Oh Crap Parenting with Jamie Glowacki

Hey, hey! Today, I dive into the dynamics of relationships and how they form a "love umbrella" that shields the entire family. I talk about how power imbalances in marriages impact co-parenting and family unity. We explore the significance of addressing postpartum depression, the influence of parental behavior on children's emotional development, and the critical need for regular communication and alignment on parenting philosophies. I share insights on creating a secure and loving environment for your children by maintaining a strong emotional connection with your partner. I also emphasize recognizing signs of a toxic marriage and the importance of not staying together just for the kids. Prioritizing your relationship is essential for a stable and nurturing home. Join me as we uncover the foundations of a strong partnership that benefits the whole family.

(00:03:03) Parenting Unity: Impact of Marriage Dynamics
(00:06:26) The Impact of Postpartum Depression on Relationships
(00:09:04) Parental Relationship Impact on Children's Emotional Development
(00:12:21) Nurturing the Marital Relationship for Family Harmony
(00:15:35) Strengthening Family Unity through Shared Principles
(00:20:52) "Prioritizing Love and Affection in Marriage"
(00:32:38) Unified Front in Parenting for Family Harmony

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Today we're talking about the art of apologizing, especially with our kids. Apologies aren't just about saying "sorry" – they’re about making amends and truly repairing relationships. I'll talk about the key components of a genuine apology, like taking responsibility, expressing real remorse, and listening to the other person's perspective. We'll discuss why overpromising in apologies can be harmful and how to avoid defensive reactions. I’ll also share tips on effective communication and addressing past hurts without deflecting responsibility. Tune in to learn how to foster healthier, more honest relationships through sincere apologies.
(00:02:34) Genuine Apologies Fostering Healthy Relationships with Kids
(00:03:17) Sincere Efforts to Mend Relationships through Apologies
(00:08:56) Authentic Apologies: Acknowledging Mistakes and Improving
(00:12:13) Meaningful Apology Guidelines
(00:18:06) The Art of Genuine Apologies
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Hey you guys! Today, we're talking core memories, popularized by the Pixar movie Inside Out, and discuss how this idea, while engaging, is not based in science. I caution against the societal pressure parents may feel to create these "perfect" memories, emphasizing that true core memories are formed from the emotional connections behind everyday moments. Forget about orchestrating extravagant events; the best memories come from simple, meaningful interactions like cooking together or playing outside. Tune in to learn how staying present and creating loving, calm moments can help build lasting, positive memories for your children.

(00:02:29) Core Memories Concept
(00:08:44) Emotional Connections
(00:13:03) Nostalgia and Childhood Memories
(00:15:54) Emotional Impact on Lasting Memories
(00:19:54) Memory Fallibility

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In this episode, I dive into the complex world of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), a subtype of autism spectrum disorder characterized by extreme avoidance of social demands and anxiety-driven meltdowns. We'll explore the nuances of PDA, how it manifests in children, and why it often goes unrecognized in traditional autism screenings. I’ll share effective strategies to manage PDA and similar behaviors, emphasizing the importance of tailored support and understanding. By implementing low-demand cues and fostering collaboration and autonomy, we can help our kids feel more in control and less anxious. Join me as we unravel the intricacies of PDA and learn practical ways to support our children's unique needs.
(00:00:01) Overactive Threat Response in Pathological Demand Avoidance
(00:08:34) Unique Strategies for Addressing Pathological Demand Avoidance
(00:16:48) Navigating Anxiety in Children with PDA
(00:29:34) Empowering Anxious Children through Collaborative Autonomy
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Hey, hey, you guys! I dive into the importance of seeing the world through our children's eyes. We start by discussing the magical perspective children have on nature walks, where every creek and puddle is an adventure. Then, I share a personal story about how my son's fascination with trains led us to hours of joy at the train station, highlighting the value of child-led exploration. We also touch on complex family dynamics, such as relationships with estranged grandparents, and how our kids' views can offer unexpected insights. Join me as we explore how embracing our children's unique perspectives can enrich our parenting journey and strengthen our family connections.
(00:00:52) Discovering Nature's Wonders Through a Child's Eyes
(00:04:20) Exploring Trains through a Child's Eyes
(00:08:28) Embracing Children's Intrigues through Exploration
(00:15:08) Evolution of Grandparent-Grandchild Relationships
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Today's a short one from the archives! We're diving into the tricky world of timed warnings for kids. Ever told your little one, "We're leaving in 30 minutes," only to be met with resistance or outright dismissal? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down why these warnings can backfire and how to use them effectively. We'll talk about setting realistic expectations, using timers, and giving kids concrete activities to mark the end of playtime. Tune in to learn how to keep your transitions smooth and tantrum-free!

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Hey, hey, you guys! This episode originally aired on Patreon March 4, 2021 but I wanted to reshare it her because I get questions on kiddos and speech all of the time.
I’m so excited to have a special guest with us today who is going to address many of the questions you have been submitting about your kids and their speech development. Marci Melzer, M.Ed./SLP, is an intuitive speech-language pathologist with 30 years of experience helping people to develop the ability to use spoken language functionally. She is the founder of the online platform ‘Waves of Communication’, the author of If it isn't FUN it ISN'T fun: Teach Your Child to Talk Faster Than Speech Therapy, and the host of her own YoutTube channel. Through each of these initiatives, Marci helps families to facilitate language themselves faster, easier, and with a lot more fun than speech therapy, and she shares a wealth of information and advice with us all here today.
She begins by explaining her role and work, and then we delve deeply into the world of kids and language. In essence, we look at the development of speech in children, the signs that your child may need help with that development, and some strategies to employ should the need arise. Along the way we also discuss such topics as learning multiple languages, the use of sign language, and how to implement strategies during times such as the current pandemic. What Marcia and I want to make crystal clear is that there is no guilt to be assigned here. There are certain aspects in life that can block the development of speech and stop its evolution, and today we explore some ways to help you address them. I can tell you, we could have gone on for hours talking about this subject, and if you want to learn even more, don’t forget to check out Marci’s 370 free step-by-step strategy videos on YouTube!

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(00:04:43) Promoting Appreciation Over External Comparisons in Parenting

(00:08:50) Evolution of Language Skills in Children

(00:14:04) Factors affecting language development in children

(00:28:26) Language Exposure Impact on Late Talkers

(00:28:26) Effective Communication Strategies for Late-Talking Children

(00:28:26) Enhancing Language Development Through Parental Engagement

(00:36:46) The Role of Speech Models in Development

(00:45:42) Speech Models for Effective Language Development

(00:46:46) Split Vocabulary Development in Multilingual Children

(00:51:03) Speech Development: Overcoming Challenges and Providing Support

(00:55:12) Meaningful Daily Interaction to Strengthen Bonds

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In this episode, I'm joined by sleep expert Jessica Berk from @awesomelittlesleepers to dive deep into the world of toddler sleep. We're tackling everything from maintaining boundaries in parenting to handling transition periods and adjusting sleep training for older kids. With Jessica's expertise and my own experiences, we explore setting time limits for bedtime conversations and the importance of establishing a structured bedtime routine. Plus, we discuss the flexibility needed in sleep schedules while emphasizing the long-term benefits of instilling good sleep habits in our little ones. If you're struggling with your toddler's sleep, this episode is a must-listen!
(00:05:15) Promoting Healthy Sleep Habits Through Consistent Boundaries
(00:08:03) Transition Buffer Periods for Smooth Adjustments
(00:10:03) Empowering Older Kids through Bedtime Choices
(00:15:33) Bedtime Routine Optimization through Time Boundaries
(00:23:40) Empowering Children Through Structured Bedtime Routines
(00:26:19) Empowering Children Through Bedtime Preferences
(00:29:47) Optimizing Children's Sleep Patterns for Well-being

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I'm back with another truth bomb. Parents, we are messing it up. Today, I'm covering preparing young adults for financial independence and the negative impact of over-parenting. I emphasize the importance of allowing kids to navigate challenges independently, fostering resilience, and self-sufficiency. By striking a balance between old-school and modern parenting approaches, we can raise confident, capable individuals ready to tackle life's challenges. Tune in to learn more about promoting personal responsibility, teaching resilience, and creating a harmonious family dynamic.
(00:06:19) Promoting Resilience Through Independent Financial Learning
(00:08:12) Promoting Self-Reliance in Child Rearing
(00:10:14) Fostering Resilience Through Independent Challenges
(00:15:09) Promoting Independence and Responsibility in Parenting
(00:17:34) Emphasizing Communication for Effective Parenting
(00:20:22) Fostering Independence and Resilience in Children

Today, we are entering the world of magnesium with Dr. Barb Woegerer!

Dr. Barb Woegerer, a naturopathic doctor based in Vaughan, Ontario, Canada, specializes in women's health, stress management, and inflammatory conditions, with a key emphasis on the role of magnesium in overall health and wellness, especially in treating constipation.

Together, we explore the different types of magnesium and their unique benefits. From improving sleep to addressing digestive issues and boosting energy levels, Dr. Barb shares valuable insights into the role of magnesium in overall health and wellness. Discover how magnesium deficiency can impact various health issues, and learn how to choose the right form of magnesium for your specific needs.
(00:01:42) Selecting the Right Magnesium Type for Health
(00:11:02) Citrate Magnesium for Effective Constipation Relief
(00:15:58) Comprehensive Assessment for Magnesium Deficiency Levels
(00:18:53) Magnesium Depletion Due to Chronic Stress
(00:31:26) Magnesium's Vital Role in Enzymatic Reactions
(00:33:51) Optimizing Magnesium Absorption for Better Health
(00:37:04) Optimizing Health with Specific Magnesium Forms
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Hey, hey, you guys! Today, I dive into the complexities of teaching personal accountability and navigating eye rolling behavior in children and teenagers. Sharing some anecdotes, I explore strategies for instilling accountability in kids through modeling behavior and addressing disrespectful actions like eye rolling. From understanding the challenges of parenting teenagers to managing emotional reactions to disrespectful behaviors, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for fostering accountability and healthy parent-child relationships. Tune in for a candid discussion on accountability, eye rolling, and effective parenting techniques!
(00:00:52) Prioritizing Health for Survival and Well-being
(00:03:35) Building Strength for Long-Term Well-Being
(00:08:25) Modeling Personal Accountability for Children
(00:10:48) Teaching Personal Accountability Through Parental Modeling
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We're diving into the intricate world of sibling dynamics. From observing the natural pecking order among siblings to navigating conflicts and fostering healthy relationships, I explore the complexities parents face in nurturing sibling bonds. Drawing parallels to the pecking order among chicks, I stress the inevitability of sibling hierarchies and the importance of acknowledging and accepting them. I advocate for a hands-off approach, allowing sibling relationships to develop organically while providing guidance and setting boundaries when necessary. Join me as we delve into effective strategies for handling sibling conflicts and promoting harmony within the family dynamic.
(00:01:48) Understanding Sibling Dynamics in Family Relationships
(00:04:08) Encouraging Natural Development in Sibling Relationships
(00:09:57) Navigating Sibling Dynamics for Harmonious Relationships
(00:12:23) Direct Parenting: Setting Firm Boundaries

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Hey! Today, we delve into the rhythm and routine of parenting, exploring how consistency and circadian biology play vital roles in creating stability for both parents and children. From establishing bedtime rituals to navigating the infamous "witching hour," I provide practical insights and strategies to help parents maintain sanity and structure amidst the chaos of daily life. Join me as we uncover the importance of prioritizing self-care, establishing calming routines, and aligning our daily rhythms with natural light cues for optimal well-being.
(00:02:06) Relentless Parenting for Establishing Boundaries
(00:04:36) "Afternoon Challenges: Navigating the Witching Hour"
(00:13:16) Optimizing Sleep Quality with Circadian Rhythms
(00:19:02) Calming Rituals for Better Sleep Routine
(00:24:11) Energy-Boosting Activities for Overall Well-being

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Today, we're talking "Tiny Dictators" and parental preferences, exploring how organization and setting boundaries play a crucial role in managing these challenges. From establishing designated spots for everyday items to navigating children's preferences for one parent over another, I offer practical insights and strategies to maintain authority while fostering a harmonious household environment. Join me as we tackle the complexities of parenting and empower ourselves to navigate these common yet often challenging dynamics with confidence and clarity.
(00:00:48) Designated Spots for Everyday Items
(00:05:37) Avoid Negotiating with Miniature Controllers
(00:07:15) Managing Children's Parental Preferences with Consistency
(00:11:16) Consistent Enforcement for Establishing Authority with Children
(00:14:27) Visual Aids and Clear Communication for Children

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We're revisiting tantrums today! From understanding the root causes to managing those intense emotions, we're covering it all. Learn how to navigate the tantrum arc, support your child through meltdowns, and distinguish between typical behavior and manipulative tactics. Plus, I talk about what's coming up in my new parenting community, Oh Crap! Cafe which is a great resource for any parent needing some community and support.

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(00:05:16) Understanding and Managing Children's Tantrums Effectively

(00:07:02) Preventing Tantrums through Mindful Environment for Kids

(00:09:35) Navigating Tantrum Arcs in Young Children

(00:16:17) Tantrum Management in Parenting

(00:21:37) Emotional Outbursts: Understanding Children's Behavior Differences

Today, we're talking about the intricacies of managing emotional states of our kids with a focus on nurturing emotional intelligence and resilience in children. From acknowledging and validating their feelings to providing tools for emotional navigation, we explore how parents can create a supportive environment where kids feel understood and empowered to manage their emotions authentically. Additionally, we discuss the importance of fostering autonomy in children and guiding them through the impact of social media on their perceptions and self-esteem. Join me as we navigate the complexities of teenage heartbreak and the significance of emotional safety in parenting, empowering parents to raise emotionally resilient children equipped to handle life's challenges with grace and strength.
(00:02:45) Supporting Kids' Emotional Intelligence and Resilience
(00:05:42) Fostering Autonomy Through Decision-Making in Children
(00:07:45) Social Media's Influence on Children's Perceptions
(00:08:45) Supporting Teens Through Emotional Turmoil
(00:09:45) Building Resilience Through Adversity in Parenting

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You know the drill. Your kid can totally dress themselves and then suddenly they have a meltdown getting dressed because suddenly they can't. Today, we'll discuss this phenomenon through the lens of the typical morning rush. From helping children get dressed to managing their resistance to activities, it's all about finding the delicate balance between support and independence. Join me as we explore strategies for promoting cooperation, fostering autonomy, and understanding the mental load both moms and toddlers carry. Together, we'll tackle the morning madness and embrace the freedom of letting our children express themselves through their outfit choices.

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(00:10:19) Clothing Choices Impact on Morning Routines
(00:11:17) Fostering Emotional Connection Through Child Dressing
(00:13:12) Promoting Independence Through Playful Parenting
(00:19:47) Empowering Children's Autonomy in Activity Participation
(00:28:56) Empowering Children Through Clothing Choices

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Hey! Today we're talking about the concept of internal and external locus of control and its profound implications for parenting and personal well-being. Together, we'll explore how reframing parenting responsibilities from "I have to" to "I get to" can bring a sense of gratitude and joy to our daily tasks, deepening our connection with the role of being a parent. We'll discuss the empowering nature of an internal locus and its impact on self-efficacy and motivation, and I'll share personal reflections on maintaining a flexible work schedule for greater happiness and control over my life. We'll also delve into the pitfalls of helicopter and snow plow parenting, emphasizing the importance of allowing our children to face challenges independently to nurture resilience and self-reliance. Discover how integrating children into household chores can instill a sense of responsibility and connection within the family unit, shaping them into responsible individuals with a strong work ethic.

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(00:04:32) Empowerment through Internal Locus of Control
(00:08:30) Flexibility in Work Schedule and Self-Efficacy
(00:15:19) Fostering Independence and Self-Advocacy in Children
(00:22:33) Obstacle-Embracing Parenting Approach
(00:28:09) Fostering Responsibility Through Household Contributions
(00:35:50) Bonding and Learning Through Household Chores

Discover why play is essential for your child's growth, from enhancing cognitive development to fostering social skills. Today, I'm joined by Dr. Peter Gray, a research professor at Boston College specializing in psychology and neuroscience, who has dedicated his career to understanding the value of play in children's lives. He is a founding member of the board of Let Grow and author of the acclaimed book "Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life."

Dr. Gray shares insights into how play promotes creativity, problem-solving, and emotional well-being in young children, unraveling the transformative power of play-based learning in schools. Explore the therapeutic benefits of play therapy for children and learn how engaging in play activities can reduce stress, improve mood, and enhance overall well-being. Join the conversation on the role of play in promoting physical fitness, creativity, and the development of social skills. Tune in to understand why play is crucial during early childhood development and how it positively impacts brain development and adult mental health.

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(00:01:12) The Significance of Unstructured Play in Child Development

(00:08:01) Discovering Passions Through Self-Directed Play

(00:11:10) The Role of Rules in Children's Play

(00:20:04) The Power of Age-Mixed Play in Reducing Bullying

(00:27:31) Unstructured Free Play Fostering School Friendships

(00:40:25) Developing Street Smarts Through Age-Mixed Play

(00:42:59) Decline of Neighborhood Play due to Organized Activities

(00:56:50) The Impact of Academic Pressure on Student Mental Health

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We're diving into the importance of addressing sensory needs in children through specific physical activities. Understanding and meeting the sensory needs of our children is crucial for their overall well-being and development, regardless of whether they have specific sensory processing challenges. From sensory bins filled with rice or pompoms to climbing and hanging activities that provide essential proprioceptive and vestibular input, we explore practical strategies that benefit all children. Join me, as we discuss the significance of recognizing and honoring our children's sensory behaviors and creating safe environments for exploration.

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Hey guys! In today's fast-paced world, nurturing our children's self-esteem and emotional resilience is more important than ever. In this episode, I dive deep into the dangers of seeking constant external validation and the impact of academic pressure on children's mental health. It's essential for parents to recognize the signs of a nervous learner and provide a supportive environment. We also explore the importance of promoting self-validation skills and allowing children to navigate their emotions independently. From reflecting on daily highs and lows to engaging in challenging activities, there are many ways to foster self-esteem and resilience.

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Hey! Today, we dove into the essential topic of establishing solid sleep routines for our little ones. Joined by the insightful Erica Desper, we talked all things consistency, understanding your child's unique temperament, figuring out the right bedtime, and how light and activity impact sleep schedules. You know how vital consistency is, especially with hectic schedules, and we shared tips on maintaining that routine. We discussed understanding your child's temperament, because, let's face it, every kiddo is different. Figuring out the ideal bedtime based on wake time? Yup, we've got you covered. And, of course, we delved into the impact of light and activity on those precious sleep hours. Join us as we navigate the world of healthy sleep routines for your little ones, because well-rested kids are happy kids!

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In my latest podcast episode, I'm tackling self-berating behavior in our kiddos, especially around ages five to seven. I break it down with practical insights and strategies to help you navigate this challenging phase. One key tip is differentiating between attention-seeking behavior and more serious concerns. I reassure you that sudden self-deprecating thoughts aren't necessarily red flags for severe mental health issues. It's all about understanding and creating a safe space for open dialogue with your child. I dive into the power of storytelling as a parenting tool and share how it can normalize mistakes and help build resilience. Throughout, I stress the importance of being present, attentive, and fostering that meaningful connection with your little ones. Let's make your parenting journey a little smoother!

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Hey, hey, you guys. Today, I'm opening up about a real parenting moment - you know, the kind we all face! Join me as I share a personal story of a repair moment with my teenage son, Pascal. We're diving deep into the challenges of effective communication and adaptation in parenting. Parenting is a constant learning curve, and even experts like me make mistakes. But here's the scoop on repair, connection, vulnerability, and adapting to build those rock-solid parent-child relationships.

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This week, we're diving into a topic close to my heart – managing capacity and setting boundaries for productivity. As we wade through the chaos of December and beyond, I share my personal journey of finding balance and offer tips to help you navigate busy times effectively. From breaking down projects into bite-sized tasks to reconsidering our relationship with social media, I spill the beans on what works for me. Setting boundaries is key, and I'm all about prioritizing self-care and personal limits to prevent burnout. Plus, forget traditional resolutions – let's talk about choosing a guiding word for the year!

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Hey, parents! In our latest episode of "Oh Crap Parenting," I had the pleasure of chatting with the incredible Kate Pope, aka the Wild Nutritionist. We dug deep into the world of regenerative nutrition and gut health, unraveling the impact of what we eat on our well-being. Kate's passion for nutrient-dense foods and a healthy gut microbiome is downright contagious! From the gut-brain connection to tackling picky eating and introducing solids for little ones, Kate dishes out practical advice that's a game-changer for families. We also tackled the hurdles of promoting regenerative nutrition in a world filled with processed goodies. Kate's wisdom is all about embracing our body's natural ability to thrive with the right nutrients. So, grab your headphones and join us on this journey of mindful eating, gut health, and empowering choices.

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Today, we're talking with the incredible Dr. Sarah Oreck. Dr. Sarah is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and the visionary behind Mavida Health, an organization striving to revolutionize mental health care for individuals on their parenthood journey. Sarah's perspective on challenges and support in women's health and perinatal care is shaped by her keen observations of the substantial lack of understanding and support for women's mental health during this critical period. From the lack of research and understanding to the unique struggles brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic, we're shining a light on the issues that need our attention. Plus, we're breaking the silence on life transitions like postpartum and perimenopause and the crucial need for open discussions.

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Join me and the incredible Erica Litzner, a parent, a long time listener, and patron on Patreon, in a deep dive into the rollercoaster world of parenting in our latest podcast episode. We're tackling the nitty-gritty of effective parenting, from the importance of self-care (yes, YOU matter) to understanding the profound impact of childhood trauma on both parents and kiddos. We're navigating the pandemic's parenting challenges, exploring attachment theory, and unveiling the secrets of maintaining mental well-being. Tune in for some real talk, laughs, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom.

We've got a fantastic episode lined up with a special guest in the house – Eli Hardwood, AKA the Attachment Nerd. Eli's not just a therapist and mama; she's the guru when it comes to all things attachment theory.

In this episode, we're getting real about attachment parenting. Eli breaks down the four attachment patterns, spills the beans on breaking those generational habits, and dives into finding that sweet spot between nurturing and letting your kiddos spread their wings.

But wait, there's more! We're also tackling the teenage brain rollercoaster and giving you the lowdown on navigating those adolescent emotions.

Tune in for a chill chat, some expert insights, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom. It's Eli, Jamie, and you – breaking attachment patterns and rocking the parenting game.

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Today, we're talking to Allie Ticktin, MA, OTD, OTR/L, about sensory and child development, sensory sensitivities, and sensory toys. Allie is a seasoned occupational therapist with a focus on the significance of sensory development and play in early childhood. Holding a master's degree and a clinical doctorate in occupational therapy, and having personally experienced sensory issues as a child, Allie brings a unique and informed perspective to the table. She firmly believes that sensory development and play are vital for early childhood development, arguing against early academics and emphasizing the role of play in building muscles and sensory skills that support academic tasks later on. Allie suggests that a lack of play and sensory experiences can lead to an increase in behavioral issues and developmental needs, and she underscores the role of toys and play experiences in shaping children's interests and passions. Join Jamie and Allie on this episode of The Oh Crap Parenting with Jamie Glowacki to delve deeper.

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Today, Jill Wright is joining me to talk about rediscovering one's creative spark and trust one's intuition, despite the challenges that busy moms face.

Jill is a business strategist for the super mom, who has devoted her career to assisting others in striking a balance between creativity, time management, and motherhood. As the host of the podcast, Grow like a Mother, and with a background in data and analytics, Jill has a unique perspective on the importance of creativity in personal growth and fulfillment.

She shares her strategies and insights in her book, "Happy, Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise," to help mothers incorporate creativity into their lives and achieve balance. Join us in this episode of The Oh Crap Parenting as they delve deeper into this topic.

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This episode was originally released on Patreon on April 29, 2021.

All things bullying today:

• the overuse of the term
• the secretive nature of bullying
• the oversimplification of situations
• being bullied, being the bully

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We’ll open with a few examples of repairing ruptured connections with your child

And then I’ll catch you up on my mom, Pascal, and my end-of-year musings.

Today I’m interviewing Ana Maria Marcos, licensed marriage and family therapist. 

We’re discussing: 

• growing up with ADHD but without a diagnosis
• women + ADHD
• special needs + the education system
• the importance of safe spaces
• loving your child even when you don’t always like them

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This week, we’re going to dive right into two topics that are both highly relevant these days. Lately, I’m hearing a lot from private clients, Instagram, and patrons alike about sleep routines for kids that are starting to give up their naps – and I’ll give you a heads-up, it’s actually more about the parents’ values. We’ll also look at de-escalating situations, which I’m sure you’ll all agree is a skill that is currently in great demand throughout our entire country.

I’ll share with you the importance of sleep, particularly in children under 6, and how the decision about sleep routines is very much rooted in the values which each of the parents hold. In light of this fact, I also strongly encourage you all to read (or re-read) the ‘Values’ chapter in my Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler book for more in-depth information and exercises to follow. Moving onto our other topic, I provide the steps involved in de-escalating situations whether on-line, in person or otherwise, and which are valuable when dealing with adults, and can work with children as well. As mentioned, these seem to be growing into hot topics in parenting and relationships these days – today’s episode will assist you in navigating your way through them and lead to the development of the healthy, happy, well adjusted adults for which we all strive.

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· It is well documented that children need more sleep than they’re currently getting in our society

· We all have internal value systems

· One common value clash in parents is one valuing routine and boundaries and the other more valuing creativity and super adventure

· When the child is under 6 boundaries and routines are best for kids

· You’re actually doing your child a brain/intellectual disservice by not giving them plenty of sleep

· If you’re in a situation where one parent stays home with the kids, that parent gets the final say on this issue, because they deal with the consequences the next day

· Read the chapter on ‘Values’ in my book, Oh Crap? I Have a Toddler

· As parents, it’s important to determine what your values are so you can come to an understanding

· Walking away is always an option when a situation is escalating

· No matter what the escalation, remember kindness first

· If you activate a childhood wound, you are adding fuel to the fire

· Bring your vocal quality down when de-escalating

· In any given escalation, determine what the other person needs to hear and acknowledge that

· You have to offer a bridge to the olive branch

· Find out what you need in this emotional transaction – and it can’t be ‘to be right’

· If you don’t care about the relationship, just walk away

Quotes:

“When you put an already kind of psychotic three year old on less sleep, you are adding fuel to a massive fire!”

“You have your child’s entire childhood to be the whimsical adventuresome parent, and…your ten year old is going to love you for this. But your three year old is just going to be a fucking mess tomorrow, plain and simple.”

“You’re not raising a kid for your feelings. You’re raising a kid to be a healthy, happy, well adjusted adult.”

“There’s tons of nuance and grey in every situation.”

“You are never, ever going to de-escalate any sort of situation without kindness.”

“Most often, all of us just want to be heard…we don’t even need to be right.”

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One topic which has been showing up frequently in the messages I’m getting from parents is a big one: sleep. In particular, I have about 5 clients who are asking about naps these days, so today we’re going to revisit this highly important subject, and provide information and advice that should answer a lot of your questions.

We’ll begin by looking at the typical ages when children start giving up their naps, and the importance of maintaining a quiet time for all children. I’ll offer some valuable tips surrounding these quiet times, some advice about establishing sleep time habits, and a recommendation for finding help if you are suffering in this area. The main theme here today is that sleep is vital to both your children and yourself, and finding a system that works for you and your entire family needs to be a priority. This week’s episode is filled with the information and advice that will help you do this.

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• From ages 2½ to 4 it can look like your child is giving up their nap, and at ages 4 to 4½ they are
• For all kids, keep the quiet time, and under certain circumstances, it can be a reasonable solution to lock your child in their room for this time
• For every child up until about the age of 13, the time from 3:00 pm to 6:00 pm is their ‘witching hour’ – make that their quiet time
• When your child is giving up their nap, you have to go to an earlier bedtime (even as early as 5:00 pm)
• Kids have lost some social skills during the quarantine, so start by planning very short meetups for them with other children
• Listening to stories (ex. Audible books) is a great idea for quiet time in their rooms
• Don’t establish nap time in the stroller or in the car
• Be very careful with establishing sleep time habits so that they work for every member of the family
• If you are suffering, find a sleep trainer who resonates with you
• Really, really, really attend to your own sleep
• Potty training may disrupt your child’s sleep

Quotes:

“My son napped right up until his first day of Kindergarten.”

“You cannot make your child sleep, nor can you actually make your child stay in bed.”

“Sleep is everything, you guys…we all need it so much.”

“I know sleep training is super controversial.”

“Sleep deprivation is used as torture in war.”

“There’s nothing better you can do for yourself than sleep, so really set a good bedtime, and commit to being off screen.”

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On this week’s episode, I want to cover something I’ve noticed becoming quite rampant in the work I do with both parenting and potty training—sustained cajoling as a parental technique. Rewards and compliments are great things to give our kids, but when you start cajoling or bribing to get them to do daily activities, you’re not empowering them, you’re disempowering yourself as a parent. Instead of putting yourself in a position of weakness, I discuss better ways to take control of your parenting, including developing your Mom Voice and using statements, choices, and challenges as your techniques for getting your kid to play ball.

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• When you start cajoling or bribing for daily activities, like getting dressed or putting their shoes on, you run into trouble because you’re asking your child permission to parent them. And by doing so, you’re not empowering them, you’re losing your own power by putting yourself in a position of weakness.
• My number one rule when you’re potty training is don’t ask your child if they have to go. There are many other, more effective ways to prompt by using a statement, choice, or challenge.
• I’m a firm believer in the Mom Voice; I want you to cultivate a voice that means business. That doesn’t mean using a mean voice, it means being regulated and letting your kid know that you’re in control.
• Don’t blow smoke up your kid’s ass by using excessive flattery to get them to do things—children already think they’re the center of the universe, don’t encourage that self-centered perception.
• I got a question from a listener about dealing with her child’s father not wanting to be part of his life. We tend to see this happening with the biological father more than the mother; some women do abandon their child, but it tends to be coupled with factors that make it almost preferable for them not to have contact.
• As single moms, we can fall into the trap of thinking our kids are going to communicate as females, but sometimes they need male figures because men communicate very differently to women.
• As far as full-time homeschooling, I wouldn’t recommend setting up a classroom for kids at an early age, especially for only one child. Part of the reason to do homeschooling is that it gives a lot more freedom in how the kid learns, whereas setting up a classroom keeps you in the mindset of school. Homeschooling lets you break out of the formality of school—and all the crowd control that goes along with it—so you don’t have to stick rigidly to schedules, subjects, or locations.
• One of the best things you can do is read to your child and provide opportunities for learning words. When Pascal was in kindergarten and first grade, I would label everything from the windows to the tables to the chairs to help him learn sight words.
• If you’re planning on getting outside regularly as part of homeschooling (which is a great idea!), invest in some gear. The best thing you can do with your kid is get one of those one-piece shells (insulated or not!), and then you can layer all the clothes you need underneath.
• Go for brand names over generics if you can because they have better heat technology and let you have a slim profile, which makes being outside in the cold so much more pleasant. I tend not to recommend specific brands, but I personally like Hannah Anderson (which are really sturdy and last a long time), Columbia, and North Face.

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On today’s episode, I’m delighted to welcome sleep expert Dana Obleman. Dana is the founder of the acclaimed Sleep Sense Program, and she lives for helping parents get their babies to sleep through the night. We begin with our own stories of sleepless nights with new babies, and how this struggle prompted Dana to find a solution that she then felt compelled to share with other exhausted parents. Her program offers a number of different options to help sleep train your baby, but Dana explains no matter which way you choose to get there, the heart of the issue is always going to be teaching your baby independent sleep skills.

Dana breaks down how to help your child have a positive relationship with sleep, the importance of being consistent when your toddler pushes limits around bedtime, and how to build a simple, calm “sleep sanctuary” for your kid and yourself. She also talks about avoiding overstimulation, working with biological cues like light and temperature to encourage sleep, and dispels the myth of the night owl in children. We discuss the ideal number of nighttime sleep hours for your little ones, how circadian rhythms shift in the teen years, and bond over our shared belief that sleep is one of the best nutrients we can give ourselves and our children.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• The heart of the issue is that you have to teach baby independent sleep skills, but there are different ways to get there
• As human beings, we are very protective of and habitual with our sleep habits - this is why we don’t sleep as well at a hotel or at a friend’s house
• As we return to school or daycare following the pandemic, you need to slowly back up bedtime to get them ready for this, rather than waiting until the night before
• If you throw all rules and boundaries out the window, it can actually make your child feel insecure and you could see worse behavior show up as a result
• Boundaries and routines make your kid feel secure, especially when they’re really young
• If you let yourself become exhausted and sleep-deprived, you’re going to be stressed out and reactive toward your child
• Sleep is a nutrient - we have to sleep well ourselves
• A lot of behavioral issues are actually related to sleep deprivation
• Making sure your child gets the right nutrition is more important than the ritual of a family meal together
• Dana always stresses quality over quantity 
• Teach your child to have a good relationship with sleep - it is not a punishment, it’s not the enemy
• If your kid figures out that something is a non-negotiable, they will be much less resistant to fighting it
• A common place for toddlers to push boundaries is bedtime
• If you shelter your child from feeling any “negative” emotions or getting upset, they will struggle with how to regulate themselves as adults
• Most kids are early birds, not night owls - bedtime should match with this biological clock
• If you let your child stay up past the point when they naturally feel tired, then cortisol kicks in to push them through and keep them awake, and they start getting hyper or cranky
• We wake more often through the night when we’re overtired, and we wake up earlier in the morning

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Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 

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Jamie is back after a bit of a hiatus, and she hits the ground running by delving into the complexity of parenting during these uncertain times. There is so much going on out there these days, and Jamie is here to offer some strategies which can be implemented immediately to help parents and children alike, and to also remind everyone to be gentle with themselves.

Comparing the response to this pandemic to the stages of grief, Jamie recognizes that a lot of people are in that anger/bargaining stage, and are at risk of becoming overwhelmed by trying to justify things as educational while also learning how to be together in these unique circumstances. In addition, she highlights just how important it is to ensure that children know they are safe, to talk with them about what’s going on in terms they’ll understand, and above all, to make sure that all of you take the time you need to look after your own mental health.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Justifying things as educational can lead to excessive anxiety
• Loosening up your usual screen time allowance is okay these days
• You are not in charge of your child’s education
• Learn how to be together during this pandemic
• Children need to know that they are safe, and emotional swaddling is necessary now more than ever
• Ensure that all family members get some alone time and ‘combination times’
• Children need to feel touch and to engage in ‘big play’, especially these days
• Take some time for yourself to tend to your own mental health
• Talk about this pandemic with your kids in terms they can understand
• The story behind Jamie’s hiatus and her new Patreon account

Quotes:

“If you have to work, and you have a child under the age of 5, you have to give them some screen time. It’s a non-solvable problem.”

“You need to tell your child that they are safe, and they are loved, and you are taking care of them.”

“Our kids need us to be taking care of our mental health.”

“Please prioritize yourself.”

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Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 

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Alanna McGuinn is a sleep consultant, founder of the Good Night Sleep Site and a stress management coach. As a mother of three, she understands firsthand how vital sleep is for both children and parents during those first few years of raising kids, so she now focuses on how you can maximize not only how long you and your toddlers sleep but the quality of that sleep as well. She’s also hosts the podcast This Girl Loves Sleep, where she recently interviewed Jamie.

In this episode, Alanna discusses that tricky transition from cradle to bed, explains why you should invest in a proper alarm clock, and looks at medical conditions that can impact how well your little ones sleep. Jamie also announces the winner of her book pre-launch party giveaway!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Alanna reveals what prompted her to become a sleep specialist.
• Why it’s always worth trying to put your kid on an earlier bedtime, even if your schedule needs to change.
• Factors you should consider when debating if it’s too soon to move your little one from a crib to a bed.
• Techniques and technology you can use to get yourself in a better mood for deep, restful sleep.
• Why it can be beneficial to get up in the middle of the night and do an activity if you don’t feel tired enough.
• Is it possible to set when your little ones wake up as well as when they go to bed?
• The importance of establishing who’s in charge at bedtime (hint: it’s the parents).
• Navigating the turbulent waters of napping.
• How sleep apnea and adenoids can affect the quality of your child’s sleep.

Quotes:

“Work out all your sleep kinks first, then transition.”

“If we’re waking up and seeing all this clutter it’s just gonna add more clutter to our minds.”

“It’s really important to create a positive association between sleep and bed.”

“We should be sleeping 85% of the time we’re in bed.”

“You don’t negotiate with terrorists or toddlers.”

Links:

Good Night Sleep Site homepage - https://goodnightsleepsite.com/

This Girl Loves Sleep podcast - https://goodnightsleepsite.com/podcast/

Good Night Sleep Site Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/GoodNightSleepSite/

Good Night Sleep Site Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/GoodNightSleepSite/

Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ 

Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - 

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738

Welcome to the first episode of Oh Crap!, a no-nonsense guide to parenting young children by Jamie Glowacki. Jamie is the author of Oh Crap! Potty Training and the soon-to-be-released Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler, having worked with children in the 2 to 5 age range for over two decades. She’s found that parents of toddlers expect far too much academically and developmentally from their children in this period whilst underestimating what they’re capable of, making it a turbulent time for parent and kid alike. Jamie aims to give you the tools to help get you through this period and make the most of it.

In this first episode, Jamie discusses her credentials, the most optimal parenting style for reigning in and raising up toddlers, and how to best deal with your kid when they’re not being their best.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Defining “threenager” and why toddlers are surprisingly similar to adolescents.
• Guiding vs. governing parenting and why the latter is more effective than the former for toddling.
• Parent the child in front of you rather than the one you wish you had.
• Making sure to chastise your child’s behavior, not them as a person.
• Mitigating your kid’s more assholish moments.

Quotes:

“This is a podcast for conscious parents who drop the ‘f’ bomb a lot.”

“No one will ever know your child better than you.”

“Behavior is always a symptom, you guys, it’s never the disease!”

“You have to try on being an asshole to learn how to be not an asshole.”

Links:

Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/

Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne - https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Calmer-Happier/dp/0345507983