How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

As parents, we can easily get caught up in habits that may not benefit us or our families. Perhaps we tolerate certain behaviours due to exhaustion or fear of change. 

It's time to step out of autopilot and start a morning routine. 

I invite you to watch today’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode and take on my SHINE morning routine for a week! Experience the difference and share your insights with me at [email protected]. 

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What options do parents have when it comes to smartphones? More than you think! It starts with a simple question – why.

Here are the highlights:

(0.42) Recap of Part 1

(4:15) My honest opinion

(7:25) Feature phones

(9:04) Pact with other parents

(11:30) Boundaries with a smartphone

(15:30) Model good smartphone use

(20:15) Digital detox

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast topic is homework. Are you facing challenges getting your child to finish their homework? 

One key question to ask is, whose homework is it - yours or your child's? 

Stay tuned as I reveal my top tips for navigating what can become a frustrating situation. 



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Join me and founder of Rites for Girls, Kim McCabe, as we discuss the unique challenges our girls face growing up, and how we can best support them to become the resilient women we know they can be.

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In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I delve into the challenging topic of navigating the balance between pushing our children and knowing when to step back. It's crucial to recognise the fine line between motivating them to excel in areas they are passionate about and potentially becoming overly involved as a parent and living vicariously through your child. 

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I promise you a thorough review of the issues surrounding smartphones, and why schools are banning them.

Here are the highlights:

(2:11) Let’s look at the data

(9:35) 6 concerns

(23:05) Why are you considering giving your child a smartphone?

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This episode, originally released last December, resonated with many seeking advice to support children navigating change. In the face of inevitable change, managing transitions can be daunting for both adults and children alike. From school shifts to relocations, adapting to new routines can pose unique challenges.

However, with proper guidance and assistance, children can cultivate resilience and learn to navigate change effectively. Join me as I delve into 3 essential principles to empower children in coping with and embracing change. 

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Does your child struggle to make friends and yet they are super chatty with adults? Is it impacting their self-esteem? I’ll share small wins they can gain today.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Skills your child may be struggling with

(11:45) Provide scaffolded play dates 

(15:28) Qualities of a good friendship

(19:35) Practice role play

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(22:30) Keep the faith

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On this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I tackle an important listener question: "How do we help and support our children when they encounter upsetting content on their smartphones?"

Join me as I explore two key angles on this topic: Curation of their feed and reflection on their content curation.

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Children develop resilience when we afford them opportunities to take risks. Could we be doing our children a disservice by over-protecting them??

Here are the highlights:

(5:30) Kirstie Allsopp’s 15-year-old interrailing

(6:25) Risk taking has positives 

(11:38) There is no right decisions

(15:20) No hard and fast age or stage

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(20:38) Practice together

(23:20) Reflect on your own choices

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This week's Bucket Emptying episode tackles a common parenting dilemma: how to prevent your child from interrupting all the time??

Several listeners have asked for advice on to manage their young child who continues to interrupt despite knowing it's inappropriate behaviour. Listen as I share my top tips.

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In this episode, I delve into the secrets to school success, revealing that it's not just about academics! 

As parents, our ultimate aim is to raise children who grow into confident, resilient adults capable of leading fulfilling lives on their terms, not ours. I outline my top three tips for achieving this goal and offer practical advice on how you can introduce these strategies into your family life starting today. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 

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This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. "How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"

 In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.

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We read about it everywhere. What’s all the fuss about validating children’s emotions and how does it actually help diffuse those big emotions??

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) A typical scenario


(7:10) Let’s banish some myths

(9:30) Name it to tame it

(12:35) I see you and hear you


(14:03) Builds confidence 

(15:30) Builds emotional literacy

(18:40) It allows you to set boundaries

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Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all family members. 

Listen to this weeks Bucket Emptying podcast episode, as I explain how mealtime can provide an opportunity for children to fuel their bodies and connect with each other, fostering the development of essential life skills. 

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Today I'm focusing on all things Back to School! 

Join me as I share tips to prepare your child's mindset, cultivate curiosity, managing back-to-school anxieties, and establishing good habits to help make the return to school easier when it happens.

Here are the highlights:

(1:45) Our role is to prepare them for a life beyond the immediate

(6:10) Reel in bedtimes

(9:20) Create some structure

(14:40) Work through back-to-school anxiety

(20:35) Reconnect your child to school

(23:45) Practice any significant changes 

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is relevant for parents, grandparents, and anyone involved with children navigating disappointing results, whether academically or in relationships. 

The episode sheds light on the importance of not overemphasising academic benchmarks and highlighting that success takes various forms beyond traditional academics. 

Listen as I share my top tips to get you through this challenging time.

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In a world where children are bombarded with information, it’s crucial to help them question the ‘facts’. Whether it’s friendship drama or social media hype.

Here are the highlights:

(03:02) We see things through our own lens

(8:04) Question the motives of the information provider

(13:44) Cognitive confirmation biais

(17:20) Have discussions around the table

(22:05) Encourage a scientific approach

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In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode, I’m answering the question - how do we as parents regulate our own emotions? 

If you’re a regular listener you know that I've covered some really big bumper episodes around ‘how do we help our children manage their big emotions’. 

One of the things I've talked about quite a lot in those episodes is about how we need to make sure that we're self-regulated so that when we meet our child's big emotions, when those emotions hit and meet ours, that we're self-regulated so that we're better able to manage their emotions. 

So that raises a big bucket emptying question of how do we actually regulate our own emotions? Join me as I share my top tips.

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We all know how crucial communication is for raising resilient children – but how do we build them in the first place - or repair broken channels??

Here are the highlights:

(03:15) Practice good communication skills yourself - 6 steps

(15:25) Avoid lecturing

(17:18) Invest time to learn about what’s important to your child

(20:05) Be fully present

(22:00) Create opportunities 

(22:45) It may take time

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I was recently asked to share 5 valuable tips to help parents prepare their children for their first residential trip and I thought this would be a great bucket emptying topic.

These tips are not only beneficial for overnight stays or sleepovers, but can also be applied to any situation that challenges our children and pushes them out of their comfort zone. 

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Work-life balance does not exist, and the mum-guilt needs to stop!!! Instead let’s focus on counterbalance using these top five strategies.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) A heartfelt gift from me to you

(4:00) Sorry, you can’t have it all!

(5:35) Build your tribe

(9:08) Motherhood is just one role of many

(12:23) Manage your expectations

(15:29) Expect wobbly days

(19:06) It’s ok to say no to your children

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The purpose of my latest bucket-emptying session is to provide valuable insights to help alleviate your stress and enhance productivity, to stop your bucket overflowing. 

During the school holidays you have a wonderful opportunity to start Sunday planning meetings, which can be a game changer in preventing your bucket from filling up unnecessarily.

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Is parenting a constant battle? Are struggling to maintain boundaries, reasonable expectations aren’t being met, or if your child is shouting and/or using their physical self to exert their emotions? This is a must listen episode!

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Let’s get some realistic context

(6:19) Focus on what is out of control for you?

(10:35) Choose one area for 30 days

(14:57) Make a plan

(20:15) Communicate the skills you’re improving for your child/teen

(23:01) Coaching not lecturing

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This episode features a unique bucket-emptying resource created on the spot during a chaotic school holiday moment when my children were young. 

As a control enthusiast, I always have a notebook handy, which led to the creation of this resource. It’s always been a hit with my kids, who used to request it frequently, and still talk fondly of it as adults.

If you're in need of a helpful resource to stop the grumbling during the school holidays, you need to listen to this episode! Please do share with anyone in your village that could do with some support during the school holidays.

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Bed-rot and apathy are learnt behaviours, which can be unlearnt! I'll give you 5 things you can do today to break these bad habits.

Here are the highlights:

(2:05) Brace yourself

(2:49) Choose your start date carefully

(5:00) Consistency is key

(7:36) Your expectations

(10:35) Understand the root cause

(12:41) Agree proportionate amount of time

(16:11) Do not tell them how to use the time

(18:29) Ground rules

Listen to bed-rot and apathy Part 1

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode delves into the powerful practice of gratitude. Research shows that our brain cannot differentiate between reality and imagination, so by focusing on what we're grateful for, we immerse ourselves in positivity and joy. This mindset not only brings small wins and happiness but also sets the right tone before bedtime.

Similar to how we must secure our oxygen masks first on a plane, prioritising our own gratitude practice is crucial before guiding our children to do the same. 

What are you grateful for today? 

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Struggling with children or teens who can’t be bothered, spend hours on sofas/beds glued to televisions or devices, never seem to want to do anything, and could happily while away the whole day in-doors?? I’ve got you covered in this two-part episode.

Here are the highlights:

(1:00) Warning - it’s going to be a slow journey

(3:30) Let’s look at the context behind the behaviour for your child

(10:35) The culture in your home around entertainment and boredom

(16:42) Is your child struggling with confidence?

(20:10) Overwhelm

(21:00) Sleep struggles

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

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Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for parents who are considering giving a mobile device to their child or teen. 

In 2023, 30% of eight-year-olds had their own smartphone. Yes, you read that right - a third of eight-year-olds own their own digital device. This data is quite eye-opening as it highlights the prevalence of smartphones among young children. 

It's crucial to carefully consider this decision within your family and determine what is best for your child. Tune in to the episode as I share my insights and advice on navigating this modern parenting dilemma.

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Helping children navigate friendships issues is all about observing the do's and don'ts I'll share. When we follow these our children feel better equipped to handle anything.

A quick reminder that this is Part 3 in a 3 part series on Friendships. 

Listen to Part 1

Listen to Part 2

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Listen

(5:42) Ask questions to clarify

(7:04) Empathise with the lens they have seen the situation

(9:24) How can I help?

(10:47) Brainstorm together

(14:45) Ask about friendships regularly

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

(17:50) Don’t push friendships

(20:25) Don’t assume your child is guilt free!

(22:40) Don’t ignore commentary

(23:50) Don’t ignore potential bullying

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Today's Bucket Emptying episode is about navigating the challenges of decision-making as parents. We often find ourselves searching for the ‘right’ choice, aiming to minimise the chances of making mistakes for our children.

But is there a ‘right’ decision???

Join me for a 10-minute conversation where I explore the concept of decision-making in parenting.

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In this week’s episode I’ll unpick practical ways we can support a child who might be struggling making friendships, as well as helping a child transitioning to a new school and starting afresh. 

A quick reminder - this is Part 2 in a 3 part series on Friendships. Part 1 is Episode 158

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Characteristics required to make friends

(6:38) Conversational skills

(11:27) Practice

(14:31) Encourage openmindness 

(18:03) Importance of a diverse cycle of friends

(20:25) Be patient

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It’s a month of anniversaries, and this week we celebrate 1 year of the Bucket Emptying episode. So, I’m re-releasing the episode explaining the importance of yours, and your child’s bucket!

We don't notice our bucket filling until that last drop of water goes into the bucket and the water overflows, and we get explosions, big emotions, and often tears as a consequence.

But do you or your child know what fills your bucket? 

Listen as I share my top tips on how to empty your bucket and stop the inevitable overflow.

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We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(1:53) The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown

(4:29) Chronological vs developmental age

(7:12) Why not to meet fire with fire

(11:03) Managing emotions after a confrontation

(13:17) Be the role model for your child

(16:49) Glitter jars

(24:36) Create opportunities for children to practice

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Today's bucket emptying episode comes to you in the week that is the 3rd anniversary of the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast which is now downloaded in 89 countries.

I had no idea this is what was going to happen and that you incredible people would be downloading not only one episode a week, but now two, each Monday and Thursday.

Thank you so much. It does not go unappreciated by me and my team. 

This week’s episode is for you as a parent, and it's particularly for you if you’re struggling with a particular aspect of your child's behaviour, mindset, language, whatever it is that is either triggering you or causing you a lot of challenges.

Listen as I share my top tips, and if this advice isn’t relevant to you please remember to share with a friend or colleague that could do with a hand this week.

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What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that’s it’s causing real issues at home – impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably.

This podcast episode is for you if…..

You want to be more consistent with your parenting

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent – warts and all

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

(0:39) The 5 bedtime parenting styles

(2:45) Children thrive on consistent parenting

(8:34) Children’s behaviour tells us how they’re feeling

(10:13) Children learn how to self-regulate through observation

(13:41) Answering back is disrespectful

(18:50) Children should be grateful for all we do

(21:17) The Sunday family meeting template

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In today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, the focus is on parental guilt. It's a feeling many of us experience almost as soon as our child is handed to us, impacting various aspects of our lives. 

To address this challenge, it's crucial to recognise when the guilt arises from a misalignment between our actions as parents and our perceived responsibilities. The first step is to identify and understand this disconnect. 

Join me as I explore strategies for managing your parental guilt. 

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This episode follows on from Episode 160 discussing sleep, but this time I've got company; I'm chatting to the fabulous Sleep Mums.

So come join us as we have a refreshingly honest conversation and share some super practical advice to help.

You're in for a treat!

Here are the highlights:

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not?

(08:37) Every child has different needs

(10:46) The difference between babies and children

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison

(23:26) How to help older children settle

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep?

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A survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23.

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!!

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:03) The 3 different functions of sleep

(5:36) Keeping the worries out of the bedroom

(10:52) With privilege comes responsibility

(13:25) Dressing the bedroom

(18:34) Help them find their own strategies

(22:52) The small things that shift the emphasis of the day

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Today's bucket emptying episode is all an amazing breathing technique; Take 10.

You can use this an adult, as well as also teaching it to your kids. I've tried all sorts of breathing techniques, and young people often really struggle with this notion of focusing in on the breath, anchoring themselves in the breath.

Instead of asking them to focus on the breath itself and changing the breath, this strategy asks them to focus on counting their breath which is so much easier in the moment.

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This episode was originally released in 2022, but friendships are still one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did.

They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys.

Here are the highlights:

(02:41) How the book came to be

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children

(17:12) Mom has issues too

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned

(42:03) Be humble

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In this series of three episodes I'll share how to help our children make good friendships, keep them, and how to avoid the dramas and toxicity.

Here are the highlights:

(2:55) Friendships aren’t permanent

(5:27) Different friends for different seasons and reasons

(9:02) One friend or lots?

(11:42) Gender differences

(13:18) Support the way your child likes to socialise

(15:12) Core skills that make a good friend are learnt at home

(18:09) Importance of turn-taking

(20:09) Encourage a curiosity about other people

(23:25) Red and green friends

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Today's bucket emptying episode is for your children and I'm setting you a challenge and mindset shift to help your children take those plunges and not see mistakes or failures as catastrophic. 

The challenge is to start reframing mistakes and failure a full stop, and instead to start seeing it as a comma. Let me explain what that I mean.

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A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn’t just in how you deal with it in the moment it’s in how your child sees themselves in your family.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family?

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality

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Children who grow up in the same family experience the family very differently. Siblings vie over the same family resources. When siblings fail to find their niche - conflict ensues. I'll help you audit your family to unravel the root of the issues.

Here are the highlights:

(1:40) Psychological context of individual 

(7:37) Sibling rivalry is normal

(8:21) Focus on needs 

(10:44) Comparison

(12:20) You don’t have to like someone to love them

(14:15) Respond to the motive, not behaviour

(15:03) Family roles

(17:50) Daily individual time with each child

(20:20) Don’t judge, referee or take sides

(21:45) Family connection

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In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I want to show you a really great bucket emptying tool and strategy for your children that is the glitter jar.

Now, obviously a glitter jar is rather lovely and beautiful and very aesthetic in your home, but it's also a superb way of explaining emotions to children and teens, whether that's big emotions around anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, or whether it is around overwhelm, stress and anxiety.

I'd love to see your glitter jars, share your photos to [email protected], and please share this episode with your friends, family and colleagues that need some extra support.

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There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

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Self belief is the foundational layer to self-esteem and self confidence. Without it you're building on quick-sand. I will share ways to help children believe in their own capabilities - regardless of age.

Here are the highlights:

(5:25) I can have a go

(8:47) Don’t jump in to fix

(11:38) Provide options

(12:54) Break challenges into bite size chunks

(14:02) Feedback loop

(15:45) Constructive feedback on effort

(17:30) Social modelling

(21:14) Tackle self-limiting beliefs

(23:15) Fear of judgement

(24:34) Visualise success

(27:43) Constructive self-talk

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This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for everyone, not just parents! 

Have you ever stopped to think how many roles you juggle each week? It's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when you’re trying to keep everyone happy with a limited resource - time.

Listen in as I share my 3 practical tips. 

Oh, and don’t forget to share with friends and family who could use a little relief from their overwhelm.

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How can we get a non-communicative child or teen to open up? Feels like mission impossible yet with a few tweaks, and a whole lot of faith it is possible. I'll share my top four don'ts and my top five dos.

Here are the highlights:

(00:45) You can’t help your child with anxiety or confidence if they won’t open up to you

(1:58) Don’t ask your child about their day

(3:27) Don’t expect overnight changes

(4:13) Don’t jump in with solutions

(5:07) Don’t take things personally

(6:55) Seize the opportunities

(9:45) Take care of yourself!

(11:15) Build in connection time with each child each day

(14:03) Listen

(17:22) Maximise non-eye contact moments

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In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast I tackle a very topical listener question: “Should we ban smart phones??” 

Whilst I have very strong opinions regarding children’s use of smartphones, the internet, and social media, I don’t believe that banning them is the solution. Instead, let’s teach our children how to use them safely, which starts with modelling moderation of use of ourselves!

I’d love to know your thoughts on this topic. Do you know how much screen time you have each week?

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How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.

Here are the highlights:

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast, we tackle a wonderfully honest question: "Help! I hate playing with my children." 

As parents, it's natural to feel overwhelmed at times. But, we can learn a lot from our children by being authentic and vulnerable. 

Listen in to hear my top tips on how to connect with your children and make the most of your time together. 

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How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!

Here are the highlights:

(2:35) Why is this important?

(6:06) A bit of science…

(7:58) Self-audit

(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play

(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?

(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel

(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!

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As parents, we all want to cherish every moment we have with our children. But what happens when the thought of them growing up becomes overwhelming? 

This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode tackles this listener question head-on. Listen in as I share my top tips on how to cope with this common fear.

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Being vulnerable as a parent feels counterintuitive - aren't we meant to be strong, unwavering in our confidence, and stable?? Yes, and no! I'll share why vulnerability will in fact make you a better parent and how.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) What do we mean by vulnerability?

(3:20) Be mindful who you’re vulnerable with!

(7:20) Vulnerability encourages and creates emotional connection

(8:55) Vulnerability creates harmony and peace

(8:29) Vulnerability cultivates a growth mindset

(12:39) Vulnerability humanises us as parents

(14:33) Vulnerability sets us free from having all the answers

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In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.

Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.

Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.

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Ever wished I could speak directly to your children and offer them my tips and advice?? Well this episode is just for them - alright, and you if you really must listen to it!! I share with them 5 empowering truths.

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In today's bucket emptying episode, I talk about something that will help you as a parent, and that's about knowing your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities.

Children and teenagers thrive from a very consistent approach to boundaries, but our approach can relax when we are vulnerable.

Join me as I explain how knowing your weaknesses and our vulnerabilities is a really crucial part to knowing and understanding where you are being inconsistent with your parenting.

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Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries

(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development? 

(8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development

(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development

(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of development

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Have you heard of the "power of yet"? 

This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power. 

Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.

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Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode.

Here are the highlights:

(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?

(4:00) Children are a building under construction

(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?

(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations

(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child

(17:45) The importance of boundaries 

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I've got a great Bucket Emptying tip for you today - the one minute rule.

This is super helpful to reset your mindset when returning home from work, collecting your children from school and is a great tip to teach your children too!

I hope you enjoy the episode. Please share with anyone you think could find it helpful.

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Big change can feel super scary. What we might see as routine our children might feel is their biggest challenge yet! How we prepare them is crucial - remember we're raising resilient adults.

Here are the highlights:

(01:08) The balanced see-saw

(3:44) Acknowledge your child’s lens

(6:12) Be prepared

(9:31) Talk about it sooner rather than later

(12:40) Actively listen to your child

(15:21) Build your child’s toolkit and practice

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Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century? 

Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world. 

I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed. 

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When our child is throwing the mother of all tantrums what do we do? My advice has always been not to use ‘the naughty step’ for the simple reason that it takes a child who is experiencing some pretty big, sometimes scary emotions and isolates them. However, a 'time-out' can be used effectively when the timing is right. Let me explain...

Here are the highlights:

(01:00) Naughty steps and removal of a child can be negative if used inappropriately

(5:10) Understand the driver behind the behaviour

(6:49) Add in what your child perceives is lacking

(12:11) Work on your own big emotions

(15:04) Be super clear about difference between behaviour and character

(17:41) In the moment advice and how to use time-outs

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This week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode addresses a question from a concerned parent - how to support a child who is self-deprecating after making poor choices. 

Your child might say things like "I'm a bad person", "I'm a naughty person", or "I'm awful” after snatching a toy from a friend, getting angry when they’re frustrated or squabbling with a sibling.

Listen in as I explain how to help your child understand that their behaviour is separate from their identity and doesn’t define them!

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Here’s a thought for you – every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace – in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections – so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I’ll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it’s never too late to start.

Here are the highlights:

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding

(03:41) Positive early development is critical

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve

(20:50) Understanding emotions

(25:32) Building natural curiosity

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions

(30:43) I can’t do that… yet

Listen to Ep 82: Wiring our children’s brains

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This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen as it'll help both you and your children! 

It's all about creating new habits, and I share my top tips to not only establish new habits but to also maintain them in the long-term. 

Tune in now and discover how you can make positive changes in your life.

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I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?

{4:45} Give your child choices where you can

{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics

{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s 

{20:00} Daily connection with each child 

{24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner 

Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parenting

Ep 13: Why punishments don’t work

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In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I'm answering a listener question "Can I insist on no devices when my child is having a sleepover?" 

With the rise of technology, it's a question that many of you may face, and as the CEO of your family, you can insist on this! 

Listen in as share my strategies to manage this situation and ensure that your child has a device-free sleepover.

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We have 6,000 thoughts a day - 80% are negative and 90% of which are habitual. If you have low confidence you're telling yourself 4,800 times day you're not good enough!! I'll share how you can help your child build a new narrative.

Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} The impact of words

{4:15} Our words shape our child’s brain

{6:50} They are always listening!

{9:21} Think about the gender-based language 

{12:50} Be mindful not to over praise 

{16:10} 80% of thoughts are repetitive and negative 

{18:05} Their incredible brain

{21:42} Mantras and affirmations

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Would you like to achieve a #winwin? This week’s Bucket Emptying episode is just what you need!

I’ll explain how your habit of completing routine tasks for your children is causing you to miss out on opportunities and hindering your children’s development of independence.

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Parenting isn't a popularity contest. It's about making the difficult decisions, because we're playing the long game AND it won't make us popular. Boundaries allow children to grow and become the resilient adults we all want them to be.

Here are the highlights: 

{0:40} Positive parenting does not mean equal terms friendship

{2:00} What do we mean by boundaries?

{5:28} You children will hate you regularly as they grow up!

{7:40} Do you have unresolved childhood challenges?

{9:41} Children need a healthy sense of self

{13:00} Are you sharing learnable experiences or oversharing?

{17:15} Narrow lanes build resilience!

{18:25} Your relationship with your child is ever evolving

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This week's Bucket Emptying episode is a must-watch for all parents out there! 

Join me as I share my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to other parents and empty your own bucket. 

Let's break the habit and start focusing on our own journey. 

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Children’s Mental Health Week takes place from 5-11 February 2024 in the UK and this year's theme is ‘My Voice Matters’. It was set up by children’s mental health charity Place2Be and shines a spotlight on the importance of children and young people’s mental health. My Voice Matters is about empowering children and young people by providing them with the tools they need to express themselves.

Today I'm revisiting an episode I released in May 2022, as I thought it would be helpful for parents, grandparents, teachers and anyone wanting to understand how to support children's mental health.

I'll discuss what mental health is, why we keep hearing about rising numbers, what are the common factors, and if some children are more likely to have issues with it. I'll then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health. 

This episode is an overview of mental health, if you’d like specific tips on how to spot mental health issues and how you can help your child, please listen to:

Ep 3: Anxiety Part 1 and Ep 10: Anxiety Part 2

If you’d like to understand the link between wellbeing and nutrition, please listen to:

Ep 9: The link between children's emotional wellbeing and nutrition with Lucinda Miller  

And finally if you’d like to understand the importance of play for children, listen to:

Ep 34: Play, a child's work

Here are the highlights: 

(1:20) What do we mean by mental health? 

(07:30) Common factors affecting mental health 

(16:40) Encourage problem solving

(19:45) Teach your child about self-care 

(24:15) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:00) Maintain connections 

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In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, "Are All Rewards Created Equally?", I share my insight and tips.

If you haven't had a chance to listen to the previous episodes, "Bribe or Rewards?" and "Help My Child Is Acting Entitled," be sure to check them out as the knowledge builds throughout the 3 episodes.

Here are the links for your convenience:

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribes or Rewards? https://drmaryhan.com/episode/should-we-use-bribes-or-rewards-with-our-children/

Ep 139: Help My Child Is Acting Entitled https://drmaryhan.com/episode/is-my-child-acting-entitled/

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When our children act as though the world owes them a favour and they aren't prepared to work at something the alarm bells should be ringing. I'll explain what entitled behaviour is, how we inadvertently create it and what we need to do to fix it.

Here are the highlights:

(1:04) Is my child entitled?

(5:00) What behaviour do you show your children?

(8:09) Are you trying to be a friend or a parent?

(12:05) Bribes enforce entitlement

(14:51) Begin a regular practice of gratitude

(17:00) Praise effort not the outcome

(18:45) Expect your child to contribute to the upkeep at home

(22:31) Encourage your child to concentrate on their behaviour choices

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Bribe or reward? Are they the same thing? No, they're not, and understanding the difference is crucial, especially when it comes to parenting. 

Tune into this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode where I'll explain more.

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More discussion with Catherine around managing screen time, how social platforms affect emotional wellbeing and finding a balance.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Understanding how your child uses their devices

(9:45) Why do you need your phone close by?

(13:55) Tracking screen/device time?

(16:55) Which rules do you still follow?

(18:45) Catherine’s 3 top tips for parents

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As parents, we all want to give our children the tools to navigate the world with confidence. But what about when they're away from home? I was recently asked to write a blog post with guidance for parents managing their child’s first residential school trip, and I'm excited to share this advice with you in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode.

If you're looking for ways to help your child do difficult things, tune in to hear my valuable insights.

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I'm joined by my daughter to talk honestly about how she managed her own digital devices as part of her digital journey in the hope it helps you as parents have those conversations with your children.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine’s journey with digital devices

(5:25) Ages/stages and platforms

(7:30) Navigating friendships with parents digital device rules

(12:35) Instagram is a moment in time and not always real

(16:19) Support your child on their journey

We had so much to talk about, so you’ll have to wait until next week for Part 2 of our conversation!

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As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help! 

In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs. 

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Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started.

Here are the highlights:

(2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them 

(5:50) Let’s look at it differently

(8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family

(14:00) The Imagination Game

(16:20) How would this feel?

(19:35) Now let’s look at what this would mean on a daily basis

(21:25) Service as an intention

(22:25) The habit of reflection

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Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 

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How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Recap from Ep 134 

(5:00) Explosive behaviours

(7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language

(10:40) Keep your voice calm and use few words

(13:24) Create a safe environment – don’t sent them away!

(15:48) Teach consequences for the behavioural choices

(18:55) Try to identify your child’s triggers

(21:00) Zoom out and reflect on your child as a whole

Listen to Ep 134: Managing Big Emotions

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Learning to say no can be a game-changer. 

Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 

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How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding.

Here are the highlights:

(3:15) What are big emotions?

(6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour

(11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age

(15:45) 3 things to do in the moment 

(23:45) 3 lessons for after the outburst 

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Happy Christmas everyone 🎄

Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered! 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time. 

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Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops.

Here are the highlights:

(0:35) What do I mean by independence?

(3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills?

(3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes

(8:55) Give choices wherever possible

(14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility

(16:30) Encourage your child/teen to have an opinion

(19:50) Ensure your child’s foundations are solid – who are they?

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Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real?

Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures?

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament. 

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It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane.

Here are the highlights:

(3:00) Where are your flash points? 

(8:55) Have realistic expectations

(14:00) What’s your exit strategy?

(16:45) Try not to take things too seriously

(18:40) Have the difficult conversations in advance

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As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion. 

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's 'big rocks' to start the calculation.

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Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Mistakes and failure 

(4:45) Two types of motivation

(7:15) Three parental choices

(9:50) Setting standards and expectations

(14:00) Remember growth mindset

(17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance goals

(20:35) Give children a sense of autonomy

(23:15) Challenge them just enough

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As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt. 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips.

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We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat!

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens

(10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters

(15:20) Eat the rainbow

(16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfast

(27:48) Healthy snacks

(20:15) Children remember the emotional links to homemade food

(35:00) 3 quick wins

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Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family. 

Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills.

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A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn't just in how you deal with it in the moment it's in how your child sees themselves in your family.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family? 

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality

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Supporting children with an alcoholic spouse can be challenging, but there are steps you can take to help them cope wit this difficult situation.

This week's Bucket Emptying episode answers a listener question about this sensitive situation and I'll share my 3 tips.

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1 in 5 children are described as neurodivergent; affecting the way they experience, understand and interact with the world. I'll share the common characteristics neurodivergent children share - whether they present with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Dyslexia - and most importantly the best behavioural strategies to support them.

Here are the highlights:

(1:20) Neurodivergence context

(4:16) Characteristics of neurodivergence

(15:30) Be quick with descriptive praise 

(20:24) Keep instructions short and succinct

(22:04) Practice skills at home for social situations

(25:26) Teach consequences

(26:52) Remember there are strengths as well as challenges

(28:00) Help your child build their toolkit

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Managing change can be a challenging task for anyone, including children. However, with the right guidance and support, children can develop effective strategies to cope with, and adapt to change.

I'll share my tips to help.

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Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age.

Here are the highlights:

(3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility

(6:22) Encourage independence

(9:50) Provide bigger choices 

(13:30) Teach consequences and follow through

(16:24) Don’t rush to fix your children’s problems or emotions

(19:40) Set expectations

(23:00) Except they will fail

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Homework. Does that word fill you with dread?

We often struggle to get our child to complete their homework, and sometimes end up doing it for them. I'll share my strategies on how to create a routine that prepares them for success.

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This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm.

Here are the highlights:

(4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey

(6:00) You set the framework in your home

(7:58) Audit your own tech use 

(8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech

(12.33) Start with the big rocks

(16:40) Shift parenting from monitoring to mentoring

(19:55) Help find new interests to run alongside tech

(22:18) Remember to work as a family

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As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of overwhelm. 

The struggle is real and in today's bucket emptying episode I'll share my tips to help you have a more balanced week.

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I'll share my thoughts on this personality trait and what it means for children who we feel might be highly sensitive. There are always dangers in labelling children - least of all communicating their traits as fixed - so I will give you my honest advice on how best to navigate this new found knowledge.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Defining a highly sensitive person

(6:25) Let’s put this in context

(11:18) Please don’t label your child 

(14:45) Remember the brain is a muscle

(19:30) It’s just one trait

(21:13) Problem solve and encourage

(23:51) Descriptive praise

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Are you a parent struggling to keep your children motivated during school holidays?

Look no further! In this week's bucket emptying episode, I share my tips on how to turn grumble-inducing chores like food shopping, shoe shopping, and dentist visits into cheerful treats that your children will love.

This simple strategy helped me keep my kids motivated when they were young, and they can work for you too!

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Resilient children have an ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties, they remain flexible and adaptable to life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. A resilient person still experiences stress and big emotions - they simply respond to them differently than people who aren’t resilient. I'll share the 7 C's of resilience and how we can foster these at home.

Here are the highlights:

(0.45) Why does resilience matter?

(7:15) 7 C’s of resilience

(11:48) Competence can’t be acquired theoretically 

(16:07) Confidence grows by tackling challenges

(18:01) Connection strengthens our kid’s foundations

(22:24) Values underpin character

(24:26) Do they know their contribution is valued?

(26:19) Self-soothing fosters the ability to cope with big emotions

(29:07) Internal and external locus of control

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As parents, we want our children to grow up and be the best version of themselves. However, it's important to remember that children need to be challenged, but not to the point where they crack under the pressure.

Finding the balance can be a delicate task. Let me talk you through my thoughts.

For more help with confidence listen to Episode 2: Confidence

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It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends.

Here are the highlights:

(1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls

(3:00) Challenge male stereotypes

(6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health 

(13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons

(18:30) Risk-taking

(22:18) Communication is crucial

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As parents, we all want our children to be bright and intelligent, but sometimes they can struggle with social etiquette. 

This week's listener's question raises a common issue: how to handle a child who won't stop interrupting despite being repeatedly told it's rude. While there's no one right answer, I’ll share some strategies that could be helpful.

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We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) The 3 main reasons your child is having a meltdown

(4:19) Chronological and developmental age

(7:00) Don’t meet their fire with your own 

(13:34) Discussion after a period of calm

(16:30) Using a glitter jar to explain emotions

(22:00) Hand breathing strategy – use in times of calm first!

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Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits. 

As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it. 

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There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hypervigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind 

(24:50) Praise bravery 

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Struggling with a toddler who won't listen can be a challenging experience for any parent.

A recent listener question asked for help with a 3-year-old who seems immune to traditional discipline methods like the naughty step and reward charts. If you're in the same boat, know that you're not alone! It can be tough to find the right approach that works for your child. Keep trying different methods and remember to stay patient and consistent.

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Warning: This episode contains personal experience of child loss, childbirth and grief.

I thought it might be helpful to share my early parenting journey in as honest way as I can. As a heads up I am going to share experiences of loss and grief, which for some of you may trigger your own loss or grief. Go gently with yourself, and choose what is best for you - whether you listen or whether you skip this episode - be kind to where you are right now. 

Here are the highlights:

(2:50) I had no experience with children

(5:00) Setting the scene with my pregnancies

(7:35) First child lessons

(13:03) Context of my decisions

(16:15) I wish I hadn’t obsessed about my birth plan

(18:00) I wish I’d invested time in finding my tribe

(21:48) I wish I’d accepted ‘good enough’

(24:20) I wish I’d done the inner work

(27:00) I wish I’d taken time to take care of me

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