EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

⚠️ DISCLAIMER >> this episode dives into trauma-informed care but highly sensitive topics are discussed, including Rachel’s personal experiences with a nationally publicized traumatic event while working at a school in 2018

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In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay hosts Rachel Archambault, a speech-language pathologist specializing in trauma informed practices. They delve into the definition of trauma informed care, its importance in neurodiversity affirming practices, and how trauma can impact autistic individuals and their families. Rachel shares her personal experience with trauma, highlighting how professionals and parents can proactively adopt trauma informed approaches. The episode also covers practical tips for discussing traumatic events with children and ensuring that care providers are sensitive to trauma. Resources like the NASP guidelines and social stories are recommended for further support.

00:00 Introduction and Theme Overview

02:41 Guest Introduction: Rachel Archambault

03:41 Rachel's Traumatic Experience

07:03 Impact and Aftermath of Trauma

10:42 Trauma Informed Care in Schools

14:17 Supporting Children Through Trauma

16:48 Collaborative Efforts and Resources

23:26 Drills and Trauma: A Delicate Balance

31:00 Big T vs Little T Trauma

32:17 Understanding PTSD and Trauma Symptoms

33:31 Personal Experiences with Trauma

33:54 Listening and Validating Trauma

35:02 Trauma in Autism and Communication Challenges

36:03 Bodily Autonomy and Abuse Risks

38:54 Trauma Informed Care: Key Elements

47:49 Recognizing and Preventing Trauma

54:22 Proactive Trauma Informed Approaches

57:04 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rachel

Instagram @ptsd.slp

Facebook @ptsd.slp

LinkedIn @rachel-archambault

Website: www.ptsdslp.com

Email: [email protected]

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note:

1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this episode, Dr. Tay explores obsessive traits in autistic children, inspired by a conversation with Katherine @theneurodiversitymom. The discussion focuses on distinguishing between autism-related behaviors and potential co-occurring conditions like OCD. The episode highlights the need for diagnostic clarity and continuous reassessment of children's behaviors to identify effective support strategies. Dr. Tay also shares personal insights from a recent business retreat, emphasizing the importance of self-care for parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay discusses updates to her new educational membership platform aimed at empowering parents globally to advocate for their autistic children and providing tools for better support strategies.

00:00 Introduction to Obsessive Traits in Autistic Kids

00:07 Inspiration Behind the Episode

01:47 Personal Life Updates and Reflections

08:54 The Importance of Diagnostic Clarity

09:20 Understanding Obsessive Traits and OCD

12:11 Strategies for Supporting Kids with Obsessive Traits

16:58 The Role of Medication and Therapy

20:42 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

25:29 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️learn more about the membership: drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️learn more about group therapy: drtaylorday.com/therapy

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this episode, Dr. Tay explores the topic of neurodivergence in adults, particularly parents, with guest Dr. Salena Justice, a psychologist specializing in late diagnoses of autism and ADHD. They discuss the indicators of neurodivergence, the evaluation process, and the differences between self-diagnosis and formal diagnosis. The conversation also addresses common issues faced by neurodivergent adults, the therapy approaches that can be beneficial, and the importance of finding the right therapist.

00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence in Parenting

00:37 Guest Introduction: Dr. Salena Justice

00:50 Understanding Late Diagnoses in Adults

01:35 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:44 Challenges in Diagnosing Autism in Adults

07:35 Evaluation Process for Adults

12:21 Common Presentations of Autism in Adults

15:14 ADHD in Adults: Common Presentations and Challenges

17:45 Discussing Autism Diagnoses and Common Misdiagnoses

19:08 Evaluating Autism and ADHD in Women

23:15 Therapy Approaches for Autism and ADHD

26:52 Finding the Right Therapist

28:40 Connecting with Dr. Salena Justice

31:04 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Salena on Instagram @@psychologywithsalena and check out her website

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses child-led therapy with Nicole Casey, a speech-language pathologist known for her work with gestalt language processing. The conversation delves into the importance of child-led approaches, how they differ from traditional methods, and what parents should look for in therapy sessions. They also touch on the misconceptions around play-based therapy, the challenges and benefits of truly child-led sessions, and the significance of honoring all forms of communication. Nicole shares her experience of growing her practice and social media presence, advocating for child-centered methods, and collaborating within the field to offer authentic support for neurodivergent children.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

00:21 Meet Nicole Casey: Speech Therapist and Advocate

01:59 Nicole's Journey and Social Media Impact

09:03 Defining Child-Led Therapy

11:18 Balancing Therapy Goals with Child-Led Approaches

15:56 The Importance of Play in Therapy

27:31 Communication Beyond Spoken Language

32:11 Kids Taking Initiative

32:29 Recognizing Progress in Therapy

33:38 Mindset Shifts for Parents

34:55 Child-Led Therapy in Practice

38:05 Navigating Real-World Challenges

40:07 Balancing Boundaries and Freedom

45:34 Adapting Child-Led Approaches in Different Settings

49:22 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Nicole Casey on Instagram @connectionsspeechpathology and her website www.greatlanguagepartner.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the distinction between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Inspired by conversations with parents in her group therapy program, she delves into the complexities and overlaps between the two diagnoses. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of understanding PDA within the framework of anxiety and highlights the stigmas associated with ODD, especially in racialized communities. She also touches on the limitations of behavioral approaches and the significance of adopting neurodiversity-affirming practices.

00:00 Introduction and Life Updates

00:45 Exploring PDA and ODD

02:03 Nuances and Misconceptions

02:49 Clinical Perspectives and Research

05:33 Therapeutic Approaches and Stigma

09:52 Evidence-Based Practices

14:46 Conclusion and Future Episodes

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

In this episode, Dr. Tay interviews Kaley Stymeist about "Spell to Communicate" (S2C), a method used to support non-speaking autistic children in expressing themselves. Kaley shares her journey with her son Hudson, who is progressing his communication through S2C after language regression. The discussion covers the methodology of S2C, emphasizing its neurodiversity-affirming approach and the importance of motor planning. Kaley also addresses common misconceptions and the need for structured training. Listeners learn where to find S2C practitioners and how to get started.

00:00 Introduction to Spell to Communicate

00:42 Meet Kaley Stymeist

01:03 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

02:20 Kaley's Family and Autism Journey

03:07 Hudson's Birth and Early Challenges

06:49 Discovering Spell to Communicate

15:38 Hudson's Progress and Motor Planning

25:32 Starting with Presuming Competence

25:50 Introduction to Three Letter Boards

26:16 Transition to 26 Letter Boards

26:54 The Importance of Prompting

28:32 Building Motor Control and Accuracy

30:08 Progressing to Open Communication

33:18 The Goal of Spell to Communicate

39:09 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions

44:50 Finding a Practitioner and Training

47:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Kaley on Instagram @kaley_and_3 and learn more about her S2C practice @autismsoulspeak

⚡️ find a local S2C practitioner >> https://i-asc.org/

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay shares a mini-episode where she dives into the complexities and controversies surrounding Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy in the autism field. She presents a balanced perspective on ABA, emphasizing the importance of informed consent and considering the diverse needs and privileges of families. Dr. Tay also highlights different neurodiversity affirming modalities under the ABA umbrella, upcoming podcast guests, and her own experiences, urging the need for more nuanced conversations in the field.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

00:52 Welcome to the Parenting Space

01:05 Diving into ABA Therapy

01:22 Controversies and Perspectives on ABA

01:41 Upcoming Podcast Guests and Topics

04:55 Informed Decision-Making for Families

05:42 Advocating for Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

07:06 Changing the Field from the Inside Out

08:55 Accessibility Issues in Neurodiversity Affirming Therapy

09:18 Challenges in Child Care for Working Parents

10:02 Intersectionality and Racial Perspectives in ABA

11:05 Safety and Compliance for Non-White Children

12:08 Balancing Family Needs and Therapy Approaches

12:43 Open Dialogue and Future Conversations

13:34 Supporting Families Through Free Resources and Memberships

14:47 Encouraging Informed Consent and Advocacy

15:37 Conclusion and Future Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episodes 26, 59, and 128, which further discuss ABA and varying approaches. and check out the Making the Shift episode on ABA that inspired this episode!

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Rob Gorski, known as The Autism Dad on social media, to discuss his experience as a father raising three autistic children. They explore the unique challenges and opportunities of fatherhood in the autism community, the grief process associated with diagnoses, and the importance of leaning into emotions. Rob shares his journey of starting a blog, the evolving support needs of his children, and the importance of self-care and mental health for parents. They also discuss the societal expectations for dads and the need for more inclusive and supportive conversations around fatherhood and autism.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Special Guest

00:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

02:01 Rob Gorski's Family and Autism Journey

03:22 Challenges and Insights on Autism Diagnoses

08:48 Support Needs and Progress of Rob's Children

12:42 Navigating Parenting and Personal Challenges

13:39 The Role of Dads in Autism Parenting

18:05 Emotional Struggles and Mental Health

28:38 Understanding the Impact of Parental Emotions

29:34 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

31:10 Navigating Social Media and External Judgments

32:54 The Importance of Repair and Recovery

34:50 Challenging Parenting Norms and Expectations

39:03 Advocating for Your Child's Needs

44:06 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Care

48:33 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rob on Instagram @theautismdad and on his website

⚡️ listen to our recent episode on Rob's podcast about autism in girls

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language they have been exposed to the most.

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In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Carrie Cariello, a mother of five, including an autistic young adult. Carrie shares her family's journey, advocacy work, and the unique challenges and triumphs of raising an autistic child. They discuss practical strategies for fostering independence, the importance of community, navigating the education system, and marital dynamics. Carrie also shares insights into the transition to young adulthood, including finding supportive college programs. This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a reminder that families are not alone in their journey.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

02:09 Meet Carrie Cariello: A Journey Through Autism

03:00 Carrie's Family and Early Diagnosis

04:07 From Writing to Advocacy

06:40 Navigating Challenges and Safety Concerns

08:59 Parenting Strategies and Splinter Skills

17:50 Redefining Family Dynamics

27:48 Parenting Challenges and Triumphs

28:41 Navigating Discomfort and Fix-It Mode

29:16 Dinner Time Dilemmas

31:28 College Program Search

36:24 Balancing Marriage and Parenting

40:12 Encouraging Independence

45:48 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Carrie >>

Instagram @carrie_cariello 

Facebook @whatcolorismonday

Website Link: https://carriecariello.substack.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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In this episode, Dr. Tay hosts Maggie of Unfurling Littles and explores Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) from an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lens. They discuss how to incorporate neurodiversity-affirming practices into ABA to create a compassionate, child-led approach. Maggie shares her journey into the field, her own lived experience as an autistic individual, and practical examples of how ACT principles can be applied within ABA for the benefit of both children and their families. The episode also addresses common concerns about traditional ABA and offers insights on fostering mindful play and regulation.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

00:46 Guest Introduction: Maggie from Unfurling Littles

02:33 Maggie's Journey into Early Childhood Special Education

03:43 Challenges and Criticisms of ABA

06:28 Maggie's Personal Neurodivergence Story

08:29 Founding Unfurling Littles and Professional Challenges

10:59 Navigating ABA and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

14:38 Introduction to ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

16:39 Implementing ACT in Family and Child Goals

21:26 Balancing Family and Child Values in Therapy

27:08 Practical Applications of ACT in Therapy

29:25 Measuring Engagement and Joy in Child Interactions

29:59 Integrating Child-Led Approaches in Therapy

30:27 Present Moment Awareness and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

32:04 Mindfulness in Neurodiversity Affirming Care

34:16 Handling Dysregulation with ACT Principles

36:32 The Importance of Validating Emotions

40:41 Healing Through Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

44:33 The Evolution and Future of ABA

50:49 Connecting with Families and Resources

52:45 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Maggie on Instagram @unfurling_littles and her website https://www.unfurlinglittles.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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If you find value in this podcast and want even more support, tune in to learn about “EVOLVE the membership.” This new membership offers a lower-cost, flexible alternative to traditional clinical services, designed to provide accessible support and education for autism families. I share personal insights about my journey from academia to entrepreneurship, the challenges faced in balancing multiple roles, and the motivation behind creating this membership. Making this launch happen even while I’m in Europe (and truthfully it feels quite sentimental!).

What’s included in the membership:

⚡️a comprehensive video library

⚡️community support

⚡️expert masterclasses

⚡️ resources

⚡️and if you’re a founding member, you get the opportunity to shape what’s in the membership and what I create.

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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:32 Launching a New Membership

02:24 Personal Journey and Professional Growth

04:42 Challenges and Expanding Services

06:51 The Evolve Membership Details

09:46 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

12:02 Advocacy and Real-Life Stories

18:03 Membership Benefits and Pricing

31:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Dr. Tay and Rachel Madel, a speech language pathologist specializing in AAC, dive into the benefits of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) for autistic children, both non-speaking and verbally fluent children. They dispel common misconceptions about AAC, discuss various high-tech and low-tech AAC tools, and emphasize the importance of modeling and integrating AAC into daily routines. They also explore the impact of AAC on motor planning, literacy, and overall communication skills. Rachel shares practical tips for parents starting the AAC journey, highlights the significance of robust systems, and challenges the use of PECS. The episode includes insights on how technology can enhance communication, even among children with well-developed spoken language, and offers various resources for further learning.

00:00 Introduction to AAC and Its Importance

00:47 Meet Rachel Madel: AAC Specialist

02:34 Understanding AAC: Tools and Techniques

06:07 The Role of Technology in AAC

09:37 Starting the AAC Journey: Tips for Parents

14:21 Addressing Misconceptions About AAC

19:57 Motor Planning Challenges: Apraxia vs. Dyspraxia

26:08 Popular AAC Apps and Tools

30:01 The Importance of Core Words in AAC

30:20 Grammar and Literacy in AAC Systems

31:04 Modifying AAC Systems

32:54 Motivating Children to Use AAC

36:04 The Role of Modeling in AAC

39:00 Why Not PECS?

43:54 Introducing AAC to Verbal Children

46:46 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rachel on Instagram @rachelmadelslp, find resources on her website www.rachelmadel.com, and listen to her podcast Talking with Tech

⚡️ get on the waitlist for Rachel's course, AAC Ally

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Stefanie, the president and co-founder of the nonprofit Lilly's Voice. Stefanie shares the inspiring story of her non-speaking autistic daughter, Lilly, whose journey with augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) devices led to the creation of the nonprofit. Lilly’s Voice provides AAC devices to children who have communication differences for families who cannot access these tools through conventional means, such as through school funding, insurance, or other grant mechanisms. Lilly’s Voice also provides education on AAC. The episode covers the importance of AAC, debunks common myths, and emphasizes best practices for parents to support their children's communication. Stefanie also discusses fundraising efforts and the impactful work of Lilly’s Voice.

00:00 Introduction to Lily's Voice Nonprofit

02:19 Meet Stephanie: The Inspiration Behind Lily's Voice

03:32 The Journey to AAC: Challenges and Discoveries

05:51 Launching Lily's Voice: A Nationwide Nonprofit

08:34 Understanding Apraxia and the Role of AAC

12:11 Debunking Myths About AAC

20:01 Navigating the Process of Acquiring AAC Devices

25:48 How Lily's Voice Supports Families

27:18 App Limitations and Popular Choices

28:02 Guidance for Parents on Choosing Apps

30:20 Personal Experiences with AAC Apps

31:28 Best Practices for AAC Devices

34:55 Learning and Customizing AAC Devices

40:12 Fundraising and Support for Lily's Voice

45:25 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

46:39 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ learn more about Lilly's Voice, apply for a scholarship, and learn about AAC on their website

⚡️ connect with Stefanie through the nonprofit’s Instagram account @lillysvoice and Lilly’s personal page @afriendforlillybug

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay is joined by Kaligirwa @blackspectrumscholar, an AuDHD communication researcher, to discuss the intersection of neurodiversity and research, with a particular emphasis on BIPOC representation within the autism community. Kali shares her personal journey of discovering her autism diagnosis and her efforts to highlight the representation of Black autistic individuals on social media. The conversation covers broad topics such as the history of autism subtypes, the diagnostic challenges faced by BIPOC individuals, and the complexities of clinical diagnosis. Dr. Tay and Kali also delve into the importance of evolving our understanding and terminology around autism to build greater acceptance and support as well as how to use social media as a tool to learn while also knowing its limitations.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

01:19 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:22 Guest's Personal Journey with Autism

04:49 Challenges and Representation in Autism Research

07:14 Social Media and Misinformation

11:31 Navigating Research and Personal Experience

26:11 Discussion on Autism Subtypes and Diagnosis

30:53 Understanding PDD-NOS and Stigma

31:47 Challenges with DSM-5 Levels

32:58 Regional Differences in Diagnoses

33:44 Functional Assessment Over Levels

35:24 Issues with Profound Autism Label

37:18 Spiky Profiles and Individual Differences

39:22 BIPOC Representation in Autism Conversations

39:55 Cultural Barriers to Diagnosis

42:57 ODD and PDA: Shifting Perspectives

49:53 Complexities of Diagnosing Anxiety

51:24 Finding Affirming Practitioners

53:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Kaligirwa on Instagram and TikTok @blackspectrumscholar and check out her resource library

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Emily Hamblin, a parent coach and neurodivergent mom of four, discuss practical strategies for self-compassion, regulating the nervous system, and addressing the challenges parents face. The episode covers the crucial role of self-care, debunking the notion that it's selfish, and highlights the impact it has on the parent and the entire family. Emily shares her personal journey, including her experiences and how understanding her own sensory needs and emotional triggers significantly improved her family dynamics. They discuss how to model healthy coping mechanisms for children and the importance of addressing underlying behaviors.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:15 Meet Emily Hamblin: A Journey into Neurodivergent Parenting

02:31 The Challenges of Parenting Neurodivergent Children

03:31 Shifting Perspectives: From Control to Compassion

08:40 Understanding Self-Compassion and Its Importance

13:55 The Impact of Self-Compassion on Parenting

15:55 Modeling Positive Behavior for Children

17:46 The Beginning of a Challenging Journey

18:59 Coping with Extreme Parenting Stress

20:35 Finding Support and Validation

21:56 Balancing Self-Care and Parenting

23:35 Navigating Guilt and Self-Care

27:57 Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Kids

29:36 Membership Programs and Resources

32:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Emily Hamblin on Instagram @enlighteningmotherhood and learn more about her services https://emily-hamblin.com/

⚡️ listen to my episode on Emily's podcast Enlightening Motherhood episode 126

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Joy Eberhardt, a holistic pediatrician specializing in integrative and functional medicine, discuss PANS (Pediatric Acute-Onset Neuropsychiatric Syndrome) and PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections). They delve into the complexities of diagnosing these conditions, particularly in neurodivergent children, and the importance of a holistic approach that includes conventional, integrative, and functional medicine. The conversation also covers the significance of parental advocacy, understanding neurodivergence, and defining thriving for both children and parents. Dr. Eberhardt shares insights into her clinical practice, challenges in differentiating symptoms, and ways to support families through personalized care plans.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:10 Meet Dr. Joy Everhart: Holistic Pediatrician

00:43 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

01:49 Welcoming Dr. Joy to the Podcast

02:32 Dr. Joy's Journey and Expertise

04:08 Understanding Neurodivergence in Dr. Joy's Family

08:24 Dr. Joy's Professional Practice and Expansion

13:20 Navigating Pediatric Care and Neurodivergence

17:41 Introduction to PANS and PANDAS

25:51 Understanding the Complexity of Child Burnout

26:50 The Importance of History in Diagnosis

28:14 Exploring PANS and PANDAS

30:04 Identifying and Treating Inflammation

32:57 The Three-Legged Stool Approach

36:35 Holistic and Integrative Medicine

38:22 Defining Thriving for Your Child

41:33 Advocacy and Finding the Right Support

48:07 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Eberhardt on Instagram @orchidpediatrics and visit her website www.orchidpediatrics.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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Dr. Tay and Sunita Theiss, an Indian neurodivergent mom, discuss Sunita's journey through autism diagnoses for herself and her children, the impact of South Asian cultural values on her parenting, and the integration of neurodivergent needs within religious communities. Sunita shares her personal experiences, the challenges of advocating for her child's needs within faith-based settings, and practical strategies for creating more inclusive communities. Together, they discuss the importance of accommodations, self-advocacy, and intentional parenting.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

00:54 Host's Background and Podcast Mission

01:57 Sunita's Family and Personal Journey

02:51 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family

05:22 Cultural Influences and Misattributions

11:44 Parenting Approaches and Self-Advocacy

21:40 Accommodations and Long-Term Support

26:41 Meeting Online and Family Backgrounds

27:11 Integrating Different Upbringings

27:42 Reparenting and Healing

28:29 Family Time and Dinner Table Dynamics

31:21 Parenting Strategies and Research

33:28 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family

37:01 Cultural and Community Reactions

41:30 Supporting Neurodivergent Families in Religious Communities

49:00 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Sunita on Instagram @sunitatheiss, visit her website, and read her Substack

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this solo episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of being comfortable with being wrong and sitting with the discomfort that accompanies it. She draws from her personal experiences and professional journey to provide insights on navigating life with an autistic child while balancing evidence-based practices with neurodiversity-affirming approaches. Dr. Tay addresses the evolving landscape of autism care, emphasizes the value of lived experiences, and offers practical advice to parents.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Chandele Morris, an inclusive educational consultant and author, discuss the barriers in the educational system, the importance of understanding neurodiversity and tangible steps to be better advocates for autistic children. Chandele shares her experiences as a former educator and a parent of an autistic/ADHD child, emphasizing the need for inclusive education and the significance of updating educational training. The episode also highlights practical strategies for creating inclusive classrooms and the role of community and resources in supporting neurodivergent children.

00:00 Introduction to the Educational System and Advocacy

00:41 Meet Chandele Morris, an Inclusive Educational Consultant

02:25 Understanding Neurodiversity in Education

03:29 Challenges in Teacher Training and Awareness

05:45 The Need for Systemic Change in Education

09:24 Inclusion vs. Segregation in Classrooms

15:41 Real-Life Examples and Solutions for Inclusion

27:10 Fidgets and Sensory Breaks in Classrooms

28:01 Inclusive Classroom Practices

29:01 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families

29:38 AAC Devices and Communication

31:24 Teaching Empathy and Inclusion

36:25 Challenges in Changing Educational Systems

41:36 Finding Community and Support

44:06 The Role of Children's Books in Neurodiversity

46:38 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Chandele Morris

Instagram @Diversityofminds

TikTok @Diversityofminds  

Facebook @Diversityofminds

⚡️ check out Chandele's books

The Beauty of Us All

I'm Just a Kid: A Social Emotional Book about Self-Regulation

⚡️email [email protected] to schedule an author visit, professional development, or order bulk copies of books

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Courtney English discuss:

1. importance of sensory systems
2. introduction to sensory profiles
3. how to support sensory regulation at home

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Courtney English on Instagram @courtneyenglish.ot and on TikTok @courtneyenglish.ot

⚡️ get access to Courtney's resources here, including learning about your child's sensory profile

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Daniella Boyd discuss:

1. Daniella's personal and parental journey in navigating neurodivergence
2. An explanation of DIRFloortime, including engagement in play and relationship-based activities.
3. Supporting BIPOC neurodivergent children and the adaptability of Floortime to meet culture-specific needs

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Daniella Boyd through her website https://allplayisok.com/ or through Instagram @montessoriandsensory

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Sarah Wayland discuss:

1. her journey and insights into using relationship-based dynamic intelligence (RDI) to enhance family bonds and your autistic child's growth
2. the role of co-regulation and autonomy in parenting your autistic child
3. practical advice for parents on integrating RDI principles into daily life

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Sarah Wayland, Ph.D., parent coach + founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents on her website and on Facebook and LinkedIn

⚡️ learn more about Relationship-based Dynamic Intelligence (RDI™) and working with Dr. Wayland

⚡️ purchase her book along with Dr. Donna Henderson and Jamell White "Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else"

⚡️ reference another great resource from Dr. Wayland: Behavior Revolution

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay, Jessica Hanzo, and Lisa Baskin Wright discuss:

1. navigating the IEP process
2. working with your child's school to have a shared understanding of PDA (pathological demand avoidance), a theorized profile of autism
3. proposing appropriate accommodations and support strategies for PDA learners

RESOURCES

⚡️ keep learning and purchase the course Supporting PDA Learners: Centering Connection, Autonomy and Equality in the IEP Process 

⚡️ connect with Jessica Hanzo, LMFT on Instagram @pda.project and visit her website

⚡️ connect with Lisa Basking Wright, IEP coach on Instagram @lisabaskinwright, on Facebook, and visit her website

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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Dr. Tay discusses the highly requested topic of how autism often presents in females, particularly those with low support needs. This episode would still be an informative listen if you have a son who presents with high masking autism, as the more nuanced traits are discussed.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want more on this topic? listen to Dr. Donna Henderson's episode on girls (note: this episode was recorded for psychologists / neuropsychologists but still could be a good listen)

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Amanda Diekman discuss:

1. what a low demand lifestyle is
2. the three layers of a demand
3. how to find joy in this parenting journey

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Amanda Diekman

Instagram @lowdemandamanda 

Facebook @lowdemandamanda

www.amandadiekman.com

Get the book

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Steph Curtis discuss:

1. the nuances of raising a child with pathological demand avoidance (PDA), emphasizing early detection, adapting parenting techniques, and understanding unique needs.
2. the journey to find the right educational setting for a child with PDA, dealing with societal pressures, and the critical role of flexibility and individualized approaches.
3. leveraging community support and personal growth through blogging and writing, highlighting the value of connecting with community and the intersection of PDA with conditions like ADHD and anxiety.

RESOURCES

⚡️ resources referenced in today's episode

Steph's Blog

PDA in the Family: Life After the Lightbulb Moment

Sasha's Animation About her School Experiences

⚡️ connect with Steph Curtis, mom to two autistic daughters, writer, and PDA pioneer

Instagram @stephstwogirls

YouTube @stephstwogirls 

Facebook @stephstwogirls

X @stephstwogirls

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

**also PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I will do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. To learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown, a pediatric sleep medicine physician, discuss:

1. what sleep medicine is and how a sleep medicine physician can help
2. the three buckets of sleep issues - medical, behavioral, and 24-hour factors
3. education about medications that impact sleep

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Funke Afolabi-Brown, MD, FAASM

https://www.therestfulsleepplace.com

Instagram @restfulsleepmd

Facebook @restfulsleepmd

YouTube @DrFunkeBrown

LinkedIn @drfunkebrown

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay provides an introduction to PDA (pathological demand avoidance, also known as persistent or pervasive drive for autonomy). In this episode, we discuss:

1. what PDA is as a theorized profile of autism
2. varying perspectives about PDA
3. co-occurring conditions and their overlap with PDA
4. support strategies and how to continue learning

RESOURCES

⚡️ download my free PDA guide

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Amber Arrington discuss:

1. the emotional and practical journey of receiving and embracing 3 autism diagnoses, reflecting on the changes in understanding and approaches over time
2. the significance of community, self-education, and tailored support in navigating the autism parenting experience
3. the evolving conversation around autism therapies, particularly ABA, and the shift towards a neurodiversity-affirming perspective that celebrates individual strengths and needs

RESOURCES

⚡️ Register for The Autism Savvy Summit: While You Wait Edition

⚡️ connect with Amber Arrington, autism mom and founder of Autism Savvy >>

Instagram @autismsavvy

TikTok @autismsavvy

Order Amber's book Not Atypical Motherhood: The Guide For Navigating a Child's New Autism Diagnosis

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay, Chris Wenger, and Jessie Ginsburg discuss:

1. the impact of embracing neurodiversity in speech therapy, focusing on intrinsic motivation and sensory integration
2. challenges and solutions for implementing sensory-friendly practices in therapy and educational settings
3. advice for parents on advocating for neuroaffirming approaches and navigating school systems

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Chris Wenger, CCC-SLP @speechdude on Instagram and TikTok >>

DM the word “BANANAS” for his neuroaffirming resources

⚡️ connect with Jessie Ginsburg, MS, CCC-SLP @sensory.slp on Instagram and TikTok >>

order Jessie's book Ready, Set Connect: A Sensory Based Approach to Accelerate Communication in Autistic Children

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay discusses:

1. the complex issue of seeking a cure for autism, including the risks and ethical concerns of treatments like chelation and hyperbaric oxygen therapy
2. the shift towards acceptance and neurodiversity, highlighting the value of unconditional love and present parenting in the autism community
3. debunking myths around autism recovery, such as reducing screen time, and stressing the importance of accurate information and holistic family support

RESOURCES

⚡️ your next episode >> 96 | key autism parenting mindset shifts

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Elizabeth Duttera from @aut2ask discuss:

1. Elizabeth's personal advocacy sparked by her late diagnosis and how individual stories can highlight broader issues within the autism community.
2. insights from the Aut2Ask survey
3. struggles with accessing affordable support and the necessity for systemic and policy changes to provide better resources for autistic individuals.

RESOURCES

⚡️ complete the Aut2Ask Survey

⚡️ connect with Elizabeth >>

Instagram @aut2ask

X @aut2ask 

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Malia Phelps Waller discuss:

1. transitioning to homeschooling: Malia's journey from public schooling to a play-based homeschooling approach during the pandemic.
2. homeschooling methodologies: discussions on unschooling, Montessori, and eclectic styles, emphasizing child-centered education.
3. practical homeschooling aspects: navigating state regulations, curriculum choices, and integrating real-world experiences for learning.

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Malia Phelps Waller homeschool mama, special educator and BCBA

Malia's Website

Instagram @maliaphelpswallerhomeschool

Facebook @maliaphelpswallerhomeschool

Download Malia's Homeschool Toolbox

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Brittyn Coleman, Registered Dietitian, discuss:

1. the overlap between sensory experiences and eating for autistic children
2. sensory-friendly strategies to diversify diets and support gut health
3. offering practical advice for parents on supporting their autistic children with feeding therapy and neurodivergent affirming approaches

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Brittyn Coleman

visit her website (including her 5-day workshop + membership)

Instagram @autismdietitian

TikTok @autismdietitian

Facebook @autismdietitian

YouTube @autismdietitian

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Liz Angoff, an educational psychologist, discuss:

1. the importance of parents embracing and understanding neurodiversity and how they can help their child understand how their brain works
2. empowering strategies and how-tos for parents to discuss autism with their child, including relatable metaphors and AI tools
3. emphasizing ongoing, open conversations with your family about autism (including with siblings)

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Liz Angoff

Instagram @explainingbrains

https://explainingbrains.com/autism

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Donna Henderson define the following:

1. PDA
2. interoception and emotions
3. neurocrash
4. autistic burnout
5. RSD
6. autigender

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Donna Henderson, clinical neuropsychologist

https://www.drdonnahenderson.com/

her book along with Drs. Sarah Wayland and Jamell White "Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else"

Donna's practice: https://stixrud.com/

⚡️ additional resources mentioned by Dr. Henderson

https://www.kelly-mahler.com/

neurodivergentinsights.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses:

1. her journey from graduate school and D1 athletics to specializing in autism, highlighting her personal and professional experiences that shaped her focus.
2. a sneak peek of a new 12-week course on PDA, developed in collaboration with Katherine L'Etang, @theneurodiversitymom, to better serve the autistic community

RESOURCES

⚡️ get on the waitlist for the PDA course >> https://link.drtaycoaching.com/widget/form/1K4FJdMEqHU7qVBu9apU

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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this is a special episode to celebrate 100 episodes of autism education here on the podcast. I emphasize the parallel of how consistency and time got me here and how that perfectly describes the autism parenting journey!

at the end, I announce a big giveaway - a chance to win a three-month group therapy scholarship.

RESOURCES

⚡️ 10K GIVEAWAY POST - DETAILS TO ENTER >>

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3nsfwixnXq/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses:

• Taylor Swift's potential neurodivergence and its relevance to your autistic child.
• embracing neurodivergence in parenting and advocating for acceptance.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses

1. lessons learned from her dating experience
2. the importance of vulnerability and growth

RESOURCES

⚡️ No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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Dr. Tay and Gabriele Nicolet, MA, CCC-SLP discuss:

1. understanding tantrums vs meltdowns
2. child communication and coping strategies
3. importance of parent regulation during meltdowns

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Gabriele Nicolet, MA, CCC-SLP. she is a parent coach and founder of Orchid Kids.

Instagram @speechkidsdc

LinkedIn @gabriele-nicolet

Facebook @ gabriele.nicolet

Substack @gabrielenicolet

https://www.raisingorchidkids.com/

https://www.speechkids.com/

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay discusses:

1. emphasizing flexibility in parenting autistic children, adapting to their unique needs.
2. encouraging parents to accept uncertainties and learn alongside their child.
3. understanding and embracing neurodivergent perspectives over conventional expectations.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Katherine L'Etang of @theneurodiversitymom discuss:

1. The journey of self-realization as an autistic woman and navigating life with autistic children.
2. Learning about neurodiversity and how to become an advocate.
3. Insights into PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a profile of autism, and adopting a neuroaffirming low demand lifestyle.

RESOURCES

⚡️⚡️ connect with Katherine L'Etang

Instagram + TikTok @theneurodiversitymom

https://www.theneurodiversitymom.net/

⚡️ also discussed in this episode was Erin of @spinsandstomps roadmap (PS she was on the pod too - episode 68). download it here 👇🏼

https://www.spinsandstomps.com/resources

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Arielle Rubin, a board-certified child and adolescent psychiatrist, discuss:

1. the field of psychiatry and its role in diagnosing autism and co-occurring conditions
2. treating anxiety, depression, and ADHD in the context of autism
3. different options and considerations when it comes to medication

RESOURCES

⚡️⚡️Connect with Dr. Arielle Rubin >>

Instagram @ariellerubinmd

http://www.ariellerubinmd.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

93 | navigating your relationship: parenting and neurodivergence with Pasha Marlowe, MFT

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Dr. Tay and Pasha Marlowe, marriage and family therapist / neurodiversity coach, discuss:

1. challenges in family relationships when children or partners are neurodivergent
2. the role of communication and balancing individual needs in neurodivergent families
3. insights on redefining perceptions and thriving in neurodiversity

RESOURCES

⚡️Connect with Pasha Marlowe >>

on LinkedIn, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook

https://pashamarlowe.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay discusses:

1. the concept of getting “delulu” in the context of autism parenting
2. believing in your autistic child's communication and developmental potential through various methods
3. the transformative effect of applying 'getting delulu' to personal growth and aspirations

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and anti-hustle coach + autism parent Marisa Hohaia discuss:

1. her family's autism journey, the impact of her son's diagnosis on her work, and her philosophy of living that helps them navigate through their life
2. the importance of enjoying the present moment and letting go of expectations in the autism journey, emphasizing how not getting caught up in a rigid vision for the future can open up more room for joy and progress in the present.
3. manifestation in the context of autism parenting, suggesting that while parents can't directly shape or control their child's journey, they can manifest and attract necessary support, resources, and growth experiences.

RESOURCES

⚡️continue to learn from Marisa >>

follow on Instagram

check out resources on her website breakupwithbusy.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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in this episode, Dr. Tay discusses reflecting on 2023 and prepping for 2024. she emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, setting realistic and progressive goals, and taking inventory of strengths and support needs for oneself and your autistic child. she talks about her own personal journey, shares the most popular episodes of her podcast for the past year, and her ongoing learning from professionals and Autistic voices alike. the discussion also delves into challenges faced in the previous year and how they shape resilience. Dr. Tay concludes by highlighting the need to be more intentional, to live in alignment with one's values, and to focus on internal measurements of success. she also shares some sneak peeks of what is to come in 2024 for her practice.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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in a candid, impromptu episode of her podcast, I address a social media video that portrays being a sibling of a neurodivergent child as unfair. while I acknowledge the challenges of parenting autistic children, I offer a different perspective based on my personal experience as a sibling and my professional insight. I discuss the importance of seeing the beauty in diversity, focusing on quality over quantity of time, and fostering empathy, resilience and advocacy skills among all children. I encourages parents to start dialogues about neurodiversity within their homes and emphasize that the goal should not be about achieving fairness but about being mindful and present for each child’s unique needs.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay hosts an in-depth discussion with Kelli Fetter, an occupational therapist and certified handwriting specialist. they explore the common challenges autistic children encounter with handwriting, relating to fine motor difficulties and learning disabilities. Kelli provides valuable insights on the integral connection between handwriting and overall literacy. Dr. Tay and Kelli discuss signs that additional support outside of school might be necessary, and they shed light on the benefits of utilizing a strengths-based approach for building handwriting skills. Kelli stresses the importance of explicit instruction in handwriting as well as maintaining foundational motor skills through physical play to facilitate better handwriting.

CHAPTERS

02:21 Kelli's background and the importance of handwriting

07:27 when to start monitoring for handwriting difficulties

13:26 red flags for handwriting difficulties

21:16 the neurological aspects of learning disabilities

24:08 the impact of learning disabilities

28:11 the role of motor skills in writing

32:48 supporting families through Handwriting Solutions

RESOURCES

⚡️ Connect with Kelli Fetter >>

Subscribe to Kelli's Handwriting Solutions blog

Handwriting Solutions website

Book a free consult call with Kelli Fetter

Other social media: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, I discuss my journey of unexpectedly navigating my dog Charlotte's cancer diagnosis, paralleling it with lessons for an autism parenting journey. I discuss the importance of 'living in the present moment' by constantly grounding oneself in available data and of accepting and acknowledging emotions instead of suppressing them. I share my personal experience dealing with anticipatory anxiety and how I have been countering it with grounding practices. I remind you to trust the process, enjoy life's moments despite challenges, and to remember that it's okay not to have everything together all the time and how that doesn't make anyone less of a person or parent.

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Dr. Tay hosts Dr. Phil Boucher, a pediatrician working within the direct primary care model. they discuss autism, including advocating for your child and support needs like sleep and additional testing. Dr. Boucher explains the challenges of traditional healthcare and his transition to the direct primary care model, allowing him more time to deliver quality healthcare to patients. he offers advice to parents on how to approach discussions about autism with their child's pediatrician. the episode concludes with a look at the future of this healthcare model, and how it allows for a more personalized and efficient approach to healthcare.

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Dr. Phil Boucher on Instagram to keep learning from him

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism / ASD) are used. we have a conversation in the episode about language and why both are being used!

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Dr. Tay hosts Autistic autism researcher Chelsea Verrette, who provides her insights on the current state of autism research. we discuss the importance of language in discussions about neurodivergence and the gaps in the existing literature. the conversation centers on shifting from a deficit-based model to incorporating the neurodiversity framework into research and life. Chelsea also shares her perspectives on navigating the educational system, helping children learn about their diagnosis, and building community. at the end of the episode, Chelsea shares a sneak peek into her research around neurodivergent individuals' response to marketing, suggesting that top marketing tactics may be harmful for the neurodivergent community.

CHAPTERS:

02:28 Chelsea's journey into autism research

12:22 understanding autism and its impact

24:52 understanding neurodiversity and belonging

29:40 the need for neurodivergent representation in research

36:11 the impact of marketing and communication on neurodivergent individuals

49:08 the importance of community and support for neurodivergent individuals

RESOURCES

⚡️ ways to connect with Chelsea Verrette >>

Chelsea's resources, including her Discord community and daily text affirmations

follow Chelsea on Instagram

follow Chelsea on LinkedIn

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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in this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by Jamie Lin Brown, an autism mama, to discuss the importance of building a strong community for parents of autistic children. the conversation focuses on the need to view the child holistically, integrating physical, mental, and emotional aspects of their growth. Jamie shares her own experiences and suggests how parenting communities can offer emotional support and practical advice. they also touch on the idea of maintaining personal well-being as an autism parent and not losing one's self in the journey. the episode highlights that while each child's autism journey may be unique, common connections can be formed between families sharing similar experiences.

CHAPTERS

02:25 Jamie's personal journey with autism

08:10 the challenges and triumphs of autism parenting

13:33 the role of holistic approach in autism

21:08 the power of community in the autism journey

30:57 the importance of building relationships

40:45 the Importance of self-care in autism parenting

RESOURCES

⚡️ ways to connect with Jamie Lin Brown >>

join the Intentional Autism Mama Community on Patreon

Jamie Lin Brown's website

follow Jamie on Instagram

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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in this episode, Dr. Tay talks about helpful tips and strategies for autism families navigating the holiday season. we discuss the importance of preparing for potential disruptions to routines, setting realistic expectations, giving choices, and setting boundaries. Dr. Tay addresses several elements including helping your child anticipate upcoming events, being mindful of safe foods, empowering your child by involving them in the process, and handling comments from others. there is an emphasis on the importance of being present during these moments and cherishing the progress that your child has made since the last holiday season.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay hosts mother-son duo, Dr. Myava Clark and Chris Clark, to discuss their experiences and advocacy for navigating educational support systems for children with learning differences. Dr. Clark shares her early advocacy efforts for Chris who experienced developmental delays and learning differences. Chris talks about his realization of learning differently and points out the importance of open communication. their experiences inspired the co-founding of 'CASEN', an organization and program designed to guide young people on safe and responsible usage of social media. they provide resources on social-emotional development, bullying identification, mental health development, and social media readiness. both stress the importance of celebrating individuals' abilities and strengths rather than focusing on their weaknesses.

CHAPTERS:

02:23 Guests share their backgrounds

04:20 Discussion on early challenges and advocacy

13:25 Chris' personal experience and reflections

18:45 Advocacy in education and tailoring learning paths

23:05 Chris's high school experience

25:43 Chris' regrets and lessons learned

31:00 The role of parents in social dedia safety

32:51 The development of the CASEN program and app

35:32 The importance of social media readiness

RESOURCES

⚡️ ways to connect with Dr. Myava and Chris Clark >>

subscribe to the CASEN Newsletter: https://casenllc.com/ 

CASEN Resource library: https://casenllc.com/resource-library/ 

CASEN Courses: https://casenllc.com/casen-courses/

CASEN Platforms: https://casenllc.com/platforms/ 

⚡️apps for monitoring your child's social media >>

Kids 360 app: https://kids360.app/

Bark app: https://www.bark.us/

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism and other disabilities. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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in this episode, Dr. Tay discusses swim and water safety for autistic children with Kira La Forgia, the COO of Floatie's Swim School and founder of The Paradigmm HR. they discuss the importance of swim lessons and creating a safe environment around water. Kira shares tips for parents on building awareness for themselves and their children regarding water safety. they also discuss the different types of swim lessons and the benefits of inclusive programs. Kira highlights the signs of drowning and emphasizes the importance of prevention. finally, they touch on the importance of patience and support when it comes to teaching autistic children how to swim.

RESOURCES

⚡️ learn more about Floatie's Swim School >> website and Instagram @floatiesswimschool

⚡️ find a swim school near you >> United States Swim School Association website

⚡️ connect with Kira and learn more about her HR company Paradigm Consulting >> website, business Instagram @theparadigmm, personal Instagram @kiralaforgia

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. v

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in this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of stillness and how it can benefit parents navigating the autism parenting journey. she shares her personal experience with breathwork and therapy, highlighting the power of slowing down and regulating the nervous system. Dr. Tay emphasizes the need for parents to create moments of stillness to refill their energy and prevent burnout. she also provides practical tips for incorporating stillness into daily life, such as meditation, journaling, and intentional self-care. through intentional stillness, parents can find clarity, trust their instincts, and take intuitive action in supporting their autistic child.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay welcomes Chris Bonnello, an autistic advocate, author, and a Rubik's cube master, to the podcast. Chris shares his journey from the classroom to advocacy, highlighting the importance of promoting neurodivergence. he talks about his late autism diagnosis at 24 and how this led him to a journey of self-acceptance. the discussion also covers the impact of labels on self-perception and the use of the Autistic Not Weird platform to amplify the voices and experiences of the autistic community. Chris shares about his Underdog Series and his newfound love of the Rubik's Cube, the evolution of neurodiversity, and advice for parents of autistic children.

CHAPTERS

(00:00) Neurodiversity and Acceptance

(10:31) Autism's Impact on Identity and Masking

(23:41) The Growth of Autistic Not Weird

(34:35) The Underdog Series and Other Advocacy Work

(41:29) Rubik's Cubes and Finding Community

RESOURCES

⚡️ Connect with Chris and support his advocacy work

Join the Autistic Not Weird community on Facebook

Order the Underdogs Series and other books

Subscribe to Chris' Patreon

Other social media: Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube, Facebook

⚡️Read the Autistic Not Weird Autism Survey that summarizes perspectives from over 7,000 autistic people and 11,000 people total

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay welcomes Dr. Nicole Michaeli, a pediatric psychologist specializing in comprehensive evaluations, to the podcast. we discuss the twice-exceptional (2E) profile of children who are gifted and have learning or developmental disabilities. the episode includes discussions about asynchronous development characteristic of 2E children as well as strengths and support needs in the context of a neurodiversity framework. Dr. Nicole discusses the importance of a tailored approach to foster the growth of 2E children, addressing the emotional impact they often experience. she also explores intriguing findings from brain imaging studies that differentiate these children from their peers. the episode offers practical advice and actionable steps for 2E children, with a specific focus on how giftedness can present in autistic children.

RESOURCES

⚡️connect with Dr. Nicole Michaeli

Instagram @drnicolephd

TikTok @drnicolephd

My Child Assessment website (her practice in West Los Angeles)

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*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay hosts speech-language pathologist Katja Piscitelli on the podcast to explore Gestalt Language Processing and Natural Language Acquisition (NLA). They discuss how this form of language processing is a common and natural pathway to language development for autistic and non-autistic children alike. Katja shares her experience of discovering this language phenomenon, and how it can be a powerful tool in supporting language development. they also discuss the role of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) in language development. The conversation includes pointers on how to identify if your child is a Gestalt Language Processor and the importance of patience and consistent modeling in language development.

CHAPTERS

0:00.00 - welcome Katja Piscitelli and her story of becoming a speech-language pathologist

0:03:33 - what is Gestalt Language Processing (GLP)

0:07:52 - what is Natural Language Acquisition (NLA)

0:08:50 - stage 1 of GLP and how to support

0:21:37 - what is Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) and how to adapt for GLPs

0:36:41 - stage 2 of GLP and how to support

0:40:41 - stage 3 of GLP and how to support

0:46:28 - stage 4, 5, and 6 with developing grammar

0:49:23 - ways to connect with Katja

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Katja on Instagram and Facebook to keep learning more from here

⚡️ additional resources for GLP

www.meaningfulspeech.com

www.communicationdevelopmentcenter.com

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this in epsiode, I discuss my personal experience with burnout and perfectionism. I emphasize the importance of recognizing when it's time to pause, reassessing priorities, and letting go of perfectionism. I announce a change to the podcast - dropping down to one promised episode per week! but we have over 70 past episodes that you can binge. plus there could be surprise episodes from time to time. I also encourage you to take a step back and evaluate your life, cutting back on unnecessary tasks and focusing on what truly matters.

RESOURCES

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answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

on today's Dr. Tay breaks down the different specialty fields and what types of providers can diagnose vs. do therapy. we focus on the field of psychology, as psychologists are uniquely positioned to provide comprehensive care, including diagnosis and therapy services. the other fields covered in this episode include psychiatry, developmental behavioral pediatrics, neurology, mental health therapists, and school psychology.

NOTE: in this episode, I do not touch on the therapists who focus on developmental skills, such as speech-language therapy, occupational therapy, and physical therapy. these types of therapists provide great support services but are unable to diagnose autism. basically any profession with the title "therapist" are typically unable to diagnose autism.

RESOURCES

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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Dr. Tay welcomes Theresa Noye, an autism mother, author, and self-love coach, to the podcast. Theresa shares her journey of her son's diagnosis, from non-speaking to now a college student studying strategic communications. she also discusses the transformative power of love and advocacy and sheds light on the importance of self-care and family care. the episode also delves into racial disparities and seeing your child as an individual. Theresa used the inspiration of her own story to write a book and then start coaching other Black women on self-love.

RESOURCES

⚡️ Theresa's book "Hello Autism: How to Love, Like, and Learn from Your Special Needs Child"

⚡️ connect with Theresa on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram and/or book a free epiphany session to learn more about her self-love coaching

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the transformative power of "yet" in parenting an autistic child. discover the power of 'yet' as a tool for staying present, believing in your child's potential, and reducing worry. as an action item, you are encouraged to journal your current worries and shift them to include "yet."

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: how do I respond when someone makes fun of my autistic child?

A: Dr. Tay shares tips and strategies for navigating this difficult topic, with a focus on creating collaborative conversations and managing your own emotions in these situations.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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Dr. Tay hosts Dr. Steve Chaney, a renowned research scientist and educator, on the podcast to discuss the complexities of autism. we cover the causes of autism, emphasizing the roles of genetics, environmental factors, and epigenetics. we also discuss common misconceptions about autism and discuss the importance of individual experiences. the conversation also focuses on the role of diet, highlighting the benefits of whole foods, as well as discussion of supplementation.

CHAPTERS

0:00:00 - introduction of Dr. Chaney

0:03:25 - causes of autism

0:11:38 - understanding and interpreting research

0:18:18 - the role of diet

0:25:45 - discussion about supplements

RESOURCES

⚡️ continue learning from Dr. Chaney >>

subscribe to his weekly blog Health Tips From The Professor

read his books Slaying the Food Myths and Slaying the Supplement Myths

⚡️learn more about Shaklee products, including connecting with Dr. Chaney's wife, Suzanne, via email [email protected] or text 919-524-4815

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay delves into the transformative concept of presuming competence in autistic children, highlighting the profound effect our expectations and assumptions can have on their development and growth. it explores real-life stories and experiences, showing how the lack of presumed competence can limit a child's potential and create barriers to inclusion. the episode ends by urging listeners to continually challenge their thinking about autism and competence, emphasizing that every child's potential should be seen, nurtured, and heard.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

69 | "can a child outgrow autism" Q+A

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: can a child outgrow autism?

A: Dr. Tay addresses a misconception that a child can outgrow autism, emphasizing how autism is a lifelong disability and it is how your child's brain is wired. we discuss the DSM diagnostic criteria and how a child may need different supports at different times.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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Dr. Tay has Erin from @spinsandstomps on the podcast. Erin shares about her daughter Riley's journey to getting an autism diagnosis as well as understanding her daughter's ways of communicating. Erin discusses the transformative power of an AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) device in Riley's life and how she identified that she was a Gestalt Language Processor (GLP). specifics on AAC devices particularly for GLPs were detailed in this episode. we also cover broader issues that many autism parents face, including access to diagnostic services and decisions about therapy services.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - introduction and beginning of the discussion on AAC devices for autistic children.

(0:14:26) - navigating autism and accessing services for autistic children.

(0:22:56) - AAC and Gestalt Language Processing

(0:35:50) - AAC devices and their role in promoting self-directed communication in autistic children

(0:41:56) - conclusion including understanding autism, the use of AAC devices, and the importance of love and education in raising an autistic child.

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Erin to learn more about her family's journey as well as helpful resources on Instagram @spinsandstomps and her website.

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares practical strategies to overcome procrastination and the psychology behind it. we also discuss the concept of catastrophization, where small tasks are magnified into overwhelming burdens, and how to stop it.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode! or really the unasked question of how do I deal with depression and anxiety as a parent of an autistic kiddo? this conversation is intended that remind you that you are not alone in your experiences, dispel stigmas around seeking mental health support, and offer practical advice on getting help.

RESOURCES

⚡️ check out episode 44 where my mom shares about navigating her experience with anxiety and depression

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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in this podcast episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Eleanor Ezell, LCSW to the podcast. we discuss selective mutism, also known as SM, an anxiety disorder where children are unable to speak in certain settings, with certain people, or in certain situations. Eleanor offers insights into how this disorder can be identified, distinguished from language delay, and effectively treated with Parent-Child Interaction Therapy for SM (PCIT-SM). the episode concludes with a discussion on differential diagnosis and the interplay between selective mutism and autism. a great listen if you have concerns about your child not speaking in public or you want to learn more about co-occurring diagnoses with autism.

CHAPTERS

0:00:00 introduction to Eleanor Ezell, LCSW and selective mutism (SM)

0:08:10 identifying SM

0:17:27 treatment for SM using Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT-SM)

0:31:21 overlap of autism and SM

0:43:18 communication challenges in autism and SM and the use of neurodivergent affirming care

0:53:55 supports and resources for parents

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect and learn from Eleanor on Instagram @growlittleminds and her clinical practice. resources also on Selective Mutism Association, for which Eleanor serves as a a board member

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism) are used. although as clinicians and practitioners, we are slowly learning to shift our language and take the lead from the autistic community, the stance of this podcast is that we ultimately want to honor what each child and family prefer. additionally, in the SM field, person-first language remains most common at this time.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the complexities of autism genetics. the episode also looks into the phenomenon of parents questioning their own neurodivergence following their child's autism diagnosis.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

in today's episode, I am answering a frequently asked question. we dive into next steps after your child gets diagnosed. we cover: processing your emotions, reading the report, deciding on intervention approaches, navigating the school system, and learning about neurodiversity. dr. tay also shares insights on what she says to parents during the feedback session.

RESOURCES

⚡️ resources to learn more about neurodiversity >>

Start Here: A guide for parents of autistic kids

Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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Dr. Tay welcomes Kayla Castro to the podcast, a certified autism travel professional and parent to an autistic child. this episode focuses on the fears, challenges, and joys of traveling as an autism family. Kayla shares her family's story and provides practical advice on how to navigate travel with autistic family members. the conversation includes tips on how to make travel more accessible, including the use of the Disability Access Service Pass at Disney and the TSA Cares Initiative. Kayla also discusses tools and strategies to prepare your child for travel. the episode offers a comprehensive guide to autism-friendly travel.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - introduction and description of a certified autism travel professional

(0:05:00) - sharing her family's autism story and their travel experiences

(0:10:48) - IBCCES and certified autism centers (learn more here)

(0:12:17) - Disability Access Service Pass at Disney and Accessibility Cards for other theme parks

(0:21:36) - TSA Cares Initiative and other flying accomodations

(0:28:29) - sunflower lanyard (get yours here)

(0:32:00) - preparation for trips, including front-loading, YouTube, and picky eating

(0:35:10) - a deeper discussion around fear

(0:41:30) - travel services Kayla provides for families

RESOURCES

⚡️connect with Kayla on Instagram and via email. and visit her website to learn more about her services and offerings and read her blog.

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares a recent comment on social media that led to unpacking her approaches and why she focuses on supporting the whole family. we touch on the sensitive balance of meeting the needs of the autistic child while acknowledging the energy and emotions of the entire family unit.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

in this personal and reflective episode, Dr. Tay shares her journey and growth as she approaches her 34th birthday. she discusses her experiences as a single woman and her dedication to helping families of neurodivergent children despite not having any of her own. drawing parallels from her own life, she introduces the concept of a crystal ball and reasons that knowing the future will not actually give us the peace we desire. through her introspective dialogue, she underscores the importance of accepting uncertainties, finding hope, and not letting worries 'hijack' our present joys. this episode will hit home if you have worries about your autistic child's future!

RESOURCES

⚡️ if you want to give me a birthday present, share an episode on your social media (and tag me!) and/or leave a 5-star review! THANK YOU 🩷

⚡️book referenced in the episode >> No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PhD

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this episode is aimed at redefining what early intervention for young autistic children can look like, with a shift from trying to "cure" autism to instead supporting and affirming neurodivergence. we dive into leveraging Naturalistic Developmental Behavioral Interventions (NDBIs) to accomplish that goal.

the presented approaches emphasize the effectiveness of parental involvement and how to embed learning into everyday activities, and are an alternative to the more widely known yet controversial ABA (check out episode 26 for more information on this). strategies shared are centered on engagement and connection with your autistic child, such as staying within the child's attentional zone, using imitation for language development, and narrating the child's activities. emphasis is also placed on acknowledging all forms of communication, slowing down to give children time to think and process, and providing neurodivergent affirming care.

RESOURCES

⚡️book and corresponding website referenced:

An Early Start for Your Young Child with Autism

Help Is In Your Hands

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the parallels between the intense interests of Taylor Swift's fans and the passions of autistic children. the purpose of this episode is to challenge societal norms that largely celebrate Swifties and pathologize autistic children. listeners are invited to shift their perspectives to view autistic interests not as disordered but as passions that should be embraced and accepted.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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today is a special Q+A episode. Dr. Tay brought back special education attorney Ashley Barlow to answer your questions. we address the following topics:

1. 504 vs. IEP for your autistic child
2. how to prioritize learning vs. coping and self-advocacy
3. how to navigate finding the best schools
4. re-evaluation of autism
5. how to measure progress
6. educational funding and what influences special education decisions
7. thoughts on half days for therapy
8. prioritizing friends in the classroom
9. considerations for homeschooling
10. meeting with your teacher before school

RESOURCES

⚡️ ways to connect with Ashley >>

learn more about her free and affordable resources at ashleybarlowco.com

follow her on Instagram @ashleybarlowco and Facebook Ashley Barlow Co

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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Dr. Tay welcomes Sofya Stearns, founder of Izabella's Gourmet Chow, to the podcast to share her journey of using cooking as a means to explore cultures, support autistic children, and promote healthy eating. Sofya also shares tips on making cooking fun and safe for kids, such as using plastic knives and transforming ordinary foods into extraordinary creations. throughout the episode, she emphasizes the importance of making cooking a fun exploration and a journey rather than just a task.

RESOURCES

⚡️ learn about Izabella's Gourmet Chow and virtual cooking classes for your child.

⚡️ connect with Chef Sofya on social media, including 5 recipes she put together for you >>

Instagram @izabellasgourmetchow

TikTok @izabellasgourmetchow

Facebook Izabella's Gourmet Chow

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode REMIX, Dr. Tay has pulled excerpts from "episode 12 | autism consultant Molly Johnson on visual supports" to highlight the discussion on educational advocacy and working with your child's teachers and IEP team. Molly Johnson has her master's in education and is a former autism teacher. she now has become @theautismconsultant on Instagram.

RESOURCES

⚡️ submit your questions for a special upcoming Q+A episode on educational rights and helping your child transition back to school (either via Instagram DMs or the Evolve Facebook group)

⚡️learn more about Molly's membership: https://www.theautismconsultant.us/membership

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: how do I deal with my child's aggression when our attempts aren't working?

A: Dr. Tay starts off the episode urging parents to understand the function of aggression - that it is a form of communication and may serve as a form of sensory regulation for your autistic child. she provides tips and strategies beyond traditional behavioral approaches and emphasizes the importance of modeling what you want your child to do instead. there is also a brief discussion around the pathological demand avoidance (PDA) profile.

RESOURCES

⚡️ if you have not listened to episode "10 | the ABCs of challenging behavior", you are strongly encouraged to listen to that episode first.

⚡️supplemental episodes referenced in today's podcast are episodes 2, 3, 18, and 41.

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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I often see in my work as a child psychologist that parents don't understand what their rights are and what their autistic children should be receiving through the educational system.

in this episode, we dive into IDEA, specially designed instruction, IEPs, 504s, and more. we talk specifically about the history of special education and what as a parent you can advocate for. it's important to recognize that a clinical diagnosis isn't the same as an educational diagnosis, so we're going through that educational process with my expert guest, Ashley Barlow, an attorney and former teacher. Ashley also has experience navigating special education as a parent, as her 13-year-old son, Jack, has Down Syndrome.

this episode will help you learn:

• why the public education system has to provide support for your autistic child
• the differences between an IEP and a 504 plan
• interest-based negotiation and knowing your rights as a parent
• specific steps for how you can advocate for your autistic child

RESOURCES

⚡️ submit your questions for a special upcoming Q+A episode on educational rights and helping your child transition back to school (either via Instagram DMs or the Evolve Facebook group)

⚡️ ways to connect with Ashley >>

learn more about her free and affordable resources at ashleybarlowco.com

follow her on Instagram @ashleybarlowco and Facebook Ashley Barlow Co

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares her takeaways from the Barbie movie and the application to parenting a neurodivergent child. themes include authenticity, social norms, imagination, and emotions. even if you haven't seen the Barbie movie (or did and hated it!), the insights shared here make this worth the listen.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: what is the best educational setting for my autistic child? what about an aide for my child?

A: Dr. Tay breaks down educational settings in this episode, including public, private, Montessori, and homeschooling. we discuss various factors to consider regarding schooling type and the importance of understanding your child's strengths and support needs to inform your decision as a parent. we also touch briefly on IEPs in this episode.

RESOURCES

⚡️ submit your questions for a special upcoming Q+A episode on educational rights and helping your child transition back to school (either via Instagram DMs or the Evolve Facebook group)

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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in this podcast episode, Dr. Tay and Dr. Carrie Jackson discuss the complex intersection of autism and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). they review the importance of accurate diagnosis to distinguish overlapping yet distinct features in autism and ADHD as well as co-occurrence. treatment modalities are also discussed, including parent training, CBT, and stimulant medication.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - Introduction of Dr. Carrie Jackson, a licensed psychologist specializing in ADHD

(0:02:45) - Dr. Carrie's personal connection to ADHD (0:04:20) - the role of social media in mental health education

(0:07:00) - key differences between ADHD and autism, including hyperfocus vs. intense interests

(0:11:50) - ADHD in autistic children

(0:13:30) - age of diagnosis for autism vs. ADHD

(0:15:00) - Autism and ADHD social difficulties

(0:16:45) - role of mental health providers in diagnosis

(0:20:10) - role of pediatricians in diagnosis

(0:25:55) - intervention approaches for autism and ADHD

(0:29:00) - neurodiversity in ADHD and autism

(0:33:01) - co-occurring ADHD, Autism, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)

(0:35:30) - parent training, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and biofeedback via the Mightier app (use DrCarrie for 10% off)

(0:39:50) - evidence for stimulant medication

RESOURCES

⚡️connect with and learn from Dr. Carrie Jackson >>

Instagram @dr.carriejackson

TikTok @dr.carriejackson

Resources for ADHD including free guides and courses: https://www.drcarriejackson.com/

Private Practice for CA residents: https://www.socalchildpsych.com/

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*Please note: In this episode, there is a mix of identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with ADHD) used. Some of this reflects differences within each specialty. Generally, as clinicians and practitioners, we are mindful to honor what each individual and their families prefer.

in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses that even with the best preparation that some things may not go according to plan. emphasis is placed on how to manage emotions when plans change and the significance of giving space for feelings without guilt or blame. a focused discussion on how to support siblings of autistic children occurs.

RESOURCES

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⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

a parent requested for me to share about the services that are provided through my private practice. and since this is often a common question, I decided to dedicate a Q+A episode to it!

I dive into my concierge model, explain how pricing works, and describe the high level of care your child (and your family given The Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ) would receive. we review the three current services offered: diagnostic evaluation, 1:1 therapy, and group therapy.

⚡️if you want to learn more, schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions. you can also visit drtaylorday.com.

NOTE: at the time of recording (July 2023), I am currently able to practice in the following states: AL, AZ, AR, CO, CNMI, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, OH, OK, PA, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY. additionally, SC and ND are expected to be added in the coming month! international families will be considered on a case-by-case basis depending on your country's regulations.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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today is a first on the podcast! Dr. Tay engages in a candid conversation with Sam Marion, a late-identified autistic adult and licensed clinical social worker, who shares his personal experiences and perspectives on autism. they discuss the phenomenon of masking, the importance of understanding sensory experiences, and his personal journey of understanding himself. Sam also shares his views on neurodiversity, therapy modalities, and the need for resources and workshops to help therapists understand autism better.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - introduction of the guest, Sam Marion, and discussion about his experiences as an autistic adult and journey as a therapist.

(0:08:25) - understanding sensory experiences and autistic masking

(0:15:40) - the exhaustion of masking and unmasking

(0:19:02) - training and perspectives on neurodiversity

(0:32:32) - key transition points in preteen and teen years

(0:45:15) - discussion on the unique experiences of late-identified autistic adults, the importance of advocacy, and how to connect with Sam

RESOURCES

⚡️follow Sam on Instagram @sammarioncounseling. and for more details on his workshops go to www.sammarion.com/workshops

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the evolving field of telehealth evaluations in autism diagnosis. she provides insights from her clinical experience and explores how this method was accelerated due to the COVID-19 pandemic. she addresses the validity and reliability of telehealth evaluations as well as benefits and potential limitations.

RESOURCES

⚡️ Dr. Tay currently conducts telehealth autism diagnostic evaluations in 38 states. schedule a free consult call here to learn more or email [email protected] for questions.

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: my child is 13 months old and has developmental delays. I'm concerned about autism. how do I know if it's autism or a developmental delay? my pediatrician says they won't start screening for autism until 18 months of age.

A: Dr. Tay unpacks the American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines for autism screening and breaks down the science to address this question. in short, autism can be diagnosed accurately (for some but not all children) beginning at 14 months of age. practical next steps are provided, with encouragement to act early so your child can get necessary supports as soon as possible.

RESOURCES

⚡️ the research study referenced in today's episode: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31034004/

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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this is part two of my family's story. on this episode, I invited my mom, Letty, onto the podcast to share her perspective and reflect on what it was like listening to episode 16 | "I see you" - my story and introduction to autism, and why I chose my career path. she provides a raw and vulnerable account of my brother's early diagnosis, therapy, and beyond. we touch on the emotional impact, the societal pressures, the transformative effect on family dynamics, and the joys and lessons learned along the way.

we hope you enjoy this candid conversation! I want to give a shout-out to my mom for her willingness to share so openly. this was truly special for both of us! if you find value, please share it with another autism parent or on your social media 🤍 we want to be able to help more families like yours and ours!

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As and connect with other parents >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the delicate balance between evidence-based practices and more intuitive, alternative approaches, often dubbed as "woo woo." this episode emphasizes the importance of an open-minded approach to therapy that considers the unique needs and responses of each individual. we also discuss the potential conflict that sometimes arises between neurodivergent-affirming care and traditional evidence-based methods.

RESOURCES

⚡️ in this episode, two previous episodes were referenced: 37 | daring to embrace fear: personal stories and applications to parenting and 38 | redefining {autism} parenting through Human Design with Allison Cullen

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

we had a little bit of a different format inspired by my weekly AMA (ask me anything) on Instagram. we chatted through one family's current circumstances regarding parental acceptance and therapy decision-making. we explore the intricacies of this emotional journey, with tips on how to support each other through this process and acknowledge the importance of experiencing emotions at your own pace. we also chat through the sometimes daunting task of selecting the right therapeutic support for an autistic child.

RESOURCES

⚡️ book referenced in this episode >> An Early Start for Your Young Child with Autism

⚡️ other episodes to dive further into themes from today >> on emotions [6, 15, 34]; on ABA [26]; on acceptance [28]

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay and Dr. Abbie Jones of Blame Dr. Abbie discuss the intricate workings of the brain in relation to autism. Dr. Abbie provides insight into the three umbrellas of executive functioning: working memory, cognitive flexibility, and inhibitory control. the conversation also covers practical challenges with executive functioning and ways to identify EF deficits for your child. Dr. Jones, who has gained popularity on TikTok, offers usable information to help families navigate their autism journey.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:10) - introduction of guest Dr. Abbie Jones, a licensed psychologist specializing in executive functioning.

(0:00:30) - explanation of the importance of understanding executive functioning for parents of autistic children.

(0:14:58) - discussion on the three umbrellas of executive functioning - working memory, cognitive flexibility, and inhibitory control.

(0:25:47) - detailed exploration of working memory and how its challenges can manifest in real-world situations for autistic children.

(0:29:22) - strategies and advice on how parents can support their child's development of executive functions, with a focus on response inhibition, metacognition, and task initiation.

(0:41:57) - introduction of the concept of psychoeducation and how it can be used to improve executive functioning at home, with discussion of Dr. Abbie's TikTok as being a source of usable information for parents.

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Dr. Abbie on TikTok (@blamedr.abbie) and explore resources on her website: https://www.blamedoctorabbie.com/

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares two critical components your child needs to effectively benefit from intervention - regulation and engagement. we review different forms of dysregulation and discuss the importance of engagement for learning. practical tips and personal anecdotes from Dr. Tay's work as a child psychologist are shared.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: how do I know if my child is nonverbal? what's the definition of nonverbal?

A: Dr. Tay explores the complex topic of language development in autistic children. we discuss the terminology of nonverbal vs. nonspeaking as well as the potential negative impacts of labeling a child too early. emphasis is placed on celebrating every attempt your child makes to communicate and their unique journey of language acquisition.

RESOURCES

⚡️ this episode was inspired by posts in the Toddlers with Autism, GDD, & Speech Delay Facebook group

⚡️book resource for supporting early communication development >> An Early Start for Your Young Child with Autism: Using Everyday Activities to Help Kids Connect, Communicate, and Learn

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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in this episode, Dr. Tay and guest Allison Cullen (@youdowoo), take listeners on an in-depth exploration of Human Design - a unique blend of biochemistry, genetics, chakras, energy (through the role of neutrinos), and personality. the discussion unfolds to reveal how understanding Human Design can transform parenting and family dynamics. Allison explains the 5 different energy types that can equip parents to understand themselves and to connect with their children on a deeper level. the episode touches upon the emerging paradigm in which neurodivergence and energy communication will be even more prevalent, and how the science of Human Design can help individuals redefine themselves, their passions, and their relationships.

CHAPTERS

0:03:51 - an introduction to Human Design and the science behind it

0:10:46 - the 5 different energy types and applications to parenting

0:28:53 - how Human Design relates to autism and the unfolding paradigm shift (including for non-speaking autistic individuals)

0:41:25 - parenting yourself

RESOURCES

⚡️grab your free Human Design chart & cheat sheet here: https://youdowoo.mykajabi.com/human-design-cheat-sheet

⚡️to dive in even further, book a 60-minute HD reading with Allison (use the code DRTAY20 for 20% off): https://youdowoo.mykajabi.com/60-minute-human-design-reading

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the theme of fear and vulnerably shares her personal fears - originally around the fear of being seen and now the fear of making mistakes and not having all the answers (aka imperfection). she applies the lessons to your parenting and also details how leaning into fear has progressed her brand / business to serve autism families like yours.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: how can parents better themselves before they support their child or during the process of their child's treatment?

A: Dr. Tay shares the importance of dropping resistance and embracing the fact that seeking help for yourself benefits your child's therapy process. we discuss insights on creating space for your feelings, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing what's truly manageable for your family.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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on today's episode, I am joined by developmental behavioral pediatricians Dr. Ayesha Cheema-Hasan and Dr. Angelica Robles of Coralis Health. we are aligned in our missions to provide high- quality care for families with neurodivergent children and to address system-wide issues in accessing autism care.

we discuss the importance of advocating for your child and trusting your gut, as well as the roles of various medical professionals in diagnosing and providing intervention for autism. listen in as we touch on the differences between pediatricians and developmental behavioral pediatricians, the autism evaluation process, and medication vs. behavioral management.

CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - introduction and the field of developmental behavioral pediatrics

(0:12:36) - the importance of advocating for your child and the role of various providers in diagnosing and treating neurodevelopmental disorders

(0:20:48) - accessing evidence-based care, details about the evaluation process, and the importance of understanding transition points in a child's life

(0:28:39) - the role of medication and specialists in working with autistic youth.

RESOURCES

⚡️learn more about Coralis Health and Drs. Cheema-Hasan and Robles' mission >> coralishealth.us

⚡️connect on Instagram with Coralis Health, Dr. Ayesha Cheema-Hasan @devpedsmd, and Dr. Angelica Robles @developmentalpedsdoc

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the idea that constantly trying to be perfect, to have all the answers, and to "fix" everything can actually be counterproductive to your child's progress. we'll also touch on the importance of being present with your emotions and finding time for stillness in your daily life.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

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LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: how do I know when to set a boundary for my autistic child versus accommodating their needs?

A: setting boundaries and providing structure is essential for every child, including autistic children. Dr. Tay offers practical examples of proactive accommodations and dives into the difference between those and reactive accommodations. we also discuss the importance of understanding your child's developmental level and abilities in a regulated state to guide when accommodation is needed vs. reinforcement of a boundary is necessitated.

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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the short answer: TV did NOT make your child autistic!

on this episode, Dr. Tay explores the idea of how TV can be beneficial for autistic children and their families, and how to leverage it in a way that promotes development. we also discuss why TV did not make your child autistic and why we need to stop parent shaming and creating guilt with this misinformation.

RESOURCES

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares how services being too focused on the autistic child can leave the family system unattended. we also touch upon the challenges of care coordination due to high caseloads, which can result in confusion and contradictory advice. and lastly, we discuss the problem of long waitlists that delay much-needed support for your child. the episode concludes with Dr. Tay sharing an innovative care approach to get access to high-quality services for your family now.

RESOURCES

⚡️listen to episode 21 for more information on neurodiversity-affirming care

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answering YOUR questions on today's episode!

Q: do friendships look different for autistic individuals? how do I support them in making friends or recognize if they don't actually want them?

A: yes, friendships for autistic individuals can differ due to their interests and understanding of social rules. to support them, help them find common interests with peers, teach social skills without forcing "social masking," respect their boundaries, and ask questions to understand their preferences and needs.

RESOURCES

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RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Kelsey on Instagram @kelseykerslake and learn more about the Aligned Business

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SHOW NOTES

In this episode, Dr. Tay had the pleasure of speaking with her business coach, Kelsey Kerslake, about her journey through the autism diagnosis process for her son, Carter. Kelsey shares her initial concerns about Carter's development and how she followed her instincts after being told by a speech-language therapist that Carter didn't have autism.

Listen in as Kelsey opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of the autism evaluation process, the struggles Carter faced with new situations, and the ultimate validation she felt after receiving the diagnosis. Also discussed is the impact of Kelsey's own ADHD diagnosis as well as how she created a business (and helps others too!) that allows her to prioritize Carter's needs without sacrificing success. Kelsey highlights the importance of trusting your instincts as a parent and seeking the right support for your child, and her experiences are a testament to the power of acceptance and hope in the autism journey.

CHAPTERS

0:04:50 - Navigating a speech delay

0:07:53 - Early signs of autism

0:12:28 - Seeking early intervention and an autism referral

0:22:29 - What an autism evaluation can look like

0:25:58 - Benefits of telehealth evaluations

0:34:50 - Navigating post-diagnosis and school supports

0:40:32 - Achieving balance as a business owner

in this mini episode inspired by "The Gap and the Gain" by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, Dr. Tay addresses the struggles of finding joy that can arise as a parent of an autistic child. the key message revolves around shifting one's mindset from focusing on the gap, which is comparing a child's progress to neurotypical standards, to celebrating the child's progress and accomplishments.

RESOURCES

⚡️order "The Gap and The Gain" by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy

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in this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the concept of embracing your gut instinct, announces an exciting change to the podcast format, and shares an important message for parents of autistic children on the importance of being present.

RESOURCES

⚡️join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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ABA or applied behavior analysis therapy has become a controversial topic in the autism community. as a provider, and after listening to an immense amount of feedback in the field on this subject, I think it's important for you to understand the controversy in order to decide what's best for your family.

in this episode, we deep dive into some of the concerns about ABA therapy. my ultimate goal is that you have informed consent as a parent. and then we discuss if you choose to pursue ABA, how you can advocate for ABA to be more aligned with neurodiversity-affirming care.

this episode will help you learn:

• what ABA therapy is
• how the autistic community feels about ABA therapy
• how you can make the best decision for your child, as well as alternatives to this method of therapy

resources mentioned in the episode to learn more >>

Start Here: A guide for parents of autistic kids

Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)

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I often see in my work as a child psychologist that parents don't understand what their rights are and what their autistic children should be receiving through the educational system.

in this episode, we dive into IDEA, specially designed instruction, IEPs, 504s, and more. we talk specifically about the history of special education and what as a parent you can advocate for. it's important to recognize that a clinical diagnosis isn't the same as an educational diagnosis, so we're going through that educational process with my expert guest, Ashley Barlow, an attorney and former teacher. Ashley also has experience navigating special education as a parent, as her 13-year-old son, Jack, has Down Syndrome.

this episode will help you learn:

• why the public education system has to provide support for your autistic child
• the differences between an IEP and a 504 plan
• interest-based negotiation and knowing your rights as a parent
• specific steps for how you can advocate for your autistic child

ways to connect with Ashley >>

learn more about her free and affordable resources at ashleybarlowco.com

follow her on Instagram @ashleybarlowco and Facebook Ashley Barlow Co

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have you been considering an evaluation or are currently going through the diagnosis process? you may wonder if your child has autism or if there is another diagnosis that explains their behaviors.

in this episode, I describe the process of "differential diagnosis." this is when professionals consider all symptoms and determine what is the best explanation of your child's behaviors. I'm giving you a peek into my diagnostic process so you can better understand how autism is assessed and how final diagnostic determinations are made.

this episode will help you learn:

• what you should know going into an evaluation
• more about other disorders that are considered as part of the evaluation, like ADHD, ODD, SPD, and anxiety
• which diagnoses commonly overlap with autism

note: in the episode, I reference increased psychiatric medication use. the study I mentioned (Madden et al., 2017) indicated that autistic youth are nearly 11x more likely to be on psychiatric medication than their non-autistic peers.

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are you in obligation as a parent of an autistic child?

you deserve to not feel constant stress as a parent. yes, you have extra responsibilities as an autism parent but these don’t have to create a feeling of obligation.

in this episode, we're exploring the difference between obligation vs. responsibilities and how your thoughts about your to-do list affect the way you feel and therefore affect the way you take action.

this episode will help you learn:

• the steps and stages of the obligation cycle
• how you can start to make changes to get yourself out of the cycle
• three strategies you can implement on a day-to-day basis

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have you ever wondered what physical therapy addresses?

in this episode, I'm speaking to physical therapist Cynthia Hughell about the ins and outs of physical therapy for autistic children. we discuss different areas that can be addressed and understand how to best support your child's body to avoid physical stress and strain.

this episode will help you learn:

• about developmental milestones and when to seek physical therapy for your child
• common areas physical therapists address in sessions with autistic children
• a physical therapist's approach to toe walking
• what parents can do outside of physical therapy sessions

connect with Cynthia on TikTok @vidakidstherapy for more free physical therapy content.

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*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism / ASD) are used. although as clinicians and practitioners we are slowly learning to shift our language and take the lead from the autistic community, the stance of this podcast is that we ultimately want to honor what each child and family prefer.

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have you ever asked yourself if your autistic child is getting the highest quality care? if you should be doing more? if what you are doing is best for your child?

in this episode, we're talking about the components of autism care to help you understand what to advocate for in terms of your child, yourself, and your family. I'm giving you a look behind the scenes and what I believe is essential for a high level of care for neurodivergent children and their families so you, too, know what to look for and where to advocate for more support.

this episode will help you learn:

• the concepts of evidence-based care and neurodiversity affirming care
• why the work you do outside of your sessions is the most important piece
• what you can do if you feel you're not getting the right support for your child or family

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book referenced in this episode >> An Early Start for Your Young Child with Autism

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have you ever wondered if you need to be changing your child's diet once they've been diagnosed as autistic? how do you know when dietary supports are needed?

in this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nina-Marie Rueda, a naturopath and nutritional expert who works with families of neurodivergent children. in our conversation, we get into the nitty gritty on myths and truths about dietary recommendations for autistic children, the importance of a healthy conversations around food and mealtime, and common problems that may result from nutritional and physiological imbalances.

this episode will help you learn:

• the definition of a naturopath and what health factors are assessed by naturopathic doctors
• theories on dietary shifts to best support neurodivergent children
• a breakdown of what different nutritional tests mean and example recommendations for dietary changes for maximum nutritional benefit

connect with Dr. Nina-Marie on Instagram @doctorninamarie.

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*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism / ASD) are used. although as clinicians and practitioners we are slowly learning to shift our language and take the lead from the autistic community, the stance of this podcast is that we ultimately want to honor what each child and family prefer. Dr. Nina-Marie shares her perspective as a parent as well as some of the families she has worked with.

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this week's episode is an inspired follow-up to episode 16, where I shared my personal story. I provide three tips for increasing support for your non-autistic children. specifically, we dive into the importance of talking about autism, focusing on quality time, and establishing boundaries for all of your children.

and the prequel to these three steps is to support yourself first (more coming soon on the podcast!). in the meantime, learn more about how your brain thinks. by doing so, you can begin to shift your sabotaging thought patterns to ones that serve you. take the free habits of thinking assessment and we can set up a free call to review your results.

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we talk a lot about sensory aspects in autism, but how do you know if your child has challenges with that and what should you do?

sensory elements and factors can really impact your autistic* child's daily life, and sometimes these can be triggers for things like emotion dysregulation, attention, or even difficulty with transitions.

this week, I'm joined by Dr. Sam Goldman, an expert in autism and the sensory systems. in this episode, we cover the eight (yes, eight!) senses. we also discuss different types of sensory difficulties and examples of how this may be showing up in your child's life.

this episode will help you: 

• understand what occupational therapy will help to address
• learn how to identify sensory challenges
• discuss how to support your child in sensory regulation

follow Dr. Sam Goldman @drsamgoldman to stay connected. she also has her program, Making Sense of Eating, for parents to work on sensory elements of eating as well as her podcast (check out her recent series on all things sensory, Sensory 101 - Sensory 404)

more resources from Dr. Sam mentioned in this episode>>

Self-Regulation Freebie for parents

Favorite books: Sensational Kids, The Out-of-Sync Child

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*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism) are used. although as clinicians and practitioners we are slowly learning to shift our language and take the lead from the autistic community, the stance of this podcast is that we ultimately want to honor what each child and family prefer.

join the evolve Facebook community to participate in the weekly Q+A >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

does your child struggle with sleep?

sleep is such a foundational piece to brain development, it is essential for mental health, and, yes, many autistic children struggle with falling and staying sleeping.

this week, I'm joined by Courtney Zentz, pediatric sleep expert and certified sleep coach. Courtney shares her personal experiences with postpartum anxiety and depression and how she got into helping parents create better sleep routines and environments for kids with sleep difficulties.

this episode will help you: 

• understand some of the reasoning behind sleep difficulties in children
• gain tips and tricks for how to tackle nighttime and sleep
• understand how you can work on this at home, but also know when support is needed

follow Tiny Transitions for more information and help with sleep @tinytransitions or visit tinytransitions.com.

more resources from Courtney mentioned in this episode >>

Freebie Resource Library: https://tinytransitions.com/learn/ 

Free Preliminary Sleep Assessment: https://tinytransitions.com/contact_sleep_consultant 

connect with Raline Sexton, autism sleep specialist: https://tinytransitions.com/slumber-squad/raline/ 

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in this episode, you'll hear the raw and real story of how I was introduced to autism and how my family's story led me to choosing to help autistic children and their families through evaluations, diagnoses, therapy, and beyond.

I hope through the discomfort and vulnerability of sharing my story that you can start to have a shift that autism is a really important part of your child's and your family's identity... and you still have needs in all of this, too.

thanks for letting me share my heart with y'all!

PS the YouTube video that finally helped my bravery come thru is a must-watch: The Greatest Showman | "This is Me" with Keala Settle | 20th Century Fox. let it serve as a reminder that you do not need to be afraid to be seen!

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[please note: some explicit language is used in this episode so please be aware if you're listening around children.]

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are you in the diagnosis process right now and that process is really long and extended? maybe you're in the stages of first concerns or you're even post-diagnosis, and you're asking yourself, "now what?"

in this episode, I'm joined by Chelsea Farmer, an autism parent with a passion for sharing her life and encouraging others who are on their own autism journeys. we discuss our shared goals to normalize the emotions that arise throughout the diagnosis process and the healing that can follow.

this episode will help you: 

• identify how to navigate early concerns and the diagnostic process
• highlight many of the emotions that parents commonly experience throughout the autism journey
• learn how to shift to a healing and acceptance journey post-diagnosis

Chelsea is someone who is willing to share so openly and remind others they are not alone in this journey and I am blessed to be able to share our conversation. follow Chelsea for more autism experiences and encouragement on Instagram @chelseamfnfarmer.

in this episode, I mention my diagnostic services and my group coaching program to support autism parents! to learn more about these services, DM me or email at [email protected].

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this week, I'm opening the floor to my community of autism parents. I know there's not always an easy place for parents to ask questions, so we're going to answer a few submissions I received in this episode!

this episode will answer: 

• what are the levels of autism? should my child have a level? (2:09)
• how do I find the right speech, sensory, OT, or family therapist? (8:24)
• what can parents do to support their own needs when childcare is limited? (13:49)
• when is it appropriate to share your child's autism diagnosis with extended family and friends, particularly on social media? (21:42)
• what is something you wish every parent with a newly diagnosed child knew? what can I expect walking into my child's evaluation? (33:37)
• how can I differentiate my child's spectrum behaviors versus when he/she being a kid? (38:05)

find my book recommendation here: Uniquely Human by Dr. Barry Prizant

in this episode, I shared about my group coaching program designed for you! to learn more about this offer or other services I provide, DM me or email at [email protected].

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have you ever had concerns about your autistic child's eating habits and wondered how do I seek support? do they need medical intervention?

today I'm talking with special guest, registered dietician Dr. Patty Ann Ford. food and habits around eating are daily encounters that affect the whole family unit, but it doesn't have to be your child's identity. picky eating can be ok, and is also something that can be worked on through small mindset shifts and lifestyle tweaks.

this episode will help you: 

• understand what constitutes picky eating
• learn how to effectively break down picky eating habits and address them one step at a time
• determine when intervention is helpful
• learn about ARFID and how it is more than picky eating

connect with Dr. Patty Ann on Instagram @dr.pattyannford

you can also learn more at www.drpatriciafordwellness.com or reach out to her directly at [email protected]

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have you ever wondered about the best ways to use visual supports for your autistic child?

today we're hearing from a special guest, Molly Johnson. Molly has her master's in education and is a former autism teacher. she now has become "the autism consultant" on Instagram. she teaches parents about visual supports, potty training, and behavior and coping - and we talk about it all in this episode.

this episode will help you: 

• learn the rationale behind visual supports and why they are so effective
• understand the most effective ways visual supports are used for autistic children
• consider how can parents can help integrate the things they are doing at home with things happening in the classroom

connect with Molly on Instagram @theautismconsultant

and find Molly's courses on potty training, behavioral coping, and resources for visual schedules and communication boards here: https://www.theautismconsultant.us/linkinbio

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how many times have you been told about the power of positive thinking?

the way our culture has shifted, we've started to think about positive thinking as magic fairy dust. but will it actually set you up for success?

in this week's episode, we explore how you can truly accept and embrace your current reality to find joy even amongst the challenges.

this episode will help you: 

• learn where positive thinking came from
• understand how positive thinking can sabotage you more than help you
• give you 4 ways you can actually create more joy

in this episode, I shared about the new group coaching program I am launching! ready to dive in? sign up here: https://drtaycoaching.com/founding-member-checkout.

have questions about the program? send me a DM or book a consult call using the link above.

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a commonly asked question I get as a child psychologist specializing in autism is "how do I reduce challenging behaviors?" this episode will introduce you to the ABCs - antecedents, behaviors, and consequences. at the heart of this episode is identifying the function of your child's behavior before you try to intervene.

this episode will help you: 

• identify what happens before the behavior (antecedent) and after the behavior that is reinforcing it (consequence)
• understand how to track data to discover patterns about when and why your child's challenging behaviors occur
• get clarity on what your child is trying to communicate (because yes even their challenging behaviors are communicative!) and learn how to use the data to intervene

learn more about my Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered >> drtaylorday.com or email [email protected] if you are wanting to schedule a consult call

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are you the type of person who likes to see the behind the scenes? and get to know the person behind the professional?

one year is all it took to put myself on a completely different trajectory. this week, we'll explore the lessons and insights inspired by my personal evolution in becoming a clinical psychologist that focuses on children and autism. and i'll walk through the career pivots I've made to create intentional space for parents of autistic children to have more support.

this episode will help you: 

• get to know me from the point of my career. dive into my training, my previous job as a researcher and academic, and why I launched the dr. tay brand.
• hear some of my biggest lessons and insights I share with families.
• empower you to change the status quo in your life.

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Dina is a mother of an autistic son as well as two other neurodivergent children. she shares about her journey of advocating for her son's autism diagnosis for years (yes, you read that right!) as well as what inspired her to start sharing the unleashed version of her family's life on TikTok.

this episode will help you: 

• learn how to best advocate for your child during the diagnostic process
• identify shifts in parenting that can help you increase your communication with your child
• understand the importance of supporting your own well-being in the autism journey

connect with Dina >>

TikTok @unleashedpartyof5

Instagram @unleashedpartyof5

and explore Lovevery Play Kits and BrainPop (use DINA15 for 15% off) as mentioned by Dina in the episode!

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in this week's episode, I sit down to candidly discuss neurodiversity, cultural shifts around autism, and even some of my story as an expert in this field who has become committed to constantly learning and evolving. I hope to bring more awareness to this topic shared through what I see as a well-rounded perspective and to help encourage more understanding and acceptance.

this episode will help you: 

• learn what neurodiversity is and understand some of its evolution
• explore how neurodiversity is different than how autism has been previously conceptualized
• learn how I discuss neurodiversity with my patients and their families as well as things I've learned from the autistic community

a great additional resource on neurodiversity as referenced in this episode is Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism by Barry M. Prizant, PhD.

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this week's episode was inspired by a member of my Facebook community. she said "how do you deal with family that thinks your child is normal and they think I blow things out of proportion?" i'll break down the steps for navigating your child's diagnosis/identity when your circle is unsupportive.

this episode will help you: 

• learn effective communication with family members and friends about autism
• understand the importance of gaining permission before you educate
• set appropriate boundaries when necessary

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join the evolve Facebook community to participate in the weekly Q+A >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

you are the expert on your child, so why does it seem like your input is often not valued? in this episode, we explore what leads you to turn your volume down when advocating for your child and how you can take care of yourself to feel knowledgeable and empowered to best support your entire family.

this episode will help you: 

• understand how existing systems may be challenging your intuition in making the best decisions for your child
• identify 3 habits of thinking that are standing in the way of serving yourself

take the habits of thinking assessment here >> habitfindercoach.com/drtay

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have you questioned if your child is autistic? this episode is for you if you want to learn more about the autism diagnostic criteria. i’ll break it down for you so you can know whether or not you should pursue a formal evaluation.

and if your child is already diagnosed, you will still find value in this episode! understanding your child's symptoms will assist you in providing beneficial support and accommodations and help you to better recognize their strengths.

this episode will help you: 

• understand DSM-5 diagnostic criteria
• recognize signs and symptoms you may see in your child
• identify key differences between neurodiversity vs. the medical model's definition of autism

learn more about my Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered >> drtaylorday.com

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join the evolve Facebook community to participate in the weekly Q+A >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

have you ever noticed that when your child is emotionally dysregulated, you have less patience or you feel more on edge? in part 2 of our conversation about emotion regulation, I share evidence-based tips and strategies for you and your family. although there are no quick fixes and consistency is key, you can start to make changes that support your child in developing effective emotion processing.

this episode will help you: 

• learn 5 tips for effective regulation
• begin to explore how emotional suppression may be impacting you and areas where you may need to unlearn behaviors

sign up for the masterclass on emotion regulation here (launching in January 2023)

learn more about my Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered >> drtaylorday.com

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join the evolve Facebook community to participate in the weekly Q+A >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

have you ever noticed that when your child is emotionally dysregulated, you have less patience or you feel more on edge? the answer is not to shove down your feelings and move on. in this episode - part 1 of an in-depth conversation - we'll explore how as a parent of an autistic child effective emotional processing starts with you.

this episode will help you: 

• understand co-regulation and how children learn effective emotion regulation
• explore reasons for greater emotion dysregulation in autistic children than in their neurotypical peers
• examine real-life scenarios on how emotion dysregulation may show up for your child and how your reactions may exacerbate it

sign up for the masterclass on emotion regulation here (launching in January 2023)

learn more about my Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered >> email me at [email protected]

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join the evolve Facebook community to participate in the weekly Q+A >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

recent research shows that one in 44 children are autistic, meaning as parents, many of you are looking for support specific to your autistic child. evolve with dr. tay is designed to be a source for reliable and reputable information for autism parents that is easy to understand. 

this episode will help you: 

• understand the diagnostic process and the limitations of current resources
• address your emotions as a parent
• learn how to sort through advice to find valuable and accurate information
• be proactive in getting what you need to serve your autistic child, your family, and yourself

and this is just the introduction to the podcast... so much more to come!

learn more about my Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered >> email me at [email protected]

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