He also addresses what to you do when it seems like your child is not really doing the work out in the field and how to create closeness with your child without creating the pressure to be close.
Trying to "Solve" Another's Anxiety (Q&A) - Ep 453
4 mars 2022 |
68 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. He answered questions about the value of psychiatric evaluations, "rescuing" our children, what happens to a child when one household seems more "stable" than the other, and whether or not there is such thing as "healthy codependency" (there isn't), among many others.
Attunement vs. Codependence - Ep 452
2 mars 2022 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy defines Attunement and Codependency and describes the differences between them. While it might feel like a fine line divides them, once you understand the effects of each on the family, that fine line widens to a large gap. Attunement is quite simply seeing and responding to the child’s needs. Codependency is projecting onto the Other your needs and meeting your needs through the Other. He also discusses the effect of healthy attachments and attunement on the family system and how the right kind of therapy can be used as a way to repair deep and historical attachment wounds, rather than “fixing” surface level manifestations of those wounds.
Giving Your Loved Ones the Right to Feel (Q&A) - Ep 451
23 februari 2022 |
61 min
Dr. Brad Reedy addresses a few questions that essentially ask: What do I do when my [child, parent, significant other] is feeling [a certain emotion]? He responds: When we give people the “right” to feel their feelings it helps them—and ultimately us—process and then let go of the harder or negative feelings. Then we can all start making decisions from the right place--not from control or fear or guilt or outcomes. Our decision making is then driven by something higher. He also talks about how Evoke keeps wilderness clients warm in winter, how to manage a child in a trauma response, and and how parents can structure therapy with their child's wilderness therapist, among others.
Healthy Boundaries and Harriet Lerner’s “The Dance of Anger” - Ep 450
17 februari 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy revisits his favorite book on boundaries, “The Dance of Anger,” by Harriet Lerner. He talks about how guilt and fear must be faced for us to set boundaries and become who we are. He explains that anger is a signal that we need to take better care of ourselves. He also explains how we do everything (blame, argue, guilt others, complain, rage, debate, reason, etc.) except set a boundary to get others to change to avoid doing the harder work.
"You Can't Win; You Can Only Choose How to Lose" (Q&A) - Ep 449
3 februari 2022 |
63 min
Dr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he answered questions about treatment-resistant teens, how to give yourself a time out when you're in lockdown, and what effect having high expectations on your kids actually has, among others.
Trauma Responses: How to Recognize & Re-route Them - Ep 448
2 februari 2022 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy defines trauma responses, discusses how to recognize them (i.e., If it’s hysterical, it’s historical), and then talks about ways to begin the process of moving past these automatic reactions into more intentional behaviors and response flexibility. “As parents, it is important for us to understand our trauma responses when we are trying to be a safe person for our kids. Trauma is inescapable, healing is elective,” says Dr. Reedy.
Doing the Best You Can (Q&A) - Ep 447
27 januari 2022 |
60 min
Parents ask questions about how wilderness works for kids with ASD, whether regular at-home drug testing is a good strategy, and how much to disclose to your children about your own growth work and learning. Dr. Brad Reedy also shares important thoughts on empathy and boundaries: "Don’t let your empathy rob you of your boundaries. We parents can sometimes do that and it allows us to compromise and sacrifice things that we need for ourselves."
Divorce, Blended Families, Step-parenting, Single-parenting, & Co-parenting - Ep 446
26 januari 2022 |
63 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about many iterations of the family system and shares thoughts on how to approach each. Key messages: “When you talk about the other parent, you are talking about part of your child.” Choose “good enough.” Give up the need to be right. Learn to separate your need from your child’s need. Focus on what you can control. Your co-parenting relationship is modeling to your kid how to manage conflict in their lives. He also addresses parental alienation.
Full Circle: A Conversation with Mackenzie Phillips - Ep 445
21 januari 2022 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Mackenzie Phillips to the broadcast. Mackenzie, the daughter of musical royalty, climbed aboard the acting-train when it pulled into town. She created a successful acting career and is best known for her roles on “American Graffiti,” “One Day at a Time,” and “Orange is the New Black.” And in 2008, after a public arrest at LAX, she made her way towards recovery from addiction and mental health issues. Today, Mack works with individuals and families looking to free themselves from addiction and eating disorders at “Breathe Life Healing Center” located in Laurel Canyon, California, the same canyon made famous by her parents (her father was John Phillips of the Mama’s and the Papas) and their friends during the late 1960’s. Mack opens up and speaks candidly about her history of addiction and the difficult road to recovery.
The Boundary is the Evidence of the Self (Q&A) - Ep 444
19 januari 2022 |
57 min
A parent wonders how to accept and contain her daughter’s “big” personality and moods when she feels so depleted and overwhelmed herself. Dr. Reedy says: The child does not need you to be perfect—they just need you to own your imperfection as yours. By demonstrating healthy self-care. By learning to apologize. And then by being ok with them being angry and disappointed when you do. Other parents ask about ODD, adoption/attachment issues, wilderness life nuts and bolts, and more.
"What Happened to You?" by Dr. Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey (book review) - Ep 443
12 januari 2022 |
69 min
In this webinar, Dr. Brad Reedy reviews the book “What Happened to You” by Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey. Dr. Reedy praised the book as being a great introduction to trauma work while also shifting the narrative away from "What is wrong with you?" toward "What happened to you?" In essence, the book suggests looking at people’s behaviors and struggles through the lens of their history and past experiences instead of looking at them as symptoms. Dr. Reedy discusses how the brain stores traumatic experiences in the subconscious and how those past events shape a person’s behaviors and reactions later in life. He then goes into depth on healing trauma and emphasizes this important message from the book, “Your connectedness to family, community, and culture is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity.”
Managing Our Own Mental Health First (Q&A) - Ep 442
5 januari 2022 |
64 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses school shootings and how to manage your own anxiety about them before trying to help your kids. He also covers how to share your experience with your kids without giving them advice. Says Dr. Reedy, “Mental health is about becoming our most authentic self. At Evoke we don’t think of it as 'being good' or getting the 'right' answer. So the idea of advice doesn’t even fit into our paradigm.” Additionally, he elaborates on how, when it comes to any kind of relationship, talking is a taking thing and listening is a giving thing.
Couples Work: Intimacy & Betrayal - Ep 441
29 december 2021 |
77 min
Dr. Reedy tackles the issue of intimacy and betrayal and couples. He talks about the dynamics that contribute to betrayal in each partner and in the couple. He talks about how problems in a marriage are most often present during courtship, in the early phases of romantic love. Dr. Reedy explains that talking is a taking thing and listening is a giving thing. He also encourages couples to understand the difference between loving and needing. Lastly, he exhorts individuals to do their work, explore the landscape of their own woundedness, and own their issues, to prevent the projection of the bad parts of the Self onto the partner.
The True Heroic Task in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 440
16 december 2021 |
54 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he addresses an array of topics from how to support a child with a Borderline diagnosis to whether or not to try to prevent your child from running with the "wrong crowd" to the best way to address school shootings with your school-aged children.
The Impact of Peer Groups and Milieu on Your Child - Ep 439
9 december 2021 |
61 min
The Impact of Peer Groups and Milieu on Your Child - Ep 439 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Finding Your Inner Child - An Interview with Tiffany McKelvy - Ep 438
3 december 2021 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes inner-child coach, Tiffany McKelvy. Tiffany helps the all-grown-up-but-still-very-lost children of toxic family systems find their way home to their most embodied, authentic selves. Through connecting with and reparenting their inner child, these individuals have the opportunity to disrupt the trauma loops that keep parts of us trapped, afraid, and disconnected from the whole of our beings. By engaging in this work, Tiffany’s clients are able to pull themselves out from beneath the weight of the projections, judgments, and expectations of their childhood caregivers and redefine their relationships with pleasure, play, creativity, and identity. As Ram Dass wisely shared, “we’re all just walking each other home,” — and this particular walk is monumental and not unfamiliar for Tiffany. While she cannot finish this journey for you, she hopes that you’ll let her hold the lantern and bring light to the shadowy spaces while you go it together for a while.
High Quality Boundaries Q&A - Ep 437
2 december 2021 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses control vs influence and healthy detachment, and how when you are familiar with these concepts and trying to live them, your boundaries by definition are clearer and better. He also touches on codependency and how it shows up as us giving people what we want or need and calling it helping them. And he tackles the myths and inaccuracies in the phrase “trust the process” when it comes to therapy.
An Interview with Alex White - Ep 436
1 december 2021 |
41 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Alex White to the podcast. Alex is a talented clinician that brings a wealth of passion and experience as a group facilitator and experiential therapist. Alex's warmth, relatability, and professional skills allow him to foster deep connections with Evoke participants. His love for learning and genuine curiosity towards life is palpable. Combined with an extensive clinical background, Alex’s presence and authenticity naturally conveys a feeling of safety and acceptance within the therapeutic process.
An Interview with Anthony Salerno - Ep 435
29 november 2021 |
38 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Wilderness therapist Anthony Salerno to the podcast. Anthony shares his journey through the ranks of wilderness therapy in becoming a primary therapist. Anthony shares his approach and how he is able to stoke his passion for creating meaningful interventions at the individual, family, and group levels. Combining this rich set of clinical interventions with stories drawn from his own life experiences allows Anthony to guide students and families through the often arduous process of change.
Thoughts on Thanksgiving, Ways of Thinking, and Attachment - Ep 434
24 november 2021 |
57 min
Tonight, in anticipation of this week’s Thanksgiving holiday Dr. Brad Reedy speaks about how gratitude cannot be forced, how problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness at which they were created, and how the most fundamental need is to be truly seen and heard by the ones we love.
A Deeper Level of Consciousness: Think Differently (Q&A) - Ep 433
17 november 2021 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy talks about learning how to think, listen, and hear others. He also talks about how a compassionate listening can facilitate healing.
In Laws - Ep 432
10 november 2021 |
77 min
Dr. Brad Reedy speaks about in-laws: dealing with dynamics, their at times intrusive behaviors, and how to set healthy boundaries with them. Much of our success depends on our ability to ally with our spouse while at the same time holding space for ourselves. He talks us through practical aspects of boundary setting, managing our own guilt, and managing the outside resistance to our boundary-setting.
Is “Giving Up” the Answer? (Q&A) - Ep 431
3 november 2021 |
52 min
Dr. Brad Reedy addresses the question of how giving up—as in letting go of expectations and outcomes—is different than giving up on someone. He also discusses boundaries and how to forgive yourself and accept the complete version of your “horrible, rotten” self no matter how difficult things get at home.
School Refusal - Ep 430
1 november 2021 |
65 min
Tonight Dr. Brad Reedy talks about school refusal. He suggests that perhaps school refusal isn’t the “problem” but instead is your child’s “solution” to a deeper issue. He offers different ideas to consider such as getting your child tested for learning differences. And he closes by discussing parents’ own evaluation of their goals concerning their children.
An Interview with Theresa Hasting, M.A., LPC-S, LMHC, RSP – Ep 429
18 oktober 2021 |
36 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Intensive’s and Coaching therapist Theresa Hasting to the podcast. Theresa shares her journey from parenting education, wilderness therapy, to the birth of Soul Tending Services. She talks about joining the Intensive and Coaching team and explains how she differentiates coaching from counseling and psychotherapy.
Helping Your Child by Helping Yourself (Q&A) - Ep 428
13 oktober 2021 |
62 min
Helping Your Child by Helping Yourself (Q&A) - Ep 428 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Sibling Trauma - Ep 427
6 oktober 2021 |
76 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to cope and respond to siblings who experience trauma because of the disruption caused by an identified patient. He talks about containing reflecting back to the sibling a sense of “okay-ness.” He talks about the pitfalls of trying to force siblings into treatment or to talk about their feelings before they are ready. He also suggests the parents focus on their own regulation as a means of providing children what they need.
Make Your Life (not your child’s life) Your Project (Q&A) - Ep 426
30 september 2021 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and talks about the right time to bring a child home after treatment. He talks at length about boundaries and working on yourself. He explains how sibling work is often a parent’s work.
Enmeshment (2021)- Ep 425
28 september 2021 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy talks all things enmeshment: What is it? Why does it exist? How to we repair it? How does anxiety and codependency figure into the enmeshment dynamic?
When You Have Tried Everything (Q&A) - Ep 424
23 september 2021 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and responds to parents who have tried everything. He talks about how doing your work changes you, which may result in changing your relationships with others.
Dealing with Manipulation (2021) - Ep 423
21 september 2021 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy discussed ways that our children and others manipulate us. He explains what creates our vulnerability to manipulation and the work we need to do to be able to resist losing ourselves in relationship to others.
How to Find a Therapist & Supporting Siblings (Q&A) - Ep 422
16 september 2021 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy take live questions and talks about finding a therapist, and how to find a therapy program when a child is high-risk. He also talks about how to avoid putting pressure on our children when offering treatment or therapy. He explains ways to support siblings of the identified patient.
Dealing with Resistance - Ep 421
14 september 2021 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how to engage resistance in others without provoking it and making it worse. He talks about how attachment theory and attachment-based therapy inform therapists and parents about how to deal with troubling symptoms or defenses in children. He explains how "honoring" the defense heals and how the goal is to "find" clients and others rather than try to "fix" them and in finding them, they fix themselves.
Lessons from Heartache & Failure with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 420
10 september 2021 |
53 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro back to the podcast. Sanford shares the story of parenting a stepson through mental illness, doing our own work, and how neuroscience informs parenting.
Finding Your People (Q&A)- Ep 419
9 september 2021 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about how to find people that can support you on your journey. He explains how children need to retain their dignity and how to respect their boundaries while still holding true to yourself.
Self Sabotage - Ep 418
8 september 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy talks about when our children self-sabotage and how understanding primary and secondary gains can prevent reactive parenting.
“I’m Proud of You” (Q&A)- Ep 417
2 september 2021 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks on the issues of praise and how to make difficult parenting decisions when no option is devoid of risks.
Entitlement & Narcissistic Children - Ep 416
31 augusti 2021 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy explains how narcissism and entitlement develop in children. He explains how a parent’s unhealed and unexplored attachment issues impact children. Dr. Reedy explains how understanding the wound beneath the symptom creates compassion and a more effective response to our children. And he warns against shaming children and instead invites parenting into their own work.
Accepting Your Imperfect Self (Q&A) - Ep 415
25 augusti 2021 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about relationally based therapy vs behaviorally based therapy. He also explains how accepting yourself as imperfect and flawed is the door to freedom and the basis of the ability to love others. He explains how to separate-out and honor our feelings while maintaining boundaries with our children.
Wilderness in Summer (and other musings) - Ep 414
19 augusti 2021 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how the seasons affect the clinical aspects of the program. He explains how should and shouldn't get in the way of self awareness and self esteem. He also talks about mother and father wounds and how they affect a child’s development.
Learning to Let Go (Q&A) - Ep 413
12 augusti 2021 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about what it means to let go and how to love our children and support them on their journey.
How to Talk to Your Child (and others) About Wilderness - Ep 412
5 augusti 2021 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy explains the theory of wilderness therapy and how to introduce (or not) wilderness therapy to your child. He explains the pitfalls in selling it to your child and empowers parents to avoid justifying their decision to family and friends.
When Does a Child Become and Adult? (Q&A) - Ep 411
3 augusti 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the role of the parent in the child’s life and why a parent’s feelings weigh so heavily on the child’s psyche. He also talks about what to do when a child doesn't respect a #boundary. He talks about how grandparents can support their grandchildren buy learning and doing their own work. This is a live Q&A with family members of Evoke Therapy Programs.
Letters, Phone Calls and Field Visits - Ep 410
24 juli 2021 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy discusses communication in the context of wilderness therapy. He talks about how our communication can reveal family patterns and dynamics and how we can notice our feelings but not react to them. He gives suggestions for approaching a visit to get the most out of it.
Trauma, Mental Health, and Addiction - Ep 409
13 juli 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about various subjects like dealing with your child’s diagnosis, how grandparents can support the process, and understanding the interplay between the disease model of addiction and the mental health/trauma model.
Transitions and Regression (Q&A) - Ep 408
1 juli 2021 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about various subjects like transitioning home after treatment, how sharing our feelings with our children impacts their development, and the role of parents as teachers for their children.
Parental Grief and Trauma - Ep 407
22 juni 2021 |
67 min
Dr. Reedy explores the trauma and grief of raising a child struggling with mental health issues. He talks about how therapy and 12-Step groups can offer a place to feel and heal. He explains how attachment and attachment trauma relate to trauma and resiliency. He implores parents and other family members to do their own work so they can be present with those struggling, providing a reparative experience.
Repairing Attachment Styles (Q&A) - Ep 406
17 juni 2021 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how we heal childhood attachment patterns and wounds. He talks about validating feelings but not trying to control feelings and how some skills suggest that when we listen to others’ feelings, we can make they dissipate. He also discusses treating borderline traits and how techniques only show us how to be; they do not dictate what we do and say.
Psychodrama Theory and Practice - Ep 405
16 juni 2021 |
70 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discuss trauma and experiential therapies. He explains how the trauma affects the brain and how psychodrama accesses aspects of ourselves beyond words (talk therapy).
Learning to Own Our Issues (Q&A) - Ep 404
10 juni 2021 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the journey of parenting and how enlightenment is a process of accepting our fallibility. He talks about how owning our issues and doing our work is the first step towards awareness and a step that few people take. He talks about how to think about questions regarding boundaries with our children.
How to Get Support You Need (Ch. 10 JHP book review) - Ep 403
8 juni 2021 |
67 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to create a support network for yourself. He talks about how our outer world mirrors our inner world. Brad explains how one must learn to require others to treat them well, instead of threatening, pleading, arguing, debating, or begging to be treated well.
Being Enough for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 402
28 maj 2021 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses journey of parenting and how enlightenment is the process of accepting our fallibility.
The Myths of Being Right (Ch. 9 JHP book review) - Ep 401
12 maj 2021 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the Myths of Being Right, Chapter 9 of The Journey of the Heroic Parent. He talks about how the defense we set up is to protect us from being alone or abandoned. Dr. Reedy explains how being right is a counterfeit form of being who you are, being a self, being a vulnerable human being. He explains how parents can become more human and model this to their children by doing their work and discovering their authentic self.
When Communication Skills Fail (Q&A) - Ep 400
6 maj 2021 |
56 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about what to do when communication skills don't work. He also talks about when to negotiate boundaries and when to stay firm.
How to Help Children Develop a Sense of Self - Ep 399
27 april 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how when we support our children, we must avoid trying to control them even when we think our motives are pure or will prevent them from making big mistakes. He explains how children are not capable of holding their parents’ feelings without suffering some great cost, primarily the loss of the authentic self.
Parental Guilt, Shame, and Your Child (Ch 7 JHP book review) - Ep 398
22 april 2021 |
68 min
Dr. Reedy destroys myths surrounding guilt and shame. discuss how guilt and shame are not effective tools in parenting and moral development. He explains how we have to tolerate feelings of guilt in order to do the right thing.
When Sharing Your Feelings is Too Much - Ep 397
20 april 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members and talks on themes of when to share your feelings with your child and how to be support a sibling returning home from treatment.
Control vs. Influence (Ch 6 JHP book review)- Ep 396
13 april 2021 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy discuss a central theme in his book, distinguishing control from levels of structure and strictness. He talks about how controlling parenting is toxic and involves the use of emotional coercion (shame, fear, guilt, debate, lecturing). He talks about how boundaries come from a place of self-care and demonstrate healthy psychological boundaries. He explains that permissive parents tend to be controlling because they use emotions to manipulate children and to ask children to take care of parents' emotions—he explains how this dynamic leads to a lack of a sense of self in the child.
"What We do to Stay Safe Wounds Others" Live Q&A - Ep 395
9 april 2021 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting. He talks about how our wounds and the symptoms created to protect us can hurt those close to us. The tittle of this broadcast is taken from Dr. JD GIll's book. "The Letters of Juliet to the Knight in Rusty Armor."
Stay in the Room: An Interview with Jeff Mclean & Michael Mclean - Ep 380
1 april 2021 |
108 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Michael Mclean and Jeff Mclean to the podcast. Michael, the father, is a renowned L.D.S. songwriter, playwright, author, and filmmaker. His son Jeff is an accomplished artist, singer, voice teacher, and actor in his own right. This podcast is as preview for a book the three are writing of navigating the landscape from a conservative, small-town, religious community to a father and son finding each other after the son comes out gay. We talk about faith, God, love, and what it means to find each other when the dominant messages in our culture drive us away from each other.
Getting Rid of "Should" Live Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 394
31 mars 2021 |
48 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about making parenting decisions from a place of willingness and capacity rather than from a place of should or should not.
Tools for Encouraging Change in Your Children (Ch.5 JHP book review) – Ep 393
26 mars 2021 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy continues to review chapters from his first book, “The Journey of the Heroic Parent.” In Chapter 5, Tools for Encourage Change in Your Children, Dr. Reedy explains behavioral theory and how, for it to be most effective, it must be built on a foundation of self-awareness. He explains, “Before trying to change our child’s behavior, we would be wise to listen to what that behavior is trying to tell us.”
A Parent’s Heroic Journey Inward: An Interview with Meredith Bluestine – Ep 392
25 mars 2021 |
49 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Meredith Bluestine to the broadcast. Meredith talks about her journey dealing with a child struggling with mental health issues and how it turned her towards looking inward and doing her own work. She talks about a mother’s guilt and shame. She talks about the need to talk with other parents, devoid of judgment, to find healing. She shares a mantra from the poet Maggie Nelson, “It is idle to fault a net for having holes.” We discuss what “doing your own work is” and how it makes a difference.
Seeing the Unseen: An Interview with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 391
24 mars 2021 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro back to the podcast. Sanford talks about "twice exceptional" clients and why it matters. He talks about seeing children and how in our understanding them, we must embrace complexity and mystery. Sanford is Evoke's Learning Specialist and Executive Consultant. He is also the author of "A Light Within" and "A Light Within My Dyslexia."
When to Draw the Line with Your Child - Ep 390
23 mars 2021 |
57 min
When to Draw the Line with Your Child - Ep 390 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Communication and Connection (Chapter 4 JHP book review) - Ep 389
17 mars 2021 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy goes beyond the basics of communication by exploring the foundations of connection with our children. After reviewing the “I Feel Statement” and “Reflective Listening” skills, Dr. Reedy examines how these tools help us to become more aware of the internal landscapes ad the motives that are driving our behaviors.
Helping Children Move Through Emotions Q&A - Ep 388
10 mars 2021 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and explains how to help children move through difficult and painful emotions. He explains that by allowing children feel and not getting attached to them getting over their feelings or encouraging resolution, we help them to integrate and resolve difficult feelings. We "hold" them with love and patience and they are able to naturally move through feelings towards a sense of wholeness.
A Model for Understanding Your Child (Ch. 3 JHP book review) - Ep 387
3 mars 2021 |
59 min
A Model for Understanding Your Child (Ch. 3 JHP book review) - Ep 387 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Teaching Children How to Feel: Live Q&A - Ep 386
2 mars 2021 |
43 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes questions from the live audience and discusses the work required to welcome a child home from treatment; how to (or not to) give advice to children; and how we teach our children to feel.
Enlightened & Intentional Parenting (Ch. 2 JHP book review) - Ep 385
24 februari 2021 |
63 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how “enlightenment,” in part, is discovering your humanness and now you interact with your child’s issues. He reiterates the invitation in this chapter to take the heroic journey inward to discover the parts of you and your past relate to the struggles you are having today.
Changing Levels of Consciousness: Live Q&A - Ep 384
19 februari 2021 |
47 min
Changing Levels of Consciousness: Live Q&A - Ep 384 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Finding One's Self Through Parenting (Ch. 1 JHP book review) - Ep 383
11 februari 2021 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy reviews and expands upon chapter 1 of his book, The Journey of the Heroic Parent. He describes how our children, struggling with mental health issues, need us to look deeply into ourselves, our history, to discover how we are participating in the family dynamics. He explains how healthy attachment is the best predictor of our children’s mental health and how doing our work, not the quality of our childhood, is the best predictor of whether or not we are able to provide our children with a healthy, secure attachment.
Honoring Defenses: Q&A For Evoke Friends And Families - Ep 382
9 februari 2021 |
48 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about honoring other people’s defenses. And he explains how listening to our children’s feelings and detaching from an outcome is the best way to help a child move through their feelings of anger and resentment.
A Voice in the (Mormon) Wilderness: An Interview with Rosie Card - Ep 381
8 februari 2021 |
45 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes former teen-model, entrepreneur, feminist, social media influencer, and political agitator Rosie Card to the podcast. Rosie is a powerful voice in the LDS social media world, taking on patriarchy and advocating for LGBTQ rights. She has attracted the attention of others of her faith including its leaders and government officials with her powerful and courageous voice. She shares her journey and why she thinks it’s important to hold her community accountable from within.
The Journey of the Heroic Parent: Foreword (book review) - Ep 379
4 februari 2021 |
63 min
The Journey of the Heroic Parent: Foreword (book review) - Ep 379 by Dr. Brad Reedy
The Therapeutic Poet: An Interview with Jacky Power - Ep 378
1 februari 2021 |
64 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Jacky Power to the podcast. Jacky is a therapist and poet and uses her poetry and her voice to speak about the authentic and beautiful struggle of human being. She is an addictions psychologist and offers poetry workshops for those looking to find their voice using the blank page as the “perfect therapist.”
Loving Yourself: Q&A January 26, 2021 -Ep 377
27 januari 2021 |
53 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience as he discusses traps of co-parenting and developing a practice of self-compassion.
An Interview with Minaa B. - Ep 376
24 januari 2021 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy welcome psychotherapist Minaa B. She specializes in treating childhood and racial trauma, depression, anxiety, and self-care. She is the author of, "Rivers Are Coming: A Collection of Essays And Poems On Healing From Depression and Trauma." Based in New York City, Minaa is a speaker, writer and workshop facilitator who uses practices such as creative arts, literacy and storytelling to help people manage their mental health and cultivate healing.
Chapter 9: Twelve Mental Health Myths and Keys to Enlightenment (book series) - Ep 375
22 januari 2021 |
60 min
Dr. Brad Reedy reviews the final chapter of his book, The 12 Myths in Mental Health and Keys to Enlightenment. He debunks ideas like the value of guilt and the idea that one is responsible for the happiness of others. He talks about learning to loose and remaining on speaking terms with your own mental illness.
Learning to Be a Person: Live Q&A January 19, 2021 - Ep 374
21 januari 2021 |
59 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience on a variety of topics.
Chapter 8: Practical Tools for Human Being (book series)- Ep 373
14 januari 2021 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy talks about 8 practical tools that can change the way we interact and the way we see ourselves in relationship to others. He talks about how tools can help us in the short run with our boundaries and also how they can help us understand what it means to be a healthy, fallible person.
Emotional Regulation: An Interview with Ashleigh Warner - Ep 371
13 januari 2021 |
49 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Ashleigh Warner to the podcast. Ashleigh is a holistic family psychologist based in Australia and her focus is on emotional regulation and parental co-regulation. We talk with Ashleigh about tantrums, parental triggers, and how a child’s rage and tears can be a good thing.
Choosing a Therapist: Live Q&A with Dr. Reedy - Ep 372
12 januari 2021 |
65 min
On the heals of the recent podcast on "What to Look for In a Therapist," Dr. Reedy takes questions on choosing a therapist and other questions from live audience members. He explains the concepts in "adequate therapy."
Chapter 7: What to Look for in a Therapist (book series) - Ep 370
6 januari 2021 |
64 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses what to look for in a therapist. He talks about the concept of containing and how good therapy creates competing experiences for repairing attachment wounds. He talks about how adequate therapy means being heard and seen rather than being fixed.
Permission to Be Human: An Interview with Dufflyn Lammers - Ep 369 Dufflyn Lammers
1 januari 2021 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Dufflyn Lammers, a Recovery and Addiction Coach who works with women, couples and families struggling with substance abuse disorders and sex and love addiction. She shares her story and how it led to this calling. She talks about how boundaries allow us to demonstrate compassion for others. She describes her work as giving people permission to be human.
Justification, Boundaries, and Caring for Others: Q&A December 30, 2020 - Ep 368
31 december 2020 |
54 min
Taking live questions from audience members, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about triangulation—how when one problem in a family is resolved, tensions start to mount in other relationships. He also talks about how boundaries and self-care are necessary so that we can provide compassionate service to others.
Interview with Dr. Julie Hanks - Ep 367
30 december 2020 |
37 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Julie Hanks as she talks about her work empowering women and navigating faith transitions. She talks about the need for parents to lovingly detach in order to create intimacy. Dr. hanks explains how to navigate seemingly conflicting messages between clergy, conservative culture, and mental health professionals.
Chapter 6: Knowing Mental Health (book series) - Ep 366
29 december 2020 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy continues his series on his new book, The Audacity to Be You by discussing Chapter 6: Knowing Mental Health. He talks about the continuum of mental health and illness and how we are all somewhere on that continuum. He talks about being human vs. being good. He talks about diagnoses as simply patterns of behaviors we develop to cope with painful emotions and how confronting defenses is an ineffective strategy for healing.
Choosing How to Lose: Live Q&A December 16, 2020 - Ep 365
17 december 2020 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from audience members on mental health and parenting. He explains how working with others’ defenses is like driving a car on a frozen lake—you learn how much gas and brake you can apply or how sharp a turn you can make before you lose traction. He emphasizes that in many situations and relationships you cannot win, but you can only choose how to lose (by being your authentic self).
Chapter 5: Marriage, Divorce, and Psychosis (book series) - Ep 364
15 december 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses Chapter 5: Marriage, Divorce and Psychosis from his new book, The Audacity to be You. He talks about unlearning much of what the dominant culture teaches about love and marriage and how each partner is responsible for their own happiness. He emphasizes the need to shift from being a good partner to being a human being.
An Interview with Matt Jacobson - Ep 363
11 december 2020 |
26 min
An Interview with Matt Jacobson - Ep 363 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Question and Answer December 9, 2020 - Ep 362
10 december 2020 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions from the audience and addresses issues regarding the parallel process for parents or loved ones of those struggling with mental health and addiction issues.
Chapter 4: Love That Makes a Difference (book series) - Ep 361
4 december 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Brad Reedy continues the series on his new book, The Audacity to Be You, discussing Chapter 4, “Love that makes a Difference.” He talks about tangible love vs. merely a feeling of warmth and affection. He talks about love and needing and how to recognize the difference between taking and giving. He talks about the ask in intimacy and how the talker is often asking for something and the listener is the giver.
Navigating the Holidays: Traditions, Family & Regression - Ep 360
2 december 2020 |
64 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses tips for navigating family dynamics and cultural expectations during the holidays. He invites mindfulness and self-compassion as you make decisions to spend time with family members during holiday rituals and celebrations. He makes a case for understanding how to make space for yourself while honoring your family.
Transference and Counter-Transference Unpublished Episode - Ep 359
1 december 2020 |
80 min
Transference and Counter-Transference Unpublished Episode - Ep 359 by Dr. Brad Reedy
LIve Q&A November 23, 2020 with Dr. Reedy - Ep 358
24 november 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions. he talks about why it is important to give the identified patient a voice for their pain and hurt. He talks about how to make think about medication vs. therapy. He talks about the goals in setting boundaries.
Chapter 3: Finding Others (book series) - Ep 357
19 november 2020 |
74 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, continues the series on his new book, The Audacity to Be You. In Chapter 3 we explore boundaries and how boundaries are a prerequisite for intimacy and connection. He debunks the myth of “loving too much” and explains how boundaries are not for changing others but for self-care.
Transference and Countertransference Talk - Ep 356
18 november 2020 |
70 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Executive Clinical Director at Evoke Therapy Programs, gives a presentation about transference and countertransference and Evoke's approach to therapy.
Q&A November 16, 2020 with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 355
17 november 2020 |
67 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions from parents on various topics including how therapy can help us find ourselves, how to know the difference between the authentic self and the false self, and how these ideas apply to work contexts and in situations where are children may need our help.
Chapter 2: Finding You (book series) - Ep 354
10 november 2020 |
58 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, continues his series on "The Audacity to Be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self." He explains how the quality of our relationships depends on the relationship we have with ourselves. He talks about be good and right vs. being a Self. And he explains how raising children to be a real Self fosters resiliency.
An Interview with Emilee Krupa - Ep 353
6 november 2020 |
34 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, welcomes Emilee Krupa, LMFT-i. Emilee is an Evoke Intensives Clinical Assistant. She shares her journey of healing that led to her work with Evoke and the need for therapeutic professionals to continue on the life-long journey towards mental health and healing.
Parents' Q&A 11-2-2020 with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep352
3 november 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions from parents on various topics including how to best support a child who is in therapy, how to find your authentic self when you don't have the support of a spouse, and how/when to apologize to your children when you make a mistake so they feel heard and seen.
Chapter 1 : On Being Human (book series) - Ep 351
28 oktober 2020 |
72 min
In this first installment of a series, Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke’s Executive Clinical Director, discusses “Chapter 1: On Being Human,” from “The Audacity to Be You,” He discusses how Evoke’s therapy approach attempts to bring clients into a new level of consciousness. More than skills, tools or advice, Brad talks about how effective therapy transforms clients, providing them with lasting expertise on their own lives.
Therapy: Live Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 350
26 oktober 2020 |
56 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions on parenting a young adult and how much a parent should be involved in an adult child’s life. He talks about how parents learn to consider challenges by changing their level of awareness and consciousness. Other topics include planning for life after treatment and what it means to "let go of the outcome."
Prioritizing Academics and Therapy - Ep 349
24 oktober 2020 |
62 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, talks about prioritizing academics in relationship to overall mental health. He emphasizes that while academics may be an indicator that something is wrong, academic struggle is not THE problem. He talks about how children today are often maligned when compared to previous generations.
An Interview with AIM House Founder Danny Conroy - Ep 348
23 oktober 2020 |
55 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Danny Conroy, the Founder of AIM House in Boulder Colorado, to the podcast. Brad and Danny talk about doing your own work as a professional. Danny also talks about the evolution of his work and learning to lean into the important work of supporting parents by their children are in therapy.
Existential Therapy - Ep 347
8 oktober 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, talks about Existential Therapies including Viktor Frankl’s Logotherapy. He talks about how clients and parents can live in “good faith” or “bad faith.” He talks about the spiritual aspects of transcending one’s facticity (the circumstance in their lives) allowing them the feeling of peace in turbulent times.
Questions and Answers - Ep 346
7 oktober 2020 |
43 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions from the audience on mental health, self-compassion, and how to rebuild trust with children. He also talks about co-parenting challenges.
An Interview with Phil Bryan - Ep 345
5 oktober 2020 |
21 min
Brad interviews Evoke Therapy Programs' therapist, Phil Bryan. Phil shares his passion for research and his long history with wilderness therapy. He talks about his experience in Outward Bound and adventure therapy and contrasts it with Evoke's model. He talks about his approach to clients and spending time in the outdoors.
An Interview with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 344
3 oktober 2020 |
62 min
An Interview with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 344 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Parent Work: Guilt, Blame, & Accountability - Ep 343
2 oktober 2020 |
68 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, talks about the meaning of “our work.” He distinguished between guilt and accountability and explains how parental guilt harms parents and children. He talks about how we dehumanize our children, and we do this because we have been dehumanized. He explains how to shift from guilt to love and how moral development comes from learning how to feel.
Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 342
29 september 2020 |
63 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, takes live questions from the audience on mental health, self-compassion, and the heroic nature of living authentically. He talks about the fundamental shift in our living that makes a difference for us and for those we love.
Therapy Fatigue - Ep 341
22 september 2020 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, talks about the idea of therapy fatigue. He begins by talking about elements of effective therapy and good therapists. He explains that therapy should feel supportive, nurturing, and connecting. He explains that there is no moral imperative to participating in therapy and offers permission for those who want to opt out.
Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 340
15 september 2020 |
57 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, answers questions on various topics. How can we support a loved one while they are in treatment? What role should a parent play in siblings reconciling? How do we balance expectations when it comes to academics and therapy? How does one decide when a client is done with therapy?
Understanding the Inner-Child 2020 - Ep 339
11 september 2020 |
64 min
A practical look at the concept of the inner-child. Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, talks about the idea of the inner-child and how this concept can be practical in helping in all our current relationships.
Q&A for Siblings, Family and Friends of Evoke 8-31-20 - Ep 338
2 september 2020 |
50 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke's Executive Clinical Director, takes questions from audience members. This week's topics include the relationship between morality and guilt, gaslighting in families, and how to best support a child or family member returning from treatment.
Therapy by & for BIPOC Women, w/ Judith Sadora, Gabrielle Burton, and Jessica Amascual - Ep 337
27 augusti 2020 |
59 min
Guest host Judith Sadora, L.M.F.T., welcomes colleagues Gabrielle Burton and Jessica Amascual to have a discussion with her about mental health and how it relates to the Black, Indigenous and People of Color (BIPOC) community. They share their stories as women of color and the importance of centering BIPOC voices and experiences as it specifically relates to trauma. These ladies will be hosting Evoke's first Embracing You Intensive for women of color.
Q&A for Evoke Families and Friends August 18, 2020 - Ep 336
19 augusti 2020 |
45 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Evoke Executive Clinical Director, takes questions from listeners. He talks about forgiving children while they are still struggling, letting go, and why Attachment Theory supports all other theories at Evoke.
An Interview with Sanford Shapiro #3 - Ep 335
18 augusti 2020 |
58 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke's Learning Specialist and Executive Consultant and author of "A Light Within My Dyslexia," Sanford Shapiro. Sanford talks about the prevalence of anxiety and the latest information on treatment of anxiety. He also talks about the consequences of parents and staff over-accommodating children and young adults with anxiety.
An Interview with Travis Slagle - Ep 334
17 augusti 2020 |
36 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives' new Clinical Director, Travis Slagle. Travis talks about his journey to Evoke, what led him to become a therapist, and his passions for gardening and guitar. He shares his passion for the work and how Evoke's approach to resistance sets it apart.
Bringing Joy Back into the Family - Ep 333
14 augusti 2020 |
47 min
Bringing Joy Back into the Family - Ep 333 by Dr. Brad Reedy
How to Restore Trust Between Parents & Children - Ep 332
13 augusti 2020 |
71 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how understanding trust as a choice is helpful vs. thinking about it as objectively earned. He suggested parents place emphasis on earning trust from children. He warns against parents feeling rushed to trust children, but encourages them to set boundaries rather than heaping on guilt and shame.
Transracial Adoption: An Interview with Angela Tucker by Judith Sadora - Ep 331
12 augusti 2020 |
54 min
Guest host Judith Sadora, L.M.F.T. welcomes renowned thinker Angela Tucker to the podcast. They discuss transracial adoption and centering the adoptee. They talk about how adoptees carry trauma along with any gratitude they have for their adoptive parents. Angela gives her thoughts about transracial adoption and the responsibility of white parents who adopt children of color.
Q&A for Evoke Family and Friends August 4, 2020 - Ep 330
5 augusti 2020 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from audience members. Topics discussed include attachment with neurologically atypical children, how we can set boundaries without appearing selfish, and how to cope with loss (or missing a child in treatment).
Trauma and Staying Calm - Ep 329
29 juli 2020 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy talks trauma, trauma responses, and how the brain works. He explains how we discover our historical trauma by looking at our fight/flight responses and tracing them back. Flexible responses are contrasted with trauma-based, rigid, knee-jerk, reactive responses.
Healthy Detachment and Letting-Go of Outcomes - Ep 328
24 juli 2020 |
74 min
Dr. Reedy talks about healthy detachment, boundaries, and letting-go of outcomes. He points out that healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy attachment and that to move away from codependency, we must be willing to do battle with our guilt.
Coming Home after Treatment & Behavioral Contracts - Ep 327
22 juli 2020 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy talks about preparing for your children coming home after treatment. He explains the principles of a good behavioral contract; he also talks about the value and the pitfalls of contracts.
Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 326
17 juli 2020 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on objectifying your children, what to focus on when your child gets home, and how to intervene when siblings are estranged.
Sanford Shapiro talks about Parental Anxiety - Ep 325
16 juli 2020 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro in the first of a series of episodes talking about parental anxiety. Sanford talks about fixing children versus treatment. He talks about how wisdom from working with learning disabilities can be applied to the general population.
The Letter of Accountability - Ep 324
14 juli 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about awareness and accountability and how we focus on one or the other for parents and children. He talks about the place that children occupy in a parent’s mind vs. the weight of the parent in the child’s mind and psyche. He talks about the qualities of a good apology and the gift of an amends or an accountability letter. He talks about paradigms of power in families and how parents who are hesitant to write an accountability letter to their children are held hostage by family systems that emphasized right and wrong over the development of the self.
Gender, Sex, Orientation and Coming Out - Ep 323
7 juli 2020 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy talks about coming out as and LGBTQ+ person. He talks about the impact of how family members, parents in particular, respond and the impact that has on the young person. He talks about the approach from a therapeutic lens in contrast to other paradigms such as religious or cultural.
Narcissism and the Narcissistic Wound – Ep 322
19 juni 2020 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy defines narcissist wounding as the wound of not being seen. While narcissism is used casually and often as an insult, it comes from deep childhood wounding and attachment fractures. He debunks myths that suggest that narcissism comes from overindulging children or permissive parenting. Dr. Reedy explains that we all have some wounding and all have some attributes of narcissism.
Questions & Answers June 15, 2020 - Ep 321
16 juni 2020 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on trust children, coming home after wilderness, and parenting control. He talks about suicide and learning to listen to children as if they are telling you about their dreams.
Borderline Thinking and Functioning – Ep 320
11 juni 2020 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the common ways people exhibit borderline patterns of thinking and functioning. Ge talks about the divisiveness and trauma present in our culture and how borderline thinking, all or nothing/black and white thinking is a sign of trauma. He talks about how we make the badness external to make ourselves feel comfortable instead of focusing on and owning our own issues.
An Interview with Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. - Ep 319
10 juni 2020 |
62 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Harriet Lerner to the podcast. In this interview, they talk about the history and culture of mother-blaming, developing self-compassion, and how an authentic apology leads to healing for both parties. Dr. Lerner uses her personal story and her unique voice to talk about how she got into therapy and writing. Brad asks Harriet about how triggers don't equate to blame and Harriet talks about how to "not take yourself too seriously."
Race & Racism Through the Lens of Therapy – Ep 318
4 juni 2020 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy share research on child development and parenting and how talking about race with our children makes a difference. He suggests that we not wait to talk about race with our children and that the uncomfortable discussion is important to have. He suggests that we learn to listen to others (and our children) so that they don't think that violence is the only way they will be heard.
Seeing in Relationships and Psychotherapy - Ep 317
2 juni 2020 |
69 min
This broadcast was inspired by recent events. Largely based on J.D.Gill's book, Seeing in Intimacy and Psychotherapy, Dr. Reedy talks about how to see past behaviors, symptoms, and rebellion to the wound that lies beneath. He talks about how "othering" people is a way to deal with pain and anxiety. He talks about how a transformation of Self creates an ability to hear and truly see others and how psychotherapy can facilitate this change.
Exploring Myths on Human Being: An Interview With Judith Sadora - Ep 316
28 maj 2020 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Judith Sadora, primary therapist at Evoke Therapy Programs. Judith talks about transracial adoption and attachment. She talks about Narcissism, holding space for others, and the need to do our own work.
Attachment (Based) Informed Therapy - Ep 315
26 maj 2020 |
70 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how attachment theory informs therapy at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about how attachment wounds and fractures can be repaired by a therapist creating competing experiences for the client. the client must re-experience themselves in the context of a capable, empathic other in order to heal.
Jamie Goodman & Dr. Brad Reedy talk about Parental Guilt - Ep 314
13 maj 2020 |
64 min
Jamie Goodman, of Pilcrow Advisors, joins Dr. Brad Reedy to discuss Parental Guilt. They discuss how guilt is not a valid measure of right and wrong and how we pass on to our children a susceptibility to peer pressure when we model guilt or use it to change behavior in our children.
12 Myths on Being Human and Keys to Enlightenment - Ep 313
12 maj 2020 |
65 min
From his recent book, The Audacity to Be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self, Dr. Reedy talks about 12 myths of being human and being a parent, including the myth the guilt is related to morality. He also talks about the keys to enlightenment, including "learning to lose" and "knowing your mental illness."
Questions & Answers May 5, 2020 - Ep 312
7 maj 2020 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from viewers. He talks about criteria for coming home. He discusses the sensibility shift parents make as they get into recovery from codependency.
An Interview of Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 311
6 maj 2020 |
51 min
This podcast features Dr. Brad Reedy. Two guests, Emma Reedy and Beth Miller, interview Dr. Reedy, asking personal questions and questions about his evolution as a therapist.
Interview with Sam Kelly: Parenting Skills for Younger Children - Ep 310
30 april 2020 |
35 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Sam Kelly, art therapist, author, and parent educator. Sam talks about her approach with younger children and how holding space for their feelings is the key to nurturing connection and developing their sense of self. She talks about her book, Young and Divorced. She also shares how her work relates to her family of origin and how it is ideal that parents can listen children's anger and hurt, especially when it is directed at the parent.
Challenging Notions of What it Means to Be a Good Parent - Ep 309
22 april 2020 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the notion of being a good parent. The shift is from being right and good to being a Self. He suggests that the task of parenting is to raise a healthy Self and that this requires rare capacity.
Open Forum Q&A April 16, 2020 - Ep 308
20 april 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from parents and talks about how family members can best support their loved one in treatment.
Anxiety, Stress, and Our Family In Close Quarters - Ep 307
14 april 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about dealing with stress, anxiety and fear during the pandemic. He talks about how we need to find someone who can sit with us in our pain and grief so we can learn to move through our feelings. Dr. Reedy shares several quotes and ideas from Dr. Harriet Lerners book, The Dance of Fear.
How Therapy Can Help and How to Get the Most Out of It - Ep 306
8 april 2020 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the attributes of an adequate therapist. He shares the secret to knowing that you have an adequate therapist is that when you share being upset with them, they apologize rather than making it about you. He also talks about the parallels between an adequate therapist and an adequate parent.
An Interview with Krissy Pozatek - Ep 305
3 april 2020 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Author and Parent Coach Krissy Pozatek. Krissy talks about her roots in wilderness therapy and how it informs her parent coaching. She talks about allowing children to feel and empowering parents. She shares the core principles of her work and talks about her new online Parallel Process Intensive program.
Q&A with Exec Director Rick Heizer and Brad Reedy Ep - 304
2 april 2020 |
62 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke's Executive Director and Partner Rick Heizer to talk about Evoke Therapy Programs' response and policies related to COVID 19. They address both health-safety policies and questions related to the clinical work at Evoke during the pandemic.
An Interview with Dr. J.D. Gill - Ep 303
31 mars 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes author, professor, and his personal therapist, Dr. J.D. Gill. Dr. Gill talks about how to find and recognize a good therapist. She talks about how we create healthy attachment. She also takes questions from attendees on to cope with the unique challenges during the COVID-19 Pandemic. She talks about how we cope with the increase in fear that many are experiencing.
Mindfulness and Existential Anxiety During the Pandemic - Ep 302
26 mars 2020 |
59 min
This episode begins with a meditation by one of Evoke's Field Guides, Dakota Huffman. Dr. Reedy talks about our collective grief and how we cope with the existential anxiety and grief many are feeling. He reads comments and statements of hope shared by attendees and talks about how we find comfort in our connections.
Mindfulness, Anxiety, and Social Isolation During the COVID 19 Pandemic - Ep 301
25 mars 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy invites a guest lead a meditation to begin. He talks about mindfulness and gratitude in the face of our anxiety, pain, and grief. He talks about non-judgment and how it affects us. He talks about what to look for in a therapist and a key to knowing whether you have an adequate therapist.
Open Forum - Support and Connection During COVID 19 Ep - 300
20 mars 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy hosts an open discussion during the COVID 19 pandemic. Participants offer support, insight and love to each other. Dr. Reedy leads a meditation and offers so insight into coping with the anxiety that many are feeling.
How To Talk To Your Children When The World Feels Unsafe Ep - 299
19 mars 2020 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how to listen and help children feel safe during precarious times. He offers some dos and don't to make sure parental anxiety is not leaking onto our children. The talks about how in times like these, what we were doing for self care before may not be enough. We may have to do things differently and find new resources and practices to maintain our serenity.
Social Distancing and Self-Care Ep - 298
18 mars 2020 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy hosts a broadcast during the coronavirus pandemic. He talks about the spiritual challenges of this time of social distancing, He offers some practical suggestions for coping. He announces that Evoke will hold live broadcasts for the public all week to help people through this difficult time.
Finding You, Finding Family, and Finding Connection - Ep 297
15 mars 2020 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the work we do at Evoke Therapy Programs intensives. He talks about how understanding and exploring pour past can lead us to greater insight about the dilemmas we face today. He talks about inner-child work and how that can help us remember what it was like as a child which leads use to understanding our children better.
Introduction to the Shadow based on the book "Meeting the Shadow" by Zweig and Abrams Ep - 296
10 mars 2020 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy discusses Carl Jung's idea of the shadow. He talks about how incorporating the split-off parts of ourselves creates balance, integration, healing, and harmony with others. He talks about the power that comes into our lives as we come to know ourselves and how that helps us to understand our loved ones who may be struggling. He talked about how we find the shadow by looking to our dreams, art, humor, and our intense reactions to others.
An Interview with Jenna Pacelli - Ep 295
4 mars 2020 |
36 min
Brad interviews Jenna Pacelli, therapist at Evoke Entrada. Jenna talks about her approach to treating trauma using Somatic Experiencing. She talks about what led her to wilderness therapy. She articulates the intersect of mindfulness and neuroscience and how she incorporates Eastern and Western perspectives into her work.
"The Audacity to Be You" book release - Ep 294
25 februari 2020 |
70 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about his new book, "The Audacity to Be You," what it means to be a Self and love an Other. He talks about learning to love yourself and how therapy can help.
Q&A for Siblings, Family and Friends of Evoke 2-18-20 - Ep 293
20 februari 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from family, and friends of Evoke. He talks about how to be support your loved one while they are at Evoke. He talks about power-struggle and the nature of Intensive Workshops. He talks about how to sit with our more vulnerable and insecure parts of ourselves.
Book Review of "The Dance Of Connection" by Harriet Lerner Ph.D. - Ep 292
12 februari 2020 |
73 min
Dr. Reedy give a fave review to Harriet Lerner's Dance of Connection. He summarizes many key points and tools and touts the book as a wonderful invitation to be your "highest self" and be kind to yourself along the way. He talks about how connection starts with Self work and boundaries.
An Interview with Chelsie Newkirk - Ep 291
11 februari 2020 |
22 min
Dr. Reedy interviews Chelsie Newkirk, Primary Therapist at Evoke Entrada. Chelsie talks about what brought her to wilderness therapy and how the wilderness calms the nervous system and assists her in her work with clients. She talks about brain-spotting and the somatic work she does with clients.
An Interview with Birgit Show - Ep 289
10 februari 2020 |
32 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Birgit Show, Primary Therapist at Evoke Cascades. Birgit talks about her upbringing in Germany and her journey to find wilderness therapy and Evoke. She talks about her approach to therapy and the influences that impact her work with her clients.
13 Things NOT to Say to Your Children - Ep 290
8 februari 2020 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy talks about 13 things not to say to your children and the psychology behind the ideas, including things like "I would do anything for you" and "You're too sensitive."
An Interview With Lauren Roberts - Ep 288
3 februari 2020 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Lauren Roberts, Assistant Clinical Director and Primary Therapist at Evoke Cascades. Lauren talks her approach to therapy and supervision. She talks about being a mother and the lessons that has taught her about working with families. She talks about her passions and some of her most memorable moments and lessons in wilderness therapy.
Q&A for Siblings, Family, and Friends of Evoke January 30, 2020 - Ep 287
31 januari 2020 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy talks about random topics and takes live questions on mental health related issues in parenting. He talks about the effects of leaning into resistance instead of trying to control others. He shares a case study. The talks about the difference between identifying ways we impact our children and the guilt and blame that is so prevalent.
An Interview with Ken Gilbert - Ep 286
24 januari 2020 |
37 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Ken Gilbert, primary therapist at Evoke Cascades. Ken talks about his journey from Evoke client, to Evoke therapist and everything in between. He shares his story of addiction and Brad and Ken talk about Ken's first session in the program as a client. Ken talks addiction, recovery, and surfing in the Deschutes river.
An Interview with Lindsey Bosse - Ep 285
24 januari 2020 |
30 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks with Lindsey Bosse, Field Director at Evoke Cascades. Lindsey shares her unique perspective from her various positions at Evoke. She talks about staff training and the monumental contribution field staff contribute to the clients' progress. She talks about her interest in how nutrition impacts mental health and her passions outside of work.
Book Review of "Breaking Up With Sugar" by Molly Carmel - Ep 284
24 januari 2020 |
34 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the new book "Breaking Up With Sugar." He talks about how Molly Carmel uses her own story to break down the stigma and shame associated with disordered eating. He talks about how Carmel draws clear parallels between sugar addiction and other addictions, including the addictive thinking present in both. The author explains how this is not a diet book and how our relationship with sugar and food deserves our attention. The book offers insight, hope, and practical tools to those who may have struggled weight and eating issues for many years.
Interview with Molly Carmel, Author of "Breaking Up with Sugar" - Ep 278
21 januari 2020 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes Molly Carmel, author of "Breaking Up with Sugar" and founder of The Beacon Programs in New York City. Molly talks about her new book and the journey to telling her story with raw honesty and courage. She talks about her decision to share her bypass surgery in a field where that is frowned upon. Molly talks about how sugar can hijack your thinking and the parallels between addiction to alcohol and drugs and the addiction to sugar. She talks about following the "middle way" and finding a way out of addictive thinking. She asks listeners to explore their relationship with food and sugar, in an effort to break free and find hope and empowerment. She talks about the toxic cycle of dieting and how to get out of self-defeating patterns.
An Interview With Trina Grater - Ep 277
20 januari 2020 |
28 min
Continuing our series with our therapists, Brad interviews Evoke at Entrada Assistant Clinical Director, Tina Grater. Tina talks about bringing heart to her work. She talks about "seeing" her clients reveal themselves and what it means to honor their defenses. She talks about motherhood and her connection to nature.
Seeing Your Child based on an NYT article by Daniel Siegel M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson Ph.D. - Ep 276
17 januari 2020 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy talks attachment and seeing your child. He talks about the barriers to seeing and hearing your child. And he talks about how the development of the parents' sense of Self is the key to the ability to provide the child with what they need.
An Interview with Dr. Matt Hoag, Co-Founder of Evoke Therapy Programs - Ep 275
16 januari 2020 |
43 min
In this interview with Dr. Matt Hoag, learn how he uses wilderness and the community in his work with young people and their families. Matt Hoag is a pioneer in the field of wilderness therapy and the foremost authority on research within wilderness therapy. Listen to him talk about his early days and the evolution of the field.
Co-parenting and Parental Alienation - Ep 274
15 januari 2020 |
68 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the challenges, pitfalls, and hope in co-parenting. He also talks about parental alienation and the do's and don'ts when dealing with and grieving the effects of parental alienation.
Open Forum: Random Topics and Q&A - Ep 273
10 januari 2020 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy begins by discussing topics from Evoke's recent clinical training meeting. He talks about what it means to show up differently in the world and with those we love. He talks about how we decide whether to set boundaries or to compromise. He discusses the reason for "wilderness" in wilderness therapy.
An Interview with Brand Bonsall - Ep 272
8 januari 2020 |
28 min
Brand Bonsall, primary therapist at Evoke Therapy Programs, talks about what led him to wilderness therapy and his approach to working with clients and families.
Home Therapy and Parent Support - Ep 271
7 januari 2020 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the work that parents do with a home therapist while their child is away in therapy and how that impacts their children. He talks about the need for self-care and support so children don't feel the pressure to take care of the parent at the sacrifice of their authentic self.
Q&A For Evoke Siblings, Family, and Friends - Ep 270
3 januari 2020 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how parents might unconsciously ask children to take care of them emotionally. He talks about the appropriate use of "I feel statements." He talks about how to listen to and honer the symptoms of our children, even the siblings of Evoke participants.
The New Year: Goals, Objectives, and Behavioral Contracts - Ep 269
31 december 2019 |
54 min
With the new year upon us, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about therapy goals for children parents. He talks about the importance of remaining differentiated from those we love. He also discusses the format as well as the pros and cons of behavioral contracts.
An Interview with Judith Sadora - Ep 268
23 december 2019 |
42 min
Evoke therapist Judith Sadora talks about her background and her passion for family therapy. She talks about how she uses attachment to understand her clients. She also talks about issues surrounding therapy and people of color.
Understanding and Treating Self-Harm and Suicidality - Ep 267
20 december 2019 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy talks about self-harm and how responding to it with curiosity instead of fear helps individuals to recover. He explains that we can respond to mental illness symptoms in ways the increase our understanding and compassion. He talks about how self-harm (and suicidality)are attempts to escape pain and symptoms of self-hate. He explains how self-harm can become an addiction
The Season of Gifts: Giving and Getting; Loving and Needing - Ep 266
10 december 2019 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the difference between loving and needing, giving and taking. He talks about how vulnerability is only one side of the equation in intimacy. He explains the greatest gift parents can give to their children is greater self-awareness and greater self-development and how these will lead to parents being able to "carry around" their inadequacies so their children won't.
Gaslighting, Parenting, and the Narcissistic Wound - Ep 265
5 december 2019 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how parents can be dismissive of their children's feelings, especially when feelings and directed at the parent. He describes the narcissistic wound that we all suffer from, to one extent or another. He explains how embracing our unacceptable parts lead to spiritual freedom.
Insurance for Wilderness Therapy - Ep 264
27 november 2019 |
53 min
This podcast is features guest host Joe Feldman as he shares tips and suggestions for pursuing insurance reimbursement from insurance companies for wilderness therapy.
Emerging Adulthood 2019 - Ep 263
23 november 2019 |
50 min
Emerging Adulthood 2019 - Ep 263 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Racial Identity and Attachment, by Judith Sadora - Ep 262
15 november 2019 |
61 min
Cascades' Therapist, Judith Sadora, takes us through the understanding of attachment and how it relates to racial identity development and secure relationships. Judith uses examples pulled from her experience working with transracially adopted families and interracial families.
Emotional Triggers & Dysregulation During the Holidays - Ep 261
15 november 2019 |
35 min
Brad talks about factors that can lead to emotional dysregulation: exceptions, alcohol use, critical family members, and poor self-care. He describes emotional dysregulation and associated mental health issues. He encourages listeners to be kind to themselves and allow for all feelings rather than trying to force feelings we are told we "should" have.
Q&A Evoke Family & Friends - Ep 260
13 november 2019 |
44 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions about length of stay in treatment, how to help siblings, and what makes Evoke Therapy Programs unique.
Special Guest, Sanford Shapiro: Educational Trauma & Universal Design for Learning - Ep 259
1 november 2019 |
52 min
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro to the Evoke Therapy podcast. Sanford is our new Learning Specialist & Executive Consultant at Evoke Therapy Programs. He brings a wealth of experience from the cognitive sciences to help Evoke support clients with learning differences. Sanford talks about educational trauma and how universal design can help to cast a wider net to help more clients.
How the Expectations of Perceived Success are Affecting Teens & Young Adults Today? - Ep 258
31 oktober 2019 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how expectations and parental anxiety regarding perceived success impacts our children. He also talks about how parental trauma can affect the way we parent our children.
ADHD and Evoke Therapy Programs - Ep 257
25 oktober 2019 |
32 min
Dr. Talks explains ADHD, executive functioning, and the effects of academic and educational trauma. he talks about testing and the need for accommodations.
Parenting and "Inner-Child" Work - Ep 256
23 oktober 2019 |
35 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the idea of the "inner-child" and how that relates to parenting your own children. He encourages parents to explore their histories through the inner-child concept as a way to increase bandwidth in dealing with a child struggling with mental health and addiction issues.
Evoke's Phases Of Growth 2019 - Ep 255
17 oktober 2019 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the stages and phases of growth that Evoke participants go through. He talks about how metaphor and stories bypass resistance. He talks about the risks of reducing children, or others, to their behaviors and suggests that we listen to what behaviors are trying to tell us before we try to change them.
Brainspotting - Ep 254
3 oktober 2019 |
38 min
A review of Brainspotting from David Grand's book, Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change. Dr. Reedy talks about Dr. Grand's evolution from EMDR to developing an accessible and efficient model for treating trauma.
Questions and Answers - Ep 253
1 oktober 2019 |
34 min
Dr. Reedy talks about boundaries, shame, going home after wilderness therapy, and other topics as parents, extended family, and friends of Evoke participants ask live questions.
Evoke Therapy Intensives - Ep 252
24 september 2019 |
46 min
Dr. Reedy explains intensive programming at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about psychodrama and how these experiences are for the novice or the experienced therapy goer. He suggest that there is no better thing you can do to support a loved one struggling with mental health or addiction issues, than to attend your own intensive.
Autism Spectrum Disorder - Ep 251
19 september 2019 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy talks about Autism Spectrum Disorder and how wilderness therapy works with individuals with ASD. He offers practical take-home ideas for parents and emphasizes the need for continued support. He suggests that we shift to see things through their eyes.
The Impact Letter: From Children To Parents - Ep 250
12 september 2019 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the need for children to explore their anger and grievances towards their parents and the benefits when parents are able to hear them. He debunks the myth that giving your child a stage to complain about how you hurt them doesn't mean you can't hold them accountable--it doesn't cause them to be a victim. Listening allows them to move through their feelings.
Questions and Answers - Ep 249
3 september 2019 |
42 min
Dr, Reedy talks about codependency and attachment. He talks about what it means to be human and contrasts it with being raised to be good or right. He talks about what to look for in an adequate therapist.
Outcomes - Ep 248
29 augusti 2019 |
51 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about outcomes. He explains quantitative vs qualitative outcomes and their advantages and disadvantages. He shares some of the outcomes at Evoke, compared to other programs and approaches. He also talks about what it means to let go of outcomes and how this practice, ironically, leads to better outcomes!
Accountability 2019 - Ep 247
14 augusti 2019 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the nature of accountability and what we can do to encourage accountability in others, including our children. He also talks about modeling accountability and how guilt and shame are barriers to accountability and prevent awareness. He talks about our right to feel hurt and take our time to trust again.
Family Of Origin 2019 - Ep 246
6 augusti 2019 |
71 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the impact of our family of origin (the family we grew up in) on our current day challenges and difficulties. He also talks about how the pathway out of our children’s struggles runs through looking at the ways we, as parents, hurt them and came up short. He talks about “emotional proximity” and how this is passed on in families. He talks about the need to balance our ability to hold our children psychologically (containing) and having a secure self with clear boundaries.
The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller 2019 - Ep 245
26 juli 2019 |
45 min
This book is a must read. Dr. Reedy reviews what he calls "the most important book on the subject of child development and parenting." He talks about the dynamic where a child is able to perceive what a parent needs and then gives it to the parent at the cost of the real self. He explains how many of our challenges are related to our childhood wounds and how it is only by discovering those early wounds that we are able to move past many of the pitfalls in our lives today.
Healthy Detachment - Ep 244
24 juli 2019 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy talks about codependency and healthy detachment. He offers a definition of healthy detachment and describes the art of boundaries. He suggest healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy connection, attachment, and intimacy.
Social Graces Racial Cultural Identity - Ep 243
23 juli 2019 |
53 min
Evoke Therapy therapist, Judith Sadora, introduces the concepts of social graces and how it incorporates racial and cultural Identity in working with adolescents of color. She discusses the importance of normalizing and creating space to talk about concepts related to racial and cultural identity. This podcast also discusses a few strategies that adopted parents can incorporate when discussing race with their adopted children from different racial and cultural backgrounds.
Fears And Insecurities 2019 - Ep 242
19 juli 2019 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy talks about facing our fears & insecurities and how doing so reduces the power they have over our life. He talks about how doing so helps our children, our spouses, and our friends to feel safer. He talks about how sometimes we have to do things while we are still afraid and how therapy can help with that.
How Much Time Does My Child Need To Be In Treatment? 2019 - Ep 241
25 juni 2019 |
50 min
Brad talks about how decisions for length of stay are made and the kinds of things to consider. He challenges parents to avoid the mistake of thinking that treatment is a fix, but rather to approach it like it is the start of a life-long process. He talks about why so many clients go on to some residential programming after Evoke.
Adjusting To Out Of Home Placement 2019 - Ep 240
14 juni 2019 |
50 min
This broadcast is for parents new to the experience of wilderness therapy or residential treatment. Dr. Reedy discusses the benefits of experiential therapy. He talks about the adjustments families and siblings go through and where to look for support. He also discusses the benefits and ideas behind parental work in the therapeutic process.
Vulnerability 2019 - Ep 239
8 juni 2019 |
57 min
Dr. Reedy talks about vulnerability, shame, and how we can focus on what is beneath the symptom to facilitate healing. He talks about how it can be difficult for all of us to lean into our work because we grew up in a culture of right & wrong, good & bad, blame, shame, and guilt.
Evoke Therapy Programs Life Cycle 2019 - Ep 238
20 maj 2019 |
74 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the stages of change for children and parents as they move through the therapy process at Evoke. He talks about regression, relapse, and how to let go of outcomes when it comes to your children's thoughts and feelings,
Introducing Evoke to Family & Friends 2019 - Ep 237
11 maj 2019 |
49 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Clinical Director and Co-Founder of Evoke Therapy Programs, explains Evoke's wilderness therapy for those who have a family member or friend at Evoke. He talks about how you can support your loved ones as they navigate the difficult path toward healing from mental health and addiction issues.
Communication Skills and Principles 2019 - Ep 236
7 maj 2019 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how communication skills can be used to gain clarity and transform a relationship from enmeshment and reactivity to clarity and connection. He talks about the fundamental tools of communication and listening and the ideas that they rest on.
Four Agreements Book Review 2019 - Ep 235
26 april 2019 |
65 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses "The Four Agreements," by Don Miguel Ruiz. He highlights how closely this book aligns with what we know about child development, attachment, and parenting. He talks about guilt and shame. He talks about learning to un-learn many of the things our parents taught us and their parents taught them. Brad recommends this book to parents and children alike as a spiritual guide to our psychological development.
Fathers And Sons 2019 - Ep 234
24 april 2019 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how fathers play an important role in the lives of their sons. He talks about being a mentor and learning to listen as keys to raising resilient and resourceful sons.
Siblings, Family, and Friends of Evoke Q&A - Ep 233
18 april 2019 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from siblings, family, and friends of Evoke Therapy Programs participants. He talks about how to support a loved one in treatment. He talks about honoring siblings struggle to reconnect to their sibling in treatment.
Letter Writing and Phone Calls: How Communication with Your Child Shapes the Relationship - Ep 232
12 april 2019 |
69 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how we communicate with our children reveals qualities of our relationship with them. He provides guidance for writing letters to your child and connecting those to the underlying ideas of intimacy, connection, and differentiation.
Inner-Child - Ep 231
4 april 2019 |
47 min
Dr. Brad Reedy, Clinical Director of Evoke Therapy Programs, discusses the concept of our inner-child: the lost parts of ourselves, the authentic or real self. He talks about how it is lost through messages of shame and how to regain and integrate those parts of ourselves. Brad talks about doing you own work and shares some stories about his own inner-child work.
Getting the Support You Deserve and Need 2019 - Ep 230
29 mars 2019 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy discusses self-care and creating a life where people respect and honor you and your boundaries.
The Myth Of Being Right 2019 - Ep 229
22 mars 2019 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how being right is the opposite of being a Self. He talks about how children and parents can get stuck in the battle over who is right and who is wrong. He talks about how trying to be good and right is the enemy of personal growth.
Entitlement 2019 - Ep 280
13 mars 2019 |
54 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about entitlement in children and offers a unique perspective. He explains how terms like "spoiled," "selfish," and even "entitled" are used by adults to shame children so that the adult doesn't have to own and deal with boundary setting. He explains barriers to setting boundaries and encourages parents to do their own work to improve in this area. He also talks about how parents are shamed through labels like "helicopter-parent," "enmeshed," or even "codependent."
Trust, Permission, Forgiveness, and Forgetting 2019 - Ep 228
22 februari 2019 |
62 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the dynamics of trust and forgiveness as it relates to parenting a struggling child. He talks about how trust is something we own and decide to give away on our own time schedule. He talks about how healing and forgiving are at the discretion of the hurt part, not the one doing the hurting. He empowers parents to own their feelings a not be responsible for how others interpret them.
Resistance (in Therapy) - Ep 227
21 februari 2019 |
69 min
Dr. Reedy talks to parents about various types of resistance in therapy and how best to engage their children without making it worse.
8 Tools For Transforming Relationships 2019 - Ep 226
14 februari 2019 |
65 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the 8 Tools he has seen made the biggest impact on the children and families he has worked with for the last 23 years: I statements, listening, clarifying intent, avoiding imperatives and polarizing language, developing a practice of compassion, and taking time-outs. He shares stories and examples of each of the tools as well as how they help foster differentiation in relationships.
The Identified Patient 2019 - Ep 225
7 februari 2019 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the shift from the identified patient model to treating the family system. He talks about seeing beneath the symptoms to the underlying wound that is being expressed. He also invites parents of struggling children to model vulnerability and openness in the therapeutic process.
Q&A for Parents, Siblings, Extended Family & Friends - Ep 224
5 februari 2019 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy answers questions from siblings, friends, and extended family members of Evoke participants about wilderness therapy, siblings, and mental health. Some of the topics included here are how to support a loved-one while in treatment, how to deal with a sibling at home resistant to family therapy, and how to deal with guilt for sending a child to treatment.
Review of "The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck" By Mark Monson - Ep 223
29 januari 2019 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the hot new book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Monson. He talks about how the book offers an accessible entry to some Buddhist concepts like radical acceptances, the inevitability of suffering, detachment, and the beginners mind. He also talks about some of the book's limitations and short comings, specifically the lack of insight on how to effectively deal with resistance.
Co - Parenting 2019 - Ep 222
26 januari 2019 |
43 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the challenges that occur when co-parents don't support each other. He discusses strategies and tools for creating cohesion. At the center of the idea is that if one becomes focused on the other parent, it can increase division and polarizations.
Al-anon, Coda, & Other Anonymous Meetings - Ep 221
23 januari 2019 |
44 min
Dr. Reedy talks about who can benefit from attending 12-Step support groups. The benefits of attending, sharing, working the steps and having a sponsor are reviewed. Dr. Reedy suggests that the 12-Steps could benefit everyone regardless of their specific circumstances.
Couple's Work (2019) - Ep 220
17 januari 2019 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy explains that when the identified patient is removed from the family in treatment the parents often redirect the energy towards the marital relationships. He explores qualities of a healthy marriage beginning with the development of healthy self development in each of the partners. He debunks some common ideas in our culture surrounding love and marriage.
Risk Taking Behavior - Ep 219
11 januari 2019 |
37 min
Dr. Reedy talks about risk taking behavior, the adolescent brain, and how development informs us about our children’s risky behavior. He uses it to explain addiction and other seemingly irrational choices.
Family Conflict - Ep 218
9 januari 2019 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy talks about dynamics underlying family conflict. He warns that conflict is not simply a measure of a child's struggle and that it may signal a need for a parental shift. He discusses concepts and tools that help in navigating conflict.
Insight, Experience & The Authentic Self - Ep 217
3 januari 2019 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the role that insight and experience play in the development of a healthy self in the therapeutic process.
Review of "Refuge Recovery" by Noah Levine - Ep 216
27 december 2018 |
35 min
Dr. Reedy reviews Refuge Recovery by Noah Levine. He praises it as a simple and straightforward approach appealing to those who may want a non-theistic approach to recovery. He also talks about how it doesn't tend to provoke defensiveness as some other models, due to it's avoidance of dogmatic principles. He talks about it as both an alternative and a compliment to other approaches to treating addiction. He discusses mindfulness and other Buddhist inspired elements of the approach.
Identity - Ep 215
14 december 2018 |
44 min
Dr. Reedy discusses adolescent and young adult developmental tasks and the implications for parents helping children negotiate these stages.
Frustration Tolerance and Gratification Delay - Ep 214
11 december 2018 |
46 min
Dr. Reedy talks about Delay of Gratification and Low Frustration Tolerance and the developmental science behind it. He talks about how these traits related to other issues. He teaches parents how to support healthy development in these areas. He explains that Wilderness Therapy, specifically nomadic primitive living wilderness therapy, is an effective way at fostering growth in these areas.
Review of “How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child” by John Gottman - Ep 213
4 december 2018 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the work of John Gottman, Ph.d. and his concept of emotional coaching (in contrast to dismissive, dissaproving, or laissez-faire parenting). Gottman explains how learning to hear and validate children leads to resiliency and the reduction of mental health issues. Parents who focus on behaviors rather than emotions, tend to overvalue cooperation. Parents who see a child's "negative" emotions as an opportunity for intimacy are better suited to provide healthy guidance. He explains how this is all built upon the foundation of a parent's self-awareness.
Internet, Gaming, and Computer Addiction - Ep 212
30 november 2018 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the vulnerabilities and underlying issues that may lead to electronic addictions. He discuses and compares substance abuse disorders with process addiction. He talks about parenting a child struggling with self-sabatoging and self-medicating behaviors.
Winter & Holidays in Wilderness Therapy - Ep 211
28 november 2018 |
34 min
Dr. Reedy discusses some of the concepts underlying wilderness therapy and how those dynamics are intensified in the winter and during the holiday season. He talks about how we support and celebrate holidays and how wilderness in the winter creates mindfulness and a greater appreciation for family.
What Your Children Don't Want You To Know (or they can't say) - Ep 210
13 november 2018 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy talks about important aspects of parent-child dynamic that help to improve boundaries, self-efficacy, and resiliency. Parental self-care and appropriate praise are also discussed.
When Is It Time For Guidance? - Ep 209
3 november 2018 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the need for listening before talking or teaching. He describes how the brain's higher level functioning, when feeling threatened or stressed, is hijacked and the individual is unable to take-in information or reason. He talks about the need for parents and others to listen to children to quiet the flight or fight responses, before launching into lectures or lessons, so that those lessons may sink-in.
Q & A for Siblings, Family, and Friends of Evoke - Ep 208
28 oktober 2018 |
38 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from family and friends of Evoke Therapy Program clients: How can you support someone who is in treatment? What does a typical day in wilderness therapy look like? What happens after wilderness therapy? What if a sibling doesn't want to talk or write letters to our child while they are in treatment?
Getting it Right vs Getting it Real - Ep 207
20 oktober 2018 |
27 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between being real and being right. He discusses how our contexts impact us. He discusses how therapy can help us to repair our wounds and how the authentic self is fostered through connection.
Self In Parenting - Ep 206
13 oktober 2018 |
41 min
Dr. Reedy discusses finding yourself in parenting. He explains how selfless parenting is a trap and how the first ingredient in a healthy parent is a healthy sense of self. He talks about how to combine the idea of supporting your child while taking care of yourself directly rather than indirectly.
Healthy Boundaries based on "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner - Ep 205
27 september 2018 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy reviews The Dance of Anger and what it can teach us about boundaries. He talks about how boundaries are hard work and how we use threats, nagging, lecturing, and all other sorts of behaviors in parenting instead of setting boundaries. He also talks about how setting healthy boundaries is akin to developing and modeling a healthy sense of self and helps to foster that development in our children.
Control vs, Influence - Ep 204
14 september 2018 |
50 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how strictness and control are not the same thing. He discusses emotional coercion and how it is harmful in parenting. He talks about how most permissive parents use emotional coercion in lieu of boundaries.
Raising Resilient Children – Interview with Summit County Health Department - Ep 203
13 september 2018 |
26 min
Dr. Reedy is a guest with Derek Siddoway on Summit County Health Department's podcast in preparation for his talk on Raising Resilient Children, Monday September 17, 2018, from 6-8 p.m. at the Blair Education Center in Park City, Utah. Go to https://summitcountyhealth.org to learn more or to subscribe to their podcast.
Guilt, Blame, and Accountability - Ep 202
7 september 2018 |
67 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the intersect between parental guilt and accountability. He describes how guilt can rob us of our ability to hold boundaries and practice self-care. He makes a case for the value of parents doing their own work without the negative effects of blame. He describes the "idiot" parent intervention.
Q&A For Siblings, Family, And Friends Of Evoke Therapy Programs - Ep 201
31 augusti 2018 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from family and friends about how to support your family member at Evoke Therapy Programs. He addresses relapse and how a parent can be confident a child is telling the truth while in treatment. He also talks about what makes wilderness therapy differ from other forms of therapy.
Attachment Theory: What it looks like and why it's important - Ep 200
24 augusti 2018 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy talks about why attachment is so important and what a healthy attachment does for a child's brain and development. He also talks, practically, about what healthy attachment looks like and what gets in the way of creating it.
Reading and Writing Letters and Principles of Communication - Ep 199
22 augusti 2018 |
59 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the letter writing process at Evoke and what we can learn about communication and relationships. He discusses how we, as parents, ask children to remove their defenses when it is often we that contributed to the need for the defense in the first place.
Interview With Evoke Therapy Alumni Mother And Daughter - Ep 198
21 augusti 2018 |
48 min
Dr. Reedy interviews Joye and Morgan, a mother and daughter who went through Evoke's Wilderness Therapy Program. Joye and Morgan share their journey of hope and healing in the hopes that others won't feel so alone.
Letting Go Of Outcomes - Ep 197
17 augusti 2018 |
49 min
Dr. Reedy discusses what it means to "let go of outcomes" and how this practice can lead to exactly what we want. He talks about what gets in the way of letting go, including pain, hurt, fear, and our instinct to control. This discussion and Q&A portion of the podcast focuses, in part, on co-dependency and how to heal from it.
Coming Out - Ep 196
15 augusti 2018 |
34 min
Dr. Reedy talks about coming out for LGBTQ+ children. He talks about it from the perspective of the child (using thoughts from Ash Beckhams TED Talk) and how best to receive and celebrate your child. He offers do's and don'ts for parents whose children come out.
Contexts and All Kinds of Therapy - Ep 195
11 augusti 2018 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the value in our lives of living in different contexts. A difference context allows you to see your own context and provides perspective for understanding the implicit, unwritten, and unspoken messages of your family of origin and your day to day life. A safe therapeutic context can help repair shame and the feeling that you are not okay. A safe context is the starting place for healing and addressing symptoms that started as coping mechanisms.
Q&A for Siblings, Family, and Friends of Evoke - Ep 194
16 juni 2018 |
28 min
Dr. Reedy talks with families from Evoke Therapy Programs about aftercare and how to support Evoke clients.
Preparing for Transition: Regression and Relapse - Ep 193
7 juni 2018 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what to expect during transitions. He talks about how parents can focus on their own relapse and avoid addictive thinking. He explores various ways parents can utilize resources to prepare for the inevitable struggles that occur during and after transitions.
The I - Feel Statement And Effective Communication - Ep 192
31 maj 2018 |
64 min
Dr. Reedy reviews Evoke Therapy Programs' communication model, including the I-feel statement and reflective listening. He also delves into the principles the underly communication theory and how people often express feelings to try to change behaviors in others. He explains that the reason we share may be more important than why we share our feelings.
Cause And Effect Thinking Error in Parenting - Ep 191
29 maj 2018 |
54 min
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how simple cause and effect thinking in parenting relates to objectification and shame in children. He explains how differentiation and the development of a self in a parent is the foundation for healthy attachment.
Introduction To Evoke Therapy - Ep 190
24 maj 2018 |
56 min
Dr. Reedy welcomes new families to Evoke Therapy Programs wilderness therapy experience and explains the theory behind wilderness therapy. He talks about the goals and objectives of wilderness therapy and how experiential therapy bypasses resistance and creates change.
Getting The Support You Need And Deserve - Ep 189
17 maj 2018 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy discusses practicing self-care and setting boundaries with unsupportive friends and family. He talks about empowering parents to assert their needs in relationships with children and others. He explains how creating a supportive network begins with courageous and bold steps towards developing an authentic self.
Mindfulness, Psychotherapy, and Nutrition in the Field - Ep 188
10 maj 2018 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy discusses mindfulness practices used in Evoke's wilderness therapy. He talks about how we could broaden our idea of mindfulness beyond breathing, silent, meditation. He talks about the relationship between mindfulness and healthy attachment. He briefly comments on nutrition in the wilderness.
Q&A For Siblings, Family, And Friends - Ep 187
1 maj 2018 |
38 min
Dr. Reedy addresses siblings questions about Evoke Therapy Programs and how to respond to a sibling at home who doesn't want to talk about their brother or sister. He also talks about how siblings and family can support their loved one in treatment by learning about the ideas and concepts taught at Evoke. He also explains why there is less communication in the early phases of treatment with family members at home.
Choice Theory - Ep 186
26 april 2018 |
47 min
Dr. Reedy explores the work of William Glasser--specifically Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. He talks about the drives beneath children's mental health and addiction issues and how understanding these may create greater compassion and understanding.
Grit, Resilience, & The Efficacy Of Primitive - Living, Nomadic Wilderness Therapy - Ep 281
20 april 2018 |
41 min
Dr. Reedy explores the concepts of grit, resilience, and growth mindset. With these ideas as a foundation, he explains how the nomadic model of wilderness therapy produces the most effective outcomes. He shares Evoke's outcomes compared to the other wilderness therapy outcomes.
A Daily Practice & "The Language Of Letting Go" - Ep 185
18 april 2018 |
46 min
Dr. Reedy explains the value of a mindfulness practice. Several readings from Melody Beattie's daily reader, "The Language of Letting Go" are offered and discussed. Topics discussed include letting go, self-care, pain, letting things happen, freedom, and honoring your roots.
The Hero's Journey - Ep 184
13 april 2018 |
44 min
Dr. Reedy provides an overview of Joseph Campbell's concept of "The Hero's Journey" and he explains how each of us can use it to navigate life's challenges. Parents with struggling children are called to embark on a heroic journey and overcome fears to find "the life that is waiting for them."
How To Motivate Your Child - Ep 183
5 april 2018 |
61 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the do's and don'ts of behavioral reinforcement with children. He discusses the difference between control and strictness and how children can flourish with varying levels of structure, but suffer when there is emotional coercion and shame. He also talks about how, developmentally, children learn from the outside-in and parents tempted to lecture or debate are avoiding the difficult work of boundaries.
Review of "Brave Parenting" by Krissy Pozatek - Ep 182
3 april 2018 |
45 min
Dr. Reedy reviews the book by Krissy Pozatek, Brave Parenting: A Buddhist Inspired Guide to Raising Resilient Children. He discusses the value of listening and being present with your child's feelings and how children develop resiliency through dealing with challenges.
Immersion - Principles, Jargon And Culture Of Wilderness Therapy - Ep 181
30 mars 2018 |
40 min
Dr. Reedy explains the value of immersion into the culture of wilderness therapy and how the use of metaphor, ritual, and distance help to create a powerful, experiential intervention. He shares some of the jargon from wilderness therapy and how this creates a sense of belonging for participants.
Adoption and Attachment - Ep 180
29 mars 2018 |
42 min
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the effects of adoption on attachment. He summarizes the book by Sherrie Eldridge, "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew." Parents with and without adopted children learn about how the quality of attachment affects resilience. Parents are shown how to support children in grieving.
Avoiding Power Struggles - Ep 179
16 mars 2018 |
53 min
Dr. Reedy talks about how to avoid to power struggles with your children. He explains how to "lose" and avoid the trap of trying to be "good" or "right".
Another Broadcast On Boundaries - Ep 178
13 mars 2018 |
63 min
Dr. Reedy discusses how boundaries and synonymous with self-care, how the principle role of boundaries is not to teach others a lesson, and how parents need to give up "being right"--and learn how to lose.
Trauma, Defenses, and Diagnoses - Ep 177
8 februari 2018 |
53 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the how pain and wounded-ness lie beneath our symptoms and diagnoses. He talks about how to see the pain beneath the symptom and how this frame offers healing. He also talks about how therapy changes the base and leads to transformation. Lastly, he calls on parents to do their own work, heal their own trauma, and how their primary goal is to support the development of a child's sense of self.
Questions and Answers For Siblings, Extended Family, and Friends - Ep 176
6 februari 2018 |
64 min
In this open forum for family and friends, Dr. Reedy talks about shame and the effects on our children. He talks about the recent suicide of a teen in Newport Beach and the notes he left that give us a clue as to the effects in our culture with it's emphasis on performance and compliance. Dr. Reedy also talks to siblings left behind, when a child is placed at Evoke, and how best to support them.
Review Of "The Price Of Privilege" By Madeline Levine, Ph.D. - Ep 279
2 februari 2018 |
51 min
Dr. Reedy reviews and teaches from the book, "The Price of Privilege" by Madeline Levine. Dr. Levine invites parents to make a shift from emphasizing performance to supporting the development of the "self" in children. The culture of affluence and its impact on parenting are discussed. Dr. Levine writes, “We have to be acutely attuned to our own psychological issues and our own happiness, or lack of it. We have to be willing to take an unflinching look at our parenting skills.”
Why Your Child SHOULD Be Your Friend - Ep 175
30 januari 2018 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the similarities between friendship and the ideal ways to treat a child. Healthy boundaries are similar for both. Reedy also talks about how best to lead and mentor children.
What To Look For In A Therapist - Ep 174
26 januari 2018 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy talks about what traits, processes and skills make for a good therapist in conjunction with or following Evoke Therapy Programs. Flexibility and meeting the client where they are at are two of the many qualities he suggests to look for. Principally, look for a therapist who looks for you.
Treatment Differences in Substance Abuse vs Addiction - Ep 173
19 januari 2018 |
63 min
What is the difference between substance abuse and more severe forms of addiction? How does the treatment approach differ when treating someone using or abusing substances compared to someone who is addicted? What is the family's role in treatment of addiction? Dr. Reedy answers these and explains that the root of addiction is in the thinking rather than the consumption of alcohol or drugs.
The Anatomy Of Peace - Ep 172
17 januari 2018 |
54 min
Dr. Reedy reviews The Anatomy of Peace, written by the Arbinger Institute. This book talks about regarding others, our children, with a new sensibility. The authors suggest that when we hold them in a place of love and empathy, children are more likely to feel moved to accept invitations for changing their lives.
Behavioral Vs Relational Approaches To Therapy - Ep 171
9 januari 2018 |
55 min
Dr. Reedy discusses behavioral vs. relational approaches to therapy and how concepts can be extrapolated to apply to parenting. He also talks about the evolution of wilderness therapy over the last 22 years.
Visits To The Field - Ep 170
5 januari 2018 |
51 min
This broadcast is to prepare parents and family members of Evoke clients for a visit to the field. Approaching the visit with an open mind and prepared to work are key ideas that will make the visit successful. Dr. Reedy discusses other skills and tools that will help to make the visit rich and meaningful.
Review of "The Awakened Family" by Shefali Tsabary - Ep 169
3 januari 2018 |
66 min
Dr. Reedy reviews the book by Shefali Tsabary, "The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children." He discusses mindfulness in parenting, learning how to avoid reactiveness, and how the foundation of optimal parenting is based in the practice of focusing on one's own work and healing.
Nurture Shock Part 3: The Science Of Teen Rebellion - Ep 168
22 december 2017 |
42 min
Dr. Reedy completes his series on Nurture Shock, talking about the chapter on The Science of Teen Rebellion. Neuro-biological issues as well as how parents can reconsider the value of conflict and oppositionality in a child's development are discussed.
"Why Kids Lie." Lying And Deception. Reviewing Of The Book Nurture Shock P. 2 - Ep 167
20 december 2017 |
48 min
In the second part of his review of "Nurture Shock," Dr. Reedy discusses why children lie and how parents can best encourage honesty.
Nurture Shock Pt 1 The Inverse Power Of Praise - Ep 166
15 december 2017 |
44 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the first chapter in Nurture Shock: "The Inverse Power of Praise." Self-esteem, growth mindset, and how to and not to praise children to increase resiliency, frustration tolerance, and effort are discussed.
A Review of "The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran - Ep 165
5 december 2017 |
39 min
Dr. Reedy shares some thoughts from the book, The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, and he makes connections to the work children and parents are doing at Evoke Therapy Programs.
Q&A Siblings, Extended Family And Friends Of Evoke - Ep 164
30 november 2017 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy answers questions from siblings and extended family related to a student or client at Evoke Therapy Programs. Length of stay, aftercare, answering questions from friends, and a typical day are all discussed.
Lessons From Star Wars - Vader & Yoda. Fear, Love, And Control In Parenting - Ep 163
19 november 2017 |
41 min
Dr. Reedy draws upon the epic story of Star Wars to highlight the processes that parents go through in dealing with children struggling with mental health and addiction issues. Yoda and Darth Vader become the archetypes of love and fear in our journey. Reedy also shares concepts from Joseph Campbell and the hero's journey, which informed George Lucas and his telling of this classic story.
School Refusal And Academic Failure - Ep 162
14 november 2017 |
52 min
Dr. Reedy talks about and answers parents' questions about school refusal and academic failure. He encourages parents to utilize resources and to seek for underlying issues that lead to school problems. He talks about holding boundaries without fear and control.
Loving Kindness Meditation - Ep 161
8 november 2017 |
36 min
Dr. Reedy shares the Loving Kindness Meditation, or "Metta," it's history, some examples and how evidence shows it improves our mental and physical health. Evoke parents are encouraged to practice this meditation. Evoke students and clients are introduced to it in the wilderness.
Evoke's Primitive, Nomadic Model Of Wilderness Therapy - Ep 160
7 november 2017 |
60 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the theory of wilderness therapy and the virtues of the nomadic, primitive living model for treating mental health and addiction issues in adolescents and young adults.
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